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Speaker 1: This is Cowboy Sam and this is Eh John.

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Speaker 2: And we've lastowed in some amazing stories for y'all the

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Speaker 3: But before that, we got a wrangle, a quick little

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Speaker 2: We bucking love so much they're paying us the books

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Speaker 2: to help this show stay alive. I caught my fiance

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Speaker 2: mocking me with his ex girlfriend. Now he wants forgiveness.

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Speaker 1: Not funny.

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Speaker 2: My fiance Dale and I have been together for five years.

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Speaker 2: We are as solid as I guess anyone that thinks

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Speaker 2: they are before something like this blind sides them.

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Speaker 1: Uh Oh.

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Speaker 2: I am in total and complete shock. I am just

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Speaker 2: sitting here shaking. I can't even cry yet.

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Speaker 1: This is sad.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from deleted. If you wanted

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Speaker 1: So how about it?

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Speaker 2: So Dale is at work right now. I haven't texted

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Speaker 2: him or called him or anything. At this point, when

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Speaker 2: we got together, he had just broken up with his

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Speaker 2: college sweetheart, just like how, just like.

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Speaker 1: Weeks, days, minutes seconds, she.

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Speaker 2: Was his first love. I was afraid I was a rebound.

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Speaker 2: I think I would be afraid to I think it

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Speaker 2: would be afraid to. He said that wasn't true. I

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Speaker 2: believed him. Your first mistake. The rest is history. Sorry, sorry, op,

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Speaker 2: this is this sucks. Sorry if this is Russian all

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Speaker 2: over the place. Nothing makes sense in my head right now.

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Speaker 2: I used his laptop about two hours ago to open

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Speaker 2: his contacts lists he has saved on there so I

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Speaker 2: could get addresses for our wedding invites, our wedding invites.

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Speaker 2: They're about to get married. Oh boy, I've been telling

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Speaker 2: him to get those over to me for over a week,

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Speaker 2: so I decided to do it. He keeps his contact

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Speaker 2: info in his email. When I opened his email, I

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Speaker 2: saw an email at the very top of its inbox

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Speaker 2: with the subject line re Jen not real name? How

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Speaker 2: can I when the subject line got caught up after

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Speaker 2: that so I couldn't see more without clicking. Jen is

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Speaker 2: the name of his X from college. I'm gonna pause

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Speaker 2: right here to snoop or not to snoop, to snoop

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Speaker 2: or not to stoop. But you know we have a

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Speaker 2: rule we do on Okay, storytime, John, if you want

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Speaker 2: to tell him the rule.

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Speaker 3: If it, if it comes up, if you see it

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Speaker 3: naturally organically through no fault of your own.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah you can. You can. You can say probable cause.

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Speaker 2: You knowable cause if if the police are are seeing

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Speaker 2: some uh some substances, you know, beaking through the door,

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Speaker 2: then they have probable cause to go through and be like, hey,

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Speaker 2: what is that? What is that illegal substance in there?

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm carrying a pazuka. You can come up

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Speaker 2: and I can go yeah, yeah, is that a real bozuk?

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Speaker 2: That looks like a real Bozuka.

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Speaker 1: We got to figure it out.

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Speaker 2: I feel this falls under the probable cause scenario.

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Speaker 3: I think so. I think so she saw. I mean,

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Speaker 3: what a what a what a great title. You know,

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Speaker 3: that's something you have to click on. The rate is

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Speaker 3: off off the hopefully it's clickbait. Hopefully it's clickbait. And

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Speaker 3: Jen is his insurance agent or something, you know. But

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Speaker 3: I sat there for ten minutes trying to decide if

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Speaker 3: I should open it or not snoop or not to snoop,

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Speaker 3: that is the question. I decided he should have nothing

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Speaker 3: we're kind of I think we're okay.

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Speaker 1: We are in safe territory.

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Speaker 3: I think we're in safe because of the context of

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Speaker 2: The rest of the subject line was Jen, how can

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Speaker 2: I when you still exist? Now I want to read more?

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Speaker 2: Oh God, do you still exist? The email was her

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Speaker 2: replying to a string of emails between the two of

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Speaker 2: them that has gone on for over a week. Long

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Speaker 2: story short, Dale is still in love with Jen oo

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Speaker 2: oh baby, he's you know, sending his love letters in

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Speaker 2: between his wedding invites. Why why why get to the

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Speaker 3: He is, he is marathon sprinting with ice blocks right now.

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Speaker 2: He'll never find he said, he thinks about her constantly,

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Speaker 2: that he'll never find another woman like her. He even worse, John, John, John, John, No,

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Speaker 2: this is already bad. No, but it can't. It gets worse,

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Speaker 2: It gets worse, even worse.

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Speaker 1: I don't believe it. I believe it.

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Speaker 2: Believe it, John, That's gonna be like an ice blot

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Speaker 1: I can't, I can't accept it.

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Speaker 2: Even worse is that he makes fun of me, makes

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Speaker 2: ha ha haas lo o ls over email. In one email,

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Speaker 2: he asked him why I don't make him happy? And

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Speaker 2: isn't he satisfied with me? I can't remember word for

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Speaker 2: word and I don't feel like reading it again, but

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Speaker 2: he said something like she tries, She's just not good though.

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Speaker 2: Way to vanilla? Oh oh buddy, I love vanilla. Vanilla

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Speaker 2: is my favorite, my favorite ice cream flavor. Stop really

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Speaker 2: that and goat cheese pear?

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Speaker 3: Why is that the most sam sam thing you've ever said?

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Speaker 1: It's your life.

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Speaker 2: Blue cheese and blue goat cheese.

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Speaker 1: Pair?

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Speaker 3: There we go, blue goat cheese. That's that's it was

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Speaker 2: So good If anyone hasn't had blue goat cheese pair

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Speaker 1: Wow, I this guy.

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Speaker 2: If you don't want to be with someone, tell all

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Speaker 2: of them, communicate early and often. Why why are you

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Speaker 2: hiding this? It seems like the love of your life

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Speaker 2: it wants you. So just just run run over with

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Speaker 2: your ice blocks over there and tell this could have

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Speaker 2: all been avoided. This could have all been could have

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Speaker 2: been avoided, and you could have you could have been

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Speaker 2: you could have been in the moral clear, you know, yes,

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Speaker 2: and the relationship then pursue you know, your your childhood.

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Speaker 2: Sweetearn't hey that happens. You know, I'm not gonna I'm

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Speaker 2: not gonna pooh pooh. You realize in and that your

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Speaker 2: love of your life was passing you. But you know,

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Speaker 2: but as long as you're like communicating about this, these

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Speaker 2: realizations in real time. But this, but what you have

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Speaker 2: done bad, that's bad. But not do what we just said.

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Speaker 2: You did not do that.

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Speaker 1: You did not do that.

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Speaker 2: You are in the moral wrong. You have been designated

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Speaker 2: the stinkiest of men. Your stench travels far and wide,

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Speaker 2: as far as maybe you're running with those ice blocks.

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Speaker 2: So I love her, but the only way I can

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Speaker 2: get off. Oh whoa, oh, we're getting We're gonna a

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Speaker 2: little spicy right now. I love her, but the only

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Speaker 2: way Oh no, oh no, but I see you with

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Speaker 2: the chat if you know what's coming. Oh I didn't

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Speaker 2: Let me let me, let me, let me let me

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Speaker 2: buckle in, buckle in, buckle in.

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm on like a I'm going on

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Speaker 2: the top of the roller course.

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Speaker 1: We're about to go down.

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Speaker 2: We're about to go deep, deep down. I love her.

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Speaker 2: Oh it starts out sweet, but the only way I

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Speaker 2: and how wet you'd get. How did this speak turn

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Speaker 1: We're not done.

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Speaker 2: And again, hope he is is not quoting this is

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Speaker 2: This is not verbatim. This is as best as you

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Speaker 2: can remember it. It seems like she remembers a lot.

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Speaker 2: I think every inch of my bed, probably speaking in

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Speaker 2: square inches surface area, was soaked from your kiddie. I

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Speaker 2: have the biggest heart on just thinking about it. All right,

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Speaker 2: This guy is always.

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Speaker 4: He's a romance, you know, like I love.

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Speaker 2: A slipping slide, just like every other guy. But I

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Speaker 2: don't know if I want to be I don't want

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Speaker 2: like the water bed to be on top of the bed,

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Speaker 2: you know, I don't want leaks. I like, I like

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Speaker 2: a little leakage is fine, but every square inch of

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Speaker 1: What I'm gonna be honest today, boys, I was.

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Speaker 3: I did not wake up and drive into the office

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Speaker 3: today prepared to have this conversation with you.

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Speaker 1: I I honestly, my spirit was not ready for that

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Speaker 1: to day.

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Speaker 2: Hey, you know what, get ready wet and wild today.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna wet and wild.

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Speaker 4: Every inch of the bed. You gotta get a new

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Speaker 4: mattress every time.

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Speaker 2: Dude, cat, dude, you gotta air that air that you

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Speaker 2: gotta put your your mattress in the dryer.

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying washing machines exist.

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Speaker 2: Don said, I want that slipping slide. That slipping slide

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Speaker 2: is mine.

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Speaker 1: Uh m boom, sue them boom.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, we got we got more. We're not We're not done.

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Speaker 2: We're not done, all right, So I want we just

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Speaker 2: heard poetry come out of Dale's mouth right now.

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Speaker 1: I think we can.

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Speaker 2: All poetry every square inch wet and wild. What poetry

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Speaker 2: doth return from the mouth of Jen? What poetry? I'm

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Speaker 2: sure she will be as verbose. She answered with a

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 2: Again, this is terrible, but that is the most vanilla

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Speaker 2: answer I've ever heard. Man gives some Walt Whitman poetry

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Speaker 2: up in this email chat, and she just says, loll.

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Speaker 3: I think OPI's trading uh premium vanilla bean for great

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Speaker 3: value vanilla.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm not going.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that OPI is that that premium bean. Yep, premium bean,

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Speaker 2: the most most most premium bean.

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Speaker 1: So bad. Uh.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like this this if anything, this person

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I will.

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Speaker 3: The one thing I'll say is at least she didn't

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Speaker 3: not not that, by the way, that's not like, oh

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Speaker 3: she's good.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, this is still horrible.

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Speaker 3: But I'm at least glad for ope that she didn't

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Speaker 3: have to read anything more.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, full than that. That's good after going through that's good.

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Speaker 2: That's a message.

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Speaker 1: Well.

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Speaker 2: Another thing he said, oh, was that he made fun

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Speaker 2: of me for having a large scar across my chest

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Speaker 2: onto my left front airbag, which had disfigured the nipple

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Speaker 2: a bit. H. I think that's cute. It's like your

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Speaker 2: nipples winking at me.

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Speaker 1: That's that's yes, there we go.

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Speaker 2: It's like a little little like boop. Yeah, that's cute.

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Speaker 2: That's cute.

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Speaker 1: I love What do you love? Sam? Wait, wait, tell

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Speaker 1: me tell me what you love. You know, like.

