Speaker 1: Guess what decision We're about to make. Horrible decision.
Speaker 2: We bike at it it yee y'all, welcome to another
Speaker 2: episode of.
Speaker 1: Decision. Hey, y'all, mi'sy.
Speaker 2: Girl man dB ak a Bay the Stallion aka book
Speaker 2: or pus aka Dan Beach.
Speaker 1: I'm weazy and we are in la We just are
Speaker 1: on the back. What do you say that? On the
Speaker 1: heels of Baby and Awards, we were nominated for Best Podcast.
Speaker 1: We didn't win it, but if you saw us, clearly
Speaker 1: we looked like winners. Hello, and wanted y'all to know
Speaker 1: if you live in London on May fifth, we're gonna
Speaker 1: be there at the Earth Theater. It's our rescheduled climax
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Speaker 2: So make sure you go on over to whorehive dot
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Speaker 2: I figured we would just start with a little bit
Speaker 2: of catch up of where we're at in our love
Speaker 2: lives and things. If you guys are on Patreon, Weezy
Speaker 2: came to Vegas with her little boo thing and we
Speaker 2: all go together. I realized that not only is this
Speaker 2: healing journey and therapy making it hard for me to
Speaker 2: motherfucking date. You know what else, I realized my friends
Speaker 2: being so fucking awesome is also like, so hear me out.
Speaker 2: We were at dinner, and what I keep saying I
Speaker 2: want is I would love a partner who's able to
Speaker 2: hop on a plane and meet me in some of
Speaker 2: the cities because I'm touring with Tonight's Conversations, I'm on
Speaker 2: tour till June.
Speaker 1: We just did the ABN in Vegas.
Speaker 2: I'm here in LA for work. I would love a
Speaker 2: partner who could like pull up on me. I love
Speaker 2: hotel sex. I've been saying it. Yeah, So I would
Speaker 2: like someone to just be able to travel and be
Speaker 2: around and kind of support me in the things that
Speaker 2: I do business wise, And I realized why are where
Speaker 2: people are like.
Speaker 1: Well, that's a lot to ask My friends do it.
Speaker 1: I don't think asking someone to show up for you
Speaker 1: at well, no, it's.
Speaker 2: A lot to ask for If hear me out for
Speaker 2: a man with a regular job, My life is not regular.
Speaker 2: So if I meet someone who's not a celebrity or
Speaker 2: even y'all know, I'd be dating ball players and the
Speaker 2: guys that I fuck with. It's a lot to ask
Speaker 2: for because people have their own lives. However, my friends
Speaker 2: have also found a way to pull up on me
Speaker 2: in any seat. They're actually asking me, bitch, sim of
Speaker 2: your tour dates, which ones can I come to? And
Speaker 2: so having like friends that are wanting to be a
Speaker 2: part of this with me and wanting to travel and
Speaker 2: make plans and create experiences, I realize this is something
Speaker 2: I want from a partner, and it's something I haven't
Speaker 2: been able to get. It's something that with the type
Speaker 2: of men I like to date, they don't have the
Speaker 2: time to do. So it's like, damn, I don't know
Speaker 2: if I guess I'm just to a place where I'm
Speaker 2: starting to think that the things that I want are
Speaker 2: going to be hard to come by. But also I'm
Speaker 2: finding so much happiness in my friendships that I'm just
Speaker 2: like and what I need in a go para.
Speaker 1: I feel like I've been happy with my friends for
Speaker 1: a long time. You have too, We've always had great friends,
Speaker 1: travel and do shit with that shit. Do not keep
Speaker 1: me for looking for Nichols. I don't know what it
Speaker 1: is for me right now. I don't know, but I
Speaker 1: mean I think that maybe because you've gotten to fill
Speaker 1: your schedule with dates with friends, vacations with friends. That's
Speaker 1: probably it, right, like being able to have something in
Speaker 1: a docade to where you get to have a new experience.
Speaker 1: And yes I did bring him last year. You brought
Speaker 1: your boot. I brought my ex lush and so I
Speaker 1: didn't get to spend time with him, but it was cool.
Speaker 1: I actually enjoyed all of us hanging out together. And
Speaker 1: I recently had a conversation with name drop time so Questlove,
Speaker 1: who is in his fifties and you know, has been
Speaker 1: famous his whole life. Obviously I'm not roots level famous,
Speaker 1: but he went to dinner with him with me and
Speaker 1: he said something to me that I really appreciated. He's like, Yo,
Speaker 1: it's really nice to see you with a very confident
Speaker 1: and secure guy, because, like you know, being a plus
Speaker 1: one is not everybody's security. Nope, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like it. He's a man being a plus one to
Speaker 1: a woman like you, Like, it's good to see that.
Speaker 1: He's just like and it's funny because he called him
Speaker 1: a civilian to his face. He's like, you know, when
Speaker 1: we ate civilians, my dad is hilarious.
Speaker 2: But also military people use civilians, I know, but that's funny.
Speaker 1: But it was funny to hear him say it, and
Speaker 1: I remember we got in a car. He was like,
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever had somebody called me a civilian.
Speaker 1: But that's funny. Yo, I mean what you just said
Speaker 1: though about time. He is an investor, so it's like
Speaker 1: he dictates his own schedule. But yeah, I mean you're right. Like,
Speaker 1: even though I think the b Simone clip, we jumped
Speaker 1: up her ass and we always one of those people.
Speaker 1: I didn't do it online because I fucked with being Simone,
Speaker 1: But I remember being like, why would she say that?
Speaker 1: But I kind of if she meant the flexibility and
Speaker 1: an entrepreneurial thing, I do understand that because it's been helpful.
Speaker 1: It's the flexibility. My ex did have a nine to
Speaker 1: five though, but he just uh was more up to
Speaker 1: change to where he could be remote. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean it's super important when you want to travel with
Speaker 1: the person you're dating. But it was fun Like, I mean,
Speaker 1: he's been around two for our shows, so I do
Speaker 1: like that I can bring him to work events and
Speaker 1: he fits.
Speaker 2: I mean, I like, I think that that's a great
Speaker 2: thing to have, especially like in this space.
Speaker 1: I remember when I did Revolt Summit and he.
Speaker 2: Joined me down there, and literally it became an argument
Speaker 2: in air quotes that literally as soon as we got back,
Speaker 2: because I realized just how comfortable he was in spaces
Speaker 2: where men made more money than him. He was jealous
Speaker 2: of or I don't even want to say jealous, but
Speaker 2: he was uncomfortable and showed insecurity around young Berg hit Maker,
Speaker 2: who's been my friends since I was fucking eighteen.
Speaker 1: Sorry name dropped to.
Speaker 2: My guess, and then oddly enough Yo, I made the
Speaker 2: joke that he was jealous of, and he admitted to
Speaker 2: being jealous of Asante.
Speaker 1: He was insecure around Jason Lee, and I was like,
Speaker 1: what is up with you being intimidated or insecure around
Speaker 1: these men who are gay? I don't understand now I'm
Speaker 1: doing to think it was money. No, it because handsome people.
Speaker 1: For sure, it was a money thing, and he was
Speaker 1: very handsome.
Speaker 2: But even making the money he made in retirement was
Speaker 2: not close at all to like being around celebrities.
Speaker 1: It's just it's not the same, it's not comparable.
Speaker 2: I don't care if a man makes one hundred thousand dollars,
Speaker 2: if you bring him around niggas who make millions.
Speaker 1: They're an insecure A millionaire might feel into uncomfortable right
Speaker 1: a millionaires. But yeah, we did talk about it too,
Speaker 1: because while we were at the Avians, there were moments
Speaker 1: where I went to the bathroom he was with Mandy,
Speaker 1: or we were separated, and uh I was getting a
Speaker 1: nigga's number or their Instagram. I can't remember because I
Speaker 1: want to interview him. I remember one guy was all fondoles.
Speaker 1: I saw four I know he DM me and he
Speaker 1: was like, I don't know, but there was a few people.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'd love to have you on Horrible,
Speaker 1: and there wasn't. I don't know. He's very secure in
Speaker 1: like who he is. But I also think that we're
Speaker 1: having a lot of dialogue about respect, which I think
Speaker 1: anybody listening, obviously Mandy are talking about industry shits. I
Speaker 1: don't want to make you feel left out, but I
Speaker 1: do think that there's conversations about respect that I've never had,
Speaker 1: that people need to have because my exit made me
Speaker 1: feel very uncomfortable. I remember taking him to Andrew Schultz's
Speaker 1: show at town Hall and Akasha's wife, who's beautiful, we
Speaker 1: had her on. He was like talking to her a
Speaker 1: little too long and like flirting with her. And I
Speaker 1: remember Alex and I did I ever tell the story? No,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think you Okay, Well I probably
Speaker 1: didn't tell her at the time because it was a
Speaker 1: lot you know what I'm saying, and it was kind
Speaker 1: of embarrassing but fun. So took him a town Hall
Speaker 1: show starting with another man's girlfriend. Oh yeah, what's what's
Speaker 1: the tea? So took him to the town Hall Show,
Speaker 1: which is so crazy theater because such a big deal
Speaker 1: for Andrew. And I texted Andrew the day we did
Speaker 1: our sho. I was like, man, I remember being here
Speaker 1: and you were excited to be at the town Hall
Speaker 1: Theater and now I'm sold out. But now he's sold
Speaker 1: out Arena's MSG multiple dates, Like MSG is coming next
Speaker 1: for us too, So basically, uh, he gets there, he
Speaker 1: gets lit. Now My ex was a very friendly and
Speaker 1: fun nigga. So I was just very confused on how
Speaker 1: to You don't want to make someone who's extroverted feel stifled,
Speaker 1: right because men have probably done that to you, just
Speaker 1: like absolutely and I felt that too. They have. So
Speaker 1: we get to the after party Fandrews Show and Occacio's
Speaker 1: wife is there and he's flirting with her, and Alex
Speaker 1: literally was like, bro, do you see this, nigga? How
Speaker 1: do you determine flirt?
