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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision. Welcome

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Speaker 1: to horror black decision.

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Speaker 2: Your you serenated that better than the niggasday on stage

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Speaker 2: for our dating game.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I feel like my vocals is coming. By

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Speaker 3: the way, you pus see as Hosey to stop going

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Speaker 3: to episode one and tell me how much my voice

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Speaker 3: didn't change. It's called puberty. Anyways, Welcome y'all to Horrible Decisions. Bitch,

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Speaker 3: I'm your girl. Maybe b aka Petta Saton aka Pegga

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Speaker 3: Marco aka Bull Corps aka Debt bitch was Welcome back, y'all.

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Speaker 3: My name is Weezy and it's just us today. Just

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Speaker 3: how you like it.

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Speaker 1: Oh God, a third h.

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Speaker 2: Just for full transparency, we are recording this in the

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Speaker 2: year from the past, not the year from the past.

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Speaker 2: Year from the past, it's history.

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Speaker 3: However, we wanted you to have an episode with just

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Speaker 3: of us at the top, just us at the top

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Speaker 3: of the year because we're your phase. So for the catchup,

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Speaker 3: I did want us to start off with some bit

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Speaker 3: of Manifest This showns y'all know, I just learned about

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Speaker 3: manifest in last year, well this year, but this last year.

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Speaker 3: Now but I said, let's talk about the things I

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Speaker 3: would say, relationship wise and sex wise. Okay, that maybe

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Speaker 3: we didn't get in twenty twenty three that we would

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Speaker 3: like in twenty twenty four, and also maybe just the

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Speaker 3: things that we won't go back to with both of

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Speaker 3: us having ended relationships. I wanted to start off with, like,

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Speaker 3: what do you manifest your love life to be in

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Speaker 3: twenty twenty four?

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Speaker 1: Weezy and action.

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Speaker 2: I want to manifest being on the same page. I

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Speaker 2: had great sex in twenty twenty three towards the end,

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Speaker 2: just summer and beyond. I dated a celibate nig in

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Speaker 2: the beginning, and then I got the shit fucked out

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Speaker 2: of me towards again great hope, I still am getting

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Speaker 2: the shit fucked out of me.

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Speaker 1: I's on the digger so too.

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Speaker 2: I think I also with like another experience with a

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Speaker 2: woman where she doesn't shit on me, that'd be great.

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Speaker 2: Uh honestly, it's I know it's like love and sex.

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Speaker 2: But one thing I really want to manifest I want

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Speaker 2: to live in Paris. For a few months, you've been

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Speaker 2: saying that, I think this will be the year that happens.

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Speaker 2: I think I need that, and I think that this

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Speaker 2: will be the year I've been saying I want a boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: I think in a family and kids, I think a

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Speaker 1: Right now, right now, right now. Hey, Duayne dropped the

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Speaker 1: bomb drop right here.

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Speaker 3: Wait what I been you You've been talking about being

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Speaker 3: preded like Sacy rad for the last two years.

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Speaker 1: Bitch, what you mean? What you mean now?

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Speaker 2: Not like Sexy Ray. I just realized, like I don't know,

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Speaker 2: I live in two cities. I kind of feel like

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Speaker 2: my life's a little flighty, and I want to have

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Speaker 2: I just want to enjoy that person. Just knowing that

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Speaker 2: I don't even even if the person that I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: Now, I think I just need a second Okay.

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Speaker 2: And I've realized that last year really was taxing on

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Speaker 2: my body with travel, with touring, and I know we're

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Speaker 2: I'm just like, where is a baby gonna come in

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Speaker 2: to just keep having fun. But I don't want to

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Speaker 2: having some commitment back from that to me feels worth it.

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Speaker 2: Like I have fun with my friends every time I

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Speaker 1: Fuck. You know what I'm saying. I do.

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Speaker 2: I live my life having fun. Actually, you know it's funny.

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Speaker 2: I was talking to one of my homeboys who has

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Speaker 1: But I was like, yo, what do you want to do?

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Speaker 2: And he was like, may we get lit whenever we want?

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Speaker 2: I'm kind of tired of traveling with my friends. I

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Speaker 3: Bitch, I'm doing solo chirts even that, Like I do

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Speaker 2: One of my homegirls told me I could be happy

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Speaker 2: as long as I just have money to travel the world.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, bitch, I've been doing that the last three years,

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Speaker 2: and trust me, it's but then there's nothing.

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Speaker 3: What else is then? If that's fun, only get fucked

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Speaker 3: on that trip? Oh okay, let's see.

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Speaker 1: My old twenties was getting sucked on trips.

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Speaker 3: So I'm like enjoying being able to fund my own

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Speaker 3: that space where I'm enjoying, like all the trips that

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Speaker 3: I plan to make twenty twenty four, Japan will be

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Speaker 3: the international trip that was my That's because bitch, I

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Speaker 3: thinking to go to motherfucking Japan? Bitch, you gonna get

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Speaker 3: a lot of beef. That's that's I will not it's

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Speaker 1: Why not? I don't do beef like that? Do you

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Speaker 1: wag you little tiny peces? Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, I'll do the little time. It's like the

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Speaker 3: best I'm not gonna do like no state state. But

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Speaker 3: it's also like it's the same price as like a

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Speaker 2: I want to go to the places I like, which

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Speaker 3: I want to enjoy life while I'm young and while

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Speaker 3: I can afford it, because to me, once I get

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Speaker 2: I've been having a really fun sex life, like just

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Speaker 2: I don't really like so many new experiences with new people,

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Speaker 1: I'm also trying to think what else, what do I

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Speaker 3: I mean, you don't have to have the answer right now,

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Speaker 3: Missed my relationship with sex, and I need it back

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Speaker 2: Never know how much we haven't healed until like when

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Speaker 1: You fucking cried? Bro? You ever? I mean?

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Speaker 3: I'm still very broken, bro, and I'm not ready.

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Speaker 2: I didn't know how much like okay sometimes trigger warning

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Speaker 2: that word is like it feels PC. But my dread

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Speaker 2: Nigga said something to me that like was a joke,

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Speaker 2: tried to write.

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Speaker 1: Me about him. Well not tried to but okay, you know,

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Speaker 1: just little things like that.

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Speaker 2: And like even at my after party he saw a

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Speaker 1: I really don't care.

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Speaker 2: But uh, I made a joke it with him on

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Speaker 1: Where's my flowers?

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Speaker 2: I have a date coming up with this guy. I

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Speaker 1: Monogomy, bitch, You can't do this, you being honest, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I was saying you, I'm not sucking a bitch right now,

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Speaker 2: I just don't like thinking about what we're about to

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Speaker 1: But how I roll with them? Friends? Like my trip

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Speaker 2: Gabby Andre went and I was like, okay, we playing

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Speaker 2: And we fucking picked the best match and we found

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00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:50,800
Speaker 2: we fucking did it all.

441
00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:52,360
Speaker 1: We had amazing dinners, and I was.

442
00:19:52,320 --> 00:19:55,000
Speaker 3: Like, I want to do this with a nigga, but

443
00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:58,360
Speaker 3: that nigga gotta gotta move like this.

444
00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,120
Speaker 2: And also I don't want to be so crazy. Wow

445
00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:02,960
Speaker 2: when I meet a rich guy, more than I wanted

446
00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:05,080
Speaker 2: to be normal. So like that's matter of fact, that's

447
00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:05,879
Speaker 2: my mantation.

448
00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:09,919
Speaker 1: Give me. I want to know that you.

449
00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:13,919
Speaker 3: Do like that salty ass motherfucker caviar. I need to

450
00:20:14,000 --> 00:20:16,240
Speaker 3: know what you bro. You stall me ordered that shit

451
00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:17,800
Speaker 3: before I ordered it yesterday.

452
00:20:17,880 --> 00:20:19,879
Speaker 1: Oh you order eating it?

453
00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:21,480
Speaker 3: I bitch, I saw it on top of the steak

454
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:26,399
Speaker 3: but oh yeah, oh no, no, no I ordered, so we

455
00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:31,200
Speaker 3: both ordered nobu before bitch I had a hole of

456
00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:34,280
Speaker 3: ma ho lim t say what I do.

457
00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:34,880
Speaker 1: This is my hack.

458
00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:38,359
Speaker 2: Caviar be one hundred and twenty five minimum right for

459
00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:39,200
Speaker 2: four ounces?

460
00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:41,320
Speaker 1: Three ounces? Maybe sometimes No, bitch, I just been one

461
00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:43,160
Speaker 1: hundred for one at a steakhouse.

462
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 2: Maybe you're right, but you could get caviar top tartar.

