1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:02,600 Speaker 1: This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to the 2 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:06,360 Speaker 1: Velvet's Edge podcast. My guest this week is Brad Yates. 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,080 Speaker 1: Brad is known internationally for his creative and often humorous 4 00:00:10,240 --> 00:00:13,760 Speaker 1: use of the emotional freedom technique, otherwise known as e 5 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:16,759 Speaker 1: f T or tapping. Brad is the author of the 6 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: best selling children's book The Wizard's Wish, the co author 7 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:23,479 Speaker 1: of the best seller Freedom at Your Fingertips, and a 8 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:27,320 Speaker 1: featured expert in the film The Tapping Solution. Brad has 9 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: over nine hundred tapping videos on YouTube that have been 10 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: viewed over thirty one million times, with a range of 11 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:40,880 Speaker 1: different topics of stress, self love, money, manifestation and more 12 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: in which Brad uses e f T to heal our fears, trauma, 13 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: and old misunderstandings. So what is e f T and 14 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:51,599 Speaker 1: why does it work? Well? Brad is here to tell 15 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: us that today and gives us the scientific proof behind 16 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: why tapping has helped millions heal and create the true 17 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: life they desire. Here's our conversation. So I have to 18 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 1: tell you that, you know, I interview a lot of 19 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: musicians and celebrities, and when I thought too, when we 20 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: were emailing, I was like Oh my gosh, I was 21 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:12,840 Speaker 1: seeking out like this was the most excited I've been 22 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:16,040 Speaker 1: a really long time to do an interview because in 23 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: my world of healing and of just doing the work 24 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 1: to heal trauma and things like that, you have become 25 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:27,800 Speaker 1: very integral part of that for me, and it's been 26 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: so helpful to do your tapping exercises. So I'm really 27 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:32,120 Speaker 1: excited to get to talk to you and to share 28 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: it with people what it is that you do. Can 29 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: you describe what e f T is? Yeah, certainly so. 30 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: E f T is short for Emotional Freedom Techniques, and 31 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 1: a lot of us call the process tapping because we 32 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: literally tap with our fingertips on places around our face 33 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: and our torso. And for anyone who's new to this, 34 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: I know that sounds a little strange, and fair with 35 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: us be because there's a very good reason why we 36 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:06,440 Speaker 1: do it. So it was originally developed from actu pressure. 37 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:10,639 Speaker 1: So actu pressure and acupuncture have been around with thousands 38 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 1: of years in Chinese medicine, based on the principle that 39 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 1: there's this flow of energy through the body along pathways 40 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:21,960 Speaker 1: that are called meridians, and when this energy is flowing naturally, 41 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 1: we experience our natural state of health and well being 42 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:27,640 Speaker 1: physically and emotionally, and when this energy gets stuck, we 43 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:30,720 Speaker 1: don't feel so good and we don't make the best choices, 44 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: and that has unfortunate consequences on our lives. So in 45 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:39,399 Speaker 1: traditional acupuncture, the doctor would stick needles in these key 46 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:42,840 Speaker 1: places around the face and body. So we're just tapping 47 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: with our fingertips to stimulate those same areas. And we 48 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 1: also have modern research showing that it is a profound 49 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 1: stress relief technique. So if you thought of tapping any 50 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 1: f t is nothing more than stress relief. We can 51 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 1: see why it's so benefit ficial because most, if not all, 52 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:05,519 Speaker 1: of the issues that trouble us are either caused by 53 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 1: or worsened by stress. So we have chemical studies showing 54 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 1: that the court is al one of stress hormones is 55 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: dramatically reduced in the groups that are doing tapping. We 56 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: have to have our eyes studies where we can see 57 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: brain scans and the brain activity and we can see 58 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:26,799 Speaker 1: how it normalizes after tapping. So I know the capping 59 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 1: sounds a little strange, but they're scientific research validating how 60 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 1: effective it is. Yeah, I love it. It's called emotional freedom. 61 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: Technique because you know, I'm a highly emotional person of 62 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 1: feeler and I talked about that a lot on this podcast. Um, 63 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 1: but how much are we driven by emotions in our lives? 64 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 1: And go ahead to answer that one first, and then 65 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:53,520 Speaker 1: I'll go further with that question. I can only hold 66 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: so many questions. I know, I'm sorry, Im Sorr, I'm sorry, 67 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 1: UM yeah, I'm profoundly we're profoundly driven by our choices. 68 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 1: That's why we make so many choices. But why did 69 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: I do that? It's logical, if if we operated on logic, 70 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 1: we would all be extremely healthy and extremely wealthy and 71 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 1: very happy and uh and do everything right because we 72 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:26,719 Speaker 1: know what to do. But most most of our behavior 73 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:31,279 Speaker 1: is unconscious of our beaor is unconscious, so it's being 74 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 1: done by our emotions, and mostly in terms of trying 75 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: to protect ourselves, trying to make ourselves feel better or 76 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 1: to lower whatever discomfort we might be experiencing. So you know, 77 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 1: we find ourselves, you know, halfway through a pint of 78 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 1: ice cream, going when did I open this? Right? What 79 00:04:55,440 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: was I thinking? I was thinking that I wasn't feeling 80 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 1: good and that, uh, this would make me feel better. 81 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:05,159 Speaker 1: That's why I like to say that self sabotage is 82 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: simply misguided self love. You know, we might say, oh, 83 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 1: eating a pint of ice cream is sabotaging my health goals. 84 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 1: But if there's a part of me that says I'm 85 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:16,719 Speaker 1: not feeling good, something's upsetting me, and ice cream makes 86 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:18,440 Speaker 1: me feel better, then we can see that it's an 87 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 1: act of self love. And then we can have compassion 88 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:25,159 Speaker 1: for ourselves rather than beating ourselves up and uh, and 89 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: that creates an opening them for us to find a 90 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: better way to take care of ourselves and use things 91 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 1: like tapping to to lower the emotional and physical discomfort 92 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:38,160 Speaker 1: work experience. You know what I think it's so interesting 93 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:42,280 Speaker 1: about just how much of our behavior is driven by 94 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: emotions is that you know, you know, the people they're like, 95 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 1: I'm the opposite of this. For instance, I cannot not 96 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 1: react to my emotions like I actually have to really 97 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: work at that in my therapy and all this stuff 98 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 1: because I'm just very reactive. I'm so emotionally driven. And 99 00:05:57,160 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: then on the flip side, there's other people who, um, 100 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: you know that maybe the stuffers, like they bury the emotions. 