WEBVTT - “I HAD TWO ABORTIONS” 0:00:02.640 --> 0:00:04.320 Hello, Hi. 0:00:04.440 --> 0:00:11.320 What's your name, Arianna? What's going on, Ariana? How's life? 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:13.200 You know it's lifing? 0:00:15.880 --> 0:00:19.560 I feel that brother. Well, what do you want to 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:20.200 talk about today? 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:28.640 Okay, Well, this happened like two and a half years ago, 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:34.839 but basically, in the span of like one year, I 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:38.040 got two abortions, I got kicked out of my house, 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:39.159 and I got emancipated. 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:44.199 This this was when you were eighteen. 0:00:46.040 --> 0:00:49.599 I was seventeen. Actually I had just hearned I had 0:00:49.600 --> 0:00:51.400 just turned steen when it all started. 0:00:53.880 --> 0:00:57.360 How you well, I guess, uh. I mean, before we 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:59.520 get into anything, how you doing now? Are you chilling? 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:05.400 Yeah? I'm actually great now. I'm in college. I've been 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:09.920 living on my own since then. I'm still with my 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:12.240 boyfriend who had all happened with. 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:17.640 So I mean, if you want to get into it, 0:01:17.680 --> 0:01:18.640 what happened? 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:25.120 Okay, So, okay, let me just preface this with some backstory. 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:28.760 My dad is like not really in my life, and 0:01:29.200 --> 0:01:31.639 like my mom is like a really bad opioid addict 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:37.720 and alcoholic, and so all of this happened like a 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:42.679 year after COVID happened. So it was like February twenty 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:47.319 twenty one, and so me and My boyfriend had been 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:50.480 together for it had almost been a year, and on 0:01:50.640 --> 0:01:55.920 his seventeenth birthday, I found out I was pregnant, and 0:01:56.000 --> 0:02:00.400 so I like internally knew what I was going to do, 0:02:00.760 --> 0:02:02.880 like I always knew if that ever happened to me, 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:07.919 like what my decision was, and like luckily Rogie Wade 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:12.079 wasn't overturned or anything, so I knew, like I had options, 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.160 and my boys then like fully supported me. He was like, 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:17.000 if you want to have it, I'm down to do that. 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:19.600 If you don't, I'm down to do that. So he 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:21.320 was like very very supportive. 0:02:22.000 --> 0:02:25.560 So you were sixteen and he was so So you 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:27.160 were sixteen and he was seventeen. 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:31.240 I had just turned sixteen. I had just turned seventeen 0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:34.240 the week before, so like technically I was sixteen when 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:37.480 if I got pregnant whenever that happened in like January December, 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:40.040 and then I just turned seventeen when I found out. 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:44.680 Okay, And so your boyfriend was supportive and everyone and 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:46.160 everything was all aligned. 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:50.000 Yeah, like me and him were good. I hadn't told 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:52.760 my mom yet and it was and it's actually the 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:55.120 craziest story how she found out I was on the 0:02:55.200 --> 0:02:57.359 phone with one of my friends, and she was at 0:02:57.360 --> 0:03:00.000 the place where we worked at and she had me 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:04.040 on speakerphone, and someone else we worked with overheard it 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:08.440 and they knew a friend of my family, so like 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:11.400 it got around. Word kind of got around back to 0:03:11.480 --> 0:03:15.560 my mom and she ended up confronting me about it. 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:19.680 What did that confrontation look like? 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:25.200 Honestly, it wasn't that bad. It was you know, I 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:28.720 heard this, Is it true? I was like yeah. She 0:03:28.919 --> 0:03:31.080 was like, well, like, do you know how far along 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:35.200 you are? I was like maybe eight weeks or something 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:38.560 like that, and she was like, well, do you know 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:41.480 what you want to do? I was like, yeah, like 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:43.160 I don't want to, like I don't want to have it, 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:45.800 like I want to get the procedure done. And she 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:48.320 was like okay, well, you know I fully support you 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:51.000 this and that. And then I'd like already done some 0:03:51.040 --> 0:03:53.680 research on it, and she was like, you know, I'll 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:56.320 drive you to Texas or Mississippi it's necessary. You know, 0:03:56.360 --> 0:04:00.320 we'll do whatever we have to do. I was like, 0:04:00.360 --> 0:04:03.600 oh my god, thank you. Like my mom hadn't, like 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.000 it's never really been like very supportive in my life, 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:07.920 because she's always been kind of absent or like kind 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:10.600 of selfish with her decisions with drugs. So I was 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:14.240 like cool, like yes, absolutely, like thank you, Like I'll 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:16.800 start like calls on Monday, because it's like on a weekend. 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:23.240 And then a week later she basically cornered me in 0:04:23.279 --> 0:04:25.880 my room whenever she was musing and she was drunk 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:28.000 and it was like two am, and she was like, 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:31.640 you're having this baby, no matter what you think. I'm 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:34.920 the adult. I like, I have to sign in order 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:37.279 because in my state, at least at the time, you 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:41.200 had to have one parent sign off on it, like 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:43.880 you couldn't sign off if you were a minor. And 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:46.160 since my dad's not really in my life, she knew 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:49.159 that wasn't an option. So she was like, you're having 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:51.720 it because I'm saying it, and I still to this 0:04:51.800 --> 0:04:55.520 day do not know what caused that change. So she. 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:01.960 So she went from she found out. She was totally supportive. 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:04.120 She was like, I'll drive you to another state if 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:07.000 I have to, And then she just comes into your 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:10.680 room drunk at two am and switches up on you. 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:15.200 Yeah, it's it was a very common occurrence for her 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:17.640 to like barge in my room at two am just 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:20.480 for like random things or not. But it was like, 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:23.359 it was absolutely crazy to me because like we hadn't 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:25.640 talked about it since then, Like I was just like 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:27.520 trying to figure out what would be the best route 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:28.919 to go about it, so she didn't have to do 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:31.720 any of the planning. And then all of a sudden, 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:35.000 it was just you're having this baby. It's what I say, 0:05:35.120 --> 0:05:36.680 goes and that was it. 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:38.839 That's fucking wild. 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:43.200 Yeah. And so in my in my state, at least 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:47.120 at the time, there was something called, oh I forgot 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:49.479 the name, but it was something it was a like 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:52.160 a bypass law, and it was if you went to 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:56.160 court and a judge determined that you were mature enough 0:05:56.200 --> 0:06:00.440 to have like an abortion, they'll grant you from mission 0:06:00.560 --> 0:06:02.599 from the court to get an abortion if you're a minor. 