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Speaker 1: Hi everybody. Oh, Hi, welcome to us. This is It's

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Speaker 1: Catherine and me. Hi Katherine, Hi, everybody. Hi. This is

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Speaker 1: one of our little mini episodes before we come back

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Speaker 1: for season two. I wanted to check in with all

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Speaker 1: of our listeners and make sure you know that we

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Speaker 1: are not leaving you hanging, that we are here. Katherine

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Speaker 1: is our producer and she is going to be my

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Speaker 1: de facto co host, Right, you are going to keep

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Speaker 1: my ship together so that I get everything in order

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Speaker 1: keep it moving. Yeah, And Katherine is pretty much in

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Speaker 1: charge of this podcast, so it's basically like having a

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Speaker 1: nanny at work, right. I hope I'm a nice fanny.

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Speaker 1: You are? You? Are you? So? Yeah? You guys, I'm

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Speaker 1: really excited because I am. I'm in love. I'm in

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Speaker 1: love with somebody that I've known for like eighteen years.

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Speaker 1: He used to be on my show, my old show

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Speaker 1: Chelsea Lately. His name is Joe Koy and he was

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Speaker 1: like my little brother. So I just really never thought

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Speaker 1: great bond, but it was never anything more than a friendship.

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Speaker 1: And then I think about a year and a half ago,

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Speaker 1: he reached out to me because he wanted a blurb

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Speaker 1: for his book that was coming out, called Mixed Plate,

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Speaker 1: and I'll never forget He texted me and said, hey,

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Speaker 1: what's wrong with you? And then I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I don't like. I didn't like FaceTime. Now I like

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Speaker 1: FaceTime because he's forced FaceTime on me. But we kind

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Speaker 1: of reconnected. And then I went to Whistler and then

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Speaker 1: he called me almost every day when I was in

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Speaker 1: So I just never really thought about it. And then

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Speaker 1: when I came home, we started hanging out and everyone

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Speaker 1: kept saying to me, like when are you Joe Quick

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Speaker 1: one day, it was one day he walked in. I

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Speaker 1: was performing in Vegas and he came to my show

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Speaker 1: total I just saw him in a different way, and

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Speaker 1: I definitely think therapy made me look at him through

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Speaker 1: a different lens, even though it took me a year

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Speaker 1: on me because he really valued our friendship. So I

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Speaker 1: to believe that I've had a crush on him for

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Speaker 1: beginning of season two, so we can both tell our

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Speaker 1: versions of the story, but it's basically like Harry met Sally,

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Speaker 1: you know, self awareness, meditation, all of those things really

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Speaker 1: contributed to me being able to be in a healthy

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Speaker 1: relationship with somebody who just is so healthy. I said

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Speaker 1: I've been messaging a guy for sixteen months and obviously

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Speaker 1: much into the connection. He says, I found Chelsea and

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Speaker 1: Brandon's advice to be absolutely spot on. The most controversial

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Speaker 1: Chelsea Project at gmail dot com. Please don't be shy

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