1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:17,040 Speaker 1: Hi, everyone, It's Sophia. Welcome to work in progress. Welcome 2 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:21,480 Speaker 1: back to work in progress friends, Happy Pride. We are 3 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: a week into celebrating love in June, and we've gotten 4 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 1: so many questions from folks lately that we felt like 5 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: maybe this week we do another Q and A. It's 6 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:40,000 Speaker 1: been a while, so let us dive right in. Thank 7 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: you for your questions. You know, some of them are 8 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: very vulnerable, some of them are very nerdy and sweet, 9 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 1: some of them really need to think. And I yeah, 10 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: I just love this stuff with you guys, So let's 11 00:00:56,520 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: dive right in on the subject of the month, said 12 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:03,920 Speaker 1: Happy Pride. I am ready to come out to my parents. 13 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:08,960 Speaker 1: They're cool, but I'm still nervous. Can you hype me up, oh, 14 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:15,119 Speaker 1: dear one. Yes, here's what I think about that, no 15 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 1: matter where things fall on the scale for you in 16 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:22,960 Speaker 1: your own house, whether your parents are pretty cool or 17 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: very affirming of people queer people in the world, or 18 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: even if your parents might be whatever they are that 19 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:40,280 Speaker 1: might make you feel afraid, coming out is a big 20 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: deal because it forces you to integrate things you might 21 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 1: not realize you'd been carrying all your life. You know, 22 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:54,720 Speaker 1: you learn as a queer person who is not out. 23 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 1: I also would sidebar for a moment and say, people 24 00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 1: who experience domestic violence learnedness, people who have experienced sexual 25 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 1: violence and not talked about this learnedness. You learn to 26 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: reduce and perform. You withhold a part of yourself while 27 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: performing like a whole self. You keep something back for 28 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:25,640 Speaker 1: fear of that violence in the world, or if you 29 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 1: have very prejudiced parents, for some folks listening, you withhold 30 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 1: because you're afraid of that violence at home. It is 31 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:38,920 Speaker 1: a very intense thing, I think as a person to 32 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: come to terms with what you have withheld in order 33 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: to perform. You know, it was something I had to realize, 34 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 1: even for myself in as affirming a person as I've 35 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 1: always been as a ride or die supporter of my community, 36 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 1: that I've always been as someone who has been pretty 37 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: damn open playing characters across the spectrum, and knowing that 38 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 1: that mattered, that even my own desire to not have 39 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 1: every single relationship I was ever in, you know, chopped 40 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 1: up for parts out in the world, my desire for 41 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 1: some mode of privacy, even though I don't think I 42 00:03:27,280 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 1: thought for a moment I had a desire not to 43 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:35,680 Speaker 1: specifically share my identity. I felt like I'd been sharing 44 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: it on screen for twenty years. My desire for privacy 45 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 1: was in a way a protection against the violence, the 46 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:53,480 Speaker 1: violation of being used for clicks and tabloids and gossip, 47 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 1: and it was really a surprising thing to realize that 48 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 1: that in a way had also reduced me. And so 49 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: I share all of that only to say, in whatever 50 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 1: way you feel like it's all going to be okay, 51 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: there's still a part of you that's withholding, and there's 52 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:18,800 Speaker 1: still a part of you that's required to perform because 53 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: of that. And performing is exhausting, sweetheart. It's tiring. It 54 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:28,719 Speaker 1: takes more energy in the day than a human body 55 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: normally has. And so especially for you, be if you 56 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:37,280 Speaker 1: feel ready, and you do think your parents are going 57 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:41,000 Speaker 1: to be cool about it, I say, go for it. 58 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 1: Go for it, be your full self with your family 59 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 1: and the world, because the deep breath you will take 60 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: when you stop performing is going to give you something 61 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:56,600 Speaker 1: I would wager you didn't even know you were missing. 62 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:01,880 Speaker 1: So good luck to you, and I hope you were 63 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:07,719 Speaker 1: met with every ounce of being seen, so you really 64 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: know what it feels like to see yourself in the world. 