WEBVTT - Call It You Drive Me Crazy 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:04.800 Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camil Luddington, 0:00:05.240 --> 0:00:06.720 an iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:18.000 --> 0:00:23.799 Well, hello, Hello, Hello, Hello Call It crew, and welcome 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:27.680 to another episode of Call It What It Is. You 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:30.240 know what, I just realized the pause was for a reason. 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:33.280 This is our first episode together in twenty twenty five. 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:36.120 I thought it as I said hello, Hello, Hello. 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:38.760 Yeah, I had to do a pause because I was like, wait. 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:44.560 Welcome twenty twenty five. You twenty twenty five. It kind 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:45.040 of a dick. 0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:47.960 You've feel a huge dick, dude. 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:54.040 Yeah, yeah, you've made uh like very hard and sad 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:56.920 and challenging and scary. 0:00:57.280 --> 0:01:00.320 Yeah we should have joined. Okay, so here here, here's 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:03.680 the real deal. You guys. We always plan an episode 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:05.920 just and I get into it and we figure out 0:01:05.920 --> 0:01:08.480 a fun subject and we reach out to you. We 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:11.720 reach out to you guys, and we plan these episodes 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:13.440 and we get so excited and so we do have 0:01:13.480 --> 0:01:15.800 an episode that we are going to do. We are 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:19.600 going to do the episode we plan today. However, twenty 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:23.720 twenty five did a derailing of a lot of people's lives, 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:25.959 and so we're going to derail the top of this 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:28.640 episode to talk just. 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:30.360 Talking about what's been going on. 0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:33.440 So for those that don't live in Los Angeles, we 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:38.240 have been dealing. We haven't been watching the news or 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:42.520 haven't yeah, have had the TV off. We've been dealing 0:01:42.560 --> 0:01:46.600 with fires, active fires that are still active right now. 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:50.240 In fact, I my house as I'm talking right now, 0:01:50.320 --> 0:01:54.000 is still under a an evacuation warning. The block over 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:57.600 is a mandatory evacuation. They can't even come go home 0:01:57.680 --> 0:02:02.480 right now. So let's talk about sort of what happened. 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:06.200 Just you were in New York, but you have family here. 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:09.600 Your community was the Palisades, which is an area that 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:13.720 was severely affected. You want to talk a little bit 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:14.880 about that. Yeah, I mean, I. 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:17.359 As these things are. 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:18.480 It's sick. 0:02:18.560 --> 0:02:22.520 You remember the day before, so many people that I 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:25.040 do business with are in Los Angeles. It's the beginning 0:02:25.120 --> 0:02:27.760 of the new year. Obviously, there's so many phone calls 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:30.360 where you're just you know, checking in, here's the beginning 0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:33.280 of the new year. Here's what's happening. And it was all, 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:36.400 you know, invigorated, and people were excited to get back 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:40.120 to work and everything else. And then as I remember it, 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:42.680 it was like the whisperings of like, hey, there's this 0:02:43.000 --> 0:02:47.200 fire that's happening, and then it was I think physically 0:02:47.240 --> 0:02:50.280 in person, and then obviously word of mouth, and then 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:52.960 the way that things came in through the news. It 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:56.280 went from like there's a little fire to there is 0:02:56.320 --> 0:03:03.000 a fire raging and and taking down everything in its path, 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:07.800 and very quickly because of what comes every single year, 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:11.640 which is the Santa Ana wins, and they are very 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:16.360 very fast winds that pick up any little thing. So 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:19.960 in this case, it picked up all the embers and 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:28.520 took them through a large, large, large amount of space, 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:35.200 densely populated, and there were multiple fires. The fire that 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:39.200 was in the area that I spent my high school years. 