Speaker 2: Flirt over just having a friendly conversation talking about their.
Speaker 1: Beauty to them? Okay, how beautiful? She was, asking what
Speaker 1: she likes to do for fun on the weekend or something.
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe not that, but there was something about
Speaker 1: I guess his attractiveness towards her or leaning into her
Speaker 1: or whatever that made her uncomfortable to the when where
Speaker 1: she said something and how embarrassing for me. I don't
Speaker 1: know if she directly said something or someone else did that.
Speaker 1: People were like, who's this dude? And of course he's not.
Speaker 1: It is Andrew's section, right, who's this dude? And then
Speaker 1: you gotta says, Wheezy's man, how fucking embarrassing. And what's
Speaker 1: even more, we're embarrassing is the first time I heard
Speaker 1: I love you from my ex was that night I
Speaker 1: walked out of the bar. Was it floor room or
Speaker 1: something or I don't know what it's called, but anyway,
Speaker 1: basically I left and I was like, you're disrespectful, You're
Speaker 1: an embarrassment to me, and it's clear that like this
Speaker 1: isn't gonna work, and he was like, yo, you just
Speaker 1: made me feel so comfortable to be free and open.
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I love you. And so it was
Speaker 1: so manipulative, right because you were upset on the moment.
Speaker 2: But then also I guess I hear that that and
Speaker 2: now he's using in the cavea.
Speaker 1: Right, and I realized like, oh, like some niggas really
Speaker 1: just have it or they don't. Mandy and I went
Speaker 1: to the bathroom and Madreid Nigga was talking to one
Speaker 1: of her friends. So the next day we're talking about,
Speaker 1: you know, you talk about the night and I was like,
Speaker 1: who do you think was the cutest? And he was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I thought, And there was a girl he was talking to.
Speaker 1: I don't know her name, not Stacy, not be oh Melanie.
Speaker 1: He was like, yeah, she's really beautiful. And you know,
Speaker 1: everybody has a type. And so I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: I have to say this to you. I agree, like
Speaker 1: I knew that was probably your type, right, skin whatever,
Speaker 1: very like natural looking. And I said, I really don't
Speaker 1: feel like you will disrespect me. I hope I'm not
Speaker 1: going to embarrass myself one day, but I'm so impressed
Speaker 1: by how easy it is to turn my back and
Speaker 1: I haven't felt that in a long time. And we've
Speaker 1: had so much conversation about that, you know, like what
Speaker 1: would make me feel insecure? What I don't like? How
Speaker 1: far you can go? And I need to do that
Speaker 1: in every relationship, and I think you and I are
Speaker 1: learning to do that with each other too. Hey, I
Speaker 1: need you to let me do this or do that,
Speaker 1: or I don't like when you talk to me like this.
Speaker 1: This across the board needs to be a thing. I
Speaker 1: need to tell people how I feel respected. And you
Speaker 1: use that word with me in a text the other day,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, I didn't know you felt
Speaker 1: disrespected by this small thing, and you probably knew. I
Speaker 1: didn't know I was doing that, But using words like
Speaker 1: that really makes an impact. Girl. I brought that text
Speaker 1: message up in therapy. I was like, can you believe
Speaker 1: how well like it was just sitting with me and
Speaker 1: we had four episodes. Let's read it, let's read it,
Speaker 1: let's read Okay, day not as telling y'all tea on
Speaker 1: a regular episode. I'll read your text to me and
Speaker 1: you read mine back. Okay, because so Mandy texted me
Speaker 1: I wanted to have a guest on that I thought
Speaker 1: was kind of whack, but she looked, let me hold on,
Speaker 1: let me go back. I know, damn, we we were
Speaker 1: we would take We've been taking a little lot. Oh
Speaker 1: I found it hop row So I found these guests
Speaker 1: who was on botched and I was like, damn, I
Speaker 1: kind of want to ring around. But she don't be born.
Speaker 1: After twenty minutes, man, He's like, oh wait, no, this
Speaker 1: came after you uh talking about the escape room? No, no,
Speaker 1: I know. Oh, okay, okay, so Mandy said, my ears hurt.
Speaker 1: This question, won't be talking. Oh so, I said, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm not in the mood to try it this week,
Speaker 1: but I'd be down to have guests on for just
Speaker 1: thirty minutes. Maybe we just invite them to sit with
Speaker 1: us for the horrible decision. It could be cool, and
Speaker 1: maybe we end the wholemail alone. She says to me,
Speaker 1: I'd really like to go by our outlines this week.
Speaker 1: I spent a lot of time working on them, and
Speaker 1: the free flow we've done in the past doesn't work
Speaker 1: for me. In the past four episodes, it literally spins
Speaker 1: my brain, and I'd like for my time to be respected.
Speaker 1: I would also love your outline sooner so I can
Speaker 1: add to them and be better prepared for guests. And
Speaker 1: Weezy's response was, I understand.
Speaker 2: I'm not sure how you feel disrespected on time exactly,
Speaker 2: but I'm willing to listen. But you should know I'm
Speaker 2: not trying to disrespect you while we're podcasting or interviewing
Speaker 2: a guest if if I'm not asking outline questions, but
Speaker 2: I'll try to be mindful that you want segments done.
Speaker 2: And it's really like to me where even the disrespect
Speaker 2: And again, y'all know how anal I am with time,
Speaker 2: So to me, the disrespect wasn't that I felt like
Speaker 2: you were intentionally disrespecting me. I just felt like my
Speaker 2: time was being disrespected because I'm working on I'm working
Speaker 2: on an outline and then I would love to look
Speaker 2: over yours and I'm not getting them early.
Speaker 1: So it wasn't that you were doing anything.
Speaker 2: But I literally brought that up in therapy and I
Speaker 2: was like, this feels so good that I'm not just
Speaker 2: sitting on this and now cycling in my head that
Speaker 2: Weezy just hates me and doesn't want to and normally
Speaker 2: in the past, I've done that, and so I was
Speaker 2: just like, we've been potting a lot.
Speaker 1: We had a great time in Vegas.
Speaker 2: We even party together with fucking gez we outside and
Speaker 2: I'm like, this feels so good.
Speaker 1: Let me just let her know we're recording one more episodes.
Speaker 1: Can we do this? And like, I really appreciated that.
Speaker 2: Response because I was like, this, this makes me feel
Speaker 2: like if something is bothering me now, I can't come
Speaker 2: to you. And let's be very clear, we've talked about
Speaker 2: it in the past. We both just felt like, fuck, hey,
Speaker 2: this bitch, she ain't gonna listen, she ain't gonna respect.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something nice I said about you
Speaker 1: behind your back. Oh not off. So there's this moment
Speaker 1: in the club where I'm dancing with this nigga and
Speaker 1: Mandy is recording us and said.
Speaker 2: I got you, bitch right, and did I send it
Speaker 2: to you? I gave you, gave you all the content.
Speaker 1: I was like, because you know, she'd beking little stuff
Speaker 1: with her niggas and I was like, okay, let me
Speaker 1: get her dancing real quick. So he said to me
Speaker 1: later that night, like, what was what was up with that? Like,
Speaker 1: because he doesn't even have. He was like, what was
Speaker 1: up with that? Like, you know, with her saying I
Speaker 1: got you to you because he knows that Mandy and
Speaker 1: I have had some beef in the past. I was like,
Speaker 1: Mandy's being placed on that moment, and I really feel
Speaker 1: I was like Mandy and I at least I could
Speaker 1: say this if I know nothing, we're never gonna out
Speaker 1: each other. And I was like, I hope, Mandy, you
Speaker 1: know that wasn't going on in today. I know, but
Speaker 1: how I'll be hout of my own niggas. I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna post don't nigga. So I said, Yo, Mandy and
Speaker 1: I have enough communication. It's funny because I said to him,
Speaker 1: I might have said this pervading, I can't fucking stand her,
Speaker 1: but I know this one thing, She's not gonna do that.
Speaker 1: And you know he doesn't know you well. So when
Speaker 1: Andy saying I got you, bitch, I know, Mandy's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I got you being bowed up so that you could
Speaker 1: have it for memory because I ain't gonna be bad.
Speaker 1: I'll be mad that I ain't got a lot.
Speaker 2: Of like off, like just photos and memories with my
Speaker 2: partner without us posing. Like when I'm not with my fund,
Speaker 2: but also like, my friends love candid photos, so it's
Speaker 2: the thing that we do when we're all out, so.
Speaker 1: We But that also goes back to and I was
Speaker 1: using the word respect a lot. I'm like, listen, like
Speaker 1: we are really respecting of privacy. Yeah. I was like,
Speaker 1: I knows. As much as we talk about eatings on
Speaker 1: this spot, baby, we probably shit we don't say, but
Speaker 1: you know, it felt good. And he was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm glad that you feel that and that you guys
Speaker 1: have And I was like, yeah, there's a lot of
Speaker 1: respect there. I was like, we you know, it's like this.