101 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 1: But even if you're one of those people, you are 102 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 1: still making decisions based on emotional experiences, right, because you're 103 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: completely unconscious. Yes, yes, you're just not as aware of it. Yeah, okay, 104 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: so you can't run away from your emotions? Is the point? 105 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:27,040 Speaker 1: Exactly exactly? The person who's not as, who doesn't feel 106 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:31,040 Speaker 1: as emotional, might might have a harder time understanding why 107 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 1: they're making the decisions that they're making. Yeah, huh, I 108 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 1: didn't get upset about something? Why did I? Why did 109 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:41,279 Speaker 1: I do that? But we're all experiencing stress at some level, 110 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:45,039 Speaker 1: especially in the information age, when there's so much stressful 111 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 1: information coming out, and and we're all responding to it 112 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: and trying to handle it in different ways, and again, 113 00:06:54,120 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: most of it unconsciously. So now I'm gonna I'm going 114 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: to encourage you, Kelly, to to change how you identify 115 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: yourself terms of I am always so reactive and yeah, okay, 116 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 1: tell me that that's how you have been? Okay to um, 117 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 1: But and and and obviously because of the successes you've 118 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:26,680 Speaker 1: created there are you are not as? You're not completely 119 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:30,480 Speaker 1: trapped by that. No, that's probably was an exaggeration the 120 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: way I said it. I think probably Also it's because 121 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: this week I have been extremely emotionally reactive, and so 122 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 1: it's fresh on my mind. But you're right, I mean 123 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 1: it is a learned thing, and in the healing work 124 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: that I've done, I have learned to maybe tap more 125 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 1: into some of the logical stuff instead of just going like, 126 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: you know, feelings aren't facts. There's a lot of things 127 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: you learn when you start diving into why you're doing 128 00:07:54,320 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: what you're doing. So um, but I want to know 129 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: how you got in into this, because, as you said, 130 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 1: you know, when you first hear about it, you're kind 131 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: of like, wait, what you're doing? What's tapping? So can 132 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: you tell us that story? Yeah? How does a grown 133 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:15,280 Speaker 1: man find himself tapping on his face? Right? Uh? Yeah? 134 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:21,440 Speaker 1: So I actually started out as an actor. I had 135 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: traveled the world doing theater, came to Hollywood to be 136 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 1: a movie star, and when I was here, I met 137 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: a woman, fell in love, got married, and when our 138 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 1: first child was on the way, I was thinking I 139 00:08:35,679 --> 00:08:41,439 Speaker 1: should probably have a backup career. So I had always 140 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: been fascinated with the power of the mind, and so 141 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 1: I trained to become hypnotherapist, and my acting training in 142 00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:55,720 Speaker 1: my theatrical voice was very conducive to that and start 143 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: doing that. And after a couple of years, when our 144 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 1: second job was on the way, it occurred to me 145 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 1: that as much as I loved acting, this personal development 146 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 1: work was really my calling. This is what it really 147 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:11,560 Speaker 1: felt the most fulfilling for me. So we moved from 148 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:14,439 Speaker 1: Los Angeles up to northern California to be close to 149 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:18,480 Speaker 1: our families, and through some other hypnotherapists, I heard about 150 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:23,959 Speaker 1: energy work and I went to a training any FT 151 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: training would be f T founder Gary Craig, and just 152 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:30,960 Speaker 1: fell in love with it. It It was like wow. Especially 153 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:35,040 Speaker 1: he took us through an exercise to deal with chocolate cravings, 154 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: get everybody a Hershey's kiss and said, okay, I'm a 155 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 1: scale zero to ten. How much do you want that chocolate? 156 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:42,520 Speaker 1: And I was then eight or a nine, a bit 157 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 1: of a chocoholic at the time, and uh, And after 158 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:49,319 Speaker 1: just a few moments of tapping, I couldn't eat the chocolate. 159 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:51,839 Speaker 1: I had as much interest in it as I did 160 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:55,320 Speaker 1: the toil rapper, and I didn't eat. I didn't eat 161 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: chocolate for two years after that. Now, now don't worry 162 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:04,960 Speaker 1: about I got better. I recovered um still occasionally able 163 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 1: to enjoy chocolate, but I'm also able to let it 164 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: go when it's uh, when I want to take a break. 165 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 1: So that was that was one of those things that 166 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: profoundly sold it for me and in my in my 167 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 1: time as an actor, I had trained their Rinkling Brothers 168 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 1: in Barnam Bailey Clown College. So I was fortunate that 169 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: when I was introduced to tapping, it wasn't the strangest 170 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 1: thing I've ever seen I had. I had admittedly a 171 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: bit of an advantage when being introduced to tapping that 172 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:39,559 Speaker 1: that a lot of people who have a more straight 173 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: and narrow life experience, Yes, I might find it a 174 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: little more off path. Well, I will tell you about 175 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:51,679 Speaker 1: my first experience. So I work with UM an energy healer. 176 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 1: Her name is Linda Penny and she's actually done this 177 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 1: podcast before too. She's amazing, but she um she does 178 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:01,679 Speaker 1: a lot of sound therapy and she does you know, 179 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:05,320 Speaker 1: she'll do tapping with you in the in the session. 180 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 1: But she sends me home with homework from your videos 181 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 1: every time because they're very helpful to me. But I 182 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:16,079 Speaker 1: when she first did it, I was like, okay, lady, 183 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:18,840 Speaker 1: like this is insane, you know, And just also it 184 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: doesn't seem like it's one of those things like in 185 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 1: the moment, maybe you're like, okay, cool, Yeah, this could help, 186 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: But I don't know that I've understood that consistently doing 187 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:31,679 Speaker 1: it could help heal some of my real deep traumas 188 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 1: um But the minute that I started actually doing the tapping, 189 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 1: I knew it was something real because the second she 190 00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:40,679 Speaker 1: told me to say the first phrase that I said 191 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: and I started tapping, I started crying. So it was 192 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:49,560 Speaker 1: obviously like targeting into something much much deeper, very unconscious 193 00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 1: for me, but also very strong in driving the decisions 194 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: I was making. Like you said, so have you seen 195 00:11:56,080 --> 00:12:01,720 Speaker 1: that with a lot of people, Yes, because we get 196 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:07,240 Speaker 1: this stuff trapped in our energy system, and you know, 197 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: from very early on. So many of these things are 198 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:14,080 Speaker 1: are from a very early age, and we make decisions 199 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:21,560 Speaker 1: about ourselves and about situations and what's safe, and you know, 200 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: and and sometimes the tapping can sometimes happen very quickly. 