WEBVTT - "Does It Ever Get Easier?" - Part 2 (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out be out wait everything

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm made done, won't spend my life trying to change.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm learning love who I am, I get I'm strong,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel free, I know everybody of me. It's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>And that will always out way if.

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<v Speaker 2>You feel it. But she'll some love to the vio.

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<v Speaker 2>Why get there? Say go one day? Ana? Did you

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<v Speaker 2>and die out way? Happy Saturday, out weigh.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Leanne Ellington, and we are back to follow up

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<v Speaker 1>last week's conversation, which was all around this common question

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<v Speaker 1>that I get asked all the time, which is does

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<v Speaker 1>it get easier? And that is the million dollar question

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<v Speaker 1>that really doesn't have a simple answer, but we are

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<v Speaker 1>definitely going to simplify it as much as we possibly can.

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<v Speaker 1>So last week we started this important conversation and this

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<v Speaker 1>week I want a more or less give you a

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<v Speaker 1>checklist that you can literally use to make sure that

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<v Speaker 1>you're teaching your brain ease instead of inadvertently or accidentally

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<v Speaker 1>teaching it to work harder. So let's just start there,

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<v Speaker 1>shall we, So instead of making it so hard and

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<v Speaker 1>so complex, because let's be honest, there is so much

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<v Speaker 1>information that confuses us out there nowadays, and let's be honest,

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<v Speaker 1>everyone is an air quotes expert nowadays too, and of

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<v Speaker 1>course I'm putting expert in air quotes, but to boot,

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<v Speaker 1>every expert is telling you something different to do. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, maybe it's count carbs or count calories, or

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<v Speaker 1>fake it till you make it, or work harder at

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<v Speaker 1>the gym, and this just confuses the daylights out of us, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And the general theme is that the world is throwing

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<v Speaker 1>more diets and exercise plans at a deeper problem. And

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<v Speaker 1>if you're anything like I was, you might still be

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<v Speaker 1>trying to outdiet or outsmart a deeper problem. And there's

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<v Speaker 1>no shame in that whatsoever. That's why we're having these conversations.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's also no wonder that one of the most

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<v Speaker 1>common questions I get asked by, you know, women like you,

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<v Speaker 1>stressed out dieters, people that are sick of thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>food is leanne does it ever get easier? And so

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<v Speaker 1>why is it that you're going strong and then life

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<v Speaker 1>happens and the slope just gets slippery again, And why.

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<v Speaker 2>Doesn't your brain just keep the path?

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<v Speaker 1>So let's talk about making it simpler and easier, but

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<v Speaker 1>in a way that your brain actually deems easier, so

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<v Speaker 1>that we can stop teaching our brains to do things

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<v Speaker 1>the hard way, as in, really take the time and

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<v Speaker 1>energy one time to teach your brain a new language

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<v Speaker 1>and a new way of thinking.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's a language that.

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<v Speaker 1>Gets easier the more you practice it, and you get

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<v Speaker 1>better at it the more you practice it, so that

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<v Speaker 1>it just becomes who you are versus dieting just gets harder,

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<v Speaker 1>you get worse at it, and we never get good

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<v Speaker 1>at it. Right, So let's talk about that kind of

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<v Speaker 1>thinking for a change, the kind that gets easier. And

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<v Speaker 1>my simple answer to the question of does it get

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<v Speaker 1>easier is yes and no, depending on how you look

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<v Speaker 1>at it. So yes, it gets easier if you're practicing ease,

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<v Speaker 1>and no, it never gets easier if you're always practicing hard.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's why it's so important that you know which

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<v Speaker 1>one you're practicing, because, as you've learned from everything that

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<v Speaker 1>we talk about here on this podcast, your brain gets

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<v Speaker 1>good at whatever we practice. So if you are making

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<v Speaker 1>things harder, it's because you're practicing it in a hard way, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And all you need is some awareness, awareness of how

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<v Speaker 1>you are practicing the hard way. And really, when I

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<v Speaker 1>say the hard way, this is how your brain sees it,

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<v Speaker 1>so that you can shift over to practicing the easy way,

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<v Speaker 1>as in how your brain and nervous system also sees it.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's take a look at all the ways in

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<v Speaker 1>which you might actually be practicing hard. So the first

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<v Speaker 1>one is control. So this includes things like restriction, deprivation, punishment, persuasion,

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<v Speaker 1>so the counting, the wigh, the measuring, the micromanaging, the obsession. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's number one control. Next we have pain.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so this.

