Speaker 1: Hell I Suck At Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven
Speaker 1: and I Heard radio podcast. Hello everyone, welcome to a
Speaker 1: new episode of Help I Suck at Dating. I'm the
Speaker 1: Younglert joined Well, I guess we're recording this episode from Tahoe,
Speaker 1: just like we did last week's Valentine's episode. We have
Speaker 1: Jared and Tori here, great episode for you guys. We're
Speaker 1: going to dive into a few listener emails and trying
Speaker 1: to help solve some people's dating woes that just seemed
Speaker 1: to be omnipresent. They're never not around. People are always
Speaker 1: going to be struggling with this stuff. So let's go
Speaker 1: ahead and tackle one at a time. Huh was a
Speaker 1: good word at the big words? You know? You know
Speaker 1: it's funny. Sometimes I plan to say big words, but
Speaker 1: sometimes they just come to me, and that one came
Speaker 1: to me. So, um, jare is that vernacular? Is that correct? Vernacular? Vernacularly? Vernacularly?
Speaker 1: I told Tori before the podcast started to have from
Speaker 1: Mike ready to go, because we want a female perspective.
Speaker 1: And the first question I ask her the mic is off,
Speaker 1: you know, it's just clearing my throat. And I also
Speaker 1: wasn't listening to you guys, but yes, sure, okay, great cool. Anyways,
Speaker 1: Jared Jared at the top of this he had some
Speaker 1: questions for us. He said, if you were to go
Speaker 1: on a first date, he wasn't sure what kind of
Speaker 1: questions he was supposed to ask on that day. And
Speaker 1: I think that a lot of you guys might be
Speaker 1: struggling with the same issue. So Jared was able to
Speaker 1: find a wonderful piece of online literature that kind of
Speaker 1: gives eighteen uh first date questions advice. Yeah, we know
Speaker 1: that first dates are they could suck, you know, not
Speaker 1: as bad as suck a dating, but you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, they could potentially suck, and they're just hard.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of anxiety, a lot of pressure, a
Speaker 1: lot of expectations. You love the idea that you never
Speaker 1: have to go on a first date again. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean first dates are fun because there there's a
Speaker 1: little sliver of fun because you're exploring new options. There's
Speaker 1: excitement in the air. You have to kind of you know,
Speaker 1: you want to dress up, make sure you look good.
Speaker 1: But it's also just so stressful. Anytime you know, people
Speaker 1: are like, oh, I'm going on a day eight tonight, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm watching Netflix tonight. I'm sorry you have to
Speaker 1: do this to yourself, Tory, what about you, dud, do
Speaker 1: you enjoy going on first dates? I love dates, first dates.
Speaker 1: I just love any and all dates, even if they're miserable.
Speaker 1: I'm like, this is so funny. I'm having such a
Speaker 1: good time. I guess we need to all be like Tori.
Speaker 1: But it's because I just love people. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: if I can meet you and get to know what
Speaker 1: your mom's name is, hit me every single time I
Speaker 1: see you, that's for other reasons. Show up on time
Speaker 1: for once in your life and things will change. What
Speaker 1: about you, Gin, Are you happy you never have to
Speaker 1: go on the first date again because you're married. There's
Speaker 1: actually one specific moment when we were flying back from Europe.
Speaker 1: But I was walking through the airport in Boston, Logan
Speaker 1: Great Airport. There's banners all over the place, Bruins, Patriots, socks.
Speaker 1: Everything was under construction. It was it was a nightmare. Anyways,
Speaker 1: there was there was one moment I remember I looked
Speaker 1: over and I don't remember exactly what I saw, but uh,
Speaker 1: I had the thought that I was like, I'm so
Speaker 1: so happy. I don't have to go on a first
Speaker 1: date ever again. So you didn't like or states like Tori,
Speaker 1: I don't. I didn't mind them, but it's just like
Speaker 1: there is like a potential for them to go horribly wrong,
Speaker 1: and there is humor in that sometimes. But it's like
Speaker 1: I just rather would not waste my time. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not twenty three like Tories anymore, so
Speaker 1: I don't really have as much time to waste. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I get it, but I just think it's
Speaker 1: so fun, like you're meeting a tire new person and
Speaker 1: they're gonna be They're definitely a part of suck Army,
Speaker 1: so terrible daters. They move in for first kiss when
Speaker 1: there's no chemistry, you you deal with. There's been a
Speaker 1: time where I went on a date and I didn't
Speaker 1: realize I was on a date. You find this fun.
Speaker 1: You find fun when someone goes on for a kiss
Speaker 1: and you don't want it. Oh my gosh. It was
Speaker 1: like having like kind of a heartfelt conversation. We were
Speaker 1: taking a long walk along the beach and um then
Speaker 1: like I was literally like yeah, you know, like my dad,
Speaker 1: and then he just like literally like angled his neck
Speaker 1: like torqued his neck to like try to kiss me,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm literally mid conversation. So he
Speaker 1: thought the my dad was an opening for she mentioned
Speaker 1: her father. I'm in so then I just gave a
Speaker 1: good stiff arm and I was like, what you blocked
Speaker 1: the kids armed? About five guys, All these poor five guys,
Speaker 1: they're scarred for life. Yeah most of what you're probably
Speaker 1: NFL players too, So well then I was like, you
Speaker 1: want d one athlete look at this, But yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I think that was even one of my friends just
Speaker 1: called me the other day and she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: like the date went amazing, Like we had great chemistry,
Speaker 1: everything was amazing about it. I really liked him, but
Speaker 1: he went on for the first kiss on like the
Speaker 1: first date, and I just kind of stiffed armed him
Speaker 1: because it was just a little bit too much. And
Speaker 1: I was like, that's interesting because she felt chemistry, she
Speaker 1: felt um entertained by him in great conversation. But yeah,
Speaker 1: it was like, I don't really want to kiss you
Speaker 1: on the first date. I'm going to go out on
Speaker 1: a limb and say, Dean has never been stiffed armed.
Speaker 1: I've been stiff armed, so I don't even know how
Speaker 1: to say it. STI I was speak of making the
Speaker 1: way that he said stiff armed. Um, it's funny that
Speaker 1: she was saying that story. And one very specific example
Speaker 1: came back to my mind. I was on the first
Speaker 1: date one same thing, great chemistry, wonderful conversation. Uh, and
Speaker 1: at the end of it, like we both definitely wanted
Speaker 1: to kiss each other, but we didn't kiss each other.
Speaker 1: And then she texted me later that night and she goes, Hey,
Speaker 1: I want to let you know I wanted to kiss you,
Speaker 1: but it just didn't feel something about like the first date,
Speaker 1: Like you just don't kiss on the first date. Some
Speaker 1: people are like that, that's fine. But then I come
Speaker 1: to find out later on, like on our second day,
Speaker 1: that she has kissed someone on her first date before,
Speaker 1: and knowing that she had chemistry with me and didn't
Speaker 1: kiss me on the first date, but then she kissed
Speaker 1: someone else on the first date, that kind of didn't
Speaker 1: sit right with me. Yeah, because it's hypocritical. She said
Speaker 1: to you that she doesn't kiss on first dates, and
Speaker 1: then she kissing someone to do it on the first
Speaker 1: day and there was great chemistry there too. This is ridiculous,
Speaker 1: So I got rejected. One time. It was she actually
Speaker 1: I knew this girl from work and she came over
Speaker 1: and we were just hanging out watching TV, and I
Speaker 1: thought that there was chemistry there and and we just
Speaker 1: played tennis together and all that, and then I went
Speaker 1: in for the kiss, and she like, she didn't stiff
Speaker 1: from me, but she kind of like did that where
Speaker 1: she moved away and then immediately I wanted to throw
Speaker 1: myself down a flight of stairs. So how did you recover?
Speaker 1: I threw myself down, Yeah, and then I recovered, and
Speaker 1: that's why I know. I was just like so awkward.
Speaker 1: And then we sat down for like in the half
Speaker 1: hour and just talked, and then she left and I
Speaker 1: never spoke to her again. No I didn't, but it
Speaker 1: was never like I would never text her see if
Speaker 1: she wanted to hang out again, because it was clear
Speaker 1: that she wasn't interested in like a romantic relationship. I'm
Speaker 1: not sure, but I wasn't going to test the waters
Speaker 1: anymore because I felt so embarrassed. I didn't even want
Speaker 1: to open that door up out on that one. The
Speaker 1: nice thing about first dates is you just go to
Speaker 1: like a bar, get a couple of beers. You both
Speaker 1: are feeling a little bit more loose, little frisky, little lucy,
Speaker 1: A little lucy, little frisky. Yeah, I don't know why
Speaker 1: I said that anyway. So this is from a Love
Speaker 1: and Harmony website, which is a part of the Harmony
Speaker 1: I believe. Yeah, advice from the e Harmony experts eighteen
Speaker 1: first date questions from the experts, and they talk about
Speaker 1: how stressful a first date can be. So here are
Speaker 1: some first daid questions. Uh. One they want you to
Speaker 1: ask who are the most important people in your life?
Speaker 1: You think it's a good first day question or too much?
