1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 1: My fiance cheated on me at the wedding, but I 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:06,920 Speaker 1: can't leave her now. You know, sometimes you gotta go 3 00:00:07,080 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: hard or you go home. Sometimes you got to see 4 00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: your wife getting down by another dude to realize how 5 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:13,600 Speaker 1: lucky you are. 6 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 2: You gotta you got, You gotta see what you can't 7 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 2: have to appreciate what you do have. 8 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 1: All right. I am mostly writing to try and get 9 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:23,799 Speaker 1: some relief since I have no one to tell, and 10 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:28,480 Speaker 1: I feel like my body is turning inside out after 11 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:32,239 Speaker 1: months of browsing this uh, reading the horror stories and 12 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:34,879 Speaker 1: thinking that could never happen to me. I have some 13 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:39,519 Speaker 1: content to contribute. Boy do I, oh God, contribute that 14 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 1: content feed us to a speedush. Right right, right right, 15 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:49,440 Speaker 1: ritter stories. My twenty five female fiance, twenty eight female 16 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: and I we're getting married in two weeks. 17 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 2: I mean, congrats, congrats. I hope it's not going to 18 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 2: be good. 19 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 1: We've been together over six years and live together most 20 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: of that time, and we've known each other for eight years. 21 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:04,680 Speaker 1: This is relevant and it will become relevant. I full 22 00:01:04,680 --> 00:01:10,520 Speaker 1: blown lesbian, she bisexual. Uh oh, I see you in 23 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:14,559 Speaker 1: the comments if you know where this is going. We've 24 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: built a wonderful life together, and I was so excited 25 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:21,480 Speaker 1: to take to the next step. Oh God, nothing's going 26 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: to go wrong, John, Nothing's going to go wrong. It's 27 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 1: all gonna be fairies and rainbow. Now I think like 28 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: a beautiful union of taking the next step. Like the 29 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: best way to have a union, yeah, is stitching no 30 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:37,400 Speaker 1: mouth to aus No. You know, talk about commitment. You know, 31 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: it's one thing to go through life shit with your partner, 32 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: but to literally go through your partnership, that's commitment. 33 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 2: The only thing of only movie grosser than Human Centipede 34 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 2: is Room forty Like that, it's the only thing. 35 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 1: Room Forty's nuts. 36 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, like reigning champions, I ever questioned my name ever again. 37 00:01:56,800 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 1: I did not see that coming, bro, Because that sounds 38 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:02,360 Speaker 1: like a spooky movie. 39 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 2: Sounds like a movie, right, Fuck, that sounds like a 40 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:06,279 Speaker 2: spooky sounds like a spooky movie. 41 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:09,680 Speaker 1: Forty Like it's like a like a motel. They like 42 00:02:09,840 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: they in the room. I swear I've heard of a 43 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:20,399 Speaker 1: movie called like the Room That's happened? Audience off right now? 44 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 1: Or is it turning you on? Oh? Okay, probably not. 45 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: I truly thought I knew this person. I'm typing this 46 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: from a hotel of our good friend's destination wedding. They 47 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: got married yesterday, today and tomorrow. We're supposed to be 48 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 1: for fun at celebration in the local area, and they 49 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: have not been so for me. After the ceremony yesterday, 50 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:42,920 Speaker 1: my fiance we got or rather intoxicated. She fell asleep 51 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: like a rock. After I helped her wash up and 52 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:49,799 Speaker 1: get dressed, she was out stone cold. I wonder what 53 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:53,919 Speaker 1: tired her out so much? The alcohol, John festivities. Festivities. Yeah, 54 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: so I took the opportunity to do something I now regret, 55 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: but at the same time was probably the best decision 56 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 1: that I were made. I snooped through her phone. Oh 57 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 1: the snoop, the classic snoop. It's like, if you don't 58 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: find anything, you're an asshole. Yes, if you do, you're 59 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,399 Speaker 1: still an asshole. But they're an asshole. They playing roulette, 60 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:16,519 Speaker 1: true roulette, asshole roulette. I wish I had a better 61 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: reason for why I did it, some big Sherlock Holmes hunch, 62 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 1: but I don't. I did it because we're getting married soon, 63 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:24,160 Speaker 1: and I wanted to see what she was saying to 64 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: her friends about me and the wedding. She's being a 65 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: bit more secretive with her phone, which made me curious. 