WEBVTT - Episode 81: Ft. Trina 0:00:04.000 --> 0:00:08.280 What's app is Angela. Ye, I'm Stephanie Santiago, I'm Ggi Maguire. 0:00:08.440 --> 0:00:10.920 It's live service and listen. We are super excited because 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:13.000 we have been dying and I mean dying to get 0:00:13.000 --> 0:00:16.800 her on the show. We got the baddest bitch Hi. 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:19.440 And this is fun because we've actually been talking a 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:22.400 lot about fifty shades because we all saw fifty shades 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:24.800 of gray and not fifty shades doctors coming out. So 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:27.160 we're kind of gonna do some S and M themes here. 0:00:27.560 --> 0:00:30.720 I'm sure you're don't tie some guys up, okay, So 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:32.599 um our tip of the day, because we always start 0:00:32.640 --> 0:00:33.760 with the tip of the day where we give our 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:36.640 own advice in a in a scenario, how do you 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:39.839 introduce senm into a relationship? How can you get a 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:42.559 guy to experiment a little bit and get him to 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:45.159 try something he's never done before? Maybe you tie him up? 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:47.760 Or um. I just think, like, you know, just like 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:50.680 you know, a little sexy conversation and you just kind 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:52.400 of say, hey, I just want to kind of do something. 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:54.200 You don't really tell exactly what you want to do, 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:56.280 but it's not nothing crazy, nothing like that. You know, 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:58.320 maybe I got you just you know, and then you 0:00:58.360 --> 0:01:02.120 do whatever's time up, I'm pancuff from blindfolding whatever. No, 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:06.039 it's just a problem. You know. You have to kind of, 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:07.800 like I think, smooth them into it because some guys 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:08.960 be like what are you about to do? Like I 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:10.200 don't want to be tired, Like you know, you don't 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:12.240 want them to think that you're just gonna be crazy. 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:16.120 How do you ever tied a guy up? Yeah? Okay, 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:19.760 see that's a lot of trust though, Yeah, that what 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:21.600 you're gonna untie him? Yes, it's where I got to 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:23.600 let you tie him up. He has to really trust 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:26.000 you because that has to be like has a guy 0:01:26.040 --> 0:01:28.200 ever tied you up? But you're in a relationship and 0:01:28.240 --> 0:01:29.800 it's just like fun, like hey, I just want to 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:31.800 just try something. I just want to see you know. 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:33.360 I used to do it on stage in my show. 0:01:33.400 --> 0:01:35.440 Actually we tied this gap on stage in the chair 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:36.959 and so it was like one of the things like 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:40.840 I'm gonna try this, you know, would you let um? 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:44.119 I don't know. That's when you say that's trusted really 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:46.000 because then I don't know if you want to play 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:48.120 a game and you might not untie me up or 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:51.320 like I don't know how much leverage I have. We've 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:54.480 been tying up like we on Instagram, Like I need 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:57.040 to have a little bit of control. Like you know, 0:01:57.640 --> 0:01:59.440 what about you step You ever tied a guy up? 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.640 Haven't tied a guy up? I like, Um, you know, 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:05.160 I'm more of a submissive lover, so I like for 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:09.960 the guy to be in control. You know that's interesting? Yeah, Um, 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:12.840 most of the time, I think. The only time like 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:17.720 I want to be the aggressor is when I'm drinking. 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:27.400 Then I'm like, yes, exactly what about you? G You 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:32.440 ever tie somebody up? I have blindfolded a lot or 0:02:32.560 --> 0:02:34.880 just I've done it before, not a lot, but I've 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:38.120 been tied up, like she's the only one that's been 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:39.920 tied up in the room. No, like tied to the 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:43.720 bed with the gag and the ball and gag and everything. 0:02:44.040 --> 0:02:45.919 So was that like a real rush and real high 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:49.040 for you? It was fun? You would do it again? 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:53.839 I want to do it again. See some Maybe let's 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:55.680 keep it around. Maybe because only one person in this 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:57.400 room has done that, maybe it is something that we 0:02:57.400 --> 0:03:00.160 all need to try. I wouldn't mind getting tied up. 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:02.200 I wouldn't I wouldn't let. I wouldn't let as far 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:04.359 as going, don't be pulling out no whips and ship 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:09.280 and no people, and I don't want because guys like, okay, 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:11.560 you're gonna tie me up and that white yeah, well 0:03:11.840 --> 0:03:14.960 with me, he had like the vibrator and he was 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:17.280 just like you know, I couldn't stop, you could move 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:19.520 and then I mean he tooked me like that too. 