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I'm putting myself in situations to uplift 14 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:51,199 Speaker 1: my mood and spirit, and then that can kind of 15 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: ground you into I am choosing to be in this 16 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 1: space for my own benefit. 17 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:04,039 Speaker 2: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration, 18 00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:08,240 Speaker 2: or a fresh perspective. If you have any AHA moments 19 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 2: or appreciate anything from this episode, please leave us a 20 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:15,119 Speaker 2: review to let us know we're on the right track. 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Again, that's brand with 38 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:32,079 Speaker 2: Terry dot com. My name is spelled te double ri. 39 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 2: I hope to see you there, lady. 40 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 1: Let's dive into our quote of the day. Worrying is 41 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: carrying tomorrow's load with today's strength, carrying two days at once. 42 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn't 43 00:02:56,360 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 1: empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties to day of 44 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 1: its strength. And that quote comes to us from Corey 45 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:13,519 Speaker 1: ten Boom, who was a Dutch watchmaker and was most 46 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:19,640 Speaker 1: known for helping the Jews escape the Nazis during World 47 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:20,119 Speaker 1: War Two. 48 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:24,360 Speaker 2: I love that quote. I love it. I love it. 49 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:27,560 Speaker 1: I love it. I think it's a good fit for 50 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,959 Speaker 1: a good description of what we're going to talk about today. 51 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 2: I would say so, And honestly, don when I hear 52 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 2: this quote, the one thing that I would add is 53 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 2: or even interchange, is you know, it says worrying is 54 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 2: carrying tomorrow's load. I would say, it's like carrying the 55 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:47,960 Speaker 2: next moment's load, you know what I mean, Like, because 56 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 2: sometimes you can be worrying about something that's in the 57 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 2: same day, but it's just like something that's coming up. 58 00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 2: And so I was like, oh, this is so true. 59 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 2: I have definitely been here before where I'm worrying about 60 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 2: some shit. It's like way down the line, whether it's tomorrow, 61 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 2: years from now. Even as an overthinker, I'll be thinking 62 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 2: about like, oh, what's going to happen a year from now, 63 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 2: five years from now, And it's like robbing yourself of 64 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 2: joy today, worrying about things that you really can't control 65 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 2: in most cases, right or things that are so far 66 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 2: away exactly exactly. 67 00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:22,560 Speaker 1: I love it. So how are you? Because you know, 68 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:27,800 Speaker 1: in all transparency, lady, as you were listening now, you know, 69 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:31,280 Speaker 1: we're recording this episode ahead of time, like a few 70 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:36,920 Speaker 1: weeks in advance. But this is our first episode that 71 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:40,279 Speaker 1: we are recording post baby. 72 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:44,720 Speaker 2: Yes, girl, I was gonna asking the same thing, how 73 00:04:44,760 --> 00:04:47,479 Speaker 2: are you? Let me see? I am doing well. I'm adjusting. 74 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:51,279 Speaker 2: It's been about a month, literally a month after having 75 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 2: the baby, and it has been a roller coaster, a 76 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 2: beautiful roller coaster. But girl, we have to do an 77 00:04:57,520 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 2: episode about postpartum and motherhood because it's no joke, and 78 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 2: I feel like there are so many things people don't 79 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:06,400 Speaker 2: talk about in this journey and I'm just like, wow, 80 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:09,440 Speaker 2: learning so much. But I'm excited for us to get back. 81 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:12,760 Speaker 2: This our first time actually recording in the past couple months, 82 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:16,600 Speaker 2: because girl, we pre planned so much content to make 83 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:18,920 Speaker 2: sure that we didn't have to take breaks when I 84 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:22,720 Speaker 2: was on maternity leave. Ladies, so all the content we 85 00:05:22,880 --> 00:05:25,280 Speaker 2: organized in advance, and so this is literally our first 86 00:05:25,279 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 2: time coming back into her space to create new content 87 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 2: for you. So we have a lot to talk about 88 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:35,040 Speaker 2: because it's been about a year since we had our 89 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:38,280 Speaker 2: first lockdown. I know some people haven't even been on lockdown, right, 90 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:41,000 Speaker 2: but it's been a year since we've been on lockdown 91 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:44,080 Speaker 2: here in the Bay Area. I will say, dom One 92 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:46,600 Speaker 2: thing to note is that I probably still have I 93 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 2: think it's called a baby brain or whatever. So if 94 00:05:49,640 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 2: I say things that don't make sense, I forget things. 