Speaker 1: This is he said a Yadiho with Eric Winter and
Speaker 1: Rodlin Fantas.
Speaker 2: All right, welcome back to another episode back he said it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the listeners, we are like the third week, third
Speaker 1: week of January or January. It is already going so fast. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so freaking fast.
Speaker 2: A lot of positives, a lot of negatives, a lot
Speaker 2: a weird way to start this new year. But we're
Speaker 2: gonna keep picking up and try to, you know, turn
Speaker 2: the corner.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, ya yah. Not the not the best beginning
Speaker 1: for twenty twenty five. But things will settle, Things will settle.
Speaker 2: So we thought we get some of your questions in
Speaker 2: common sense. A lot of a lot has been coming
Speaker 2: in and it's it's been a minute since we were
Speaker 2: able to do this together, right, because you've been gone.
Speaker 2: You might leave again. Oh my gosh, I might leave it.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm out of the country.
Speaker 1: It's Gary, really Budapest really far away. It's really far away,
Speaker 1: but I've never been to the country and I'm trying
Speaker 1: to see if it pushes a little bit. So it's
Speaker 1: you guys can come for maybe a week and a
Speaker 1: half or something, and but it's good. It's it's I've
Speaker 1: never done horror, so it's a lot of fun scripts
Speaker 1: and really really good actor that I love. He's like
Speaker 1: a legend, so it'll be amazing. Like we'll talk about
Speaker 1: it more soon if it materializes.
Speaker 2: All right, So this is from first question from Marine
Speaker 2: Happy New Year. Can I just start by saying, I
Speaker 2: absolutely love your podcast. The idea that you guys have
Speaker 2: a sick compass in your life is unreal. I would
Speaker 2: definitely watch Thank You. We want to make that happen
Speaker 2: at some point.
Speaker 1: We've been trying to make that happen for years.
Speaker 2: Well, we stopped trying because I got the rookie and
Speaker 2: you got Grand Hotel. That's why it stopped.
Speaker 1: Maybe at some point, some point we'll revisit, like give
Speaker 1: us a name. It'll be interesting if we do end
Speaker 1: up working together and we have our own comedy. Can
Speaker 1: you submit some names for us? What was it going
Speaker 1: to be called? I've what was the name?
Speaker 2: I never had a name.
Speaker 1: We never had a name. Now was untitled Rosson in
Speaker 1: scentiez Eeric Winter Project. Remember Eric winter rosens it first
Speaker 1: because I'm the female.
Speaker 2: Just kidding.
Speaker 1: That was interesting. Guys, did you did you put a
Speaker 1: check on that I was joking, Wow, he's upset that
Speaker 1: I've put my name first.
Speaker 2: You know how long I was, Wow, Eric Sanchez, since
Speaker 2: we've been dating, Like, how'd we go anywhere? It was like,
Speaker 2: mister Eric Sanchez, Eric Winter, mister Sanchez, do you what
Speaker 2: the heck? No?
Speaker 1: But no, everybody knows Eric Winter. Now.
Speaker 2: I was like, I was Eric Sanchez forever. The question
Speaker 2: all right, So we got totally sidetracked here kind of
Speaker 2: related to the choices you're currently making in life. If
Speaker 2: you could choose any career any place in the world,
Speaker 2: where would it be and why? I know Roslin's answer,
Speaker 2: what is what is my answer? Actress in Spain right now?
Speaker 1: Yes, I want to act in Madrid, Oh, Valencia, Oh
Speaker 1: see to act in Spanish. It's much easier for me.
Speaker 2: Listen, If I had any career to choose, and this
Speaker 2: is I don't. It's so weird to think about that.
Speaker 2: What I would do differently? I would still if I
Speaker 2: had a family and the family's all with me and
Speaker 2: we can all travel, I'd be an actor and I
Speaker 2: would go work in Europe somewhere. But my other career
Speaker 2: path in life, you never really had another career path.
Speaker 2: You always wanted to be an actress or a performer,
Speaker 2: but I believe it or not, I wanted to be
Speaker 2: a firefighter paramedic, so I would have probably loved to
Speaker 2: have done that.
