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Speaker 2: Oh we just we're just doing that, doing that, just

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Speaker 3: Just what a summer? What a season?

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Speaker 1: What a time?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god?

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Speaker 3: Hi, everybody, welcome to adult Saying. I am miss Shelby Teu.

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Speaker 3: I'm with my friend and co host Jordan Edward Consuela Carlos. Yes,

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Speaker 3: and we're out here.

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Speaker 1: What a time to be alive. You should now call

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Speaker 1: me Versailles Carlos. Now that's because I went to France. Yes,

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Speaker 1: that's right, that's right. We'll get that.

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Speaker 3: But no, no, no, we at it now, we it now,

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Speaker 3: we in it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yes, all right.

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Speaker 2: I gotta I got my BA for the train.

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Speaker 1: So I mean, look, I went to France with my family.

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Speaker 1: It was really fun. I got the fresh back at

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Speaker 1: every day. Here's something that I didn't know. The biggest

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Speaker 1: surprise to me, because you know me, I'm all like economics.

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Speaker 1: Many a back at for a euro which is a

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Speaker 1: dollar ten, You're getting like a foot long sub of

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Speaker 1: bread in your face for a dollar every morning. How

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Speaker 1: are these people skinny? I don't get it. It was amazing.

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Speaker 1: My son stole a little bread and then I photographed

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Speaker 1: him running down the street and he looks like a

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Speaker 1: little French boy. It was like something out of an

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Speaker 1: old French film.

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Speaker 3: Okay, because you know in America, if he stole bread,

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Speaker 3: he'd be in jail.

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Speaker 1: Yes, but we weren't.

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Speaker 2: So it was like, that's amazing.

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Speaker 1: There was actually black boy joy, it was free, it

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Speaker 1: was it was nice.

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Speaker 2: To catch everybody up.

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Speaker 3: Jordan took his family to friends, and not just his

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Speaker 3: family with his wife and kids, also his parents.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: Now, and this is like for the people who get this.

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Speaker 3: This is all for the people who are not living

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Speaker 3: this yet. We are in what is called the sandwich years.

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Speaker 3: We are sandwiched between generations.

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Speaker 2: They are the bread, we are the meat.

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Speaker 3: That's right. I talked to Julia and Will Miles about

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Speaker 3: this all the time. Okay, hilarious comedians Julia Rossie, Will

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Speaker 3: Miles check the shit out to hilarious.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and we should have them on the podcast.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a lot of us right now within our

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Speaker 3: especially comedian friend circle group, where we are the meat

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Speaker 3: How do I fix this problem? Do I get a break?

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Speaker 3: Can I go have an apple in a dark room

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Speaker 3: But you know, I look at like my parents growing up,

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Speaker 3: And you know what place makes you feel okay with

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Speaker 3: old peopling. Yes, they can go to seven different restaurants

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Speaker 3: And so being in Europe actually makes you feel relaxed.

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Speaker 3: Now you got me in Europe with a little bit

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Speaker 2: Door handle, door handle, door handle.

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Speaker 3: Yuck, yuck.

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Speaker 2: But anyways, tell me about iron.

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Speaker 2: I said, don't do that.

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Speaker 3: And this lady's like that sounds like a psychological I said, bitch,

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Speaker 2: You were here for the black head.

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Speaker 2: Who asked you bitch?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: I don't go around telling people shit.

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Speaker 3: They don't want to hear. I know it, but I'm

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Speaker 2: Anyways, that's fun. You went to Paris.

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Speaker 1: I had a vision in my head. I wanted to

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Speaker 3: And did you go to the little floor where you

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Speaker 2: There's a little floor where you could make a phone

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Speaker 3: And then my anxiety took over. My knees start to buckle.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, well, stop talking, shit, Michelle, how are you

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Speaker 3: But I will say I do remember taking my parents

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Speaker 3: I'm not speaking for every Haitian, but for the Haitian

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Speaker 3: And so it was just very interesting, not only to

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Speaker 2: He in every in every little town we went to.

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Speaker 3: I said, it's a circle. How are you getting loss

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Speaker 1: I said, when did you go? On?

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Speaker 3: Where did you go? He just was walking around, head

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 3: Did you go to like Moroccan neighborhoods and get some

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Speaker 1: We're there for three days, right, So we went to

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Speaker 2: No, well, I'm rolling a little on your coat, let's go.

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Speaker 1: I was just when you're rolling with children and people

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Speaker 2: Oh no, I don't do this shoulder thing.

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Speaker 1: Good. You shouldn't do that because they'll get used to

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Speaker 3: No, what have you seen? How high my ass is?

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Speaker 3: My ass takes up half of my back. It is

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Speaker 1: I have not looked at your ass you have it

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Speaker 1: in that way. I have not you. Have you looked

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Speaker 3: We were on a boat together in a bathing suit. Yes,

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Speaker 3: I'm not.

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Speaker 2: Why is everything Why.

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Speaker 1: I don't do that?

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Speaker 3: Why does it always have to be weird as sexual?

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Speaker 3: They're just their bodies, Jesus. We just want to dance.

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Speaker 3: Doesn't mean we're going to invite the devil.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is as much as I will allow. Oh boy,

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Speaker 1: you have thin, nice ankles. Okay, there, this is weird.

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Speaker 3: It feels like it feels like I've forced you to

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Speaker 1: Okay, Jesus, no, I just didn't. I think we talked

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Speaker 1: about you know, bodies, as you know, was my favorite subject. Yes,

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Speaker 1: so we can move on. Why are you like letting

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Speaker 1: me steing it? Why you let me steing it.

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Speaker 3: Because it's fun to watch only for me. I don't

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Speaker 3: fun to watch for me.

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Speaker 1: Probably everybody's ass is clinched, all right, speaking of asses,

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Speaker 1: yours is the best.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, why do you have your hands out

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Speaker 3: like that?

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Speaker 2: This is weird. First of put your hands down.

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Speaker 3: You look insane.

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Speaker 1: They can't see, they can't.

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Speaker 2: See what they can feel the awkwardness.

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Speaker 1: I'm having a moment. And what about Italy? You were

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Speaker 1: in Italy?

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Speaker 3: L oh l, changing the subject much.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: This is Please tell me about Italy? Please?

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Speaker 3: Do we need a couple therapy? Do we need it?

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Speaker 3: Because this is not how we should be communicating.

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Speaker 1: Can I say something? You've come upon a beautiful point,

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Speaker 2: Anyways, it was great. The food was great.

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Speaker 3: Pasta passa passa gelato every day, sometimes after breakfast, gelatto

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Speaker 3: because I was like, no rules over here, know right?

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Speaker 1: So much like what's it stretch now? Strickenoni? What is it?

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Speaker 1: How dare you stretch? Stretchya, kati stretch of tally?

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Speaker 1: Bucatini.

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Speaker 2: Possibly go hole in it?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, anything that gets in that hole, oh my goodness.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what a time to be a live friend.

