WEBVTT - A 100% Survival Rate with Lilly Singh 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:03.200 I want to introduce my guest today. She's a friend 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:05.400 of mine. We've known each other for a few years now, 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:10.440 and I really respect and love her work. And she 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:14.000 is a pioneer and she does things for the first 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:16.560 time for a lot of people. She's an actress, she's 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:19.159 a producer, she's a writer and a creator. She is 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:21.319 an author. And she has a recurring role on the 0:00:21.400 --> 0:00:24.520 second season of Doll Face. Oh, I'm excited to see that. 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:27.120 Thank you, I make out with people. What a surprise. 0:00:27.160 --> 0:00:30.600 Another girl's not you? Sorry, no, no, that's fine. That's fine. Actually, 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:32.920 since I'm straight. You also have a first look deal 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:37.000 at Universal Television Alternative Studio, and your production company is 0:00:37.040 --> 0:00:41.880 called Unicorn Island Productions. And and you're developing a Netflix 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:44.760 series with Kenya Barris. Oh, that looks good. And you 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:47.040 have a new book that is about to be released 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:51.720 or about to be announced or released announced, and you 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:54.480 may or may not learn the title of that during 0:00:54.520 --> 0:00:59.200 this episode. It's called be a Triangle. You may you 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:01.240 may you may learned the title of the book. It 0:01:01.320 --> 0:01:03.320 is called Me. I didn't even introduce you yet. Can 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:06.959 you please shut the funk up? Please welcome Lily Say 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:14.600 Hi to me here. I'm so excited to my queen, baby, baby, 0:01:16.120 --> 0:01:20.560 my queen again. This is the second time I do it. 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:23.520 Every time COVID can't stop me. The last time we kissed, 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:25.720 it was just supposed to be a little kiss like that, 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:28.039 and then you slipped to me the tongue like three 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:30.119 or four times. That was the plan. I'm so excited 0:01:30.160 --> 0:01:31.880 to see you. We actually have a little kind of 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:34.840 circle of friends in comments. Yes, absolutely, And when did 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:37.319 I see you last at Charlie's Charlie's event and you 0:01:37.360 --> 0:01:39.840 gave me some great advice about getting in shape that 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:43.560 I took what you were like just smaller meals and 0:01:43.600 --> 0:01:45.800 you also because I believe for so long, So a 0:01:45.840 --> 0:01:47.440 little bit of backstory, I've never been fit in my life. 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:49.960 I've always really struggled to be fit and take care 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:51.760 of my body because I've always focused on my career 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:54.080 and deteriorated my body and health. But when I met 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:56.800 Chelsea last she said, listen, you don't have to do 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:58.520 cardio all day long. She just told me, you don't 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:01.320 do cardio, you lift weights, you consistent, you eat smaller meals. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:04.360 You just made it sound so attainable for me. Since then, 0:02:04.360 --> 0:02:08.400 I've literally lost twenty pounds. What have you What have 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:11.000 you been doing seven intimate fasting? I been doing low 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:12.919 carb and I was just changing my diet, doing better 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:15.240 choices than doing weightlifting whenever I can. And how do 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:18.320 you feel mentally? I feel mentally phenomenal. I feel like 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:20.359 my confidence and it wasn't even just about how I looked. 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:22.760 I want to emphasize that I was always really happy 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:24.440 with how I looked. I thought, my body is my body, 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:26.000 and I love it. But now it's just like the 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.960 energy I have and the confidence I feel, and the 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:30.960 clarity I have in my mind, all that stuff, And 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:33.480 you really did inspire me. Oh well, I'd love to 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:34.880 hear that. And you know what, I just want to 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:36.960 say that, I want to reiterate that because when people 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:39.280 think about dieting and then people think of it externally, 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:42.080 but it does change your mental priority. It changes your 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:45.960 energy levels, it changes your happiness levels, your endorphins. You know, 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:47.880 when you feel good and you wake up and you're 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:51.120 not exhausted and you have even energy throughout the day, 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:53.720 it's it's a great feeling because you feel like you 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:55.799 can almost do anything. I would pick that over the 0:02:55.800 --> 0:02:57.840 superficial stuff any day if you have to say when 0:02:57.880 --> 0:02:59.600 you when you do this right, you'll either feel good 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:01.359 inside or I thought I'd be like inside inside. I 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:02.919 want to be a good inside because now when I 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:05.920 walk up the stairs, I'm not sweating. Yeah, I'm sweating, 0:03:05.919 --> 0:03:07.880 but for other reasons. I'm not really sure why I'm 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:10.280 always sweating. It's because you have a joint in your mouth. 