1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: Hey, chip Hi, Oh my god, it's hard. 2 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:04,600 Speaker 2: That was wild. 3 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:08,639 Speaker 1: It's actually today is March first that this podcast is 4 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: coming out, but we're wrapping up February. I think it's 5 00:00:12,720 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: so weird. I was saying, this is someone the other 6 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:17,080 Speaker 1: day is like, so February, this is a leap yer. 7 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 1: Everyone's freaking out about that, right, like it's like a 8 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:24,439 Speaker 1: big deal. And that means that we have twenty nine 9 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: days in February instead of twenty eight. But then how 10 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: come like January has thirty one? Who made this calendar? 11 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: Is what I want to know? Do you know what 12 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 1: I mean? It doesn't make sense. 13 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 2: It's wild. Well, you know, because the year is three 14 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:41,680 Speaker 2: hundred and sixty five and a quarter days long, that's 15 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 2: why there's a leap here. Well that just does everything 16 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 2: so mean, I know, I don't know how. I mean, 17 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:50,560 Speaker 2: the fact that someone figured that shit out blows my mind. 18 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: But also did they figure it out or did they 19 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:54,319 Speaker 1: make it up? Do you know what I mean? It's 20 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: like daylight savings, Like do we have to have that 21 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: or is that just some sort of weird poche we 22 00:00:58,440 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 1: put on ourselves January? 23 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:02,280 Speaker 2: Like, I guess the way that the year is is 24 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:04,759 Speaker 2: January is usually like January, so it's like we did, 25 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:08,959 Speaker 2: there is a loop and it is based around revolutions 26 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 2: around the sun. Okay, going around the sun so or yeah, 27 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 2: or the sun going around. I don't know. I'm not 28 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 2: a scientist, but. 29 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 1: I was about to say, like, I love that you're 30 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: acting like an expert on this right now. 31 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 2: You know what's funny about the leap here. I've got 32 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 2: a coworker who's getting married on that day and he's like, 33 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 2: that way, we only have to celebrate every four. 34 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: Years, but that would get more confusing because you will, 35 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: you will inevitably forget the years that you're supposed to remember. 36 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:33,279 Speaker 1: So he's kind of sucking himself. 37 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 2: If you ask me, that is true. He's really organized. 38 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:38,360 Speaker 2: I have faith in him. 39 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 1: Okay, well, well wishes. We have been talking about dating 40 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:48,560 Speaker 1: and love and relationships and sex because it's obviously February. 41 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: It was February, which is considered the month of love. 42 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: Another thing we've made. 43 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:55,920 Speaker 2: Of That's blame Hallmark for that one. 44 00:01:57,360 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: But we've covered a lot of bases and you and 45 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: I on the Edge really focused on the sex piece 46 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 1: of things. So we were going to kind of dive 47 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 1: into that but I do remember you saying you had 48 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 1: a couple updates for us about exploring, which for the 49 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,360 Speaker 1: listeners if you're not a regular listener of the Edge 50 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 1: part of this podcast. Every year Chip and I pick 51 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: a word as like the theme of our year, and 52 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 1: my word this year is discipline, and Chip's word this 53 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 1: year is explore, and so we kind of pum back 54 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 1: in to those words every now and again. We check 55 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 1: back in and you know, make notes of the things 56 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 1: we are doing. And once you really set an intention 57 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:38,240 Speaker 1: of a word, it's interesting because your life really does 58 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:40,639 Speaker 1: start to mimic those kind of things. So you start 59 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: to notice, Okay, here's a moment where I can choose 60 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:45,399 Speaker 1: to lean into my word. Like for me, it could 61 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 1: be like I could choose to be lazy right now, 62 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 1: or I could choose to lean into my word of 63 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 1: twenty twenty four, which is discipline, and so step up 64 00:02:51,200 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: and do the thing that I don't feel like doing, 65 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 1: but I'm being disciplined, so I'm going to do it. 66 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: And your word is explore. So you were just telling 67 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 1: me about what you did with your sister, and I'm. 68 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:04,079 Speaker 2: Like, what, well, before I tell that story, Like, it's 69 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 2: also funny too, because I don't know if you have 70 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 2: a similar experience. I mean, you're you're deeper in the 71 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:15,399 Speaker 2: knowledge of horoscopes. But I've often like this astrology people astrology, 72 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:19,040 Speaker 2: but like specifically for horoscopes, Like when I read a horoscope, 73 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:22,639 Speaker 2: like sometimes they're so like so on the nose that 74 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:25,480 Speaker 2: I can't believe it. But sometimes they're like so broad 75 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:27,960 Speaker 2: that like if you think about it hard enough, you're like, oh, yeah, 76 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:31,799 Speaker 2: that applies. So like sometimes when we're doing these wrap ups, 77 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 2: like I sometimes catch myself being like, well, what fits 78 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:40,240 Speaker 2: into explore? I can't necessarily put a finger on it. 79 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 2: Sometimes if it was something I was intentionally doing as exploring, 80 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 2: or it's like my subconscious being like okay, here's here's 81 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 2: what you asked for, this is what you're going to do. 82 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 2: But okay. So to tell the story, So my sister 83 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 2: turned fifty in February on the eighth, and she had 84 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 2: a party on the seventeenth. Her husband also turned fifty 85 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 2: like four days before her, but she's it's her birthday month, 86 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 2: and but her neighbors threw this great party, and so 87 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 2: I flew home to Virginia for it, and I told 88 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 2: her I was like Hey, it's your it's your fiftieth. 89 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 2: I want to get you something really special, like let 90 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 2: me know if there's something like really nice you want, 91 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 2: you've wanted or needed that you felt like you couldn't afford. 92 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 2: I'm willing to spend money. And she asked for four 93 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 2: Kip More tickets and I was like, Jenny, I we 94 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 2: work with Kid Moore. I can probably get those for yeah, 95 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 2: like let's stream bigger. It's your fifty and I mean 96 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:33,719 Speaker 2: all love to Kip. 97 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, not a knock. 