201 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: The the the effect, and we notice an immediate shift. 202 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 1: And some of these things are have been around for 203 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: so long and have so many aspects that it takes 204 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 1: persistence over some times to clear these different aspects. But 205 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 1: to me, tapping is like energy hygiene. So we have 206 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:48,439 Speaker 1: physical hygiene like brushing our teeth and taking a shower, 207 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:51,400 Speaker 1: and we do it on a regular basis. You know, 208 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:54,320 Speaker 1: we don't wait until there's green things growing between our 209 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: teeth and say now I should brush my teeth. We 210 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 1: don't wait most of us until pull around us or 211 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:03,440 Speaker 1: holding their nose and saying, ah, I now should take 212 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 1: a shower. But with stress, we don't do that. Uh, 213 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: most of us don't have a cleansing process for our 214 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: energy system, and so that stuff builds up and we 215 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 1: may have, you know, decades of energy filth that that 216 00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:27,959 Speaker 1: it's built up. So I read, so I recommend tapping 217 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:31,199 Speaker 1: on a daily basis, just like brushing your teeth. So 218 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:33,600 Speaker 1: what does it look like or how does that manifest 219 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:37,640 Speaker 1: when your energy is stuck? What does that physically look 220 00:13:37,679 --> 00:13:41,680 Speaker 1: like in people? You know, it can look like so 221 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 1: many different things. There are plenty of physical ailments that 222 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 1: are manifestations of that stress and those trapped emotions. Certainly 223 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: in um in Louise Hayes book You Can Heal Your Life, 224 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:58,320 Speaker 1: she has a chart listing out all kinds of physical 225 00:13:58,320 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 1: ailments and what the trapped emotion. Maybe, so those things 226 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 1: can manifest in all kinds of ways and in all 227 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:10,760 Speaker 1: kinds of behavioral things, the way that we take certain 228 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:14,640 Speaker 1: actions or we stop ourselves from taking certain actions, and 229 00:14:14,679 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: it all has positive intention. You know, when whether we're 230 00:14:19,800 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: forgetting quote unquote forgetting to make that call to that 231 00:14:24,280 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: perspective employer, or we're yelling at somebody whatever, whatever that 232 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: behavior is, there's part of the saying I need to 233 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 1: do this to keep myself safe. And so we can 234 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:40,560 Speaker 1: allow ourselves to reconnize, Okay, it's all about trying to 235 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:44,640 Speaker 1: take care of myself, and there is some level of 236 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,120 Speaker 1: stress that's coming up, and particularly in the ways we 237 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 1: block our success because something tells us more success will 238 00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:55,360 Speaker 1: not be safe. And so when we can allow ourselves 239 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:58,480 Speaker 1: to say, all right, I can see that I'm trying 240 00:14:58,520 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 1: to protect myself, and now is as I task and 241 00:15:02,040 --> 00:15:05,240 Speaker 1: I calmed down that stress response, I can look and say, 242 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 1: is what I'm afraid of? Weal? Or is this in misunderstanding? 243 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:14,000 Speaker 1: Do I know? One of the things with money for 244 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:15,880 Speaker 1: a lot of folks is the fear that will become 245 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:22,600 Speaker 1: a gleedy and nasty person. Well that's not necessarily true. 246 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 1: And people, you know, there are there are, there are 247 00:15:26,400 --> 00:15:31,240 Speaker 1: nasty poor people, and there are wonderful, loving, kind rich people. 248 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:34,760 Speaker 1: Money doesn't do that to you. It's our fears and beliefs. 249 00:15:34,760 --> 00:15:38,120 Speaker 1: So as we clear that stress and that that need 250 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 1: to cling to what is familiar. And that was the 251 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:46,200 Speaker 1: thing about bringing a thing about identifying ourselves as I 252 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 1: am always this way, we we create an identity of 253 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:54,320 Speaker 1: ourselves based on our past experience and say that's who 254 00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:56,840 Speaker 1: I am. And we have a as human beings, we 255 00:15:56,920 --> 00:16:00,720 Speaker 1: love to be right. So we will engage each behavior 256 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:04,440 Speaker 1: that proved, well, that was not the best outcome, but hey, 257 00:16:04,440 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 1: at least I proved that I'm right about who I 258 00:16:06,400 --> 00:16:12,760 Speaker 1: am and uh, and so we will keep ourselves trapped 259 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:18,400 Speaker 1: in circumstances based on how we've identified ourselves. And so 260 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: it's allowing ourselves to say, okay, so it was great 261 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: because what you had said there is I've rather whereas 262 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:27,640 Speaker 1: originally you said I'm ir reactive, then you said I've 263 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:31,200 Speaker 1: been reacted this week. It's like, yeah, exactly, that's how 264 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:35,080 Speaker 1: you've been. It's not who you are, it's what you've 265 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:38,000 Speaker 1: been doing. And so when we can separate our identity 266 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:41,560 Speaker 1: from our behavior and recognize our behavior doesn't define us. 267 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:45,240 Speaker 1: But our behavior is a result of how we may 268 00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:51,280 Speaker 1: be incorrectly defining ourselves based on old misunderstandings. And and 269 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 1: there's a part of this that likes to stick to 270 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:56,320 Speaker 1: what's safe and what's familiar, even even if it's self 271 00:16:56,320 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 1: destructive and exactly and so and so there's a partisan 272 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:05,280 Speaker 1: has a stress response when we go to change, even 273 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:07,920 Speaker 1: if we recognize it would be so much better if 274 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:11,800 Speaker 1: I did this, then, Um, but part of says, yes, 275 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:15,600 Speaker 1: but that's not what's familiar. And so I would rather 276 00:17:16,080 --> 00:17:20,639 Speaker 1: do what's familiar and deal with the unfortunate consequences. And 277 00:17:20,880 --> 00:17:23,320 Speaker 1: as we tapping and reduced the stress, we start to 278 00:17:23,359 --> 00:17:27,200 Speaker 1: create an opening to see things differently, do things differently, 279 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:31,720 Speaker 1: and and redefine ourselves in much more empowering ways. I 280 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:34,919 Speaker 1: find it so fast, I mean, this whole thing. You know, 281 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:38,359 Speaker 1: the universe works in mysterious ways for not there's just 282 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:40,679 Speaker 1: not there's not accidents, I guess, I think, And the 283 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:42,760 Speaker 1: fact that I'm actually doing this podcast with you today 284 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:47,200 Speaker 1: is of no accident because you're tapping into so tapping 285 00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:51,159 Speaker 1: in Um, you're tapping into so many things that that 286 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:55,119 Speaker 1: I'm bumping up against and so many of the things 287 00:17:55,119 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 1: that I'm bumping up against our old stories that have 288 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:01,360 Speaker 1: been triggered lately by some things that have happened. But 289 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 1: I am now manifesting that into other aspects of my 290 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:07,320 Speaker 1: life because it's like what you just said, I'm going 291 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:11,680 Speaker 1: to see I did know that story was true or um, 292 00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:14,000 Speaker 1: I can't remember exactly how you just said that, but 293 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:17,280 Speaker 1: that we will do these certain actions to prove that 294 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:19,639 Speaker 1: that message is true, even if it's negative. You know, 295 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:23,440 Speaker 1: a lot of mine lately has been around, um, betrayal, 296 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:26,520 Speaker 1: and that's an old wound from my past. But when 297 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:28,880 Speaker 1: you mentioned the chocolate stuff, you said, like you took 298 00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 1: it to year break, but now you're back, Like how 299 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:36,240 Speaker 1: long and how effective can tapping be to healing? Maybe 300 00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:39,920 Speaker 1: like some PTSD around for instance, like the betrayal stuff 301 00:18:39,960 --> 00:18:42,720 Speaker 1: that hasn't come up for me in a really long time, um, 302 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:45,000 Speaker 1: but it is again. So it's not like it took 303 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:48,600 Speaker 1: it away, but maybe it like helped me through it. 304 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:50,600 Speaker 1: And so now I'm like going, oh, maybe I should 305 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:53,480 Speaker 1: get back to this tapping because obviously something is happening 306 00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:57,120 Speaker 1: in my energy system to bring that back to surface. 