463
00:20:48,240 --> 00:20:50,120
Speaker 2: I'll do that and then I'll put it on top

464
00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:52,959
Speaker 2: of the other ship. I'll be playing, I'll be trying.

465
00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:55,680
Speaker 2: So I just feel like I want to scamming caviar.

466
00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:56,720
Speaker 1: You're annoying.

467
00:20:57,040 --> 00:21:00,720
Speaker 2: I just want to man that also does is shit?

468
00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:04,359
Speaker 2: I agree, because for me, that's the energy I want

469
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:07,040
Speaker 2: at this age. I want to invite it in. I

470
00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 2: was inviting it in when I was in my twenties

471
00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:10,520
Speaker 2: and I was able to get it. It was just another

472
00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:12,680
Speaker 2: niggas money, And now I just want.

473
00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:14,440
Speaker 1: I want to invite it in as a companion.

474
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:16,320
Speaker 3: When I was with Oldbay, that was one thing I'll

475
00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:19,399
Speaker 3: say that I enjoyed whatever the fuck we wanted to do.

476
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:22,920
Speaker 3: We did it right, and I need that again right

477
00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:26,600
Speaker 3: like bad bitch, Which is funny because our vanilla shit

478
00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:29,720
Speaker 3: is about the opposite and welcome to dating.

479
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:30,880
Speaker 1: Man, it's about dating for love.

480
00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:38,600
Speaker 3: Nope. So, according to the New York Post, men are

481
00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:42,720
Speaker 3: manipulating women with a sick New Penny dating.

482
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:47,199
Speaker 1: Trend or psychological torture, however you want to do it so.

483
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:50,880
Speaker 3: According to Indy one hundred, the method involves a man

484
00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:54,479
Speaker 3: putting in one hundred percent investment at the beginning of

485
00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 3: romance before deliberately dropping the level of effort until his

486
00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:02,959
Speaker 3: female partner fit fel lucky to get the bare minimum.

487
00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:07,680
Speaker 3: Oh TikToker Erica Sam explain the tactic in a viral

488
00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 3: video they gained seven point six million views. Damn said

489
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:14,480
Speaker 3: that she was talking to a male friend about quote

490
00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:18,600
Speaker 3: unquote love bombing, inundating a new partner with constant and

491
00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:22,680
Speaker 3: extravagant displays of affection early in a relationship. The friend

492
00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:26,880
Speaker 3: then told Damn that men have their own perverted twists

493
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:28,040
Speaker 3: on this tactic.

494
00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:30,640
Speaker 1: Dug the penny method. This is the real thing.

495
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 3: The palate explained that men imagine a woman is like

496
00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 3: a piggy bake, and they adjust their investments accordingly to

497
00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:42,000
Speaker 3: get her interested. Obviously, at first you have to be

498
00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:45,560
Speaker 3: feeding her one hundred dollars bills. Now here's where it

499
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:46,120
Speaker 3: gets sick.

500
00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:47,439
Speaker 1: This feels so really hated.

501
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,280
Speaker 3: The friend went on to explain the adjustments of attention.

502
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:54,720
Speaker 3: Over time, a man would deliberately decrease the amount of

503
00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:58,320
Speaker 3: attention given to the girl before inflating it again, ever

504
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:02,639
Speaker 3: so slightly, to appease her. However, over time the investments

505
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 3: become smaller as the woman's self worth is eroded. So

506
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 3: after putting in one hundred percent effort in the beginning

507
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 3: of the relationship and grabbing her attention, a man decreases

508
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:19,360
Speaker 3: his investment than to ninety percent and then less. Basically,

509
00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:22,360
Speaker 3: you just keep repeating the cycle and winning her off

510
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:25,320
Speaker 3: your effort until you get to the point where you're

511
00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 3: giving her pennies and suddenly they're excited to receive a nickel.

512
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:33,600
Speaker 2: This reminds me what niggas are nice to you before

513
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:35,440
Speaker 2: they fuck you. Yeah, there's no advice say that, my

514
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:36,680
Speaker 2: nigga that has to fuck you yet.

515
00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 3: Bro, the fact that my relationship now with men who

516
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 3: I haven't fucked is so much stronger and fulfilling to

517
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:45,720
Speaker 3: me the niggas I've given my pussy too. This is

518
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 3: exactly what that reminds me of. Niggas will show up

519
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:50,119
Speaker 3: and show up and show up and show up for you,

520
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 3: and then once you give them the pussy and they

521
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,359
Speaker 3: feel like, oh my god, I've conquered exactly what I needed.

522
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:56,720
Speaker 1: They're gonna give you just enough to keep getting ready.

523
00:23:57,640 --> 00:23:59,440
Speaker 1: Here we go, oh, probably like.

524
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 2: Uh, what are we doing? We don't need to be

525
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,400
Speaker 2: fucking these niggas for ninety days. Yeah, I don't think

526
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:09,639
Speaker 2: the time. I don't think that that's oh true. But okay,

527
00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 2: Alex is producing a podcast at the moment where a

528
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:16,240
Speaker 2: woman whose Instagram is called Matchmaker Maria.

529
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 3: Okay, I know her. Uh, she was gonna come on

530
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 3: the pod. She was the matchmaker for a bisimone. Okay,

531
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:25,679
Speaker 3: I didn't know her, I'm familiar with it. But he

532
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 3: told me you should try this thing I heard Maria say.

533
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 3: He said, she says you need to have twelve dates

534
00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:35,439
Speaker 3: before you have sex. The dates don't have to be

535
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,159
Speaker 3: real dates. They can be phone calls.

536
00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:41,320
Speaker 1: It could be. So I feel like it's good me too.

537
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:43,520
Speaker 2: And he was like, apparently that's like a like a

538
00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:45,159
Speaker 2: touch point or some way. I don't know what the

539
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:48,640
Speaker 2: real thing is, but long story short, I think that's

540
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,200
Speaker 2: a cool piece of advice because I do think there

541
00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 2: needs to be some investment in your time together. And

542
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 2: I think that what had gotten me a little bit

543
00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:01,720
Speaker 2: stronger with the dread nigga before it was just that

544
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 2: I didn't live here, so we had to keep up

545
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 2: with each other, right, And I realized that. I was like, oh,

546
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:10,119
Speaker 2: it ain't like I wouldn't have fucked. We just didn't

547
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:11,399
Speaker 2: have time to go on those days. Yet I mean,

548
00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 2: I feel like also because we are also comfortable. When

549
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 2: I say we, I mean women in situationships where we

550
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 2: received the bare minimum as soon as the nigga's just nice,

551
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:27,880
Speaker 2: we think that they're giving us a lot more.

552
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, that we're that they're giving us a lot more

553
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 3: than they really are. And so in terms of men

554
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 3: who don't know who else, you're entertaining a man who

555
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:38,560
Speaker 3: comes off, which is what I told you actually and

556
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 3: which is why I stopped. I felt like the nigga

557
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,480
Speaker 3: in the Bay, I felt love bombed. I felt like

558
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:45,199
Speaker 3: he was too nice. He was helping us pack up

559
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:47,920
Speaker 3: the show like and I was like, ooh, this feels

560
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 3: too nice, like too soon, and I retracted from that.

561
00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:57,239
Speaker 3: But I also was like, oh, this is probably what

562
00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 3: works for people, because a lot of men aren't nice.

563
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 3: A lot of men, especially the ones that look good

564
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:05,479
Speaker 3: or got money, they don't have to do much. So

565
00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:09,160
Speaker 3: to know that men will show up again as they're representative,

566
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,719
Speaker 3: real nice and then once they got you, wish they

567
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 3: got you and they can just show up starting to

568
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:13,640
Speaker 3: get less.

569
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 1: I do feel like, I mean that was I mean

570
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 1: a lot of.

571
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 2: My relationship, to be honest, any boyfriend I've ever had,

572
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:24,159
Speaker 2: it was consistent, Like old Bay wasn't the nicest.

573
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:26,240
Speaker 1: He actually got a nicer.

574
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 3: Okay, but what about like just other people, like because

575
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,920
Speaker 3: this is this is the dating method, So this isn't

576
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 3: we go together. This is niggas that probably you fuck

577
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:39,480
Speaker 3: and after a while it just becomes alonggoing situationship because

578
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 3: they just feeding you less and.

579
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:43,639
Speaker 2: Less less as a pisces and as someone that's very emo.

580
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,680
Speaker 2: Niggas need to know what to do to keep me okay,

581
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 2: and they kind of do it okay, but I'm also

582
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,040
Speaker 2: very vocal about it, so I don't know if they're

583
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 2: just doing it out of reluctancy.

584
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 1: But like, I'm share the sex message I was. I

585
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:00,160
Speaker 1: was a little bit live shocked. I was actually a little.

586
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 3: I said, uh, oh shit, but you know, I'll be young.

