WEBVTT - Tit Snake 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:15.920 I got boo boo boo boo boo. You know what 0:00:15.960 --> 0:00:18.759 that sound means? Time for another episode we knows Parenting. 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:23.079 I'm Peter McNerney, I'm Bethnel. Did you love that? Should 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:27.360 I introduce the show that way? Always? No? Cool? All right, 0:00:27.400 --> 0:00:31.400 I'll try it for next week. Um, life is happening, 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:35.680 that's for sure. What's happening Valine's Day? It's pretty fast. 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:39.680 If you don't, you don't stop to look around, you 0:00:39.800 --> 0:00:43.920 might just miss it. I was so relieved. Um, last 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:47.320 night my friend sent me a message just like off 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:51.000 and talking about her daughter's Valentine's and I was like, oh, right, 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:54.520 that's the thing. I have to do that now. There's 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:59.880 so many things to do. Um, So I got Brinson 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:04.120 like four dollar Valentine's from the CVS, but on my 0:01:04.160 --> 0:01:05.759 list for a while, I knew. I knew that that's 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:08.360 something we would have to do, not the day before. 0:01:09.080 --> 0:01:11.760 I can't count on him to write twenty one names 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:15.120 in a single day. So so thank you for doing that. 0:01:16.120 --> 0:01:19.080 And boy, we had time to do it today because 0:01:19.160 --> 0:01:25.640 Brent has a fever. Yeah, fun stuff. I stay at 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:29.120 home all day. It was very easy. He's not super sick. 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:35.479 He loves TV. You watched he watched Pinocchio, and then 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:39.840 he watched The Emperor's New Groove. Then he watched Robin Hood, 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:43.560 and he watched Fox from the Hound, And then when 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:46.120 I got home, Maven was watching Wally Well. Then he 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:53.000 watched Rattatui and then he started watching Before Are there 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:56.440 in this day? That's like the longest day. He watched 0:01:56.760 --> 0:02:01.080 five full length movies. We also into the bank. We 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:04.280 went to the store I don't know actually, and we 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:08.640 got all of his Valentine's cards prepared and written and 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:12.880 folded in an envelope. I don't think there's that many 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:17.480 hours in a day. You know, if you make TV 0:02:17.800 --> 0:02:21.400 a priority, it's really incredible what you can do, you 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:27.480 can accomplish if you really stay set your mind to it. Um. Well, 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.080 Brent's reviews are in. You know what his favorite movie 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:35.919 of all those was? What? I guess you don't remember 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:42.680 a single one. I remembered two of them, Um ratati um. 0:02:42.720 --> 0:02:44.760 It was Robin Hood. Although I think maybe I asked 0:02:44.840 --> 0:02:48.040 him the question before he watched Ratty, so you might 0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:52.480 be right, Yeah, I might be so brin after ten 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:59.600 days of um, what's it called antibiotics? Is im me 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:03.720 at least sick again, just just a fever. It's probably 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:06.519 my fault because I did take them outside the home yesterday, 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:10.200 so I don't take them out the walls. That's where 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:13.760 that's where it happens. I will say. Our kids get 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:17.960 these little fevers that are not that bad compared to like, 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:21.120 I feel like everyone I've been talking to seems to 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:24.359 be getting the flu or something really gross this year, 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:28.520 and we've knock on would managed to avoid that. We 0:03:28.560 --> 0:03:31.840 haven't had anything terrible. You just had some gross rashes 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:35.920 and ear infections and things just tigo and double in tigo. 0:03:36.240 --> 0:03:37.760 I don't know how to say it. I don't know 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:43.680 how to say it. Anything double ear infection, inexplicable vomit 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:50.000 what that happens fairly recently with may Ben. But Britain boy, 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:54.120 he is sick, like he was so like sweet, you 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:56.160 know that kind of sick where he just gets tired 0:03:56.200 --> 0:04:00.280 and he just like wanders into where I am and 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:02.320 then sits dound next to me and just like stares 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:05.600 at the wall and then slowly just puts his head 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:11.600 down on my leg. I'm just like brit not coming 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:17.960 in to give a monologue. Yeah, he like wakes up monologueing. 