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Speaker 1: The Fred Show is on. It's stay or Go. Jenna

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Speaker 1: 's here. Hello, Jenna, good morning, good morning, Hi, welcome

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Speaker 1: So I figure we'll take it to the air when

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Speaker 1: people have something going on, and we'll talk about you

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Speaker 1: in front of you and behind your back too. So

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Speaker 1: what's going on, Jenna explaining your situation and then we'll

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Speaker 1: solve it for you right now.

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Speaker 2: Well, like, my relationship is really happy, and I'm I mean,

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Speaker 2: I'm guess I'm so in love. I guess I'm just

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Speaker 2: questioning everything, right.

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Speaker 3: I love.

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Speaker 1: I guess that's convincing. I'm super confident.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I met my boyfriend eight months ago and

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Speaker 2: he said he was forty. And then the other day

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Speaker 2: I saw i Likenise for the first time and it

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Speaker 2: turns out now he's actually fifty, and so I like,

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Speaker 2: I confronted him and he said he was fifty.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: He just was like yeah, and then I was like,

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Speaker 2: I asked him explain. He swore he wasn't trying to

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Speaker 2: keep up with the lie. He just completely forgot about

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Speaker 2: it because we had when we met. We met in

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Speaker 2: a bar and he said he was drunk and he

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Speaker 2: didn't remember why he lied.

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Speaker 1: And no, he liked it because he was self conscious

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Speaker 1: about his age and he thought you wouldn't go for

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Speaker 1: him at fifty, so he said forty. So that's why

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Speaker 1: he did it.

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Speaker 5: Oh, he said, that's what I was gonna ask, I

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Speaker 5: missed it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think she said that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he thinks that's what And then he said he

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Speaker 2: just didn't expect that we were going to date or

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Speaker 2: fall in love or anything. And he apologized and he

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Speaker 2: said it's the first time that he ever did that.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. It's just a lot for me to process,

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Speaker 2: I guess because I'm I'm thirty one, okay, so it's

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Speaker 2: it's a bigger age difference than I thought. I guess,

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Speaker 2: like ten years was a big gap for me, or

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Speaker 2: like nine or whatever.

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Speaker 1: Well, how many times did you lie about it? Just

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Speaker 1: the one time? It only came up once and then

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Speaker 1: and then you later were able to verify that he

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Speaker 1: was lying. Well, I was.

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Speaker 2: Trying to think about it. I think that's the only time,

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Speaker 2: like his age really has ever come. I was like thinking,

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Speaker 2: did I meet anyone from his high school?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: But you know what I mean, like I haven't. There's

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Speaker 2: no nothing else that would have come up.

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Speaker 1: It was like, even if you did, it's not like

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Speaker 1: you're like, you know, show me your ID or what

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Speaker 1: I'm just trying to say, Like what I'm curious about

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Speaker 1: is did he did he perpetuate this lie up until

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Speaker 1: the point where she saw the ID or did he

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Speaker 1: say it the one time not to say it wasn't

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Speaker 1: a lie then, but I mean he said it, okay, fine,

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Speaker 1: and then it never came up again. I mean again,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't excuse to lie. But I guess there's a

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Speaker 1: difference between like a like a habitual lie. And then

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Speaker 1: at one time he said something that I guess maybe

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Speaker 1: he forgot that he said he knew what he was

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Speaker 1: doing at the time, but it's still a lie.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, Like, yeah, I think it's just

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Speaker 2: that one time in the in the barn.

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Speaker 6: I think he's really good though he's been lying for

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Speaker 6: like eight months though, right they begin to get yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 6: but to take off ten years off of your your

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Speaker 1: That's no, it's not good.

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Speaker 6: Imagine like it's like us saying we're twenty one, Like

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Speaker 6: who would believe that?

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Speaker 1: I don't even feel like I act twenty one. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you might look young, but I don't feel like twenty one.