66 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 1: I wanted to pry. I want to look inside. 67 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 2: Yeah, this so far it seems like not the greatest 68 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 2: reasons ever. 69 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: It's there's no reason, it's just complete. But it's also 70 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 1: like it sounds like Opie's like not thinking she's cheating 71 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: or anything. She's thinking, Oh, like what she's saying about 72 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 1: me for the wedding? Did she like the flowers I picked? 73 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: You know, and using that as a reason is like, no, 74 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 1: it's a bad reason. Yeah, yeah, saying it's like more 75 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 1: of a cute reason than I think she's cheating. Oh right, 76 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: right right, It's like, what is she saying about me 77 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: in the wedding? I did it for the same reason 78 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 1: people wish they had mind reading powers understand what's going 79 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:03,680 Speaker 1: on in that little non universe. Okay. I searched her 80 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 1: text for my name. Nothing mind blowing, and it was 81 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 1: actually really very positive. I was feeling a little warm 82 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 1: and fuzzy, and that's when I got the bright idea 83 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: to search for the word is segs. Oh. I wanted 84 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: to see if she talked about her segs life with 85 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 1: her friends, maybe about what she liked the most or 86 00:04:21,040 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: didn't like instead of text with me, no, I pulled 87 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 1: up text with a man. No, a friend of a 88 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 1: friend who lives several states away, not long distance. D 89 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: They sent each other photos of the landscape, so of 90 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 1: like each state. Okay, just kidding. It was sexting. Ah, 91 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:44,480 Speaker 1: it was sexting, found it, target acquired, damn dude. Poor. 92 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 1: I kept scrolling up and up until I came across 93 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 1: the nail in the coffin. Oh boy, so there's something worse. 94 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:57,920 Speaker 1: He had traveled to our city, city called Sukon. I'm 95 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 1: not an idiot. Nice try nice rook. Sure, I know, 96 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:04,719 Speaker 1: I know I did a. I did a you know 97 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 1: with a old age. Uh that's right, Yeah, what's your 98 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:14,279 Speaker 1: oldest balls? You can make these jokes, these jokes, these 99 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: nuts jokes. Okay, I came across the nail in the coffine. 100 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 1: He had traveled to our city so they could meet 101 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 1: up for coffee and nothing else. Coffee, nothing else, you know, 102 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: like in uh GTA three where they were like, you 103 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 1: want to come up for some coffee and then they bang. 104 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 1: Then it's like that game Mechanic where it's like, oh ship, 105 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 1: ye know, it's going down, it's going down. I never 106 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: played GT. Three. Yeah, well, like you can. You can 107 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:39,279 Speaker 1: have sex in the car or you can have sex 108 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 1: in the house. She's like, you want to come up 109 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:44,360 Speaker 1: for some coffee? Classic move. It ain't coffee. It ain't coffee. 110 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 1: I heard Riley move that use uses that move all 111 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: the time. That's true. Yeah, coffee dates, coffee dates. Dude, 112 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:52,159 Speaker 1: we know you. Was like, hey, like, come back to 113 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:55,359 Speaker 1: the house, come back to the okay house, and you know, 114 00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 1: drink some coffee. Oh yeah, we'll be real okay, well 115 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:01,920 Speaker 1: with upgraded house, Like, hey, come back to the hot tub. Yeah, 116 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: fucked it. Wow see the studio. Oh no, do you 117 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: know how lucky you are? I lived in a fucking 118 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:11,479 Speaker 1: hovel at your age. I lived in a hovel with 119 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:15,360 Speaker 1: Christian in my room. In my room, Phil got laid 120 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: but socks on the doors everywhere. No, no, Christian was 121 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 1: in the room sleeping. Bro. I hope also, can we 122 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: do Actually, I am pretty lucky because you know I'm 123 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:30,719 Speaker 1: gonna be sleeping on the bed of success of Samuel's bed. 124 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:31,559 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's true. 125 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 2: Oh wow, dude, You're gonna get get so much knowledge 126 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:39,880 Speaker 2: and semen. No, no, yes, yes, you'll basically be impregnated 127 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:44,040 Speaker 2: by sleeping on that. Yes, that's super factually accurate. Why 128 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 2: are these sheets super factually accurate? 129 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: No? No, righty, yes, I will wash my sheets. 