Speaker 1: Point five looking jubiles Second dat update. The email that
Speaker 1: we got in for today's second date update makes me
Speaker 1: really angry at the Internet. Since the Internet came about,
Speaker 1: it has made it impossible for cheaters. It really has
Speaker 1: like it is just ruined cheating. You know, you log
Speaker 1: on the Facebook and they see your relationship status. Even
Speaker 1: Ashley Madison, which is a website designed for cheaters, will
Speaker 1: get your information out at some point. Can't there just
Speaker 1: be one honest website for cheaters out there? It's just ridiculous.
Speaker 1: Explain why I say that in just a second. But
Speaker 1: first let's introduce you to today's second dater. Her name
Speaker 1: is Aaron. Aaron, how are you? I'm okay, how are
Speaker 1: you good? Thank you for your email. We'll get into
Speaker 1: the whole cheating thing in just a second. But you
Speaker 1: want to call a guy named Adam? Yeah? Okay? And
Speaker 1: how did you meet Adam? We actually met at a party.
Speaker 1: I was just chatting with some friends and he actually
Speaker 1: ended up coming up and he hadn't striped up a
Speaker 1: conversation and right in front of your friends. That's that's
Speaker 1: pretty ballsy movie. Yeah. I was pretty impressed. I thought, Okay,
Speaker 1: did you like elbow your friends out of the way, like, hey,
Speaker 1: it's time now my conversation, not yours. She's mine. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: he was really like fun about it. He was like,
Speaker 1: excuse me, ladies, this is a beautiful girl. I would
Speaker 1: love to chat with her, like steal her away for
Speaker 1: a second. That's really I know. I was really impressed.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, okay, had you been eyeing him
Speaker 1: all night too? No? No, I actually didn't see him
Speaker 1: prior to that, but once I did, I was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's cute. So what did you guys talk about? Um,
Speaker 1: we just chatted about like what we do for living.
Speaker 1: So your email said that you guys went out for dinner.
Speaker 1: How did that go? We again, had wonderful conversation, no laws,
Speaker 1: no awk moments. It was a Wednesday night, so we
Speaker 1: both have worked the next morning, so there's no like sleepover.
Speaker 1: And I'm not that kind of girl. I read your email.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, so you obviously know why this guy's not
Speaker 1: calling you back. Yes I do. Unfortunately I let my
Speaker 1: emotions get the best of me, that's for sure. So
Speaker 1: I looked him up online and I come across his
Speaker 1: Facebook page and I see on his profile his profile
Speaker 1: picture is like him and a girl and he's like
Speaker 1: whispering into the girl's ear and they're like both laughing,
Speaker 1: and they look like to me, it looked like he
Speaker 1: had a girlfriend, and I was immediately suspicious. Well yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: And so I was really mad because I have a
Speaker 1: history of people cheating on me. Plus, how dare he
Speaker 1: like go and have a date with somebody else when
Speaker 1: he might be with this girl, you know, like I
Speaker 1: felt bad for the girl. So I called him up
Speaker 1: immediately and freaked out because I was like, how dare
Speaker 1: you invite me on a date? And so you called
Speaker 1: him up and yelled at him? Oh yes, did you
Speaker 1: cuss at him and stuff like that? Ah? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: was just mad. It was just so angry. I really
Speaker 1: let him have it. What did he say when you
Speaker 1: were yelling at him? Though? I mean, you guys went
Speaker 1: out on one date? Because I was yelling so much,
Speaker 1: I didn't even let him get a word in. That's
Speaker 1: how angry I was. So did you ever ask him
Speaker 1: like do you have a girlfriend? To make sure that
Speaker 1: he actually did? No? Because I was just like how
Speaker 1: I just was freaking out? So you just called him up?
Speaker 1: As for the phone he was like hello, and you're
Speaker 1: like you cheating after Yeah, kind of, I just freaked out,
Speaker 1: and I'm really trust me. I am really mad at
Speaker 1: myself for it because I actually like him, and I
Speaker 1: didn't give him a chance to explain, and now now
Speaker 1: he won't pick up my call. Do you know that
Speaker 1: that girl in the picture wasn't his girlfriend or something?
Speaker 1: Or you still don't? You still have no idea who
Speaker 1: that is? I have no idea. With the world of Facebook,
Speaker 1: everything else is private except that picture. I really don't
Speaker 1: know because his sister. It could have been a girlfriend,
Speaker 1: it could have been a friend. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just feel really bad that I yelled at him instead
Speaker 1: of giving him a chance and listening to what he
Speaker 1: had to say to Yeah, that probably would have been
Speaker 1: a better option to at least go hey, question for
Speaker 1: you to have a girlfriend? Not as soon as the answers.
Speaker 1: Just call him a cheater and a liar. And have
Speaker 1: you tried to apologize since? Yeah? Oh of course, I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, those lengthy texts and I tried to call,
Speaker 1: but no answer. And I am really really mad at
Speaker 1: myself for letting my emotions get the best to me.