Speaker 1: I think it's good. Excuse me, I think um a
Speaker 1: going around right now. I think what you should do
Speaker 1: if you go into a first date with like premeditated
Speaker 1: questions that are like oft a normal script of talking
Speaker 1: to someone like that, Like you don't normally ask people
Speaker 1: who are the most influential people in your life. I
Speaker 1: think it's good to mix those types of questions with
Speaker 1: like if you were in a zombie apocalypse, what weapon
Speaker 1: would you choose? Like you have to have like a
Speaker 1: little bit of mixture of serious like that and like fun,
Speaker 1: weird like critical thinking questions. I agree should you script? So?
Speaker 1: Should you script questions before? So in case you need
Speaker 1: like a moment, like a segue you feel the conversation lacking,
Speaker 1: you can go to it. I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people struggle because the first day can last reever, anywhere
Speaker 1: from one hour to five hours. You know, it's like,
Speaker 1: if it's lasting five hours, it's probably going well. But
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people sometimes struggle with conversation
Speaker 1: filler and stupid questions like like the chainsaw one can
Speaker 1: lead to a longer conversation that one. For instance, I
Speaker 1: feel like, like, I don't know, it just seems a
Speaker 1: little heavy for me, but I can see the appeal. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's hard because you can't really ask people like what's
Speaker 1: your relationship like with your parents because you never know
Speaker 1: the status of that. So I get that, like who's
Speaker 1: the most important huh one? But yeah, no, like definitely,
Speaker 1: And so I get that. I get that you would
Speaker 1: have like a different angle to ask, which I think
Speaker 1: is creative to take in that stance. But I don't know,
Speaker 1: I just feel like I would prefer more like a
Speaker 1: zombie apocalypse question versus being like who has influenced you
Speaker 1: the most? Because it's like that's kind of more of
Speaker 1: when you're cuddling or you're like, well like the pillow
Speaker 1: talk where you're kind of having the heavier conversation, but
Speaker 1: the dates just keep it light and it's a heavier
Speaker 1: reason why they're asking. So they say, pay attention to
Speaker 1: how your day answers this first question, how come more
Speaker 1: likely than not they'll have an instant reaction, like my parents,
Speaker 1: my college roommate, my kids. In addition to understanding the
Speaker 1: other person better, this question allows you to access his
Speaker 1: or her ability to form close relationships. I have a
Speaker 1: Bachelor and Paradise story that I want to share with
Speaker 1: you as real quick, so let's go with it. This
Speaker 1: most recent season, uh, Dylan and Hannah obviously were one
Speaker 1: of the couples of the season, and Caitlin and I
Speaker 1: for however long we were on the beach for We're
Speaker 1: a couple as well, and I remember I was talking
Speaker 1: Dylan one day. I was like, Dylan, like, what are
Speaker 1: you in Hannah talk about all the time? He goes,
Speaker 1: Obviously he's gushing about her, because oh man, we talked
Speaker 1: about everything. I was like, what's one specific thing that
Speaker 1: you like asked her recently? And he goes well, I
Speaker 1: just asked her what her family does for holidays. I
Speaker 1: was like, that's actually like a really good question, especially
Speaker 1: in that environment. You don't really you know, you can
Speaker 1: only know so much about them, So maybe that's a
Speaker 1: good question for a first date. Is like what do
Speaker 1: you do for the holidays? What do you what was
Speaker 1: your family for the holidays? That kind of stuff, because
Speaker 1: I actually really like that. Yeah, it kind of like leads, uh,
Speaker 1: you to understand them a little bit better. At first
Speaker 1: I kind of judged you for thinking that was a
Speaker 1: good question, but then as I got into it, you'd
Speaker 1: be like, Oh, how important is you're feeling to you?
Speaker 1: What do you do if we do continue this? Do
Speaker 1: I need to sacrifice what my holiday plans are? There's
Speaker 1: a lot of layers there. There's a question like this
Speaker 1: like that on here. One of the questions is what
Speaker 1: do your Saturday's usually look like? So you think that's
Speaker 1: a good question, kind of get a gauge of like
Speaker 1: what their weekends are like today. That's a good one too, Uh.
Speaker 1: It says how discretionary time He's used says a lot
Speaker 1: about a person. If she works or him works on
Speaker 1: their day off, then they might be highly career oriented
Speaker 1: or maybe a workaholic. Now, if he or she spends
Speaker 1: the day coaching kids soccer team, it's a good bet
Speaker 1: that he or she loves sports, enjoys kids, and wants
Speaker 1: to help others excel. So you can gain a lot
Speaker 1: of access to that question. I would say, of the
Speaker 1: people that answer that question, what do you do on
Speaker 1: a Saturday, we're gonna say I don't know, I know
Speaker 1: this a little bit of that, Like, that's exactly what
Speaker 1: I would say. I know it's like you would say that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: like I got my final eleven hike at Yes, somebody
Speaker 1: tomorrow a hike. It's actually pretty Here's a question, what's
Speaker 1: the hardest thing you've ever done? And the scariest good
Speaker 1: fair day question. I think so too. What's the hardest
Speaker 1: thing you've ever done? Dean get through six months of
Speaker 1: the podcast. That's fair Tor, that's the hardest thing I've
Speaker 1: ever done. Deal with us. That is very high up there.
Speaker 1: I would say my move from where I'm from, my
Speaker 1: kind of like smaller town to Newport Beach would that also? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I had never felt more like what is going on?
Speaker 1: And I never cried more, and I don't cry. It
Speaker 1: was just lonely. You know. Another question, what's the most
Speaker 1: embarrassing concert you've ever attended? I like that question. That
Speaker 1: is a good question. I think you've probably win this
Speaker 1: one by a landslide, right, don't say you even do
Speaker 1: a lot of embarrassing concerts. Embarrassing New Kids on the
Speaker 1: Block Jonas Brothers. That is the furthest from embarrassing, the
Speaker 1: most embarrassing concerpt. I don't know, see this is an
Speaker 1: embarrassing but I feel like people would judge me by
Speaker 1: me being like, oh, well, I've been to like twenty
Speaker 1: five Rob Thomas concerts. You know, feel like, Oh, that's
Speaker 1: that's interesting. That's weird. Why you know that's interesting? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that would be That's what I would say. Even though
Speaker 1: I don't find it embarrassing, I know people would be like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's that's a lot. I can't that's a lot. I
Speaker 1: can't think of anything embarrassing that I've been too. Honestly, like,
Speaker 1: the most embarrassing concept I ever been to was with
Speaker 1: I Heart Radio? Did New Kids a littlock? Is sorry?
Speaker 1: Furthest from embarrassing? Donnie Donnie Walburg like it's all the subject.
Speaker 1: He would punch you in the face. It's difference of opinion,
Speaker 1: That's all it is. Wait, can we circle back? Love,
Speaker 1: my heart love? What is it saying? Don't bite the
Speaker 1: hand that feeds you? Absolutely? Absolute? I just like, I'm
Speaker 1: not a big top forty guy. So like, if I
Speaker 1: see like Taylor Swifts performing a great performer, if we
Speaker 1: could have seen you, you guys, have everybody been seen
Speaker 1: him with Katie Perry at the Jingle Ball Oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: get out of here. Was front and slousing a teenage dream,
Speaker 1: screaming his head off. It was so excited to many.
Speaker 1: How many concerts a year do you go to? You
Speaker 1: knew every word to fireworks first? Oh my gosh, you
Speaker 1: were Yeah, you were there too. I'm trying to put
Speaker 1: on a tough persona here. Okay, he started crying. I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure you started crying during How many concerts a
Speaker 1: year do you go to? Let's go ahead and ball
Speaker 1: park this roight. I'm pretty lucky. I'd say at least,
Speaker 1: you know, probably four or five. I'm very lucky, so
Speaker 1: like one every other month for the most part. Man,
Speaker 1: that seems like a lot. Actually, somewhere like three or four.
Speaker 1: I thought you went to more than that. I feel
Speaker 1: like you go to one a month. Uh, No, I've been.
Speaker 1: I can't remember less concert i've been to. Huh. I
Speaker 1: think it was Jones's Brothers back and like Thanksgiving And
Speaker 1: you're not embarrassed by that, No, because I look at
Speaker 1: my wife and it's actually, you know what, it's a
Speaker 1: fun time. So we went into a concert in Baltimore
Speaker 1: and those people in that venue were losing their freaking
Speaker 1: minds over the Jonas brothers and it was pretty cool
Speaker 1: to see. Like literally the year three thousand came on
Speaker 1: and everybody started jumping off and it's like that song
Speaker 1: where it's like and then everybody was like the these
Speaker 1: thirty year old people like it's like, oh man, this
Speaker 1: is insane. Him, I gotta go to a Joel Bro's concert.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you it's a good time. Next you should
Speaker 1: be embarrassed for not going. I am. I am. Now?
Speaker 1: Can we double dates one next time? I would love it, Honestly,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't mind it either. I think it'd be great.
Speaker 1: Plusy we could Uh, I'm sure we can meet them.
Speaker 1: We're friends with Kevin, I met, I met Kevin and
Speaker 1: Joe that day. I'm good friends. O you dropped something.
Speaker 1: We picked that up for you, name dropping. Yeah, anyways,
Speaker 1: what are the questions for first pure? Moving on? Uh?
Speaker 1: What's another question? What's your most valuable possession? Oh? The
Speaker 1: love in my heart for my friends. I mean that's
Speaker 1: a good one. It says this first day question. Uh
Speaker 1: breaks the ice, and I'll help you discover your dates, priorities, passions,
Speaker 1: and pursuits. Could be a photograph, classic car. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: a tiny trinket that represents a cherished person or memory.