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Speaker 3: Here are the rules, and these are the rules by me,

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Speaker 3: Family vacation. You just have to learn how to pivot

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Speaker 3: because it's like going to dinner with like thirty people,

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Speaker 3: be like too happy. Like that's what it is, right, Yes,

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Speaker 2: Okay, do we pick a day? One day we're lazy

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Speaker 3: When not? Because there's nothing more annoying than my husband

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean? But like you don't want

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Speaker 3: person the type of a person is gonna put their card down?

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Speaker 3: Like we got to talk about what time we should

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Speaker 3: that some of us are just living like Jimmy Buffett,

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Speaker 3: living like you know, it's our first season on Love and.

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Speaker 1: Hip Hop Real Housewives.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, yes, And I'm like, where are we gonna go?

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Speaker 3: Who are we gonna be? But also that's what makes

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Speaker 3: it fun too. It's an emotional rainbow of bullshit.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, if you make it too tight and too organized

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Speaker 1: It's giving, like you know, bachelorette party. If you put

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Speaker 1: And when it comes to friends, I think you learn

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Speaker 1: out with anybody, be it romantic or like a friend

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Speaker 1: Are they just gonna go back to the room and sleep?

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Speaker 1: You do that? I don't know if we're cool.

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Speaker 3: I think trying something new is fun too, Yes, whether

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Speaker 3: it's small or biggest great, whether it's hang gliding or

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Speaker 3: I think just having that memory from your trip of

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Speaker 3: a fried oyster. Bitch, I don't know your journey. I

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Speaker 3: wrap at the fuck up bitch, Like everybody has a

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Speaker 3: wedgie during a fucking audition, Like who is a fuck right?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god? This one bitch was talking about her

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Speaker 3: date and she doesn't usually eat oysters because they they're

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Speaker 3: just grossed. Girl was like, I got it. It looks like

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Speaker 1: I understand.

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Speaker 3: She was out with a really hot guy, and you know,

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Speaker 2: And I was like, that's a really good story. I

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Speaker 2: don't care if it's true or not. That's a really

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Speaker 3: Anyways, You guys enjoy oysters They're really good in the

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Speaker 3: R months anything that ends in the er, which is

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Speaker 3: so funny because our guest is also named er.

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Speaker 1: Oh.

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Speaker 3: They're amazing. They're so talented, so tall, so special, so real.

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Speaker 3: I had the pleasure of working with them on a

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Speaker 3: which we can't say is the N word L O L.

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Speaker 2: Take that how you want it.

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Speaker 3: I can't wait to catch up with them, So please

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Speaker 3: welcome be R fight Master.

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Speaker 2: What's going on here?

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Speaker 4: Are?

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Speaker 3: This is my friend Jordan. Have you met him before?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I met him on set the day Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: yeah yeah we met. We met then.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we were at the what's it called the I'm

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Speaker 4: going to call it a factory, but it's not.

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Speaker 1: We were at the factory.

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Speaker 5: It sounds.

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Speaker 1: Your music's very nice.

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Speaker 5: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I listened to it the other day. I didn't know

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Speaker 1: that that was like you were like a triple threat.

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Speaker 1: I do like it. It's geographical or maybe you could

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Speaker 1: speak more to that because like Santa Clarita.

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Speaker 5: Ooh, you listen to Twin? Huh?

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Speaker 1: I did? Yeah, that's my.

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Speaker 5: First band is Twin.

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Speaker 4: When I met my drummer, he was like from this

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Speaker 4: like punk background, and I've kind of grown up in

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Speaker 4: of met somewhere in surf rock land. And for some reason,

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Speaker 4: whenever I was like writing a surf rock song, I

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Speaker 4: now I have my own solo music project that's just

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Speaker 4: fight Master, and it's.

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Speaker 5: Like all about gay sex.

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Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, so, when left to my

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Speaker 1: Oh that's what you found in your creative process.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, in my.

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Speaker 4: Creative process, I was like, when I work with other people,

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Speaker 4: I work to be like, what a song be like

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Speaker 4: if it wasn't about gay sex?

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Speaker 5: And then when and when no one else is, well,

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Speaker 5: should be about gray.

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Speaker 2: Look, look you say gay perver.

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Speaker 3: I say explore because there's a niche that needs to

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Speaker 3: be filled.

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Speaker 5: Okay, a lot of niches need to be filled. They're

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Speaker 3: It, you know.

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Speaker 1: I think you guys are talking about sex. I want

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Speaker 1: to know, though, are there any of these as you've

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Speaker 4: Well?

445
00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:37,679
Speaker 3: Are you okay?

446
00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:40,639
Speaker 1: Jordan's no, it's I'm just because there's awesome.

447
00:19:40,720 --> 00:19:43,359
Speaker 2: I can smell your brain frying right now.

448
00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,400
Speaker 1: It's always frying. I'm always on maximum overdrive.

449
00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:47,560
Speaker 5: It smells nice.

450
00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:48,359
Speaker 1: Thank you.

451
00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:53,040
Speaker 4: The first bunch of stories that I told was just

452
00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,920
Speaker 4: like how I think of the songs was all about

453
00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:58,879
Speaker 4: place and time. And I think that was like a

454
00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:01,119
Speaker 4: lot of the writing I was doing in my twenties

455
00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:03,800
Speaker 4: was about like place in time, like trying to remember

456
00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:07,199
Speaker 4: these specific memories. And I think, as you like get

457
00:20:07,240 --> 00:20:10,639
Speaker 4: older in your storytelling, I'm like, sure, some songs are

458
00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:13,920
Speaker 4: about memories, but some songs are about like the vastness.

459
00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:14,120
Speaker 5: Of a feeling.

460
00:20:14,520 --> 00:20:17,200
Speaker 4: I would not have in my early twenties been able

461
00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:21,760
Speaker 4: to write about shame or transness or queerness in a

462
00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:27,720
Speaker 4: way that felt fun and light and accessible while acknowledging

463
00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:31,280
Speaker 4: the depth. My first round of songs with Twin are

464
00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:33,960
Speaker 4: very literal in a way that I appreciate because I

465
00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:35,879
Speaker 4: can listen to these songs and be transported to that

466
00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:40,040
Speaker 4: exact memory. But now when I listen to these songs

467
00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:42,600
Speaker 4: that I have under fight Master and I'm releasing these songs,

468
00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:44,360
Speaker 4: I'm finding that the response.

469
00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:45,720
Speaker 5: I'm getting to them is more.

470
00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:50,439
Speaker 4: They're reaching a broader audience because they're me tackling a

471
00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:53,800
Speaker 4: big issue. For example, I wrote a song called bad Man,

472
00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:57,000
Speaker 4: and bad Man is a song about not really giving

473
00:20:57,040 --> 00:21:00,879
Speaker 4: a fuck about how sis men interpret your mask. And

474
00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:03,680
Speaker 4: the gimmick of the song is like, I will fuck

475
00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:07,359
Speaker 4: your fucking wife. Like the gimmick of the song is like,

476
00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:09,960
Speaker 4: you think I'm bad at being a man? Incorrect, I'm

477
00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:12,639
Speaker 4: a bad man. When I was in my twenties, I

478
00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:15,439
Speaker 4: was like trying to be like you broke my heart,

479
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:19,280
Speaker 4: And now I'm like, how do we tackle a systemic

480
00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:23,280
Speaker 4: issue but a pop track on it and make it

481
00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:25,840
Speaker 4: so that everybody can listen to it and be like, fuck,

482
00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:27,560
Speaker 4: I think I'm also a bad man?