587
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 3: What's up love digs Okay?

588
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:09,959
Speaker 2: I said, Oh my god, I think I know why

589
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:11,959
Speaker 2: I was being needy. I was just like, really not

590
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 2: feeling good after the show. I'm sorry, I've been working

591
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:15,400
Speaker 2: so hard. I just don't know what to do right now.

592
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,639
Speaker 2: He goes lool not baby, this SHO want a regular

593
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 2: and it's okay, you are needy, but I like it,

594
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, he's just trying to be nice.

595
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:29,520
Speaker 3: But no, but also you've expressed that you're needy and

596
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:32,120
Speaker 3: you've looked at that as a bad thing. And he's like, bitch,

597
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 3: I'll see you for who you are, and I guess

598
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:34,159
Speaker 3: I'll like empty.

599
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 2: And I also think, like if a man enjoys super soft,

600
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 2: girly shit, and maybe that's what I've been able to

601
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,399
Speaker 2: lean into. I realized that the other day in my house,

602
00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:47,640
Speaker 2: we were on the couch and he was like Okay,

603
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:48,840
Speaker 2: let's get in the bed. I'm like, why you said

604
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:50,159
Speaker 2: you don't want to see I know you want to

605
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 2: be close to me, And I was like, it is cute,

606
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,400
Speaker 2: but I kind of do like when a man can

607
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 2: read it on you. And I think that maybe I've

608
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 2: been kind of fortunate to date men that are getting

609
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 2: it with me, like and maybe they've jumped me too

610
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:08,120
Speaker 2: early if they realize I am a lot now. I'm

611
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:11,680
Speaker 2: not so in your face about it, but I think

612
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 2: niggas could feel it. Like you know, when someone could

613
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 2: tell you without saying it to you, I might be

614
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:16,679
Speaker 2: real quiet.

615
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: If they're like, oh, I gotta go, I'll be like, okay,

616
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:22,640
Speaker 1: like I'm mad about it. You know I'm mad. Oh yeah.

617
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 1: So then I'm very vocal of it, like I want

618
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: the kissing and the hugging and all that shit. Maybe

619
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 1: walk out this door.

620
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 3: I think that that's the difference now with me though,

621
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 3: like the nickel ain't gonna bee enough. You got it bye,

622
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 3: like and I'm now gonna be a little bit more

623
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:39,720
Speaker 3: vocal with the things I need. And if you can't

624
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,000
Speaker 3: do it, I'm not gonna wait for you to find

625
00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 3: out how to do it.

626
00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: Go give the next bitch of nickel. I don't want

627
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 1: a nickel.

628
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 3: I mean I wanted a whole silver dollar hall. I

629
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 3: want a hundred dollar bill. I want the blue cheese bills.

630
00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 2: That's a man that's not trying to I think I

631
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 2: was watching or listening to something that said, why do

632
00:28:58,600 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 2: men need to hit the.

633
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 1: Numbers for women? And the number like, why do they

634
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 1: need to fuck women? What is the goal?

635
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 2: Sometimes when they don't want a relationship and a lot

636
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 2: of it they it said, could be a social climb,

637
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 2: saying oh I took that bitch down.

638
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 1: Not only social climate, I think it feeds their own

639
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 1: ego as well. Yeah yeah, and.

640
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 3: So it's like being able to say they fucked you.

641
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 3: And so one of those things is literally doing exactly

642
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:22,720
Speaker 3: what they think it'll take to get you, and not

643
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 3: just that but like.

644
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: They're getting off at doing it.

645
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 2: But I think the consistency is something that again is

646
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 2: so difficult to find. But as women that want things

647
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 2: and it's men to anybody listening, we definitely need to

648
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 2: be vocal.

649
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 1: And what we need keep period. BDD cooked me dinner

650
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 1: the other day and was like rubbing my back and

651
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 1: was like, you love this sheep?

652
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 3: I ain't, but those listening I have realized. Now this

653
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 3: is not a hord drive or anything like that, but

654
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 3: there's this nigga I follow the way I have been

655
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 3: turned on by niggas they could cook, because wait, my

656
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 3: ex can't. And then twenty two year old, when I

657
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,120
Speaker 3: told him, I was like something to come over, You're

658
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 3: gonna cook for me? And he said he'll, he'll, He'll

659
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 3: have the chef come over. Because the nigga got money.

660
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 3: He's like, I have the chef come over. And I

661
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 3: was like, why the fuck do I keep meeting niggas

662
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 3: that can't cook?

663
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: A part of me want a nigga that know how

664
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 1: to cook. I need. Maybe I got a data to make.

665
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 3: It at this point because American niggas don't hot to cook.

666
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:30,560
Speaker 1: It's an American thing cook. I feel like Islanders and

667
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 1: African men know how to cook. That nigga maybe he

668
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 1: just don't.

669
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 3: All I know is all the American men I keep meeting,

670
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 3: and yes, the African Americans, because y'all know, I don't

671
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 3: date the whites or anyone else.

672
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 1: All the niggas I date do not know how to cook.

673
00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:45,280
Speaker 1: They literally will tell me they don't know how to boil.

674
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 1: Walk is the only nigga.

675
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 3: I feel like I need to get me a curbban

676
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 3: man this year, So did I gotta have a nigga

677
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:51,320
Speaker 3: make me a whole meal.

678
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 1: I want a nigga to be like bib B.

679
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:55,160
Speaker 3: I want to make you foughts even though don't make

680
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 3: me fair, but I want you to like feed me.

681
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,280
Speaker 1: You want to not be hurt working. I want see

682
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 1: that you're making bad way, bitch.

683
00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 3: I want to see a nigga in the kitchen with

684
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 3: a little apron, and I want him to know how

685
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 3: to put like the little seasons all over the little shit.

686
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 1: You want to see a nigga with an apron.

687
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 3: Okay, maybe not the apron, but I want to see

688
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 3: him with some basketball shorts, no shirt. So don't cook

689
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 3: no bacon because that baby, that bacon greats gonna pop

690
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 3: it at you and I don't want you to hurt.

691
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 3: I want to see a nigga just basketball shorts with

692
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 3: the slides, the little Joda slides, little hood nigga with

693
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 3: the sock.

694
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 1: Song making some motherfucking a meal.

695
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 3: And when I say a meal, I need a vegetable,

696
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 3: I need a starch, and I need a meat Hope.

697
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 3: I want a nigga to be like and you know what,

698
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:36,959
Speaker 3: I even made dessert.

699
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 1: I want that. God damn it. Let me get off

700
00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 1: the Food Network. Gotta be bad as hell. Anyway. I

701
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 1: want to start tagging Mandy and your meals. You mad,

702
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 1: no I follow me. I ain gonna hold you.

703
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 3: I follow a lot of cooking ass niggas on Instagram. Bitch,

704
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 3: I'll be saving a little recipes like leimme I meat

705
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 3: this one day, all right anyways, and set up poor

706
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 3: Dirt because I not have sex. I wanted to get

707
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 3: into Hope facts, which was really interesting. This is digging

708
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 3: into Spartan women. Okay, So Sparta was in many ways

709
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 3: an odd one out of ancient Greece.

710
00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 1: And y'all know I've been to Greece.

711
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 3: While women in Athens were kept so secluded that they

712
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 3: were sought to speak their own dialect, Sparta's women received

713
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 3: great freedom for the time. When the Spartan queen Gorgo

714
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 3: was asked, why is it that you Spartan women are

715
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 3: the only women that lorded over your men, she said,

716
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 3: because we are the only women that are mothers of men.

717
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 3: But here's the crazy thing. I want to get into

718
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 3: what happens on their wedding night. But y'all a mother, Now,

719
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 3: this is for spartan women, and this is what took

720
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 3: place on their wedding night, which was really interesting. The

721
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 3: wedding night could be a strange affair for a spartan woman.

722
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 3: Her hair would be shaved off and she would be

723
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:57,240
Speaker 3: dressed in a man's cloak and sandals. Thus dressed, she

724
00:32:57,280 --> 00:33:00,959
Speaker 3: would wait in the dark for her husband to steal

725
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 3: in and have his way with her. Some historians have

726
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:07,840
Speaker 3: suggested that this cross dressing on the part of the

727
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 3: bride was to get a man more.

728
00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 1: Quote unquote used to spending time.

729
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 3: With his male brothers in arms and used it to

730
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 3: the delights of homosexuality.

731
00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 1: That's kind of hot, Is that not crazy?

732
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 3: We talked about cross dressing on this pod as it

733
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 3: pertained to men dressing up very feminine like, but we've never.

734
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 1: Talked about scared. Look not cam scaring you, bro. I

735
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 1: don't know why. I just thought we were getting dropped.

