1 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:04,720 Speaker 1: All right time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. 2 00:00:04,760 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, 3 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 1: and more. Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey 4 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading 5 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:18,479 Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna 6 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:22,560 Speaker 1: read this one right here today. Okay, buckle up, hold 7 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: on tight. Here it is a Strawberry Letter. Subject my 8 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:32,879 Speaker 1: fiance won't give me his password. Dear Steve and Shirley, 9 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:36,200 Speaker 1: My fiance and I have been together for four years. 10 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: When we were dating, I would sneak and go through 11 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:41,720 Speaker 1: his phone to see his text messages and call logs. 12 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: He didn't have a password on his phone at the time. 13 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 1: One day I went through his phone and I found 14 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 1: exactly what I was looking for. I saw that my 15 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:52,840 Speaker 1: man had been texting his child's mom for a month 16 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 1: and the texas to her were sexually explicit. She had 17 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:01,840 Speaker 1: sent him multiple pictures of herself and they called each 18 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 1: other baby on the messages. Without saying anything to him, 19 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: because I knew he would lie, I contacted his child's 20 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: mom and she confirmed that they were seeing each other 21 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 1: again but had not had sex. Shit I broke up 22 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 1: with my boyfriend immediately. A month later, after all of 23 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:22,479 Speaker 1: his apologies and sweet gifts, he asked me to marry him. 24 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 1: Everything is going great now except for one thing. My 25 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 1: fiance has recently put a password on his phone. I 26 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:34,039 Speaker 1: have asked him for his password numerous times, but he 27 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:36,399 Speaker 1: won't give it to me. I have also tried to 28 00:01:36,400 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: figure out the password, but with no luck. I know 29 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 1: I'm wrong for snooping, but I need that password. He 30 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 1: told me to just let it go and trust him. 31 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: I don't want to marry a cheater. Please advise. Okay, 32 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: you're not ready. I mean really, you're already having trust 33 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: issues with this man before you've even walked down the aisle. 34 00:01:58,040 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 1: You do not trust him. That's why you snooping. That's 35 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: why you're upset that he got a password on his phone. 36 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: So how do you think this marriage is gonna work? 37 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: I mean, you'll be constantly thinking about him and his 38 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 1: baby mama. What are they doing? Are they sleeping together? 39 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: And please believe me, they are okay, No matter what 40 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: she said, they're sleeping together. He's got a password anyway, No, 41 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,200 Speaker 1: they're not. She would have told it. You think the 42 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:25,399 Speaker 1: woman would have told it. Oh, she would have told me, 43 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:28,960 Speaker 1: she said, yet though, all right, you would be asking, 44 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,240 Speaker 1: you know, has she sent any more pictures? Et cetera, 45 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 1: et cetera. You just the trust issues are too great 46 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: right now. So your choices are marry him and always 47 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:41,359 Speaker 1: be wondering, you know, and worried not having peace, or 48 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 1: not marry him and wait until you know you can rebuild, 49 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: or in this case, I think, build some trust in 50 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: your relationship. He hit him. Apologizing and giving you sweet gifts. 51 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 1: They're great, but his behavior needs to change. Actions should 52 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 1: go with those apologies and those gifts. He should have 53 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 1: done that before he proposed. Steve, Well, Shirley, you're reading 54 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: this letter from the standpoint of a woman who has 55 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: been hurt, and I understand, okay, you are reading this 56 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: letter in an advisatory capacity, one woman to another ask 57 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 1: her girlfriend. I'm gonna read this letter as somebody totally 58 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 1: disconnected from the dude at her and I'm just gonna 59 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: read the letter, and I I'm gonna ask questions all 60 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 1: the way through the letter. You ready subject, My fiance 61 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 1: won't give me his password. My question is you still 62 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: want to be his fiance? That's the question. Okay, my 63 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: fiance won't give me his password. My question, do you here? 64 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:59,560 Speaker 1: Do you still won't be his fiance? If you want 65 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 1: to be here? Fiance could ask her for that. Damn pass. 66 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 1: Thank you. Okay, let's go. Did Stephen Sherley my fiance 67 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: have been together for four years. When we were dating, 68 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: I was sneaking go through his phone to see his 69 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:16,560 Speaker 1: text messages and call law. Here's the question, why did 70 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: you do that? All people say, if you go looking 71 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: for trouble, you're gonna find it now. He didn't have 72 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:29,039 Speaker 1: a password on his phone at the time. One day 73 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:31,479 Speaker 1: I went through his phone and found exactly what I 74 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: was looking for. You was looking for trouble. You found it. 75 00:04:38,200 --> 00:04:42,840 Speaker 1: Now it's gonna be a problem. I saw that my 76 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: man had been texting his child's mom for a month, 77 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: and the text to her was sexually explicit. She had 78 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: sent him several pictures of herself and they called each 79 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: other baby on the message. Without saying anything to him, 80 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:06,400 Speaker 1: because I knew he would lie, I contacted this child's mom. 81 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 1: She confirmed that they were seeing each other again but 82 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: had not had sex yet. I broke up with my 83 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:18,719 Speaker 1: boyfriend immediately. Okay, now you went in that looking for 84 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 1: what you wanted to find. You found exactly what you 85 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: thought you'd find. Now, you called the girl, She confirmed 86 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 1: that they had been talking but had not had sex yet. 87 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 1: You immediately went and broke up with your boyfrid Okay, cool? 88 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 1: Why why are we back at this letter? But why 89 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:41,719 Speaker 1: is it motienus letter? Now? I'm gonna tell you why 90 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: because a month later, after all his apologies and sweet guilts, 91 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 1: he asked me to marry him. But didn't you say yes? 92 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 1: Did not you say yes? That's why you all have 93 00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:59,119 Speaker 1: become fiances because you said yes. After all you knew, 94 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:03,160 Speaker 1: and all all you found and all you heard, he 95 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: asked you to marry him with some sweet gifts and apologies, 96 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: and you said yes. Well, everything is going great now 97 00:06:11,279 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: except for one thing. My fiance has recently put a 98 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: password on his phone, rightfulness, what did you expect him? 99 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 1: Do you know why he put the password on the phone? 100 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: Because everything is going great? Man? Why would he allow 101 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: it to not to continue to go great? You already 102 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 1: go through phones looking for stuff, So now he didn't 103 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:44,920 Speaker 1: put a password on his phone? And you know why 104 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:49,039 Speaker 1: I put that password on this phone? Because everything going great? Now? Well, 105 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: at part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty 106 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: three after the hour. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve, 107 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:01,360 Speaker 1: let's go with your part two of your response to 108 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: today's Strawberry Letters, subject my fiance won't give me his password. 109 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 1: My fiance won't give me his password. The question I 110 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 1: have for you is do you still won't be his fierce? 111 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 1: If you do, she could ask it for this pass 112 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: because the last time you went through his phone, you 113 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:23,560 Speaker 1: said you find what you was looking for. He was 114 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 1: talking to his child, baby mama. Him and the baby 115 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:30,400 Speaker 1: mama been a change of pittures, called each other baby baby, 116 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:33,080 Speaker 1: and it'd been talking sexually. Explisit. But the woman you 117 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 1: called huck and you knew he was gonna lie. Aintybody 118 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: gonna sit him telling like, yeah, I'm calling huh, that's 119 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: a lie, anybody gladly tell. So she said you hadn't 120 00:07:47,160 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: had it, so you're just having sex. So you broke 121 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: up immediately. Now after some bunch of sweet gifts and 122 00:07:57,520 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: some apologies and talking nice, yeah, asked you to marry him. 123 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 1: You said, yes, that's how y'all, fiance. Everything is going 124 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 1: great now except for one thing. My fiance has recently 125 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:16,920 Speaker 1: put a password on the phone. Like I said before 126 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: the break, the reason he put the password on the 127 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:24,800 Speaker 1: phone is called everything is going great and your nose 128 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 1: ass ain't gonna leave it at that. Now I have 129 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: asked him for his password numerous times, but he won't 130 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:38,960 Speaker 1: give it to me. Why would he give you this password? 