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:05.800 Wait, so you go in front of a court and 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:09.640 the court judges if you're mature enough to have an abortion? 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:13.280 Crazy? What? What? 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:17.640 What's the first of all? That's insane? Because what like 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:19.400 that's insane because what are they gonna do? Be like, 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:21.560 you know what, you're not mature enough to have an abortion? 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:24.200 But I guess how can you be How can you 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:26.040 not be mature enough to have an abortion but then 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:27.680 be mature enough to have a baby. 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:31.680 That was that was my debacle. And I had to 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.719 like get in contact with the it was like a 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:38.320 pro bono agency or like online website. Well I'll just 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:41.840 say my state. I'm from Louisiana and so online they 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:45.039 have these like volunteer lawyers who will like represent you 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:48.400 for free, talk you through the procedure, like how the 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:50.800 court stuff is going to go. And at the time, 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:57.080 it was online court because not only because of COVID, 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.440 but because I lived like in the middle of my 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:03.039 state and there's only like three clinics in my state, 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.920 so the closest one was like two and a half 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:10.840 hours away, so they just did it via zoom court. 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.960 So did you have So is that what ended up happening? 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.000 You went in front of a judge and like had 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:21.200 to get like evaluated as to whether or not you 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:22.360 could get an abortion. 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:26.880 Yeah. Well I was really sick. I had like something 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:30.960 called hypermesas or hyper a these something like that Hypergrideralia. 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:33.120 It's like a really long name. But I have like 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:36.240 perpetual like morning sickness like all the time. Like I 0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:38.640 was like losing weight, so I had to drop out 0:07:38.640 --> 0:07:42.280 of school and basically like live in the hospital. So 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:44.480 it was really hard to go around my mom to 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:47.560 like meet with the lawyers like on call and like 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:50.520 on zoom and anything with her not being there, dude. 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:52.960 So so it took me like a couple of weeks 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:54.160 to get it done. 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:56.560 So okay, I actually I have more questions about this 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:59.360 whole process, but before we do that, just like so 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:03.120 your mom she was supportive and then she was she 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:05.440 was like drunken on drugs and corn at you. But 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:11.960 then like I I guess did she was she going 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:16.240 back and forth between like drunk and fuck you and 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:19.800 sober and supportive or was like what what was her 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:22.680 deal during this time with you? Was she flip flopping? 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:26.080 Did she kind of change and stay with her position? 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:27.400 Like what was what was her deal? 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:32.640 After that initial first flip flop, she like stayed her 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:36.880 position like using or sober. She was like, you're having 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:39.920 it no matter what, no matter this, no matter that, 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:44.160 And it like it. The whenever we would argue about it, 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:47.120 because I would try and plead my case, it like 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:50.600 the conversations always got a lot more aggressive whenever she 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:53.560 was using, and it was always at night. But her 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:58.319 like her whole logic or standpoint was she's my mom, 0:08:58.600 --> 0:09:01.680 so I can't consent, so she's going to consent for me, 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:05.160 and she wants me to have this baby, so that 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:06.120 that's what's going to happen. 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:10.480 So how did you get around her? So you you 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:15.560 found this lawyer that was helping you out that. So 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:17.480 tell me, I mean, what the what did the kind 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:21.240 of procedure look like? Not the not the medical procedure, 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:22.520 but like the legal proceedings. 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:28.520 So basically my lawyer like filled out all the legal 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:32.800 jargon of like the petition to the court, and then 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:35.680 whenever it came time to like my actual court date, 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:38.600 I like basically just locked myself in my room and 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:41.440 told my mom I was doing like homework like online 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.959 school work, and told her that she needed to be 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:46.360 out of the house because I was going to have 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:48.040 to like talk with my teachers and stuff like that, 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:50.400 and like it like I just tried to get her. 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:51.800 I tried to use every excuse in the book to 0:09:51.840 --> 0:09:54.560 get her out of the house, like be outside, and 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:57.560 so I would I got on zoom and it was 0:09:57.720 --> 0:10:01.160 the judge, the clerk, my lawy, and then like a 0:10:01.160 --> 0:10:03.520 few other people that like just had to be there 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:09.360 for like their purposes. And then the judge like, I'm 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:11.160 so sorry. This is like the first time I'm speaking 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.600 about this because I'm like super nervous, but I'm like promise, 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:17.360 I'm okay about it. The judges asked me a series 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:22.320 of questions like how old are you, what is your life, like, 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:26.439 is the father still in the picture? What are your 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:29.200 hopes and dreams, like just kind of like basic stuff 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:32.840 like just trying to get to know me. And then 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:37.960 she just kind of was like why do you think 0:10:38.240 --> 0:10:40.320 you want an abortion? Or why do you think you 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:42.400 need an abortion? Why do you think an abortion is 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:45.160 going to make your life better than having this baby? 0:10:46.080 --> 0:10:50.800 And kind of like questions like that, and then like 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:53.200 once I inswered those, she was kind of like, Okay, well, 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:55.520 why do you want an abortion set up? Like putting it 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:58.320 up for adoption or this and that, and like that's 0:10:58.320 --> 0:11:00.520 whenever I kind of went into the whole like I'm 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:03.200 so sick I've had to like drop out of high school, 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:04.719 and I was a junior at the time, so it 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:08.760 was like really like time to kick it in high 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:11.920 drive for college. Yeah, and so like I just kind 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:14.560 of pleaded my case and like told them about like 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:18.800 my mom and like that situation, and she ended up 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:21.640 like granting me access. 