WEBVTT - 5 Mindfulness Practices for Stress Relief in Any Workplace & 5 Simple Habits to Improve Your Focus 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:01.440 So when I had to disconnect from that. It's like 0:00:01.440 --> 0:00:03.160 how we say, oh, my marriage is my purpose, and 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:04.559 then when you get divorced, you're like, oh, well, I 0:00:04.600 --> 0:00:07.440 don't have an identity anymore, or my job is my purpose. 0:00:07.520 --> 0:00:09.360 When you get kicked out of your job, you go, oh, 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:11.760 I don't have an identity anymore. That's what it felt like. 0:00:11.800 --> 0:00:14.000 It felt like a divorce or losing the job of 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:23.720 my dreams, which actually led me to find my real purpose. Morning. 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:27.639 Everybody is DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlomagne the guy. We 0:00:27.680 --> 0:00:29.680 are to Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:33.519 the building, absolutely, Jay Shatty. Welcome, Thank you for having me. 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:35.720 I'm so grateful to be here. Man. He's a very 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:38.519 familiar voice. Because you got the number one health and 0:00:38.560 --> 0:00:42.760 wellness podcast, Spiritual mindfulness podcast on Purpose. I've had the 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:44.880 pleasure of being a guest on it. You're a phenomenal guest. 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:47.040 I loved the episode with Kobe Bryant. I loved the 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:48.519 episode with Jada Pick. You got at a lot of 0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:50.879 great episodes. Yeah, it's I'm really grateful. We've got an 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:53.360 amazing community. They keep showing up and we've had some 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:55.160 phenomenal guests. I was just saying, you were one of 0:00:55.160 --> 0:00:57.319 our first guests and like the first three to six 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:58.920 months of the show, and it's brand new, so I'm 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:01.840 so grateful you did that. Then I really appreciate thank 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:03.200 you for having me. And I've been hearing a lot 0:01:03.200 --> 0:01:06.319 of people talk about meditation lately, and so you actually 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:10.000 help guide people through how to meditate, right, Yes, yeah, 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:12.119 So I spent three years living as a monk in 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:14.399 India and across Europe, and so I was trained in 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:17.520 how to meditate from monks who'd been practicing for decades, 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:20.880 and they were practicing ancient meditation techniques for thousands and 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:23.840 thousands of years. And so when I was trained in 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:27.280 that school, I felt this responsibility to want to share 0:01:27.319 --> 0:01:29.720 that with the world because it changed my life. And 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:32.000 I'm just an average kid born and raised in London, 0:01:32.240 --> 0:01:33.720 and I thought, well, if it can help me, then 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:36.160 I'm sure it can help a lot of people. Would 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:39.160 lead the young man want to be a monk. Trust me, 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:40.760 I did not grow up wanting to be a monk. 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:42.800 And if someone if someone told me that I was 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:44.320 going to grow up and become a monk, I probably 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:45.880 would have thrown a beer bottle at them that I 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:48.080 would have been holding. But I was born and raised 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:51.080 in London, and I would go in my teens to 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:54.600 go and hear from people who'd gone from nothing to something. 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.240 So I was fascinated by rags to riches stories. I'd 0:01:57.280 --> 0:02:01.320 go and hear CEO's entrepreneurs, athletes, celebrities. And this is 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:04.120 before podcasts and YouTube, so you actually had to go 0:02:04.160 --> 0:02:06.840 to events. And so I'd go to these events. And 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:09.200 once my friends told me that a monk was speaking, 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:11.800 and I was skeptical. I was like, what am I 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:14.920 going to learn from someone who's gone from nothing to nothing? Like, 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:17.240 you know, what are they going to teach me? And 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:19.399 so I said to my friends, I'd only go if 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:22.320 we go to a bar afterwards. I was eighteen years old, 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:26.000 and they were being very persuasive, so they agreed. So 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:29.560 I end up at this event at my university waiting 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:31.400 to hear this monk speak. I go there, I'm looking 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:35.280 at the clock, like just waiting to leave, and I 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:38.320 was just mesmerized. And I don't mean that in like 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:40.200 a spiritual experience, where I just mean like I was 0:02:40.240 --> 0:02:43.079 captivated by every word that he said and there was 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:46.959 nothing externally attractive about him. He was wearing robes, he 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:49.960 was from India, he wasn't connected to me in any 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:52.920 other way. But he spoke about service, and he spoke 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:56.280 about purpose, and he spoke about how serving others and 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:59.040 helping others with your skills and your strengths is the 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:01.160 greatest