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Speaker 1: The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one

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Speaker 1: behind a scene with a member of the show.

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Speaker 2: Happy weekend, friends, and we are nearing Christmas time. I'm

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Speaker 2: really excited about that. Amy is running me this weekend.

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Speaker 2: What's up Amy?

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Speaker 3: Hello?

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Speaker 2: Hello, thanks for being here. And speaking of Christmas. What

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Speaker 2: are your Christmas Flans? What's happening in the Amy household?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're just going to be in Nashville. We're staying here.

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Speaker 3: It's been a minute since I've stayed. I actually maybe

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Speaker 3: last Christmas we did I honestly cannot even remember. No,

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Speaker 3: I went to Colorado. That's normally what we do. I

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Speaker 3: know that there was a Christmas in the last five

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Speaker 3: years where we stayed home and didn't go to Colorado.

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Speaker 3: But pretty much every year for the last twenty years

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Speaker 3: or so, we go to Colorado. And I'm change, well,

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Speaker 3: you know, I alternate when I have the kids. So

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Speaker 3: this year I had them for Thanksgiving and Ben has

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Speaker 3: them for Christmas this year, and my boyfriend's family's from here.

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Speaker 3: They normally stay put because they do they have like

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Speaker 3: a spring break trip coming up, which is pretty quickly

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Speaker 3: after Christmas time, and so they're just staying here and

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Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, I'll stay and the kids are

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Speaker 3: going to go do something with their dad. And while

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Speaker 3: that has been the case in the past, I normally

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Speaker 3: go and we swap in Colorado because their dad, we'd

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Speaker 3: go to the same small town. He's got family there.

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Speaker 3: I have family there, so we still go there together,

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Speaker 3: just separately, if that makes sense. But they're not even

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Speaker 3: doing that. They're going to California so with his parents,

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Speaker 3: and so I'm like, well, I guess I'll just stay.

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Speaker 3: And my sister and her husband were just here a

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Speaker 3: couple of weeks ago. I don't know what it is.

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Speaker 3: I just feel like that's what I need to do,

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Speaker 3: is stay put. I could go see my sister in Colorado.

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Speaker 3: I'm like thinking this through live with y'all. I'm like, wait,

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Speaker 3: why am I staying? I should? I feel like parts

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Speaker 3: of me feel like I should go, but also it's

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Speaker 3: okay for me to stay. And I now have this

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Speaker 3: new extension of my family with my boyfriend and his kids,

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Speaker 3: and they're all going to be here, so it's not

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Speaker 3: like I'll be alone and then my kids will come

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Speaker 3: back to me from They fly back from California on

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Speaker 3: the twenty sixth, so.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So these are follow up questions. One, do you

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Speaker 2: plan has been Christmas with your boyfriend his family? Is

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Speaker 2: that on the docket?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because otherwise I'd be alone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so this is the first one you guys

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Speaker 2: are spending together, is that right? Uh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we were together last Christmas, but I was in Colorado.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So how do you feel about that? Are you excited? Oh? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it feels normal.

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Speaker 3: I feel like I mean, I've spent this Thanksgiving was

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Speaker 3: the second time I had been with his family, and yeah,

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Speaker 3: it feels like that's what we should be doing. So

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Speaker 3: nothing about it. I'm not going to wake up there

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Speaker 3: will be interesting. I'll be by myself. So I'll wake

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Speaker 3: go over there probably first thing. Maybe even wear my pajamas.

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Speaker 3: His daughter and I bought some pajamas the other day

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Speaker 3: that are really cute and she's excited to wear I'm

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Speaker 3: Christmas pajamas. They're not matching, but they're the same if

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Speaker 3: that's like the same brand. Yeah, but they weren't matching

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Speaker 3: matching only because we actually both like the one she got,

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Speaker 2: Do you know what they're getting for Christmas? Gifts from

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Speaker 2: their dad? Were you part of that experience? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I know what he got them, and I got them

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Speaker 3: gifts from just me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you have them individually.