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:28.839 Oh my god, man, that's really really fucking crazy that 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:31.720 they're like, it's just it's just such a wild thing 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:35.920 to evaluate someone for to be like, why do you 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:37.880 think it would be better to have an abortion versus 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:42.480 like having a whole fucking ass baby, Like you know, 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:47.240 I mean, that's just that's just wild. So I mean, 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:49.959 was it how shortly after that that proceeding did they 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:51.720 did you get like the email or whatever where they 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:55.400 granted you the the uh permission? 0:11:57.200 --> 0:12:00.319 I got it immediately. They like it's like a actual 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:02.560 like core document that you have to like bring to 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:05.240 the clinic to like show that like they allowed you. 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:08.800 They're don't like fax it or anything. So I had 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:10.720 to like get it in. I had to get it 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.200 taxed over to me, which I had to go through 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:15.199 like my boyfriend's aunt because I couldn't have it done 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:16.880 at my house because my mom was going to see it. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:21.320 And then I had to because my state has like 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:24.400 a at the time it did where you had to 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:27.160 wait so many hours in between like your first initial 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:31.520 visit and your like actual appointment visit, and so like 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:33.880 at the time, my mom still has no idea any 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:36.000 of this is happening or that I've been granted this, 0:12:37.600 --> 0:12:40.360 and so I have to drive me and my boyfriend 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:42.600 have to drive two and a half hours to where 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:46.400 the clinic is like from where I live. And so 0:12:46.559 --> 0:12:49.120 I had to make up an excuse that we needed 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:50.960 to sleep in my boyfriend's house or like we were 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:53.960 going to sleep ay my boyfriend's house for whatever reason, 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:56.559 just so we could go like drive it two and 0:12:56.559 --> 0:13:00.280 a half hours to the appointment. And so we like 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:02.280 we go to the appointment, I do like what I 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:04.360 need to do, like all the necessarily like blood work, 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:06.840 they ask if I have any questions that kind of stuff, 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:09.680 and then I have to go back a week later 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:14.280 for the actual procedure. So I've been like this whole time, 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:16.679 like I've been to like the clinic and everything, and 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:19.520 like I'm just like trying so hard not that my 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:22.480 mom like hear any of my calls or like seeing 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:25.120 anything like that or like any of the like paperwork 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:28.360 that they gave me or anything like that. And then 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:31.559 on the like day of the actual procedure, I had 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:33.560 to like or the night before actually I had to 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:36.240 lie again and say that we were sleeping at my 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:40.720 boyfriend's house because of like whatever reason. And the actual 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:42.920 day of the procedure it was like an eight hour 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:45.360 day because I wasn't allowed to have my phone and 0:13:45.400 --> 0:13:49.720 it was like thirty other women there like having like 0:13:49.800 --> 0:13:53.000 some kind of put like a woman made procedure done, 0:13:53.120 --> 0:13:55.960 And so the whole time I'm in there, I don't 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:58.600 have my phone. My boyfriend has my phone, and he 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:00.760 tells me like whenever I get out, my mom was 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:05.880 blowing up my phone call after call, text after text. 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:09.320 She's like, I know you're there, I know you're doing this. 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:11.880 I just have this feeling answer me, why aren't you 0:14:11.960 --> 0:14:14.840 answering me? And my boyfriend's like trying to text her 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:17.600 like as it's me, but she like keeps trying to call, 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:21.080 and it was just oh it was When I got 0:14:21.080 --> 0:14:22.920 out of there and I finally called her, it was 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:23.800 it was not pretty. 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:30.000 What was that conversation, Like, well, I was really drugged up. 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:32.360 Let me first by saying that like they had given 0:14:32.400 --> 0:14:35.400 me like some like really strong anti nausea stuff, and 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:38.040 so I was like fairly conscious, like I was like 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:41.040 half asleep, half not and like I had just gotten 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.960 this like procedure done, so I was like, obviously not 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:46.600 in the right state of mind, and she I was 0:14:46.680 --> 0:14:50.600 like I answered, I'm like hello, and she's like Arianna, 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:55.240 where are you? And like at that point, I'm like, well, 0:14:55.240 --> 0:14:57.720 it's already happened. There's no use of lying. I'm like 0:14:57.880 --> 0:15:02.040 I'm I'm in the city and she and then she's 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:06.000 like why are you there? And I'm like because I 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:08.840 did the thing and like I told her, and she 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:13.800 just like lets out the most like heart wrenching scream 0:15:14.360 --> 0:15:17.920 cry like she could like like she lost her own child, 0:15:17.960 --> 0:15:20.520 Like it was so crazy and it's so it's so 0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:23.320 crazy that I can still hear that that scream. And 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:26.560 she was just like, how dare you do this to me? 0:15:26.840 --> 0:15:29.840 Like I said, no, this, this and that, and I'm 0:15:29.920 --> 0:15:32.240 like I can't really talk right now, like I'll be 0:15:32.240 --> 0:15:36.920 home in a few hours. And so we end up 0:15:37.000 --> 0:15:39.240 driving back and I'm like passed out the whole time, 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:41.360 and I just like end up like she texted me 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:44.280 like not that I'm home. So I'm like, well, okay, 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:48.920 So I like I just I sit at my boyfriend's house. 0:15:49.240 --> 0:15:51.640 And then the next day, I like I go to 0:15:51.680 --> 0:15:53.960 get my car because I like, I'm just she's kicking 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:56.720 me out. So I'm just like I go and I 0:15:56.840 --> 0:15:58.720 just like I have my hands up and my boyfriend's 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:00.280 like in his car and I'm like, I'm just here 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:03.480 to get my clothes in my car, that's it. And 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:06.800 she was like she called me a murderer. First off, 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:10.360 she literally chased me out of the house, calling me 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:12.360 a murderer, in front of all of our neighbors on 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:16.440 the street, in front of everybody. And I'm like, I'm 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:18.320 just trying to get my car in my clothes. Mom, 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:20.000 I'm just trying to hear my car and my clothes. 