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:21.800 It was great, like I just had to later air 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:27.920 and just like to put your ticket. I love it. 0:03:27.960 --> 0:03:30.000 But okay, so no whips, not even like you know 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:32.720 they had their little leather feathery kind of whips. That's 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:35.840 not too crazy, No, no, no, that's the next level. 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:38.360 You gotta started out with just you know, you gotta 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:42.120 take it and sipping moderation like well to it up 0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:43.600 and stuff like they don't got to be no wealth, 0:03:44.000 --> 0:03:46.120 like a little fun beats like hits and like come 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:48.440 here and like smack it like a little light like 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:50.920 you were like a little collar and just everything just 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:54.600 being like that. Dam I never thought about you gotta 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:58.320 just collar, yeah, collar, releash And he's smacking you and 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:01.520 whipping you and you're like Stephanie, I'm that you can't 0:04:01.520 --> 0:04:05.119 tell me, ain't nobody whip you because you like beenmissive, right, 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:09.720 I like and I like the abuse to you know so, 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.000 But I don't want him to take off his belt 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:15.240 and start beating me up. We're not talking about a 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:18.360 belt that we're talking about those whips that are made specifically. No, 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:22.440 I don't like the way they I don't like the 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:24.680 way it feels. I don't like I like to get 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:27.520 hit with hands, with your hand, daddy. I'm Puerto Rican, 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:31.039 you know, we like to get beat up sometimes. Have 0:04:31.200 --> 0:04:34.160 you ever had marks on you like? Yes, absolutely, I've 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:36.599 had bite marks, um, because I like to get bit 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:39.200 a lot to me, just like I've had bite marks. 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:42.839 I've had spank marks on my face, slot marks on 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:45.400 my face. I've had choke marks on my neck. I've 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:50.200 had spank marks on my button, I've had I've had 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:55.560 bruises on the on my aner. Guys, I get marked up, yes, 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:59.000 like honestly, Um, you ain't ever be a black guy 0:04:58.560 --> 0:05:05.160 and no actually no, no, no, no, no wait wait wait, 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:08.960 one time I did have an eye jammy from having sex. 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:11.200 It wasn't a black eye, but it was a fat 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:17.599 I know. No, I I got hit in the eye. Yeah, 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:20.000 being rough I woke up the next day with a 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.200 swollen eye. I don't know how it happened. It was 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:25.320 a whole move when you having sex, and then unfortunate 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:28.680 thing happened, and oh my god, you want to hear it. 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:32.839 One time this I was having I was, I was 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:37.880 really I was really under the influence and I had 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:40.560 this guy and we were we were having like this 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:46.360 amazing incredible, you know, like really powerful sex and he 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:49.159 was biting my lip. He kept biting my lip and 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:53.040 it felt so good. It felt so good, and I 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:57.279 kept wanting him to bite my lip. And then and 0:05:57.320 --> 0:06:04.160 then my lips swoll so big. I was actually in Atlanta, 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:07.159 and I um, I was supposed to do a video 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:09.599 the next day and I couldn't do the video because 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:14.720 my lips was so swollen. I looked like I looked 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:18.240 like the colleenner Ryla. Oh my god, it looked really bad. 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:20.800 It looked like you know, rest and peace, big and 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:25.680 big and just lives. And it took forever to go down. 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:28.359 I'm talking about I looked like that for like a week. 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:31.480 But it felt great, but it during it worth it, no. 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:34.719 But and what's funny is is that I realized because 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:36.960 I felt it, you know, I felt that my lip 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.920 was swollen while he was biting it. So when I went, 0:06:40.000 --> 0:06:42.120 I got up and I went to the bathroom and 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:44.640 I looked at it, and I was hystorical. I was 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:51.159 in tears, crying, like what I looked at you, I swear, 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:53.840 but I really liked it at the time. I'll tell 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:55.520 you this, I didn't learn my lesson from that. I 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:58.520 don't let anybody bite my lips right just to kiss. 