thing you can do. My eighteen year old self 0:03:01.280 --> 0:03:05.160 was just completely penetrated my heart and I was just like, 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:07.519 that's what I want. And now when I look back, 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:10.720 I realized that when I was eighteen, I'd met people 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:12.959 who were rich. I've met people who were famous, and 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:16.040 met people who are beautiful and strong, but I don't 0:03:16.080 --> 0:03:18.640 think i'd met anyone who is truly happy. And that 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:20.560 day I felt like I met someone who was truly 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:22.799 happy and that you just felt that energy in the 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:27.399 space of being a monk. So the process is you 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:29.400 wake up at four am every day, and what is 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:32.880 a monk? Okay, but I don't so a monk is 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:38.360 someone who dedicates themselves to a particular spiritual tradition and 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:41.720 you genuinely practice celibacy during the time that you're a monk, 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:44.800 But beyond that, you're waking up every day four am 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:47.280 meditating for four to eight hours a day, So the 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:50.920 morning meditation finishes about eight thirty, then you get some breakfast, 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:53.080 then you do your daily chores, and then the rest 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:54.880 of the day we were out serving. So we were 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:59.240 serving food to the homeless, building sustainable villages, helping out 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:01.280 in schools and this is all out in India, so 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:03.520 a lot of the philanthropy work as well. So the 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:07.160 morning was about self mastery and the afternoon was about 0:04:07.160 --> 0:04:09.240 serving others. And so that's kind of like the rough 0:04:09.560 --> 0:04:12.080 framework of what a day looks like. You know, you 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:14.040 said you wanted to be a monk because it led 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:15.760 you to public service. I feel like that's our true 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:17.880 purpose in life, service to others. Yes, you can do 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:19.760 that without being a monk. So what made you want 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:23.040 to go full fledge and be a monk? Absolutely? And 0:04:23.080 --> 0:04:26.880 I think the truth is that I didn't see anyone 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:30.240 living a life of service at that time who wasn't 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:33.480 living from a spiritual place. It just wasn't as common. 0:04:33.520 --> 0:04:36.200 And now I feel so happy that this conversation is 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:38.800 happening in the mainstream. But when I was eighteen, that's 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:41.920 you know, roughly like sixteen seventeen years ago. That wasn't there. 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:44.640 You didn't see that. You saw the Forbes Rich List, 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:47.279 you saw that list. You didn't really see a service 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:50.440 list or a purpose list. And I think that's changing. 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:54.320 But it was also the idea that the self mastery 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:57.520 part was you're actually going to work on purifying your ego. 0:04:58.080 --> 0:05:00.760 You're actually going to work on your own mind, so 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:02.000 you're not just going to go out there and try 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:04.160 and help other people, but you're actually going to deal 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:06.680 with everything that's going on in here. And I think 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:09.760 that attracted me that, Wow, I'm going to get X 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:13.159 amount of time every day to figure out the mess 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:16.000 that's in here? When am I ever going to get 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:17.600 that time again? Like? Who's going to give you to 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:18.920 do it? Like? You know, because if you want to 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:20.320 be if you want to join the army, you can 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:21.440 enlist in the army. If you want to be a 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:23.560 police officer, you can fill out that application if you 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:25.560 want to be there. So where do you go to 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:29.320 be a monk? So there are lots of different monks schools, 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:32.800 if I can use that word, across the world. There's Tibet, 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:35.440 there's India, there's you know, there's multiple ones. And I've 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:39.279 visited many of them. I think it's about finding. As always, 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:41.919 it is a teacher, a guide that you connect with. 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:44.520 And so for me, I speak about this gentleman Garangadas 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:47.200 in my book. He was the monk that I felt 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:50.320 an affection and affinity with, and so I wanted to 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:52.719 study in his school. And so when I was part 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:56.080 of his institution two hours outside of Mumbai in India, 0:05:56.279 --> 0:06:00.120 in that space, they had they had a system what 0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:01.840 you have to practice, what you have to process why. 