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Speaker 3: M hmm, yeah, like he shopped. I mean, of course,

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, you should do that. I'm going

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Speaker 2: I love that. Honestly.

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Speaker 3: My kids are the same way.

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Speaker 2: You know, you get to a point where at least

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Speaker 3: And then his boys use some app called like giftly

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Speaker 3: And just looked it up and they it's almost like

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Speaker 3: I'm sure your dad would get you this stuff anyway,

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Speaker 2: And the giftly one, can you mark if you bought something? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you mark it as like it really is like a registry.

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Speaker 2: So the Christmas that you'll go over to, it is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you have to like traditions together, That's how you

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Speaker 3: No, I'm excited about it. I think I just want

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Speaker 3: I think the reason for not traveling too is it's

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Speaker 2: Okay, So then it's probably an option to have the

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Speaker 3: That you're Yeah, it's not like a like a woe

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Speaker 2: So we're going to Kansas for Christmas, which will be

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Speaker 2: We're going to do a bunch of Christmas stuff around town.

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Speaker 2: And those girls are the same ones who were here

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Speaker 2: So I'm excited for them to all actually get to

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Speaker 2: what all comes about. I think we're gonna do a

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Speaker 2: podcast episode two, like after the Holidays, debriefing what it

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Speaker 3: And I'm trying to when you've got your fifth Christmas

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Speaker 3: was I'm seriously so happy right now. I'm proud of Stevenson.

436
00:20:13,240 --> 00:20:18,080
Speaker 3: And I'm like, what because their relationships there's typical teenage siblings,

437
00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:21,480
Speaker 3: like they don't totally get along that well, and one day,

438
00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:23,639
Speaker 3: hopefully that will get better, but right now she just

439
00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:24,960
Speaker 3: finds him incredibly annoying.

440
00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,480
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it takes until you are away from each

441
00:20:28,520 --> 00:20:30,600
Speaker 2: other to finally realize how much you care about each

442
00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:31,920
Speaker 2: other and how much that matters.

443
00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, So it was special to see her happy for

444
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,440
Speaker 3: him and selving that, and I think she was genuinely

445
00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:40,399
Speaker 3: happy to see also people caring about the orphanage and

446
00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:43,320
Speaker 3: giving to that cause.

447
00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:46,199
Speaker 2: So did that make your mom heart just kind of flutter?

448
00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,920
Speaker 2: And yes, I was like, Okay, yeah, this is really yay, yay,

449
00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:51,080
Speaker 2: yay for these moments.

450
00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:53,760
Speaker 3: I'm gonna cherish it, soak it up because I don't

451
00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:54,720
Speaker 3: know how long it will last.

452
00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:57,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. I love that this is going

453
00:20:57,800 --> 00:20:59,840
Speaker 2: so well. It's it's really been fun too. It was

454
00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:02,200
Speaker 2: cool as somebody on the other side of the screen

455
00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:03,800
Speaker 2: just to watch him do that.

456
00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, and him have friends show up to run with him.

457
00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:07,760
Speaker 3: There wasn't a mile that he ran alone. We were

458
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:11,800
Speaker 3: all taking turns. And next year we'll see how we

459
00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:13,199
Speaker 3: do it. Maybe we'll have a little more time to

460
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:16,080
Speaker 3: plan it, and maybe that's when we can focus on

461
00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:20,359
Speaker 3: getting reoccurring monthly donors, like, hey, if you want to commit,

462
00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:23,720
Speaker 3: can you commit to five dollars a month? Yeah, because

463
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:27,720
Speaker 3: then it would just be recurring, and we've never really

464
00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:33,720
Speaker 3: focused on a plan for that. You know, some people

465
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:37,080
Speaker 3: will do that and they get something in return, like

466
00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:38,640
Speaker 3: maybe you're sponsoring a kid and then.

467
00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:40,040
Speaker 2: You get updates about that kid.

