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Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. I love this title, My

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Speaker 1: little ugly boyfriend. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty one

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Speaker 1: year old single woman and I met the man of

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Speaker 1: my dreams two years ago on a dating website. He

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Speaker 1: lives in Tampa and I live in Philadelphia. A few

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Speaker 1: months after we met online, he came to visit me.

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Speaker 1: I immediately noticed that he lied about his height. He's short.

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Speaker 1: He is an inch or two shorter than me, and

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Speaker 1: I like tall men. I had hoped he looked a

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Speaker 1: little better than his pictures online, but he looks exactly

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Speaker 1: the same in person. He's not handsome at all. I

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Speaker 1: overlooked his height and the fact that he's not cute

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Speaker 1: because we have a lot in common. He's a hard

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Speaker 1: worker and a great single father. He is very kind,

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Speaker 1: and he loves the Lord. All of those things make

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Speaker 1: up for the fact that he is not exactly my type.

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Speaker 1: He's been back to visit me every other month, and

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Speaker 1: I have been to his home in Tampa. I met

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Speaker 1: his family and they are all supportive of our relationship.

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Speaker 1: So here's my dilemma. I have met his family, but

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Speaker 1: he still has not met mine. I've been making excuses

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Speaker 1: whenever he asked to meet them, and I made him

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Speaker 1: think they're all weird and crazy. But the truth is

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Speaker 1: they are very judgmental, and they will talk about his

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Speaker 1: looks and his height. My mom's facial expressions are priceless,

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Speaker 1: and I know she won't be able to hide her

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Speaker 1: reaction if she meets him. I have told my family

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Speaker 1: about him and how good we are together, and they

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Speaker 1: already make jokes about me and my little ugly boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: They may be right, So I need your advice. Should

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Speaker 1: I be proud of this good man, even if he

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Speaker 1: is ugly and short, or should I call it quits

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Speaker 1: now and stop wasting my time in this relationship. Well,

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Speaker 1: I don't see how you call yourself wasting your time.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you've been with him for two years. You

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Speaker 1: said that you guys have a lot in common. Maybe

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Speaker 1: he's not exactly your type, but he's very kind, he

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Speaker 1: loves the Lord, he's a great single father, he's a

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Speaker 1: hard worker. He has so many qualities that you like.

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Speaker 1: You've met his family, They're all supportive. This sounds like

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Speaker 1: a nice good man to me. I mean, and he's

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Speaker 1: with you. He's not with your family. If you guys

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Speaker 1: continue this and get married, he's marrying you, not your family.

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Speaker 1: You said he's the man of your dreams. That's what

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Speaker 1: you said. I mean, you guys have been together for

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Speaker 1: two years already, and you know about his height. You're

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Speaker 1: no different you know, from any other women women. All

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Speaker 1: the women I know just about like tall men. A

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Speaker 1: lot of men like tall women, so that's nothing unusual.

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Speaker 1: But he is one or two inches shorter than you,

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Speaker 1: and he's not handsome at all. Those are facts. You

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Speaker 1: put those in the letter. But even with all that,

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Speaker 1: you're still with him and meeting his family. You're visiting

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Speaker 1: each other's homes, long disc stints and stuff. You've met

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Speaker 1: his family. This sounds pretty serious to me. You're just

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Speaker 1: scared for him to meet your family because you don't

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Speaker 1: know how they're going to react to him, if they're,

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Speaker 1: you know, going to make him feel some sort of way. Listen,

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Speaker 1: if you like this man and you want to be

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Speaker 1: with this man, this is your man, I mean, your

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Speaker 1: your family, So what are they going to say it

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Speaker 1: to his face? So what if they don't like him? Um,

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Speaker 1: you like him and he treats you well, and you

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Speaker 1: seem happy. You've been with him for two years. Don't

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Speaker 1: let your family, you know, make you miss out on

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Speaker 1: a good man. That's what I say. Steve Well unattractive

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Speaker 1: and short. Yeah, I must admit I thought the letter

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Speaker 1: was about somebody else. You know who the hell he's

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Speaker 1: talking about. When you throw a rock, I'm singing to

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Speaker 1: hell with that. Y'all know who we're talking about. Sicking

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Speaker 1: the rock and then we didn't hit this dog too

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Speaker 1: many dayntown, y'all know what we're talking about. The only

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Speaker 1: thing in this ladder that through it all. He lives

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Speaker 1: in Tampa, and I lived with up to that, and

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Speaker 1: thereafter I was sending him mad. I couldn't haul it.

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Speaker 1: Swallow you're not laughing, team tell me. A few months

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Speaker 1: ago we met online, came to visit me. I immediately

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Speaker 1: noticed that he lied about his height. Hello, Hello, Hello,

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Speaker 1: how many times he lied by his wait treated against it?

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Speaker 1: A few months after we met online, he came to

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Speaker 1: visit me. I immediately noticed that he lied about his life.