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:42.720 And then you know, yeah, I remember sending Jess last 0:03:42.760 --> 0:03:45.680 week a list of places in the Palisades, which I 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:47.640 wasn't familiar with. That's a little far from me. But 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:50.800 actually when we had done the jingle ball, I had 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:53.360 stayed with you at your family's house and the Palisades 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:55.960 and we sort of like ventured around, but I'd sent 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:58.440 you a list of places that I knew had gone 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:01.400 within I mean, I want to say, within twenty four hours, 0:04:01.800 --> 0:04:04.200 and you were like, wow, these are these are all 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.360 the places that I took my kids to this was 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:08.960 my life when I lived in Los Angeles, and this 0:04:09.040 --> 0:04:10.120 area's gone right. 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:12.920 Which I had a very very strange relationship with because 0:04:13.360 --> 0:04:17.560 I this is so not about me, and I was 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:20.560 far away and I was getting this information, and I 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:27.160 was very mindful and clear that the only thing that 0:04:27.240 --> 0:04:32.960 mattered in these initial moments was life and those who 0:04:33.440 --> 0:04:37.160 were in peril, getting people out of the way and 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:41.280 containing it. Because it was so clear how devastating it 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:43.920 was and how quickly it was taking things down, and 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:47.760 because so many of my friends and loved ones are 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:53.400 still there, I then again not understanding because you also 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:56.120 have to remember, I can't tell you how many times 0:04:56.400 --> 0:05:00.680 I evacuated my house from when I was fifteen, from 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:03.920 when I was you know, twenty, my whole life, you've 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:06.839 evacuated because you're near the canyons and that's where the 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:11.120 fires come, and they it just it was nothing unfamiliar. 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:14.159 But what was unfamiliar was then how quickly I was 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:21.480 being sent videos from friends of completely destroyed, like everything 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:25.600 was flattened. There was not there wasn't anything. And one 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:30.359 particular video I got had you couldn't tell where you 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:32.440 were where it was being taken from and then all 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:34.800 of a sudden, you see this corner and I saw 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:38.960 this small white brick like kind of pony wall that 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:42.080 wrapped around this corner, because again I couldn't figure out 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:45.800 which street they were videoing, and I was like, oh, 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:48.720 I know where I am. That's the white brick pony 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:53.280 wall that my kids would stand on top of and 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:55.919 foot over foot. They would use the way that kids 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:58.800 do walk the balance beam and we would go to 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:02.479 Beach Street Peace and then we'd grab frozen yogurt at 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:06.400 the yogurt shop, and yeah, everything was gone. It was 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:10.279 completely completely gone. 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:13.640 I do not live in the Palisades, but I think, 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:16.599 you know, we, like Jessica said, we've had fires here before. 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:20.520 I've never had to evacuate. I've never had an evacuation 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:25.680 warning or anything. And I think you you always feel like, Okay, 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:27.400 at some point it's sort of out of the way 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:29.600 and it's going to be contained, and it's they're going 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:32.000 to send out these warnings, but they'll figure it'll be 0:06:32.000 --> 0:06:37.760 figured out. And I think that it happened so fast 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:40.320 and there was so much destruction so quick. 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:44.200 You're making me think of talking to friends who on 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:46.920 the day because it was happening so fast, got the 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:49.720 faatall from a school in the palasaids saying come pick up, 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:53.720 you know if you got to go, and the the 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:58.360 the deluge of people in that state of mind trying 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:01.800 to get their children and then oh. 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:04.160 You mean just grab their children from taking their children 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:06.400 up to get them out, and then just just like 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:08.240 the orderliness. 