1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:06,120 Speaker 1: Hey, hip, hi, let me get your levels up. You're 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: at a low vibration right now. We're gonna take you hot, 3 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: bring it up, bring you on up. Well it is Friday, folks, 4 00:00:11,760 --> 00:00:17,680 Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Edge podcast. This month has been 5 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 1: about reflection, and we're here to do listener emails. How 6 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:24,880 Speaker 1: do you feel about the reflection month? Um, you know 7 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 1: I'm bad about reflecting. You are general in general? Yeah, 8 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 1: I Um, I should sit and reflect more, Like, I 9 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 1: know it's something that I should do. I hate the 10 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 1: word should, I know, but I'm being a workaholic. You know. 11 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: It's like I'm always just like doing what I need 12 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:45,959 Speaker 1: to get done right now. You know, I know it's 13 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: something that I need to work on. That's a fair statement, 14 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: So I'll reflect on that. I have the opposite problem. 15 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 1: Would you say that's accurate a little bit, a little bit, 16 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 1: But I feel like the opposite of that, though, would 17 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:02,280 Speaker 1: really be like you're stuck in reflection. And I don't 18 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:06,479 Speaker 1: think you're stuck. I think you're You're really good about it. Okay, 19 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:10,040 Speaker 1: thank you. I appreciate that. Um, Sometimes I get stuck, 20 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: but my friends are really good about being like, Okay, 21 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 1: we gotta get out of this and move forward. Yeah, 22 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: and um, I just find it to be really important. 23 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 1: It is the way that I grow. It is life 24 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: has presented itself to me in a way where I 25 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 1: just feel like I've had no choice. But I guess 26 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:26,839 Speaker 1: I've always had a choice, Like you could just choose 27 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:30,479 Speaker 1: not to reflect and um keep on in your ways. 28 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 1: And well, I mean I think like the why in life, 29 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: why things are happening, is actually a really important question 30 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: to ask, and that takes reflecting. And but there's also 31 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 1: truth in ignorance is bliss. So it's a lot easier 32 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 1: to sort of like let the past be the past 33 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:51,480 Speaker 1: and move on. But you know, I think, um, it's 34 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: important to learn, so um, maybe it's something that I 35 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: should pledge to do a little bit more of. You 36 00:01:58,240 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: just did that thing where I had to knows it 37 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 1: and I scratched my nose and then you started scratching 38 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: your nose. I feel like everyone was, well, I think 39 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: people think they have a booger, Like it's like you're 40 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: trying to get a settle sign. I didn't even notice 41 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:11,640 Speaker 1: you do it. Well, you just did it again. I 42 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: was doing it. I actually had a nose. It like 43 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:16,360 Speaker 1: someone was thinking about me. Maybe it was just you 44 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 1: because you're looking, because you know yawns. Yawns are continuous, 45 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 1: they are, But I feel like it's when you do 46 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:24,079 Speaker 1: the nose thing, like you scratch your nose and I's like, 47 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 1: oh God, do I have something on my nose? And 48 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: they're trying to like communicate that with the motion. It's 49 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:28,280 Speaker 1: kind of like when you're like, hey, do you want 50 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: a piece of colmond? Everyone's always like, why do I 51 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 1: need it? I'm like, no, I just was getting one 52 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 1: for myself and it would be stingy. Yeah, just tell 53 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: me if I have that breath to um. Anyway, reflection 54 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:42,400 Speaker 1: is really good and I hope you guys got a 55 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: lot of the podcasts we to this one. We have 56 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:48,760 Speaker 1: some really great guest I personally really enjoyed Susan Bratton, 57 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: who was on last week. She was a lot in 58 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:55,080 Speaker 1: the best way. I actually learned a lot from her. Yeah, 59 00:02:55,280 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 1: I just love like, I like her eternal youthfulness um 60 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 1: and just the like I'm kind of jealous of her 61 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:07,919 Speaker 1: just sexual confidence. Yeah. I think she's had to work 62 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 1: at it though, which is what I really appreciated about 63 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: her story, and that really is why it's tied into 64 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 1: reflection because she got to actually my age and realized 65 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: how unhappy she was and looking back was like, yeah, 66 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:20,360 Speaker 1: I'm not asking for what I want. And so she 67 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: did the work and got what she wanted and I 68 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 1: really appreciate that. I think that's the best we can 69 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 1: do in life. So she was a great guest. I 70 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:28,640 Speaker 1: had a lot of great guests on the velvet side 71 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 1: of things as well. And um, also, I actually got 72 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: interviewed on a podcast that I posted about well my 73 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: instagram is called Journals of a Love Addict, which leads 74 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: us into our first question. This is the listener Emails podcast. 75 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 1: I think already said that, but in case she guys 76 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 1: missed it. Um, but it was a big piece of 77 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 1: reflection for me because it's a lot of the work 78 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: I've been doing. I've talked about it on this podcast, 79 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 1: but I'm trying to tell my story more publicly, which is, 80 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: you know, I'm like fumbling through it. It's awkward and 81 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 1: a hard because it's very vulnerable. And when I say vulnerable, 82 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 1: you know, I posted about it yesterday and I was like, 83 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: I don't want to lead with shame though, like because 84 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: I feel like I said it in this like kind 85 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: of made myself small way, like, Hey, this is really 86 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 1: scary for me to say, but I did this podcast 87 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:17,280 Speaker 1: and I want you guys to go listen because it's 88 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: a really important story to me to tell, and I 89 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 1: feel like, hopefully it can help a lot of people 90 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: with just being honest about it. Um, But I don't 91 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 1: want to feel that way, Like, I don't think vulnerability 92 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: has to make us feel small. I think it's actually 93 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:34,560 Speaker 1: really brave, and so I I'm going to change the 94 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:36,719 Speaker 1: way that I'm talking about it, and I'm just putting 95 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 1: it out there because for me, it's a pattern in 96 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 1: my life that has recreated itself over and over and 97 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 1: over in romantic relationships but also in like work and friendships. 98 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,880 Speaker 1: It's like everywhere in my life. And what I'm doing 99 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:52,840 Speaker 1: right now is doing the work to change a pattern. 