Speaker 1: You would have been fighting the fires if I would
Speaker 1: have chose that path, guys. You know, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I ever said this story. For the longest time,
Speaker 1: I remember when I had a manager. Her name was
Speaker 1: Dian Perez, and she was my manager for many, many years,
Speaker 1: and she said to me, what would be your dream?
Speaker 1: And I said, besides doing brought Away, I want to
Speaker 1: have my own my entertainment show, meaning like Share, like
Speaker 1: Saunia Share, like that kind of thing. I said, I
Speaker 1: want to be Share. How do you pronounce your name? Share? Right?
Speaker 1: I want to be I want to be Shared. I
Speaker 1: want to be able to do interviews and perform with
Speaker 1: with my guest stars, and and do comedy sketches, you know,
Speaker 1: and look fabulous and have designers like dress me. So
Speaker 1: every time I come out like Share, you know, it
Speaker 1: was like a fashion statement. I wanted that so badly.
Speaker 1: So I ended up having a big development deal at
Speaker 1: the time with ABC and they I remember we sat
Speaker 1: down with all the executives and so what is it
Speaker 1: that you would like to do? And I said, I
Speaker 1: want to have my my one woman show like Share
Speaker 1: and they're like, oh, that's very interesting. But it's very
Speaker 1: very difficult because you know, it has been we have
Speaker 1: tried before, like the Mary Taylor More era. It's very difficult.
Speaker 1: But we actually have Wayne Brady. Now that it's doing one,
Speaker 1: it's not performing the way we want to, but would
Speaker 1: you be interested in being a guest star and doing
Speaker 1: a show with him just so we can see you
Speaker 1: in your element? And I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: that'll be a incredible So I did. So I was
Speaker 1: a guest star on the WAYN Brady Show and I
Speaker 1: danced and I sang and I did like comedy stuff.
Speaker 1: It was. I was in heaven. He was lovely. I
Speaker 1: had a great time. It never aired because the show
Speaker 1: got canceled before my so I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm doomed because if that didn't work and he was
Speaker 1: Wayne Brady, you know, and he's incredibly talented, there's no
Speaker 1: way they're going to give me the chance because they
Speaker 1: have tested it and it didn't work. And I will
Speaker 1: never forget. Oh my god, I wonder if they would
Speaker 1: have seen it, and maybe if the show was highly rated,
Speaker 1: if I was ever going to have the opportunity to
Speaker 1: have my own show. So for a long time that
Speaker 1: was my dream. But everybody, guys, every single person, even
Speaker 1: my team, it's too difficult, it's too hard. Nobody's doing that.
Speaker 1: That format doesn't work anymore.
Speaker 2: Watching something like that. I wouldn't watch something like that.
Speaker 1: Why.
Speaker 2: I don't care. Why I don't care about watching someone
Speaker 2: be one person show. It was incredible at the time
Speaker 2: because that's all it was on TV.
Speaker 1: It's like sn L. It's just a bunch of comedian No,
Speaker 1: I know what is a lot of comedians doing comedy
Speaker 1: and singing and and somebody opening the show for you
Speaker 1: is like, why can't it work?
Speaker 2: That show wouldn't work at like primetime television either it's
Speaker 2: a late night It's been that time forever. It's what works.
Speaker 2: I don't think it woul work at eight o'clock.
Speaker 1: Guys, I would eat that if I had a man
Speaker 1: or a woman and they were comfortable and they were talented,
Speaker 1: and I will watch.
Speaker 2: One man show like watch just stand up comedy. Get
Speaker 2: that's what I like.
Speaker 1: No, but I want to sing it at Anyways, next question.
Speaker 2: Don't work, Sue. Thank you so much, Sue for loving
Speaker 2: the podcast. Yeah, the naughty professor thing was out of control.
Speaker 2: That clip Rosland say and nutty instead of not.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, guys, I didn't mean.
