WEBVTT - CAN SOMETHING BE ANYTHING? 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.640 Hey, this is Lyle, So I fucked up and I 0:00:03.720 --> 0:00:08.680 accidentally uploaded this episode which contains a lot of the 0:00:08.760 --> 0:00:12.680 same calls as the previous episode. So if you like, 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:16.360 just listen to the previous episode. Uh, maybe you could 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:19.400 skip this episode or I mean, there are some calls 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:23.239 in this episode that are new that were not in 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:25.960 the previous episode, but also a lot of calls that 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:29.400 are the same. And I fucked up, and I'm sorry, 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:32.519 but next week there will be an episode that is 0:00:32.560 --> 0:00:35.320 all new that I have not uploaded already. All right, 0:00:35.320 --> 0:00:39.199 I just had to give that disclaimer. Enjoy the episode 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:43.279 if you're gonna still listen to it, Okay, thank you. 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:47.400 Never goes on the line taking your phone calls every night, 0:00:47.800 --> 0:00:51.760 never goes to just teaching you loud your. 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:55.080 Life an expert. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:01.120 All from Alyssa. 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:07.440 Alyssa, Hello, Alyssa, Hi Alyssa. 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:08.600 Oh my god, I did it? 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:13.200 You did you did I don't know if you did it, 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:15.560 because I don't really know what you're referring to by it. 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:17.560 If by it you're referring to you made it on 0:01:17.680 --> 0:01:20.080 to the to the to the call in show, that 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:22.720 is true. Do you what are your goals in life? 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:24.840 What do you want to do? What is the real it? 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:28.360 Because like, look, you know, this was just sort of 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:34.120 a random thing here. I assume I hope that you 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:37.840 have larger goals in your life than to make it 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:39.360 into my call in show. I would love to hear 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:39.960 what those are. 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:44.399 Yeah, the it I was referring to in this moment 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:47.600 was totally making it on the show. It was sure, 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:51.120 I only just made a twitch, So like I got 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:54.280 the notification, like, yeah, I never actually seen your live. 0:01:55.760 --> 0:01:56.520 And I did it. 0:01:56.680 --> 0:01:58.680 But my bigger goals right now is just getting a 0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:01.400 car and getting my own place. That's pretty much the 0:02:01.440 --> 0:02:01.800 big goal. 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:06.360 Old car, getting your own place. Uh, what's stopping you 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:09.560 from uh from from this? Do you have some sort 0:02:09.600 --> 0:02:12.440 of employment that you are are currently in the process 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:12.880 of doing. 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:16.919 Oh, I just got a new job. Actually, it's then, 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:19.000 I had a I had a baby last year during 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:23.840 the whole pandemic resulations. Thank you, thank you, But uh 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:27.200 me and uh me and daddy didn't work out, you know. 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:31.360 So that's that's where I'm at now. I'm just trying 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:31.959 to get out. 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:35.200 And I've got a question. And by the way, look 0:02:35.240 --> 0:02:37.200 we've met each other for two seconds, and so you 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:39.480 don't owe me any information about your life that you're 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:45.240 not comfortable telling me. But you know, is are are 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:48.400 are you planning on raising the kid alone? Is the 0:02:48.480 --> 0:02:49.720 dad going to be in the picture? 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:52.799 He wants to be, so, like, I'm gonna let him 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:54.520 do that as long as he wants to be. But 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:58.760 like I've I've decided, I'm it's got to be once 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:01.000 I'm out of the house, be because we're just co 0:03:01.120 --> 0:03:01.760 living right now. 0:03:02.440 --> 0:03:05.639 Sure, sure, which is it's something. 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.000 I'm sure you can imagine. I don't gotta you can 0:03:08.040 --> 0:03:14.280 read blink, but but uh yeah, hopefully if if that's 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:15.960 what if that's what he wants, he says that's what 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:19.440 he wants, so I'll allow that. But if if he 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:22.840 chooses not to, I'm not gonna stop him. 