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Speaker 1: It's really interesting, nod. I understand that the ten years

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Speaker 1: is a significant difference in that in that you're talking

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Speaker 1: not to say he can't do all of that, but

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Speaker 1: I mean, does he seem has he changed his position

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Speaker 1: Like is he is he open to the same things

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Speaker 1: that he's fifty now coming out like oh and by

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Speaker 1: I don't want this in that you know what I mean? Like?

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Speaker 2: I don't think so, Like we've kind of I mean

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Speaker 2: we haven't even been together a year yet, but we

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Speaker 2: have talked about those things, Like it seemed like he

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Speaker 2: wanted those things too. I just feel like, is this

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Speaker 2: a big deal? I don't know, Like his age is

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Speaker 7: But it's also like this is a lot.

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Speaker 2: Of years in between us, like I don't I don't

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Speaker 2: just it's I don't know, We're just are we really

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Speaker 2: I don't know. It seemed like we're on the same page,

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Speaker 2: But it's like such a shocker right now.

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Speaker 1: Do you make sense that he's been honest with you

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Speaker 1: about everything else? I mean, do you do you sense

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Speaker 1: that he's tried to manipulate or or I don't know,

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Speaker 1: present another front in any other way to make you,

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Speaker 1: to make himself seem more appealing.

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Speaker 2: Well, I thought I thought he'd been honest, you know.

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Speaker 2: Now I'm like questioning everything. I'm thinking about it, like

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Speaker 2: I'm like I am. You know, he talks about like

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Speaker 2: are they real? And they sound hilarious?

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Speaker 8: Are the story?

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Speaker 2: Like what what's the you know?

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Speaker 7: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I just don't know any of this.

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Speaker 1: Suffuse people are texting age is just a number, and

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Speaker 1: I get that, but I'm not as caught up on

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Speaker 1: the age as I am the lie. Right, it's a lie.

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Speaker 1: Now again, can you say, like, oh, it was a

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Speaker 1: fleeting moment and he was drunk and he was being

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Speaker 1: And then it didn't come up again and then he's like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was stupid in me. I maybe, But I mean

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Speaker 1: he had to know at some point you were going

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Speaker 1: to find out how old he really is. Right, But

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Speaker 1: on the flip side, it doesn't seem to have affected

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Speaker 1: him and talk about the future. So yeah, age is

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Speaker 1: only a number, But my question is why did he lie?

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Speaker 1: And what else is he lying about? Also? Who does

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Speaker 1: to go to that doctor. Me too. I think with

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Speaker 1: men though between the forty to fifty, I don't.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I think honestly handsomer damn it, I

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Speaker 2: think it works out and stuff. So it's not like,

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Speaker 2: you know, like I looked, I was like, how did

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Speaker 1: That it doesn't that's good for fifty year old, right, Yeah. Well,

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Speaker 1: I mean and someone's like, he's going to be a

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Speaker 1: grandpa when he has kids with you. Okay, fine, but

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Speaker 1: I mean again, Okay, so let's say you had kids today,

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Speaker 1: so he'll be sixty eight at their graduation. He was

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Speaker 1: going to be fifty eight at their graduation if he

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Speaker 1: had been forty. My thing is, if he keeps up

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Speaker 1: really make any difference. That's fine, that's to each their own.

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Speaker 1: But the lie, I think is the sys why are

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Speaker 1: you lying? This is a very odd, weird lie. He

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Speaker 1: lied when he met her because he was self conscious

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Speaker 1: about his age and he didn't think that she'd go

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Speaker 1: for twenty years. He thought she'd go for ten. It's

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Speaker 1: a lie, but he managed to, I guess ingratiate himself

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Speaker 1: with you know what I mean, Like the relationship is fine,

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Speaker 1: it's just he you know, is it like fake it

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Speaker 1: so you make it? Is it like I lie to you?

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Speaker 1: Then I earn my keep otherwise? And then I mean

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Speaker 1: it's a lie. I really can't justify it. But at

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Speaker 1: the same time, the relationship is fine. You don't now

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Speaker 1: that you know that he's that age, Does it change

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Speaker 1: anything for you or you still like I still like him?