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:10.640 Of it or lack thereof. And then I know many 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:14.040 people who once they got their kids, got onto sunset 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:17.320 and there was fire all around and they actually had 0:07:17.320 --> 0:07:20.040 to make the decision to pull their car over and 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:22.679 get out of the car. And there were people running 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:25.240 in the streets and they were running down towards the 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:29.520 water and then to phs further and then back up 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:32.239 to their homes if they were not in the evacuation zone. 0:07:32.320 --> 0:07:38.360 I mean it just listen. These these kinds of situations 0:07:38.440 --> 0:07:43.800 are just horrific. They're your worst nightmare. And and not 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:47.080 being there and hearing about it, but knowing so specifically 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:50.360 the places that this was all happening, Yeah, yeah, it 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:53.000 was it. And again, like I said, not about me, 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.440 not about me or my feelings about it at all. 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:59.480 All I cared about was how is this being contained, 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:02.640 How are people safe and what are they going to 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:05.160 do now? And I and it seems like that's what 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:07.480 people are focusing on right now, is like what are 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:11.400 the next best steps? Because the entirety of it is insane. 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:13.800 And then you saw what was happening on social media 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:16.280 and people were posting things and it just you. 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:20.520 Know, I also feel like what people that don't live 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:23.280 here maybe don't know is that it wasn't just one 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:26.720 fire too. What was happening was fires were picking up 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:30.360 over in Pasadena, which is really far from the Palisades. 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:30.800 And then the. 0:08:30.880 --> 0:08:33.600 Eaton, I mean it was written there are so many 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:38.200 different fires everywhere, and it traveled so fast in those 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.480 winds that it was not a lot of time before 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:42.720 we saw it the smoke up on the hills. I 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:45.200 could see the flames, and then we all got the 0:08:45.240 --> 0:08:48.040 notices and we had to go. And in that situation, 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:52.000 also I realized I'm absolutely fucking terrible in an emergency. 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:54.960 First Off, I'm not someone that wants to leave. I 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:57.800 don't want to leave. I was, but I was happy 0:08:57.840 --> 0:09:00.120 to be home because you would need. 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:01.000 Me in this situation. 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:05.320 But I need you. Let's go. We are leaving no 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:07.760 that's what Matt was like. We got the notice and 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:09.640 he was like, we're gone. We're going right now. 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:12.720 Also, growing up in LA maybe it just got ingrained. 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.160 Not growing up, I grew up everywhere, but having gone 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:17.240 to high school in Los Angeles, it was ingrained in me. 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:21.360 Like I knew where you always had a double bag. 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:25.760 That was the earthquakes and fires. You just were ready 0:09:25.800 --> 0:09:26.079 to go. 0:09:26.440 --> 0:09:30.240 Here's the thing, though, I did think about this. Earthquakes, yes, 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:33.679 but in an earthquake situation, we have like a closet 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:36.160 full of stuff. But I don't have anything in my car. 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:39.360 I did not have a bag packed. I packed some 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:42.520 somewhat of a bag very very fast. I grabed shit 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:46.000 that didn't freaking matter. I grabbed a fing curling iron, 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:49.920 no deodorant, no bra. But I don't know what. It's 0:09:49.920 --> 0:09:52.439 like a salon where I'm going. I don't know why. 0:09:53.080 --> 0:09:56.679 Yeah, you're not thinking, you're not thinking straight. No one's 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:57.360 thinking straight. 0:09:57.440 --> 0:10:02.640 No, no, And now I'm they don't feel out of 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:05.000 it is the truth. Because we have the warning. Still, 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:08.760 I'm taking my dogs everywhere with me because people got 0:10:08.760 --> 0:10:11.960 the evacuation. If you get a mandatory evacuation, we're in 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:14.480 a warning. Right now, you can't get back into your 0:10:14.480 --> 0:10:16.920 house if your pets are there. They won't let you 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:20.199 go into your home. It's too dangerous. So the dogs 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:22.040 are with me everywhere. I mean, I have like five 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:23.199 dogs on my lap drive. 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:27.760 Wait, let's talk about these unbelievable I already have just 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:33.199 a resting, static, deep admiration for firefighters. 