307 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:01,920 Speaker 1: Does that make sense? Yeah? Yeah, And there are there 308 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:06,640 Speaker 1: are different aspects to two different things. So and sometimes 309 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:10,199 Speaker 1: so one of the analogies I use imagine that you 310 00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:14,680 Speaker 1: had a field that you wanted to plant, but it's 311 00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 1: got a lot of big has a lot of big 312 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 1: boulders in it, and so you go out one morning 313 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:22,280 Speaker 1: to work on clearing a boulder and you work all 314 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:24,960 Speaker 1: day to clear that boulder out and it's out, and 315 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 1: it's like, wow, that feels great. I feel such a 316 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:30,199 Speaker 1: sense of relief. Go to bed exhausted. You get up 317 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:33,119 Speaker 1: the next morning and they're still boulders in your field, 318 00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 1: and parties like, well, that didn't work. It's like, no, 319 00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:40,880 Speaker 1: it did. You hear some of the field, But those 320 00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:43,520 Speaker 1: other boulders look like the boulder that was there. And 321 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:45,440 Speaker 1: it may be a while because we may come out 322 00:19:45,520 --> 00:19:47,560 Speaker 1: and enjoy the space that we've cleared for a while, 323 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:50,840 Speaker 1: and eventually, as we keep trying to you know, expanding 324 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:54,440 Speaker 1: our comfort zone, then we bump up against the next 325 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 1: boulder and and it tends to look like uh, build boats. 326 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:03,080 Speaker 1: So we of past traumas we make clear a certain 327 00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:06,280 Speaker 1: aspect of that, but then there may be another aspect 328 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,880 Speaker 1: that we haven't addressed. So we may we've been feeling 329 00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 1: some more space and more clear, but then we come 330 00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:15,080 Speaker 1: up I guess another aspect and part of this may say, oh, well, see, 331 00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:18,400 Speaker 1: I guess I didn't clear that you did. You did 332 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:20,960 Speaker 1: clear part of it. There's more that you can do 333 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 1: and uh and and rather than getting upset with ourselves 334 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:27,800 Speaker 1: about oh, engine work, it's like, oh, I was feeling 335 00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: pretty good about that. I guess I could feel even 336 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:34,359 Speaker 1: better because there's even more that I was. I was 337 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: more confined than I thought I was, so now I 338 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:41,080 Speaker 1: can focus on this next boulder and things can get 339 00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: better and better. It's kind of it's reminding me of 340 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:45,800 Speaker 1: my therapist says, oh, that's just that you've gotten a 341 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:48,440 Speaker 1: deeper layer of the onion. Are you peeled to another layer? 342 00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:52,000 Speaker 1: And I'm always like, I don't want another layer, But 343 00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:54,199 Speaker 1: you couldn't have gotten to that deeper layer if you 344 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:57,560 Speaker 1: hadn't done a first layer. Right, we talked. We often 345 00:20:57,600 --> 00:21:00,399 Speaker 1: talk about in capping peeling the layers of the onion 346 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 1: because as we're tapping along, because it's a part of 347 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:08,040 Speaker 1: this that resists knowing what's bothering us, We're we're feeling 348 00:21:08,080 --> 00:21:10,600 Speaker 1: bothered because it part of this says, well, if I'm 349 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:14,080 Speaker 1: feeling bothered, I'll resist opportunities that could feel dangerous for me. 350 00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:16,960 Speaker 1: I don't may not consciously know why I'm doing it. 351 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:23,119 Speaker 1: I'm just unconsciously didn't care myself and and so I 352 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:24,760 Speaker 1: don't And part of me doesn't want to know what 353 00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 1: it is. Part of me doesn't want to take any 354 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:31,280 Speaker 1: time to self reflect and see why I might be 355 00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:34,280 Speaker 1: resisting something. It is just happy that I'm resisting it 356 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:37,840 Speaker 1: and keeping myself safely in my comfort zone, as uncomfortable 357 00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:42,359 Speaker 1: as that might be. So when we're tapping, we calmed 358 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:46,480 Speaker 1: down those fears and we start to allow ourselves to see, oh, 359 00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 1: this is what's bothered me. And sometimes it happened really fast. 360 00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,000 Speaker 1: I was working with this one guy once and like 361 00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 1: from one point to the next, he's like, oh no, 362 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:58,280 Speaker 1: it's this, Oh no, no, no, if this, and would 363 00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:00,280 Speaker 1: keep going to something earlier and early or in his 364 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:04,359 Speaker 1: childhood and all these things, all these things that the 365 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:08,280 Speaker 1: current issue had been stacked upon, and until we got 366 00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:11,240 Speaker 1: down to the foundation of it, and in that sense 367 00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: of relief. So whether we're consciously aware as he became 368 00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:20,639 Speaker 1: of those earlier events or just unconsciously we're we're peeling 369 00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:24,879 Speaker 1: those layers and allowing ourselves to to find what's underneath that, 370 00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:28,439 Speaker 1: and sometimes takes time, like in that instance it was 371 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:32,879 Speaker 1: boom boom boom really quickly getting there. Sometimes it may 372 00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 1: take us years before you know, we feel okay, I 373 00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,760 Speaker 1: feel safer now to move on to the next layer. Okay, 374 00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:42,320 Speaker 1: now I'm dealing with this. Now I'm clearing that it's 375 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,440 Speaker 1: safer than new plex layer. And it can be challenging. 376 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 1: There's a part of us it says, I don't want 377 00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:49,880 Speaker 1: to keep doing that. At the same time, it's like, yeah, 378 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:52,480 Speaker 1: but each time I clear a layer, I feel better 379 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:55,320 Speaker 1: than I did before, even though it's difficult to look 380 00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:59,400 Speaker 1: at it. You know, it's like, hey, you know, having 381 00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:02,080 Speaker 1: to try to from the door that's jam. It's like 382 00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:05,920 Speaker 1: it's frustrating trying to go through this door. But every 383 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,399 Speaker 1: door that I opened, I'm now I now have a 384 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:17,280 Speaker 1: greater space that I can experience. So I'm hearing a 385 00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:21,160 Speaker 1: lot of fear in what you're saying, Like people's fear, 386 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:24,080 Speaker 1: you know, maybe it's fear to change, or like I 387 00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:28,439 Speaker 1: want to know how much or how what percentage do 388 00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:32,000 Speaker 1: you think of our decisions are actually made based upon 389 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:37,200 Speaker 1: fear or keeping ourselves safe. Um, maybe the old messages 390 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,960 Speaker 1: that that there are certain things aren't safe. How much 391 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:45,480 Speaker 1: of our decisions are based on that? Yeah, a lot. Really, 392 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:50,280 Speaker 1: it's a it's been said there's only two of feelings. 