WEBVTT - Larcus Tell All 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:13.080 So we're back with another episode of Separation Anxiety the podcast. 0:00:13.119 --> 0:00:14.840 I'm your host and Marcus Jordan. 0:00:14.760 --> 0:00:16.160 And I'm Larsa Pippen. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.120 And today we're going to be talking about a variety 0:00:19.160 --> 0:00:21.720 of things. But I feel like, yeah, and I feel 0:00:21.720 --> 0:00:25.040 like there's some interesting topics. But I think first let's 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:28.320 talk about dating timeline. When you first meet somebody, when 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:31.680 do you actually like meet up? Do you talk first 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:33.839 or are you like the type of person that you 0:00:33.840 --> 0:00:36.000 want to meet it out in public for coffee? Like 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:39.160 talk to me about you know, how you typically start 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:40.000 dating somebody. 0:00:41.000 --> 0:00:43.159 I feel like I like to talk to someone on 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:45.320 the phone for like a long time for sure. I 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:47.800 like to know like who they are, what they think. 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:50.279 I feel like I've spoken to like a few guys that, 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:53.159 like on paper were great, and then as soon as 0:00:53.200 --> 0:00:54.720 I would talk to them on the phone, they would 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:56.640 say things that I'm like, oh, that's a deal breaker, 0:00:57.000 --> 0:00:57.880 Like I just can't. 0:00:58.040 --> 0:01:00.000 I feel like you have a lot of deal breakers, 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:01.920 Like I kind of do I feel like you can 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:03.280 cut somebody off or like. 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:06.319 Anything, Well, I mean not anything, but I just feel 0:01:06.319 --> 0:01:08.080 like there's certain things that I don't want to sign 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:09.520 up for and I don't like to be in a 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:12.559 situation where I don't like, I don't feel safe for sure. 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:14.440 If I'm going to jump into the pool, I'd like 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:18.280 to know the temperature and like how deep it is. 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:20.200 I don't want to just jump into a situation with 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:23.160 someone where I'm like unclear. But I will say I 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:25.720 have caught myself in some situations where I'm like, what 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:27.560 the hell was I thinking dating that person? 0:01:27.640 --> 0:01:30.720 Yeah, I feel like I feel like for me, you know, 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:34.000 I'm I definitely spend a lot of time, like you know, 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:36.119 getting to know somebody through the phone, but I feel 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:39.200 like nothing serious can happen until you meet in person. 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:39.480 You know. 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:43.040 I'm big on like chemistry and like can we hold 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:45.480 a conversation and like, you know, just do we have 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:48.360 a lot of interests and so, you know, I don't know. 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:50.440 I feel like it varies for everybody, but I feel 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:53.480 like my dating timeline is probably like talking, texting, getting 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:56.400 to know each other, and then at some point, like 0:01:56.840 --> 0:01:59.040 I feel like just the anxiety builds up and you 0:01:59.120 --> 0:01:59.800 kind of want to meet the. 0:01:59.800 --> 0:02:04.840 Person you know, and most of the time it's like overrated. Yeah, time, 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:06.920 it's like because I feel like I've talked to guys 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:09.880 where I'm like, Oh, they're amazing, They're so great, and 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:11.320 then as soon as I would hang out with them, 0:02:11.320 --> 0:02:13.519 I'd be like, oh, heck, no, this is so not 0:02:13.639 --> 0:02:15.040 for me. I can't sign up for this. 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:15.440 Yeah. 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:17.040 I feel like when I was in LA, the guys 0:02:17.080 --> 0:02:19.680 that were the guys that I was talking to in LA, 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:21.520 I felt like it was like a lot of industry people. 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:24.280 And I feel like, because you're so focused on their 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:26.480 career and stuff that like the little things that matter 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:29.880 to me probably like don't matter to them. 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:30.800 Yeah. 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:32.560 I mean I think, you know, again, I think we 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:34.360 kind of talked about this on our last episode, but 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:38.240 I do think your location kind of dictates you know 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:40.519 who you might run into or who you might date, 0:02:40.720 --> 0:02:43.160 and you know what their priorities are, and so I 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:45.040 feel like, I don't know, I feel like I've always 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:48.799 like I'm needy, Yeah, and I always feel like I wasn't, 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:51.240 you know. I feel like I can cater to people's needs, 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:52.880 but I feel like I go with the flow and 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:54.959 like pretty much take things as they come. 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:55.120 You know. 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:56.680 Yeah, I feel like you're really chill. 0:02:57.280 --> 0:02:59.400 I am very chill. I'm an optimistic guy. I like 0:02:59.440 --> 0:03:00.960 to experience things, you know. 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:03.840 So I remember talking to a guy once and he 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:06.320 like we were probably talking for two months. He lived 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:09.280 out of the country, he lived in Dubai, and he 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:13.519 was literally like probably the second conversation, third conversation we had, 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:15.840 he was like, hey, so I would send you money 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:17.720 every month. If I sent you two hundred and fifty 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:19.720 thousand dollars, would you not talk to anyone anymore? And 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:21.600 we had just started. I just met him on the phone, 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:23.240 like I met him through a mutual friend. I'd never 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:25.560 seen him before, but he just thought on paper like 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:27.480 it would make sense because I was Middle Eastern, he 0:03:27.560 --> 0:03:30.359 was Middle Eastern. But he thought that like the money 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:34.040 would make me not talk to other people. Yeah, And 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:36.440 that to me was kind of like, I'm like, by 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:38.000 the way, I don't even know if I like you. 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:40.280 Yeah, I mean, I feel like there are guys that 0:03:40.400 --> 0:03:43.640 are you know, a little aggressive or you know, might 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:46.320 input their you know, beliefs on people. I don't know. 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:48.960 I've never been that guy. I feel like people are 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:50.560 going to do what they want to do no matter what, 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:53.920 and so I try to be open minded in terms of, 0:03:54.440 --> 0:03:58.800 you know, everybody's personality, because yeah, I feel like, for example, 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:01.360 like you're only I feel like some people feel like, 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:02.720 oh my god, how could you dat a girl with 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:04.320 only fans? And I feel like, you know, it's a 0:04:04.600 --> 0:04:08.000 thing that you do, is like business and in your independence, 0:04:08.040 --> 0:04:10.040 and I you know, I fully support it, whereas I 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:14.120 feel like some people, you know, could maybe not be 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:14.960 so supportive. 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:19.240 So you know, my only fans is like it, there's 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:21.640 like no fee to subscribe to my no trust me. 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:23.599 I'm fully aware not It's. 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:25.960 Not crazy, you guys. It's basically just my lifestyle. It's 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:28.440 nothing crazy. It's anything that I would post on my Instagram. 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:32.000 But I do feel like if you felt a type 0:04:32.040 --> 0:04:34.680 of way about it, I would definitely cancel it. We've 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:37.560 had these conversations before where I'm just like, you know, 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:41.280 it's fun for me to do, but if you weren't 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:43.760 comfortable with it, then I would definitely, I feel like, 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:44.320 get rid of it. 0:04:44.400 --> 0:04:46.560 Yeah I don't have a problem with him, but yeah, I'm. 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.120 Just saying, like you, if you had a problem, I 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:48.640 would get. 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:50.000 Yeah, well I appreciate that one. 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:52.200 Yeah, I definitely would want you to feel comfortable and 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:53.120 good in a relationship. 