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Speaker 2: No, I still I still have feelings for him. I'm

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Speaker 2: just like, I'm just questioning everything, and I don't know,

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Speaker 2: Like ken, we may it is too big of an

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fair, that's fair. Eight three five is the

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Speaker 1: number to call. You can text the same number. Two.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna take some phone calls on this and we'll

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Speaker 1: see what people have to say. But what does your

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Speaker 1: gut tell you to do? Just forgive the lion, stick with.

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Speaker 2: It, well for I mean for now. But I'm like,

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Speaker 2: do we oh we headed for a breakup anyway? I

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Speaker 2: don't you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: That's wait till you tell him you're eighteen, he'll be shocked. Yeah, okay, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: right right, Wait till Chris Chris Hansen walks in form

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Speaker 1: the NNBC and then it's gonna be a whole new

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Speaker 1: experience for him. Jeh. Let me take some good luck

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Speaker 1: to you, and thanks for calling.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, thank you day much.

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Speaker 1: Sh're right there. Hey's Stephanie. Good morning, Good morning, Stephanie.

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Speaker 1: All right, So this woman met a guy and she

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Speaker 1: thought that he was ten years younger. She thought he

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Speaker 1: was forty when they met. He's fifty. It turns out

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Speaker 1: he lied about it, and I guess you only lied

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Speaker 1: about it the one time, because apparently it hadn't come

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Speaker 1: up again until she saw his ID. So it wasn't

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Speaker 1: like he's been saying, you know, every day for a

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Speaker 1: year that he's a different daye. She said it once,

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Speaker 1: but he's been lying for eight months. He knows how

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Speaker 1: old he is, I know, but I don't know if

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Speaker 1: it matters though, Does it matter as much? It is

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Speaker 1: a lie. A lie is a lie. So what do

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I would say that he knows he lies,

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Speaker 3: he knows what he started off with. And I had

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Speaker 3: a boyfriend that did this in the past and it

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Speaker 3: was I thought it was a six year difference, and

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Speaker 3: it was really a ten year difference and it was

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Speaker 3: just the start of the lies.

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Speaker 1: Just hip for the okay, Yeah, because I'm focused more

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Speaker 1: on the lie than I am the age difference, because

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't really know that that has to make.

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Speaker 1: It has to have a big play, a big factor

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Speaker 1: necessarily if you have the same goals. But at the

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Speaker 1: same time, again, why did he lie? What else is

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Speaker 1: he lying about it? What else is he going to say, Oh,

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Speaker 1: I forgot I lied about that?

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Speaker 3: If he's comfortable enough to lie about that straight off that,

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Speaker 3: what else is he comfortable.

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Speaker 4: To lie about?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I think that's fair. What did you wind up doing?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I dumped him once I found out that he had

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Speaker 1: A child, a child. That's another thing. That's what I'm saying, Stephanie,

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Speaker 1: thank you, have a good day.

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Speaker 1: There's a go, she says. Go Hey, Linda, Yes, Linda,

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Speaker 1: What do we do here, Linda? What are we going

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Speaker 4: I think she needs to decide what she wants to do.

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Speaker 4: Because my mom lied to my dad when she met him,

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Speaker 4: and they were married for forty years before he found

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Speaker 1: How big was the lie? But the age difference he

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Speaker 4: She it was like five years?

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Speaker 1: I guess. I don't after forty years he finds out

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Speaker 1: she lied about five years. I mean, I mean it's

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Speaker 10: A year.

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Speaker 1: Well that is true, happy forty I'm actually forty five.

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Speaker 1: You don't see nothing that's right.

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Speaker 7: I mean, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It's a lie about the age. Next thing, you know,

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Speaker 1: we always do, thank you for calling, not a good morning.

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Speaker 5: I when I met my husband, I was twenty one

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Speaker 5: how do you keep up a lie like that.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm really like, I don't ever want to justify

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Speaker 1: And he was just in a bar, drunk, trying to

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Speaker 1: the guy live. I lied. I'm sorry, I just want

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Speaker 1: And I haven't lied about anything else, and she has

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Speaker 1: no reason to believe that he's lying about anything else.