65 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: Sammy takes a left turn and says, you're always on 66 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: the go. What are some of your travel rituals and 67 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:24,919 Speaker 1: packing hacks and jet lag cures? Girl? This is something 68 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 1: I could talk about for days. I still keep a 69 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: running note in my phone about how to travel better, 70 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:36,039 Speaker 1: like Ooh, I might need this, Ooh, I might need that. 71 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:40,800 Speaker 1: I love to have things that are always in my 72 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 1: carry on bag. I've recently ordered a bunch of little 73 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 1: mesh zipper pouches, and one has safety pins, tidesticks, shout wipes, 74 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,239 Speaker 1: because sometimes when you're on the go and you spill something, 75 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:57,599 Speaker 1: you don't have time to get something, you know, dry 76 00:05:57,640 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: cleaned or laundered, and you got to figure it out yourself. 77 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:02,280 Speaker 1: I have another one of those that has all the 78 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: tech things I need. An Hdmi cable if I want 79 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 1: to plug my laptop and watch something on the TV 80 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: in the hotel. Two extra iPhone chargers. I always have 81 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: a charging brick. I keep an extra set of AirPods 82 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:19,720 Speaker 1: and an extra set of wired headphones in my bag 83 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:22,479 Speaker 1: at all times. And because I have a podcast, I 84 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: keep a set of wired headphones with the USBC and 85 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 1: a wired set of headphones that are old school style 86 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: that can plug into my laptop. I also, you know, 87 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:34,720 Speaker 1: for the podcasters out there, have an actual travel mic 88 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:38,440 Speaker 1: setup that is always in my suitcase because I once 89 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:41,919 Speaker 1: forgot it and it was so deeply stressful and terrible 90 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 1: that I will never let that happen again. I keep 91 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:49,720 Speaker 1: a toiletry set that is travel sized. Also in a 92 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:53,120 Speaker 1: mesh zipper pouch that's essentially the size of a zip 93 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:56,279 Speaker 1: block with all your you know, under three ounce things 94 00:06:56,279 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 1: in it that you need, one for hair, one for skin, 95 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 1: and don't laugh at me. I also keep another kind 96 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 1: of zipper pouch, but it's like a it's some sort 97 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:13,679 Speaker 1: of I guess a plastic material, which I know is terrible, 98 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: but here we are. I don't want to use single 99 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: use plastic. So it's like a white grid, almost like 100 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: a blown up mesh that has colored zippers on the top. 101 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:29,960 Speaker 1: And then in those I have full size hair products, 102 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 1: full sized skincare products. Because if I'm going anywhere longer 103 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: then a weekend where I'm only taking a carry on 104 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: bag and I'm checking luggage, then I bring full sized 105 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: toilet trees. I have most of my sort of toilet 106 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 1: trees and makeup in two drawers in my home, but 107 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 1: I keep the makeup I use the most in my 108 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: travel case. It has like a zip top that folds 109 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: down and then that goes just in the drawer, so 110 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: when I'm at home, I can use everything together. But 111 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 1: when I need to travel, I pull that out, the 112 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: zipit shut, throw it in the bag. I'm ready to go. Yeah, 113 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 1: those are sort of the hacks. I also, finally, in 114 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: the last couple of years, after twenty years of traveling 115 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: this much, invested in some hair tools with European plugs. 116 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 1: Because I shorted out two very nice curling irons, even 117 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:34,679 Speaker 1: though I bought the converters that said they were converter adapters, 118 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: and then they weren't, and then they cost me a 119 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:39,920 Speaker 1: lot more money than the converter did, so I gave 120 00:08:40,040 --> 00:08:45,079 Speaker 1: up on that. I now have a European plug curling iron, 121 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 1: straightening iron, and I finally bit the bullet. Here's a 122 00:08:49,200 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: pro tip going through customs so I could buy it 123 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 1: at the duty free in Europe. On my way home, 124 00:08:57,760 --> 00:09:02,240 Speaker 1: I bought Dice air wrap that has a European plug 125 00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 1: as well, so I got it at quite a nice discount. 126 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,120 Speaker 1: Things to the duty free, but that was still a 127 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 1: tough pill to swallow. It has made traveling for the 128 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:13,680 Speaker 1: last two years so much easier. So that's a big 129 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 1: hack if you're at a point where you can invest 130 00:09:16,559 --> 00:09:22,680 Speaker 1: in something like that and jet lag cures. I work 131 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:24,960 Speaker 1: really hard to try to get on a time zone 132 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:30,080 Speaker 1: as quickly as possible. So if I'm flying east over 133 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 1: an ocean overnight, I will take a unism. It's an 134 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 1: over the counter sleep bait. This is not an ad, 135 00:09:37,520 --> 00:09:39,720 Speaker 1: by the way. I just learned this from a nurse friend. 