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:04.720 So for example, a big part of it was, you know, 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:09.080 practicing silence. And when you practice silence, people think, oh, 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:12.919 that sounds terrible, and it does for like seven days, 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:15.800 and then after that you stop worrying about all the 0:06:15.839 --> 0:06:18.400 noise outside. You start hearing the noise inside, and then 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.400 you go deeper and deeper and deeper. A part of 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:23.560 it was practicing fasting, right, we were practicing fasting for 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:26.279 since control and being able to master the tongue and 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:29.320 master the desire to eat and talk. And so there's 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:32.240 so many practices and methods that were set up, and 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:34.760 service was a big part of it to help us 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:37.680 actually grow as humans. And I really feel that those 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:40.599 three years a monk school have massively impacted how I 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:43.000 lived that life now and I left nine years ago, 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:44.680 so it's been a fair amount of time. Once you're 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:46.520 out of school, what was the first thing you did? Like? 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:49.200 What do you how do you apply for positions? What 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:51.240 did you do after three years? After three years as 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:53.760 being a monk? So I thought I was going to 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:56.839 do it for the rest of my life, and after 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:58.960 three years it almost felt like a failure, Like I 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.760 felt like I messed up because all of that self 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:04.479 awareness led me to the feeling that I wasn't meant 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:06.919 to be a monk, that I wasn't actually qualified to 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:09.680 live the life of a monk. I realized that monk 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:14.680 life required a certain sense of letting go of the 0:07:14.720 --> 0:07:17.640 rebellious nature that I had inside of me, and also 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:19.840 that this calling and desire I had in my heart 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:22.400 to want to share this wisdom and message in a 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:25.200 certain way. I always when I learned about all these 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:27.880 ancient teachings and scriptures, I was like, how cool would 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:30.160 it be if we could share that in a modern, relevant, 0:07:30.160 --> 0:07:32.520 practical way for the people that I grew up with, 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:35.360 who maybe wouldn't do this, who wouldn't go as far 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:37.360 as I did, and So when I shared that with 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:39.560 the monks, they said, you know, they were like, yeah, 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:41.280 you know, we agree that we think you might be 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:43.000 able to help people more if you left. I think 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:44.840 they were like saying, yeah, it's cool, leave get out 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:48.800 of it. But they encouraged it, and for me moving 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:52.000 on as was actually really difficult. So when I left, 0:07:52.000 --> 0:07:54.520 the first thing I did was come back start listening 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:59.440 to Drake. Yeah, I did that first thing. Ate a 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:01.160 lot of chalk that I had any and for three 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:03.720 years I went back into all my old bad habits 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:05.400 for the first month that I was back, and moved 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:08.120 back with my parents twenty six years old, because I 0:08:08.160 --> 0:08:10.520 felt like I'd failed and I was losing this life 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:13.920 I'd committed to in Yeah, I was in debt twenty 0:08:13.960 --> 0:08:17.600 five thousand dollars in debt eighteen thousand pounds. School no no, 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:20.200 no no no from my university days, like going to college. 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.440 I've gone to college before. Yeah, what did your parents 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:24.880 think about you going to monk school and then coming 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.920 back home? So when I first told them, my mom 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:30.320 was like, where did we go wrong? Right? You know, like, 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:33.200 what do we do wrong? And luckily my you know, 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:36.640 my parents are very forward thinking and they supported me 0:08:36.679 --> 0:08:38.760 because they could see my heart was in it. And 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:40.719 I can't really you know, I can't really blame them. 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:42.880 They did a great job and they were really, really supportive. 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:44.760 But my extended family was like, you're never going to 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:47.440 get a job again. You've been brainwashed, You're never going 0:08:47.480 --> 0:08:49.520 to make money again, You're never going to be you know, 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:53.720 all that noise from society basically saying you've just committed 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:56.480 career suicide, and what are you going to do when 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.800 it doesn't work out? So when it didn't work out, 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:02.560 I almost like I had made what they were saying true, 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.080 and so I kind of came with a lot of 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:07.680 pain and a lot of stress and pressure thinking all 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:10.160 these people were right and maybe I was wrong. You know, 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:12.800 it's only interesting, man, it's I mean, it's you became 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:15.840 a monk because you felt like it gave you a 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:18.680 sense of purpose, Yes, But then as you were being 0:09:18.720 --> 0:09:20.880 a monk, you felt like you might have been suppressing 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:23.240 your purpose. You felt like something it was bigger out there. 