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We'll go somewhere else, babe. 19 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 1: That's how you know that you're the side piece, and 20 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 1: they're like, never mind, we're not going to Coldplay. 21 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 2: Ooh, yeah about that. We're not gonna build to go. Sorry, 22 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:04,560 Speaker 2: I'll just go somewhere more privately. Hotel room, yeah, in 23 00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 2: another state, somewhere. Audio journals like we're writing in our diaries, 24 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:10,120 Speaker 2: except we see them aloud. We call them blogs, Kaylin, 25 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:11,759 Speaker 2: go dear blog. 26 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:15,200 Speaker 1: So I feel like all I've been doing lately, and 27 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:18,279 Speaker 1: by lately, I mean like the last five to seven years, 28 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: is going to weddings. I go to a lot of weddings. 29 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:24,640 Speaker 1: It's kind of my second job. And you know, we've 30 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: seen the changes and the trends evolve. We've talked about 31 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 1: on the show. You know, do you give a cash gift? 32 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: Do you still stick with the registry? You know? And 33 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 1: I think think things have evolved. So one trend I 34 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:38,400 Speaker 1: have noticed is that not a lot of people, some 35 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:42,000 Speaker 1: people still do will bring their cards to the actual wedding. 36 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 1: Typically they'll mail it before or afterwards, which I feel 37 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: like is nice, especially if it's out of town. You 38 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: don't have to lug that whole box home. But I know, 39 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 1: you know, for the Nanas and the Aunties, they still 40 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 1: want to bring their card and put it in a box. Well, 41 00:01:56,440 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: I prefer to send it later. But I do like 42 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: to get a good card, write something in there and 43 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 1: give a little cash. I will always give cash for 44 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 1: a wedding. My boyfriend always wants to send the cash 45 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:14,480 Speaker 1: via Venmo or Zelle. And I think we're getting a 46 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:18,440 Speaker 1: little too lax, a little too informal. I don't know 47 00:02:18,440 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: what you guys think, but I know some people are 48 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 1: doing this. It just makes me feel a little icky 49 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 1: to just like send you some cash, you know, for 50 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:27,640 Speaker 1: your wedding. 51 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, because I send people money like when they when 52 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:34,640 Speaker 2: they like buy me breakfast, right, you know, I don't Yeah, yeah, 53 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 2: I think it's at a little informal. It's like, oh here, 54 00:02:38,680 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 2: here's some money. Was like, it's like throwing money at someone. 55 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:43,639 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, here's money, here, this whatever, and it takes 56 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 2: two seconds and there's no real effort involved. Yeah. I 57 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 2: don't think we're there yet for weddings. 58 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: No, I don't think so. Now, there were people in 59 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 1: between the at the wedding, I was at last between 60 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: the church and the party that were running to buy 61 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 1: their cards and stuff. Then I'm like, you don't need 62 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:01,080 Speaker 1: to just mail it after as. 63 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 2: Long as you do it because trust me, we all 64 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:06,160 Speaker 2: know people will remember if you don't do it. Everyone 65 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 2: remembers the people who didn't give gifts. Right or wrong, 66 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 2: everybody remembers the people who didn't give gifts. 67 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 1: I've noticed that I haven't really noticed that. And for 68 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:17,279 Speaker 1: friends that I've heard talk crap about like wedding gifts situations, 69 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 1: I'll give them a little more because I very much 70 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: don't want to be talking no. 71 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 2: It, And well, I don't think that we should have 72 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 2: to give based on what we think it are. Like 73 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:28,959 Speaker 2: I've heard We've been over this a million times, but 74 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:31,120 Speaker 2: I've heard the thing where it's like, you should give 75 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:33,120 Speaker 2: the amount of money that you think it cost for 76 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 2: you and your guests to attend. Now, I'll give you 77 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 2: whatever because I might, I might want to give you 78 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 2: more than I think your wedding cost. I don't know. 79 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 2: It's not my job to pay for myself at your wedding. 80 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 3: No, no, no, no. 81 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 2: I do think people will judge you based on what 82 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 2: they've done for you in the past. Like my mom 83 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 2: is like this. My mom my mom is given to 84 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 2: cousins graduations and friends kids graduations, and she remembers who 85 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 2: gave to us, and she remember my grandma, my nana 86 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 2: was really about this and then she remembers who thanked 87 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 2: her and who didn't. Oh, oh, that's a big one. 88 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 2: The thank you is a big one from my mom. 89 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:11,360 Speaker 2: If she sends you something and you don't say thank 90 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 2: you in any form, she doesn't like that. Even if 91 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:16,360 Speaker 2: it's just I don't know. You were supposed to send 92 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:18,280 Speaker 2: a gift because it was a graduation. You were supposed 93 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 2: to send a gift because it was a wedding. She 94 00:04:20,080 --> 00:04:21,839 Speaker 2: wants to thank you, and she'll remember if you didn't 95 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 2: do it. So these are all the things I think 96 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 2: people consider, But I don't know that a zel. You 97 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:29,039 Speaker 2: can't just zell. I can just zell you fifty bucks 98 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:30,040 Speaker 2: at your birthday and go here. 99 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:32,359 Speaker 1: I don't love it. And well, by the way, I 100 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: do always give more if I have a date with 101 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: me regardless. You know, I don't think you should pay 102 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 1: for plates you. 103 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 2: Give on behalf of because there were two of you. Yeah, yeah, no, 104 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 2: I think that makes sense. 