136 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 1: It's an over the counter sleep bait. It's the only 137 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: one pregnant women are allowed to take. And you know 138 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:46,960 Speaker 1: they spend no money on medical research for women. So 139 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 1: if we know pregnant women can take this with no 140 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 1: side effects, it's like gotta be And again, I don't 141 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 1: know this for a fact. I'm assuming it has to 142 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: probably be one of the safest things available on the market. 143 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:03,960 Speaker 1: And so I'll get on a flight that's, you know, 144 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 1: at four pm landing wherever I'm going to work, London 145 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:12,000 Speaker 1: or somewhere at nine am, and I will just knock 146 00:10:12,080 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 1: myself out at four I will force myself to sleep. 147 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 1: I bring an imask, I bring ear plugs. I bring 148 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:21,959 Speaker 1: a blanket that is mine so that I feel very 149 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:25,640 Speaker 1: comfortable on the plane. I have a pillow that I 150 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 1: like get under my neck just so so it stops 151 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:32,560 Speaker 1: my head from falling over. And I force myself to 152 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:35,640 Speaker 1: sleep so that then at least I wake up in 153 00:10:35,679 --> 00:10:38,680 Speaker 1: the morning and I just I suffer through that first day. 154 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 1: I drink a lot of coffee. I stay awake until 155 00:10:41,400 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: at least nine or ten PM, and then I try 156 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 1: to be on the time zone, and then coming back 157 00:10:47,559 --> 00:10:50,719 Speaker 1: the jet lag cure, which is so hard, but if 158 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:54,120 Speaker 1: you can do it is necessary. You get on your flight. 159 00:10:54,160 --> 00:10:57,199 Speaker 1: I try to book an afternoon flight. I adjusted this 160 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 1: coming back from London for south by Southwest. I'm giving 161 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:03,040 Speaker 1: you that at you know, nine and a half hour 162 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:08,319 Speaker 1: flight or whatever it is. I got on a six 163 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 1: pm flight. I was very ready to go to sleep 164 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 1: by halfway through that flight, but I didn't let my stuff. 165 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 1: I kept my window shaped up because I was chasing 166 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:21,680 Speaker 1: the sun the whole time, so seeing sunlight really helped 167 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:25,320 Speaker 1: trick your brain. And I drank a coffee on the plane. 168 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:28,440 Speaker 1: I went through movies I really wanted to see so 169 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,800 Speaker 1: I would be interested, and I stayed awake until I 170 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:37,400 Speaker 1: landed at ten o'clock, got my bags, got home, absolutely 171 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 1: took another unis on to make sure I really slept 172 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 1: through the night. And I woke up the next morning 173 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:46,840 Speaker 1: at six forty five, wasn't quite ready to get up, 174 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:49,719 Speaker 1: laid in bed for another hour, not sure if I 175 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: fell back asleep, and then I got up. And I 176 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:53,960 Speaker 1: haven't had a hard time, and I've been home now 177 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:57,680 Speaker 1: for almost a week, so I think I crushed it. 178 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:02,080 Speaker 1: The flight was tough. I had to give myself a 179 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:06,000 Speaker 1: couple little smacks in the face along the way, but 180 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 1: I did it, and I believe in you. You can 181 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:12,479 Speaker 1: do it too. And now a word from our sponsors 182 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:14,600 Speaker 1: that I really enjoy and I think you will too. 183 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:19,320 Speaker 1: This segment is brought to you by our friends at 184 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:24,440 Speaker 1: Miracle Girl. Some of my earliest childhood memories are in 185 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:31,600 Speaker 1: the garden, helping my parents trim flowers, plant tomatoes, just 186 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:34,559 Speaker 1: be out there playing in the dirt. We would roll 187 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:39,480 Speaker 1: up our sleeves and spend afternoons in the springtime planting 188 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 1: together and making discoveries side by side. For me, a 189 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:47,199 Speaker 1: garden is more than just a patch of dirt. It's 190 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:49,760 Speaker 1: a place for connection, It's a way to bring people 191 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 1: together to slow down and spend some time in nature. 192 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: And I really love when I get to do that 193 00:12:56,640 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 1: with people. Whether that's taking friends down into the garden 194 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:04,439 Speaker 1: to pick some tomatoes and basil for a salad we're 195 00:13:04,480 --> 00:13:07,200 Speaker 1: going to make, or having them suit up in a 196 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:09,599 Speaker 1: full head to toe bee suit and learn how to 197 00:13:09,720 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 1: check on the bees that I keep. It's a really 198 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:17,240 Speaker 1: special experience. Not everybody joins me in the garden, but 199 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:20,800 Speaker 1: everyone who comes over for a dinner party certainly gets 200 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:23,800 Speaker 1: a piece of it. And I really love that. Whether 201 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:27,320 Speaker 1: friends are planting or weeding, or just hanging out and 202 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 1: talking or showing up for dinner, the busy week just 203 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:35,080 Speaker 1: kind of melts away while we catch up, we get 204 00:13:35,080 --> 00:13:37,440 Speaker 1: our hands dirty, and then we make a meal together. 