Speaker 2: To question for you. Is you're giving a green light
Speaker 2: for a twenty episode season or of a new show,
Speaker 2: either acting in or producing directing. What is the premise
Speaker 2: to this show and what other TV actors would you
Speaker 2: want to start in it with. I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 2: right now, the comedy with Roz and I. That would
Speaker 2: be my dream gig. Twenty episodes, shooting a comedy in
Speaker 2: Los Angeles, producing it Rosin condrect an episode. That'd be
Speaker 2: my dream gig.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: Was like, I want to go to Greenland and be
Speaker 2: on the smallest part of a city somewhere else and
Speaker 2: shoot a very dramatic piece where no one recognizes me.
Speaker 2: I would love that, and then where we don't see
Speaker 2: her for five months.
Speaker 1: Oh, that's so sad, I did. I did tell my.
Speaker 2: Mind was about the family game, be like I would
Speaker 2: to be on the moon shooting an as my family around,
Speaker 2: because it'd be great to be an astronaut and I
Speaker 2: make it nominated.
Speaker 1: It's so funny because I had a conversation with my
Speaker 1: agent last week. He said, well, I'm so excited for
Speaker 1: twenty twenty five, and like, what do you want? What
Speaker 1: is it that you want? And I said, I want
Speaker 1: you to give me a gig where I do a
Speaker 1: find out they can do a movie that is critically acclaimed.
Speaker 1: Just give me one scene, one freaking scene in a
Speaker 1: movie that gets someone. You never know what's going to
Speaker 1: get I know, And he was like he's and then
Speaker 1: he laughed and Eric, I whant to told Eric the
Speaker 1: story Eric is. Of course he laughed because it's not
Speaker 1: that easy. It's not That's how my laugh is. All right,
Speaker 1: we didn't we know that mine is the comedy Rosland's
Speaker 1: is something critically acclaimed, which probably wouldn't be our comedy.
Speaker 1: Why not just you know, why what if we?
Speaker 2: Demi Moore just got her first Nomina, and.
Speaker 1: You know how inspiring that was to witness something to
Speaker 1: no she's not sixty ye I don't know. And her
Speaker 1: speech was so incredible, like like like like you know
Speaker 1: what speaking her truth about Nobody ever thought that I
Speaker 1: was capable of doing that because I am. I just
Speaker 1: do popcorn blog Boster. You know, she's so stunning and
Speaker 1: and nobody really she was incredible. She's incredible. And finally,
Speaker 1: so you don't what. I'm fifty one. I still have time.
Speaker 1: Although guys, it's not about being nominated and none of that.
Speaker 1: I just want to give me more.
Speaker 2: Sixty two years old. Wow, So dude, you're plenty of time.
Speaker 2: You had a decade.
Speaker 1: I don't really care, Eric, to be honest with Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't really care. I just want to work.
Speaker 2: All right, let's go next question.
Speaker 1: I just want to. I just want to work, and
Speaker 1: then a brand to do well so I can so
Speaker 1: I don't have to work.
Speaker 2: You're gonna work. You're gonna work, just fine. And yeah,
Speaker 2: a brand I want to. I want to have a business.
Speaker 2: Will probably what we have fun Republic to be jamming.
Speaker 2: All right, Michelle, Happy near to you as well. The
Speaker 2: Rookie on Hulu over your Christmas break you Binge watched
Speaker 2: the whole thing Fantastic Love It. Season seven's out now,
Speaker 2: although I think our first episode got preempted in some areas,
Speaker 2: so you can check it out on Hulu. Watching The
Speaker 2: Rookie led me to finding our podcast. Great to Know
Speaker 2: the personal side of the actress watching. Thank you so much,
Speaker 2: and I'm so glad you're you know, you're just happy
Speaker 2: with us being willing to share everything. That means a lot.
Speaker 2: I don't see a question here from you, Michelle, but
Speaker 2: we appreciate everything that you said and being a fan
Speaker 2: of the podcast and a fan of the show. It's awesome. Lynn.
Speaker 2: This is for Roz. Do you want to read it.
Speaker 1: What's happening with your clothing line? We haven't heard anything lately.
Speaker 1: Will you have new styles coming out and when might
Speaker 1: they be available?