Speaker 1: Putting your date on the spot might make the first
Speaker 1: answer a little awkward. To let them amend the answer
Speaker 1: as the night goes on. Yeah, that's a good Let
Speaker 1: him amend it later on. Maybe they have some under
Speaker 1: Yeah I wouldn't. I didn't, Yeah I would. I would
Speaker 1: say one of mine, if not my my number one.
Speaker 1: Most is the stuff simbold that I got when I
Speaker 1: was a little baby. Still have it, Still sleep with
Speaker 1: it every single night. And what's funny, I was actually
Speaker 1: thinking about cutting one of his arms off last week,
Speaker 1: but I was wondering if it's going to still hold
Speaker 1: the same amount of sentimental value if I do that.
Speaker 1: How your heart lately? Let me tell you why? Because
Speaker 1: on the parachute that I have, there's this it's called
Speaker 1: like the d bag that you throw out and it
Speaker 1: deploys your parents. It's a deployment back, and so you
Speaker 1: can like customize it. And I was thinking about cutting
Speaker 1: off Simba's arm and using Simba's arm as the thing
Speaker 1: that I grabbed throw my parachute out that way, every
Speaker 1: time my skyed, I'd have a piece of my most
Speaker 1: prized possession with me. But then do I want to
Speaker 1: have a three like it's Simba that I sleep with
Speaker 1: every night? I don't know. I need to think about
Speaker 1: these things. You know, what's your guys? If you were
Speaker 1: on a date and you heard somebody ask you to
Speaker 1: tell you this story, what would be your nation? She'd
Speaker 1: be like, daying this guy skydies, Yeah, I mean I would.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. It sounds morbid, but when he explains
Speaker 1: it and makes sense, Yeah, I don't know, it still
Speaker 1: felt work. I started because I should cut off my
Speaker 1: stuff Daniel's arm, but he's also doing one of the
Speaker 1: most dangerous things you could possibly do. Maybe not dangerous,
Speaker 1: but stream. I started with the head. I thought about
Speaker 1: the head first, and I was like, I can't do
Speaker 1: the head. That's that's a little much for me, and
Speaker 1: I snuggle with the head listen. But every night, can
Speaker 1: I ask a question because I don't know this obviously
Speaker 1: with Peter and everything. Rabbit a rabbit's foot is that's gone?
Speaker 1: There no longer rabbit foot in a while. That's like
Speaker 1: a that's the thing of a relic of the path.
Speaker 1: I'm sure there are still rabbit's foots out there because
Speaker 1: rabbit foot the car around key chain be good luck. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure it's still. I'm sure maybe not in California,
Speaker 1: but if you intend some other states, bless you. Do
Speaker 1: you guys have any Do you guys have any lucky
Speaker 1: charms that you carry with you? Um? Just ashually? Then
Speaker 1: we're getting really really cute on this episode of Well
Speaker 1: cut and Cute. Can I know why your stuffed animals
Speaker 1: important to you? Like, what's the story behind it? Who
Speaker 1: gave it to you? When it's like the thing that
Speaker 1: I've had for the longest amount of time. I got
Speaker 1: it when I was like four for Christmas Love Lion
Speaker 1: King and it's twenty four year old at this point. Like,
Speaker 1: how many things do you want that you can say
Speaker 1: that you've had since you were like, everyone's got like
Speaker 1: a baby blanket, or like a setting animal, or like
Speaker 1: a something that they have from a very young age. Right,
Speaker 1: do you have anything like that? You know for sure?
Speaker 1: But it's in a box and I don't still sleep.
Speaker 1: It's definitely trying to think I have a prize position
Speaker 1: of like it's probably some sort of Superman memorabilio that
Speaker 1: I have, and like, oh my god, I got this one.
Speaker 1: I was like ten years old, you know, I wish
Speaker 1: you know, what I really wish was that I got
Speaker 1: something I got like Tom Brady's jersey in two thousand one,
Speaker 1: who tells him too, And I'd be like, oh, I've
Speaker 1: had this for nineteen twenty years, but I didn't I
Speaker 1: got a Terry Glenn Patriots or twenty years ago you
Speaker 1: were how old are uh? Twenty years ago? Is? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I love it. So I don't think you'd be able
Speaker 1: to well, I guess when you're a kid, you wear
Speaker 1: like an oversized jersey, so maybe you can. I'm not sorry.
Speaker 1: I would fit in it, but it'd be like jersey
Speaker 1: I got from Tales of One and he's still playing
Speaker 1: at an incredibly high level. Um anyway. Uh. And then
Speaker 1: we'll just do one more really random question. Uh, do
Speaker 1: you have a special place that you've liked to visit regularly? Now,
Speaker 1: before you answer, the reason you ask this question says,
Speaker 1: we've all got our go to sports that keep luring
Speaker 1: us back, whether or spots excuse me, that keep luring
Speaker 1: us back, whether they're funky coffee shops, scenic hiking trails,
Speaker 1: or relaxing getaway weekends. Your date may have a local
Speaker 1: park here or she frequents or European city that they've
Speaker 1: been to regularly. Learning where your partner likes to go
Speaker 1: will provide insight into the person's taste and temperament. Really
Speaker 1: good question. Do you guys want to answer that? First?
Speaker 1: Rhode Island Rhoe Island. Of course, your family toys just
Speaker 1: gonna be like yo semite or something. For sure, yo
Speaker 1: semite because I grew up having family unions there every year.
Speaker 1: And then also now that I don't live there in
Speaker 1: my hometown of Grass Valley, because it's just like that's
Speaker 1: North California. It's like outside of like Tahoe area. Close. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're really close for about forty five minutes. Did you
Speaker 1: why don't you stay there and then come here to
Speaker 1: squaw where we are now, like, did why why would
Speaker 1: you not go home and hang out? Are you just
Speaker 1: do you want me to just leave now? Well? Why
Speaker 1: don't you could have like came a couple of days
Speaker 1: early or something. Yeah, I don't know. I mean, given
Speaker 1: I work, so it's not the easiest thing to work. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you would never know a foreign concept to us. I know.
Speaker 1: It's just there's such a thing as ours and um
Speaker 1: full time, I get it. There's like two o'clock, there's
Speaker 1: three o'clock, so now there's half o'clock, like four thirty. Yeah,
Speaker 1: or like a quarter of o'clock, which is like three seventeen. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a little more. Yeah, you know, I see what
Speaker 1: you're saying. I was trying think that Dumb and Dumber
Speaker 1: quote where they're like where he says it's like a
Speaker 1: quarter until whatever. You can't think what it is. Jared
Speaker 1: knows this. I can't think of it either. But that's
Speaker 1: why I got quiet, because I was like, what anyway,
Speaker 1: I'll think of it later. Do you have a spot team?
Speaker 1: I was trying to think. I don't think I really
Speaker 1: do you know? It's a funny tour said? Your answer
Speaker 1: was your Semite and Dean is wearing a Yosemite hat. Yeah,
Speaker 1: would you like I should have got that. I'm sure
Speaker 1: you already have a bunch of Yosemiti memorabilia, but I
Speaker 1: should have gotten you. Yeah, I saw you gave Valentine's
Speaker 1: Day gifts to other people besides literally just been because
Speaker 1: I haven't seen him in so long, and I what
Speaker 1: the hell did you give Ben? I didn't see this.
Speaker 1: I got him a couple of cigars. I got him
Speaker 1: a couple of golf balls, a pen with his name
Speaker 1: on it. Pretty cool about Wow? Yeah, that's a pretty
Speaker 1: nice gift. I gotta say it myself. Um, a spot
Speaker 1: that I go maybe just the beach. It doesn't have
Speaker 1: to be any particular beach. I just like to go
Speaker 1: be near the water. Yeah. What is it about being
Speaker 1: by the water. I don't know. I feel like so
Speaker 1: many people, including myself, love being by the water. Is
Speaker 1: it just the Is it being by mother nature? Maybe
Speaker 1: it's just like in the awe of the ocean. I
Speaker 1: think that we don't often get a bee next to
Speaker 1: something that's so big, and the ocean is just like
Speaker 1: such a hard concept to grasp the size of it.
Speaker 1: And I also think there might be something too, depending
Speaker 1: on what you believe about us maybe being from the water.