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<v Speaker 1>Means physical, mental, or emotional pain. It might even mean

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<v Speaker 1>social or spiritual pain. Right, Practicing anything that is soul sucking,

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<v Speaker 1>energy robbing, smile stealing, stress inducing, or that you outright

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<v Speaker 1>do not like or do not enjoy. You're practicing hard

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<v Speaker 1>anything that causes And this is number three. Internal discord. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So this includes experiencing guilt or shame or blame. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you're experiencing a lot of comparisonitis or perfectionism or judgment.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it's just self criticism, right, and there's definitely we

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<v Speaker 1>talk about that a lot on this podcast. But that

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<v Speaker 1>internal discord, if that's what you're practicing, you're practicing hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Number four is extremism. So this means all the black white,

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<v Speaker 1>all in, all out mentality, rightly, like you're either all

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<v Speaker 1>in or you're all out, using language labeling things as

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<v Speaker 1>good bad, right?

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<v Speaker 2>Wrong? Should? Should it? Always? Never?

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<v Speaker 1>Or committing to anything that causes you to sacrifice your happiness,

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<v Speaker 1>peace of mind, or freedom for results. Okay, So if

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<v Speaker 1>you have extremism built into your plan, you're practicing hard,

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<v Speaker 1>your brain will never get good at it. Number five

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<v Speaker 1>too fast or too much? Okay, So that might be

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<v Speaker 1>that zero to sixty mentality like too much, too soon,

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<v Speaker 1>or unsustainable expectations or unrealistic expectations, so you know that

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<v Speaker 1>lose twenty pounds and twenty minutes kind of thought process,

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<v Speaker 1>or again, just that zero to sixty mentality. So if

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<v Speaker 1>it's too fast or too much, you're practicing hard. But

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<v Speaker 1>also the flip side number six, if it's too slow

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<v Speaker 1>or too little. Okay, So this might show up in

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<v Speaker 1>the form of being kind of non committal, right or

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you're dabbling in a bunch of things and you're

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<v Speaker 1>staying like interested in it, but you've never committed to it,

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<v Speaker 1>like you've never fully committed to solving the problem, and

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<v Speaker 1>then in turn, you're living in the gray, so you're

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<v Speaker 1>like you're not in, but you're not fully out either.

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<v Speaker 1>And for me, honestly, sometimes like living in the gray

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<v Speaker 1>feels harder than when I'm totally off, you know, or

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm out, or when I'm done, or when I'm resigned.

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<v Speaker 1>So too slow or too little could be considered hard

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<v Speaker 1>to your brain. The other way you practice hard is

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<v Speaker 1>if something has and this is number seven, diminishing return.

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<v Speaker 1>So anything that gets harder the more we practice it,

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<v Speaker 1>or it just never gets easy, or anything that we

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<v Speaker 1>get worse at the more that we practice it, or

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<v Speaker 1>we just never seem to get good at it, you're

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<v Speaker 1>going to get those diminishing returns. And it's never going

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<v Speaker 1>to be the air quotes thing that's going to heal

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<v Speaker 1>your struggles. Right, And so those are seven main things

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<v Speaker 1>that your brain could be doing that's practicing hard.

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<v Speaker 2>And this is not the only list, right, this.

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<v Speaker 1>Is not the the you know, cumulative, end all, be

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<v Speaker 1>all list. There's other things that are not on this list,

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<v Speaker 1>but these are the most common and honestly the most

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<v Speaker 1>sneaky and the easiest traps to fall into if you're

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<v Speaker 1>not aware Luckily, though, you are now aware of all

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<v Speaker 1>of those ways that you.

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<v Speaker 2>Can practice hard.