Speaker 2: Also, the audio movie and English.
Speaker 1: So would your Daary movie have English subtitles? Yes, it
Speaker 1: already has that. We're working on that. It was interesting
Speaker 1: because we have one of my producers of me, I'm
Speaker 1: doing the subtitles, and we both our first language is
Speaker 1: not English, so I'm so proud. We're so proud. We
Speaker 1: do the whole the subtitles the way I think work,
Speaker 1: and then I have my American, non Spanish speaking producers
Speaker 1: proof reading it.
Speaker 2: So there's a lot of naughty behaviors down now.
Speaker 1: They're like, there's so many mistakes that We're like, what
Speaker 1: do you mean? Like, I work so hard and I
Speaker 1: guess we're redoing them because we need an English but
Speaker 1: it's tricky because it's in Spanish. Yeah, so a lot
Speaker 1: of mistakes. But guys, I guess it's someone is you know,
Speaker 1: medi the your mind is what it is.
Speaker 2: Listen, I'm gonna I'm want to take the question for
Speaker 2: you on on the clothing line, because I helped you
Speaker 2: orchestrate that deal and I know it's something that's just
Speaker 2: has been tough for you in general. Listen, her clothing line,
Speaker 2: she did. Rosland did everything she could to be an
Speaker 2: inspiration to build this clothing line up. Now, the people
Speaker 2: designing the clothes didn't come to Roslind for enough input.
Speaker 2: They didn't come to her for her for her feedback
Speaker 2: as much as we wanted early on in this deal.
Speaker 2: And to be honest, Ross has never really worked with
Speaker 2: celebrity brands in a way to launch one. They've taken
Speaker 2: on brands that celebrities have had that have already been
Speaker 2: out in the marketplace, so they're just placing it there,
Speaker 2: but they don't really know how to launch. I'll say
Speaker 2: that I don't think they know how to launch a
Speaker 2: brand new celebrity brand because they don't market towards it.
Speaker 2: Ross is all about the scavenger hunt. That's their branding,
Speaker 2: and when you're launching a new brand, very difficult to
Speaker 2: have a scavenger hut when people don't know where to
Speaker 2: find it. And so I'll be honest, We're going to
Speaker 2: and I say we because like I said, I helped
Speaker 2: orchestrate the deal with Ros, but we are going to
Speaker 2: part ways with that partner with Ross, and we are
Speaker 2: going to and even our design partner, and we are
Speaker 2: going to get back out there and find another deal
Speaker 2: with the product with the same you know, the Ross
Speaker 2: Essenti's clothing line.
Speaker 1: Guys. It was very launching it difficult for me. Since
Speaker 1: the beginning. I was super excited because of the possibilities.
Speaker 1: Ross is a massive, massive store. They have almost three
Speaker 1: thousand yeah stores nationwide. Clearly, their business model works incredibly well.
Speaker 1: People love it, you know, and a lot of Hispanics
Speaker 1: go to Ross. So they have their business model so
Speaker 1: tight that they don't really care to be honest with
Speaker 1: you about doing celebrity collaborations because they don't have to
Speaker 1: because they do extremely well. We got the opportunity and
Speaker 1: immediately I was like, this is incredible. I want I
Speaker 1: want to do something that is for the masses. I
Speaker 1: want things that are affordable because you know what, I
Speaker 1: come from very normal beginnings, and my mom was a
Speaker 1: same stress, so I know the value of fabric and clothing.
Speaker 1: So it's like I want to do something that is
Speaker 1: getting to me, which is something very pretty, very affordable.
Speaker 1: Very early on we realized Ross doesn't want me to
Speaker 1: do any kind of publicity. So every single thing that
Speaker 1: you guys saw that I posted, I was advised not
Speaker 1: too because Ross they didn't want me to post absolutely anything.
Speaker 1: They wanted to be a discovery. Whoever goes to Ross,
Speaker 1: if they see it, and if they're interested, they'll buy it,
Speaker 1: But they want no publicity and no attachment because that's
Speaker 1: not their business model. So that was a little hard
Speaker 1: of me. So for many months I couldn't post anything.