736
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:36,880
Speaker 1: I told you. I mean, just were in Brooklyn. Y'all,

737
00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 1: don't listen so fucking weazy. Wait we're in Brooklyn.

738
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 2: I thought, Yeah, bitch, I watched some shit last night

739
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 2: about like home invasions and it's.

740
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 3: Just kind of like, sorry, here's an ex we Anyways,

741
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 3: it was really interesting because I was like, damn, I

742
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 3: don't think we've ever really talked about cross dressing where

743
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 3: women drew us up as dudes and have their male

744
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 3: partners fucking.

745
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: The only thing that I'd seen like that was in

746
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:09,320
Speaker 1: Sex and the City.

747
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:11,600
Speaker 3: Oh wait, just look at here we go, y'all in

748
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 3: twenty twenty four, we're still getting sex with the city preferences.

749
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 1: Let's go sex in the city of going.

750
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:20,759
Speaker 2: So basically, Charlotte went to this guy's place because he

751
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 2: wanted to paint her.

752
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 1: He likes to paint women as men, and.

753
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 2: When she put on the suit, he put like a

754
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 2: bull's nerve hands and she was like, oh, I felt

755
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 2: more masculine, I felt like a man. I felt like

756
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:31,359
Speaker 2: I could pull him into me. She made out with him,

757
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:34,840
Speaker 2: made the first move, and it was hot because literally

758
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 2: like he got to look at.

759
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:39,880
Speaker 1: Her being womanly and fuck her. I think that's why nigga.

760
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 1: And I was like, I want to ask you, thus

761
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:43,440
Speaker 1: you dating a nigga?

762
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:45,480
Speaker 3: Nope, let's get it to I would love to know

763
00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 3: if you are how you rock with this. So you

764
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 3: date a nigga, You meet a nigga and he's like, Yom,

765
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 3: I want to fuck you. Want some timbalance with a

766
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 3: throwback jersey, with a snap back in a dou rag

767
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 3: and I want you to bush your eyebrows out no makeup.

768
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:04,960
Speaker 1: I like that. You like it?

769
00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 2: Niggas like when I have my hair and a bunch

770
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 2: because they say I look like loving basketball.

771
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:14,319
Speaker 1: And on that note, look what that you do? Not

772
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 1: look like annihilate the whole, but the little vibe hole.

773
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:19,000
Speaker 1: Have you ever even played basketball?

774
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 3: Ho?

775
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter, bitch, I fucked a basketball player. Okay.

776
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:31,759
Speaker 3: On that note, the horrible decision this week, This is

777
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:33,839
Speaker 3: what I've been sitting on because this is literally where

778
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 3: I've been mentally, and with this show being seven years old,

779
00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 3: with us just wrapping up the climax tour, I wanted

780
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:49,120
Speaker 3: to have the conversation around sexual liberation. Are we really

781
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 3: sexually liberated? And this came from an article from the

782
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 3: New York POSTY had a gun, We're an Australian woman

783
00:35:56,880 --> 00:36:00,360
Speaker 3: said she had sex with three hundred people in one

784
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 3: that's insane, but shout out to her and found the

785
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 3: experience quote unquote empowering. She's twenty six years old and

786
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 3: goes by Anna Knight any night, and she told She

787
00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 3: said that she even managed to bed five people in

788
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 3: a single day during the Frisky Fun Year. She said,

789
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:24,959
Speaker 3: I felt empowered afterwards. Sex makes me feel good. It's

790
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:28,399
Speaker 3: meant to make you feel good. Night sleeps with men

791
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 3: and women, and told the radio program that she met

792
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 3: many of her sex parties on dating apps. However, she

793
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:37,040
Speaker 3: also has a quote unquote roster of regulars on speed

794
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 3: dial that she calls up whenever she feels like getting

795
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 3: god and dirty. She said, the messier the sex, the better.

796
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:47,720
Speaker 3: Not everyone is impressed with her unashamed enthusiasm for sex,

797
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:52,240
Speaker 3: and one hater described her as disgusting. A few years later,

798
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 3: I got fired from one of my jobs. I just

799
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 3: started a new role. I was on day five and

800
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 3: actually went homesick that day. Received an email saying termination

801
00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 3: of contract. She went on to explain that she was shocked,

802
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 3: didn't know what was going on, and before opening the

803
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 3: email to discover screenshots of her adult content. There were

804
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 3: a list of four reasons while she was fired. Basically,

805
00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,840
Speaker 3: they said that she falsely advertised that she had a

806
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 3: side business, didn't ask permission from the company to run

807
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:24,480
Speaker 3: a side business, and that she had online pornographic images

808
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:27,720
Speaker 3: of herself and crude language that was against company rules.

809
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:30,359
Speaker 1: Okay, we talked about.

810
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 3: How that's settled for law enforcement and things like that,

811
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:36,320
Speaker 3: but I really wanted to talk about in this age

812
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:37,640
Speaker 3: of celibacy.

813
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 1: I actually want to build on that a little bit. Yeah,

814
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 1: talk to me.

815
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:44,279
Speaker 2: So I felt like I had to sex shame someone

816
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 2: that came to WTF media recently. Oh, do explain not

817
00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 2: the same mind you if any of the employees were

818
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:54,520
Speaker 2: making sexual content, that'd be fine. We had someone bring

819
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 2: a sub and I think I mentioned it to you

820
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 2: when Steph Dohm was in there and they were walking

821
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 2: their sub around the building and start us into trouble.

822
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 2: And you know, we've been there three years and like

823
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:06,080
Speaker 2: Alex and I don't want to fuck this shit up.

824
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 1: And I was like, bro, I.

825
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 2: Understand people of their kinks, but like, you're not about

826
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 2: to get your shit off to the point where we

827
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 2: get kicked out, like feeding people as you know, people

828
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 2: are paying their rent from our businesses.

829
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 1: Like, you're not about to fuck this shit up.

830
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 2: And so I actually came down on the employees possibly

831
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 2: a little too hard to where It'siana was even like bruh,

832
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 2: everybody works really hard. Like I was like, if anybody

833
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:27,879
Speaker 2: does this busy, anybody do this again? If you watch

834
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 2: some shit like this happen, it's your responsibility to make

835
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 2: sure when no one's fucking up in this building that

836
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:34,799
Speaker 2: we stay here like this is our jobs if not,

837
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 2: like fuck everybody.

838
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:36,360
Speaker 1: I was so upset.

839
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:38,920
Speaker 2: And this is a while ago, but I remember thinking, like,

840
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 2: was I shaming that person's sex life? They also are

841
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 2: paying to use the studio. But I do think there's

842
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 2: a way that you need to conduct yourself in terms

843
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:55,719
Speaker 2: of professionalism when it comes to the content that you're

844
00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 2: making and how it coincides with the businesses that you

845
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 2: interact with. Like granted, yeah, I want people to make

846
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 2: whatever they want. I've had people ask if they could

847
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 2: do sporting stuff in my school studio. I've had to

848
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 2: say no, right, Like, there is certain imagery that I

849
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 2: want to be out there and some that are not,

850
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 2: And I think it's perfectly fined. Where I remember in

851
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:19,920
Speaker 2: the past we had started debating about a student's mom. Yeah,

852
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:23,200
Speaker 2: that I feel like doesn't count because like it's a kid.

853
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 1: How can you blame their mother.

854
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 3: But for work places, I'm kind of starting to change

855
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:32,840
Speaker 3: the tie a little bit. Okay, so nurses and the

856
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,760
Speaker 3: only fans I know. Ali Ray is a big performer

857
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 3: that was very popular. She may be one of the

858
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 3: most famous. There's New York post shit about her about

859
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:41,719
Speaker 3: how she got fired. She was under There was a

860
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:43,719
Speaker 3: lot of law enforcement last year as well in the

861
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 3: last couple of years because of the pandemic that.

862
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 1: Were let go.

863
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 2: I don't think I think two things. I don't think

864
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:51,239
Speaker 2: your past should be held against you.

865
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 1: Okay. However, if someone does.

866
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 2: Have something in place where they don't want pornography shared

867
00:39:58,000 --> 00:39:58,839
Speaker 2: within their like.

868
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 1: I get it. WHI I'm wondering.

869
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 3: I mean, I haven't applied for a job, but if

870
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 3: that was a question asked, it's the same type of

871
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:11,320
Speaker 3: question where you can't lie on applications even which is

872
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 3: why they ask about Beelaniese and you know any sort

873
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 3: of charges or have you ever let been let go

874
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 3: of a workplace?

875
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 1: They asked these questions also to see your honesty.

876
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 3: I think that there is character morals in which companies

877
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 3: hire people that are employed by them.

878
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:34,359
Speaker 2: Entertainers are held against with their with their commentary on

879
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:35,439
Speaker 2: tweet all the time.

