WEBVTT - The First Date Debate 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.640 Hell I Suck At Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:11.080 and I Heard radio podcast. Hello everyone, welcome to a 0:00:11.080 --> 0:00:14.400 new episode of Help I Suck at Dating. I'm the 0:00:14.520 --> 0:00:17.640 Younglert joined Well, I guess we're recording this episode from Tahoe, 0:00:17.720 --> 0:00:20.040 just like we did last week's Valentine's episode. We have 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:23.479 Jared and Tori here, great episode for you guys. We're 0:00:23.520 --> 0:00:28.200 going to dive into a few listener emails and trying 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:31.760 to help solve some people's dating woes that just seemed 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:35.200 to be omnipresent. They're never not around. People are always 0:00:35.240 --> 0:00:36.600 going to be struggling with this stuff. So let's go 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:39.600 ahead and tackle one at a time. Huh was a 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:41.120 good word at the big words? You know? You know 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:42.920 it's funny. Sometimes I plan to say big words, but 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:44.360 sometimes they just come to me, and that one came 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:51.040 to me. So, um, jare is that vernacular? Is that correct? Vernacular? Vernacularly? Vernacularly? 0:00:52.840 --> 0:00:56.360 I told Tori before the podcast started to have from 0:00:56.400 --> 0:00:58.720 Mike ready to go, because we want a female perspective. 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:01.880 And the first question I ask her the mic is off, 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:04.040 you know, it's just clearing my throat. And I also 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:08.520 wasn't listening to you guys, but yes, sure, okay, great cool. Anyways, 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:11.480 Jared Jared at the top of this he had some 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:13.280 questions for us. He said, if you were to go 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:15.080 on a first date, he wasn't sure what kind of 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:17.120 questions he was supposed to ask on that day. And 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:18.440 I think that a lot of you guys might be 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:21.600 struggling with the same issue. So Jared was able to 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:25.200 find a wonderful piece of online literature that kind of 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:30.280 gives eighteen uh first date questions advice. Yeah, we know 0:01:30.360 --> 0:01:33.959 that first dates are they could suck, you know, not 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:35.320 as bad as suck a dating, but you know what 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:37.720 I mean, they could potentially suck, and they're just hard. 0:01:37.760 --> 0:01:39.320 There's a lot of anxiety, a lot of pressure, a 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:41.120 lot of expectations. You love the idea that you never 0:01:41.200 --> 0:01:43.120 have to go on a first date again. Yes, yeah, 0:01:43.200 --> 0:01:45.920 I mean first dates are fun because there there's a 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:49.840 little sliver of fun because you're exploring new options. There's 0:01:49.920 --> 0:01:53.040 excitement in the air. You have to kind of you know, 0:01:53.080 --> 0:01:54.960 you want to dress up, make sure you look good. 0:01:55.280 --> 0:01:58.760 But it's also just so stressful. Anytime you know, people 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:01.400 are like, oh, I'm going on a day eight tonight, Like, yeah, 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:04.320 I'm I'm watching Netflix tonight. I'm sorry you have to 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.560 do this to yourself, Tory, what about you, dud, do 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:10.239 you enjoy going on first dates? I love dates, first dates. 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:13.560 I just love any and all dates, even if they're miserable. 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:16.160 I'm like, this is so funny. I'm having such a 0:02:16.160 --> 0:02:18.920 good time. I guess we need to all be like Tori. 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:21.360 But it's because I just love people. So I'm like, 0:02:21.400 --> 0:02:23.560 if I can meet you and get to know what 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:26.160 your mom's name is, hit me every single time I 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:31.360 see you, that's for other reasons. Show up on time 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:33.400 for once in your life and things will change. What 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:34.720 about you, Gin, Are you happy you never have to 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:37.160 go on the first date again because you're married. There's 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:40.280 actually one specific moment when we were flying back from Europe. 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:43.080 But I was walking through the airport in Boston, Logan 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:46.720 Great Airport. There's banners all over the place, Bruins, Patriots, socks. 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:49.640 Everything was under construction. It was it was a nightmare. Anyways, 0:02:49.639 --> 0:02:51.480 there was there was one moment I remember I looked 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:54.560 over and I don't remember exactly what I saw, but uh, 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:56.280 I had the thought that I was like, I'm so 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:57.919 so happy. I don't have to go on a first 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:00.679 date ever again. So you didn't like or states like Tori, 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:02.880 I don't. I didn't mind them, but it's just like 0:03:03.800 --> 0:03:06.200 there is like a potential for them to go horribly wrong, 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:08.320 and there is humor in that sometimes. But it's like 0:03:08.600 --> 0:03:10.440 I just rather would not waste my time. You know, 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:12.720 I'm not I'm not twenty three like Tories anymore, so 0:03:12.760 --> 0:03:16.080 I don't really have as much time to waste. Yeah, yeah, 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:18.720 I mean I get it, but I just think it's 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:21.760 so fun, like you're meeting a tire new person and 0:03:21.800 --> 0:03:24.640 they're gonna be They're definitely a part of suck Army, 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:28.600 so terrible daters. They move in for first kiss when 0:03:28.600 --> 0:03:31.359 there's no chemistry, you you deal with. There's been a 0:03:31.360 --> 0:03:32.519 time where I went on a date and I didn't 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:34.440 realize I was on a date. You find this fun. 