100 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:55,599 Speaker 1: That's it. And it's a pattern that I developed in 101 00:04:55,720 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 1: childhood from you know, dysfunctionality and which to everyone fucking 102 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:04,640 Speaker 1: some people choose to acknowledge it and some people don't. 103 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: And so again, I think the best we can do 104 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 1: is just to acknowledge it and then do the work 105 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 1: to make the changes you need to make to have 106 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 1: the kind of life that you want. I e Susan 107 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:17,920 Speaker 1: Bratton and UM, that's what I'm doing because I want 108 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: to change the pattern in my relationships and I cannot 109 00:05:20,480 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: do the kind of relationships I've been doing anymore. They 110 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:26,280 Speaker 1: just do not serve me. So that podcast is up 111 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: on the Journals of a Love Addict podcast. UM hate 112 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 1: the word love addict, but it's just basically attachment, wounding 113 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:37,039 Speaker 1: and codependency. So if you guys want to go check 114 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: that out. That leads me into um, part of our 115 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: first questioning. Oh no, I'm sorry, this is actually from 116 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: the Susan Bratton one I missed. I just did that 117 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 1: whole thing. I did get at not live but not 118 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,159 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well I did get up. I was gonna 119 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 1: say there's here's a couple other ones. But I did 120 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:00,160 Speaker 1: get a lot of feedback from showing my vulnerable side. 121 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:02,840 Speaker 1: People said thanks, it's my favorite. Um. And so those 122 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 1: are a lot of the questions we got and feedback 123 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: we got coming in for this podcast. So if you 124 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: guys do want to go check that out again Journals 125 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:11,799 Speaker 1: of a Love act Jodi White is an amazing therapist 126 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: and um, she does a great interview too. She's also 127 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:19,479 Speaker 1: a recovering Love Atict so um from the Susan Bratton podcast. 128 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 1: Though this is in in ties. This is why I 129 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 1: got confused. This isn't ties with the conversation on the 130 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: Love Addict podcast. But I had mentioned do you remember 131 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 1: this when I said I'm doing intentional celibacy, and Susan 132 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: Bratten was like, girl, you don't need to be doing that. 133 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: This is why, and it's not for any reason other 134 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 1: than I am doing deep in her work. And when 135 00:06:40,839 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: I had asked you Marie on last month, she mentioned 136 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 1: something called intentional celibacy. All that means I got a 137 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:51,479 Speaker 1: question that says, what is intentional celibacy? All that means 138 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 1: is I'm taking a break from dating, and it's an 139 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: intentional break because what asked you taught me she's a 140 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 1: sexual empowerment expert, is that if you like are on apps, 141 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 1: like how you're on apps and you're scrolling all the time, 142 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 1: like you're putting massive energy into that, right, and so 143 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 1: all that this intentional quote unquote celibacy or not dating 144 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 1: is is I'm taking all of that energy that I 145 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: would be pouring into someone else and I'm putting it 146 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:22,119 Speaker 1: into me. Um. I've talked about this and I've mentioned 147 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 1: in all my podcast, but I really lost myself in 148 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: the last relationship and I gave over gave, and so 149 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:30,880 Speaker 1: like coming out of it, I'm so I was so depleted, 150 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: you know, and I just needed to It would be 151 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:35,440 Speaker 1: very easy for me to bounce into another relationship and 152 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: expect that person to fill me back up. But I 153 00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 1: knew that wasn't the right route. And so I've said 154 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 1: to myself, I've said a specific amount of time, and 155 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 1: it's not because people aren't trying to introduce me to people. 156 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:49,239 Speaker 1: That offer is out there and there's some seemingly great guys, 157 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: and um, you know, I just keep saying to myself, 158 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: if I'm supposed to be with any of those people, 159 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 1: they'll be there when I'm ready. Like, I can't neglect 160 00:07:57,480 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 1: myself again. And this is a really important the healing process. 161 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 1: And so I've been doing things like taking myself on 162 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:06,040 Speaker 1: dates that was something asked you said to do, like 163 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: going to get massages, or just things I like to do, 164 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: like going on walks, being in nature, having some non 165 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: alcoholic wine, doing things around my house that I like 166 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 1: to do, reading a book. Um, it could be whatever 167 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 1: you want. I reflecting on it, maybe I've been intentionally 168 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 1: sollibant for a long time. I think there's a difference. Okay, 169 00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 1: So it's not like because you always say, well, I'm 170 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:33,320 Speaker 1: just so busy. So if you're pouring yourself, that's you 171 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:36,679 Speaker 1: pouring yourself into your work. Intentional celibacy would look like 172 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 1: you setting aside certain times to give yourself the things 173 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: that you would look for in a relationship, Like if 174 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:48,200 Speaker 1: you love going on a date to go to a dinner, 175 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 1: you take yourself on that date, right or I mean 176 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 1: to the movie with the movies by myself? Me too. 177 00:08:57,200 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 1: And it's like so interesting because what I've also noticed 178 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 1: is like when I start to get lonely right now, um, 179 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 1: your natural tendency is, and especially with the way our 180 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: culture is, is to like pick up your phone and 181 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 1: get on social media or text somebody and go do something. 182 00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:13,600 Speaker 1: Those are great things too, Like for me, being with 183 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:17,880 Speaker 1: friends is also really healing. And the other option is 184 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:19,640 Speaker 1: when you're doing this to be like, hey, what do 185 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:22,120 Speaker 1: I need that? What do I actually need? Like what 186 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:24,960 Speaker 1: is this loneliness about? What's this anxiety about? And is 187 00:09:25,000 --> 00:09:27,800 Speaker 1: it something I can give to myself and I've found 188 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:31,960 Speaker 1: that like most in most cases, it is, and so 189 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:34,920 Speaker 1: that just feels like a healthier mentality to go into 190 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 1: the next relationship with anyway, like regardless, because you're not 191 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 1: looking for someone else to fill you up exactly, You're 192 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:48,200 Speaker 1: looking to arrive whole and be present in a relationship 193 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:53,360 Speaker 1: that's exactly right. So that's what intentional celibacy is. So sorry, Susan, 194 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:57,000 Speaker 1: I did not have a Jamaican love fest except for 195 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: with you. It would have been hard to have a 196 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:03,080 Speaker 1: Jamaican love fest. We didn't really get to get out 197 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: and explore that much. It's not the safest there right now, 198 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: so we pretty much stayed on property, which was awesome too. 199 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:16,719 Speaker 1: Um okay, the next question that we got is the 200 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:19,840 Speaker 1: top of top three things you love about being sober lately. 201 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna skip to the next one so you can 202 00:10:21,640 --> 00:10:24,839 Speaker 1: answer something. Is it unattractive when a man shows his 203 00:10:24,920 --> 00:10:29,760 Speaker 1: true emotions? No? I mean I think that, Um God, 204 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:33,839 Speaker 1: that's the holy grail right there, man or a woman. 