130 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:52,280 Speaker 2: No, he won't. He can never get that out. You 131 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:55,640 Speaker 2: can never get that out. Okay, Sam's got that super 132 00:06:55,680 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 2: seman God. All of our audience has left. Yeah, we're 133 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 2: god pretention zero percent zero. 134 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 1: We're having fun. Glass Riley is going to be blasting yep. Ao, 135 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 1: you have to put a sock on his door. That 136 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:16,000 Speaker 1: sock is going to be crusty. Anyway, it wasn't coffee. 137 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: It was coffee and sex. Yeah, the evidence was complete. 138 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 1: It could be sealed with a selfie of them together 139 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 1: that he sent them. She couldn't even be bothered to 140 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 1: delete them. I hid in the bathroom and shook like 141 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: I was possessed. It felt like a nightmare, and part 142 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 1: of me still hasn't accepted it. So began the worst 143 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 1: thirty six hours of my life so far. And she's 144 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:40,640 Speaker 1: at her friend's wedding, so she can't like say anything. 145 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: We can you do? Like, I mean, I you could leave? 146 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 1: I'm actually what would you do? Honestly? Watching right now? 147 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: You're at a destination wedding destination wedding, Do you leave? 148 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: What do you do? Tell us? Let us knowwe in 149 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 1: the comments. I couldn't confront her without causing a scene 150 00:07:53,920 --> 00:07:56,440 Speaker 1: at my dear friend's wedding, so I pretended that everything 151 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: was normal, which aw man, that would be so hard, 152 00:07:58,520 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: not very well. I did have a couple nausea spells. 153 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: I have to explain away. But I've been doing the hugging, kissing, laughing, 154 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 1: and I love yous all day while you've been trying 155 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 1: to have fun at this wedding celebration. Yeah, I feel 156 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 1: like I'm dying. I keep playing the text over in 157 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: my head and running through what I'm going to say 158 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 1: to her the second we get home. I thought about 159 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: staying in the relationship personally to avoid the total embarrassment 160 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 1: of being that person who canceled a wedding last minute, 161 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: but I realized I would be setting up my life 162 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 1: for failure if I did. There are several things looking 163 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,839 Speaker 1: back that are red flags, namely the timeline of when 164 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 1: she ended her last relationship before starting ours. She swears 165 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:38,480 Speaker 1: she broke it off with her old girlfriend before we 166 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 1: started dating. Old girlfriend had a different story. Really, that 167 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:47,080 Speaker 1: story I brushed off when my fiance insisted that she 168 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: was insane. The old girlfriend does have issues, but I 169 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:52,080 Speaker 1: think she may have been telling the truth about this one. 170 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:57,959 Speaker 1: I think my fiance is a serial cheater. Oh, that's 171 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 1: worse than Captain Crunch cereal. Worse that is not what 172 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 1: your worst kind of cereal? But not that is Jeffrey 173 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: Dahmer cereal in between. Yeah, I don't know. Maybe maybe 174 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:10,960 Speaker 1: this is the same. Yeah, could be. Would you rather 175 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 1: have your wife cheat on you? Yeah? Or eat a 176 00:09:14,080 --> 00:09:18,120 Speaker 1: human finger? Wow? Question? Would you rather have your partner 177 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:20,360 Speaker 1: cheat on you or eat a human finger? It's not 178 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 1: your friend's human finger. It's just a human finger sent 179 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 1: in the mail. You don't know where it came from. 180 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 1: I thought it was going to be easy one. But 181 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:29,120 Speaker 1: pinky pinky eating the human finger. Doesn't really think about it. 182 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: There's no repercussions, I mean, besides the knowledge that this 183 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:35,360 Speaker 1: was not an ethically sourced you know green farm that 184 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:37,280 Speaker 1: you're getting this finger from. But it's just a finger. 