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Speaker 1: He shot good, Lord of Mighty. He is an interest

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Speaker 1: too shoter than me, and I like tall men. Hey,

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Speaker 1: he do too prod I hoped he looked a little

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Speaker 1: bit better than his picture on lad But he looked

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Speaker 1: exactly like the same person. Like y'all ain't telling me

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Speaker 1: why overlooked his fight. I overlooked his height and the

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Speaker 1: fact that he ain't cute, cause we got a lot incoming,

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Speaker 1: hard work, great single father, He's very kind, he loves

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Speaker 1: your Lord. All these things make up for the fact

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Speaker 1: that he's not my tight. He's been back to visit

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Speaker 1: me every other month. I've been to his home in Tampa.

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Speaker 1: I met his family. They all supportive of the relationship.

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Speaker 1: Here's the dilemma she got. She'd have met his family,

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Speaker 1: but he ain't met heads. She'd been making all types

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Speaker 1: of excuses why they don't need to meet him, because

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Speaker 1: the truth is the family that she in his judgmental.

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Speaker 1: They're gonna talk about his looks and his height. Hold

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Speaker 1: that thought, Steve, Hold that thought quick. You can look

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Speaker 1: up one day and this boy be on TV somewhe boy,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to the bathroom. No, I'm going to team

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Speaker 1: timing to the bathroom to go together. Women do we

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Speaker 1: need from this case? We need to leave. We don't

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Speaker 1: need to hear this. We don't need that ain't a

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Speaker 1: good look. Fellas don't go together. This lady's been met

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Speaker 1: this man online. They've actually been dating now for two years.

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Speaker 1: She'd have met his family that went down to temple.

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Speaker 1: He ain't met hers. He comes by, comes up there

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Speaker 1: every other month. He's god fearing, hard working, he's a

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Speaker 1: wonderful single parent, saying all the right things. I ain't

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Speaker 1: heard nobody mentioned love in this, but I'm assuming you

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Speaker 1: know there's got to be some feelings. Hell problem she

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Speaker 1: got is he's a little shorter than he promised, and

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Speaker 1: he's ugly. So I think we're getting need to get

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Speaker 1: down to this. When you say, my little ugly boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: how ugly were talking about? See, this is what we

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Speaker 1: gotta get into. Okay, it's my little ugly boyfield. Are

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Speaker 1: you saying he atle ugly? Is he shockingly ugly? She

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Speaker 1: would have said that. Is he good lord ugly? I mean,

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Speaker 1: good lord ugly? Is he? I'll be damned ugly? Is he?

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Speaker 1: Is he that type ugly? Is he just sound effect? Ugly?

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Speaker 1: Sound effect? Ugly is different kind of ugly, Like when

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Speaker 1: you see him and you go, ah, here's another sound

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Speaker 1: effect ugly. Mm hmm, that's it. You got another sound

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Speaker 1: another sound effect ugly, I'm gonna go with that one.

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Speaker 1: See who donkey get one sound? Yeah? Here going on

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Speaker 1: right here? I see you what see? So we need

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Speaker 1: to determine do that one again to that one? I

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Speaker 1: see your bar and when your mom gave wid Wow,

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Speaker 1: I see your boy. Whoa. Now if he's really ugly.

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Speaker 1: We have a couple of situations because we have to

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Speaker 1: think this through. Because he's thirty one, so you're young.

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Speaker 1: Here's the danger is not meeting your family. Here's the danger.

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Speaker 1: This could turn into marriage and some kids. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: knew it now even though lady, you you know where

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Speaker 1: near ugly um, but he is near it. So there's

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Speaker 1: a chance that the baby, he's gonna have some of

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Speaker 1: him on him. Now, once again, it depends on how

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Speaker 1: ugly he is. Do you want to do this to

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Speaker 1: the baby? That's the question. Oh yeah, do you want

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Speaker 1: to do this to the baby? Anybody? I've seen it

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Speaker 1: up close. You don't know what the lord gonna do it? Girl,

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Speaker 1: you can look up being a mansion somewhere. Girl, you

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Speaker 1: better recognize it. Don't don't don't stare his gift horse

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Speaker 1: in the mouth, and don't take advantage of Timmy. You

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Speaker 1: want to say anything, I ain't. What the hell are

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Speaker 1: you asking? Tom No, I gotta show I'm not gonna

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Speaker 1: do this to me right now. I don't know asking

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Speaker 1: him a comment on letter, but we're so close. Put

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Speaker 1: you up to them to do with me. I know,

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Speaker 1: I know, I don't. I know this ain't about you,

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Speaker 1: but you might count help her. I can't help nobody

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Speaker 1: what I'm too tall? I wait, Tommy, what what did

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Speaker 1: your girlfriend say when they took you home to the

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Speaker 1: good it's a handsome young man that you brought in,

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Speaker 1: A very handsome young man that you brought home. Dollar

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Speaker 1: all right, we gotta go. Please post your comments, Tommy, Tommy,

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Speaker 1: when you went over horrendous house, remember when you said

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Speaker 1: her mama busted out laughing. It wouldn't stop. I want

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Speaker 1: to as soon. That's what I because I what I

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Speaker 1: had on, not my height. It ain't hadn't do my

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Speaker 1: height or me being uglier. They wouldn't for that. All right,

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Speaker 1: I gotta break in here, guys. What you had uncle?

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