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Speaker 1: Then I guess, I guess. I say go with what's working,

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Speaker 1: But I mean, yeah, but you gotta trust that that

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Speaker 1: I don't know, Katie. Thank you have a good day.

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Speaker 8: Sure that ten year age gap gets bigger and bigger,

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Speaker 8: you know what I'm saying, Like she's thirty, now he's fifty,

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Speaker 8: she's forty, he's sixty.

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Speaker 1: Like I just but you know, I'm saying, rufiel, I

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Speaker 1: argue the difference between men and women's age. It begins like, like, honestly,

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Speaker 1: is there that big of a difference between being a

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Speaker 1: if you're healthy. You know what I'm saying? Like, like

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Speaker 1: is it? I would argue that at a twenty year

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Speaker 1: not as big of a difference from a life standpoint,

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Speaker 8: Okay, you say you're dating something that's fifty she turns

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Speaker 8: out to be sixty five?

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Speaker 1: Is that? You know what I'm saying? Honestly, I guess

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Speaker 1: I guess you know what I mean, Like the age

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Speaker 1: I'd be more bothered about the lie and i'd be

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Speaker 1: closer to getting her money. Well, yeah, you know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, like, oh wait, like wait, you're sixty five.

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Speaker 6: You've been collecting Social Security and not telling me.

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Speaker 1: What that means. You're ten years closer to paying me out.

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Speaker 1: Fantastic to myself every day. Oh Rebecca High, Hi, Hi

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Speaker 1: stair go what do you.

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Speaker 9: Think I would stay?

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Speaker 10: Just because I was in that same situation, just the

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Speaker 10: opposite way.

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Speaker 9: It was me that lied.

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Speaker 10: About my age to be with my now husband of

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you lied by four years. Why did you

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Speaker 10: Because he was thirty five, and I just felt like

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Speaker 10: he wouldn't really be really interested in me if I was.

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Speaker 1: So, you were seven twenty one when you met, No,

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Speaker 1: was twenty one. Yeah, Oh my god. Okay. I was like,

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Speaker 1: Oh no, got it?

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Speaker 9: Yeah no, And he he was a little upset because

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Speaker 9: he would have accepted me regardless, but I would just

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Speaker 1: Have a good day.

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Speaker 9: Yeah you too.

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Speaker 1: Text friend out here line about his agent. I'll be

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Speaker 1: honest with you. I I have no issue in my

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Speaker 1: It's yeah, sorry, dude, no offense, but you're in a relationship.

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Speaker 1: I've been trying to get you to break up forever,

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Speaker 1: but you don't want to. Hey, you guys are the

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Speaker 1: problem with us. Hey, Jessica. Hey, hi, Jessica, stare go,

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Speaker 1: so just if you're just joining us on Stiago. This

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Speaker 1: I forgot I told you that. My bad. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: She's happy, but she was lied to. What do you think?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 7: So okay, in my opinion, if I were in her shoes,

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Speaker 7: I don't know if the age thing is a big

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Speaker 7: like you know, hanging out with family, hanging out with friends,

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Speaker 7: like if there are there things he's being dishonest about,

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Speaker 1: Yeah. It turns out, Jessica, he's not a Nigerian prince either,

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Speaker 1: which it was very disappointing. It turns out from he's

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Speaker 1: But Jessica, I have a good day, Thank you, thanks,

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Speaker 1: I said, what does it turn out to be fifty

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Speaker 1: What would you guys do. I'll go through the room

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Speaker 1: and then I got to move on. Paulina, go stair go.

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Speaker 8: I would stay, Yeah, I would go, yeah, stay.

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Speaker 6: I would really really need a good explanation to stay.

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Speaker 1: I would need to really have a long talk. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but then I would stay.

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Speaker 6: If you know I'm leaving, that's the real answer right there.

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Speaker 1: But you're not married again, answer your single so you

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