1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 1: All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:07,520 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. 3 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:10,920 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your 5 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:17,800 Speaker 1: letter on the air live, just like we're gonna read 6 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. It could be yours. 7 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:22,959 Speaker 1: You never know, it could be Buckle up and hold 8 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:25,040 Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is 9 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter, all right, thinking of you. Subject he's 10 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: never been with a woman. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a 11 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:35,519 Speaker 1: thirty one year old woman and I've been divorced for 12 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: five years. I hate dating, but I do want to 13 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: be settled in a relationship soon. I've met some really 14 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: weird men, and I've started to weed them out by 15 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:49,320 Speaker 1: who has the least amount of issues. The last guy 16 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: I met online is thirty one years old and he 17 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: lives with his parents. He's employed, but says he's looking 18 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 1: for a better job. He said he had a weight 19 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 1: He had weight loss jury a few years ago and 20 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:04,679 Speaker 1: had some complications, so he moved in with his parents 21 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:10,319 Speaker 1: for his recovery. We have decent conversations, and he's a 22 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 1: god fearing man that's active in church. The only problem 23 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: is that he's never had sex with a woman, and 24 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 1: that's a red flag for me. He said the last 25 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:22,959 Speaker 1: time he had sex, he was a teenager and he 26 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 1: had a long term girlfriend that broke his heart when 27 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: he was eighteen, and it turned him off totally towards sex. 28 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 1: So I've wondered if he's had sex with himself since 29 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 1: then or if he just has been abstaining. I would 30 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:38,920 Speaker 1: love to know how much weight he lost, but I 31 00:01:38,959 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: don't want to offend him by asking. He asked me 32 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 1: for nude pics and I've sent him my breast but 33 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 1: nothing else. I don't want pictures of him, but I 34 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: am very curious to see what he's working with. He 35 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 1: wants to have a sexy getaway at my house and 36 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: wants to cook, give me a massage, and shampoo my 37 00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 1: hair for me. He said we thought about He said 38 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: he thought about going to cosmatology school as a way 39 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 1: to earn extra money. That sounds suspicious to me, but 40 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:12,359 Speaker 1: I'd never knock anybody's side hustle. I can't tell if 41 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 1: he's just a sheltered man that's really ready for sex, 42 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 1: or if he wants to come over so we can 43 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:20,919 Speaker 1: do facials and manicures and pedicures all weekend. He seems 44 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:24,239 Speaker 1: really fragile, so I should take it slowly. So should 45 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 1: I take it slowly with him? Or ask him point 46 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: blank what's up with him? Well, you need to ask 47 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:32,399 Speaker 1: him point blank if these are the things you want 48 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 1: to know, because quite frankly, this sounds like a catfish 49 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:38,280 Speaker 1: just waiting to happen to me. I mean, he tells 50 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: you some things, but he doesn't tell you enough, and 51 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 1: you don't ask the right questions to find out more 52 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:48,119 Speaker 1: about this guy. They're just too many unanswered questions here. 53 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 1: And on top of all that, you're afraid to ask 54 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: him what you want to know because you said you 55 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:56,919 Speaker 1: might offend him, but he didn't think about offending you, 56 00:02:57,000 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: asking you for nude pictures and all of this. You'll 57 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 1: never get anywhere that way. And please don't let him 58 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: come over to your house. I can see that you're 59 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 1: thinking about this. You're considering a visit from him. You 60 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:13,960 Speaker 1: don't know anything about this man. How do you know 61 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:17,079 Speaker 1: he's telling the truth about any of this stuff, about 62 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:20,040 Speaker 1: living with his parents, about his weight, loss surgery about 63 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 1: any of it. You said he's never had sex with 64 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,640 Speaker 1: a woman, but then you say the last time he 65 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 1: had sex was when he was eighteen. That's confusing. So 66 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 1: has he had sex or not? He did have it, 67 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 1: you said it in the letter, It's just been a 68 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 1: long time, like you know, thirteen years ago. This whole 69 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 1: letter size, yeah, thirteen years ago, taken off thirteen This 70 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 1: letter just sounds a little strange and were very strange 71 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 1: and just unbelievable, this whole story of his And if 72 00:03:52,120 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: it were me in your shoes, I would pass on 73 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 1: this guy, and I think you should too. And why 74 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: are you sending a man you know nothing about breast pictures? 