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:36.920 You find fun when someone goes on for a kiss 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:41.400 and you don't want it. Oh my gosh. It was 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:43.720 like having like kind of a heartfelt conversation. We were 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:48.200 taking a long walk along the beach and um then 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:50.560 like I was literally like yeah, you know, like my dad, 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:53.400 and then he just like literally like angled his neck 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:57.240 like torqued his neck to like try to kiss me, 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:00.600 and I was like, I'm literally mid conversation. So he 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:04.240 thought the my dad was an opening for she mentioned 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:06.880 her father. I'm in so then I just gave a 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:11.800 good stiff arm and I was like, what you blocked 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:14.680 the kids armed? About five guys, All these poor five guys, 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:17.679 they're scarred for life. Yeah most of what you're probably 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:20.279 NFL players too, So well then I was like, you 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:28.200 want d one athlete look at this, But yeah, no, 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:31.200 I think that was even one of my friends just 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:32.720 called me the other day and she was like, yeah, 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:35.080 like the date went amazing, Like we had great chemistry, 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:38.159 everything was amazing about it. I really liked him, but 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:40.080 he went on for the first kiss on like the 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:42.040 first date, and I just kind of stiffed armed him 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:43.960 because it was just a little bit too much. And 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:45.880 I was like, that's interesting because she felt chemistry, she 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:50.599 felt um entertained by him in great conversation. But yeah, 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:52.120 it was like, I don't really want to kiss you 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:53.640 on the first date. I'm going to go out on 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:56.320 a limb and say, Dean has never been stiffed armed. 0:04:56.360 --> 0:04:59.480 I've been stiff armed, so I don't even know how 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:03.920 to say it. STI I was speak of making the 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:06.760 way that he said stiff armed. Um, it's funny that 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:09.359 she was saying that story. And one very specific example 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:11.159 came back to my mind. I was on the first 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:15.400 date one same thing, great chemistry, wonderful conversation. Uh, and 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:17.440 at the end of it, like we both definitely wanted 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:19.520 to kiss each other, but we didn't kiss each other. 0:05:19.800 --> 0:05:22.000 And then she texted me later that night and she goes, Hey, 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:24.240 I want to let you know I wanted to kiss you, 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:27.120 but it just didn't feel something about like the first date, 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:28.320 Like you just don't kiss on the first date. Some 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:30.080 people are like that, that's fine. But then I come 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:31.800 to find out later on, like on our second day, 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:34.080 that she has kissed someone on her first date before, 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:38.120 and knowing that she had chemistry with me and didn't 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:39.640 kiss me on the first date, but then she kissed 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:41.640 someone else on the first date, that kind of didn't 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:44.520 sit right with me. Yeah, because it's hypocritical. She said 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:46.640 to you that she doesn't kiss on first dates, and 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:48.040 then she kissing someone to do it on the first 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:50.240 day and there was great chemistry there too. This is ridiculous, 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:53.000 So I got rejected. One time. It was she actually 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:55.600 I knew this girl from work and she came over 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:57.720 and we were just hanging out watching TV, and I 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:00.320 thought that there was chemistry there and and we just 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:03.080 played tennis together and all that, and then I went 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:06.240 in for the kiss, and she like, she didn't stiff 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:07.839 from me, but she kind of like did that where 0:06:07.839 --> 0:06:10.440 she moved away and then immediately I wanted to throw 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:13.080 myself down a flight of stairs. So how did you recover? 0:06:13.560 --> 0:06:16.479 I threw myself down, Yeah, and then I recovered, and 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:18.440 that's why I know. I was just like so awkward. 