483
00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 5: Like a different approach.

484
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:29,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

485
00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:32,919
Speaker 3: You know what's great too, is that you are giving

486
00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:38,040
Speaker 3: people language, right, like a vocabulary to say, oh, I

487
00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:40,320
Speaker 3: am like this. I didn't know what to call it

488
00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:42,560
Speaker 3: before I was just the butt of everybody's joke, or

489
00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:44,880
Speaker 3: like I was making myself the butt of everyone's joke

490
00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:47,439
Speaker 3: just to like cope and go along and get along.

491
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Speaker 1: Mm hm.

492
00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:52,439
Speaker 3: You know this sounds so oh, this sounds like the

493
00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:55,560
Speaker 3: back of Oprah's magazine Let's Eat Pesto Pizza. But it's

494
00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 3: like the more authentic you are to yourself and what

495
00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:01,800
Speaker 3: you need, the better it is.

496
00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 2: That's a special sauce.

497
00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:08,520
Speaker 4: I think that's what I like so much about working

498
00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:10,159
Speaker 4: with you on what you know.

499
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:14,520
Speaker 5: We will not name, we will not speak the same.

500
00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:18,240
Speaker 4: We've been taught this thing where like the white male

501
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:22,840
Speaker 4: experience is universal, and what we're finding is like no

502
00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 4: story is on the universal because we've been trained to

503
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:28,000
Speaker 4: empathize with white men, but they haven't been trained to

504
00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:31,160
Speaker 4: empathize with us. People that are complaining about a certain

505
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,560
Speaker 4: project we work on together having too much sex in it.

506
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:37,120
Speaker 4: They're complaining about it because they don't they can't see

507
00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:38,000
Speaker 4: themselves in the sex.

508
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:40,679
Speaker 3: No, it's gonna say, that's also how we got to

509
00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 3: where we are, like fucking capitalism. Like the CEOs are

510
00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:50,040
Speaker 3: rich white men who are sort of copying and pasting

511
00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 3: what they've been doing this whole time, and it's not

512
00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:53,920
Speaker 3: working for us.

513
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:56,040
Speaker 2: You know, there isn't more of us.

514
00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 3: We just have a bigger, better voice now and we're

515
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:03,600
Speaker 3: just doing things differently. And so look, our black, brown,

516
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 3: fat queer sex is making you money, So pay us,

517
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 3: you know what I mean?

518
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:11,679
Speaker 4: Yeah, well not only pay us, but it seems to

519
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 4: be that once they stop projecting that, no one's going

520
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 4: to be interested in the fat, black, gay, brown queer sex.

521
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:22,880
Speaker 4: The whole audience disagrees. The project, yes, was number two

522
00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:26,880
Speaker 4: in the world. Obviously, the audience is disagreeing about what

523
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 4: they can empathize with and what they can connect with.

524
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,439
Speaker 4: And I think that we're finding in a lot of

525
00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:34,879
Speaker 4: art right now that the more specific your story, like

526
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:38,159
Speaker 4: you're saying, the more specific your story, actually somehow the

527
00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:41,040
Speaker 4: more broad it is, because we can all find ourselves

528
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:43,920
Speaker 4: in the specificity. But it's actually really hard to find

529
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 4: yourself in the quote unquote blank slate, which is white

530
00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 4: sus mailhood. Like, I'm not finding myself there, but I'm

531
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 4: having an easier time watching an art project that is

532
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:58,119
Speaker 4: not centering white male bodies. And I'm actually seeing the

533
00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:01,359
Speaker 4: sex that I have. I'm actually seeing the that I have. Yeah,

534
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:02,840
Speaker 4: like I'm seeing my community.

535
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:04,679
Speaker 1: So are they in effect trying to be like the

536
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 1: tail that wags the dog? Basically they're saying that, I mean,

537
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 1: in effect they create the stories. This does not line

538
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:13,880
Speaker 1: up this will either, Like you know, whenever you see

539
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 1: a success in Hollywood that is not white male specific,

540
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:22,159
Speaker 1: people are like it beat expectations. It's a miracle, and

541
00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:24,719
Speaker 1: it's just like, no, there's a thirst and a hunger

542
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 1: for this kind of stuff. Like the status quo is

543
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:29,840
Speaker 1: well guarded and defended and is not set up as

544
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 1: a harmless device. You know, it's like it's an existential thing, right,

545
00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:36,639
Speaker 1: So of course, like if you don't see yourself, then

546
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 1: you think you'll be erased, and you won't you won't matter,

547
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 1: and you'll die. So it's like, yeah, that's ough. Wow, damn,

548
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 1: I never thought of it the way y'all put it.

549
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:45,920
Speaker 2: It's also a miracle.

550
00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 3: It is a miracle because the fact that you could

551
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 3: still be yourself and show up and get something past

552
00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:52,960
Speaker 3: in greenlit, Yeah, that's a fucking miracle.

553
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,160
Speaker 2: You know, a size eighteen twenty.

554
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:58,119
Speaker 3: Say that bitch sitting on a dick in one hundred

555
00:24:58,119 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 3: and ninety countries, that's a miracle.

556
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:01,680
Speaker 5: That's a miracle.

557
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 3: I said it. I said a miracle, bitch, because you know,

558
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 3: I'm supposed to always be so thankful that someone finds

559
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 3: me fucking desirable.

560
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 2: No, these titties are juicy.

561
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:12,680
Speaker 3: Get in there, okay, get camera being on the left side.

562
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:13,639
Speaker 5: Thank you for saying it.

563
00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:18,120
Speaker 3: But also talking about trans women in sports. We don't

564
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:20,159
Speaker 3: have to like get into it if we don't want to.

565
00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 3: But I just want to say.

566
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:25,400
Speaker 2: Like, by the time a trans woman has.

567
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 3: Lived her life comfortable enough being out or you know,

568
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:31,800
Speaker 3: safe enough to say I am a trans woman and

569
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,880
Speaker 3: I will compete in sports, that's a fucking miracle.

570
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:37,560
Speaker 5: That is a fucking miracle. It's brave as hell.

571
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:38,919
Speaker 2: Yeah.

572
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,400
Speaker 3: So that's why we're just like everyone's just like, can't

573
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,920
Speaker 3: believe they did, because I really can't believe we made

574
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 3: it happen too.

575
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:49,120
Speaker 4: It's such a mind fuck though, because they they are

576
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 4: gate keeping something that's so broad. With the trans women

577
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:56,000
Speaker 4: in sports thing, we are seeing that people are gate

578
00:25:56,160 --> 00:26:01,720
Speaker 4: keeping womanhood. But you're like, bitch, that's half the fucking planet.