393 00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:54,919 Speaker 1: There's emotions. There's love, and there's fear, And almost virtually 394 00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:57,520 Speaker 1: all of our uncomfortable feelings is not all of them. 395 00:23:57,760 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 1: I don't like to call negative emotions because I think 396 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:03,880 Speaker 1: all emotions have a place they they're all there for 397 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:09,240 Speaker 1: for a purpose. But there are definitely feelings like sadness, 398 00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:13,240 Speaker 1: fear and their build shame. Those things are very uncomfortable, 399 00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:17,719 Speaker 1: and I believe there's fear underneath all of them. And 400 00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:21,400 Speaker 1: so all of all these decisions that we make. If 401 00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:24,080 Speaker 1: if we're not making a decision out of love, hey 402 00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:25,840 Speaker 1: I would really love to do this, I'm gonna do it, 403 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:30,200 Speaker 1: then we're then we're probably making it from fear. I'm 404 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 1: afraid that I wouldn't be able to handle this, I'm 405 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:33,879 Speaker 1: afraid that I don't deserve it. I'm afraid of what 406 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:38,000 Speaker 1: other people will think. So whenever we say there's something 407 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,000 Speaker 1: that we want but we're not going for it, it's 408 00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:43,280 Speaker 1: a matter of looking at Okay, what am I afraid of? 409 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 1: That's why they have the question what would you do 410 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:53,480 Speaker 1: if you had no fear? Right, I'm I'm just processing 411 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:57,320 Speaker 1: through what this is, like my behavior husband lately, because 412 00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:01,240 Speaker 1: it's it is it's so interesting that I won't think 413 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:04,960 Speaker 1: that I have a resistance or even a fear to 414 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:08,280 Speaker 1: something like it's not something that I'm consciously aware of, 415 00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,280 Speaker 1: and then something happens and it creeps up, and then 416 00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,680 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, before I know it, I'm like 417 00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 1: a manipulate about manipulating. I don't mean that maybe the 418 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,080 Speaker 1: kind of ways that we think of manipulating and being 419 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:23,159 Speaker 1: like a nasty person, but I'm trying to like control 420 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:26,919 Speaker 1: and design the way things happen, and you know, in 421 00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,560 Speaker 1: the human experience, that's just not how life works. Right, 422 00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:32,080 Speaker 1: especially this year, I think we've all learned that that 423 00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:35,800 Speaker 1: there's very little that we're actually in control of, and 424 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:42,399 Speaker 1: so it's interesting to watch yourself try to resist what's 425 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 1: happening or control what's happening, versus just actually leaning into that. 426 00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:58,719 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, it's uh, that's well. You can 427 00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,720 Speaker 1: fight reality, but reality wins, but only of the time, 428 00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:10,280 Speaker 1: and the stopping ourselves from knowing what we're afraid of 429 00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:17,520 Speaker 1: is brilliant because if I think that, you know, you 430 00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:20,160 Speaker 1: do now subject of money, because that's when that comes 431 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:23,760 Speaker 1: up for so many people. If I am afraid of 432 00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:28,800 Speaker 1: having more money because of you know, the people being jealous, 433 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 1: or it'll be taken from me or whatever it might be. 434 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,120 Speaker 1: But if I know, if I consciously know what I'm 435 00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:38,760 Speaker 1: afraid of, then I might be able to rationalize that 436 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,199 Speaker 1: and let it go and then have more money. So 437 00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:45,320 Speaker 1: on my unconscious minds like, no, I want, it's not 438 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:46,879 Speaker 1: safe to have more money, So I'm not going to 439 00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:50,160 Speaker 1: let you know the information that's going to help you 440 00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,680 Speaker 1: clear that, so that then you put yourself into the 441 00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,200 Speaker 1: dangerous situation that we're trying to avoid in the first place. 442 00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:00,960 Speaker 1: So it's it's the lack of awareness of what we're 443 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:05,080 Speaker 1: afraid of is brilliant in terms of keeping ourselves safely 444 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:08,800 Speaker 1: in our comfort zone. I never thought about it that way, 445 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:12,560 Speaker 1: that we're actually, yeah, we think that we're keeping ourselves safe, 446 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:18,720 Speaker 1: but we're not because it's not really evolving then, right, 447 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 1: it's right, it's all it's all based on misunderstandings. What 448 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:28,280 Speaker 1: do you mean by misunderstandings? It's things that we think 449 00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:34,600 Speaker 1: are are factual or that aren't. And we so it's 450 00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:37,640 Speaker 1: like they talk about if there's a car accident, five 451 00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:40,040 Speaker 1: different people see it in different angles, that will be 452 00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:42,840 Speaker 1: a different description of what happened. And that's what we've 453 00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:45,360 Speaker 1: done with all these events in our lives. And so 454 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:50,080 Speaker 1: you know, if we're three years old and another kid 455 00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:54,680 Speaker 1: takes a toy away from us, and we decide, oh, 456 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 1: that means that I'm not allowed to have what I want, 457 00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,960 Speaker 1: or that I'm not that I'm not worthy of being 458 00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:04,639 Speaker 1: treated with kindness, and and that's not what really is true. 459 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:08,760 Speaker 1: But it's so it's a misunderstanding of what happened. But 460 00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:15,000 Speaker 1: we formulate these beliefs about ourselves primarily, uh. And and 461 00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:18,200 Speaker 1: they're based on misunderstanding, either our misunderstanding and the situation 462 00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:22,359 Speaker 1: or somebody else's. If my parents have a belief that 463 00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:27,400 Speaker 1: all anybody who makes over fifty dollars a year must 464 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 1: be corrupt and and it's a greedy, snobby person. Uh, 465 00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:34,440 Speaker 1: then and they passed that on to me, that's their 466 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:39,320 Speaker 1: misunderstanding because that's not factual. There are there are people 467 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,040 Speaker 1: like that, and then there are plenty of people who 468 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:43,600 Speaker 1: make tons more money than that that are actually loving 469 00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:48,360 Speaker 1: kind people. So so I am now have now been 470 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:53,080 Speaker 1: fed and misunderstanding, and am making decisions based on that 471 00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:56,760 Speaker 1: as we yeah, and and and but when we try 472 00:28:56,760 --> 00:29:00,720 Speaker 1: to confront that, there's a part, as it says, because 473 00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:05,520 Speaker 1: we like to know things. We like to have information settled. 474 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:07,479 Speaker 1: When I get up in the morning, I like to 475 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:09,080 Speaker 1: know that my feet are going to land on the 476 00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,160 Speaker 1: ground and I'm not going to float up this yearning. 