185 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 1: It's a pinky finger, but you can tell it's a 186 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 1: child's finger. Can I slow roast it? You can slow 187 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:43,880 Speaker 1: roast it. Yeah, you can cook get any way you want. 188 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:47,240 Speaker 1: It comes it comes comes raw, I'll go finger, you 189 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: go finger, I'll season it. Damn yeah, that's my plan, 190 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 1: and then I'm up with two terrible options. What would 191 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:54,800 Speaker 1: you do? Put your answer in the comments. I hope 192 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:56,959 Speaker 1: I have the strength to make it through tomorrow and 193 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:00,560 Speaker 1: the ten hour trip home, as well as do what 194 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 1: needs to be done. Best part is we also work 195 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 1: together at the same small company and just bought a 196 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:12,199 Speaker 1: house together. Unraveling this will be difficult and there are 197 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 1: some relevant comments, but wow, So what would you guys do? 198 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:19,200 Speaker 1: Would you like break up instantly? I mean, is this 199 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:22,560 Speaker 1: are we getting another update or something? There's there's some juice, 200 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:27,960 Speaker 1: juice to squee Oh oh, what do you do? Probably 201 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:31,839 Speaker 1: best to just confront. Honestly, I think there's nothing wrong 202 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: with OPI leaving the wedding. Like I get. 203 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:35,839 Speaker 2: I get that OP is like like, oh, I don't 204 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:37,640 Speaker 2: want to be seen as that person, But like I 205 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:40,280 Speaker 2: think for you like it but to be torturous to 206 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 2: be at a. 207 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:43,600 Speaker 1: Wedding, But also like, it's your friend's wedding, do you 208 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 1: like are you not there? Because I think you could 209 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:48,400 Speaker 1: tell the friend and be like, but do you want 210 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 1: to take away from their day? You tell the friend Hey, 211 00:10:50,679 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 1: something really terrible has happened. I'm safe, family safe, but 212 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:56,640 Speaker 1: like I'm sorry, Like, yeah, I guess it is kind 213 00:10:56,640 --> 00:10:59,079 Speaker 1: of it's like tough. You don't know. Yeah, I see 214 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 1: what you're saying. If a friend of mine was having 215 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:05,040 Speaker 1: their wedding and like it's their special day, I want 216 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:07,199 Speaker 1: to have any reason to be a damper on that. 217 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 1: That is true. You make a great point. 218 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 2: So maybe not maybe not at the wedding, but I 219 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:15,559 Speaker 2: think afterwards it's like, okay, this and at least it's 220 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:17,720 Speaker 2: like a confined like what seventy two hours or whatever 221 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:19,559 Speaker 2: he said it was, Yeah, those. 222 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:22,320 Speaker 1: Seventy two hours end, and then well you don't confront. 223 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 1: I don't think yet. I think you have to prepare. 224 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:26,560 Speaker 1: You have to get ready. You want a fucking house together. 225 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:30,200 Speaker 1: You're so right, Wow, dude, it's right. It's messy. It's messy. 226 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 1: It's complicated, dude, Like owning anything with a significant other 227 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:37,960 Speaker 1: can be rough. Yeah. Like I have a friend that 228 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:40,839 Speaker 1: he's in another country and had a business, like a 229 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,720 Speaker 1: business with his girlfriend. The girlfriend is from that country, 230 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:46,400 Speaker 1: and he's not everything within her name. They broke up 231 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 1: and she's like not giving anything, Wow, not giving him anything, 232 00:11:51,480 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 1: and then like threatening to report him to the police 233 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:56,360 Speaker 1: if he like asked for the money again that is, 234 00:11:56,760 --> 00:12:00,040 Speaker 1: And so it's like dang, Like luckily it's not like 235 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: a business right or something. But if you don't prepare well, 236 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:06,720 Speaker 1: your significant other could be spiteful. And it doesn't sound 237 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: like this person is like a moral person either. 238 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:11,280 Speaker 2: I guess A big question is what is does the 239 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 2: contract basically of. 240 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: The house split? Yeah? 241 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 2: Would actually, I would guess since they said they bought 242 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:20,400 Speaker 2: it together, that is in both of them. It is like, yeah, 243 00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:23,160 Speaker 2: a broker, whoever would do that? But but I mean, we're. 244 00:12:24,800 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: Your eyes and teas are crossed one hundred Okay, so 245 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:32,320 Speaker 1: relevant comments month Jack Drowning says, I seriously hope you 246 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 1: sweenshot at all of this and send it to yourself. 247 00:12:34,559 --> 00:12:36,520 Speaker 1: I would have the hotel print it all and I 248 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: would tape them all over the room and surprise her. 249 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 1: But I'm a bitch. I honestly hope you sent yourself 250 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:44,440 Speaker 1: copies of the text so you can legally recoup any 251 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:46,800 Speaker 1: financial losses from your wedding. I'm so sorry you were 252 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 1: going through this. You don't deserve it, and you are 253 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: an exceptional friend to the couple getting married, hugs my darling. Ope, 254 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:54,440 Speaker 1: thank you, kind stranger. The kicker is the ten hour 255 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:57,839 Speaker 1: trip is in the car with the newly married couple. Oh, 256 00:12:57,920 --> 00:13:00,440 Speaker 1: you traveled with them to help and of horse, give 257 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:03,160 Speaker 1: moral support. They will be singing and celebrating. I'll be 258 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 1: probably in the back with a sick back. Then seeing 259 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 1: your old guy says how long ago did she cheat? 