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.039 And then we sat down for like in the half 0:06:20.080 --> 0:06:21.960 hour and just talked, and then she left and I 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:24.800 never spoke to her again. No I didn't, but it 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:26.640 was never like I would never text her see if 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:28.159 she wanted to hang out again, because it was clear 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.680 that she wasn't interested in like a romantic relationship. I'm 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:32.919 not sure, but I wasn't going to test the waters 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:36.640 anymore because I felt so embarrassed. I didn't even want 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:41.560 to open that door up out on that one. The 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:43.279 nice thing about first dates is you just go to 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:44.960 like a bar, get a couple of beers. You both 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.960 are feeling a little bit more loose, little frisky, little lucy, 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:50.480 A little lucy, little frisky. Yeah, I don't know why 0:06:50.480 --> 0:06:52.440 I said that anyway. So this is from a Love 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:56.000 and Harmony website, which is a part of the Harmony 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:59.160 I believe. Yeah, advice from the e Harmony experts eighteen 0:06:59.200 --> 0:07:02.520 first date questions from the experts, and they talk about 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:06.039 how stressful a first date can be. So here are 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:09.640 some first daid questions. Uh. One they want you to 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:11.920 ask who are the most important people in your life? 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:14.040 You think it's a good first day question or too much? 0:07:14.120 --> 0:07:19.040 I think it's good. Excuse me, I think um a 0:07:19.400 --> 0:07:21.120 going around right now. I think what you should do 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:23.240 if you go into a first date with like premeditated 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:26.120 questions that are like oft a normal script of talking 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:28.600 to someone like that, Like you don't normally ask people 0:07:28.800 --> 0:07:30.760 who are the most influential people in your life. I 0:07:30.800 --> 0:07:32.800 think it's good to mix those types of questions with 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:35.520 like if you were in a zombie apocalypse, what weapon 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.240 would you choose? Like you have to have like a 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:39.960 little bit of mixture of serious like that and like fun, 0:07:40.160 --> 0:07:43.160 weird like critical thinking questions. I agree should you script? So? 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:45.760 Should you script questions before? So in case you need 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:48.760 like a moment, like a segue you feel the conversation lacking, 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:49.920 you can go to it. I think a lot of 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:52.080 people struggle because the first day can last reever, anywhere 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:53.720 from one hour to five hours. You know, it's like, 0:07:53.960 --> 0:07:55.680 if it's lasting five hours, it's probably going well. But 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:58.440 I think a lot of people sometimes struggle with conversation 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:01.760 filler and stupid questions like like the chainsaw one can 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:04.560 lead to a longer conversation that one. For instance, I 0:08:04.600 --> 0:08:06.800 feel like, like, I don't know, it just seems a 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:09.040 little heavy for me, but I can see the appeal. Yeah, 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:10.880 it's hard because you can't really ask people like what's 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:12.800 your relationship like with your parents because you never know 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:14.480 the status of that. So I get that, like who's 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:24.480 the most important huh one? But yeah, no, like definitely, 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:28.680 And so I get that. I get that you would 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:30.240 have like a different angle to ask, which I think 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:32.360 is creative to take in that stance. But I don't know, 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:35.520 I just feel like I would prefer more like a 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:39.200 zombie apocalypse question versus being like who has influenced you 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:41.160 the most? Because it's like that's kind of more of 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:44.120 when you're cuddling or you're like, well like the pillow 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.079 talk where you're kind of having the heavier conversation, but 0:08:46.160 --> 0:08:48.160 the dates just keep it light and it's a heavier 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:50.280 reason why they're asking. So they say, pay attention to 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:53.280 how your day answers this first question, how come more 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:56.240 likely than not they'll have an instant reaction, like my parents, 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:58.880 my college roommate, my kids. In addition to understanding the 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:01.680 other person better, this question allows you to access his 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:05.760 or her ability to form close relationships. I have a 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:07.240 Bachelor and Paradise story that I want to share with 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:08.640 you as real quick, so let's go with it. This 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:11.760 most recent season, uh, Dylan and Hannah obviously were one 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:14.320 of the couples of the season, and Caitlin and I 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.680 