Speaker 1: Then finally, after all a lot of us pressing guys,
Speaker 1: if I have a line that has my name and
Speaker 1: has my face hanging on the tag, I want to
Speaker 1: be able to promote it. So I was allowed to
Speaker 1: in a very simple way. Don't do too much, just
Speaker 1: to a little bit. And that's what you saw when
Speaker 1: I was posting, and I was so excited, and I
Speaker 1: try to make everything look very, very very pretty. But again,
Speaker 1: since the very beginning, I thought I was going to
Speaker 1: be able to be part of the designing team and
Speaker 1: I was not allowed to. They will send me samples
Speaker 1: and they will send me stuff, but I will always
Speaker 1: have some kind of like feedback about what about this?
Speaker 1: And I like, I don't respond to this fabric, what
Speaker 1: about that one? And it was not a collaboration per se.
Speaker 1: It was more like, this is what Ross wants, this
Speaker 1: is what works, They know their market. Just trust, just
Speaker 1: trust and somebody as me that is very alpha, that
Speaker 1: is very controlling. It was very difficult for me to
Speaker 1: swallow that pill of going, guys, if it's my face,
Speaker 1: if it's my name, I want to be able to
Speaker 1: absolutely love everything that I'm selling. What I posted is
Speaker 1: I did because I liked. The other stuff that I
Speaker 1: didn't post is because I was not going to post
Speaker 1: something that I know I was not gonna wear. And
Speaker 1: I'm not discrediting the company that we had to design
Speaker 1: because you know, they do great stuff and they know
Speaker 1: their market. It doesn't mean that it's my taste. So
Speaker 1: there was a big disconnect with not being able to
Speaker 1: promote the way I wanted to not being able to
Speaker 1: design the way I wanted to, and ultimately I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to I'm gonna have to walk away
Speaker 1: because I just don't want to do something to see
Speaker 1: if it sticks, you know, because I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: have to. I honestly don't have to. If I'm going
Speaker 1: to do clothing is because I have a passion for it,
Speaker 1: not because I need the money, not because I need
Speaker 1: to do it, just because I like I like it,
Speaker 1: So it wasn't a good match. Again, I appreciate the opportunity.
Speaker 1: I think it was a great experiment for them, you know,
Speaker 1: to be able to allow somebody that has a bit
Speaker 1: of a resume, you know, in their entertainment business to
Speaker 1: do it. We could have continued doing it. But if
Speaker 1: I'm not happy and I want to be super happy
Speaker 1: and proud of what I'm doing, if my name is involved,
Speaker 1: that's why we're like, you know, it's better two part ways. Again,
Speaker 1: I appreciate the opportunity. I think it's a massive department
Speaker 1: store that does incredibly work incredibly well, that serves a purpose.
Speaker 1: You know, you want to buy cute stuff that is affordable.
Speaker 1: I'm all about that and hopefully I get to do
Speaker 1: it my way very soon. You know, we're cooking something.
Speaker 1: But until I have something that I'm one hundred percent
Speaker 1: happy with, I'm not gonna say anything. So I appreciate
Speaker 1: your question, and I hope that clorifies everything.
Speaker 2: Another question before we head out. I think those great
Speaker 2: job clarifying. By the way, Edith is actually pretty funny.
Speaker 2: Thank you for the congratulations on the podcast. And you're
Speaker 2: loving our little love fights that we have. We have
Speaker 2: a lot of love.
Speaker 1: Fights, love fights of love fights.
Speaker 2: Question one, this is fun. Imagine you had to live
Speaker 2: in one of these two worlds Rosland, one where everyone
Speaker 2: sings instead of talking, or one where everyone dances instead
Speaker 2: of walking. What would you choose. I'd be dead because
Speaker 2: I had to sing and dance all day long. Forget
Speaker 2: about it.
Speaker 1: I don't know dance, I'd probably, but I'll probably do
Speaker 1: the dance.
Speaker 2: We'd never meet the end of it.
Speaker 1: I know they'll be there. Can we have a world
Speaker 1: where everything is singing and dancing, so everything is a
Speaker 1: musical all day long.