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:23.640 He's like, today is Monday, and we're doing this even 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:25.280 when he doesn't want to go. No, I don't want 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:28.360 to wake up because today's day four in this library, 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:31.880 day when that was yesterday, and I don't like pe 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:38.720 and don't give me one Friday before he's opened his eyes. Yeah, 0:04:39.160 --> 0:04:41.800 but tonight he crawled into bed with me and just 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:44.640 fell asleep before bedtime. So I know that he is thick. 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:48.120 That in the hundred one temperature he had all day 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:52.560 m hmm, and he didn't go to the doctor, did 0:04:52.640 --> 0:04:56.640 eat food. It was like one point zero did he 0:04:56.640 --> 0:05:02.719 eat food? I packed him a lunch and so he 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:05.320 had his packed lunch, but he did not eat very much. 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:08.080 I kept just trying getting water, and you had a little. 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:13.120 He had some dinner. But he's this thick boy. Maven's 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:18.880 just stubborn. She um, I didn't tell you this, but 0:05:18.960 --> 0:05:22.400 like I don't know half hour ago, hour ago, she 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:25.560 woke up or never had fallen asleep, and she's like 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:28.680 making noise in there after crying a lot when you 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:31.600 put her into bed, and then I went in there 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:34.880 and she was like she keeps saying this like pouty 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:38.360 thing where she's like just won't move and like doesn't 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:42.240 like and like. And so she walked over her pajama 0:05:42.320 --> 0:05:44.760 drawer and she opened it and just kept kind of 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:46.799 doing that, and I was like, what do you want? 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:49.800 And she like, I wanted to put her pajamas on? 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:53.440 And I was like, okay, fine, because you because we 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:57.719 put her to bed in her clothes, which are comfortable clothes, 0:05:57.920 --> 0:06:00.640 she's wearing out of it. There was basically jams and 0:06:00.720 --> 0:06:02.880 Britain was already in bed till the lights were out 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:05.840 when we came up. Anyway, but I don't know if 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:08.840 she had, like, I feel like part of her just 0:06:08.880 --> 0:06:12.280 like didn't feel right, not in her pajam It was 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:15.919 it was not a regular routine. It's like, yeah, she's 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:21.960 very into that tactile experience. Both of them want to 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:27.200 want to tell you how things work. Yeah. Um, for 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:31.839 dinner tonight, I played We played a trivia where I 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:34.720 gave them both math problems. You would have hated it, 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:38.360 but I loved it. And up, Matt, Maven's pretty good 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:43.000 at math. What kind of math problems were you? In? Two? 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:46.600 She figured it out. I mean she has to look 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:49.400 at her fingers and put them together. But she's I mean, 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:54.120 that's math. She figured it out. That's you know, I 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:56.239 don't know if you know this, but putting up fingers 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:58.880 and put them together. For our listeners, what Peters explaining 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:01.080 is if you put up your finger and put them together, 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:05.720 that's okay. For example, three plus two, hold three fingers 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:07.960 up on one hand and two on the other, and 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:10.320 then just push them close to each other and then 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:14.040 you'll see that there's five fingers. That's really all math is. 