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:25.839 So that's got to be psychologically. That's a great observation. 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:28.520 That is a great You phrased it way better than 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:30.560 I did. That is a great observation, and that's a 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:33.640 psychological mind mess because you're like, wait, this is And 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:37.720 that's when I realized that your purpose is not what 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:42.120 you wear, where you live, what you think everyone thinks 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:45.120 of you. Because to some degree, I'd become attached to 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:47.760 living as a monk and that becoming my purpose. So 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:49.280 when I had to disconnect from that, It's like how 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:51.280 we say, oh, my marriage is my purpose, and then 0:09:51.280 --> 0:09:52.760 when you get divorced, you're like, oh, well, I don't 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:55.439 have an identity anymore, or my job is my purpose. 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:57.760 When you get kicked out of your job, you go, oh, 0:09:57.800 --> 0:10:00.440 I don't have an identity anymore. That's what it felt like. 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:03.000 It felt like a divorce or losing the job of 0:10:03.080 --> 0:10:06.200 my dreams, which actually led me to find my real purpose, 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:07.960 which is what I get to do today. So when 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:09.800 did you get out of that depression that you were in. 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:12.360 I think it took and it was like I wouldn't 0:10:12.360 --> 0:10:14.920 even accept the word. I was in massive denial, Like 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:16.880 I didn't even want to say the word to myself 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:19.040 because I was so scared that if I said it 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:22.240 that that would make it worse. Yeah. Yeah, at the time, 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:24.240 And then I realized I was thinking. I think I 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:26.680 was in that space for about ten months. Wow, And 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:29.080 it was I came back out and I was trying 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:31.400 to practice all the principles I learned as a monk again. 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:34.200 And that's when I realized that I'd actually been trained 0:10:34.200 --> 0:10:36.360 in all the principles I needed to get out of 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:39.280 this space, but I was ignoring them and avoiding them 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:41.199 and going back to my old habits. So I started 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:45.240 waking up again, meditating every day again, reading the scripture again, 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:49.160 studying again, working hard again, putting in those same routines 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:51.040 that I had as a monk. And that's when I 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:52.840 started to feel like I was getting out of it again. 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:55.400 And what was the voice that you heard? I told 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:57.319 you this is what you should do. Is it the 0:10:57.360 --> 0:10:59.640 direction you should go in? I feel like I had 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:02.000 it even when I was there where it was just like, 0:11:02.440 --> 0:11:06.000 there are people who will never ever think And this 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:07.959 is why I love what you all do and what 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:11.400 you've done with your work, is there are people that 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:13.840 will never ever think about their mental health, their mental 0:11:13.880 --> 0:11:17.760 world being about the word meditation or mindfulness because it 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:20.560 wasn't part of their upbringing. It wasn't a word that 0:11:20.559 --> 0:11:23.559 they heard, same as me, and if I can help 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:27.960 make that accessible and relevant and practical and simple for 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:31.080 that person, then my life's going to feel like a success. 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:34.200 And so I just started to share it with everyone. 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:36.240 So now I came back. My friends were all working, 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:39.679 they were making money, they were buying homes, they had 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:42.360 nice cars, maybe they were in a relationship, but a 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:44.280 lot of them were stressed. They were working in big 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:47.679 city jobs, but they were burnt out. And so they 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:49.719 started coming to me for advice. And this is back 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:52.280 in twenty thirteen, twenty fourteen, and they were saying, which 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:54.480 you learned about mindfulness and meditation, can you help us 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:57.400 with our stress? And so very naturally I started working 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:01.160 with people inside big corporate organizations because that was my background, 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.640 and so now I was seeing that impact on these people. 