WEBVTT - EP 351: Are We Really Sexually Liberated?

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<v Speaker 1>Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision. Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>to horror black decision.

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<v Speaker 2>Your you serenated that better than the niggasday on stage

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<v Speaker 2>for our dating game.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I feel like my vocals is coming. By

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<v Speaker 3>the way, you pus see as Hosey to stop going

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<v Speaker 3>to episode one and tell me how much my voice

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<v Speaker 3>didn't change. It's called puberty. Anyways, Welcome y'all to Horrible Decisions. Bitch,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm your girl. Maybe b aka Petta Saton aka Pegga

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<v Speaker 3>Marco aka Bull Corps aka Debt bitch was Welcome back, y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>My name is Weezy and it's just us today. Just

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<v Speaker 3>how you like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh God, a third h.

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<v Speaker 2>Just for full transparency, we are recording this in the

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<v Speaker 2>year from the past, not the year from the past.

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<v Speaker 2>Year from the past, it's history.

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<v Speaker 3>However, we wanted you to have an episode with just

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<v Speaker 3>of us at the top, just us at the top

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<v Speaker 3>of the year because we're your phase. So for the catchup,

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<v Speaker 3>I did want us to start off with some bit

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<v Speaker 3>of Manifest This showns y'all know, I just learned about

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<v Speaker 3>manifest in last year, well this year, but this last year.

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<v Speaker 3>Now but I said, let's talk about the things I

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<v Speaker 3>would say, relationship wise and sex wise. Okay, that maybe

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<v Speaker 3>we didn't get in twenty twenty three that we would

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<v Speaker 3>like in twenty twenty four, and also maybe just the

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<v Speaker 3>things that we won't go back to with both of

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<v Speaker 3>us having ended relationships. I wanted to start off with, like,

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<v Speaker 3>what do you manifest your love life to be in

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<v Speaker 3>twenty twenty four?

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<v Speaker 1>Weezy and action.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to manifest being on the same page. I

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<v Speaker 2>had great sex in twenty twenty three towards the end,

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<v Speaker 2>just summer and beyond. I dated a celibate nig in

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<v Speaker 2>the beginning, and then I got the shit fucked out

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<v Speaker 2>of me towards again great hope, I still am getting

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<v Speaker 2>the shit fucked out of me.

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<v Speaker 1>I's on the digger so too.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I also with like another experience with a

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<v Speaker 2>woman where she doesn't shit on me, that'd be great.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh honestly, it's I know it's like love and sex.

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<v Speaker 2>But one thing I really want to manifest I want

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<v Speaker 2>to live in Paris. For a few months, you've been

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<v Speaker 2>saying that, I think this will be the year that happens.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I need that, and I think that this

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<v Speaker 2>will be the year I've been saying I want a boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>I think in a family and kids, I think a

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend is actually all I want.

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<v Speaker 1>Right now, right now, right now. Hey, Duayne dropped the

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<v Speaker 1>bomb drop right here.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait what I been you You've been talking about being

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<v Speaker 3>preded like Sacy rad for the last two years.

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<v Speaker 1>Bitch, what you mean? What you mean now?

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<v Speaker 2>Not like Sexy Ray. I just realized, like I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>I live in two cities. I kind of feel like

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<v Speaker 2>my life's a little flighty, and I want to have

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<v Speaker 2>a baby eventually, but like, I don't know, I just

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<v Speaker 2>was so sure that i'd meet that person, and now

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to enjoy that person. Just knowing that

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<v Speaker 2>I've been dating somebody that like, I'm still having fun with.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even even if the person that I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>end up with forever or my baby daddy is in

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<v Speaker 2>my life right.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, I think I just need a second Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've realized that last year really was taxing on

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<v Speaker 2>my body with travel, with touring, and I know we're

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<v Speaker 2>not touring this year or anything, but it was like

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<v Speaker 2>a lot and just having to take care of my

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<v Speaker 2>parents in LA. But now I'm in New York at

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<v Speaker 2>least it's not Orlando, right, So I'm doing my thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just like, where is a baby gonna come in

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<v Speaker 2>the mix? Like I don't know, And I really want

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<v Speaker 2>to just keep having fun. But I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>have casual fun. I do want to like have someone

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm pouring into and that I'm going to be

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<v Speaker 2>having some commitment back from that to me feels worth it.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I have fun with my friends every time I

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<v Speaker 2>vacation with them, Visa, Africa, whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>Fuck. You know what I'm saying. I do.

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<v Speaker 2>I live my life having fun. Actually, you know it's funny.

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<v Speaker 2>I was talking to one of my homeboys who has

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<v Speaker 2>a fortieth birthday this.

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<v Speaker 1>Year, and I was like, what we are.

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<v Speaker 3>Not?

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<v Speaker 1>But I was like, yo, what do you want to do?

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<v Speaker 1>And he was like, I just want to show with

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<v Speaker 1>my friends?

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<v Speaker 2>And he was like, may we get lit whenever we want?

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<v Speaker 2>Like we live a dope ass life, Like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>need that much. And I was like, damn, that makes

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<v Speaker 2>me think about like a bachelorette party. If I was

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<v Speaker 2>getting married, what would I wanted to be Like He's like,

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<v Speaker 2>we have that every weekend, any one time we want,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, yeah, like it's a blessing to

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<v Speaker 2>live this fucking life. So I think for me, I

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<v Speaker 2>just want to have amazing experiences with a partner. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm kind of tired of traveling with my friends. I

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<v Speaker 2>know you're not, but I am. I like getting fucked

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<v Speaker 2>on vacation.

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<v Speaker 3>Bitch, I'm doing solo chirts even that, Like I do

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of solo vacation right and like.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of bored with it. And it's funny.

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<v Speaker 2>One of my homegirls told me I could be happy

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<v Speaker 2>as long as I just have money to travel the world.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, bitch, I've been doing that the last three years,

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<v Speaker 2>and trust me, it's but then there's nothing.

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<v Speaker 3>What else is then? If that's fun, only get fucked

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<v Speaker 3>on that trip? Oh okay, let's see.

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<v Speaker 1>My old twenties was getting sucked on trips.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm like enjoying being able to fund my own

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<v Speaker 3>trips and be with friends and do exactly what I

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<v Speaker 3>want to do when I want to do it how

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<v Speaker 3>I want to do it. Because a lot of my

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<v Speaker 3>twenties was on other people's times. Yeah, so I'm in

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<v Speaker 3>that space where I'm enjoying, like all the trips that

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<v Speaker 3>I plan to make twenty twenty four, Japan will be

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<v Speaker 3>the international trip that was my That's because bitch, I

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<v Speaker 3>eat im a sushi. I'm like, bitch, why are you

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<v Speaker 3>thinking to go to motherfucking Japan? Bitch, you gonna get

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of beef. That's that's I will not it's

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<v Speaker 3>the state.

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<v Speaker 1>Why not? I don't do beef like that? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>wag you little tiny peces? Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, I'll do the little time. It's like the

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<v Speaker 3>best I'm not gonna do like no state state. But

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<v Speaker 3>it's also like it's the same price as like a

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<v Speaker 3>ribbi here.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I know some.

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<v Speaker 3>Bullshit because it's well no, I mean, and it's like

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<v Speaker 3>so dope, just fashion, culture everything. I'm excited to go there.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm excited to go there. I Brionn is actually going

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<v Speaker 3>to Japan. I was thinking about going winter, but I

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<v Speaker 3>think I'm gonna do a little Mexico stint again. I

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<v Speaker 3>think I said I want to live in Paris, but

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<v Speaker 3>it's fucked up because like, I don't really want to

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<v Speaker 3>go anywhere new.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to go to the places I like, which

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<v Speaker 2>is kind of weird. But when I say I want

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<v Speaker 2>to live in Paris, I think I'm so obsessed with

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<v Speaker 2>that city. I need that moment for myself. Maybe I'll

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<v Speaker 2>meet a nigga out there, Maybe I won't. Maybe I'll

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<v Speaker 2>have a nigga I'll bring it with me. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>but I want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Learn some French.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to enjoy life while I'm young and while

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<v Speaker 3>I can afford it, because to me, once I get

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<v Speaker 3>a kid, where I spend money on my baby in

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<v Speaker 3>the way inflation. Sexually, some new experiences I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been having a really fun sex life, like just

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<v Speaker 2>loving being able to explore my body again. Last year

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<v Speaker 2>was the most sex I've had since Old Bay, because

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, having a boyfriend you're fucking all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>you know this, so like and being able to date

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<v Speaker 2>someone consistently and get like that shit is fun as shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Having more like experiences like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't really like so many new experiences with new people,

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<v Speaker 2>because I prefer I'm more comfortable when I'm already fucking,

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<v Speaker 2>like I can be more loose, I can be more myself,

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<v Speaker 2>so like, I want more of that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also trying to think what else, what do I

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<v Speaker 1>really want.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, you don't have to have the answer right now,

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<v Speaker 3>you do not, and in a couple episodes or mid

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<v Speaker 3>year or at the end of the year, maybe you'll

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<v Speaker 3>have to be so definitive. I mean, I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>even so this is what this This outline, y'all, is

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<v Speaker 3>a lot about why I asked this question. I manifested.

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<v Speaker 3>I think what I wanted right before the pandemic without

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<v Speaker 3>knowing all the things, but also without being exactly really

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<v Speaker 3>particular in the things I wanted, And I think what

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted is changed in a in a way that

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<v Speaker 3>I don't no. To be very honest with you, I

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<v Speaker 3>think so I didn't date at all last year once

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<v Speaker 3>I broke up with this nigga. I went back to

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<v Speaker 3>twenty four to seven, Green Eyes and Detroit. Those was

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<v Speaker 3>my three little you know, and then I stopped seeing

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<v Speaker 3>them abruptly and literally didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Have sex for the end of the year. And I

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<v Speaker 1>know I.

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<v Speaker 3>Missed my relationship with sex, and I need it back

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<v Speaker 3>because right now I'm questioning what sex is so much

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<v Speaker 3>that it doesn't feel healthy to me. And I literally

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<v Speaker 3>brought that up with my therapist. I was like, bits

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<v Speaker 3>y'all want to get back to fucking, because I know

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<v Speaker 3>I enjoyed fucking, but the way I'm questioning what sex

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<v Speaker 3>is and what it means and how it should make

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<v Speaker 3>me feel and even the intricacies of it is a

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<v Speaker 3>mind fuck right now to me, and I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to go back to fucking, bitch. I do

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<v Speaker 3>think though, that's healing.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you know it.

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<v Speaker 2>Never know how much we haven't healed until like when

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<v Speaker 2>you talked about a few months back the sex club

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<v Speaker 2>and how you went and you have.

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<v Speaker 1>You fucking cried? Bro? You ever? I mean?

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<v Speaker 3>But also when we were in the bay, I was

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<v Speaker 3>with someone very attractive, we had a sexual moment, and

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<v Speaker 3>then when I ended up spending some more time with him,

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<v Speaker 3>I got triggered by my ex and that was the

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<v Speaker 3>last time I was like, oh yeah, I'm not I'm

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<v Speaker 3>I'm still very broken, bro, and I'm not ready.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know how much like okay sometimes trigger warning

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<v Speaker 2>that word is like it feels PC. But my dread

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<v Speaker 2>Nigga said something to me that like was a joke,

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<v Speaker 2>but it triggered me so much so fans have like

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<v Speaker 2>tried to write.

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<v Speaker 1>Me about him. Well not tried to but okay, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just little things like that.

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<v Speaker 2>And like even at my after party he saw a

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<v Speaker 2>girl he had slept with, which whatever, I don't care.

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<v Speaker 1>I really don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>But uh, I made a joke it with him on

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<v Speaker 2>the phone, like, Nigga, you walk these motherfuckering streets, but

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in La.

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<v Speaker 1>Just you need to ask them holes if they listen

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<v Speaker 1>to the podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>And he was laughing, like for really like your fans

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<v Speaker 2>out of control, like Nigga, k cheat in peace, and

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<v Speaker 2>like he was a joke, but also because there's no

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<v Speaker 2>cheating to be had on.

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<v Speaker 1>Me right right, because y'all aren't together.

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<v Speaker 2>But but all I could think about is Bobe and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh my god. He used to tell

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<v Speaker 2>me that that was why he would like fuck white

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<v Speaker 2>girls so he wouldn't like run into a fan.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh and wait, my ex used to tell me if

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<v Speaker 3>that's why he didn't come to our live shows the

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<v Speaker 3>fuck out of.

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<v Speaker 1>Here because of what I had shared.

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<v Speaker 3>He didn't want people to know that he was that

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<v Speaker 3>person doing the fox up shit because he's like, as

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<v Speaker 3>much as they might may like me all of our breakups,

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<v Speaker 3>they don't like me. And maybe he read the comments

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<v Speaker 3>and things like that. He didn't want to be in

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<v Speaker 3>a room where everyone hated him, and I think he knew.

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<v Speaker 1>That the audience did not like him.

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<v Speaker 2>You're joke, But for me, it's I actually don't think

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<v Speaker 2>it's what he did more than your reaction.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you remember when old Bay would.

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<v Speaker 2>Do shit and I'd be like, hey, shit, whatever, that's

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<v Speaker 2>not your reaction to the things he would do too.

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<v Speaker 3>My reaction was because this was the first person I

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<v Speaker 3>I gave my all too. Like, let's be very clear,

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<v Speaker 3>all the other niggas that I'd have talked about on

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<v Speaker 3>this motherfucker podcast, I didn't cook for them, I didn't

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<v Speaker 3>bring them on trips with me.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't hang out with them around my friends.

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<v Speaker 3>They didn't meet my mom. They weren't in my space

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<v Speaker 3>the way this person was. So my reaction came from

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<v Speaker 3>I'm doing everything I think I'm supposed to be doing

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<v Speaker 3>the right way, and we're broken up.

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<v Speaker 1>Time seven out of thirteen. Time eight out of thirteen.

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<v Speaker 3>He lied to me, and I caught him lying or

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<v Speaker 3>he cheated on me, and I felt like so.

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<v Speaker 1>The things were more like these were my real life reactions,

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that that's why.

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<v Speaker 3>Twenty twenty three was so much because is if I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't share it here, because we actually had a couple

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<v Speaker 3>weeks of a break, I was sharing it on See.

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<v Speaker 3>The thing is so I was constantly having to record

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<v Speaker 3>in real time what was going on in my relationship

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<v Speaker 3>to where honestly, by the time sometimes we got back

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<v Speaker 3>into the studio, I was back with him, but the

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<v Speaker 3>episode that was airing was me dogging this nigga out.