205 00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 1: And the best part, so many of my friends that 206 00:13:40,640 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 1: come over have gotten inspired to start gardens of their own. 207 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:46,600 Speaker 1: I get them set up with all the right stuff. 208 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 1: I give them the tips and tricks I've learned and 209 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 1: tell them what bumps in the road to avoid. And 210 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 1: I love making people a little kit, a little honey 211 00:13:54,679 --> 00:13:57,440 Speaker 1: from my garden. I get them a starter bag of 212 00:13:57,520 --> 00:14:01,400 Speaker 1: Miracle Grow organic outdoor potting mix because it is absolutely 213 00:14:01,440 --> 00:14:04,240 Speaker 1: the best for beginners. I make sure to set them 214 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 1: up to win. Miracle Grow Organic outdoor potting mix, beads 215 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 1: and nurtures your plants to help them stay healthy and 216 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:15,600 Speaker 1: takes a lot of the guests workout, which is so 217 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 1: great when you're starting your gardening journey. And frankly, I'm 218 00:14:18,920 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 1: well into mine and I still use it all the 219 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:24,000 Speaker 1: time because hello, I like to have the help and 220 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 1: I like succeeding, and I know other people do too. 221 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: It's so fun to watch my friends get into it. 222 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 1: I actually think my favorite part is that after a 223 00:14:32,680 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 1: few weeks, I'll get a text message with photos of 224 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:38,000 Speaker 1: their plants or their herbs, and then you know, within 225 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 1: a couple of months we're comparing whose cherry tomatoes are 226 00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:43,920 Speaker 1: doing the best. I never want to have that competition 227 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 1: with Martha Stewart, but for the rest of us, it's fun. 228 00:14:46,560 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 1: You get my drift, it's really beautiful. Planting with friends 229 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 1: can turn into a ritual that brings everyone closer together. 230 00:14:55,440 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 1: I think food is a love language. I think a 231 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:02,120 Speaker 1: garden is a love language between friends and certainly with 232 00:15:02,160 --> 00:15:06,720 Speaker 1: the planet. And I think when you teach someone to garden, Oh, 233 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 1: what is sweeter than that. If you want to get 234 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 1: started on your own garden, or maybe inspire someone you 235 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:16,040 Speaker 1: love to get started on theirs, head to miraclegrow dot 236 00:15:16,080 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: com to check out all of their easy to use 237 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:25,800 Speaker 1: products and start your growth journey today. Bella, Oh, this 238 00:15:25,880 --> 00:15:28,520 Speaker 1: is a good question. Besides your therapist. I love that 239 00:15:28,600 --> 00:15:30,440 Speaker 1: you ask that, because you all know how much I 240 00:15:30,480 --> 00:15:33,760 Speaker 1: love my therapist. He's a good did Besides your therapist, 241 00:15:33,800 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 1: Who in your life gives you the best advice? Oh, 242 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:40,920 Speaker 1: my goodness, I have a handful of friends who give 243 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:45,360 Speaker 1: incredible advice. Obviously, Nia, who's my best friend, is the 244 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:50,200 Speaker 1: kind of person who just sees me, and she meets 245 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:54,200 Speaker 1: me and everyone in her life with a judgment free 246 00:15:55,120 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 1: openness and really thoughtful questions, just such a level of real, 247 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 1: genuine support that I think she makes everybody feel safe 248 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:12,840 Speaker 1: and cared for. She's an incredible advice giver. We joke though, 249 00:16:13,200 --> 00:16:20,520 Speaker 1: that we are both so incredibly adept at political engagement 250 00:16:21,360 --> 00:16:25,960 Speaker 1: and civic work and fiscal work, and you know, our 251 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:29,359 Speaker 1: entertainment work, all the things we do, and that sometimes 252 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:34,560 Speaker 1: the simpler sort of personal stuff is harder, and it's 253 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 1: nice to have someone who has the same thing in 254 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 1: common with you that's also hard for you to figure out. 255 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:44,480 Speaker 1: I can solve a systemic problem much more quickly than 256 00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:47,960 Speaker 1: I can solve a close to me personal one, so 257 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:50,160 Speaker 1: we can really bounce ideas off each other that way. 258 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:53,160 Speaker 1: My friend Lauren is one of the best advice givers 259 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:56,200 Speaker 1: I know. She's been living abroad for a year, so 260 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 1: I don't get to talk to her as much, and 261 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: I like feel the way my soul and this is 262 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:05,359 Speaker 1: her advice. I can't wait for her to come home. Likewise, 263 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:08,960 Speaker 1: my friends Sam and Sammy, who are two different people. 