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:05.839 And so I was speaking at companies, working with people, 0:12:05.920 --> 0:12:08.920 coaching people. And then finally I took a corporate job 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:13.520 back to understand what the setup was like. And my 0:12:13.760 --> 0:12:16.959 executive that was my lead, she discovered that I learned meditation, 0:12:17.520 --> 0:12:19.480 so she put me on in front of all my 0:12:19.600 --> 0:12:22.920 peers to teach meditation to a thousand people at our 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:25.520 company event. This is before any of my online work 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:29.160 and I'm stressing out because I'm no one. They're like, 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:30.920 this is one of our guys, where he's our peer. 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:33.080 What are we going to learn from him? And it 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:36.200 was just a beautiful experience where everyone appreciated it, and 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:39.080 so I got to see how this work could be 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:43.080 practical with people from all different backgrounds and walks of life. 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:46.760 Meditation is a game change. Could you tell people just 0:12:46.880 --> 0:12:50.280 some of the benefits of meditation, Yeah, I mean meditation 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:52.360 as a ton of benefits. Some of my favorites are that, 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:55.640 of course, it boosts your mood, boost your immune system. 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:58.880 One of the most interesting parts about meditation that people 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:04.760 don't obviously realize is our life is completely infiltrated by dopamine. Right, 0:13:04.960 --> 0:13:07.800 whether it's our phones, whether it's money, whether it's purchases, 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:11.680 whether it's instant buying. Dopamine is that constantly being released. 0:13:12.040 --> 0:13:16.720 A meditation helps us balance because it creates serotonin and oxytocin. 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:19.240 So those are the three chemicals that your brain needs 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:21.880 to balance, and meditation is one of the key things 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:24.880 that actually brings about the other two. It helps with 0:13:25.200 --> 0:13:27.439 making sure that your brain's in sync. It makes sure 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:30.040 that you sleep better. I mean meditation benefits go on 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:32.840 and on and on of course with anxiety, stress and pressure. 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.640 But to me, that balancing of the chemicals we need 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:37.439 is it's probably one of the most powerful. And you know, 0:13:37.480 --> 0:13:40.360 it's very hard to like find that stillness and that 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:43.600 that silence, you know, on your own. I tried it 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:46.840 for years and couldn't grasp the concept until like like 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:50.960 December of twenty twenty. But you helped with the Calm 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:54.400 at Yeah. So I literally just two days ago we 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:58.000 launched the Daily Jay only on Calm and it's a 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:01.959 daily meditation for seven minutes that I truly believe is 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:03.960 going to be a meditation that each and every person 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:06.600 on the planet can tune into and start their practice. 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:08.360 And the goal of it was to make it as 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:10.760 simple so that you can actually practice it while you're 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:13.480 folding your laundry, while you're doing your dishes, while you're 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:15.880 making your bed. The goal was, how can we bring 0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:19.720 meditation into people's lives rather than saying, take out time 0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:21.640 out of your day to do this. And so we 0:14:21.680 --> 0:14:24.440 build this program and it's exciting. I'm really excited that 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:26.000 it's out there. So, what are some things we should 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:28.720 know about breathing when it comes to meditation, you know what. 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:33.280 I was just speaking to Chris at security and he 0:14:33.360 --> 0:14:34.920 came up to me and he was saying how when 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:38.080 he was in the Army they learned box breathing, and 0:14:38.120 --> 0:14:40.600 I was saying, that's fascinating, as I learned that when 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:43.120 I was a monk, and so what I loved was 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:45.800 that in both senses. He was saying that actually to 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:48.400 fire a gun, they had to learn how to breathe. 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:51.120 And you do think about breath that way. And so 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:53.200 when I hear someone like him, a military man telling 0:14:53.240 --> 0:14:55.560 me that, I love hearing that because it helps us understand. 