205 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:36,480 Speaker 1: We should all be open and honest. And I know 206 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:40,920 Speaker 1: it's not always easy, especially if the emotion is you know, 207 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 1: what would conventionally be a negative emotion? Um, you know, 208 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 1: the funny thing about negative emotions is that they can't 209 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:53,559 Speaker 1: exist with all good ones. That you can't be happy, 210 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:56,560 Speaker 1: You can't be sad without being happy, right like you 211 00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:59,240 Speaker 1: have to have Like they can't exist on their own. 212 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:02,440 Speaker 1: So it's like that in and of itself says to 213 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:07,880 Speaker 1: me that a traditionally negative emotion is just an emotion 214 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: um and so um. You know it's funny because I 215 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:16,199 Speaker 1: think guys would probably more likely be willing to show 216 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 1: the traditionally negative emotions versus anger, but sadness is probably 217 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:26,640 Speaker 1: one that, um, they're not so willing to admit. I 218 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:30,959 Speaker 1: think it's really sexy when someone is vulnerable and can 219 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 1: let you know how they're feeling. You know, it's they're 220 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 1: only the only way to get to the other side 221 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: of it is to work through it, right Like. I mean, 222 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 1: you could sit in it, but I don't know that 223 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 1: anything gets resolved. Um, you could swallow it and you know, 224 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:47,600 Speaker 1: but it's gonna rear its head at some point. So 225 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 1: I think the healthy thing is to communicate, show your emotions, 226 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 1: and move try to move forward. Also, I'm like reading 227 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 1: this question and I'm thinking, God, that is so scary 228 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:02,079 Speaker 1: to me that the option of not showing emotions is 229 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,160 Speaker 1: what is being put out there? I don't know how 230 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 1: to say what I'm trying to say, Like when a 231 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:09,120 Speaker 1: man is that he says, is it unattractive when a 232 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:11,360 Speaker 1: man shows his true emotions? So like if we're if 233 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:14,440 Speaker 1: there's people who would answer yes, then we're living in 234 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: such an inauthentic state, right, Like is that what are 235 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 1: what people are doing? Obviously, like I have a problem 236 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:23,559 Speaker 1: where I can't, but like I would think it would 237 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 1: be more likely for like a man, a man to 238 00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 1: judge another man for being like God, that guy's up pussy, 239 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:36,000 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, versus like I would I mean, 240 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:38,200 Speaker 1: I'm not a woman, but I would imagine that a 241 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:44,360 Speaker 1: woman would want her man to like be able to 242 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:47,360 Speaker 1: like go go wherever he needs to go emotionally with her, 243 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:51,200 Speaker 1: to trust her that she's there. Yeah, that's intimacy. But 244 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:54,720 Speaker 1: I think, and you know, I'm just reading into this question. 245 00:12:54,760 --> 00:13:00,119 Speaker 1: It's like, um, it's would another way to phrase it 246 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:03,640 Speaker 1: would be assuming that a woman, is it a female 247 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:06,800 Speaker 1: that asks, it's actually a guy? Guy? Okay? Um, well, 248 00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: assuming that this guy is straight and is in a 249 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:14,720 Speaker 1: female relationship, like had our sexual relationship, maybe his partner, 250 00:13:14,760 --> 00:13:18,080 Speaker 1: his female partners, like, I don't want you to see 251 00:13:18,240 --> 00:13:21,319 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't like it when you seem weak, right, 252 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: I mean, And what we have been taught as women 253 00:13:24,640 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: is quote unquote masculinity is like the strong, the guy 254 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:31,200 Speaker 1: walking around that like knows the answer to everything and 255 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:33,880 Speaker 1: it just has you know, can solve problems. I think 256 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 1: it's weak to not show your emotions. I agree, And look, 257 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:40,719 Speaker 1: I struggle with it too, Like when I was a 258 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 1: kid growing up, like my mother, like we'll still talk about, 259 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:48,520 Speaker 1: like she loved that, Like I like my emotions were 260 00:13:48,559 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 1: on my sleeve, Like if I wanted to cry, I 261 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:54,800 Speaker 1: like I didn't, I would, you know, just show my emotions. 262 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 1: It probably had to do with the fact that I 263 00:13:56,160 --> 00:13:58,079 Speaker 1: was like a little gay boy and like didn't know 264 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:02,640 Speaker 1: and then in in in the window of discovering that 265 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:05,800 Speaker 1: I was gay and trying to hide it, I pushed 266 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:07,920 Speaker 1: all of that stuff under the rug because I didn't 267 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:10,560 Speaker 1: want people to think that I was weak. Um. And 268 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:13,679 Speaker 1: now so now it's like it was funny, like I 269 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:15,560 Speaker 1: was sitting at home, it might have been last night, 270 00:14:15,600 --> 00:14:20,200 Speaker 1: and I was kind of feeling sad, and um, I 271 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:22,720 Speaker 1: was flipping through Instagram and I saw that my friend 272 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:24,880 Speaker 1: had to put their dog down. This is a dog 273 00:14:24,920 --> 00:14:32,520 Speaker 1: I've never even seen, and I started bawling. And I thought, 274 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:35,480 Speaker 1: how many men are sitting in their house crying right 275 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 1: now in the world alone? It we don't know. And 276 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:43,120 Speaker 1: for a minute, I was like kind of embarrassed because 277 00:14:43,160 --> 00:14:46,880 Speaker 1: I'm just sitting at home crying by myself. Um, and 278 00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 1: I certainly didn't think, oh, I'm just gonna announce this 279 00:14:49,360 --> 00:14:51,960 Speaker 1: on the podcast. It's just coming to me now. But 280 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:55,240 Speaker 1: I'm like it also, like I fucking needed to do that. 281 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 1: It had nothing to do with the dog. There was something, 282 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 1: you know, bubbling underneath that I just needed to get 283 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 1: that out. Yeah, And I don't feel weak as a 284 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 1: result of it. In fact, I feel better. Crying is 285 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:08,120 Speaker 1: such a release. I said that to somebody today is 286 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:11,240 Speaker 1: usually when I first start to feel something, my go 287 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:14,200 Speaker 1: to his anger and so I'm mad, and like earlier today, 288 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:16,760 Speaker 1: I was like super fucking mad. And then I had 289 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 1: this energy session and the guy was asking me enough 290 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 1: questions and he asked me like some stuff about what 291 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:24,600 Speaker 1: was behind it, and I started crying because I didn't 292 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:27,320 Speaker 1: even realize I was sad, and this is the person 293 00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:29,520 Speaker 1: who's I'm pretty in touch with my emotions and I 294 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 1: just was like, no, I'm just pissed and like this 295 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:34,320 Speaker 1: is bullshit and blah blah blah blah blah, and there 296 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:36,720 Speaker 1: was sadness behind it. And then the second I cried, 297 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 1: it's just like it was. I wasn't pissed, I wasn't sad. 298 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 1: I was just free and I felt so relieved. I 299 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 1: will cry sometimes when it's not even a sad moment, 300 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:54,040 Speaker 1: when it's like I said something that's just hard, like 301 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:58,040 Speaker 1: setting boundaries. I always cry, yeah, because it's like I 302 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:00,600 Speaker 1: think it's a relief thing, Like it's like a physical 303 00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: manifestation of relief and or just like getting something out 304 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: that needed to get out. Um, even if it's like 305 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:12,600 Speaker 1: an exciting moment, like I say something that is like 306 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:16,040 Speaker 1: very me positive forward and like, but I was scared 307 00:16:16,120 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 1: to say it. It's out and I'm I don't know, 308 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: like I don't. I wish I cried more. I used 309 00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 1: to cry so much more. But yeah, so long story, 310 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 1: long answer to that question. No, I think it's amazing 311 00:16:29,040 --> 00:16:31,760 Speaker 1: when a man can it's amazing when a man can 312 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 1: show his emotion straight gay whatever, like yeah, also if 313 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:39,160 Speaker 1: the person that you're with is saying, oh, that's unattractive, 314 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:43,600 Speaker 1: it's probably not an emotionally available person. So if you're 315 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 1: a basket case it's crying all the time and always 316 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:50,520 Speaker 1: super emotional, that's not attractive in anyone. But I also 317 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 1: think it's like that has nothing to do with your 318 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:58,960 Speaker 1: sexuality or or your gender. It's that has something to 319 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:01,040 Speaker 1: do with like whatever's going. Yeah, maybe could figure out 320 00:17:01,040 --> 00:17:15,960 Speaker 1: what's appened. I think it's kind it's sexy. Then, Um, 321 00:17:16,040 --> 00:17:20,040 Speaker 1: this lady said, please date Brett Eldredge. Okay, I would 322 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:24,920 Speaker 1: love to. Okay, you can have him. I love Brett. 