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:34.440 Oh my god. 0:10:34.520 --> 0:10:38.679 But in these situations, they are superheroes. To me, they 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:43.600 are superheroes, and it's all been documented. My feeling that 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:46.720 they are superheroes is absolutely true. I've seen it on film, 0:10:46.960 --> 0:10:50.800 I've seen it in stills. I mean, what these women 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:55.280 and men are doing to help save people from these 0:10:55.320 --> 0:11:01.240 fires is absolutely herculean. It is superhero shit. And I 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:05.760 mean I just honestly it makes it. It makes me 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:07.600 feel really emotional. I know it made me. 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:10.959 It is amazing. And also I have to shout out. 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:15.560 Canada and Mexico sent help. I saw the I could 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:18.880 see from our uh from upstairs, from our bedroom, I 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:22.240 could see the Canadian super Scoopers, which I had never 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:24.440 heard of before. And there are these huge planes that 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:28.280 were going and scooping water from Santa Monica and the 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:30.520 ocean and bringing it back to the valley and it 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:36.720 felt like it felt like miracle had arrived, like it 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:41.040 felt it just and and and it's not over. Yeah, Yeah, 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:44.480 it's still happening. They're still fighting what needs to be bought. 0:11:44.480 --> 0:11:45.319 We still have winds. 0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:48.640 Well, we have lots of resources that were lucky to 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:49.360 pull together. 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:52.000 Yes, please go to our call at what it is Instagram. 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:55.839 We are going to be putting links to. 0:11:57.320 --> 0:11:58.600 Many different organizations. 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:01.680 Yeah, different resources at are helping with all the different 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:03.880 things that people need to be helped with right now. 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:11.040 And so please go check it out. Yeah, and anything 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:14.240 any little amount can can help go a long way 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:14.800 at this point. 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:15.480 Yeah. 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:17.920 And I also, I mean personally, just to throw this 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:25.320 out there, I have multiple friends who have personal friends 0:12:25.520 --> 0:12:28.920 that have forwarded me their go fund me pages. I 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:32.280 think that when you when you actually know a person 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:37.600 that knows the person, it gives me great comfort to 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:39.199 know that it's going to be getting to the right place. 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:43.560 And I think that there's just there's no too small amount. 0:12:43.800 --> 0:12:46.120 It's it's really just about all coming together and giving 0:12:46.120 --> 0:12:47.280 whatever it is that you can. 0:12:48.000 --> 0:12:51.360 And I have to say that's about Los Angeles. I've 0:12:51.360 --> 0:12:56.760 always felt like the city was super magical, and I 0:12:56.920 --> 0:12:58.600 did not grow up here in it. I felt like 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:03.960 very welcomed by this city and the community across the 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:07.120 entire city has come together. There's so much I know, 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.920 it sounds so like cheesy le lab and it feels 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:13.000 there's so much love happening right now in Los Angeles 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:16.520 that I don't know. I just had to say that 0:13:16.600 --> 0:13:17.720 because I'm proud of the city. 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:33.079 Yeah, all right. 0:13:33.200 --> 0:13:37.880 With that being said, Yes, I We've done an episode 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:40.240 where we were just I mean, lots of stuff comes 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:43.599 up about parenting and we were talking and I was 0:13:43.679 --> 0:13:47.200 kind of like, Okay, we can talk about how our 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:50.120 kids drive us nuts or the things that the kids 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:50.559 you know. 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:53.360 Do, which we've done. We've yeah, we've done yeah. 0:13:53.440 --> 0:13:56.880 Yeah, Yeah, You've been very I've brought my full authentic. 0:13:56.480 --> 0:14:00.280 Self to those conversations. Yeah. I probably there's probably my 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:02.160 Polly shouldn't have said, but I've said it, and the 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:04.520 okay you it's fine. 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:10.320 It's okay, it's okay, And it just made me wonder, Mmmm. 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:12.040 That's the possible. 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:12.280 I know. 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:16.200 Oh is that the first of twenty five the first? 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:20.000 Oh my god, I wonder back guys, we're back. 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:27.440 Wonder I wonder what our kids would say drives them 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:31.240 nuts about us because I can hear it, and if 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:34.800 I can, if I can say. 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:34.200 Stop. 