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<v Speaker 1>So now let's take a look at what does your

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<v Speaker 1>brain need to practice easy or practice ease? Okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>number one is freedom. So this is about feeling like

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<v Speaker 1>we have a choice or an abundance of choices, right,

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<v Speaker 1>feeling like we have influence over ourselves and our behaviors

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<v Speaker 1>rather than those behaviors controlling us, or feeling like our

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<v Speaker 1>brain controls us or food controls us.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>Feeling free, like not chained or confined by rules and

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<v Speaker 1>restrictions and especially diets. Right, So your brain needs to

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<v Speaker 1>practice freedom, which is again the opposite of choice being

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<v Speaker 1>taken away from you. Number two, though, might sound a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit counterintuitive now that I just said freedom, But

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<v Speaker 1>number two is actually structure. Okay, so here's the reality.

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<v Speaker 1>Our brains desire and crave predictability and structure. Our brains

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<v Speaker 1>want to know that we can like count on it,

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<v Speaker 1>like count on a system or like a plan.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, But this is very different.

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<v Speaker 1>The idea of structure is very different than control or

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<v Speaker 1>hard and fast rules or feeling imprisoned by that structure. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>And so the best structure for your brain is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be based on principles and thought processes that are

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<v Speaker 1>in alignment with you and your values, but that also

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<v Speaker 1>make you feel free. Remember that, like I was saying,

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<v Speaker 1>too much control, and your inner rebel will chime in

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<v Speaker 1>and have a field day and be like, nope, we

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<v Speaker 1>are not doing that. So just a little side note,

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<v Speaker 1>One of the things I talk about with my clients

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<v Speaker 1>right before they graduate so we can really hone in

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<v Speaker 1>their recipe is this idea of like, how can we

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<v Speaker 1>give you the structure that your brain needs, but with

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<v Speaker 1>freedom built into the beginning, so you're getting that happy medium.

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<v Speaker 1>And it really is like a delicate dance. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>recipe that you need to create.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. So number two is structure. Number three is flexibility.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, And so we can't feel totally confined in or

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<v Speaker 1>boxed in by that structure. It has to allow us

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<v Speaker 1>to also experience freedom while we go and enable us

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<v Speaker 1>to adapt to our lives as we go. And that's why,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, flexibility is the opposite of hard and fast rules.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you're in that black and white, all or

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<v Speaker 1>nothing mindset, flexibility doesn't look like a good thing. It

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<v Speaker 1>looks like you air quotes fell off the wagon. And

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<v Speaker 1>so that's why it's like we've got to get aligned

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<v Speaker 1>with this concept of like no flexibility is part of

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<v Speaker 1>it from the beginning, or else this plan isn't going

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<v Speaker 1>to work for me. Right, So number three is flexibility.

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<v Speaker 1>Number four is consistency. Okay, So if you're not able

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<v Speaker 1>to get yourself to do it consistency consistently, I should say,

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<v Speaker 1>you are never going to get the returns. You're not

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<v Speaker 1>going to get the return on your investment of time

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<v Speaker 1>and energy and heart and soul. Right, And so you're

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<v Speaker 1>better off working in minimums as opposed to maximums zero

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<v Speaker 1>to sixty and working in minimums in small steps and

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<v Speaker 1>baby steps and small doses and doing thing things consistently

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<v Speaker 1>rather than working in maximums and doing it sporadically or

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<v Speaker 1>let's be honest, not doing it at all. And so

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<v Speaker 1>consistency trump's intensity all day, every day. So it's consistency

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<v Speaker 1>over intensity, which is obviously not a lot of what

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing. A lot of times people are really thinking

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<v Speaker 1>that intensity is the way.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that go harder, go home kind of mindset.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, consistency is the key, and consistency over

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<v Speaker 1>intensity is the key. Which is the opposite of what

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<v Speaker 1>most people are doing, and definitely the opposite of like

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<v Speaker 1>diets and like the weight loss mentality and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So consistency is number four. Sustainability. Okay, anything that we

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<v Speaker 1>can see ourselves doing not just a week from now,

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<v Speaker 1>but a month from now, three months from now, twelve

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<v Speaker 1>months from now, right, and anything that doesn't fit into

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<v Speaker 1>this category is bound to be a time limited thing

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<v Speaker 1>and will eventually.

