Speaker 1: Jules Second date Update. A listener named Rick is on
Speaker 1: the phone to do a second date update today, and
Speaker 1: he already knows that the girl he wants to call
Speaker 1: is not interested in going out with him romantically ever again.
Speaker 1: Oh so this is going to end? Well, yeah, why
Speaker 1: are we doing because she texted in that and let
Speaker 1: him know that she doesn't want to go out, but
Speaker 1: he still wants to do a second date update. We'll
Speaker 1: get to what she texted in just a second. But Rick,
Speaker 1: why not just give up the fight? Man? I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like there was some I don't know, just
Speaker 1: some unfortunate things that happened on the first date that
Speaker 1: really aren't an indicator of whether or not we should
Speaker 1: be together. Okay, listen, some people can't take a hint
Speaker 1: that's not a hint, that is very direct. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I need a second chance. I want to convince his
Speaker 1: girl that she should go out with me. We had
Speaker 1: a nice time and she was really, really hot, so
Speaker 1: I just wanted to see her again. I love that.
Speaker 1: That's always the first thing that guy says. Well, I
Speaker 1: mean that's you know, we didn't spend that much time together.
Speaker 1: You know, I didn't get to know her that well,
Speaker 1: all right, Well, tell us a little bit about her.
Speaker 1: What's her name? Her name's Kelly, Kelly, and where did
Speaker 1: you meet Kelly? We met online? Okay, She's really beautiful
Speaker 1: and it seemed like from her profile, as far as
Speaker 1: I could tell, she was a really social girl, had
Speaker 1: lots of friends. And we went back and forth for
Speaker 1: about a week and a half just texting each other,
Speaker 1: and we decided to meet up. We got some drinks
Speaker 1: and she said that it was her first time meeting
Speaker 1: up with somebody from online, which I don't know. I
Speaker 1: kind of didn't buy. Oh you think she's lying about it? Well, no,
Speaker 1: I just think that that's something that everybody says when
Speaker 1: they're meeting up with someone for the first time. Nobody
Speaker 1: likes to admit that they're online dating. Like, man, I've
Speaker 1: been on this site for three years now, I still
Speaker 1: can't make anything work. Yeah, all right, So she told
Speaker 1: you was her first time dating. But how did everything
Speaker 1: go with you two? Like? Why do you think she
Speaker 1: doesn't want to go out with you again? Well, I
Speaker 1: don't know. There were just a couple of moments that
Speaker 1: were just kind of unfortunate. Like I made it a
Speaker 1: joke that she did not get and I don't know,
Speaker 1: I have a pretty right sense of humor. And wait,
Speaker 1: she didn't get the joke or she didn't like the joke.
Speaker 1: Those are two different things. She didn't get the joke. Okay,
Speaker 1: what was the joke. We were having a great conversation,
Speaker 1: We were laughing, going back and forth, and I just said, God,
Speaker 1: this is great. I think we should go ahead and
Speaker 1: make it official. Don't you Oh really dead pan? That's
Speaker 1: not very funny. Yeah, so she didn't laugh at that joke. Huh. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: she didn't think it was very funny. And I told
Speaker 1: her that I was joking, and she kind of laughed
Speaker 1: it off. And oh my god, she probably thinks you're
Speaker 1: lying about the joking line, and you think that she's
Speaker 1: lying about never online dating. You guys, are really or
Speaker 1: a couple of liars were made. Yeah, surprises didn't work out.
Speaker 1: Did you recover from that joke or was it awkward
Speaker 1: the rest of the night after you said that? I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, she she kind of chuckled after I said
Speaker 1: I was joking, and she shrugged it off, and we
Speaker 1: continue to have an okay evening, and then she went
Speaker 1: to the bathroom and Yeah, we were kind of getting
Speaker 1: ready to say good night, and she came back and
Speaker 1: I paid the bill and she said, this is kind
Speaker 1: of embarrassing, but she said, She's like, I don't know
Speaker 1: if you know this, but your shirts inside out and
Speaker 1: that's awesome. She was. She was right. My shirt was
Speaker 1: totally inside out. I don't know how no, wait, to
Speaker 1: be fair, was it a T shirt or a button up?