98 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:41,799 Speaker 2: I will spend money and so and his team. 99 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:44,160 Speaker 1: So you should tell him that. That was I know, 100 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 1: I will like flattering thing for a big, big birthday 101 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 1: celebration and month. 102 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,560 Speaker 2: And his team is graciously like taking care of those. 103 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:53,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, of course. 104 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:57,039 Speaker 2: And then I was like, you know, she was like 105 00:04:57,160 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 2: what about you know, I was like, do you and 106 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 2: Brian want to go somewhere that's her house, She's like Jamaica, 107 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 2: And I said tell me when, and he came back 108 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,560 Speaker 2: and said, I'd rather go to Nashville, you know, later 109 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:09,279 Speaker 2: in the year, and I was My response was I 110 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:12,880 Speaker 2: didn't ask what Brian wanted, you know, like all respect 111 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 2: to Brian, like it was for my sister so right. 112 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:18,280 Speaker 2: It made me. It reminded me of this time we 113 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:21,320 Speaker 2: went I took I won this cruise through work, like 114 00:05:21,400 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 2: it was like for spending AD a certain amount of 115 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:25,679 Speaker 2: AD dollars. I didn't even know like was an option. 116 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:29,400 Speaker 2: And I took my sister on a crew. It's so weird. 117 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 2: I took my sister on a European cruise and it 118 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:34,559 Speaker 2: was like literally one of the we still talk about 119 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:36,719 Speaker 2: it like all the time, and it was like one 120 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:38,600 Speaker 2: of the best times of my life. So I was like, 121 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 2: I want to take my sister. It's gonna the two 122 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 2: of us are going to go somewhere. We're going to 123 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 2: go on an adventure and explore. So I texted her 124 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 2: and I said, what what's the status of your passport? 125 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:49,280 Speaker 2: And she's like, it expires February of next year. And 126 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 2: I was like, okay, we're good. And I was like, 127 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:53,599 Speaker 2: I need I need a week. Tell me if this 128 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 2: week works for you, and so she approved a week, 129 00:05:57,040 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 2: and I have decided I'm taking my sister to Paris 130 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 2: for the first time. We're going to be there for 131 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 2: three days and then we're going to train down to 132 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:07,040 Speaker 2: the south of France to visit. This guy named Sebastian 133 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:08,920 Speaker 2: who was the exchange didn't live with my family. 134 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: We've talked about Sebastian on this podcast. 135 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:16,040 Speaker 2: So he's like our French brother. So yeah, yeah, And 136 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 2: so I flew in and I've like, I got her 137 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 2: like a, I got her a ll bean bag with 138 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 2: her name monogrammed on it, and it I made a 139 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 2: fake airline ticket, and I bought a book of French 140 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:31,599 Speaker 2: phrases and made a card and said this is what 141 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:35,719 Speaker 2: I'm doing. She started shaking and crying. It was pretty amazing. 142 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: That is like the nicest brother gift I think I've 143 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: ever heard of. 144 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know it's I've also told you this. 145 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 2: I like splurged and booked first class on the way 146 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:47,440 Speaker 2: there because I want to be able to sleep because 147 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 2: it's an overnight flight and we have to hit the 148 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 2: ground running because we only get three days in Paris, right, 149 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 2: And she's like her friends were like what, and like, 150 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:57,760 Speaker 2: I wouldn't have done it if it weren't such a 151 00:06:57,760 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 2: good deal. But it was, like a. It was surprise cheap, 152 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:02,720 Speaker 2: which is also weird because we're going to be there 153 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 2: the week before the Olympics start, so you would have 154 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 2: thought that the price. 155 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: Maybe everyone's going yeah, but maybe everyone's waiting for the 156 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:10,080 Speaker 1: next week. 157 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 2: Yeah maybe maybe. 158 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, So so interesting, that's exploring. That's a big time 159 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 1: explorer moment. 160 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 2: Yeah. 161 00:07:18,560 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 3: Wow. 162 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 1: Like literally Brother of the Year award goes to tour. 163 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 2: And it's a little selfish because I wanted to go, 164 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:26,760 Speaker 2: and yeah, half of the money I'm spending is for me. 165 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: And have you been to Paris before? 166 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:31,840 Speaker 2: I have? Yeah, and I've been to this place in 167 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:35,040 Speaker 2: the south of France too, so but it is it's 168 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:39,600 Speaker 2: like my explorer for this is about like I'm I'm 169 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 2: What excites me the most about it is it's so 170 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 2: much better than buying her a product purse because it 171 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 2: is it's an experience that we will talk about for 172 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 2: the rest of our lives. 173 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: I that is the thing when I get in relationships 174 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: and you know, whoever I'm dating at the time is 175 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,680 Speaker 1: like a gift giver or whatever. I'm always like, let's go, 176 00:07:57,960 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: let's go somewhere, let's make a trip, Let's have an 177 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 1: experience versus the things. Because you get to a certain 178 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: age where it's like you mostly buy the things you want, 179 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 1: you know, or you save up and get them or 180 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: whatever it is. So the experience to have with someone 181 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 1: is so much more valuable. 182 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:14,320 Speaker 2: I agree, because I mean, you can connect on a 183 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 2: deeper level, especially when you're dating. But my sister and 184 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:19,680 Speaker 2: I don't get to spend it. She's a mother of two's, 185 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 2: we live in different states. I'm going to get seven 186 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 2: days of time with her also when she is going 187 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:30,600 Speaker 2: to have to rely on me because I don't speak French. Well, 188 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 2: but like I can get by there. She didn't speak 189 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 2: a word of it. 190 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:35,720 Speaker 3: You know what is it? 191 00:08:35,800 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 1: You know of the national anthem? You know that? 192 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 2: Yes? And yeah. So it's like it's I mean, it's 193 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 2: it's going to be amazing, Like I get I feel 194 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:47,200 Speaker 2: like the greatest brother in the world. And that's not 195 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 2: me patting myself on the back. It's just like to 196 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 2: face yeah, like giving, giving can be really fun. 197 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:57,720 Speaker 1: So really, yeah, well that's amazing. 