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:56.359 Well, thank you baby, And so talking going back to 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:59.479 talking dating timeline, Like, how long do you think a 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:01.680 person should wait before you hook up. 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:04.520 I told you I'm big on like I want to 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:06.720 talk to you a lot, so like I where I 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:09.200 know everything about you, I know your friends, I know 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:11.800 how you move, I know how you think before I 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:12.400 even see you. 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:14.040 Yeah, I mean, I mean. 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:15.880 I feel like my homie and then I don't feel 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:18.440 like there's a new pressure and I say, hey, like, oh, 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:20.200 you're going to be in LA. We should all meet up. 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:22.599 And I'm more of like the group type thing, like 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:25.120 I'm more like my friends will come and meet your 0:05:25.200 --> 0:05:27.200 friends and then we could all be friends. 0:05:27.839 --> 0:05:28.680 Yeah, No, I feel that. 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:29.359 Yeah, I feel like. 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:30.719 It's different for guys. 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:32.159 I feel like, sure, I'm sure. 0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:36.640 Well, especially it depends it's situational, depends on like each situation. 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:39.400 I feel like, if you've been talking on the phone 0:05:39.600 --> 0:05:43.320 or facetiming, then there's probably some sparks there or some chemistry. 0:05:43.360 --> 0:05:47.159 And so I feel like if by the time you 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:49.120 meet up in person the first time, you. 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:50.360 Know, I feel like you're trying to up. 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:53.480 I feel like it's not necessarily out of the realm 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:56.120 of possibilities. Not saying that okay, I go into a 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:59.160 first date expecting to hook up. But I also feel 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:00.919 like when I go into the first day, I know 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:03.400 you a little bit through talking or whatever, and if 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:06.120 there's chemistry there, I would welcome it. You know, I'm 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:08.720 not ruling it out. I think that's what most guys think. 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:10.720 Yeah, I feel like I like to spend time with 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:12.719 someone and kind of see how they are like in public, 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:15.039 like what my friends think about them, Because I do 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:17.080 feel like there's like a timeline, right, So like when 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:20.240 I first meet someone, there's like, you know, if I 0:06:20.360 --> 0:06:21.800 like you, I'm not going to text you, I'm going 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:22.279 to call you. 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:23.640 Okay, Yeah, I feel that. 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:25.560 I'm like I want to hear your voice. I want 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:27.360 to hear your tone because I feel like your tone 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:28.880 has a lot to do with like the type of 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.760 person you are. And then I want to say things 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:33.760 you might not like to see how you respond. 0:06:34.240 --> 0:06:36.239 Really, I'll see you playing like my game, yeah. 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:38.000 Because I feel like I'll just say some crazy stuff 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:40.400 to see like, oh, like he would never accept that, 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:41.520 like he's just crazy. 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:43.800 Yeah, you see, I never really was one. 0:06:44.360 --> 0:06:47.679 Like when I was dating, I always kind of girls 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:49.160 would say, oh, you got game. 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:51.000 Or you like you have a lot of game, by. 0:06:50.920 --> 0:06:53.479 The way, but I never I'm always honest and open. 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:55.960 I'm never really spitting game Like I don't have like 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:57.560 a strategy or a chest. 0:06:57.680 --> 0:07:00.520 No, it's just the way you are. That's just the way. 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:02.920 It's just I don't know, that's just how I am. 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:04.960 You know, It's just I don't know. I'm always honest. 0:07:05.000 --> 0:07:08.280 I feel like in you know, trying to be like forthcoming. 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:11.320 I feel like only a lioness like me could take 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:11.640 you down. 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:14.000 Oh yeah, I would agree with that. I would agree 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:14.160 with that. 0:07:14.280 --> 0:07:16.040 Like you, Yeah, you're kind of wild. 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:19.960 And so okay, continuing on the topic of like the dating. 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:22.200 Time texting a So, so I'm going to text you 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:24.320 if we just meet, and then if I like the 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:26.920 way you text, I'm going to call you. But I 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:28.720 will tell you I had a crazy story about a 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:30.480 guy that I was dating and he was from Chicago. 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:32.480 So I don't know if the whole like where you're 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:35.280 from has a lot to do with things. He's from Chicago. 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:41.080 He actually married someone that I know. Okay, every time 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:42.960 I would text him, he would I mean every time 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:44.720 I would talk to him. First it started with the 0:07:44.760 --> 0:07:47.880 text messaging and he is like a business guy, super 0:07:47.920 --> 0:07:50.800 like nerdy, okay, But then when I would text him 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:53.600 or call him, he would say like the craziest things 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:55.800 to me, Like he would be just like, I've been 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:58.600 thinking about your body all the time, and I'm like 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:01.440 and then he'd be like he would just say like 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:03.000 the things that I want to do to you, and 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:05.200 it just turned me off so bad. I was like, 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:07.720 this guy's a total idiot, Like I would never waste 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:10.640 my time with him because he just was coming off 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:13.840 so like aggressive. But if you saw him, Marcus, you 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:15.840 would never believe. 0:08:15.600 --> 0:08:18.680 What about Has there ever been a situation where you 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:22.840 liked the guy and that was like welcome? Then you 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:25.040 know what I'm saying, I think maybe you weren't. 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:27.560 I feel like it's like a tennis match, so it's 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:29.200 like it has to go back and forth. But if 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:32.800 you're constantly saying physical, like you know, like sexual things 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:34.840 to me and I'm not reciprocating back to you, then 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:36.920 I feel like at some point it's like, dude, I'm 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:39.839 not into that with you, Like we're trying to figure 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:42.520 things out, but like that's not it, you know. And 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:44.120 I feel like this guy, if you saw the way 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:46.880 he looked like and the things he was saying, you'd 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:47.920 be like, there's no way. 0:08:48.280 --> 0:08:50.640 Well, I do feel like that's like a gray area, 0:08:50.880 --> 0:08:53.360 you know, and especially as a guy, because like you 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:56.320 don't as a man, you don't want to get depending 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:57.679 on the situation, but you don't want to get put 0:08:57.720 --> 0:08:59.920 in the friend zone, right, And so I feel like 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:03.360 there's like a thin line between like for play and 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:07.000 sex thing versus like being too aggressive, you know. 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:08.680 Because I feel like I put him on and my 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:11.960 phone is pervert. I was like, he's a pervert. But 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:13.720 you know, it's funny. He ended up marrying someone that 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:16.880 I know and they look really happy. That's good, and 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:19.880 I'm sure he's probably different with her. I think, would 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:22.200 you date certain people, maybe they bring out a certain 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:24.640 thing in you. Oh yeah, I don't know. If he 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:26.600 just felt like I liked it, like I was that 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:28.800 person that liked it, but I clearly did not. I 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:30.840 was like, uh no, I'm not that girl. 