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:03.760 Lets learn, Like, yeah, you like a bad accident during 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:07.040 sex that you had an injury from. No, I don't 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:10.160 have no injuries, Thank God for that. But just like 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:11.840 I mean, like you said, like awkward moments, like you 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:13.960 don't want to just do nothing that's awkward and like 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:16.400 it just ruins the whole moment. Like you're just like 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.520 having great sex and you're just like damn about to 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:22.800 be smashing the headboard. You just like hit your head 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:25.520 so hard to you like fall almost off the bad 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:31.360 the whole moment. Yeah, that is awkward when you're you're 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:37.880 gotting and you hit your hat on that halfbard but 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:43.000 he's still You're like You're like, yeah, I definitely felt 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:46.200 off the bed or slipping the shower or something big 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:54.080 dick girl, bust my ass off. The bab makes you run. 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:57.559 All right, now, let's talk about this. Dating an older 0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:00.200 man or a younger man. It's two different things. You'd 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:05.520 rather be a teacher or a student in the bedroom. 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:08.200 I feel like you know what I feel like when 0:08:08.200 --> 0:08:12.280 you're when you're dating an older man. There's it's just 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:15.720 it's so different. Having sex is so different. It's so 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:19.560 much more passionate and you can tell the experience. It's 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:23.440 it's a it's a different level of sex. Is like 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:25.240 I don't like, I mean, I don't know. I mean, 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:28.080 because I I like a younger guy. It's almost like 0:08:28.240 --> 0:08:30.720 super experienced. I'm almost thinking, have you been here before? 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:32.760 Because there's no way that you can know how to 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:35.800 do all the things that you're doing, either beyond some 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:38.319 guy that was older. And I'm like, this guy is 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:40.760 so I know you have the juice, but you're not 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:43.800 even it. But this younger guy is like too much sauce, 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.520 too much, you know, Like that's so, I mean, it's 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:47.760 a difference. I mean, I think, I don't know. It 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.760 depends on where you I feel like there's a difference too. 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:53.400 And I before before these past couple of weeks, I said, 0:08:53.520 --> 0:08:56.520 my favorite, the best lover I ever had is a 0:08:56.640 --> 0:09:01.920 man in his forties. But currently I'm dating someone and 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:06.400 I feel like sleeping with him is like way better 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:08.600 than sleeping with the guy in his sport. It's like 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:13.280 sleeping with him but with that young to him. Okay, 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:15.560 you know what, do you like to teach somebody what 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:16.920 to do? Or do you like to be the one 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:21.160 that's learning? Oh? And you know what that's um, That's 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:23.720 something that I always hated about dating younger guys is 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:25.680 that I always have to teach somehow to eat pussy. 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:28.559 And you get tired of teaching guys how to eat 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:30.599 pussy and then knowing that you told him how to 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:35.160 eat pussy, Now he's gonna go eat everybody. Right made you, 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:39.520 I made you that you're gonna go spread my knowledge. 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:45.000 So currently I'm overreaching and learning to know what you know. 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:47.080 Like I want to see something you though, and I 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:49.199 want to I want you to teach it to me. Great, 0:09:49.480 --> 0:09:52.240 that's the last thing that you learned. What's the last 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:54.000 thing that you ladies learned in the bedroom that you 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:56.680 could think of? Like I never did this before, but 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:59.400 he taught me something the last thing, because what is 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:02.400 there left me? I can't even think of that. The 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:04.400 last thing I learned is that you know, you can 0:10:04.440 --> 0:10:16.040 stretch all your throat. You said, train it right, Yeah, exactly, 0:10:16.320 --> 0:10:19.480 Like there's a whole other part of your throat behind 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.040 the bone. And he was very glad to teach you 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:29.520 about it. Practice it opens up, and if you don't practice, 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:32.920 it closes up. That's something I learned. What about your channing? 