198 00:08:57,880 --> 00:08:58,960 Speaker 2: I explore for the month. 199 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:00,400 Speaker 1: I love this for you. 200 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 2: We're going in July July. What July seventeenth through twenty fourth. 201 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 1: I was about to say, you better not miss my birthday, bitch. 202 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:11,320 Speaker 2: Oh shit, could you imagine I'm kidding? 203 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 1: I would let you off the book. 204 00:09:13,520 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 2: I'll have to take you to Paris next. 205 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 1: Well, we were also talking before the podcast because it's 206 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:24,560 Speaker 1: actually like kind of ironic we're the ones sitting here 207 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:27,560 Speaker 1: talking about love because both of us are actually now 208 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:28,200 Speaker 1: single again. 209 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, the months of love did not work out for 210 00:09:31,679 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 2: me this. 211 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, here's the thing about dating as you 212 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 1: get older, And tell me if this resonates for you. 213 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:41,480 Speaker 1: But like, I don't look at my last relationship. I 214 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 1: mean it ended, yes, but I don't look at it 215 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:47,560 Speaker 1: as a waste of time or a failure or anything 216 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:50,599 Speaker 1: like that. In fact, I had so many positive experiences 217 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 1: within that relationship, and ultimately the timing just wasn't right, 218 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 1: and so it just didn't end up working. But I 219 00:09:57,400 --> 00:10:01,960 Speaker 1: feel like the experience itself was so different for me 220 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: than any other relationship I've ever had because of how 221 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: I showed up and that was such a gift to 222 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 1: me to see my own progress and then also what 223 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: a relationship could actually be when I'm showing up as 224 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 1: my full, authentic right self, you know, And so like 225 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 1: it doesn't feel like a failure. It just feels like 226 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 1: thank you for that experience, Universe more please, Like I. 227 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 2: Have so much gratitude for my relationship. 228 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:31,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, and so because we're saying they ended. I feel 229 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:32,559 Speaker 1: like a lot of people will be like, oh my god, 230 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:34,199 Speaker 1: are you okay? And whatever? And I feel like you 231 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 1: and I both have the same energy about it, which 232 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:39,520 Speaker 1: is that of course there's sadness and there's grief that 233 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:43,480 Speaker 1: comes with like the transition of someone shifting in your life. 234 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:45,680 Speaker 1: But also I think both of us left on good 235 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:48,360 Speaker 1: terms and so hopefully, you know, like you can remain 236 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 1: friends to some degree. And then it's also just like, 237 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: but it wasn't for nothing, you. 238 00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:57,200 Speaker 2: Know, it was no And I feel like personally I 239 00:10:57,400 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 2: grew a lot and so I can take you know, 240 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 2: people say back, don't bring baggage, but like some baggage 241 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:07,280 Speaker 2: has good shit in it, you know, like I get 242 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:10,679 Speaker 2: to bring the good shit into my next relationship, and 243 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:14,719 Speaker 2: you know, for the first time I can. I can 244 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:17,360 Speaker 2: look myself in the mirror and know that I like 245 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:20,680 Speaker 2: I had my own back in the relationship, and that 246 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:23,959 Speaker 2: feels really good. Like I stood up for myself. I 247 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:28,440 Speaker 2: put myself first. And you know, as someone, I am 248 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 2: a people pleaser. I'm a non confrontational person. I know 249 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 2: that about myself, so I often will like hurt myself 250 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:39,400 Speaker 2: to not hurt somebody else, and then I ultimately hurt 251 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:42,200 Speaker 2: the other person a lot more because I'm I'm I'm 252 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 2: a pussy And in this instance, you know, I only 253 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 2: took how much I was willing to take. And and 254 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 2: you know, I will forever be grateful for all the 255 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 2: good things and for him coming into my life and 256 00:11:57,880 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 2: all of the things. But I also felt like I 257 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 2: got to know myself better, and I you know, it 258 00:12:06,840 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 2: was what it was, and I'm happy about it. Like 259 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:13,760 Speaker 2: I'm not happy about the breakup. I'm happy about the happy. 260 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 1: The way that you feel. Yeah, And looking back, I 261 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 1: think we had the same thing. Yeah. So anyway, sending 262 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:28,440 Speaker 1: everyone off with love and life, and we'll keep talking 263 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:32,600 Speaker 1: about love and relationships and sex and dating and all 264 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:35,559 Speaker 1: the things, because it's just a constant evolution. And to me, 265 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 1: the other big piece of the big difference of how 266 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 1: it looks in my life now as from where it 267 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:43,960 Speaker 1: did in the past, was like breakups used to be 268 00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:47,080 Speaker 1: so fucking crippling to me because the relationship was my 269 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: whole universe, you know, And like there's been a shift 270 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:53,600 Speaker 1: since I feel like it's since I entered my forties. 271 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:55,959 Speaker 1: But it's also just lined up that way based on 272 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 1: the work that I've done on myself, and then I 273 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:00,920 Speaker 1: happen to turn forty and whatever. But like, the relationship 274 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: with a piece of my life is a piece of 275 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 1: the pie, but it wasn't everything, and so it does 276 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:09,160 Speaker 1: make walking away a little bit easier because you're not 277 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: just like, oh my god, I've completely lost my life 278 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:15,800 Speaker 1: or whatever. I actually did a solo episode just about 279 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: breakups and like some of the things that I've learned 280 00:13:17,640 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: about filling that space that you have, like you know, 281 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 1: that empty space that you have after a breakup because 282 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:25,240 Speaker 1: you used to be doing something with your partner or 283 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 1: you used to be talking to them on the phone 284 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,560 Speaker 1: or texting all day or whatever, and just like how 285 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:32,840 Speaker 1: to get back to yourself. And I've noticed that this 286 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 1: time around, like that has been such an easier experience 287 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 