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<v Speaker 2>Get harder the more we practice it, right.

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<v Speaker 1>And so one of the things I talk to my

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<v Speaker 1>clients about is like, first of all, I do care,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm like, yes, I care about the short run,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I want you to be happy in the short run.

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<v Speaker 1>But like, instead of thinking about, you know, forty five

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<v Speaker 1>or fifty five year old version of you, who do

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<v Speaker 1>you want to be and how do you want to

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<v Speaker 1>be feeling at sixty five seventy five, let's get optimistic

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred and five so that you're not thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>this and you can deal with this now and not

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<v Speaker 1>have to live in it forever. Live like working on

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<v Speaker 1>this forever, because let's be honest, most of the people

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<v Speaker 1>I talk to, they're like, leanne, I have been thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about this for so many years. I've been trying to

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<v Speaker 1>figure it out for years, like I just want to

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<v Speaker 1>be done right. And that's where I invite you to

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<v Speaker 1>start thinking ahead, like not just what you could do

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<v Speaker 1>sustain like right now. And there is a time and

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<v Speaker 1>a place. There's short term experiments where you can say, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to do this. It's not a forever thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna do it for three days. But a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of women aren't thinking like that, in like they

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<v Speaker 1>just commit to the next diet, the next diet, and

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<v Speaker 1>they don't think about, like, who do I want to

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<v Speaker 1>be a year, five years, ten years from now, so

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm not dealing with this anymore. And that's where

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<v Speaker 1>the sustainability piece of the puzzle comes into play. Number

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<v Speaker 1>six is practicality, and so it fits within the constructs

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<v Speaker 1>of our lives and our circumstances and our wants and

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<v Speaker 1>our needs as opposed to trying to force it or

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<v Speaker 1>overhaul our life right. And so anything that forces us

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<v Speaker 1>to uproot our lives or sacrifice the things that are

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<v Speaker 1>important to us is not going to be part of

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<v Speaker 1>a long term solution.

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<v Speaker 2>And it will never get easier the more you practice it.

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<v Speaker 1>Which is again the definition of what your brain needs

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<v Speaker 1>to consider something easy like does it get easier the

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<v Speaker 1>more I practice it?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Number seven And a lot of people don't think about this,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's really important.

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<v Speaker 2>Is happiness.

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<v Speaker 1>Anything that adds joy or ease or peace or happiness

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<v Speaker 1>or creates energy is what your brain needs.

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<v Speaker 2>Now here's the thing. It might not always be like.

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<v Speaker 1>Pie in the sky, like happy dance joyful, right, but

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<v Speaker 1>it just can't, at the very least take it away.

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<v Speaker 1>So if anything is taking away your happiness or making

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<v Speaker 1>you miserable beyond the scope of this episode, it's creating

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<v Speaker 1>something called negative neuro associations, and your brain will never

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<v Speaker 1>learn it long term. And then number eight, I think

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<v Speaker 1>is one of the most like important ones, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>also kind of the simplest is it's got to create

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<v Speaker 1>actual habit creation. Okay, And here's what I mean by

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<v Speaker 1>that again, And you might think I sound like a

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<v Speaker 1>broken record, but it's so important. Anything that gets easier

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<v Speaker 1>the more we practice it, or maybe it's easy from

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<v Speaker 1>day one, and anything that we get better at it

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<v Speaker 1>the more we practice it, or that maybe we just

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<v Speaker 1>start off good at it.

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<v Speaker 2>This is what's going to enable us.

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<v Speaker 1>To keep practicing it and get the consistency and get

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<v Speaker 1>the reps that you actually need to create a habit. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is how you practice ease. And if you're

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<v Speaker 1>anything like me, and remember I was dieting since I

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<v Speaker 1>was a kid, this is not the stuff that usually

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<v Speaker 1>comes alongside dieting or thinking about food twenty four to seven, right,

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<v Speaker 1>that the other list when we're talking about all the

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<v Speaker 1>ways you practice hard, that's what comes alongside that, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And that's why you need a whole new way of

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<v Speaker 1>thinking and a really you know, taking a radically different approach,