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:22.320 Math is math is fingers. Um. Cool? Yeah, what else 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:26.600 happened this week? I feel like I'm living in such 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:30.560 a blur now, although I think our things have finally 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:35.239 started to settle down around here a little bit. You're back, 0:07:35.440 --> 0:07:38.280 I'm back. You tell us about your book, your whirlwind 0:07:38.640 --> 0:07:44.160 book release party, really great being away from really great whirlwind. 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:47.920 I I had fun. We had a really great book 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:53.560 party at um this lesbian bar and babes babes um 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:57.920 and what else. People who are like people are when 0:07:57.920 --> 0:07:59.920 of them away, are always like, so do your kids 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:02.240 to see you? Do you really miss your kids? Like 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:06.000 stuff like that, And I was like, no, it's two nights. 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:09.800 They barely noticed him gone, Like I because I sometimes 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:14.240 get home after bedtime from work. It's like, doesn't register 0:08:14.680 --> 0:08:20.200 to them that I've been Oh they missed you. Um, 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:23.000 they tell me all about it. They tell me how 0:08:23.080 --> 0:08:26.480 much I am not suitable for their needs. What did 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:29.960 they They usually don't register, though, I feel like, what 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:34.720 did they say? I want? Mommy? They love you the 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:37.160 light of their life the world. And I get it 0:08:37.160 --> 0:08:43.160 because I feel the same. Thank you, that's all you acknowledge. Um, 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:48.920 But well, maybe hold on, can we talk about the 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:53.520 fact that you got a tattoo? Oh? Yeah, Well I 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:56.119 got a tattoo while I was the way and Maven 0:08:56.280 --> 0:09:00.560 says that it's not a tattoo because when she feels it, 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:08.040 it's flat, and she said, that's nothing. That's not a tattoo. Um. 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:10.960 I explained to them that it's permanent. And I said, 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:15.600 what's permanent mean? I was like forever? And then Brin 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:18.520 like like see him piecings together like mommy chose to 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:22.200 have a thing on her arm forever. Then he goes, 0:09:22.400 --> 0:09:26.040 but when will it wash off? Like it doesn't it's 0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:30.240 a real tattoo. Well, it's funny. So the tattoo I got. Um. 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.480 For those of you who don't follow me, on Instagram. 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:34.520 You'll have to buy the book. You'll have to buy 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.680 the book. But it's it's it's an illustration from me 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:40.319 and Jackie's book. There's no manual, honest and Cory wisdom 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:44.160 about having a baby, and it's Um, it's based on 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:49.560 the Benjamin Franklin political cartoon of the Colonies when it 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:54.920 says Joe join or die. But ours it's a snake 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:58.600 that's chopped into thirteen pieces like the Colonies, right, yeah, yeah, 0:09:58.720 --> 0:10:02.079 but our version has a bunch of boobs all over it. 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:08.880 So it's a lady snake. Yeah, it's it's got little eyelashes. 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:16.800 And when Brin like, what my sister is asking about it? 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:19.120 Brenn kept trying to explain it, and he was like, 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:22.440 she was like, it's a cut up snake. It's a 0:10:22.440 --> 0:10:26.080 cut up snake. Like, he's not wrong, He's not wrong. 