1: for me, me too, but also because I didn't leave 288 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 1: myself as much, or I just didn't leave myself within 289 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 1: the relationship, so I didn't have to go find myself 290 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:47,679 Speaker 1: again after it was like oh, no, there I am, 291 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:50,280 Speaker 1: And like, how do I get even more back into 292 00:13:50,360 --> 00:13:53,320 Speaker 1: like a deeper knowing of me and learning more about 293 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:55,240 Speaker 1: the things I love to do and what I want, 294 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: and that relationship taughty that so it was so well 295 00:13:58,320 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 1: worth it to me. 296 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:02,080 Speaker 2: Funny because I mean, I guess the timing of mine 297 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:06,199 Speaker 2: was was advantageous for me because I had started working 298 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:10,079 Speaker 2: out again, so suddenly I had more time to focus 299 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:13,520 Speaker 2: on myself. And it's just like this past weekend, I 300 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:16,080 Speaker 2: got a new bike. I went riding like I was 301 00:14:16,120 --> 00:14:17,439 Speaker 2: like I hadn't been able to use it because I 302 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:18,640 Speaker 2: didn't have a bike clock. I was like, I'm going 303 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 2: to ride to the bike store. I'm an buy a lock, 304 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:22,280 Speaker 2: and on the way home, I'm gonna stop at the gym. 305 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:25,000 Speaker 2: I was like so sporty this weekend, and it's I'm 306 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:28,760 Speaker 2: going to be I'm going to bed earlier, like I'm 307 00:14:28,800 --> 00:14:31,480 Speaker 2: taking that time and I'm investing it back into myself 308 00:14:31,960 --> 00:14:35,400 Speaker 2: rather than like being like self loathing and sitting around 309 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:38,720 Speaker 2: and just being sad. Yeah, And I think that has 310 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 2: helped with the transition too, because it's I'm giving myself 311 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:43,080 Speaker 2: good energy. 312 00:14:43,560 --> 00:14:46,280 Speaker 1: I love that. So anyway, if you're listening and you're 313 00:14:46,560 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 1: single or going through a breakup, like we're right there 314 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:50,880 Speaker 1: with you. That doesn't mean you can't talk about love 315 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:53,680 Speaker 1: or dating or sex or relationships. It's going to be 316 00:14:53,760 --> 00:14:56,640 Speaker 1: a part of your life at some point. In fact, 317 00:14:57,040 --> 00:15:00,440 Speaker 1: we you sent me this article earlier today, we were like, 318 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:03,560 Speaker 1: we have to mention this because it's so funny and random. 319 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 1: But your sex life could actually get in the way 320 00:15:08,840 --> 00:15:12,160 Speaker 1: of the apartment you're leasing. In certain cities, tell the 321 00:15:12,200 --> 00:15:13,680 Speaker 1: listeners about that article you sent me. 322 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:17,680 Speaker 2: So I got served this. It was something on Instagram, 323 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:21,800 Speaker 2: but the article is from Vice. And there's I guess 324 00:15:21,880 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 2: there's landlords in London right now that prohibit things like 325 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:31,320 Speaker 2: music after eleven pretty common. Yeah, false party's pretty common. 326 00:15:31,640 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 2: But now they're prohibiting loud sex and they check in. 327 00:15:36,560 --> 00:15:39,160 Speaker 2: They'll like, ask your neighbors if anyone's hearing you have 328 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:39,760 Speaker 2: loud sex. 329 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:43,400 Speaker 1: Yeah I didn't see that part. Yeah, yeah, I was 330 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:45,800 Speaker 1: about to say, how do they regulate it? 331 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:50,720 Speaker 2: And they charge their victim They'll like, they'll charge their victims. Sorry, 332 00:15:50,840 --> 00:15:53,680 Speaker 2: they'll charge their tenants. I mean, honestly, they are sort 333 00:15:53,720 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 2: of victims of privacy invasion. But they'll charge the tenants 334 00:15:57,280 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 2: for having people over, for like have that's sex. 335 00:16:01,440 --> 00:16:05,320 Speaker 1: That is such a buzzkill in your own place to 336 00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:09,160 Speaker 1: not be able to just like let loose you know, yeah, 337 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:11,400 Speaker 1: you know how you are in a hotel, you're like 338 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 1: a little bit concerned. You're like, oh my god, everyone 339 00:16:14,520 --> 00:16:18,440 Speaker 1: on the floor is in this experience with me, which 340 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:20,360 Speaker 1: could be good or bad. I guess right. 341 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:23,320 Speaker 2: The person that got interviewed, her name's Lucy. She's twenty three, 342 00:16:23,360 --> 00:16:25,640 Speaker 2: and she said she found it funny at first, and 343 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:28,120 Speaker 2: this is her quote. I thought, how are they going 344 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:31,080 Speaker 2: to believe that? But the landlord does inspections himself, and 345 00:16:31,120 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 2: he actually mentions it when he visits. She tells vice, 346 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 2: we're all girls, and he starts lecturing it's about the 347 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:39,840 Speaker 2: youth of today being hyper sexual and telling us to 348 00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:43,320 Speaker 2: save ourselves for marriage. Oh so it goes beyond just 349 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 2: like that's a disturbance, Like it's a moral thing for him. 350 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 1: But that is I mean, I guess it's his building. 351 00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:52,920 Speaker 1: He can do what he wants. But I wouldn't want 352 00:16:52,920 --> 00:16:55,440 Speaker 1: to live there where someone's imposing their views on me. 353 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: Like it's one thing to worry about noise, but to 354 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 1: come and lecture me about my sex life and what 355 00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 1: I need to be doing or not doing is crossing 356 00:17:04,280 --> 00:17:06,640 Speaker 1: a line. Like you can't tell people how to live 357 00:17:06,680 --> 00:17:11,480 Speaker 1: their life because they're renting an apartment from you, right, I. 358 00:17:11,480 --> 00:17:14,320 Speaker 2: Mean, I guess if you're very upfront about it and 359 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:16,960 Speaker 2: it's not buried in the lease agreement, Like if you're like, 360 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:18,879 Speaker 2: this is a no sex zone, are you sure you 361 00:17:18,880 --> 00:17:21,479 Speaker 2: want to rent it? Like, then the person can have 362 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 2: the choice. But like if it's just a little thing. 363 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:28,400 Speaker 2: First of all, who reads a lease? I know, right, exactly, 364 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:30,479 Speaker 2: don't read a lease until like you're in an argument 365 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:31,439 Speaker 2: with your landlord. You know. 366 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:33,560 Speaker 1: I feel like this guy like has signs up though, 367 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:35,679 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like he's that guy that's like, 368 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:37,800 Speaker 1: no loud music, no sex. 369 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:40,639 Speaker 2: Well, I think there was like a no fucking sign 370 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:41,680 Speaker 2: on the thing that I saw. 371 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:45,280 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, God. It's all reminds me of this episode 372 00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:46,919 Speaker 1: of Sex in the City, which I feel like I 373 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:50,320 Speaker 1: quote a lot, but it just comes in my brain 374 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:53,440 Speaker 1: because it's like I've seen every episode eight hundred times 375 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 1: and I feel like they're all my friends and we 376 00:17:55,680 --> 00:17:59,879 Speaker 1: lived life together. So there's an episode though where Samantha 377 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:02,680 Speaker 1: has loud neighbors or she moves to a new place 378 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 1: and her neighbors end up being these two people who 379 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 1: just have like insane sex all the time and it's 380 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:10,960 Speaker 1: really loud and at first, she's really upset about it, 381 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:13,879 Speaker 1: and then she just switches the narrative and starts like 382 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:18,040 Speaker 1: masturbating with them. Like it's like so they're like screaming 383 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 1: between the walls, you know, to each other. And eventually 384 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:24,240 Speaker 1: she goes over there and knocks on the door and 385 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:26,840 Speaker 1: they open the door and they're like this utterly couple 386 00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:29,200 Speaker 1: that she's not at all attractive to. So she leaves. 