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:36.559 What's the last thing you would say that you learned? Um, 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:39.520 you know what I would say it would be. It 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:42.840 would be it's like it's like having oral sex, and 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.599 it's this thing. It's almost like no gag reflect like 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:48.439 this gag thing. And I realized, like you really have 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:50.720 to like put it all the way in your mouth 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:52.400 to like get past that, so it's could be real 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:54.640 speedy to come back up, so we can really be done, 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:57.360 right you talk about this Otherwise it's like just trying. 0:10:57.360 --> 0:10:59.520 It's almost like you're gonna like throw up, but you're not. 0:10:59.640 --> 0:11:01.319 You have to control, like it's one of those things. 0:11:01.360 --> 0:11:05.000 Have to relax. How do you do that? You haven't. 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:06.920 It's mine, it's mine thing. I don't know. I think 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:09.320 if you're thinking about it too hard, you're thinking about 0:11:09.960 --> 0:11:11.800 it being too far, You're not thinking about it, your 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:16.480 your your whole mouth. Everything gets so relaxed. It's like 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:19.560 almost you're about to swallow him, and you can't imagine 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:24.160 things you can put amazing. It's amazing what can fit 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:29.640 down there. A baby can come out of the right 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:33.360 But I think one of the best things that you 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:38.679 can do is have like an orgasm together both come 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:42.040 at the same time. I think that's a whole another 0:11:42.160 --> 0:11:46.880 level mentally, like body to body experience, opposed to him 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:49.280 having an orgasm first, you after, Like it's totally different. 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:51.520 Are you first and him after? I think it's really 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:53.679 great if you guys can both come at the same time, 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:57.040 that's like the most amazing. I think that's very rare. 0:11:57.520 --> 0:12:01.240 It is very rare, but I could probably three times 0:12:01.240 --> 0:12:03.160 I thought ever happened to me? I just thought about 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:05.640 the last time that that happened to me. I love 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:09.839 ago with that to make it like it's a timy thing, 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:12.719 you know, it happened at the same time, just happened 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:15.160 like I said I was coming and he was like 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:18.160 me too, and then it was because I also feel 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:22.000 like when when you come and makes him come. Oh 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:28.600 my god, it does anything anything close to even than 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:32.000 him thinking that you're coming makes him come, like any 0:12:32.160 --> 0:12:34.120 extra mone It's like, no, one didn't come. I was 0:12:34.160 --> 0:12:37.960 just feeling good, like we know. The worst is if 0:12:38.000 --> 0:12:40.679 you're about to come and he do something different, like 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:44.719 he's switch it, switch it up, most horrible, like I 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:48.520 was right there. Yeah that's horrible, you know, and then 0:12:48.559 --> 0:12:50.480 when he goes back there, you got to build it 0:12:50.600 --> 0:12:53.000 up again to get to that point, you think that 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:56.959 though I don't think they realized sometimes as if a 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:59.280 guy thinks that you're about to come, because you're you're 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:01.640 in that moment, it that he feels like he's got 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:03.199 to like go harder, and then it suck it and 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:06.800 sucks it up like I just keep doing and you're 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:09.480 about to come, and then he changes his time and 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:12.200 you keep the same thing going. And sometimes I don't 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:13.880 want to come from oral sex, like I want to 0:13:13.880 --> 0:13:16.800 actually have sex. I want to come from oral sex 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:17.920 and I want to have sex and I want to 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:20.680 come again, right, and then I'll not come again. Sometimes 0:13:20.720 --> 0:13:23.160 I'm not gonna dude, Like if I come, I'm done. No, 0:13:23.240 --> 0:13:26.960 not mean, are you? Sometimes yeah, sometimes every single time. 