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:36.040 Yeah no, okay. So it's continuing on the dating timeline, 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:38.680 like when do you think it's right because you said 0:09:38.679 --> 0:09:40.480 you like to meet people in groups or whatever, and 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:42.600 so when do you think it's the right time to 0:09:42.679 --> 0:09:45.200 introduce somebody that you're dating to your kids. 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:47.680 Well, I feel like from the time like we start 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:50.439 hanging out as friends and my friends tell me they 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:52.440 like you. Because I feel like I need like my friends. 0:09:52.559 --> 0:09:54.040 I kind of tell my friends a lot of things, 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:55.840 and I don't know if that's good or bad because 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.200 I know you don't love when I tell my friend's things. 0:09:58.320 --> 0:10:01.679 No, it doesn't bother me, just like I like person 0:10:01.760 --> 0:10:04.120 you feel me. I like in our business to us, 0:10:04.240 --> 0:10:05.240 but I feel. 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:06.840 Like when there's hiccups and I feel like if they 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:09.080 are your real friends and I only have like a 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:11.320 couple of really good friends, I feel like I like 0:10:11.400 --> 0:10:13.880 to tell them when things are not like not perfect 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:16.000 with us, because I want them to remind me. Like 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:18.240 I like, if if you've done something to me that's 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:20.560 hurt my feelings, I kind of want my friends to 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:23.160 remind me that. So I'm like, Okay, so yeah, you 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:25.000 did actually say that to me or you did do 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:27.719 that to me, right, But I'm working on that. I 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:29.560 feel like I do need to be more private because 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:31.800 I am definitely like really open with like my friends 0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:32.240 and family. 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:34.720 I just think I don't think that's a bad thing necessarily. 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:38.120 I just feel like, you know, we come from different backgrounds. 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:42.160 I feel like you always were from the notion of like, uh, 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:44.720 like a big tribe, you know what I'm saying. And 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:47.760 I feel like, you know, for us, we've always been 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:51.360 private and you know, handle things within four walls, et cetera, 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:53.160 et cetera. So I don't think it's a bad thing. 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:55.960 I just think it's you know, that's where we differ sometimes. 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:59.120 Yeah, But I feel like as far as hooking up 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:01.400 with someone, I don't know if there's like a time 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:04.040 frame for that because I feel like once you get 0:11:04.080 --> 0:11:06.200 to know someone on the phone and you spend time 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:08.840 like talking to them about certain things, I feel like 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:11.120 then like once you're comfortable and like as long as 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:12.440 you're an adult, Like, have you. 0:11:12.440 --> 0:11:13.920 Ever hooked up with someone on the first day? 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:16.760 No, When I think about it now, because I feel 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:17.880 like I expect things. 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:19.040 What does that mean? 0:11:19.280 --> 0:11:22.840 I just expect things like I expect you to be nice, sweet, everything. 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:25.920 It's not like, yeah, my mind controls my body, my mind, 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:27.560 and my heart. So if I'm not into it like 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:29.199 my mind and heart, then I'm not going to hook 0:11:29.280 --> 0:11:30.760 up with you. It's just not I'm not going to 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:32.760 be like oh so horny, I need to hook up 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:33.760 with you. It's not happening. 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.000 Yeah, no, I feel that. And so how about this. 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:39.319 If sex is bad for the first time, let's say 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:42.000 it's whatever I have. Of many dates, you finally have 0:11:42.080 --> 0:11:45.520 sex with somebody, it's terrible. Is there any hope for 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:48.439 the relationship after that first bad hookup? 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:52.880 I kind of feel like, I don't know, because I 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:56.280 feel like, you know, it's I don't think so I 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:56.880 think I. 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:59.280 Feel like, yeah, I mean, I don't want to cut 0:11:59.280 --> 0:11:59.640 you off going. 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:01.600 No, I don't know. I feel like this, like if 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:04.000 I talk about this stuff like openly, I'm gonna get 0:12:04.000 --> 0:12:05.360 in trouble with my parents. So I'm just going to 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:05.880 keep it ping. 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:07.240 I feel that I don't know. 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:10.360 I feel like sexual chemistry matters, you know, so if 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:14.760 it's terrible, horrible, like like then throw it all away. 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:16.600 Yeah. I feel like it's like a big part of 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:17.840 a relationship for sure. 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:20.440 Yeah, for sure. I think it's a big part. 0:12:20.679 --> 0:12:23.120 Yeah. Okay, So let's talk about so from the time 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:26.600 you hook up. Okay, there's like stages, right, So you 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:30.240 hook up with someone, how long after before you introduce 0:12:30.320 --> 0:12:33.200 them to like your kids, and then like your because 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:35.080 I feel like I would introduce someone first to my 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:36.440 kids and then to my parents. 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:39.319 Oh well, you know, I don't have kids. I think, 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:42.080 you know, like you said, I when I'm dating somebody, 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:44.160 I kind of like to bring them around my friends 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:47.600 after a certain point of time, and then you know, 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:48.520 if my friends like. 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:52.120 Them, then maybe they'll you know, meet the parents. You know. 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:54.760 Again, I don't I never really brought that many people 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:56.160 back to my parents, you know. 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:58.240 And so I just feel like. 0:12:58.320 --> 0:13:00.800 It's like three months, five months, because I feel like. 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:01.520 I met your mom. 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.200 I met your mom like what three months after we 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:04.679 started it. 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:07.600 I think it was something like that for months, something 0:13:07.600 --> 0:13:10.439 like that, something like that. Yeah, But I also feel 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:12.800 like our situation was different just because it was so public, 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:16.079 you know, and I wanted, you know, people to meet 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:18.040 you in my family just because I feel like they 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.240 don't know I hadn't really known you or met you, 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:23.640 or you know, didn't know your personality, and so if 0:13:23.640 --> 0:13:26.040 we were going to be public and all in the news, 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:27.360 I kind of wanted you to I. 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:29.200 Wanted my family to know who I was running around with. 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:32.240 Yeah. So I feel like when I talk to someone, 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:34.600 I feel like, for the first two weeks, I'm texting, calling, okay. 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:38.600 Then I'm going to see you probably a month into it, okay, 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:41.400 and then I'm going to probably introduce you to my kids. 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:43.280 I don't know. I don't know that many guys that 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:44.880 have made it that far to be honest with you, because, 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:47.080 like I said, I'm very critical of the conversations we have. 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:49.120 I'm sure, and I feel like if you just say 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:51.719 some crazy things, like you know, it's funny because I 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:53.640 feel like when I've talked to guys and they've said, hey, 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:55.800 I really like I feel like LA guys are like this, 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:58.719 they'll be like, I really like an independent woman. If 0:13:58.720 --> 0:14:00.280 you say that, I'm not going to like you, even 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:03.000 though I'm an independent woman, yeah, because I just feel 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:06.640 like it means you're cheap. There's like some connotation in 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:09.240 my brain that says you're cheap, even though like I've 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:11.120 got my own everything and I don't need a man 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.000 for anything. But I feel like if a guy says 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:16.040 I'm really into independent women, no, I. 