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Speaker 2: A disfigured nip sounds sounds cute? Yeah, sexy, sexy sex unique, unique.

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Speaker 2: You know, I don't. I don't want my nips vanilla.

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Speaker 1: Throw a little mixing, throw a little mix in there.

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Speaker 2: Remember a little week, a little spice. Yeah, exactly, something

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Speaker 2: That is a great movie. I mean, I haven't seen it.

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Speaker 2: What artful, a little funky but beautiful pulls at your

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Speaker 1: Dude, you are You're you're doing some some wordsmithing right now.

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Speaker 1: Edward scissor Hands is great.

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Speaker 2: Go, girl, Your peoples look like Edwardsands.

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Speaker 2: He might as well have all one tued me in

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Speaker 2: But to hear him make fun of something he knows

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Speaker 3: back from, just like, oh yeah, stacking on Olympic Olympic

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is this is pretty this is pretty bad.

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Speaker 2: I feel like we've we've sealed his fate. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 2: dld r bot, what's going on?

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Speaker 1: Uh? Does it work out? Huh? Is it Bobby bot?

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Speaker 2: Now? Bobby bot? Can you give me a summary?

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Speaker 4: I can't because I did it started. Give me two minutes.

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Speaker 2: All right, we're calling it Bobby bot, Bobby bot, Bobby boat?

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Speaker 2: Is that fun to say?

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Speaker 4: Sometimes he thinks you say Bobby butt, so you have

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Speaker 2: The emails go on. Some are explicit. One she describes

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Speaker 2: The first email on the thread was Dale talking about

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Speaker 4: Move.

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Speaker 2: It didn't sound like the first time they'd reconnected. So

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Speaker 2: I'm guessing if I snooped, i'd find text too. I

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Speaker 2: don't need to snoop further. I've seen all I need to. Obviously,

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna stay. Despite what he said about me,

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Speaker 2: I'm pretty great, and I know this. He said he

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Speaker 1: Yep, there we go.

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Speaker 2: We got that comprehension right there, that back door. He

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Speaker 2: misses the old devil's meat cave.

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Speaker 1: Same your daughter calls it. I call it the lord's

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Speaker 2: Lord, that's what those those prudes call it. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: shout out to Catholics, right, Catholic that's the that's that's

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Speaker 2: ye emphasis on the whole.

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Speaker 1: Yep.

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Speaker 2: Apparently I'm too vanilla to give it to him. The

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Speaker 2: thing is, I've tried to initiate that. All Right, we're

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Speaker 2: I've tried to initiate that as I enjoy it. And

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Speaker 2: he told me he wasn't into that, So now who's

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Speaker 2: the booty prude today? So he lied just to cast

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Speaker 2: I don't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing

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Speaker 2: I don't know what to do. I don't know if

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Speaker 2: there is a thick, juicy update. But John, yes, sir,

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Speaker 2: my guy, Yep. What do we think op should do here?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 3: Well, it sounds like she wants to share it with someone,

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Speaker 3: think through everything that's going on. And then two, I think, uh,

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Speaker 3: kind of needs a little bit of space to kind

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Speaker 3: She doesn't want to, you know, do this whole thing

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think you want to process all of

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Speaker 2: I want to do. I would even say like, hey,

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Speaker 1: Yeah you assume, Yeah, buy yourself some time with that.

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Speaker 3: Have a therapist or you know, can run around and

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Speaker 2: Chat chat man, chat chat chat, GPT. Your emotional therapist

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Speaker 2: just doesn't replace therapy. But hey in a pickle, good

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Speaker 2: whatever reason. Receipts, receipts very importants. Jake and his boyfriend Mike,

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Speaker 2: all agreed they're taking the high road was the best route,

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Speaker 2: do you the same? Hey, when did they go lo?

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Speaker 1: You go high?

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Speaker 2: Best revenge is living your best life? Oh amen, brother,

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Speaker 2: he didn't purchase that. My property manager told Mike that

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Speaker 2: thirty day notice that she typically requires for a tenant

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Speaker 2: moving out. As far as finances go, I make about

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Speaker 2: seventy percent of our combined income and Dale only covers

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Speaker 3: And you know, you know what's so beautiful about this?

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Speaker 3: This is not a intentional, you know, devilishly scheming revenge.

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Speaker 3: This is OP making the best decision for herself and

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Speaker 2: They will aimmen. Amen, Yeah, sweet memory, says bumbled the bag.

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Speaker 2: My guy aldouser says, damn LFGOP seventy percent income. Dale

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Speaker 2: Maybe that's true. He's losing his sugar mama, especially since

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Speaker 2: I purchased the couch. Uh so there isn't even one

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Speaker 2: there anymore. The thought of this brings me great slasher

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Speaker 2: as I'm sure you can imagine. Jake and I each

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Speaker 2: be okay. And then I just couldn't believe how awful

440
00:24:15,400 --> 00:24:22,360
Speaker 2: people can be to the people they love. Oh oh, oh,

441
00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:23,720
Speaker 2: it's coming, It's come.

442
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:24,680
Speaker 1: I'm ready for it.

443
00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:29,600
Speaker 2: Dale agreed, so funny Dale and said that he was

444
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:34,960
Speaker 2: glad he has such a good girl like me. It

445
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 2: was tempting to say something about how yeah, I'm just

446
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 2: so vanilla that way, but I didn't. Ah. I just

447
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 2: told him to always remember that, how great I always

448
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 2: remember that.

449
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 1: Oh.

450
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,880
Speaker 2: I just told him to always remember that how great

451
00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 2: I am to him. He said, of course he would.

452
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 2: That felt pretty satisfying, and I hope he does remember

453
00:24:56,840 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 2: that every day for the rest of his life. Whoever

454
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 2: it was that posted about vanilla ice cream idea, Jake,

455
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 2: Mike and I laughed about that hysterically last night. It

456
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 2: was the first thing that made me laugh like that,

457
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:10,880
Speaker 2: and maybe the only thing for a while. To thank

458
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 2: you for that. I'm thinking, I don't know what that

459
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,000
Speaker 2: comment was, but I'm thinking it's just leaving a giant

460
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:18,439
Speaker 2: tub of vanilla ice cream in the house, kind of

461
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:20,960
Speaker 2: like that. Yeah, just no doubt, just vanilla ice cream.

462
00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 1: Yeah.

463
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 2: I didn't end up ruining any of Dale's stuff. I

464
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:27,240
Speaker 2: didn't print out emails and send them to his family

465
00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 2: or friends. I didn't do anything destructive or spiteful. However,

466
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 2: after all my stuff was out, Jake and I made

467
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:36,760
Speaker 2: a trip to the grocery store. Okay, so Opie has

468
00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 2: gotten to stuff out. But again, Dale does not know yet. Nope,

469
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:45,480
Speaker 2: Dale is completely in the dark. I'm curious. How do

470
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:47,119
Speaker 2: you think Dale is going to react?

471
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:52,919
Speaker 3: I think I think the second he realizes, he is

472
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 3: going to see just how ft he actually is. Oh yeah,

473
00:25:57,119 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 3: he doesn't have the money to cover the rest. Oh yeah,

474
00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 3: he's is you know, gonna have like he was thinking

475
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 3: about getting a house, doing all these things, and you

476
00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 3: know what, that's probably just the tip of the iceberg

477
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 3: of what op he was providing in this relationship. So

478
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:15,880
Speaker 3: he's gonna realize, Oh, I'm absolutely uh screwed. And remember

479
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 3: that saying we always say that, everyone always says you lose.

480
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:20,640
Speaker 1: Them, how you get them.

481
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 3: I'm wondering what's gonna happen with Dale and little Miss

482
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 3: Booth sang in the future.

483
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 2: I mean, there's a reason they're not together. I mean, like,

484
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:34,360
Speaker 2: like you know, I I don't think there. I think

485
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:38,159
Speaker 2: it's just the the the fantasy of them being together

486
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 2: that they're they're enjoying, and uh, I don't think there's

487
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 2: actually anything there.

488
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, the fact that it's like wrong for them, very

489
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:51,200
Speaker 3: wrong for them to be doing that, and it's like, yeah,

490
00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 3: that ain's something to build relationships.

491
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 2: No, so ah, oh boy, strap. It gets booty, you know,

492
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,280
Speaker 2: all right, if you're sitting down, scoosh that boody around,

493
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 2: you know, get some blood flowing in the booty because

494
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:07,119
Speaker 2: we're gonna spit. We're sitting into this store. It's a

495
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 2: lot of motion, my brother, that booty. You're you're reenacting, okay,

496
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 2: are your booties ready?

497
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 1: Your butt's ready? Oh yeah?

498
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 2: Is your mind ready open? Are your eyes ready to

499
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 2: see what freaking's gonna happen next? Because it is gonna

500
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 2: be insane. Dale's about to find out. I'm ready, all right.

501
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:35,359
Speaker 2: So I didn't do anything destructive. We're spiteful. However, after

502
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,199
Speaker 2: all my stuff was out, Jake and I made a

503
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:40,159
Speaker 2: trip to the grocery store. I took the posters advice

504
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 2: and brought one of those big plastic tubs of vanilla

505
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 2: ice cream. Remember, Dale was like, oh, she's too vanilla

506
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 2: for me, Jen you're spicy.

507
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 1: I like you more.

508
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 2: And I left it on the counter with a note

509
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 2: and my engagement ring, and I wrote, I know vanilla

510
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:02,360
Speaker 2: isn't your favorite flavor, but this is the only vanilla

511
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,920
Speaker 2: you'll be eating from now on.

512
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 1: XO XO. And you know.

513
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 3: Why that's so clapworthy? She's not going crazy and like

514
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:18,959
Speaker 3: like trying to. She's not bringing herself to a negative space. Nope,

515
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:24,959
Speaker 3: she is simply and clearly pointing out the hypocrisy and

516
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 3: laying it out for him.

517
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 1: And it's just so witty and clever and hilarious.

518
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:34,679
Speaker 2: Also it's perfect, it's poetic, it's perfect, it's beautiful. So

519
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 2: I mean, I am human. I had to leave him

520
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 2: with a little bit of a bang. So here I

521
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 2: am staying with Mike and Jake for a while. You

522
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 2: might think this story is over. We got a little

523
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 2: bit more, but oh yeah, John, we're barely halfway done.

524
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 2: Oh god, we're not even halfway done. In fact, we

525
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 2: got so much juice left to squeeze. Again.

526
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: Dale does not know yet.

527
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 2: Nope. I have no idea how he's going to react.

528
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 2: And I think it's gonna be juicy, gonna be great.

529
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 2: It's gonna be juicy. Finding an apartment will be no

530
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 2: issue for me. I am comfortable financially on my own

531
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 2: with a stable job. I have to deal with deposits

532
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,000
Speaker 2: I put down for the venues for both the wedding

533
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 2: and the reception, and I can't right now. I'm too

534
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 2: much of a mess. Emotionally. I will be by the

535
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:24,760
Speaker 2: week's ends, though as I know, I can't put it

536
00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 2: off any longer if there's any hope at all of

537
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:29,800
Speaker 2: getting refunded. I had already booked our honeymoon, but I

538
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 2: did pay the extra for insurance in case the trip

539
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 2: needed to be canceled. I honestly don't really know what

540
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 2: exactly the insurance covers. I'll have to look into it

541
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 2: whether or not I can get a refund on Dale's tickets.