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:30.440 I'm just doing it so you can finish too. That's 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:34.480 how I felt that way before. Yeah, yeah, every time 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:36.440 I call mom Dawn. But you know, you just have 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:40.880 to be a team coming there and Dream stay in 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:43.560 the game. I mean, I'm fine like to keep going, 0:13:43.679 --> 0:13:46.199 but I'm also fine if we stop after. And that's 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:53.720 before him or after if it's not together, I would 0:13:53.440 --> 0:13:56.080 ask if it's not together, I would prefer to come first, 0:13:56.720 --> 0:14:01.600 like do you stop yourself from coming. I've tried, like 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:05.360 I've tried, like, okay, just not right now, but it's you, 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:08.040 you don't I don't know really too. I think I've 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:10.240 stopped it before, but I don't know. I don't know 0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:11.520 if that really worked at it. And I think you 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:13.600 kind of messed up the whole like or between us 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:15.640 because I was just sobo trying to stop it. I 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:18.240 think it still happened, but not as much. It wasn't 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:20.160 as much of a bank and yeah, it just kind 0:14:20.160 --> 0:14:23.320 of like was missing and then now he's going crazy. 0:14:23.960 --> 0:14:27.000 I'm over there like that. And sometimes you try to 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:28.680 stop yourself and then you don't end up coming it 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:30.880 on you be mad as hell, So you'd be like, 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:32.800 I let me just come just in case of ship 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:37.680 don't work out later puts eating really good. I always 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:40.320 try to hold it back as long as I can 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:42.840 because it feels so good. And the guy gets so 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:45.440 mad because you're doing they're doing it too long. Yes, 0:14:45.800 --> 0:14:48.040 they're like tired, but it just feels so good. I 0:14:48.040 --> 0:14:50.600 don't want it to stop. And then he stopped to me, like, 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:53.080 why did that would do that? Yeah, it's like damn, 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:57.320 I should have just came, all right. Could you have 0:14:57.360 --> 0:15:00.680 a purely sexual relationship with no feelings? We know that 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:04.120 men can do that traditionally, but as a woman, do 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:06.640 you think you could have a relationship that's purely sexual? 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:09.520 Great in bed, but you don't really have any feelings 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:13.000 for him. I haven't done it. I haven't tried because 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:15.240 I don't know if it's it's I don't know, just 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:19.000 I guess. I don't know. This sex is too emotional, 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:20.600 I guess. I don't know. I guess maybe if you 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:22.680 just felt like this is how I want to just 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:24.440 bang you right now and I'm not done, there's no 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:25.880 strings attached. Don't want to se your face. I don't 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:27.280 want you to see mine, you know what I mean? Like, 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:29.080 but it could be a funk buddy that you normally 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:31.200 fun like she's fun buddies, you end up start having 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:34.680 feelings and eventually, if you keep sucking the same person 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:36.680 over and over, some type of something that's going to 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:39.560 happen unless it's strictly off limits. And it's no way 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:41.600 you want to be attached to this person, right, but 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:44.240 you're not sucking the same person forty times and like 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:46.560 don't feel a thing. What if he's really ugly and 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:56.200 you would never bring him around anybody? But yeah, but 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:59.280 that means you like something about them, because you're still 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:02.520 sneaking to him, right, but you don't want nothing else. 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:08.120 But have you ever dated anybody you were ashamed? Know for? 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:10.440 Have you ever dated anybody that you were ashamed like? 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:13.720 I cannot bring him around? I haven't, honestly, I haven't. 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:16.840 I actually like a long time ago out here, actually 0:16:16.880 --> 0:16:19.000 like met a god. It was like I talked to 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:21.520 for a little bit, but I was just so uninterested 0:16:21.560 --> 0:16:26.320 and so the conversation was not anything about like for 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:28.240 me to want to be even engaged with you. So 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:30.080 I didn't even want my friends to know like I 0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:32.520 even met you. It was one of those things you're 0:16:32.520 --> 0:16:34.960 a nice person, but I don't see this happening, and 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:36.440 no type of way. I don't know. He was good 0:16:36.440 --> 0:16:38.520 on paper or something. No, he was just at first 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:40.800 I met like a cool person. But then one little 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:42.960 corny thing. I think he used to make this noise, 0:16:43.000 --> 0:16:44.800 like he'll just talk on the phone and just make 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:47.040 this weird noise, and I was like, so turned off. 0:16:47.040 --> 0:16:50.080 You are like some just a funny kind of growling 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:53.720 noise ground but I don't even and I'm not looking 0:16:53.720 --> 0:16:55.600 at you, not even attractive. And then it's like I 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:57.760 just can't see myself sucking it Like it was that 0:16:58.120 --> 0:17:00.160 he was a ground. What he would talk that