WEBVTT - When it hasn't been your year

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that if you feel things haven't been going

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<v Speaker 1>well for you for a while, figure out what it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to take to pivot, if at all possible. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to stick with the story that it hasn't

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<v Speaker 1>been your year any longer than you need to, and

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<v Speaker 1>you definitely don't want to be saying that this hasn't

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<v Speaker 1>been your decade. So if you are a nineties TV fan,

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<v Speaker 1>I bet you can sing along with the theme song

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<v Speaker 1>from the sitcom Friends, I'll be there for you when

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<v Speaker 1>the rain starts to pour. I'll be there for you

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<v Speaker 1>like I've been there before. Your job's a joke, you're broke,

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<v Speaker 1>your love life's doa When it hasn't been your day,

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<v Speaker 1>your week, your month, or even your year. I apologize

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<v Speaker 1>if that song is now stuck in your head. It

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<v Speaker 1>is a promise of faithful friendship, even if life is hard,

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<v Speaker 1>and sometimes it just is. If you are going through

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<v Speaker 1>difficult medical treatments or watching a loved one go through them,

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<v Speaker 1>If you are dealing with chronic pain or the aftermath

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<v Speaker 1>of a divorce or anything like that. You can certainly

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it hasn't been your year. I hope you

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<v Speaker 1>do have friends and family members who will be there

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<v Speaker 1>for you, just like the song says during those times.

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<v Speaker 1>But where we have to be careful is when we

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<v Speaker 1>have been going through a rough patch, and then this

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<v Speaker 1>starts to become the overarching story of life. I know

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people sort of wrote off twenty twenty

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<v Speaker 1>by about halfway through the year because it was such

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<v Speaker 1>a tough year. But even in a terrible year, there

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<v Speaker 1>are probably some good moments. When you feel like the

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<v Speaker 1>first six months of a year have been bad and

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<v Speaker 1>then you say, this isn't my year. This can become

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<v Speaker 1>a self fulfilling prophecy for the rest of it. You

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<v Speaker 1>play up the bad moments that happen as part of

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<v Speaker 1>the narrative of course this is happening, right. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>relish the good ones quite as much because you see

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<v Speaker 1>them as an aberration rather than evidence of your overall

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<v Speaker 1>life story. So even if you do have reasonable evidence

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<v Speaker 1>that this hasn't been your year so far, the year

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<v Speaker 1>is far from over. You can rescue the second half

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<v Speaker 1>of it. Or maybe you're in school in this academic

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<v Speaker 1>year hasn't been great. Well, summer now and you can

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<v Speaker 1>make the most of the rest of the calendar year

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<v Speaker 1>if you want. In almost any situation, there is something

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<v Speaker 1>you can do to make things a little better. You

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<v Speaker 1>definitely don't want to hit January still feeling that things

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<v Speaker 1>are terrible and that the next year isn't going to

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<v Speaker 1>be your year either, or Heaven forbid that you need

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<v Speaker 1>to write off the entire twenty twenties. Even if things

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<v Speaker 1>can't shift immediately, over the course of the rest of

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<v Speaker 1>the year, a lot can change. For instance, maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>are in a job that feels hopeless and your terrible

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<v Speaker 1>boss shows no sign of retiring or otherwise moving on.

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<v Speaker 1>You might not have another job lined up that you

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<v Speaker 1>could start tomorrow, but over the next six months of

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<v Speaker 1>diligent looking, you could probably find something that you would

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<v Speaker 1>like more, while also figuring out ways you can make

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<v Speaker 1>sure you start the next job off right. The new

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<v Speaker 1>year doesn't need to be written off too. I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>big fan of declaring a fresh start whenever there is

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<v Speaker 1>no reason to tell a story that this hasn't been

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<v Speaker 1>your year. When you can decide that the last six

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<v Speaker 1>months have been crummy, but the next six months don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to be. We want to contain tough times as

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<v Speaker 1>much as possible so they don't become our story. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you simply have to get through something. I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>But the moment conditions change, it's time to write a

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<v Speaker 1>new story. We want to be watching and waiting and

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<v Speaker 1>working for that moment. The song doesn't talk about how

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<v Speaker 1>it hasn't been your decade. We definitely don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>get to that point. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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