95 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:54,040 Speaker 2: I have been forgetting things a lot, So bear with 96 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 2: me there. And I've also been up pretty much all 97 00:05:57,480 --> 00:06:01,720 Speaker 2: night with a crying baby, trying to feed and all 98 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 2: that stuff, and so it's been a long it's a 99 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:06,280 Speaker 2: long daygo How are you though, what's going on in 100 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:07,560 Speaker 2: your life? 101 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:13,039 Speaker 1: Well, you know, as this episode airs, we are a 102 00:06:13,080 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: couple of episodes after the episode where we talk about 103 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:21,400 Speaker 1: my private practice starting and so so that's been a 104 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 1: big change and exciting and welcome addition into my life. 105 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:32,080 Speaker 1: And then I think in general, you know, there's a 106 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:35,960 Speaker 1: lot happening in the world at the moment. And when 107 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: I say world, I mean specifically like the US and 108 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 1: just the continued anti blackness that we're experiencing, and so 109 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: that's a whole other topic for a whole other episode. 110 00:06:48,400 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: But I think that but all of this that what 111 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 1: we are both like, the things that are happening for 112 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: each of us, has an effect on the topic that 113 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: we're going to talk about today. Right, Like you mentioned 114 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: the Bay Area, we've been on various levels of lockdown 115 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: and restrictions for the past over a year, right, and 116 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 1: now we're in a phase where we people are getting 117 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:23,080 Speaker 1: vaccinated and we're starting to see reopening. And I think 118 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:26,600 Speaker 1: the thing part of why we wanted to address this 119 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: specific topic is that everybody is doing things differently. I 120 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 1: think about friends in other states and how their government 121 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 1: is handling reopening compared to what's happening here in California, 122 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: and it's a lot. And when we think about, like 123 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 1: how we're going to go about navigating this reopening of 124 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:57,240 Speaker 1: the world and access to things that we haven't had 125 00:07:57,320 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 1: access to or we resisted accessing for the last year, 126 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 1: it can bring up a lot for folks. 127 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,520 Speaker 2: You said that, so well, I'm one hundred percent with you. 128 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:11,280 Speaker 2: I think that's a great overview of kind of just 129 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 2: what we've been dealing with over the past year. One 130 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 2: thing I do want to shout out though, because I 131 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 2: don't want to make sure I forget. I'm so proud 132 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 2: of you and so excited for you and your practice. 133 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 2: Girl y'all. Don showed me her website maybe like last 134 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:24,800 Speaker 2: week or so, text me the link and I was 135 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 2: just like, oh my gosh, so excited for you. So, lady, 136 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 2: and make sure you reach out to Dr Dom so 137 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:33,440 Speaker 2: you can schedule some time to get your therapy all 138 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 2: that good stuff, right, because we all got to make 139 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 2: sure our mental health is in order, especially with things 140 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 2: going on in the world. So yes, God, I just 141 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 2: had to say that real quick. And I do need 142 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 2: you of course, of course, girl, And I do want 143 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 2: to know how has life been for you over the 144 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:50,679 Speaker 2: past year, Like we talked about reaching this one year 145 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:53,880 Speaker 2: anniversary for our you know area in particular, and lady, 146 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:55,480 Speaker 2: think about that for you too, because I know for 147 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:59,080 Speaker 2: a lot of us it's been it's been hard, I 148 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 2: guess in our life time. This has been a huge 149 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 2: moment when you think about what we've experienced as a world, right, 150 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:09,240 Speaker 2: Like sometimes we experienced tragedies and you know, just different 151 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 2: things that impact you know, maybe your city or your 152 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:15,080 Speaker 2: state or your country. But this is something everybody in 153 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 2: the world. We were all dealing with this together at 154 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:21,560 Speaker 2: the same time. Different experiences, of course, But how was 155 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:23,439 