105 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 1: Pee would you be You're the only married person in 106 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: the room. Would you be offended if someone zell do you? 107 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 2: No? 108 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 3: I've had people do that. 109 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:47,960 Speaker 1: Really. 110 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 3: A family friend actually did because she lives in Florida 111 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:52,040 Speaker 3: and she couldn't go to my veigas wedding. I totally understand. 112 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:54,919 Speaker 3: So she zelled me and I thought that was really sweet. 113 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:57,240 Speaker 3: Oh I don't care, but I also I get the 114 00:04:57,240 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 3: feeling I wouldn't do it personally, I'm not very Yeah, 115 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:02,720 Speaker 3: but I think the next twenty maybe thirty years, I 116 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:04,599 Speaker 3: think that's going to be the new trend because millennials 117 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 3: don't have checks, Like we just don't have them. 118 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:10,480 Speaker 1: We're Shelley. But you know, I just I know it's hard, 119 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 1: and I usually give cash, so I hand it to 120 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 1: the person like directly if I see them after or whatever. 121 00:05:15,640 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: But I don't know if I'm here, I don't give 122 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: what's in the line, like ingrats and the rest of 123 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:21,600 Speaker 1: your life. 124 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. That's a good question, because you're right. 125 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:27,320 Speaker 2: I mean, I guess I have. I have to dig 126 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 2: for my checks. Yeah, you go find them because I 127 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 2: have so rarely use them. Yeah, and then I'll put 128 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 2: money in the envelope because if it gets lost and 129 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 2: that's gone. But yeah, I don't know what you do 130 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 2: because you're right, I mean, everyone that is really how 131 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:41,719 Speaker 2: it's going. But at the same time, it's just so impersonal. Yeah, 132 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:43,600 Speaker 2: it's like you could send a card and then wait 133 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 2: a few days and then zell and hope the card 134 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 2: and the zell land at the same time. 135 00:05:47,360 --> 00:05:49,200 Speaker 1: But like, I don't know, that's what you say, like, hey, 136 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 1: did you get myzelf? You know what I mean? 137 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 3: Like you feel silly. But I can also argue right 138 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 3: and say that some people do like an online account 139 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 3: or a wedding whatever. 140 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: It's called honeymoon fund, and some people will give their 141 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: gift that way. 142 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:02,359 Speaker 3: Is that none of the same? 143 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:06,200 Speaker 2: Almost almost kind of you're saying that's how I want 144 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:09,160 Speaker 2: you to give it, Like yeah, you know, yeah, that's 145 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 2: a nice thing to do. 146 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 1: Though. 147 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 2: I think that's a nice thing to do if you're 148 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 2: having a wedding, is have some form of like digital 149 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:17,640 Speaker 2: way that I can do it, because that way I'm 150 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:20,479 Speaker 2: doing the efficient thing. But then I don't feel like 151 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,839 Speaker 2: it's informal because you're saying do it this way. 152 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 1: I agree. 153 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's also tacky to like put your your cash 154 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:30,160 Speaker 4: app code on the invite or something like that. Yeah, 155 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 4: people do that now. They'll put like happy birthday to me, 156 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 4: and then they'll put their cash app in. 157 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:36,479 Speaker 1: The corner like that's so tag. 158 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 4: Yeah, No, I don't know, but Actually, I don't care 159 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:42,080 Speaker 4: how you give me the money. Okay, cash app means it, 160 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:43,880 Speaker 4: you put it in my hand. 161 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 2: It just seems like, I know how fast. 162 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 1: I gotta give some money. 163 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 2: Oh my god, I get on my app boom boom 164 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 2: boom here So I don't know, here's two hundred bucks whatever. 165 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:57,760 Speaker 2: It just seems so sort of like an afterthought, you 166 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 2: know what I mean. But I guess it's better than nothing. Yeah, 167 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:02,080 Speaker 2: you guys do with the cards after Paulleen? Do you 168 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 2: used toll have your wedding cards? I do. 169 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 1: I'm such a like little dork. 170 00:07:05,279 --> 00:07:07,840 Speaker 3: I keep all my cards birthday and I have communion 171 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 3: cards for my Baptists. I have it all at Okay, Yeah, 172 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 3: I like to look at that stuff later, So be classy. 173 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:16,000 Speaker 1: Get a car from the Dallas store. Yes, cards are 174 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 1: expensive too. I got to conect that in. 175 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, ninety nine cents. 176 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:21,440 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, that was the value area. 177 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 2: The last card I bought was seven dollars. 178 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 1: It works.