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:30.520 It's a cut up snake. Um. The weird thing is 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:35.880 is that you and Jackie told me about the tattoos 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:40.040 while recording last week's podcast, and it did not register 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:44.480 in my brain that that it was a real thing. Yeah, 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.240 you thought it was a joke. No. For some reason, 0:10:47.240 --> 0:10:49.600 I think I was just so wrapped up in the 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:52.120 tech and the recording. Yeah, you were a little like 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:54.880 detached last week as we're we I think we're all 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:58.439 very tired and trying to record remotely the telephone has 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:05.040 a delay. Um, but yeah, it was fun until Jackie 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:10.040 sent me a picture your arm and I was like, mhmm, Yeah, 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:13.480 that seems like something Beth wouldn't tell me about until 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:16.120 it's over because she doesn't want my opinion on it. 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:20.680 And that's fine. Yeah, it's the most you thing you've 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:27.360 ever done. Well. The thing is, sometimes I even though 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:30.679 I know I don't I'm not going to consider someone's opinion. 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:38.199 It's very hard two listen to people's opinions. Oh I know, 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:41.800 I mean I don't know. I under I know that 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:46.160 about you. I can't say that I understand it because 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:49.280 my brain doesn't work at all. I need validation. But 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:51.240 there's no judgment. I mean I think I used to 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:54.680 judge you feel like you said in a like a 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:57.560 recent episode where you're like, I just don't think about 0:11:57.600 --> 0:12:00.320 what people think of me, And I was like, I 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:03.600 feel like it's not entirely a woman thing, but I 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:08.079 do think it's not. It doesn't help being a woman 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:11.240 that everyone expects you to care about their feelings all 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:15.880 the time, and so I feel like it's sort of 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:19.240 a privilege that you don't have that wired into your brain. 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:23.520 On a deep, uncomfortable level, it's totally different. I don't 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:26.640 remember the context of me saying that, but it is 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:29.360 a lie. If I if I said I don't care 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:33.760 what people think, but I think I can let things go, 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:39.319 I can let more pass through me. I'm working on it, 0:12:39.679 --> 0:12:43.360 You're doing it, doesn't I think what doesn't help is 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:48.640 that I really am like I can feel what people 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:51.240 are feeling in any moment, regardless of what they're saying, 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:54.640 and it's really hard to tune out of that and 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:58.280 be like I'm just like great, I know you are 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:05.120 judging me. Um anyway, sometimes I just like to do 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:08.600 stuff without talking to anyone about it. Because what did 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:10.959 you did you think that I would not want you 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:14.440 to get a tattoom. I don't think I didn't think 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:17.040 you would say that. I think you would be like, well, 0:13:18.040 --> 0:13:21.679 it's a thing you can do, like it would there 0:13:21.679 --> 0:13:24.079 would be like imply judgment, Like when I texted when 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:27.120 I texted you the photo of it, you texted back 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:30.640 and said, I love you. And I was with Jackie 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:32.360 and she was like, what did he say when he 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:34.880 showed him? And she I thold, I told her what 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:38.160 he said. Then she laughed because she was like, it's 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:41.320 just so implied. It's like, I love you in spite 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:45.720 of this thing. Either way. Texted that to me and 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:47.920 you went you want to know? Went through went through 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:52.679 my mind? What I said. There is nothing I could 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:57.480 say that won't be interpreted that way. So my reply 0:13:57.679 --> 0:14:01.520 I was like, I want to I Beth didn't tell me. 