Speaker 2: it for you personally over the past year. 156 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 1: I think I've experienced it in a way similar to 157 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: a lot of people, right, So, I mean I will 158 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 1: acknowledge that when I really think about it, I'm in 159 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 1: the privileged position of being able to work from home, right, 160 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: The majority of my family have to physically go into 161 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 1: work every day, right, And so shout out to our 162 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:52,559 Speaker 1: essential workers, our frontline workers, the people who from the beginning, 163 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 1: when everyone else was told go home, stay home, they 164 00:09:56,920 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 1: were still out there doing it, right, Like folks working 165 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: in the grocery stores, you know, people working in the hospitals, 166 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:11,559 Speaker 1: like people working at the airports, like all of those, 167 00:10:11,840 --> 00:10:15,000 Speaker 1: like the places that everyone still needed to access. Somebody 168 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 1: has to show up and do that, right, And so 169 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:20,200 Speaker 1: shout out to all of those people who are on 170 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:24,599 Speaker 1: the front line, who are putting themselves and their families 171 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:29,280 Speaker 1: at risk on a daily basis to provide services that 172 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:34,000 Speaker 1: we all need. Right. And so for me, yes, I've 173 00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: had that privilege of being able to work from home. 174 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:42,440 Speaker 1: It was an adjustment, to be perfectly honest, I've enjoyed it. 175 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 1: It has allowed me to and I've said this in 176 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 1: the episodes before, that it's allowed me to slow down, 177 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 1: right and really focus on my overall well being. And 178 00:10:56,360 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 1: so again I consider that a huge privilege. Right, there's 179 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:03,400 Speaker 1: that aspect of it, But then there's the other piece 180 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 1: of navigating how I would see friends and family, and 181 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:14,600 Speaker 1: for me personally, the reality has been that there's been 182 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:21,280 Speaker 1: a lot of anxiety around like exposure to potentially getting 183 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 1: COVID and wanting to keep myself and folks around me safe, 184 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 1: and so having to navigate like difficult conversations around well, 185 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 1: I'm not going to be able to come out fly 186 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 1: out for that, right, Like I haven't been on a 187 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:47,080 Speaker 1: plane since early twenty twenty, like January February twenty twenty, right, 188 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:51,679 Speaker 1: so well over a year. But that was a personal 189 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:55,320 Speaker 1: decision that I made for myself, and I think that 190 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:58,959 Speaker 1: that is part of what has been happening for a 191 00:11:59,040 --> 00:12:02,480 Speaker 1: lot of folks is just having to navigate how do 192 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,839 Speaker 1: you want to interact with the world around you, and 193 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:11,960 Speaker 1: knowing that everyone around you is responding differently. There's no 194 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:18,719 Speaker 1: uniform way of how people are responding. So that's my 195 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:21,800 Speaker 1: quick take. What about for you, T I know you 196 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:26,000 Speaker 1: definitely had a slightly different experience, particularly the last few months. 197 00:12:26,640 --> 00:12:28,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I will say you made a few really 198 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 2: good points down I would agree with you in that 199 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:34,360 Speaker 2: I definitely realize that I have a lot to be 200 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:37,079 Speaker 2: grateful for, you know, being able to work remote, right, 201 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 2: being able to just be safe, right, like just I 202 00:12:40,679 --> 00:12:44,000 Speaker 2: don't know, just life. I realized, like, wow, I'm really blessed. Right. 203 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:46,800 Speaker 2: You see people in the news who've had to with 204 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:48,760 Speaker 2: some folks who had to stand in line to get 205 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:50,960 Speaker 2: food and things like that, and you just had to 206 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:54,560 Speaker 2: depend on certain resources for support. And so I think 207 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:57,880 Speaker 2: for me, it was definitely an opportunity to realize, oh wow, 208 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:01,280 Speaker 2: even though I know that I'm blessed, I just it 209 00:13:01,360 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 2: magnifies the things that I'm grateful for, right, because you 210 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:06,439 Speaker 2: see so many people who are struggling, and again shout 211 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:09,240 Speaker 2: out like you said to the central workers, because I 212 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:11,600 Speaker 2: feel like the country really needs to revisit how they 213 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:15,520 Speaker 2: are compensating the people who are on the front lines. 