880
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So shit.

881
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 2: I remember what Forbes didn't want to work with me

882
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:43,839
Speaker 2: because I said something on this podcast recently. They were like, oh,

883
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:46,279
Speaker 2: well she said that we did X Y Z, and like, ooh,

884
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 2: it is what it is. I used to want to

885
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 2: be in Forbes so badly. Guess that'll be done, right.

886
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:52,839
Speaker 2: I mean, it's true they didn't want me to have

887
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:55,399
Speaker 2: a show about a certain type of sexual content.

888
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 1: So it sucks, but that is their choice. What can

889
00:40:58,600 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 1: I do? Right? You know?

890
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:04,399
Speaker 3: I think the conversation that I wanted to quickly have

891
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 3: was around being really sexually liberated, and it comes from

892
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 3: in my quest of celibacy. I've questioned what sex has

893
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:18,160
Speaker 3: meant to me in the past, what it means now.

894
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 3: The sexual revolution, by the way, is known as sexual liberation,

895
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 3: where it's a social movement that challenged traditional codes of

896
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 3: behavior related to sexuality and interpersonal relationships throughout the developed

897
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:35,840
Speaker 3: Western world from the nineteen sixties to seventies. Sexual liberation

898
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 3: included increased acceptance of sex outside of traditional heterosexual, monogamous relationships,

899
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:47,239
Speaker 3: primarily marriage, the normalization as well of contraception, and the pill,

900
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 3: public nudity, pornography, premarital sex, homosexuality, masturbation, alternative forms of sexuality,

901
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 3: and the legalization of abortion now in all of which

902
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 3: that stems forward. I know that that's so what we

903
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 3: represent here on horrible decisions, but it's been really like

904
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 3: almost draining to me to relive some of the decisions

905
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 3: on why I had sex in ways that I think

906
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:16,520
Speaker 3: internalized that it was liberating because I was making the decision,

907
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,520
Speaker 3: But then you know now that I have a different

908
00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:23,760
Speaker 3: relationship with money, with my body, with myself, I realized

909
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:26,960
Speaker 3: that I was maybe feeding in and having sex more

910
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 3: so for the other person more than myself at all,

911
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:31,800
Speaker 3: And I think that that's where I'm like, now, I

912
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 3: want to make sure I'm having sex for my.

913
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: Reasons, Like for me even being in a.

914
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 3: Non monogamous relationship for three years and being in the

915
00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 3: sex club space and being violated in those spaces with

916
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 3: people that are supposed to know the fucking Code of Ethics, is.

917
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 1: Like, what's liberating about this?

918
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 3: But it's also because I feel like I've been hurt

919
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:57,840
Speaker 3: by it, and I think that when we think of

920
00:42:57,920 --> 00:43:01,920
Speaker 3: sexual liberation right, it's it's been hard to feel violated

921
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:04,400
Speaker 3: in a space that made me feel so liberated, but

922
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:06,880
Speaker 3: also to know that sex is something that's so empowering

923
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:10,360
Speaker 3: that could also be so demoralizing in terms of trigger

924
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 3: warning when we talk about sexual assault, when we talk

925
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 3: about manipulation, when we talk about rape. And it's just

926
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 3: been this thing where I've just been like, what exactly

927
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 3: my relationship with sex, what exactly is liberating about it?

928
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:29,320
Speaker 3: And because you've been able to have such a healthy,

929
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:32,680
Speaker 3: explorative relationship over the past few months, I wanted to

930
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:36,800
Speaker 3: just have that conversation what is liberating to you about

931
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 3: sex right now in your thirties and has that changed

932
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 3: from how you viewed your relationship with sex.

933
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:44,440
Speaker 1: In your twenties.

934
00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 2: I think I'm having all the sex that I want

935
00:43:46,640 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 2: to have. Okay, When I was with Old Bay, towards

936
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 2: the end of our relationship, I had sex with him

937
00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 2: because I felt like I was supposed to as a girlfriend.

938
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:56,160
Speaker 3: Not saying that he ever forced me. I want to

939
00:43:56,200 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 3: be very clear, our relationship is very consensual. It was

940
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 3: more about like I'm mad at this thing. Oh he

941
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:07,120
Speaker 3: cheated on me, I hate him. Oh I'm not that

942
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 3: attracted to him anymore.

943
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 1: It was just like but.

944
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:14,480
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do this right because I'm trying. All the

945
00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 2: sex I'm having is because I want to. It's either

946
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 2: me initiating me welcoming it. And I think that is

947
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:26,279
Speaker 2: the biggest part of sexual liberation period. Anything is from

948
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 2: a libertarian perspective, is a choice.

949
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:32,080
Speaker 1: But and that's probably why in the beginning of.

950
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:35,280
Speaker 2: The conversation about fun and you're saying I'm done with fun,

951
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 2: I think I wasn't having fun. I was maybe in

952
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 2: the past feeling used instead of feeling like I was

953
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 2: asking for sex.

954
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:46,320
Speaker 3: Well, and that's the thing I think in the moment,

955
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 3: even with writing this book, going back to some of

956
00:44:51,480 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 3: the episodes that were referenced and the partners that I

957
00:44:54,040 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 3: know I had, at those times, I was like, was

958
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:01,680
Speaker 3: this fun? Was I having the sex because I really

959
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:04,399
Speaker 3: enjoyed it? Or did it validate me because a man

960
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 3: actually wanted to fuck me because I had very low

961
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 3: self estee.

962
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:09,719
Speaker 1: I don't think they'll ever know.

963
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:12,640
Speaker 3: Well, but oh no, no, no, that's what I'm saying.

964
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 3: I'm working through that right now where it's like, actually,

965
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 3: if I sit here and in my moment talk about

966
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:23,480
Speaker 3: what that experience was today, I'm crying about it, which

967
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:26,719
Speaker 3: means the power that maybe I expressed on the podcast

968
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 3: and the podcast on the moment where.

969
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,760
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I did this, I got that money

970
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 1: got fluid out. Uh uh.

971
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 3: When I reliving and rethinking of what those moments were,

972
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:40,240
Speaker 3: I realized that I was lying to myself.

973
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 1: And I think that that's where being liberated now.

974
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 3: Having this podcast and knowing we're going to be here

975
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:50,120
Speaker 3: for a little longer, you know what I mean?

976
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: I really want to.

977
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:56,439
Speaker 3: Be intentional on if I'm having sex with someone, how

978
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 3: and why is it making me feel as great as

979
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 3: I used to believe it made me feel because I

980
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,840
Speaker 3: realized that it made me feel good because I felt wanted.

981
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 1: I felt sexy, but.

982
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 3: It was only because men actually wanted me in a

983
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 3: space where I would cry that boots wouldn't go at

984
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 3: my calves. I could only wear stretched pants because jeans

985
00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 3: didn't fit me. I was a size eighteen and I'm

986
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:25,200
Speaker 3: sitting here and I'm like, oh I was so I

987
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:28,279
Speaker 3: also was poor. So a nigga buying a flight meant

988
00:46:28,320 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 3: so much, bitch, we buy flights like it ain't nothing. Now,

989
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:31,839
Speaker 3: you just said you want to beat the and plan

990
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 3: nation in seventy two hours. So like, even my relationship

991
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:40,320
Speaker 3: with money was so different that my association with sex,

992
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 3: I felt like that was all I could offer, and

993
00:46:43,040 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 3: it brought me joy that people wanted to have it with.

994
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you are just making me think of something.

995
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 2: Someone I know is having sex with a really rich

996
00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 2: man okay, who they've been having sex with for a

997
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 2: long time. Okay, And they said to me this morning,

998
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 2: this is someone who has an amazing job and it's

999
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 2: gorgeous and it's like lit. They were like, sometimes when

1000
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 2: I'm with him and we're just doing that thing, I

1001
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,200
Speaker 2: feel like I got to be the sex girl because

1002
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 2: I'm like, look at all these things you have, like

1003
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 2: why are you here? And I was like, really, like

1004
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 2: as smart as you are and as hot as you are,

1005
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,239
Speaker 2: like anyone would die to be with you, and that's

1006
00:47:22,239 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 2: why you have this guy.

1007
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:24,919
Speaker 1: Tell you later.

1008
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:29,279
Speaker 3: But that's so what she said is exactly what I'm

1009
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:34,439
Speaker 3: trying to figure out right now. I know now I'm

1010
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:37,520
Speaker 3: not I don't want to lead with sex because I

1011
00:47:37,560 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 3: actually am finally in a moment where oh, I know,

1012
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 3: why A you're here.

1013
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: I'm cool as fuck, I'm little as fuck.