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<v Speaker 3>So literally, we're out in public together. You were crazy

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<v Speaker 3>for that, bro, And I mean, listen, I walk in

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<v Speaker 3>my truth, and if a nigga fuck with me, he's

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<v Speaker 3>gonna have to know a bit, gonna be honest.

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<v Speaker 1>So you just better behave And I mean to be honest,

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<v Speaker 1>let's be very clear.

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<v Speaker 3>I this nigga that I would have cut it out

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<v Speaker 3>that well he may or may not be, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>be breaking my celibacy, this new nigga, the twenty two

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<v Speaker 3>year old. And literally he was like, so we gonna

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<v Speaker 3>talk about it on the podcast, and I was like, girl, we.

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<v Speaker 1>Got a break. Thank god. That nigga may not even

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<v Speaker 1>be in the picture in January February. I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 3>I am going to take my time with introducing niggas

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<v Speaker 3>to this podcast in twenty twenty four.

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<v Speaker 2>The only thing I will say, like even me saying,

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<v Speaker 2>who knows if dredal sleepy in the picture?

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<v Speaker 3>Alex was like yelling at me the other day. He

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<v Speaker 3>was like, Bro, you don't know how to have fun.

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<v Speaker 3>You're having sex and like enjoying life right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Because like you're having fun, you have to keep having

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<v Speaker 2>fun and stop being so like.

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<v Speaker 1>On your a man has to do.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's crazy because I remember when recording that episode

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<v Speaker 2>with Sahara around November.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you know, she had a lot of rules if

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<v Speaker 1>they don't do X y Z.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm listening to my homeboys all tell me like, bro,

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<v Speaker 2>just have fun, like you have to just do this

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<v Speaker 2>for yourself, and I actually think that is something I

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<v Speaker 2>want to do.

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<v Speaker 3>This is why this podcast is going to keep working

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<v Speaker 3>because we are on the opposite side. I had so

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<v Speaker 3>much fun with niggas in my twenties, not like casual. No.

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<v Speaker 3>I literally just said to my therapist, this is the

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<v Speaker 3>struggles that I'm having. I'm struggling with how to show

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<v Speaker 3>up to get what I want.

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<v Speaker 1>Live in the moment, that's what I want.

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<v Speaker 3>Say yeah, yeah, I forgot, I hear I I did.

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<v Speaker 3>I had so many relationships with men and treated sex

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<v Speaker 3>so casually and so much like fun that at the

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<v Speaker 3>end I didn't get what I wanted. And so there's

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<v Speaker 3>real intention with me now going into dating and sex

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<v Speaker 3>that I want to be sure that I'm fulfilled.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a lot of empty sex. I had a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of transactional sex.

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<v Speaker 3>I had a lot of sex that was, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>this man is so fine him fucking me at two

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<v Speaker 3>hundred and thirty pounds, it makes me feel good.

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<v Speaker 1>Ooh.

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<v Speaker 3>There was a lot of very unhealthy sex that I

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<v Speaker 3>had in my twenties that now where I feel the

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<v Speaker 3>best about myself, I'm making money, so it doesn't need

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<v Speaker 3>to be transactional. I just finally had my first relationship,

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<v Speaker 3>so I might be able to see red flags a

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<v Speaker 3>little sooner. I want to fuck with intention and I

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<v Speaker 3>want to date with intention, and so to me at

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<v Speaker 3>thirty three, it's not about fun anymore, like I felt

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<v Speaker 3>like I did that, and I want to be very

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<v Speaker 3>clear with that. I think I allowed niggas to set

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<v Speaker 3>the tone for shit, and then when I caught feelings,

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<v Speaker 3>I had to retrict because I.

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<v Speaker 1>Was living in their world.

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<v Speaker 3>I want a nigga to be able to show up

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<v Speaker 3>for me how I need them to show up for me,

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<v Speaker 3>and if they can't, I'm so fine after doing this

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<v Speaker 3>fucking six seven months of fucking celibacy to be able

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<v Speaker 3>to be like, I'm good, this doesn't serve me.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that, like what you're saying has been the

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<v Speaker 2>case for most women and myself. I definitely can say that.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I was like, oh, I was just supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>be enjoying this. What I'm taking from this time around

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<v Speaker 2>is more like I'm way too hard on myself when

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<v Speaker 2>they don't work out, instead of just saying this is

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<v Speaker 2>just an experience.

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<v Speaker 3>And see I've always been like that, it's just an experience.

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<v Speaker 3>So not that I'm hard on myself as much as

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<v Speaker 3>I want to be harder on how people show up

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<v Speaker 3>for me.

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<v Speaker 1>So I got a little R and V nigga.

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<v Speaker 3>His name is gonna be R and V Nigga for

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<v Speaker 3>now because I don't know how it's gonna pan out,

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<v Speaker 3>but we've been texting. I was supposed to go to

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<v Speaker 3>one of his shows in the DMV coming up, and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, Okay, I'm gonna pull up, Like why

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<v Speaker 3>not like we've been talking. So we've been talking for

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<v Speaker 3>over a year. I started talking to him when I

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<v Speaker 3>went to Abu Dhabi last year.

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<v Speaker 1>Damn over years a long time.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I got back with my niggas a week after.

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<v Speaker 3>So literally he's just been like I knew he was

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<v Speaker 3>gonna get back. Every time I broke up, we got

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<v Speaker 3>back talking, we flirt. Then I'd be like, oh, never mind, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Back with my nigga. We gotta cut it off.

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<v Speaker 3>Then he was just in New York over the summer

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<v Speaker 3>and I took him to one of my favorite restaurants

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<v Speaker 3>and I was like, Okay, there's a cute little vibe

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<v Speaker 3>and now that like I'm out of.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of the seat.

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<v Speaker 3>No.

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<v Speaker 1>I took him to Fish Fish Chicks is my favorite restaurant, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And so after we did that, we've just been talking now.

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<v Speaker 3>So literally, he hit me up after like congratulating me

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<v Speaker 3>on my last show, and I said, you'll be playing

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<v Speaker 3>and his response was like, nah, I'm on your ass,

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<v Speaker 3>And I immediately responded and was like, you're not on

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<v Speaker 3>my ass because I don't have I don't have flowers

0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:05.200
<v Speaker 3>sent from you to congratulate me on my last show.

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<v Speaker 3>He set some of your address right now. And it's

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<v Speaker 3>literally just that I don't want to. I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>the words anymore. I don't want you to sit here

0:17:12.119 --> 0:17:13.560
<v Speaker 3>and gaslight me. I don't want you and I don't

0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:16.240
<v Speaker 3>want to use all them like buzzwords. But I know

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<v Speaker 3>what I want if you're going to see here and

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<v Speaker 3>be able to say, you're proud of me for completing

0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:23.840
<v Speaker 3>my toy that you know I've been on for fucking

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<v Speaker 3>eight months.

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<v Speaker 1>Where's my flowers?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Show me?

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<v Speaker 2>Also, like, sometimes I think what I have learned a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit, men are waiting for men watch women like

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<v Speaker 2>that are doing shit and they're like, oh, she got

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<v Speaker 2>other niggas.

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't gonna tell you that.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't I mean right, And it's not that I

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<v Speaker 3>want to say that, but but I want you to

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<v Speaker 3>show up in the way that if I sit here

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<v Speaker 3>and travel to come see you, it makes.

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<v Speaker 1>Sense again being on the same page, being on the

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<v Speaker 1>same page.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a date coming up with this guy. I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to show you him. I think he's super sexy, Okay, tall,

0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:05.320
<v Speaker 2>he's like in tech ish but so my type, just

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<v Speaker 2>like you could tell he's weird.

0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:08.040
<v Speaker 1>That makes me like.

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<v Speaker 2>Him, But really witty and one thing I did meet

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<v Speaker 2>him on an app and one thing that he I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>you just show me his app profile? Oh no, but

0:18:16.200 --> 0:18:18.239
<v Speaker 2>nobody else made him out of my app. And one

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<v Speaker 2>of the things I realized on his profile that I

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<v Speaker 2>don't see is he's looking for his long term relationship

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<v Speaker 2>in monogamy, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Monogomy, bitch, You can't do this, you being honest, Yeah,

0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:30.040
<v Speaker 1>I think I could. You don't want to fuck itches together, though,

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<v Speaker 1>but that ain't monogamy. It's monogamish. Look at you already

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<v Speaker 1>been though.

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<v Speaker 2>I was saying you, I'm not sucking a bitch right now,

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<v Speaker 2>So I figure I could live like this. But I

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<v Speaker 2>did think to myself like, oh, like, you know, I

0:18:48.119 --> 0:18:50.440
<v Speaker 2>I fantasize a little too much as a spicyes. You put

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<v Speaker 2>you play these scenarios in your head. But I was like, yo,

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<v Speaker 2>the one thing that I know that I need that

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<v Speaker 2>sounds so mean. Oh I do need a fun nigga

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<v Speaker 2>with money, bro Oh, I just said that I can't.

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<v Speaker 2>I just said that to my homegirl.

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<v Speaker 3>My ex nigga had enough money to where it was cute,

0:19:08.040 --> 0:19:10.239
<v Speaker 3>but it wasn't my money. And now literally twenty two

0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:11.920
<v Speaker 3>year old make more money than me. And I literally

0:19:11.960 --> 0:19:13.800
<v Speaker 3>tell my therapist, I said, but at least I know

0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:16.000
<v Speaker 3>when we go out he got it and his apartment is.

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<v Speaker 1>Nice, and money is just not going to be an

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<v Speaker 1>issue at all with us.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't like thinking about what we're about to

0:19:21.880 --> 0:19:24.160
<v Speaker 2>spend because like, I know how I rock, but same.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's the thing, bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>We have a handful of rich friends, and then I

0:19:28.720 --> 0:19:31.280
<v Speaker 2>have a handful of my day once and maybe aren't rich, right.

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<v Speaker 1>But how I roll with them? Friends? Like my trip

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<v Speaker 1>TV is the last summer, bless you me.

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<v Speaker 2>Gabby Andre went and I was like, okay, we playing

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<v Speaker 2>this in seventy four hours, nigga, I'm not flying fourteen

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<v Speaker 2>hours sitting now, and.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody's like, oh, we were not.

0:19:47.320 --> 0:19:49.679
<v Speaker 2>And we fucking picked the best match and we found

0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:50.800
<v Speaker 2>we fucking did it all.

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<v Speaker 1>We had amazing dinners, and I was.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, I want to do this with a nigga, but

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<v Speaker 3>that nigga gotta gotta move like this.

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<v Speaker 2>And also I don't want to be so crazy. Wow

0:20:01.280 --> 0:20:02.960
<v Speaker 2>when I meet a rich guy, more than I wanted

0:20:02.960 --> 0:20:05.080
<v Speaker 2>to be normal. So like that's matter of fact, that's

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<v Speaker 2>my mantation.

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<v Speaker 1>Give me. I want to know that you.

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<v Speaker 3>Do like that salty ass motherfucker caviar. I need to

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<v Speaker 3>know what you bro. You stall me ordered that shit

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<v Speaker 3>before I ordered it yesterday.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you order eating it?

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<v Speaker 3>I bitch, I saw it on top of the steak

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<v Speaker 3>but oh yeah, oh no, no, no I ordered, so we

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<v Speaker 3>both ordered nobu before bitch I had a hole of

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<v Speaker 3>ma ho lim t say what I do.

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<v Speaker 1>This is my hack.

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<v Speaker 2>Caviar be one hundred and twenty five minimum right for

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<v Speaker 2>four ounces?

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<v Speaker 1>Three ounces? Maybe sometimes No, bitch, I just been one

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<v Speaker 1>hundred for one at a steakhouse.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you're right, but you could get caviar top tartar.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll do that and then I'll put it on top

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<v Speaker 2>of the other ship. I'll be playing, I'll be trying.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just feel like I want to scamming caviar.

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<v Speaker 1>You're annoying.

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to man that also does is shit?

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<v Speaker 2>I agree, because for me, that's the energy I want

0:21:04.400 --> 0:21:07.040
<v Speaker 2>at this age. I want to invite it in. I

0:21:07.119 --> 0:21:09.080
<v Speaker 2>was inviting it in when I was in my twenties

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<v Speaker 2>and I was able to get it. It was just another

0:21:10.600 --> 0:21:12.680
<v Speaker 2>niggas money, And now I just want.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to invite it in as a companion.

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<v Speaker 3>When I was with Oldbay, that was one thing I'll

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<v Speaker 3>say that I enjoyed whatever the fuck we wanted to do.

0:21:19.480 --> 0:21:22.920
<v Speaker 3>We did it right, and I need that again right

0:21:23.200 --> 0:21:26.600
<v Speaker 3>like bad bitch, Which is funny because our vanilla shit

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<v Speaker 3>is about the opposite and welcome to dating.

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<v Speaker 1>Man, it's about dating for love.

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<v Speaker 3>Nope. So, according to the New York Post, men are

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<v Speaker 3>manipulating women with a sick New Penny dating.

0:21:42.520 --> 0:21:47.199
<v Speaker 1>Trend or psychological torture, however you want to do it so.

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<v Speaker 3>According to Indy one hundred, the method involves a man

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<v Speaker 3>putting in one hundred percent investment at the beginning of

0:21:54.640 --> 0:21:59.040
<v Speaker 3>romance before deliberately dropping the level of effort until his

0:21:59.119 --> 0:22:02.959
<v Speaker 3>female partner fit fel lucky to get the bare minimum.

0:22:03.200 --> 0:22:07.680
<v Speaker 3>Oh TikToker Erica Sam explain the tactic in a viral

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<v Speaker 3>video they gained seven point six million views. Damn said

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<v Speaker 3>that she was talking to a male friend about quote

0:22:14.560 --> 0:22:18.600
<v Speaker 3>unquote love bombing, inundating a new partner with constant and

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<v Speaker 3>extravagant displays of affection early in a relationship. The friend

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<v Speaker 3>then told Damn that men have their own perverted twists

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<v Speaker 3>on this tactic.

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<v Speaker 1>Dug the penny method. This is the real thing.

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<v Speaker 3>The palate explained that men imagine a woman is like

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<v Speaker 3>a piggy bake, and they adjust their investments accordingly to

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<v Speaker 3>get her interested. Obviously, at first you have to be

0:22:42.080 --> 0:22:45.560
<v Speaker 3>feeding her one hundred dollars bills. Now here's where it

0:22:45.600 --> 0:22:46.120
<v Speaker 3>gets sick.