Speaker 1: Sure like us as organisms forming within the body of water,
Speaker 1: like we we made it with fish a couple of
Speaker 1: generations ago, you know. Um yeah, yeah, I think that
Speaker 1: it just grounds you. You know, you get a lot
Speaker 1: of you gonna like take your shoes off, put your
Speaker 1: feet in the sand. You get to like kind of
Speaker 1: re recalibrate your whole uh being, you're you know, you're
Speaker 1: being Yeah, Um, I agree. I mean so it's a
Speaker 1: pretty interesting There's a lot more uh questions, what's your
Speaker 1: signature drink, what's the best meal you've ever had? And
Speaker 1: they also say some tips for first dates listen as
Speaker 1: much or more than you talk. Don't forget that listening
Speaker 1: is a very important part of the first date. I
Speaker 1: want to say, uh, to add on that is that's
Speaker 1: definitely something that I've noticed back when I was going
Speaker 1: on dates, is uh, people love for the most part,
Speaker 1: people all they can easily talk about themselves, and they
Speaker 1: want to talk about themselves. So if you consistently ask
Speaker 1: some questions about themselves, like these ones that you've been
Speaker 1: bringing up. Um, that in my opinion and my experience
Speaker 1: is how dates go well is when the other person
Speaker 1: is talking most of the time. They're always going to
Speaker 1: leave that day thinking, well, like, I really had a
Speaker 1: good time on that day because I was able to
Speaker 1: share so much. So keep the people, keep the person talking,
Speaker 1: and stay interested in the things that they're saying. They
Speaker 1: also say, peel the onion, don't stab it with a
Speaker 1: pairing knife. Getting to know someone new is like peeling
Speaker 1: an onion one thin layer at a time. Some people
Speaker 1: are over eager to get into deep and meaningful conversations,
Speaker 1: go too far, too fast, and so they say, you know,
Speaker 1: start with nice, easy going questions just to getting to
Speaker 1: know each other before you start asking really more in
Speaker 1: depth questions. Um, you don't want to just go right
Speaker 1: like zero to nah nah. So there we go. Some
Speaker 1: tips for anybody listening to this podcast that potentially might
Speaker 1: be going on a first date. I think a lot
Speaker 1: of people that do that that goes year to a hundred,
Speaker 1: like that stabbed the onion per se. Those are the
Speaker 1: ones that are like, I really want to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship, And that's when you can kind of sense
Speaker 1: that and it comes off almost desperate. Desperate. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: absolutely so don't do that. So you peel the onion,
Speaker 1: don't stab it, don't stab, don't stab the onion. Um. So,
Speaker 1: do we want to do most Google dating questions or
Speaker 1: we want to get into emails, Let's get into emails.
Speaker 1: But before we get into emails. Uh. And you guys
Speaker 1: are not gonna want to miss these emails because every
Speaker 1: week I suckle Dating at I hurt media dot com
Speaker 1: we received a bunch of juicy ones, a bunch of
Speaker 1: good ones, and we want to receive more. So if
Speaker 1: you have any more questions, experiences that you're unsure about
Speaker 1: or just want to share because they're hilarious or weird,
Speaker 1: I cucu dating at I hurt media dot com, please
Speaker 1: email us. We love talking about them, but they are interesting.
Speaker 1: Tori is gonna help us answer tom. Tori described these
Speaker 1: emails as extra juicy today. That's how she said in
Speaker 1: the pre meeting hour and a half talk we had
Speaker 1: before we go on every podcast. Obviously, because we take
Speaker 1: this very serious, we do. We certainly do so extra
Speaker 1: ju see emails coming up. Be sure to stick around
Speaker 1: for those. We'll be right back, all right, and we
Speaker 1: are back with some extra juicy emails. Um, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go ahead and read the first one. Guys, I it
Speaker 1: stinks not having Mark here because Mark just it's such
Speaker 1: a good reading voice. It's just so hard to compare
Speaker 1: because he's so good at it. You do your best
Speaker 1: market before core you're great as well. But there's only
Speaker 1: one Mark link Mark my Mark. What the hell did
Speaker 1: I say? Molansen? Is that a baseball player? I feel
Speaker 1: like Mr Molansen? Uh? Yeah, So we have an email
Speaker 1: from LEXI. I'm going to read this. We're just gonna alternate. Uh.
Speaker 1: And then at the end of this podcast, actually, let's
Speaker 1: do this. We're all going to read one email from
Speaker 1: a listener at the end of this podcast, email us
Speaker 1: at I Second Dating at iHeart media dot com and
Speaker 1: tell us which of us you preferred to read the emails?
Speaker 1: Because please please, because I'm always helf conscious about it.
Speaker 1: I think you have a great It's it's funny. So
Speaker 1: Jared and I think we can talk about this. We
Speaker 1: acted quote unquote acted in a commercial about a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks ago for the movie Love. Promercial comes off
Speaker 1: very soon. We're very excited for a movie and Jared
Speaker 1: and Ashley's acting ability is so far superior. To mine.
Speaker 1: There was for a good year, year and a half,
Speaker 1: two years there was there was mold funny I'm joking.
Speaker 1: There were multiple instances where you guys were just having
Speaker 1: a conversation, and it took me like five seconds to
Speaker 1: be like, oh, we're in a scene right now. Like
Speaker 1: I literally thought that you guys were just having a
Speaker 1: conversation with each other, and then it took me so
Speaker 1: much time to figure out that you guys were actually
Speaker 1: you were acting at the time. It pretty much happens
Speaker 1: every week on this podcast. We're like talking for eight
Speaker 1: minutes and you're like, oh my god, recording recording, No.
Speaker 1: But I was like I was, I was genuinely impressed,
Speaker 1: and I think that ability that you have is gonna
Speaker 1: uh yeah. Anyways, this one, this source is from Lexi
Speaker 1: and Alexei says, so this isn't a dating question, but
Speaker 1: I really need a man's opinion. I'm twenty two, my
Speaker 1: brother is twenty five. We grew up constantly bickering with
Speaker 1: a love hate relationship, as most siblings do, but he's
Speaker 1: always been closed off. Our parents are divorced for about
Speaker 1: six years, and my brother and I went through a
Speaker 1: very hard time because of the divorce fast forward, and
Speaker 1: now he just got engaged and is getting married this December.
Speaker 1: My family loves his fiance, and she and I got
Speaker 1: close very quickly. However, my brother has increasingly shut himself
Speaker 1: off from my family and only makes time for his
Speaker 1: fiance's family. I recently told him how hurt this makes us,
Speaker 1: and its spirals from there, with him telling my mom
Speaker 1: and I that he doesn't want to be around drama.
Speaker 1: I've told him how I feel, my mom has told
Speaker 1: him how he feels, how she feels, and my stepdad
Speaker 1: has too. We're currently not speaking to him and he's
Speaker 1: not speaking to us. Do I just move past this?
Speaker 1: Do I tried talking to him again? I feel helpless
Speaker 1: and I don't even feel like he's my brother anymore. So,
Speaker 1: long story short, she has a brother, Her brother's engaged.
Speaker 1: Her engaged brother focuses on his fiance's family and no
Speaker 1: longer speaks to their family, and she's upset about it.
Speaker 1: My advice would be trying to move past this and
Speaker 1: talk to your brother again, because I think, Lexie, you're
Speaker 1: going to regret this one day, especially if you go
Speaker 1: a long extended period of time with how talking to him.
Speaker 1: I know he probably you're probably mad at him, and
Speaker 1: he's probably making a mistake by spending more time with
Speaker 1: his fiance family than rather than his own family. But
Speaker 1: try to big, to be the bigger person, because I
Speaker 1: guarantee you if this goes longer and all of a
Speaker 1: sudden it spirals into a ten year span of you
Speaker 1: not talking to each other, I feel like you're going
Speaker 1: to really regret it because unfortunately we only have very
Speaker 1: limited time on this earth. Um, So maybe my advice
Speaker 1: would be, as much as it sucks, swallow your pride
Speaker 1: and try to reach back out. Yeah, it would suck
Speaker 1: to uh to not go to his wedding right, and
Speaker 1: then a couple of years later, be like dang, and
Speaker 1: like maybe like in five years they somehow recover the relationship,
Speaker 1: but it's too late to have obviously go back in
Speaker 1: time and go to the wedding right. So it's like
Speaker 1: figure it out now, so that way you can be
Speaker 1: there for him during that moment. And especially if if
Speaker 1: she's close with the fiance, maybe she can just continue
Speaker 1: to grow the relationship with their family and then by association,
Speaker 1: her and her brother will go close. Or Lexi can
Speaker 1: reach out to the fiance and kind of explain the
Speaker 1: situation and see if the fiance they can help in
Speaker 1: any way. I my recommendation would be to not bring
Speaker 1: up how they feel anymore and make it like, how
Speaker 1: can we help you with the wedding to make it
Speaker 1: less stressful? How can we help you, um, plan the
Speaker 1: rehearsal dinner? What would you like for the rehearsal dinner?
Speaker 1: Because I know that the the groom plans the rehearsal dinner,
Speaker 1: So just being like, how can we be more hands
Speaker 1: on with that? Do you need me to do invites?