1014
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 3: I got my old ship and so I'm the opposite

1015
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:47,800
Speaker 3: Brianda and I just had this conversation.

1016
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:50,359
Speaker 1: Maybe I said the opposite you said.

1017
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:54,640
Speaker 3: Wait wait, I kind of said the same thing you said,

1018
00:47:54,640 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 3: but I was like, she was like, dude, I was

1019
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:59,319
Speaker 3: looking at you on stage and I just thought, you're

1020
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:00,280
Speaker 3: the hottest girl.

1021
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:02,720
Speaker 1: You're so pretty, like you're one of my hottest friends.

1022
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 1: And I was like, what, girl, I don't even know.

1023
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 1: Like I was like, I'm not saying I don't think

1024
00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 1: I'm hot.

1025
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 3: I was like she was like, and she was saying

1026
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:11,840
Speaker 3: something in terms of like a man wanting to be

1027
00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 3: with me, and I was like, there's so many beautiful women, Breonda,

1028
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:16,319
Speaker 3: like I see them every day.

1029
00:48:17,160 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 2: I think men want to be with me because I'm cool.

1030
00:48:19,320 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 2: I don't even know if it's because I'm attractive anymore.

1031
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:26,760
Speaker 2: Like I think that men are so attracted to my personality.

1032
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 2: I don't even know if niggas look at me like

1033
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 2: I'm pretty. There's so many levels to like what men

1034
00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 2: think bad bitches are nowadays.

1035
00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 3: Oh absolutely that like I we don't like me and

1036
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 3: you are not.

1037
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:40,600
Speaker 1: We don't edit our photos like that.

1038
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:43,319
Speaker 3: Listen and y'all see me and say I look better

1039
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:45,080
Speaker 3: in person, so I let it. I love hearing that,

1040
00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:49,239
Speaker 3: Oh my god. But it's not because they all say

1041
00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 3: we look makes you want to take this shit off YouTube?

1042
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:53,960
Speaker 3: You bitches like, no, it's just they know that we

1043
00:48:54,000 --> 00:48:56,399
Speaker 3: look better in person. Makes me feel good.

1044
00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:57,239
Speaker 1: I'm okay with that.

1045
00:48:57,440 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 3: But that's where I'm like, Actually, first off, I know

1046
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:03,759
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be your best fuck. I know I'm gonna

1047
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 3: eat your ass like another bitch, don't. I know I'm

1048
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:08,160
Speaker 3: gonna have fun and we can go out and your

1049
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 3: homeboys don't like me, your friends don't like me, you'll

1050
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:14,879
Speaker 3: everyone is gonna enjoy me. And so now I know that.

1051
00:49:15,320 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 3: So I'm not leading with sex anymore. And that's where

1052
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 3: I'm like, because I'm the show. So then what is

1053
00:49:20,600 --> 00:49:24,200
Speaker 3: my power then of sex with somebody? How does that

1054
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:26,520
Speaker 3: liberate me to know that I am and I also

1055
00:49:26,520 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 3: feel this way. Let me also be very clear, outside

1056
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:32,320
Speaker 3: of all the other ways I showed up, my ex

1057
00:49:32,440 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 3: got all of me. And I realize now though, that

1058
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:39,160
Speaker 3: sex is giving somebody a lot of you that a

1059
00:49:39,160 --> 00:49:40,520
Speaker 3: lot of these niggas don't deserve.

1060
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:42,799
Speaker 2: And that's that's why I think I only had one

1061
00:49:42,840 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 2: new body last year. I fucked BDD and Dread.

1062
00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:51,440
Speaker 1: That's it and Lamba Lambot was new Lambert was that

1063
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:54,600
Speaker 1: was the year before. I remember we did the plan

1064
00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 1: the episode.

1065
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 3: At the top of the year we show d and

1066
00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 3: it's funny that you've made that face the show did

1067
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:02,040
Speaker 3: Alex said that to me.

1068
00:50:02,120 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 1: Like, nah, bitch, you fucked somebody. I was like dating

1069
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:07,240
Speaker 1: a celibate nigga. Oh and you were dating the celibate nigga.

1070
00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:09,360
Speaker 2: So then BDD and I had sex and then I

1071
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 2: met Dread. But hopefully I got some dick for a

1072
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:16,360
Speaker 2: new dick in New Year. But who But anyway, point

1073
00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:18,839
Speaker 2: is I realized, like.

1074
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 1: I mean, technically, you also funck the bitch that spelt

1075
00:50:21,960 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 1: like shit. No, she didn't tuck me. Well, you fucked her.

1076
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:28,799
Speaker 1: I didn't. She shipped on me and she didn't shit

1077
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:32,799
Speaker 1: on you. You fingered her as shit. Sure bad, but yeah,

1078
00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:37,280
Speaker 1: she's shit on. I hate it. I'm weak.

1079
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:41,480
Speaker 3: Anyways, That's kind of like where I've been with my

1080
00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:43,719
Speaker 3: mind about sex and what it means to me and

1081
00:50:44,040 --> 00:50:47,160
Speaker 3: how do I feel liberated again with giving somebody something

1082
00:50:47,200 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 3: that I know they want without getting what I want essentially,

1083
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:52,839
Speaker 3: And I think that that's where I'm at too. That's

1084
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 3: why I'm like, Okay, in what ways do I need

1085
00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 3: a man to show up? Because if I'm going to

1086
00:50:56,719 --> 00:50:58,319
Speaker 3: give them sex and that's all they want from me,

1087
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:01,440
Speaker 3: I do want to be sure I'm getting something. And

1088
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:03,520
Speaker 3: I think that that's why me and twenty four to

1089
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 3: seven have been rocky, because I let them know I

1090
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:07,960
Speaker 3: felt empty. Yeah, And I shared that on Patreon if

1091
00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:10,239
Speaker 3: y'all want to join us on Patreon. I explained that,

1092
00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:14,239
Speaker 3: like sex in the moment was so fulfilling, but then

1093
00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 3: after I felt empty and I didn't feel good after sex,

1094
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:21,120
Speaker 3: Like I felt like, damn it, now you're gone, and

1095
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:23,160
Speaker 3: now now I don't feel.

1096
00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 1: I think you're going to get back to where you were.

1097
00:51:24,719 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 1: That's why I'm trying to fuck this twenty two year

1098
00:51:26,200 --> 00:51:26,520
Speaker 1: old bit.

1099
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:29,960
Speaker 2: I just think that in this particular moment of your life,

1100
00:51:30,600 --> 00:51:33,640
Speaker 2: you had a huge breakup, a lot of changes, a

1101
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 2: tony of changes.

1102
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:36,759
Speaker 1: I think you just need a second, you know, which is.

1103
00:51:36,719 --> 00:51:38,239
Speaker 3: Why I've been celebrated for as long as I have.

1104
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:40,440
Speaker 3: And I literally was like, abstince, I'm glad that I

1105
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 3: was bitch.

1106
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:41,400
Speaker 1: Shut up.

1107
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:44,279
Speaker 3: Anyways, real quick, we're starting off the air. Let's do

1108
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:47,800
Speaker 3: homemail before we get up out of here. So the homemail.

1109
00:51:47,840 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 3: By the way, y'all know you can send us your

1110
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 3: homemail at Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com.

1111
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 1: Please send some homemail because I like reading your tea.

1112
00:51:57,880 --> 00:52:01,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, but also label it homemail. Okay, So hey, Weezy

1113
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 3: and Mandy spelled both of our names wrong. But let's

1114
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 3: get into it. I want to start by shouting, yeah,

1115
00:52:08,120 --> 00:52:09,640
Speaker 3: I love you ladies so so.

1116
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:12,439
Speaker 1: Much, not enough. I did right, see your names wrong?

1117
00:52:13,400 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 3: I deal Bessie's for real, And so you know I've

1118
00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 3: been a faithful listener since way back when, because is

1119
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 3: there anything else better to do? No, you're right, speller

1120
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:24,359
Speaker 3: names right now. This is how we are not going

1121
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:25,920
Speaker 3: to start off the new year. But this is why

1122
00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:29,160
Speaker 3: I wanted to read this. Okay, now to get to

1123
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:32,000
Speaker 3: the real reason for this email. I've been involved with

1124
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:35,720
Speaker 3: my situationship for like over a decade now, oh yes,

1125
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:39,359
Speaker 3: decade because the things we do behind closed doors were

1126
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:44,840
Speaker 3: blank just insert there. And we recently got into a

1127
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:47,359
Speaker 3: heated argument via text over the fact that I didn't

1128
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:49,960
Speaker 3: want to give him no plussy. I looked at it

1129
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 3: as payback because he was supposed to drop some dick

1130
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:56,360
Speaker 3: off for my birthday, and he did it. We exchanged words.