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:19.360 Think it could be at least from my perspective. I 0:14:19.360 --> 0:14:21.600 feel like if a woman is independent, it doesn't necessarily 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:24.000 need to be like, oh, we're splitting the bill. 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:26.320 If you've never dated a guy that we're like if 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:28.800 we're at dinner, and like, I have a friend actually 0:14:28.840 --> 0:14:31.240 that moved in with this guy in Miami and they 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:34.960 were splitting the rent. They were splitting everything down the middle, 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.600 to the point they were splitting their like Starbucks bill 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:38.960 and she didn't even drink coffee. 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:39.680 That's crazy. 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:41.720 And so for me, I was like, that would not 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:43.920 turn me on. He I would never hook up with him. 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:45.200 That would just turn me off. 0:14:45.280 --> 0:14:45.360 No. 0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:48.280 And so going back to you know, the guy's perspective, 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:51.040 I feel like dating an independent woman means kind of. 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:52.440 Like she's got her stuff together. 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.280 Yeah, she's you know, grinding towards some sort of goal, 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:57.680 maybe a career at least. 0:14:57.440 --> 0:14:59.280 An hobby or interest, you know. 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:02.080 And so I think you can be, you know, in 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:05.360 search of an independent woman and not necessarily wanting somebody 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:06.760 to split the bill with you. 0:15:06.760 --> 0:15:06.960 You know. 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:07.800 I do. 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:10.840 I like like the contributing factor. I like to be 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:13.440 able to contribute to a lot of things, like vacations 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:15.560 or like a home or something like that. But I 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:17.760 just feel like if you were like literally expecting me 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:19.680 to like split a Starbucks. 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:23.440 Bill, yeah, no, I feel like, you know, sometimes women 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:26.040 or a woman who's not working or who's up under 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:27.840 you all the time can be a little annoying to 0:15:27.920 --> 0:15:29.680 a guy, you know, and it could come off as 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:32.120 like needy or and so I just feel like, you know, 0:15:32.240 --> 0:15:34.200 when a guy's looking for an says he's looking for 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:36.440 an independent woman, it could also be like, oh, she's 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:40.040 you know, keeping herself busy. She's got her job, she's 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:42.480 got a career, whatever it is that you know she's 0:15:42.480 --> 0:15:45.520 spending her time doing. But you know, I feel like 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:49.280 guys like alone time sometimes, and so that's what dating 0:15:49.280 --> 0:15:50.680 an independent woman could bring. 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:53.480 I guess I get it. Okay, So it doesn't mean 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:54.960 they're cheap all the time when they say that. 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:55.800 No, I don't think. 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:59.760 I don't think it necessarily needs to be somebody is cheap. 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:02.480 And so I guess you were kind of like alluding 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:05.480 to another topic we were trying to discuss on this episode. 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:08.320 And so this is talking money with your honey, and 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:10.119 so I feel like this is a great segue. 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:12.800 I love talking money with my honey exactly. I want 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:14.600 to know everything. I feel like when we're dating, Like 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:16.800 when you date someone, you should really ask like the 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:20.480 most personal questions about your finances, Do you have any debt? 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:23.120 I don't want to sign up for someone else's debt, right, 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:27.000 And they're like, like, there's certain reasons why, like you 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:28.320 would never marry some of these people. 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:30.680 I feel like that comes later in the timeline of dating. 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:33.320 Though, you know for sure, But I'm sayings. 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:34.960 That happen and then you start getting into the weeds 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:35.960 of for sure. 0:16:36.000 --> 0:16:38.160 But I definitely feel like a while before you're having 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:40.920 these conversations about meeting each other's family, you should definitely 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:43.960 talk about finances, for sure, and like what you're comfortable 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:46.120 with and what everyone brings to the table. 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:48.440 Because well, it's funny because I just feel like, you know, 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:50.640 in a game. Maybe this is my old soul talking, 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:53.040 but I'm always of the notion of like a guy 0:16:53.160 --> 0:16:55.440 should take care of his woman, you know, and so 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:58.520 you know, whether that be dinner or whatever the case 0:16:58.560 --> 0:16:59.880 may be. But I feel like the guys should all 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:02.400 ways pay and make sure his girl is all right. 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:03.160 Uh. 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:06.000 And so the question is, when both partners are well off, 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:07.080 who should pay for dinner? 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:08.879 You should? 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:11.840 I think I do you do it? 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:15.120 You do it? But no, I feel like it's good 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:17.800 to contribute, you know, there's certain things. For instance, when 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:18.640 we're there's. 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:21.239 Times though, there's times though where we're out eating and 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.359 you're like, no, I want to grab lunch, and yeah, 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:25.560 there's a little fight we argue over it, but every 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:27.440 now and then you've been successful at like buying a 0:17:27.520 --> 0:17:28.000 lunch or two. 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:30.280 Well, I feel like everyone has to bring something to 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:32.359 the table. Everyone has to contribute in some you know, 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:36.719 some way. But it's funny before we before we shoot 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.760 housewives or even this podcast, and I'm always running around 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:41.960 like last minute, and I ask you to do certain things, 0:17:42.000 --> 0:17:45.159 and I'm like, Marcus, is the computer charge? Marcus? Like 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:47.199 this and the certain things I expect you to do 0:17:47.240 --> 0:17:48.800 and your goal And you said to me before you 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:50.600 said you're bossing me around. 0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:53.000 Well, I know what happens is I feel like you 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:56.280 get a little bit of anxiety and anxiousness when it's 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:58.640 time to like film or whatever, just because you want 0:17:58.640 --> 0:17:59.080 things to go. 0:17:59.119 --> 0:17:59.359 Well. 0:17:59.480 --> 0:18:04.360 Yeah, and you say things that are like overtly obvious, 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:05.560 like okay, make. 0:18:05.480 --> 0:18:07.840 Sure the computers starts, like the computer is charged. 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:09.760 You know, And so you just like to reiterate certain 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:11.960 things as if like I'm not on top of them, 0:18:11.960 --> 0:18:13.600 even though that I am and so that's what I 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:15.639 mean when I say, like, you get a little bossy 0:18:15.640 --> 0:18:16.720 when you're anxious. 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:18.199 But it's cute. It's so cute. I just don't do 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:18.800 I not laugh. 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:21.320 I feel you laugh. But the funny thing is when 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:23.520 we're okay, the funny The funny thing is when we're 0:18:23.600 --> 0:18:26.560 not doing that. I'm literally taking care of you all day. 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:28.240 You do you do? You do a great job to 0:18:28.240 --> 0:18:28.720 take care of it. 