Speaker 1: Oh he told me when we were dancing a Jeezy together.
Speaker 1: He was like, oh, you wretchet. He was like, you're
Speaker 1: a city girl. I was like, yeah, you know, that's
Speaker 1: Mandy Sheep. But no, I think that every relationship just
Speaker 1: a rap it. There's gotta be some conversation again on
Speaker 1: how you like to be respected.
Speaker 2: Yeah, with Mandy's maybe it's timing. I'm working on what
Speaker 2: respects look like right now with me, and.
Speaker 1: I don't think I knew more either, And so in openness,
Speaker 1: it was so interesting to learn what I needed and
Speaker 1: liked and like, obviously, growing things will happen. I haven't
Speaker 1: really had a big fight with him or anything, and
Speaker 1: I'm so scared. You know, we had a six month market.
Speaker 1: You're like, oh my god, well that's what not up.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Everything just seems like smooth sailing. But yeah,
Speaker 1: you kind of got to have a situation happen to learn.
Speaker 1: And so if it's not learning from your mistakes, you've
Speaker 1: got to maybe learn from your past traumas. So I
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm in between this and I don't know
Speaker 1: what you think. Uh. Alex specifically tells me all the time,
Speaker 1: don't be telling these niggas. Hire everybody fucks you up.
Speaker 1: Don't dumping your trauma niggas. Don't be telling them nothing either.
Speaker 1: But Okay, I realized talking about what Old Bay did
Speaker 1: to me has course corrected a lot of shit for
Speaker 1: this nigga. Mm hmm, because he's like, oh, yeah, I
Speaker 1: know you don't like this or I understand you've been
Speaker 1: lied to, Like so some of it's helpful. I think
Speaker 1: there's a way you've got to do it. But I'm
Speaker 1: curious with you because you've overshared on this podcast. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that in Shady would be like you, Oh no,
Speaker 1: I'm an overshare period, okay on everything? So when dating
Speaker 1: now with new people, how much are you telling you
Speaker 1: about your ex? And are you waiting until maybe there's
Speaker 1: somewhere report, are you first date talking? What are you doing?
Speaker 1: I just that's the thing, and I think that's why
Speaker 1: I'm not dating.
Speaker 2: I don't know how to communicate, like even you know,
Speaker 2: sharing the first time out with that nigga that wasn't
Speaker 2: a date, it was a hangout, but not knowing how
Speaker 2: to introduce my lifestyle or my friends anymore, and just
Speaker 2: I don't know, I literally And I think that's why
Speaker 2: I'm just putting my head down and working as much
Speaker 2: as I am right now, because it's something that keeps
Speaker 2: me from feeling like I have to sit with dealing
Speaker 2: with men, and I don't think I want to. Right now,
Speaker 2: I'm figuring out what being respected looks like to me
Speaker 2: after cutting twenty four to seven off, after not feeling
Speaker 2: respected in my last relationship. How do I demand that?
Speaker 2: But also how do I show up to where I
Speaker 2: deserve that truth? And I think so for me, I'm
Speaker 2: just working on myself and that I do believe though,
Speaker 2: in not over sharing the ways in which people showed
Speaker 2: up in a relationship with you, because if you put
Speaker 2: up with shit like.
Speaker 1: For me to say I broke up with this name,
Speaker 1: oh that's a good point, that man.
Speaker 2: Might think that he gonna have chances with me. So
Speaker 2: there's things that I do think you should not tell
Speaker 2: because now this man is going to think he's gonna
Speaker 2: be able to do it to know that I stay.
Speaker 2: After knowing this nigga cheated or disrespected me or hung
Speaker 2: out with my friends behind my back. Yeah, he might
Speaker 2: think that, oh, that's not a deal breaker for you
Speaker 2: then and now it is. So I don't want to
Speaker 2: let him know the things that I actually did put
Speaker 2: up with because he might.
Speaker 1: Think that I'm gonna put up with that shit with
Speaker 1: his ass too.
Speaker 2: So I think I want to leave out my ex
Speaker 2: for a while, actually, But I do want to introduce
Speaker 2: the fact that the things that I did like, I
Speaker 2: did like when we traveled together. I really liked how
Speaker 2: we played, and we should keep talking to them. I
Speaker 2: think that's healthy to me. The healthy part of sharing
Speaker 2: about my last relationship is going to be the things
Speaker 2: that I really liked that I know I want again
Speaker 2: that's going to.
Speaker 1: Be the opal service. Yep. So I'm gonna tell he
Speaker 1: took my trash out. He was very thoughtful.
Speaker 2: When my friends came, he said, do you need me
Speaker 2: to go pick them up from the airport?
Speaker 1: Do we need to?
Speaker 2: The things that I really liked about him are the
Speaker 2: things that I'm putting out into the universe that I
Speaker 2: want again and that I feel like I should get again.
Speaker 2: So that's what I'm sharing more than anything with the
Speaker 2: guys that I am talking about, just so you know,
Speaker 2: he wont shit, But these were the things I really
Speaker 2: did like. And I don't go into why he wasn't shit.
Speaker 1: I realized the biggest trauma I was facing with dating
Speaker 1: I might have overcome this weekend, actually, which was what
Speaker 1: I did not feel comfortable when I turned my back
Speaker 1: with Obey, Like around your around anyone, anyone not friends.
Speaker 1: I feel like maybe he wouldn't okay.
Speaker 2: But the fact that you put baby maybe you wouldn't
Speaker 2: try them, but maybe you would.
Speaker 1: I just don't. I don't know, bro, Like I just
Speaker 1: feel like if this was swaps, if one of your
Speaker 1: homegirls was like I don't really felt was weazy like that?
Speaker 1: But him me, when you come to Vegas. I feel
Speaker 1: like Obi would be like, yeah, I feel like this
Speaker 1: nigga would be like hell no. And I feel like
Speaker 1: he would say hell no because he knows, like, I
Speaker 1: don't want to make you look stupid. But Obay was
Speaker 1: just so sex brained that sometimes he couldn't even sex
Speaker 1: brain like seriously, he couldn't look at women like look
Speaker 1: at moments like this is going to hurt this person.
Speaker 1: What also, I think was the issue with him is
Speaker 1: he knew how much he loved me and that he
Speaker 1: wouldn't be in a relationship with someone else, right, so
Speaker 1: he thought that was all that I would need. She
Speaker 1: know I'm gonna be with her? Nigga, do you know
Speaker 1: if I'm gonna be with you? Was a real thing.
Speaker 1: Well no, he thought that you that you just wanted
Speaker 1: a relationship, and so I'm just gonna fuck with our
Speaker 1: third trip together in just two months. Right, we went
Speaker 1: to Mexico twice, and I'm not saying I didn't feel
Speaker 1: comfortable when I turned my back, but you know, I'm
Speaker 1: like learning my trust. But for some reason this weekend,
Speaker 1: maybe because it was poor and awards too, girl, I
Speaker 1: was like, oh yeah, like now I felt good especially
Speaker 1: the fact that, like I know, we were looking for
Speaker 1: a bitch right because not kidding. Even in my relationship
Speaker 1: with ol bab, looking for the threesome made me uncomfortable
Speaker 1: sometimes dang because I wanted pussy, but I thought, oh,
Speaker 1: if you don't want to fuck me, he'll try to
Speaker 1: figure out a time to fuck the bitch. Whereas I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm in my newer dating experience with this person,
Speaker 1: I feel like they're like, I want to fuck another bitch.
Speaker 1: I got one hundred hose that would want my Like
Speaker 1: why am I going to fuck this up right now?
Speaker 1: In Vegas? Like this is the goal? Like I don't know,
Speaker 1: And yeah, I think I had so much trauma about
Speaker 1: being turned around in what's going on behind my back.
Speaker 1: Embarrassment and shame is something I was feeling a lot.
Speaker 1: And I also had a lot of moments where I
Speaker 1: was feeling triggered when you were going through shit. I
Speaker 1: remember your Rory and Mall episode when I was like,
Speaker 1: he did that to you, And there's these moments where
Speaker 1: I could maybe even judge you, like why was she
Speaker 1: taking back? But then I look at myself like why'd
Speaker 1: I take him back? And it's like we always point
Speaker 1: the finger at someone else, but not really ourselves. And
Speaker 1: I should have been listening to the man that I was, Oh,
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna hold you, see I was. I was like, ooh,
Speaker 1: would not be joining all the women in Delulu. Bitch.
Speaker 2: I was happily in Delulu and knew it, and just
Speaker 2: I didn't ask what if I s either. I was
Speaker 2: only gonna. I was gonna lead this nigga when I
Speaker 2: was ready to leave him, which is what I say
Speaker 2: all the time. Bitch, I'll tell my friends, girl, I
Speaker 2: don't want to hear about this nigga no more. You don't
Speaker 2: leave them when you're ready to leave them. And so
Speaker 2: for me sharing it on the pod, I'm glad that
Speaker 2: y'all got to join me in Delulu for so long.
Speaker 2: But to me, I understood that I was doing what
Speaker 2: most women do.
Speaker 1: I liked him. The dick was fine.
Speaker 2: He's so fine. I'm actually mad too. I like, I
Speaker 2: was rating my fine niggas with my friends. That's what
Speaker 2: I was, like, Who the finest niggas? You don't fuck?
Speaker 2: So we talking about these things and I literally brought
Speaker 2: my ex up. I was like, I think he's top four.