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:05.400 She's going to assume that I'm judgment all about this, 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:09.160 so I'm literally just going to it in the most 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:12.880 positive way I possibly could. I liked the reply, but 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:16.200 it was just very funny. I know that's so. I mean, 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:18.560 that was my intention is to show you that I 0:14:18.600 --> 0:14:23.160 support you, but I understand it might have come across 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:33.200 this mar my flesh. Um I support yeah, um yeah. 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:34.840 There There would be a different time in my life 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:36.440 where I think you told me at one point you 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:39.440 think my game tattoo a long time ago, and my 0:14:39.560 --> 0:14:41.640 reaction was like, why would why would Why did you 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:47.120 want to do that? Because I wouldn't. But I'm not you, yeah, 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:50.120 and you're not me We've since had to discuss a 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.800 lot of things about my body and what how I 0:14:52.840 --> 0:14:57.960 wanted it to go down with my own body. What 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:03.000 we've had to to Aldren. Oh, yes, yes, we have 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:06.280 talked about yours about my body have been the subject 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:10.520 of much discussion. I thought about it more than I 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:15.360 had at one point in my life. Yeah. Um, well, 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:22.600 it's a funny. It is a perfect tattoo for you thematically, Um, 0:15:22.680 --> 0:15:25.080 it also looks really cool and then you look close 0:15:25.160 --> 0:15:29.400 and you're like, oh, this is absurd. That's got like 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:32.200 a bunch of little titties on it. I'm sorry, that's 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:33.840 how I want people to look at me and be like, 0:15:33.880 --> 0:15:38.040 this looks really cool. Oh, this is absurd. I'm really 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:41.760 uncomfortable with how many times I've said the word titties tonight. 0:15:42.600 --> 0:15:46.240 What a terrible word. Well, how else do you describe 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:49.760 snake breasts? Well, as Jackie said, it's a tad snake 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:55.600 and there just what it is. I think it's funny. 0:15:55.880 --> 0:16:00.560 It's funny that like a lot of people like whenever 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:03.880 you're kind of a woman doing anything, whenever you're kind 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:07.080 of a woman doing anything, men like to come over 0:16:07.880 --> 0:16:12.800 and observe the curiosity of women. And so when I 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:15.840 was getting the tattoo by Jackie's mom friend who was 0:16:15.920 --> 0:16:20.320 really cool tattoo artist in Richmond, these guys would wander 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:24.119 over who worked there and just like inspect the tattoo 0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:27.160 and then not say a word and walk away. You know, 0:16:27.240 --> 0:16:31.280 they're thinking it's na Yeah, they're like tiss snake. I 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:33.440 think I was really thinking it tonight, Like I was like, 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:35.440 I feel like I don't know if it was this 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:37.840 tattoo or what, but I was out tonight and I 0:16:37.880 --> 0:16:42.320 felt like these guys were eyeing me in a weird way, 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:45.600 and I was like, oh, it's like it doesn't matter 0:16:45.640 --> 0:16:49.640 how like grotesquely feminist anything you do, men will somehow 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:53.800 reinterpret it as like an invitation for them, like they're 0:16:53.960 --> 0:16:59.120 you know, like it's just it's just like there's something 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:03.760 very confused thing about first of all, breasts on a reptile, 0:17:04.800 --> 0:17:08.080 but breast on a snake, which is which is our thing? 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:12.040 It's very phallic. Yeah, it's a big penis a snake. 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:15.679 I don't think a snake is your thing? Is snakes 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:19.840 are associated with like Eve and like evil women, Medusa. 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:24.760 But you can have that too. Fine, we can't even 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:30.720 be evil anymore. Fine, you can be evil. I'm just saying. 