1131
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 3: His were a bit more hurtful than mine, and hurtful

1132
00:52:59,640 --> 00:53:03,359
Speaker 3: enough to cut that nigga off for good. I won't

1133
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:07,400
Speaker 3: disclose everything that was said, but he basically said fuck

1134
00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:11,040
Speaker 3: me and called me an ugly bitch. I do believe

1135
00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:13,960
Speaker 3: this to be true because he has never once complimented

1136
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:18,200
Speaker 3: me on my looks and isn't affectionate in the bedroom now.

1137
00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 3: At first, I was a tad bit in my feelings

1138
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:22,480
Speaker 3: because who wants to hear those words?

1139
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:25,279
Speaker 1: But on the other hand, it kind of turned me on,

1140
00:53:25,680 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 1: knowing he.

1141
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 3: Supposedly isn't attracted to me yet fucked and beg for

1142
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:30,640
Speaker 3: this pussy like.

1143
00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 1: It was his last Ooh.

1144
00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:35,239
Speaker 3: I haven't spoken to him in over five months now,

1145
00:53:35,480 --> 00:53:38,040
Speaker 3: a beggar, but I can't stop thinking about the fact

1146
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:40,480
Speaker 3: that if he was to hit me up for sex,

1147
00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:43,880
Speaker 3: I would answer and proudly sit on that dick, knowing

1148
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 3: he finds me unattractive and loudly recite fuck this ugly pussy.

1149
00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:52,880
Speaker 3: Dren pounds out. If you want to see photos of

1150
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:54,839
Speaker 3: me to be the judge, I'll gladly send them over.

1151
00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:57,400
Speaker 3: I didn't respond to that. She said, and I'm not

1152
00:53:57,440 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 3: gonna lie. He's fine fine. I mean green Eye is fine?

1153
00:54:02,800 --> 00:54:05,319
Speaker 3: Am I green Eyes? I don't know, maybe because I'm

1154
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:08,040
Speaker 3: talking about how fine he is? He said, am I

1155
00:54:08,120 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 3: Delulu in my mandy?

1156
00:54:09,440 --> 00:54:09,760
Speaker 1: Boys?

1157
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:14,840
Speaker 3: Is this a kink? Apologies for the long email? Continue

1158
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 3: keeping it cute? Signed an ugly hope.

1159
00:54:19,680 --> 00:54:23,640
Speaker 1: Weey? What what is your immediate thought on this?

1160
00:54:24,200 --> 00:54:25,719
Speaker 2: I don't think he thinks she's ugly. I think he

1161
00:54:25,800 --> 00:54:35,319
Speaker 2: was just angry. Okay, because ten years you're attracted to somebody.

1162
00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:40,760
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm listening ten years.

1163
00:54:40,800 --> 00:54:44,120
Speaker 1: And also I'm not going to judge someone's photos at all.

1164
00:54:44,239 --> 00:54:44,799
Speaker 1: No me neither.

1165
00:54:45,280 --> 00:54:49,000
Speaker 2: But in an argument calling someone ugly, I've called old

1166
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:49,479
Speaker 2: Day ugly.

1167
00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:50,160
Speaker 1: He's not ugly.

1168
00:54:50,440 --> 00:54:52,960
Speaker 3: He's handsome. Literally people stopping the street and think he's

1169
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:54,960
Speaker 3: a model. Like I've called him ugly because I'm mad.

1170
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 3: I think that when people are angry with you, they

1171
00:54:57,600 --> 00:55:00,759
Speaker 3: hit below the belt. There's thing I wish I could

1172
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:03,760
Speaker 3: take back that I said about people. Whether I actually

1173
00:55:04,280 --> 00:55:05,000
Speaker 3: let me say this.

1174
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:09,520
Speaker 2: I don't really talk about people's weight, mainly because I

1175
00:55:09,600 --> 00:55:10,359
Speaker 2: just think that's so.

1176
00:55:12,000 --> 00:55:14,480
Speaker 1: I could call you so many worse things. Right to me,

1177
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 1: waight is like you know what I'm saying. I could

1178
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 1: talk about your kids, bitch, because like if you will

1179
00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:21,160
Speaker 1: and do. Oh.

1180
00:55:21,520 --> 00:55:23,160
Speaker 2: One of the meanest things I've ever said to someone

1181
00:55:23,360 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 2: was there's nothing I could say to you that's worse

1182
00:55:26,120 --> 00:55:27,320
Speaker 2: than what you think about yourself.

1183
00:55:27,920 --> 00:55:28,960
Speaker 1: I know you hate yourself.

1184
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:32,600
Speaker 3: And I said that in an email for real to

1185
00:55:33,239 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 3: the x oh bitch Justine, and then he wrote me

1186
00:55:35,560 --> 00:55:38,440
Speaker 3: back telling me how much he loves himself. Okay, narcissists

1187
00:55:38,640 --> 00:55:41,640
Speaker 3: don't believe. You don't when someone really hates themselves, Like

1188
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:45,279
Speaker 3: I feel bad I did.

1189
00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:49,200
Speaker 2: You said something real mean about someone's partner when we

1190
00:55:49,200 --> 00:55:50,799
Speaker 2: were on the way from DC, and you were like,

1191
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:53,279
Speaker 2: he is a peon and she treats him like one,

1192
00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:56,240
Speaker 2: as he should, and I was like, I don't remember

1193
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 2: which one, but yeah, and I remember thinking like, and

1194
00:55:59,239 --> 00:56:01,520
Speaker 2: she's right, Like, when there's something mean you can say

1195
00:56:01,520 --> 00:56:03,880
Speaker 2: about somebody, you will. So I've definitely hit blowed the

1196
00:56:03,880 --> 00:56:06,920
Speaker 2: belt just because I've wanted to hurt someone. Niggas just

1197
00:56:06,960 --> 00:56:13,520
Speaker 2: say me and shit, But I think you know, you

1198
00:56:13,520 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 2: wanting to give someone sex that you feel disrespected by

1199
00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:17,360
Speaker 2: will affect you later.

1200
00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:20,680
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you. That's where I went with this.

1201
00:56:23,719 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 3: You believe him when he called you ugly, so you

1202
00:56:27,880 --> 00:56:32,319
Speaker 3: have deep insecurities within yourself right now, which you haven't

1203
00:56:32,320 --> 00:56:34,400
Speaker 3: spoke to him in five months, but you said if

1204
00:56:34,440 --> 00:56:39,480
Speaker 3: he hits you, you would give him pussy because he's fine, fine, fine,

1205
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:43,160
Speaker 3: And so there's validation, like I brought up earlier, there's

1206
00:56:43,200 --> 00:56:46,239
Speaker 3: validation in this finess man wanting to fuck you when

1207
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:49,160
Speaker 3: you feel unattractive, the fact that he called you an

1208
00:56:49,239 --> 00:56:53,480
Speaker 3: ugly bitch, and you're like, and he's right, that's the problem. Like,

1209
00:56:55,040 --> 00:56:59,520
Speaker 3: you're never going to be treated better or respected or

1210
00:56:59,600 --> 00:57:02,520
Speaker 3: get anything that you feel like you fully deserve if

1211
00:57:02,520 --> 00:57:04,839
Speaker 3: you don't feel like you deserve it. And so if

1212
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:07,560
Speaker 3: this man can call you ugly and disrespect you and

1213
00:57:07,640 --> 00:57:10,319
Speaker 3: hit you below the belt, and five months later you're

1214
00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 3: sitting in an email saying he was right and if

1215
00:57:13,480 --> 00:57:15,879
Speaker 3: he hits me up, I still want to fuck him,

1216
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:19,280
Speaker 3: and then trying to trick yourself to believe it's a kink. No,

1217
00:57:19,440 --> 00:57:22,240
Speaker 3: you're you're just in a state of insecurity right now.

1218
00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 1: And then maybe you don't feel good.

1219
00:57:24,040 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 3: And sex they make you feel good, I bet you,

1220
00:57:26,640 --> 00:57:28,840
Speaker 3: especially when it's a litle finance you've.

1221
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 2: Got to figure out the beauty from the inside. I

1222
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:34,600
Speaker 2: know that sounds super cliche, but you gotta hear me. Wait,

1223
00:57:34,880 --> 00:57:38,919
Speaker 2: the way to not make it feel cliche. So when

1224
00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:46,280
Speaker 2: I felt ugly or ugliest was for me. Wait, we

1225
00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:49,680
Speaker 2: all have so much trauma with I know a lot

1226
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:52,360
Speaker 2: of my Latina friends their their parents call him fat

1227
00:57:52,480 --> 00:57:53,600
Speaker 2: all the time, right.