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:31.439 I literally bring you coffee or to bring coffee and 0:18:31.480 --> 0:18:34.800 make you breakfast even though I've got like calls during 0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:37.000 my calls. I'll have my business calls for like Larce 0:18:37.119 --> 0:18:40.240 Marie or a Lujo yeah, or just like anything that 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:43.159 I'm going on my production meetings for housewives or whatever. 0:18:43.280 --> 0:18:44.680 But I'm still making you breakfast. 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:46.720 You do you? Definitely? Then I ask you, I try 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:47.639 to I try to clean up. 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:49.320 I feel like you're maybe you're messy as hell. 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:50.919 I am. I'm a little messy, but I feel like, 0:18:50.960 --> 0:18:51.520 if you're going. 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:53.560 To cut at you, there's one thing about you, I 0:18:53.560 --> 0:18:54.800 feel like you're kind of messy. 0:18:55.320 --> 0:18:55.679 Definitely. 0:18:55.760 --> 0:18:59.000 I grew up not necessarily having to pick up after myself, 0:18:59.040 --> 0:19:01.280 and so I could say that translated a little bit 0:19:01.320 --> 0:19:03.879 into my adult years, but I am very grateful and 0:19:03.920 --> 0:19:05.879 thankful when you do cook, and so I try to 0:19:05.880 --> 0:19:07.919 do my part in terms of like taking out the 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:10.400 trash and clean up the dishes. So you know, I'm 0:19:10.440 --> 0:19:11.560 not perfect, but I'm trying. 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:14.080 Sure, you're actually amazing. I love everything that you do 0:19:14.160 --> 0:19:14.399 for me. 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:16.840 And so is it a turnoff when a woman offers 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:17.240 to pay? 0:19:18.080 --> 0:19:20.160 I don't think it's a turnoff. I think it's nice 0:19:20.200 --> 0:19:21.919 for a woman to offer to pay. I think, like 0:19:21.960 --> 0:19:24.000 I said, I think it's like, yeah, you want to 0:19:24.040 --> 0:19:26.879 be with someone that wants to give you back. I 0:19:27.320 --> 0:19:29.320 don't feel like anyone wants to be in a relationship 0:19:29.320 --> 0:19:31.760 where's one sided. Yeah, I feel like if you feel 0:19:31.760 --> 0:19:35.000 like you're being taken advantage of, then that's not going 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:36.760 to be a good feeling for you. And I feel like, 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:39.639 even like when I say, I like a man to 0:19:39.640 --> 0:19:41.320 take care of a woman, but at the same time, 0:19:41.720 --> 0:19:43.280 the woman's got to take care of a man too, 0:19:43.280 --> 0:19:44.760 and we all bring different you know. 0:19:45.119 --> 0:19:48.080 Yeah, I think I don't think it's I wouldn't say 0:19:48.080 --> 0:19:51.440 it's a turnoff necessarily. I feel like, you know, it's 0:19:51.800 --> 0:19:54.760 greatly appreciated if a woman offers to pay, but I'd 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:57.560 rarely ever let that happen. I feel like, you know, 0:19:57.800 --> 0:20:00.800 thank you for the gesture, but you know I got 0:20:00.800 --> 0:20:01.280 this one. 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:01.680 Yeah. 0:20:01.720 --> 0:20:03.720 I feel like you're good life and all of them. 0:20:04.320 --> 0:20:07.199 But but I do feel like you do appreciate like 0:20:07.280 --> 0:20:09.199 the things that like I do for you, or like 0:20:09.200 --> 0:20:10.760 a woman to do for a man, because I do 0:20:10.800 --> 0:20:13.560 feel like, you know, we all have to do our partner. 0:20:14.240 --> 0:20:16.200 My mama raised me with manners, you know. 0:20:16.280 --> 0:20:17.400 I know she really did. 0:20:18.280 --> 0:20:20.840 How about the vice versa? Is it a turn off 0:20:21.080 --> 0:20:24.199 when a man doesn't offer to pay. Let's say we 0:20:24.280 --> 0:20:26.320 go eat and I'm like, we're just sitting there. The 0:20:26.400 --> 0:20:28.200 check came and I'm like waiting for you to grab 0:20:28.240 --> 0:20:28.600 your card. 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:30.919 Okay, We'll tell you a story to happen. I mean once, okay, 0:20:31.320 --> 0:20:33.760 I went my friend was in town. Okay, she wanted 0:20:33.800 --> 0:20:36.600 to go to a club in Miami. And when I 0:20:36.640 --> 0:20:39.360 go to clubs, I don't ever obviously pay for anything exactly. 0:20:39.640 --> 0:20:41.720 But she wanted to come, and she came with like 0:20:41.760 --> 0:20:44.800 a few people, like six guys. Oh wow, but it 0:20:44.840 --> 0:20:47.280 was like our hairdresser and her makeup art. It was 0:20:47.280 --> 0:20:48.640 like guy, but that's a deep crew. 0:20:48.840 --> 0:20:50.040 That's that's a deep crew. 0:20:50.359 --> 0:20:52.640 So I knew that we I knew that, like we couldn't. 0:20:52.800 --> 0:20:54.560 She couldn't just come to my table. So I had 0:20:54.560 --> 0:20:56.040 to go to her table, like we had to get 0:20:56.040 --> 0:20:58.359 a table. And I was dating this guy at the time, 0:20:58.600 --> 0:21:00.720 and the bill came for the table, and I think 0:21:00.760 --> 0:21:02.520 it was like eighty five hundred dollars or something, and 0:21:02.560 --> 0:21:05.440 he was like, I don't want to pay for your 0:21:05.520 --> 0:21:09.280 friend and all of her friends. Wow, And so obviously 0:21:09.320 --> 0:21:11.520 I split the bill with her that night, and that 0:21:11.600 --> 0:21:14.280 was crazy, well I but I couldn't be mad at 0:21:14.359 --> 0:21:16.040 him because I was like, I get it, like I 0:21:16.119 --> 0:21:17.960 had just started talking to him, and he was like 0:21:18.080 --> 0:21:20.720 not expecting to, Like he couldn't even bring his friends 0:21:20.720 --> 0:21:22.920 to the table because it was her and all her friends. 0:21:23.320 --> 0:21:25.320 And so I do remember feeling like I. 0:21:25.400 --> 0:21:28.360 Was so wait, the guy that you were dating. 0:21:28.119 --> 0:21:29.359 I wasn't really dating it me. 0:21:29.400 --> 0:21:31.720 Y'all went out together, y'all went to the club together. Yes, 0:21:31.960 --> 0:21:35.160 and your friend came with six guys. 0:21:35.200 --> 0:21:37.720 So normally, if I was going on, I would go 0:21:37.760 --> 0:21:39.600 to like the owner's table. I wouldn't like and I 0:21:39.600 --> 0:21:41.760 don't really I'm not like a big drinker. I'm having 0:21:41.840 --> 0:21:46.320 one drink drinks and I'm not staying all night. So 0:21:46.359 --> 0:21:48.119 I feel like, for me, it's not that serious. But 0:21:48.640 --> 0:21:50.399 she ended up coming with a bunch of people. We 0:21:50.520 --> 0:21:52.200 ended up going out and we had a great night. 0:21:52.280 --> 0:21:53.960 We had a great night. I love her so much. 0:21:54.440 --> 0:21:56.919 But the guy that I was with did it like 0:21:56.960 --> 0:21:58.480 he was just like, I'm like, I don't want to 0:21:58.520 --> 0:22:00.120 pay this bill, and I was like, yeah, no problem, 0:22:00.119 --> 0:22:02.040 Like I'll split it with her. So I split it 0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:04.760 with her. But and I wasn't mad at him because 0:22:04.800 --> 0:22:07.520 it was just like the situation, the circumstances. 0:22:07.920 --> 0:22:10.639 Okay, So was the guy were y'all dating or was 0:22:10.640 --> 0:22:12.200 it like friend vibes were you'll own? 0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:14.280 We were like in a situation where we just started 0:22:14.320 --> 0:22:16.480 talking and I thought he was cute and he thought 0:22:16.520 --> 0:22:17.719 I was cute. It was kind of like that we 0:22:17.720 --> 0:22:19.720 weren't like we hadn't we hadn't slept together or anything 0:22:19.760 --> 0:22:21.320 like that. It wasn't like he was my boyfriend or 0:22:21.359 --> 0:22:21.960 anything like that. 0:22:22.119 --> 0:22:24.760 Okay, I don't know. I feel like I don't. 0:22:24.560 --> 0:22:25.800 Know whenever I paid that bill. 0:22:26.160 --> 0:22:29.160 Yeah, absolutely, I feel like I feel like we've gone 0:22:29.160 --> 0:22:31.600 out times, and you know, I feel like maybe i've 0:22:31.640 --> 0:22:34.160 invited your friends or so and so to come along, 0:22:34.200 --> 0:22:36.280 and yeah, I pick up the bill most of them. 0:22:36.440 --> 0:22:37.879 I know, But I feel like I don't like my 0:22:37.960 --> 0:22:40.640 dude did like like be like to be taken advantage 0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:41.000 of either. 0:22:41.200 --> 0:22:43.320 I don't think it's more about taking advantage. I feel 0:22:43.320 --> 0:22:45.840 like it's you know, now, do I think the guy 0:22:45.920 --> 0:22:48.920 should have maybe had somebody somebody else should have chipped 0:22:48.920 --> 0:22:51.480 it not necessarily you I feel like because you didn't 0:22:51.480 --> 0:22:52.960 necessarily bring the large group. 0:22:52.920 --> 0:22:54.520 I feel like she should have paid the bill. 0:22:54.560 --> 0:22:54.840 I don't know. 0:22:54.880 --> 0:22:56.760 I feel like, if I'm hosting a group, even if 0:22:56.800 --> 0:22:59.560 it's not necessarily you know, all of my closest friends, 0:23:00.400 --> 0:23:01.920 you know, I'm definitely going in on the bill. 0:23:02.320 --> 0:23:04.359 Would agree. Yeah, I feel like you're really generous like that. 0:23:04.600 --> 0:23:07.320 Yeah, I mean it's you know, it's less about you know, 0:23:07.840 --> 0:23:09.560 who we're with, and is more about I feel like 0:23:09.600 --> 0:23:11.560 the venues that we go to, you know, they always 0:23:11.560 --> 0:23:13.240 have our back when we go, and so, you know, 0:23:13.440 --> 0:23:16.160 just trying to make sure we maintain you know, good 0:23:16.200 --> 0:23:17.280 service and security. 0:23:18.040 --> 0:23:20.560 I also feel like, like I said, it's about like 0:23:20.680 --> 0:23:22.800 the tennis match of give and take. Yeah, you got 0:23:22.840 --> 0:23:24.960 to give a take, you know, it's it can't be 0:23:25.080 --> 0:23:26.159 one sided than anything. 0:23:26.400 --> 0:23:30.280 Yeah, and so I guess it doesn't turn you off, 0:23:30.320 --> 0:23:31.960 did you guy? Did you state that guy again? 0:23:32.080 --> 0:23:32.439 Nope? 0:23:32.600 --> 0:23:34.480 Well then it maybe turned you off a little bit. 0:23:34.760 --> 0:23:37.199 No, I don't. He just wasn't the vibe. He couldn't like. 0:23:37.240 --> 0:23:39.520 I just don't know. He just Okay, it didn't do 0:23:39.520 --> 0:23:41.200 it for me. Let's talk about intimacy. 0:23:41.600 --> 0:23:42.880 Okay, let's do it. 0:23:42.720 --> 0:23:45.320 So like the difference between men and women. So like 0:23:45.359 --> 0:23:47.160 you know, we were talking about, like in your mind, 0:23:47.200 --> 0:23:49.040 you don't feel like there's anything wrong with like hooking 0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:52.520 up with someone right away. Okay, I feel like for women, 0:23:53.000 --> 0:23:55.160 and I'm going to talk about me personally, I feel 0:23:55.160 --> 0:23:57.080 like I have to like really really like you, like 0:23:57.200 --> 0:23:59.320 have a connection with you, want to be with you. 0:23:59.400 --> 0:24:01.399 But I don't really see myself hooking up with people 0:24:01.400 --> 0:24:02.400 that I'm not going to be with. 0:24:03.640 --> 0:24:04.600 Okay, that's fair. 0:24:04.720 --> 0:24:06.920 Like I'm just not like that. I know guys are 0:24:06.920 --> 0:24:08.760 built like that. I'm just not built like that. 0:24:09.320 --> 0:24:11.440 I mean, look, I think it depends on what stage 0:24:11.480 --> 0:24:13.320 of life you're in, you know, because. 