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:12.560 It's well, that doesn't really make you sweat. I mean, 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:14.639 from somebody trying to be relatable with drugs, I don't 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:16.320 know how it feels like, you know. I was just 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:17.840 about to say, have you ever smoked a joy and 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:20.680 sweats when they smoke a joy? I only had to 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:23.000 experience once I got really high for the first time. 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:25.120 It was horrible and I tripped out so bad, And 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:26.519 the second time I've been with me, I would have 0:03:26.560 --> 0:03:28.440 never when I and then when I went to your tour, 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:30.600 you gave me. You gave me an edible and you 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:32.320 told me to take half of it, and did you? 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:34.560 I took one quarter of it and what happened? I 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:38.440 felt nothing? Okay, well that's because there's that's like one milligram. 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:41.200 But anyway, if you want to get high again. I 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:46.040 will arrange what you're going to take. Everyone says these 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:48.600 words to me. You should know the Snoop Dogg was 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:50.480 also like, okay, I'll get you. I'm like, you are 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:54.720 not getting me high, Snoop Dogg. Snoop Dogg came to 0:03:54.800 --> 0:03:57.440 do my show once and the building that we operated 0:03:57.480 --> 0:04:01.440 the show out of smelled like marijuana until the next fall. 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:04.960 He came to my show and the green room was 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:07.640 basically a hot box situation, and then on the way 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:09.360 out he just took a poster off the wall of 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:12.240 me and took it home. I love him, He's amazing, 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:13.640 but I was like, sir, you will not be getting 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:15.320 me high. You know who get who also has great 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:17.160 weight is Wi Khalifa. He has the best weed. I 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:19.560 feel like I would die. Yeah. We were once at 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:22.239 a dinner and Shania Twain wanted to we were all smoking, 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:24.760 and well, it was in my dinner that I was 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.200 filming for Netflix. So I'm not name dropping because it 0:04:27.240 --> 0:04:30.279 was an actual TV show, so shut it down. It 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:32.359 was Shania Twain. I think I've told the story on 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:35.560 this podcast. But Shania Twain, Chill Scott, the guy from 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:39.160 Imagine Dragons and Wiz Khalifa and Shania Twain. I smoked 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:41.560 one hit of it, walked into the bathroom in one 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:43.479 of my guest rooms and couldn't find my way back 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.159 to my house. I was like, what room am I 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:48.919 in and where? And when I came out Shania, I 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:50.640 was like, Shania here. We passed the joy to her 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:52.119 and she's like, oh no, I don't touch the stuff. 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:53.800 I'm like, you need it more than any of us. 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:57.520 You better fucking smoke this now. My first experience was horrible. 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:00.080 I forgot. I was convinced that my tongue wouldn't in 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:04.880 my mouth anymore. So I I know that, and I 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:07.400 couldn't remember my tongue back in my mouth. It wouldn't 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:10.599 fit in my brand, it wouldn't fit. Yeah, well, you 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:14.479 know what. Cannabis isn't for everybody. I'll just take vodka shots. 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:16.839 I'm fine with that. Um, Katherine, how are you doing today? 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:22.000 I'm doing great. I'm I'm doing very great. Oh wow, 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:28.159 it sounds like you're about to climax. It's like, I go, 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:32.080 this is great. I'm feeling very great, and I go, 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:38.479 that's how I'm happy. It's like sweater weather. Finally, I 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:41.120 know it's so nice that it's not so hot. I 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:44.400 hate it. I'm wearing a sweater and a jacket. Chelsea's 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:46.360 wear your T shirt and I'm just wearing a thong. 