Speaker 1: You know how you seem though, right, like you seem
Speaker 1: crazy crazy because you guys went on one day. Okay,
Speaker 1: but you know and you can't really, I mean, how
Speaker 1: are you going to come back from that? If he
Speaker 1: in fact single? I don't know, but I think I
Speaker 1: can apologize and leave him in the driver position in
Speaker 1: terms of if we could get a second date, and
Speaker 1: maybe you can explain to him that you've been cheated
Speaker 1: on before. And so you jump the gun exactly like,
Speaker 1: let's let's both has this out because I'm so sorry
Speaker 1: I reached out. But all right, well we'll play a song,
Speaker 1: come back, call him and get your second date update.
Speaker 1: All right, thank you, hang on looking cubile. In the morning,
Speaker 1: Aaron is on the phone with us today to do
Speaker 1: a second date update. She wants to call a dude
Speaker 1: named Adam that she met at a party. Aaron, I
Speaker 1: have to ask you real quick before we get into this.
Speaker 1: Did you notice if Adam is a strong man? Like
Speaker 1: is he strong? Does he look like he's got like,
Speaker 1: you know, muscles, and I mean he was lean? Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: I'm just wondering because I'm assuming if he does go
Speaker 1: out with you again, he's gonna need to be able
Speaker 1: to carry a lot of baggage. Okay, I'm not crazy one,
Speaker 1: I just okay. If you're just tuning in for the
Speaker 1: second date update, Aaron is on the phone because she
Speaker 1: went out on a date with Adam, but after the date,
Speaker 1: she stocked his Facebook and there was a picture of
Speaker 1: him with another girl. It looked like it could have
Speaker 1: been his girlfriend. She freaked out, called him, yelled at him,
Speaker 1: called him a cheater, then hung up on him, didn't
Speaker 1: even get to hear his side of the story. And
Speaker 1: that's the last she's ever talked to him. So we're
Speaker 1: gonna call him the day one, find out if that
Speaker 1: was his girlfriend, to let you try to apologize if
Speaker 1: it wasn't his girlfriend, and three somehow see if we
Speaker 1: can get another date for you. Thank you. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna dial the phone of him right now and
Speaker 1: see what he says. Try not to yell at him
Speaker 1: before we get the information out. All right, Hi, can
Speaker 1: I speak to Adam? Please? Yeah? Adam, how are you?
Speaker 1: This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil in the Morning. Um,
Speaker 1: from what Brooke and Jewil in the Morning The radio show?
Speaker 1: Yeah a radio show? Yeah? Did I wake you up? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I can't do a radio show. You
Speaker 1: can't do a radio No, I don't want you to
Speaker 1: do a radio show. I want to just I'm calling
Speaker 1: from a radio show and I just want to talk
Speaker 1: to you for a second. I don't know, man, smart,
Speaker 1: I don't think I haven't. What did you say? Are
Speaker 1: you you're a radio show? Yes? I mean somebody send
Speaker 1: us an email about you and asked if we could
Speaker 1: get you on the phone and talk to you for
Speaker 1: a few minutes about something. Okay, wait, what is it?
Speaker 1: What we do on our show called the second Date Update. Basically,
Speaker 1: if you go out on a date with somebody and
Speaker 1: then end up not calling them back after that date,
Speaker 1: they have us see if we can get you on
Speaker 1: the phone and ask what went wrong? Oh, okay, the
Speaker 1: girl that wanted me to call you today knows what
Speaker 1: went wrong after the date, but she wanted me to
Speaker 1: see if we can get you on the phone and
Speaker 1: kind of smooth things over. And what girls Her name
Speaker 1: is Aaron. You probably remember because she recently yelled at
Speaker 1: you and called you a cheater and then hung up
Speaker 1: on it. Man, I don't I don't think I can
Speaker 1: deal with that. You just talked to us for a
Speaker 1: few minutes about the date, because it's got to be weird.
Speaker 1: I'm just curious, from like a guy's perspective, how weird
Speaker 1: that is. You got on a date with a girl
Speaker 1: one time and then she gets home and starts yelling
Speaker 1: at you and calling you a cheater. I don't even
Speaker 1: know what happened there, like she I mean, she called
Speaker 1: up and then she just started screaming at me. Did
Speaker 1: she explain why she thought you were a cheater? It
Speaker 1: was pretty hard to tell. There was a lot of
Speaker 1: there's a lot of cuss work going at race. I'll
Speaker 1: tell you why she did that. She said, after the date,
Speaker 1: she went to your Facebook page and saw a picture
Speaker 1: of you, like cut it up with some girl, and
Speaker 1: then she just flipped out and thought that you must
Speaker 1: be cheating on that girl or trying to get a
Speaker 1: date with her when you were in a relationship. Is
Speaker 1: that true? Don't I don't know what. I don't know
Speaker 1: what that girls deal was, man't. So I'm assuming that's
Speaker 1: why you don't want to go out with her again,
Speaker 1: because she says she's tried to apologize to you. I mean, well,
Speaker 1: what's what's the point man? If that's if that's what's
Speaker 1: going to happen. I don't want to That's understandable. If
Speaker 1: a girl called me up after a first date and
Speaker 1: yelled at me for being a cheater when she didn't
Speaker 1: even know the story, I would be a little bit
Speaker 1: apprehensive about dating her. Yeah, I'm not. I'm just I'm
Speaker 1: not in the mood to be going out with girls
Speaker 1: right now. I'm just take a little break, I think.