260 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:10,839 Speaker 1: Did you sense a change in your relationship around the 261 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:14,720 Speaker 1: time she cheated? Op? Not at all. That's the scary part. 262 00:13:14,760 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 1: I always thought she was such a sincere person. But 263 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:19,320 Speaker 1: she was able to pull off a pretty elaborate scheme 264 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:21,319 Speaker 1: to meet up with this guy, and I didn't suspect 265 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 1: a thing. Ride to my face and I couldn't even tell. 266 00:13:24,040 --> 00:13:26,360 Speaker 1: Maybe that says more about me than her. And then 267 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 1: Jack Drowning also said what will make you feel better? 268 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:31,599 Speaker 1: Option A, you take the high road each shit and 269 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:35,160 Speaker 1: allow her to spin the narrative. Option B Oppenheim nuclear Earth, 270 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:38,000 Speaker 1: you make your bed now everyone knows it's radioactive. You 271 00:13:38,040 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 1: are clearly the more emotionally mature in your relationship. Here's 272 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:42,880 Speaker 1: where I'm not a bad person. I want you to 273 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:44,560 Speaker 1: take care of you. I don't want you to lose 274 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 1: anything because of her not being able to keep it 275 00:13:46,920 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 1: in her pants. You're putting aside your suffering for your friends. 276 00:13:49,720 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 1: That tells me all I need to know about you, 277 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:53,440 Speaker 1: and I want you to not lose anything. Not your friends, 278 00:13:53,440 --> 00:13:55,719 Speaker 1: not your money, not your integrity. You deserve better. So 279 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:58,440 Speaker 1: he says, you know what I was debating about, contacting 280 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:00,680 Speaker 1: her friends directly about the cheating and why the wedding 281 00:14:00,760 --> 00:14:03,559 Speaker 1: is being canceled as opposed to sending out a joint 282 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 1: wedding is canceled due to unforeseen circumstances message, so she 283 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:10,200 Speaker 1: could save her reputation. But your comment helped me decide 284 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 1: that I need to get ahead of whatever narrative she 285 00:14:12,520 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 1: may spend. This is uncharted waters with her. I didn't 286 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:18,240 Speaker 1: think she was manipulative. I deserve to keep my reputation. 287 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:21,600 Speaker 1: Thank you. Oh so mont Jack Drowning. The commenter was like, 288 00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:23,480 Speaker 1: you might need to get ahead of this in terms 289 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:26,640 Speaker 1: of what she might spin. Yeah, like she could spin 290 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:29,800 Speaker 1: this into something crazy and then you could lose friends 291 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:32,360 Speaker 1: over that. Yeah. Now, all this word it's like you've 292 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 1: loaded ope with all this work of life. 293 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:37,400 Speaker 2: All right, how do I distribute the story and then 294 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:39,920 Speaker 2: make everyone understand how do I get all my legal 295 00:14:39,920 --> 00:14:42,560 Speaker 2: stuff together for my assets and the house and the money. 296 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 1: And there's a lot for OP to take care of, 297 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 1: so much homework and there is an update. Oh so 298 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:51,000 Speaker 1: this is from October thirtieth. Firstly, thank you for the 299 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:53,880 Speaker 1: support of comments. I read them over during the trip. 300 00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:56,000 Speaker 1: They really did give me strength and clarity of mind 301 00:14:56,080 --> 00:14:58,840 Speaker 1: do what was right for me in this heartbreaking situation. 302 00:14:59,120 --> 00:15:02,040 Speaker 1: So the side it continues with my life looking like 303 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:05,200 Speaker 1: a shitty movie. Oh, with nothing going as I thought 304 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:07,720 Speaker 1: it would. We started drive home Sunday morning, with the newlyweds, 305 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 1: stopping part way for brunch with the bride's family. At 306 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:13,120 Speaker 1: this point, my fiance had sensed something was wrong and 307 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:16,800 Speaker 1: is getting anxious about why I was being distant. It 308 00:15:16,840 --> 00:15:19,600 Speaker 1: all blew up when I stupidly left my phone on 309 00:15:19,640 --> 00:15:21,720 Speaker 1: the table and walked away for a moment. While we 310 00:15:21,720 --> 00:15:24,080 Speaker 1: were waiting for food. She tried to access my phone 311 00:15:24,120 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 1: for some reason. I don't think it was anything nefarious. 