579
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 4: You can't gate keep what community are you talking about?

580
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 4: You're talking about half of.

581
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:08,200
Speaker 5: Everybody, you know what I mean?

582
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:11,439
Speaker 4: Where these CEOs when they're trying to convince you not

583
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 4: to make art that's specific to black and brown and

584
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 4: queer bodies, they're gatekeeping humanity. They're saying, I'm sorry, it's

585
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 4: just that no one's going to be able to see

586
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 4: themselves in your story. They're convincing you that you're not

587
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 4: part of this human story. It's absolutely psychotic.

588
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:32,119
Speaker 3: It's psychotic, and that's sorry.

589
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 2: Now I'm really going off one. I'm not even high,

590
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:34,439
Speaker 2: you guys.

591
00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:37,680
Speaker 3: That's why I feel like art music gets cut because

592
00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 3: people are like, what's the point.

593
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:40,120
Speaker 2: It's powerful. They know that.

594
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 3: That's why they're trying to ban books and music. It's powerful, right,

595
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:47,119
Speaker 3: There's so much beauty and knowledge and healing found in

596
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 3: art that they're just like, no, no, no, no, do away

597
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 3: with this.

598
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 2: Let's just keep everybody where.

599
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 1: We need them. You know how I feel about banning

600
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 1: some books. Some books are I think Goldilocks should be banned,

601
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:57,679
Speaker 1: but I mean outside of that.

602
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:01,439
Speaker 3: Tell me why, ooh, don't let.

603
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:01,639
Speaker 5: Don't tell me why?

604
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 1: Well, first of all, Goldilocks was the world's first Karen

605
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:08,200
Speaker 1: of all things. You know, like they smash into this house.

606
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 1: It's a smash and grab tail Caucasidy of Nope, the

607
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 1: Caucasidy of the story in the first place. You think

608
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:15,399
Speaker 1: I can go into a house because I'm got the

609
00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 1: munchies and I'm like, don't get up, I'm here for

610
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,360
Speaker 1: the gojiberries. I don't think so breaking all this furniture

611
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 1: that part, right, What messages are we telling children. And

612
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,360
Speaker 1: if you notice these black bears, you know they didn't

613
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: ask for this, you know what I'm saying, The way

614
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:30,880
Speaker 1: we treat black bears first, Polar Bears, it's all in there,

615
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:32,360
Speaker 1: you are, Okay, No.

616
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:33,240
Speaker 5: It's huge.

617
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 3: When he's trying to make a point, he also sounds

618
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 3: like a low budget Obama Polar Bears.

619
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 2: The rhythm changes.

620
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:41,159
Speaker 1: It's just a fraught story.

621
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 5: But don't you think that?

622
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 4: That's why the book is important because it tells a

623
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 4: tale of white violence. It tells of heinous white I

624
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:57,199
Speaker 4: love that. It's actually one of our first honest recordings

625
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 4: of a white woman being like I'm hungry and then

626
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:02,919
Speaker 4: literally stealing from a black family and being like, oh.

627
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 5: This house is gross.

628
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 2: Welcome to the view everyone.

629
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:11,239
Speaker 1: I was not ready. You're right, Okay, maybe if we

630
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 1: reframe the tale, you know what I'm saying, then yes,

631
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:14,880
Speaker 1: you're right.

632
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 5: But I will say when.

633
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,919
Speaker 4: I was growing up and I read that story, I

634
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 4: was like, what, Yeah, there had.

635
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 5: To be other options than stealing from these bears.

636
00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 3: What kind of teenagers were you, guys? Did you? I

637
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:49,200
Speaker 3: always see these teenagers and like movies and TV shows

638
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 3: and they come downstairs all like hot and bothered and

639
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 3: moms made like bacon and eggs and they're like, I'm

640
00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 3: not hungry. I'd be like, bitch, this is expensive, sit

641
00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 3: down and eat it. But what kind of teenagers are you?

642
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: Guys? You really want to know this?

643
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, I want to know.

644
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 2: I've never asked, and I've known you for way too long.

645
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:16,720
Speaker 1: Bad period return? What ass period return? Yeah? I got

646
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 1: it all right, so.

647
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,760
Speaker 3: Sweet door, I did not get it.

648
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:27,280
Speaker 1: Ah, yeah I was. You know, I was the same.

649
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 1: I'm like the same, not much has changed. I wake

650
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 1: up earlier and you're right. I often did that to

651
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 1: my mom. I'd be like, oh, out of here, mom,

652
00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:38,000
Speaker 1: and like would grab the eggs and on a piece

653
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,920
Speaker 1: of toast with bacon and slide out. I was a

654
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,120
Speaker 1: good kid though, you know, I was like an a

655
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: B plus kid that did art, didn't bang up the

656
00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: car too much, unlucky in love that kind of stuff.

657
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 1: You know. I had a brown car. No one wanted

658
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 1: to be with me. Er well, I think.

659
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 4: Brown cars are cool. Brown cars are cool now? Yes,

660
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 4: Also I'm I grew up in a brown car.

661
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 5: I'm like they're rat Actually.

662
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 2: I also had a brown car, a Camaro.

663
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 3: Yo, you guys, it was Dookie Brown, Are you serious,

664
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 3: I'm from Jersey. What do you want?

665
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 1: Exactly?

666
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 3: Blasting Jana Jackson and bon Jovi. I will say less.

667
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 5: I'm soaked right now.

668
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 1: Wait, that's right, because you said you went driving in

669
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:25,240
Speaker 1: the city and it was like impossible to like wheel

670
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: around because you had this It was.

671
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 2: A lot of front. It was all front and no back.

672
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like it was like driving a like

673
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 3: a like a two can's beak.

674
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 2: Like it was just too much.

675
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 5: Wow, how well put? God damn.

676
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 4: I grew up and my mom was like friends with

677
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 4: the guy who sold vintage cars near us.

678
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 5: Oh, so we were always.

679
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 4: In like a nineteen seventies Mercedes that didn't have like

680
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 4: heating or air conditioning, and you can put the windows

681
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 4: down and in the winter we had to sit in

682
00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 4: like the trunk or the back seat to.

683
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 5: Get it uphills.

684
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:00,680
Speaker 1: Wow.

685
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:02,520
Speaker 4: But we were like, but it's beautiful, you know what

686
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 4: I mean, which I understand now that that's still my

687
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 4: aesthetic choice.

688
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 2: What in the Appalachian Mountains this going on?

689
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:12,400
Speaker 1: I mean, the way is that where you grew up.

690
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:13,520
Speaker 1: You grew up in Appalaysia.

691
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,000
Speaker 5: I grew up in Ohio. I grew up in southern Ohio,

692
00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:18,160
Speaker 5: so you know, technically I have a lot of turn mountain.

693
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 4: Range, gotcha, West Virginia Mountain See, it's contiguous. I now

694
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 4: have a bunch of cars that are similarly old. And

695
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 4: the trick about them is that they explode when they drive.

696
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:36,120
Speaker 5: You get like you get in.

