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Speaker 1: My best friend of twenty four years, born a male,

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Speaker 1: is now a transgender woman.

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Speaker 2: I'm in love with her, and I'm not sure what

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Speaker 2: I should do. Here we go.

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Speaker 3: This is I'm excited to read this because it's you know, like, hey,

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Speaker 3: if you got the feelings, you got the feelings.

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Speaker 2: He's got the feelings. Hey, he's's got the feelings. We'll

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Speaker 2: see where these feelings lead us. Let's go.

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Speaker 1: My friend and I, both twenty four years old, have

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Speaker 1: been best friends our entire lives. Were practically brothers. Our

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Speaker 1: parents grew up together, went to the same schools, and

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Speaker 1: my friend and I were together ever since.

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Speaker 2: We were little baby beats.

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Speaker 1: We've always had each other's back, protected one another, cared

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Speaker 1: for one another when the whole world felt like it

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Speaker 1: was against us, both of us knew we could always

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Speaker 1: look out for each other.

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Speaker 2: That's beautiful friendship. Beautiful friendship.

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Speaker 1: My friend is an amazing person, someone I can go

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Speaker 1: to and trust completely. I'm blessed to have this person

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Speaker 1: in my life. Well, my friend transitioned to a female

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Speaker 1: a few months ago. She's completely physically a woman, and

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Speaker 1: goddamn she saw as fuck. Oh yeah, she's been through

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Speaker 1: horror replacement therapy these past few years, and seeing her

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Speaker 1: becoming so much happier is amazing to see. I'm absolutely

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Speaker 1: proud of her. It's beautiful to see my friend now

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Speaker 1: be so free, being comfortable with herself, and always having

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Speaker 1: the greatest smile on her face. But I'm falling in

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Speaker 1: love with her, and these feelings they are going away.

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Speaker 2: No, vey ain't.

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Speaker 1: I'll admit that I'm in love with my friend, the

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Speaker 1: friend I've known for twenty four years, who is stealing

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Speaker 1: my heart, and I have no idea what to do.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to lose my friend, but my feelings

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Speaker 1: of friendship for her are turning to romantic sexual feelings

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Speaker 1: of attraction. So after my friend transitioned, we continued hanging

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Speaker 1: out and talking like nothing changed. We continued going out

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Speaker 1: to clubs, bars, the movies, restaurants, playing video games. Nothing changed.

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Speaker 1: We just kept doing what we always did. But during

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Speaker 1: this time, that's when my feelings started to change and

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Speaker 1: started falling in love with her. And you know what

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Speaker 1: attracted me to her her the way she is. I

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Speaker 1: spoken to another close friend of mine about this and

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Speaker 1: I just got made fun of. He was like, Haha,

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Speaker 1: you want to fuck your broth seriously, that's practically what

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Speaker 1: I got.

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Speaker 2: Hey, so what if he wants to fuck his bro

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Speaker 2: and that's not his bro? Yeah, it's okay to be

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Speaker 2: a homi sexual. That's right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm fucking with my homies.

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Speaker 2: Okay, stop it.

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Speaker 1: They didn't understand where I was coming from, and they

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Speaker 1: didn't understand what an insanely amazing person my friend is. Hey,

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Speaker 1: love is love, man, Dude, Come on, this friend of

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Speaker 1: mine feels it's creepy and nasty. I'm falling for my

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Speaker 1: best friend. But they also aren't taking my friend's transition seriously,

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Speaker 1: which is another reason they're acting me mature. I'm just

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Speaker 1: scared of losing my friend. Well, our families think what

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Speaker 1: happens if my friend and I do end up together

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Speaker 1: and our and our families suddenly start to panic. Plus,

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Speaker 1: if I plan to even confess my feelings for her,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to do it soon. Because she's always

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Speaker 1: being asked out on dates, but she tells me she's

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Speaker 1: looking for the right person to spend time with.

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Speaker 2: I know someone you could spend some time with.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you spend it all the time playing video games,

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Speaker 1: going out to the restaurant.

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Speaker 2: And doing stuff with oh p you know, so just

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Speaker 2: do it.

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Speaker 1: I feel like this is my opportunity to confess, but

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I should. I just don't want

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Speaker 1: to confess how I feel and ruin my relationship with

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Speaker 1: my friend. If you have any advice, please share it.

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Speaker 1: I have no clue what to do. So, John, what

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Speaker 1: are your thoughts?

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Speaker 3: You know, we are clearly so qualified to as to

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Speaker 3: cis white straight males. We have all we have all

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Speaker 3: the answers and everything you need here.

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Speaker 1: But anyway, so I'm wondering, like like I'm wondering, so

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Speaker 1: is it because the transition that oh he's feeling all

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Speaker 1: these feelings like oh damn, like like like like is

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Speaker 1: Opie straight?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: And then he is like, oh shit, my best friend

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Speaker 1: is now a girl, and now I'm attracted.