468
00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:44,080
Speaker 3: Well, we don't want to send out specific information about

469
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:46,159
Speaker 3: each kid there or have that type of thing. And

470
00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,240
Speaker 3: then kids are getting adopted, so they're in and out,

471
00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:54,640
Speaker 3: and we used to post more about the kids there,

472
00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 3: and then there's obviously a thing of protecting their privacy

473
00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 3: and exploiting their situation, so that we thought, well, maybe

474
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:02,800
Speaker 3: people would want to sponsor like a nanny or an

475
00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 3: adult like a tea, you know, because there at least

476
00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:08,399
Speaker 3: have more agency. They are adults. They can sign a

477
00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:10,600
Speaker 3: paper and agree to be a part of something like that.

478
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:14,240
Speaker 3: And there's just a lot of things that we've tried

479
00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:16,920
Speaker 3: to consider that would make people want to feel connected.

480
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:21,359
Speaker 3: I just haven't been able to go there since twenty seventeen,

481
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:25,120
Speaker 3: and I think when I go there, followers have more

482
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:26,960
Speaker 3: of a connection because they get an inside look. But

483
00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:30,680
Speaker 3: I haven't been in so long. We still have constant contact,

484
00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:33,400
Speaker 3: you know, even been my accession, like he's doing stuff there.

485
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:36,119
Speaker 3: We still have the bakery there and that generates funds

486
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,400
Speaker 3: as well, but some of this stuff is for We've

487
00:22:38,440 --> 00:22:41,240
Speaker 3: since opened a school there, so there's the orphanage costs,

488
00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:43,840
Speaker 3: and then there's the school costs, and there's operation costs.

489
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:47,280
Speaker 3: There's a lot of costs that go into things. So

490
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,240
Speaker 3: they it's just thankful for people that, you know, they

491
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 3: may have no idea what the orphanage is even like,

492
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 3: but they still took time and effort to donate money

493
00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,200
Speaker 3: to Stevenson's run and that was really special.

494
00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:01,320
Speaker 2: It is cool. One of the coolest parts about this

495
00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 2: time of year is if you can it's cool to

496
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 2: see the generosity that comes out with the season, of

497
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 2: people wanting to help each other and show up for

498
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 2: each other and causes that people care about, Like the

499
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:15,639
Speaker 2: Giving Tuesday is one of my favorite days to watch

500
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:18,480
Speaker 2: on social media because you really see everybody's passions come out,

501
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 2: the things that they care about, the things that they

502
00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:23,719
Speaker 2: want you to support, and that they've been doing all

503
00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:26,159
Speaker 2: year but you just really haven't seen because it's just

504
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 2: like it's one of those catchway toos where people are like, well,

505
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 2: if you posted about it, then you're not actually you

506
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 2: don't care about it in the way that you do.

507
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:33,879
Speaker 2: But then if you don't post about it, you're not

508
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 2: raising awareness. It's like, you know, you rock in a

509
00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 2: hard place there. So I just love this time of

510
00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:40,879
Speaker 2: year for that reason too. I feel like we get

511
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,120
Speaker 2: to see more of the good in the world than

512
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:45,080
Speaker 2: you know, every part of the year, everybody else is

513
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,400
Speaker 2: keeping it silent because they feel like they have to. Yeah,

514
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:49,840
Speaker 2: so I loved that part. I wanted to hear about it.

515
00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 2: So thanks for sharing.

516
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:54,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, those for bringing it up. Stevenson's going to be excited.