477 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:15,880 Speaker 1: I like to know where um. I like to know 478 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:17,640 Speaker 1: where the bathroom is. I like to know where the 479 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,600 Speaker 1: kitchen is. I don't I And I like knowing how 480 00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:22,120 Speaker 1: to walk. I don't want to have to get up 481 00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,880 Speaker 1: and once my feet do touch the ground, go okay. 482 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 1: In order to move to the kitchen, I need to 483 00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 1: pick up my left foot forward, then pick my right up. 484 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:37,680 Speaker 1: What we we have to learn things instinctively and at 485 00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:41,120 Speaker 1: an unconscious level in order to function in life. So 486 00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:44,600 Speaker 1: once we've learned certain things how to walk, how to 487 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:48,720 Speaker 1: find the kitchen, the fact that anybody makes it fifty 488 00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:53,560 Speaker 1: dollars is is jerk. We we like to we like 489 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,240 Speaker 1: to have you know, this is what I know, and 490 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,640 Speaker 1: this is what I'm gonna operate come. So when that 491 00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 1: gets challenged very upsetting. So when we start to try 492 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:06,120 Speaker 1: to take on an idea of oh, you know what, 493 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 1: I could um make more money and be happy and 494 00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:14,120 Speaker 1: be and be a kind person, part of it says no, 495 00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,640 Speaker 1: no, no no, no, no, don't go changing the information. The 496 00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:18,840 Speaker 1: next thing, you know, we're gonna be floating up to 497 00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:20,479 Speaker 1: the ceiling after we get out of bed. The next thing, 498 00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,720 Speaker 1: you know, the bathroom in the kitchen are going to 499 00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:24,320 Speaker 1: be switched and we won't know how to find anything 500 00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 1: in the house. You know, we we need we we 501 00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:32,160 Speaker 1: need that security of knowing what is so, regardless of 502 00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:37,200 Speaker 1: whether it's true or not. So so we have a 503 00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:42,160 Speaker 1: stressful response when at a very unconscious level, you know, 504 00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:44,480 Speaker 1: if we if we decide, hey, I'd like to uh, 505 00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:46,560 Speaker 1: you know, I've been single for a long time. I'd 506 00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:51,640 Speaker 1: like to meet somebody. But depending on our our past 507 00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:55,640 Speaker 1: experiences with relationships, either our own or other people, we 508 00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:58,280 Speaker 1: might be in a grocery store and you know, we 509 00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:03,720 Speaker 1: see somebody, an attractive stranger, and in our mind is 510 00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,720 Speaker 1: racing for like a grand master in chess, you know, 511 00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:10,080 Speaker 1: who's thinking fifty moves ahead. We're some there looking at 512 00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:14,040 Speaker 1: that person at an unconscious level, going, Hey, that person 513 00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,080 Speaker 1: is attractive. I might go up and say hi to 514 00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:17,800 Speaker 1: that person. They might say hi back, and I might 515 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,440 Speaker 1: say something that we might start conversation, a conversation, and 516 00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:22,520 Speaker 1: we might kind we have something in common, like a date, 517 00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:24,560 Speaker 1: and that ta could lead to another date and then 518 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,520 Speaker 1: we could get married and they'd break my heart. Like 519 00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 1: the last person and homeless, there's a stale on Aisle two, 520 00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:33,080 Speaker 1: and we are down towards Aisle two before we're consciously 521 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:44,000 Speaker 1: aware of any of this happening. Oh my gosh, it's 522 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:47,400 Speaker 1: fascinating because I know it's true. We all do this 523 00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:53,360 Speaker 1: all day long. Oh yeah, yeah, we're we're operating at 524 00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:57,960 Speaker 1: that level where we're thinking of all these things, different 525 00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:00,360 Speaker 1: things in all and they keep leading toward. You know, 526 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:02,840 Speaker 1: for anything that you think you should be doing that 527 00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:06,040 Speaker 1: you're not doing, it's because some part of you keeps 528 00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:09,120 Speaker 1: ending up with you being checkmated every time, the worst 529 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:12,160 Speaker 1: case scenarios like this, always this, this move is gonna 530 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:16,680 Speaker 1: end up with me getting hurt and so I need 531 00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 1: to go somewhere else. So if it's so unconscious, how 532 00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:23,560 Speaker 1: do we even know where to start? Like if I mean, 533 00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,800 Speaker 1: as we're listening to you talk about this tapping, and 534 00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:27,880 Speaker 1: I think, you know, if people start doing any sort 535 00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:29,920 Speaker 1: of research on this, I mean, there's a ton of 536 00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:33,480 Speaker 1: actual scientific evidence that this does work in moving the 537 00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:37,040 Speaker 1: energy and your body. But if it's so unconscious, how 538 00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,880 Speaker 1: do we even know like what to start tapping on 539 00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:45,680 Speaker 1: or what topic? And right, So the first is if 540 00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:48,719 Speaker 1: if we're obviously if we're feeling discomfort, then we can 541 00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:51,680 Speaker 1: focus on that. Sure you know, like oh, I'm feeling 542 00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:54,440 Speaker 1: really stressed out, Okay, that's easy to know, or if 543 00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:59,800 Speaker 1: I'm feeling guilty about something in terms of you know that. 544 00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:05,120 Speaker 1: So there's triage tapping, trying to trying to ease a 545 00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:09,120 Speaker 1: problem that's distressing this in the moment, and then there 546 00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:13,160 Speaker 1: is forward moving tapping where we're looking at Okay, I 547 00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,440 Speaker 1: want my life to be better, I want to be healthier, 548 00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:17,080 Speaker 1: I want to be happier, I want to be wealthier. 549 00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:21,720 Speaker 1: And I can look at all, right, what do I want? 550 00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:25,000 Speaker 1: What do I need to do to get there? And 551 00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:29,280 Speaker 1: why am I not doing that? And so we can 552 00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:34,680 Speaker 1: start to look at what's the resistance And generally it's fear. 553 00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:39,360 Speaker 1: Like I've done this with lots of folks where they'll say, well, 554 00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:42,000 Speaker 1: I want to have more success, whether it's more money, 555 00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:44,080 Speaker 1: or I want to be in a relationship, or I 556 00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:47,200 Speaker 1: want to lose weight or whatever it might be. And 557 00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:50,160 Speaker 1: I'll say, actually, I'll find everyone listening to do this 558 00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:56,440 Speaker 1: right now. Close your eyes, imagine what you believe you 559 00:33:56,480 --> 00:34:01,240 Speaker 1: really want but I had not yet been able to create. 