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:22.400 And then she's like just calling me a murderer all 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.960 this and that I'm like in full blown tears at 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:27.640 this point, like and I just I just get in 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:29.240 the car and I leave because I'm like, well, I'm 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:30.520 not getting my clothes on my car. 0:16:36.000 --> 0:16:40.200 So have had you been? Did you ever go back 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:41.560 and get your stuff from the house? 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:47.280 Oh? Yeah? There's like a lot more after that. So 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:50.720 like a few days go by and she like eventually 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:52.840 lets me back in the house and like we have 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:55.440 like kind of like a heart to heart and I 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:58.880 like tell her my side, she tells me her side, 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:03.480 and I reside was basically just all of a sudden, 0:17:03.560 --> 0:17:07.960 she like became religious and like she couldn't imagine killing 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:12.040 her own flesh and blood, and I'm like, that's crazy. 0:17:12.040 --> 0:17:16.320 You've never taken me to church before, and so like 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:19.720 that was kind of like her preposition like looking at 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:23.560 it and why she couldn't like allow it because it 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:26.720 was technically like she just kind of understood that it 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:30.600 was her choice and not my choice, and so she 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:32.760 was like, I can't allow this. If it's my choice, 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:39.119 I can't allow this. But I was able to like 0:17:39.800 --> 0:17:43.439 move back in and like we were okay for a 0:17:43.440 --> 0:17:47.639 few months and then so mind you this whole time, 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:50.159 like before I got pregnant and like right after I 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:53.280 had the first proteacher, I was on breake control, Like 0:17:53.440 --> 0:17:55.879 I religiously took my breath control with my vitamins in 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:56.320 the morning. 0:17:57.200 --> 0:18:00.359 And you said, got pregnant on breath control, yep. 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:03.560 And I got pregnant again on birth control like three 0:18:03.560 --> 0:18:04.080 months later. 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.080 So I know you said this, I know you said 0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:11.680 that happened again, but just I guess real quick, I'm 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:16.480 so so you and your mom kind of like so 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:21.639 tensions were like incredibly crazy fucking high. She chases you 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:24.560 out of the house and then how many days later 0:18:24.680 --> 0:18:28.160 is it that you guys like you know, I want 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:29.680 to say to this talk to each other. 0:18:31.400 --> 0:18:33.680 Maybe five days to a week we didn't have any. 0:18:33.520 --> 0:18:36.600 Contact, and how's that happen? Does she does she reach out? 0:18:36.600 --> 0:18:38.520 Did you reach out? 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:43.159 I want to say, she reached out? And because like 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:46.640 this whole time, I'm like living at my boyfriend's house. Yeah, 0:18:46.680 --> 0:18:51.280 and so but it's like this happened. I want to say, 0:18:51.280 --> 0:18:53.560 it was like kind of the last two weeks of May, 0:18:54.119 --> 0:18:56.359 like whenever she called me that and like we didn't talk, 0:18:57.040 --> 0:18:59.919 and then by like the first of June she like 0:19:00.080 --> 0:19:05.000 let me back in the house. So I want to say, 0:19:05.119 --> 0:19:08.159 because my grandma was like also really heavily involved, but 0:19:08.240 --> 0:19:11.800 she's like she's like very religious, but like she like 0:19:12.000 --> 0:19:14.439 still loves me. She was like kind of like mending 0:19:14.480 --> 0:19:16.679 the sense of like I don't want you to do this, 0:19:16.800 --> 0:19:18.879 but I understand it's your choice, but you're doing this, 0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:21.159 but you're doing that. And so I think, like I 0:19:21.200 --> 0:19:23.720 think va me talking to my grandma and explaining my 0:19:23.760 --> 0:19:26.320 point of view and how I'm seeing things and her 0:19:26.400 --> 0:19:30.400 talking to my mom kind of ease the barrier because 0:19:30.440 --> 0:19:33.959 like she was kind of the division between us, so 0:19:34.160 --> 0:19:36.760 like we were getting both each other's points via my 0:19:36.800 --> 0:19:40.280 grandma who was like a very neutral influence between us both. 0:19:40.320 --> 0:19:42.200 Like I knew she supported my mom, but I knew 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:44.240 she also supported me, and I think my mom knew 0:19:44.240 --> 0:19:48.399 the same. So I think like because my grandma was 0:19:48.400 --> 0:19:50.639 able to like talk to her and kind of like 0:19:50.840 --> 0:19:54.000 explain my side a little bit more and like kind 0:19:54.040 --> 0:19:56.200 of like almost as a mom talked to her, been like, look, 0:19:56.240 --> 0:19:58.360 this is your child, like you know, like she made 0:19:58.359 --> 0:20:01.080 a choice for herself. I think that kind of like 0:20:01.440 --> 0:20:03.520 my mom off the fence. And also she had stopped 0:20:03.640 --> 0:20:07.119 using like once I had gotten the procedure done, and 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:10.040 she had like she's like I want to say, she 0:20:10.119 --> 0:20:13.960 went full dry like killed and drinking for a bit. 0:20:14.400 --> 0:20:16.080 I want to say, for maybe like a month or two. 0:20:17.040 --> 0:20:19.359 And so I think like her her being sober to 0:20:19.600 --> 0:20:22.639 like helped ease her forgiveness to me. 0:20:23.280 --> 0:20:29.399 M M. And so okay, you have the procedure. Everything 0:20:29.400 --> 0:20:32.879 blows up around five days later, your grandma talks a 0:20:32.920 --> 0:20:35.200 little bit of sense into your mom. You and your 0:20:35.200 --> 0:20:40.320 mom have a rekindling of sorts. And in that rekindling, 0:20:41.359 --> 0:20:45.600 you know, are you you go back you go back 0:20:45.640 --> 0:20:47.399 home and you you were living at your boyfriend's for 0:20:47.440 --> 0:20:49.199 those five days and then you go back home and 0:20:49.240 --> 0:20:53.760 you live in your house with your mom again. Yeah, okay, 0:20:53.800 --> 0:20:56.280 And how are you feeling with with your mom? Is 0:20:56.280 --> 0:20:59.480 the ore? The tensions like lower at this port. Are 0:20:59.520 --> 0:21:03.080 you guys able to like, you know, be around each other? 0:21:05.359 --> 0:21:08.000 Was like, it's very obvious that she still has a 0:21:08.000 --> 0:21:13.359 lot of resentment and anger towards me. But in like 0:21:13.400 --> 0:21:15.560 the first month, it wasn't that bad because I had 0:21:15.600 --> 0:21:17.920 ended up. I got a job like really soon after, 0:21:19.160 --> 0:21:23.159 and so I was just like literally working forty forty 0:21:23.160 --> 0:21:25.159 five hours a week, like just trying to be out 0:21:25.160 --> 0:21:28.040 of the house as much as physically possible. And then 0:21:28.080 --> 0:21:29.480 like the rest of the time I would just like 0:21:29.520 --> 0:21:32.199 be at my boyfriends or hanging out with him. So 0:21:32.359 --> 0:21:35.080 I was out of the house pretty much from like 0:21:36.040 --> 0:21:37.000 morning until night. 0:21:39.600 --> 0:21:47.280 And so you get pregnant again, Yeah, and you're on 0:21:47.560 --> 0:21:50.040 and so you're on birth control, but you got pregnant 0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:56.200 on birth control twice? Yeah? Is that like a statistical anomaly? 0:21:57.560 --> 0:22:00.320 Yeah? My like my OV was like I, I can't 0:22:00.320 --> 0:22:03.560 believe I'm seeing you again, Like they like they couldn't 0:22:03.560 --> 0:22:05.600 believe it themselves because they had prescribed me as the 0:22:05.640 --> 0:22:10.760 birth control both times, and it had worked for three 0:22:12.240 --> 0:22:15.720 two years beforehand, like I had had sex and had 0:22:15.840 --> 0:22:19.280 never never gotten pregnant. 0:22:19.600 --> 0:22:24.000 Dude, that's crazy. What what is the I mean, what's what? 0:22:24.000 --> 0:22:25.959 What's the math on that? Do you know? 0:22:28.920 --> 0:22:34.960 Maybe like one out of one hundred to five hundred thousand, maybe, man, 0:22:35.119 --> 0:22:35.680 maybe more. 0:22:36.240 --> 0:22:38.320 You know, if only you only you gotta if only 0:22:38.359 --> 0:22:43.000 you gotta scratch off instead of a baby, I know, right. 0:22:42.880 --> 0:22:53.159 If only I was legal enough so it could be 0:22:53.200 --> 0:22:53.840 a millionaire. 0:22:54.359 --> 0:22:58.600 So I mean, tell me, man, what what what happened? 0:22:58.600 --> 0:23:00.879 What happens the second go round? 0:23:02.160 --> 0:23:06.199 Okay, so before the second time, my mom ended up 0:23:06.320 --> 0:23:10.200 suing the state. Like my mom was like, I can't 0:23:10.200 --> 0:23:12.680 believe this law exists. I can't believe you would take 0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:16.160 that choice out of parents, right, And so my mom 0:23:16.240 --> 0:23:17.320 ended up suing the state. 