1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:06,239 Speaker 1: Order eppy Thanksgiving to me. I know those other courtrooms 2 00:00:06,280 --> 00:00:09,399 Speaker 1: are closed for the holiday, but Key Keith's quard is open. 3 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: So let's get into this case about friends Giving. Oh 4 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:16,239 Speaker 1: my god, it's from Maya. She says, Hey, ki Key, 5 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:21,240 Speaker 1: I host friends Giving every single year. It's usually adults only, 6 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: a chill vibe with wine, games, music, and we all 7 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: get to relax without responsibilities. Well, this year, when I 8 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: sent out invites, I made it very clear, no kids, 9 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: this is an adult only night. Please respect this. Everyone 10 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: responded and said of course. So friends Giving day comes 11 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 1: and first my friend Amy pulls up with her two toddlers. 12 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: And I'm not talking about the little baby kind. I'm 13 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: talking about the tantrum throwing, food throwing toddlers. I was pissed. 14 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 1: I thought maybe she misunderstood, until I saw my friend 15 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 1: Chris and his wife show up with their seven year old. 16 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:00,320 Speaker 1: Then another couple arrived with their new born an't in 17 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:03,400 Speaker 1: a stroller. Apparently my friends decided that they were just 18 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 1: gonna ignore my rule about not having kids. So I 19 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,039 Speaker 1: tried to chill and just let the day play out. 20 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: So at this point I got babies crying, toddler's touching, everything. 21 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:17,679 Speaker 1: Somebody was even coloring on my white wall with a crayon. 22 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 1: So I gently pulled my friend Leela aside and said, hey, 23 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 1: I was serious about the no kids rule. This isn't 24 00:01:24,360 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 1: safe or relaxing for anyone. She looked at me and said, well, 25 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 1: you need to accept that we are all parents now, 26 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 1: and just because you don't have kids, you need to 27 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: make adjustments. This is what adulthood looks like. Ooh okay. 28 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,479 Speaker 1: I took a deep breath, and the kids kept running around, 29 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 1: screaming and grabbing everything. I got fed up when one 30 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: of the kids grabbed my dog. I stood up and said, okay, 31 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:51,639 Speaker 1: I love you all, but friends Giving is over. Please 32 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: pack up and we'll have to reschedule some other time. 33 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 1: Everybody acts shocked. Everybody seemed offended, and I haven't heard 34 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: from any of them since this was over a week ago. 35 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 1: Am I wrong for shutting down friends Giving mid dinner 36 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:08,840 Speaker 1: because people brought their kids and I said no kids 37 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 1: were allowed. Am I wrong? Will Chaw? Okay, first things first, 38 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: you are not wrong. I will say that because you 39 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: made your rule very clear from the beginning, and they 40 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: did not respect your boundaries or respect your home. So 41 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:25,239 Speaker 1: no you're not wrong for shutting it down when you 42 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:28,480 Speaker 1: felt like it had gotten completely out of hand. However, 43 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 1: if it was me, I would have just suffered through 44 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: it and then never hosted friends giving for this group 45 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 1: of friends ever again, especially the friend who came and 46 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: told you, you know, this is what adulthood looks like. 47 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:42,640 Speaker 1: And just because you don't have kids, like, no, you 48 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: clearly are not disciplining your kids or teaching them how 49 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:47,840 Speaker 1: to behave in someone else's home, because why are they 50 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 1: coloring on the walls? Why are they grabbing my dog? Like? 51 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: Come on, man, like you know, I don't think you're 52 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: wrong at all for shutting it down. If it were me, 53 00:02:57,280 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: I would have suffered through it and tried to get 54 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 1: through the because I do love kids, and I do 55 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 1: love having kids around, especially when I know that they 56 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: can go home okay, But I don't like having my 57 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 1: house destroyed. And I totally feel you on that. You know, 58 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 1: had they said that they couldn't find babysitters, maybe you 59 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 1: would have hosted it somewhere else. You could have rented 60 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:19,239 Speaker 1: out the clubhouse in your neighborhood, or you could have 61 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: rented out of venue instead of having it happen in 62 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 1: your home. So they did not give you that option 63 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: because they did not tell you that they were going 64 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,960 Speaker 1: to bring their children. So once it got out of hand, 65 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:32,359 Speaker 1: you had every right to shut it down and kick 66 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 1: everybody out of your home. I don't think you're wrong. 67 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: I actually think that. You know, if someone gives you 68 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 1: an invitation and it says no children, you either respect 69 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 1: that and show up and get a babysitter, or you 70 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: respectfully decline the invite and say, hey, I don't have 71 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: anyone to watch my children. But to just show up 72 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,080 Speaker 1: and bring your kids to someone's home and then let 73 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: them run wild, it's insane. So no, you're not wrong. Friend, 74 00:03:55,960 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 1: you stood your ground, and I you know, I hate that. 75 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: I hate this for you. I hate that you have 76 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: friends who would disrespect your boundaries like this. So let 77 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,240 Speaker 1: me know though, what you think about it. You are 78 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 1: the jury, because again I'm speaking as a woman who 79 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 1: does not have children, yet I do have a lot 80 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:18,039 Speaker 1: of nephews and you know, family members that visit me, 81 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: so I completely understand feeling like, oh my God, please 82 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: get your kids. But you know I don't have children, 83 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:26,840 Speaker 1: so I would love to hear from the parents what 84 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,919 Speaker 1: you guys think about this story. I'll post the video 85 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: on our Instagram Fred Show Radio. You can find me 86 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:35,680 Speaker 1: at on air Kiki. That's k E k E. But 87 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,919 Speaker 1: when someone puts on an invite and they say no kids, 88 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 1: please respect it, especially if you're coming to my wedding 89 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: because I'm not planning about that. Okay, no kids means 90 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:47,560 Speaker 1: no kids, but we could keep talking about it. Hit 91 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 1: me up on the ground at on air, Kiki. I 92 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 1: hope you have the most amazing Thanksgiving dinner with your family. 93 00:04:54,600 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: And of course you know you can follow along with 94 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 1: us all of us on the Fred Show, on Instagram 95 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: and on the iHeart app. I love you friend, I'll 96 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:05,839 Speaker 1: talk to you Monday morning.