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:50.160 Thank you. I got to wear like Vampi lipstick. It's 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:53.280 like fully fall. I'm making myself believe it's fully fall, 0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:55.640 even though it'll probably be ninety this weekend. I like 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:58.680 have people who take seasons seriously, especially in l A 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:02.279 where there are not ya. I was on the East 0:06:02.320 --> 0:06:04.440 Coast and I was like, we were in Maine and 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:07.600 I was like, uh, the smell of the sea, Like 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:11.000 that is my that is my like home, you know, 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:14.040 that is my special spot. And I and like fried 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:16.800 clams and just being on the water and by a 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:19.080 wharf and eating and I was like, oh the East 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:21.560 Coast and the leaves were changing and I'm like I 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:24.760 love it here. And my boyfriend was like, oh my god, 0:06:24.880 --> 0:06:27.919 you are totally like you have this energy about you 0:06:27.960 --> 0:06:30.240 that you feel like I could see it. He's like, 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.400 this is your spot. I'm like, yeah, the East Coast 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:34.919 is my spot anyway. But that's why I live in 0:06:34.960 --> 0:06:39.680 Los Angeles. So what do we have on tap for today? Catherine? 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:45.159 We have a theme of major life transitions, some career changes, 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:50.320 engagements or maybe broken engagements, and coming out or opening 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:53.000 up to family. It's a lot. Y'all really catered this 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:58.080 to me. Huh well, yeah, yeah, exactly. We want to 0:06:58.279 --> 0:07:01.279 we want to curtail our episode. Are very special guests. 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:04.200 I appreciate that so much. Great, and let's just take 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:10.880 a quick break and we'll come back with some callers. Okay, 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:13.040 we're back, you guys. We're back from our commercial break 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:16.120 with my dear friend Lily Say, who I just love 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:20.160 because I just love your energy, energy and your upbeat 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:23.200 attitude and your beautiful smile and all of it. I 0:07:23.280 --> 0:07:25.840 drink a lot of energy drinks. What kind? They don't 0:07:25.840 --> 0:07:27.640 sponsor me, so I can't say so, you can't say so. 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:30.920 We'll never We'll never, fucking no. I love how that's 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:33.280 our our behavior is now with people like what do 0:07:33.320 --> 0:07:35.240 you use for your skin? I'm like, I won't tell you. 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:38.760 I won't tell you until they pay me. Okay, So 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:41.000 we're gonna start with some callers and we're going to 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:43.320 give them some feedback. Who do we have, Katherine, what's 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:46.880 going on? Our first email today comes from Jeremy. He 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:50.360 says dear Chelsea. So, like so many people right now, 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:52.640 I'm out of work. I'm a singer and an actor, 0:07:52.800 --> 0:07:54.880 and I've done shows in New York and tours and 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:57.720 cruise ships, and before this pandemic hit, I was so 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:01.120 excited about where my career was headed. In everything stopped, 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:04.160 so I panicked and went back to college. By going back, 0:08:04.200 --> 0:08:06.840 I realized that there is life beyond my career. I 0:08:06.840 --> 0:08:08.440 don't want to give up on my dreams, but I 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:10.280 also don't want to be stuck in a position again 0:08:10.280 --> 0:08:12.360 where I have no work. I just don't know what 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:14.720 the right thing is to do. Any advice you have 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:17.360 for me in this career transition would be so appreciated. 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:21.280 Thanks from a big fan. Jeremy Okay, Jeremy here, He's 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:23.960 not This was just an email. Oh god, I wish 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:27.240 I understood how this podcast worked. Whenever I asked for 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:29.280 the caller, they're not there. And then whenever I respond, 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:31.160 like it's a write and they're on the phone, you're 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:34.520 doing thank you, thank you. Do you want to start 0:08:34.520 --> 0:08:37.480 with I? I listen. I relate to the struggle so 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:39.400 so hard as someone who also was like I want 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:42.200 to make art and I'm creative, and my Indian parents 0:08:42.240 --> 0:08:44.240 were like, shut the f off, that's not going to happen. 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:46.400 It's not a real job. Get a real job. So 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:49.080 here here's my advice. I think you live in a 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:53.000 very very unique time where there's so many opportunities to 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:54.920 create things. We live in a very privileged time in 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:57.240 that way, right, there's so many platforms, there's so many 0:08:57.240 --> 0:09:00.480 ways to avoid the gatekeepers. Make your own off, build 0:09:00.480 --> 0:09:04.000 a following. However, that takes time and energy, a lot 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:06.280 of hustle, and a lot of opportunities. So what I 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:09.040 did is I had a job. I also really hard 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:11.560 to on the side, also do my art, also work 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:13.520 on it, learned to edit, learned to shoot, learn how 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:15.720 to do comedy. I had two full time jobs for 0:09:15.720 --> 0:09:18.280 a really long time, and that's how I built my audience. 