Speaker 1: It was a T shirt, so you had your shirt
Speaker 1: inside out the whole time, and then you made an
Speaker 1: awkward joke about YouTube making things official like thirty minutes
Speaker 1: into your date. Yeah. So this is why I'm saying
Speaker 1: I think I deserve another chance, because there were a
Speaker 1: few hiccups that could have been avoided. And you know,
Speaker 1: come on, I just don't think that those two things
Speaker 1: weren't a I never want to see you again text message. Well, actually,
Speaker 1: she didn't say out right that she didn't want to
Speaker 1: see me again. Like, you know, we second night that night,
Speaker 1: and we text back and forth for about a week,
Speaker 1: and I don't know, I just felt like she was
Speaker 1: kind of keeping me at arm's length, you know, like
Speaker 1: she wasn't really giving me an opening to, you know,
Speaker 1: ask her out again. And then I finally did just outright,
Speaker 1: and she said, you know, I think maybe we'd be
Speaker 1: better off as just friends, like a real nail in
Speaker 1: the cop. Have you guys talked since that text where
Speaker 1: she just said let's be friends? Well I responded saying, really,
Speaker 1: you know why, let's let's just let's grab some dinner.
Speaker 1: And she didn't respond to that, so, well, that's not
Speaker 1: a good friendly. I always feel like when people send
Speaker 1: that text message, it usually means that they're just not
Speaker 1: attracted to you in that way. Then maybe everything else
Speaker 1: is great about you, but they just have no sexual
Speaker 1: attraction towards you. Yeah. Maybe I mean someone who's gutsy
Speaker 1: enough to tell me my shirts inside out, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. She could have left that slide. She
Speaker 1: didn't have to tell me that. Yeah, you know, you
Speaker 1: think she'd give you just a straight up answer on
Speaker 1: what's wrong with you? Yeah, exactly, which is nothing. Oh
Speaker 1: I like that? All right, Yeah, well we'll see if
Speaker 1: that's true. We'll play a song, come back, call her
Speaker 1: and get your second date update. Okay, all right, all right,
Speaker 1: hold on Rock and jubil in the morning. All right,
Speaker 1: if you're just tuning in for today's second date update.
Speaker 1: Rick is on the phone and he wants to call
Speaker 1: a girl named Kelly. We talked to him about his
Speaker 1: first date and it sounded kind of like a disaster.
Speaker 1: But Rick, I think, actually you got something way better
Speaker 1: than getting another date with this girl. What's that You
Speaker 1: made a friend? That's right, Rick made himself a friend.
Speaker 1: Because after their date, they were texting back and forth
Speaker 1: a little bit and one of her texts said, you
Speaker 1: know what, I think we're better off his friends. And
Speaker 1: that's the last time she's talked to him. So she's
Speaker 1: not really a good friend that you keep in touch
Speaker 1: with a lot. But she is a new friend, and
Speaker 1: I think you should just rejoice in that. Rick, I
Speaker 1: think that's a no from Recca. I don't think he's
Speaker 1: excited for some reason. Yeah, I got plenty of friends, really,
Speaker 1: just like a second date. Okay, And were you really
Speaker 1: into her at the end of your first day or
Speaker 1: is this one of those want what you can't have
Speaker 1: type of situations? No, she's great. I really would like
Speaker 1: to see her again. Okay, that's the truth. Okay, And
Speaker 1: just to recap, there was an awkward moment on the
Speaker 1: date when he made a joke that they should make
Speaker 1: things official. She didn't get the joke, so he thinks
Speaker 1: that could be a reason number one why she just
Speaker 1: wants to be friends with him. And then he also
Speaker 1: was wearing his shirt inside out the whole time, and
Speaker 1: she waited until the date was over to tell him that,
Speaker 1: So that's another reason that he thinks she doesn't want
Speaker 1: to go out with him again. All right, Rick, I'm
Speaker 1: about to dollar phone number. Here we go. Okay, thank you. Hello, Hi,
Speaker 1: I was looking for Kelly. Yeah, Hi, this is Kelly. Hey, Kelly,
Speaker 1: how are you. This is jew Bil from Brook and
Speaker 1: Jewel in the Morning. Hi. Are you familiar with the show?
Speaker 1: The show? Oh you sounded like you knew who it was,
Speaker 1: Brook and Jewel in the Morning. It's a radio show.
Speaker 1: This is the radio show. Yeah. I don't think it's
Speaker 1: who you thought was calling. No. The reason that I'm
Speaker 1: calling you is because one of our listeners actually emailed
Speaker 1: us and asked if we could get you on the phone. Okay,
Speaker 1: his name is Rick, Rick, and Rick's kind of a
Speaker 1: friend of yours, like a new friend. You guys went
Speaker 1: out on a date together. Oh my god, Rick, Yeah,
Speaker 1: my god. We do a segment on our show called
Speaker 1: the second date update. It's where if somebody goes out
Speaker 1: on a date with somebody and then gets blown off,
Speaker 1: they email us to see if we can get that
Speaker 1: person on the phone and ask what went wrong. So Rick,
Speaker 1: he emails you, guys. Yeah, and he's curious why you
Speaker 1: don't want to go out with him again. I already
Speaker 1: told him we could be friends. I don't Yeah, he
Speaker 1: did tell us that, but he's curious why he's being
Speaker 1: put in the friend zone right away, because he would
Speaker 1: love to go out on an actual date with you again.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, And you know that friend thing was
Speaker 1: a lie because, according to him, you haven't texted him
Speaker 1: again after wanting to be friends. Well, yeah, so can
Speaker 1: you tell us why you don't want to go out
Speaker 1: with him again? You know, I was so hesitant to
Speaker 1: do online dating because one I liked meeting people the
Speaker 1: old fashioned way. But my friends were like, no, it's
Speaker 1: so much fun, you have to do it. But they
Speaker 1: all had horror stories of how everybody lied on their profile. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've never heard anyone say it's so much fun. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so you gave in and did it and you met Rick.