Speaker 1: Wouldn't you want to just like hear what she has
Speaker 1: to say, though, let her apologize. Maybe. I mean, I
Speaker 1: guess it's just not really perfect. Oh, it's good that
Speaker 1: it's good that you say that, because she's actually on
Speaker 1: the other line listening. What Yeah, yeah, Adam, Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: really sorry. I can't believe I overacted like that. Wait, wait, hold,
Speaker 1: hold on, hold on, you're on the other line, Like,
Speaker 1: what's what's going on? Oh? I was trying to get
Speaker 1: a hold of you, and this seemed to be the
Speaker 1: only way I could get a hold of you. And
Speaker 1: I wanted to just explain myself, and have you explained yourself,
Speaker 1: because I obviously wasn't listening the other night, and I
Speaker 1: really wanted to apologize for that. Oh my God, So
Speaker 1: what do you have to say to her? Apology? Adam?
Speaker 1: I mean you don't. You don't have to apologize, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, you're right, I am. I am a cheater,
Speaker 1: but I mean I have cheated. I didn't cheat on you.
Speaker 1: I mean after one date? What is that? But okay,
Speaker 1: well then who's that picture with on your Facebook? The
Speaker 1: picture that's just some goal? Oh okay, I didn't whatever
Speaker 1: that means after one date. But I have cheated on
Speaker 1: a number of girls before, like a lot of girls.
Speaker 1: So I'm confused. What are you confused about? I cheat?
Speaker 1: I get bored, like I get bored with one girl
Speaker 1: in white cheat. So that was your girlfriend and you
Speaker 1: were cheating? No, I wasn't, but I would after that call,
Speaker 1: I probably would have cheated on you, but it wouldn't
Speaker 1: have mattered, Like I would have found a season, I
Speaker 1: would have found another girl. You're right to not would
Speaker 1: date me. It's okay, I get it. Why can't you
Speaker 1: just tell me this? Why couldn't you just pick up
Speaker 1: the phone or enter my text and just be like, hey,
Speaker 1: actually I'm not into this. No, I mean I was.
Speaker 1: I was into you, but i'm and I still kind
Speaker 1: of am but I think I would eventually cheat on you,
Speaker 1: so at least you're being honest, Adam. I'm so confused
Speaker 1: that you haven't cheated on her, but you know you
Speaker 1: will in the future, and that's why you can't go
Speaker 1: out on another date with her. Yeah, definitely not that,
Speaker 1: Not that I really want you anyways, because it seems
Speaker 1: like that's how you see and treat women, and that's disgusting.
Speaker 1: So look, I have cheated over thirty times with different girls,
Speaker 1: and it's just I get bored and I hook up
Speaker 1: with some random girl at a bar, and then you know,
Speaker 1: I know I'm going to do it again. So so
Speaker 1: you sort of preemptively not calling her back because you
Speaker 1: know that you would date her and then end up
Speaker 1: cheating on her. That's actually kind of nice of you,
Speaker 1: in a very weird and immature way, it really is.
Speaker 1: I mean, at least he's telling you now so that
Speaker 1: you don't get cheated on, especially if you've been cheated
Speaker 1: on before. Aaron, Yeah, yeah, yeah, glad, I wrote a
Speaker 1: whole email and took the time to call you. But Adam,
Speaker 1: why not just go on dates then and hang out
Speaker 1: with girls and have a good time and just be
Speaker 1: honest that you can't be in a relationship with them.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I think I just have
Speaker 1: a problem. It's probably just more fun and exciting when
Speaker 1: you're in the relationship to Oh my god, I don't know.
Speaker 1: So are you proud of the cheating? Because you don't
Speaker 1: necessarily sound proud of it. It's just a part of
Speaker 1: who I am. I don't know. I get bored. You
Speaker 1: don't also sound remorseful either, like you're in this matter
Speaker 1: of fact way, this is it? Yeah, I mean, what
Speaker 1: do you want me to do? I'm just a cheater
Speaker 1: and I guess she called me out on it before
Speaker 1: I had a chance to cheat on her. So all right,
Speaker 1: at this point, I would love to ask, if you
Speaker 1: will go out on another date with Aaron, we'll pay
Speaker 1: for it. Well, I don't know how it works, like
Speaker 1: do you give a gift card or like some sort
Speaker 1: of like some sort of trip or something. But because
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm gonna take her, I might
Speaker 1: take someone else. Just pay for your date with somebody
Speaker 1: at random. I'm just being honest, man, Like that's how
Speaker 1: this that's how this goes. Oh my god, I cannot
Speaker 1: leave this right now. Basally aaron I. Guess it goes
Speaker 1: to show you just trust your gut the next time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're all ripping on you for calling him up and
Speaker 1: just assuming that he was cheating and yelling at him.
Speaker 1: But from now on, any guy you date feel free
Speaker 1: to yell at him whenever you want, because you are correct.
Speaker 1: Broken jewel in the morning,