Speaker 2: He tied with a niggas. But I was like, he
Speaker 2: like top four of to me, the sexiest, and he's
Speaker 2: number one with sex I can I he's not in
Speaker 2: the four that I know.
Speaker 1: You fucked. I'm sorry, I have to talk about this
Speaker 1: off air. You loved him, No, no, no, no, he to
Speaker 1: me was top four him green eyes, twenty four to seven,
Speaker 1: they're in the top and then the other one I like,
Speaker 1: I call him Detroit on the pot. So I mentioned
Speaker 1: my foulk finest niggas. You're just talking about niggas. You
Speaker 1: fuck manby You're you are doloting. Okay, all right, I
Speaker 1: don't know get into I don't know what list you
Speaker 1: got over there. Oh you know we mentioned him. He's five.
Speaker 2: He's fine, but he not. He not top four or
Speaker 2: five the first one you said. But then the first
Speaker 2: one you said is short bitch. He was like, he
Speaker 2: like five, he's not gonna make.
Speaker 1: Gil y'all X had no hair, bab he was bald.
Speaker 1: I like bitch. I like, mister clean hole. Don't do me.
Speaker 1: I know before him, there was the first time for everything.
Speaker 2: Well, let's get into our vanilla shit and this actually
Speaker 2: may be me. Uh where I'm going in my dating journey.
Speaker 2: This is from the New York Post and a woman
Speaker 2: says that she is head over heels in love with
Speaker 2: an oak tree, but it isn't about sex. I think
Speaker 2: this is about to be me. I'm about to just
Speaker 2: find some I love. If you fall for a tree
Speaker 2: in the wood doesn't make a sound. A self proclaimed
Speaker 2: eco sexual, bitch.
Speaker 1: I ain't even gonna hold you.
Speaker 2: I'm doing all these sexuals, all these goddamn titles. A
Speaker 2: self proclaimed eco sexual took nature loving to the extreme
Speaker 2: after becoming infatuated with an oak tree, which she sells
Speaker 2: fills her with erotic energy. I don't know how to
Speaker 2: tree make her pussy thunk, but that's what she said.
Speaker 1: You get it. Dump. You see what I did there?
Speaker 2: Anyway, there was an eroticism with something so big and
Speaker 2: so old holding my back. She is a self proclaimed
Speaker 2: eco sexual, defined by Here Come the eco Sexuals as
Speaker 2: a person who finds nature romantic, sensual, and sexy, and.
Speaker 1: Often imagines Earth is their lover. I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: I'm tired of spiritual hos, bitch. That's what I was
Speaker 1: about to say this for mommy. If you Crystal Rubbin
Speaker 1: Star Jazon zodiac loving bitches. Why is it that these
Speaker 1: you know what spiritual holds are the new vegans for me?
Speaker 1: Not the new okay? And what way explain this? I
Speaker 1: had a problem with the vegans and now y'all niggas
Speaker 1: mean it off. I'm gonna tell you what I like
Speaker 1: now because I ain't gonna hold you is they only
Speaker 1: weed it off because they don't learn how to make
Speaker 1: these motherfuckers that jackfruit tastes like oxtail pool pork chicken. Bitch.
Speaker 1: I hate it because at one point, but bitch them
Speaker 1: things kind of. I actually think vegans are starting to
Speaker 1: understand the process. It ain't really hit yes, so now
Speaker 1: they just making fucking jack fruit tastes like And I
Speaker 1: have a vegan friend that was pregnant and they said,
Speaker 1: oh no, that you need something else. So all the
Speaker 1: vegans that are like I even saw vic mensa like
Speaker 1: plant base ain't gonna make you gain weight. And it's
Speaker 1: like even she was like, they had me say, and
Speaker 1: you need a little paltry hope. Anyway, this is my
Speaker 1: problem with spiritual I don't actually niggas too. The dudes
Speaker 1: are doing it now too, the hotel niggas, Oh no,
Speaker 1: they do. The spiritual people online don't seem real to
Speaker 1: me because they're all selling it. And I don't believe
Speaker 1: that when something is that real and precious to you,
Speaker 1: you're gonna fucking make so much money on it. Like,
Speaker 1: I just don't fucking believe it. Not saying I've never
Speaker 1: contributed to the culture and paid for a psychic or
Speaker 1: some shit, but I just believe that someone's spirituality constantly
Speaker 1: being shared online or for profit isn't a real thing.
Speaker 2: Which looking into this, she does have a self intimacy
Speaker 2: guide and she specializes in erotic storytelling, which means there
Speaker 2: may be some way in which she's fitting off of
Speaker 2: even she bet she's in.
Speaker 1: The New York polls sharing. Okay, well right though, but
Speaker 1: like okay, example, one of my homegirls was like, oh,
Speaker 1: let's go to this breathwork class. And I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: she's a woo woo bitch, not a wool woo. And
Speaker 1: when I got there, the girl that was leading it
Speaker 1: gave hella like you know, oh my god, no, no,
Speaker 1: no vibes, right, and I was kind of feeling it.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, we got me in
Speaker 1: my bag, like my vaporation is just feeling so this
Speaker 1: and that, and so then of course we all go
Speaker 1: after drinks after and not saying spiritual bitches can't drinks,
Speaker 1: fuck or do whatever they want. I'm not saying that.
Speaker 1: But she starts to vent. You know, she knows I
Speaker 1: work in talking about sex whatever, sexpert, what we're gonna say,
Speaker 1: And like all of the insecurities that she was having
Speaker 1: a relationship just started pouring out, and these things she
Speaker 1: was confused about and how she can't manage it. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, why don't you do some breathwork, bitch? You
Speaker 1: could watch like how can And I'm not saying like
Speaker 1: a therapist can't have a therapist, But there is a
Speaker 1: lot of the preachiness in spirituality on social media that
Speaker 1: is just not it for me. I'm curious disus Goldwin
Speaker 1: is my spiritual person. I know.
Speaker 2: Have you come across these spiritual type of women in dating? Like, okay,
Speaker 2: would a spiritual woman be a red flag for you?
Speaker 2: Like the girl who wakes up and has to burn
Speaker 2: the stage of rubber crystals? Oh my god, I got
Speaker 2: a charge them in the moon tonight. Oh my god,
Speaker 2: your rising star mood? What does what does that do
Speaker 2: for you in dating. Does it alarm you at all?
Speaker 2: Is it a red flag?
Speaker 1: This happened last weekend? What time were you born? Danny?
Speaker 3: I went to the shorty's house and she had a
Speaker 3: whole little like a like an altar. Yes, in the
Speaker 3: back of her closet.
Speaker 1: Wait did she show you?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, all up. Oh you haven't. No, we about
Speaker 1: to judge you, bitch. No, I'm not no, I'm not No,
Speaker 1: You're not going to judge people with alter litsten tell
Speaker 1: you why my close homegirl was Dominican and then practicing
Speaker 1: e foss since she was a child. Does that? Okay?
Speaker 1: So I've never seen her poster altar on instaut I've
Speaker 1: never seen her. Fucking need to tell niggas this, this
Speaker 1: and that like. I think that you can exist in that.
Speaker 1: That can be your religion, that can be your thing.
Speaker 1: I didn't know Beth or well Danny you think, Danny, well,
Speaker 1: how long we've been working with Beth? You know that?
Speaker 1: Shu about it.
Speaker 2: But Denny, as a man with with you being the
Speaker 2: only one in the room. If if women have those things,
Speaker 2: how did you receive that?
Speaker 1: What did it turn you off? Did it? Were you inquisitive?
Speaker 1: About it. How do you feel about that? The way
Speaker 1: she made it, she explained it, it was she black. No,
Speaker 1: she's a white woman. Sorry, Oh why.
Speaker 3: Wasn't okay, I'm different anyways.
Speaker 1: Knew me white with an altar satatic syld you like
Speaker 1: brew her? She not if she's not as though, it's
Speaker 1: not voodoo a white a white woman would all go ahead,
Speaker 1: tell us about the wicked nigga you about to be
Speaker 1: in the sucking pace one of them camels on him.
Speaker 1: We got it. This is crazy.
Speaker 3: But it was like non denomination. It was like Buddha.
Speaker 3: She was talking about Buddha Jesus and not kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: So like not Buddha, angio lost.
Speaker 3: I was worried at first, and then the way she
Speaker 3: explained it.
Speaker 1: Was brought you to the second place offering. No, seriously,
Speaker 1: that's what altars are offering.
Speaker 3: Oh oh, I guess that was a little Yeah, it
Speaker 3: was very spiritual. I was worried at first, but she
Speaker 3: the way she explained it, it wasn't as scary.
Speaker 1: You know, whether you're going a good thing you always
Speaker 1: complained about. Oh, I guess it's not. You be talking
Speaker 1: about how you losing your hair. If a piece of
Speaker 1: that on the floor.
Speaker 2: So wait, so wait, so are you going on a
Speaker 2: second date? Like so it wasn't a red flag. You
Speaker 2: were like on the second date. He was at her house,
Speaker 2: so you fucked.
Speaker 1: And snort? Yes, no, that I covering like four comedian.
Speaker 1: You know, hopefully this you can put this part in
Speaker 1: one of your set. I ain't gonna lie. This needs
Speaker 1: to be a joke. We do need to. I want
Speaker 1: to shout out Danny Sellers real quick. Danny works at
Speaker 1: a wut of media in LA. But I've always said
Speaker 1: when I saw his comedy specials, like, damn his nigga
Speaker 1: quit soon. What what's the name of your comedy special?