214 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:18,400 Speaker 2: Because I don't know about you, don but I've always 215 00:13:18,840 --> 00:13:21,760 Speaker 2: valued every role in every position, and I think that 216 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:26,520 Speaker 2: now in this world because we've seen how essential essential 217 00:13:26,559 --> 00:13:29,959 Speaker 2: workers and frontline workers are that the world is realizing like, oh, 218 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:33,000 Speaker 2: we need these people, so it's like, yeah, compensate them accordingly. 219 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:35,439 Speaker 2: So I would say that for me, this year has 220 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 2: definitely been I've been pregnant most of the year, so 221 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 2: it's been good for me to be in the house 222 00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 2: and away from people to stay safe. But it's definitely 223 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:47,920 Speaker 2: been a time of reflection and just being able to 224 00:13:47,960 --> 00:13:49,520 Speaker 2: just get clear on, like, you know, what I want 225 00:13:49,559 --> 00:13:51,720 Speaker 2: in life, you know, think about those questions that come 226 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:54,600 Speaker 2: up when you're not so busy. But there's a lot 227 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:57,079 Speaker 2: that I think about when it comes to reopening. There's 228 00:13:57,120 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 2: a lot that I miss about pre COVID, and so 229 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:02,880 Speaker 2: I think we should just dive into what do we 230 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:05,319 Speaker 2: miss the most about pre COVID life? 231 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:10,080 Speaker 1: Hands down, traveling and being able to and I say 232 00:14:10,200 --> 00:14:13,440 Speaker 1: traveling in the sense of because I don't have family 233 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:20,640 Speaker 1: in the Bay Area, having the ability to be able 234 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:24,280 Speaker 1: to fly out to go and see folks and be 235 00:14:24,360 --> 00:14:28,760 Speaker 1: able to like hug folks, like to see my grandmother 236 00:14:29,280 --> 00:14:34,800 Speaker 1: in Louisiana, to see my new nephew who is almost 237 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 1: a year old and I have yet to see him 238 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: in person. Right and so those things, right, being able 239 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:48,520 Speaker 1: to see people and even people that I see on 240 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 1: a semi regular basis, Being able to actually comfortably hug 241 00:14:55,520 --> 00:15:00,440 Speaker 1: people without that like one that hesitation that may come of, 242 00:15:00,560 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 1: Like is it okay if I give you a hug? 243 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:05,680 Speaker 1: Am I risking COVID if I give you a hug? 244 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:11,240 Speaker 1: Like just being able to freely do that, like that 245 00:15:11,480 --> 00:15:14,120 Speaker 1: is what I am most looking forward to, Like just 246 00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:18,240 Speaker 1: being able to have more human contact and connection. 247 00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 2: I'm with you one hundred percent. I think we only 248 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:23,520 Speaker 2: saw each other in person well once in the midst 249 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:26,200 Speaker 2: of this, and we got to go on a little walk, 250 00:15:26,240 --> 00:15:28,240 Speaker 2: which was so great. But I'm with you. I miss 251 00:15:28,600 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 2: being able to travel. Oh my gosh, I'm so happy 252 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 2: I traveled. I think I well down. We talked about this, 253 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:36,760 Speaker 2: but my husband and I went to Egypt, like right 254 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:38,600 Speaker 2: before COVID, and I was like, I'm so happy we 255 00:15:38,640 --> 00:15:41,400 Speaker 2: went then, because who knows when we will have another 256 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:44,440 Speaker 2: chance to travel internationally in the midst of COVID or 257 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:47,000 Speaker 2: like post COVID and then with the baby now. But 258 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 2: I miss being able to hug people. I miss night life, 259 00:15:50,440 --> 00:15:52,280 Speaker 2: like even though I wasn't going out all the time, 260 00:15:52,320 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 2: I want to go out in dance, you know, like 261 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:57,440 Speaker 2: just be social and be in the club, or you know, 262 00:15:57,560 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 2: just like go to conferences and be on stage just 263 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,360 Speaker 2: speaking engagements. I missed being able to see family and friends, 264 00:16:03,440 --> 00:16:06,120 Speaker 2: like you said. And also I don't know if it's 265 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:07,600 Speaker 2: just let me know if I'm wrong about this. I 266 00:16:07,760 --> 00:16:09,440 Speaker 2: don't know if it's just because I was pregnant, But 267 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 2: wearing the mask was such a challenge for me being pregnant. 268 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:16,040 Speaker 2: It was so uncomfortable and so like challenging to breathe. 269 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:18,360 Speaker 2: So oftentimes when we did take walks, I would just 270 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 2: take off the mask to breathe, but of course in 271 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 2: spaces with other people, like I wore my mask. But yeah, 272 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 2: it was just uncomfortable. I mean, what is I'm curious, like, 273 00:16:27,440 --> 00:16:29,720 Speaker 2: what is life going to look like for us moving forward? 274 00:16:29,760 --> 00:16:32,240 Speaker 1: You know, that's a great question, and that's an important 275 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 1: point that you bring up about the mask, because like 276 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:38,800 Speaker 1: I'll go on walks and I've noticed that there's a 277 00:16:38,840 --> 00:16:42,160 Speaker 1: difference in the quality of masks that you wear and 278 00:16:42,240 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: in terms of like you're breathing, and then for me, 279 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:47,960 Speaker 1: you know, like I know all my folks out there 280 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:51,560 Speaker 1: who wear glasses like the fogging up that happens of 281 00:16:51,600 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 1: your glasses when you're wearing a mask and trying to breathe. 