323 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 1: I've done him for years though I mean friends, work, buddies. 324 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:31,600 Speaker 1: I don't know him, but would Okay, well great, maybe 325 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:36,480 Speaker 1: I'll introduce you to top three things you love about 326 00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:42,960 Speaker 1: being so lately? No hangovers, Hello, that's amazing. Um. Also 327 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:47,040 Speaker 1: less anxiety. I you know, just the things I'm navigating 328 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:49,280 Speaker 1: right now, but me, just in general, I can be 329 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:51,159 Speaker 1: a highly anxious person or not. I don't even know 330 00:17:51,160 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 1: if I want to say highly anxious. But I contend 331 00:17:53,840 --> 00:17:56,480 Speaker 1: to have anxiety like I think most people do. And 332 00:17:56,520 --> 00:17:58,960 Speaker 1: I just noticed that the days after I drink I 333 00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:02,800 Speaker 1: just would feel like I'm waking up much more anxious 334 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:04,760 Speaker 1: and much more anxious throughout the day. And then that 335 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:08,040 Speaker 1: book I've been reading quit like a woman talks about 336 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:11,760 Speaker 1: that is like, it's really funny that we equate, you know, 337 00:18:11,880 --> 00:18:15,120 Speaker 1: surviving a long day and or having a bad day 338 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:16,840 Speaker 1: and let me have a drink to to get rid 339 00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:20,919 Speaker 1: of this anxiety or to soothe whatever stress that I'm 340 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:24,560 Speaker 1: dealing with, when in reality, actually the way that alcohol 341 00:18:24,600 --> 00:18:27,280 Speaker 1: actually works in our body only exacerbates all those issues, 342 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:30,000 Speaker 1: like temporarily while you're drunk, maybe it doesn't, but like 343 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:32,360 Speaker 1: the calm down is always going to be much more 344 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:34,880 Speaker 1: anxious and all those things. So for me, it's that, 345 00:18:35,680 --> 00:18:39,480 Speaker 1: um my skin looks better, like just in general, I 346 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 1: feel like I look better. So I even noticed today, 347 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:48,560 Speaker 1: like just your flow. Really it's just so like your 348 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:51,359 Speaker 1: your brain you have no brain fog. No, that is 349 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:54,840 Speaker 1: true too, Yeah, I can just tell like I feel 350 00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 1: like I've had a little brain fogs since we started recording. 351 00:18:56,800 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 1: That's funny that you say that. I feel like I 352 00:18:58,040 --> 00:19:01,000 Speaker 1: was rambling. I mean, you talk better than me, you know, 353 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:04,359 Speaker 1: like you your thoughts are so clear, and my thoughts 354 00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:06,960 Speaker 1: are very good. Yeah, I feel like that's a reflection 355 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:11,320 Speaker 1: of what has happened, like because I'm also sleeping better, right, 356 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:15,040 Speaker 1: you're sleeping better. Um. I personally like knowing that I 357 00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:17,520 Speaker 1: have a safe driver if I ever need one. I'm 358 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:21,040 Speaker 1: like the beating now my friends are like thrilled about it. Yeah, 359 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 1: I actually don't mind. I'd rather everyone be safe and 360 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:28,919 Speaker 1: then you can just charge us eats five bucks, you know, 361 00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:31,920 Speaker 1: because you'd imagine us. I'm like, Okay, the village is 362 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna meet your car yellow. Actually funny. Oh 363 00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 1: that just had this weird and I'll tell you later. 364 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:42,560 Speaker 1: It's this this moment about energy and the chakra he 365 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:48,840 Speaker 1: told me to work on today involves yellow. Maybe we um. Okay, 366 00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:52,720 Speaker 1: so this one sorry, I was about to say his 367 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 1: name open relationships and quote unquote sharing thoughts. I was like, 368 00:19:57,359 --> 00:20:00,680 Speaker 1: what the fund does that mean? So message this guy 369 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:03,919 Speaker 1: back and because I mean, obviously I know what an 370 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:06,320 Speaker 1: open relationship is, but I didn't know what sharing meant. 371 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:08,679 Speaker 1: And I said, what do you mean by quote unquote sharing? 372 00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 1: He said, my spouse and I are quote unquote lifestyle 373 00:20:11,680 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 1: or the general public calls it swingers, Google desire resort 374 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:22,840 Speaker 1: Mexico Pearl Resort, Mexico Temptations Resort, Mexico resorts all over 375 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:30,240 Speaker 1: the world for it, and it's typically very respectful, affluent couples. UM, 376 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:34,520 Speaker 1: even a couple's club in Nashville. It's a fun little 377 00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:36,840 Speaker 1: subculture that seems to be gaining a lot of traction 378 00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:42,199 Speaker 1: as quote unquote normal. This guy loves quotes. UM. I said, so, 379 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 1: you just want our thoughts on that kind of relationship, 380 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:46,400 Speaker 1: and he said, yeah, I always appreciate your take on things. 381 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:48,120 Speaker 1: You seem to have a pretty open mind to I'd 382 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,359 Speaker 1: be curious your thoughts on it. Then I started to 383 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:54,280 Speaker 1: be like, am I being propositioned? He's like telling you 384 00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:58,320 Speaker 1: all the places. I'm like, you know, I feel like 385 00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: this is okay, and he's like, cool Jet Temptations. Um, 386 00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 1: it would never work for me. I could absolutely never 387 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:07,200 Speaker 1: do it. And I'm not usually I never say never 388 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:10,560 Speaker 1: kind of girl. But so maybe I should never say never. 389 00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:14,639 Speaker 1: But from what I've experienced so far, that isn't the 390 00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:18,199 Speaker 1: kind of dynamic that I would be comfortable in with 391 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: a partner. I'm on the same page as you. I 392 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:24,919 Speaker 1: just know that I would feel it would make me 393 00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:27,440 Speaker 1: feel less than I would feel like there's something there's 394 00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 1: more going on there between them than me. I don't 395 00:21:31,840 --> 00:21:34,359 Speaker 1: have a problem with other people doing it. I'm like, 396 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:37,199 Speaker 1: let your freak flight fly, like do your thing. Like 397 00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:40,560 Speaker 1: part of me wishes that I could lean into more 398 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:44,480 Speaker 1: stuff like that. Um, but I know it would just 399 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:49,000 Speaker 1: never work for me. Do you think monogamy is attainable 400 00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:53,160 Speaker 1: as a goal for like super long terms? I think 401 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:55,560 Speaker 1: I think so, yeah. I mean I don't think it's 402 00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:58,159 Speaker 1: for everybody. Yeah, but I think that there's plenty Like, 403 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:01,200 Speaker 1: if that's what I want, I have to believe that 404 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,360 Speaker 1: there's somebody else out there that wants the same thing. 405 00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:07,920 Speaker 1: Does that mean that like you're gonna end up if 406 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,119 Speaker 1: you meet someone that wants that, It doesn't necessarily you're 407 00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:13,680 Speaker 1: going to end up together forever? But um, yeah, I 408 00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:19,159 Speaker 1: absolutely believe it's an attainable goal. Um. But you know, 409 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,800 Speaker 1: I think it could also be fun to, like if 410 00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:24,320 Speaker 1: you wanted to like have a slutty vacation, like just 411 00:22:24,359 --> 00:22:28,480 Speaker 1: go to the swingers resort because you know everyone there's 412 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 1: looking to fuck. I was just about to ask you, 413 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:35,560 Speaker 1: could you be the third party with a couple? Um maybe, 414 00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:37,960 Speaker 1: I mean I've done it in the past, you have 415 00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:40,040 Speaker 1: not with a straight couple. I was about to say, 416 00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:43,199 Speaker 1: you always just drop these bombs. You're like, I'm like, 417 00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:45,320 Speaker 1: have you had a threesome? He's like no, but I've 418 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:51,600 Speaker 1: had an orgy. I'm like, what what? Actually? What the fuck? Um? 419 00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:56,160 Speaker 1: So you've had But I don't think that swingers are looking. 420 00:22:57,040 --> 00:23:00,960 Speaker 1: They switch, they switch, but I mean they seem open sexually. 