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:19.760 I'm want to say, you don't have to follow the 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:22.440 conventional like I need to get hired as an actor 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:25.280 to do this anymore. Make your own sketches, create your 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:28.160 own content, and I think the opportunity for that today 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:31.280 is better than ever before. Is he an entertainer? Is 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:33.760 that what he said? Yeah, he's an actor and a singer. 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:36.960 Oh I see yeah, exactly right. This is the best 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:40.640 time in the world. TikTok baby, yeah, tickety talk, get 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:42.800 on it. Yeah, but it's not easy. I think a 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:44.480 lot of people think like, oh, I'll just post the 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:46.760 videoesn't get it following It's it's a lot of work. 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:49.240 But if you want it, get the job that pays 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.680 the bills, and then do the job you love when 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:54.920 you have the time after the job that pays the bills. Yeah. 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:56.760 But I also would say, like, if you made the 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:58.880 effort to go to school and you're into school, you 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:01.320 can do all of it. It's on same time, right, Like, 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.400 get the education you want and then supplemented with all 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:06.040 of this stuff, because it's going to be a huge 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:09.120 learning curve anyway to learn how to like you know, 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:12.600 register on TikTok, on social media, in acting in all 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:14.920 of that stuff, and to make your mark. So it's 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:17.120 going to be a learning curve anyway, So why not 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:20.240 also be supplementing that with an education. I also think, 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:21.840 and this is like a nerdy thing, but I think 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.680 school is dope. I missed school. I want to go 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:26.240 to I would like to go to college. I would 0:10:26.320 --> 0:10:27.680 like to go to school. I think when I was 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:30.079 in school, I'm like, but now I'm like, I would 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:32.200 love to go. I would like to go live on campus. 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:34.680 How do we in a fraternity and a sorority because 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:36.600 I would like to tell men what the fuck they're 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:40.120 doing wrong and try and change the trajectory of their 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:43.320 bad behavior. And I would also like to be involved 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:46.480 in sorority life so that I can steer girls towards 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:48.679 having a little bit more self esteem, a little bit 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:52.200 more self confidence, and not taking any fucking ship. That's right. 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:54.240 So anyway, that's a side note. We both want to 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:56.319 go back to college. A fun factor to wrap this 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:58.839 all up. As a Canadian, I didn't think sororities and 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.120 fraternities were real. I thought there are only movies until 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:03.680 I was in my mid twenties. They actually shouldn't. You know. 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:06.520 It is kind of an anti it's an antiquated notion 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:10.800 because you know, it's just exclusionary. It's excluding son because 0:11:10.800 --> 0:11:12.880 people don't get in right, So forget it. I don't 0:11:12.920 --> 0:11:14.640 want to be in a fraternity. I don't want to 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:16.440 be in a sorority. What I really want to do 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:18.240 is just go back to college. But the thing is, 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:19.920 if I went back to school, I would end up 0:11:19.960 --> 0:11:23.800 having an inappropriate relationship with somebody that was eighteen or seventeen, 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:27.320 and that's illegal. Seventeen is illegal, I know that, and 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:31.160 eighteen is not illegal. Eighteen is legal, So you can 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:32.800 have relationship with eighteen year old, but eighte year old 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:36.200 can't drink here. That's right, Okay, America? Hello, are you 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:38.840 just learning that the legal age for US is nineteen? 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:42.400 The agent in America's twenty one? Ridiculous? You could do 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:46.360 anything else before Sherlock. Our country is fucking upside down 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:49.200 and twisted Americans. I tell you, I know Canadians is 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:51.640 where it's at. That's why I'm going to marry Lily 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:56.720 so I can wear citizenship. I brought the ring. You know, 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:58.760 careers in general, I feel when I was growing up, 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:01.280 I had this very linear idea of what my career 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:03.000 in life would be. I would go to school, get 0:12:03.040 --> 0:12:04.760 a piece of paper that said I was good at something, 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:07.360 get a job, do that job forever, and that was 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:09.440 going to be life. That's not real life. That's not 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:12.120 real life at all. I got a psych degree, which 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:16.960 I it's a paperweight right now at my house. It's useless. 