542
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 2: I will be going on my first trip out of

543
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 2: the country on my own, and I am happy about this.

544
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 2: It's the one bright thing to look forward to through

545
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 2: this whole mess. I will sell my wedding dress, which

546
00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 2: was a low cut dress by the way, and showed

547
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 2: off my scar as much as a wedding dress can.

548
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 2: Dale would have found that gross. Well, we find Dale gross. Yeah,

549
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 2: I want I want to see that.

550
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 1: That sounds weird that I want you. I want I

551
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:15,760
Speaker 1: want you to show the world.

552
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:21,720
Speaker 2: Including us, your winking nipple because we have solidarity with you.

553
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 2: That's all right, solidary solidarity. Or maybe I'll burn it.

554
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 2: Burning it sounds kind of fun because I've been holding

555
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 2: back so much on not being destructive in a time

556
00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 2: where I would have found great, albeit temporary pleasure in

557
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 2: burning everything Dale I'd ever owned. Yeah, burning my dress

558
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 2: is something I can do privately that will still be satisfying.

559
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 2: It can scream and cry and throw rocks at it

560
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:44,720
Speaker 2: or lighter fluid over it, watch it burn, and then

561
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:47,000
Speaker 2: cook a smore over it, because I love somemore, So

562
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:51,320
Speaker 2: why not. I'm walking away from Dale with my head

563
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 2: held high. The best revenge is to walk away as

564
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 2: dignified as possible and to not sink to his level.

565
00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 1: Aimen, Hey men, that's it right there.

566
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 2: I was close with his family, but I'm not going

567
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 2: to worry about what he tells them. I am positive

568
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,320
Speaker 2: it won't be the truth. There's no way he's got

569
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 2: the balls and decency to tell them what he did.

570
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 2: But I know what he did. He knows what he did,

571
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 2: and all the people who truly love me and who

572
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 2: I am close with will all know what he did.

573
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 2: That's all that really matters. Though it's nice to have

574
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 2: those emails just in case Dale tries to take things

575
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 2: too far or something. I'm going to be okay, I'm

576
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 2: having one of those empowered moments that I just spent

577
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 2: the last hour in the bathtub sobbing again. We have

578
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 2: an update coming, so stay tuned, buckle in. Like I said, waves,

579
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 2: Jake told me that Dale isn't worthy of my quirky nipple,

580
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,840
Speaker 2: and I agree. When I got in my accident, I

581
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 2: was lucky that the shrapnel didn't pierce my heart. I did, however,

582
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 2: suffer from a pretty significant heart contusion, basically a bruised heart,

583
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 2: among other injuries. It was the most pain thing I've

584
00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:03,720
Speaker 2: ever experienced. So yeah, this situation makes my head hurt,

585
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 2: but my heart has been through a whole much worse.

586
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:10,320
Speaker 2: But my heart has been through much worse and kept

587
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:13,959
Speaker 2: on ticking all along. Sorry if I rambled lot. Posting

588
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 2: this to you all is like a form of therapy,

589
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:18,400
Speaker 2: and the more thoughts that pop in my mind, I'll

590
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 2: just write them down for you all to read. I

591
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 2: haven't told my family and other friends yet again, Well,

592
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 2: Dale doesn't know. I'll be tackling that soon. I'm glad

593
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 2: the invites hadn't already been sent. At least I don't

594
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 2: have to send out a cancelation notice. I deleted Dale

595
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 2: off all social media and blocked his email address. I

596
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 2: didn't block him off my phone yet, because honestly, I'm

597
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 2: curious about his reaction. I can promise you all that

598
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 2: I will not respond at all, not to a single text,

599
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 2: not to a single call, but I can't help but

600
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 2: be interested to see how it reacts. I will block

601
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 2: him tomorrow, though Mike told me that the second his

602
00:32:56,640 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 2: messages turn ugly or hateful because I'm not responding, block him.

603
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 2: He doesn't want Dale to hurt me anymore than he

604
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 2: already has. He's right, and I really do plan on

605
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:11,720
Speaker 2: blocking him regardless by tomorrow. After seeing his initial reaction,

606
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 2: I guess that's all I have to update. Thank you

607
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 2: all for caring about me. I will continue moving forward

608
00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 2: and I will never stop wearing clothes that show my scar.

609
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 2: I've never hidden it before and I'm not going to

610
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 2: let some a hole make me feel like I should.

611
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 2: From the bottom of my heart, thank you all for

612
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 2: your love. You gave amazing comments and messages, and I

613
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:32,360
Speaker 2: will never forget the nice things you all have said

614
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 2: to me. Seriously, thank you. And PS, I think I

615
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 2: will dress up as Edward Scissorhands for Halloween. And John, Yes,

616
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 2: we have another update, but John, before we into that update,

617
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:50,240
Speaker 2: I guess we don't. I mean, like, do you do

618
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 2: you think he'll get it? Like, do you think he'll

619
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 2: he'll he can get it through his pea brain about

620
00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 2: this vanilla reference. Yeah.

621
00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 3: I mean one thing I was thinking is, like, you know,

622
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 3: and often on the show, like Opie should low key

623
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 3: be a mascot for this show because she has exemplified

624
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 3: all of like the core tenants and principles that we

625
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 3: always talk about.

626
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:10,840
Speaker 1: So just shout out O P for that.

627
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 3: But I was almost like, will he get even even

628
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 3: if he doesn't, like even if he gets like the

629
00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:20,360
Speaker 3: big picture, will he get the full totality of everything

630
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 3: that this that this means. Will he be like, oh, hey,

631
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 3: is it good to basically explicitly be like, hey, I

632
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 3: found all of your emails. I know everything you did.

633
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 3: This is over just just for the sake, you know,

634
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 3: not for him.

635
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:42,200
Speaker 2: But I do think I do think it would be

636
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 2: good to have a little bit more of like, hey,

637
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:52,600
Speaker 2: I see I saw this, it's over. Don't contact me. Yeah,

638
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 2: because I think he's going to try to contact her, right,

639
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 2: which like he would do so regardless, I think, but yeah, yeah,

640
00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 2: And it's like I think she he kind of like

641
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:01,359
Speaker 2: you know her.

642
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:03,560
Speaker 3: One little tidbit is like, Okay, I want to see

643
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:07,040
Speaker 3: his crash out. Yeah you know, but yeah, I do

644
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:10,399
Speaker 3: think maybe maybe if he responds or reaches outs like hey,

645
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:12,280
Speaker 3: never contact me again.

646
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then and then letting it go. Well, let's

647
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:18,680
Speaker 2: see what happens in this next update.

648
00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 1: I'm ready? You ready? Oh?

649
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 2: Yeah?

650
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 1: All right.

651
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:28,319
Speaker 2: So so last night got pretty crazy. Oh started with

652
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 2: Dale playing dumb and asking what was going on and

653
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 2: what did he do? Like I promised all of you,

654
00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:39,359
Speaker 2: I did not respond. The wiener knew exactly what he'd done.

655
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 2: He just kept texting and kept texting. One text that

656
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:48,760
Speaker 2: I found particularly infuriating was I can't think of anything

657
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 2: I have done to deserve this. Whatever you think I've

658
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 2: done isn't true. I'm sure you just misunderstood, and I

659
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:59,440
Speaker 2: can explain. I mean, dang, you didn't even have to

660
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 2: be so drama and just leave me here like this.

661
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 2: I love how he was already saying that I just

662
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:09,280
Speaker 2: misunderstood what I think he's done and that he can explain.

663
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 2: He's such a crap person that he wouldn't even just

664
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 2: come out and admit to the emails and say he's

665
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 2: sorry and then to call me dramatic, the text progressed

666
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 2: and the angry ones. Here is a string of text

667
00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 2: from him, word for word, except that I corrected some

668
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:28,320
Speaker 2: grammar because his grammar is ridiculous. Each text was probably

669
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:31,239
Speaker 2: sent about two minutes apart, sometimes less, Just so you

670
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 2: understand the level of crazy here, I will refer to

671
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:36,399
Speaker 2: myself as L in these because he uses my name

672
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:39,439
Speaker 2: a lot, and my real name starts with an L,

673
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:42,279
Speaker 2: so it seems appropriate. I blocked him after this, by

674
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,240
Speaker 2: the way, And here are the text.

675
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 1: I'm so excited. I'm so excited, baby.

676
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 2: You know how much I love you. I'm at a

677
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 2: lost right now. I don't understand. Why won't you answer me?

678
00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 2: I just cried calling Elle, please pick up. We are

679
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 2: getting married. I thought you cared about me. I guess

680
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:01,880
Speaker 2: I was wrong. I guess you were cold hearted.

681
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:02,320
Speaker 1: Elle.

682
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 2: Baby, are you okay? At least answer me so I

683
00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 2: know you are okay and not hurt or something. Seriously, Elle, seriously,

684
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 2: you're such a witch. I didn't mean that. I'm just

685
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,919
Speaker 2: getting really worried and upset to go about a twenty

686
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 2: minute break between that one and this monstras Oh god,

687
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:23,439
Speaker 2: you know what I did mean? That you're an fing

688
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 2: witch for doing this. If you were unhappy, you should

689
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 2: have told me. I can't believe you would do this

690
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:31,800
Speaker 2: to me. I love you. You are just like your father,

691
00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 2: but even worse because at least your mom is a

692
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 2: see you next Tuesday, and so are you, So who

693
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 2: can blame him? Don't ever contact me again or come

694
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 2: crawling back, and good luck finding someone who will love

695
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 2: a fing circus freak witch, lolo loll dumb button. So

696
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:55,399
Speaker 2: that's when I blocked him. I know nothing he said

697
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:58,400
Speaker 2: was true, but Stille, this wasn't an email to an X.

698
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 2: This was something he sent me directly. I cried a

699
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,480
Speaker 2: lot after that one. It hit me pretty hard. This

700
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:06,920
Speaker 2: is someone I was planning a future with just a

701
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 2: couple of days ago. A few days ago, he was

702
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 2: so sweet as far as I knew, obviously. He used

703
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:19,280
Speaker 2: to kiss my hand almost every morning. It's just such

704
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,759
Speaker 2: a shock, hard to wrap my mind around it. Last

705
00:38:22,840 --> 00:38:25,920
Speaker 2: night was a really tough night to get through for me.

706
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 2: I keep reading back what I wrote in this update

707
00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:32,760
Speaker 2: last night, and it helps to keep me from feeling strong.