421 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,399 Speaker 1: So yeah, I guess it's like if you are this 422 00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:06,199 Speaker 1: like weird random third wheel, they're like, well, what am 423 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,959 Speaker 1: I gonna do? So I guess it does all need 424 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,159 Speaker 1: to be couples. But you could, like you and I 425 00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:12,560 Speaker 1: could go like if you and I wanted to have 426 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:14,679 Speaker 1: a slight wee, can we could go act like we're married. 427 00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:17,639 Speaker 1: I love that you're all of a sudden pretending like 428 00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:20,520 Speaker 1: we want to be slightly It doesn't really work because 429 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:22,399 Speaker 1: it's the opposite of what you said last week. I 430 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:26,720 Speaker 1: don't think I actually no, I'm just I'm just being hypothetical. Okay, 431 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:28,800 Speaker 1: I wouldn't want for the listeners are giving them all 432 00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:31,119 Speaker 1: the options. Can you tell us more about when this 433 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,679 Speaker 1: has happened in your life asking for the listener? I 434 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:38,440 Speaker 1: mean it's so long ago. Oh, you don't remember now 435 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:43,159 Speaker 1: he had amnesia all of a sudden. No, it's I 436 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:45,640 Speaker 1: don't know if it was ever really with a couple, Like, 437 00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:48,159 Speaker 1: I don't understand what you mean by that, if the 438 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:51,960 Speaker 1: people were ever together. You asked if I could be 439 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:56,160 Speaker 1: a third in a relationship, like yeah, with a straight couple. 440 00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:58,760 Speaker 1: Will you stop beating around the bush and just tell 441 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:02,560 Speaker 1: us the fucking story. I don't really remember it. Oh, 442 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:07,439 Speaker 1: were their drugs involved? Probably, but I don't know if 443 00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:11,920 Speaker 1: they were a couple, Like, so there was two other people? Yes, okay, 444 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:13,400 Speaker 1: let me let me just I'll just go to yes 445 00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:15,119 Speaker 1: and no questions because you clearly don't want to tell 446 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:18,639 Speaker 1: us there were two other people. Did you show up 447 00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:21,840 Speaker 1: to a venue or was this like was this pre 448 00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,359 Speaker 1: It was like probably a grinder hook up or something. Okay, 449 00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:27,560 Speaker 1: So you were on the app and these two guys 450 00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 1: were like, hey, we're looking for a third Yes, okay, Yeah, 451 00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:36,000 Speaker 1: you had never met them before. Did you see them again? No? Um, 452 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:39,200 Speaker 1: let me think about have any other questions? Was it fun? Um? No, 453 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:40,920 Speaker 1: it was kind of awkward. That's what I was always 454 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:44,399 Speaker 1: wondering about that. It's like that's like apparently the number 455 00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:47,360 Speaker 1: one fantasy people Google is like a threesome. But I've 456 00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 1: always wondered if in real life it actually would ever 457 00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:52,439 Speaker 1: play well. That one particular time that I was just 458 00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: imagining was definitely like really awkward the first time I 459 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:59,240 Speaker 1: did it, that you were imagining or that happened, Um well, 460 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:01,719 Speaker 1: I was when we were when I was just answering 461 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:05,879 Speaker 1: those questions. It was happing more than once. Okay, let 462 00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:11,040 Speaker 1: me think it's forget about things, but um that one was. 463 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,160 Speaker 1: There was one that was definitely awkward. Like I got 464 00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:15,880 Speaker 1: there and I was like, I want to leave now, 465 00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:19,080 Speaker 1: Like were you not attracted to the It was just 466 00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 1: like the scene was weird. But the first time I 467 00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 1: did it it was it was pretty hot and it 468 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:28,360 Speaker 1: was I also think it was outside of my element, 469 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:32,640 Speaker 1: and so there was also that sort of adrenaline. Were 470 00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:35,440 Speaker 1: you sober or were you that time? I was sober? Yeah, 471 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,320 Speaker 1: the time that it was good, you were sober. That's 472 00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:41,520 Speaker 1: an interesting And it was during the daytime time I day, 473 00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 1: I don't know, the sun was up. I remember that 474 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,520 Speaker 1: like a two pm must have been Now it wasn't 475 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:48,600 Speaker 1: during lunch like it must have been a weekend. I 476 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,880 Speaker 1: was gonna say, was it a Saturday or Monday, because 477 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:53,760 Speaker 1: that changes the whole thing. Saturday, it's like you left 478 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:59,840 Speaker 1: your you left your office to go do this. Did 479 00:25:59,840 --> 00:26:02,840 Speaker 1: you to have a coworker, um at a job and 480 00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:05,320 Speaker 1: he left once and his computer was on and it 481 00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,920 Speaker 1: was like on Craig, like he left for a hook up, 482 00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:11,760 Speaker 1: like it was on Craigslist. I forgot about how Craigslist 483 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 1: had that woman seeking woman man man the whole thing 484 00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:21,399 Speaker 1: it is. It's it's just the hook up stuff is 485 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:26,400 Speaker 1: gone because I think people were getting murdered yea classic Craigslist, 486 00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,600 Speaker 1: and so they didn't want to there was like there 487 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:34,320 Speaker 1: was some liability. Well obviously I don't. I mean it's 488 00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:37,359 Speaker 1: like match dot com. You can get murdered too, you know, 489 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:41,160 Speaker 1: like I don't. I don't know why, Um sorry Match, 490 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:46,080 Speaker 1: I just it could be tender. Yeah, but yeah, I 491 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 1: don't know why it's different for Craigslist. May because it's 492 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:55,560 Speaker 1: so specifically sex well and it's um it's free, whereas 493 00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,520 Speaker 1: I feel like with these other apps, like you're you're 494 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:04,040 Speaker 1: giving some personal information just to have access to it anyway, 495 00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:06,159 Speaker 1: So maybe there is like a term of service that 496 00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,320 Speaker 1: you're signing. It is like I promise I won't kill anybody, 497 00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:13,480 Speaker 1: and there's there. Yeah, I'm going to read the fine print. God, 498 00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:15,520 Speaker 1: if that's a fine print, like I promise I won't 499 00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:19,320 Speaker 1: kill someone. We need to up our or what is 500 00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:24,200 Speaker 1: that called non negotiables here? Guys? Um, I would ask 501 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:27,520 Speaker 1: this guy if swingers just allow one party, But I 502 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:31,320 Speaker 1: feel like then he would think that I'm interested. She's 503 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,840 Speaker 1: choosing to be Selivan right now, right sorry. Indigital celacie 504 00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:39,719 Speaker 1: also includes nice swingers. Um, do you feel like if 505 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,720 Speaker 1: a couple that was heterosexual approached you as a third 506 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:48,440 Speaker 1: party you would say yes. Um, chances are it would 507 00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 1: be a no, But it really depends on the situation. Okay, interesting, 508 00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:59,680 Speaker 1: I've been approached and he said no, I didn't do it. 509 00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,600 Speaker 1: Do you regret not doing it? Um? I don't know. 510 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:07,200 Speaker 1: I don't really have regret. No, I knew the people, 511 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:11,480 Speaker 1: so that would be. I had a friend that got 512 00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:14,080 Speaker 1: involved in like a three way relationship in New York 513 00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:18,560 Speaker 1: and he broke the couple up and they were all friends, 514 00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:22,040 Speaker 1: and so it was like, I think it's that was 515 00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:25,919 Speaker 1: a gay couple. Yeah, And it was like, I just 516 00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:27,600 Speaker 1: think it's dangerous. I think if you're going to do 517 00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:29,360 Speaker 1: any of those things it needs to be when you're 518 00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:33,359 Speaker 1: at temptations in Mexico, like do that ship? Yeah, because 519 00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:36,680 Speaker 1: it's like you can't leave the door open for it 520 