387 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:34,240 Speaker 1: But she's been having like verbal or vocal or group sex, 388 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:37,720 Speaker 1: dound group sex, yes, before that. So I mean it 389 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:39,800 Speaker 1: is what you make it. I guess the point would 390 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:40,880 Speaker 1: be there. 391 00:18:41,359 --> 00:18:41,919 Speaker 2: Wow. 392 00:18:42,359 --> 00:18:44,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a fun little tidbit. So anyway, if you 393 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:49,119 Speaker 1: guys are single in a couple looking to rent an 394 00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 1: apartment in London, make sure you read the fine print. 395 00:18:53,160 --> 00:18:56,240 Speaker 2: Or keep it down. Yeah exactly, But I say read 396 00:18:56,240 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 2: the fine print. 397 00:18:57,119 --> 00:18:59,000 Speaker 1: I think read the five print's a good one. We 398 00:18:59,040 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 1: did have a couple lists her voicemails that I thought 399 00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:04,359 Speaker 1: were pertinent. Is that the right word? 400 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:06,440 Speaker 2: Yeah? 401 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:07,480 Speaker 1: Did that work? 402 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 3: There? 403 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:11,119 Speaker 1: Okay, I've had a long day, guys. I don't know. 404 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:13,439 Speaker 1: Sometimes you know how I make up words or I 405 00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:16,320 Speaker 1: say the wrong ones and it just so happens. There's 406 00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:23,320 Speaker 1: a microphone in front of my face. So you're welcome everyone, Okay, 407 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:25,959 Speaker 1: but anyway, I felt like these were in line with 408 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:27,680 Speaker 1: the love and dating topics, and one is one of 409 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:30,160 Speaker 1: my friends, Stacy, So I want to hear your feedbackchip 410 00:19:30,160 --> 00:19:31,080 Speaker 1: on once you think about this. 411 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:37,119 Speaker 3: Okay, Hey, Kelly, it's Stacy. I really liked this question 412 00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:41,720 Speaker 3: or this whatever this is, but you're freaking cool. Anyways, 413 00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:45,960 Speaker 3: I was just thinking, I made an Instagram real that's 414 00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:49,600 Speaker 3: kind of like all the weird things about me and 415 00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:53,000 Speaker 3: the cute things, and it's kind of sexy too, and 416 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,480 Speaker 3: I just want to post it as like my dating 417 00:19:55,560 --> 00:20:00,399 Speaker 3: profile on Instagram and just see where do you universe 418 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:03,159 Speaker 3: takes it? And then I kind of feel weird about it. 419 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:05,040 Speaker 3: So I was just wondering, is that weird? Is that 420 00:20:05,080 --> 00:20:07,560 Speaker 3: a cool thing? Should we start this? Should I just 421 00:20:07,640 --> 00:20:09,600 Speaker 3: lay low? Should I just get back on the dating apps? 422 00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 3: Which makes me want to throw open my mouth? I 423 00:20:12,359 --> 00:20:12,720 Speaker 3: don't know. 424 00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:16,080 Speaker 1: So if you have an expert. 425 00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:19,800 Speaker 3: Expert at nervous theory, that'd be cool if you could 426 00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:22,920 Speaker 3: ask them. But I would also appreciate your advice too, 427 00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:27,080 Speaker 3: because I feel like you are an expert. Anyways, Love 428 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 3: you girl. 429 00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: The funniest part was that Stacy texts me and said, uh, wait, 430 00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:34,440 Speaker 1: when do you respond or when are you going to 431 00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:36,600 Speaker 1: respond to that? Like she thought that I just like 432 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:45,240 Speaker 1: you called me, and I just called She's adorable, the 433 00:20:45,320 --> 00:20:49,080 Speaker 1: cutest accent ever. But so basically what she's saying is 434 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:51,720 Speaker 1: she's hated dating apps. Like it's just you know how 435 00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:53,879 Speaker 1: they are. They can look. I think we all have 436 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 1: that moment with them, or we kind of ebb and 437 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,400 Speaker 1: flow back and forth to liking them or not liking them. 438 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:00,440 Speaker 1: But she was like, I saw had just kind of 439 00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:03,560 Speaker 1: put a reel together, and it's got this cute stuff 440 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,119 Speaker 1: about me. Some of it's sexy, sort of the things 441 00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:08,600 Speaker 1: that you would say about yourself on an app. But 442 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 1: she's like, is it weird if I just post that 443 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:11,399 Speaker 1: on it? 444 00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:15,960 Speaker 2: I fucking love the idea. Okay, this is this is 445 00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:18,440 Speaker 2: why I think she should And I understand her hesitation 446 00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 2: because it's a really vulnerable. 447 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:21,760 Speaker 1: Thing to do, and you're putting. 448 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,160 Speaker 2: It out there for your friends and family to see. 449 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:25,639 Speaker 2: Like it's one thing if your friend is also on 450 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:28,119 Speaker 2: a dating app and they still across your thing, but 451 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:31,960 Speaker 2: like generally if it's the same, if it's your girlfriends 452 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:33,879 Speaker 2: aren't gonna find you on bumble because they're looking for 453 00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:36,520 Speaker 2: good dude. So it's like your close friends aren't gonna 454 00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 2: see those things. So it's really vulnerable to put this 455 00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:41,960 Speaker 2: on Instagram and know that, like your friends might share 456 00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:44,439 Speaker 2: it with their friends and be like, oh my god. Whatever. 457 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,280 Speaker 2: But you know, I think I don't know how old 458 00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:51,400 Speaker 2: Stacey is, but she's a water mid Yeah. A lot 459 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 2: of younger people that they're not using dating apps. They 460 00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:59,160 Speaker 2: are slightly into dms on Instagram and Snapchat, and that's 461 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:03,360 Speaker 2: how they're meeting people. And I think that this, if 462 00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:05,520 Speaker 2: she did some if she, if she has the courage 463 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:07,679 Speaker 2: to put this up, it is going to find people 464 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:10,680 Speaker 2: that feel the same way about dating apps as her, 465 00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 2: and it's going to draw them to her Instagram, which 466 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:18,080 Speaker 2: is a real it's a more real slice of her life. 467 00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:20,240 Speaker 2: Like obviously all of our instagrams are we're putting our 468 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:22,639 Speaker 2: best foot forward. But sure they're gonna they're going to 469 00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 2: see something that's a little bit more three D than 470 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,960 Speaker 2: what you are forced to do on a dating appy, 471 00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:31,000 Speaker 2: and and you're gonna it's going to reach people who 472 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,600 Speaker 2: aren't on dating apps. I think it's a brilliant idea, 473 00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:36,000 Speaker 2: and I think it could really work for her and 474 00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 2: it could start a trend. 