Speaker 1: And just come along it in that way where you're
Speaker 1: not even addressing obviously he clearly understands how she and
Speaker 1: her family feels and that would be so hard, but
Speaker 1: addressing it in a way of just hey, we're not
Speaker 1: attacking you anymore, like how can we just help? Yea,
Speaker 1: So make it known that you want to reach back
Speaker 1: out without saying, hey, I want to fix this, because
Speaker 1: like you said, if you reach out and ask if
Speaker 1: they need help with the wedding, that already just like
Speaker 1: no emotions. Just make it how can we help? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Because that that makes it known that you're reaching out
Speaker 1: that you want to talk exactly and if you will
Speaker 1: most likely be like, yes, please help us as like
Speaker 1: wedding planning, you guys, you know not you guys you
Speaker 1: know how crazy wedding do you know? Oh yeah, that's
Speaker 1: a good point. Do you guys have any strained relationships
Speaker 1: with siblings or family members? Yeah, but uncle's odds that
Speaker 1: I've I knew as a kid in growing up, but
Speaker 1: you know, in my adulthood, I don't really informed any
Speaker 1: close relationships with But yeah, I've had two family members
Speaker 1: disown themselves from the families. But just like I said, like,
Speaker 1: I wasn't I mean, I wasn't super close to them,
Speaker 1: just family cookouts and things of that nature. Tori, No,
Speaker 1: not at all, like even extended family. I'm extremely blessed
Speaker 1: in that route. Hashtag blessed. My sister got married and
Speaker 1: well she it's not that she didn't invite us to
Speaker 1: the wedding. She had like a courtroom wedding, so none
Speaker 1: of us were there. Well, she invited me, but she
Speaker 1: was like, hey, my wedding is in four days. Uh
Speaker 1: do you want to come? And I was like, well no,
Speaker 1: I've got this was like a long time. I was like, no,
Speaker 1: you gotta work. I can't be in Seattle in four
Speaker 1: days for the wedding. Uh. I would never say that
Speaker 1: we have anyone in my family has a strained relationship,
Speaker 1: but I would say that for Lexi if she has
Speaker 1: the ability to mend the relationship, especially before the wedding
Speaker 1: because it's such a special time. Jaredy can attest that
Speaker 1: because he's married, make sure you mend the relationship and
Speaker 1: try to be at the wedding to support both your
Speaker 1: friend and your brother. You know what's funny about the
Speaker 1: dean coming to my wedding. So you were flying in
Speaker 1: on a Friday, and then the wedding was on a Sunday,
Speaker 1: and I remember you texted me and he said, hey, man,
Speaker 1: my flight got rerouted, Like he was supposed to fly
Speaker 1: to Providence and you were going to be at the
Speaker 1: boat for five o'clock. But uh you texted me. You're like, dude,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry my flight got rerouted. I was golfing
Speaker 1: with my dad at the time. It was in the morning,
Speaker 1: and you were like, so I'm flying into Bossom, but
Speaker 1: I don't land until seven and then I have to
Speaker 1: drive down and he was trying to figure all this stuff.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, that sucks. I can't
Speaker 1: believe your flight got reroutted. I felt so bad, and
Speaker 1: I was like, I can have somebody come pick you up,
Speaker 1: and you're like, no, don't worry about it, like I'll
Speaker 1: figure it out. You just enjoyed and so anyway, so
Speaker 1: I felt so bad the day of I was like, man,
Speaker 1: that sucks. And then Saturday comes and we start talking,
Speaker 1: or maybe it was after I think it was after
Speaker 1: the wedding was over, and I was like, man, it
Speaker 1: was crazy that I can't believe they rerouted your flight
Speaker 1: from the Providence Report to the Boston Airport, Like I
Speaker 1: I hardly ever hear that unless it's so bad landing
Speaker 1: conditions that they can't do it. And it was beautiful
Speaker 1: that day, and so you were like, I lied, I
Speaker 1: I just missed my flight and I felt really bad
Speaker 1: to tell you. So I just made up this story
Speaker 1: about how my flight got reroutted. But I made it.
Speaker 1: You made it exactly you were. It was so funny
Speaker 1: when I found that out, because you your your text
Speaker 1: it was so detail oriented. I mean, it was It
Speaker 1: was very sweet that you felt so bad that you
Speaker 1: had to tell meself how I missed my flight. I
Speaker 1: think maybe one out with it was early. You had
Speaker 1: like a because you booked like a seven am flight
Speaker 1: at the lay over in Atlanta and it got into
Speaker 1: Rhode Island like a three. Yeah, it was. You got
Speaker 1: in like right around the same time. I think bend
Speaker 1: or something. But I made it, and I would made it.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have missed it for the world. And to Lexi,
Speaker 1: I don't think that you should miss anyone close person's wedding. Yes,
Speaker 1: I agree, even if you quote unquote get rewarded. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just don't cancel the flight. Don't cancel the flight, Lexi. Um,
Speaker 1: this email is from Lindsay. Here we go, Here we go.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try to do my best. Mark You guys
Speaker 1: are the best. Hopefully you don't take this personally. Men
Speaker 1: and boys are the worst. I truly, I truly do
Speaker 1: not understand. Lindsay does not understand men and boys. Dean
Speaker 1: and I are boys. So we'll try to get a
Speaker 1: man on this podcast. So I went out one weekend
Speaker 1: with my brother and his friends. I'm super close with
Speaker 1: my brother and met one of his close friends for
Speaker 1: the first time this particular night. He was cool and
Speaker 1: we hit it off. And hung out the whole night
Speaker 1: pretty much. I wanted to go home because I didn't
Speaker 1: know this guy that well and him at the stage
Speaker 1: in my life where I'm not interested in random one
Speaker 1: night stance. The next week, he had me on Instagram
Speaker 1: and messaged me asking me out. The following week he
Speaker 1: asked me to hang out almost every night, like week
Speaker 1: nights and weekends. I'm pretty busy and work, so I
Speaker 1: didn't see him. The next time I saw him, we
Speaker 1: went to a yoga class and it was great. Then
Speaker 1: the next day he texted me saying he thinks we
Speaker 1: are on different pages. Me, being confused, asked what he meant.
Speaker 1: He said he wasn't looking for any kind of relationship.
Speaker 1: Do you guys think he was just looking for someone
Speaker 1: to hook up with and thought I was playing hard
Speaker 1: to get. I wasn't too torn up about it, so
Speaker 1: I just said, okay, no problem, and haven't heard from
Speaker 1: him since. So I understand the issue. She likes issue.
Speaker 1: Other well, he was the one asking her out constantly
Speaker 1: for like a week and a half and she kept
Speaker 1: saying no. Granted she works a lot, but she said
Speaker 1: she's not torn up about it. Okay, Well that is
Speaker 1: the question. I was just going to say her saying
Speaker 1: I'm not torn up about it, clearly you are. This
Speaker 1: is like one thing like I hate when people try
Speaker 1: to act tough in like a frustrating relationship situation by
Speaker 1: saying I'm not torn up about it, it's fine, everything
Speaker 1: works out. It's like, no kind of be hurt by it.
Speaker 1: And she's like, I have this guy totally pursuing me.
Speaker 1: She clearly had work, so I think that she probably
Speaker 1: was like I'm so sorry at work and says sorry work.
Speaker 1: But then when they hung out, he said he wasn't
Speaker 1: going for any kind of relationship. It was weird. Why
Speaker 1: why would you text some constantly? Then, well that's what
Speaker 1: she's asking, why do guys do that? Why would guys initiate?
Speaker 1: Because I think this goes to a lot of our emails.
Speaker 1: We get of guys being like, hey, you want to
Speaker 1: hang out, hang out? Hang out? Um, then they'll on
Speaker 1: like the sixth day, or if they sleep together, they're like,
Speaker 1: all right, I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm not
Speaker 1: looking for a relationship. And then the girls have to
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, we don't guys don't do that. We
Speaker 1: don't do that. We're so cool, not ance and funny
Speaker 1: and charmaig Listen, you guys have definitely done this, and
Speaker 1: I think that you need to be very honest in
Speaker 1: this situation. Is it strictly most of the time when
Speaker 1: you hear response like this, does your head go he
Speaker 1: was just looking to hook up? Mm hmm yeah, probably yeah.
Speaker 1: I think guys just get ahead in themselves, you know,
Speaker 1: like or rather, guys don't think things through. So I
Speaker 1: think maybe he was just texting text. Like guys are
Speaker 1: very nearsighted, right, Like they see a pretty girl and
Speaker 1: they're like, I want to sleep with that, and they do.
Speaker 1: That's the thought that and then they do and then
Speaker 1: they're like, Okay, that was fine, ye see you later.
Speaker 1: It's not a good mentalent to have. Most guys are idiots.
Speaker 1: But have you ever done that to a girl where
Speaker 1: you hang out with someone and then you've sent the text?
Speaker 1: Have you ever sent the text? I'm just not looking
Speaker 1: for anything serious right now? Raise you raise your hand
Speaker 1: If you've sent that text. Someone's lying and someone's telling
Speaker 1: that My hand is raised, Dean, you're telling me you've
Speaker 1: never told anybody you're not and looking for something serious.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I heard you said that on TV
Speaker 1: one time, like five times. Yeah, yeah, yeah, at least
Speaker 1: you can go on The Bachelor. Hey, just so you're
Speaker 1: not looking for anything there is I think I know
Speaker 1: this ends with getting engaged, like I'm not looking for
Speaker 1: anything serious. I probably have sent it before to look
Speaker 1: but what like I want you to dissect why men
Speaker 1: send that. I think their issue. The biggest issue with
Speaker 1: that isn't the fact that they're not looking for anything serious.
Speaker 1: It's the time that they say that they're not looking
Speaker 1: for anything serious. If you're not looking for anything serious,
Speaker 1: make that be known at the beginning, before any physical
Speaker 1: interaction has been hat, you know, like, and then leave
Speaker 1: it up to the girls be like, Okay, I know
Speaker 1: he's not looking for anything serious, but I'm still interested
Speaker 1: in hooking up with him. That's perfectly fine. Don't wait.