00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:40,480 Speaker 1: to developed into a relationship because I think that's when 521 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:44,440 Speaker 1: you find cracks in your own relationship, right, I guess 522 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:48,680 Speaker 1: my bigger question always is are there already cracks? But 523 00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:50,560 Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean maybe some people are just 524 00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,520 Speaker 1: more open and yeah, it just wouldn't work for me. 525 00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:59,200 Speaker 1: But anyway, I mean I think we answered that and yeah, 526 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:04,160 Speaker 1: you all, it ain't gonna be us. You do you 527 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:06,360 Speaker 1: and whoever else you want, it just is not going 528 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:11,320 Speaker 1: to be us. Um, Okay, how do I find confidence 529 00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:16,520 Speaker 1: in myself when everyone around me is hating? You? Gotta 530 00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:19,880 Speaker 1: fucking I know who you are? Yeah, you have to. 531 00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:25,040 Speaker 1: How do you say that? Like, there's a quote. There 532 00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,040 Speaker 1: was a quote that I posted when I started getting 533 00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:30,040 Speaker 1: so much hate on that on that stupid reality show. 534 00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:34,400 Speaker 1: Um what was it? It was something like look in 535 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,240 Speaker 1: the mirror and remember who the funk you are, because 536 00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,960 Speaker 1: it's like, ultimately you're the one who knows who you are. 537 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:42,360 Speaker 1: People can hater's gonna hate, Like it's always a projection 538 00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:44,400 Speaker 1: of other people. I noticed that too, when I'm mad 539 00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:49,240 Speaker 1: at somebody or I'm like, um, there's something that annoys 540 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:51,120 Speaker 1: me and I want to talk about it a lot. 541 00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:53,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, what's going on with me? Like that, I 542 00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:56,000 Speaker 1: need to say that. So usually you just remind yourself that, 543 00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:59,000 Speaker 1: like people are hating a ton and you're not being 544 00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:01,840 Speaker 1: an asshole. Like also, maybe this is the time to 545 00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,480 Speaker 1: reflect on your behavior. Let's take this back to reflection. 546 00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:08,200 Speaker 1: But if you're being an asshole, then change your behavior. 547 00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,600 Speaker 1: If you're not being an asshole and you're just being 548 00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:14,920 Speaker 1: kind and loving and living the people you're hanging out with, Amen, 549 00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:18,560 Speaker 1: there you go. Enough said. Okay, this one comes in 550 00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:23,440 Speaker 1: from the podcast we did about Brittany and Kim Kardashian. 551 00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 1: This was the first. It feels like it was literally 552 00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:36,200 Speaker 1: last year. It was. It was a year ago. Oh 553 00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,240 Speaker 1: love the pod today. So many thoughts on Brittany. I 554 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:42,000 Speaker 1: personally think she stopped maturing around the age she became 555 00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:44,680 Speaker 1: really big in the business, and yet is for sure 556 00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:47,120 Speaker 1: battling some mental health issues. A big part of her 557 00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:49,240 Speaker 1: fame was her sex appeal, so of course that's what 558 00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:51,080 Speaker 1: she's showing off now that she gets to do it. 559 00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:53,920 Speaker 1: On her own terms. Her past photo shoots were probably 560 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,280 Speaker 1: we're a controlled version of what she's putting out now. 561 00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,040 Speaker 1: Instagram just wasn't a thing then, and there was a 562 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:02,600 Speaker 1: team at it to every pick. I don't know if 563 00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:05,040 Speaker 1: I think that it's an age thing as much as 564 00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:07,680 Speaker 1: she's a mom of teenage boys and what's making the 565 00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:10,480 Speaker 1: world and that's what's making the world uncomfortable. That's an 566 00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:13,360 Speaker 1: interesting thought. Who knows she's been locked in a world 567 00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:15,320 Speaker 1: where she had zero control and was in a bubble. 568 00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:17,120 Speaker 1: She seems to me like she has the maturity of 569 00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:19,280 Speaker 1: a sixteen year old that hasn't lived life, which is 570 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:21,520 Speaker 1: crazy because of all that she has accomplished. Actually feel 571 00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,160 Speaker 1: like that's a really good enough it's pretty nail on 572 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 1: the head. I think that was a weird way to 573 00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:32,960 Speaker 1: say that. Kim Kay talk about a fucking transformation. Obviously, 574 00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,400 Speaker 1: no one knows what real, what's real. But I read 575 00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:39,280 Speaker 1: somewhere that the filing for single for single was to 576 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:41,800 Speaker 1: help Kanye process the fact that they are never ever 577 00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:45,240 Speaker 1: getting back together, just like Taylor Swift says, and he 578 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,760 Speaker 1: would maybe leave her alone again, who knows. I hope 579 00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:50,640 Speaker 1: it's not so she can jump into another marriage. I 580 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:53,400 Speaker 1: agree with Chip though that she definitely has more human 581 00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:56,560 Speaker 1: qualities these days. Maybe it's the mom of a bunch 582 00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:59,000 Speaker 1: of kids things. Diving into law school. I don't know, 583 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 1: she went from one who got rich from being sexy 584 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:05,239 Speaker 1: to someone who's worked her ass off to get her 585 00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:08,480 Speaker 1: law degree and help people that have the law that 586 00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:12,960 Speaker 1: the law has failed. It's kind of crazy. Yeah, I mean, look, 587 00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:16,040 Speaker 1: I've I've never been a massive Kardashian fan, you know, 588 00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 1: I can. I think there's probably a lot of problems 589 00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,960 Speaker 1: in the world that you can attribute back to them. 590 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:26,440 Speaker 1: But I do have respect for him, and I think, like, yeah, 591 00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:30,560 Speaker 1: she's um. I think she's like, look, there's still she 592 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:33,400 Speaker 1: knows how to play the media. She's she is a 593 00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:38,240 Speaker 1: genius at it. Um she has her doctorate in media 594 00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:42,760 Speaker 1: and UM. But I also think too, it's like she 595 00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:45,400 Speaker 1: um wants to leave a different kind of mark in 596 00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,440 Speaker 1: the world and she's she's putting her money where our 597 00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:52,680 Speaker 1: mouth is and I have to respect that. And you're 598 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,640 Speaker 1: this person who wrote in is right, like we we 599 00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:58,800 Speaker 1: only know that because there's such masters of the media, 600 00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,560 Speaker 1: Like we're only getting what they want us to know. 601 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:05,760 Speaker 1: Like yeah, or even Kanye like, we're only seeing what 602 00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:08,720 Speaker 1: they want us to see. And UM don't believe all 603 00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:13,400 Speaker 1: you see, right, so you can't really believe it all. UM. 604 00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:16,240 Speaker 1: And I have a really dear friend who worked with 605 00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:20,160 Speaker 1: Kim on a photo shoot and UM for a magazine 606 00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:24,960 Speaker 1: cover and UM, and it was with I'm not gonna 607 00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:28,080 Speaker 1: like say what publication or the photographer, but the photographer 608 00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,360 Speaker 1: was like, yes, I want to work with her, but 609 00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:38,320 Speaker 1: I've got some caveats, no makeup and no squad. I 610 00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:41,960 Speaker 1: want her here by herself, raw, I want I want 611 00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:45,240 Speaker 1: to show the raw side of her. And UM. I 612 00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:47,680 Speaker 1: got to read some of the emails, the correspondence that 613 00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:51,880 Speaker 1: Kim wrote herself. UM, not only was it really thoughtful, 614 00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:55,560 Speaker 1: she's very intelligent. And my friend told me that she 615 00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:59,440 Speaker 1: showed up a day early because she wanted to work 616 00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:03,600 Speaker 1: through stuff without any sort of representation, and allowed herself 617 00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:07,440 Speaker 1: to be photographed without makeup, beautiful and was gorgeous on 618 00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:09,920 Speaker 1: the ship. I've heard the same thing about people who 619 00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:13,240 Speaker 1: have worked with her. UM actually had some friends work 620 00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:17,000 Speaker 1: to where they were inside of her house when she 621 00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:21,840 Speaker 1: was married to Kanye, and UM said Kim was so kind, 622 00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:25,799 Speaker 1: so welcoming, so warm. I wanted to actually get to 623 00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:28,200 Speaker 1: know them, like those kind of things. And then the 624 00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:31,200 Speaker 1: second Kanye would enter the house, it was like everybody 625 00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:33,600 Speaker 1: got on alert. And she kind of tried to protect 626 00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:38,160 Speaker 1: my friends from that environment because he's such a headcase. 