560 00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:08,279 Speaker 1: Imagine yourself having that, and say it's safe for you 561 00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:10,880 Speaker 1: to have this, and just let that rattle around inside, 562 00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:14,439 Speaker 1: and notice on a scale as your attend how safe 563 00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:16,719 Speaker 1: it feels. And I know that some of you will 564 00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:19,759 Speaker 1: be compelled to say, oh, it's definitely a ten if 565 00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:23,480 Speaker 1: you are not already experiencing it or not obviously on 566 00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:26,320 Speaker 1: your way towards it. I'm going to say, check again, 567 00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,319 Speaker 1: because the extent to which we don't have what we 568 00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:33,359 Speaker 1: say we want tends to be the extent to which 569 00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:36,840 Speaker 1: we are resisting it. And we generally resist things because 570 00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:40,440 Speaker 1: it doesn't feel safe. And it's not your batter, stupid, 571 00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:43,640 Speaker 1: it's because at some level, some part of you has 572 00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:46,760 Speaker 1: picked up the misunderstanding about why it wouldn't be safe 573 00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:50,120 Speaker 1: to have that, and so you miss opportunities, you stop 574 00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,640 Speaker 1: yourself from doing things that you could do to move 575 00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:57,640 Speaker 1: yourself in that direction. Brilliantly, it's a brilliant thing. It 576 00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:00,799 Speaker 1: com a self stabotage is simply miss I did self love. 577 00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:04,480 Speaker 1: So so we can then look at So that's where 578 00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:07,640 Speaker 1: we started, just looking at where am I stopping myself? 579 00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,919 Speaker 1: You know? If I want to be in better shape? Well, 580 00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:13,640 Speaker 1: am I exercise and every day? That that would certainly help? 581 00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:20,279 Speaker 1: And so where so what's stopping me? What? What makes 582 00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:23,520 Speaker 1: me feel uncomfortable about that? And you know, we could 583 00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:26,600 Speaker 1: even just start with even though I don't want to exercise, 584 00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:29,759 Speaker 1: I choose to love and accept myself, and we start 585 00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:32,000 Speaker 1: to clear out that resistance and we find and we 586 00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:35,880 Speaker 1: start to uncover what am I afraid of? You know? 587 00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:38,720 Speaker 1: Am I am I afraid that? Wow, if I've gotten 588 00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,000 Speaker 1: better shape, people would be more attracted to me, and 589 00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:43,520 Speaker 1: that could be all kinds of problems I can't deal 590 00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:47,800 Speaker 1: with that. It's much safer to and not have people, 591 00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:51,239 Speaker 1: you know, And it's not that it's not that you 592 00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:53,040 Speaker 1: have to be in any kind of particular shape to 593 00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:57,200 Speaker 1: be attractive. It's what you believe makes you attractive or 594 00:35:57,320 --> 00:36:00,400 Speaker 1: or stops yourself from that. That's That's the thing, is 595 00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:03,880 Speaker 1: that we we find what we believe keeps us in 596 00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:10,400 Speaker 1: our comfort zone, so we appreciate that and then start 597 00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:13,280 Speaker 1: clearing those fears. And I recommended that it recommend tapping 598 00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:15,839 Speaker 1: on a daily basis, because as we keep tapping, we're 599 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:17,880 Speaker 1: naturally going to be clearing those things to get in 600 00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:23,160 Speaker 1: the way. What we've talked about tapping, and I realized 601 00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:26,200 Speaker 1: that we didn't actually specify what that might look like. 602 00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:28,719 Speaker 1: You know, like, what are you tapping? I mean, I 603 00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:32,280 Speaker 1: know because I've done some of your exercises in your videos, 604 00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:34,919 Speaker 1: But can you explain to people maybe what that would 605 00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:40,960 Speaker 1: look like. Yeah, absolutely, So we we tapped with the 606 00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:44,759 Speaker 1: with the fingertips or index and middle finger, and you 607 00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:48,399 Speaker 1: can tap with these merdians. Uh, these energy merdians run 608 00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:50,160 Speaker 1: up and down both sides the bodies. You can tap 609 00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:52,520 Speaker 1: with either hand on either side of the body. But 610 00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:54,960 Speaker 1: just for the sake of demonstration, I'm gonna encourage books, 611 00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:58,960 Speaker 1: go ahead and take your dominant hand and the the 612 00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:03,200 Speaker 1: fingertips of your mixing middle finger gently tap on the 613 00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:07,120 Speaker 1: side of your other hand, so right there at the 614 00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:10,840 Speaker 1: edge of your of your hand between your pinky and 615 00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:14,640 Speaker 1: your wrist. If you're to imagine chopping some boards to 616 00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:17,279 Speaker 1: the karate chopping, use that edge of your hand right there, 617 00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:20,160 Speaker 1: so just gently tapp him right there on the side 618 00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,360 Speaker 1: of your hand. And this is where we do what 619 00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:25,400 Speaker 1: we call the setup, so we acknowledge whatever the issue 620 00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:28,759 Speaker 1: is and say this is so. For instance, say you know, 621 00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:32,200 Speaker 1: I'm really angry at Bob right now. Bob has really 622 00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:35,600 Speaker 1: picked me off, and so i'd rate that on a 623 00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:38,400 Speaker 1: scale as your ten. That's about a He was a 624 00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:43,920 Speaker 1: real jerk. And it helps to identify where we're feeling 625 00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:46,520 Speaker 1: it because you know, feelings are not just in our head, 626 00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:48,719 Speaker 1: it's we feel them in our bodies. So it might 627 00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:51,480 Speaker 1: be I feel I feel this tension in my shoulders, 628 00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:54,360 Speaker 1: so I would tap on the side of the hand saying, 629 00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:57,160 Speaker 1: even though I'm angry at Bob, I choose to love 630 00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:01,000 Speaker 1: and accept myself. Let me repeat that three times, and 631 00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:04,560 Speaker 1: then I tapped right at the beginning of your eyebrow 632 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:10,080 Speaker 1: point so right about the middle of your face, and 633 00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,759 Speaker 1: just channing attacked the beginning of your eyebrow. And we 634 00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:16,680 Speaker 1: generally tapped between five and ten times, but if we're 635 00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,520 Speaker 1: saying a longer phrase, we might be tapping twenty times. 636 00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,319 Speaker 1: It's okay, it's not an exact science in terms of 637 00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:27,040 Speaker 1: how many times you tapped. So we tapped to be 638 00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:30,479 Speaker 1: of the eyebrow, saying all this ANGERD bob. Then we'd 639 00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:33,640 Speaker 1: follow the eyebrow out to the the side of the 640 00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:40,520 Speaker 1: eye and say all this angerd bob. Then right under 641 00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:42,600 Speaker 1: the middle of your eye, all the san grid bomb, 642 00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:47,279 Speaker 1: right under the middle of your nose, right about your 643 00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:52,880 Speaker 1: up all the sang grid bob. And then let on 644 00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:56,719 Speaker 1: your chins above your just about your chin, right under 645 00:38:56,760 --> 00:39:02,000 Speaker 1: your lower lifts, all the sang grid bob, the collar bone, 646 00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:06,600 Speaker 1: all the sang glad bob. So it's right if you 647 00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:08,640 Speaker 1: feel your collar bones just about come together, there's a 648 00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:12,400 Speaker 1: U shape at the base of your throat, and you 649 00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:17,360 Speaker 1: just tap right there. And then the next point is 650 00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:19,680 Speaker 1: under your arm about florenches below your arm, right about 651 00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:22,080 Speaker 1: brass draft level. I'm sure even the guys can figure 652 00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:26,920 Speaker 1: out what that is. All the sand bob. And then 653 00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:30,520 Speaker 1: finally the top of your head all the sanglod bob. 654 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:38,600 Speaker 1: And then you take a deep breath and and then 655 00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:42,400 Speaker 1: just feeling then we checking again and say, okay, how 656 00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:46,439 Speaker 1: angry am I bob? Right now and generally that number 657 00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:52,680 Speaker 1: will come down, and we may also be killing the 658 00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:54,759 Speaker 1: layers of the youngion and getting more