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:19.720 I never use it. But that's cool, that's not useless. 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:22.160 But here's the thing about psych is that you do 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:24.240 all this reading and studying and at the end of 0:12:24.280 --> 0:12:26.520 the fifty page chapter goes, but also, none of this 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:28.679 may be true. That's what I can't get on board with. Well, 0:12:28.679 --> 0:12:31.280 what do you mean? They'll have all these theories about 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:33.199 like why the thing people behave that way, Then the 0:12:33.280 --> 0:12:35.480 last paragraph of the book will be like, but also 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.199 this is all up for debate and may not actually 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:41.360 be accurate. Yeah, you know what I mean, right, Maybe 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:43.520 I use my psych degree a little bit like when 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.000 I'm flirting to try to trick people. I don't know anyways, 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:49.400 But the point I'm making is I got a psych degree. 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:51.839 I thought I was going to be a counselor can 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:54.960 you believe that? And then I discovered YouTube and I 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:56.760 made YouTube videos and then I was like, this is 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:58.439 what I'm doing for the rest of my life, I guess. 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:00.720 And then from there I wrote a book and I 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:02.600 was like, oh, I guess I'm an author. Then from 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:03.800 there I went on a tour and I'm like, oh, 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:05.520 I guess I'm a performer. And then I got a 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:07.040 late night show and I thought, this is what I'm 0:13:07.080 --> 0:13:08.520 doing for the rest of my The point I'm making 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:11.000 is my career has changed so many times, and each 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:13.320 time I was so sure this is the thing I'm 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:15.800 doing forever, and then life slaps across the face and 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:18.320 you realize that you don't have to narrow yourself into 0:13:18.360 --> 0:13:20.280 one direction. You can do it all, and you can 0:13:20.320 --> 0:13:22.440 do all the things that you think are interesting, and 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:24.440 life will probably force it to be that way. Yeah. 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:26.840 I think anytime you think you're set up for something 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:29.160 and it's going to be for a long time, life 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:32.400 throws you a curveball. I know, because for my experience, 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:35.559 it's like I always go into things thinking, funk, how 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:37.600 long is this going to go on for? Like it's 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:40.120 the opposite thing, like I don't like to be I 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:42.880 have a commitment. I'm commitment phobic in that way with 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:46.280 with regard to career and like signing a contract for 0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:49.040 more than two years, Like I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:50.280 I don't know if I'm gonna want to be in 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:52.079 this country. I don't know if I want to still 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:53.439 live in l A. And I don't want to be 0:13:53.520 --> 0:13:57.080 beholden to anyone, you know, I have major issues about that, 0:13:57.120 --> 0:13:59.880 Like I need freedom to move around, bounce around whenever 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:02.319 I want. So I have kind of the opposite thing 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:05.160 with you, but again in multiple different ways, like doing 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:08.240 so many different things when I feel them. You know, 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:11.120 obviously that's a luxury to have, and not everybody starts 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.360 out their career like that. But the more of a 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:17.160 foundation you lay, the more options you have later on 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:20.960 down the road. So you know, having an education, having talent, 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:24.640 having all these different modes of making money and making 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:27.800 income and attracting people to you is always going to 0:14:27.840 --> 0:14:30.800 pay back in spades. So I also think another big 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:33.840 thing is you can't grow and stay the same, like 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:36.200 that can't happen. And I think with Late Night, for me, 0:14:36.600 --> 0:14:39.120 I was so excited about Late Night, and I really 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:41.160 believe I can do anything after that because it was 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:44.680 so exhausting in every single way, and I just feel 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:47.240 like everything I do now was a breeze, to be honest, 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:49.880 But when I did Late Night, I was like, Okay, 0:14:49.920 --> 0:14:52.600 this is a historic thing. This is for representation, you know, 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:56.040 in thirty years, you know, the first Indian woman. But 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:59.160 then when I was in that environment, I think something 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:01.480 changed with the new when I thought I could be 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:05.000 moving the needle in a better, more effective way. I 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:07.080 learned the tools I learned from Late Night, but I 0:15:07.240 --> 0:15:09.520 very quickly learned that I was only going to be 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:11.760 able to do so much in that setup. And now 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:14.320 I have ambitions to be the person who makes the 0:15:14.360 --> 0:15:17.680 decisions about the representation, not just the shiny person that 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:20.800 is the representation. And so I feel like everything happens 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:22.760 for a reason, And when your career shifts, it's because 0:15:22.800 --> 0:15:25.160 you're meant to do something else and you're meant to 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:27.720 contribute in a different way. That's what I'm telling myself, 0:15:27.840 --> 0:15:30.040 but that's also what we talked about on this podcast. 