697
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:38,480
Speaker 4: Them and they just explode, they like on fire, something

698
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 4: falls off.

699
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 5: But when I park them, they're gorgeous.

700
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 4: Like when they're parked, when they're moving, scary who calling

701
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 4: friends and family to say goodbye.

702
00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 3: It feels like we're all really good at projects. Why

703
00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 3: you gotta make do? Yeah?

704
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 5: Like the car that I just bought is this beautiful

705
00:31:56,280 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 5: nineteen ninety four Forerunner, Oh yeah yeah, And it's like gorgeous.

706
00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 5: It's just like this beautiful light blue.

707
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 4: And I like it because it doesn't feel in that

708
00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:08,320
Speaker 4: same kind of way. It doesn't feel like pretentious, but

709
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 4: it feels really well made and blah blah blah. And

710
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 4: every time I go and make sure it's maintained and

711
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 4: get it in the shop and whatever, and I'm driving

712
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 4: it around, I do feel a sense of pride at

713
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:22,800
Speaker 4: ooh the project that it is like up keeping something

714
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 4: beautiful instead of buying a new thing makes me feel proud.

715
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:30,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh my goodness, are you Dutch?

716
00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 5: Yeah?

717
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 3: Are you.

718
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:35,720
Speaker 1: A breakthrough?

719
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 3: Because that is the most Dutch thing I've ever heard.

720
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 3: You know, husband has a furniture store, mid century modern,

721
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 3: Danish and Dutch, and there is this thing that a

722
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 3: lot of Americans, I realize, what we don't do is

723
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 3: really appreciate what we have because it's always like new, now, next,

724
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:55,680
Speaker 3: and so we never really take the time to get

725
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 3: to know something. You know, we just want like the

726
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 3: new thing, and so it isn't important I think for

727
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 3: people to do the research and make sure they actually

728
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 3: like something and that it you know, it runs well

729
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 3: and is beautiful, and you know, possibly could appreciate, Like

730
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 3: we don't do that enough, and I feel like we should.

731
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 5: Dana, such furniture is gorgeous too, Like that stuff was

732
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 5: built to last. So it's a shame not to put

733
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 5: in the upkeep.

734
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 3: And it's tiny, but I'll even take a big booty

735
00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 3: because I've been out here. I've been out here and

736
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 3: it'll take a booty, which I appreciate.

737
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 5: Are you there now?

738
00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 2: No?

739
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 3: Fuck no, I had to come back boo okay, like

740
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:37,760
Speaker 3: this a teeny tiny secret I love Amsterdam.

741
00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 2: I don't know if I like Dutch people.

742
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:41,360
Speaker 1: A lot of people feel that way.

743
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 2: Uh oh, I know, you know, of course I do.

744
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 3: I love more than one. I had a fantastic time

745
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 3: in Holland.

746
00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 1: But I think, yeah.

747
00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 3: You know, er you were there for a bit, like

748
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 3: I don't know how it was for you. It feels

749
00:33:57,280 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 3: like I'm having the same conversation over and over again

750
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 3: every time I meet someone. I'm American. This is what

751
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 3: I think. I was like, can we just do something else?

752
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 3: But you know that's also me.

753
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 4: I have a mixed similarly mixed review, and some there's

754
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,280
Speaker 4: so many things I really enjoy about them. I enjoy

755
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:19,399
Speaker 4: them when I intimately know them mm hmm. And then

756
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 4: when I have to do like a daily interaction, I'm like, actually,

757
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 4: why are.

758
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 5: You being mean to me?

759
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:29,919
Speaker 4: Hmmm mmm, Like I'm too sensitive for them, yeah, as

760
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 4: a stranger, but when you get to know them and

761
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 4: you're like, oh, I get it, Like yan is just rude,

762
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:40,320
Speaker 4: but I know that Jan loves me. Yes, Yop doesn't

763
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:43,520
Speaker 4: mean to say everything he's thinking, but he can't help

764
00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 4: it because it's his disease. But then when Yanis says

765
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 4: something to you, while you're ordering coffee, You're like, legitimately, why,

766
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 4: Like I am already having a bad day. I did

767
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:56,120
Speaker 4: not need for you to be like you are ugly

768
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:58,720
Speaker 4: for American men.

769
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 3: Also Brekia and Muryo Lane. You know my ass can't

770
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 3: hop on the back of get dumb bike. Bitch, Stop

771
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 3: asking why are you even asking me?

772
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:08,720
Speaker 5: Stop asking?

773
00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 2: Show me where the tram is? Show me where the tram?

774
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 1: I just love the litany of names coming at me.

775
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:15,440
Speaker 1: I wasn't ready.

776
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:17,320
Speaker 5: Yeah.

777
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 4: The best way to say is this an honest culture.

778
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:23,360
Speaker 4: I would say another way of putting it is their abusive.

779
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 1: I did not know that about the Dutch.

780
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:30,319
Speaker 5: I mean they're like wonderful, They're just assholes. You have

781
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 5: to really love assholes.

782
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,360
Speaker 4: You have to be like, you know, when little women

783
00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:37,880
Speaker 4: when they're married to like bad fucking like bearded dudes

784
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 4: and they're like, oh, he's actually so wonderful when we're alone.

785
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 4: That's like what everybody's doing about the Dutch. I'm sorry

786
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 4: to all of my lovers.

787
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 5: I enjoyed you.

788
00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 1: I thought you were talking about Luisa may Alcotts little women.

789
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 1: I was like, I remember that.

790
00:35:58,080 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 5: I'm dropping out all the time.

791
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:02,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, what I do love about Amsterdam, though

792
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:06,240
Speaker 3: I will say their pride is two and a half weeks.

793
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 3: I feel safe walking down the street anytime, any neighborhood,

794
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:14,759
Speaker 3: anytime of day or night. I feel like, if my

795
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 3: kid runs away from me, someone's gonna be like, is

796
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:17,319
Speaker 3: this your kid?

797
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 4: Yeah?

798
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:20,760
Speaker 3: It is without like them, without feeling like I'm gonna

799
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:21,760
Speaker 3: be like a Lifetime movie.

800
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 5: You have to add that they'd be like, is this

801
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:28,879
Speaker 5: your kid? Then put it away?

802
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

803
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:32,239
Speaker 3: I don't know. If I could, like live on a houseboat,

804
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:33,399
Speaker 3: I could live there.

805
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 2: I can see you living there.

806
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 5: I think I can adapt to the orneriness.

807
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 4: I actually do believe anywhere you go you have to

808
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:43,400
Speaker 4: get used to the people, and some places I've been

809
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:44,120
Speaker 4: able to do that.

810
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:45,360
Speaker 5: In some places I haven't.

811
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,200
Speaker 4: And with the Dutch, I can be like, yeah, there

812
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 4: are a bunch of assholes, and then at the end

813
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:50,959
Speaker 4: of the day, I can also be like, but they're

814
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:54,440
Speaker 4: my assholes. And I think, you know, I am very Dutch,

815
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:56,600
Speaker 4: so I probably have a lot of asshole in me.