0:23:17.880 --> 0:23:20.560 Your mom swore the state. Your mom sued the state 0:23:20.680 --> 0:23:22.920 and one wait, okay, hold on, this is this is 0:23:23.000 --> 0:23:25.159 this is now, this is before you get pregnant the 0:23:25.160 --> 0:23:25.680 second time? 0:23:26.760 --> 0:23:28.480 Yeah, this is like right after she found out in 0:23:28.520 --> 0:23:34.520 the first one, so like, that's what happens. So like 0:23:34.800 --> 0:23:38.639 basically she like she teamed up with this group of 0:23:38.680 --> 0:23:42.399 pro life lawyers and like wrote a letter to the 0:23:42.480 --> 0:23:46.879 legislative being like, this is my experience, and then like 0:23:46.960 --> 0:23:50.479 said exactly what happened. As a parent, I can't believe 0:23:50.560 --> 0:23:54.000 this law exists, YadA, YadA, YadA, And I guess it 0:23:54.080 --> 0:23:58.399 caused enough uproar that they changed the law to where 0:23:58.800 --> 0:24:02.040 if you wanted, oh it's called judicial bypass. If you 0:24:02.040 --> 0:24:07.160 want a judicial bypass, you had to now go in 0:24:07.280 --> 0:24:10.320 court in your parish instead of the parish that the 0:24:10.359 --> 0:24:13.040 clinic was in, which is why I was doing online 0:24:13.080 --> 0:24:14.639 zoom because I was meeting with a judge two and 0:24:14.680 --> 0:24:17.840 a half hours away. So now if you wanted that, 0:24:17.960 --> 0:24:19.960 you had to do it in your parish. And so 0:24:20.800 --> 0:24:24.040 Louisiana has like I don't know, maybe like sixty something parishes, 0:24:24.280 --> 0:24:27.000 only three of them ever saw these type of cases. 0:24:27.640 --> 0:24:30.320 So by the time my second one rolls around, I 0:24:30.560 --> 0:24:34.480 have to be the guinea pig of my parish's judicial 0:24:34.480 --> 0:24:37.359 system and testing whether or not they're going to allow 0:24:37.440 --> 0:24:39.879 me this because it's never happened before. Because the law 0:24:39.880 --> 0:24:40.679 had just changed. 0:24:41.040 --> 0:24:43.560 All right, I have a stupid all right, we got 0:24:43.760 --> 0:24:45.879 We'll get into this, but I have a stupid question. 0:24:46.000 --> 0:24:48.560 First, there's no stupid questions. 0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:53.680 What all right? What is a parish? 0:24:53.920 --> 0:24:56.719 Okay? A parish is like a county. It's like Louisiana's 0:24:56.800 --> 0:24:57.560 version of county. 0:24:58.200 --> 0:25:01.240 Ah, okay, all right, thought it was like a church. 0:25:01.240 --> 0:25:02.639 I don't know why I thought it was a church. 0:25:02.920 --> 0:25:03.199 You know what. 0:25:03.200 --> 0:25:04.600 I thought it was a church because there's like a 0:25:04.720 --> 0:25:09.359 left you know, Left for Dead. No, this is a 0:25:09.440 --> 0:25:12.159 video game. It's called Left for Dead. It's in the 0:25:12.240 --> 0:25:16.600 in Left for Dead too, there's a fucking uh map 0:25:17.040 --> 0:25:19.320 called and has the word perish in it, and it 0:25:19.359 --> 0:25:24.080 takes place in a church. Whatever. Okay? So okay, So 0:25:24.119 --> 0:25:28.760 your mom fucking sues, the state wins changes the laws 0:25:28.800 --> 0:25:31.600 so that you can't go to a different county to 0:25:31.840 --> 0:25:34.479 get your judicial bypass, And so now you get pregnant 0:25:34.520 --> 0:25:38.920 a second time, uh one in one hundred thousand chants, 0:25:39.240 --> 0:25:43.639 and now you have to be the first person to 0:25:44.440 --> 0:25:49.119 uh get your judicial bypass exclusively in the county that 0:25:49.200 --> 0:25:49.919 you are local to. 0:25:51.520 --> 0:25:56.840 Yes, And my mother knew about the second one because 0:25:56.880 --> 0:25:58.480 she came to the hospital with me because I thought 0:25:58.480 --> 0:26:02.440 I was just sick and I ended up testing positive 0:26:02.520 --> 0:26:04.440 And so she found out at the exact same time 0:26:04.480 --> 0:26:04.840 as me. 0:26:05.560 --> 0:26:09.840 Your mom, Yeah, and what happened then. 0:26:12.000 --> 0:26:15.119 She told like I told her I wasn't gonna have it, 0:26:15.200 --> 0:26:18.000 and she said, well, don't bother coming back to the 0:26:18.040 --> 0:26:21.040 house and got up, got out of the hospital room 0:26:21.160 --> 0:26:21.800 and left me. 0:26:24.840 --> 0:26:26.639 Was that the last time you saw her? 0:26:27.440 --> 0:26:34.199 No? Ironically, she got up left, I had to like 0:26:34.240 --> 0:26:36.320 call my boyfriend to come pick me up. I like 0:26:36.560 --> 0:26:41.560 got in contact with those people again, and like we 0:26:41.680 --> 0:26:49.040 started the process to like do it in my county. 0:26:47.520 --> 0:26:50.399 And my whole thing all over again. 0:26:51.640 --> 0:26:56.880 Yeah, and my mom ended up suing me and the state. Well, 0:26:56.960 --> 0:27:00.679 she sued everybody. So she sued me, She sues the 0:27:00.720 --> 0:27:04.080 attorney general, she sees the governor, and she sues the 0:27:04.240 --> 0:27:05.560 like legislative branch. 0:27:07.359 --> 0:27:07.920 Did she win? 0:27:09.680 --> 0:27:12.639 No, because so ironic, Oh my god, everything about this 0:27:12.680 --> 0:27:15.680 story is ironic. But ironic enough. My court date ended 0:27:15.720 --> 0:27:23.439 up being one day before hers. So I went in 0:27:23.480 --> 0:27:26.800 front of this old white man and I'm like this 0:27:27.480 --> 0:27:31.760 five six white like blonde white girl, and I'm just like, 0:27:32.440 --> 0:27:36.879 please please have this uh, And he's like he asks 0:27:36.920 --> 0:27:39.080 me kind of like the same series of questions, although 0:27:39.119 --> 0:27:42.560 he's just as confused as pretty much everyone else because 0:27:42.560 --> 0:27:46.360 he has no idea like what the marker for maturity 0:27:46.480 --> 0:27:49.119 is in this case, because he's never seen a case 0:27:49.240 --> 0:27:49.600 like this. 0:27:50.440 --> 0:27:53.600 Oh so this is this is this county's first time 0:27:53.760 --> 0:27:56.159 even doing these kind of like procedures. 0:27:56.800 --> 0:27:59.040 I'm the very first one. Yeah. 0:27:59.160 --> 0:28:03.560 Interesting, okay, And so you. 0:28:03.480 --> 0:28:05.320 Know, he asks me kind of like the same series 0:28:05.320 --> 0:28:08.800 of questions like what's your life, Like, what's your dreams 0:28:08.800 --> 0:28:13.080 with your goals and your aspirations? Is the father still involved? 0:28:13.119 --> 0:28:16.040 Does he support you? Like what's your family situation like? 0:28:16.640 --> 0:28:18.320 And like, so at this point I was able to 0:28:18.320 --> 0:28:21.200 tell him like, yeah, I'm homeless, like I got picked 0:28:21.240 --> 0:28:25.080 out of my house, Like it's I barely have enough 0:28:25.119 --> 0:28:28.080 money to pay for this procedure and these coordinarings by itself, 0:28:28.640 --> 0:28:33.040 let alone like actually having a baby. And so I 0:28:33.080 --> 0:28:36.720 think those kind of like surrealish things I think really 0:28:36.720 --> 0:28:40.440 helped my side, and he ended up allowing me, which 0:28:40.440 --> 0:28:42.320 I was very surprised about. I thought we were going 0:28:42.360 --> 0:28:45.040 to have to appeal because my lawyer had prepared me 0:28:45.320 --> 0:28:48.160 like in face of rejection, like you know, like don't cry, 0:28:48.640 --> 0:28:51.520 just like just breathe, like, we'll go to appeals like 0:28:51.640 --> 0:28:53.040 right after this. We'll be okay. 0:28:54.920 --> 0:28:56.880 And it different lawyer from last. 0:28:56.640 --> 0:29:01.120 Time, right, yeah, this is this is this one like 0:29:02.040 --> 0:29:04.600 kind of lived in my area. He like was associated 0:29:04.640 --> 0:29:06.280 with the group, but he lived. But he had to 0:29:06.320 --> 0:29:08.280 like physically be present with me this time. 0:29:08.760 --> 0:29:10.480 And so now you're you're not on zoom anymore. This 0:29:10.520 --> 0:29:11.800 time you're here in a place. 0:29:11.920 --> 0:29:14.080 No, I'm like in my in my local. 0:29:13.800 --> 0:29:16.360 Courthouse, okay, And so what happens? 0:29:17.920 --> 0:29:22.320 And so my mom is basically like suing for a 0:29:22.440 --> 0:29:28.680 temporary restraining order on like any court proceeding dealing with me. 0:29:30.720 --> 0:29:31.360 And so. 0:29:34.000 --> 0:29:38.200 Sorry dinner, rup, but she's okay, so you said, she okay, 0:29:38.240 --> 0:29:40.440 So she's suing like five differ people. She's fucking sue 0:29:40.440 --> 0:29:43.600 in the court house. She's suing, you said, she sued you? 0:29:43.680 --> 0:29:46.959 How did what the fuck? What is what's her grounds 0:29:46.960 --> 0:29:48.320 for a lawsuit against you? 0:29:49.560 --> 0:29:52.560 So I'm not too sure what the like legal jargon 0:29:52.600 --> 0:29:54.400 of it was. But she had teamed up with the 0:29:54.520 --> 0:29:57.760 lawyer like the same group of pro life lawyers and 0:29:57.800 --> 0:30:04.280 then another lawyer from Californi and basically their their whole 0:30:04.360 --> 0:30:10.640 legal stance was to stop me from retaining this judicial bypass, 0:30:11.280 --> 0:30:15.920 so that then their court proceedings against the state for 0:30:17.720 --> 0:30:23.560 allowing something something along the lines of stopping me from 0:30:23.600 --> 0:30:26.960 getting the judicial bypass to then allow their court proceedings 0:30:27.000 --> 0:30:29.120 to go on and duke out whether or not this 0:30:29.360 --> 0:30:31.520 is legal or not or whether. 0:30:32.360 --> 0:30:34.760 Oh so they okay, So they their whole thing was 0:30:34.800 --> 0:30:38.040 they want to stop your procedure so that they can 0:30:38.080 --> 0:30:41.560 hope to win again, to get you to not be 0:30:41.600 --> 0:30:47.240 able to get your judicial bypass. Yes, that's fucking, that's 0:30:47.280 --> 0:30:47.959 pretty fucked. 