0:17:31.000 --> 0:17:35.080 It's very phallic a snake, but it's also it's a 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:39.879 it's a flaccid penis, So it's evil and angry and 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:42.800 we and then you put boobs all on it, and 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:47.400 so it's it's a symbol. It's a symbol of emasculation. 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:52.040 That's what how they read it. I was going for 0:17:52.280 --> 0:17:54.679 I don't believe anything I'm saying. I'm just going for 0:17:54.720 --> 0:18:04.880 it anyway. Um, it's really turned me into very very 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:19.879 sexy woman. And now it's time for do you know 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:23.000 what they said? What they're saying? Do you know? Do 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:26.080 you know what they said? Um? This is where we 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:29.560 dropped some quotes from our kids. That's where we dropped 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:33.800 some quote them. Um, so my sister was here and 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:35.560 I was in the other room, and Brynn was like 0:18:35.680 --> 0:18:39.320 getting himself a drink or something in the in the kitchen, 0:18:39.840 --> 0:18:43.040 and we heard like a clatter, and then he goes, 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:53.600 why do I always get a problem with cups? It's 0:18:53.760 --> 0:18:58.600 very true. That's I call I call that character, Uncle Bren. 0:19:02.080 --> 0:19:06.600 What's it? What's up with me and cups? Yeah, that's 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:09.159 been happening a lot where he pulls out a gallon 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:12.680 of milk that he's not strong enough. He doesn't understand 0:19:12.720 --> 0:19:15.880 that two inches of milk is a different weight than 0:19:15.920 --> 0:19:21.280 a full gallon of milk. Right, He's just it's like 0:19:21.359 --> 0:19:25.520 he's a child, so it's almost like he's five. He's 0:19:25.600 --> 0:19:31.800 so bad at it. Yeah, it trys crazy. Um um, Yeah, 0:19:32.160 --> 0:19:35.840 that's all I had for that quote. Say it again. 0:19:37.040 --> 0:19:39.399 Why do I always got a problem with cups? What 0:19:39.480 --> 0:19:42.440 do I always got a problem with cups? That's his 0:19:42.600 --> 0:19:51.560 first album right there. Yeah, they're going hard on towards 0:19:51.560 --> 0:19:55.280 independence these days, they're going hard toward independence. Yeah, in 0:19:55.320 --> 0:20:00.840 their own ways. Um Bryn, Oh gosh, I don't think 0:20:00.840 --> 0:20:04.960 I already talked about this, but you know, he's it's 0:20:05.080 --> 0:20:07.600 dawning on him that we're moving, and he's blabbing to 0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:10.280 everybody about the fact, because you know, we're moving to Brooklyn. 0:20:10.720 --> 0:20:15.240 Oh you didn't hear we're moving to Brooklyn, m A. 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:20.520 And um. We visited his new school. It's a smaller 0:20:20.560 --> 0:20:23.160 school and every there's a lot of kids sick. When 0:20:23.160 --> 0:20:25.720 he went and visited, and he noticed that the class 0:20:25.800 --> 0:20:29.400 had like eight kids in the class and there's only 0:20:29.440 --> 0:20:34.320 one boy. And he was so scared. I didn't think 0:20:34.359 --> 0:20:37.080 you really registered that. But later, no, I think he 0:20:37.160 --> 0:20:39.520 registered it because you set it out loud in front 0:20:39.560 --> 0:20:41.520 of him. You really his class is only going to 0:20:41.600 --> 0:20:44.280 have like two boys. No, no, no, I never said it. 0:20:44.640 --> 0:20:46.919 He I said that after he brought it up to me. 0:20:47.000 --> 0:20:50.080 This is a while ago, because he started saying, am 0:20:50.119 --> 0:20:52.119 I going to be here for this birthday? This my 0:20:52.160 --> 0:20:54.920 friend's birthday? And he goes, well, I'm only going to 0:20:55.000 --> 0:20:57.440 have one friend that the boy. And I was like why, 0:20:57.760 --> 0:20:59.480 and then it dawned at me, the oh there was 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:05.200 one bull that class, And I selfishly want him to 0:21:05.240 --> 0:21:09.000 be in a class. Holy girl, Well, I mean I 0:21:09.200 --> 0:21:14.000 want him to have like being a boy is like 0:21:14.520 --> 0:21:18.359 an important thing to him in this moment. Yeah, you know, 0:21:18.480 --> 0:21:20.440 I don't want him to have no boys in his class. 0:21:20.480 --> 0:21:26.320 I just like the heavy ratio. It's gonna be the thing, 0:21:26.560 --> 0:21:29.840 you know where it's so we have no idea what 0:21:29.840 --> 0:21:31.480 this mix of kids is going to be. And it's 0:21:31.480 --> 0:21:36.840 going to be a smaller group, um because it's a 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:40.680 newer school. So the older grades, um, which is when 0:21:40.680 --> 0:21:44.159 he goes up to second grade right now, uh, is smaller. 0:21:44.200 --> 0:21:48.040 So there could be you know, four boys in the class. 