312 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 1: She was right in front of the groom and may 313 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:29,200 Speaker 1: have wanted to take silly photos of my phone. In 314 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:31,720 Speaker 1: a previous comment, I had mentioned that I had changed 315 00:15:31,720 --> 00:15:34,320 Speaker 1: my password to protect the evidence I had. Well, she 316 00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 1: did not appreciate that at all. She immediately spiraled into 317 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 1: a panic attack. When I wouldn't tell her why I 318 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:42,520 Speaker 1: changed the password, she said, you've been acting weird. You 319 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:46,359 Speaker 1: never changed your password, and without a hint of irene, 320 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:49,400 Speaker 1: she asked, are you talking to someone? And this was 321 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 1: all in front of the groom, so she's airing out 322 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 1: the laundry, and I think, oh, p's got to say, hey, 323 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: your shit fis? 324 00:15:58,280 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 2: You want to take a shot at me. Got a freakin' 325 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:02,680 Speaker 2: balm to come back. 326 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:04,280 Speaker 1: At you with. You know, you're saying these are my 327 00:16:04,400 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 1: skid marks. But I think I know where this comes from, 328 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:10,960 Speaker 1: the real dukie. Yeah, the real dukie. I desperately try 329 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:13,360 Speaker 1: to play it off as I was protecting my Christmas 330 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 1: present ideas normally we allow each other to be secretive 331 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:18,920 Speaker 1: with her phones around Christmas. She didn't buy it, Ah, 332 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 1: she didn't. That was a good one. That's good, it's good. 333 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 1: But it's October thirtieth, like that's maybe a little early. 334 00:16:24,040 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 2: Not Opie's Opie's ladies smart. But that's that was a 335 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:29,760 Speaker 2: good That's a good try, Oh, a good try. I 336 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 2: tried to play cool for the couple and family. But 337 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 2: she began texting me, begging me to talk to her 338 00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:37,160 Speaker 2: right at that moment. Then she began crying. I figured 339 00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:40,160 Speaker 2: this couldn't get any more awkward, so I beckoned her outside. 340 00:16:40,440 --> 00:16:44,440 Speaker 2: She tearfully asked, did I do something wrong? 341 00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: Did I did I do something wrong? Do you read it? 342 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:53,240 Speaker 1: The amount of relief I felt when I said I 343 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:58,240 Speaker 1: know what you did. Yes, I know about his name, 344 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 1: it was indescribable. Oh, part of me was happy despite 345 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:04,679 Speaker 1: the situation, just from relief of not hiding this knowledge 346 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:08,639 Speaker 1: any longer. Yeah, like taking out a festering splinter. She 347 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 1: at first acted clueless. That quickly became he's just a friend. 348 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:16,440 Speaker 1: Then we didn't do anything too. We only kissed and texted, 349 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:20,439 Speaker 1: and it wasn't cheating. She denies even now any sexual 350 00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:24,440 Speaker 1: contact other than kissing. I slipped and fell. Oh oh no, 351 00:17:24,480 --> 00:17:28,640 Speaker 1: stick was just suddenly in there. All excuses evolved into 352 00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:31,720 Speaker 1: repeated begging for me to stay and get married to her. 353 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:34,360 Speaker 1: She didn't even say I'm sorry until I pointed out 354 00:17:34,359 --> 00:17:38,320 Speaker 1: that she hadn't even apologized in between excuses. I truly 355 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:40,720 Speaker 1: do not know this individual. You don't have to believe me, 356 00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:43,439 Speaker 1: but I literally had some of your words ringing in 357 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:46,720 Speaker 1: my ears while she spoke. I held strong and separating 358 00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:49,040 Speaker 1: and canceling the wedding. I finally got her back into 359 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:51,760 Speaker 1: the restaurant on threat of embarrassing her in front of 360 00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 1: all these people. Wow, if we didn't return to our friends, 361 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:56,919 Speaker 1: not proud of that verbiage, but she was refusing to 362 00:17:57,000 --> 00:17:59,040 Speaker 1: leave the parking lot to go back inside. I quickly 363 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:02,560 Speaker 1: ate my cold brunch and she stared at hers shell shocked. Dude, 364 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:05,199 Speaker 1: she's on some g shit right now. That is like, 365 00:18:06,240 --> 00:18:09,080 Speaker 1: by this point, it's painfully obvious to everyone around that 366 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:11,840 Speaker 1: something is very wrong. I reassured our friends multiple times 367 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:14,119 Speaker 1: that we are okay and the situation has nothing to 368 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:17,040 Speaker 1: do with anything they did. I'll tell you more later, 369 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:18,920 Speaker 1: but let's just get home for now. I didn't want 370 00:18:18,920 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 1: to tell them the truth right then and subject us 371 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 1: to a long car ride with that knowledge hanging in 372 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:25,600 Speaker 1: the air. But it's going to be a fucking ten 373 00:18:25,640 --> 00:18:28,680 Speaker 1: hour car ride of just like weird awkward energy because 374 00:18:28,680 --> 00:18:31,159 Speaker 1: it was. That's true. Yeah, neither one is a great option. 375 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:33,800 Speaker 1: In an incredible twist of fate, I spent the ten 376 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:37,480 Speaker 1: hour car ride singing and making conversation, and she spends 377 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:40,240 Speaker 1: it on the verge of tears and carsick dry heaving 378 00:18:40,280 --> 00:18:43,320 Speaker 1: into a sick bag. Trying to act normal for our friends, 379 00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:46,719 Speaker 1: I must have seemed like a psychopath. I was so 380 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 1: lighthearted from finally getting the weight off my chest. The groom, 381 00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:53,000 Speaker 1: bless his heart, tried to bring up our wedding plans 382 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:56,680 Speaker 1: multiple times, and I redirected with jokes or anecdotes from 383 00:18:56,720 --> 00:18:59,280 Speaker 1: their weddings. Side note, did you know that ninety nine 384 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:02,480 Speaker 1: percent of road songs are about romance and or breakups? 