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:26.840 I find it so interesting. I find it impressive, honestly, 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:30.400 how indifferent you are to him being a part of 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:33.760 the picture. Because yeah, I mean just on a personal level, 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:37.720 like if I had a kid, I would be, you know, 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:42.840 feeling like I would need all the help I can get. 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:46.520 I'm impressed by this, this level of confidence that you're displaying. 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:52.560 I'm trying. I'm trying. I mean, the first couple this 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:56.600 is this is all fresh like a month, a month 0:03:56.680 --> 0:04:00.840 or two, and I've had I've had support from my friends. Uh, 0:04:01.800 --> 0:04:07.960 I'm sorry, I'm outside of my porch. Uh sorry, lest 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:08.920 my chain of thought. 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:10.640 Reached out. 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:12.520 I've reached out to friends and family and they've been 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:16.520 helping out little by little. I was doing like the 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:19.400 single mos thing before all this, so he was working, 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:22.240 but now that he's not, I had to go out 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:23.919 get it, get a job, which I found right away. 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:29.279 With everything going on, everybody is hiring. So now it's 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:34.440 just making those financial moves and getting It's gonna be 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:36.200 a long process and I'm trying to just take it 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:39.719 day by day, you know what I mean, because fighting 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.000 and bickering and trying to get like that's not gonna 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:43.480 I didn't gonna stop nothing. 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:48.520 Mm hmmm hmmm. And I'm just really good mindset about 0:04:48.520 --> 0:04:48.840 all this. 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:52.679 I'm trying to stay positive, I really am. It comes 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:56.400 and goes, well, thank you you. 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:01.120 Have you always wanted to have a kid, Yeah, I 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:04.320 always wanted I wanted to have I always wanted to 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:07.640 have a son, and I got him and he's he's 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:11.280 one years old now, and. 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:13.880 I'm so sorry. 0:05:14.200 --> 0:05:15.159 No, don't be sorry. 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:23.080 I live in a city full of I'm. 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:23.560 Trying to determine if that is a truck or some 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:25.960 sort of inner city swamp monster. 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:31.960 It's definitely an inner city swamp monster, you know. 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:34.560 You know what, I'm also proud of you for, you know, 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:37.680 because if I lived in an area with inner city 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:40.040 swamp monsters, I would think to myself, should I bring 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:45.200 a child into this world? And I appreciate the fact 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:48.120 that you are willing to do so in spite of 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:49.880 the fact that you live in an area with inner 0:05:49.880 --> 0:05:51.039 city swamp monsters. 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:52.680 Well, you gotta keep you gotta keep a look at 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:54.479 you gotta have a dog, you gotta have all the 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:56.760 things you need to keep all the swamp monsters at day. 0:05:57.160 --> 0:05:58.800 So as long as you have all that, sut, you 0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:01.440 can just do anything. You can do anything as long 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:02.920 as you put your mind to it. That's what I'm 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:04.640 trying to keep. 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:09.480 I agree with that. Tell me, but really quick, what 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:14.480 what are you most excited about? Uh? For having this child? 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:19.080 Watching? 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:20.679 Uh? 0:06:21.240 --> 0:06:24.640 I'm not sure. It's something I've always wanted, like since 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:27.279 I was little little, like I want to grow up 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:30.600 and have a family, And it's been kind of it's 0:06:30.680 --> 0:06:32.760 kind of hard knowing that like I'm not going to 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:36.600 have that perfect family like most you know statistics. I'm 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:38.479 sure you've seen them all too well. 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:41.880 But okay, well I want to actually kind of want 0:06:41.920 --> 0:06:44.200 to talk about that for just a second here, because 0:06:45.160 --> 0:06:48.200 this idea and I'm not trying to you know whatever, 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:55.880 but this idea of like a perfect family is child. 