0:21:48.560 --> 0:21:52.160 I was in a class when I moved to Minnesota, 0:21:52.240 --> 0:21:54.760 I was in a three, four or five class. It 0:21:54.840 --> 0:21:58.000 was a weird like progressive mix them all up to 0:21:58.200 --> 0:22:02.480 teachers had grades one through five, and one class had 0:22:02.560 --> 0:22:05.720 one two and half of three, and the other class 0:22:05.760 --> 0:22:07.440 had the other half of three and four and five. 0:22:08.400 --> 0:22:12.000 And then you'd they'd switched teachers during the day. It 0:22:12.080 --> 0:22:15.560 was just a sort of it's called continuous progress. So 0:22:15.640 --> 0:22:18.440 you had they were like and a one and a 0:22:18.520 --> 0:22:23.320 two and one to learn. Uh no, you were with 0:22:23.400 --> 0:22:27.560 the same two teachers for five years, and it was 0:22:27.680 --> 0:22:30.159 this you know, that's a bad idea. It was a 0:22:30.200 --> 0:22:32.960 bad It didn't work for me because there were three 0:22:33.000 --> 0:22:39.320 boys my age and ah, and so I remember going 0:22:39.359 --> 0:22:42.879 home crying every day because the girls made fun of me. 0:22:44.480 --> 0:22:51.720 Very traumatic childhood. You've had, um. They called me Petriot, 0:22:51.720 --> 0:22:55.679 the portable party. I think we've discussed this on this podcast. 0:22:55.680 --> 0:22:59.040 The trauma of my childhood the incredible. I don't want 0:22:59.080 --> 0:23:01.240 to continue tie about it because I know it's so hard. 0:23:01.280 --> 0:23:10.880 Free I'm strong now, Okay, Petrie. It's probably two days 0:23:10.960 --> 0:23:12.800 of my life that I stretched out as the whole 0:23:12.840 --> 0:23:15.480 into the whole year, it's really become a defining moment 0:23:15.480 --> 0:23:18.800 of your life. I um back to the topic of 0:23:18.800 --> 0:23:23.560 our children trying to express their independence. Maven has asserted 0:23:23.600 --> 0:23:27.600 herself this week in her desire to grow out her bangs. 0:23:28.280 --> 0:23:31.040 That's right, mom, Like, she wants to look like me. 0:23:31.359 --> 0:23:36.120 I'm like, I'm weirdly shocked by this because I remember 0:23:36.480 --> 0:23:39.239 deciding at like age five or six that I was 0:23:39.320 --> 0:23:41.400 done with bangs and I wanted to grow them out, 0:23:41.440 --> 0:23:44.040 and I thought they were like baby ish, and so 0:23:44.119 --> 0:23:46.680 the fact that Mayven is having this epiphany at three 0:23:47.440 --> 0:23:50.520 feels like very mature to me, And I'm like, how 0:23:50.560 --> 0:23:54.400 are you so aware? Like she's been trying to She's 0:23:54.400 --> 0:23:56.280 been talking about getting rid of her banks for a while, 0:23:56.359 --> 0:23:59.520 like every haircut, and she thought we should cut them off, 0:24:00.160 --> 0:24:02.120 and then we've explained to her over and over again 0:24:02.119 --> 0:24:04.600 that you have to grow them out, and she now 0:24:04.680 --> 0:24:08.080 she's determined to do that. Like she's like, I don't 0:24:08.080 --> 0:24:11.239 want bangs, I want to look like mommy, which is 0:24:11.960 --> 0:24:16.280 very flattering. Yeah, well, I don't think it's it's not 0:24:16.359 --> 0:24:19.960 the she doesn't associate them with being baby ish. No, 0:24:20.240 --> 0:24:23.240 that was my baggage, my bank. I mean give it 0:24:23.280 --> 0:24:26.600 a couple of years and she'll get there, but by 0:24:26.640 --> 0:24:28.560 then that that's how long it takes to grow banks. 0:24:28.760 --> 0:24:32.080 I am like, part of me is like, oh, she 0:24:32.160 --> 0:24:34.959 looks so cute with bangs. But I also am like' 0:24:35.080 --> 0:24:37.679 so impressed that she has an opinion that I'm like, sure, 0:24:38.240 --> 0:24:42.919 grow out your banks, um. But it's just so funny. 0:24:42.960 --> 0:24:47.520 It's just so maven that she's like so aware of 0:24:47.560 --> 0:24:50.479 this at three. I don't know how it came up, 0:24:50.560 --> 0:24:53.840 Like one of us must have asked her at some point. 0:24:53.920 --> 0:24:56.440 I think it's just the process of her, Like when 0:24:56.440 --> 0:24:58.440 I was like trimming her bangs and stuff and talking 0:24:58.480 --> 0:25:01.919 about her bangs, she like this realization that not everyone 0:25:01.960 --> 0:25:06.920 has banks. Boy, I went to a bad barbershop. Yeah, 0:25:06.960 --> 0:25:11.639 our kids got some not great haircuts. They're fine, They're fine. 0:25:12.040 --> 0:25:14.480 They're not straight or even better than what our kids 0:25:14.480 --> 0:25:17.520 looked like before they went to get their haircut. They 0:25:17.520 --> 0:25:21.720 look good, They're fine. I went there and this place 0:25:22.240 --> 0:25:24.280 this happened to me before, where I made a reservation 0:25:24.440 --> 0:25:27.240 and then I showed up at the right time an 0:25:27.280 --> 0:25:31.600 appointment rather and uh, I waited an hour. I was like, 0:25:31.640 --> 0:25:33.919 why did I have an appointment? And then I watched, 0:25:33.960 --> 0:25:35.720 so I didn't make one. I just showed up and 0:25:35.720 --> 0:25:37.960 they're like, yeah, go ahead, you're next. It was eleven 0:25:38.000 --> 0:25:41.000 o'clock that we sat down as this smaller kid was 0:25:41.040 --> 0:25:44.399 finishing up, and then this family arrived and they had 0:25:44.400 --> 0:25:48.600 an eleven o'clock appointment and they said, okay, just wait 0:25:48.920 --> 0:25:53.000 and there's one barber. Um. I get it though, like 0:25:53.520 --> 0:25:55.840 when you're in the kid's haircut business, it's got to 0:25:55.840 --> 0:25:59.600 be like feast or famine. And so there's like most 0:25:59.680 --> 0:26:01.959 days of week, no one's walking in there, and then 0:26:01.960 --> 0:26:03.960 all of a sudden, there's all these tired parents running 0:26:03.960 --> 0:26:07.040 in on a Saturday morning and like they're like, yeah, yeah, 0:26:07.040 --> 0:26:08.600