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:37.480 Rude, rude, you should just be grateful. 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:39.600 I'm gonna edit this down in like two minutes. You're 0:14:39.640 --> 0:14:44.160 welcome giving you life there. 0:14:44.480 --> 0:14:48.320 Yeah, because listen, I think parents can drive kids crazy too. 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:51.160 We see it all the time. And I've been honest, 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:53.360 there's also some parents that can drive me crazy when 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:54.520 I watch them parenting their. 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:57.960 Kids, and if you know, stop it. But if you 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.240 listen to this pod, you know that Martin Leunnington and 0:15:01.120 --> 0:15:04.160 still drives me crazy. And I am four. 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:06.000 I sometimes do the awful thing where You'll be in 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:08.360 a restaurant and I'll be like an infant and it'll 0:15:08.360 --> 0:15:10.640 be crying and crying and crying and crying, and part 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:12.880 of me really just wants to be like, just give 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:15.440 me the baby, Just give me the baby. Y, do 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:17.320 you have a baby, I'm going to help you out here, 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:22.200 or I kind of want to say, like the baby's hungry, 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:24.680 just give the baby, give the baby. 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:29.320 I would love to see that happen, just see I 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:32.960 would start recording that, like you know what go do that? 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:36.640 Can you imagine I don't know what response I would get. 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:39.640 No, I wont you of your advice. Back in one 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:42.120 of our early episodes, I don't know why, when you 0:15:42.120 --> 0:15:43.760 were like, we're like, how do you meet people? And 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:45.880 you're like, go to the movie theater and strike up 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:48.680 a conversation, Like why don't you do that, Jess? 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:51.040 Yeah, so you think it's not a good idea to 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:52.600 take someone's baby and feed. 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:55.720 Them without no. No, So like, next time we're together, 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:58.000 why don't you be like just go feed them? 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.760 Yeah, baby, your baby's hung or your mayby's tired, your baby's. 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:04.840 Tired, you should definitely vocally give advice like that. 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:07.440 Okay, but here's the thing. Parents drive kids crazy, right, 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:10.800 they're constantly nagging, or they're telling you what to do, 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:13.840 or maybe they're not listening to the kid's opinions. Maybe 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:16.840 they're comparing their kids to other kids, or they're being 0:16:16.880 --> 0:16:22.320 overprotective I get that one, or not respecting their privacy, 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:27.520 not growing with them into their next maturity level and 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:30.960 letting them kind of like bigger up right, or giving 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:34.480 unsolicited advice. And as we know, this can carry on 0:16:34.920 --> 0:16:39.600 into your forties. I've spoken about the suggestion box and 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:46.880 when it's been open to my parents being overly controlling 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:52.160 or feeling to see their kids for who they are 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:55.600 or wanting them to be different, and so I, you know, 0:16:55.640 --> 0:17:00.120 I'm sort of curious about, you know, the kids. How 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:01.840 do the kids feel? How do the kids feel about 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:03.920 the parents I have recently? 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:06.760 I think I don't know if it's doctor Becky there, somebody, 0:17:08.119 --> 0:17:10.800 I mean, what we a Lisa Pressman. We need to 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:11.800 have all the parents. 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:13.399 I want them to so much. 0:17:13.640 --> 0:17:16.440 I did ask the kids. I've asked them a couple 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:18.440 of times now, and I felt like I was doing 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:21.520 such a good parenting job and I was like, you guys, yeah. 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:23.520 You are, you are whatever it was, you are whatever? 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:27.040 Well, yeah, you know. I was like, you guys, it's 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:28.360 time for mom and dad feedback. 0:17:28.840 --> 0:17:30.600 Why don't you just let us know you send this 0:17:30.680 --> 0:17:31.240 to your kids? 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:34.080 Yeah. I was like, let us know how we can improve. 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:38.320 And it was like such a bullshitty response. I'm asking 0:17:38.640 --> 0:17:40.160 like four and seven year olds. 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:42.480 They're like, I feel like Hayden probably had like a 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:44.600 list ready to go, and Lucas was kind of what. 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:48.800 It was all bullshit. It was all like, let us 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:49.560 stay up later. 