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<v Speaker 1>This feels so really hated.

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<v Speaker 3>The friend went on to explain the adjustments of attention.

0:22:50.480 --> 0:22:54.720
<v Speaker 3>Over time, a man would deliberately decrease the amount of

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<v Speaker 3>attention given to the girl before inflating it again, ever

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<v Speaker 3>so slightly, to appease her. However, over time the investments

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<v Speaker 3>become smaller as the woman's self worth is eroded. So

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<v Speaker 3>after putting in one hundred percent effort in the beginning

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<v Speaker 3>of the relationship and grabbing her attention, a man decreases

0:23:15.720 --> 0:23:19.360
<v Speaker 3>his investment than to ninety percent and then less. Basically,

0:23:19.440 --> 0:23:22.360
<v Speaker 3>you just keep repeating the cycle and winning her off

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<v Speaker 3>your effort until you get to the point where you're

0:23:25.359 --> 0:23:29.600
<v Speaker 3>giving her pennies and suddenly they're excited to receive a nickel.

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<v Speaker 2>This reminds me what niggas are nice to you before

0:23:33.600 --> 0:23:35.440
<v Speaker 2>they fuck you. Yeah, there's no advice say that, my

0:23:35.520 --> 0:23:36.680
<v Speaker 2>nigga that has to fuck you yet.

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<v Speaker 3>Bro, the fact that my relationship now with men who

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<v Speaker 3>I haven't fucked is so much stronger and fulfilling to

0:23:43.280 --> 0:23:45.720
<v Speaker 3>me the niggas I've given my pussy too. This is

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<v Speaker 3>exactly what that reminds me of. Niggas will show up

0:23:48.359 --> 0:23:50.119
<v Speaker 3>and show up and show up and show up for you,

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<v Speaker 3>and then once you give them the pussy and they

0:23:51.840 --> 0:23:54.359
<v Speaker 3>feel like, oh my god, I've conquered exactly what I needed.

0:23:54.680 --> 0:23:56.720
<v Speaker 1>They're gonna give you just enough to keep getting ready.

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<v Speaker 1>Here we go, oh, probably like.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh, what are we doing? We don't need to be

0:24:03.119 --> 0:24:06.400
<v Speaker 2>fucking these niggas for ninety days. Yeah, I don't think

0:24:06.400 --> 0:24:09.639
<v Speaker 2>the time. I don't think that that's oh true. But okay,

0:24:09.800 --> 0:24:13.280
<v Speaker 2>Alex is producing a podcast at the moment where a

0:24:13.320 --> 0:24:16.240
<v Speaker 2>woman whose Instagram is called Matchmaker Maria.

0:24:16.440 --> 0:24:19.639
<v Speaker 3>Okay, I know her. Uh, she was gonna come on

0:24:19.680 --> 0:24:23.040
<v Speaker 3>the pod. She was the matchmaker for a bisimone. Okay,

0:24:23.160 --> 0:24:25.679
<v Speaker 3>I didn't know her, I'm familiar with it. But he

0:24:25.800 --> 0:24:28.760
<v Speaker 3>told me you should try this thing I heard Maria say.

0:24:29.119 --> 0:24:32.800
<v Speaker 3>He said, she says you need to have twelve dates

0:24:33.080 --> 0:24:35.439
<v Speaker 3>before you have sex. The dates don't have to be

0:24:35.560 --> 0:24:37.159
<v Speaker 3>real dates. They can be phone calls.

0:24:37.560 --> 0:24:41.320
<v Speaker 1>It could be. So I feel like it's good me too.

0:24:41.800 --> 0:24:43.520
<v Speaker 2>And he was like, apparently that's like a like a

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<v Speaker 2>touch point or some way. I don't know what the

0:24:45.240 --> 0:24:48.640
<v Speaker 2>real thing is, but long story short, I think that's

0:24:48.680 --> 0:24:51.200
<v Speaker 2>a cool piece of advice because I do think there

0:24:51.240 --> 0:24:54.800
<v Speaker 2>needs to be some investment in your time together. And

0:24:54.880 --> 0:24:57.280
<v Speaker 2>I think that what had gotten me a little bit

0:24:57.320 --> 0:25:01.720
<v Speaker 2>stronger with the dread nigga before it was just that

0:25:01.760 --> 0:25:04.080
<v Speaker 2>I didn't live here, so we had to keep up

0:25:04.080 --> 0:25:07.240
<v Speaker 2>with each other, right, And I realized that. I was like, oh,

0:25:07.280 --> 0:25:10.119
<v Speaker 2>it ain't like I wouldn't have fucked. We just didn't

0:25:10.119 --> 0:25:11.399
<v Speaker 2>have time to go on those days. Yet I mean,

0:25:11.440 --> 0:25:17.520
<v Speaker 2>I feel like also because we are also comfortable. When

0:25:17.520 --> 0:25:21.480
<v Speaker 2>I say we, I mean women in situationships where we

0:25:21.520 --> 0:25:24.760
<v Speaker 2>received the bare minimum as soon as the nigga's just nice,

0:25:25.720 --> 0:25:27.880
<v Speaker 2>we think that they're giving us a lot more.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that we're that they're giving us a lot more

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<v Speaker 3>than they really are. And so in terms of men

0:25:33.600 --> 0:25:36.800
<v Speaker 3>who don't know who else, you're entertaining a man who

0:25:36.840 --> 0:25:38.560
<v Speaker 3>comes off, which is what I told you actually and

0:25:38.600 --> 0:25:41.320
<v Speaker 3>which is why I stopped. I felt like the nigga

0:25:41.359 --> 0:25:43.480
<v Speaker 3>in the Bay, I felt love bombed. I felt like

0:25:43.520 --> 0:25:45.199
<v Speaker 3>he was too nice. He was helping us pack up

0:25:45.240 --> 0:25:47.920
<v Speaker 3>the show like and I was like, ooh, this feels

0:25:47.960 --> 0:25:52.080
<v Speaker 3>too nice, like too soon, and I retracted from that.

0:25:52.520 --> 0:25:57.239
<v Speaker 3>But I also was like, oh, this is probably what

0:25:57.560 --> 0:26:01.280
<v Speaker 3>works for people, because a lot of men aren't nice.

0:26:01.440 --> 0:26:03.000
<v Speaker 3>A lot of men, especially the ones that look good

0:26:03.080 --> 0:26:05.479
<v Speaker 3>or got money, they don't have to do much. So

0:26:06.119 --> 0:26:09.160
<v Speaker 3>to know that men will show up again as they're representative,

0:26:09.359 --> 0:26:11.719
<v Speaker 3>real nice and then once they got you, wish they

0:26:11.720 --> 0:26:13.200
<v Speaker 3>got you and they can just show up starting to

0:26:13.240 --> 0:26:13.640
<v Speaker 3>get less.

0:26:13.640 --> 0:26:16.280
<v Speaker 1>I do feel like, I mean that was I mean

0:26:16.440 --> 0:26:16.840
<v Speaker 1>a lot of.

0:26:16.760 --> 0:26:19.840
<v Speaker 2>My relationship, to be honest, any boyfriend I've ever had,

0:26:20.040 --> 0:26:24.159
<v Speaker 2>it was consistent, Like old Bay wasn't the nicest.

0:26:24.880 --> 0:26:26.240
<v Speaker 1>He actually got a nicer.

0:26:26.280 --> 0:26:30.600
<v Speaker 3>Okay, but what about like just other people, like because

0:26:30.640 --> 0:26:32.920
<v Speaker 3>this is this is the dating method, So this isn't

0:26:33.000 --> 0:26:35.760
<v Speaker 3>we go together. This is niggas that probably you fuck

0:26:35.920 --> 0:26:39.480
<v Speaker 3>and after a while it just becomes alonggoing situationship because

0:26:39.480 --> 0:26:40.520
<v Speaker 3>they just feeding you less and.

0:26:40.560 --> 0:26:43.639
<v Speaker 2>Less less as a pisces and as someone that's very emo.

0:26:44.080 --> 0:26:46.680
<v Speaker 2>Niggas need to know what to do to keep me okay,

0:26:46.800 --> 0:26:49.920
<v Speaker 2>and they kind of do it okay, but I'm also

0:26:50.000 --> 0:26:52.040
<v Speaker 2>very vocal about it, so I don't know if they're

0:26:52.080 --> 0:26:53.320
<v Speaker 2>just doing it out of reluctancy.

0:26:53.960 --> 0:26:58.320
<v Speaker 1>But like, I'm share the sex message I was. I

0:26:58.359 --> 0:27:00.160
<v Speaker 1>was a little bit live shocked. I was actually a little.

0:27:01.760 --> 0:27:04.520
<v Speaker 3>I said, uh, oh shit, but you know, I'll be young.

0:27:04.680 --> 0:27:06.800
<v Speaker 3>What's up love digs Okay?

0:27:08.240 --> 0:27:09.959
<v Speaker 2>I said, Oh my god, I think I know why

0:27:10.000 --> 0:27:11.959
<v Speaker 2>I was being needy. I was just like, really not

0:27:11.960 --> 0:27:13.960
<v Speaker 2>feeling good after the show. I'm sorry, I've been working

0:27:13.960 --> 0:27:15.400
<v Speaker 2>so hard. I just don't know what to do right now.

0:27:15.920 --> 0:27:18.639
<v Speaker 2>He goes lool not baby, this SHO want a regular

0:27:19.920 --> 0:27:22.800
<v Speaker 2>and it's okay, you are needy, but I like it,

0:27:23.400 --> 0:27:25.560
<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, oh, he's just trying to be nice.

0:27:26.320 --> 0:27:29.520
<v Speaker 3>But no, but also you've expressed that you're needy and

0:27:29.560 --> 0:27:32.120
<v Speaker 3>you've looked at that as a bad thing. And he's like, bitch,

0:27:32.119 --> 0:27:33.480
<v Speaker 3>I'll see you for who you are, and I guess

0:27:33.520 --> 0:27:34.159
<v Speaker 3>I'll like empty.

0:27:34.400 --> 0:27:39.840
<v Speaker 2>And I also think, like if a man enjoys super soft,

0:27:39.880 --> 0:27:42.480
<v Speaker 2>girly shit, and maybe that's what I've been able to

0:27:42.520 --> 0:27:45.399
<v Speaker 2>lean into. I realized that the other day in my house,

0:27:46.400 --> 0:27:47.640
<v Speaker 2>we were on the couch and he was like Okay,

0:27:47.680 --> 0:27:48.840
<v Speaker 2>let's get in the bed. I'm like, why you said

0:27:48.840 --> 0:27:50.159
<v Speaker 2>you don't want to see I know you want to

0:27:50.160 --> 0:27:52.800
<v Speaker 2>be close to me, And I was like, it is cute,

0:27:53.000 --> 0:27:55.400
<v Speaker 2>but I kind of do like when a man can

0:27:55.440 --> 0:27:59.000
<v Speaker 2>read it on you. And I think that maybe I've

0:27:59.000 --> 0:28:02.560
<v Speaker 2>been kind of fortunate to date men that are getting

0:28:02.600 --> 0:28:05.720
<v Speaker 2>it with me, like and maybe they've jumped me too

0:28:05.720 --> 0:28:08.120
<v Speaker 2>early if they realize I am a lot now. I'm

0:28:08.160 --> 0:28:11.680
<v Speaker 2>not so in your face about it, but I think

0:28:11.760 --> 0:28:14.080
<v Speaker 2>niggas could feel it. Like you know, when someone could

0:28:14.080 --> 0:28:16.080
<v Speaker 2>tell you without saying it to you, I might be

0:28:16.119 --> 0:28:16.679
<v Speaker 2>real quiet.

0:28:16.680 --> 0:28:20.080
<v Speaker 1>If they're like, oh, I gotta go, I'll be like, okay,

0:28:20.320 --> 0:28:22.640
<v Speaker 1>like I'm mad about it. You know I'm mad. Oh yeah.

0:28:22.840 --> 0:28:24.800
<v Speaker 1>So then I'm very vocal of it, like I want

0:28:24.840 --> 0:28:26.560
<v Speaker 1>the kissing and the hugging and all that shit. Maybe

0:28:26.600 --> 0:28:27.280
<v Speaker 1>walk out this door.

0:28:27.480 --> 0:28:29.680
<v Speaker 3>I think that that's the difference now with me though,

0:28:29.800 --> 0:28:35.240
<v Speaker 3>like the nickel ain't gonna bee enough. You got it bye,

0:28:35.600 --> 0:28:37.840
<v Speaker 3>like and I'm now gonna be a little bit more

0:28:37.880 --> 0:28:39.720
<v Speaker 3>vocal with the things I need. And if you can't

0:28:39.720 --> 0:28:42.000
<v Speaker 3>do it, I'm not gonna wait for you to find

0:28:42.000 --> 0:28:42.640
<v Speaker 3>out how to do it.

0:28:42.720 --> 0:28:44.840
<v Speaker 1>Go give the next bitch of nickel. I don't want

0:28:44.840 --> 0:28:45.280
<v Speaker 1>a nickel.

0:28:45.440 --> 0:28:47.720
<v Speaker 3>I mean I wanted a whole silver dollar hall. I

0:28:47.760 --> 0:28:50.160
<v Speaker 3>want a hundred dollar bill. I want the blue cheese bills.

0:28:50.480 --> 0:28:53.440
<v Speaker 2>That's a man that's not trying to I think I

0:28:53.520 --> 0:28:58.480
<v Speaker 2>was watching or listening to something that said, why do

0:28:58.600 --> 0:28:59.440
<v Speaker 2>men need to hit the.

0:28:59.480 --> 0:29:02.040
<v Speaker 1>Numbers for women? And the number like, why do they

0:29:02.080 --> 0:29:03.800
<v Speaker 1>need to fuck women? What is the goal?

0:29:03.880 --> 0:29:06.240
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes when they don't want a relationship and a lot

0:29:06.280 --> 0:29:08.360
<v Speaker 2>of it they it said, could be a social climb,

0:29:08.440 --> 0:29:09.760
<v Speaker 2>saying oh I took that bitch down.

0:29:09.840 --> 0:29:11.600
<v Speaker 1>Not only social climate, I think it feeds their own

0:29:11.600 --> 0:29:13.360
<v Speaker 1>ego as well. Yeah yeah, and.

0:29:13.280 --> 0:29:15.000
<v Speaker 3>So it's like being able to say they fucked you.