627 00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:41,200 Speaker 1: So it's like it was really interesting to hear of 628 00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:44,920 Speaker 1: people knowing that from the inside. And I agree with 629 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,480 Speaker 1: you about trying to leave your mark on the world. 630 00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:50,359 Speaker 1: Like she got famous from a sex tape. Let's not 631 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:52,560 Speaker 1: And I mean, and she talks about that now, but 632 00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:54,520 Speaker 1: I do feel like she's grown and evolved and is 633 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,719 Speaker 1: now like, hey, I have this platform, like, let me 634 00:34:56,760 --> 00:34:58,400 Speaker 1: try to figure out something good to do with, right, 635 00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:03,640 Speaker 1: which is and also an incredibly savvy business woman. I 636 00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:05,879 Speaker 1: wonder if it has anything to do with like she 637 00:35:06,080 --> 00:35:09,800 Speaker 1: was a little older than you know, Brittany, Lindsey Lohan, 638 00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,239 Speaker 1: all these people that sort of like we're also in 639 00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:14,080 Speaker 1: that same scene. She was a little bit older when 640 00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,399 Speaker 1: her fame came to her, So I wonder if that has, 641 00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:21,640 Speaker 1: you know, has had any effect on the outcome maybe, 642 00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,600 Speaker 1: you know, Yeah, And I think like her mom the 643 00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,480 Speaker 1: family was tight, Yeah, the family being tight. I think that, 644 00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:29,560 Speaker 1: like I don't know what the dynamic is, and I 645 00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:31,920 Speaker 1: think they all have their own issues, but like they 646 00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,480 Speaker 1: all have a support system. Yeah, it seems like it 647 00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:36,640 Speaker 1: and it together. What do you think about all the 648 00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:40,480 Speaker 1: press Kanye is getting that's like just finally looks like 649 00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:43,799 Speaker 1: a fucking boom man, like moved the funk on. I 650 00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:47,080 Speaker 1: think he's really sick. But it is interesting to me 651 00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 1: that people are finally starting to talk about his behavior 652 00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:53,239 Speaker 1: as abusive, because it is. It's harassment, it's stalking, it's 653 00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:56,240 Speaker 1: all of those things. And that can't be taken lightly. 654 00:35:56,280 --> 00:36:01,520 Speaker 1: The mental distress that that puts on people. Um, it's illegal, 655 00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:05,680 Speaker 1: like it is not okay, and it's one it's not human. 656 00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:09,719 Speaker 1: It's not good to do to anyone. It's also like 657 00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:12,440 Speaker 1: he looks insane like you said, and he seems insane, 658 00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,600 Speaker 1: and he he is. But I mean so I hope 659 00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:17,080 Speaker 1: he gets the help, but I do. I'm happy that 660 00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:19,680 Speaker 1: people are starting to talk about like the effects that 661 00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,080 Speaker 1: that would have on a person like him on their kids, 662 00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:25,839 Speaker 1: especially because it's so public. Those kids, I'm I don't 663 00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:27,279 Speaker 1: how old are they. I'm sure some of them can 664 00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:31,440 Speaker 1: read at this point Northwest, of course, that kid I 665 00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:33,719 Speaker 1: don't either. I still can't figure out how I feel 666 00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:36,560 Speaker 1: about Pete Davidson. I'm not gonna lie. I think he's funny. 667 00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:38,880 Speaker 1: I like him. I mean you just think he has 668 00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:42,319 Speaker 1: a big dick. Well he's got something. I actually think 669 00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,040 Speaker 1: he's funny. His movie, if you haven't seen it, The 670 00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:46,319 Speaker 1: King of Staten Island, is great. I just think it's 671 00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:50,560 Speaker 1: interesting that all the women that he dates like it 672 00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:52,799 Speaker 1: seems like he comes in when they're wounded, like going 673 00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:56,320 Speaker 1: through a divorce, like he like sweeps in. Ariana Grande 674 00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:58,240 Speaker 1: was going through a bad breakup when they got together. 675 00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:03,440 Speaker 1: I don't know. Something's all right to me fair enough anyway, 676 00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,359 Speaker 1: that's my personal opinion. If you have any other thoughts, 677 00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:12,240 Speaker 1: good news, that's right. I come out of intentional selvisie. 678 00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:19,279 Speaker 1: I'm like guys, I've met some less Okay, this one 679 00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:22,040 Speaker 1: comes from another listener. I keep forgetting we said we 680 00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:26,160 Speaker 1: do these. Okay, you say to message you about anything, 681 00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:27,840 Speaker 1: and this could be weird, but maybe a topic for 682 00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:33,880 Speaker 1: the Edge anyway, I love to I forgot about it anyway. 683 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,960 Speaker 1: I signed up for feet Finder to sell pics of 684 00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:38,600 Speaker 1: my feet. I have had it and been approved since 685 00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:42,360 Speaker 1: December and haven't started anything yet. It feels weird, I guess, 686 00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:44,399 Speaker 1: so I didn't not mind. My feet are just being 687 00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:48,880 Speaker 1: used when I'm not making a dime. Um since December, 688 00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:51,480 Speaker 1: it hadn't started anything yet. It feels weird. Is it weird? 689 00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:54,840 Speaker 1: But like, who cares its feet insteative to constantly get petties? 690 00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:57,840 Speaker 1: I don't know. My husband grew up so she's married. 691 00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:01,960 Speaker 1: Did you catch that of it? Okay? My husband grew 692 00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:04,279 Speaker 1: up in a less than desired home, surrounded by drugs 693 00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:07,400 Speaker 1: and alcohol, going without food sometimes. Needless to say, he 694 00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:09,440 Speaker 1: has never been able to have new things. Well, he 695 00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:11,279 Speaker 1: got a job as a teacher and bought himself a 696 00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:14,680 Speaker 1: brand new bike about nine, had it for two weeks 697 00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:17,920 Speaker 1: and someone stole it yesterday. I just cried for him. 698 00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:19,600 Speaker 1: So now I want to do this to raise money 699 00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:22,000 Speaker 1: and buy him a new bike. But it's weird. Is 700 00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:23,840 Speaker 1: it weird that it's with money that guys spend a 701 00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:26,600 Speaker 1: jack off to my feet? Like? Is this odd? To do? 702 00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:33,560 Speaker 1: L L help so many things. If somebody would pay 703 00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:36,919 Speaker 1: for pictures of my feet, I'd sell them. Really yeah, 704 00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:39,719 Speaker 1: I mean I haven't tried. Maybe there is somebody, but 705 00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:44,360 Speaker 1: I think I have nice feet. Um anyway, Yeah, I 706 00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:45,840 Speaker 1: don't think it's weird to do what you gotta do. 707 00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:48,480 Speaker 1: Like I mean, I would say, as long as your 708 00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:51,960 Speaker 1: husband knows about it and y'all agree that it's okay. 709 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:54,799 Speaker 1: But that's like a suck company being like, I mean, 710 00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:56,880 Speaker 1: should we not sell these socks like some kid might 711 00:38:56,960 --> 00:39:00,800 Speaker 1: jack off in them? No, it's not. It is absolutely 712 00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,640 Speaker 1: not the same thing. And that try on that good. 713 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,120 Speaker 1: It's such a stretch, a stretch that is definitely stretched 714 00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:11,480 Speaker 1: because she knows exactly. That's like, I can't even say 715 00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,200 Speaker 1: what I was about to say. Never mind, I'm just 716 00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:15,319 Speaker 1: gonna stop myself. This is the edge and I'm like, 717 00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:18,879 Speaker 1: I still can't do it. I think if I think 718 00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:22,560 Speaker 1: it's a very nice gesture. Look, you're not having sex 719 00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:27,000 Speaker 1: with people, you're with your feet. They're having sex with themselves. 