0:17:49.840 --> 0:17:51.879 Yeah, yeah, I want candy for bread, and I was like, 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:55.840 never mind, yeah, yeah, we're not ready for this. Nope, no, 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:57.800 I know what, I'm just kidding. I take it back. 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:01.159 I don't want your feedback. Okay, was there anything that 0:18:01.200 --> 0:18:03.720 your parents drove did that drove you crazy when you. 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:04.199 Were kidding me? 0:18:04.960 --> 0:18:08.800 Are you a million things again? Martin Lueddington, I forgot. 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:14.240 Oh, the luds. The luds, I mean, you know, tweets 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:16.800 their own. I mean, it's it's much easier. My mom 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:18.840 have four kids. You have four kids. You know what 0:18:18.880 --> 0:18:21.320 it's like, she have four kids, I would have lost 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:27.600 my mind. And my parents regularly, uh lost their shit, 0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:30.720 you know, like it was. You know, we were annoying 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:34.600 and we had a small we were in close quarterers 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:38.440 with them. And I think one of the most annoying 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:44.880 things though, is my dad Martin luds. He does tend 0:18:44.920 --> 0:18:47.359 to think that he is an expert and he's always 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:51.439 been this way on everything. Yeah, that he's had, Like 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:54.400 it doesn't matter what job, like coding, you I mean, 0:18:54.440 --> 0:18:56.280 like he would know how to code. He has, no, 0:18:56.359 --> 0:18:57.680 he can't even I don't even know if he knows 0:18:57.680 --> 0:18:59.960 how to turn all laptop at this point. But if 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:02.560 I got into coding, he would know the better way 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:05.080 to code. And he's been like that since I was little. 0:19:05.119 --> 0:19:07.400 So even when I was like little taking acting. 0:19:07.080 --> 0:19:10.159 Classes, he was doing scene study with you. 0:19:10.480 --> 0:19:13.720 I'm not kidding. Yes he would. I would like do 0:19:13.800 --> 0:19:16.359 a little like monologue or whatever. And now I'm young, 0:19:16.480 --> 0:19:19.159 like twelve, and he'd like, kime, let me just have 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:24.639 a go of this. And you think I'm lying, You 0:19:24.680 --> 0:19:27.240 think I'm just like making this a good story. Yeah, 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:30.600 And his well, he always tells me he's taking on 0:19:30.680 --> 0:19:34.359 a character in Little Women. Yeah, he's like Joe Moot, 0:19:34.720 --> 0:19:38.719 hand it over. He tells me that he was in 0:19:39.040 --> 0:19:41.840 one fucking play back in high school and it was 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:44.840 like some Shakespeare thing and that was his moment. And 0:19:45.200 --> 0:19:49.280 I don't know, and so he knows better. And so 0:19:49.320 --> 0:19:52.280 the advice, the advice part of the know it all 0:19:52.320 --> 0:19:56.119 advice part was really irritating. What about you growing up? Like, 0:19:56.160 --> 0:19:56.880 what was the thing? 0:19:57.080 --> 0:19:59.960 Same theme, It's the same theme. It's the unsolicited advice. 0:20:00.920 --> 0:20:04.679 It's the lecturing, Like even when they're so well meaning 0:20:04.840 --> 0:20:08.960 and mine all are, you know, like, even when they 0:20:09.040 --> 0:20:12.919 really are just doing it for your benefit, it still 0:20:13.040 --> 0:20:16.040 feels like a lecture when you're a teenager. And then 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:20.240 I think, because this is just sort of how it goes, 0:20:20.880 --> 0:20:26.240 they as the youth start to gain independence. I feel 0:20:26.280 --> 0:20:28.000 like I do this in my own parenting. You like 0:20:28.240 --> 0:20:31.199 see this window closing, and you're like, oh my god, 0:20:31.480 --> 0:20:34.639 I need to download all this important information otherwise my 0:20:34.760 --> 0:20:39.040 child is going to perish in the world. And so 0:20:39.119 --> 0:20:41.320 I need to like get it all in, even though 0:20:41.359 --> 0:20:44.719 I was putting it in for the past, yes whatever, 0:20:44.840 --> 0:20:47.680 however many years, but I need to really really cram 0:20:47.680 --> 0:20:52.159 it in now. And I feel like that last horizon 0:20:52.480 --> 0:20:56.639 is usually like sex and alcohol or. 0:20:56.680 --> 0:21:00.320 Draw and our drugs. Right, Okay, so let me ask 0:21:00.359 --> 0:21:02.919 you this question. If if you have a conversation with 0:21:03.000 --> 0:21:06.800 your kids about sex, do they want to die a 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:07.920 little bit inside? 0:21:09.720 --> 0:21:15.080 I mean, I'm assuming they probably do. 0:21:15.160 --> 0:21:17.360 Okay, we had Luke and Eve, those are her two 0:21:17.400 --> 0:21:20.080 oldest kiddos. If we had them on the show right 0:21:20.119 --> 0:21:23.920 now and we said, what is the thing that mom 0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:25.760 does that annoys you the most? What do you think 0:21:25.760 --> 0:21:26.639 their answers would be? 0:21:27.040 --> 0:21:30.120 It's actually not the open conversations about the sex or alcohol. 0:21:30.160 --> 0:21:31.880 I like, I will buy that. Maybe I'm totally wrong, 0:21:31.920 --> 0:21:33.479 but I always kind of think that I come in 0:21:33.520 --> 0:21:36.719 low pro like not too smooth, not like, guys, I 0:21:36.720 --> 0:21:38.280 got this, but like I feel like. 0:21:39.040 --> 0:21:40.080 I do think you have it. 0:21:40.440 --> 0:21:42.040 Yeah you were by the way, remember when you were 0:21:42.080 --> 0:21:43.440 in the car and huh. 0:21:43.280 --> 0:21:45.240 Yeah, you guys had a great we. 0:21:45.200 --> 0:21:48.280 Were having a conversation, and I think I'm pretty good 0:21:48.280 --> 0:21:52.240 at just like listening. Yeah, and then yeah, then I 0:21:52.280 --> 0:21:54.560