Speaker 1: Did he lie about his profile? Is that what you're
Speaker 1: getting to. Yeah, he is a liar. WHOA what did
Speaker 1: he lie about? Did he look different? No, he looked
Speaker 1: exactly like his photos. That look nice, he looked he
Speaker 1: represented himself the same in the those Okay, it was
Speaker 1: like everything else in the profile kind of seems like
Speaker 1: a lie. So was he like an entrepreneur? But it
Speaker 1: turns out he lives in his mom's basement or something
Speaker 1: kind of similar. I'm a very active person. And what
Speaker 1: really drew me to his profile was his interests. He
Speaker 1: said he loved hiking, he loves rock climbing, snowboarding, and photography,
Speaker 1: and these are all things I am very passionate about.
Speaker 1: I was hoping to meet somebody where we had similar interests,
Speaker 1: that we could do these things together. Right, that's a
Speaker 1: pretty sexy profile. I'm not gonna lie. I would be
Speaker 1: turned on by those things too. Yeah. And when the
Speaker 1: conversation happened and I would bring up, like I talked
Speaker 1: about going snowboarding once you hear with my family and
Speaker 1: something I look forward to every year, and I take
Speaker 1: my snowboarding very seriously. And he had nothing to say
Speaker 1: about snowboarding. Well, maybe he just didn't have anything to
Speaker 1: add into the conversation. That doesn't mean he doesn't board.
Speaker 1: But then I brought up hiking because his profile says
Speaker 1: I love hiking all caps, I love hiking, all right,
Speaker 1: And I said, hey, when's the last time you went hiking?
Speaker 1: And he just threw up his hands in the air
Speaker 1: and shrugged his shoulders and said, I don't know. And
Speaker 1: you said it was in all caps on his profile
Speaker 1: that he loves psychic caps aclamation point, all right, it's
Speaker 1: such a weird thing to lie about. Well, that's like
Speaker 1: the basic thing to say, right, I love hiking, I
Speaker 1: love outdoors. Yeah, if you want to seem like an
Speaker 1: outdoorsy type of person and just say you like to hike. Yes,
Speaker 1: It was just so strange. He had nothing to add
Speaker 1: about this, so I kept asking more questions about the
Speaker 1: rock climbing and mountains he liked, and he would just
Speaker 1: stare at me with like a blank stare. And then
Speaker 1: I talked about photography and asked him what's his favorite camera.
Speaker 1: He said, I don't know. I just used my phone
Speaker 1: super passionate obviously. Yeah, So I have no idea what's
Speaker 1: going on with his profile If he just copied somebody
Speaker 1: else's or or if he thought it was good date
Speaker 1: to get women to respond to his profile. Yeah, it
Speaker 1: seemed like adventure dude. Yeah, I don't know. It was
Speaker 1: just so bizarre, like such a weird thing to lie about. Well,
Speaker 1: this is gonna be a good experience for you too,
Speaker 1: because he's actually on the other line listening, and we'd
Speaker 1: like to talk to you about his interests. Yeah, he's
Speaker 1: actually on the other line. He's on the other line. Yeah,
Speaker 1: hey Kelly, Hey, Um wow, big misunderstanding here. Um yeah,
Speaker 1: that's it's one white word it So you've heard everything
Speaker 1: everything I said was true? Right? Can you playing why
Speaker 1: you put all those things on your profile? Well? I
Speaker 1: put them on my profile because I'm interested in them.
Speaker 1: But it doesn't sound like you do any of them.
Speaker 1: Well no, I mean not as much as I would
Speaker 1: like to. But you know, I worked sixty hours a week.
Speaker 1: I'm you know, I don't I worked really hard. And yeah,
Speaker 1: the last time I went hiking was well over a
Speaker 1: year ago with some friends and I had a great time.
Speaker 1: But I don't, you know, I don't have the opportunity
Speaker 1: to go with them every time that they go. Ri
Speaker 1: You said you never went snowboarding, and then your profile
Speaker 1: said it's a passion of yours. I mean, I guess
Speaker 1: passion is a little strongly worded, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think it's really cool. You know, watched YouTube videos
Speaker 1: and so there you go, Kelly, he is passionate about it.