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:59.800 Yes. Really that's what I've That's what I've been like 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:05.320 recently trying to like accept and trying to keep in 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:07.680 my positive mindset. You know, kids, you watch a lot 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:10.760 of shows and watch a lot of movies, and I 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:14.040 really you always know there's a you know, their kids 0:07:14.040 --> 0:07:16.960 living with their grandparents, one mom, one dad, two moms, 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:20.880 two dads, you know, whatever the situation may be. But like, 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:23.320 as long as the house is full of love. And 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:26.320 that's what my breakup was about. We had been going 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:30.000 downhill a while, and it was more he had to 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:31.840 pull the bullet, he had to pull the trigger, but 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:39.080 like it was mutually accepted, and it's kind of hard 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:41.400 to sometimes to accept that. I was kind of like 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:44.440 I was real wall away for one for a week, 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:46.600 but then I kind of had to like you know, 0:07:46.720 --> 0:07:47.960 kind of like shake it off and like you know, 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:52.320 there's there's more than me now, and I guess it's 0:07:52.440 --> 0:07:55.320 kind of having something that's more than me. That's what 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:56.120 I look forward to. 0:07:58.080 --> 0:08:01.240 I like that. I just want to say a couple 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:03.800 of things first, so I fully agree with you. That 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:05.920 was what I was thinking too, is that you know, 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:09.600 a perfect family, you know, it's just one with a 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:14.840 lot of love in it, exactly again, again, I appreci 0:08:15.040 --> 0:08:17.680 I'm so impressed, I'll say it again by the confidence 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:21.280 that you're displaying, and like, you know, I don't. You know, 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:23.080 it's great that he wants to be in the picture, 0:08:23.120 --> 0:08:26.320 but I don't need him. You know, you can handle 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:28.680 these things, these things on your own, So you know, 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:32.680 I'm I'm I'm impressed by all of this, and I 0:08:32.720 --> 0:08:36.560 hope that you you don't succumb to any pressures of 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:40.000 wanting a perfect family, because that, to me, is not 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:41.360 something that even exists. 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:45.480 No, I agree at this point. At this point, I've 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:50.160 come to realize my perfect family is me, that little boy, 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:56.199 my derby faced pug of a dog, my cat, and 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:59.760 the snake, and that's that's those are the only things 0:08:59.760 --> 0:09:00.840 that I need to worry about. 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:05.040 Beautiful, Thank you so much for sharing Alissa, I wish 0:09:05.040 --> 0:09:06.280 you best to luck and have a good rest to 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:06.520 the night. 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:09.360 Can you too, thank you again for having. 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:12.280 Me guy, of course, take care Lissa, you too have 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:12.760 a good night. 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:18.880 Bye all from Rennie. 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:20.680 Rennie. 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:24.360 Oh my god, I got in Holy shit? 0:09:24.520 --> 0:09:26.079 Hi Greg, how are you doing? 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:27.959 Hello Rennie? How are you? 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:29.760 I'm doing awesome? 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:30.280 How are you? 0:09:30.360 --> 0:09:31.440 Man? 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:35.080 Do you know I'm doing good? It took me a 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:39.160 little bit to get back into the rhythm of being 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:44.040 on the internet talking to people, you know, like when 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:48.440 you've been out of the the the zone for a 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:50.880 little bit, you kind of have to ease back into it. 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:52.959 But I feel like I'm in a better place now 0:09:53.040 --> 0:10:00.360 to you know, converse with you, Rennie, like Renn and stimpy, 0:10:01.160 --> 0:10:02.080 I'm sorry, what are you doing? 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:03.719 Oh man? 0:10:04.080 --> 0:10:08.440 Everything, I'm doing great. I've been wanting to get on 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:10.679 your show for a while because I've been really happy 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:15.880 about something. Honestly, you know, I came out as by 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:18.960 not too long ago, and I found out, like I 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:24.079 have these feelings and sorry, I'm like nervous talking about 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:26.000 it because it's awesome going not on your show. 