0:30:49.080 --> 0:30:52.760 And she won, but it was won. It was one 0:30:52.800 --> 0:30:54.760 day too wait, because their court day was after mine. 0:30:54.800 --> 0:30:58.640 I had already been granted it. So I had already 0:30:58.800 --> 0:31:01.520 gone to already gone to the clinic, like cause the 0:31:01.600 --> 0:31:04.600 day that my court hearing was, I had an appointment 0:31:05.080 --> 0:31:08.480 at like at the clinic again, and so I was 0:31:08.560 --> 0:31:10.920 able to Right after I left the courthouse, I went 0:31:11.000 --> 0:31:14.960 straight there and then I started the medication. And once 0:31:15.000 --> 0:31:17.240 you start the medication, and after it's been so long, 0:31:17.320 --> 0:31:20.640 it can't stop. So by time twenty four hours later 0:31:20.840 --> 0:31:22.960 and it was their court hearing, I was already past 0:31:23.000 --> 0:31:24.520 the point where there was no salvation. 0:31:26.560 --> 0:31:31.400 Dude, So all right, so you get your judicial bypass 0:31:31.520 --> 0:31:36.200 granted by this local parish and then like a day after, 0:31:36.960 --> 0:31:41.520 your mom wins her court case to prevent anyone from 0:31:41.520 --> 0:31:43.040 being able to get judicial bypass. 0:31:44.160 --> 0:31:45.800 Yes, anyone in the entire state. 0:31:46.760 --> 0:31:54.120 Really mm hmm, that's fucking crazy man. Wow. 0:31:57.200 --> 0:31:59.400 And then my like so at this time, like my 0:31:59.480 --> 0:32:02.280 mom is not letting me live with her, like I 0:32:02.320 --> 0:32:09.000 am fan barred all of the above, and so my boyfriend, 0:32:09.480 --> 0:32:11.440 I'm like kind of living with my boyfriend and his aunt, 0:32:11.560 --> 0:32:14.240 and his aunt ends up kicking me out too. And 0:32:14.440 --> 0:32:19.920 it's she really doesn't like me, Like she understood our 0:32:19.960 --> 0:32:23.520 circumstances and like she wants the best for her like 0:32:23.560 --> 0:32:26.120 her nephew, but she really doesn't like me. We've just 0:32:26.360 --> 0:32:29.000 never gotten along. It's something personal, I don't think. But 0:32:29.120 --> 0:32:31.080 it had to do with like smoking weed and like 0:32:31.120 --> 0:32:31.800 that kind of thing. 0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:35.280 Is she also like a crazy religious person. 0:32:36.800 --> 0:32:39.600 No, she's actually really cool. That was that was the 0:32:39.640 --> 0:32:41.800 weird thing about it. Is like she lets, like her 0:32:41.800 --> 0:32:44.240 son and like her nephew, smoke, but like whenever it 0:32:44.280 --> 0:32:46.640 came to me, like she thought I was like a 0:32:46.640 --> 0:32:47.400 bad influence. 0:32:50.280 --> 0:32:53.360 So now in the state of Louisiana, know like, if 0:32:53.400 --> 0:32:56.520 you're sixteen and you get pregnant, you cannot and your 0:32:56.560 --> 0:32:59.160 mom like forces you to have a baby. You cannot 0:32:59.320 --> 0:33:01.360 get judicial bypass to get an abortion. 0:33:02.880 --> 0:33:06.040 Well not since Rogie Waite overturned. You just can't get 0:33:06.040 --> 0:33:10.320 an abortion in Louisiana. But before it was. But then 0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:13.360 she once she figured out I had gotten my abortion, 0:33:13.480 --> 0:33:15.880 she dropped her lawsuit because she was like, there's no 0:33:15.920 --> 0:33:18.840 point in pursuing this if my daughter, because if I 0:33:18.840 --> 0:33:21.000 would have ever gotten pregnant, like right after I would 0:33:21.000 --> 0:33:22.560 have been eighteen, would have been able to time for 0:33:22.680 --> 0:33:23.240 my own. 0:33:24.680 --> 0:33:31.440 So so after you get your second abortion, your mom 0:33:31.560 --> 0:33:33.880 stops fighting everyone because she's just like, well, there's no 0:33:33.880 --> 0:33:34.480 point anymore. 0:33:35.400 --> 0:33:36.320 Yeah, she just lets go. 0:33:37.600 --> 0:33:41.400 So all right, so you you were you were living 0:33:41.440 --> 0:33:43.360 with all right, So you get your second abortion, your 0:33:43.400 --> 0:33:49.360 mom is like doing whatever. You're living with your boyfriend 0:33:50.160 --> 0:33:54.840 and his aunt and then his aunt kicks you out. Yeah, 0:33:55.480 --> 0:33:57.040 and then where do you go from there? 0:33:59.200 --> 0:34:03.040 Well? I kind of just like like I lived in 0:34:03.040 --> 0:34:04.720 my car for like a couple of days, but then 0:34:04.800 --> 0:34:07.280 like that wasn't really I couldn't really do that and 0:34:07.360 --> 0:34:09.000 go to school because I was still in school, like 0:34:09.000 --> 0:34:10.719 I was able to enroll back in school for my 0:34:10.760 --> 0:34:14.600 senior year. So I was like, well, this kind of 0:34:14.600 --> 0:34:17.400 can't work. So I called up my godfather, who was 0:34:17.560 --> 0:34:22.520 extremely religious and like he knew everything that was going on, 0:34:22.600 --> 0:34:26.440 and I was like, hey, this is a situation, like 0:34:26.880 --> 0:34:29.360 I'm working on getting emancipated to like be able to 0:34:29.400 --> 0:34:31.440 sign to my own apartment, but because I'm not in 0:34:31.480 --> 0:34:34.640 no apartment complex, will let me sign? Can I stay 0:34:34.640 --> 0:34:39.400 with you for a few months? And thank him? I 0:34:39.400 --> 0:34:41.719 thank him every day he let me stay with him. 0:34:42.160 --> 0:34:45.280 I didn't know staying with him for probably four months 0:34:45.320 --> 0:34:47.960 before I was able to get into my apartment and 0:34:48.000 --> 0:34:51.200 move out. But I got emancipated in that time. My 0:34:51.280 --> 0:34:53.400 lawyer like saw what my mom was doing and like 0:34:53.440 --> 0:34:56.680 all the litigation, and he was like, hell, I'll help 0:34:56.719 --> 0:34:59.040 you get emancipated, like no charge if you want to. 0:34:59.200 --> 0:35:01.400 I'm like, yeah, please. 0:35:03.400 --> 0:35:05.360 So you get emancipate when you're like what seventeen? 0:35:06.840 --> 0:35:09.520 Yeah, it ended up. I ended up. I think it 0:35:09.560 --> 0:35:12.800 was November fourth, twenty twenty one. I was seventeen. My mom. 0:35:13.000 --> 0:35:16.080 My mom was gonna try and fight it with one 0:35:16.080 --> 0:35:20.000 of her lawyer friends. But whenever, like I told her, 0:35:20.080 --> 0:35:21.920 who I was gonna like have his witness, like her 0:35:21.960 --> 0:35:25.120 ex boyfriend and like some other family members who she 0:35:25.160 --> 0:35:27.400 kind of sucked over. She was like, yeah, I'm gonna 0:35:27.600 --> 0:35:28.360 a losing battle. 0:35:28.800 --> 0:35:38.279 Goddamn dude. So all right, so you get emancipated, and 0:35:38.280 --> 0:35:39.520 then what do you do? What do you do? From there? 0:35:39.560 --> 0:35:42.360 You're living with your I'm sorry you said your your uncle. 0:35:43.560 --> 0:35:45.719 My godfather. He was like kind of like my father 0:35:45.800 --> 0:35:48.160 figure in my life, okay, and so I just kind 0:35:48.200 --> 0:35:51.759 of live with him. I live with him until the 0:35:51.840 --> 0:35:55.400 end of January, from like November, from like October November 0:35:55.520 --> 0:35:58.560 ish till January twenty twenty two, and then me and 0:35:58.600 --> 0:36:01.200 my boyfriend moved into our apartment. And I'm still a 0:36:01.280 --> 0:36:03.880 senior in high school right now. 0:36:03.960 --> 0:36:05.480 Where you're senior high school right now? 0:36:05.760 --> 0:36:07.919 No, I was. I was at the time. 0:36:08.000 --> 0:36:11.200 So so you're like seventeen eighteen, you're senior in high school. 0:36:11.239 --> 0:36:13.040 You and your boyfriend moved to an apartment. How are 0:36:13.040 --> 0:36:14.279 you paying for it? Do you guys have a job? 0:36:15.800 --> 0:36:18.960 Yeah, well I was. I was working since right after 0:36:19.200 --> 0:36:22.600 my first one, and then he had been working since 0:36:22.760 --> 0:36:27.640 like six months before. So we were both like and 0:36:27.920 --> 0:36:30.480 we were both high school seniors just like working like 0:36:30.840 --> 0:36:33.600 normal stops. Like I was working at Starbucks and he 0:36:33.640 --> 0:36:34.760 was working at the grocery store. 0:36:35.040 --> 0:36:37.600 How'd you get time to work while being in high school? 0:36:39.160 --> 0:36:42.799 Well, because I was a senior, I only had two classes, 0:36:43.040 --> 0:36:44.960 Like those were only the credits I need to be 0:36:44.960 --> 0:36:47.440 finished because I was like smart and did like some 0:36:47.520 --> 0:36:49.640 of my credits in middle school. But I didn't have 0:36:49.680 --> 0:36:50.799 to have like a full. 0:36:53.920 --> 0:36:58.600 Yeah, okay, so you didn't have to go to school. 0:36:58.640 --> 0:37:00.439 So you were going to high school like a part 0:37:00.440 --> 0:37:02.200 time and then on like a work release after that. 0:37:03.680 --> 0:37:05.520 Yeah, So I was like going to school from like 0:37:05.680 --> 0:37:08.960 seven to nine thirty and then I was like at 0:37:09.000 --> 0:37:11.600 work from like either like ten to five, where like 0:37:11.600 --> 0:37:14.080 I would work the closing like twelve to nine thirty. 0:37:14.880 --> 0:37:16.239 And that was an I know a lot of like 0:37:16.440 --> 0:37:18.920 did you like from from like the Starbucks and the 0:37:18.960 --> 0:37:20.520 grocery street. You guys were able to make rent? 0:37:22.360 --> 0:37:26.120 Yeah, it was actually pretty cheap. It was only like 0:37:26.239 --> 0:37:28.040 five hundred whenever we first moved in. 0:37:28.840 --> 0:37:31.720 Damn it was what a one bedroom. 0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:34.680 Yeah, it was like a one bedroom condo. 0:37:34.920 --> 0:37:37.560 It was like downstairs one bedroom condo. 0:37:37.640 --> 0:37:42.000 Five hundred bucks a month, just no, a one bedroom. 0:37:42.400 --> 0:37:46.360 Well a one bedroom five hundred bucks a month. Yeah, 0:37:46.760 --> 0:37:54.200 pretty fucking good, especially between two of you guys. Yeah, jeez, 0:37:55.200 --> 0:37:59.560 oh my god. And so have you? Are you still 0:37:59.640 --> 0:38:00.920 is that where you're still living now? 0:38:02.600 --> 0:38:04.560 Yeah? And so I graduate. 0:38:05.760 --> 0:38:11.959 And now you're in college college? What do you study? 0:38:12.280 --> 0:38:13.160 Microbiology? 0:38:13.880 --> 0:38:15.600 Wow? And your boyfriend, what's you do? 0:38:17.719 --> 0:38:19.400 He still works at the same grocery store, but he 0:38:19.440 --> 0:38:20.600 works in like the meat department. 