264 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:14,240 Speaker 1: Sometimes people get confused unbelievable advice givers. My friend Rory. 265 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:17,880 Speaker 1: If you haven't read her book or listened to our 266 00:17:17,960 --> 00:17:21,880 Speaker 1: podcast episode, Rory Uphold was on the pod to talk 267 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:24,480 Speaker 1: about her first book, The Horrors of Dating, a Final 268 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 1: Girl's Guide to Getting through Relationships. You guys, it's so 269 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 1: good and Rory's the kind of friend you want to 270 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:36,240 Speaker 1: call when you want really exacting advice that also reminds 271 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 1: you who the fuck you are. So I've got a 272 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:43,439 Speaker 1: really good list of humans who do that with me, 273 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:47,000 Speaker 1: and I'm very very grateful. Skyler, who would you like 274 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:50,399 Speaker 1: to see run for president in twenty twenty eight. Anyone 275 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:57,560 Speaker 1: who's not a fascist, anyone with actual expertise in democracy, 276 00:17:57,880 --> 00:18:03,920 Speaker 1: public health, know the way actual systems of government work. 277 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:08,359 Speaker 1: I mean, guys seeing everything explode, from the measles to 278 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:12,040 Speaker 1: the screw worm coming back to infect American beef herds, 279 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:15,719 Speaker 1: which by the way, we've eradicated since the nineteen sixties 280 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:22,080 Speaker 1: by assisting south of our own border with these It's complicated, 281 00:18:22,119 --> 00:18:24,600 Speaker 1: but readap on it. We basically we drop these flies 282 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:30,439 Speaker 1: that then eradicate the bug population that spreads upwards and 283 00:18:30,520 --> 00:18:33,600 Speaker 1: causes the screw worm investations. I know it's going to 284 00:18:33,680 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 1: sound crazy. It's like, oh, we spent forty million dollars 285 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,600 Speaker 1: a year on that. When you have a multi billion dollar, 286 00:18:38,760 --> 00:18:42,919 Speaker 1: multi trillion dollar budget, that's not a lot of money. 287 00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:47,399 Speaker 1: When you protect the food sources of three hundred and 288 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 1: thirty two million citizens in America and then all of 289 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:53,560 Speaker 1: the other people who you know, live in our country 290 00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:56,160 Speaker 1: on visas and green cards and all of the other things, 291 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:59,399 Speaker 1: and the people, by the way, who are our neighbors 292 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:03,480 Speaker 1: just across the border, Like that is not even a 293 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 1: drop in the bucket When you're talking about that sort 294 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 1: of money, at that scale, and they called it waste 295 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:13,000 Speaker 1: f audtive use, and they got rid of it, and 296 00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:14,800 Speaker 1: now we're like literally at risk of not being able 297 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:18,440 Speaker 1: to feed people. It's just those are two examples where 298 00:19:18,480 --> 00:19:22,240 Speaker 1: I just cannot fathom what we're doing. And I think 299 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 1: about the harm done by incompetent administrations. I think about 300 00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:33,520 Speaker 1: the harm done that we are seeing in our economy 301 00:19:33,520 --> 00:19:36,399 Speaker 1: and our gas prices, and entering into another war nobody 302 00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:37,919 Speaker 1: wanted to be. And I mean, the list goes on 303 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:41,119 Speaker 1: and on and on. The reduction of rights for everyone 304 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:44,000 Speaker 1: who doesn't look like the president, for women who are 305 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:47,199 Speaker 1: dying at record rates since the overturning of dobs, for 306 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:51,600 Speaker 1: people of color in our country who are losing their 307 00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 1: constitutional rights to have their voices heard. And by the way, 308 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:58,600 Speaker 1: it's against American law to have taxation without representation. Don't 309 00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:00,480 Speaker 1: even get me started on the people who live in 310 00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:04,840 Speaker 1: the District of Washington, d C. District of Columbia. To 311 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:10,000 Speaker 1: be clear, the amount of work we're gonna have to 312 00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:14,560 Speaker 1: do just to fix the fuck ups if we even can. 313 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:18,800 Speaker 1: The science we've lost, the cancer research that stopped the 314 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:23,440 Speaker 1: scientists who have left the country. You guys who are 315 00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:26,159 Speaker 1: now setting up lives and labs in other places. We 316 00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:32,280 Speaker 1: are losing the wind and energy projects that have been 317 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: canceled that are going elsewhere. We've lost the future of 318 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:41,800 Speaker 1: the energy race to China already. These are things that 319 00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 1: will take so long to fix. They will take so 320 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:51,159 Speaker 1: much more money to fix, so much time, so much effort. 321 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 1: And what frustrates me, and what I want you to 322 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:57,840 Speaker 1: talk to the people in your lives about, is we 323 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:02,200 Speaker 1: could have spent the last decade that we have been 324 00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:06,879 Speaker 1: dealing with this man in office twice. We could have 325 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 1: spent the last ten years building by leaps and bounds. 326 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:15,320 Speaker 1: We could have cured certain cancers. We could have become 327 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:18,040 Speaker 1: the global green energy leader of the world. We could 328 00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:22,880 Speaker 1: have taken American citizens who have worked in energy production 329 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:26,960 Speaker 1: that has hurt them and their families, caused cancer, caused injury, 330 00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:30,240 Speaker 1: caused death in some instances. We could have given all 331 00:21:30,320 --> 00:21:34,160 Speaker 1: of those people the best clean energy jobs that would 332 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,679 Speaker 1: pay them more, give them benefits, create health care for 333 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:45,800 Speaker 1: their families. We could have continued to change everything here 334 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:51,560 Speaker 1: and abroad. We could have stopped this abola outbreak. We 335 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:55,520 Speaker 1: could have taken the magic we all felt watching Artemis 336 00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:58,000 Speaker 1: two go to the Dark Side of the Moon and 337 00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:01,160 Speaker 1: doubled it tenfold instead of NASA to one of its 338 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:06,879 Speaker 1: lowest budgets. I believe ever, we're gonna have to spend 339 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 1: all this time and money fixing instead of building, and 340 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,960 Speaker 1: that pisses me off. That's the waste, fraud and abuse. 