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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: right now. It could be yours. You never know, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter subject. I fell in love with

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Speaker 1: the Cookie Monster, Dear Stephen Shirley. In twenty seventeen, I

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Speaker 1: met a handsome man at a nail salon. He stared

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Speaker 1: at me the entire time, so I gave him my card.

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Speaker 1: As I left, he called and invited me to his

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Speaker 1: apartment for dinner, and we've been together since that night.

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Speaker 1: He's a big flirt and a bit too outgoing, and

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Speaker 1: it's always bothered me. Two years ago, I started checking

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Speaker 1: his phone and he was always talking to different women.

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Speaker 1: Whenever I called him a flirt, he would say he's

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Speaker 1: a people person. He works long hours and I don't

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Speaker 1: get to see him every day, so that bothers me too.

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Speaker 1: We're friends on Facebook, but he's always said he didn't

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Speaker 1: like Instagram. Well, I guess he changed his mind about

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Speaker 1: it because I found out he created a private Instagram

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Speaker 1: account and he had blocked me. I was so upset

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Speaker 1: that I created a fake Instagram account and I sent

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Speaker 1: him a friend request. He let me follow him, and

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Speaker 1: I started flirting with him in the DMS. I asked

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Speaker 1: if he was married or dating anyone. He said, he

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Speaker 1: has someone special in his life, but it's an open relationship.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't believe him. I started stalking his comments, and

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Speaker 1: I sent messages to women that left heart's emojis on

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Speaker 1: his pictures. I told him I was his wife. Four

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Speaker 1: women responded and said they'd had sex with him within

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Speaker 1: the past two years. I printed the messages and confronted him.

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Speaker 1: He said it was all true, and he said that

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Speaker 1: I may have assumed we were monogamous, but he has

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Speaker 1: never told me that. He jokingly referred to himself as

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Speaker 1: the cookie Monster and he was trying to get all

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Speaker 1: the cookies he could before he settled down. He said

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Speaker 1: he's in love with me, despite how crazy I acted,

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Speaker 1: and he wants to marry me one day. Do you

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Speaker 1: think the Cookie Monster is gone for good? Can I

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Speaker 1: trust this? Man as my husband is a cookie monster

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Speaker 1: gone for good? And can I trust this man as

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Speaker 1: my husband? You asked, well, can you trust him as

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Speaker 1: a boyfriend? Now that's what you have to ask yourself.

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Speaker 1: I think the answer is no, because right now he

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Speaker 1: is who he is, a man who refers to himself

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Speaker 1: as the cookie monster, trying to get all the cookie

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Speaker 1: he can. Right now, I think the best thing about

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Speaker 1: him that I can see is that he did come

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Speaker 1: clean with you after you busted him. You know about

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Speaker 1: the women and everything in this letter, though you left

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Speaker 1: out a lot like how much time passed from when

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Speaker 1: he called you and when you went to his apartment

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Speaker 1: for dinner. You also didn't say if you guys had

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Speaker 1: sex that night. I'm assuming you did. You say, you know,

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Speaker 1: he told you one of his entanglements, that you know,

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Speaker 1: one of them, that you were special. He did have

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Speaker 1: someone special in his life, but it was an open relationship.

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Speaker 1: You didn't know anything about this being an open relationship.

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Speaker 1: And how's that for feeling special? You didn't even know anything.

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Speaker 1: He didn't say this to you. I think you started

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Speaker 1: with him too fast. I don't think you set any

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Speaker 1: open category while you looked at him as your man.

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Speaker 1: But he's everybody's a man it seeing you know, he's

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Speaker 1: trying to get all the cookies he can. That's what

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Speaker 1: he said. So you know, tell him how you feel

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Speaker 1: and what you want. And if you don't get that,

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Speaker 1: maybe you need to leave a cookie monster. I certainly

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Speaker 1: think you deserve better, but you gotta let him know it.

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Speaker 1: Steve Well, ma'am that wrote this letter. If you had

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Speaker 1: read your letter as you wrote it, you to answer

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Speaker 1: these questions yourself. The number one question is can I

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Speaker 1: trust this man as my husband? What are you talking

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Speaker 1: about husband for? How? How did you get that? So

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Speaker 1: let me let me show you something. Man was standing

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Speaker 1: at you while you use getting your nails. So afterwards

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Speaker 1: you gave him your card. As I left, he called

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Speaker 1: me and invited me to his apartment for dinner. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you left, He called you the next day. This is all,

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Speaker 1: this is Sherley. This ain't no time went by. He

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Speaker 1: called me, invited you to his apartment for dinner. You

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Speaker 1: go over man's house, you don't know, and we have

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Speaker 1: been together since that night. Well, something had to go

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Speaker 1: down that night to se the deal. They had sex

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Speaker 1: because they've been together since that night. Right. Well, he's

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Speaker 1: a big flirt and a big two outgoing and it's

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Speaker 1: phone and he's always talking to different women. Why are

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Speaker 1: your question is can I trust this man as my husband?