0:29:15.120 --> 0:29:20.080
<v Speaker 3>And so one of those things is literally doing exactly

0:29:20.120 --> 0:29:22.720
<v Speaker 3>what they think it'll take to get you, and not

0:29:22.840 --> 0:29:23.800
<v Speaker 3>just that but like.

0:29:24.720 --> 0:29:26.480
<v Speaker 1>They're getting off at doing it.

0:29:27.040 --> 0:29:31.680
<v Speaker 2>But I think the consistency is something that again is

0:29:31.720 --> 0:29:34.880
<v Speaker 2>so difficult to find. But as women that want things

0:29:34.920 --> 0:29:37.880
<v Speaker 2>and it's men to anybody listening, we definitely need to

0:29:37.880 --> 0:29:38.800
<v Speaker 2>be vocal.

0:29:38.480 --> 0:29:42.240
<v Speaker 1>And what we need keep period. BDD cooked me dinner

0:29:42.240 --> 0:29:45.120
<v Speaker 1>the other day and was like rubbing my back and

0:29:45.280 --> 0:29:46.320
<v Speaker 1>was like, you love this sheep?

0:29:46.360 --> 0:29:52.440
<v Speaker 3>I ain't, but those listening I have realized. Now this

0:29:52.520 --> 0:29:55.120
<v Speaker 3>is not a hord drive or anything like that, but

0:29:55.160 --> 0:29:58.360
<v Speaker 3>there's this nigga I follow the way I have been

0:29:58.400 --> 0:30:01.040
<v Speaker 3>turned on by niggas they could cook, because wait, my

0:30:01.160 --> 0:30:03.480
<v Speaker 3>ex can't. And then twenty two year old, when I

0:30:03.520 --> 0:30:05.120
<v Speaker 3>told him, I was like something to come over, You're

0:30:05.120 --> 0:30:07.760
<v Speaker 3>gonna cook for me? And he said he'll, he'll, He'll

0:30:07.800 --> 0:30:09.840
<v Speaker 3>have the chef come over. Because the nigga got money.

0:30:10.000 --> 0:30:11.400
<v Speaker 3>He's like, I have the chef come over. And I

0:30:11.440 --> 0:30:14.320
<v Speaker 3>was like, why the fuck do I keep meeting niggas

0:30:14.360 --> 0:30:14.920
<v Speaker 3>that can't cook?

0:30:15.240 --> 0:30:17.080
<v Speaker 1>A part of me want a nigga that know how

0:30:17.080 --> 0:30:20.880
<v Speaker 1>to cook. I need. Maybe I got a data to make.

0:30:20.760 --> 0:30:23.200
<v Speaker 3>It at this point because American niggas don't hot to cook.

0:30:23.360 --> 0:30:30.560
<v Speaker 1>It's an American thing cook. I feel like Islanders and

0:30:30.720 --> 0:30:32.840
<v Speaker 1>African men know how to cook. That nigga maybe he

0:30:32.960 --> 0:30:33.400
<v Speaker 1>just don't.

0:30:34.200 --> 0:30:36.920
<v Speaker 3>All I know is all the American men I keep meeting,

0:30:37.000 --> 0:30:39.280
<v Speaker 3>and yes, the African Americans, because y'all know, I don't

0:30:39.320 --> 0:30:40.720
<v Speaker 3>date the whites or anyone else.

0:30:41.120 --> 0:30:43.240
<v Speaker 1>All the niggas I date do not know how to cook.

0:30:43.280 --> 0:30:45.280
<v Speaker 1>They literally will tell me they don't know how to boil.

0:30:45.320 --> 0:30:46.440
<v Speaker 1>Walk is the only nigga.

0:30:47.080 --> 0:30:48.920
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I need to get me a curbban

0:30:48.960 --> 0:30:50.640
<v Speaker 3>man this year, So did I gotta have a nigga

0:30:50.680 --> 0:30:51.320
<v Speaker 3>make me a whole meal.

0:30:51.360 --> 0:30:53.080
<v Speaker 1>I want a nigga to be like bib B.

0:30:53.240 --> 0:30:55.160
<v Speaker 3>I want to make you foughts even though don't make

0:30:55.200 --> 0:30:57.920
<v Speaker 3>me fair, but I want you to like feed me.

0:30:58.560 --> 0:31:00.280
<v Speaker 1>You want to not be hurt working. I want see

0:31:00.880 --> 0:31:02.360
<v Speaker 1>that you're making bad way, bitch.

0:31:02.360 --> 0:31:03.720
<v Speaker 3>I want to see a nigga in the kitchen with

0:31:03.720 --> 0:31:05.760
<v Speaker 3>a little apron, and I want him to know how

0:31:05.800 --> 0:31:07.960
<v Speaker 3>to put like the little seasons all over the little shit.

0:31:08.080 --> 0:31:09.760
<v Speaker 1>You want to see a nigga with an apron.

0:31:09.960 --> 0:31:11.600
<v Speaker 3>Okay, maybe not the apron, but I want to see

0:31:11.680 --> 0:31:14.440
<v Speaker 3>him with some basketball shorts, no shirt. So don't cook

0:31:14.440 --> 0:31:16.520
<v Speaker 3>no bacon because that baby, that bacon greats gonna pop

0:31:16.560 --> 0:31:17.760
<v Speaker 3>it at you and I don't want you to hurt.

0:31:18.280 --> 0:31:20.840
<v Speaker 3>I want to see a nigga just basketball shorts with

0:31:20.920 --> 0:31:23.960
<v Speaker 3>the slides, the little Joda slides, little hood nigga with

0:31:24.040 --> 0:31:24.600
<v Speaker 3>the sock.

0:31:24.520 --> 0:31:27.360
<v Speaker 1>Song making some motherfucking a meal.

0:31:27.480 --> 0:31:30.560
<v Speaker 3>And when I say a meal, I need a vegetable,

0:31:30.920 --> 0:31:32.880
<v Speaker 3>I need a starch, and I need a meat Hope.

0:31:33.320 --> 0:31:35.240
<v Speaker 3>I want a nigga to be like and you know what,

0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:36.959
<v Speaker 3>I even made dessert.

0:31:37.400 --> 0:31:40.720
<v Speaker 1>I want that. God damn it. Let me get off

0:31:40.720 --> 0:31:43.840
<v Speaker 1>the Food Network. Gotta be bad as hell. Anyway. I

0:31:43.880 --> 0:31:47.200
<v Speaker 1>want to start tagging Mandy and your meals. You mad,

0:31:47.720 --> 0:31:49.840
<v Speaker 1>no I follow me. I ain gonna hold you.

0:31:49.920 --> 0:31:53.320
<v Speaker 3>I follow a lot of cooking ass niggas on Instagram. Bitch,

0:31:53.320 --> 0:31:56.280
<v Speaker 3>I'll be saving a little recipes like leimme I meat

0:31:56.320 --> 0:31:58.760
<v Speaker 3>this one day, all right anyways, and set up poor

0:31:58.880 --> 0:32:01.760
<v Speaker 3>Dirt because I not have sex. I wanted to get

0:32:01.800 --> 0:32:05.440
<v Speaker 3>into Hope facts, which was really interesting. This is digging

0:32:05.480 --> 0:32:10.000
<v Speaker 3>into Spartan women. Okay, So Sparta was in many ways

0:32:10.120 --> 0:32:12.160
<v Speaker 3>an odd one out of ancient Greece.

0:32:12.240 --> 0:32:14.640
<v Speaker 1>And y'all know I've been to Greece.

0:32:15.040 --> 0:32:17.520
<v Speaker 3>While women in Athens were kept so secluded that they

0:32:17.560 --> 0:32:21.480
<v Speaker 3>were sought to speak their own dialect, Sparta's women received

0:32:21.520 --> 0:32:25.360
<v Speaker 3>great freedom for the time. When the Spartan queen Gorgo

0:32:25.520 --> 0:32:27.680
<v Speaker 3>was asked, why is it that you Spartan women are

0:32:27.720 --> 0:32:31.280
<v Speaker 3>the only women that lorded over your men, she said,

0:32:31.640 --> 0:32:34.160
<v Speaker 3>because we are the only women that are mothers of men.

0:32:34.480 --> 0:32:36.320
<v Speaker 3>But here's the crazy thing. I want to get into

0:32:36.320 --> 0:32:39.960
<v Speaker 3>what happens on their wedding night. But y'all a mother, Now,

0:32:40.000 --> 0:32:43.080
<v Speaker 3>this is for spartan women, and this is what took

0:32:43.120 --> 0:32:45.720
<v Speaker 3>place on their wedding night, which was really interesting. The

0:32:45.760 --> 0:32:48.720
<v Speaker 3>wedding night could be a strange affair for a spartan woman.

0:32:49.400 --> 0:32:52.560
<v Speaker 3>Her hair would be shaved off and she would be

0:32:52.720 --> 0:32:57.240
<v Speaker 3>dressed in a man's cloak and sandals. Thus dressed, she

0:32:57.280 --> 0:33:00.959
<v Speaker 3>would wait in the dark for her husband to steal

0:33:01.000 --> 0:33:04.240
<v Speaker 3>in and have his way with her. Some historians have

0:33:04.360 --> 0:33:07.840
<v Speaker 3>suggested that this cross dressing on the part of the

0:33:07.960 --> 0:33:10.840
<v Speaker 3>bride was to get a man more.

0:33:10.720 --> 0:33:12.800
<v Speaker 1>Quote unquote used to spending time.

0:33:12.920 --> 0:33:16.400
<v Speaker 3>With his male brothers in arms and used it to

0:33:16.480 --> 0:33:18.280
<v Speaker 3>the delights of homosexuality.

0:33:18.360 --> 0:33:20.360
<v Speaker 1>That's kind of hot, Is that not crazy?

0:33:20.840 --> 0:33:23.160
<v Speaker 3>We talked about cross dressing on this pod as it

0:33:23.160 --> 0:33:28.280
<v Speaker 3>pertained to men dressing up very feminine like, but we've never.

0:33:28.200 --> 0:33:32.000
<v Speaker 1>Talked about scared. Look not cam scaring you, bro. I

0:33:32.000 --> 0:33:34.120
<v Speaker 1>don't know why. I just thought we were getting dropped.

0:33:34.920 --> 0:33:36.880
<v Speaker 1>I told you. I mean, just were in Brooklyn. Y'all,

0:33:36.920 --> 0:33:40.760
<v Speaker 1>don't listen so fucking weazy. Wait we're in Brooklyn.

0:33:40.800 --> 0:33:45.360
<v Speaker 2>I thought, Yeah, bitch, I watched some shit last night

0:33:46.000 --> 0:33:48.080
<v Speaker 2>about like home invasions and it's.

0:33:47.880 --> 0:33:52.680
<v Speaker 3>Just kind of like, sorry, here's an ex we Anyways,

0:33:53.480 --> 0:33:55.920
<v Speaker 3>it was really interesting because I was like, damn, I

0:33:55.920 --> 0:33:59.480
<v Speaker 3>don't think we've ever really talked about cross dressing where

0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:05.080
<v Speaker 3>women drew us up as dudes and have their male

0:34:05.240 --> 0:34:06.680
<v Speaker 3>partners fucking.

0:34:06.920 --> 0:34:08.520
<v Speaker 1>The only thing that I'd seen like that was in

0:34:08.560 --> 0:34:09.320
<v Speaker 1>Sex and the City.

0:34:09.680 --> 0:34:11.600
<v Speaker 3>Oh wait, just look at here we go, y'all in

0:34:11.640 --> 0:34:14.200
<v Speaker 3>twenty twenty four, we're still getting sex with the city preferences.

0:34:14.280 --> 0:34:16.040
<v Speaker 1>Let's go sex in the city of going.

0:34:16.480 --> 0:34:20.759
<v Speaker 2>So basically, Charlotte went to this guy's place because he

0:34:20.800 --> 0:34:21.520
<v Speaker 2>wanted to paint her.

0:34:21.520 --> 0:34:23.279
<v Speaker 1>He likes to paint women as men, and.

0:34:23.239 --> 0:34:25.239
<v Speaker 2>When she put on the suit, he put like a

0:34:25.280 --> 0:34:27.520
<v Speaker 2>bull's nerve hands and she was like, oh, I felt

0:34:27.520 --> 0:34:29.200
<v Speaker 2>more masculine, I felt like a man. I felt like

0:34:29.200 --> 0:34:31.359
<v Speaker 2>I could pull him into me. She made out with him,

0:34:31.360 --> 0:34:34.840
<v Speaker 2>made the first move, and it was hot because literally

0:34:34.960 --> 0:34:38.000
<v Speaker 2>like he got to look at.

0:34:37.880 --> 0:34:39.880
<v Speaker 1>Her being womanly and fuck her. I think that's why nigga.

0:34:39.920 --> 0:34:42.440
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, I want to ask you, thus

0:34:42.520 --> 0:34:43.440
<v Speaker 1>you dating a nigga?

0:34:43.480 --> 0:34:45.480
<v Speaker 3>Nope, let's get it to I would love to know

0:34:45.520 --> 0:34:48.520
<v Speaker 3>if you are how you rock with this. So you

0:34:48.560 --> 0:34:51.080
<v Speaker 3>date a nigga, You meet a nigga and he's like, Yom,

0:34:52.280 --> 0:34:55.400
<v Speaker 3>I want to fuck you. Want some timbalance with a

0:34:55.480 --> 0:34:58.200
<v Speaker 3>throwback jersey, with a snap back in a dou rag

0:34:58.760 --> 0:35:01.480
<v Speaker 3>and I want you to bush your eyebrows out no makeup.

0:35:01.680 --> 0:35:04.960
<v Speaker 1>I like that. You like it?

0:35:05.160 --> 0:35:06.759
<v Speaker 2>Niggas like when I have my hair and a bunch

0:35:07.520 --> 0:35:09.080
<v Speaker 2>because they say I look like loving basketball.

0:35:10.920 --> 0:35:14.319
<v Speaker 1>And on that note, look what that you do? Not

0:35:14.320 --> 0:35:17.120
<v Speaker 1>look like annihilate the whole, but the little vibe hole.

0:35:17.560 --> 0:35:19.000
<v Speaker 1>Have you ever even played basketball?

0:35:19.040 --> 0:35:19.120
<v Speaker 3>Ho?

0:35:19.640 --> 0:35:22.920
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter, bitch, I fucked a basketball player. Okay.