he 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:02.160 would just be like like He'll be like, oh, you 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:04.000 know what, I just really think, you know, maybe if 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:05.119 you have a little time, I want to see you 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:08.720 like some But like every time he would talk, it 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:10.560 would be like this after thing he would ground and 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:13.439 I was just like, you know what, but a nice person, 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:17.040 but just stay far. You know that's corny. Now back 0:17:17.080 --> 0:17:19.760 to fifty Shades right in the movie that's coming out, 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:23.000 Christian gets a second chance. Now, what are some good 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:27.600 reasons for giving an X a second chance? Have never 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:30.119 given a second chance? I think it depends I have, 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:33.159 and I think it depends on what the situation is. 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:35.199 You know that the reason he's your ex, you know, 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:38.480 probably things didn't work out. You just was over for 0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:41.439 a moment. Were young. Yeah, and then maybe that. I mean, 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:44.879 it's certain limits to give a second chance, right, I mean, 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:47.240 I don't know about as far as I only depends 0:17:47.240 --> 0:17:48.760 on the person, you know. I don't think if somebody 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:50.879 did you wrong or cheated crazy and makes you like 0:17:50.960 --> 0:17:52.560 a fool, you want to go give him a second chance. 0:17:52.760 --> 0:17:55.200 But people do all because you think I'm in love 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:57.159 this the sex is so great, I don't care what 0:17:57.200 --> 0:17:59.040 nobody say. I'm gonna go back and back and back. 0:17:59.320 --> 0:18:01.359 So it depends on person. What do you say, g 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:05.399 I'm living in my second chance right now. So what 0:18:05.480 --> 0:18:07.240 made you say, let's do it, Let's do it again, 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:09.720 let me give him a second chance? What are the reason? 0:18:09.840 --> 0:18:12.280 We had the fakest break up and break up history. 0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:15.359 We broke up and I moved out, but we still 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:18.280 having sex every week, and then I eventually was home 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:21.360 four days out of every week, home back home four 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:22.840 days out every week, and then I was like, I 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:24.040 might as well just spoop back in and we might 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:26.280 a would just be together. Who are we fooling? So 0:18:26.280 --> 0:18:28.919 you don't have a real breakup, like a reason? No, 0:18:29.040 --> 0:18:31.679 we were. We were broken up four months before I 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:34.840 moved out. We were just living in separate wings of 0:18:34.880 --> 0:18:36.919 the house. Sometimes I think you gotta break up in 0:18:37.040 --> 0:18:40.000 order to regroup and get back together. Because there's people 0:18:40.000 --> 0:18:42.240 that have all kinds of issues in relationships and they 0:18:42.240 --> 0:18:45.960 won't break up and they just like right. But sometimes 0:18:46.000 --> 0:18:48.800 you gotta break up, spend some time apart and be like, Okay, 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:52.439 let me just get some more perspective. I feel like 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:57.080 the second chance is always wrong every time. Every time 0:18:57.080 --> 0:18:59.760 I'm going back when the access just ends up ending 0:18:59.840 --> 0:19:03.960 I anyway, it's just a way some time. I don't 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:06.919 really I don't really think. Um, I just feel like 0:19:06.920 --> 0:19:09.440 you don't want somebody ships on. You know how many 0:19:09.520 --> 0:19:13.280 chances you're gonna give somebody to, you know, but you 0:19:13.320 --> 0:19:16.560 don't think sometimes guys do learn their lesson. Maybe not 0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:19.840 in my experience, you know, yeah, I agree with that, 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:21.920 Like if you didn't do nothing and we just broke 0:19:22.000 --> 0:19:23.760 up because you know what, I don't know, maybe we're 0:19:23.840 --> 0:19:28.159 arguing something. I'm just like, we fall out. We need space. 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:31.360 But if you do wrong and crazy the second time 0:19:31.440 --> 0:19:34.760 you break, it's not the same because now it's even 0:19:34.800 --> 0:19:36.520 worse than it was the first time. And I'm already 0:19:36.520 --> 0:19:38.240 looking at you like I'm giving you a second chance, 0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:41.680 and you steal my ecka food. I just can't deal. Yeah, 0:19:41.720 --> 0:19:44.360 Like petty breakups don't count on you're in a real relationship. 0:19:44.400 --> 0:19:46.080 You have a fighting and you hate each other for 0:19:46.119 --> 0:19:48.040 two days and then you get back together. That's not 0:19:48.200 --> 0:19:50.920 But if he if he cheated, because there are guys 0:19:50.920 --> 0:19:55.120 who cheat and then you get back together and they 0:19:55.200 --> 0:19:57.920 learn their lesson. No, they don't know. I don't believe that. 0:19:58.240 --> 0:20:00.960 They never do. They never learn, saying I don't think 0:20:00.960 --> 0:20:03.639 so they don't because I because the lesson is to cheat. 0:20:03.680 --> 0:20:05.760 Why in the beginning, Because what you're doing is going 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:08.280 to affect me. And because you did that, that's not 0:20:08.800 --> 0:20:10.720 that's not a lesson you learned. That's like you really 0:20:10.720 --> 0:20:12.879 didn't care how even if you didn't think about it. 0:20:12.960 --> 0:20:15.040 You I'm looking at you like you didn't care that 0:20:15.040 --> 0:20:16.720