0:24:13.119 --> 0:24:14.800 I feel like I was like that at twenty though, 0:24:14.840 --> 0:24:16.520 Like I always any guy that I liked I was like, 0:24:16.520 --> 0:24:18.320 could I be with him? Could I marry him? Do 0:24:18.400 --> 0:24:21.080 I see myself with him? It wasn't like, oh, he's 0:24:21.160 --> 0:24:23.240 so fine, I just want to be with him tonight. 0:24:23.400 --> 0:24:24.399 Like never that. 0:24:24.400 --> 0:24:26.879 Different strokes with different folks, you know, because I feel like, 0:24:27.040 --> 0:24:28.879 you know, when I was young and dating and single 0:24:28.960 --> 0:24:31.800 or whatever, there was definitely nights where I'm going out 0:24:31.880 --> 0:24:34.919 with my guys and it's like, Okay, anything goes. Not 0:24:34.960 --> 0:24:37.040 necessarily anything goes, but it's like we're looking for a 0:24:37.080 --> 0:24:39.080 group of girls, or you know, there's a group of 0:24:39.119 --> 0:24:42.080 girls that we're meeting out, and you know, whatever happens happens. 0:24:42.160 --> 0:24:44.280 But you know, I just think that. 0:24:44.280 --> 0:24:49.000 You probably even know their names. I mean, like I 0:24:49.000 --> 0:24:50.359 want your social Security number? 0:24:50.520 --> 0:24:50.720 Yeah. 0:24:50.880 --> 0:24:54.360 No, I mean I feel like, you know, there's definitely 0:24:54.359 --> 0:24:56.919 a double standard when it comes to, you know, hooking 0:24:57.000 --> 0:24:59.360 up on the first date. Yeah, but I definitely think 0:24:59.359 --> 0:25:01.800 it happens a lot more than people give it credit for. 0:25:02.080 --> 0:25:05.800 No, for sure, yeah, for sure. But then I promise you, well, 0:25:05.840 --> 0:25:07.280 the girls that I know end up regretting it the 0:25:07.320 --> 0:25:09.480 next day because then you see the person and it's awkward. 0:25:10.080 --> 0:25:12.080 Well see, And that's always been a thing for me 0:25:12.119 --> 0:25:15.679 because it's like, you know, given who I am in 0:25:15.680 --> 0:25:18.840 this situation, you know, being Michael Jordan, someone whatever, I 0:25:18.880 --> 0:25:20.880 always I never wanted to put myself in. 0:25:21.040 --> 0:25:23.800 Like a gray area situation, you know what I'm saying. 0:25:23.800 --> 0:25:26.760 Obviously can sain it's a big deal and it's hard 0:25:26.840 --> 0:25:30.040 to gauge that on the first you know, first night 0:25:30.119 --> 0:25:33.200 hookup type of thing, and so it's definitely a gray area. 0:25:33.240 --> 0:25:36.359 But I feel like, you know, I've always played it 0:25:36.440 --> 0:25:38.480 safe when it comes to that situation. 0:25:38.840 --> 0:25:48.439 Yeah, you'd have to, you have to. I kind of 0:25:48.440 --> 0:25:50.439 feel like any guy that I've actually been into, I 0:25:50.480 --> 0:25:53.680 can kind of like have him sprung in about seven days. 0:25:55.480 --> 0:25:57.480 I think in seven days you can really you can 0:25:57.480 --> 0:26:00.320 really have a man sprung in seven days a long time. Yeah, 0:26:00.359 --> 0:26:02.520 I feel like if you're focused, seven days is a 0:26:02.560 --> 0:26:03.000 long time. 0:26:03.200 --> 0:26:05.280 I feel like that can go both ways. 0:26:05.520 --> 0:26:09.520 There's like an art to it. You have to really 0:26:09.560 --> 0:26:11.720 get down to the nitty gritty of like who they are. 0:26:12.320 --> 0:26:12.679 Yeah. 0:26:12.840 --> 0:26:16.480 I feel like, you know, again, if there's that high 0:26:16.600 --> 0:26:19.000 level of attraction and wanting to be around each other 0:26:19.040 --> 0:26:20.960 twenty for seven, talking on the phone all the time, 0:26:21.200 --> 0:26:23.800 I feel like then you can kind of peel back 0:26:23.800 --> 0:26:26.560 the layers more easily. I feel like, you know, it's 0:26:26.600 --> 0:26:29.480 easier to fall in love in seven days versus you know, 0:26:29.560 --> 0:26:31.879 if you're not talking as much or not seeing each 0:26:31.920 --> 0:26:33.560 other as much. And I feel like it's okay in 0:26:33.600 --> 0:26:36.560 the early stages of dating to be like completely obsessed 0:26:36.560 --> 0:26:38.760 with somebody and trying to get to know them. 0:26:38.760 --> 0:26:40.919 I agree to, but I also feel like getting to 0:26:41.000 --> 0:26:44.200 know someone like emotionally or like even taking care of them, 0:26:44.320 --> 0:26:46.800 like cooking for them. Like I feel like that, I know, 0:26:47.040 --> 0:26:48.439 do you do you appreciate when I cook for you? 0:26:48.560 --> 0:26:50.560 I love it, Okay, I definitely appreciate it. 0:26:50.640 --> 0:26:50.920 Okay. 0:26:50.920 --> 0:26:52.440 I just want to make sure I try to show. 0:26:52.240 --> 0:26:53.760 You that because I feel like when you're working, I 0:26:53.760 --> 0:26:55.359 always want to make sure that I'm taking care of you. 0:26:55.400 --> 0:26:57.280 I'm like, hey, are you good? Do you need something 0:26:57.320 --> 0:26:59.480 to drink? Can I get you something? Like, just to 0:26:59.520 --> 0:27:01.200 make sure that you're like in a good, done place 0:27:01.200 --> 0:27:02.040 so you can focus on. 0:27:02.040 --> 0:27:04.080 Work, for sure, And I think that's important. 0:27:04.240 --> 0:27:04.400 Yeah. 0:27:04.440 --> 0:27:07.360 And I also feel like I always feel like whenever 0:27:07.480 --> 0:27:10.040 I'm in a situation, I always want the person to 0:27:10.160 --> 0:27:13.840 like be their best and make more money, be good, 0:27:13.880 --> 0:27:16.040 you know, like all the good stuff to support them 0:27:16.160 --> 0:27:17.560 and make sure that they feel good. 0:27:17.640 --> 0:27:20.399 I'll never go into a relationship with like a strategy. 0:27:20.600 --> 0:27:21.639 It's always right. 0:27:21.520 --> 0:27:23.960 Now for sure, right, No, I mean I don't. I 0:27:23.960 --> 0:27:25.800 don't go into anything like that either. To be honest 0:27:25.800 --> 0:27:27.120 with you, I kind of let it be what it's 0:27:27.119 --> 0:27:27.480 going to be. 0:27:27.520 --> 0:27:29.760 And it's like, do you have any girlfriends that do 0:27:29.840 --> 0:27:32.119 that that? Like, I mean, yeah, you know, there's like 0:27:32.160 --> 0:27:33.400 a playbook of. 0:27:33.640 --> 0:27:36.840 Well, I just feel like there moves. In order to 0:27:37.000 --> 0:27:39.000 like really get to someone, you have to like get 0:27:39.040 --> 0:27:41.280 to their emotional side for sure. Like I feel like 0:27:41.280 --> 0:27:43.560 you have to have deep conversations. You have to like 0:27:43.680 --> 0:27:45.920 get into their soul and find out like what makes 0:27:45.960 --> 0:27:48.840 them happy and what doesn't and what triggers them and 0:27:48.880 --> 0:27:50.879 what you know, because I feel like all of us 0:27:50.880 --> 0:27:53.320 are broken in some part, okay, And I feel like 0:27:53.359 --> 0:27:56.040 there's like certain people that know how to like like 0:27:56.119 --> 0:27:58.640 that make you better, yeah, and don't like they see 0:27:58.680 --> 0:27:59.960 the good in you, and they see that they can 0:28:00.200 --> 0:28:02.120 bring out the good in you. But that's a lot 0:28:02.119 --> 0:28:02.440 of work. 0:28:02.720 --> 0:28:04.000 Yeah, for sure, there's a lot of work. 0:28:04.600 --> 0:28:06.199 And I feel like when you're in a relationship, like 0:28:06.240 --> 0:28:08.520 when you first meet someone, it's kind of like they 0:28:08.560 --> 0:28:10.840 all come with baggage. And when I say a baggage, 0:28:10.840 --> 0:28:13.440 it's like they come with like I don't know, they're 0:28:13.440 --> 0:28:17.280 talking to like ten people. They have some kids normally, 0:28:17.840 --> 0:28:19.840 so you got to deal with their the girlfriends that 0:28:19.880 --> 0:28:22.520 they had, You got to deal with their like baby moms. 0:28:22.560 --> 0:28:24.440 You got to deal with like all this stuff. And 0:28:24.480 --> 0:28:26.800 it's a lot of stuff. I bet, I bet, But 0:28:26.840 --> 0:28:29.920 I definitely feel like there's like art to dealing with 0:28:30.040 --> 0:28:31.440 like that whole situation. 0:28:32.119 --> 0:28:33.480 Yeah. I mean, look, I've. 0:28:33.680 --> 0:28:35.320 Like the time frame is what I'm saying, Like, what's 0:28:35.320 --> 0:28:37.240 the time frame for when? Like because I feel like 0:28:37.320 --> 0:28:40.720 I gave you time too, Like when you date someone, 0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:43.040 you have to give them time to unload other people. Yeah, 0:28:43.080 --> 0:28:43.960 everyone has people. 0:28:44.080 --> 0:28:46.520 I feel like, Look, yeah, I feel like we were 0:28:46.560 --> 0:28:49.200 definitely talking for a long period of time, but then 0:28:49.200 --> 0:28:52.240 when we started dating, it was like, yeah, a gradual 0:28:52.480 --> 0:28:55.840 like Okay, cut this person out. You know, can't you 0:28:55.880 --> 0:28:59.200 can't keep be friends with everybody that you are with 0:28:59.320 --> 0:29:02.080 when you're single, you know, because I feel like when 0:29:02.120 --> 0:29:05.000 you're single, everybody's entertaining something, you know what I'm saying 0:29:05.080 --> 0:29:08.000 just because I feel like this human nature, but uh, 0:29:08.720 --> 0:29:10.560 you know, definitely. As you start to get in the 0:29:10.600 --> 0:29:14.080 committed and serious relationship, then people started dropping like flies. 0:29:14.440 --> 0:29:16.440 But you know what's funny, I feel like on Instagram, 0:29:16.480 --> 0:29:18.880 like I can't remember who I was with. I was 0:29:18.960 --> 0:29:21.000 dating someone and he literally went through my Instagram and 0:29:21.120 --> 0:29:24.400 n followed everybody, and I was like, and I was 0:29:24.440 --> 0:29:26.200 new to this because you know, I was like, I 0:29:26.240 --> 0:29:28.120 came from like a long relationship and I was like, no, 0:29:28.200 --> 0:29:29.760 don't know follow those people are my friends. And he 0:29:29.840 --> 0:29:31.800 was like, they offer you nothing. And by the way, 0:29:32.080 --> 0:29:34.840 when they start dating someone that they like, they'll unfollow you. 0:29:34.920 --> 0:29:37.240 And I was like fighting with this guy. And then 0:29:37.440 --> 0:29:40.000 as time went on on Instagram because like I just 0:29:40.080 --> 0:29:42.920 learned this that it happens all the time. So when 0:29:43.400 --> 0:29:47.440 guys start dating someone seriously, she will make them unfollow everyone, 0:29:48.000 --> 0:29:49.560 and so I learned that game. So I was like, 0:29:49.600 --> 0:29:51.640 by the way, if you like me, unfollow everyone, show 0:29:51.720 --> 0:29:54.120 me you love me, show me you like me, because 0:29:54.120 --> 0:29:56.560 I just feel like sometimes it's like a distraction and 0:29:56.680 --> 0:29:58.960 like it offers you nothing at the end of the day, 0:29:59.000 --> 0:30:00.480 like when you really think about it, Like all the 0:30:00.480 --> 0:30:02.200 people that I used to follow on Instagram and like 0:30:02.240 --> 0:30:05.040 all these fake people like they really offer you nothing. 0:30:05.080 --> 0:30:08.760 And I feel like I started noticing that, like, you know, 0:30:08.920 --> 0:30:11.280 I'm doing everything backwards, like I was a mom first 0:30:11.320 --> 0:30:13.480 and now I'm basically like where I was supposed to 0:30:13.520 --> 0:30:14.440 be a twenty one you know. 0:30:14.680 --> 0:30:16.000 True, So I do feel that. 0:30:16.160 --> 0:30:18.440 I feel like when I think about like my friends, 0:30:19.320 --> 0:30:22.280 there's so many fake fronts, like on Instagram, and like 0:30:22.320 --> 0:30:24.960 everyone's fake. Everyone like wants something from you. They're with 0:30:25.000 --> 0:30:27.479 you as long as you have something to offer them, 0:30:27.920 --> 0:30:31.440 and when you stop offering them things, they kind of vanish. Yeah, 0:30:31.680 --> 0:30:34.400 So it's like I don't mind on following anybody at 0:30:34.400 --> 0:30:36.400 this point because I feel like if you don't offer 0:30:36.480 --> 0:30:39.600 me anything where I feel good, you make me better, 0:30:40.120 --> 0:30:41.920 you know, you're doing something for my soul, or like 0:30:41.960 --> 0:30:44.480 you're really funny, like you got to be funny smart something. 