0:35:23.239 --> 0:35:31.759
<v Speaker 3>On that note, the horrible decision this week, This is

0:35:31.760 --> 0:35:33.839
<v Speaker 3>what I've been sitting on because this is literally where

0:35:33.920 --> 0:35:39.000
<v Speaker 3>I've been mentally, and with this show being seven years old,

0:35:39.080 --> 0:35:43.200
<v Speaker 3>with us just wrapping up the climax tour, I wanted

0:35:43.239 --> 0:35:49.120
<v Speaker 3>to have the conversation around sexual liberation. Are we really

0:35:49.160 --> 0:35:53.160
<v Speaker 3>sexually liberated? And this came from an article from the

0:35:53.200 --> 0:35:56.200
<v Speaker 3>New York POSTY had a gun, We're an Australian woman

0:35:56.880 --> 0:36:00.360
<v Speaker 3>said she had sex with three hundred people in one

0:36:00.680 --> 0:36:03.480
<v Speaker 3>that's insane, but shout out to her and found the

0:36:03.600 --> 0:36:08.200
<v Speaker 3>experience quote unquote empowering. She's twenty six years old and

0:36:08.239 --> 0:36:11.719
<v Speaker 3>goes by Anna Knight any night, and she told She

0:36:11.800 --> 0:36:16.040
<v Speaker 3>said that she even managed to bed five people in

0:36:16.080 --> 0:36:20.160
<v Speaker 3>a single day during the Frisky Fun Year. She said,

0:36:20.239 --> 0:36:24.959
<v Speaker 3>I felt empowered afterwards. Sex makes me feel good. It's

0:36:25.000 --> 0:36:28.399
<v Speaker 3>meant to make you feel good. Night sleeps with men

0:36:28.520 --> 0:36:31.040
<v Speaker 3>and women, and told the radio program that she met

0:36:31.040 --> 0:36:33.520
<v Speaker 3>many of her sex parties on dating apps. However, she

0:36:33.600 --> 0:36:37.040
<v Speaker 3>also has a quote unquote roster of regulars on speed

0:36:37.040 --> 0:36:39.520
<v Speaker 3>dial that she calls up whenever she feels like getting

0:36:39.520 --> 0:36:42.600
<v Speaker 3>god and dirty. She said, the messier the sex, the better.

0:36:44.080 --> 0:36:47.720
<v Speaker 3>Not everyone is impressed with her unashamed enthusiasm for sex,

0:36:48.320 --> 0:36:52.240
<v Speaker 3>and one hater described her as disgusting. A few years later,

0:36:52.760 --> 0:36:56.359
<v Speaker 3>I got fired from one of my jobs. I just

0:36:56.520 --> 0:36:58.759
<v Speaker 3>started a new role. I was on day five and

0:36:58.800 --> 0:37:01.480
<v Speaker 3>actually went homesick that day. Received an email saying termination

0:37:01.520 --> 0:37:04.520
<v Speaker 3>of contract. She went on to explain that she was shocked,

0:37:04.880 --> 0:37:07.080
<v Speaker 3>didn't know what was going on, and before opening the

0:37:07.080 --> 0:37:11.160
<v Speaker 3>email to discover screenshots of her adult content. There were

0:37:11.160 --> 0:37:13.600
<v Speaker 3>a list of four reasons while she was fired. Basically,

0:37:13.880 --> 0:37:16.840
<v Speaker 3>they said that she falsely advertised that she had a

0:37:16.880 --> 0:37:20.640
<v Speaker 3>side business, didn't ask permission from the company to run

0:37:20.680 --> 0:37:24.480
<v Speaker 3>a side business, and that she had online pornographic images

0:37:24.520 --> 0:37:27.720
<v Speaker 3>of herself and crude language that was against company rules.

0:37:27.920 --> 0:37:30.359
<v Speaker 1>Okay, we talked about.

0:37:30.080 --> 0:37:33.040
<v Speaker 3>How that's settled for law enforcement and things like that,

0:37:33.480 --> 0:37:36.320
<v Speaker 3>but I really wanted to talk about in this age

0:37:36.320 --> 0:37:37.640
<v Speaker 3>of celibacy.

0:37:37.200 --> 0:37:39.480
<v Speaker 1>I actually want to build on that a little bit. Yeah,

0:37:39.560 --> 0:37:39.960
<v Speaker 1>talk to me.

0:37:40.480 --> 0:37:44.279
<v Speaker 2>So I felt like I had to sex shame someone

0:37:44.280 --> 0:37:49.000
<v Speaker 2>that came to WTF media recently. Oh, do explain not

0:37:49.040 --> 0:37:51.080
<v Speaker 2>the same mind you if any of the employees were

0:37:51.239 --> 0:37:54.520
<v Speaker 2>making sexual content, that'd be fine. We had someone bring

0:37:54.520 --> 0:37:56.080
<v Speaker 2>a sub and I think I mentioned it to you

0:37:56.120 --> 0:37:58.960
<v Speaker 2>when Steph Dohm was in there and they were walking

0:37:58.960 --> 0:38:01.600
<v Speaker 2>their sub around the building and start us into trouble.

0:38:02.360 --> 0:38:04.640
<v Speaker 2>And you know, we've been there three years and like

0:38:04.680 --> 0:38:06.080
<v Speaker 2>Alex and I don't want to fuck this shit up.

0:38:06.120 --> 0:38:08.120
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, bro, I.

0:38:08.160 --> 0:38:10.000
<v Speaker 2>Understand people of their kinks, but like, you're not about

0:38:10.000 --> 0:38:11.120
<v Speaker 2>to get your shit off to the point where we

0:38:11.160 --> 0:38:14.160
<v Speaker 2>get kicked out, like feeding people as you know, people

0:38:14.200 --> 0:38:15.640
<v Speaker 2>are paying their rent from our businesses.

0:38:16.160 --> 0:38:17.719
<v Speaker 1>Like, you're not about to fuck this shit up.

0:38:18.040 --> 0:38:21.160
<v Speaker 2>And so I actually came down on the employees possibly

0:38:21.160 --> 0:38:23.160
<v Speaker 2>a little too hard to where It'siana was even like bruh,

0:38:23.200 --> 0:38:26.000
<v Speaker 2>everybody works really hard. Like I was like, if anybody

0:38:26.000 --> 0:38:27.879
<v Speaker 2>does this busy, anybody do this again? If you watch

0:38:27.960 --> 0:38:30.160
<v Speaker 2>some shit like this happen, it's your responsibility to make

0:38:30.160 --> 0:38:32.880
<v Speaker 2>sure when no one's fucking up in this building that

0:38:32.960 --> 0:38:34.799
<v Speaker 2>we stay here like this is our jobs if not,

0:38:34.800 --> 0:38:35.560
<v Speaker 2>like fuck everybody.

0:38:35.560 --> 0:38:36.360
<v Speaker 1>I was so upset.

0:38:36.840 --> 0:38:38.920
<v Speaker 2>And this is a while ago, but I remember thinking, like,

0:38:39.920 --> 0:38:42.759
<v Speaker 2>was I shaming that person's sex life? They also are

0:38:42.800 --> 0:38:47.520
<v Speaker 2>paying to use the studio. But I do think there's

0:38:47.560 --> 0:38:51.840
<v Speaker 2>a way that you need to conduct yourself in terms

0:38:51.920 --> 0:38:55.719
<v Speaker 2>of professionalism when it comes to the content that you're

0:38:55.760 --> 0:38:58.920
<v Speaker 2>making and how it coincides with the businesses that you

0:38:58.960 --> 0:39:03.279
<v Speaker 2>interact with. Like granted, yeah, I want people to make

0:39:03.320 --> 0:39:05.040
<v Speaker 2>whatever they want. I've had people ask if they could

0:39:05.040 --> 0:39:07.000
<v Speaker 2>do sporting stuff in my school studio. I've had to

0:39:07.000 --> 0:39:10.680
<v Speaker 2>say no, right, Like, there is certain imagery that I

0:39:10.719 --> 0:39:12.160
<v Speaker 2>want to be out there and some that are not,

0:39:12.520 --> 0:39:15.160
<v Speaker 2>And I think it's perfectly fined. Where I remember in

0:39:15.200 --> 0:39:19.920
<v Speaker 2>the past we had started debating about a student's mom. Yeah,

0:39:20.000 --> 0:39:23.200
<v Speaker 2>that I feel like doesn't count because like it's a kid.

0:39:23.520 --> 0:39:24.680
<v Speaker 1>How can you blame their mother.

0:39:25.160 --> 0:39:30.239
<v Speaker 3>But for work places, I'm kind of starting to change

0:39:30.239 --> 0:39:32.840
<v Speaker 3>the tie a little bit. Okay, so nurses and the

0:39:32.880 --> 0:39:35.760
<v Speaker 3>only fans I know. Ali Ray is a big performer

0:39:35.800 --> 0:39:38.080
<v Speaker 3>that was very popular. She may be one of the

0:39:38.120 --> 0:39:40.160
<v Speaker 3>most famous. There's New York post shit about her about

0:39:40.160 --> 0:39:41.719
<v Speaker 3>how she got fired. She was under There was a

0:39:41.760 --> 0:39:43.719
<v Speaker 3>lot of law enforcement last year as well in the

0:39:43.800 --> 0:39:46.080
<v Speaker 3>last couple of years because of the pandemic that.

0:39:46.000 --> 0:39:46.520
<v Speaker 1>Were let go.

0:39:46.800 --> 0:39:49.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't think I think two things. I don't think

0:39:49.160 --> 0:39:51.239
<v Speaker 2>your past should be held against you.

0:39:51.760 --> 0:39:54.600
<v Speaker 1>Okay. However, if someone does.

0:39:54.480 --> 0:39:57.920
<v Speaker 2>Have something in place where they don't want pornography shared

0:39:58.000 --> 0:39:58.839
<v Speaker 2>within their like.

0:39:58.800 --> 0:40:00.840
<v Speaker 1>I get it. WHI I'm wondering.

0:40:00.920 --> 0:40:03.560
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I haven't applied for a job, but if

0:40:03.600 --> 0:40:06.640
<v Speaker 3>that was a question asked, it's the same type of

0:40:06.680 --> 0:40:11.320
<v Speaker 3>question where you can't lie on applications even which is

0:40:11.320 --> 0:40:15.160
<v Speaker 3>why they ask about Beelaniese and you know any sort

0:40:15.160 --> 0:40:17.600
<v Speaker 3>of charges or have you ever let been let go

0:40:17.680 --> 0:40:18.920
<v Speaker 3>of a workplace?

0:40:19.160 --> 0:40:22.120
<v Speaker 1>They asked these questions also to see your honesty.

0:40:22.520 --> 0:40:26.560
<v Speaker 3>I think that there is character morals in which companies

0:40:26.680 --> 0:40:30.440
<v Speaker 3>hire people that are employed by them.

0:40:31.000 --> 0:40:34.359
<v Speaker 2>Entertainers are held against with their with their commentary on

0:40:34.480 --> 0:40:35.439
<v Speaker 2>tweet all the time.

0:40:35.520 --> 0:40:38.120
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. So shit.

0:40:38.239 --> 0:40:40.160
<v Speaker 2>I remember what Forbes didn't want to work with me

0:40:40.200 --> 0:40:43.839
<v Speaker 2>because I said something on this podcast recently. They were like, oh,

0:40:43.880 --> 0:40:46.279
<v Speaker 2>well she said that we did X Y Z, and like, ooh,

0:40:46.320 --> 0:40:48.000
<v Speaker 2>it is what it is. I used to want to

0:40:48.000 --> 0:40:50.400
<v Speaker 2>be in Forbes so badly. Guess that'll be done, right.

0:40:51.000 --> 0:40:52.839
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's true they didn't want me to have

0:40:52.880 --> 0:40:55.399
<v Speaker 2>a show about a certain type of sexual content.

0:40:55.160 --> 0:40:58.560
<v Speaker 1>So it sucks, but that is their choice. What can

0:40:58.600 --> 0:40:59.839
<v Speaker 1>I do? Right? You know?

0:41:00.880 --> 0:41:04.399
<v Speaker 3>I think the conversation that I wanted to quickly have

0:41:04.840 --> 0:41:10.560
<v Speaker 3>was around being really sexually liberated, and it comes from

0:41:11.120 --> 0:41:15.880
<v Speaker 3>in my quest of celibacy. I've questioned what sex has

0:41:15.920 --> 0:41:18.160
<v Speaker 3>meant to me in the past, what it means now.

0:41:19.320 --> 0:41:22.960
<v Speaker 3>The sexual revolution, by the way, is known as sexual liberation,

0:41:23.480 --> 0:41:27.120
<v Speaker 3>where it's a social movement that challenged traditional codes of

0:41:27.160 --> 0:41:31.480
<v Speaker 3>behavior related to sexuality and interpersonal relationships throughout the developed

0:41:31.520 --> 0:41:35.840
<v Speaker 3>Western world from the nineteen sixties to seventies. Sexual liberation

0:41:36.120 --> 0:41:42.160
<v Speaker 3>included increased acceptance of sex outside of traditional heterosexual, monogamous relationships,

0:41:42.160 --> 0:41:47.239
<v Speaker 3>primarily marriage, the normalization as well of contraception, and the pill,

0:41:47.560 --> 0:41:53.520
<v Speaker 3>public nudity, pornography, premarital sex, homosexuality, masturbation, alternative forms of sexuality,

0:41:53.800 --> 0:41:58.560
<v Speaker 3>and the legalization of abortion now in all of which

0:41:58.600 --> 0:42:00.600
<v Speaker 3>that stems forward. I know that that's so what we

0:42:01.080 --> 0:42:04.600
<v Speaker 3>represent here on horrible decisions, but it's been really like

0:42:06.239 --> 0:42:10.359
<v Speaker 3>almost draining to me to relive some of the decisions

0:42:10.360 --> 0:42:13.759
<v Speaker 3>on why I had sex in ways that I think

0:42:13.840 --> 0:42:16.520
<v Speaker 3>internalized that it was liberating because I was making the decision,

0:42:16.800 --> 0:42:19.520
<v Speaker 3>But then you know now that I have a different

0:42:19.560 --> 0:42:23.760
<v Speaker 3>relationship with money, with my body, with myself, I realized

0:42:23.800 --> 0:42:26.960
<v Speaker 3>that I was maybe feeding in and having sex more

0:42:27.000 --> 0:42:29.200
<v Speaker 3>so for the other person more than myself at all,

0:42:29.640 --> 0:42:31.800
<v Speaker 3>And I think that that's where I'm like, now, I

0:42:31.840 --> 0:42:33.520
<v Speaker 3>want to make sure I'm having sex for my.

