1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:05,160 Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on wet Strawberry? Letter subject should I 2 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:09,639 Speaker 1: marry for stability or sex? To Stee to Shirley, Steve, 3 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 1: Tommy and Carla love your show and I listen every 4 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 1: morning on my way to work. I'm a successful twenty 5 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:19,479 Speaker 1: nine year old female who is in love with two guys. 6 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 1: I've been dating them both for about two years, and 7 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:26,360 Speaker 1: recently they proposed I'm ready to settle down, move to 8 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: the bourbs, be faithful to one person, and have some kids. 9 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:32,839 Speaker 1: The problem is who will I build my life with 10 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 1: sex or stability. The first guy is unemployed or a 11 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:39,800 Speaker 1: jack of all trades, ten years my senior, with two 12 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: kids and a crazy ex wife who has finally disappeared. 13 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:46,239 Speaker 1: He doesn't have a working car, but the sex is 14 00:00:46,320 --> 00:00:50,200 Speaker 1: great between us. He knows where and how to work 15 00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:53,480 Speaker 1: both hands. Uh. We can only see each other about 16 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 1: twice a week due to our schedules, but I love 17 00:00:56,400 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: him and he is an animal. The second I has 18 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 1: a great job, we share the same values, are the 19 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 1: same age. He has no kids, no crazy ex wife, 20 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:09,120 Speaker 1: and wants the same things I do. But in the 21 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:12,679 Speaker 1: bedroom he is terrible. He doesn't know how to work anything. 22 00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: I love him. As my best friend. So it's sex 23 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: the foundation of a relationship, the sex die. Please help 24 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:23,399 Speaker 1: to me. This is a no brainer, but there's so 25 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 1: many issues going on in this letter. Yes, you're right, 26 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:28,680 Speaker 1: sex is very important in a marriage, but it is 27 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 1: not the most important thing in a marriage. Crucial elements 28 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 1: in a marriage love and especially commitment, and you've got 29 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 1: to be uh committed in this relationship to the man 30 00:01:38,720 --> 00:01:42,680 Speaker 1: you choose. It would seem to me, Um, since you 31 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: know you're a successful twenty nine year old, I would 32 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 1: hope you'd have some brains and be smart that you 33 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 1: would want to date the second guy who has a 34 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: great job, who you guys share the same values, you're 35 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 1: the same age, no children, uh, no crazy ex wife. 36 00:01:57,120 --> 00:01:59,920 Speaker 1: He wants the same things as you do. Um, it's 37 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 1: seems like in the bedroom, if he's terrible, that maybe 38 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:06,320 Speaker 1: you should take some time to teach this man how 39 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 1: you like it, how to you know, make love to you, 40 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: all of that. Yes, Tommy, how to love you. It 41 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: seems like that's what you would do the other guy 42 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 1: with no job and the crazy ex wife and all 43 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: of that. I mean to me, this is a no brainer. 44 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:24,360 Speaker 1: Teach me. I'm like I don't know. Just keep you 45 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:28,960 Speaker 1: don't see where while you have such such a dilemma 46 00:02:29,720 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: um in your life right now when you have to 47 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:35,720 Speaker 1: two guys and the one is obviously a better choice 48 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,280 Speaker 1: for you than the other one, So I would go 49 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 1: with the second guy. That's what you need to do 50 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:43,600 Speaker 1: in this letter. Yes, sexes is a foundation, but you 51 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 1: can teach him. We come back, I'll actually respond to 52 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter and we'll have a copy of the Alright, 53 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: coming up, Steve will have part two of his response 54 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:00,079 Speaker 1: to today's Strawberry Letter. We'll be back at three to 55 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:03,600 Speaker 1: the hour. All right, Come on, Steve, give us part 56 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: two of your response to today's Strawberry Letter. Alright, if 57 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 1: you want it. This twenty nine year old lady says 58 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 1: she's in love with two guys. She doesn't seem to 59 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 1: be in love with anybody to meet. In this letter, 60 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:21,200 Speaker 1: you've been saying you've been seeing two guys for two years, 61 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 1: the whole time sleeping with both of them. You in 62 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 1: love with two guys. Okay, man, Now she's tossed between 63 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: which one to pick. She with this one dude who's