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Speaker 1: He's always talking to different women. Whenever I called him

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Speaker 1: a flirt, he would say he's a people person. Can

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Speaker 1: you trust him? You know he's a flirt. He tells

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Speaker 1: you he's a people person. Why are you talking about

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Speaker 1: making this man your husband? He works long hours. I

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Speaker 1: don't get to see him every day, so that bothers

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Speaker 1: me too. We friends on Facebook, but he always said

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Speaker 1: he didn't like Instagram. Well I guess he changed mind

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Speaker 1: because I found out he created a fake, a private

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Speaker 1: Instagram account and he has blocked me. Let's go back

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Speaker 1: to the bottom of the letter. Can I trust this

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Speaker 1: man as my husband? He'd had created a private page

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Speaker 1: and then blocked you. Can I trust this man? Ask

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Speaker 1: my husband? Why did you write? Why are you asking

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Speaker 1: this question? We've called back. I'm gonna tell you the

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Speaker 1: rest of it, I promise, all right, thank you, Steve.

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Speaker 1: It's just of your response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Oh, it's gonna be more to say,

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Speaker 1: I know, subject I fell in love with the Cookie Monster.

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Speaker 1: We'll get into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letters, subject I fell

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Speaker 1: in with a cookie monster. This woman wants to know

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Speaker 1: if we think that the cookie monster's gone for good?

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Speaker 1: Then the next question is can I trust this man? Then?

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Speaker 1: Her statement was as my husband, and I've showed you

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Speaker 1: all through the letter why you can't trust or why

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Speaker 1: you want to make him your husband. You gave this

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Speaker 1: man your card after he was standing at you in

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Speaker 1: the Neil Salon. He invited you his apartment for dinner.

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Speaker 1: He all been together every since that night, which means

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Speaker 1: you had sex, and you've been with him every since.

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Speaker 1: He's a big flirt and a bit too outgoing, and

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Speaker 1: it's always bothered me. So why are you talking about

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Speaker 1: his phone and he's always talking to different women. Okay,

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Speaker 1: your question is how can I trust this man as

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Speaker 1: my husband? Right now? You can't trust him or don't

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Speaker 1: look like you're gonna make him your husband. Whenever I

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Speaker 1: called him a flirt, he would say he's a people person.

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Speaker 1: Well that's good. He changed the title of that right quick.

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Speaker 1: But why are you talking about making him your husband?

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Speaker 1: Works long hours. I don't get to see him every day,

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Speaker 1: so that bothers me too. With friends on Facebook, but

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Speaker 1: he's always said he didn't like Instagram. I guess he

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Speaker 1: created a private page and he has blocked me. Why

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Speaker 1: do you think you can trust him with the private page?

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Speaker 1: And then blocked you? Why why are you even talking

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Speaker 1: about this man being your huggle? So I was upset

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Speaker 1: you created a fake Instagram account? Send him a free request.

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Speaker 1: He let me follow him, and I started flooding with

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Speaker 1: him into DMS. Right there, he asked if he was

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Speaker 1: married or dating anyone. He said, he has someone special

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Speaker 1: in his life. It's the line should have gave you

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Speaker 1: plenty of hope, but it's an open relationship. Well he

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Speaker 1: snatched that rug right back out of mud defeat. Thought

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Speaker 1: you had something, No, you don't. I couldn't believe him.

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Speaker 1: I started stalking his comments and then you sent messages

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Speaker 1: trust or make your husband. I sent messages to several

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Speaker 1: women that left hearts and emojis on this pictures. I

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Speaker 1: told him I was his wife. Four women responded and

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Speaker 1: said they'd had sexued him within the past two years.

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Speaker 1: These are the same two years you was dating him

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Speaker 1: after you slept with him the first night, right, so

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Speaker 1: now the whole time he didn't have four other women.

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Speaker 1: That's fold that you know about. I printed the message

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Speaker 1: said that I may have assumed we were monogamous, but

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Speaker 1: asking me? And Shirley, can I trust this man? Ask

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Speaker 1: If you can't trust him as your boyfriend, why are

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Speaker 1: you talking about going to say any further. He jokingly

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Speaker 1: Right now, watch this hill. He said he's in love

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Speaker 1: you think the cookie monster is gone for good? I

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Speaker 1: want to mask you something. Did he tell you that

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Speaker 1: Let him? Did he say that? Everything else he said?

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Speaker 1: He said he didn't like Instagram, he had a fake page.

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Speaker 1: if you could trust from making your hus know the

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Speaker 1: cookie man ain't gone. And of course he said he

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Speaker 1: wanted to marry you. That's to hold you, lady, pull

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Speaker 1: Quit trying to measure everything with how much time you

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Speaker 1: I have? It? This type of mest that you obviously

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Speaker 1: don't agree with. No, the cookie monster ain't gonna He

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Speaker 1: didn't tell you he was just like, he didn't tell you. See,

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Speaker 1: you thought you was in a monogamous relationship, but he said,

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Speaker 1: I never told you that. He didn't tell you he

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Speaker 1: you that he's a people person. You called him a flirt.

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Speaker 1: He quickly changed that because he don't like that. I'm

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Speaker 1: a people person. I like especially women. Yeah, I like

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to get all the cookie I can for

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Speaker 1: I settle down. Well, he ain't told you when he

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Speaker 1: you have man. You don't have a monogamous relationship. You

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Speaker 1: don't have a man you could trust, and you want

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Speaker 1: a man and told you he wants to marry you,

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Speaker 1: but he ain't told you when that would be. Lady, Okay,

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Speaker 1: coming up, Let the excitement begin. It's Mother's Day this Sunday,

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Speaker 1: so our poet Laureate is here Junior with a Mother's

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