708
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 2: Keep reading all of your lovely comments and messages from

709
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 2: the original post, and it helps to keep me feeling

710
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:39,879
Speaker 2: loved and strong. Jake and Mike are wonderful and I'm

711
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:42,359
Speaker 2: lucky to have them to hold my hand and help

712
00:38:42,360 --> 00:38:45,239
Speaker 2: me through this. Though his texts hurt me, they also

713
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 2: reaffirmed that he's a spineless weasel and that I a

714
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 2: thousand percent into the right thing by leaving.

715
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, you did.

716
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 2: He He's making it really easy to get over him. Sorry,

717
00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 2: this got so long. I wanted to really include you

718
00:38:56,800 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 2: all in what's happening. Thanks you for checking in on

719
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,640
Speaker 2: me and caring about what happens to me. I love

720
00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 2: you all. And there's a little update. There's a little

721
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 2: bit more. Oh, there's a little bit more more juice. Wow,

722
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 2: you are all amazing, wonderful people, so much love and support.

723
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:13,239
Speaker 2: I had the intention of responding to some comments, but

724
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 2: the post is now locked, But I want to say

725
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:17,160
Speaker 2: thank you. A lot of people asking me if there

726
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 2: any signs Dale was an a hole, because what do

727
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 2: we say on the show?

728
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: How do you not see the red flags? So rose

729
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 1: tinted glasses.

730
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 2: There must have been red flags before, right there might

731
00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:28,320
Speaker 2: like now in retrospect, you're like, wait, wait that was

732
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:31,879
Speaker 2: a weird behavior, right? Yeah, Well what kind of red

733
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 2: flags look out for, and honestly no, I wish I

734
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 2: could say yes to that so I could potentially prevent

735
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:39,280
Speaker 2: others from going through what I did or something similar.

736
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:41,759
Speaker 2: He was very attentive and loving. He never once made

737
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 2: fun of my appearance to my face. He seemed to

738
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 2: appreciate my ambition and independence. I never felt controlled or

739
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:50,799
Speaker 2: criticized for being financially stable an educated woman. I had

740
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 2: a therapist after I lost my friend in the accident.

741
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 2: My father had also walked out earlier that year, so

742
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 2: we were discussing this and how I hadn't seen it coming.

743
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 2: My therapist told me that people can make you see

744
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 2: whatever they want you to see, but that they can't

745
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 2: keep up the facade forever. Things almost always come to

746
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 2: a head eventually. The only thing you can do is

747
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:12,720
Speaker 2: be secure enough with yourself to understand that the faults

748
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 2: of others have nothing to do with you. Just make

749
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 2: sure you surround yourself with enough good people that you

750
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:19,959
Speaker 2: can afford to lose one or two along the way.

751
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 1: And by the way, you.

752
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 2: Should never even try to afford losing us, because you

753
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 2: can listen to full episodes with stories just like this.

754
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 2: Go to iHeartRadio app, Spotify, Apple Podcasts or your favorite

755
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:36,200
Speaker 2: podcast app and search. Okay, story time, there's another relevant update.

756
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:38,839
Speaker 2: Oh and a little bit more at this story. But John,

757
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:42,279
Speaker 2: how do we feel with what Op has done and

758
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 2: is doing?

759
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:46,319
Speaker 3: I mean, again, just Op kind of has exemplified I

760
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,840
Speaker 3: think all of the things that we like talk about

761
00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 3: in these in these stories, she you know, didn't.

762
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 1: Choose self destructiveness.

763
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,280
Speaker 3: She chose like, you know, self care and like figuring

764
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:58,239
Speaker 3: out the best situation for herself, didn't get sucked into

765
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 3: the revenge vortext and focused on the people that actually

766
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 3: were good in her mic like like a Jake and

767
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 3: Mike just also W friends, W freaking friends. Yeah, I

768
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:13,720
Speaker 3: mean she did everything great and uh it seemed also

769
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 3: her her self security was that stood out to me

770
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 3: as well.

771
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 2: Because I mean I think somebody it was cool as

772
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:24,760
Speaker 2: some people would see those messages between X and maybe

773
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:28,799
Speaker 2: stay or maybe try to convince the partner, hey, like

774
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:31,279
Speaker 2: come back to me true And I feel like she

775
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 2: had enough respect, enough self respect and and enough boundaries

776
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:37,440
Speaker 2: to be like, this is not the right kind of

777
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 2: relationship that I want to be in. I'm leaving and

778
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:42,480
Speaker 2: that is not that's not an easy thing to do.

779
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: Not at all. Yeah, And I guess he was just

780
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:46,440
Speaker 1: so good at masking it.

781
00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:48,839
Speaker 3: He was able to just like get away with it

782
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 3: until she found the evidence of who he really was.

783
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:54,320
Speaker 1: So crazy, so crazy crazy.

784
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:55,759
Speaker 2: There's a little bit more of the story, and let's

785
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 2: get into it. So I suppose that would be my

786
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 2: advice on the matter. Love people openly and let yourself

787
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 2: be loved, but always keep holding But always keep a

788
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:07,120
Speaker 2: hold of yourself and make sure you have yourself covered

789
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:09,839
Speaker 2: should someone let you down along the way. As far

790
00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 2: as the dress goes, I believe I will take the

791
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 2: advice of many of you and donate it to flood

792
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 2: victims in Louisiana. It is a beautiful gown. I think

793
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 2: what I will burn instead is my reception dress. I've

794
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:23,840
Speaker 2: got to burn something. Thanks Red, I sincerely love you

795
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:25,400
Speaker 2: all and wish you the best in all of your

796
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:27,879
Speaker 2: life endeavors. I might pop back in a few weeks

797
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 2: to update you all and how I'm doing.

798
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:33,359
Speaker 1: Love l Hey, it's Sam. We're going to get back

799
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 1: to these stories.

800
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:37,279
Speaker 2: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors, and

801
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:44,799
Speaker 2: that is where that story edds. Wow, Wow, what a saga.

802
00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 3: What a saga, What a what a roller coaster? But

803
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:51,399
Speaker 3: look look where we've landed. Thank god she landed here. Yeah,

804
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 3: a man she had married and bought a house with him,

805
00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 3: just more months potentially after all of this happened.

806
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 1: Yeah god.

807
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:06,280
Speaker 2: Oh well, hopefully no one finds himself in love like this. Yep,

808
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 2: let's hit this next story. We got one more story

809
00:43:09,080 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 2: for you.

810
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:13,000
Speaker 3: Yes, sir, I caught my husband keeping private photos of

811
00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:14,959
Speaker 3: his exes. It shattered my trust.

812
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 1: Like what kind of photos? Oh god?

813
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,880
Speaker 3: My husband and I have been dating since twenty sixteen

814
00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 3: and married since twenty twenty. He's a typical guy who

815
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 3: bottles up his feelings and will not share with me

816
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:27,720
Speaker 3: any of his innermost thoughts or problems he is facing.

817
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:31,440
Speaker 2: Yikes, that's not good. It doesn't sound like too strong

818
00:43:31,840 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 2: of a relationship start.

819
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: Nope.

820
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:35,680
Speaker 3: From what I can tell, this is the only real

821
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:37,680
Speaker 3: issue in our relationship.

822
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,600
Speaker 1: Well, we'll find out about that.

823
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from dul Cranberry sixty one

824
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,240
Speaker 3: seventy nine, And if you want to submit your own stories,

825
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:45,200
Speaker 3: go to the r slash.

826
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:46,360
Speaker 1: Okay, storytime stuffered it.

827
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:48,400
Speaker 3: So I want to make it very clear that we

828
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:53,399
Speaker 3: have a very loving, spicy, and fun and at least

829
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 3: from my end, openly honest relationship.

830
00:43:56,239 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 1: Ok So, up until this point, I thought that.

831
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:01,120
Speaker 3: The issue of not incline luting me in his innermost

832
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 3: thoughts was a problem of communication and not one of deceit.

833
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 3: Oh no, now I know you in the chat if

834
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 3: you see something wicked coming on our way, he's keeping

835
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 3: more than thoughts to himself. He's keeping thoughts to himself

836
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:20,320
Speaker 3: that he is. For some background, my ex husband cheated

837
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 3: on me serial cheater. Wow, sorry to hear that. I

838
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 3: found out that our entire relationship had basically been one

839
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:28,479
Speaker 3: big lie.

840
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:29,239
Speaker 1: Oh no.

841
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 2: To make a long story short, it took a long

842
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,360
Speaker 2: time to get over it, and I will never forget

843
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 2: all of the red flags that I missed because I

844
00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 2: know what to look out for now. Example, X was

845
00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:40,920
Speaker 2: very protective of his phone and he never let me

846
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:45,759
Speaker 2: near it. Dude, honestly, such a red flag I am.

847
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:49,239
Speaker 2: I'm always just like, here's a phone. I like if

848
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 2: if you're a protective, I don't even I don't know

849
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 2: anyone in a relationship that is protective of their phone

850
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:02,279
Speaker 2: unless they're planning a surprise for the person. Yeah, that's

851
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:05,320
Speaker 2: the only reason, and that's that's a short time window,

852
00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Yeah, maybe maybe they're like

853
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:12,440
Speaker 2: prepping for I think the longest time window could be

854
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:16,319
Speaker 2: like prepin for a proposal, which might be like three months. Yeah, yeah,

855
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 2: which I guess.

856
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:19,920
Speaker 1: We've seen on the show before where someone thinks they're

857
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 1: cheating and.

858
00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 2: Yeah for a proposal. I guess that. Yeah, yeah, but

859
00:45:24,040 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 2: that's the only reason.

860
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, let us let us know if you think it's

861
00:45:26,680 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 3: a green flag. Phone sharing very curious, but we're gonna

862
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:30,880
Speaker 3: keep going now. I am with my current husband and

863
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 3: he has displayed none of those red flag behaviors. He

864
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 3: is very open with his phone, gives me his passwords,

865
00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 3: et cetera, et cetera. Anytime I felt he may have

866
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:40,719
Speaker 3: been hiding something from me, it does come down to

867
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 3: communication breakdown or him saying that he just didn't realize

868
00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 3: there was an issue so he didn't think to say anything.

869
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,120
Speaker 3: Never before has the issue been about spicy sleep or

870
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 3: anything related to that or cheating. Husband loves to take

871
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:56,640
Speaker 3: photos of me, and I don't mind because we are

872
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 3: married and he and I know he loves to use

873
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:02,319
Speaker 3: them when he's on his own time. If you catch

874
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 3: him a drift right, little solo work there, there we go.

875
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 3: So you know, sometimes the duo is great, but you

876
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 3: gotta do a little solo.

877
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 2: Act, you know, break out exactly. He needs some me time.

878
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 2: Put a little Jackson Pollock painting on your phone screen,

879
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 2: like a.

880
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 3: Little justin Timberlake to the InSync, you know what I mean. Now,

881
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:24,240
Speaker 3: we have a very active, spicy sleep life. And although

882
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 3: there have been periods of less spicy sleep less being

883
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 3: once every one to two weeks, lately things have been

884
00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 3: going really well and we've been incredibly into.

885
00:46:33,360 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 1: Big, big intimacy.