0:30:44.600 --> 0:30:46.720 I feel like you go through phases with people, you know, 0:30:46.800 --> 0:30:49.720 and it's like sometimes you know, you might be hanging 0:30:49.720 --> 0:30:52.800 out with somebody for like a summer, but then it'll 0:30:52.840 --> 0:30:54.640 be years before you ever see them again, you know. 0:30:54.800 --> 0:30:56.840 And so what it sounds like is maybe you know 0:30:57.120 --> 0:31:00.960 you take stock of your friendships and relationships know pretty frequently, 0:31:01.000 --> 0:31:03.840 and you know you might cut a bitch off if. 0:31:03.680 --> 0:31:04.080 You have to. 0:31:04.400 --> 0:31:06.920 Now, I'm never like, I don't think I've really cut 0:31:06.920 --> 0:31:08.320 off a lot of people like that. As far as 0:31:08.320 --> 0:31:10.160 my friends, I feel like I'm very like if we 0:31:10.240 --> 0:31:13.240 spent time together, like like at any point, if like 0:31:13.280 --> 0:31:15.160 you came back into my life and you were like, hey, 0:31:15.320 --> 0:31:17.920 I hope everything's cool, like I'd always like respond obviously 0:31:17.920 --> 0:31:20.360 in life, yeah whatever, But I do feel like there's 0:31:20.440 --> 0:31:22.640 like a lot of fake people, like for. 0:31:22.440 --> 0:31:24.520 Sure, No, I feel that. I feel that. 0:31:24.720 --> 0:31:27.440 And so going back to can you win somebody over 0:31:27.480 --> 0:31:30.120 in seven days, which I think we both agree that 0:31:30.240 --> 0:31:33.160 can happen. Should the man be the only one texting 0:31:33.200 --> 0:31:35.680 and calling at the beginning of a relationship or should 0:31:35.680 --> 0:31:36.400 it go both ways? 0:31:36.560 --> 0:31:38.680 I think it should go both ways, But like I 0:31:38.720 --> 0:31:42.440 feel like the man should like determine like the relationship 0:31:42.480 --> 0:31:44.200 because I feel like a man has to really want 0:31:44.240 --> 0:31:44.560 the woman. 0:31:44.720 --> 0:31:48.480 Yeah, So do you like feeling pursued and like desired 0:31:48.560 --> 0:31:51.040 and you want a guy texting you twenty four to 0:31:51.040 --> 0:31:53.880 seven or do you want some space like to win 0:31:53.960 --> 0:31:54.400 you work? 0:31:54.520 --> 0:31:56.920 Like I think it depends on the guy, yeah, because 0:31:56.920 --> 0:31:59.600 I feel like I've had guys that like I feel like. 0:31:59.600 --> 0:32:02.600 When we started dating, we talked a lot. Yeah, it 0:32:02.640 --> 0:32:03.160 was a lot. 0:32:03.240 --> 0:32:05.080 And if we weren't texting, then we were on the 0:32:05.160 --> 0:32:06.600 phone or we were facetiming, like. 0:32:06.840 --> 0:32:09.680 Yeah, you know, I feel like the guy kind of 0:32:09.720 --> 0:32:12.680 does determine like this the relationship. I feel that, Like 0:32:12.720 --> 0:32:15.280 I don't know if I'm being traditional in that aspect, 0:32:15.280 --> 0:32:18.000 but I do feel like the man kind of determines 0:32:18.080 --> 0:32:19.640 like if he wants the relationship. 0:32:20.080 --> 0:32:22.440 Yeah, I mean, I feel like it goes both ways. 0:32:22.520 --> 0:32:25.560 I feel like, you know, because we talked about this before, 0:32:25.640 --> 0:32:28.160 about just like transaction relationships, and so I feel like 0:32:28.200 --> 0:32:31.880 there are times where being a single guy, you want 0:32:32.160 --> 0:32:35.560 like girls to hit you up, to feel like you're needed, Yeah, 0:32:35.640 --> 0:32:37.480 to feel like you're needed for certain things, like even 0:32:37.520 --> 0:32:39.840 if it's just going to the club or where we 0:32:39.960 --> 0:32:41.720 at on the weekend, you know what I'm saying. And so, 0:32:42.480 --> 0:32:45.080 you know, I think as you start to get into 0:32:45.160 --> 0:32:49.680 a more serious or slash committed relationship, then as a man, 0:32:49.760 --> 0:32:52.120 I feel like that can be viewed as like needy 0:32:52.400 --> 0:32:55.760 or like, you know, I feel like guys oftentimes want 0:32:56.240 --> 0:32:59.080 want that like constant communication, but at the same time 0:32:59.160 --> 0:33:01.920 want space early. 0:33:01.320 --> 0:33:02.040 In the relationship. 0:33:02.120 --> 0:33:02.960 Guys are confused. 0:33:03.480 --> 0:33:04.040 Yeah, I don't know. 0:33:04.120 --> 0:33:05.640 I just you guys are confused. 0:33:05.680 --> 0:33:07.360 I just feel like it goes both ways, you know, 0:33:07.400 --> 0:33:10.080 because like if somebody's too clingy or too needy, then 0:33:10.120 --> 0:33:12.360 I'm like, you know, I don't know. 0:33:12.600 --> 0:33:15.120 Yeah, I get what you're saying. I do feel like 0:33:15.200 --> 0:33:18.040 there are certain relationships where like guys need a lot 0:33:18.080 --> 0:33:20.560 of attention from other women because they just feel like 0:33:20.720 --> 0:33:23.520 insecure and they just need they constantly need that. It's 0:33:23.560 --> 0:33:25.320 like a high for them, you know, like other women, 0:33:25.440 --> 0:33:27.480 other women. But at the end of the day, it's like, 0:33:27.560 --> 0:33:30.880 what do you really have nothing because it's all fake love. Yeah, 0:33:31.160 --> 0:33:33.440 you can't. You can't really like spread yourself out to 0:33:33.520 --> 0:33:35.560 everyone because if you were for everyone, you were really 0:33:35.560 --> 0:33:42.440 for no one. 0:33:45.240 --> 0:33:48.040 So on Instagram, we had a couple of ask us 0:33:48.080 --> 0:33:50.760 Anything questions, and so the first one was how do 0:33:50.800 --> 0:33:52.600 you guys handle public negativity? 0:33:52.680 --> 0:33:54.320 And so, babe, what would you say? How do you 0:33:54.320 --> 0:33:54.800 handle it? 0:33:55.200 --> 0:33:59.120 I feel like I'm not really phased by Like, I'm 0:33:59.160 --> 0:34:02.200 not really phased by negativity because I feel like I 0:34:02.240 --> 0:34:04.600 feel really good on the inside and I feel like 0:34:04.680 --> 0:34:07.120 the people that are I surround myself with like love 0:34:07.160 --> 0:34:08.640 me and I love them and I feel like I 0:34:08.680 --> 0:34:11.160 only want to bring positivity into their lives. And if 0:34:11.200 --> 0:34:12.600 you don't know me and you want to judge me 0:34:12.640 --> 0:34:15.440 based on like my hair color, based on who I'm with, 0:34:15.800 --> 0:34:18.200 or based on things that don't really matter to you, 0:34:18.280 --> 0:34:20.440 and you have so much, like you have such an 0:34:20.480 --> 0:34:23.040 opinion on my life, I feel like you must be miserable. 0:34:23.239 --> 0:34:23.479 Yeah. 0:34:23.520 --> 0:34:27.120 I feel like, you know, most public negative comments come 0:34:27.200 --> 0:34:30.359 from like a lack of knowledge or basis, so it's 0:34:30.440 --> 0:34:32.080 like it's easy to write those things off. I think 0:34:32.120 --> 0:34:34.520 we both talk about like our Chicago Foundation and how 0:34:34.600 --> 0:34:37.399 we are both strong in that and words don't really 0:34:37.440 --> 0:34:39.960 affect us. So I just think, you know, we both 0:34:40.040 --> 0:34:42.479 roll with the punches and that we also have tight 0:34:42.560 --> 0:34:45.200 circles of friends who really know who we are, so 0:34:45.200 --> 0:34:47.719 it's like it's easy to lean on them versus you know, 0:34:48.120 --> 0:34:50.240 chasing public you know, exception. 0:34:50.800 --> 0:34:52.600 And I also feel like when I look at these 0:34:52.600 --> 0:34:55.799 people that are being super negative and like judge, they 0:34:55.800 --> 0:34:57.840 are the ones that live in the biggest glass box 0:34:58.040 --> 0:34:59.200 like glass houses. 0:34:59.320 --> 0:35:00.520 Yeah for sure, Like. 0:35:00.560 --> 0:35:02.880 What you live in a glasshouse and you're literally sitting 0:35:02.880 --> 0:35:07.040 here judging me seriously. Okay, So we talked about my 0:35:07.120 --> 0:35:10.439 only Founds briefly. Yeah, so how do you feel about 0:35:10.440 --> 0:35:13.600 my only Fans account? And would you ever want me 0:35:13.640 --> 0:35:16.759 to delete it? Because I would No. 0:35:17.000 --> 0:35:19.319 I mean, look, like I said, I don't have. 0:35:19.280 --> 0:35:20.839 An issue with you like it, but you don't really 0:35:20.880 --> 0:35:21.120 like it. 0:35:21.520 --> 0:35:22.799 No, I don't have a problem with it. 0:35:22.840 --> 0:35:25.759 I think, you know, as long as it it's makes 0:35:26.160 --> 0:35:28.040 no as long as it makes you happy and you 0:35:28.160 --> 0:35:30.000 enjoy it, and you know, look, I think it's a 0:35:30.000 --> 0:35:32.040 source of income for you, Like I would never want 0:35:32.080 --> 0:35:35.759 to you know, block your success or your you know, 0:35:36.200 --> 0:35:38.440 well being, and so you know, I think as long 0:35:38.480 --> 0:35:39.759 as you enjoy it. 0:35:39.800 --> 0:35:41.680 And by the way, his career, it's not good for 0:35:41.719 --> 0:35:42.719 business since I've been with. 0:35:42.680 --> 0:35:45.680 You, well, that's not that's not my fault. I don't 0:35:45.680 --> 0:35:46.120 blame me. 0:35:46.760 --> 0:35:48.680 Like literally, the people that write me on there are 0:35:48.680 --> 0:35:50.600 like not happy that I'm in a relationship with you. 0:35:50.680 --> 0:35:51.520 But it's fun. 0:35:51.640 --> 0:35:53.880 I think you still, you know, you you have your 0:35:53.960 --> 0:35:56.200 days when you post things and you keep it spicy 0:35:56.239 --> 0:35:56.480 on there. 0:35:56.800 --> 0:35:58.960 Me listen, it's fun and as long as you don't 0:35:59.000 --> 0:36:01.160 mind like I think me it's like fun and it's 0:36:01.239 --> 0:36:02.800 it's cool whatever. But if you didn't like it, I 0:36:02.800 --> 0:36:03.839 would definitely turn it off. 0:36:04.200 --> 0:36:07.680 Yeah, I just think you know, call it. You know, 0:36:08.280 --> 0:36:08.960 it is what it is. 0:36:09.000 --> 0:36:09.600 It is what it is. 0:36:09.680 --> 0:36:11.280 We talked a little bit about fake friends. 0:36:11.360 --> 0:36:13.720 Yeah, so tell us your experience with fake friends. 0:36:14.880 --> 0:36:16.480 You told me first, because I feel like you have 0:36:16.640 --> 0:36:18.480 your surrounded bus a little bit of fake friends too. 0:36:18.760 --> 0:36:22.320 Uh, not necessarily fake friends. I just feel like earlier 0:36:22.560 --> 0:36:26.239 in my like adulthood, you kind of had to weep 0:36:26.320 --> 0:36:29.080 through the bs, and I feel like a lot of people, 0:36:29.560 --> 0:36:31.960 you know, will like you think. 0:36:31.800 --> 0:36:34.840 Your friends are someone like You've told me people on Instagram. 0:36:34.840 --> 0:36:39.200 You're like, oh she dated my friends cousins, bartender, you 0:36:39.560 --> 0:36:43.000 like you're You're like, you reach so crazy sometimes and 0:36:43.040 --> 0:36:44.680 I'm like, okay, and what does that have to do 0:36:44.760 --> 0:36:45.080 with you? 0:36:45.200 --> 0:36:46.680 Every now and then you ask me who so and 0:36:46.719 --> 0:36:48.399 so is on Instagram and I'd be like, look, that's 0:36:48.400 --> 0:36:51.440 my boys girl, or that's a friend of my friend. 0:36:51.560 --> 0:36:53.600 And so that's what I'm speaking to when I say 0:36:53.719 --> 0:36:55.560 when I said, when I say that, you know, you 0:36:55.560 --> 0:36:57.960 go through phases with people, Yeah, and so you know 0:36:58.320 --> 0:37:00.840 at some point that person might have been closer to 0:37:00.840 --> 0:37:01.680 me than they are now. 0:37:01.920 --> 0:37:05.200 And so you know, again, I think it's a it's 0:37:05.200 --> 0:37:06.160 a situational thing. 0:37:06.400 --> 0:37:06.840 I get it. 0:37:08.760 --> 0:37:10.800 Who are some of the rudest celebrities you've encountered? 