816
00:36:57,200 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 1: Is that the name of this episode? Yeah?

817
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 2: Look, no truer words.

818
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 4: Well, if it's going to be the name of the episode,

819
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:05,719
Speaker 4: I want it to be I've got a lot of

820
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 4: asshole in me and I've been in a lot of assholes.

821
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 1: Right, that's the parenthetical.

822
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 5: You gotta make it beautiful.

823
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, Oh my god.

824
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 3: Okay, So every episode we ask our guests some questions

825
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:21,360
Speaker 3: that the audience have said to us about adulting, and

826
00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 3: it is really all over the damn place in the

827
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 3: best way possible. But ooh, baby, do I just want

828
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:29,960
Speaker 3: to start hugging people now that the mask is off

829
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 3: and the bra is off. Okay, So first question, how

830
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 3: soon into dating can you start bad mouthing your significant

831
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:37,760
Speaker 3: other's family and friends?

832
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 1: Wow, to who?

833
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 5: To your close friends? Because that's right away, Yeah, that's

834
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 5: right away. I'm going to say a.

835
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:45,759
Speaker 1: Year and a half, eighteen months.

836
00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:49,240
Speaker 3: I would say after the first holiday. However, the first

837
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 3: holiday goes down, that's when you can really check in

838
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 3: and be like, I'm used to things like this, and

839
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:57,719
Speaker 3: they did it like that. Yes, that shit you can't

840
00:37:57,760 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 3: come back from. So careful what you say.

841
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:02,640
Speaker 5: That's so true. Once you've said it, it's out there.

842
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 2: Yes.

843
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:07,280
Speaker 1: Well yeah, I'm sixteen years in and uh still waiting.

844
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:09,800
Speaker 5: That's smart.

845
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 3: Actually, ooh, this is an interesting Okay. Someone writes in

846
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 3: I wake up anxious every morning.

847
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:17,400
Speaker 2: Any advice, Oh.

848
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 1: What you do is you grab a gummy, you put

849
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:22,400
Speaker 1: it in your mouth, You forget that you took the gummy,

850
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:26,880
Speaker 1: and then think it's your personality when you finally do relax.

851
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:27,879
Speaker 1: That's what I do.

852
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 5: Mine's kind of similar.

853
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 2: I'd say master, Yeah, I would say breathe that.

854
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:35,480
Speaker 3: This sounds really crazy, but like sometimes I'm like, oh

855
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:36,800
Speaker 3: my god, why do I feel lightheaded?

856
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 1: Wait? Do you do that kind of like you know,

857
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 1: tantric breath where it's like breath of fire, like you

858
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 1: do in some yoga classes where they're like, you ever

859
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 1: do that kind of breathing? No, I don't get that.

860
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 1: That's not the vibe I do.

861
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 2: I do all types of breathing. I love it.

862
00:38:57,000 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 3: Big breaths, little breaths. The medium sai is bronce, but

863
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 3: it sounds like I'm saying press. But I do think

864
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:08,400
Speaker 3: it's one of two things. As an anxious person, I

865
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 3: will say, can you pinpoint on's making you anxious?

866
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:12,840
Speaker 2: Is it just the whole day?

867
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 3: Do you have so much stuff to do you feel

868
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 3: like you can't get it done on the day, and

869
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 3: so you already feel the drama of overwhelm when you

870
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 3: wake up, or is it like going to see someone

871
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 3: you don't want to see?

872
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:24,399
Speaker 2: Is it your job? Do you not like your job?

873
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,800
Speaker 3: And it's sort of like feeding into every part of

874
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 3: your body just waking up. If you can pinpoint what

875
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 3: makes you anxious and if you're just an anxious person, like,

876
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 3: there's nothing wrong with seeing your general practitioner and just

877
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,839
Speaker 3: asking is there something I could possibly take now? Do

878
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,239
Speaker 3: I want to support pig farmer? Yeah, we've already talked

879
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:42,959
Speaker 3: about edibles and such, but like edibles for me really

880
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:46,320
Speaker 3: depends on the edible because I'm like a plus sized kite.

881
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 3: I'm flying with titties. It's too much. I like to

882
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 3: be a little bit more grounded. Ooh, this is a

883
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 3: good question. I hate dating apps but can't seem to

884
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 3: meet anyone in person? How can I learn to like

885
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 3: dating apps.

886
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 1: More they can't seem to meet someone in person?

887
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 3: Correct?

888
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: All right?

889
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:07,440
Speaker 4: I wonder though, if there's an alternate approach to this question,

890
00:40:07,520 --> 00:40:09,840
Speaker 4: which is like, are there things that you can change

891
00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:12,919
Speaker 4: about the way that you're interacting in real life that

892
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 4: bring you closer to meeting somebody? I think if you're

893
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:18,839
Speaker 4: not liking the dating apps and you want to meet

894
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 4: someone in real life, then it's not about forcing yourself

895
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 4: to like the dating apps. It's about changing your IRL behavior.

896
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: Agreed. It is about changing that.

897
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 3: Behavior the way you treat work. Whenever your work is

898
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 3: use that energy for dating apps. You know, just be

899
00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:37,919
Speaker 3: a bit more aggressive, not overwhelming, but you know, change

900
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 3: your photo. Reach out to people after like three or

901
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 3: four exchanges if you like them, say do you want

902
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:46,080
Speaker 3: to meet for coffee? Just don't keep a lot of

903
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:48,919
Speaker 3: my friends just keep talking and texting. It's like, who

904
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:51,400
Speaker 3: got time to text that much? You already have friends

905
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 3: that you still got a call for their birthday. Edd shit,

906
00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 3: lock it down, Lock it up, go to a Starbucks

907
00:40:56,920 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 3: or wherever the fuck me for a coffee, see if

908
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:01,279
Speaker 3: you like this person in person, and then keep it

909
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:03,360
Speaker 3: moving because I feel like, you know, it's like the Latto.

910
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 2: You just got to like fuck your way to the

911
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 2: right one.

912
00:41:05,120 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 5: Sometimes I think group events too, mm hmm.

913
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:10,359
Speaker 4: When I'm on the market, the first thing that I

914
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 4: do is I tell my friends like I'm available now yeah,

915
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 4: And so then when we're gonna go like have a

916
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:17,879
Speaker 4: big friend night at a bar.

917
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 5: People are more when they bring somebody in mind. They

918
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 5: already have the energy of like.

919
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 4: Oh, well er is gonna be there, and Er doesn't

920
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 4: have anybody, and so then maybe they'll bring somebody with

921
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 4: me and mine, you know what I mean. Maybe they'll

922
00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:32,800
Speaker 4: bring their friend that's also single. And so you're setting

923
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,360
Speaker 4: up feelers in your community to be like I need

924
00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 4: a little.

925
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 1: Bit of help. That's smart.

926
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 2: I love setting people up.

927
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:40,560
Speaker 3: I never tell them who it is because people do

928
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 3: a deep dive on the Instagram and stuff. Uh, and

929
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 3: it's like, don't do that. Just invite them and see

930
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 3: if they find their way to each other.