886
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:39,359
Speaker 3: Last night, he was showing me a collage he made

887
00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:42,759
Speaker 3: of some photos he took of me doing something spicy.

888
00:46:43,600 --> 00:46:46,400
Speaker 3: They weren't flattering photos because they had gained weight at

889
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:49,720
Speaker 3: the time, so I expressed that it was not nice.

890
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,960
Speaker 3: I wasn't mad about it. I don't care that he

891
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 3: likes to look at it. I just wasn't interested in

892
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 3: looking at me in that photo. So basically I think, Op,

893
00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 3: he's like, hey, not mad that you did that, But

894
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 3: it's not like I'm like not personally excited about it,

895
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:09,319
Speaker 3: where maybe he was like, oh, maybe she'll like this,

896
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 3: she'll like that I made a spy yeah, my little

897
00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:13,560
Speaker 3: you know, look book of her.

898
00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:18,360
Speaker 2: So he made a collage of like nude, spicy sleep

899
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:23,520
Speaker 2: positions of images that she didn't really know that were

900
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 2: being taken.

901
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:30,359
Speaker 3: Oh of doing yeah, doing something a spicy hobby, I believe, yes, yes, yes,

902
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 3: so it seemed that she was maybe doing her own,

903
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 3: you know, her own solo act or something like that.

904
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:39,240
Speaker 3: And then he put together a physical collage.

905
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 2: I know, I'm not trying to yuck anyone's yems, but

906
00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:45,520
Speaker 2: if someone, if someone, if the person I was seeing,

907
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:52,280
Speaker 2: what did you say if a person I was seeing

908
00:47:53,000 --> 00:47:56,279
Speaker 2: took a bunch of secret photos of me and gave

909
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 2: me a collage saying, you go.

910
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 1: I really I really like how you look.

911
00:48:02,280 --> 00:48:06,879
Speaker 2: I don't I think I would be like, oh yeah,

912
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:08,320
Speaker 2: let me let me check back with you in a

913
00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 2: little bit.

914
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 3: To be clear, we don't know that there there were

915
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 3: secret photos, because she just previously talked about that.

916
00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:17,439
Speaker 2: He does like to but she said, like, I didn't

917
00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 2: like this photo. I had not seen this photo. I

918
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 2: don't she didn't like how she looked in this photo

919
00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 2: because she said she gained weight, so she obviously hadn't

920
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 2: seen that photo before. Yes, yes, well, yeah, I mean

921
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:36,279
Speaker 2: I mean freakin' again, not trying to yuck yums. If

922
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 2: you want a spicy collage of yourself, hey, more power

923
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:43,319
Speaker 2: to you. But I'm just saying if someone I was

924
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 2: seeing ye gave me a spicy collage of myself, I

925
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:51,920
Speaker 2: would I would be like, oh.

926
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, how would you? How do you even

927
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:56,800
Speaker 1: react to that? It's so weird.

928
00:48:57,440 --> 00:49:00,080
Speaker 2: I feel like, you know, Riley made a collage for

929
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:03,239
Speaker 2: his girl, so like, maybe Riley would do that, you know,

930
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:04,360
Speaker 2: is that something you would do?

931
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 1: Scrap book?

932
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:10,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, a scrap book not that, Yeah, a scrap book

933
00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:13,480
Speaker 3: of our relationship over the past year.

934
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:16,280
Speaker 2: All parts of your relationship, yeah, not all a parts.

935
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:19,600
Speaker 1: You gotta bear yourself, bro, come on, come on, come on.

936
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 2: You know you didn't like, authentically express all all the

937
00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:23,240
Speaker 2: different parts of dude.

938
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 1: I don't know. You know what? You know? What you are?

939
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 3: You are covering your covering yourself in the dark and

940
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:31,360
Speaker 3: disruptive cloth of secrecy.

941
00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, you should really just let let all of

942
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:34,760
Speaker 2: it be open.

943
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 1: You're you're shrouding your your true nature. Exactly.

944
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:41,839
Speaker 4: You're true because it always happened in the dark. So

945
00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 4: how much supposed to take?

946
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 1: Why not? I don't want to. Are you?

947
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:50,360
Speaker 2: Are you always? Are you always in the dark?

948
00:49:50,800 --> 00:49:51,240
Speaker 4: Always?

949
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:54,160
Speaker 1: No, No, he goes in the shower. That's a soul act.

950
00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

951
00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 3: You're in the shower and and and and your shrouds

952
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:01,399
Speaker 3: of myster you are not covering you. That's all you need.

953
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:04,479
Speaker 3: That's all you need. Okay, that's all we're saying. Guys,

954
00:50:05,000 --> 00:50:07,600
Speaker 3: are you talking about Riley's solo acts in his shower?

955
00:50:07,719 --> 00:50:10,600
Speaker 3: Not his solo acts to be clear, him literally just

956
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 3: using the shower in a normal sense. Okay, that is

957
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:17,799
Speaker 3: a case where the shrouds of secrecy are there and

958
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:18,799
Speaker 3: and and the lights are on.

959
00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:20,440
Speaker 1: That is the point I was trying to make. They

960
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:23,279
Speaker 1: know too much, explicitly explicitly.

961
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:29,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, anyway, anyways, anyway back to this, are you guys

962
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:31,759
Speaker 2: a lights on or lights off kind of person? Put

963
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 2: your answers in the chat below.

964
00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:33,919
Speaker 1: Let us know.

965
00:50:34,120 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 2: I like to I like to move between the two.

966
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 2: You're a I like that flick it off? Yea, those frosts.

967
00:50:45,280 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 1: AnyWho, let's get back. Let's get back to it here.

968
00:50:47,719 --> 00:50:51,800
Speaker 3: So last week left off the grand reveal of the

969
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 3: the Spicy The Spicy Picture collage was just revealed Opie says,

970
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:57,640
Speaker 3: I don't care that he likes to look at it.

971
00:50:57,800 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 3: I just wasn't interested in looking at me in that photo.

972
00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:04,040
Speaker 3: There are tons of photos where I look hot af

973
00:51:04,280 --> 00:51:07,400
Speaker 3: but if he wants the ugly ones to whatever have fun.

974
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 2: I go to bed right after that and laid my

975
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:11,240
Speaker 2: head on his chest.

976
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:13,560
Speaker 3: At bedtime, we will often lay this way and I'll

977
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 3: watch as he plays a game or scrolls the Chive

978
00:51:16,760 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 3: or Reddit or something like that. Like I said, no

979
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:22,040
Speaker 3: red flags so far. I know he has a locked

980
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:24,359
Speaker 3: folder on his phone because he installed the same app,

981
00:51:24,400 --> 00:51:27,359
Speaker 3: slash folder on my phone. I save important files there.

982
00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:31,760
Speaker 3: I know he saves his nudies of me. There no problem, Okay. Well,

983
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:33,560
Speaker 3: as I laid my head down and I looked at

984
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:38,719
Speaker 3: his phone, he immediately tilted the screen, which obscures it

985
00:51:38,760 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 3: because he has one of those screen covers that make

986
00:51:41,120 --> 00:51:43,319
Speaker 3: it so you can only see it from straight on.

987
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:47,800
Speaker 1: Bro and then clan, it is too secretive. I don't trust.

988
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:49,959
Speaker 1: I don't know. What are you hiding? What are you hiding?

989
00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 1: What are you hiding? Brother? Come on? Now?

990
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:54,319
Speaker 3: From what I could see, it looks like a bunch

991
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:58,760
Speaker 3: of thumbnails of unclothed bodies, different lighting, or skin tones.

992
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:01,840
Speaker 3: Maybe I couldn't tell if they were photos or videos

993
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 3: or both. It was such a quick glance I would

994
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:06,080
Speaker 3: have just assumed that they were just more photos of me.

995
00:52:06,400 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 3: But because he hit it immediately and he has never

996
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:13,759
Speaker 3: done this before, of course I was suspicious. Also really

997
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:17,080
Speaker 3: quick we had this in the last story. Is this

998
00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:22,480
Speaker 3: probable cause? Is this enough of a window for OPI

999
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:23,759
Speaker 3: to go in and investigate.

1000
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:25,959
Speaker 1: I think we got a little probable cause.

1001
00:52:26,080 --> 00:52:28,919
Speaker 3: Also, kind of the context of the collage before, it's

1002
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 3: just you know, it's getting a little.

1003
00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:32,640
Speaker 1: Weird, especial, a little weird.

1004
00:52:32,719 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 2: Especially, this is more suspicious suspicious than the colause is

1005
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:39,840
Speaker 2: just weird. Yeah, this is like suspicious suspicious. Yes, I

1006
00:52:39,840 --> 00:52:40,719
Speaker 2: asked him what it was.

1007
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:43,120
Speaker 3: I can't remember exactly how it went, but basically I

1008
00:52:43,160 --> 00:52:45,920
Speaker 3: had to ask him several times. First he told me

1009
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 3: it closed down, referring to the app. I responded, yeah,

1010
00:52:49,239 --> 00:52:52,120
Speaker 3: because you closed it down. So I asked again, what

1011
00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 3: was that? He started to say, on repeat, like a

1012
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:58,000
Speaker 3: broken record, years and years or maybe it was years ago.

1013
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:00,640
Speaker 3: It was a few words. He wouldn't adnswer my question.

1014
00:53:00,680 --> 00:53:02,839
Speaker 3: He would just say, oh, years and years ago. It's

1015
00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:08,360
Speaker 3: just years time, space, time or whatever. He said that

1016
00:53:08,440 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 3: like four or five times. Finally, I said, so those

1017
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:19,560
Speaker 3: are photos from years ago? Yeah, from xes, Yes, from before.

1018
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 2: You m keeping photos of your exes in a special folder.

1019
00:53:29,000 --> 00:53:32,080
Speaker 2: There's a little a special folder that we know you frequent.

1020
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:34,279
Speaker 2: It's a little whack.

1021
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 3: Literally and wa and metaphorically legal. Right, I don't know

1022
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 3: if illegal, but illegal to me in the court of

1023
00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 3: John yea illegal.

1024
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:48,919
Speaker 4: But I'm passing that law.

1025
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:51,960
Speaker 1: Thank you, Senate Riley.

1026
00:53:52,280 --> 00:53:57,399
Speaker 2: All those in favors AI by the special folder. Yeah,

1027
00:53:57,960 --> 00:53:59,840
Speaker 2: I don't know about that. I don't know about that.

1028
00:54:00,960 --> 00:54:03,480
Speaker 2: It's a little weird.

1029
00:54:04,120 --> 00:54:07,640
Speaker 3: Hope he doesn't either. She responded with oh wow, and

1030
00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:11,680
Speaker 3: I turned away immediately. I felt nauseated. It usually usually

1031
00:54:11,760 --> 00:54:13,680
Speaker 3: takes me a long time to wrap my head around

1032
00:54:13,680 --> 00:54:15,279
Speaker 3: how I feel about a thing. I don't tend to

1033
00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:18,239
Speaker 3: overreact or be emotional, but there are some things that

1034
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 3: cut me to my core because they do remind me

1035
00:54:20,600 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 3: of my ex and how my life fell apart. Remember,

1036
00:54:22,760 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 3: she had this crazy cheating X. The whole relationship was

1037
00:54:25,120 --> 00:54:27,879
Speaker 3: a lie. Husband knows about my ex husband and all

1038
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:29,960
Speaker 3: of that, and he's not a stupid man. So I

1039
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 3: do believe that he knew that this would hurt me.