282 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 1: And like, so there's a mask that I wear when 283 00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 1: I'm going on a walk. It's different than the mask 284 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:04,000 Speaker 1: that I wear if I'm just running errands, right, because 285 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:09,520 Speaker 1: my face is less likely to be I can breathe easier, right, 286 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 1: and still feel protected. Now, one thing, I will say 287 00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:18,520 Speaker 1: that post COVID, I think I might still wear a mask, right, 288 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:22,359 Speaker 1: And I say this because I think about I have 289 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 1: not had a cold this entire time, right, and that's 290 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 1: because I've been wearing a mask. So and I know 291 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:36,200 Speaker 1: that there's been I've heard other conversation around this as well, 292 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:41,159 Speaker 1: that the number of people who were diagnosed with having 293 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:46,520 Speaker 1: the flu and the number of people who were experiencing 294 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:53,720 Speaker 1: cold symptoms significantly decreased this year because we're all wearing masks. 295 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:57,080 Speaker 1: And so for me, I'm like, that's motivation for me 296 00:17:57,160 --> 00:18:00,680 Speaker 1: to keep wearing a mask, because I don't like being sick. 297 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 1: I don't like having a cold. So post COVID, you 298 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:09,399 Speaker 1: might see me out here particularly and during cold and 299 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:12,159 Speaker 1: like at the height of cold and flu season, you 300 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:14,240 Speaker 1: might see me out here still rocking a mask. 301 00:18:15,240 --> 00:18:17,320 Speaker 2: That's a good point down. I did not think about that. 302 00:18:17,400 --> 00:18:20,160 Speaker 2: I will say I'm a pretty healthy person. I usually 303 00:18:20,200 --> 00:18:22,520 Speaker 2: only get a little cold maybe once or twice a year, 304 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:26,359 Speaker 2: like pre COVID, but I had not been sick either 305 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:29,560 Speaker 2: this year. And when you think about it, it's like, oh, 306 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:32,560 Speaker 2: that makes sense. I feel like COVID is like reminded 307 00:18:32,640 --> 00:18:34,639 Speaker 2: us of how important it is to be clean, you know, 308 00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 2: like basic hygiene for some folks that like didn't have 309 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:40,040 Speaker 2: basic hygiene. And then also when I think about like 310 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:43,320 Speaker 2: the NYC subways and how they've been like cleaning those 311 00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:45,440 Speaker 2: like crazy, I think someone was saying they haven't cleaned 312 00:18:45,480 --> 00:18:47,880 Speaker 2: them in like a certain amount of years, and it's like, well, 313 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:50,639 Speaker 2: yo'all should have been doing that in the first place, right, 314 00:18:51,280 --> 00:18:53,440 Speaker 2: or even places out in the bay where we are, 315 00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:57,120 Speaker 2: where it's like, y'all weren't cleaning the bathrooms or wiping 316 00:18:57,119 --> 00:18:59,720 Speaker 2: the door knobs or the light switches in these different 317 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:03,280 Speaker 2: places is on a regular anyway. So it's definitely stepped 318 00:19:03,320 --> 00:19:05,960 Speaker 2: up the game when it comes to cleanliness. But what 319 00:19:06,040 --> 00:19:08,040 Speaker 2: I think we should definitely dive into now, don is 320 00:19:08,359 --> 00:19:10,479 Speaker 2: let's just talk about what are these six ways that 321 00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:13,919 Speaker 2: we can manage anxiety as the world reopens, because, like 322 00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:17,159 Speaker 2: you said earlier, people are moving in different ways. 323 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:17,400 Speaker 1: Right. 324 00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:19,359 Speaker 2: There are some people that you see on social media 325 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:22,359 Speaker 2: they've been out clubbing the whole time, no mask like 326 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:25,360 Speaker 2: mask off. Okay, that gives. 327 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:30,919 Speaker 1: Like yeah, that and that gives me anxiety, right because 328 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:35,400 Speaker 1: and I think that that that that easily leads us 329 00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:40,320 Speaker 1: into our first tip, right, is to acknowledge your feelings. Right, 330 00:19:40,960 --> 00:19:46,920 Speaker 1: So recognizing that whatever feelings you might have, they are real, 331 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: they are valid, and it's okay to feel them. So 332 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 1: whether you are feeling some fear, some apprehension, maybe even 333 00:19:56,600 --> 00:20:01,080 Speaker 1: some apathy or some numbness around what the world is 334 00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:04,680 Speaker 1: moving into, the key is to just acknowledge that those 335 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 1: feelings exist, right, because if you ignore those feelings, particularly 336 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 1: like the feelings of fear and apprehension, if you ignore it, 337 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:22,840 Speaker 1: it's only going to get worse, right, And so go ahead. 338 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 2: I was going to say, as I read over these tips, 339 00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:28,119 Speaker 2: it really made me think about the same tools that 340 00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:31,120 Speaker 2: I used to give birth, like to have an unmedicated birth. 