931
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 5: Deep dives rooumin the first date, man, it's true.

932
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, the first.

933
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 4: Few dates, that's the deep dive. So if you know everything,

934
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 4: it can't be as fun as wen deep.

935
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:55,840
Speaker 2: Dive a memoir.

936
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 1: I hear that the youth culture is using LinkedIn to

937
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 1: meet people as well.

938
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:02,919
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, just to see if they got a job.

939
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, to see if they have a resume and what

940
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:09,040
Speaker 1: they think of that resume and you know, references and

941
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:12,000
Speaker 1: things like that. So yeah, maybe it's not the apps.

942
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 1: Maybe it's the apts you're using. Ooh you know, yeah,

943
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:16,520
Speaker 1: go to LinkedIn, Yeah.

944
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:19,560
Speaker 4: Go to Facebook and find somebody in their late somebody

945
00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:22,239
Speaker 4: who say eighties and have your life paid for?

946
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, this is a really good question. What

947
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 3: are pantry staples I should always have on hand?

948
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:34,200
Speaker 1: Chickpeas, that's good. Chickpeas are good. Yeah, I think black beans, Yeah,

949
00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 1: garlic salt. Agreed.

950
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:38,359
Speaker 3: Ooh, I would have said kidney. I would have said

951
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:41,359
Speaker 3: red kidney beans. But okay, let's go okay, the black

952
00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 3: ones make you a little kassy.

953
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:44,799
Speaker 1: Yeah that's true. That's true. I'm just like I said,

954
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:48,239
Speaker 1: sixteen years and none matter anymore. Brown rice. Gotta have

955
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 1: brown rice.

956
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 3: I'm wanting so much. I'm learning so much. Granola, flour,

957
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 3: baking powder, butter, yeah, sugar, pasta, a can of tomato sauce.

958
00:42:58,120 --> 00:42:58,359
Speaker 1: Yeah.

959
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 3: Yeah. You need all the starches you can fucking have

960
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:02,840
Speaker 3: and keep them nice and put dates on them.

961
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 2: Yeah truly.

962
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 3: If we're just talking pantry, then like you need them.

963
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:09,919
Speaker 3: Drag goods. Dried fruit is wonderful because it lasts longer

964
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 3: than you think it should. A little chocolate with a

965
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:13,560
Speaker 3: little nut in it. I don't know if you got

966
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:15,640
Speaker 3: an alergae in the garbage can. I can eat anything,

967
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:15,960
Speaker 3: to fuck.

968
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 1: I want hazel nuts and a chocolate Here she goes yum,

969
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:20,320
Speaker 1: cause she goes she's on a streak.

970
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 2: Oh my god, we didn't even do the condiments.

971
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: Goat, we shall go.

972
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 3: You know this is my love language. Like I don't

973
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 3: need like a doomsday pantry, but you just want to

974
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 3: reach it and just be like we we don't have

975
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:33,279
Speaker 3: a lot, but we have a packet of spaghetti and

976
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:35,400
Speaker 3: some butter and maybe some parsley and salt and pepper.

977
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:36,320
Speaker 3: A less go.

978
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 4: You should have something in your pantry that you can

979
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:41,279
Speaker 4: make them fifteen minutes so that you don't hurt your

980
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 4: loved ones. That's what I am saying about myself. So

981
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:46,239
Speaker 4: if I have chickpeas in there and black beans, and

982
00:43:46,280 --> 00:43:47,920
Speaker 4: I can cut up an onion and I put some

983
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 4: garlic in there, I'll put it in a pant's santia

984
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 4: and I will be full, and then I can apologize

985
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:52,800
Speaker 4: for my behavior.

986
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 1: And don't forget the popcorn. Popcorn should be in a pantry.

987
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:00,719
Speaker 3: You know what, Now that I got kids, always got popcorn,

988
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 3: it's the best.

989
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:03,360
Speaker 5: I actually have some peanuts.

990
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:04,240
Speaker 1: You got peanuts?

991
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, nuts, I'm remembering right now. I have salted peanuts

992
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 4: because I'm gonna boil some peanuts.

993
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:10,759
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm from Texas. Did you just say you're

994
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 1: gonna ball some peanuts?

995
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 5: I'm gonna boil some peanuts.

996
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: I like that. I'm from Texas. I haven't heard it

997
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 1: said like that a little while.

998
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 5: That's the only way you can say when you're talking

999
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:18,759
Speaker 5: about boiling peanuts.

1000
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's personally the way. And you're gonna sell them

1001
00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 1: by the roadside. Yeah, I love that.

1002
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:26,240
Speaker 5: Okay, cool, that actually sounds so exciting.

1003
00:44:26,360 --> 00:44:30,239
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, okay, this question is a doozy. I just

1004
00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:33,240
Speaker 3: moved to a new city. How does a straight CIS

1005
00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:36,719
Speaker 3: male make new friends with other men who aren't disgusting,

1006
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:37,840
Speaker 3: horrible and dumb?

1007
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 5: Okay, loving him?

1008
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:39,479
Speaker 3: Right?

1009
00:44:39,800 --> 00:44:43,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, thank you for the fucking self awareness.

1010
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:48,880
Speaker 1: I'll just step in here. I want to hear what

1011
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:49,920
Speaker 1: y'all think this is.

1012
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 4: I mean, kind of not outful, because I find a

1013
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:57,440
Speaker 4: bunch of my cis mail, my best guys I have

1014
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 4: found through dykes that are like, he's fine, and then

1015
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 4: I take them in and I love them forever. I

1016
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,720
Speaker 4: don't want to find them in a pack of them. Yeah,

1017
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 4: I want to find the one that's hanging out with

1018
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 4: a group of people that doesn't look like him, because

1019
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:15,880
Speaker 4: then they've all co signed on him, and then I

1020
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 4: can adopt him.

1021
00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 1: That makes sense.

1022
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:20,759
Speaker 3: So maybe go to a lesbian bar and see where

1023
00:45:20,760 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 3: the straight mail is. Yes, or I was going to

1024
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:26,919
Speaker 3: say a trivia night where like drag bingo, yeah, or

1025
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 3: you know something like that.

1026
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 5: That's a good one.

1027
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:33,120
Speaker 1: I'm actually in the middle of a kind of making

1028
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:34,359
Speaker 1: a male friend right now.

1029
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:38,280
Speaker 2: Oh okay, so late in life, so late in life.

1030
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,880
Speaker 1: Oh my god, how's it going? Yeah, this late in life,

1031
00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 1: it's going pretty good. He invited me to lunch. Don't

1032
00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 1: want to put any labels on it. Our kids go

1033
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 1: to the same school. He's really nice. He's an illustrator.

1034
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 1: He does stuff for like DC and Marvel. It's like

1035
00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:58,680
Speaker 1: he's cool. He's really cool. So I don't know, guys,

1036
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 1: I just been hurt before, and I just I want,

1037
00:46:01,560 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: you know.