385 00:19:02,680 --> 00:19:05,119 Speaker 1: We listen to Adela's Hello from the other side twice, 386 00:19:05,320 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 1: once belted by the bride and once by the groom. 387 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:11,760 Speaker 1: Get me out of this cliche fucking nightmare. We make 388 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:14,600 Speaker 1: it home and the fun only Jess begins. I did 389 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:17,439 Speaker 1: text the couple to apologize for our weird behavior and 390 00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:20,399 Speaker 1: inform them about cheating and the canceled wedding. They have 391 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 1: responded with messages of support and understanding. The details are 392 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:27,359 Speaker 1: already hazy, but I essentially repeated in no uncertain terms 393 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:29,960 Speaker 1: that we are no longer together. The wedding is canceled 394 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:31,919 Speaker 1: and she will be sleeping on the couch, and I 395 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 1: expect her to move out. She became completely hysterical, following 396 00:19:36,040 --> 00:19:38,200 Speaker 1: me around the house and trying to hug me and 397 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:41,159 Speaker 1: repeating phrases such as we can fight for this together 398 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:43,879 Speaker 1: and I love you. Say it back. I'm sad to 399 00:19:43,920 --> 00:19:47,280 Speaker 1: say that things took a very dark turn. She said 400 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:49,800 Speaker 1: she intended to hurt herself, and she responds with I 401 00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:51,639 Speaker 1: can do what I want. You don't care anyway. She 402 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:55,200 Speaker 1: watched me clear my firearm so she can't use them, 403 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:57,320 Speaker 1: and then she said, you don't think I'll find another way? 404 00:19:57,840 --> 00:20:00,760 Speaker 1: Geez going dark? Yeah. I let her out of my 405 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:04,440 Speaker 1: sight for a moment and she goes two our knife collection. 406 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 1: She's crying that it's hers and I can't take it. 407 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,040 Speaker 1: She could do what she wants. I gave her an ultimatum, 408 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:13,200 Speaker 1: give up the knife or call the police. She refused. 409 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:15,399 Speaker 1: I called her bluff and I dialed nine one one. 410 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:17,640 Speaker 1: The moment I dialed nine one one, the change was immediate. 411 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:20,879 Speaker 1: We have a friend who was baker acted, which basically 412 00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:24,680 Speaker 1: means like a thing in Florida actually where if you're 413 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:28,600 Speaker 1: exhibiting like stuff of mental like you're not mentally saying, 414 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:30,959 Speaker 1: you could be like damaging to yourself or others, you 415 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:34,680 Speaker 1: can be like put under arrest essentially, Wow, I didn't 416 00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:37,840 Speaker 1: know that. Yeah. Act in Florida pr emergency mental health 417 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 1: and temporary detention. My fiance is terrified by their stories 418 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:44,159 Speaker 1: of like being Baker acted. She immediately gave up the knife, apologized, 419 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,280 Speaker 1: and calmly said on the couch. She claims she lost 420 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: herself in the moment, then regained control and her defense. 421 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:51,520 Speaker 1: She was having a visible panic attack. The police were 422 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:54,439 Speaker 1: incredibly kind and professional. They eventually decided to not Baker 423 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:56,439 Speaker 1: act her since she was now calm and said she 424 00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 1: was not planning to harm herself. I actually agree that 425 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:00,840 Speaker 1: this was the right call. I think seeing the police 426 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,040 Speaker 1: was enough to tether her back to reality. After the 427 00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:05,600 Speaker 1: police left, we spoke for a few more minutes peacefully. 428 00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:07,879 Speaker 1: She admitted that she made a mistake and it was remorseful, 429 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 1: but desperately wants to rebuild. I held firm I cannot 430 00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:13,280 Speaker 1: live my life watching her like a prison guard, even 431 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:14,919 Speaker 1: if she's willing to do anything to prove I can 432 00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,240 Speaker 1: trust her. There's two sides of every story. She says 433 00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:19,080 Speaker 1: she did not feel loved by me at the time, 434 00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 1: and I can be cold. This is true We've had 435 00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:23,959 Speaker 1: real issues in the past with me not providing enough 436 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:27,240 Speaker 1: physical affection. Our love languages are very different. She admits 437 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:29,359 Speaker 1: that the last few months have been wonderful, but a 438 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:32,159 Speaker 1: year ago she said she wanted to feel sexy and loved, 439 00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:34,760 Speaker 1: which is