341 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:33,439 Speaker 2: So I just wanted to call that out because acknowledging 342 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:36,520 Speaker 2: your feelings that was something that was a little challenging 343 00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 2: for me because I was kind of going back and 344 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 2: forth with myself on like, well, I don't want to 345 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:43,200 Speaker 2: acknowledge the feelings and the fear because I don't want 346 00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:45,120 Speaker 2: to give power to it. But I think there is 347 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:48,000 Speaker 2: so much power and acknowledging how you feel. Like one 348 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:50,119 Speaker 2: thing for me was I don't want to tear, like 349 00:20:50,160 --> 00:20:52,679 Speaker 2: I don't want any intervention or medication. So what I 350 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:54,600 Speaker 2: did was I wrote that down and I was like, 351 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 2: honest about my fear and the feelings. So, lady, whatever 352 00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:00,280 Speaker 2: your feeling is, it relates to opening up and it's like, 353 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:02,399 Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I might get COVID or you know, 354 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:05,320 Speaker 2: I have some type of pre existing condition. Be honest 355 00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:07,680 Speaker 2: with yourself about what those are so that you don't 356 00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:09,440 Speaker 2: have to worry about them like coming up and trying 357 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:11,720 Speaker 2: to haunt you. You can just really face the fear, 358 00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:14,359 Speaker 2: and then we'll dive into the next few tips, which 359 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:17,600 Speaker 2: you can build on as far as this first one. 360 00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:20,520 Speaker 1: Yes, exactly, Like once you can acknowledge it, then you 361 00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:24,439 Speaker 1: know how to address it, what to do next. But 362 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:27,359 Speaker 1: like you said, if you're burying it, if you're not 363 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:30,199 Speaker 1: dealing with it, then you won't ever be able to 364 00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: do anything about it, and it will continue to build 365 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:39,040 Speaker 1: to a point where you're not able to function. That's 366 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,000 Speaker 1: the opposite of what we want. We want you to 367 00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:47,320 Speaker 1: be able to thrive, and so start by acknowledging your feelings. 368 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,000 Speaker 2: And that takes us to our next one, which is 369 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:52,000 Speaker 2: one that Dom has talked about on the podcast. It's 370 00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:54,680 Speaker 2: a tip that I use my personal life, and it's 371 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,960 Speaker 2: focused on what you can control. To recognizing and focusing 372 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:00,960 Speaker 2: on what you can control an uncertain time can be 373 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:05,639 Speaker 2: really helpful when it comes to overcoming anxiety. So you know, 374 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 2: one thing I think about, for instance, is if you're 375 00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:10,840 Speaker 2: going to be visiting family or you know, hanging out 376 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,920 Speaker 2: with friends, be honest and transparent about what your ground 377 00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:15,760 Speaker 2: rules are because that is something you can control. You 378 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,120 Speaker 2: may not be able to control what other people are doing, 379 00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:20,520 Speaker 2: but let folks know, like y'all, I'm a little scared 380 00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 2: about this or this is how I'm feeling, so I 381 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:25,320 Speaker 2: be more comfortable if you know, wore a mask or 382 00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 2: if you I don't know, war gloves, right, Like, maybe 383 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:29,840 Speaker 2: you're like me, you just had a newborn and you're like, 384 00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:31,320 Speaker 2: I want to make sure people are safe. If they're 385 00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:34,000 Speaker 2: around my baby. Let people know, and then you can 386 00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:36,400 Speaker 2: work on what you're going to do to be as 387 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 2: safe as. 388 00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:41,320 Speaker 1: Possible exactly, and to build on that. What I would 389 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:45,960 Speaker 1: say is in that example, so you have set your 390 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,760 Speaker 1: ground rules and focusing on what you can control. Looks like, 391 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:53,040 Speaker 1: let's say that if one of your ground rules is 392 00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:57,320 Speaker 1: everyone around you has to wear a mask in order 393 00:22:57,320 --> 00:23:00,760 Speaker 1: for you to feel comfortable. So then what you can 394 00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 1: control is how you respond if someone around you does 395 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:11,119 Speaker 1: not wear a mask. Right, you can't control whether or 396 00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:14,120 Speaker 1: not they wear it, but you can control how you 397 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:17,479 Speaker 1: respond if they don't. You can decide am I going 398 00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:20,159 Speaker 1: to speak up and say something like ask them to 399 00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:23,040 Speaker 1: put the mask on? Or am I going to decide 400 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:26,480 Speaker 1: that for my own safety and my own personal preference, 401 00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:30,280 Speaker 1: I'm going to remove myself from the situation. And that's 402 00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 1: what you can control. It's not about controlling the other person. 