clear about Oh 659 00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:58,759 Speaker 1: I know what it is. That's so same. That's what 660 00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,120 Speaker 1: I was just about to say, because when even in 661 00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:02,960 Speaker 1: that I was doing that as you were talking and 662 00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:07,239 Speaker 1: saying my phrase, and it changed from let's say it 663 00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:10,280 Speaker 1: was all this anger at Bob to know, my feelings 664 00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:13,239 Speaker 1: are just hurt by the end of it, like like 665 00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:16,200 Speaker 1: I understood a deeper level of what I was actually 666 00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:22,239 Speaker 1: feeling that you know, the anger was just covering up right, 667 00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:24,719 Speaker 1: and it may you know, we maybe kept along ago. 668 00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:27,880 Speaker 1: Oh it's not anger at Bob. It's what Bob did. 669 00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:33,120 Speaker 1: Reminds me of something that stalid and uh yeah, So 670 00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:36,439 Speaker 1: we get a little by little get killing those layers 671 00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:44,479 Speaker 1: in the onion and understanding where the where that's coming from. Wow, 672 00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:48,239 Speaker 1: well I find and what and ultimately what it means 673 00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:51,160 Speaker 1: about us, because that's right, this is what we believe 674 00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:53,719 Speaker 1: it means about us, like the story in our head? 675 00:40:53,840 --> 00:41:00,080 Speaker 1: Is that what you mean or just our response? Right? So, 676 00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:02,279 Speaker 1: if I'm angry with Bob because he was a jerk, 677 00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:06,239 Speaker 1: because part of me says, because because that proves that 678 00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:10,800 Speaker 1: I'm not worthy of being treated with respective. You know, 679 00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:13,359 Speaker 1: if I were good enough, if I were a good 680 00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:20,680 Speaker 1: enough person, Bob wouldn't have done what you did. I mean, 681 00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:25,160 Speaker 1: it's just so fascinating to me because I well, first 682 00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:28,120 Speaker 1: of all, the energy and our bodies is fascinating to 683 00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:30,520 Speaker 1: me because I don't think that a lot of us 684 00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:34,280 Speaker 1: are aware of it, and it's constantly, you know, shifting 685 00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:37,480 Speaker 1: and moving, and it's tied to all of our emotions 686 00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:39,880 Speaker 1: and all of the experiences we're having, and not that 687 00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:42,600 Speaker 1: many people talk about it, which is I think we're 688 00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:45,120 Speaker 1: starting to a little more. But you can go sit 689 00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:47,680 Speaker 1: and talk therapy and all of these things for years, 690 00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:51,680 Speaker 1: but not address what's happening in your body and your 691 00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:54,839 Speaker 1: body's response to all that stress, all those emotions, all 692 00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:58,279 Speaker 1: the trauma, all the experiences. And if you're not addressing that, 693 00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:04,279 Speaker 1: are you actually ever healing from that? You know, to 694 00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:07,440 Speaker 1: start to some extent, But it's certainly, you know, we 695 00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:10,719 Speaker 1: there's a mind body connection, and so to deal with 696 00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:13,640 Speaker 1: it at the physical level is so much more powerful 697 00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:17,000 Speaker 1: because we can really address things at a much deeper 698 00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:23,560 Speaker 1: level and get a much better level of resolution. Um well, 699 00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:25,520 Speaker 1: I just think this is fascinating. I could talk about 700 00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:28,239 Speaker 1: it forever. I do want people to go check out 701 00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:31,160 Speaker 1: your videos and look more into this stuff. And I 702 00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,360 Speaker 1: think a lot of it is visual, and so I 703 00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:36,920 Speaker 1: really encourage you guys to go read about e f T, 704 00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:39,319 Speaker 1: but also watch some of Brad's videos and try them 705 00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:41,000 Speaker 1: and see what comes up for you. So where can 706 00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:45,440 Speaker 1: people go do that? Well, you can go to my 707 00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:50,080 Speaker 1: website tap We've Brad com okay and and it's tap 708 00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:53,160 Speaker 1: Weve Brad on YouTube, or I've got over nine hundred 709 00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:58,880 Speaker 1: videos on Instagram and Facebook. It's all type and tapped 710 00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:02,279 Speaker 1: with Brad and find and my various resources. You know 711 00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:04,640 Speaker 1: which video I used to do every morning was Tap 712 00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:06,840 Speaker 1: of the Morning. Is that what it's called Tap of 713 00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:09,479 Speaker 1: the morning to you or something? My very first video 714 00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:13,440 Speaker 1: was that. Yeah, yeah, when I when I was doing 715 00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:16,560 Speaker 1: the f T when I first learned it, I had 716 00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:18,439 Speaker 1: been doing it for a bit and then YouTube came around. 717 00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:19,920 Speaker 1: I thought it wouldn't it be cool if there was 718 00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:21,880 Speaker 1: a video of people could start their day with, and 719 00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:24,000 Speaker 1: I'll call it Tap of the Morning. And that was 720 00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:26,360 Speaker 1: all I intended to do. I had. I had no 721 00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:31,680 Speaker 1: idea of creating this catalog of hundreds of videos, I thought, well, 722 00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:34,719 Speaker 1: I'll just do that one video, and uh, you know 723 00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,440 Speaker 1: it was kind of theatrical in it, and uh, it 724 00:43:37,600 --> 00:43:41,920 Speaker 1: was like six months before I decided, you know, I 725 00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:43,600 Speaker 1: should have one to end of day. I'll call it 726 00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:46,640 Speaker 1: Tap of the Evening. And then and then more ideas 727 00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:52,239 Speaker 1: came and now you know, a decade later and videos later. Wow, 728 00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:57,400 Speaker 1: that's crazy. The Tap of the morning. Actually, if you guys, 729 00:43:57,480 --> 00:43:59,560 Speaker 1: I know, just in this pandemic time, I feel like 730 00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:02,240 Speaker 1: I keep reading articles about this is just a collective 731 00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:04,680 Speaker 1: trauma that we're all facing. And I know, you know, 732 00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,360 Speaker 1: the change that I've felt in my life over this 733 00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:09,239 Speaker 1: year has been extreme, and I think a lot of 734 00:44:09,320 --> 00:44:12,040 Speaker 1: people are dealing with that too. And as we've said 735 00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:14,680 Speaker 1: a little bit before, our bodies tend to be in 736 00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:17,600 Speaker 1: our minds tend to be resistant to change. So the 737 00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:19,319 Speaker 1: Tap of the Morning is a great way to start 738 00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:22,520 Speaker 1: if you just need some encouragement and positivity to start 739 00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:24,400 Speaker 1: your day. That's where I used it was when I 740 00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:26,960 Speaker 1: was going through a hard time and it was suggested 741 00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:28,759 Speaker 1: to me to start my day that way, and I 742 00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:34,160 Speaker 1: always started much more peaceful, much more positive, um able 743 00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:36,200 Speaker 1: to see the things that I had to be grateful 744 00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:39,040 Speaker 1: for and all of those kind of feelings. So you 745 00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:41,440 Speaker 1: guys go check that out. Brad. Thank you so much 746 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,480 Speaker 1: for being here. I am such a fans This was 747 00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:47,480 Speaker 1: so fun for me. Thank you, Kelly. I greatly appreciate 748 00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:50,319 Speaker 1: the opportunity to share this. You guys go check out 749 00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:54,239 Speaker 1: Brad Yates. It is tap with Brad dot com and 750 00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:57,640 Speaker 1: keep me posted if you try some videos. Thanks for listening.