341 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:18,840 Speaker 1: And so when we think about the run for twenty 342 00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:25,480 Speaker 1: twenty eight, I'm open. Is it Pete buddhacheg is it 343 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,320 Speaker 1: Gavin Newsom? Let me tell you something as a person 344 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:30,159 Speaker 1: who was born and raised and lived in California for 345 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:34,359 Speaker 1: a long time, Yes, is Kamala Harris coming back to run? 346 00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:36,400 Speaker 1: Let me tell you something else, as a person who 347 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:40,120 Speaker 1: worked alongside her and her administration for a very long time, 348 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:43,040 Speaker 1: both in the White House and in California as well, 349 00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 1: seeing what she has doggedly done for people, does she 350 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:50,200 Speaker 1: want to come back? Yes, I'm in any of them. 351 00:22:51,040 --> 00:23:01,639 Speaker 1: But we cannot risk turning our political system into reality TV, 352 00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,480 Speaker 1: into wanting to watch the drama on Love Island or 353 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:11,240 Speaker 1: Summer House from the Oval Office. Like enough, we have 354 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:16,680 Speaker 1: to we have to get a little sane again where 355 00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:20,560 Speaker 1: it comes to how we build a nation. And I 356 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 1: think we need to understand that so many of these 357 00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:30,159 Speaker 1: systems that we never saw or perhaps paid attention to 358 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:36,480 Speaker 1: in real time, they matter. Each of those things is 359 00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:41,920 Speaker 1: a piece of the net that literally held up society, 360 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,920 Speaker 1: and I would argue the world and while I think 361 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:48,399 Speaker 1: we have a lot to add to that net and 362 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:53,520 Speaker 1: a lot to build to be better, ripping the whole 363 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:57,120 Speaker 1: thing apart because nobody bothered paying attention how it worked 364 00:23:57,160 --> 00:24:02,600 Speaker 1: in the first place is not working. So that's what 365 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:06,320 Speaker 1: I think about that. And if you are thinking about 366 00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:09,320 Speaker 1: the midterms, if you're thinking about twenty twenty eight, please 367 00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 1: sign up to volunteer for an organization that works for good. 368 00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:15,439 Speaker 1: Whether it's the Human Rights Campaign. I'm in one of 369 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:22,280 Speaker 1: my favorite HRC sweatshirts right now. Democracy Now. If you 370 00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:24,240 Speaker 1: want to get involved with us, and I am a voter. 371 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:27,399 Speaker 1: If you want to work on a specific campaign, sign 372 00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:33,680 Speaker 1: up with Stacy Abrams. I mean, anyone, please show up. 373 00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:37,879 Speaker 1: We were going to need all hands on deck. And 374 00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 1: now for our sponsors. Ooh, this is a good question 375 00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:52,720 Speaker 1: from Linda. Are there any stories in your upcoming memoir 376 00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: that you are anxious about sharing? Yeah, all of them. 377 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:05,320 Speaker 1: You know. Working on my first book has been such 378 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:09,520 Speaker 1: a labor of love, you know, for anyone who's busy 379 00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:15,840 Speaker 1: and hasn't seen the news announcement or the posts about it. 380 00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:22,000 Speaker 1: I'm working on my first book, my memoir in parts 381 00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:26,439 Speaker 1: titled I Will Tell You Mine, is coming out this 382 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:29,960 Speaker 1: fall and I'm so excited about it. I also need 383 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:32,159 Speaker 1: to give a shout out book agent Kate Hoyit, who 384 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:35,920 Speaker 1: has literally been chasing me for nine years trying to 385 00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:39,480 Speaker 1: get me to write this book. Kate started sending me 386 00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:44,119 Speaker 1: email compilations of the essays you all know I like 387 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:48,119 Speaker 1: to write on Instagram and saying, hey, Hi, you're writing 388 00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:51,399 Speaker 1: short form essays on social media. You're a writer. You 389 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:53,639 Speaker 1: need to write a book. And I was like, you're sweet, 390 00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:55,720 Speaker 1: I don't have time for that. And we went back 391 00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:59,560 Speaker 1: and forth for nearly a decade, and I think, I know, 392 00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:03,160 Speaker 1: there was finally a point when I had realized I'd 393 00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 1: started to write reflections like that nearly every day in 394 00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:15,359 Speaker 1: my own private journals for about eighteen months where I went, oh, 395 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,480 Speaker 1: I think I'm starting, you know, I think I'm actually 396 00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:22,800 Speaker 1: starting to write a book. And here we are, and 397 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 1: it's still very scary, you know, it's it's terrifying to 398 00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:35,359 Speaker 1: share about things that shaped you that might hurt other 399 