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:29.720 Because I want to. I want to show this boss. 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:32.120 My kind of girlfriend. But yeah, it's like we've been 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:33.640 friends for so long. 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:36.000 And I've been through so much and she's always. 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:38.120 Been there for me and kind of have feelings for 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:40.880 her and found out she has feelings for me. 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:44.280 And oh man, it's been it's been great. It's been awesome, 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:45.439 and it's been a long time. 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:47.240 So this is good. 0:10:48.640 --> 0:10:51.000 So tell me. So you sound like you're very happy. 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:54.440 I'm curious, like what aspects are there aspects of particular 0:10:54.480 --> 0:10:55.840 that you're happy about this? 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:56.080 Are you? 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:59.040 Are you happy that you feel more free to be yourself? 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:03.440 Happy mainly that you're about to try to embark. It 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:05.840 sounds like on a new relationship with a person. 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:07.720 Yeah. Yeah. 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:13.280 And the thing is, honestly, when when I was in 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:15.240 my previous relationships, it was. 0:11:16.920 --> 0:11:17.920 It was just toxic. 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:22.880 I've I always had these feelings, like I've always liked 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:25.800 the same sex as well, but I never showed it 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:28.920 because you know, the way I wrote was like it's 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:32.000 you know, usually like boys. That's that's pretty much it. 0:11:32.080 --> 0:11:35.920 But I was in that relationship and I found out 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:38.280 it was so toxic, Like I couldn't cut my hair 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:40.320 because he hated it that I looked. 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:43.760 Like a boy, and it just really, really. 0:11:43.559 --> 0:11:46.640 Really hurt my self esteem and it really really messed 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:49.160 me up for a long time. And you know, meeting 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:52.560 this he's so great. She always encouraged me to just 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:56.280 be myself. I wanted to cut my hair short for 0:11:56.320 --> 0:11:58.560 the longest time, and you know, I finally took the 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:02.080 plunge and I did it, and my god, I feel amazing. 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:04.560 I just I feel so much more comfortable in my 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:05.120 own body. 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:06.480 It's just great. 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:08.600 And I just wanted to share that with you, and 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:10.440 I guess everybody else on the internet. 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:15.160 I'm proud of you. Ready. I always say, it can 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:20.240 be difficult to be yourself in many situations, and even 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:22.560 if it causes you some sort of short term pain 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:25.840 maybe with you know, your parents or I don't know 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:28.000 who the people or things are in your life that 0:12:28.040 --> 0:12:31.000 were causing friction, But even if it causes short term 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:33.760 pain in those relationships, I'm proud of you for doing 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:38.040 it because it always pays off in the end, you 0:12:38.080 --> 0:12:38.720 know what I'm saying. 0:12:39.400 --> 0:12:42.360 Absolutely, And I mean it's been so long, man, I'm 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:45.280 about to turn thirty in this October, so it's like 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:48.720 I do think this, yeah, I think keeping this in 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:52.160 for so long, and it just feels gracious to finally 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:54.840 let it all out and be me, you know, so 0:12:55.120 --> 0:12:57.600 just wanted to share that to everybody, and I hope 0:12:57.640 --> 0:13:01.000 everybody listening. Just be yourself all you can ask for? 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:04.440 Man, Can I ask you something? And you don't have 0:13:04.520 --> 0:13:06.400 to again? You know, this seems like, you know, you 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:08.040 don't have to tell me anything that you don't want 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:09.319 to tell me, or talking about aything you want to 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:13.160 talk about. But yeah, I am curious. Is there a 0:13:13.280 --> 0:13:17.720 reason why you decided to wait so long? 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:24.520 Well? I was when I was in that toxic relationship. 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:29.760 I was with him for almost eleven years actually, and 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:34.320 it was more like you know, I I it was 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:38.679 kind of manipulative, and it was like, you know, you 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:40.520 can't sign anybody better. 