unemployed, 64 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:41,360 Speaker 1: a jack of all trades, thirty nine years old, two kids, 65 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: crazy ex wife who has finally just he He doesn't 66 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 1: have a working car, but the sex is great between us. 67 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 1: Well that's because he got time. Yeah, he ain't working, 68 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: he ain't got to be nowhere, and his car don't run. 69 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: He can't go no where. So hell yeah, he's good 70 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 1: at sex here at the house, in the bedroom all 71 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 1: damn day. Okay, there you go. Now he knows where 72 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 1: and how to work both hands. We can only see 73 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 1: each other twice a week due to our schedule. Excuse me, 74 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:24,160 Speaker 1: due to whose schedule? Our schedule did not? You just 75 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 1: say this man was not working card on roun here 76 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 1: Jacobar trades. What scheduling conflict do he have? Well, let 77 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: me tell you what. He's so busy screwing. Okay, that 78 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:42,600 Speaker 1: that's why you can't see him, but twice a week. 79 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: That's the only scheduling confict. Nothing. The only way you 80 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:50,560 Speaker 1: good is something you didn't have practice at it. You 81 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:54,560 Speaker 1: just sain't good at sex. You got to work at it. 82 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: He didn't put him. That's his job. That's his job, job, 83 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 1: you crazy ass. St Now the other guy, um um, 84 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:09,240 Speaker 1: the other guy. It's a great job. We share the 85 00:05:09,279 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: same values. Were the same age. He has no kids, 86 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:15,039 Speaker 1: no crazy and he wants same things I do. But 87 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,840 Speaker 1: in the bad room he's terrible. He doesn't know how 88 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: to work anything. Well, tricky, what you want? You're doing 89 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 1: monkey flips with the with the and then you say 90 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: the other dude he is, But he's an animal. He's 91 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 1: an animal, you know, ladies, y'all kill me with that 92 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: make up your damn mind. You either long real man 93 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: or you won't an animal. Not normally we just dogs 94 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: and that's the damn problem. But now you won't the dog. Well, 95 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: let me explain some t you after you start seeing 96 00:05:54,400 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: animal every day instead of twice a week. You're gonna why. 97 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:04,400 Speaker 1: You're gonna find out why he's available. You're gonna find 98 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: out why he ain't working. You've been to find out 99 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:10,359 Speaker 1: why he's card don't work. You've been to find out 100 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:18,680 Speaker 1: why they really call him. You know. Look, you you're 101 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 1: sitting up in here. You you're conflicted about the wrong things. Yeah, 102 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,360 Speaker 1: and then you're talking about you're ready to settle down 103 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:30,920 Speaker 1: and get one. And lady, you're gonna play like you practice. 104 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: You're gonna play the game like you practice the game. 105 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: You have not practiced being in a committed relationship. You 106 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:42,159 Speaker 1: ain't practice being in love with one person. So what's 107 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: gonna happen is if you get either one of these guys, 108 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:47,719 Speaker 1: you're gonna mess around on the other one anyway, because 109 00:06:47,720 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: you're gonna play like you practice. You know what you 110 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: need to do. You need to go somewhere and just 111 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: do you for a little while. See how good it 112 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: is to find out if you can really treat one 113 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: man right trying out if you can be loyal to 114 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:02,359 Speaker 1: one man right now. You're not the type of woman 115 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: that a real man is looking for. So it really 116 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: ain't These two dudes right here is you? You picked 117 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 1: them here. You could have been to pick one and 118 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 1: you wouldn't even have a problem, But you can't because 119 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:16,000 Speaker 1: you trifles. We have to go. You can email us 120 00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 1: or instagram us your thoughts on Today's Strawberry Letter at 121 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: My Girl Shirley and don't forget coming up this Thursday, 122 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: we're gonna do it all over again the Facebook Live 123 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter after show. Uh It's at one pm on Thursday, 124 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:31,920 Speaker 1: so please join me there. I'll have my Strawberry Fresh 125 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 1: pick of the Week and trending topics as well.