Speaker 1: Like if the guy waits until it's upped together six seven, eight, nine,
Speaker 1: ten times, then it's like, well, it sounds like you
Speaker 1: just wanted to sleep with me and now you're ready
Speaker 1: to move on to the next thing. Okay, there's a
Speaker 1: follow up question that I have. Yeah, you're saying, figure
Speaker 1: out if the guy doesn't want anything serious Earlier on
Speaker 1: when do you ask that? And second when you say
Speaker 1: don't if you're sleeping with each other six seven or
Speaker 1: whatever times you you are a huge advocate of sleeping
Speaker 1: on the first date. I'm not a huge advocate. Pretty
Speaker 1: big advocate. I'm pro. I don't think you can get
Speaker 1: there's not a spectrum of pronus. But yes, but so
Speaker 1: this is conflicting, Like I'm just getting frustrated because you
Speaker 1: guys are conflicting in your words. What have I been
Speaker 1: conflicted about? I don't think you should sit together on
Speaker 1: the first day. She's like, when do you bring that up?
Speaker 1: Because before you sleep with him, so it should be
Speaker 1: brought up on the first date in your eyes. Look,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying sleep with everyone you go on a
Speaker 1: first date with. I'm not saying go on a first date.
Speaker 1: You're automatical sleeping with this person. If you go on
Speaker 1: a first date and it leads to to romance, have
Speaker 1: that conversation with the person before you allow any penetration.
Speaker 1: We advocate safe romance here and help dating before this happens.
Speaker 1: Listeners out there, Yes, I'm sure you can imagine the
Speaker 1: thing that I'm doing, Like a twelve year old boy,
Speaker 1: have the conversation before before this hap stop hitting before
Speaker 1: this happens. What you need to do is be like, listen,
Speaker 1: I like, I think that this there's potential here. Do
Speaker 1: you Are you in a place where you see relationship
Speaker 1: happening in your life? And if they say I'm not
Speaker 1: looking for anything serious, make that judgment call of whether
Speaker 1: or not you're comfortable with sleeping with someone that doesn't
Speaker 1: want to have a serious relationship with you, and that
Speaker 1: that's not for us to say. If they if they
Speaker 1: want to do that, that's perfectly fine. But then don't
Speaker 1: come around six days later and be like, well, why
Speaker 1: is he not looking for anything serious? Because he's been
Speaker 1: telling you the whole time he's not looking for anything serious.
Speaker 1: I do sometimes think that guys do. And this isn't
Speaker 1: just a guy versus girl situation, but anybody. One person
Speaker 1: in the relationship will say I'm not looking for something serious,
Speaker 1: and the other person will say, oh, neither am I,
Speaker 1: and then they actually are and they're just kind of
Speaker 1: putting it off hoping that the other person changes. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that happens all the time, but it does happen. Okay,
Speaker 1: So to take notes, write your standards, down and live
Speaker 1: by them. So if a man says that earlier on,
Speaker 1: you're saying, don't sleep with him, Yeah, don't, Yeah, don't
Speaker 1: unless well, yeah, it depends, unless you don't want anything serious.
Speaker 1: Eye exactly. Sometimes you guys are on the same page,
Speaker 1: doesn't matter, But if you're not on the same age,
Speaker 1: then you have to vocalize your opinion because if you don't,
Speaker 1: then the other person is not going to know what
Speaker 1: should be a girl's line. If a guy says I'm
Speaker 1: not looking for anything serious and you say I am,
Speaker 1: I am, it's kind of scary. It is scary, but
Speaker 1: I mean dating is scary, relationship is scary. You know
Speaker 1: what's scarier having your heartbroken by you not saying anything,
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, three months goes by
Speaker 1: and you're like, by the way, when I said I
Speaker 1: wasn't looking for something serious, that's very true. And it's
Speaker 1: better than if he says I'm not looking for anything serious.
Speaker 1: You could say, well, I'm not going to be looking
Speaker 1: at your penis. Then no more penis looking. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: next question. Also, I wanted to add there's a little
Speaker 1: nugget in here that I kind of skipped over, So
Speaker 1: because he's they hung out one night, right, and then
Speaker 1: she says that he added me on Instagram and then
Speaker 1: messaged me every day asking me out. And then he
Speaker 1: said I wasn't look for anything serious. He just want
Speaker 1: I want to I want to see Lindsay's Instagram. He said,
Speaker 1: like maybe like a little premiusous bet you Lindsay is
Speaker 1: very attractive. You up? No exactly? Like did he to
Speaker 1: her Instagram? Was like, this girl's very very attractive and
Speaker 1: I need her. That's what it sounds like. Um, I
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm we have another email from anonymous. So
Speaker 1: this is from anonymous for reference. I'm twenty eight years
Speaker 1: old who is practically a v I P and Suck Army.
Speaker 1: I am female. Just to make that oh correct, Yes,
Speaker 1: merch coming soon, I'm not joking. Already tried creating T shirts. Oh,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know if I can do
Speaker 1: it like license wise by myself. But I went on
Speaker 1: like one of those T shirt making apps, and I
Speaker 1: already I have like a cool design for suck Army.
Speaker 1: I think it'd be cool. Can we do that? Can
Speaker 1: I do that? I think we should definitely talk to Ami. Okay, cool,
Speaker 1: I would love to and I want to talk to
Speaker 1: about a live podcast, moving them right in right into
Speaker 1: our email. You guys, is that what you want? That's
Speaker 1: what the suck army wants. We want merch. Okay, So
Speaker 1: I am the worst at dating, and a lot of
Speaker 1: things factor into that. I've been mostly single my whole life.
Speaker 1: And if you guys I've tried to date have struck
Speaker 1: me along for one to two years and it has
Speaker 1: it has become and it has never become anything serious.
Speaker 1: Most of the guys who hit me up are I'm
Speaker 1: not interested, even in the slightest. I have put up
Speaker 1: such high walls from being let down so much in
Speaker 1: the past. I don't even know how to convince myself
Speaker 1: to meet up with any of these guys anymore. I'm
Speaker 1: just nervous about putting myself out there again. It doesn't
Speaker 1: help that that my most recent X is still in
Speaker 1: my life. He never wanted to commit to me, but
Speaker 1: I still somehow feel connected to him and wonder if
Speaker 1: you will ever come around, even though deep down I
Speaker 1: don't think we are a match. It's easier to deal
Speaker 1: with the devil, you know, then pick up all of
Speaker 1: your baggage and bring it to the next relationship. Any
Speaker 1: advice would be appreciated. She's not wrong. It is easier
Speaker 1: to deal with the devil you know, rather than definitely
Speaker 1: you don't know. But I think also people would call
Speaker 1: that settling. So and then everybody tells you don't settle
Speaker 1: in relationships, don't settle with the devil you know what
Speaker 1: the word. I think you can speak from experience about this,
Speaker 1: because I feel like a lot of guys hit you
Speaker 1: up that you're not interested in even the slightest I
Speaker 1: actually really agree with that, but I feel like it's
Speaker 1: like something's wrong with me because I sit down with
Speaker 1: these guys and I'm like, you are so awesome, but
Speaker 1: I feel nothing that I don't know. I mean, I really,
Speaker 1: are they really awesome? Are you just a nice person
Speaker 1: to say that they're awesome or find the awesomeness in them?
Speaker 1: Has there ever been an instance where you sat down
Speaker 1: with someone you didn't feel it, and then you let
Speaker 1: them go and then like you saw them later on
Speaker 1: and you really regretted it. No, but I have fallen
Speaker 1: like I have had that like woe connection with one
Speaker 1: person my whole life. Who's this person? It was like
Speaker 1: at this like after kind of Grammy's party like three
Speaker 1: years ago, and it was this guy. He um, he
Speaker 1: like went to usc All that stuff. He like came
Speaker 1: over to me. He was so attractive. Take it my
Speaker 1: phone stead. I was showing you guys a picture. He's
Speaker 1: so attractive. Damn it. Help. I took a dating instagramp
Speaker 1: and he um. It was the first time I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: I'm actually like, I feel physically connected, like attractive to you.
Speaker 1: I'm tinkling. Yeah, I'm like, I like great conversation and um.
Speaker 1: Then he was like, we had to go and do
Speaker 1: this like a little photo thing, and so he was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'll wait for you. And his friend was there too,
Speaker 1: and his friend kind of kept kind of pulling us away,
Speaker 1: um or pulling him away from us, and so he
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, we'll be here when we get back.
Speaker 1: And then when we came back, him and his friend
Speaker 1: weren't there, but we have been talking for like thirty
Speaker 1: minutes and whatever, and I was like, dang, I should
Speaker 1: have just given him my number. It's a really long
Speaker 1: story and I'm not going to get into it, but
Speaker 1: that was not the last time you heard of it
Speaker 1: from this person. But that was like the first time
Speaker 1: I've ever felt like a strong connection with someone and
Speaker 1: I've never had it since. Why aren't you with this guy? Now?
Speaker 1: He's dating someone else? Now I believe Okay, was he
Speaker 1: dating someone when you met him? So when I met him,
Speaker 1: I found out, Um, my sorority sister's friend friend something
Speaker 1: really connected, weird, convoluted. He was like in the middle
Speaker 1: of a breakup during that, so his friend was like
Speaker 1: pulling away because he was like, dude, you got to
Speaker 1: figure out like what you're doing first. Well, that's a
Speaker 1: good friend, but also a crappy friend for you. Whoever
Speaker 1: that person is I know, but yeah, I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't know. Are you still in communication with this human? No?
Speaker 1: I don't. It's actually a really funny story. But I like,
Speaker 1: I don't know why I don't feel connected to people.