0:15:30.040 --> 0:15:32.600 A lot is like instead of resisting the change, accepting 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:35.040 the change and going Okay, this is this is over, 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:37.480 this doesn't work for me or whatever, and moving on 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:40.200 to the next thing with the same amount of enthusiasm, 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:43.160 the same amount of interest, knowing that you know, instead 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:44.920 of looking in the rear of your mirror, which so 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:47.200 many people are so guilty lot of, like I wish 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:49.280 I could have, should have, would have. It's over. It 0:15:49.280 --> 0:15:51.920 doesn't matter. You cannot change history. So it's better to 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:54.720 just move forward with a hundred and fifty percent of 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:57.520 enthusiasm and being like, Okay, I'm gonna nail this, and 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:00.040 then everything kind of always ends up lining up for 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:03.520 you in the right way. I completely agree. Thus far, 0:16:03.600 --> 0:16:06.280 you have a survival rate of surviving every single thing 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:08.880 that has happened in your life one percent. You've gone 0:16:08.880 --> 0:16:11.440 through every single thing. Yeah, that's a great point. I'm 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:14.800 gonna start making it. Yeah. Remember we had our first 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:16.600 late night kiss at the beginning of your show. We did. 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:19.400 Oh yeah, Lily was like, and then we had like 0:16:19.480 --> 0:16:22.560 twenty others off camera. Well, yeah, because Lily wouldn't leave 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:25.600 me alone. She wouldn't get off my jock. So typical. 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:29.000 Chelsea always comes through no matter what I asked her, literally, 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:30.760 no matter what I asked. I was like, Chelsea, I 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:31.960 need you to come to my show. I need to 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:33.880 kiss someone. She's like, cool, be there, I'll be there. 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.360 I'll be there on Tuesday. She's a real one, a 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:38.640 real one. Yeah. Yeah, I try. Yeah. I hadn't meant 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:41.880 that day out of respect for our situation. I would 0:16:41.880 --> 0:16:44.720 never do that because I did not I know. Last 0:16:44.760 --> 0:16:46.240 night we were flying home from New York and my 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:48.120 boyfriend was like, just my breath smell. I'm like, I 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:49.760 don't know, honey, I just keep my mask on all 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:51.560 the time because I love the smell of my own breath. 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:56.520 That we're disgusting, we're all, but we're all so disgusting 0:16:56.640 --> 0:16:59.360 that I don't want to smell other people anymore. I 0:16:59.440 --> 0:17:02.160 just I'm going to continue wearing that mask for years 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:05.359 because I like my breath, and well, it mostly smells 0:17:05.359 --> 0:17:07.439 like cannabis, but that is a smell that comforts me, 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:10.320 and I like my mask smells. So the other day 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:12.840 I took someone's mask to borrow, like a friend of 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:15.320 mine was like here, yeah, of course. I was like, 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:18.320 how do I get delta the delta area quickly? And 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:19.960 they gave it to me and I was like, oh, no, 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:23.280 thank you. I don't like that smell. The biggest joke 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:25.760 of this entire situation is you're supposed to wash your 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:29.280 mask every time you use it. Come on, come on, 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:32.480 that's pridiculous. Let's let's just settle the disposable ones. Those 0:17:32.520 --> 0:17:35.960 little blue and white ones. Are you I wear those? Yeah? 0:17:36.040 --> 0:17:39.439 Those like you know, doctor ones, not THEE but the 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:41.880 little thin blue and white ones. Oh no, I have 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:44.520 my own off mask. No, No, yeah, I say I'm not. No, 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:46.320 I keep thinking it's gonna be over any day. You 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:47.960 need to just wake up and get with the times. 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:50.120 It's never over a kid, it's never getting over. It's 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:54.119 the pandemic forever. And I don't know if you can 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:56.479 afford that sample. I'm so sorry if you can't. Okay, 0:17:56.720 --> 0:17:58.760 I'm sure we can. I'm sure we can. It's a podcast. 0:17:58.840 --> 0:18:00.959 Why wouldn't we be able to Chelse? I like to 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:02.520