for however long we were on the beach for We're 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:19.559 a couple as well, and I remember I was talking 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:20.880 Dylan one day. I was like, Dylan, like, what are 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:22.480 you in Hannah talk about all the time? He goes, 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:24.920 Obviously he's gushing about her, because oh man, we talked 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.560 about everything. I was like, what's one specific thing that 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:29.320 you like asked her recently? And he goes well, I 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:32.440 just asked her what her family does for holidays. I 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:34.360 was like, that's actually like a really good question, especially 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:36.080 in that environment. You don't really you know, you can 0:09:36.080 --> 0:09:37.959 only know so much about them, So maybe that's a 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:39.400 good question for a first date. Is like what do 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:41.000 you do for the holidays? What do you what was 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:43.040 your family for the holidays? That kind of stuff, because 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:45.360 I actually really like that. Yeah, it kind of like leads, uh, 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:47.320 you to understand them a little bit better. At first 0:09:47.360 --> 0:09:48.760 I kind of judged you for thinking that was a 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:50.640 good question, but then as I got into it, you'd 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:52.920 be like, Oh, how important is you're feeling to you? 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:55.160 What do you do if we do continue this? Do 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:58.600 I need to sacrifice what my holiday plans are? There's 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:00.959 a lot of layers there. There's a question like this 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:03.640 like that on here. One of the questions is what 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:07.640 do your Saturday's usually look like? So you think that's 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:09.080 a good question, kind of get a gauge of like 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:11.959 what their weekends are like today. That's a good one too, Uh. 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:14.840 It says how discretionary time He's used says a lot 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:17.600 about a person. If she works or him works on 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:21.040 their day off, then they might be highly career oriented 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:24.120 or maybe a workaholic. Now, if he or she spends 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:26.920 the day coaching kids soccer team, it's a good bet 0:10:27.120 --> 0:10:29.760 that he or she loves sports, enjoys kids, and wants 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:33.360 to help others excel. So you can gain a lot 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:35.400 of access to that question. I would say, of the 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:36.640 people that answer that question, what do you do on 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:39.080 a Saturday, we're gonna say I don't know, I know 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:40.439 this a little bit of that, Like, that's exactly what 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:44.040 I would say. I know it's like you would say that, Yeah, 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.120 like I got my final eleven hike at Yes, somebody 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:51.920 tomorrow a hike. It's actually pretty Here's a question, what's 0:10:51.920 --> 0:10:54.720 the hardest thing you've ever done? And the scariest good 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:56.680 fair day question. I think so too. What's the hardest 0:10:56.720 --> 0:10:59.880 thing you've ever done? Dean get through six months of 0:10:59.920 --> 0:11:02.959 the podcast. That's fair Tor, that's the hardest thing I've 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:07.640 ever done. Deal with us. That is very high up there. 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:10.840 I would say my move from where I'm from, my 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:16.920 kind of like smaller town to Newport Beach would that also? Yeah? 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:21.679 I had never felt more like what is going on? 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:25.079 And I never cried more, and I don't cry. It 0:11:25.160 --> 0:11:28.160 was just lonely. You know. Another question, what's the most 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:31.719 embarrassing concert you've ever attended? I like that question. That 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:33.760 is a good question. I think you've probably win this 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:38.480 one by a landslide, right, don't say you even do 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:42.280 a lot of embarrassing concerts. Embarrassing New Kids on the 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:48.200 Block Jonas Brothers. That is the furthest from embarrassing, the 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:51.360 most embarrassing concerpt. I don't know, see this is an 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:54.079 embarrassing but I feel like people would judge me by 0:11:54.120 --> 0:11:57.480 me being like, oh, well, I've been to like twenty 0:11:57.600 --> 0:12:00.760 five Rob Thomas concerts. You know, feel like, Oh, that's 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:05.360 that's interesting. That's weird. Why you know that's interesting? Yeah, 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:07.400 that would be That's what I would say. Even though 0:12:07.440 --> 0:12:09.760 I don't find it embarrassing, I know people would be like, oh, 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:11.920 that's that's a lot. I can't that's a lot. I 0:12:11.960 --> 0:12:13.880 can't think of anything embarrassing that I've been too. Honestly, like, 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:16.360 the most embarrassing concept I ever been to was with 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:18.959 I Heart Radio? Did New Kids a littlock? Is sorry? 