1040
00:54:32,200 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 3: Why else would he have hit it for eight years?

1041
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:38,920
Speaker 1: Eight years? Who now?

1042
00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:42,320
Speaker 3: My knee jerk reaction was to tell him to delete

1043
00:54:42,560 --> 00:54:45,200
Speaker 3: everything he had of me. I didn't even care to

1044
00:54:45,239 --> 00:54:48,160
Speaker 3: ask him to delete his exes, because if he had

1045
00:54:48,280 --> 00:54:50,799
Speaker 3: wanted to do that, he would have already. Because I

1046
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:52,879
Speaker 3: did not want this man looking at me that way.

1047
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:55,919
Speaker 3: I felt so violated. I resisted the impulse to ask

1048
00:54:56,000 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 3: him to delete for like two minutes, but then I

1049
00:54:58,160 --> 00:55:00,080
Speaker 3: just blurted out, I want you to delete all all

1050
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:02,320
Speaker 3: of your photos and videos of me. I feel gross knowing.

1051
00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:02,680
Speaker 1: That you have them.

1052
00:55:02,680 --> 00:55:02,839
Speaker 3: Now.

1053
00:55:04,239 --> 00:55:10,319
Speaker 2: Hmm, I say, yes, I think you can ask that. Yeah,

1054
00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:12,400
Speaker 2: I mean, wait, there are they about to be married?

1055
00:55:12,680 --> 00:55:16,320
Speaker 1: No, they're married. They're married. They're married, husband and wife.

1056
00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:20,440
Speaker 2: I think I would probably have a conversation if I

1057
00:55:20,480 --> 00:55:24,600
Speaker 2: had found my partner did this. I think I don't

1058
00:55:24,640 --> 00:55:27,320
Speaker 2: know if I would ask to delete all the pictures

1059
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 2: of me, but I would be like, why do you

1060
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:32,680
Speaker 2: have all of your all these photos of these exes,

1061
00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:34,480
Speaker 2: Like this doesn't make me feel safe.

1062
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 1: For Yeah, I would. I would have more of a conversation.

1063
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:41,080
Speaker 3: And I think, in fairness would be kind of alluded

1064
00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:43,160
Speaker 3: to like I don't usually have like a kind of

1065
00:55:43,200 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 3: like knee jerky sure like emotional this I think felt

1066
00:55:46,239 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 3: like in the moment when her head understandably was clouded

1067
00:55:49,360 --> 00:55:52,080
Speaker 3: with like what what the F?

1068
00:55:52,760 --> 00:55:53,239
Speaker 1: What the F?

1069
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:56,000
Speaker 3: I heard him tapping on his phone and he muttered

1070
00:55:56,280 --> 00:55:58,600
Speaker 3: trash like he was putting them in the trash.

1071
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:01,239
Speaker 1: That also also, this guy's weird.

1072
00:56:01,280 --> 00:56:03,960
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, but I know how much he has and

1073
00:56:04,040 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 3: I know how phones work, so I'm not naives.

1074
00:56:06,040 --> 00:56:08,920
Speaker 1: Does he have eight years worse man.

1075
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:11,800
Speaker 2: Years before eight before the eight years of the marriage,

1076
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:14,919
Speaker 2: the rest of relationship. I think I can count on

1077
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:18,760
Speaker 2: like both hands, the amount of and toes, the amount

1078
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:27,520
Speaker 2: of spicy from amount of spicy picks like that I've received.

1079
00:56:28,320 --> 00:56:32,719
Speaker 2: I do not believe that I'm not I'm not like

1080
00:56:32,760 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 2: a texter.

1081
00:56:33,360 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1082
00:56:33,719 --> 00:56:35,440
Speaker 2: I feel like it's like, unless you're in a long

1083
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:38,480
Speaker 2: distance relationship that I think would push those numbers up.

1084
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:40,959
Speaker 2: But like, I don't know, to have like a whole

1085
00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:45,280
Speaker 2: folder of it just feels a little odd to me. Again,

1086
00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:50,000
Speaker 2: not like to yuck someone's yum, but to have all

1087
00:56:50,040 --> 00:56:53,640
Speaker 2: the xes, I feel like that is Clear's like I

1088
00:56:53,680 --> 00:56:57,200
Speaker 2: don't know if it's instant breakup for me, but it

1089
00:56:57,200 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 2: would definitely be a hard conversation.

1090
00:56:59,680 --> 00:57:03,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know what, like what what do you think?

1091
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:06,520
Speaker 3: I mean, I think that it is a huge indicator

1092
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:11,279
Speaker 3: of you are. It could be your completely checked out

1093
00:57:11,320 --> 00:57:14,560
Speaker 3: of the relationship in the in the spicy sleep world.

1094
00:57:14,880 --> 00:57:16,800
Speaker 2: But you know what, it doesn't seem like they're like

1095
00:57:16,840 --> 00:57:19,080
Speaker 2: completely like they're they're having like pretty that is true.

1096
00:57:19,120 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 3: That is yeah, that we do have the context of that.

1097
00:57:22,120 --> 00:57:26,800
Speaker 3: I think it's just there's something it's it's part of

1098
00:57:26,840 --> 00:57:29,640
Speaker 3: the commitment. I feel like and I and I know

1099
00:57:29,680 --> 00:57:32,280
Speaker 3: that's there's all obviously like spicy videos that like a

1100
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:35,400
Speaker 3: lot of couples are like totally fine with, uh, But

1101
00:57:35,520 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 3: I think there's something about it being a person that

1102
00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:40,320
Speaker 3: you specifically had a.

1103
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:42,080
Speaker 1: Connection with in the past.

1104
00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:45,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, and and the context in which those were exchange

1105
00:57:45,960 --> 00:57:50,400
Speaker 3: that makes it a whole different ballgame than spicy videos.

1106
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:53,960
Speaker 2: And it's also like it's not like, oh, like I

1107
00:57:54,000 --> 00:57:55,640
Speaker 2: forgot to lead them on my phone, you know, like

1108
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 2: this is a dedicated folder that he is like preserved

1109
00:57:59,440 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 2: and select eight years.

1110
00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:04,000
Speaker 3: But this was before their eight their eight year relationship,

1111
00:58:04,000 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 3: he said years and years ago, before their eight year relationship.

1112
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:09,360
Speaker 3: So he is saved and again a context that would

1113
00:58:09,360 --> 00:58:11,240
Speaker 3: have been different. Have they been dating for three months?

1114
00:58:11,280 --> 00:58:13,920
Speaker 3: And then he's like, oh, geez, I forgot to delete

1115
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 3: this thing from my last fling from like eight months

1116
00:58:16,640 --> 00:58:17,440
Speaker 3: ago or something.

1117
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:21,320
Speaker 1: No, that's a different story. This is the story.

1118
00:58:21,520 --> 00:58:26,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, this is This is not looking too good.

1119
00:58:26,920 --> 00:58:30,960
Speaker 2: I also think, like my other question, is this tip

1120
00:58:31,160 --> 00:58:32,000
Speaker 2: of the iceberg.

1121
00:58:32,880 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 3: I think there's only one way to find out, so

1122
00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:37,800
Speaker 3: Opie says. But I know how much he has. I

1123
00:58:37,840 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 3: know the phones work, so I'm not naive to think

1124
00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 3: as he that he has actually.

1125
00:58:41,480 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 1: Deleted all of it completely.

1126
00:58:42,880 --> 00:58:44,439
Speaker 3: I also know it is a big ask of him,

1127
00:58:44,480 --> 00:58:46,720
Speaker 3: because we are talking about eight years of material.

1128
00:58:46,760 --> 00:58:47,120
Speaker 1: There's a lot.

1129
00:58:47,120 --> 00:58:50,200
Speaker 3: That portfolio is large. But I feel so violated. I

1130
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:53,160
Speaker 3: just couldn't help myself. I laid in bed waiting for

1131
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 3: him to say anything for probably twenty minutes I can't remember.

1132
00:58:56,200 --> 00:58:58,880
Speaker 3: I eventually left asleep in the other room. Husband made

1133
00:58:58,960 --> 00:59:01,560
Speaker 3: zero attempt to talk to me about it. I feel

1134
00:59:01,600 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 3: so many things and also nothing at all. This shows

1135
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:06,600
Speaker 3: me that my husband does not respect women. I feel

1136
00:59:06,600 --> 00:59:09,560
Speaker 3: disrespected occasionally by him in the past, but again I

1137
00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 3: chalked most of it up to his poor communication skills.

1138
00:59:12,520 --> 00:59:14,560
Speaker 3: I do not want to say that overall I find

1139
00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 3: I do not want to say that overall, I do

1140
00:59:17,320 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 3: find him to be a very kind of caring man.

1141
00:59:19,320 --> 00:59:22,760
Speaker 3: And also I tend to feel disrespected, probably more easily

1142
00:59:22,800 --> 00:59:24,920
Speaker 3: than most as this is a huge pet peeve of

1143
00:59:24,960 --> 00:59:28,280
Speaker 3: mine because remember her history with her cheating ex husband.

1144
00:59:28,480 --> 00:59:30,920
Speaker 3: To be fair, me feeling disrespected in the past was

1145
00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:34,440
Speaker 3: probably eighty percent me overreacting, and twenty percent of those

1146
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:37,400
Speaker 3: times were actually justified. Again, I can count on one

1147
00:59:37,440 --> 00:59:39,720
Speaker 3: hand they amount of times as has happened, so not

1148
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:42,520
Speaker 3: frequent over eight years. I feel so bad for those

1149
00:59:42,600 --> 00:59:45,880
Speaker 3: women that he has kept this past, that he's kept

1150
00:59:45,880 --> 00:59:49,280
Speaker 3: this past the end of their relationship, way past the

1151
00:59:49,320 --> 00:59:52,680
Speaker 3: actual relationship. I know guys keep stuff like this, but

1152
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:55,920
Speaker 3: this is such a violation, not just the keeping of it,

1153
00:59:56,000 --> 00:59:58,200
Speaker 3: but very clearly that he has kept it handy for

1154
00:59:58,320 --> 01:00:01,240
Speaker 3: years and years. Mind you, we have switching We have

1155
01:00:01,400 --> 01:00:03,920
Speaker 3: switched phones multiple times since we have been together. He

1156
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:07,040
Speaker 3: has transferred these photos carefully from phone to phone.

1157
01:00:07,080 --> 01:00:07,440
Speaker 1: That's right.

1158
01:00:07,480 --> 01:00:09,480
Speaker 3: I mean eight years, you're gonna move phones a lot.