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<v Speaker 1>which again might seem foreign to a lot of women

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<v Speaker 1>listening to this right now. Right, But here's also an

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<v Speaker 1>important side note, and I'll get kind of geeky, but

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<v Speaker 1>not too geeky. On a brain level, short term habits

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<v Speaker 1>and those long term like always have them, actually become

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<v Speaker 1>a habit in your brain kind of habits. Short term

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<v Speaker 1>and long term habits live in two separate parts of

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<v Speaker 1>your brain. And so the long term part of your

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<v Speaker 1>brain is driven by ease and pleasure or at least

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<v Speaker 1>can't be experiencing pain. And when your brain experiences the

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<v Speaker 1>opposite of those things, So if it's experiencing you know,

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<v Speaker 1>resistance or force or persuasion, like you're persuading yourself to

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<v Speaker 1>do or not do something, or eat or not eat something,

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<v Speaker 1>or constant hunger for example. Right, that's another example of

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<v Speaker 1>you know, hard, your brain is essentially going to say, like,

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<v Speaker 1>don't worry, brain, we don't have to move this over

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<v Speaker 1>to the long term storage part of our brain. She's

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<v Speaker 1>not going to be doing that very long, right, And

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<v Speaker 1>nine times out of ten your brain would be right, right,

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<v Speaker 1>unless you're just eking out willpower to do it. So again,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just science, right. And that's when it comes to

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<v Speaker 1>that question of does it ever get easier? Well, again,

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<v Speaker 1>the answer is yes and no. It gets easier if

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<v Speaker 1>you practice easier, and it never gets easier if you're

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<v Speaker 1>practicing harder. And so we become whatever we practice, and

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<v Speaker 1>it really does become a matter of what are you practicing?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you practicing ease or are you practicing hard? And yeah, again,

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<v Speaker 1>you can go play the focus on your physical appearance

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<v Speaker 1>game over and over again and never break the cycle,

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<v Speaker 1>or you can do what we're doing right here and

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<v Speaker 1>just really change your thinking so that you can get

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<v Speaker 1>different results. But if you want to do differently and

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<v Speaker 1>behave differently. You must think and believe differently. It really

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<v Speaker 1>is as simple as that, and the truth is and

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<v Speaker 1>there's no shame in it. But most women won't do

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<v Speaker 1>this right. Most women go start looking for the next

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<v Speaker 1>diet or the next game of control myself, or the

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<v Speaker 1>next you know, action item they can check off like

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<v Speaker 1>a tick box.

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<v Speaker 2>Right. But those that do.

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<v Speaker 1>That, like stop the definition of insanity of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>doing the same things over and over again and expecting

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<v Speaker 1>different results, they're the ones that are going to find

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<v Speaker 1>that the journey to healing actually begins and the suffering

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<v Speaker 1>ends and all of the good stuff that comes on

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<v Speaker 1>the other side of healing that road can finally begin.

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<v Speaker 2>So that is it for today, outweigh and if.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to learn more about how to turn off

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<v Speaker 1>the part of your brain that's obsessed with food or

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<v Speaker 1>obsessed with your weight and rewire your own brain for

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<v Speaker 1>peace and freedom, then head on over to Stressless Eating

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<v Speaker 1>dot com and sign up to watch the Stressless Eating

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<v Speaker 1>sneak preview, where I've literally peeled back the curtain and

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<v Speaker 1>walked you through the exact strategy I teach my clients

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<v Speaker 1>to heal themselves from the all or nothing diet mentality

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<v Speaker 1>for good but without restricting themselves or punishing their bodies,

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<v Speaker 1>and definitely without ever having to use words like macros,

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<v Speaker 1>low carb or calorie burn. And so it is there

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<v Speaker 1>for you over at Stressless Eating dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you like, outweigh.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually have another podcast here on iHeart where I

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<v Speaker 1>talk about all of this self image and body image stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>but from the perspective of where brain science intersects faith and.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's called What's God Got to Do With It?

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<v Speaker 1>And you can access it here on iHeart or wherever

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<v Speaker 1>you get your podcasts. So that's it for today. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>Leahne Ellington and I'll talk to you soon. Bye.