0:42:33.480 --> 0:42:37.120
<v Speaker 1>Reasons, Like for me even being in a.

0:42:37.040 --> 0:42:42.120
<v Speaker 3>Non monogamous relationship for three years and being in the

0:42:42.160 --> 0:42:45.400
<v Speaker 3>sex club space and being violated in those spaces with

0:42:45.520 --> 0:42:49.279
<v Speaker 3>people that are supposed to know the fucking Code of Ethics, is.

0:42:49.200 --> 0:42:52.560
<v Speaker 1>Like, what's liberating about this?

0:42:52.840 --> 0:42:55.080
<v Speaker 3>But it's also because I feel like I've been hurt

0:42:55.120 --> 0:42:57.840
<v Speaker 3>by it, and I think that when we think of

0:42:57.920 --> 0:43:01.920
<v Speaker 3>sexual liberation right, it's it's been hard to feel violated

0:43:01.920 --> 0:43:04.400
<v Speaker 3>in a space that made me feel so liberated, but

0:43:04.520 --> 0:43:06.880
<v Speaker 3>also to know that sex is something that's so empowering

0:43:07.160 --> 0:43:10.360
<v Speaker 3>that could also be so demoralizing in terms of trigger

0:43:10.400 --> 0:43:13.040
<v Speaker 3>warning when we talk about sexual assault, when we talk

0:43:13.080 --> 0:43:17.520
<v Speaker 3>about manipulation, when we talk about rape. And it's just

0:43:17.640 --> 0:43:21.520
<v Speaker 3>been this thing where I've just been like, what exactly

0:43:22.040 --> 0:43:25.680
<v Speaker 3>my relationship with sex, what exactly is liberating about it?

0:43:26.040 --> 0:43:29.320
<v Speaker 3>And because you've been able to have such a healthy,

0:43:29.360 --> 0:43:32.680
<v Speaker 3>explorative relationship over the past few months, I wanted to

0:43:32.760 --> 0:43:36.800
<v Speaker 3>just have that conversation what is liberating to you about

0:43:36.840 --> 0:43:41.000
<v Speaker 3>sex right now in your thirties and has that changed

0:43:41.400 --> 0:43:43.840
<v Speaker 3>from how you viewed your relationship with sex.

0:43:43.719 --> 0:43:44.440
<v Speaker 1>In your twenties.

0:43:44.480 --> 0:43:46.600
<v Speaker 2>I think I'm having all the sex that I want

0:43:46.640 --> 0:43:49.279
<v Speaker 2>to have. Okay, When I was with Old Bay, towards

0:43:49.280 --> 0:43:51.120
<v Speaker 2>the end of our relationship, I had sex with him

0:43:51.120 --> 0:43:54.120
<v Speaker 2>because I felt like I was supposed to as a girlfriend.

0:43:54.400 --> 0:43:56.160
<v Speaker 3>Not saying that he ever forced me. I want to

0:43:56.200 --> 0:44:00.920
<v Speaker 3>be very clear, our relationship is very consensual. It was

0:44:00.960 --> 0:44:04.600
<v Speaker 3>more about like I'm mad at this thing. Oh he

0:44:04.719 --> 0:44:07.120
<v Speaker 3>cheated on me, I hate him. Oh I'm not that

0:44:07.200 --> 0:44:08.440
<v Speaker 3>attracted to him anymore.

0:44:09.400 --> 0:44:10.200
<v Speaker 1>It was just like but.

0:44:10.120 --> 0:44:14.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do this right because I'm trying. All the

0:44:14.560 --> 0:44:18.239
<v Speaker 2>sex I'm having is because I want to. It's either

0:44:18.320 --> 0:44:22.239
<v Speaker 2>me initiating me welcoming it. And I think that is

0:44:22.239 --> 0:44:26.279
<v Speaker 2>the biggest part of sexual liberation period. Anything is from

0:44:26.320 --> 0:44:28.840
<v Speaker 2>a libertarian perspective, is a choice.

0:44:29.400 --> 0:44:32.080
<v Speaker 1>But and that's probably why in the beginning of.

0:44:32.080 --> 0:44:35.280
<v Speaker 2>The conversation about fun and you're saying I'm done with fun,

0:44:35.880 --> 0:44:39.000
<v Speaker 2>I think I wasn't having fun. I was maybe in

0:44:39.040 --> 0:44:42.600
<v Speaker 2>the past feeling used instead of feeling like I was

0:44:42.640 --> 0:44:44.080
<v Speaker 2>asking for sex.

0:44:44.400 --> 0:44:46.320
<v Speaker 3>Well, and that's the thing I think in the moment,

0:44:47.440 --> 0:44:51.440
<v Speaker 3>even with writing this book, going back to some of

0:44:51.480 --> 0:44:53.960
<v Speaker 3>the episodes that were referenced and the partners that I

0:44:54.040 --> 0:44:57.960
<v Speaker 3>know I had, at those times, I was like, was

0:44:58.000 --> 0:45:01.680
<v Speaker 3>this fun? Was I having the sex because I really

0:45:01.760 --> 0:45:04.399
<v Speaker 3>enjoyed it? Or did it validate me because a man

0:45:04.440 --> 0:45:08.040
<v Speaker 3>actually wanted to fuck me because I had very low

0:45:08.040 --> 0:45:08.640
<v Speaker 3>self estee.

0:45:08.640 --> 0:45:09.719
<v Speaker 1>I don't think they'll ever know.

0:45:10.239 --> 0:45:12.640
<v Speaker 3>Well, but oh no, no, no, that's what I'm saying.

0:45:12.840 --> 0:45:16.080
<v Speaker 3>I'm working through that right now where it's like, actually,

0:45:16.719 --> 0:45:20.000
<v Speaker 3>if I sit here and in my moment talk about

0:45:20.040 --> 0:45:23.480
<v Speaker 3>what that experience was today, I'm crying about it, which

0:45:23.480 --> 0:45:26.719
<v Speaker 3>means the power that maybe I expressed on the podcast

0:45:26.719 --> 0:45:29.200
<v Speaker 3>and the podcast on the moment where.

0:45:29.080 --> 0:45:31.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, yeah, I did this, I got that money

0:45:31.760 --> 0:45:33.000
<v Speaker 1>got fluid out. Uh uh.

0:45:33.800 --> 0:45:38.000
<v Speaker 3>When I reliving and rethinking of what those moments were,

0:45:38.440 --> 0:45:40.240
<v Speaker 3>I realized that I was lying to myself.

0:45:40.719 --> 0:45:44.560
<v Speaker 1>And I think that that's where being liberated now.

0:45:44.680 --> 0:45:47.480
<v Speaker 3>Having this podcast and knowing we're going to be here

0:45:47.520 --> 0:45:50.120
<v Speaker 3>for a little longer, you know what I mean?

0:45:50.360 --> 0:45:51.160
<v Speaker 1>I really want to.

0:45:51.160 --> 0:45:56.439
<v Speaker 3>Be intentional on if I'm having sex with someone, how

0:45:56.480 --> 0:45:58.640
<v Speaker 3>and why is it making me feel as great as

0:45:58.680 --> 0:46:00.880
<v Speaker 3>I used to believe it made me feel because I

0:46:00.960 --> 0:46:03.840
<v Speaker 3>realized that it made me feel good because I felt wanted.

0:46:04.320 --> 0:46:05.640
<v Speaker 1>I felt sexy, but.

0:46:05.640 --> 0:46:09.080
<v Speaker 3>It was only because men actually wanted me in a

0:46:09.120 --> 0:46:13.080
<v Speaker 3>space where I would cry that boots wouldn't go at

0:46:13.120 --> 0:46:17.960
<v Speaker 3>my calves. I could only wear stretched pants because jeans

0:46:17.960 --> 0:46:20.960
<v Speaker 3>didn't fit me. I was a size eighteen and I'm

0:46:21.000 --> 0:46:25.200
<v Speaker 3>sitting here and I'm like, oh I was so I

0:46:25.239 --> 0:46:28.279
<v Speaker 3>also was poor. So a nigga buying a flight meant

0:46:28.320 --> 0:46:30.480
<v Speaker 3>so much, bitch, we buy flights like it ain't nothing. Now,

0:46:30.520 --> 0:46:31.839
<v Speaker 3>you just said you want to beat the and plan

0:46:31.920 --> 0:46:35.680
<v Speaker 3>nation in seventy two hours. So like, even my relationship

0:46:35.680 --> 0:46:40.320
<v Speaker 3>with money was so different that my association with sex,

0:46:40.440 --> 0:46:42.960
<v Speaker 3>I felt like that was all I could offer, and

0:46:43.040 --> 0:46:45.840
<v Speaker 3>it brought me joy that people wanted to have it with.

0:46:45.920 --> 0:46:48.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, you are just making me think of something.

0:46:50.080 --> 0:46:52.000
<v Speaker 2>Someone I know is having sex with a really rich

0:46:52.040 --> 0:46:54.680
<v Speaker 2>man okay, who they've been having sex with for a

0:46:54.719 --> 0:46:58.000
<v Speaker 2>long time. Okay, And they said to me this morning,

0:46:58.840 --> 0:47:01.000
<v Speaker 2>this is someone who has an amazing job and it's

0:47:01.000 --> 0:47:06.520
<v Speaker 2>gorgeous and it's like lit. They were like, sometimes when

0:47:06.520 --> 0:47:09.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm with him and we're just doing that thing, I

0:47:09.160 --> 0:47:12.200
<v Speaker 2>feel like I got to be the sex girl because

0:47:12.200 --> 0:47:14.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, look at all these things you have, like

0:47:14.360 --> 0:47:16.920
<v Speaker 2>why are you here? And I was like, really, like

0:47:17.760 --> 0:47:19.719
<v Speaker 2>as smart as you are and as hot as you are,

0:47:20.120 --> 0:47:22.239
<v Speaker 2>like anyone would die to be with you, and that's

0:47:22.239 --> 0:47:24.120
<v Speaker 2>why you have this guy.

0:47:24.400 --> 0:47:24.919
<v Speaker 1>Tell you later.

0:47:25.200 --> 0:47:29.279
<v Speaker 3>But that's so what she said is exactly what I'm

0:47:29.280 --> 0:47:34.439
<v Speaker 3>trying to figure out right now. I know now I'm

0:47:34.440 --> 0:47:37.520
<v Speaker 3>not I don't want to lead with sex because I

0:47:37.560 --> 0:47:39.960
<v Speaker 3>actually am finally in a moment where oh, I know,

0:47:39.960 --> 0:47:40.520
<v Speaker 3>why A you're here.

0:47:40.680 --> 0:47:42.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm cool as fuck, I'm little as fuck.

0:47:42.600 --> 0:47:45.640
<v Speaker 3>I got my old ship and so I'm the opposite

0:47:46.280 --> 0:47:47.800
<v Speaker 3>Brianda and I just had this conversation.

0:47:47.880 --> 0:47:50.359
<v Speaker 1>Maybe I said the opposite you said.

0:47:50.400 --> 0:47:54.640
<v Speaker 3>Wait wait, I kind of said the same thing you said,

0:47:54.640 --> 0:47:56.600
<v Speaker 3>but I was like, she was like, dude, I was

0:47:56.600 --> 0:47:59.319
<v Speaker 3>looking at you on stage and I just thought, you're

0:47:59.360 --> 0:48:00.280
<v Speaker 3>the hottest girl.

0:48:00.719 --> 0:48:02.720
<v Speaker 1>You're so pretty, like you're one of my hottest friends.

0:48:02.760 --> 0:48:04.920
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, what, girl, I don't even know.

0:48:05.000 --> 0:48:07.480
<v Speaker 1>Like I was like, I'm not saying I don't think

0:48:07.480 --> 0:48:08.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm hot.

0:48:08.880 --> 0:48:10.239
<v Speaker 3>I was like she was like, and she was saying

0:48:10.280 --> 0:48:11.840
<v Speaker 3>something in terms of like a man wanting to be

0:48:11.920 --> 0:48:15.200
<v Speaker 3>with me, and I was like, there's so many beautiful women, Breonda,

0:48:15.320 --> 0:48:16.319
<v Speaker 3>like I see them every day.

0:48:17.160 --> 0:48:19.040
<v Speaker 2>I think men want to be with me because I'm cool.

0:48:19.320 --> 0:48:22.480
<v Speaker 2>I don't even know if it's because I'm attractive anymore.

0:48:22.840 --> 0:48:26.760
<v Speaker 2>Like I think that men are so attracted to my personality.

0:48:27.160 --> 0:48:28.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't even know if niggas look at me like

0:48:29.360 --> 0:48:32.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty. There's so many levels to like what men

0:48:32.600 --> 0:48:34.040
<v Speaker 2>think bad bitches are nowadays.

0:48:34.040 --> 0:48:38.520
<v Speaker 3>Oh absolutely that like I we don't like me and

0:48:38.560 --> 0:48:38.920
<v Speaker 3>you are not.

0:48:39.280 --> 0:48:40.600
<v Speaker 1>We don't edit our photos like that.

0:48:40.920 --> 0:48:43.319
<v Speaker 3>Listen and y'all see me and say I look better

0:48:43.320 --> 0:48:45.080
<v Speaker 3>in person, so I let it. I love hearing that,

0:48:45.280 --> 0:48:49.239
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god. But it's not because they all say

0:48:49.280 --> 0:48:51.200
<v Speaker 3>we look makes you want to take this shit off YouTube?

0:48:51.200 --> 0:48:53.960
<v Speaker 3>You bitches like, no, it's just they know that we

0:48:54.000 --> 0:48:56.399
<v Speaker 3>look better in person. Makes me feel good.

0:48:56.480 --> 0:48:57.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm okay with that.

0:48:57.440 --> 0:49:01.440
<v Speaker 3>But that's where I'm like, Actually, first off, I know

0:49:01.480 --> 0:49:03.759
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna be your best fuck. I know I'm gonna

0:49:03.760 --> 0:49:06.160
<v Speaker 3>eat your ass like another bitch, don't. I know I'm

0:49:06.160 --> 0:49:08.160
<v Speaker 3>gonna have fun and we can go out and your

0:49:08.160 --> 0:49:10.960
<v Speaker 3>homeboys don't like me, your friends don't like me, you'll

0:49:11.520 --> 0:49:14.879
<v Speaker 3>everyone is gonna enjoy me. And so now I know that.