Speaker 2: I would love that, two different worlds. That question two.
Speaker 2: If your life had a soundtrack, what song would be
Speaker 2: its main theme and why? That's tough on the spot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have to think about it.
Speaker 2: Really.
Speaker 1: I don't live my life like a carnival at all,
Speaker 1: but if I could, yeah, I would live like your
Speaker 1: sorrows go away by singing.
Speaker 2: I have no idea how to squabble up.
Speaker 1: Kendrick guys Okay, parentheses over here. So my kid, our kid, Daylan,
Speaker 1: seven years old, is obsessed with that song that it's
Speaker 1: all fwordwordword no. But then lest yesterday, he goes daddy
Speaker 1: and then he has a repeat because he goes, hey, hey,
Speaker 1: what is the apple? Alexa? Hey, Alexa, And he asked
Speaker 1: Alexa for the songs over and over again, and it
Speaker 1: was cute like we are cleaning the closet where he
Speaker 1: was losing his mind because they have no school because
Speaker 1: because the fires. So we're clean the closets and he
Speaker 1: is unrepeat right putting all the stuff is inside his shirt,
Speaker 1: jumping from the bed to the floor. Unrepeat. It was
Speaker 1: I can lude to that song doing Japarazzi Parazzi, Lady.
Speaker 2: Gaga and Jack Harlowe love it on.
Speaker 1: Me, love it. But the funny thing is that he
Speaker 1: asked daddy. They're they're playing the explicit right, and Daddy goes,
Speaker 1: you know, it's okay, that's fine, but maybe just make
Speaker 1: sure that you don't repeat the bad words. Okay, don't, don't, don't,
Speaker 1: don't listen to the.
Speaker 2: Battery way, listen to the songs.
Speaker 1: I had a game, so I keep walking by, and
Speaker 1: every time there was an F He's sitting on his
Speaker 1: rocking chair and he's like loving it, and I'm looking
Speaker 1: at him. And every time there's an F he's laughing, hysterical,
Speaker 1: and then the song keeps going another F word and
Speaker 1: he's laughing historical. Oh my god. It was cute. But
Speaker 1: are we damaging our.
Speaker 2: Yeah, said no, we're losing our minds. I was just
Speaker 2: trying to keep entertaining. I know, all right, let's see,
Speaker 2: uh TikTok. The third question. If you had to give
Speaker 2: away all of your things, and you're only allowed to
Speaker 2: take back one item each day, what would those What
Speaker 2: would be the first three things you would choose? You
Speaker 2: gave away everything, what's the first thing he'd ask back?
Speaker 1: Material?
Speaker 2: Yeah, my wedding ring, okay, I would agree with.
Speaker 1: That, my wedding album.
Speaker 2: Okay, on the Bible, those are the three things you
Speaker 2: take back?
Speaker 1: Okay, No, I have all the pictures for the kids
Speaker 1: and the kids albums. I don't know. It's very tricky.
Speaker 2: I do the wedding ring with you, and I take
Speaker 2: my phone because then and then I also have my website,
Speaker 2: so I could order more Palm Republic, I wouldn't have
Speaker 2: to take it back at his buying new ones. And
Speaker 2: then the third thing I would take already car so
Speaker 2: I could drive around to get places. Yeah, the car,
Speaker 2: I can't just you're just sitting in the front yard
Speaker 2: with as.
Speaker 1: I get my dogs that.
Speaker 2: But so I'm driving around on my phone with Palm
Speaker 2: Republic and wedding rings and you were sitting in the
Speaker 2: front yard looking at pictures and you have your ring
Speaker 2: and you have no what was your third thing? You
Speaker 2: can't take one of mine. Now You're just stuck.
Speaker 1: I don't know what I'll do, and that's a problem.
Speaker 2: Good questions, though, And answer your other question. You saw
Speaker 2: the clip about me playing guitar on TikTok. I have
Speaker 2: not played guitar in about a year. I'm about to
Speaker 2: stop production, so I'm gonna start getting back on the guitar.