Speaker 1: He's watching YouTube videos of snowboarding. See what I mean
Speaker 1: this is it's a liar, I mean, Rick, I can't
Speaker 1: believe that this is the first time this has been
Speaker 1: an issue for you in all of your online dating experience. Like,
Speaker 1: no one else has brought up the fact that you
Speaker 1: say you love snowboarding, and I've never actually gone well, no,
Speaker 1: because most girls are just interested in talking about themselves.
Speaker 1: You know, Rick, I'm not like that. I enjoyed talking
Speaker 1: to the other person. I enjoy getting to know somebody else.
Speaker 1: So I think you owe it to other women you're
Speaker 1: going to be dating to represent yourself accurately. I think
Speaker 1: you should change your profile that you like Netflix. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there you go, Rick, I'm passionate about watching snowboarding on YouTube.
Speaker 1: That would be a better way to put it, But
Speaker 1: I'm not going to change my profile. I said that
Speaker 1: I love snowboarding because I love snowboarding and I love hiking. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't go every day or every week, but every time,
Speaker 1: every time I've done it, I really enjoy it. So yeah,
Speaker 1: it's an interest. I'm gonna I'm not going to say
Speaker 1: on my profile that I'm interested in out your bra
Speaker 1: which is what I do every day. I mean, like,
Speaker 1: but I think you're not giving people a chance to
Speaker 1: get to know the real Rick. I mean, I understand
Speaker 1: that there's a lot of pressure when you fill out
Speaker 1: those dating profiles to sound like a really cool person,
Speaker 1: and sometimes when you put yourself on paper, you realize
Speaker 1: how boring you are. But there's got to be something
Speaker 1: that you're passionate about that other people are passionate about too.
Speaker 1: But does being passionate about something mean that you have
Speaker 1: to do it, like, well, yes, I think yeah, yeah
Speaker 1: at all, Like, at least you should try it once.
Speaker 1: If you're passionate about it, you can't say you're passionate
Speaker 1: about it and have never done it. Okay, Okay, come
Speaker 1: off liars, Okay, Kelly, I think Okay, I get what
Speaker 1: you're saying, but I think that calling me a liar
Speaker 1: is a little harsh, don't you think. I mean, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: maybe I do need to try something before I say
Speaker 1: that I'm passionate about it. I mean, maybe you could
Speaker 1: take me snowboarding. I would love that. Hey, there you go, Kelly,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out on a second date
Speaker 1: with We will pay for it, not the snowboarding, it's expensive,
Speaker 1: but like, we'll pay for you guys to go out
Speaker 1: and maybe set up a snowboarding date. You know, I'm
Speaker 1: a little hesitant because he lied, but I'm also very
Speaker 1: interested to see him on a snowboard. All right, So
Speaker 1: is that a yes? You will take Rick to experience
Speaker 1: his passion for the first time ever, and you guys
Speaker 1: are paying for this. We'll talk about the snowboard anything,
Speaker 1: but yeah, we'll get you out there. In that case,
Speaker 1: I would be honored. Oh my god, Rick is gonna
Speaker 1: hate it. The first day of snowboarding is like the
Speaker 1: worst day of your life. You will ever have a
Speaker 1: more hurt but ever, No, that's gonna be awesome. I'm
Speaker 1: really looking forward to getting out there and discovering more
Speaker 1: about my passion. I think everybody who does online dating
Speaker 1: learned a very valuable lesson today from the second date update,
Speaker 1: and that is lie on your profile as much as
Speaker 1: you want because it doesn't matter. You'll get another date anyway,
Speaker 1: you missed it. Rick wanted to call a girl named Kelly.
Speaker 1: They went out on a date they met online. It
Speaker 1: turns out that the reason she didn't want to go
Speaker 1: out with him again was because all of the things
Speaker 1: that he listed as interests on his profile he didn't
Speaker 1: know anything about, not at all. He said that snowboarding
Speaker 1: was a passion of his and he's never even been snowboarding.
Speaker 1: He's just seen videos on YouTube and thought he could
Speaker 1: list that as a passion. So she's like, he lied
Speaker 1: about everything, and I like when we called him, I
Speaker 1: mean when she had confronted him, he stuck to it.
Speaker 1: Like he didn't just say, you're right, I made it
Speaker 1: up to meet chicks. He said, no, it's still a passionate. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just to watch it and enjoy it. Anyway, they did
Speaker 1: decide to go out again, and maybe she can take
Speaker 1: him snowboarding some day. Yeah, we'll see how that one goes. Remember,
Speaker 1: if you want to do a second day up, they'll
Speaker 1: have to do his email the show and we will
Speaker 1: call the person who didn't call you back.