403 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 1: It's about what you as an individual can control within yourself. 404 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:45,200 Speaker 1: So then that takes us to our third tip, going 405 00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:49,399 Speaker 1: at your own pace. What we know is that you know, 406 00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:51,720 Speaker 1: going back to focusing on what you can control, we 407 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:56,960 Speaker 1: cannot control how the environments around us are opening up, 408 00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:02,720 Speaker 1: and so what you can do is slowly introduce things, 409 00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 1: slowly put yourself in different environments at a rate that 410 00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:14,000 Speaker 1: feels comfortable for you. Just because your entire state said 411 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:17,320 Speaker 1: that they are going to completely open up and everything 412 00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:20,680 Speaker 1: is going to be at one hundred percent capacity, that 413 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:24,840 Speaker 1: does not mean that you have to go into those places, right, 414 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,879 Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that you have to partake in those 415 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:35,879 Speaker 1: activities if you don't feel safe doing so. If you 416 00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:41,639 Speaker 1: feel comfortable still having your groceries delivered, but maybe you 417 00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:45,520 Speaker 1: want to go to a religious service, you can do 418 00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:52,600 Speaker 1: that move at a pace that feels most comfortable for you. 419 00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:58,679 Speaker 1: And so then that takes us also to tip number four, 420 00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:04,960 Speaker 1: which folks on staying informed. And so what that looks 421 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:10,359 Speaker 1: like is being aware of the level of virus threat 422 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:15,720 Speaker 1: in your community, being aware of what the new openings 423 00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:20,680 Speaker 1: and current restrictions are within your community. If you plan 424 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:25,320 Speaker 1: on doing any traveling, being aware of what the virus 425 00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:29,240 Speaker 1: threat is, the restrictions and the reopenings are in the 426 00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:32,720 Speaker 1: places that you plan on visiting. Because when you are 427 00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:39,560 Speaker 1: fully informed, that again allows you to one go at 428 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:44,120 Speaker 1: your own pace. With that information, you can decide what 429 00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:48,159 Speaker 1: feels most comfortable for you. And it allows you to 430 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:52,360 Speaker 1: also focus on what is within your control. 431 00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:56,080 Speaker 2: Okay, now I'm going to hop in with number five, 432 00:25:56,280 --> 00:26:00,359 Speaker 2: which is stay positive and repeat affirmations. I don't know 433 00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,400 Speaker 2: about you, but I am all with the wou woo 434 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:06,880 Speaker 2: and everything about mindfulness and the power in our mind. 435 00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,520 Speaker 2: And I think that if you move around and you're like, 436 00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I'm going to get sick, and you're 437 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:13,520 Speaker 2: just like speaking that on yourself, I think it really 438 00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:16,639 Speaker 2: can impact you. I am just all for the positive 439 00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 2: thinking and the affirmations, not saying that they can keep 440 00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:21,280 Speaker 2: you from being sick, but I think that it can 441 00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:24,480 Speaker 2: definitely just help your mental health and where you are 442 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,439 Speaker 2: mentally in the midst of whatever it might be. And 443 00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:29,080 Speaker 2: one of the affirmations, or a few have the affirmations 444 00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:32,000 Speaker 2: that I choose to repeat. One is everything is working 445 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,320 Speaker 2: out for my good and there's another one that I 446 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:37,280 Speaker 2: literally just it just escaping me at the moment. But 447 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:40,320 Speaker 2: the thing is like, even if I do get sick, 448 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,560 Speaker 2: I know that it's going to work out, Like I 449 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:44,399 Speaker 2: believe that it's going to be okay, I'm going to 450 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:46,520 Speaker 2: be healed or whatever it might be. So I think 451 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:49,680 Speaker 2: positive thinking goes along way. What about you, Dom, I'm 452 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:50,119 Speaker 2: with that. 453 00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:54,679 Speaker 1: I do think that like, even in moments when you 454 00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:57,359 Speaker 1: may be anxious, what can pull you out of that 455 00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:02,399 Speaker 1: is definitely staying positive and like you said, repeating those 456 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:07,119 Speaker 1: affirmations to yourself, So having your arsenal of two or 457 00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:10,760 Speaker 1: three affirmations that you can go to that really fortify 458 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,119 Speaker 1: you and bring you back. I mean, one thing you 459 00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:18,600 Speaker 1: could say is, I'm focusing on what's within my control. 