0:13:40.720 --> 0:13:43.480 You know, you, this is the best you can do. 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:45.600 You're always wrong, I'm right. 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.760 And it just it really really really fucked me up 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:53.160 for a long time. But you know, I I started 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:56.960 therapy about a year and a half ago, you know, 0:13:57.080 --> 0:14:00.280 just talking about all that, and it's just it's just 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:04.400 feels like such a weight off my shoulders to actually 0:14:04.559 --> 0:14:06.120 be able to be myself. 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:08.360 And yeah, it's. 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:11.360 Been it's been a journey, man, a journey, but I'm 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:14.080 really happy. I just finally feel comfortable with me. 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:17.280 Well, thank you so much for sharing. N I hope 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:21.400 that I hope that other people hear this and get inspired. 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:24.920 Absolutely absolutely, thank you so much. 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:25.880 Man, I love you. 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:29.440 Thank you, You're amazing tonight, Nnie, thank you so much to. 0:14:32.720 --> 0:14:34.520 How from Kelly. 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:43.880 Hello, Hey, it's the getto this is the Gecko. Hey, 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:47.360 mister Geto, I think I'm like the real first person 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:48.479 I actually has problems. 0:14:49.440 --> 0:14:53.240 Honestly, do you're the first person that actually has problems? 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:58.880 Well, listen, I don't mean that disrespectful, because everyone that 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:02.120 called in today. 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:01.640 They actually you know what. 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:04.800 I take that back, But I'm in pain, which I 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:06.800 got go you're in pain? 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:08.600 Well let me. I want to just say a few 0:15:08.600 --> 0:15:10.680 things up front first, if I can. 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:13.760 Absolutely, I have. 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:16.680 No idea what I'm doing. The express purpose of this 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:22.760 stream is less so to help solve people's problems, and 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:27.600 more so I don't know. I can't finish that sentence, 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:31.600 but I'm not qualified to do anything. I hope you 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:32.520 are aware of that. 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:38.280 Oh absolutely, and listen, I think your stream is great. 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:41.480 I having a couple of drinks and I'm actually beside 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:45.200 my loved one right now. And we had some problems. 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:48.040 We thought we'd call you and you can help figure 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:48.640 it out. 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:51.400 Okay, these are relationship problems. 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:52.880 Yes, that's right. 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:55.600 Yeah, please, I'd love to please go ahead. 0:15:56.600 --> 0:16:00.800 Okay, how about I'm gonna say Elizabeth, you chime in 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:01.240 as well. 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:03.120 What do you think our real problem is here? 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:04.480 Yes, let's hear from her. 0:16:05.000 --> 0:16:05.440 I don't know. 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:08.840 I don't know if we have a problem. We've been 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:12.920 living in his parents' basement for two years, saving up 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:17.120 for a house, and I think it's just living here 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:21.480 with the five grandkids and his parents can be kind 0:16:21.480 --> 0:16:22.160 of suffocating. 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:25.920 And I think you should be a grateful What do 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:26.320 you think? 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:32.040 So? I look, how old are you? 0:16:32.080 --> 0:16:34.320 Guess we're old enough? 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:36.680 Fulton, I'm twenty nine, you're twenty. 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:41.960 I always think, Look personally, I think living with your 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:45.640 parents in their basement whatever, to save some money, you know, 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:50.400 living kind of annoyingly for a few years, so that 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:54.640 you can live well later on. I always think it 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:58.280 is a good decision if you can hack it. 0:16:58.960 --> 0:16:59.680 That's true. 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:03.080 I don't like going in the kitchen, so I just 0:17:03.160 --> 0:17:05.480 eat a lot of canned beans, and I can't order 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:09.880 uber eat because I'm ashamed too, and it just makes 0:17:09.880 --> 0:17:10.440 me nervous. 