Speaker 1: A lot of the times I think that I just
Speaker 1: love human interactions, so I can really go on a
Speaker 1: lot of dates with people that you love stiff arming guys,
Speaker 1: love it, send of my way, Um, But to really
Speaker 1: feel like I want to let my guard down with you,
Speaker 1: I have honestly don't think I've ever experienced. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean doan Do you have any
Speaker 1: advice for Anonymous about how uh she just doesn't even
Speaker 1: how to convince herself to meet up with any guys.
Speaker 1: I do have some advice for Anonymous, and I think
Speaker 1: that what she needs to do in order to start
Speaker 1: meeting up with guys and feeling more of a connection
Speaker 1: is by fully completely dropping the X out of her life,
Speaker 1: especially because she says, I, deep down, I know that
Speaker 1: we are not a match. So first, first, and foremost, Anonymous,
Speaker 1: cut that off entirely. You're not gonna meet someone. You're
Speaker 1: not gonna allow yourself to drop your walls with someone
Speaker 1: else until you fully put those walls up for him,
Speaker 1: because he is a thing of the past. He doesn't
Speaker 1: belong in your life anymore. Put that aside and move
Speaker 1: on to the next thing. Don't be afraid about bringing
Speaker 1: your baggage to another relationship. Speaking from someone that has
Speaker 1: a lot of baggage, it's uh, it's a lot easier
Speaker 1: to pack it up and move along if you just
Speaker 1: completely sever that whole thing in the past. Jared's nothing
Speaker 1: said yes, do you agree? Yeah? I was just thinking
Speaker 1: about your baggage. I got a lot, I got a
Speaker 1: small friends, I don't have much space to store my things,
Speaker 1: and so I carry a lot of them in bags,
Speaker 1: and that baggage comes with me for every place I go,
Speaker 1: a big old backpack. Um, I don't think that you're
Speaker 1: gonna be able to fully find someone that's gonna pique
Speaker 1: your interest until you fully close the door on the
Speaker 1: X that's been lingering around. It's it's comfortable, right, it's
Speaker 1: the devil. You'd rather spend time with the devil you
Speaker 1: know than devil you don't know. As Jared said, but
Speaker 1: if he's not your match, you're wasting your time, You're
Speaker 1: wasting his time, You're wasting everyone's time. Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: that the X is definitely X is a big one.
Speaker 1: And then the other one about going on dates with
Speaker 1: dating app, but you know, going on dates with guys
Speaker 1: dating app, so you just don't feel like it. I
Speaker 1: totally get that, Like, not a lot of people feel
Speaker 1: like going on dates, but you just kind of have to.
Speaker 1: It's probably because you probably don't feel motivated to do it,
Speaker 1: because you slightly feel guilty because you're still talking to
Speaker 1: your ex, Like that's what I in my opinion, I
Speaker 1: would feel guilty about that. Yeah, I don't know if
Speaker 1: they're talking, but I think that she's still hung up
Speaker 1: hundred percent she's talking. Yeah, I think they're still talking.
Speaker 1: It doesn't help that it's still in my life. What
Speaker 1: does that mean? You never wanted to commit to me,
Speaker 1: but I still somehow feel connected to him, and I
Speaker 1: wonder if that doesn't mean they're talking. I think that
Speaker 1: does mean means I'm interpreting it as drop him out entirely,
Speaker 1: Whether interpreting that as maybe one night stance are still happening.
Speaker 1: How do you have one night scene? Sorry, booty calls
Speaker 1: are happening? Drop that all together? Then? Yeah, no, I agree,
Speaker 1: but I don't I don't think they're like genuinely talking.
Speaker 1: I think regardless I miss you, come over, whatever, and
Speaker 1: whatever capacity is, that needs to completely stop because you're
Speaker 1: not going to allow yourself to open up in another
Speaker 1: relationship until that relationship is fully close. That's my advice
Speaker 1: is laying down the rules. I'm laying it down, Anonymous.
Speaker 1: If you don't take this advice, then maybe you're gonna
Speaker 1: still suck a lot less next week, um or just
Speaker 1: as much as you do now. If you don't take
Speaker 1: Poppadine's advice, we have some more emails, and I want
Speaker 1: to answer all the emails. We have three more to
Speaker 1: get through, so you want to read Anonymous, let's just
Speaker 1: do one more. I do want to take one quick
Speaker 1: break before we do that, so we can come back
Speaker 1: fully refreshed, rested. Yeah, we'll all grab a cup of
Speaker 1: coffee and tackle this email to the best of our ability.
Speaker 1: Is that okay with you, guys. It's wonderful for our
Speaker 1: listeners out there. Stick around through this quick break and
Speaker 1: we'll be right back to answer this last email or
Speaker 1: three for you. All right, welcome back, and Tori seems
Speaker 1: to have won the argument because we're gonna do one
Speaker 1: more email before we close out this. I just want
Speaker 1: to be able to take time on these emails and
Speaker 1: when people write us in so we'll listen. I was
Speaker 1: there during the break. It was an argument. Way to
Speaker 1: spend this into you taking the high horse here. I
Speaker 1: want to take time to answer these thoroughly. Was I
Speaker 1: not my line in the debate? I said I want
Speaker 1: to take time when we are listeners right in revisionist history. Anyways,
Speaker 1: this email is from Anonymous. Anonymous has to say, which
Speaker 1: is funny because Anonymous email this last time too Anonymous says,
Speaker 1: I'm in my early thirties. I've been divorced for close
Speaker 1: to five years. I'm a single mom. I've worked at
Speaker 1: the same company for four and a half years. When
Speaker 1: I started, there was a man let's call him David,
Speaker 1: that I found incredibly attractive, but quickly learned he was married, unfortunately, David.
Speaker 1: David David is in his mid to late thirties. We've
Speaker 1: probably only spoken a handful of times. But about two
Speaker 1: years ago at he referred his neighbor, who was always
Speaker 1: also his wife's best friend, to our company work. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of inner workings and weddings here, so
Speaker 1: she works here as well. Let's call her Mary. So
Speaker 1: David has a friend who has neighbors, Maryry, we referred
Speaker 1: to work at this company, and they all worked together. Now,
Speaker 1: Area and I have become very very close. Almost two
Speaker 1: months ago, David and Mary found out that third spouses
Speaker 1: were having an affair. So I decided to reach out
Speaker 1: and let David know I was here if you wanted
Speaker 1: someone to talk to you, because I went through a
Speaker 1: very similar situation five years ago. He accepted, but we
Speaker 1: started messaging. Initially, it was about the situation, but it
Speaker 1: quickly turned flirty. After a few days of messaging all
Speaker 1: the time, he asked if I wanted to hang out.
Speaker 1: He ended up being physical that night. Right now, we
Speaker 1: it says we end up getting physical. That could have
Speaker 1: been an We ended up being very physical at night
Speaker 1: to get Everything seemed normal for the next few days,
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, our messages became sexual.
Speaker 1: Cent of the time when we crossed pass at work,
Speaker 1: we act like we don't see each other. That sounds
Speaker 1: kind of oh, that was kind of kind of cute,
Speaker 1: kind of hot. We text daily, but at work we
Speaker 1: literally do not speak. I'm confused about what he wants.
Speaker 1: I joking only mentioned how he's going to be picking
Speaker 1: up tons of chicks with his new haircut looking fly.
Speaker 1: His response was, I'm not looking to pick up any chicks.
Speaker 1: I took that as a subtle way of saying he's
Speaker 1: not looking for anything right now. But our friends at work,
Speaker 1: including Mary, said that they think he was implying he's
Speaker 1: not looking to pick up chicks because we are talking.
Speaker 1: Help me, So should I initiate a conversation to figure
Speaker 1: out what exactly this is? Definitely definitely initiate a conversation.
Speaker 1: I'm wondering if he's nervous because they work together, he
Speaker 1: doesn't want to lose. There's a lot of let's say, David,
Speaker 1: who she's calling this guy. If David and Anonymous spark
Speaker 1: up like a more of a public romance, I think
Speaker 1: David has a lot to lose because it sounds like
Speaker 1: his marriage is disintegrating, whether he wanted it to or not.
Speaker 1: He also works with this person. He also works with
Speaker 1: this person's best friend and neighbor, and so there's a
Speaker 1: lot of Uh, there's a lot of a very high
Speaker 1: risk factor for David here. Yeah, but don't you think
Speaker 1: almost it's always I think what David should do is
Speaker 1: I think David should just start a relationship with Anonymous.
Speaker 1: Make it known that this is not because now it
Speaker 1: seems almost just like a hook up, and he's trying
Speaker 1: to keep it on the data. It just is essentially
Speaker 1: leaving a five year marriage. Maybe that's always interested right now?
Speaker 1: Is a hook up? Yeah, David's not like for a relationship.
Speaker 1: I don't think so either. Well, then he shouldn't do
Speaker 1: that could be bad get into a relationship at this point,
Speaker 1: I think the coworker thing comes from a lot of
Speaker 1: these people, especially I don't know where Anonymous are, but
Speaker 1: you know, you the people the only people that you
Speaker 1: really know are the people that you work with for
Speaker 1: a lot in a lot of places. You know. No,
Speaker 1: it's true. So I think that that's hard to meet. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's hard to meet. And you spend so much time
Speaker 1: at work these days. I mean, you and I can
Speaker 1: attest the only time at least three and a half
Speaker 1: hours a week, every two weeks. Also, it's like I
Speaker 1: get their different departments. But that is so. One of
Speaker 1: our producers did meet in the office, producer Danielle and
Speaker 1: her husband, and so obviously can work. But like the
Speaker 1: fact that he's been married, he didn't end the relationship
Speaker 1: his partners, Like, it's just like he's not looking to date.