Speaker 1: Pound for pounds? It's shot really well and he's hilarious. Anyway,
Speaker 1: don't fuck with this nigga because he like white hose
Speaker 1: in the closet. I love I love black ladies, black ladies.
Speaker 1: I like him, just not right now? Hold on, can
Speaker 1: I ask you? Yeah, I have a friend that told
Speaker 1: me that right now, he's only even one of the
Speaker 1: fuck with white girls. And I said, why he goes
Speaker 1: every time I meet a black girl, He's like, I'm
Speaker 1: not meeting like black girls and ain't doing it in life?
Speaker 1: Like I'm meeting black women at nice dinners or nice places.
Speaker 1: He's like a lot of them will kind of pressure bro, Like,
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to be in a relationship. I just
Speaker 1: want to pussy And he's bitchest about to go for
Speaker 1: this shit with a nigga. Have you felt like dating
Speaker 1: white women maybe is less pressure?
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm dating black ladies just as much. No,
Speaker 3: I'm not one of them, he said.
Speaker 4: I'm dating this ain't the only bitch. I'm fucking that's
Speaker 4: what you say. I like, I like black ladies honestly,
Speaker 4: preferably more. It's more of its culturally. Can we get
Speaker 4: along culturally and then create? You got to be a
Speaker 4: creator and I'm full time creator, so it can't. It's
Speaker 4: hard to be with someone that's nine to five? Is
Speaker 4: I don't have an.
Speaker 1: I hear you decent all let's go. But isn't that interesting?
Speaker 1: Like that's I mean, that's crazy though, what he just said.
Speaker 3: But it's kind of true.
Speaker 1: I guess, well, I think he's really just not wanting
Speaker 1: to like date, and he's like, and it could be
Speaker 1: this thing, and a lot of white women know it too.
Speaker 1: I've had one or two white women tell me like, oh,
Speaker 1: when I did black guys, they make it very clear
Speaker 1: this is pussy. That's crazy. Though. I don't know if
Speaker 1: I like that stigma being on. I mean, I know
Speaker 1: it exists, but I hate that it does. The white
Speaker 1: girl that I know that told me that, and it's
Speaker 1: funny because I wanted to feel bad for her, but
Speaker 1: I couldn't, and I don't feel that. I know we
Speaker 1: got white listeners listening to this podcast, but she was
Speaker 1: dating this dude and she was super intom I was like,
Speaker 1: what happened? She was like, this sounds weird, but I
Speaker 1: think that he started to really get interested in me.
Speaker 1: And he had always talked about how his family would
Speaker 1: be weird if you brought home white girl, and she
Speaker 1: was like, I think he just had to cut it
Speaker 1: because he don't want be white girl. Oh, I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna hold you. I know, like black.
Speaker 2: Families that would rather you bring home a same sex
Speaker 2: person and be gay then bring home someone white. Like yeah, literally,
Speaker 2: don't bring don't bring them crack because this way that's
Speaker 2: what they be saying.
Speaker 1: I've actually heard a new thing from someone African who
Speaker 1: said his mama just said, don't bring home no American girl.
Speaker 1: Because they don't know how to treat men, and that
Speaker 1: other cultures apparently are better mothers over there. You agree,
Speaker 1: you just look too like m like I'm just switching
Speaker 1: the He's like, I'm just working, Like I'm just working.
Speaker 1: But you know what, That's interesting though, because when I
Speaker 1: was getting my hair rated in South Africa, which by
Speaker 1: the way, I can't believe that she was only dif Oh,
Speaker 1: we were talking a lot about dating. And I actually
Speaker 1: don't know if I brought this up on page with you,
Speaker 1: but I was curious to know if you've ever had
Speaker 1: none of my homegirls that are African have maybe grown
Speaker 1: up or dated in Africa, maybe they were born there
Speaker 1: or whatever. Right, So the girls were asking me about
Speaker 1: dating in America, and she was like, oh, do they
Speaker 1: call you bitch? Do they say this? They always seem
Speaker 1: so mean? Oh wow? And I was like oh. And
Speaker 1: I was telling them how I was having a great
Speaker 1: experience dying in Africa right now. And so I was
Speaker 1: talking about something I cooked him and they were like, wha,
Speaker 1: you have a job and you cook and like, and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, maybe this is a thing because
Speaker 1: we are such an independent I'm independent. I got my
Speaker 1: own shit, and but that's not the culture in many
Speaker 1: other countries, right, yeah, so it must look like we
Speaker 1: ain't doing shit for niggas, which I mean you up
Speaker 1: until it took a long time of me to even
Speaker 1: cook a meal. Bitch, you better come over bed, bitch.
Speaker 2: Anyway, for today's episode, we have been having so many
Speaker 2: great guests on the pod that I wanted to get
Speaker 2: through some of these homes else because shit, we ain't
Speaker 2: been answering y'all's mother first.
Speaker 1: We haven't. We've and baby, we got a lot of them.
Speaker 1: Fuck the guests, bitch, we've been having even though our solos,
Speaker 1: we've been having too much fun, Like where were at
Speaker 1: right now?
Speaker 3: Dan?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, shit, we gotta oh right good. We're
Speaker 1: gonna get through a couple of the years.
Speaker 2: So the first one is the threesome ultimatum, okay, which
Speaker 2: y'all know don't ever work. Y'all, stop with the ultimatum.
Speaker 2: There's a whole show called ultimatum, and it don't.
Speaker 1: Ever work for none of them. Motherfuckers.
Speaker 2: Don't give people an ultimatum. Just let them go on.
Speaker 2: They marry way if they not give you what you want.
Speaker 2: But anyways, that's gonna be my answer probably to this email.
Speaker 2: Let's see what they have to say. Hey, y'all, here
Speaker 2: we go. I'm twenty three. Here We're gonna help you out, bitch.
Speaker 2: Hey y'all, I'm a twenty three year old industry worker
Speaker 2: from New York and have been with my current boyfriend
Speaker 2: for four months after being just friends for two years.
Speaker 2: We're very sexually active and have engaged in multiple threesomes
Speaker 2: in the past that worked too enjoyable before we actually
Speaker 2: officially started dating. Now that him and I are dating,
Speaker 2: I kind of want him to myself and can't write
Speaker 2: my head around sharing him in the bedroom without giving
Speaker 2: a whole bunch of rules that he won't enjoy following.
Speaker 2: He thinks I just need to get more experience with
Speaker 2: women on my own so I can be more comfortable
Speaker 2: having a woman in the bedroom for a threesome or
Speaker 2: a foursome. But I think I just don't want to
Speaker 2: share him with another woman. Recently, he's told me that
Speaker 2: he doesn't see a relationship working out if I'm not
Speaker 2: willing to have another threesome. He doesn't even care who
Speaker 2: the girl is. He just wants to fuck me with
Speaker 2: another girl. I'm not sure what to do because I
Speaker 2: love him, but I'm also not about to compromise my
Speaker 2: boundaries and force myself to do something I don't want
Speaker 2: to do.
Speaker 1: Please help and be gentle, y'all be do we hat shit?
Speaker 1: Love you guys, and can't wait to read your book. Hmm.
Speaker 1: This is an interesting one because I know that you've had.
Speaker 2: A lot of three so I actually shared I dealt
Speaker 2: with this in my last relationship, that we were going
Speaker 2: to the club so much and inviting so many people
Speaker 2: in that I think some of our connection with each
Speaker 2: other lost a bit, and we had so much fun
Speaker 2: being around other people. It became a conversation that I
Speaker 2: want to stop doing this. I want to stop bringing
Speaker 2: other people into the bedroom. And at the moment, I
Speaker 2: don't think he wanted to do it.
Speaker 1: You say it became a conversation. It became a.
Speaker 2: Conversation first because I was like, I think we need
Speaker 2: to pause on this. Not that it would never happen again,
Speaker 2: but we needed to take a pause. I don't feel
Speaker 2: like it was an ultimatum, and I think that maybe
Speaker 2: how she's looking at it, maybe right now, fresh into
Speaker 2: this relationship, she doesn't want to.
Speaker 1: I'm going to give her the dialogue for that, right, Okay,
Speaker 1: I want to just snowball in this because what you're saying,
Speaker 1: you said, I can't do it. Maybe right now, there's
Speaker 1: moments where you open and you close your relationship. Yes,
Speaker 1: for me, I actually talked about this this weekend when
Speaker 1: we were at Poppy's sake. I was like, Yo, I
Speaker 1: know this open shit. We talk about a lot, but
Speaker 1: there are moments that I'm going to maybe possibly you know,
Speaker 1: if we get into and to myself, right and so
Speaker 1: and again we're talking about what we would want our
Speaker 1: relationship to look like. Yep, right, like still kind of
Speaker 1: figuring out if it's a thing for us, And I said,
Speaker 1: pregnancy is one that I know for sure absolutely fucking closed. Right,
Speaker 1: That's a sacred moment. It is. There's so many times
Speaker 1: where I've thought about my friends and open relationships and
Speaker 1: how they've been able to feel. And also I think
Speaker 1: there's moments of like even holidays. Right, This sounds super simple,
Speaker 1: but when I was with Obay, I remember holiday time
Speaker 1: he would kind of like art buzzles around Thanksgiving. My
Speaker 1: family used to live in Orlando. He'd kind of want
Speaker 1: Todays moment. And I'm like, Damn, I'm just kind of
Speaker 1: in this little cocoon right now. I don't necessarily know
Speaker 1: if I want to feel that, like you are able
Speaker 1: to open and close your relationship. You know why because
Speaker 1: as the person that's in the relationship, you're the priority. Yep.