Speaker 2: I have been terrible and I have slacked. It's really bad,
Speaker 2: really bad. My guitar skills.
Speaker 1: That I wonder why people a lot of brand new
Speaker 1: guitar Why do we do that?
Speaker 2: What do we like?
Speaker 1: And I think this is like a very common thing
Speaker 1: within human beings. Like you say you're going to start
Speaker 1: something and then you're I've got to get back DV
Speaker 1: eight and then you forget about it. It's like we
Speaker 1: do it all the time, and it's very it's very weird.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really. It was a mess.
Speaker 1: Like I wonder if there's a human being that will
Speaker 1: actually start something and stick to it until it's completion.
Speaker 1: It's so hard to do marriage, which leads us to
Speaker 1: our no not even that people like different an exit?
Speaker 1: What about?
Speaker 2: What about?
Speaker 1: I mean this was announced a couple of Let me
Speaker 1: ask his last fan question because it's about the topic.
Speaker 2: Michelle, Oh, no, this is kim on kim On. I
Speaker 2: hope I pronounced that correctly. Thank you for loving the
Speaker 2: podcast and everything we're doing on it. Your husband said,
Speaker 2: it's I guess it's your new fix, which is great.
Speaker 2: Let's see you absolutely love decided right and okay, I
Speaker 2: know you have a how would you do it? I
Speaker 2: was wondering how to deal with grief in your marriage.
Speaker 2: My husband and I have been married for one year
Speaker 2: and two months. We both lost our moms and the
Speaker 2: first year of marriage, we have been trying hard to
Speaker 2: be strong for each other, but I'm dying inside. I
Speaker 2: feel depressed, broken, and I know he must feel the
Speaker 2: same way. I have tried many times to get him
Speaker 2: to open up about it, but he always says he's fine.
Speaker 2: So what does he said AAD hosts say about this
Speaker 2: m that's tough.
Speaker 1: So they both lost lost their moms.
Speaker 2: They're both struggling inside. She has been trying to get
Speaker 2: him to open up about it. He just keeps saying
Speaker 2: he's fine. How do you handle?
Speaker 1: I think they have to talk about it, but she's trying.
Speaker 2: He just says, I'm fine.
Speaker 1: I guess you're going to have to keep trying and
Speaker 1: just tell him. Listen. I know you're saying you're fine,
Speaker 1: but I I went through the same experience and I'm
Speaker 1: not fine. So either you tell me what's going on,
Speaker 1: or I'm going to talk to you about what's going
Speaker 1: on with me because I need I need a release.
Speaker 2: Do you think there's a version though, of just giving
Speaker 2: him space as well? Maybe he processes differently.
Speaker 1: For sure, and that would be me. You know, like
Speaker 1: between you and me, I think you're more and more
Speaker 1: open to speaking about everything. I'm more into. Can you
Speaker 1: just let me be for a second because I don't
Speaker 1: want to speak, but I think at some point it
Speaker 1: has to be And.
Speaker 2: Look, we can. We've been together for nineteen years, you know,
Speaker 2: sixteen married, so it's easier for us to kind of
Speaker 2: understand each other's dynamic. You've been married for a year.
Speaker 1: Oh that's it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I do think Rosland's right though in this
Speaker 2: regard that, you know, it's fine line. I think you've
Speaker 2: got to give a little bit of space. But if
Speaker 2: space has been given for quite some time now and
Speaker 2: you feel you need someone to talk to, you could
Speaker 2: ask him if you're able to share what you're going
Speaker 2: through to him, because you want to have someone to
Speaker 2: lean on. And if he says I don't want to
Speaker 2: hear that, I don't want to talk about it, then
Speaker 2: that's tough. You might want to go to therapy. Ask
Speaker 2: if he'd be open at therapy, not marriage therapy, but
Speaker 2: just therapy for each other what you're going through and
Speaker 2: how to navigate it.
Speaker 1: Or write it down. If he says I don't want
Speaker 1: to hear it. Just write him a letter, you know,
Speaker 1: just write something, put all your thoughts into that, and
Speaker 1: then just leave it on his nightstand and he's going
Speaker 1: to read it, and that might trigger something.