0:38:21.520 --> 0:38:26.000 Cool, he likes and does stuff. What's what's what's the 0:38:26.160 --> 0:38:27.399 what's the hope and dream for you? 0:38:32.719 --> 0:38:37.120 Definitely move out of his town, definitely, probably states, maybe countries. 0:38:38.600 --> 0:38:40.200 I kind of just want to live like a little 0:38:40.360 --> 0:38:43.719 farm life in a cottage in like the mountains and 0:38:43.880 --> 0:38:44.800 just garden. 0:38:47.360 --> 0:38:50.000 So did you ever talk to your mom again? 0:38:52.400 --> 0:38:56.600 Yeah? About like whenever I was moving in, she like 0:38:57.280 --> 0:39:01.360 slowly started to like integrate her way back into my life. 0:39:01.440 --> 0:39:05.520 Like she offered like bias a TV and like bias groceries, 0:39:06.000 --> 0:39:08.640 and like I was pissed, poor broke at the time. 0:39:08.680 --> 0:39:11.799 I'm not going to deny the help. So she like 0:39:11.880 --> 0:39:14.520 slowly started to ease her way in that way. And 0:39:14.560 --> 0:39:19.279 then now it's crazy to say, but we're actually kind 0:39:19.280 --> 0:39:22.600 of cool. It's like really not really mother daughter. We're 0:39:22.600 --> 0:39:25.480 like more so just friends. Yeah, But I mean, like 0:39:25.560 --> 0:39:27.719 she tells me all of her drama with her. I'm 0:39:27.760 --> 0:39:30.120 kind of like her therapist in a way. Really, Like 0:39:30.160 --> 0:39:32.400 I just kind of listen to her drama and stuff 0:39:32.400 --> 0:39:35.200 and I give her advice. And that's about as far 0:39:35.200 --> 0:39:37.319 as our relationship goes. I mean, it's not been ever 0:39:37.400 --> 0:39:38.080 too personal. 0:39:39.320 --> 0:39:43.920 So you and your mom, so, I mean, goddamn, your 0:39:44.000 --> 0:39:50.719 mom like just makes your life fucking hell for you know, 0:39:51.120 --> 0:39:54.359 two years during this crazy difficult time, she's doing all 0:39:54.400 --> 0:40:00.560 this insane litigation stuff really not being a mom. And 0:40:00.600 --> 0:40:06.640 then later like what what's the deal? So she starts 0:40:06.640 --> 0:40:10.719 like slowly like integrating herself back into like I guess, okay, 0:40:10.800 --> 0:40:14.720 so she leaves, So okay, so you're in the hospital, 0:40:14.800 --> 0:40:17.319 you find out that you're pregnant again, she leaves. You 0:40:17.320 --> 0:40:20.000 don't hear from her much, I guess, except her like 0:40:20.040 --> 0:40:22.960 suing everyone. And then when does she start to come 0:40:23.000 --> 0:40:24.000 back into your life? 0:40:24.040 --> 0:40:29.000 And how well, Like after I got emancipated, she started 0:40:29.280 --> 0:40:32.200 the only contact she had on me was email. So 0:40:32.200 --> 0:40:35.080 she just started emailing me like once a week, just 0:40:35.120 --> 0:40:38.240 giving updates about her life and like asking how I'm doing, 0:40:38.560 --> 0:40:41.600 and I never responded. I would just like look at them, 0:40:41.760 --> 0:40:44.799 how I'd read them, I kind of sigh, and then 0:40:44.800 --> 0:40:48.040 I would just delete them. And that went on for 0:40:49.239 --> 0:40:53.359 probably about three months. And then like whenever we were 0:40:53.360 --> 0:40:55.880 moving in, I still had some stuff at my mom's house, 0:40:55.960 --> 0:40:58.239 so I needed to like go back to like get 0:40:58.280 --> 0:41:01.360 directed myself, like my bed was still there and that 0:41:01.440 --> 0:41:03.239 kind of stuff, and she was gonna let me take it, 0:41:04.600 --> 0:41:06.800 and so all of our context was like between my grandma, 0:41:07.440 --> 0:41:09.040 so like I would just ask my grandma to ask 0:41:09.080 --> 0:41:11.200 her like when I could go and that kind of stuff. 0:41:11.719 --> 0:41:15.520 And then whenever, like I got to her house, we 0:41:15.719 --> 0:41:18.799 just kind of got to talking and it was like 0:41:20.120 --> 0:41:21.799 it's kind of weird to say, but it was like 0:41:22.080 --> 0:41:25.000 you could feel the tension like from the stuff that 0:41:25.160 --> 0:41:27.520 just happened. But it was also kind of like normal 0:41:27.560 --> 0:41:30.120 in a way because my mom's like always kind of 0:41:30.200 --> 0:41:32.920 done me dirty, Like she's kind of always done me wrong, 0:41:33.320 --> 0:41:35.719 So like us being in that situation where like her 0:41:35.880 --> 0:41:38.640 asking for forgiveness and like asking to be left back 0:41:38.640 --> 0:41:41.520 into my life isn't something new, so I'm kind of 0:41:41.560 --> 0:41:43.319 like I guess used to that. I'm like used to 0:41:43.360 --> 0:41:48.399 her asking to come back, and. 0:41:48.360 --> 0:41:55.359 Every end, despite everything, you found the strength to is 0:41:55.360 --> 0:42:00.120 is forgive her the right word? Would you say you've 0:42:00.120 --> 0:42:02.440 forgiven her by letting her back into your life? 0:42:05.160 --> 0:42:07.360 I think I think I have. I think I've forgiven. 0:42:07.520 --> 0:42:11.000 I just haven't forgot. Like it's still it just bawns 0:42:11.040 --> 0:42:16.680 on me sometimes, like especially whenever like we talk about 0:42:16.719 --> 0:42:20.439 like certain topics and stuff like that. But I think, 0:42:20.480 --> 0:42:23.040 for the most part, like I understand, like I understand 0:42:23.080 --> 0:42:25.759 a lot of it is due to like her drugs 0:42:25.840 --> 0:42:29.160 and her alcoholism and how selfish that can make her, 0:42:29.600 --> 0:42:33.640 and how like during that time, the drugs were definitely 0:42:33.680 --> 0:42:37.759 not helping and probably just feeling into her selfishness, and 0:42:37.800 --> 0:42:39.719 so like I guess I kind of recognize that, and 0:42:39.719 --> 0:42:42.960 I guess I kind of not like blame, but like 0:42:45.400 --> 0:42:48.920 m I guess I expect her to do that kind 0:42:48.920 --> 0:42:51.919 of stuff because of the drugs. So like in a way, 0:42:51.960 --> 0:42:54.040 I know it's not her, Like I know it's not 0:42:54.080 --> 0:42:57.640 like my my mom that's doing that, And. 0:42:59.120 --> 0:43:02.520 Yeah it does does. I mean, that's a lot of 0:43:03.760 --> 0:43:07.319 so so she's you're kind of like her therapist now, 0:43:07.360 --> 0:43:11.600 like she'll come to you for like advice, and to events. 0:43:13.200 --> 0:43:17.080 Yeah, so, like she's dating this guy who has the 0:43:17.160 --> 0:43:22.319 same name as her ex, and so like whenever they 0:43:22.360 --> 0:43:24.600 first started dating, she like would come to me and 0:43:24.640 --> 0:43:26.960 she'd be like do I tell him? Do I not 0:43:27.080 --> 0:43:31.239 tell him? And then like she just like there's like 0:43:31.360 --> 0:43:33.440 I definitely have boundaries with her, but she has no 0:43:33.520 --> 0:43:36.200 boundaries with me. Like any topic in her life is 0:43:36.280 --> 0:43:39.719 like completely okay to talk about with me. So like 0:43:40.239 --> 0:43:42.080 she's like talking to me about like their like their 0:43:42.120 --> 0:43:44.560 intimacy like compared to her ex and that kind of stuff, 0:43:44.560 --> 0:43:47.560 and asking like my opinion on that, or like asking 0:43:47.600 --> 0:43:49.160 like if she should text them or if she should 0:43:49.200 --> 0:43:49.959 not text them. 0:43:50.360 --> 0:43:54.120 Really? Wow, man, Yeah, your mom's a doozy. 0:43:56.160 --> 0:43:57.680 Is She's something that's for sure? 0:43:58.320 --> 0:44:00.440 And uh, I mean, how do you feel, like do 0:44:00.520 --> 0:44:06.800 you being in this uh after this whole entire crazy saga, 0:44:06.880 --> 0:44:09.200 I mean, how do you how do you feel about 0:44:09.200 --> 0:44:11.360 being in this position with her? 0:44:12.239 --> 0:44:17.400 Oh? I mean, honestly, I think I'm just relieved because 0:44:17.480 --> 0:44:20.560 the situation could have gone a lot worse. Like I 0:44:20.600 --> 0:44:22.360 mean I could have two babies right now, or I 0:44:22.360 --> 0:44:24.880 can have a baby and see at college and stuff 0:44:24.880 --> 0:44:27.040 like that, And so I think because things worked out 0:44:27.120 --> 0:44:29.839 in my favor the way I wanted them to. Gives 0:44:29.880 --> 0:44:31.600 me a lot of room to be gracious, like I'm 0:44:31.640 --> 0:44:34.160 not gonna have a forever child, reminding me of what 0:44:34.280 --> 0:44:36.600 my mom tried to do with me, Like I don't 0:44:36.640 --> 0:44:39.640 have that forever scar unless like I really like think 0:44:39.680 --> 0:44:40.160 about it. 0:44:40.560 --> 0:44:45.160 M hm m m yeah, yeah, because I mean, look, man, 0:44:45.239 --> 0:44:47.239 right now, you know, being twenty and living in this 0:44:47.320 --> 0:44:49.880 apartment and you're working, going to school, you're doing all 0:44:49.920 --> 0:44:52.000 these things. I mean you really, I mean, you could 0:44:52.040 --> 0:44:53.359 do it with if you had a kid, but it'd 0:44:53.400 --> 0:44:58.120 be a thousand fucking times harder, and then you know, 0:44:58.160 --> 0:45:01.000 you'd build resentment, you'd build further that meant for your mom, 0:45:01.040 --> 0:45:03.120 and that might lead into resentment for the kid, and 0:45:03.120 --> 0:45:06.080 it would just have been a been a fucking you 0:45:06.080 --> 0:45:06.840 know disaster. 0:45:08.640 --> 0:45:10.759 Yeah, I was never a healthy situation to start with. 0:45:13.239 --> 0:45:15.160 I'm gonna just real quick, I'm gonna ask if the 0:45:15.280 --> 0:45:18.879 chat has any questions for you, because this has been 0:45:18.880 --> 0:45:20.560 a by the way, I want to thank you. I'll 0:45:20.640 --> 0:45:23.560 let the chat put some questions and I'll pick some 0:45:23.640 --> 0:45:24.960 questions from the chat, but I want I want to 0:45:24.960 --> 0:45:27.680 thank you for talking to us about this. This whole 0:45:27.760 --> 0:45:33.080 crazy story. I hope it was beneficial or helpful to 0:45:33.120 --> 0:45:36.560 you to to talk through. I mean, it's it's totally wild, 0:45:36.640 --> 0:45:39.399 and I have I have tons of respect for you 0:45:39.520 --> 0:45:44.080 for for a lot of things. For you know, your 0:45:44.280 --> 0:45:48.040 your ability to continue to have a relationship with your 0:45:48.080 --> 0:45:52.560 mom withstanding all of these, uhwithstanding this whole saga, and 0:45:52.640 --> 0:45:55.799 for your ability to stay strong throughout it all and 0:45:55.920 --> 0:45:59.680 to kind of be able to emerge, you know, with 0:45:59.760 --> 0:46:01.719 a with a good, happy life on the other end 0:46:01.719 --> 0:46:02.000 of it. 0:46:04.520 --> 0:46:04.920 Thank you. 0:46:05.719 --> 0:46:09.000 Let's see here, someone wants to know if you have 0:46:09.200 --> 0:46:12.480 advice for any if you have advice for women in 0:46:12.560 --> 0:46:16.400 similar scenarios. 