475 00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:41,000 Speaker 1: I actually do me either, And then she said it, 476 00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:43,640 Speaker 1: and I thought to myself, we are kind of wasting 477 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:48,120 Speaker 1: this space of social media where there's so much more connectedness, 478 00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:51,840 Speaker 1: and like even on the Explore page, things get reposted. 479 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:55,560 Speaker 1: You know, it's just like the chance of seeing someone 480 00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:59,400 Speaker 1: seeing it seems bigger, you know what I mean, because 481 00:22:59,400 --> 00:22:59,800 Speaker 1: a lot. 482 00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:05,600 Speaker 2: Like type I would be like, this bitch is brave. 483 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:07,199 Speaker 2: I'm yeah, you know what I mean. 484 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:09,879 Speaker 1: It's just like a she looks like a badass to me. 485 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:14,040 Speaker 1: She's like, here, I am, world, and is there anyone 486 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,000 Speaker 1: out there who feels like they're a good match for me? 487 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,560 Speaker 1: Obviously there's a lot of people who won't be. But 488 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,320 Speaker 1: it's almost even better to me than the apps in 489 00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 1: the way of like it's just the mass audience, like 490 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,520 Speaker 1: the chances of it reaching someone else, and it also 491 00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:29,440 Speaker 1: does put it in the hands of the universe. 492 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:32,800 Speaker 2: And you know, she might have a friend from high 493 00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:35,600 Speaker 2: school that doesn't know she's single, right, that knows how 494 00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:39,680 Speaker 2: fucking cool she is. And that friend might have a 495 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,000 Speaker 2: friend who is single that she can be like, oh 496 00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:45,600 Speaker 2: my God, my friend is single, she should reach out, right. 497 00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:48,400 Speaker 2: I just think there's so many possibilities. All that said, 498 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:50,639 Speaker 2: I haven't seen the reel, so like she might. 499 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:53,760 Speaker 1: Let us let us approve it. 500 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:56,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, like we can re edit it if we think 501 00:23:56,040 --> 00:24:02,480 Speaker 2: I need some help. But I think it's a great idea. 502 00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:04,480 Speaker 1: The other thing I was just thinking is, so I'm 503 00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:08,199 Speaker 1: on Riya, you know, which is like a weird app 504 00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:10,560 Speaker 1: for dating that you have to like sign up for 505 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:14,280 Speaker 1: and get accepted to, and you one of the things 506 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 1: that I have always appreciated about Riya, well, one of 507 00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:19,920 Speaker 1: the things I hate about Riya is everyone on there 508 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,040 Speaker 1: is kind of like you should know who I am, 509 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:23,760 Speaker 1: so they don't write a lot about who they are, 510 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,200 Speaker 1: which is annoying. I'm like, let's all get over ourselves 511 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:30,240 Speaker 1: and just describe ourselves a little bit. But it does 512 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:33,480 Speaker 1: link to your Instagram, and so when I want to 513 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:35,679 Speaker 1: go find out more info, just like what you're saying, 514 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:39,600 Speaker 1: like you do see more of kind of what people 515 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,320 Speaker 1: are about. You kind of can get more of their energy, 516 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,400 Speaker 1: even like if they're who they're posting with things like that, 517 00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:47,480 Speaker 1: it just tells you a little bit more about the person, 518 00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:49,520 Speaker 1: even though it is a highlight reel. Like we say, 519 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:51,640 Speaker 1: it's just way more in depth than you could get 520 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:55,359 Speaker 1: in a dating app profile. So anyway, I'm just like, well, 521 00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,560 Speaker 1: let's just skip the middleman here and go straight to 522 00:24:57,600 --> 00:24:58,960 Speaker 1: a storrely. 523 00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:00,960 Speaker 2: Because you can see if they're like, if they travel 524 00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:03,840 Speaker 2: a lot, if they're adventurous, if they like interesting food, 525 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:08,040 Speaker 2: who they follow so like thet they're aesthetic. 526 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:10,240 Speaker 1: Yeah that does matter to me though. 527 00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:14,679 Speaker 2: If they're good at editing reels. I mean right, I 528 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 2: love the idea, Stacey, I say go for it. 529 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:20,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, so anyway, we approve, and if anyone else out 530 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 1: there is like feeling a little bit over the apps, 531 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,240 Speaker 1: I kind of support this. Let's start a movement. Stacy 532 00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:26,679 Speaker 1: might have just. 533 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:28,480 Speaker 2: Started to trans the idea. 534 00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:31,359 Speaker 1: Yeah. Okay, so Stacey, we we say yet. 535 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:32,520 Speaker 2: I guess so we can share it. 536 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 1: Ooh, I love this. Are we going to start trying 537 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:38,360 Speaker 1: to become a dating appilating app? We're so busy though, 538 00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 1: we're fitness influencers. 539 00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,320 Speaker 2: We got like so much, We're going to do so 540 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:44,280 Speaker 2: much money coming our way. 541 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:50,760 Speaker 1: We better with your tributes booked. Okay, this email, I 542 00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,399 Speaker 1: mean sorry, this voicemail is a little more serious, but 543 00:25:53,560 --> 00:26:00,560 Speaker 1: I also thought this was hurting it to the topic today. 544 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,000 Speaker 4: Hi, Kelly and the ve fam. I want to know 545 00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:08,159 Speaker 4: a handful of tips as to how to encourage a 546 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:11,880 Speaker 4: man who is resistant to therapy to get into therapy. 547 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,280 Speaker 4: And I know that's a really hard one to tee 548 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 4: up for men, especially those who kind of need it, 549 00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 4: and he really does because he's got to sort through 550 00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:25,480 Speaker 4: some really heavy things from his past and most recent history. 551 00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:29,200 Speaker 4: So any help that you can send my way would 552 00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:30,680 Speaker 4: be great. Thank you. I love the podcast. 553 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:34,840 Speaker 1: Do you want to go first or do you want 554 00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:35,280 Speaker 1: me to go? 555 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:36,200 Speaker 3: Well? 556 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:39,080 Speaker 2: It was funny because I don't know if my planned 557 00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:43,000 Speaker 2: response after hearing it is as appropriate as I thought, 558 00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:44,840 Speaker 2: but I would withhold sex. 559 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,080 Speaker 1: Okay, so this is the real healthy. 560 00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that was me joking. 