0:49:15.320 --> 0:49:18.200
<v Speaker 3>So I'm not leading with sex anymore. And that's where

0:49:18.239 --> 0:49:20.600
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, because I'm the show. So then what is

0:49:20.600 --> 0:49:24.200
<v Speaker 3>my power then of sex with somebody? How does that

0:49:24.280 --> 0:49:26.520
<v Speaker 3>liberate me to know that I am and I also

0:49:26.520 --> 0:49:29.560
<v Speaker 3>feel this way. Let me also be very clear, outside

0:49:29.560 --> 0:49:32.320
<v Speaker 3>of all the other ways I showed up, my ex

0:49:32.440 --> 0:49:35.520
<v Speaker 3>got all of me. And I realize now though, that

0:49:35.600 --> 0:49:39.160
<v Speaker 3>sex is giving somebody a lot of you that a

0:49:39.160 --> 0:49:40.520
<v Speaker 3>lot of these niggas don't deserve.

0:49:41.000 --> 0:49:42.799
<v Speaker 2>And that's that's why I think I only had one

0:49:42.840 --> 0:49:46.200
<v Speaker 2>new body last year. I fucked BDD and Dread.

0:49:46.239 --> 0:49:51.440
<v Speaker 1>That's it and Lamba Lambot was new Lambert was that

0:49:51.560 --> 0:49:54.600
<v Speaker 1>was the year before. I remember we did the plan

0:49:54.680 --> 0:49:55.680
<v Speaker 1>the episode.

0:49:55.680 --> 0:49:58.560
<v Speaker 3>At the top of the year we show d and

0:49:58.600 --> 0:50:00.680
<v Speaker 3>it's funny that you've made that face the show did

0:50:01.080 --> 0:50:02.040
<v Speaker 3>Alex said that to me.

0:50:02.120 --> 0:50:04.200
<v Speaker 1>Like, nah, bitch, you fucked somebody. I was like dating

0:50:04.200 --> 0:50:07.240
<v Speaker 1>a celibate nigga. Oh and you were dating the celibate nigga.

0:50:07.400 --> 0:50:09.360
<v Speaker 2>So then BDD and I had sex and then I

0:50:09.400 --> 0:50:13.480
<v Speaker 2>met Dread. But hopefully I got some dick for a

0:50:14.000 --> 0:50:16.360
<v Speaker 2>new dick in New Year. But who But anyway, point

0:50:16.440 --> 0:50:18.839
<v Speaker 2>is I realized, like.

0:50:18.920 --> 0:50:21.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean, technically, you also funck the bitch that spelt

0:50:21.960 --> 0:50:24.960
<v Speaker 1>like shit. No, she didn't tuck me. Well, you fucked her.

0:50:25.560 --> 0:50:28.799
<v Speaker 1>I didn't. She shipped on me and she didn't shit

0:50:28.880 --> 0:50:32.799
<v Speaker 1>on you. You fingered her as shit. Sure bad, but yeah,

0:50:32.840 --> 0:50:37.280
<v Speaker 1>she's shit on. I hate it. I'm weak.

0:50:37.600 --> 0:50:41.480
<v Speaker 3>Anyways, That's kind of like where I've been with my

0:50:41.560 --> 0:50:43.719
<v Speaker 3>mind about sex and what it means to me and

0:50:44.040 --> 0:50:47.160
<v Speaker 3>how do I feel liberated again with giving somebody something

0:50:47.200 --> 0:50:51.520
<v Speaker 3>that I know they want without getting what I want essentially,

0:50:51.520 --> 0:50:52.839
<v Speaker 3>And I think that that's where I'm at too. That's

0:50:52.880 --> 0:50:55.279
<v Speaker 3>why I'm like, Okay, in what ways do I need

0:50:55.360 --> 0:50:56.680
<v Speaker 3>a man to show up? Because if I'm going to

0:50:56.719 --> 0:50:58.319
<v Speaker 3>give them sex and that's all they want from me,

0:50:58.880 --> 0:51:01.440
<v Speaker 3>I do want to be sure I'm getting something. And

0:51:01.480 --> 0:51:03.520
<v Speaker 3>I think that that's why me and twenty four to

0:51:03.560 --> 0:51:05.680
<v Speaker 3>seven have been rocky, because I let them know I

0:51:05.680 --> 0:51:07.960
<v Speaker 3>felt empty. Yeah, And I shared that on Patreon if

0:51:08.000 --> 0:51:10.239
<v Speaker 3>y'all want to join us on Patreon. I explained that,

0:51:10.960 --> 0:51:14.239
<v Speaker 3>like sex in the moment was so fulfilling, but then

0:51:14.320 --> 0:51:18.600
<v Speaker 3>after I felt empty and I didn't feel good after sex,

0:51:18.920 --> 0:51:21.120
<v Speaker 3>Like I felt like, damn it, now you're gone, and

0:51:21.160 --> 0:51:23.160
<v Speaker 3>now now I don't feel.

0:51:22.960 --> 0:51:24.680
<v Speaker 1>I think you're going to get back to where you were.

0:51:24.719 --> 0:51:26.160
<v Speaker 1>That's why I'm trying to fuck this twenty two year

0:51:26.200 --> 0:51:26.520
<v Speaker 1>old bit.

0:51:26.560 --> 0:51:29.960
<v Speaker 2>I just think that in this particular moment of your life,

0:51:30.600 --> 0:51:33.640
<v Speaker 2>you had a huge breakup, a lot of changes, a

0:51:33.719 --> 0:51:34.560
<v Speaker 2>tony of changes.

0:51:34.880 --> 0:51:36.759
<v Speaker 1>I think you just need a second, you know, which is.

0:51:36.719 --> 0:51:38.239
<v Speaker 3>Why I've been celebrated for as long as I have.

0:51:38.360 --> 0:51:40.440
<v Speaker 3>And I literally was like, abstince, I'm glad that I

0:51:40.560 --> 0:51:41.000
<v Speaker 3>was bitch.

0:51:41.000 --> 0:51:41.400
<v Speaker 1>Shut up.

0:51:41.560 --> 0:51:44.279
<v Speaker 3>Anyways, real quick, we're starting off the air. Let's do

0:51:44.360 --> 0:51:47.800
<v Speaker 3>homemail before we get up out of here. So the homemail.

0:51:47.840 --> 0:51:50.600
<v Speaker 3>By the way, y'all know you can send us your

0:51:50.680 --> 0:51:54.040
<v Speaker 3>homemail at Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com.

0:51:54.040 --> 0:51:57.600
<v Speaker 1>Please send some homemail because I like reading your tea.

0:51:57.880 --> 0:52:01.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but also label it homemail. Okay, So hey, Weezy

0:52:01.920 --> 0:52:04.120
<v Speaker 3>and Mandy spelled both of our names wrong. But let's

0:52:04.120 --> 0:52:07.000
<v Speaker 3>get into it. I want to start by shouting, yeah,

0:52:08.120 --> 0:52:09.640
<v Speaker 3>I love you ladies so so.

0:52:09.680 --> 0:52:12.439
<v Speaker 1>Much, not enough. I did right, see your names wrong?

0:52:13.400 --> 0:52:16.000
<v Speaker 3>I deal Bessie's for real, And so you know I've

0:52:16.000 --> 0:52:19.120
<v Speaker 3>been a faithful listener since way back when, because is

0:52:19.120 --> 0:52:21.520
<v Speaker 3>there anything else better to do? No, you're right, speller

0:52:21.600 --> 0:52:24.359
<v Speaker 3>names right now. This is how we are not going

0:52:24.440 --> 0:52:25.920
<v Speaker 3>to start off the new year. But this is why

0:52:25.960 --> 0:52:29.160
<v Speaker 3>I wanted to read this. Okay, now to get to

0:52:29.200 --> 0:52:32.000
<v Speaker 3>the real reason for this email. I've been involved with

0:52:32.040 --> 0:52:35.720
<v Speaker 3>my situationship for like over a decade now, oh yes,

0:52:35.960 --> 0:52:39.359
<v Speaker 3>decade because the things we do behind closed doors were

0:52:40.280 --> 0:52:44.840
<v Speaker 3>blank just insert there. And we recently got into a

0:52:44.880 --> 0:52:47.359
<v Speaker 3>heated argument via text over the fact that I didn't

0:52:47.360 --> 0:52:49.960
<v Speaker 3>want to give him no plussy. I looked at it

0:52:50.000 --> 0:52:52.480
<v Speaker 3>as payback because he was supposed to drop some dick

0:52:52.520 --> 0:52:56.360
<v Speaker 3>off for my birthday, and he did it. We exchanged words.

0:52:56.760 --> 0:52:59.560
<v Speaker 3>His were a bit more hurtful than mine, and hurtful

0:52:59.640 --> 0:53:03.359
<v Speaker 3>enough to cut that nigga off for good. I won't

0:53:03.400 --> 0:53:07.400
<v Speaker 3>disclose everything that was said, but he basically said fuck

0:53:07.480 --> 0:53:11.040
<v Speaker 3>me and called me an ugly bitch. I do believe

0:53:11.080 --> 0:53:13.960
<v Speaker 3>this to be true because he has never once complimented

0:53:13.960 --> 0:53:18.200
<v Speaker 3>me on my looks and isn't affectionate in the bedroom now.

0:53:18.800 --> 0:53:20.719
<v Speaker 3>At first, I was a tad bit in my feelings

0:53:20.920 --> 0:53:22.480
<v Speaker 3>because who wants to hear those words?

0:53:23.000 --> 0:53:25.279
<v Speaker 1>But on the other hand, it kind of turned me on,

0:53:25.680 --> 0:53:26.560
<v Speaker 1>knowing he.

0:53:26.560 --> 0:53:29.960
<v Speaker 3>Supposedly isn't attracted to me yet fucked and beg for

0:53:30.000 --> 0:53:30.640
<v Speaker 3>this pussy like.

0:53:30.719 --> 0:53:33.040
<v Speaker 1>It was his last Ooh.

0:53:33.280 --> 0:53:35.239
<v Speaker 3>I haven't spoken to him in over five months now,

0:53:35.480 --> 0:53:38.040
<v Speaker 3>a beggar, but I can't stop thinking about the fact

0:53:38.600 --> 0:53:40.480
<v Speaker 3>that if he was to hit me up for sex,

0:53:40.840 --> 0:53:43.880
<v Speaker 3>I would answer and proudly sit on that dick, knowing

0:53:43.920 --> 0:53:49.640
<v Speaker 3>he finds me unattractive and loudly recite fuck this ugly pussy.

0:53:49.800 --> 0:53:52.880
<v Speaker 3>Dren pounds out. If you want to see photos of

0:53:52.920 --> 0:53:54.839
<v Speaker 3>me to be the judge, I'll gladly send them over.

0:53:55.000 --> 0:53:57.400
<v Speaker 3>I didn't respond to that. She said, and I'm not

0:53:57.440 --> 0:54:01.600
<v Speaker 3>gonna lie. He's fine fine. I mean green Eye is fine?

0:54:02.800 --> 0:54:05.319
<v Speaker 3>Am I green Eyes? I don't know, maybe because I'm

0:54:05.320 --> 0:54:08.040
<v Speaker 3>talking about how fine he is? He said, am I

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<v Speaker 3>Delulu in my mandy?

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<v Speaker 1>Boys?

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<v Speaker 3>Is this a kink? Apologies for the long email? Continue

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<v Speaker 3>keeping it cute? Signed an ugly hope.

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<v Speaker 1>Weey? What what is your immediate thought on this?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think he thinks she's ugly. I think he

0:54:25.800 --> 0:54:35.319
<v Speaker 2>was just angry. Okay, because ten years you're attracted to somebody.

0:54:33.760 --> 0:54:40.760
<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'm listening ten years.

0:54:40.800 --> 0:54:44.120
<v Speaker 1>And also I'm not going to judge someone's photos at all.

0:54:44.239 --> 0:54:44.799
<v Speaker 1>No me neither.

0:54:45.280 --> 0:54:49.000
<v Speaker 2>But in an argument calling someone ugly, I've called old

0:54:49.040 --> 0:54:49.479
<v Speaker 2>Day ugly.

0:54:49.520 --> 0:54:50.160
<v Speaker 1>He's not ugly.

0:54:50.440 --> 0:54:52.960
<v Speaker 3>He's handsome. Literally people stopping the street and think he's

0:54:52.960 --> 0:54:54.960
<v Speaker 3>a model. Like I've called him ugly because I'm mad.

0:54:55.320 --> 0:54:57.520
<v Speaker 3>I think that when people are angry with you, they

0:54:57.600 --> 0:55:00.759
<v Speaker 3>hit below the belt. There's thing I wish I could

0:55:00.800 --> 0:55:03.760
<v Speaker 3>take back that I said about people. Whether I actually

0:55:04.280 --> 0:55:05.000
<v Speaker 3>let me say this.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't really talk about people's weight, mainly because I

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<v Speaker 2>just think that's so.

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<v Speaker 1>I could call you so many worse things. Right to me,

0:55:14.600 --> 0:55:16.600
<v Speaker 1>waight is like you know what I'm saying. I could

0:55:16.600 --> 0:55:19.600
<v Speaker 1>talk about your kids, bitch, because like if you will

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<v Speaker 1>and do. Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>One of the meanest things I've ever said to someone

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<v Speaker 2>was there's nothing I could say to you that's worse

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<v Speaker 2>than what you think about yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I know you hate yourself.

0:55:29.640 --> 0:55:32.600
<v Speaker 3>And I said that in an email for real to

0:55:33.239 --> 0:55:35.520
<v Speaker 3>the x oh bitch Justine, and then he wrote me

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<v Speaker 3>back telling me how much he loves himself. Okay, narcissists

0:55:38.640 --> 0:55:41.640
<v Speaker 3>don't believe. You don't when someone really hates themselves, Like

0:55:43.239 --> 0:55:45.279
<v Speaker 3>I feel bad I did.

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<v Speaker 2>You said something real mean about someone's partner when we

0:55:49.200 --> 0:55:50.799
<v Speaker 2>were on the way from DC, and you were like,

0:55:51.120 --> 0:55:53.279
<v Speaker 2>he is a peon and she treats him like one,

0:55:53.480 --> 0:55:56.240
<v Speaker 2>as he should, and I was like, I don't remember

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<v Speaker 2>which one, but yeah, and I remember thinking like, and

0:55:59.239 --> 0:56:01.520
<v Speaker 2>she's right, Like, when there's something mean you can say

0:56:01.520 --> 0:56:03.880
<v Speaker 2>about somebody, you will. So I've definitely hit blowed the

0:56:03.880 --> 0:56:06.920
<v Speaker 2>belt just because I've wanted to hurt someone. Niggas just

0:56:06.960 --> 0:56:13.520
<v Speaker 2>say me and shit, But I think you know, you

0:56:13.520 --> 0:56:16.200
<v Speaker 2>wanting to give someone sex that you feel disrespected by

0:56:16.280 --> 0:56:17.360
<v Speaker 2>will affect you later.