0:37:11.719 --> 0:37:14.160 I don't really know. I don't really like I'm not 0:37:14.200 --> 0:37:16.560 one of those people that see someone like if I'm 0:37:16.560 --> 0:37:18.240 in the same room with them and I don't expect 0:37:18.280 --> 0:37:20.640 them to do anything say hi to me, I don't care. 0:37:20.600 --> 0:37:24.440 Like, no, no, I never really I feel like anytime 0:37:24.480 --> 0:37:27.399 I'm introduced to you more people, yeah, somebody, they kind 0:37:27.400 --> 0:37:29.759 of put their best foot forward anyway. So it's like 0:37:29.840 --> 0:37:32.360 I never really get that side of like, yeah, you know, 0:37:32.520 --> 0:37:33.160 I've never been. 0:37:33.440 --> 0:37:37.319 I will say this though, me being single versus me 0:37:37.400 --> 0:37:40.880 being married is different with women. That's like a topic. 0:37:40.920 --> 0:37:44.120 Actually being single versus you being married is different with women. 0:37:44.239 --> 0:37:45.960 Like women that you meet, well, I. 0:37:45.920 --> 0:37:48.200 Feel like yeah, because I feel like when you're married 0:37:48.280 --> 0:37:50.759 or with someone, I feel like women are going to 0:37:50.800 --> 0:37:52.520 be nicer to you and when. 0:37:53.040 --> 0:37:54.160 They don't feel threatened or something. 0:37:54.360 --> 0:37:56.640 Yeah, but when you're single, I feel like so many 0:37:56.640 --> 0:37:59.200 people don't want you around. It's the craziest thing. 0:37:59.320 --> 0:38:01.239 Women. Yeah, yeah, no, that's true. 0:38:01.440 --> 0:38:03.560 Women don't want you around. I feel like I experienced 0:38:03.560 --> 0:38:06.279 that in the NBA, like a lot. Really yeah, because 0:38:06.320 --> 0:38:08.520 I feel like they thought, like, you know, I think 0:38:08.520 --> 0:38:11.520 they just like assumed when like Scott and I broke up, 0:38:11.680 --> 0:38:14.040 like I don't know, they were just like threatened like 0:38:14.040 --> 0:38:16.680 i'd want their man, and I was like, honestly, I've 0:38:16.719 --> 0:38:18.719 seen what he put you through. Why would I want that? 0:38:18.960 --> 0:38:20.000 Yeah? True? 0:38:20.080 --> 0:38:21.879 And and for me, like I feel like when I've 0:38:21.880 --> 0:38:24.080 seen like a guy and girl together, if I've seen 0:38:24.120 --> 0:38:26.040 you together, I could never look at the guy as 0:38:26.040 --> 0:38:28.759 a single guy, even if they've broken up. I just 0:38:28.880 --> 0:38:31.239 kind of view that person as like, oh, that's so 0:38:31.360 --> 0:38:33.480 and So's dude. Yeah, Like I would never want to 0:38:33.520 --> 0:38:37.360 be with someone that like I knew their girlfriend or 0:38:37.400 --> 0:38:39.400 their wife or anything like that. I feel like for me, 0:38:39.520 --> 0:38:40.840 that's not like that doesn't turn me on. 0:38:41.200 --> 0:38:44.000 I feel that I feel that or the next Exs's 0:38:44.160 --> 0:38:48.839 anything question is Michael Jordan versus Lebron James. I mean, 0:38:48.880 --> 0:38:52.719 obviously I'm biased in this debate, but yeah, I mean, 0:38:53.719 --> 0:38:56.600 you know my answer, there's only one goat, and it's 0:38:56.640 --> 0:38:59.879 obviously my dad. I think stat's kind of say that, 0:39:00.040 --> 0:39:01.760 you know what I'm saying, But I don't think honestly 0:39:01.960 --> 0:39:04.480 you can kind of take people out of their generation 0:39:04.600 --> 0:39:07.000 and compare them to others. You know, I think each 0:39:07.320 --> 0:39:11.640 decade or generation has their own best player, but I 0:39:11.640 --> 0:39:14.080 think we can all agree on who, you know, the 0:39:14.120 --> 0:39:16.560 greatest of all time is at least, yeah, I can. 0:39:17.280 --> 0:39:19.000 And so the next question is how often will we 0:39:19.000 --> 0:39:21.840 see Marcus on the next season of Real Housewives in Miami. 0:39:22.200 --> 0:39:24.040 Well, you had to deal with your mom that you 0:39:24.040 --> 0:39:25.800 would only be on like one episode. 0:39:25.880 --> 0:39:26.359 I told my mom. 0:39:26.440 --> 0:39:28.720 Yeah, I said, like I would do three filming days 0:39:28.760 --> 0:39:30.960 whatever that ends up being. You know, I'm only doing 0:39:30.960 --> 0:39:32.520 it three times, And that was just out of support 0:39:32.520 --> 0:39:34.960 for you. And I think that definitely snowball. There's been 0:39:35.000 --> 0:39:38.080 more than three times I've been on on I've been miked. 0:39:37.920 --> 0:39:38.680 Up, I should say. 0:39:38.840 --> 0:39:40.400 I know, I kind of feel like it's fun to 0:39:40.480 --> 0:39:41.239 like shoot with you. 0:39:42.040 --> 0:39:45.280 It's I mean, obviously it's fun for me because I'm 0:39:45.320 --> 0:39:49.520 with you, but it's not something that I look forward 0:39:49.560 --> 0:39:50.560 to doing every week. 0:39:50.800 --> 0:39:53.319 Yeah, No, I feel like it's you know, it's fun, 0:39:52.960 --> 0:39:54.759 it's with you, it's cool, it's fine. 0:39:55.200 --> 0:39:57.520 You know, there is a good cat there's like a 0:39:57.560 --> 0:40:00.000 good crew, and so they make it feel like very 0:40:00.080 --> 0:40:01.720 homie and like family vibes. 0:40:02.440 --> 0:40:04.560 But there's definitely a goal. 0:40:04.480 --> 0:40:07.440 To stir the pot, to stir the pot, and I'll 0:40:07.480 --> 0:40:08.920 let you do all the stirring, baby. 0:40:09.080 --> 0:40:11.080 I mean, I've always got a spoon in my bag. 0:40:11.960 --> 0:40:13.960 Okay, guys, it's time to see who's joining our block 0:40:14.000 --> 0:40:16.680 party this week. To the comment section, we go. Let's 0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:18.799 go all right, so comment number one, babe, go ahead 0:40:18.800 --> 0:40:19.120 read that. 0:40:19.239 --> 0:40:21.760 It says she'll be done with him within two years. 0:40:22.280 --> 0:40:23.160 So what's your thoughts on that? 0:40:23.400 --> 0:40:25.480 First of all, done with you. I'm just getting started. 0:40:25.520 --> 0:40:26.960 I think we're just getting started to baby. 0:40:27.000 --> 0:40:28.840 Yeah, I feel like we really enjoy each other and 0:40:28.840 --> 0:40:30.000 we have a lot of fun together. 0:40:30.120 --> 0:40:31.400 We definitely blocking that person. 0:40:31.800 --> 0:40:34.360 We're definitely blocking that person. You have officially been invited 0:40:34.400 --> 0:40:36.719 to our block party for saying that, because we are 0:40:36.719 --> 0:40:39.759 in a happy place. And yeah, I feel like a 0:40:39.840 --> 0:40:42.520 year is gone by like so fast, and it's been 0:40:42.640 --> 0:40:45.520 like so much fun, and I feel like I don't, like, 0:40:45.560 --> 0:40:47.279 I don't want to put pressure on you and like 0:40:47.320 --> 0:40:50.000 on our relationship. Like as long as we both are 0:40:50.040 --> 0:40:52.520 having fun and like make each other feel good and 0:40:52.640 --> 0:40:55.680 sure make each other better than like, that's that's the goal. 0:40:55.920 --> 0:40:58.560 The next comment says, again wearing her daughter's clothes, and 0:40:58.600 --> 0:41:00.239 I feel like we've talked about this a little bit. 0:41:00.440 --> 0:41:02.880 You do like to wear some extra smalls. 0:41:03.120 --> 0:41:05.279 I do like to wear some extra smalls. Okay, so 0:41:05.360 --> 0:41:08.200 I am trying to change my fashion sense. 0:41:08.360 --> 0:41:10.400 I feel like, yeah, this season, you kind of you 0:41:10.520 --> 0:41:12.040 bussed it up a little bit this season, you know what. 0:41:12.000 --> 0:41:14.360 I think? Like living in Miami, Like for me, I 0:41:14.440 --> 0:41:16.560 always like like to wear like not a lot of 0:41:16.560 --> 0:41:19.320 stuff and like to wear like shorts and like crop 0:41:19.400 --> 0:41:22.319 tops and like tank tops. So I don't know, I 0:41:22.320 --> 0:41:24.879 feel like it's just it's like my comfort place. Yeah, 0:41:25.000 --> 0:41:26.919 and I feel like I can live in sweats all day, 0:41:27.040 --> 0:41:27.640 Like I love that. 0:41:27.880 --> 0:41:30.839 I feel like I love your fashion choices. I feel 0:41:30.840 --> 0:41:32.799 like you make some bold choices here and there. I 0:41:32.840 --> 0:41:36.279 definitely would like to see you step away from some 0:41:36.360 --> 0:41:39.480 of the extra small the extra smalls and the cutouts 0:41:39.560 --> 0:41:42.080 and the you know, I just out of fear of 0:41:42.480 --> 0:41:44.719 you know, people seeing the goodies. That's the only reason 0:41:44.760 --> 0:41:46.680 you look great and everything. Don't get me wrong, It's 0:41:46.719 --> 0:41:48.720 just I'm not trying to have anybody seeing my goodies. 0:41:48.920 --> 0:41:51.319 Okay, So then I'll definitely start dressing a little more. 0:41:51.360 --> 0:41:52.200 Yeah, you've been doing great. 0:41:52.239 --> 0:41:53.719 You've been doing I mean, but I also feel like 0:41:53.760 --> 0:41:56.200 you're like really helpful for me now because I feel 0:41:56.200 --> 0:41:59.279 like you definitely bring like something different because you have 0:41:59.320 --> 0:42:01.000 like really good tas and I feel like you helped 0:42:01.000 --> 0:42:03.000 me get dressed and pull my stuff together. 0:42:03.200 --> 0:42:05.640 We definitely, you know, we style each other from time 0:42:05.680 --> 0:42:06.000 to time. 0:42:06.080 --> 0:42:09.080 Yeah, I feel like I really respect your Your fashion 0:42:09.120 --> 0:42:09.800 sounds damn. 0:42:10.160 --> 0:42:12.680 Another question is your mom going to be mad about 0:42:12.719 --> 0:42:14.480 breaking the three episode promise? 0:42:14.760 --> 0:42:15.319 I don't think so. 0:42:15.520 --> 0:42:17.759 I feel like my mom is kind of embracing day 0:42:17.800 --> 0:42:20.600 that day by day our relationship even more. She would 0:42:20.600 --> 0:42:24.160 obviously approves, But I feel like she listened to our 0:42:24.200 --> 0:42:26.600 second episode of the podcast today and she called. 0:42:26.320 --> 0:42:28.320 Me and she was like, oh my god, it's so cute. 0:42:28.520 --> 0:42:31.280 And she sent me like the emoji of eleven eggs 0:42:31.320 --> 0:42:34.640 and all of this stuff, and so she she spelled Marquisos. 0:42:34.680 --> 0:42:37.640 She said, no little Marquisos. She was obviously being playful, 0:42:38.560 --> 0:42:41.080 and so yeah, I think I think my mom's not 0:42:41.120 --> 0:42:42.680 going to be upset with me being in the show. 0:42:42.760 --> 0:42:43.960 I just feel like I. 0:42:43.960 --> 0:42:47.640 Feel like, you know, you're you're a smart, classy guy, Like, 0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:49.080 what are you going to do on the show. You're 0:42:49.080 --> 0:42:52.520 just sitting there like we'n we're dinners. We're basically doing 0:42:52.560 --> 0:42:54.480 normal things like on the show. It's not like you're 0:42:54.520 --> 0:42:55.920 going to be in any of the you know, the 0:42:55.920 --> 0:42:56.799 cat fights or whatever. 0:42:57.000 --> 0:42:57.839 Nah, definitely not. 0:42:58.160 --> 0:42:59.800 And I feel like I've been on my best behavior 0:42:59.880 --> 0:43:01.920 this because i feel like I'm in a really good place, 0:43:01.960 --> 0:43:04.000 like in my personal life. My kids are doing great, 0:43:04.160 --> 0:43:07.360 I'm happy. So I feel like I'm probably better like 0:43:07.440 --> 0:43:10.160 on the show. Like maybe not better for the show 0:43:10.200 --> 0:43:12.440 because I'm not as crazy, but I'm better on the 0:43:12.480 --> 0:43:14.239 show because I feel like it's just like I'm in 0:43:14.239 --> 0:43:15.879 a more like zen state of mind. 0:43:16.040 --> 0:43:16.960 I love that. Well. 0:43:17.000 --> 0:43:20.279 I think that's a wrap for this episode of Separation Anxiety. 0:43:20.480 --> 0:43:23.680 Make sure you follow us on ig at Separation Underscore 0:43:23.760 --> 0:43:27.839 Anxiety Underscore podcast, and thanks for kicking it with us. 0:43:28.040 --> 0:43:29.600 Love you guys, Bye Peace,