561 00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 1: You actually were gonna say cut off the blow jobs. Specifically, 562 00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:58,560 Speaker 1: what you were going to say, that's how to do 563 00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:00,680 Speaker 1: what you want him to do? Okay, good time. 564 00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:08,640 Speaker 2: I think you have to lay it out how important 565 00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:14,160 Speaker 2: it is for you and the relationship, and you also 566 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:17,400 Speaker 2: have to be willing. I'm assuming that these two people 567 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 2: are in a relationship because well yeah, and I think 568 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:25,639 Speaker 2: you also have to be willing to let it end 569 00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:28,399 Speaker 2: the relationship if he isn't willing to do the work 570 00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:33,080 Speaker 2: that he needs to do, because it does sound like, 571 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,360 Speaker 2: I mean, her voice sounded like it was coming from 572 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:38,520 Speaker 2: a really caring place, Like it's she sounded really sensitive, 573 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:45,160 Speaker 2: and you like, enabling somebody to not do the work 574 00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:47,120 Speaker 2: that they need to do to care for themselves, it's 575 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:50,320 Speaker 2: not healthy, it's not healthy for a relationship, and eventually 576 00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:52,800 Speaker 2: we'll lead to a blow up anyway. So I think 577 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,720 Speaker 2: it's just like you have to like just really reinforce 578 00:27:56,160 --> 00:28:01,320 Speaker 2: how important it is for you for him and the relationship, 579 00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:06,080 Speaker 2: and maybe you know, offer to do some couples therapy 580 00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:11,360 Speaker 2: just to like and say, like, if you don't feel 581 00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,399 Speaker 2: like you have a problem in your relationship that you 582 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 2: need to speak of, it can be like, let's do 583 00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 2: some therapy together so you can sort of like get 584 00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,120 Speaker 2: an understanding of what it feels like. Because I think 585 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:25,560 Speaker 2: it is a really daunting thing, particularly for men to 586 00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:29,000 Speaker 2: like walk into those situations if they haven't lived a 587 00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:33,200 Speaker 2: vulnerable life and totally yeah communicative before, because guys tend 588 00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:36,240 Speaker 2: to be less emotional and great or in touch with 589 00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 2: their emotions. So maybe you can there can be a 590 00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,880 Speaker 2: little handholding where you find a therapist that you could 591 00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:41,440 Speaker 2: both go to. 592 00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:45,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, similarly to what you just said, I talked to 593 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 1: I call him Coach Ryan, And if you listen to 594 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,600 Speaker 1: that podcast you heard like that's his Instagram handle, but 595 00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:54,000 Speaker 1: I refer to him, you know, as coach Ryan to 596 00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:57,080 Speaker 1: all my friends. Now it's like a part of our conversation. 597 00:28:57,200 --> 00:29:01,400 Speaker 1: But he is a dating coach that talks about a 598 00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:04,600 Speaker 1: lot about attachment styles and healing your attachment wounds. And 599 00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:06,680 Speaker 1: so he came on the podcast and he was specifically 600 00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,719 Speaker 1: kind of talking to us about avoidant attachment because I've 601 00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:12,000 Speaker 1: had a lot of people on that talk about anxious attachment, 602 00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:15,200 Speaker 1: and it was requested to have someone talk about avoidance. 603 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:19,640 Speaker 1: But his big thing for someone in a partner partnership 604 00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:23,959 Speaker 1: with a person that would be maybe have some avoidant tendencies, 605 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,560 Speaker 1: ie not want to go to therapy, also avoid doing 606 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:29,680 Speaker 1: any sort of self reflection, was that you really do 607 00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:33,120 Speaker 1: have to have kind of a conditional sort of relationship 608 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:37,560 Speaker 1: that's full of boundaries, because if their behaviors are affecting 609 00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:40,920 Speaker 1: the relationship in a negative way, like what you're saying, 610 00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:47,000 Speaker 1: it can't really be this unconditional like loving supportive thing, 611 00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:49,400 Speaker 1: like we would want a relationship to be, Like, you 612 00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:51,360 Speaker 1: really do have to kind of set your boundaries if 613 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,240 Speaker 1: it's deeply impacting you. The other thing I was going 614 00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:57,000 Speaker 1: to say, though, is like, as much as we want 615 00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:00,479 Speaker 1: to and trust me, I have spent more year and 616 00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:03,240 Speaker 1: time that I would I would care to share with 617 00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:08,240 Speaker 1: me and money and think like all the like encouragement 618 00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,280 Speaker 1: you could ever want in the world. Trying to get 619 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:14,320 Speaker 1: partners to go to therapy to save relationships, and it 620 00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:18,040 Speaker 1: just doesn't work. We can't make anyone else do something 621 00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:21,280 Speaker 1: that is like their work to do, and so as 622 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:24,120 Speaker 1: painful as that can be, a lot of times, detachment 623 00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:27,480 Speaker 1: is your biggest option or your best option, because you know, 624 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,640 Speaker 1: I think you can set boundaries and I think that 625 00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:32,959 Speaker 1: can be a part of detachment as well. But you 626 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:35,680 Speaker 1: can't really force someone to go do work they don't 627 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:37,680 Speaker 1: want to do. So all you can do is take 628 00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:40,680 Speaker 1: care of your side of the street. So set the boundaries, 629 00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:44,320 Speaker 1: maybe even do your own work, like your own therapy, 630 00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:47,840 Speaker 1: because sometimes the healthier you're getting and the more you're 631 00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:52,440 Speaker 1: focusing on your own growth and like progress, and the 632 00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,400 Speaker 1: less you're focusing on your partner, it is more encouraging 633 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:58,640 Speaker 1: to them to then go get what you what you have, 634 00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,840 Speaker 1: Like if they're seeing you grow and you get happier 635 00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:05,760 Speaker 1: and you have less anxiety, maybe they might be like, huh, 636 00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:08,440 Speaker 1: I kind of want what she has, Versus if you're 637 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:11,720 Speaker 1: berating them all the time, like you really need to 638 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:14,400 Speaker 1: go fix this because our relationship isn't going to survive 639 00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:16,959 Speaker 1: Otherwise that's not going to make anyone want to go 640 00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:19,560 Speaker 1: do it, you know what I mean? So I think 641 00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 1: if you kind of try to take the fear out 642 00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:23,479 Speaker 1: of it, obviously take care of your own needs and 643 00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:26,120 Speaker 1: like yourself and the relationship. If it's abusive, you have 644 00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 1: to get out. But like, if there are ways to 645 00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:34,040 Speaker 1: set boundaries so that you're safe and you're still able 646 00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:36,320 Speaker 1: to function in your life and even show up for 647 00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:40,320 Speaker 1: your part of the relationship, I think, Yeah, focusing back 648 00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,360 Speaker 1: on yourself always seems to be what I'm told, At 649 00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 1: least it's not what I want to do, right. I 650 00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,000 Speaker 1: feel like I want to map out everyone's recovery plan 651 00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:50,680 Speaker 1: but all the time, but that's my work to. 652 00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,960 Speaker 2: Do so well. Also a benefit of doing the therapy 653 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:58,960 Speaker 2: yourself is you get a non judgmental party that you 654 00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:02,560 Speaker 2: can share private things with and they can help you 655 00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:05,440 Speaker 2: work through the things that you might need to say 656 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:07,000 Speaker 2: to him to like really get to. 657 00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 1: Navigate the boundaries even. 658 00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:12,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, because obviously she's not our voicemail system is not 659 00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:14,560 Speaker 2: the place for her to like be like this, he 660 00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,520 Speaker 2: does this or this happened to him, and he's to 661 00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:18,840 Speaker 2: work through this. Like, so we don't, we can't. We're 662 00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:22,080 Speaker 2: sort of giving this advice on of all of the details. 