0:56:17.760 --> 0:56:20.680
<v Speaker 1>I'll be honest with you. That's where I went with this.

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<v Speaker 3>You believe him when he called you ugly, so you

0:56:27.880 --> 0:56:32.319
<v Speaker 3>have deep insecurities within yourself right now, which you haven't

0:56:32.320 --> 0:56:34.400
<v Speaker 3>spoke to him in five months, but you said if

0:56:34.440 --> 0:56:39.480
<v Speaker 3>he hits you, you would give him pussy because he's fine, fine, fine,

0:56:39.960 --> 0:56:43.160
<v Speaker 3>And so there's validation, like I brought up earlier, there's

0:56:43.200 --> 0:56:46.239
<v Speaker 3>validation in this finess man wanting to fuck you when

0:56:46.280 --> 0:56:49.160
<v Speaker 3>you feel unattractive, the fact that he called you an

0:56:49.239 --> 0:56:53.480
<v Speaker 3>ugly bitch, and you're like, and he's right, that's the problem. Like,

0:56:55.040 --> 0:56:59.520
<v Speaker 3>you're never going to be treated better or respected or

0:56:59.600 --> 0:57:02.520
<v Speaker 3>get anything that you feel like you fully deserve if

0:57:02.520 --> 0:57:04.839
<v Speaker 3>you don't feel like you deserve it. And so if

0:57:04.840 --> 0:57:07.560
<v Speaker 3>this man can call you ugly and disrespect you and

0:57:07.640 --> 0:57:10.319
<v Speaker 3>hit you below the belt, and five months later you're

0:57:10.360 --> 0:57:13.480
<v Speaker 3>sitting in an email saying he was right and if

0:57:13.480 --> 0:57:15.879
<v Speaker 3>he hits me up, I still want to fuck him,

0:57:16.160 --> 0:57:19.280
<v Speaker 3>and then trying to trick yourself to believe it's a kink. No,

0:57:19.440 --> 0:57:22.240
<v Speaker 3>you're you're just in a state of insecurity right now.

0:57:22.320 --> 0:57:24.120
<v Speaker 1>And then maybe you don't feel good.

0:57:24.040 --> 0:57:25.880
<v Speaker 3>And sex they make you feel good, I bet you,

0:57:26.640 --> 0:57:28.840
<v Speaker 3>especially when it's a litle finance you've.

0:57:28.680 --> 0:57:31.000
<v Speaker 2>Got to figure out the beauty from the inside. I

0:57:31.000 --> 0:57:34.600
<v Speaker 2>know that sounds super cliche, but you gotta hear me. Wait,

0:57:34.880 --> 0:57:38.919
<v Speaker 2>the way to not make it feel cliche. So when

0:57:39.000 --> 0:57:46.280
<v Speaker 2>I felt ugly or ugliest was for me. Wait, we

0:57:46.360 --> 0:57:49.680
<v Speaker 2>all have so much trauma with I know a lot

0:57:49.720 --> 0:57:52.360
<v Speaker 2>of my Latina friends their their parents call him fat

0:57:52.480 --> 0:57:53.600
<v Speaker 2>all the time, right.

0:57:54.800 --> 0:57:56.880
<v Speaker 1>Huh Gordon, Yeah you're getting big. They always be like,

0:57:56.920 --> 0:57:57.560
<v Speaker 1>why you get so fat?

0:57:58.280 --> 0:58:00.680
<v Speaker 2>My mom I love her to death, but my mom

0:58:00.920 --> 0:58:04.600
<v Speaker 2>celebrates me losing weight so much that she never calls

0:58:04.600 --> 0:58:05.600
<v Speaker 2>me fat.

0:58:05.720 --> 0:58:08.840
<v Speaker 3>She just like, whoa, you look so good. You look

0:58:08.960 --> 0:58:10.320
<v Speaker 3>so much better than you did if you want. And

0:58:10.320 --> 0:58:12.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, it's just it's like a little too.

0:58:12.480 --> 0:58:13.160
<v Speaker 1>Much, okay.

0:58:13.280 --> 0:58:15.200
<v Speaker 2>But my mom is very old school, right, Like she

0:58:15.240 --> 0:58:17.360
<v Speaker 2>thinks skinny is king, which a lot of people do,

0:58:18.240 --> 0:58:20.840
<v Speaker 2>and so I think that fucked me up a lot.

0:58:21.120 --> 0:58:23.360
<v Speaker 2>Now we all know, Miss Jewels is great. Old people

0:58:23.360 --> 0:58:25.360
<v Speaker 2>don't know what they're doing. My mom is seventy two

0:58:25.440 --> 0:58:29.280
<v Speaker 2>seventy three in a week, and like she just doesn't know.

0:58:29.680 --> 0:58:32.880
<v Speaker 2>Like literally saw me naked changing recently in LA and

0:58:33.000 --> 0:58:34.920
<v Speaker 2>was like, oh my god, I mean your body, this

0:58:35.040 --> 0:58:36.160
<v Speaker 2>is your best because you weren't.

0:58:36.200 --> 0:58:38.240
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you were not like and I was like,

0:58:38.600 --> 0:58:39.320
<v Speaker 1>oh man.

0:58:39.720 --> 0:58:43.680
<v Speaker 3>So I think back to moments when this happened, and

0:58:43.680 --> 0:58:45.840
<v Speaker 3>it made me hate how I looked. Or it could

0:58:45.840 --> 0:58:47.600
<v Speaker 3>be Old Bay telling me that I needed to lose

0:58:47.640 --> 0:58:50.080
<v Speaker 3>weight or whatever it was. And so when I say, within,

0:58:50.520 --> 0:58:52.680
<v Speaker 3>you got to do something that makes you feel beautiful.

0:58:52.920 --> 0:58:55.840
<v Speaker 3>For me, it was constant upkeeps with hair and makeup,

0:58:55.880 --> 0:58:58.120
<v Speaker 3>putting on a cuter outfit when I was leaving the house.

0:58:58.320 --> 0:59:00.600
<v Speaker 3>And I literally had a nigga tell me recently the

0:59:00.640 --> 0:59:02.760
<v Speaker 3>way that he knew I could dress because he ran

0:59:02.840 --> 0:59:03.200
<v Speaker 3>into me.

0:59:03.640 --> 0:59:04.880
<v Speaker 1>He was like, and I was like, oh my god,

0:59:04.920 --> 0:59:05.520
<v Speaker 1>I look like shit.

0:59:05.720 --> 0:59:07.320
<v Speaker 2>He's like, you think you look like shit because you

0:59:07.320 --> 0:59:09.760
<v Speaker 2>ain't got no makeup on but your foot put together

0:59:09.840 --> 0:59:12.160
<v Speaker 2>that little run around the street fit. That's how when

0:59:12.160 --> 0:59:15.120
<v Speaker 2>you know someone can dress, start doing those little fucking

0:59:15.200 --> 0:59:17.200
<v Speaker 2>things that make you feel better. Think about when you

0:59:17.240 --> 0:59:18.760
<v Speaker 2>get dressed to go out and everybody tells you how

0:59:18.800 --> 0:59:21.000
<v Speaker 2>nice you look. Start just putting a little more effort

0:59:21.040 --> 0:59:25.520
<v Speaker 2>into yourself that makes you feel more beautiful, including working out.

0:59:25.600 --> 0:59:29.000
<v Speaker 2>You keep talking about Bar Alive, like I think bar

0:59:29.200 --> 0:59:31.000
<v Speaker 2>is something that's it sounds super simple.

0:59:31.000 --> 0:59:32.400
<v Speaker 1>When you say it, but it's doing a lot.

0:59:32.960 --> 0:59:35.880
<v Speaker 3>Oh no, no, no, I just to Crystal Antsacy both

0:59:35.920 --> 0:59:36.400
<v Speaker 3>my friends.

0:59:36.880 --> 0:59:39.520
<v Speaker 1>No what I said. I'm not saying it's not hard.

0:59:39.520 --> 0:59:42.480
<v Speaker 3>I'm not a simple like saying, oh no, bitch. She

0:59:43.400 --> 0:59:47.720
<v Speaker 3>wasn't there looking at me like no flexibility. She said, no, nope,

0:59:47.840 --> 0:59:48.560
<v Speaker 3>I mean simple.

0:59:48.640 --> 0:59:52.200
<v Speaker 2>Isn't just one class making you feel like that that

0:59:52.600 --> 0:59:53.080
<v Speaker 2>is a thing.

0:59:53.240 --> 0:59:54.680
<v Speaker 1>So you have to find your thing.

0:59:55.000 --> 0:59:57.880
<v Speaker 3>Bitches need to hide you and think about your thing.

0:59:57.920 --> 1:00:00.600
<v Speaker 3>But it ain't this nigga Core Mind's episode. A lot

1:00:00.600 --> 1:00:02.520
<v Speaker 3>of people laughing at that. TJ Max girl.

1:00:02.560 --> 1:00:05.840
<v Speaker 1>Oh bitch, they doing Thanksgiving together? Oo do you know?

1:00:06.120 --> 1:00:09.240
<v Speaker 1>Ooh y'all want a little update? Ooh real quick because

1:00:09.240 --> 1:00:11.560
<v Speaker 1>I know we leave it, so hit him up.

1:00:11.600 --> 1:00:12.720
<v Speaker 2>I was like, yo, you're gonna be New York with

1:00:12.720 --> 1:00:14.440
<v Speaker 2>thanks Dave, And he's like, no, no, no, I'm taking Shorty

1:00:14.560 --> 1:00:15.760
<v Speaker 2>to my parents' house and whatever.

1:00:16.000 --> 1:00:17.880
<v Speaker 1>Look at you dating our episode.

1:00:19.120 --> 1:00:20.520
<v Speaker 3>No. I asked him what he's doing. That's last time

1:00:20.520 --> 1:00:23.240
<v Speaker 3>I caught up with him. Okay, So he said, I'm

1:00:23.240 --> 1:00:27.800
<v Speaker 3>taking her to so and so for Thanksgiving And he said, yoh,

1:00:28.200 --> 1:00:30.520
<v Speaker 3>you ain't ship for that episode talking about how much

1:00:30.520 --> 1:00:32.160
<v Speaker 3>money I've made and then people gonna know it's me.

1:00:32.200 --> 1:00:32.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, no, they're not.

1:00:33.360 --> 1:00:37.040
<v Speaker 2>And then he said, just to be clear, I offered

1:00:37.040 --> 1:00:39.480
<v Speaker 2>her to quit her job, and I was like, doing

1:00:39.480 --> 1:00:42.200
<v Speaker 2>what he said. I offered her a position and she

1:00:42.320 --> 1:00:45.440
<v Speaker 2>told me no, And I was like, okay.

1:00:45.160 --> 1:00:49.240
<v Speaker 1>Good for. I agree, good for, like keep spending money

1:00:49.240 --> 1:00:49.400
<v Speaker 1>on you.

1:00:49.520 --> 1:00:51.960
<v Speaker 3>I mean, depends how young she is. She young, she's stupid,

1:00:52.040 --> 1:00:55.240
<v Speaker 3>take that job now. He said that I downplayed her position.

1:00:55.720 --> 1:00:58.840
<v Speaker 3>But I guess it's TJ Max Marshall's home goods, some

1:00:58.960 --> 1:01:00.800
<v Speaker 3>kind of I used to work.

1:01:00.960 --> 1:01:01.919
<v Speaker 1>I used to work it wrong.

1:01:02.200 --> 1:01:04.200
<v Speaker 2>But like he says, she's still she still be at

1:01:04.200 --> 1:01:07.440
<v Speaker 2>the motherfucker TJ Max every day. But he's like, but

1:01:07.520 --> 1:01:09.960
<v Speaker 2>it is like a little bit better than I explained.

1:01:10.400 --> 1:01:12.120
<v Speaker 2>But he's like, yo, but he's like, even in my

1:01:12.400 --> 1:01:14.200
<v Speaker 2>bit brain, I feel you like there are moments where

1:01:14.200 --> 1:01:15.840
<v Speaker 2>I go out and I'm trying not to feel that way.

1:01:16.120 --> 1:01:17.840
<v Speaker 2>People will ask her what she does for a living,

1:01:17.840 --> 1:01:20.439
<v Speaker 2>and he was like, she'll fucking name drop TJ Max,

1:01:20.440 --> 1:01:22.640
<v Speaker 2>and I'll be sitting there like Nigga, we're a damage

1:01:22.640 --> 1:01:25.200
<v Speaker 2>and buffalo, Like Rihanna's at the other table.

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<v Speaker 1>What's wrong?

1:01:25.680 --> 1:01:27.520
<v Speaker 2>With you, and he's like, but I can't do that

1:01:27.560 --> 1:01:29.920
<v Speaker 2>because I'm in love with this person. So I mean,

1:01:30.000 --> 1:01:33.840
<v Speaker 2>I love girl. So I say all that to say.

1:01:34.040 --> 1:01:36.280
<v Speaker 2>One of the things that he said about her dimentioned

1:01:36.280 --> 1:01:38.680
<v Speaker 2>on por Mines is she's always doing shit to like

1:01:38.720 --> 1:01:41.040
<v Speaker 2>improve herself and he found that so sexy.

1:01:41.440 --> 1:01:44.640
<v Speaker 3>We all should be doing that. Bruh, b these niggas,

1:01:44.640 --> 1:01:46.520
<v Speaker 3>we need to do it for us and they will

1:01:46.560 --> 1:01:47.200
<v Speaker 3>find you.

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<v Speaker 2>That girl was walking around the fucking airport. Do you

1:01:51.200 --> 1:01:53.720
<v Speaker 2>attract people when you're doing shit like that? So if

1:01:53.760 --> 1:01:56.400
<v Speaker 2>you want to fucking be attractive to people, you got

1:01:56.440 --> 1:01:57.560
<v Speaker 2>to be attractive to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Start pouring in and so this nigga, ain't it sis?

1:02:00.600 --> 1:02:02.600
<v Speaker 1>And yes you're int Lulu, right? He ain't that fine?

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<v Speaker 1>Send me a matter of factn't send me a picture.

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<v Speaker 1>You send me a picture picture. I can't wait to

1:02:05.800 --> 1:02:07.120
<v Speaker 1>break you look like well.

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