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Speaker 3: Right like like hey, I'm usually attracted to women women,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean. So it's like now my

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Speaker 3: friend is transition to a woman, and it's like he

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Speaker 3: already clearly had that love as like a friend and

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Speaker 3: like spending time with each other like you know my friend.

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Speaker 3: It's like, oh, this is my best friend, Like I

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Speaker 3: love just hanging out with her, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: So I could totally see how like now that it's

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Speaker 3: like okay, now I'm like physically attracted to her as well.

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Speaker 1: So.

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Speaker 3: You know, yeah, And and it's like it's so wild

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Speaker 3: because like I mean, I think I think the big

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Speaker 3: the crux of the issue here is like op is

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Speaker 3: like sexually confused. It's like, Okay, he probably identifies as straight,

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Speaker 3: but he's like, Okay, now I like am falling in

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Speaker 3: love with this trans woman? Like what does that make me?

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Speaker 3: And is like there's a lot of confusion there, which

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Speaker 3: like I don't know what to tell you there, but

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Speaker 3: I will say it's like, look, if you like it's

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Speaker 3: it's hard. It's hard to find like a partner that

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Speaker 3: you like, really love. So it's like, if this is

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Speaker 3: someone that you love, like share your real feelings and

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Speaker 3: give it a shot.

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Speaker 2: Yeah you know what I mean. And John, there's an update.

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Speaker 2: Oh screw it.

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Speaker 1: I'm going for it. I'm going to ask out my

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Speaker 1: friend Saturday one pm. Right now, I'm going to see

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Speaker 1: if she wants to go on a date tonight. I'm

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Speaker 1: going to message her to see if she's home and

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Speaker 1: I can stop by and while I'm there, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: ask her out.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah. Update two, I got a date tonight. Hey.

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Speaker 1: I was sally nervous walking to my friend's house, but

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Speaker 1: I can't stop smiling. Wow, I actually got a guest

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Speaker 1: from my friend. One issue I had was where it

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Speaker 1: was the date going to be. I had no idea.

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Speaker 1: I remember, she loves this eighties bar grill that has

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Speaker 1: karaoke every night and tacos, So that's where we're going tonight.

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Speaker 1: Is going to be tacos, drinks, eighties music and karaoke.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like a freaking perfect date.

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Speaker 2: It does. I told her pretty relaxed.

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Speaker 1: I didn't rush into it, showed up, started talking like usual,

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Speaker 1: and that's when I asked her. I told her I

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Speaker 1: would love to take her out on a date tonight

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Speaker 1: and have been wanting for the longest time. I definitely

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Speaker 1: tried to hide my face from blushing because she had

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Speaker 1: a huge smile when I asked her out. She's even

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Speaker 1: extra excited because we're going to her favorite place. I

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Speaker 1: feel like asking her out made her feel comfortable to

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Speaker 1: flirt with me. She started complimenting me and even kissed

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Speaker 1: me on the cheek before I left. She definitely felt

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Speaker 1: more intimate, if that makes sense. She says she's going

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Speaker 1: to get extra pretty for the date tonight. I'll admit

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Speaker 1: I'm really looking forward to that, although it's impossible for

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Speaker 1: her to get extra pretty seeing as she's already gotten

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Speaker 1: that pretty already.

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Speaker 2: Oh pie, come on, you're too sweet. So there's another update.

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Speaker 1: Hey, all of you were right about her dropping hints

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Speaker 1: at me, because she said she was dropping so many

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Speaker 1: and I never caught on to them. Which it was like,

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Speaker 1: you know that hinter she dropped where she was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: like I wish I could find someone to spend time with. Yeah, gotcha,

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Speaker 1: I admit I suck at stuff like that. We laughed

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Speaker 1: it off and we're happy to finally be on a date.

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Speaker 1: My biggest goal of the night was to kiss her.

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Speaker 1: She kept winking at me the entire night. I was

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Speaker 1: being hesitant to kiss her. I was worried a kiss

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Speaker 1: can be too much. This was me overthinking again. I

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Speaker 1: feel like she knew I was being a hesitant, so

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Speaker 1: she ended up kissing me and didn't hold back either.

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Speaker 1: Wrapped her arms around me and I did the same.

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Speaker 1: For the moment we kissed, my nerves the rest of

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Speaker 1: the night were completely gone. We didn't act like friends anymore.

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Speaker 1: We acted a lot more than that. We became more

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Speaker 1: and more intimate with each other, and Bada bing bata boom,

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Speaker 1: seems like they're dating. So happy for you, OP, it

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Speaker 1: seems like it all worked out.

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Speaker 2: You crushed it. I'm loving this