1159
01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:12,800
Speaker 3: So he's moved it from phone to phone so that

1160
01:00:12,880 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 3: he can have them available to look at. As mentioned,

1161
01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:18,000
Speaker 3: I feel totally disgusted that I've let this man look

1162
01:00:18,040 --> 01:00:20,760
Speaker 3: at me, touch me, take photos of me. I immediately

1163
01:00:20,760 --> 01:00:24,600
Speaker 3: felt violated. I don't know if this constitutes the ick completely,

1164
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:27,600
Speaker 3: but I guess that's what the kids call it nowadays.

1165
01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:30,600
Speaker 1: And worst of all, what else could be could he

1166
01:00:30,640 --> 01:00:32,520
Speaker 1: be hiding? I don't think this is.

1167
01:00:32,560 --> 01:00:36,600
Speaker 3: Itself divorce worthy, but that last bit number four, I'm

1168
01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:38,640
Speaker 3: afraid to even talk about it.

1169
01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:39,000
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1170
01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 2: I also I also don't think it's divorce worthy. I

1171
01:00:41,640 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 2: think it's pretty a pretty big. I think it's it's

1172
01:00:46,040 --> 01:00:51,480
Speaker 2: pretty big, deserves a conversation. Yeah, if this is all yeah,

1173
01:00:51,960 --> 01:00:54,080
Speaker 2: like I think this could be remedy. It's like, hey,

1174
01:00:54,680 --> 01:00:56,080
Speaker 2: delete that, that's not okay?

1175
01:00:56,200 --> 01:00:59,880
Speaker 1: M hm. So worst of all, what else could he

1176
01:00:59,920 --> 01:01:00,520
Speaker 1: be hiding?

1177
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:02,960
Speaker 3: I don't think this by itself is divorce worthy, but

1178
01:01:03,080 --> 01:01:05,880
Speaker 3: the last bit I am afraid to even talk about

1179
01:01:05,920 --> 01:01:08,080
Speaker 3: it because I feel like I will come up with.

1180
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:09,280
Speaker 1: One of two solutions.

1181
01:01:09,640 --> 01:01:11,800
Speaker 3: There is a lot more that he is hiding and

1182
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:14,480
Speaker 3: it will be enough to end the marriage, or number two,

1183
01:01:14,800 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 3: I end up feeling that he is not being forthcoming

1184
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:19,920
Speaker 3: and I'm able to trust him again, which will also

1185
01:01:20,000 --> 01:01:24,120
Speaker 3: inevitably end the marriage. Well, I am frighteningly confident that

1186
01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:27,400
Speaker 3: number two would be the outcome, given his issues with communication.

1187
01:01:27,480 --> 01:01:29,320
Speaker 3: I didn't realize how confident I was with this until

1188
01:01:29,320 --> 01:01:32,560
Speaker 3: I started crying as I typed it tragic. I've told

1189
01:01:32,640 --> 01:01:34,480
Speaker 3: my husband so many times that I never want a

1190
01:01:34,520 --> 01:01:38,400
Speaker 3: divorce again, how horrible divorces even without kids involved. Thankfully

1191
01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:40,160
Speaker 3: we have none, and I did not have any with

1192
01:01:40,200 --> 01:01:42,880
Speaker 3: my ex. He knows that I was cheated on. He

1193
01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:46,320
Speaker 3: knows I have zero tolerance, so he knows exactly what

1194
01:01:46,480 --> 01:01:49,640
Speaker 3: he needs to keep hiding from me. And if he

1195
01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:52,720
Speaker 3: kept those photos hidden for eight years, what else could

1196
01:01:52,720 --> 01:01:53,440
Speaker 3: he have kept hidden?

1197
01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:54,160
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1198
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:57,280
Speaker 2: Again, this is an a year relationship.

1199
01:01:57,440 --> 01:02:01,840
Speaker 3: Yes, this is long, long time, and all of so

1200
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:04,800
Speaker 3: all of the exes you know and ex'es allegedly we

1201
01:02:04,840 --> 01:02:06,919
Speaker 3: don't even know would be before that time.

1202
01:02:07,040 --> 01:02:08,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're taking it at face value.

1203
01:02:08,440 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 2: And also, I mean he's been secretive for like most

1204
01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:13,960
Speaker 2: of that relationship that she you know, she's she's set.

1205
01:02:14,040 --> 01:02:17,200
Speaker 3: He doesn't talk, he doesn't talk. I am very trusting

1206
01:02:17,200 --> 01:02:19,000
Speaker 3: of him, and I don't pry, even though we have

1207
01:02:19,040 --> 01:02:21,080
Speaker 3: access to each other's things. I have never gone looking,

1208
01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:23,560
Speaker 3: and I was very confident there was nothing to find

1209
01:02:23,600 --> 01:02:24,280
Speaker 3: even if I did.

1210
01:02:24,560 --> 01:02:25,320
Speaker 1: How do I proceed?

1211
01:02:25,360 --> 01:02:27,440
Speaker 3: I think counseling is likely in order, and he has

1212
01:02:27,480 --> 01:02:29,680
Speaker 3: suggested it in the past. So the good news here

1213
01:02:29,760 --> 01:02:32,200
Speaker 3: is that I know he will do it. Unfortunately, I

1214
01:02:32,240 --> 01:02:34,960
Speaker 3: also know couple's counseling is not covered by our insurance,

1215
01:02:35,120 --> 01:02:37,200
Speaker 3: which is what kept us from actually doing it in

1216
01:02:37,240 --> 01:02:41,120
Speaker 3: the past. Am I overreacting again, I'm not naive. I

1217
01:02:41,200 --> 01:02:43,760
Speaker 3: know guys keep photos of their exes. I'm sure I

1218
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:46,040
Speaker 3: have some on my Apple ID in the black hole

1219
01:02:46,080 --> 01:02:48,320
Speaker 3: of the internet out there somewhere that I haven't just

1220
01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:50,960
Speaker 3: bothered to sift through once I moved on. However, I

1221
01:02:51,000 --> 01:02:54,200
Speaker 3: feel that there is a difference that I'm not revisiting

1222
01:02:54,200 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 3: these photos on the regular one hundred percent agreed having

1223
01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:03,360
Speaker 3: photos of x'es, you know, like I have like twenty

1224
01:03:03,480 --> 01:03:08,960
Speaker 3: thousand or you know, fifty thousand mixes, No fifty photos

1225
01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:12,160
Speaker 3: on on like my camera. Like people aren't going to

1226
01:03:12,240 --> 01:03:14,960
Speaker 3: go through every single one of their photos, right, Like,

1227
01:03:15,000 --> 01:03:20,120
Speaker 3: that's just unreasonable. What is reasonable is not having a

1228
01:03:20,280 --> 01:03:24,600
Speaker 3: special folder dedicated to this like that. That is completely

1229
01:03:24,640 --> 01:03:27,680
Speaker 3: different than you may be having a stray photo in

1230
01:03:27,880 --> 01:03:31,760
Speaker 3: you know, fifty thousand photos right exactly. So I would

1231
01:03:31,800 --> 01:03:36,920
Speaker 3: say I would still say this is not divorce worthy

1232
01:03:37,200 --> 01:03:41,680
Speaker 3: in itself, because like I think, I think this could

1233
01:03:41,720 --> 01:03:46,440
Speaker 3: be worked through. I still think it is pretty uh

1234
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:51,760
Speaker 3: pretty like confidence and trust shaking. But I think if

1235
01:03:51,840 --> 01:03:54,560
Speaker 3: this is the only thing, and if it's not the

1236
01:03:54,600 --> 01:03:57,960
Speaker 3: tip of the iceberg, maybe with like counseling and a

1237
01:03:58,000 --> 01:04:00,680
Speaker 3: lot of communication, that could get through. But only if

1238
01:04:00,720 --> 01:04:02,920
Speaker 3: he's down to communicate, you know, like like I I,

1239
01:04:03,480 --> 01:04:05,480
Speaker 3: if he's not down to communicate, then it might be

1240
01:04:05,760 --> 01:04:07,919
Speaker 3: too much of a hurdle to move through. I think

1241
01:04:07,960 --> 01:04:10,919
Speaker 3: that the kind of like hidden thing that we haven't

1242
01:04:10,960 --> 01:04:13,720
Speaker 3: addressed is uh well addressed to some is like I

1243
01:04:13,720 --> 01:04:15,400
Speaker 3: feel like a part of this package would be, like

1244
01:04:15,720 --> 01:04:18,920
Speaker 3: you need to start like communicating you know, how you feel,

1245
01:04:18,960 --> 01:04:23,000
Speaker 3: and like get to a reasonable pace of communication. Otherwise,

1246
01:04:23,080 --> 01:04:24,920
Speaker 3: even if we fix like all of the you know,

1247
01:04:25,000 --> 01:04:27,440
Speaker 3: the nude stuff, you know, I feel like at this

1248
01:04:27,520 --> 01:04:29,320
Speaker 3: point she needs that for her trust.

1249
01:04:29,240 --> 01:04:31,600
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, yeah, I think there needs any more post

1250
01:04:31,920 --> 01:04:33,280
Speaker 2: post this this incident.

1251
01:04:33,480 --> 01:04:37,560
Speaker 3: Indeed, Opie says, uh, I feel the difference is that

1252
01:04:37,600 --> 01:04:40,040
Speaker 3: I'm not revisiting photos on the regular and would prefer

1253
01:04:40,160 --> 01:04:42,320
Speaker 3: not to see them at all. I know I have

1254
01:04:42,360 --> 01:04:44,480
Speaker 3: to discuss this with them, but how can I when

1255
01:04:44,480 --> 01:04:47,120
Speaker 3: he is so bottled up? Does anyone have an experience

1256
01:04:47,160 --> 01:04:49,560
Speaker 3: with the partner who you have to basically drag any

1257
01:04:49,600 --> 01:04:52,280
Speaker 3: bit of vulnerability out of. It takes me time to

1258
01:04:52,400 --> 01:04:56,080
Speaker 3: fully understand my emotion, fully understand my emotions, and to

1259
01:04:56,120 --> 01:04:58,200
Speaker 3: put that into a coherent thought, so I can't so

1260
01:04:58,240 --> 01:05:00,320
Speaker 3: I can even have a conversation with him. But I

1261
01:05:00,320 --> 01:05:02,520
Speaker 3: also know the cold shoulder is no good. I just

1262
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:04,400
Speaker 3: don't feel ready to talk to him yet. Should I

1263
01:05:04,400 --> 01:05:07,080
Speaker 3: force myself to have this conversation despite not feeling ready?

1264
01:05:07,400 --> 01:05:09,720
Speaker 3: I don't want to continue to enforce this idea that

1265
01:05:09,760 --> 01:05:12,160
Speaker 3: it's okay for us to not communicate at all. I

1266
01:05:12,520 --> 01:05:17,120
Speaker 3: just don't feel ready. Prospective advice, words of wisdom, or encouragement.

1267
01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:19,040
Speaker 3: I will take it all. I do not want to

1268
01:05:19,040 --> 01:05:22,000
Speaker 3: divorce my husband, so please don't suggest that. Trust me.