460 00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:23,720 Speaker 1: I'm putting myself in situations to uplift my mood and spirit, 461 00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:29,639 Speaker 1: and then that can kind of ground you into I 462 00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:33,120 Speaker 1: am choosing to be in this space for my own benefit. 463 00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,640 Speaker 2: I love that. Donald. One thing you made me think 464 00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,960 Speaker 2: about is like protecting your spirit and your peace and 465 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,520 Speaker 2: being mindful what type of content are you tuning into? 466 00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:44,640 Speaker 2: Like I don't be watching the news all day every 467 00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:47,160 Speaker 2: day because that shit is depressing as hell and it's 468 00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:48,919 Speaker 2: not good for my mental health. So just being mindful 469 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,640 Speaker 2: about the content as well, I think also leads back 470 00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:53,320 Speaker 2: to that number five tip that be shared. 471 00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:59,520 Speaker 1: Yes, And so then now we are in our final 472 00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:05,719 Speaker 1: tip of practicing gratitude, and practicing gratitude can show up 473 00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:08,800 Speaker 1: in a number of different ways. So it can look 474 00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,840 Speaker 1: like writing things down at the end of the day, 475 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:14,320 Speaker 1: like the things that we are grateful for that happen. 476 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,959 Speaker 1: So you got to see a friend that you haven't 477 00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:21,080 Speaker 1: seen in months, or you got to hug someone that 478 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:23,560 Speaker 1: you haven't been able to hug in over a year. 479 00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 1: Writing down the things that you are grateful for, or 480 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:34,000 Speaker 1: even saying them out loud in the moment, allows you 481 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: to recenter and focus again on the positive. Right of 482 00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:42,720 Speaker 1: you can say in the moment when you've seen someone 483 00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:45,800 Speaker 1: that you haven't seen in a while, I'm so glad 484 00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:51,000 Speaker 1: I have this opportunity to see you, or I'm so 485 00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:55,520 Speaker 1: grateful that we were able to make this happen, or 486 00:28:56,120 --> 00:29:03,959 Speaker 1: thank you for accommodating my boundaries. Statements like that allow 487 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:07,760 Speaker 1: us to be grounded in the positive and be grateful 488 00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,000 Speaker 1: for the space that we're in. 489 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,920 Speaker 2: And let me just say before we hop over into 490 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,680 Speaker 2: Patreon and record the after show, I just want to 491 00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:19,160 Speaker 2: say that I cannot wait for us to host our 492 00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:21,960 Speaker 2: first live event, because we plan to do this in 493 00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,200 Speaker 2: twenty twenty, and then COVID happen to interrupt it. So lady, 494 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,520 Speaker 2: just stay tuned for more information about any live events 495 00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:30,520 Speaker 2: that we have because of course we'll make sure that 496 00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:32,160 Speaker 2: we're all safe and all that good stuff. But it's 497 00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,040 Speaker 2: going to be such a good time and it'll be 498 00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:35,320 Speaker 2: like a reunion in a way. 499 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,800 Speaker 1: Yes, it'll be something for us to be grateful for. 500 00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:43,160 Speaker 1: And so just a quick review before we hop into 501 00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:52,680 Speaker 1: our after show. Our six tips One acknowledge your feelings. Two, 502 00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:59,880 Speaker 1: focus on what you can control. Three, go at you 503 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 1: their own pace or stay informed by, stay positive and 504 00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:17,480 Speaker 1: repeat affirmations. And number six practice gratitude. 505 00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:21,880 Speaker 3: Hey lady, it's doctor Dom here from the Cultivating her 506 00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:25,640 Speaker 3: Space podcast. Do you have a burning question you're dying 507 00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 3: to get feedback on? Do you want an unbiased perspective 508 00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:34,720 Speaker 3: on a situation you're facing? If so, visit cultivatingheirspace dot 509 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:39,480 Speaker 3: com and click ask doctor Dom under the start here option. 510 00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:43,440 Speaker 3: Every Tuesday, I'll choose a few questions and answer them 511 00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:49,880 Speaker 3: at random. Thanks for joining us today. Please note that 512 00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:55,880 Speaker 3: our show may contain conversations about self help, advice, self empowerment, 513 00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:59,560 Speaker 3: and mental health, but is by no means meant to 514 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:03,600 Speaker 3: be a SOB for an ongoing formal relationship with a 515 00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:07,440 Speaker 3: trained mental health provider. 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