1228
00:57:54,800 --> 00:57:56,880
Speaker 1: Huh Gordon, Yeah you're getting big. They always be like,

1229
00:57:56,920 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 1: why you get so fat?

1230
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:00,680
Speaker 2: My mom I love her to death, but my mom

1231
00:58:00,920 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 2: celebrates me losing weight so much that she never calls

1232
00:58:04,600 --> 00:58:05,600
Speaker 2: me fat.

1233
00:58:05,720 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 3: She just like, whoa, you look so good. You look

1234
00:58:08,960 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 3: so much better than you did if you want. And

1235
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:12,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, it's just it's like a little too.

1236
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:13,160
Speaker 1: Much, okay.

1237
00:58:13,280 --> 00:58:15,200
Speaker 2: But my mom is very old school, right, Like she

1238
00:58:15,240 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 2: thinks skinny is king, which a lot of people do,

1239
00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 2: and so I think that fucked me up a lot.

1240
00:58:21,120 --> 00:58:23,360
Speaker 2: Now we all know, Miss Jewels is great. Old people

1241
00:58:23,360 --> 00:58:25,360
Speaker 2: don't know what they're doing. My mom is seventy two

1242
00:58:25,440 --> 00:58:29,280
Speaker 2: seventy three in a week, and like she just doesn't know.

1243
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 2: Like literally saw me naked changing recently in LA and

1244
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:34,920
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, I mean your body, this

1245
00:58:35,040 --> 00:58:36,160
Speaker 2: is your best because you weren't.

1246
00:58:36,200 --> 00:58:38,240
Speaker 1: I mean, you were not like and I was like,

1247
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 1: oh man.

1248
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:43,680
Speaker 3: So I think back to moments when this happened, and

1249
00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:45,840
Speaker 3: it made me hate how I looked. Or it could

1250
00:58:45,840 --> 00:58:47,600
Speaker 3: be Old Bay telling me that I needed to lose

1251
00:58:47,640 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 3: weight or whatever it was. And so when I say, within,

1252
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:52,680
Speaker 3: you got to do something that makes you feel beautiful.

1253
00:58:52,920 --> 00:58:55,840
Speaker 3: For me, it was constant upkeeps with hair and makeup,

1254
00:58:55,880 --> 00:58:58,120
Speaker 3: putting on a cuter outfit when I was leaving the house.

1255
00:58:58,320 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 3: And I literally had a nigga tell me recently the

1256
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 3: way that he knew I could dress because he ran

1257
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:03,200
Speaker 3: into me.

1258
00:59:03,640 --> 00:59:04,880
Speaker 1: He was like, and I was like, oh my god,

1259
00:59:04,920 --> 00:59:05,520
Speaker 1: I look like shit.

1260
00:59:05,720 --> 00:59:07,320
Speaker 2: He's like, you think you look like shit because you

1261
00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 2: ain't got no makeup on but your foot put together

1262
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:12,160
Speaker 2: that little run around the street fit. That's how when

1263
00:59:12,160 --> 00:59:15,120
Speaker 2: you know someone can dress, start doing those little fucking

1264
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:17,200
Speaker 2: things that make you feel better. Think about when you

1265
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 2: get dressed to go out and everybody tells you how

1266
00:59:18,800 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 2: nice you look. Start just putting a little more effort

1267
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:25,520
Speaker 2: into yourself that makes you feel more beautiful, including working out.

1268
00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:29,000
Speaker 2: You keep talking about Bar Alive, like I think bar

1269
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:31,000
Speaker 2: is something that's it sounds super simple.

1270
00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:32,400
Speaker 1: When you say it, but it's doing a lot.

1271
00:59:32,960 --> 00:59:35,880
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, I just to Crystal Antsacy both

1272
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:36,400
Speaker 3: my friends.

1273
00:59:36,880 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 1: No what I said. I'm not saying it's not hard.

1274
00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:42,480
Speaker 3: I'm not a simple like saying, oh no, bitch. She

1275
00:59:43,400 --> 00:59:47,720
Speaker 3: wasn't there looking at me like no flexibility. She said, no, nope,

1276
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:48,560
Speaker 3: I mean simple.

1277
00:59:48,640 --> 00:59:52,200
Speaker 2: Isn't just one class making you feel like that that

1278
00:59:52,600 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 2: is a thing.

1279
00:59:53,240 --> 00:59:54,680
Speaker 1: So you have to find your thing.

1280
00:59:55,000 --> 00:59:57,880
Speaker 3: Bitches need to hide you and think about your thing.

1281
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:00,600
Speaker 3: But it ain't this nigga Core Mind's episode. A lot

1282
01:00:00,600 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 3: of people laughing at that. TJ Max girl.

1283
01:00:02,560 --> 01:00:05,840
Speaker 1: Oh bitch, they doing Thanksgiving together? Oo do you know?

1284
01:00:06,120 --> 01:00:09,240
Speaker 1: Ooh y'all want a little update? Ooh real quick because

1285
01:00:09,240 --> 01:00:11,560
Speaker 1: I know we leave it, so hit him up.

1286
01:00:11,600 --> 01:00:12,720
Speaker 2: I was like, yo, you're gonna be New York with

1287
01:00:12,720 --> 01:00:14,440
Speaker 2: thanks Dave, And he's like, no, no, no, I'm taking Shorty

1288
01:00:14,560 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 2: to my parents' house and whatever.

1289
01:00:16,000 --> 01:00:17,880
Speaker 1: Look at you dating our episode.

1290
01:00:19,120 --> 01:00:20,520
Speaker 3: No. I asked him what he's doing. That's last time

1291
01:00:20,520 --> 01:00:23,240
Speaker 3: I caught up with him. Okay, So he said, I'm

1292
01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:27,800
Speaker 3: taking her to so and so for Thanksgiving And he said, yoh,

1293
01:00:28,200 --> 01:00:30,520
Speaker 3: you ain't ship for that episode talking about how much

1294
01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:32,160
Speaker 3: money I've made and then people gonna know it's me.

1295
01:00:32,200 --> 01:00:32,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, they're not.

1296
01:00:33,360 --> 01:00:37,040
Speaker 2: And then he said, just to be clear, I offered

1297
01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:39,480
Speaker 2: her to quit her job, and I was like, doing

1298
01:00:39,480 --> 01:00:42,200
Speaker 2: what he said. I offered her a position and she

1299
01:00:42,320 --> 01:00:45,440
Speaker 2: told me no, And I was like, okay.

1300
01:00:45,160 --> 01:00:49,240
Speaker 1: Good for. I agree, good for, like keep spending money

1301
01:00:49,240 --> 01:00:49,400
Speaker 1: on you.

1302
01:00:49,520 --> 01:00:51,960
Speaker 3: I mean, depends how young she is. She young, she's stupid,

1303
01:00:52,040 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 3: take that job now. He said that I downplayed her position.

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Speaker 3: But I guess it's TJ Max Marshall's home goods, some

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Speaker 3: kind of I used to work.

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Speaker 1: I used to work it wrong.

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Speaker 2: But like he says, she's still she still be at

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Speaker 2: the motherfucker TJ Max every day. But he's like, but

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Speaker 2: it is like a little bit better than I explained.

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Speaker 2: But he's like, yo, but he's like, even in my

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Speaker 2: bit brain, I feel you like there are moments where

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Speaker 2: I go out and I'm trying not to feel that way.

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Speaker 2: People will ask her what she does for a living,

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Speaker 2: and he was like, she'll fucking name drop TJ Max,

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Speaker 2: and I'll be sitting there like Nigga, we're a damage

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Speaker 2: and buffalo, Like Rihanna's at the other table.

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Speaker 1: What's wrong?

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Speaker 2: With you, and he's like, but I can't do that

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Speaker 2: because I'm in love with this person. So I mean,

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Speaker 2: I love girl. So I say all that to say.

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Speaker 2: One of the things that he said about her dimentioned

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Speaker 2: on por Mines is she's always doing shit to like

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Speaker 2: improve herself and he found that so sexy.

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Speaker 3: We all should be doing that. Bruh, b these niggas,

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Speaker 3: we need to do it for us and they will

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Speaker 3: find you.

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Speaker 2: That girl was walking around the fucking airport. Do you

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Speaker 2: attract people when you're doing shit like that? So if

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Speaker 2: you want to fucking be attractive to people, you got

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Speaker 2: to be attractive to yourself.

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Speaker 1: Start pouring in and so this nigga, ain't it sis?

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Speaker 1: And yes you're int Lulu, right? He ain't that fine?

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Speaker 1: Send me a matter of factn't send me a picture.

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Speaker 1: You send me a picture picture. I can't wait to

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Speaker 1: break you look like well.

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Speaker 3: much for listening to yet another episode of Horrible Decisions.

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Speaker 1: Peace, Fine,