00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:39,840 Speaker 1: people in the sharing, even though you've done the work 400 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:45,240 Speaker 1: in those groups or those family structures to process those things, 401 00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:51,920 Speaker 1: and everyone loves each other and everything's okay. You can't 402 00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,040 Speaker 1: talk about how you got somewhere without talking about what 403 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:59,040 Speaker 1: shaped you, which is good and bad. And I think 404 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:03,840 Speaker 1: my greatest year is to ever make anyone feel embarrassed 405 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:08,000 Speaker 1: now about things I used to feel embarrassed about or 406 00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:11,800 Speaker 1: carry shame about before I did the work to unpack that. 407 00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:17,800 Speaker 1: I think also, guys, it's twenty twenty six, like everyone's 408 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:22,320 Speaker 1: just mean about everything. The Internet thinks everything is cringe. 409 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:26,920 Speaker 1: I'm scared to share about things that I find beautiful 410 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:30,040 Speaker 1: and be made fun of for it, you know. I'm 411 00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:35,800 Speaker 1: scared to share about my AHA moments and the slow 412 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:40,920 Speaker 1: revelations I'm still experiencing and have people be cruel or 413 00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:43,880 Speaker 1: say like, can't believe a fucking took you this long 414 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 1: to figure it out or whatever. I mean. I don't 415 00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:52,440 Speaker 1: feel like I can move outside of the space of 416 00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:59,760 Speaker 1: my home without seeing such vitriol, and I have to 417 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:02,480 Speaker 1: do a lot of work to remind myself that there's 418 00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:07,480 Speaker 1: also so much kindness. But the world gets off on 419 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:13,679 Speaker 1: the cruelty now, and it's a scary time to choose 420 00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:22,080 Speaker 1: to share. You know, it's tough because maybe if I'd 421 00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:27,440 Speaker 1: written you my book in twenty fifteen, it would feel different. 422 00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:31,720 Speaker 1: But I don't think I was a fully formed version 423 00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:38,360 Speaker 1: of myself yet. So it is the greatest kind of 424 00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:44,240 Speaker 1: whiplash I've ever experienced working on this book, from pride 425 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:53,560 Speaker 1: and tenderness to like terror. Everybody here we are and 426 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:57,360 Speaker 1: it's goven Oh, I love this question, f he asks. 427 00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 1: Ashland's documentary looks amazing. What's something you learned about her 428 00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:07,920 Speaker 1: from it? So much? You know, it's really beautiful. It 429 00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:12,000 Speaker 1: was really beautiful to watch her. A little backstory. You know, 430 00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:16,600 Speaker 1: she's been producing a lot of amazing sports content, amazing 431 00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:21,480 Speaker 1: sports stories. You know, she eped, pitched, and then ep'ed 432 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:26,520 Speaker 1: a whole sports documentary series that was produced by Hollow Sunshine. 433 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:29,040 Speaker 1: It was on Peacock. I hope you guys watched it. 434 00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:32,600 Speaker 1: The Rise. It's so incredible. I learned so much about 435 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,640 Speaker 1: all those athletes and all those sports in every one 436 00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:40,680 Speaker 1: of those episodes, and then her next idea was to 437 00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:47,120 Speaker 1: do more in depth, you know, single athlete documentary every 438 00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:56,800 Speaker 1: episode series mini series with Roku, you know, in separate verticals. 439 00:29:56,840 --> 00:30:00,240 Speaker 1: She was looking at their documentary space, their unscripted space, 440 00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:03,680 Speaker 1: and I was looking at their future film space, and frankly, 441 00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:08,120 Speaker 1: knowing what was coming, you know, after the twenty twenty 442 00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 1: four election, knowing that everything the expert economists said was true, 443 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,360 Speaker 1: we knew the economy was going to get really hard 444 00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:18,080 Speaker 1: for people. We kept joking. I mean, not that it 445 00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:19,720 Speaker 1: was funny, but being like gas is about to get 446 00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:21,520 Speaker 1: so expensive, people aren't going to be able to afford 447 00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:23,960 Speaker 1: to go to the movies. It was really important for 448 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:27,280 Speaker 1: both of us to put our producing hats on and 449 00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:31,880 Speaker 1: make content that was accessible for families for free. And 450 00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:35,720 Speaker 1: so I was off making Broad Trip, my film with 451 00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:39,800 Speaker 1: Lauren Holly that came out in May on Roku while 452 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:43,320 Speaker 1: she was pitching this, and then this got picked up 453 00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:47,040 Speaker 1: by Roku for unscripted. So I like, get a FaceTime 454 00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:49,680 Speaker 1: and the executives on my movie or talking to her executives, 455 00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:53,120 Speaker 1: and I'm like, this is crazy anyway, very sweet, felt 456 00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:58,040 Speaker 1: very kismet, and it was really cool to then hear 457 00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,960 Speaker 1: because I'm I'm really an easdropper, but if I'm in 458 00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:03,560 Speaker 1: the room, I'm going to listen to the zoom you're 459 00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:08,239 Speaker 1: on obviously, and to hear them say, you know, with 