Speaker 1: If the person you're dating can't handle an open, closed situation,
Speaker 1: they may not be for you. That's what you need.
Speaker 1: And we're always feeling guilty about making someone feel stifled
Speaker 1: or making them feel like we're giving them boundaries. I
Speaker 1: know your ex talked about that having rules, where it's like,
Speaker 1: how could you even have rules when you've done all
Speaker 1: these things with Mandy. However, I mean.
Speaker 2: Rules and boundaries, though, are allowed and need to be
Speaker 2: enforced in open relationships. And again, I think I like
Speaker 2: that what you said open close relationships are open relationships
Speaker 2: are non ethically non monogaous relationships. I think that people
Speaker 2: assume as soon as you join into the lifestyle, now
Speaker 2: you have to keep up with all this. No, it
Speaker 2: needs to be a constant conversation with your partner. Hey,
Speaker 2: let's take a break from this a little bit. You
Speaker 2: were allowed to do this same the same way we
Speaker 2: talk about dry January or like ways in which we
Speaker 2: sometimes like recluse or take away drinking or drugs or partying.
Speaker 2: That's the same when it comes to inviting other people
Speaker 2: into the bedroom O.
Speaker 1: Their energy is a lot same, a lot. And when
Speaker 1: we were talking about a few weeks ago on the
Speaker 1: episode of Christina where I was like other people on
Speaker 1: days and shit like that. Bro, there's so many times
Speaker 1: where I've been in settings recently and I'm like, I
Speaker 1: just kinda want to be with you right now. I
Speaker 1: just want to be with you right now, and like
Speaker 1: I need to lead er or even maybe I need
Speaker 1: to be alone. Yeah, you know, Like I think that
Speaker 1: we need to focus more on ourselves while in relationships
Speaker 1: instead of so much thinking well, we'll please my partner
Speaker 1: as greezers, which she could. She sounds like she is
Speaker 1: she does. It sounds like she's fighting it. She's like,
Speaker 1: he's gonna break up with me if I don't give
Speaker 1: him this. But I really don't want to do it.
Speaker 2: And I think that she just needs to maybe put
Speaker 2: a time frame on it because she could change. But
Speaker 2: in some time, if he's still pressuring.
Speaker 1: Her, maybe this maybe not more time for him to say, hey,
Speaker 1: I need to feel more comfortable, okay, because I don't
Speaker 1: want anybody I don't like to feel more comfortable, because
Speaker 1: he's already suggested, well, maybe you just need to play
Speaker 1: with more women to feel more comfortable.
Speaker 2: Like he's even pressuring her to be with you know
Speaker 2: what I mean. So she's just not in that space
Speaker 2: right now. So the conversation needs to be like I
Speaker 2: would love to revisit this maybe in a couple months,
Speaker 2: but for the moment, can we really just enjoy each other?
Speaker 1: That's it.
Speaker 2: He's really not looking to just enjoy you by yourself.
Speaker 2: These other people. Maybe, Yeah, what did someone say? I
Speaker 2: don't know if I've said it on this podcast, but
Speaker 2: I remember crying to a friend about how this guy.
Speaker 1: Said that I was too much or like, you know,
Speaker 1: my mora told oh, and she said, oh, yeah, you
Speaker 1: know what you need to say to him the next
Speaker 1: time you're doing too much, find someone that does little.
Speaker 1: I am too much. I do a lot for you.
Speaker 1: I bring a lot to the table. Maybe you need
Speaker 1: to find someone that is smaller. That means women need.
Speaker 2: To be okay with just walking away from someone who
Speaker 2: does not fit them, but also.
Speaker 1: The power in being able to not be scared of
Speaker 1: when you need things like you can't tell him this
Speaker 1: and be like, oh this here, you're gonna break up
Speaker 1: with me. You need to have your chest tied because
Speaker 1: women are confident and know what they want and it
Speaker 1: better really leave And if he really wants you, he
Speaker 1: gonna see that you're putting your foot down and he
Speaker 1: not gonna want to lose you. He gonna sit here
Speaker 1: and Ben, it's not gonna be the ultimated. Now, what
Speaker 1: I would tell you is if threesomes is the only
Speaker 1: spicy sex you're having, that is a problem. Yeah. If
Speaker 1: sex clubs is the only spicy sex, which you were
Speaker 1: telling out the other there toys, we did a whole
Speaker 1: but that's my point. Yeah, if the sex club is
Speaker 1: the only thing you do that's spicy, that's a problem.
Speaker 1: Anybody listening, like, you cannot have one dimension with your
Speaker 1: kink shit right. For example, this is a true story.
Speaker 1: I have a friend of mine that's very into masaculum,
Speaker 1: Like she wants to fucking be hit clothes, fists and stuff.
Speaker 1: And she told me that it's been a little bit
Speaker 1: difficult for her because she's like, girl, I've wanted to
Speaker 1: go to work, but like she can handle pain, like truly,
Speaker 1: and she said she kind of had a little bit
Speaker 1: of a shift recently where it was making her feel
Speaker 1: a little shitty. She's been with her partner in a
Speaker 1: long time and they lived together, but she's like, bro,
Speaker 1: that's the type of sex we have when it's wild,
Speaker 1: and now I don't even know what the fuck to do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and so she's like looking for new shit, and I
Speaker 1: think that we can't have only one lane. So I
Speaker 1: would definitely say trying introducing something new that you've never done.
Speaker 2: Maybe he pease them, that's simple. This next letter is
Speaker 2: from my listener. All right, what's good. I'm a truck driver,
Speaker 2: so I had plenty of time to listen to all
Speaker 2: of your episodes. I can't tell y'all how much I
Speaker 2: appreciate the work. The podcast you built is fun, it's honest,
Speaker 2: it's educational.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 2: I've learned so much from y'all, not only in the
Speaker 2: obvious sense it's a sex pod, but documenting your growth
Speaker 2: is business women, especially in partnership, is so valuable to
Speaker 2: anyone trying to.
Speaker 1: Make shit shake. One of my biggest regrets is not
Speaker 1: getting on stage in San Francisco. Anyway. The reason I'm
Speaker 1: writing is I'm talking to a high net worth individual.
Speaker 1: I'm not that, right, bitch. She has an important job
Speaker 1: that has.
Speaker 2: Her flying to different parts of the world and a
Speaker 2: personal business that deals in money I've never seen.
Speaker 1: She's older and cool as hell.
Speaker 2: In the nerdy way. She's spicy, white, Eastern European and
Speaker 2: lives in London. I definitely have my insecurities, but she
Speaker 2: started dropping the l box after four to five times
Speaker 2: meeting in person in like three years. I started saying
Speaker 2: it back. I don't know if it's real or just
Speaker 2: something to say, but I definitely like her. This is
Speaker 2: getting so I was good to the point. Recently she
Speaker 2: asked if I would meet her in Africa during one
Speaker 2: of her business trips. Wheezy, would you take your first
Speaker 2: trip to the Motherland with a white mandy? Now that
Speaker 2: you have money, would you pay the upfront costs for
Speaker 2: a man to be floud for a flud oh to
Speaker 2: be reimbursed? Y'all are fired to sign a nigga in
Speaker 2: the scar. So he's asking if you would go to
Speaker 2: Africa with a white person and asking me if I
Speaker 2: would front the money to pay for him to come,
Speaker 2: and he reimburses me later.
Speaker 1: Okay, hold on, let me explain here. This is very interesting.
Speaker 1: Okay oo, So Mandy's been Africa Africa a few times.
Speaker 1: I've only been once just now, right, it's only to
Speaker 1: South Africa. However, I thought this was a woman writing
Speaker 1: about a lesbian relationship. Oh and you said signed a nigga.
Speaker 1: At first, I was like, oh, you're a girl in
Speaker 1: the car. You're a black girl going with a white
Speaker 1: girl to Africa. Whatever you brought your friend.
Speaker 2: This is a black man dating a white woman. Yes,
Speaker 2: it's the temptation, the temptation.
Speaker 1: I'll say this. I went to Africa with my friend
Speaker 1: because he was on tour. And Mandy has talked about
Speaker 1: going to Africa. Were her friends cause they're Lincoln And
Speaker 1: that's the thing. He didn't say what part of Africa?
Speaker 1: I don't think right, but I was gonna. I wanted
Speaker 1: to just make this point. Going to Africa with an
Speaker 1: itinerary is kind of cool because you're you're kind of like, oh,
Speaker 1: all right, like I'm assuming she's got the hotel figured
Speaker 1: out or whatever, like something about that. It's so far
Speaker 1: that it was easy, Like my first time going to Tokyo,
Speaker 1: Like I remember being like whoa, I don't even know
Speaker 1: what the fuck I'm doing here? Like, why didn't I
Speaker 1: make plans? I'm like googling on the plane. I do
Speaker 1: think it's good when you're going to a big new
Speaker 1: place to go with someone that kind of has a
Speaker 1: bunch of shit to do that's already lined up. If
Speaker 1: that's the case, I guess if the trip is free.
Speaker 2: I'll be honest. We're talking about so Africa is a continent.
Speaker 2: We know, we don't need y'all hopping in the fucking thing.
Speaker 2: Oh also me, South Africa with a white it's easier.
Speaker 2: It's easier than like Ghana, Nigeria, Senegal, like these are
Speaker 2: other places I've been.