75 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: Why you say you don't want pictures of him? But 76 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 1: why not? Don't you want to know what he looks 77 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 1: like and how much weight he lost and all that? 78 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: These are your These were your questions in the letter. 79 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 1: I think you're right to be suspicious, and you'd be 80 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: very smart to let this one go. Way too many 81 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: red flags with this dude, Steve Right, can't fish? Come on? 82 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:31,040 Speaker 1: Bring it here we go? She thirty one, divorced five years, 83 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:35,479 Speaker 1: hate Dayton, but she want to be in relationship. They 84 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: met some weird fellas. She started weeding him out, but 85 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:43,200 Speaker 1: who had by who has the least amount of issues? 86 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: So now, after all the weed now here where she does? 87 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 1: Seven The last guy met online is thirty one years 88 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:56,600 Speaker 1: old and he lived with his pants who it's thirty 89 00:04:56,640 --> 00:05:01,839 Speaker 1: one and live with their mama and they daddy. You 90 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 1: can't say I'm trying to help my mama out. She 91 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:08,720 Speaker 1: fell on hard times. You stay at home with your 92 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 1: mama and your daddy and you thirty one red flag, 93 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 1: that's black flag. As a matter of fact, that's roach spray. 94 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: He's employed, but he says he's looking for a better job. 95 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 1: Then he told you he had weight loss surgery a 96 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:36,679 Speaker 1: few years ago and had some complications, so he moved 97 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 1: in with his parents for his recovery. He ain't moved in, 98 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: he'd been there a whole time. How much did it, 99 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:51,480 Speaker 1: big ass lose? See, when you have weight loss surgery 100 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:54,840 Speaker 1: and then you have complications, you didn't threw your body 101 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 1: into sung. You didn't drop so much damn weight you 102 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: call it can't walk? You just start flying and falling. 103 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:08,679 Speaker 1: What has his big ass done with this weight loss 104 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 1: surgery that then had him to have to move back 105 00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: in with his mom and daddy and he's still there. 106 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. We got to get We got to find 107 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 1: out what's going on. How much has his big ass lost? 108 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 1: Why he asked for pitching neck and pictures exactly? So 109 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: I need a picture too. Oh, I got t hang on. 110 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:39,880 Speaker 1: We'll have heart. We'll have part two of your response 111 00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:42,719 Speaker 1: coming up. Strawberry letter for today, he's never been with 112 00:06:42,760 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 1: a woman. We'll be back in twenty three minutes after 113 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening Stry Morning Show. All right, 114 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:53,120 Speaker 1: come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject 115 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:57,599 Speaker 1: he's never been with a woman. Thirty one year old woman, 116 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: been divorced five years, wanted to meet somebody. She didn't 117 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 1: let him. Met a lot of men with issues, so 118 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: she didn't just want to deal with the least amount 119 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,719 Speaker 1: of issues, so she didn't sent a right here. This 120 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: was she decided to deal with a thirty one year 121 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: old man that stay at the house with his mom 122 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: and daddy. I'll be damned. Then she said, he's employed, 123 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 1: but he looking for a better job. He had weight 124 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: loss surgery a few years ago and had some complications, 125 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 1: so he moved in with his parents for his recovery 126 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: a few years ago. How much a recovery he needs? 127 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 1: Much fat is offer his ass? Did they take too 128 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: much fat? Did they take did they take something they 129 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 1: wasn't post to? Did they remove his glue muscles and 130 00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:59,200 Speaker 1: he can't walk? What wise he's still down? Yeah, not glue. 131 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 1: You need to find this out. We have decent conversations. Uh, 132 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 1: we have decent conversation. He's a god fearing man that's 133 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 1: active in church. Everybody active at church. The only problem 134 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 1: is he's never had sex with a woman? Well who 135 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: he is? Who? Who? You say he's never had sex 136 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 1: with a woman? Well? Who? Who? Who head has sex with? 137 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:37,719 Speaker 1: Because he'd had had sex with some body. But in 138 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:40,680 Speaker 1: your letter it scares me because you said he's never 139 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,679 Speaker 1: had sex with a woman. That's that's all he told you. 140 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 1: He didn't say nothing else. I've never had sex with 141 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:51,079 Speaker 1: a woman. Okay, Well I need to know what we 142 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 1: who have he had sex? Because see, we need to 143 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:56,040 Speaker 1: get all this out. And she said, that's a red 144 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: flag for me. He said the last time he had 145 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:01,720 Speaker 1: sex he was a teenager and he had a long 146 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: term girlfriend that broke his heart when he was eighteen 147 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 1: and It turned him off totally towards sex. What What 148 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: do you know how many times I've had my heart 149 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 1: broke it? Never? It never crossed my mind not to 150 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:26,839 Speaker 1: want sex nor Yeah, it's never been a day, never 151 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:30,959 Speaker 1: of my life that I would not take sex. What 152 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 1: are you talking about? It turned him totally? It gets sex. 153 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:41,360 Speaker 1: What this boy got mental issues? He got mental problems 154 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:45,679 Speaker 1: you need to get you need to run. He was eighteen. 