why she messaged him. My problem is that 440 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:37,800 Speaker 1: this is the same time period that we seriously discuss 441 00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:42,120 Speaker 1: marriage and I proposed literally. She continued to text inappropriately 442 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:44,800 Speaker 1: with him after the engagement bro and she did not 443 00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:47,280 Speaker 1: feel loved by me during what should have been the 444 00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:50,439 Speaker 1: peak of our relationship. Yeah, I have nothing left to 445 00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:52,960 Speaker 1: offer her. How can I trust that she will stay 446 00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:55,720 Speaker 1: by me in truly difficult times. I've given all of 447 00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:58,399 Speaker 1: myself and it wasn't enough. Apologies for the novel, and 448 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,520 Speaker 1: thank you for the support. As I lay here alone 449 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:02,800 Speaker 1: in our bed. I do have hope for a brighter future, 450 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:06,000 Speaker 1: mostly do to all of you. Well, thanks Reddit for 451 00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:06,880 Speaker 1: I guess helping OP. 452 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:10,200 Speaker 2: I really gotta commend it to OP, because that's the 453 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 2: fun of hard decisions and being like back to back, 454 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:17,560 Speaker 2: steadfast and confident and like, Okay, here's what I'm gonna do. 455 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:19,959 Speaker 2: I'm not going to waiver from it, you know, especially 456 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:21,960 Speaker 2: when the fiance was doing all of that after they 457 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:24,520 Speaker 2: got home, and to be of that like sound mind 458 00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:26,760 Speaker 2: and keep it cool and like I think handle it. 459 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:30,239 Speaker 1: Pree dang well on pretty well, yeah, pretty well that 460 00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:33,800 Speaker 1: is like that is a you know, someone threatening themselves 461 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 1: is a pretty traumatic situation. And so yeah, ope, you 462 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:40,879 Speaker 1: kept it cool. And I'm also glad that, Like what 463 00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:43,480 Speaker 1: is good that comes from this is you saw a 464 00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:46,359 Speaker 1: lot of shit that maybe was a little bit covered 465 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: up and it bubbled to the surface and you're seeing, 466 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:50,919 Speaker 1: you know, a version of what you could have married. 467 00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:54,680 Speaker 1: And this you know, marriages get hard and people generally 468 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:57,320 Speaker 1: show the worst sides of themselves, or you get to 469 00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,440 Speaker 1: see the worst sides of themselves because you're getting to 470 00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:02,360 Speaker 1: see them all time. So and so good to see 471 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:06,199 Speaker 1: it now. And before tied, we would have to do 472 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:10,159 Speaker 1: the divorce chant. But divorce divorce, I think at this point, 473 00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:14,160 Speaker 1: like hope is all we have for op building building back, 474 00:23:14,359 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 1: and I do hope I can fit these nuts in 475 00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 1: your mouth. Yeah, that was just see but I saw 476 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:25,359 Speaker 1: it coming. It saw it coming, but you didn't stop me. 477 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:31,359 Speaker 1: The game is you have to stop me. Every girl 478 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:34,439 Speaker 1: that my mom like occasionally every once in a while 479 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:38,120 Speaker 1: my mom will like try to set me up with girls, right, 480 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:41,600 Speaker 1: and every girl that my mom this sounds weird, every 481 00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:43,240 Speaker 1: girl that my mom has set me up with has 482 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:47,159 Speaker 1: been very much my type, extremely my type. And for 483 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,240 Speaker 1: the last like two weeks, there's this girl from Australia 484 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 1: that is here. She it's the daughter of my mom's friend. 485 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:55,640 Speaker 1: And my mom is just like, you know, you should 486 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:57,719 Speaker 1: really get to know her, like, you know, you were 487 00:23:57,760 --> 00:23:59,760 Speaker 1: going to the farmer's market together, you should come like, oh, 488 00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:03,440 Speaker 1: you're you should invite her out like all of these things. 489 00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 1: And so I've never seen a picture of this person before, 490 00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,359 Speaker 1: I've never met her before, but my mom describes her 491 00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:15,360 Speaker 1: as elegant and smart, and so I am meeting her 492 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:18,520 Speaker 1: at an art gallery tonight. Wow, so my mom set 493 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:19,440 Speaker 1: me up on a blind date. 494 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:23,080 Speaker 2: Also, I just love how much your mom is manifesting 495 00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:28,560 Speaker 2: you marrying an Australian the same way that you're basically 496 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 2: recreating your parents love story. 497 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 1: It's kind of incredible, honestly. I mean, is she a battie? 498 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:38,160 Speaker 1: We don't know. No. I will give you updates later, 499 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:39,400 Speaker 1: see you on the next one.