1038
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:07,120
Speaker 4: The auntie energy that Michelle and I that passed over truly,

1039
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:08,359
Speaker 4: I the care that I.

1040
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 5: Felt for you while you were describing this man.

1041
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: It was full body.

1042
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:14,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, we were like, yes, I love that.

1043
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:15,399
Speaker 3: Okay.

1044
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 1: I just wanted to work out me too.

1045
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:21,840
Speaker 3: You know what, as you evolve, so should the company

1046
00:46:21,840 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 3: you keep, and there's nothing wrong with that.

1047
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 2: You know, you are the company you keep.

1048
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 3: Friend.

1049
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:29,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, good luck with that. I'll tell you how

1050
00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 1: it goes.

1051
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 3: Here. We asked all our guests, what is the most

1052
00:46:33,080 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 3: adult thing you want to do for yourself this year

1053
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 3: that you haven't had time to do?

1054
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 2: And it truly could be anything.

1055
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:39,759
Speaker 3: It could be cleaning out a thing or taking a

1056
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:42,319
Speaker 3: thing to the trip to whatever it is for you.

1057
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:44,719
Speaker 3: What is the most adult thing that you want to

1058
00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 3: do for yourself that you just haven't had time to

1059
00:46:46,680 --> 00:46:47,120
Speaker 3: do yet.

1060
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:50,080
Speaker 4: Oh God, this is a big, like transitional year for

1061
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:53,440
Speaker 4: me with this like music project that I've started. It

1062
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 4: feels like I started a small business and so I'm

1063
00:46:55,640 --> 00:46:59,240
Speaker 4: like taking over actually so many parts of my life

1064
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:01,239
Speaker 4: that I need to be better at right now. So

1065
00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 4: I'm like drinking more water, which sounds like a really

1066
00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 4: basic one but actually is making me feel so much better.

1067
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:10,759
Speaker 4: And I'm getting more sleep, and I'm working on answering emails,

1068
00:47:11,239 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 4: and I'm just realizing that the Tedium like truly like

1069
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 4: the daily mundanities that I was forgoing because they were

1070
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:21,239
Speaker 4: overwhelming to me. When I start my day with a

1071
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:23,759
Speaker 4: coffee and I knock out like three of those things.

1072
00:47:23,880 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 4: I drink a glass of water, I start my day

1073
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 4: with a coffee, I answer an email. The way that

1074
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:30,959
Speaker 4: it affects my mental health has been so big where

1075
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:33,960
Speaker 4: everything else is feeling more manageable because I'm like, oh yeah,

1076
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:38,360
Speaker 4: I'm my own business owner. If I can start my

1077
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 4: day with a little order, then I can go have

1078
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:44,799
Speaker 4: fun and I can let things happen as they come,

1079
00:47:44,960 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 4: and I can go with the flow. But I can

1080
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:49,719
Speaker 4: only go with the flow if I start my day

1081
00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 4: very structured.

1082
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:53,400
Speaker 1: Nice. I love that. Thank you.

1083
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 4: I think everyone does this but me. But it's just

1084
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 4: I have to make the coffee and then I sit

1085
00:47:58,200 --> 00:47:59,440
Speaker 4: down and I answer one email.

1086
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 1: Yeah I get that.

1087
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:02,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, my coffee is everything.

1088
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:04,880
Speaker 3: I didn't realize I was gonna be like one of

1089
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:07,359
Speaker 3: those mom mugs at Marshalls. Don't talk to me on your.

1090
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 1: Hank down path, but first coffee.

1091
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 3: I am that bit. Thank you so much, er, I

1092
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 3: love you, Thank you for doing this silly little podcast.

1093
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 1: Yes, thank you, I love you.

1094
00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 5: Thanks for having me both of you.

1095
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 3: Oh like wow, woh woah, woah woah woah wow yes talk,

1096
00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 3: Yeah that was you know what. I definitely think you

1097
00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:38,400
Speaker 3: could be. I'm trying to figure out how to say this.

1098
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:40,799
Speaker 3: I think it could be two things at the same time.

1099
00:48:41,320 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 3: For me, A lot of times I feel like full

1100
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 3: and empty, right, like, oh wow, this is such an

1101
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 3: amazing experience, but I kind of wish this and I'm

1102
00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 3: waiting for that, right and you can be happy and

1103
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:54,520
Speaker 3: sad and you know, you can be fulfilled and like

1104
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:57,799
Speaker 3: still you're infra more and so like I love that

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Speaker 3: they're so prolific, yes, and fun, but also such a

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Speaker 3: hot mess in all.

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Speaker 2: The right ways.

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Speaker 1: But that's yeah, you love that in an artist, right,

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Speaker 1: Like the studio is a mess, but what's in the

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Speaker 1: gallery is Christine, you know, then that's beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess I just should be friends with artists.

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Speaker 1: Then aren't you already like you're doing it right? No,

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Speaker 1: not enough artists.

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Speaker 3: No, it's not that I think the older I get

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Speaker 3: it's really hard for and whatever you do, Like, it's

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Speaker 3: really hard for me to be around people who are

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Speaker 3: not even trying.

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Speaker 2: To live up to their full potential.

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Speaker 1: Truth.

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Speaker 3: It's just hard and I want that for them, but

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Speaker 3: it takes energy out of me in a way where

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Speaker 3: I don't even know how to describe it. It does feel

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Speaker 3: like emotional osteoporosis. So I feel like, I don't know

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Speaker 3: if you guys are listening and there's something that you're

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Speaker 3: passionate about.

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Speaker 2: Who cares about its monetary value?

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Speaker 3: Like, just do it because you know it'll add value

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Speaker 3: to your life and that's all that really fucking matters.

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Speaker 1: So you're saying, don't ask you to join my fantasy

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Speaker 1: football league. Is that what you're saying? Because the guys

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Speaker 1: there so fun.

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Speaker 3: I just thought I thought, first of all, all those

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Speaker 3: words are disgusting, fantasy football and league. That's like, yuh yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'd rather you go through my medicine cabinet and see

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Speaker 3: what's in there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay? Is that it? Is that an invitation? No?

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Speaker 3: Okay, I've had enough. It's nice to see you. I

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Speaker 3: love you too, you guys, thanks for listening.

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Speaker 1: This has been an exactly right production.

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Speaker 2: Our senior producer is g Howley.

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Speaker 1: Our associate producer is Alex Chief.

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Speaker 3: This episode was mixed by John Bradley.

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Speaker 1: Our guest booker is Patrick Cottner.

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Speaker 3: Additional production support from Hannah Kyle Crichton.

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Speaker 1: Theme song and live show djang is by Don will.

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Speaker 3: Our live show producer is Marian Ways.

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Speaker 1: Artwork by Jamie Bechtel.

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Speaker 2: Photography by Guys vander Most.

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Speaker 1: Executive produced by Karen Kilgera, Georgia Hartstar, and Daniel Kramer.

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Speaker 2: Follow the show on Instagram at Adulting the Pod.

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Speaker 1: Email your questions to Adulting Questions at gm mail dot com.

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Speaker 4: Mm hmm