Speaker 2: And it's fair enough to say in that letter probably
Speaker 2: how it makes you feel that the two of you
Speaker 2: aren't communicating about it, and you know, for the sake
Speaker 2: of your marriage, you want to be able to communicate.
Speaker 2: You want to be able to air these things out.
Speaker 2: You want him to be there to be your rock
Speaker 2: even though he's struggling, and you want to be his
Speaker 2: rock even though you're struggling. I think it's important to
Speaker 2: keep that communication somehow. So writing is a great idea
Speaker 2: as an alternative.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let me ask you something.
Speaker 2: By the way, I'm sorry, so sorry the bull you're
Speaker 2: going through that at the same time, losing a parent.
Speaker 2: I've had to go through it. It is very difficult.
Speaker 2: So I get it.
Speaker 1: I get it. It's interesting because when we were cleaning
Speaker 1: up and cleaning the closets and the bedroom to donate
Speaker 1: because of the fires, I've found a lot of pictures
Speaker 1: of events that I've done in Puerto Rico, my triathlons
Speaker 1: and things that i've done that. My father was a
Speaker 1: part of it, and from vacations, you know, the when
Speaker 1: my kid, when Sabella was born, that my parents came
Speaker 1: to Los Angeles to be with me when I deliver
Speaker 1: the baby. Both times, actually my father was so healthy
Speaker 1: and so vibrant, and I'm going, oh my god, this
Speaker 1: is not my dad anymore. And I'm kind of like
Speaker 1: preparing myself because I don't know. I mean, listen, my
Speaker 1: dad is such a lucky person that he always like
Speaker 1: nine eighty four, but he's the unhealthiest person that is
Speaker 1: still alive. We don't want to, you know, and and
Speaker 1: he's just been very lucky even though he's sick with longevity.
Speaker 1: You know that he's still fighting. So we think it's
Speaker 1: just a matter of time. But who knows, he might
Speaker 1: live ten more years.
Speaker 2: Do you have no idea they're going to confirm cancer.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it's it's a it's a mess. But it's sad. Man.
Speaker 1: When you lose a parent, you you lost your dad,
Speaker 1: and I know that was to this day. It's very hard.
Speaker 1: I have never experienced that because they're both alive and
Speaker 1: I'm trying to prepare myself. I'm dealing with my own issues.
Speaker 1: With daddy issues, you know that I have because I
Speaker 1: have no idea how I'm going to react when they
Speaker 1: comes I have. You know, it's so crazy. I have
Speaker 1: no idea. I don't even know if I'm going to cry.
Speaker 2: You will at some point. It might be by yourself.
Speaker 2: At the end of the day, I'm wed. I think
Speaker 2: that's the tricky part. And and I can't say I
Speaker 2: had dad issues, but I think when you have issues,
Speaker 2: you know it's your parent. There's still going to be
Speaker 2: good memories with your parents. There are going to be
Speaker 2: moments that were powerful and it's still your dad or
Speaker 2: your mom, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Who really the most vivid memory that I have about
Speaker 1: my dad growing up is I mean in terms of
Speaker 1: a good one Like my dad, I used to like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, you don't believe it, but I used
Speaker 1: to run very very fast. And my father was always
Speaker 1: like so proud of of any form of athletics that
Speaker 1: I would do. And he'll be like drinking his rum
Speaker 1: in the terraces, right, And I decided, oh, I'm going
Speaker 1: to exercise, and I will exercise in front of him, right,
Speaker 1: And I will do jumping jacks and I will try
Speaker 1: to be super super, super super active. And he was
Speaker 1: just looking at me, into his trios, his music, drinking
Speaker 1: his rum, looking at me so proud because I was
Speaker 1: working on in front of him. Yeah, isn't that crazy?
Speaker 1: And I wanted to like do it so well because
Speaker 1: it was so important to do it. He's approval, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean that? Oh, he's proud of me.
Speaker 1: He's proud of me. He's proud of me. So weird,
Speaker 1: so weird.
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