1269
01:05:22,160 --> 01:05:25,600
Speaker 3: I am usually on the divorce this turd bandwagon, but

1270
01:05:25,640 --> 01:05:28,080
Speaker 3: I genuinely do not feel that this is divorce worthy.

1271
01:05:28,120 --> 01:05:31,160
Speaker 3: I am, however, afraid that the what the follow of

1272
01:05:31,160 --> 01:05:34,880
Speaker 3: this may be? We have I believe our final update. Wow,

1273
01:05:34,960 --> 01:05:38,840
Speaker 3: But quick quick thoughts on Opie's thing here. Should she

1274
01:05:38,960 --> 01:05:40,120
Speaker 3: go and confront him yet?

1275
01:05:41,160 --> 01:05:41,440
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1276
01:05:41,480 --> 01:05:45,120
Speaker 2: I mean, hey, you need to communicate early and often,

1277
01:05:45,400 --> 01:05:47,480
Speaker 2: you need to get him to communicate. But again, like

1278
01:05:47,600 --> 01:05:51,520
Speaker 2: I think, be prepared going into this, ask for more

1279
01:05:51,520 --> 01:05:55,920
Speaker 2: communication that he might not be able or willing to

1280
01:05:56,000 --> 01:05:59,600
Speaker 2: meet you where you need to be met to get

1281
01:05:59,640 --> 01:06:04,800
Speaker 2: through this. And so while I may agree like this

1282
01:06:05,040 --> 01:06:10,280
Speaker 2: in itself might not be divorceworthy, this unresolved yeah, may

1283
01:06:10,320 --> 01:06:15,280
Speaker 2: be divorce worthy. But my question John is do you

1284
01:06:15,480 --> 01:06:18,040
Speaker 2: think this is the tip of the icebery? Like are

1285
01:06:18,040 --> 01:06:21,640
Speaker 2: you are you getting any clues that this may be

1286
01:06:21,800 --> 01:06:23,000
Speaker 2: a little bit deeper?

1287
01:06:23,600 --> 01:06:26,200
Speaker 3: I think what does make me think that is the

1288
01:06:26,240 --> 01:06:29,760
Speaker 3: fact that he is noncommunicative.

1289
01:06:29,000 --> 01:06:32,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, and so protective of his phone, like the screen,

1290
01:06:33,280 --> 01:06:36,400
Speaker 2: the like, not letting her like look at his phone. Really,

1291
01:06:36,400 --> 01:06:39,439
Speaker 2: I mean he is the dedicated app, the dedicated app.

1292
01:06:39,640 --> 01:06:43,560
Speaker 2: I think someone who's that protective of their device is

1293
01:06:43,640 --> 01:06:49,000
Speaker 2: either about to propose or is hiding something.

1294
01:06:49,080 --> 01:06:51,840
Speaker 1: And he already proposed they already, So.

1295
01:06:54,160 --> 01:06:58,240
Speaker 2: I feel like it's maybe cheating, but don't don't like

1296
01:06:58,800 --> 01:07:01,120
Speaker 2: invest in that before for having a conversation.

1297
01:07:01,240 --> 01:07:03,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, and to to quickly answer Opie's question.

1298
01:07:03,760 --> 01:07:05,480
Speaker 3: I think you could say, hey, I want to have

1299
01:07:05,520 --> 01:07:07,400
Speaker 3: this conversation, but I need to process my thoughts.

1300
01:07:07,520 --> 01:07:10,280
Speaker 1: I'm not ready right now, but just know that that's coming.

1301
01:07:10,360 --> 01:07:10,680
Speaker 1: You can.

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Speaker 3: You can communicate what's what's in your head, even if

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Speaker 3: it doesn't it isn't coherent yet, but we have our

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Speaker 3: final update the boys and girls. I confronted him. He

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Speaker 3: told me that he spent all last night deleting every

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Speaker 3: one of the photos of his exes as well as

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Speaker 3: mine that I asked. He even went through backups, even

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Speaker 3: hard drive.

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Speaker 1: The fuck up?

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Speaker 2: God, that's crazy, I ask you, like a hard drive?

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Speaker 3: Yes, bro, like he has the full, the full full?

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Speaker 3: You know three three sources.

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Speaker 2: And babe, babe, I mean you know how things can

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Speaker 2: be in a fire. I also have them printed out. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and a fire proof safe, babe, all the best you

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01:07:52,960 --> 01:07:54,520
Speaker 2: know film. People say you gotta have it stored in

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Speaker 2: three places. I don't know what to tell you.

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Speaker 3: So I asked him why he kept them, and he

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01:07:58,960 --> 01:08:01,840
Speaker 3: said he had forgotten they were there. Slash didn't have

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Speaker 3: a reason. I called, b Yes, they're in a folder

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01:08:05,360 --> 01:08:08,240
Speaker 3: he actively manages with photos of me. He told me

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Speaker 3: he had three photos for me, one from a corn

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Speaker 3: Star he used to like, and three folders of his exes.

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Speaker 3: Also the again, the level of organization it just.

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Speaker 2: Gives corn Star again. I hey, like I don't want

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Speaker 2: to be like, oh, that's like gross, you know, yeah,

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Speaker 2: because again, you know, if it's not like with the

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Speaker 2: corn like specifically focusing on the corn Star folder like like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's a little tacky at the very least.

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Speaker 1: The folder is like too too much. It feels obsessive.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it feels Yes, that's freaking right right on the nose, John, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it feels obsessive. And it's like it's like, like in

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Speaker 2: the same way, it's different to have a stray photos

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Speaker 2: we're deep in your photo catalog versus like obsessing over

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Speaker 2: a curated list of these photos. You know, I think

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Speaker 2: it's different. You know, watching a you know some some

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Speaker 2: actresses on screen engaging in uh, some of the the

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Speaker 2: best performances. You have seen a lot of great solo acts.

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Speaker 2: Got a great solo acts, you know one woman shows.

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Speaker 2: May you add like watching that in you know, just

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Speaker 2: like sporadically versus having a dedicated folder. It just feels obsessive. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and that I think is a red flag.

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Speaker 1: That's what we don't like.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so he claims to not look at them. Again,

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01:09:44,360 --> 01:09:47,280
Speaker 3: I called BS, but he he would not concede that

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Speaker 3: he has not been that he has been actively looking

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01:09:49,960 --> 01:09:52,400
Speaker 3: at them. He said his response of hiding the phone

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Speaker 3: was because he knew I would be upset. I countered

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01:09:55,080 --> 01:09:57,120
Speaker 3: that if he knew it would upset me, that he

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01:09:57,200 --> 01:09:59,519
Speaker 3: knew it would upset me, and he clearly knew he

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01:09:59,560 --> 01:10:02,640
Speaker 3: had the photo. Still, why not just delete them previously?

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Speaker 3: No reason and he hasn't kept them for any reason. Again,

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01:10:06,240 --> 01:10:09,040
Speaker 3: I called BS. My husband is not this dense. I

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01:10:09,120 --> 01:10:11,400
Speaker 3: was very firm, but he stood his ground. I asked

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01:10:11,439 --> 01:10:15,559
Speaker 3: about affairs any possibly, in any possible way I could

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Speaker 3: think to. All answers were no. However, I still don't

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01:10:18,880 --> 01:10:21,400
Speaker 3: feel like I can trust him because I am completely

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Speaker 3: unsatisfied with the answers around the NUDI.

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Speaker 1: Fhone me too. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: The trust is the foundation of the relationship. The trust

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Speaker 3: is not there right now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Like I do believe he is sorry, However, I.

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01:10:32,680 --> 01:10:34,960
Speaker 3: Just don't know why he is sorry yet, as in,

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01:10:35,160 --> 01:10:37,280
Speaker 3: is he sorry he got caught or is he sorry

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01:10:37,280 --> 01:10:40,639
Speaker 3: that he hurt me, he is scheduling counseling. I told

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Speaker 3: him that we would split the cost and we have

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01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:44,600
Speaker 3: an update number two. I think this will be a

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Speaker 3: surprise final update, Ladies and gentlemen. After a second discussion,

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01:10:48,920 --> 01:10:51,960
Speaker 3: he finally admitted that they were on purpose and he

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01:10:52,160 --> 01:10:54,599
Speaker 3: used them to one hand clap. And I'm not talking

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Speaker 3: about that. He admitted it to doing as recently as

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Speaker 3: a year ago. But I feel that this is probably untrue.

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Speaker 3: By the way, Sam, you know what's something that is true?

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Speaker 3: for your listening pleasure. Oo. Baby, But ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 3: we've got this final part of the saga, Opie says,

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Speaker 3: I am not terribly concerned about when he used them.

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01:11:34,400 --> 01:11:36,839
Speaker 3: What bothers me is that he is still very clearly

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01:11:36,880 --> 01:11:40,160
Speaker 3: being dishonest and hiding something else. He will not say

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01:11:40,160 --> 01:11:42,400
Speaker 3: what it is, but I am one hundred percent confident

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01:11:42,640 --> 01:11:45,000
Speaker 3: that there is more. I later told him that if

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01:11:45,000 --> 01:11:46,920
Speaker 3: he wants to try and save our marriage. He will

1386
01:11:47,000 --> 01:11:49,720
Speaker 3: need to be open and honest about whatever he is

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01:11:49,760 --> 01:11:52,719
Speaker 3: ashamed of, because our marriage is doomed. If he can't

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01:11:52,720 --> 01:11:55,639
Speaker 3: do that, we cannot survive more secrecy of that. I'm

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Speaker 3: certain counseling is scheduled, and.

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Speaker 1: That is where we leave it.

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Speaker 3: John here og host, We're gonna get back to these stories,

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Speaker 3: but a quick three minute break from hows.

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Speaker 1: He's gooning the truth.

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Speaker 2: He's goooning the truth just right on the edge. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: just release it, put it out, you know. Kayla man

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Speaker 2: Campus says, Yeah, I think he's addicted. Yeah, he had

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Speaker 2: corn addiction and real thing A lot of men suffer

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Speaker 2: from it. Seems like he definitely is is that. And

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Speaker 2: you know, like I think corn is very you know,

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Speaker 2: popularized in U like just like I don't. I don't

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Speaker 2: think I think it is damaging for the brainy in

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01:12:44,720 --> 01:12:50,879
Speaker 2: like high doses, but low dose. Honestly, even in low doses,

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Speaker 2: I feel like I like, uh, I have gone back

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01:12:56,439 --> 01:13:00,799
Speaker 2: and forth with like corn usage, and generally I feel happier,

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Speaker 2: healthier and have better relationships with women when I'm not

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Speaker 2: watching it.

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Speaker 1: Who needs? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: But hey, you know, low doses is fine. I think maybe.

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Speaker 3: Samuel Donner, the anti Corn Just kidding, just kidding, we're playing.

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Speaker 1: Oh should we close out the episode?

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Speaker 3: Oh yes, yes, yes sir, but Sam that's all. That's

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Speaker 3: all all, she wrote. So if you love us, make

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Speaker 3: sure to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.