155 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:49,080 Speaker 1: It turned him off totally towards sex. What boy you 156 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 1: got turned off totally by sex by eighteen? Now, I 157 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:54,720 Speaker 1: ain't saying it can't happen, but not because a girl 158 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:57,240 Speaker 1: broke his heart. I've asked the girl that broke up 159 00:09:57,240 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 1: with just getting started. So I'm I wondered if he's 160 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: had sex with himself since then or he just has 161 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: been abstaining. What do you mean, has he had sex 162 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:11,600 Speaker 1: with himself? Didn't he ask you for some pictures? Didn't 163 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:19,440 Speaker 1: you send him pictures? He having sex with them? He 164 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 1: having sex with your breast. I'm telling you what you 165 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 1: think is fat ass sitting at the house doing He 166 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 1: didn't ask you. He can't come out, girl, stop stop, 167 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: and then I don't want any pictures of him. But 168 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:40,040 Speaker 1: I'm kidding. You better get some pictures. Ye find out 169 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 1: what Buffalo Jackson looked like overhire sitting up in the 170 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:44,679 Speaker 1: head did weight loss, So you need to find out 171 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:49,679 Speaker 1: if it worked. Yeah, if he had a reverse and 172 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:52,240 Speaker 1: he just back over the house just swelling, No, don't 173 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:55,120 Speaker 1: tell me I'm fat shaving. I'm talking about his big ass. 174 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:57,360 Speaker 1: We're talking about the man in the datta that. If 175 00:10:57,400 --> 00:11:00,040 Speaker 1: you ain't in this letter, I'm not talking to you. 176 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 1: You stop writing me these letters and then want me 177 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 1: not to say what the letter is about. The letter 178 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:11,600 Speaker 1: is about a man that says he's staying at the 179 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:14,559 Speaker 1: house with his mom and daddy because his ass had 180 00:11:14,600 --> 00:11:19,439 Speaker 1: some recovery sage or some weight loss and it didn't work. 181 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:22,120 Speaker 1: He didn't had the rubber band took back off, he 182 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:27,480 Speaker 1: had the house. He none that ninety right now, I'm trying. 183 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 1: He put the window out to get him, Bob, i'dn't 184 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:35,000 Speaker 1: watch my six hundred pound like. They got to go 185 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:37,400 Speaker 1: in there. Gotta take a whole wall out. Oh, I've 186 00:11:37,440 --> 00:11:39,600 Speaker 1: seen it. Yeah, they had a crane coming in over 187 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:42,160 Speaker 1: the top of the roof and bringing one man out 188 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:46,120 Speaker 1: of right on the platform. We were You need to 189 00:11:46,120 --> 00:11:50,679 Speaker 1: picture him. Then she said. Then he said he wants 190 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:53,120 Speaker 1: to have a sexy getaway at my house. There ain't 191 00:11:53,160 --> 00:11:57,120 Speaker 1: no damn getaway. He just want to come over. He 192 00:11:57,240 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: want to have a sexy getaway at your house. Holding, 193 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 1: let me let me tell you something, because I hope 194 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:03,120 Speaker 1: I got enough time for this letter, because we're gonna 195 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 1: have to come back about them. Oh and and and 196 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:09,080 Speaker 1: he wants to have sex and get away and wants 197 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 1: to cook and give me a massage. Now you be 198 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:14,160 Speaker 1: i'd be careful to come over the cooking. He want 199 00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:16,480 Speaker 1: to give me a massage and shampoo my hand for me. 200 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:19,320 Speaker 1: He said he thought about going to college atology school 201 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:21,320 Speaker 1: as a way to earn extra money. Oh, now he 202 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: won't be a had dresser. Well, there are a lot 203 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: of gray hair dresser. A hair dressers make good money, 204 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:33,080 Speaker 1: top quality had dresser, but not his answers been at 205 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 1: the house with mom and daddy. Dude, he doesn't sound 206 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:40,559 Speaker 1: like he good at doing head. He trying to come 207 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 1: on your house have a sex to get away get away. 208 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:44,800 Speaker 1: You know what that means. That means he's been out 209 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:46,439 Speaker 1: of the house in a while. If you're going over 210 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:49,000 Speaker 1: somebody else's house for a sex and get away. It's 211 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:50,360 Speaker 1: because you ain't been out of the house in a 212 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:51,960 Speaker 1: long time, and it ain't got nothing to do with 213 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:55,800 Speaker 1: the damn pandemic. All right, Thank you, sir. Post your 214 00:12:55,800 --> 00:13:00,559 Speaker 1: comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at stem on Instagram. 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