Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is that if you feel things haven't been going
Speaker 1: well for you for a while, figure out what it's
Speaker 1: going to take to pivot, if at all possible. You
Speaker 1: don't want to stick with the story that it hasn't
Speaker 1: been your year any longer than you need to, and
Speaker 1: you definitely don't want to be saying that this hasn't
Speaker 1: been your decade. So if you are a nineties TV fan,
Speaker 1: I bet you can sing along with the theme song
Speaker 1: from the sitcom Friends, I'll be there for you when
Speaker 1: the rain starts to pour. I'll be there for you
Speaker 1: like I've been there before. Your job's a joke, you're broke,
Speaker 1: your love life's doa When it hasn't been your day,
Speaker 1: your week, your month, or even your year. I apologize
Speaker 1: if that song is now stuck in your head. It
Speaker 1: is a promise of faithful friendship, even if life is hard,
Speaker 1: and sometimes it just is. If you are going through
Speaker 1: difficult medical treatments or watching a loved one go through them,
Speaker 1: If you are dealing with chronic pain or the aftermath
Speaker 1: of a divorce or anything like that. You can certainly
Speaker 1: feel like it hasn't been your year. I hope you
Speaker 1: do have friends and family members who will be there
Speaker 1: for you, just like the song says during those times.
Speaker 1: But where we have to be careful is when we
Speaker 1: have been going through a rough patch, and then this
Speaker 1: starts to become the overarching story of life. I know
Speaker 1: a lot of people sort of wrote off twenty twenty
Speaker 1: by about halfway through the year because it was such
Speaker 1: a tough year. But even in a terrible year, there
Speaker 1: are probably some good moments. When you feel like the
Speaker 1: first six months of a year have been bad and
Speaker 1: then you say, this isn't my year. This can become
Speaker 1: a self fulfilling prophecy for the rest of it. You
Speaker 1: play up the bad moments that happen as part of
Speaker 1: the narrative of course this is happening, right. You don't
Speaker 1: relish the good ones quite as much because you see
Speaker 1: them as an aberration rather than evidence of your overall
Speaker 1: life story. So even if you do have reasonable evidence
Speaker 1: that this hasn't been your year so far, the year
Speaker 1: is far from over. You can rescue the second half
Speaker 1: of it. Or maybe you're in school in this academic
Speaker 1: year hasn't been great. Well, summer now and you can
Speaker 1: make the most of the rest of the calendar year
Speaker 1: if you want. In almost any situation, there is something
Speaker 1: you can do to make things a little better. You
Speaker 1: definitely don't want to hit January still feeling that things
Speaker 1: are terrible and that the next year isn't going to
Speaker 1: be your year either, or Heaven forbid that you need
Speaker 1: to write off the entire twenty twenties. Even if things
Speaker 1: can't shift immediately, over the course of the rest of
Speaker 1: the year, a lot can change. For instance, maybe you
Speaker 1: are in a job that feels hopeless and your terrible
Speaker 1: boss shows no sign of retiring or otherwise moving on.
Speaker 1: You might not have another job lined up that you
Speaker 1: could start tomorrow, but over the next six months of
Speaker 1: diligent looking, you could probably find something that you would
Speaker 1: like more, while also figuring out ways you can make
Speaker 1: sure you start the next job off right. The new
Speaker 1: year doesn't need to be written off too. I'm a
Speaker 1: big fan of declaring a fresh start whenever there is
Speaker 1: no reason to tell a story that this hasn't been
Speaker 1: your year. When you can decide that the last six
Speaker 1: months have been crummy, but the next six months don't
Speaker 1: have to be. We want to contain tough times as
Speaker 1: much as possible so they don't become our story. Sometimes
Speaker 1: you simply have to get through something. I get it.
Speaker 1: But the moment conditions change, it's time to write a
Speaker 1: new story. We want to be watching and waiting and
Speaker 1: working for that moment. The song doesn't talk about how
Speaker 1: it hasn't been your decade. We definitely don't want to
Speaker 1: get to that point. In the meantime, this is Laura.
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of
Speaker 1: our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've
Speaker 1: got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at
Speaker 1: Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a
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