663 00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:26,600 Speaker 2: But seeing a therapist, you know, it's confidential and they 664 00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:31,600 Speaker 2: can really help you sort of navigate that with all 665 00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:32,240 Speaker 2: the information. 666 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what's so interesting. There's this other guy 667 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,560 Speaker 1: on Instagram I follow and his name is your Diagnosis, 668 00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:41,200 Speaker 1: Your Diagnoses or something. Do you follow him? 669 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:41,640 Speaker 4: No? 670 00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:44,800 Speaker 1: Oh, he's so good. But he he's a therapist. And 671 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:50,200 Speaker 1: he also says, the thing about adult love is not unconditional, 672 00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:53,840 Speaker 1: Like that's some fairy tale that we have created based 673 00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,880 Speaker 1: on Disney movies and things like that. But in an 674 00:32:56,920 --> 00:33:00,520 Speaker 1: adult relationship, if you're not showing up in a healthy 675 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:05,920 Speaker 1: way or showing up for the relationship in general, doing 676 00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,680 Speaker 1: you know, your own work and your own growth work, Like, 677 00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:12,719 Speaker 1: there are conditions, and so if it's not working, like 678 00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:15,680 Speaker 1: ultimately you may have to step out of the relationship too, 679 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:18,600 Speaker 1: But I do feel like you can't really just like 680 00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:21,719 Speaker 1: force someone to do things and go, Oh, but we 681 00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:24,680 Speaker 1: just love each other, so you know, I'm gonna stay 682 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:28,160 Speaker 1: and I'm just gonna keep praying that he goes or whatever, 683 00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:30,880 Speaker 1: sacrificing your own needs like what you said at the beginning, 684 00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:34,880 Speaker 1: like adult love is conditional. As unromantic as that sounds, 685 00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:37,760 Speaker 1: that is the truth. And it's each of our responsibility 686 00:33:37,840 --> 00:33:40,960 Speaker 1: to show up for the relationship in general and as 687 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,320 Speaker 1: our best selves when we can, right. 688 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:47,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's the word partner, you know. It 689 00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:50,240 Speaker 2: says it all like it's a partnership, like you have 690 00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:50,920 Speaker 2: to show up. 691 00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:56,680 Speaker 1: So yeah, well those are the two voice was fun, 692 00:33:56,720 --> 00:34:00,080 Speaker 1: isn't it you? Yeah, And I know for a lot 693 00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:04,160 Speaker 1: of people it's like nerve wracking because you obviously are 694 00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:07,600 Speaker 1: saying your problems out loud, but nobody knows your voice, like, 695 00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:09,440 Speaker 1: and we're not going to say your names, so we'll 696 00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:12,200 Speaker 1: keep it all anonymous. I hope you guys keep them coming. 697 00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:15,120 Speaker 1: I really enjoy them, especially for my personal like the 698 00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:18,319 Speaker 1: solo episodes I'm doing. It is so helpful to have 699 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:21,239 Speaker 1: a topic or a question to answer that you guys 700 00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:24,040 Speaker 1: really want to know, but also just like what you're 701 00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:26,760 Speaker 1: going through at the same time or at the time, 702 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,680 Speaker 1: because a lot of times it's Chip and I a 703 00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:32,200 Speaker 1: line obviously, So yeah, we just love to know all 704 00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:34,320 Speaker 1: of it. Keep them coming. You can find that in 705 00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:38,480 Speaker 1: the link in my bio on Instagram. It's at Velvet's 706 00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,200 Speaker 1: Edge and Chip, did you end up putting it in 707 00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:41,000 Speaker 1: your bio yet? 708 00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:43,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I've got a I think there's like a 709 00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:46,759 Speaker 2: link tree because it's also got my Amazon wish list 710 00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:47,280 Speaker 2: in there. 711 00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:50,600 Speaker 1: Obviously, So you guys can go buy Chip a gift 712 00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:55,120 Speaker 1: and also listen to the voicemail I mean, leave us 713 00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:57,360 Speaker 1: a voicemail in the link in his bio as well. 714 00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,000 Speaker 1: So I'm at Velvet's Edge, Chip, what is your instagra? 715 00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:03,239 Speaker 2: I'm at Chip Doors. It's H I P D O 716 00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:04,800 Speaker 2: R S C H. 717 00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:06,560 Speaker 1: And if you're old school and you still like to 718 00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:09,720 Speaker 1: send emails or you know, snail mail or whatever anyone 719 00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:11,719 Speaker 1: wants to call it, you can also email us at 720 00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:14,400 Speaker 1: the edge at velvet edge dot com. We also answer 721 00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:17,040 Speaker 1: that as well. It's just more fun to be able 722 00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:19,799 Speaker 1: to like record, I mean to play the voicemail back 723 00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:22,560 Speaker 1: and answer it, you know, because I remember me trying 724 00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:23,720 Speaker 1: to read those long emails. 725 00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:28,000 Speaker 2: Well that's what I was. Well. Also to the problem 726 00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:33,520 Speaker 2: with those is it loses the tone that you can 727 00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:36,880 Speaker 2: tone that you can hear in you know, people's voices. 728 00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:38,919 Speaker 2: So yeah, I really like this one. 729 00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,279 Speaker 1: Keep the voicemail coming, you guys. Hit it at the 730 00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:43,560 Speaker 1: link in my bio on Instagram. It's at Velvet Edge, 731 00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:50,839 Speaker 1: chip is at chip Doors. Emphasis on the piece. That's 732 00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:51,439 Speaker 1: what you get. 733 00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:52,759 Speaker 3: All right. 734 00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:56,040 Speaker 1: Well that that concludes the February wrap up. I gotta 735 00:35:56,040 --> 00:36:00,880 Speaker 1: go catch a flight. So all right, as you go 736 00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:03,160 Speaker 1: into the weekend and you're living on the edge, I 737 00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:06,080 Speaker 1: hope you always remember too casual. 738 00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:07,319 Speaker 3: Bye bye 739 00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:13,560 Speaker 1: M hm.