0:46:16.920 --> 0:46:19.759 Go with your good feeling, because I have never regretted 0:46:20.480 --> 0:46:26.440 my choices ever in the slightest, not one bit. It's 0:46:26.480 --> 0:46:30.560 a really hard decision, and I completely empathize with you, 0:46:31.040 --> 0:46:33.560 but just always do what's best for you, no matter 0:46:33.600 --> 0:46:35.719 what anybody thinks, because at the end of the day, 0:46:35.800 --> 0:46:37.080 you got to live with a choice. 0:46:37.880 --> 0:46:40.640 Someone asked, do you ever want a kid. 0:46:43.800 --> 0:46:47.360 To be determined? After being really sick that first time? 0:46:48.120 --> 0:46:51.160 New research has found out that it's actually genetic, So 0:46:51.280 --> 0:46:55.720 if I ever do become pregnant again, it might happen again, 0:46:55.800 --> 0:46:58.440 and I don't know if that's something that I'm willing 0:46:58.480 --> 0:47:01.320 to like put my life at risk, and adoption is 0:47:01.320 --> 0:47:04.080 always a good option. I think if I ever want 0:47:04.080 --> 0:47:06.360 a child in my life, but I don't have, I 0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:09.840 have really big aspirations to travel and to live my 0:47:09.960 --> 0:47:12.200 life to the extent, and if a child fits in there, 0:47:12.680 --> 0:47:14.600 then a child fits in. But if not, I don't 0:47:14.600 --> 0:47:15.839 have any desire right now. 0:47:16.800 --> 0:47:19.800 Someone said, what kept you going when it looked dire? 0:47:24.120 --> 0:47:26.440 My boyfriend was a really big help. He was a 0:47:26.520 --> 0:47:30.120 really big support to lean on and to just hear 0:47:30.200 --> 0:47:32.520 me vent over and over about my mom and how 0:47:32.680 --> 0:47:37.120 I can believe it. We'd helped a lot. My anxiety 0:47:37.200 --> 0:47:41.440 was really bad, like my sickness was really bad, and 0:47:41.760 --> 0:47:45.319 just thinking about my future. Honestly, I've always been a 0:47:45.320 --> 0:47:47.200 big dreamer. That kind of always helped me. When I 0:47:47.280 --> 0:47:49.560 was younger and my mom was using and I was scared, 0:47:50.080 --> 0:47:52.839 so I just kept dreaming of like my dream vacations 0:47:52.840 --> 0:47:54.520 and I would just plan them out in my head 0:47:54.560 --> 0:47:57.080 whenever I got over anxious, and that like always helped 0:47:57.080 --> 0:47:58.920 calm me down because I always had something to look 0:47:58.960 --> 0:48:01.960 forward to and all look about. Uh. 0:48:02.600 --> 0:48:06.040 Someone asked which fast food joint you think has the 0:48:06.080 --> 0:48:08.359 best French fries? 0:48:09.280 --> 0:48:17.120 Ooh ooh m McDonald's when they're crispy. 0:48:17.200 --> 0:48:21.200 Yeah, yeah, I've been Actually, i've been into Burger King recently. 0:48:22.680 --> 0:48:25.040 I was at a Burger King at the airport and 0:48:25.080 --> 0:48:26.759 they have all these like breakfast options. It was like 0:48:26.840 --> 0:48:29.680 seven in the morning and they have all these breakfast options, 0:48:29.840 --> 0:48:32.759 but at the very bottom it's it's a tab and 0:48:32.800 --> 0:48:35.759 it literally says on the tablet, do you want a 0:48:35.840 --> 0:48:37.719 whopper for breakfast? And I was like, I kind of 0:48:37.760 --> 0:48:40.080 do when So I had a whopper and fries at 0:48:40.120 --> 0:48:42.319 seven in the morning. It was pretty good. I don't 0:48:42.360 --> 0:48:46.480 know why I threw that in there, but let's see 0:48:46.520 --> 0:48:49.239 if there's a Oh okay, I actually this is the 0:48:49.320 --> 0:48:51.000 last one, and I'm curious about this. Where do you 0:48:51.000 --> 0:48:52.799 want to go? You said you want to travel a lot. 0:48:53.080 --> 0:48:54.680 What's your dream destination? 0:48:56.680 --> 0:49:07.120 Oh? My dream is probably the man that's hard, probably Italy. 0:49:07.960 --> 0:49:11.640 I really like Italian culture or like Italian food too. 0:49:12.040 --> 0:49:14.239 But I have a trip plan in Scotland and Ireland 0:49:14.480 --> 0:49:17.480 next summer, right after the finals of my junior year, 0:49:18.360 --> 0:49:19.799 so I'm really excited for that. 0:49:21.120 --> 0:49:26.040 What's your name? Again, Ariana, Ariana, Well, Ariana, look, I'll 0:49:26.040 --> 0:49:30.359 say it again. I mean, dude, like going through all 0:49:30.400 --> 0:49:34.120 this shit, having you know, especially without your dad and 0:49:34.160 --> 0:49:39.680 with your mom being crazy, and it's just I'm inspired 0:49:39.719 --> 0:49:41.520 by how you were able to deal with all this 0:49:41.560 --> 0:49:44.040 shit and then still come back on top and you're 0:49:44.080 --> 0:49:46.040 out here living your best life and you're making it 0:49:46.080 --> 0:49:50.360 work and you seem like you're happy, and you know, 0:49:50.760 --> 0:49:52.600 congrats to you on all that stuff. 0:49:54.120 --> 0:49:54.719 Thanks Gak. 0:49:57.400 --> 0:49:59.759 Well, is there anything else that you want to say 0:49:59.800 --> 0:50:02.080 to the people of the computer or about the story, 0:50:02.160 --> 0:50:04.839 or about French fries or anything at all before we go? 0:50:10.440 --> 0:50:14.680 Make good choices. If you don't make good choices, you 0:50:14.719 --> 0:50:18.560 can always change them. 0:50:18.760 --> 0:50:21.560 Well, take care, Arianna, and thank you for calling and 0:50:21.600 --> 0:50:22.320 sharing your story. 0:50:23.520 --> 0:50:27.279 Thanks gag later, dude later. 0:50:28.760 --> 0:50:32.839 That's crazy, man. I mean, I you know, I'm I'm 0:50:32.960 --> 0:50:38.480 very lucky I have I have supportive, supportive parents because 0:50:38.800 --> 0:50:43.239 you know, I don't know, it's one thing, like it's 0:50:43.239 --> 0:50:45.759 one thing like being a like if you're gonna be 0:50:46.640 --> 0:50:51.319 like a piece of shit in your own universe, right 0:50:51.480 --> 0:50:56.239 like self destructive and you know, make bad choices like 0:50:56.360 --> 0:51:01.520 I get it, you know, I get it, But to 0:51:01.719 --> 0:51:06.280 do all of that as like a as like an attack 0:51:06.480 --> 0:51:14.000 on your own child. This is fucked up. So whatever 0:51:14.160 --> 0:51:16.719 I mean. I also, I really do, I really have 0:51:16.760 --> 0:51:22.720 a deep respect for Arianna, Like, after all that man, 0:51:22.960 --> 0:51:28.440 after all that, she still is will she's willing to 0:51:28.719 --> 0:51:32.040 hang out with her mom and give her boy advice. 0:51:32.840 --> 0:51:35.960 I mean that takes a lot of that kind of forgiveness. 0:51:36.000 --> 0:51:40.360 It takes a lot of character, it really does to 0:51:40.440 --> 0:51:45.560 do all that, to like to take all that like 0:51:45.719 --> 0:51:51.200 evil stuff her mom was doing and then recognize that 0:51:51.239 --> 0:51:58.920 beneath all of that is a woman who is struggling 0:51:59.760 --> 0:52:06.319 with her addiction and her you know, drug abuse and 0:52:06.360 --> 0:52:12.879 alcoholism and problems with her own relationships and of course 0:52:12.920 --> 0:52:14.680 and look, she could look at all that and be like, 0:52:15.600 --> 0:52:17.200 I don't give a fuck. I'm not responsible for that. 0:52:17.239 --> 0:52:19.719 You're a grown woman. You can handle it. And you know, 0:52:20.000 --> 0:52:21.319 she can do that if she wanted to do. But 0:52:21.520 --> 0:52:23.359 this is not what she did. She recognized it and 0:52:23.400 --> 0:52:28.600 she went, you know what, I'll be your girly, you know, 0:52:29.320 --> 0:52:33.920 send tell me about this guy. And I really have 0:52:33.960 --> 0:52:37.520 a deep respect for that. It reminds me of I've 0:52:37.520 --> 0:52:40.880 talked about this before. I've talked about fucking toy story 0:52:40.960 --> 0:52:43.719 Toy Story three. It reminds me of that scene in 0:52:43.760 --> 0:52:48.000 Toy Story three where lots of hugging where they fucking uh, 0:52:48.400 --> 0:52:50.759 lots of hugging Bear. He had just fucked over all 0:52:50.800 --> 0:52:54.200 of the toys and he was just fucking them over. 0:52:54.239 --> 0:52:57.880 He was scheming hard to fuck them over, and he does, 0:52:58.600 --> 0:53:00.440 and he sends them all onto the track. But then 0:53:00.480 --> 0:53:03.680 he also gets sent into the trash and all the 0:53:03.719 --> 0:53:09.279 toys are like grabbing metal stuff to like avoid the incinerator. 0:53:09.280 --> 0:53:12.319 You guys know what I'm talking about. And then they're 0:53:12.360 --> 0:53:15.319 about to like get over the incinerator when lots of 0:53:15.360 --> 0:53:17.240 hugging Bear is like, help me. I'm stuck. I'm stumped 0:53:17.239 --> 0:53:19.920 down here. I'm stuck. I need help, and do you 0:53:19.920 --> 0:53:21.880 know and ever and everyone's like, come on, Woody, we 0:53:21.920 --> 0:53:23.839 gotta go fucking leave him. He's a piece of shit. 0:53:23.920 --> 0:53:26.520 Leave him. And then what does Woody do? It makes 0:53:26.520 --> 0:53:28.799 me cry to think about it every time. What does 0:53:28.840 --> 0:53:32.480 Woody do? Because he's Woody and he has this like 0:53:34.239 --> 0:53:40.160 immaculate character to him, he fucking goes down there and 0:53:40.200 --> 0:53:45.280 he saves lots of hugging Bear from the incinerator because 0:53:45.280 --> 0:53:47.680 that's the kind of guy he is. And then do 0:53:47.719 --> 0:53:50.320 you know what lots of huggin Bear does. He fucks 0:53:50.360 --> 0:53:54.480 them over again. It's insane, It's insane. It's I think 0:53:54.480 --> 0:53:58.480 about this movie all the time. Anyway, I don't know, 0:53:58.520 --> 0:54:02.160 this just reminded me of that. Thank you for sharing 0:54:02.360 --> 0:54:06.520 your story, Arianna. Rep Cat goes on the line taking 0:54:06.600 --> 0:54:09.879 your phone calls every night. The repeak Can goes doing 0:54:09.960 --> 0:54:11.840 his eye who's teaching you to a hout in the 0:54:11.840 --> 0:54:15.200 middle of your life, but he's not really an expert.