Speaker 1: You going with a white person at these places? That's
Speaker 1: a good point. And she not going to build a
Speaker 1: village for these niggas or something. What is she going
Speaker 1: there for? I what I need to know what she
Speaker 1: going for? Are you going to help the people?
Speaker 2: Otherwise if you just going there as a colonizer or something,
Speaker 2: South Africa might work out. What I can't say that
Speaker 2: what that's what they be going over there for. It
Speaker 2: makes them feel better. I'm just saying, what is the
Speaker 2: reason that she's going You know the white guilt, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So it depends because Ghana like just got pulled back.
Speaker 1: Well I'm saying that too, because.
Speaker 2: Ghana Witch, I was the lightest person that I saw
Speaker 2: in Ghana, Like in Nigeria, there's a difference in I
Speaker 2: didn't know people you know that I've been in.
Speaker 1: So I was telling we were hanging out with just
Speaker 1: a lot of friends, right and this is like December
Speaker 1: and Johannes Brag so just mixing match and talking. And
Speaker 1: I was saying to this black girl, like, bro, I've
Speaker 1: be seeing so many interracial culfors here a couple excuse me,
Speaker 1: and like in the States, me and my homegirls be
Speaker 1: shading them and shit, low key when we see like
Speaker 1: litt niggas with a white girl and it's just sorry,
Speaker 1: it's kind of something we do. It isn't man. But
Speaker 1: she said, Andy, we're still judging you too, but white
Speaker 1: girls nobody do it. We do that shit. I know not,
Speaker 1: but yeah, she said something I found so interesting. She said,
Speaker 1: weazy apartheid just ended. Yeah, no, I learned about She said,
Speaker 1: a lot of these black men are just fucking these
Speaker 1: white girls because they're like you, God damn right on
Speaker 1: fucking this white bitch. She's like, they have a really
Speaker 1: big power trip. She said. In the States, it's an
Speaker 1: allegiance and an alliance to wealth, she said, Here they
Speaker 1: actually feel like they're a conquered They feel more like
Speaker 1: fuck you to white people when they date white people interest.
Speaker 1: She said, So the reasoning in the oppression with that
Speaker 1: black men had not saying black men, obviously we don't
Speaker 1: even till hello. But she's like, you know, it was
Speaker 1: something we saw in our lives, whereas it's a little
Speaker 1: older for you, and she's saying that it's a different thing.
Speaker 1: So I think you're right. That's a great point in
Speaker 1: South Africa, probably not anywhere else. I don't know. But
Speaker 1: if the trip is free, I would always want to.
Speaker 1: But no, that's what it seems like too. He brought
Speaker 1: out being flewed out, like uh, now that you would
Speaker 1: you pay the upfront costs and be reimbursed. So he's not, so, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna hold you.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna If I'm gonna fly a nigga out,
Speaker 2: A part of me would be more turned off to
Speaker 2: feel like I got he gotta set up a payment
Speaker 2: plan to pay me.
Speaker 1: I mean he already seems like he knows that. No
Speaker 1: to me, like the reimbursement to me will not happen.
Speaker 1: My homewoy told me he does that because he's like, hey,
Speaker 1: these bitches we having miles and ship, ain't about to
Speaker 1: fucking type in yours tsa pre check. I'll send you
Speaker 1: the money. How much is this plate? Yeah? No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of He's like getting there and then getting
Speaker 1: there Like to me, I'm not I'm not flying a
Speaker 1: nigga out. I though, will tell somebody this one will right.
Speaker 2: But so what I'm saying is that's not so. He
Speaker 2: asked me this question. So I'm answered, I'm not telling
Speaker 2: the nigga to reimburse me. That's corny. So to me,
Speaker 2: I always ask a guy, especially now that I do
Speaker 2: have money. The hotel is covered, I might pay for
Speaker 2: a dinner while you're out with me. I'm gonna look
Speaker 2: out while you me, girl, I invite green Eyes to come.
Speaker 2: I'm like, we'll pull up to New York. You could
Speaker 2: stay with me. I'll cook, I'll feed you. If we
Speaker 2: go out, I'll cover it. But I'm not booking. I'm
Speaker 2: not paying for no nigga flight.
Speaker 1: Well one other thing I wanted to say actually was
Speaker 1: I don't know. If you have the extra fund, then
Speaker 1: you want too. Fine, if the trip is free, I
Speaker 1: would definitely do it. But the other little craffe I
Speaker 1: I had was if you don't get that much time off,
Speaker 1: that's a big trip. Don't use your only big trip
Speaker 1: on someone that you don't know. How it doesn't seem
Speaker 1: like you don't even know your big first like her,
Speaker 1: but you don't love her. Because when I was working
Speaker 1: in nine to five say that PTO, I had to
Speaker 1: be very particular about my trips, and that was a
Speaker 1: lot of the shit I would say. I'd be like,
Speaker 1: I am about to waste three days, four days with
Speaker 1: this nigga when I could be with By the way,
Speaker 1: y'all gotta look up the trips or the trip tips
Speaker 1: now for PTO every year, that's the TikTok, and they'll
Speaker 1: let you know how to take the least amount of
Speaker 1: time off for the most amount of days based around
Speaker 1: the holidays that are happening. So like, oh, I go, yeah,
Speaker 1: take a half day here, or like more because it
Speaker 1: changes every day.
Speaker 2: Can yeah holidays where sometimes Fridays and Mondays are off.
Speaker 2: They'll say, use a Wednesday and use a Tuesday, so
Speaker 2: you could have this many days off.
Speaker 1: So look that up. It's online.
Speaker 2: So this is gonna be our last one for today,
Speaker 2: and then we'll get to them get niggas after I
Speaker 2: edit it and revise it and shorten it.
Speaker 1: Because what the fuck, y'all?
Speaker 2: If you send in your whole mail to Horrible Decisions
Speaker 2: at gmail dot com, can we limit it to three paragraphs?
Speaker 2: Maybe when I say paragraphs, that's three to five sentences. Okay,
Speaker 2: we're taking it back to language. Yes, So the one
Speaker 2: with the boring boyfriend, your mail was long, but we'll
Speaker 2: get to it. Yeah, we just got to edit it
Speaker 2: a little bit, all right. This one comes from there
Speaker 2: asking for advice. Advice for a traumatized horny virgin, Dear
Speaker 2: Weezy and Mandy. First off, I want to let you
Speaker 2: know don't be mad that I discovered you guys my
Speaker 2: freshman year of high school, and I want to thank
Speaker 2: you guys.
Speaker 1: Oh lord, that's okay. I come from a household that
Speaker 1: made sex. If ay, let us know you had sex
Speaker 1: before you listen to the podcast, I'll feel about she's
Speaker 1: a virgin still, Oh seems like I come from a
Speaker 1: household that made sex a very shameful thing, as there
Speaker 1: was a generational pattern of teen and young pregnancies and
Speaker 1: abusive partners, which led to an overarching idea that wanting
Speaker 1: a man was a bad thing. Oh, she's a smart girl.
Speaker 2: It got to the point where I felt guilty just
Speaker 2: kissing my boyfriend at the time, but your podcast became
Speaker 2: a safe space for me to learn about and explore
Speaker 2: my sexuality.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 2: I recently turned eighteen and graduated high school as a junior,
Speaker 2: and guess what, no babies. I also still a virgin,
Speaker 2: but have had multiple relationships where we've done everything up
Speaker 2: two sets.
Speaker 1: So our podcast doesn't make you bitch as fun I
Speaker 1: love it. We need to clip that, No, you have
Speaker 1: the virgin that listen.
Speaker 2: I love this year Since high school, however, I am
Speaker 2: now ready to explore that chapter in my life. But
Speaker 2: alas the men I seem to attract our assholes in
Speaker 2: every relationship, I've ended up feeling used as I'm very
Speaker 2: much a people pleaser and giver her and don't know
Speaker 2: how to give up that part of myself without wondering
Speaker 2: if they only want me for my body. In a
Speaker 2: couple of episodes, you guys have talked about how some
Speaker 2: of the most successful relationships have started out with sex
Speaker 2: on the first night. But given my history with guys,
Speaker 2: the fact that I can't even have sex and don't
Speaker 2: know how to have it, and the negativity built around it,
Speaker 2: I don't know how to let that part of myself go,
Speaker 2: especially in early stages of a relationship. Any advice would
Speaker 2: be great. I know I'm young and have many people
Speaker 2: and have many people yet to meet that could change
Speaker 2: my mind, but that part of myself already feels closed
Speaker 2: off when I was just starting to feel ready to
Speaker 2: explore it. I don't want to feel completely shut down
Speaker 2: from sex already and be stuck living by curiously through
Speaker 2: the smut I read. Thank you for taking the time
Speaker 2: to read this. PSU also inspired me to start a
Speaker 2: podcast of my own with my best friend. So glad
Speaker 2: to see how far you've come and thank you, guys
Speaker 2: for the help you don't know you've given me already.
Speaker 1: She's not gonna she didn't name drop the bar she
Speaker 1: really want to answer. I think you have to get
Speaker 1: away from the idea that penetration is this crazy, big
Speaker 1: experience and that your virginity is tied to the sacredness.
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to downplay virginity, but the reason that
Speaker 1: I am in this particular instance is because you said
Speaker 1: you've done everything but with partners, and then you said
Speaker 1: they were all assholes. Girl doesn't know you saw some
Speaker 1: dick doesn't know what I would recommend to you. Well,
Speaker 1: oral sex is sex. So maybe she act said to dick,
Speaker 1: she said everything up to sex, and oral sex is sex.