131 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 1: So you start calling people? Now you all down on 132 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:49,959 Speaker 1: his job? Was Larry at work Friday? See you you 133 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:54,480 Speaker 1: see it? Once you call one person, your fiance gotta 134 00:08:54,480 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 1: figure you can call anyway? Who is bishop Anitabita is 135 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 1: in the soul saving bits right, and you should leave 136 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:14,480 Speaker 1: it at that. So now I have tried to figure 137 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 1: out the password, but with no luck. You got a 138 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:21,240 Speaker 1: lot of time. Yeah, now let me tell you why 139 00:09:21,280 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: you're not gonna figure this pass word out? Because once 140 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: our password is complicated, once we've been busted. Ain't my birthdays? 141 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:36,400 Speaker 1: Oh that ain't that? Ain't you ain't gonna get the birthday. 142 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: You ain't gonna get so security, but last foul, you 143 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:45,520 Speaker 1: know you ain't gonna get you know, uh, you ain't 144 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:49,880 Speaker 1: our number change. When I was out there playing my 145 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:54,560 Speaker 1: every day, my pass worn't changed. Whatever the lottery number was. 146 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: The Nightmarefore that was my password and you do not 147 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:04,400 Speaker 1: have voicemail for na uh a matter of fact, my my, 148 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:08,240 Speaker 1: my passwords so complicated. I used the van number on 149 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: my damn car. Damn the twenty seven numbers you got 150 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 1: Damn that had a registration in your hand to get 151 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:19,720 Speaker 1: in my phone. Put out was out there working. Come on, man, 152 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:25,560 Speaker 1: my my damn password has actually been the key to 153 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 1: the vote at Folk Knocks. Come on, man, mom, my 154 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:37,960 Speaker 1: password has actually been the birthday or the folk chicks 155 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 1: I was dating. Come on, hill bar, how hard? I come? 156 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 1: Come on, give me some more. My password has actually 157 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:57,280 Speaker 1: been my so security number minus the Einstein equation. Damn 158 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 1: Newton's law of right season. Yeah, man, yeah, you had 159 00:11:04,679 --> 00:11:12,959 Speaker 1: to know something. Wow. My last password I had two 160 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:17,760 Speaker 1: thousand and five was the middle of you know that 161 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:22,320 Speaker 1: three sided ruler you had in school. The middle feathered 162 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:31,560 Speaker 1: two digits on that ruler. Yeah. Yeah, And dude, I 163 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:35,560 Speaker 1: had a password one time that was the circumference of 164 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:39,400 Speaker 1: the third watermelon on the first role at the produce sex. 165 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 1: Come on board. That's how hard? So you're not gonna 166 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:48,959 Speaker 1: guess his password now? Then she says, I know I'm 167 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:53,120 Speaker 1: wrong for snooping. But I need that password. No, you don't. 168 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:56,040 Speaker 1: Surely told you right. You need to be in a loving, 169 00:11:56,120 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 1: trusting relationship, but you're not. You need that password for what? 170 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 1: Because you know what? You're gonna find it now, same thing? 171 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 1: Let him have him pictures? Oh boy? Why did he 172 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: say that? Why would he say it because talking? Why 173 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:36,199 Speaker 1: would he say it because that sounds natural. He told 174 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:39,959 Speaker 1: me to just let it go and trust him. I 175 00:12:40,040 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 1: don't want to marry a cheetah. Please Advibe. Listen to me. 176 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:51,800 Speaker 1: He's telling you, right, let it go and trust him, 177 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: and then what you think gonna happen? Listen to me? 178 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:59,079 Speaker 1: Or you could just say, hey, loo, by next Friday 179 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 1: or this okay, let's friday, give me your phone data, 180 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:07,000 Speaker 1: give them three four days clean that phone? Okay. Post 181 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:09,840 Speaker 1: your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey FM 182 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:12,160 Speaker 1: on Instagram and Facebook, and don't forget to check out 183 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. 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