0:12:19.080 --> 0:12:23.120 Furthest from embarrassing? Donnie Donnie Walburg like it's all the subject. 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:25.200 He would punch you in the face. It's difference of opinion, 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:28.120 That's all it is. Wait, can we circle back? Love, 0:12:28.200 --> 0:12:30.160 my heart love? What is it saying? Don't bite the 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:32.480 hand that feeds you? Absolutely? Absolute? I just like, I'm 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:33.839 not a big top forty guy. So like, if I 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.760 see like Taylor Swifts performing a great performer, if we 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:38.839 could have seen you, you guys, have everybody been seen 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:42.200 him with Katie Perry at the Jingle Ball Oh my gosh, 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:47.080 get out of here. Was front and slousing a teenage dream, 0:12:48.120 --> 0:12:51.080 screaming his head off. It was so excited to many. 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:52.640 How many concerts a year do you go to? You 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:55.560 knew every word to fireworks first? Oh my gosh, you 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:57.920 were Yeah, you were there too. I'm trying to put 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:00.360 on a tough persona here. Okay, he started crying. I'm 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:02.240 pretty sure you started crying during How many concerts a 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:03.640 year do you go to? Let's go ahead and ball 0:13:03.679 --> 0:13:05.959 park this roight. I'm pretty lucky. I'd say at least, 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:08.240 you know, probably four or five. I'm very lucky, so 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:10.840 like one every other month for the most part. Man, 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:12.600 that seems like a lot. Actually, somewhere like three or four. 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:13.680 I thought you went to more than that. I feel 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:16.960 like you go to one a month. Uh, No, I've been. 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:19.400 I can't remember less concert i've been to. Huh. I 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:21.680 think it was Jones's Brothers back and like Thanksgiving And 0:13:21.679 --> 0:13:23.960 you're not embarrassed by that, No, because I look at 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:25.320 my wife and it's actually, you know what, it's a 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:27.280 fun time. So we went into a concert in Baltimore 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:31.079 and those people in that venue were losing their freaking 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:33.840 minds over the Jonas brothers and it was pretty cool 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:36.760 to see. Like literally the year three thousand came on 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:39.480 and everybody started jumping off and it's like that song 0:13:39.520 --> 0:13:43.560 where it's like and then everybody was like the these 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:48.720 thirty year old people like it's like, oh man, this 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:50.720 is insane. Him, I gotta go to a Joel Bro's concert. 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:52.720 I'm telling you it's a good time. Next you should 0:13:52.720 --> 0:13:54.880 be embarrassed for not going. I am. I am. Now? 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:57.559 Can we double dates one next time? I would love it, Honestly, 0:13:57.600 --> 0:13:59.160 I wouldn't mind it either. I think it'd be great. 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:01.760 Plusy we could Uh, I'm sure we can meet them. 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:03.840 We're friends with Kevin, I met, I met Kevin and 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:08.880 Joe that day. I'm good friends. O you dropped something. 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:13.880 We picked that up for you, name dropping. Yeah, anyways, 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:18.640 what are the questions for first pure? Moving on? Uh? 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:23.400 What's another question? What's your most valuable possession? Oh? The 0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:27.000 love in my heart for my friends. I mean that's 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:29.360 a good one. It says this first day question. Uh 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:33.880 breaks the ice, and I'll help you discover your dates, priorities, passions, 0:14:33.880 --> 0:14:37.320 and pursuits. Could be a photograph, classic car. Maybe it's 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:40.160 a tiny trinket that represents a cherished person or memory. 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:42.240 Putting your date on the spot might make the first 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:45.480 answer a little awkward. To let them amend the answer 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:48.080 as the night goes on. Yeah, that's a good Let 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:50.000 him amend it later on. Maybe they have some under 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:52.400 Yeah I wouldn't. I didn't, Yeah I would. I would 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:54.880 say one of mine, if not my my number one. 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:56.680 Most is the stuff simbold that I got when I 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:58.560 was a little baby. Still have it, Still sleep with 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:00.840 it every single night. And what's funny, I was actually 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:03.840 thinking about cutting one of his arms off last week, 0:15:04.640 --> 0:15:06.080 but I was wondering if it's going to still hold 0:15:06.120 --> 0:15:08.160 the same amount of sentimental value if I do that. 