Speaker 1: He's finding comfort through anonymous and Anonymous sorry to say
Speaker 1: that very bluntly, but he's just trying to find comfort
Speaker 1: through you and I don't. But let me also say
Speaker 1: at the end of the story, there might not be
Speaker 1: anything wrong with that. It all depends on what anonymous. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but he obviously I do like that. David said, I'm
Speaker 1: not looking to hook up with anybody anybody else, So
Speaker 1: he probably, you know, being cheated on. Maybe he just
Speaker 1: needs that comfort. Anonymous is providing that, So maybe Anonymous
Speaker 1: needs to back off a little bit. Okay, let me
Speaker 1: start with Jared first, then to you, Dean. When you
Speaker 1: hear I'm not looking to hook up with chicks or
Speaker 1: pick up any chicks, where did your mind go on
Speaker 1: that set? I believe him positive or negative for Anonymous both.
Speaker 1: I think it's positive because he's not looking next. I
Speaker 1: think it's positive because he's not looking to hook up
Speaker 1: with anybody else. But it's also negative because Anonymous is
Speaker 1: giving him what he wants right now, which is just
Speaker 1: comfort and and and physical support throughout this time, which
Speaker 1: is a big factor after you've been cheated on. Okay, Dean,
Speaker 1: where did your head go when you first heard that?
Speaker 1: Say it again, just so I can see where it
Speaker 1: goes again. I'm not looking to pick up any chicks. Um.
Speaker 1: I think it's good for Anonymous because he's already picked
Speaker 1: up a chick and he's saying he's not looking to
Speaker 1: pick up anymore chicks. But that could just be his
Speaker 1: way of saying like, uh, like his like way being
Speaker 1: bashful of like, oh, I'm not looking to pick up
Speaker 1: chicks even though he is picking up chicks. My concern
Speaker 1: should we not be critical of anonymous here for sleeping
Speaker 1: with a married man even though this is, well, they're separated,
Speaker 1: you got cheated on their obviously separated. We don't. I
Speaker 1: don't think two wrongs make it right in this case. Okay,
Speaker 1: I assumed that once it was found out that had
Speaker 1: been cheated on, but a lot of couples stick together
Speaker 1: even through that. We haven't lying down with my costs,
Speaker 1: and they stuck through that. I agree with Jared. I
Speaker 1: think that it's easy to assume that they're separated. But
Speaker 1: then I just read it while you guys were talking,
Speaker 1: and she says, almost two months ago, David and Mary
Speaker 1: found out that their spouses were having an affair, so
Speaker 1: I decided to reach out and then we got physical.
Speaker 1: So yeah, maybe they're not. Like, maybe David is keeping
Speaker 1: it a secret because him and his wife are working
Speaker 1: through this, the infidelity. I think it sounds pretty much
Speaker 1: like their separated. The fact that he's like, she's clearly
Speaker 1: stating you can go pick up chicks. Clearly there's information
Speaker 1: we don't have, but he's in the mode where he's
Speaker 1: now single. And also he could be just having so
Speaker 1: much stuff to work through right now, because if you
Speaker 1: maybe he is in the process of getting a separation,
Speaker 1: getting divorce and having to focus on that while also
Speaker 1: still working, and then he obviously is a human wants comfort,
Speaker 1: and so Anonymous is giving him that. So maybe Anonymous,
Speaker 1: maybe there's a reason why he's definitely not ready for
Speaker 1: a relationship. So I would have no expectations in that,
Speaker 1: and Anonymous, if you can't handle that part of it
Speaker 1: not potentially being in a relationship, then you should back off.
Speaker 1: But also Anonymous Hays has a lot going on. Anonymous
Speaker 1: said that she went through a similar situation five years ago,
Speaker 1: so she can um kind of understand the process that
Speaker 1: he's going through right now, so maybe she can, you know,
Speaker 1: understand that things are going to move a little bit slowly,
Speaker 1: if they do move at all. But she did say
Speaker 1: that David was the one that reached out to her
Speaker 1: asking if she wants to hang out, so of course,
Speaker 1: because he's probably going through a really crappy time right now, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and he probably feels a lot better when he's with Anonymous.
Speaker 1: But I if I was Anonymous, I would not have
Speaker 1: any expectations. And if you do have expectations either one
Speaker 1: get rid of him or two back off from the situation.
Speaker 1: So give us just one quick answer. Should she initiate
Speaker 1: a conversation to figure out exactly what this is? I
Speaker 1: think we already know what this is. You, what's your
Speaker 1: answer whether she should start the conversation or not. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know. I don't know because if
Speaker 1: I'm if I'm David and she comes up and says,
Speaker 1: what are we, I'd be like, listen, I'm my wife
Speaker 1: just cheated on me. I think you're wonderful. I think
Speaker 1: you're great, but I just need to figure out my
Speaker 1: stuff right now. I think that's exactly how the conversation
Speaker 1: is going to go down. That's fine. I think that
Speaker 1: that'd be good for both Anonymous and David. I think
Speaker 1: that it never is a bad thing to try to
Speaker 1: get a better understanding of how things are. Where things
Speaker 1: You're right, You're right at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you're absolutely right. Yeah, needs to say. The hard thing
Speaker 1: is it's like, even if she goes like, no pressure,
Speaker 1: I know you need to like figure this out, it's
Speaker 1: still like, but I want a serious relationship. It's not
Speaker 1: going to end well, I agree, I think we already
Speaker 1: know where it's going. Time she needs to hear it
Speaker 1: because he might say, I'm actually like thoroughly enjoying your
Speaker 1: company through this process, and that would bring her a
Speaker 1: lot of peace. Or he might say just to let
Speaker 1: you know, I'm literally not looking for anything serious, like
Speaker 1: my wife and I are still trying to figure out
Speaker 1: what we're figuring out. Yeah, if I was an honest
Speaker 1: I would try to think back about how I was
Speaker 1: feeling during that time, and then that put yourself in
Speaker 1: david shoes and hopefully you can understand a little bit better.
Speaker 1: So so it's the animous then for an anonymous reach
Speaker 1: out to him, but come at him like, look, I
Speaker 1: want to be here for you. If you need to help,
Speaker 1: I'm here, but for my own sanity, I need to
Speaker 1: understand about like where you're coming at, what you're coming
Speaker 1: out this. I think she's be like, I'm kind of
Speaker 1: getting feelings. Yeah, I think that's I think that's exactly
Speaker 1: how his approach. But I want her to write us
Speaker 1: back in once this happens. Anymous, if you listen to this,
Speaker 1: we want to keep updated with you and David and
Speaker 1: Mary too. Mary, she was kind of like sprinkled, and
Speaker 1: we didn't really know much about We don't know anything
Speaker 1: about Mary. I don't know why Mary is a factor
Speaker 1: in this story. I don't know. Mary's a coworker who's
Speaker 1: like her best friend in now helping her. So Anonymous,
Speaker 1: please keep us updated every week. Last thing you do
Speaker 1: before you leave work for the weekend to give us
Speaker 1: an update on you and David, because we're curious. We're
Speaker 1: invested now in your love story. Anyways, that's gonna do it.
Speaker 1: For this week's episode of Help I Suck a Dating,
Speaker 1: Big thank you to Jared and Tori and e Harmony's
Speaker 1: eighteen first date questions that you should ask very googleble.
Speaker 1: I want to know some of your guys first date experiences,
Speaker 1: so email us I Suck a Dating at iHeart media
Speaker 1: dot com share some of those with us. Will continue
Speaker 1: to share some of ours with you. It's easier to
Speaker 1: share um with a little bit of perspective, though. Big
Speaker 1: thank you our emailers, Lexi, Lindsay and our two anonymous
Speaker 1: emailers best of luck. We hope your our advice helped
Speaker 1: you guys, at least in a in a slight amount,
Speaker 1: or if it didn't, just do the opposite voice said,
Speaker 1: which is what I always refer to people to do. Anyways,
Speaker 1: anything we say to the opposite um, thank you to
Speaker 1: the listeners, thank you to the emailers, thank you to
Speaker 1: you guys. Thank you to Tore for once again chiming
Speaker 1: in with some great information. It's always nice having a
Speaker 1: female perspective because Dean and I sometimes just ramble and
Speaker 1: sound like little boys. So remember what she said, man
Speaker 1: and boys suck. Man, boys suck. Jean, we suck, suck, suck, sucks,
Speaker 1: sucks um Tori's opinions. Toris like a tomboy though, so
Speaker 1: but I like that. She's you got a hard exterior,
Speaker 1: you know, your tough chick, but you really just sap, teach,
Speaker 1: keep down. It's like it's like a two and a
Speaker 1: half boys and the girl. I guess I'll take that
Speaker 1: as what it is. I guess, thank you, say thank you.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. I got nothing for
Speaker 1: you on that one. Thank you. Anyways, be sure to
Speaker 1: sooner next week where maybe we will suck just a
Speaker 1: little bit less. Follow help by Suck at Dating on
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