460 00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:13,600 Speaker 1: everything you shared with us across our pitch meetings, We've 461 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,840 Speaker 1: had our internal conversations, we want the first story to 462 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:20,040 Speaker 1: be your story. And she was kind of like what, 463 00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:26,160 Speaker 1: so I knew so many parts of her story, but 464 00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:32,040 Speaker 1: there's something about such an amazing documentary crew, such an 465 00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:40,360 Speaker 1: incredible director, you know, going home and gathering all the research, 466 00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:43,640 Speaker 1: all the photos, you know, hearing Ants and Dornce talk 467 00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:48,280 Speaker 1: about her, hearing about what it's like to you know, 468 00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:52,240 Speaker 1: be chosen to be the backup for the best goalkeeper ever. 469 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 1: So like, okay, you're the second best goalkeeper ever. Like what. 470 00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:05,240 Speaker 1: It's such a crazy place to be in and to 471 00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:10,640 Speaker 1: watch someone sit with what it is to have a 472 00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:17,720 Speaker 1: lifelong passion, to have that passion dinged by injury, and 473 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:21,760 Speaker 1: to have this whole, very public athletic life with this 474 00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:26,880 Speaker 1: whole thing happening underneath that nobody knew about. I knew 475 00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,840 Speaker 1: those stories, but to see them tied together the way 476 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:33,200 Speaker 1: they were. While I've been working on the same process 477 00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:38,000 Speaker 1: for myself with my book, to see how sometimes what 478 00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:42,920 Speaker 1: you go through that home, what you learn by osmosis 479 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,880 Speaker 1: as a child. The way it follows you and affects 480 00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:49,600 Speaker 1: you for so long in your life mirrors into your 481 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:57,560 Speaker 1: own everything. It's really profound, and it's been really beautiful too, 482 00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:04,800 Speaker 1: to feel like through this project for her and this 483 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:09,440 Speaker 1: project I'm working on for me, we're connecting even more dots. 484 00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:11,560 Speaker 1: I think it's a way to see and love a 485 00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:14,760 Speaker 1: person even more deeply. And I'm really grateful that I've 486 00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:21,280 Speaker 1: been with her through this process because I love her 487 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:25,959 Speaker 1: more and I think her being with me through my 488 00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:30,360 Speaker 1: process is helping me, you know, learn to love myself 489 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:36,080 Speaker 1: more as well, which is beautiful. Oh Maya has a 490 00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:39,520 Speaker 1: really good question. Oh my goodness, would you ever do 491 00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:41,320 Speaker 1: a one woman show like Cynthia or Reeve I just 492 00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:43,240 Speaker 1: did in London? Okay, so you saw me post about 493 00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:50,240 Speaker 1: Cynthia and Dracula. I have never in my life seen 494 00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:58,960 Speaker 1: such a thing. I would love to work with Kip Williams. 495 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:05,560 Speaker 1: I would love to do something like that. And I 496 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:07,880 Speaker 1: don't think I could do that for sixteen weeks like 497 00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:11,799 Speaker 1: she did. I don't. Maybe I could, you know, maybe 498 00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:16,760 Speaker 1: if I really went underground for long enough to store 499 00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:20,920 Speaker 1: up the energy to do it and then did the 500 00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:25,080 Speaker 1: same afterwards. Part of me is like, I think I 501 00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:28,560 Speaker 1: think I could do like eight weeks of that after 502 00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:30,279 Speaker 1: all the weeks of rehearsal. I don't know if I 503 00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:33,400 Speaker 1: could do sixteen weeks. I don't know. Maybe I have 504 00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:36,759 Speaker 1: to try. But oh, my goodness, what a feat. I mean, 505 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:50,760 Speaker 1: just what an incredible feat of artistry. Unreal. Okay, sorry, 506 00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:54,279 Speaker 1: I love the last one. It's so good. Alex. Have 507 00:34:54,360 --> 00:35:01,040 Speaker 1: you ever been mistaken for another celebrity? Here's what's funny. No, 508 00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:06,920 Speaker 1: And I've come to learn apparently it's because of my voice. 509 00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:11,520 Speaker 1: Because even if someone sees me and has a moment 510 00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:16,320 Speaker 1: where they're trying to figure out why I'm familiar, once 511 00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:21,319 Speaker 1: I reply, they know and they say it's it's my 512 00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:25,919 Speaker 1: voice that makes the final aha click. I even had 513 00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:29,879 Speaker 1: that experience during COVID when we were all masking, people 514 00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:31,799 Speaker 1: would hear my voice and know it was me behind 515 00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:36,160 Speaker 1: the mask. So I don't know, guys, I don't think 516 00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:39,200 Speaker 1: I'm I don't think I'm gonna get away with it. 517 00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:44,400 Speaker 1: Thanks for joining today. This has just been so much fun. 518 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,680 Speaker 1: Your questions are wonderful. Keep sending them in. We'll try 519 00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:50,280 Speaker 1: to we'll try to get to these a little more often. 520 00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:52,640 Speaker 1: I really enjoy this time with you all. Have a 521 00:35:52,680 --> 00:36:09,600 Speaker 1: great week, Fam and happy Pride.