Speaker 1: We talked about it. I mean, but if kissing has
Speaker 1: made her feel guilty a lot of these things, so
Speaker 1: you give them that part of hand. So it's like,
Speaker 1: maybe you are putting way too much pressure on sex itself.
Speaker 1: I have a celibate friend is me know Breanda, and
Speaker 1: she doesn't do any of that right, kissing is it.
Speaker 1: So that's why I can say that a lot of
Speaker 1: the this is like, you know, whether you're getting naked
Speaker 1: things like that. I know she is having trouble dating
Speaker 1: or finding someone or talking to someone about it because
Speaker 1: there's a lot of parameters on her celibacy. For you,
Speaker 1: I think what you need to have happened to you
Speaker 1: is have sex with someone that makes you feel comfortable
Speaker 1: and safe, even if you never see them again. I think, okay,
Speaker 1: letting that person know your version. I know there's some
Speaker 1: maybe scenarios where people just we've had people in the
Speaker 1: thirties or forties even right into us about their virginity.
Speaker 1: I'm like this, just get over it. Right with you,
Speaker 1: particularly being that you're younger and you've got someone it
Speaker 1: seems to be a little bit of religious trauma and
Speaker 1: shit like that. I think you need to be very
Speaker 1: clear that you experience your first time and that you
Speaker 1: want to be respected during that time. Like you don't
Speaker 1: want someone to maybe dash you away, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like you want them to stay with you
Speaker 1: maybe that night, like after care and kink is going
Speaker 1: to be necessary, like after care, after you have set
Speaker 1: things that are involved with So yeah, I think once
Speaker 1: you find someone comfortable with, maybe a friend that you've
Speaker 1: flirt with, but it can't be this big old thing
Speaker 1: in your head because the things that you've already done
Speaker 1: are kind of already a big deal. I think like
Speaker 1: you still had some form of it. So I would
Speaker 1: just make sure that the person you sleep with you
Speaker 1: said they've been assholes. Maybe you also have to have
Speaker 1: less expectations. I know, Beyonder particularly wants a relationship or
Speaker 1: marriag right, If that's not what you're looking for, be
Speaker 1: clear that you just want a good person or someone
Speaker 1: that makes you feel comfortable and safe. So yeah, because
Speaker 1: if you want a relationship until you have sex, that
Speaker 1: motherfucker may disappoint you even then. So I think making
Speaker 1: sure that the experience itself is safe and comfortable is
Speaker 1: more important than the attachment to that person. To you,
Speaker 1: as someone that's been sexually assaulted and someone that's had
Speaker 1: men not necessarily treat them to nicis, I've always enjoyed
Speaker 1: the experiences where men are respectful versus I've had this
Speaker 1: title or this rapport. Yeah, I can meet a nigga
Speaker 1: in the first night. That'll do me right. You know,
Speaker 1: like you've got to make sure that you're getting that vibe.
Speaker 2: I mean, to me, this goes into something that wasn't
Speaker 2: I guess my mind wasn't ready for it. To me,
Speaker 2: you're traumatized. You need to go to therapy and work
Speaker 2: through that and get over it. If kissing still makes
Speaker 2: you uncomfortable, I don't think just fucking a guy who
Speaker 2: might show up is nice is gonna be.
Speaker 1: They think she used to feel guilty from kissing. But
Speaker 1: I agree her feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's what she just said so to me, like,
Speaker 2: and it didn't say that even the things that she
Speaker 2: went up to sex made her feel away.
Speaker 1: She didn't share those details.
Speaker 2: There's a lot of things that we could ask if
Speaker 2: you know, she called in like, well did those other
Speaker 2: things make you feel uncomfortable? To know that you felt
Speaker 2: uncomfortable with kissing. I think there's an exploration for you
Speaker 2: to have in in therapy first, but also maybe it's
Speaker 2: meant I would actually say, Oh my.
Speaker 1: God, I was just gonna say you need to be
Speaker 1: good friends. No, that's not what I was gonna say,
Speaker 1: Oh a decent man. No, my thing was gonna be
Speaker 1: maybe women will make you feel safe. Maybe you should
Speaker 1: maybe see sexually if exploring with a woman might be
Speaker 1: what what will make you feel comfortable? Have you kissed
Speaker 1: a woman before and did that make you uncomfortable? Have
Speaker 1: you been able to feel safe with with women? Like?
Speaker 2: Maybe you're trying to force yourself knowing again the traumatic experience.
Speaker 2: If it's a religious thing, maybe you're forcing yourself to
Speaker 2: be straight.
Speaker 1: Now you just don't Like we said, we ain't take
Speaker 1: a ridge. I don't know people would know if they haven't.
Speaker 1: Maybe she would have even brought up if she had
Speaker 1: a attraction.
Speaker 2: But she's also young and grew up in no I
Speaker 2: think that a lot of those things. If you grow
Speaker 2: up in church, you're taught that that's not something you
Speaker 2: should do. So maybe right now she's convincing herself losing
Speaker 2: my virginity to men to know that they're all assholes
Speaker 2: and she hasn't felt safe and no one has made
Speaker 2: her feel wanted or respected, and kissing a nigga made
Speaker 2: her uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: Bitch, maybe you don't like me if you if dating
Speaker 1: women doesn't worry. Here's my final thing. The reason I
Speaker 1: said good men, friends is because you're in an age.
Speaker 1: Mind you, Mandy and our ten years your senior. Right,
Speaker 1: those men in college and that age, they're really bad. Yes,
Speaker 1: I know that you've been listening to this podcast for
Speaker 1: a long time, so you know it doesn't get better,
Speaker 1: but it definitely gets better than that. You a better
Speaker 1: figure this shit out now, like being assholes. I actually
Speaker 1: talked about this with my boy Andrea Power recently. Andre's
Speaker 1: almost forty, and I was like, bro, I haven't really
Speaker 1: dated like a shitty, Like I've been dating guys that
Speaker 1: you know, they'll get my girls all bab with shitty. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like the treatment like when you're on on
Speaker 1: the dates and like, I haven't really dated a guy
Speaker 1: who's an asshole. Yeah, And he was like, I wonder
Speaker 1: if it's age or maybe it's where you meet them.
Speaker 1: Like he's like, because yeah, he's like, you know, girls
Speaker 1: maybe when I was younger told me like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: you're so nice. He was like, but now, like they
Speaker 1: just expect a good nigga, right, And so I said,
Speaker 1: they don't because when a nigga's too nice, then they laying,
Speaker 1: then they corny, like so many women. Actually what Like,
Speaker 1: I think you need an example of some good men friends.
Speaker 1: I think platonic relationships could actually be a little bit
Speaker 1: safer for you. And I think maybe even a male
Speaker 1: friendship could guide you with some of this, because sometimes
Speaker 1: the problem with talking to other women is that they're
Speaker 1: a sounding board for like everything going wrong with men.
Speaker 1: We do that, especially when we're in a bad fucking
Speaker 1: how many episodes that we were like, nigga, that shit,
Speaker 1: maybe all of them, but like that this whole thing
Speaker 1: is contradiction. I actually think you need good male friends
Speaker 1: for real. That has really helpful in my heel have
Speaker 1: sex because if your only relationships with men are romantic ones,
Speaker 1: you all think they're assholes. You need to start looking
Speaker 1: at men in a different way. Seeing nice friends. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I think that could help.
Speaker 2: I did that to one of my friends, uh on
Speaker 2: New Year's I literally hit him up and was just like,
Speaker 2: thank you for being a friend and seeing me, and
Speaker 2: like when I enter room, when I'm around you, and
Speaker 2: he's megastar, like dope. When I sit at the table,
Speaker 2: he like boasts about all the things that I do,
Speaker 2: and I just know he like values me as a
Speaker 2: person and in this space that I'm at now where
Speaker 2: romantically I don't know what I'm doing, I literally just
Speaker 2: hit him like, thank you, thank you for knowing that
Speaker 2: I'm deserving of receiving that from a male like I
Speaker 2: literally that's what I wrote him.
Speaker 1: I was high on shrooms, but but yes, but I
Speaker 1: mean the shrooms got you to like that part of
Speaker 1: your emotionalness, right, And I think that like that shit
Speaker 1: is valuable. I really appreciate good male platonic friendships relationships.
Speaker 1: I think we all need one. I recently had Alex's
Speaker 1: girl tell me that she was so grateful that he
Speaker 1: had me in his life, because she's like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: there's so many times where we've run in a little argument.
Speaker 1: I thought to myself, like, oh, I know, Wes, he
Speaker 1: ain't gonna agree with this, and he's probably gonna call
Speaker 1: her for you know. She's like, I think it's really
Speaker 1: good that men have a decent homegirl in their life. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I think there's something to that. So many says
Speaker 1: he's a pussy I said, did I say, equs did
Speaker 1: not hold on?
Speaker 2: I ain't say going eat what was down and stay
Speaker 2: kiss a woman and see if you feel uncomfortable, and
Speaker 2: if you don't, maybe that's the direction you might need
Speaker 2: to go. Just kiddy, I pushing that bitch into lesbianism. Now,
Speaker 2: calm down. Well, and so we've introduced herself all right.
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Speaker 2: Anyways, y'all, this has been yet another episode of Horror Decisions.
Speaker 1: Ye bye