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:58.680 Athletes have to learn how to breathe. Musicians, singers all 0:14:58.720 --> 0:15:02.120 have to learn how to breathe. And so the importance 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:04.800 of breath came to me when on my first day 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:06.560 when I went to learn to be a monk, I 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:09.320 saw a ten year old monk teaching like five to 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:11.480 six year old monks. And India, they start really young 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:13.920 and they look adorable. Right, You've got these little monks 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:16.080 being taught by his ten year old monk, and I'm 0:15:16.080 --> 0:15:19.280 watching them, and when he finishes the class, I was 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:21.520 like fascinating. I was like, what did you teach them 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:24.920 and he said, I taught them how to breathe. I 0:15:25.000 --> 0:15:26.040 was like, what do you mean. He was like, that's 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:27.640 their first day of school. He said, what did you 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:29.680 learn in London? And I was like, I learned the 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.760 ABC's one two threes. And I was like, why do 0:15:32.800 --> 0:15:34.400 you teach him how to breathe? And he said, well, 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:36.720 what's the one thing that stays with you from the 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:39.640 moment you're born to the moment you die. He's like 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:42.600 your breath. And he said, when you're happy, what changes 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:46.360 your breath? When you're sad or you're crying, what changes 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:51.120 your breath. Every single emotion in your life is connected 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:53.840 to your breath. So if you learn how to navigate 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:56.080 your breath, you know how to navigate life. Bear in 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:59.280 mind is a ten year old and I'm just blown away, thinking, Wow, 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:01.000 I'm learning less since from a ten year old. This 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:03.560 is beautiful. And so the power of our breath is 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:06.200 that it really is. If you see yourself when you're nervous, 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:09.800 your breath gets shallower, it gets faster, and if you 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:12.240 know that that's all that's happening, and you can slow 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:15.400 it down, then you can change how you feel in 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:18.160 the moment. Just through your breath. I wonder with COVID 0:16:18.200 --> 0:16:20.320 because a lot of that affected a lot of people 0:16:20.360 --> 0:16:24.560 and they're breathing who contracted it. So have you seen 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:26.720 things like with people talking to you about that when 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:29.440 it comes to some of the effects of COVID. Yeah, 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:32.880 I mean that's been really interesting to hear. I've had 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:35.040 so many people talk to me about long COVID or 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:39.320 them having breath challenges or breathing challenges after COVID, and 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:42.680 I see those people practicing breathwork. I don't think there's 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:44.840 been enough time to see whether it can help that. 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:47.720 I believe it will, but I don't want to claim 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:49.960 anything because I haven't There hasn't been enough studies. We 0:16:50.000 --> 0:16:53.320 haven't seen it for long enough. But breathwork is something 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:55.600 we all need. I think we all have days. Even 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:58.080 our language, right, we say things like I'm out of breath, 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.680 let me take a breath, like you take my breath away, 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:05.040 like these are all breath related, whether it's positive or negative. 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:08.400 So I do believe that whatever challenges we have in life, 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:11.560 learning to breathe is probably the best skill we can learn. 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:14.399 What is meditation? Right, And the reason I'm asking is 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:17.000 like Charlemagne said, it took him a while to get it. Yeah. 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:19.720 So for people out there, what is getting meditation? What 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:21.359 should they be feeling? What should they be seeing? What 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:23.920 should they be doing? What should they you know, should 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:25.800 they be sitting in the corner, should they be you know, 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:29.040 criss cross apple cross apple sauce. So they have their 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:32.040 hands up like, what is it? Yes, so no, it's 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:33.880 a great question. It's a great question. I think it's 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:35.440 so important. I think the first thing I'd like to 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:39.560 say is that meditation is making time to spend with yourself, 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:42.040 as simple as that. Right. You make time to check 0:17:42.119 --> 0:17:44.280 him with your friends, your family, your partners, your kids. 0:17:44.480 --> 0:17:46.240 When was the last time you checked him with yourself. 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:48.040 Some people to say I meditate when I drive because 0:17:48.040 --> 0:17:50.320 I'm just driving, And that's a great example as they 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:52.560 go off no phone, And that's a great example. And 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:54.880 I actually agree with you. I love thinking about life 0:17:54.880 --> 0:17:57.320 when I'm driving and talking to myself and figuring things out. 0:17:57.840 --> 0:17:59.920 That is a form of meditation. That is a big 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:03.200 getting step towards meditation. Now, when you start getting into 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:06.400 meditation as a tool, it goes beyond that because now 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:09.280 you're bringing your awareness to three different types of things 0:18:09.320 --> 0:18:11.480 in the way I was trained. So you have breathwork, 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:13.840 which we just talked about. When you're focusing on your breath, 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:18.080 you're learning to navigate your emotions. Second one is visualization. 0:18:18.440 --> 0:18:21.240