720 00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:30,279 Speaker 1: And you know what, if they're not buying your feet, 721 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:32,239 Speaker 1: they're buying someone else's feet, So it might as well 722 00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:34,640 Speaker 1: be you that's getting paid so you can buy that. 723 00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:36,600 Speaker 1: He'll be a bike. He deserves it. What am I 724 00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:38,719 Speaker 1: going to do by my feet? That's the thing. And 725 00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:40,560 Speaker 1: like I'm not even you need to apply for foote 726 00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,760 Speaker 1: dot com or whatever it's called. Foot see what it's 727 00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:48,879 Speaker 1: called feet Finder. Feet Finder like sibling Google right now? 728 00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:52,640 Speaker 1: Um so I yeah, I was like, I'm gonna pay 729 00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:58,760 Speaker 1: one picture of her feet. Yeah, just get him a bike. Um. 730 00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:02,520 Speaker 1: I feel like, as long as, like I said, as 731 00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:04,880 Speaker 1: long as you're communicating, your husband knows, and it's not 732 00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,080 Speaker 1: some sneaky thing behind his back that if he found 733 00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:09,759 Speaker 1: out later he'd be upset about. Obviously, I know the 734 00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:11,839 Speaker 1: intention is to buy him a new bike, so maybe 735 00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:13,279 Speaker 1: you could leave that off. But you're like, hey, I 736 00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:16,799 Speaker 1: want to raise some extra cash or whatever. But I 737 00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:19,560 Speaker 1: just think it has to be a conversation in a 738 00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:24,239 Speaker 1: marriage personally. Yeah, I mean, but I mean, if that's 739 00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:29,640 Speaker 1: how we said this before on, that's what I'm saying. 740 00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:31,560 Speaker 1: That's what I'm trying to say, is she has to 741 00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:33,800 Speaker 1: communicate with him that she's going to be on feet 742 00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:38,160 Speaker 1: Finder view and buy feet picks self feet picks. It's 743 00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,920 Speaker 1: like only fans for feet A lot of these have 744 00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:45,680 Speaker 1: the girls faces in them. Okay, so that's different. Oh, no, 745 00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:52,520 Speaker 1: like to buy you even have to sign up, to 746 00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:55,800 Speaker 1: have to sign up fat feet, we stopped making those noises. 747 00:40:56,360 --> 00:41:00,359 Speaker 1: Just a butt pick, footie pajamas. I feel like, well, look, 748 00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:04,239 Speaker 1: here's a picture of socks. There you go, some money 749 00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:08,239 Speaker 1: does get off on socks. I mean, I don't really 750 00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:10,279 Speaker 1: get the feet thing, but I don't know. I guess 751 00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:12,239 Speaker 1: a lot of people do. I think it's really just 752 00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:15,279 Speaker 1: about the communication you have with your partner, making sure 753 00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:17,960 Speaker 1: there's no secrets there, and how you make your money 754 00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:20,359 Speaker 1: is up to you. I definitely would make sure your 755 00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:24,040 Speaker 1: face isn't in the photos to like there's a lot 756 00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:27,000 Speaker 1: of face picks, especially if her husband's a teacher, then 757 00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:30,560 Speaker 1: you have to be careful about the like implications that 758 00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:35,040 Speaker 1: you have to realize what can come back on. So 759 00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:39,360 Speaker 1: there's one Lopez z Lopez literally just like a picture 760 00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,680 Speaker 1: of feet and athletic socks in the backseat of a car, 761 00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:44,319 Speaker 1: like you can see the mud Matt, Like, why is 762 00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:47,840 Speaker 1: that one? I don't understand. I know, I'll bet you 763 00:41:47,920 --> 00:41:49,839 Speaker 1: no body. I swear to God every time I post 764 00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:52,759 Speaker 1: pictures of shoes, like I posted this really badass pair 765 00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:54,759 Speaker 1: of feet, and this guy wrote something so gross I 766 00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:57,760 Speaker 1: had to block him. It's just like, it's so bizarre 767 00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,680 Speaker 1: to me that people really get off one can you 768 00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:02,640 Speaker 1: get off this page? And like I just need to 769 00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:05,000 Speaker 1: understand a little bit, Like what do you mean this 770 00:42:05,080 --> 00:42:09,359 Speaker 1: is like these feet, you send an offer. It's not 771 00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,640 Speaker 1: like here's a picture for five dollars. You send an offer, 772 00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:14,359 Speaker 1: or you can just tip. What's the teaser like? Don't 773 00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:16,040 Speaker 1: you have to put something out to know what they're 774 00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:18,560 Speaker 1: going to get? This is a man's feet, by the way, 775 00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:22,719 Speaker 1: with tattoos on it. So you send an or you 776 00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:24,520 Speaker 1: send a message. You have to pay us on the 777 00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:27,160 Speaker 1: most so then you would get another pick probably. Okay, 778 00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:28,759 Speaker 1: well that sounds like a lot of work too, so 779 00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,000 Speaker 1: if you're if you're doing it, I hope you make 780 00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:34,479 Speaker 1: the n um. I think that's where we should stop 781 00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:37,239 Speaker 1: for today's chip. Yeah, that seems like that sign off 782 00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:40,720 Speaker 1: on the feet. Fine. Do you have any final thoughts 783 00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:43,640 Speaker 1: that you would like to contribute to the listeners about feet, 784 00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:47,400 Speaker 1: about kim Kay, about anything anything you want to reflect on? 785 00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:52,879 Speaker 1: Not really, that was so insightful. Thank you so much. 786 00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,840 Speaker 1: I think I've said at all tonight? Have you You 787 00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:58,560 Speaker 1: really said a lot with this last little minute? For sure, 788 00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:01,239 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go home, you know, get all the fun. 789 00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,120 Speaker 1: Oh God, please don't tell us what you're gonna do 790 00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:06,520 Speaker 1: with here a long time. I'm just gonna send tips 791 00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:13,880 Speaker 1: fifty cents. Give you this girl's name so you can go. 792 00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:18,960 Speaker 1: Let's start up what's it called the thing where you 793 00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:21,480 Speaker 1: raise fund me so that she doesn't have to do 794 00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:27,160 Speaker 1: the feed Go feed me dot com anyway. Um, you guys, 795 00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,400 Speaker 1: keep the emails coming. We love talking to you. Guys. 796 00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:31,839 Speaker 1: Is the edge at velvet edge dot com. You can 797 00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:34,560 Speaker 1: always dot com excuse me, you can always hit me 798 00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:38,000 Speaker 1: up on Instagram at Velvet's Edge, chip um at chip 799 00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:42,319 Speaker 1: door R P d O R s H. God, I 800 00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,800 Speaker 1: just sounded like I was on NPR. Well that was 801 00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:50,120 Speaker 1: a self call. I don't know d r H. Was 802 00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:51,960 Speaker 1: that a little more? I was going to let you 803 00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:55,360 Speaker 1: keep going. Oh, I just spelled my last name h 804 00:43:55,560 --> 00:44:00,600 Speaker 1: I P D R s H. I feel like you 805 00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:03,000 Speaker 1: all of a sudden have like some sort of Hispanic 806 00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:05,400 Speaker 1: tone to your voice. No, I'm just doing like a 807 00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:12,520 Speaker 1: soft NPR thing, you know where you have to enunciate 808 00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:19,279 Speaker 1: every letter I. Everyone's son Now they're like bye, they're not. 809 00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:23,279 Speaker 1: You're on feet finder dot com. As you guys go 810 00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:27,040 Speaker 1: into the weekend, I can't do it. And look at you. 811 00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:29,520 Speaker 1: Don't look at me as you guys going No, I 812 00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:31,400 Speaker 1: can't do it as you guys go into the weekend 813 00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:34,040 Speaker 1: and you're living on the edge. I have you remember 814 00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,200 Speaker 1: to always act casual.