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:15.040 Are you avoiding the kitchen because you don't want to 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:17.760 run into any of the grandkids. 0:17:17.359 --> 0:17:21.400 Yes, exactly, because they eat Nitella every day for breakfast, 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:24.400 and he gets mad. He thinks I'm food shaming them. 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:24.719 I'm not. 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:29.080 It's food shaming the children. 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:33.760 I'm confused as to why you're afraid to be around 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:35.480 the children because they eat Natela. 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:39.960 Well, it's just they get really really hyper after like 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:43.080 they run around and they scare our cats because they stomp. 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:46.000 We're in the basement and there's no soundcrooping, and they're stomping, 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:48.440 and the cats freak out and one of my cats 0:17:48.440 --> 0:17:50.080 got ball. 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:52.239 Forget about the cats for just saying, why do they 0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:53.959 scare you? 0:17:54.040 --> 0:17:57.159 Oh, they scare me because I'm just not used to kids. 0:17:57.600 --> 0:17:59.760 Really, I think she's actually afraid this is what our 0:17:59.840 --> 0:18:03.000 kids to be like. I'm sorry, sorry, Elizabeth. 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:05.879 Are you guys planning to have kids? 0:18:07.520 --> 0:18:08.679 Yeah? I want to. 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:12.480 This is a this is like a serious problem, but yeah, 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:13.160 I want to. 0:18:13.240 --> 0:18:15.800 She's amaze. 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:18.480 Because she sounds like she doesn't like kids, which, by 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:22.520 the way, this is completely understandable. Kids are terrible. 0:18:23.560 --> 0:18:27.640 Yeah, I mean, well, yeah, I agree yeah, other. 0:18:27.520 --> 0:18:31.640 Kids are terrible, but my own I don't know. We'll see. 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:36.320 I I agree with that sentiment, but I okay, Elizabeth, 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:38.439 I still don't understand why you don't want to go 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:41.399 into the kitchen because of all these kids. Well, you 0:18:41.440 --> 0:18:43.240 can just ignore them, by the way, if they want to, 0:18:43.280 --> 0:18:46.800 if they want to call you aunt or I don't, 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:50.679 I don't know what you're they can aunt then when 0:18:50.720 --> 0:18:53.639 they say aunt Elizabeth, AUNTI Elizabeth, just ignore them. You 0:18:53.680 --> 0:18:54.800 owe them nothing. Really. 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:56.640 Yeah, but I. 0:18:56.560 --> 0:18:58.720 Don't want to ignore them and give them a complex either, 0:18:58.880 --> 0:19:01.439 you know, like they're kids. I get it, but like 0:19:01.520 --> 0:19:03.480 if I haven't had my coffee yet and they want 0:19:03.480 --> 0:19:06.560 to play ring around the rosie, I just it makes 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:09.840 me feel exhausted before I've even started my day. 0:19:10.840 --> 0:19:12.959 Look, you can't set yourself on fire just to make 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:14.040 a bunch of kids happy, you know. 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:17.320 Yeah, that's true, that's true. 0:19:18.119 --> 0:19:20.760 You got I feel like you should have sort more 0:19:20.760 --> 0:19:23.400 dominance over the kitchen instead of letting these kids make 0:19:23.440 --> 0:19:24.959 it into the lord of the flies. 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:28.240 Oh I like that. What's the practical one practical tip 0:19:28.240 --> 0:19:29.640 I can do to do that? Because I even bought 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:31.560 a coffee maker so I would be downstairs, and I 0:19:31.560 --> 0:19:34.119 feel like they won that battle. So what's something I 0:19:34.160 --> 0:19:36.000 could How do I assert dominance in the kitchen? 0:19:44.000 --> 0:19:45.920 Well, don't hit any of them? 0:19:46.920 --> 0:19:52.399 No oh, I could replace the matella with like something healthy. 0:19:52.720 --> 0:19:58.120 No, I don't know, no, no, no, this is all 0:19:59.000 --> 0:19:59.680 I'm telling you. 0:19:59.720 --> 0:20:02.400 Just to keep ignoring them. That's what you should do. Yeah, 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:04.879 here's your asserted here's your assertion of dominance. This is 0:20:04.840 --> 0:20:06.840 to just ignore them. 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:11.399 There's five though, four hundred foot square, four hundred score pookay, 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:13.640 I guess I could. Okay, just just act like. 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:16.000 This is what mindfulness is about. This is what mindfulness 0:20:16.040 --> 0:20:19.879 is about. Is how can you be centered even if 0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:22.639 there's five fucking kids? Because that's the thing. If you can, 0:20:22.720 --> 0:20:27.439 if you can find the mental juice though to make 0:20:27.480 --> 0:20:30.720 your freaking coffee as stoically as possible, or five kids 0:20:30.840 --> 0:20:34.879 are whipping you with a jumping rope, you can do anything, Elizabeth. 0:20:35.920 --> 0:20:37.080 Take it as a challenge. 0:20:37.480 --> 0:20:41.680 Getto I kind of think to you tomorrow morning, beautiful. 0:20:41.720 --> 0:20:44.400 Thank you guys so much for for for calling in. 0:20:45.200 --> 0:20:47.480 I wish you the best of luck. Enjoy the house 0:20:48.040 --> 0:20:51.760