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:13.480 How your heart lately? Let me tell you why? Because 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:16.160 on the parachute that I have, there's this it's called 0:15:16.200 --> 0:15:19.160 like the d bag that you throw out and it 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:21.680 deploys your parents. It's a deployment back, and so you 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:23.440 can like customize it. And I was thinking about cutting 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:25.800 off Simba's arm and using Simba's arm as the thing 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:28.240 that I grabbed throw my parachute out that way, every 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:29.760 time my skyed, I'd have a piece of my most 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:31.720 prized possession with me. But then do I want to 0:15:31.760 --> 0:15:33.320 have a three like it's Simba that I sleep with 0:15:33.360 --> 0:15:35.120 every night? I don't know. I need to think about 0:15:35.120 --> 0:15:38.240 these things. You know, what's your guys? If you were 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:39.760 on a date and you heard somebody ask you to 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:43.040 tell you this story, what would be your nation? She'd 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:46.440 be like, daying this guy skydies, Yeah, I mean I would. 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:50.440 Here's the thing. It sounds morbid, but when he explains 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:52.160 it and makes sense, Yeah, I don't know, it still 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:55.120 felt work. I started because I should cut off my 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:57.400 stuff Daniel's arm, but he's also doing one of the 0:15:57.400 --> 0:15:59.760 most dangerous things you could possibly do. Maybe not dangerous, 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:01.920 but stream. I started with the head. I thought about 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:03.080 the head first, and I was like, I can't do 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:05.240 the head. That's that's a little much for me, and 0:16:05.320 --> 0:16:08.360 I snuggle with the head listen. But every night, can 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:11.040 I ask a question because I don't know this obviously 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:15.160 with Peter and everything. Rabbit a rabbit's foot is that's gone? 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:18.040 There no longer rabbit foot in a while. That's like 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:19.640 a that's the thing of a relic of the path. 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:22.200 I'm sure there are still rabbit's foots out there because 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:24.640 rabbit foot the car around key chain be good luck. Yeah, 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:27.320 I'm pretty sure it's still. I'm sure maybe not in California, 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:32.320 but if you intend some other states, bless you. Do 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:33.680 you guys have any Do you guys have any lucky 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:40.320 charms that you carry with you? Um? Just ashually? Then 0:16:40.320 --> 0:16:44.880 we're getting really really cute on this episode of Well 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:48.160 cut and Cute. Can I know why your stuffed animals 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:50.600 important to you? Like, what's the story behind it? Who 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:53.400 gave it to you? When it's like the thing that 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:55.520 I've had for the longest amount of time. I got 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:57.840 it when I was like four for Christmas Love Lion 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:01.280 King and it's twenty four year old at this point. Like, 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:02.560 how many things do you want that you can say 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:04.159 that you've had since you were like, everyone's got like 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:06.320 a baby blanket, or like a setting animal, or like 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:09.760 a something that they have from a very young age. Right, 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:11.240 do you have anything like that? You know for sure? 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:12.960 But it's in a box and I don't still sleep. 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:15.399 It's definitely trying to think I have a prize position 0:17:15.440 --> 0:17:18.159 of like it's probably some sort of Superman memorabilio that 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:19.639 I have, and like, oh my god, I got this one. 0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:22.200 I was like ten years old, you know, I wish 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:24.280 you know, what I really wish was that I got 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:28.040 something I got like Tom Brady's jersey in two thousand one, 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:29.480 who tells him too, And I'd be like, oh, I've 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:33.320 had this for nineteen twenty years, but I didn't I 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:35.480 got a Terry Glenn Patriots or twenty years ago you 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:38.640 were how old are uh? Twenty years ago? Is? Yeah, 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:39.879 I love it. So I don't think you'd be able 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:41.360 to well, I guess when you're a kid, you wear 0:17:41.359 --> 0:17:43.400 like an oversized jersey, so maybe you can. I'm not sorry. 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:45.240 I would fit in it, but it'd be like jersey 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:47.800 I got from Tales of One and he's still playing 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:50.480 at an incredibly high level. Um anyway. Uh. And then 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:54.359 we'll just do one more really random question. Uh, do 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:57.480 you have a special place that you've liked to visit regularly? Now, 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:00.320 before you answer, the reason you ask this question says, 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:03.240 we've all got our go to sports that keep luring 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:06.120 us back, whether or spots excuse me, that keep luring 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:09.880 us back, whether they're funky coffee shops, scenic hiking trails, 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:13.960 or relaxing getaway weekends. Your date may have a local 0:18:14.000 --> 0:18:17.160 park here or she frequents or European city that they've 0:18:17.160 --> 0:18:20.119