517
00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 2: He's so awesome. Are you ever gonna take a quick

518
00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:01,480
Speaker 2: break and we'll be right back. I want to talk

519
00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 2: about some awkward things that we all have to do

520
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:05,440
Speaker 2: on a regular basis that we just kind of deal

521
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 2: with and put up with. And the reason this even

522
00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 2: became a conversation was because I was at the dentist

523
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 2: and it's a newer one, so I'm still getting to

524
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:15,320
Speaker 2: know the people there and stuff, and the hygienis is

525
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 2: working on me, but she was so sweet because she

526
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 2: wanted to talk to me. The man, she was talking

527
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:21,199
Speaker 2: to me the whole time, and she was in my

528
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:24,360
Speaker 2: mouth the whole time, So I'm like, I can't say anything,

529
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 2: and then if I do try and talk, she stops

530
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,919
Speaker 2: working on me, and then it prolongs the appointment and

531
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,720
Speaker 2: it's just such an awkward interaction. So then I was

532
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 2: thinking about all of the things that like we just

533
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 2: deal with on a daily basis that are super awkward.

534
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:37,720
Speaker 2: Is there anything that comes to mind for you with

535
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 2: this that we just like don't realize we do all

536
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 2: the time.

537
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 3: Oh gosh, I don't know, you mean that I do

538
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 3: that might be awkward or that's like awkward that happens

539
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 3: to me.

540
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:50,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, like all people probably experience something like this. Like

541
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 2: another one is when you're at the grocery store checkout

542
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,520
Speaker 2: and they're like, have a great day, and you're like,

543
00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 2: he thanks you too, or you say something we were

544
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,080
Speaker 2: because you're just not sure how to enter.

545
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 3: Yeah. Well sometimes I'll I anticipate that the clerk is

546
00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,639
Speaker 3: asking me how my day is, and they're not like

547
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,679
Speaker 3: they something else comes out, but I'm anticipating how are you?

548
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 3: And I answer with I'm fine, how are you? And

549
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 3: they're like I said, cash or credit or whatever.

550
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, these are like those things. I feel like we

551
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 2: have a lot of awkward interactions on a daily basis

552
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 2: that we just nobody ever talks about. Yeah, and we

553
00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:28,200
Speaker 2: just deal with the much humans.

554
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:31,400
Speaker 3: There's this one guy I've been passing when we walk

555
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,360
Speaker 3: our dogs every day in our neighborhood, or I walk

556
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 3: my dog every day and he walks his, So we

557
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 3: are walking our dogs and I pass him over and

558
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 3: over and his dog always is so aggressive towards my dog,

559
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 3: and I almost like tense up when I know we're

560
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 3: about to end, and I know he feels bad too,

561
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:51,199
Speaker 3: But that's an awkward interaction I've been having in my

562
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,159
Speaker 3: neighborhood where I'm like, oh, shoot, and I want to

563
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:55,119
Speaker 3: just like turn around and go the other direction just

564
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 3: to save Kara the stress and his dog the stress.

565
00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:00,200
Speaker 3: But I'm like, well, I don't want him to think

566
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 3: I'm avoiding him, so I'm like trying to hold car

567
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 3: really tight. So that's an awkward neighborhood situation that I'm

568
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:07,120
Speaker 3: having right now.

569
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:09,399
Speaker 2: Oh that's a good one. And also another one that's

570
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 2: awkward is when you see somebody not pick up poop

571
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 2: and you like you want to say something, but then

572
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 2: also you don't want to say something.

573
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:19,919
Speaker 3: I'm not saying anything, but I am judging.

574
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 2: Right, That's one that I judge, and that people do

575
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 2: it so freely.

576
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,160
Speaker 3: Maybe goodness, I don't see that, not in my neighborhood.

577
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 2: I think it's as I walk in a little park

578
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:30,120
Speaker 2: and it's a little.

579
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 3: Bit more, they probably think that, oh, this is a

580
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 3: public park, I don't need to pick it up.

581
00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:36,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, I see it a lot, So that's one. Then

582
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:40,360
Speaker 2: another one I was thinking of was when you're at

583
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:42,440
Speaker 2: a grocery store. Maybe it's a grocery or somewhere else

584
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,199
Speaker 2: just in public and somebody's on the phone and you

585
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:45,399
Speaker 2: think they're talking to you, and then you.

586
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 3: Were just start tugging. Yes, there's that or right now

587
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,880
Speaker 3: with the parking lots being so full when you're shopping,

588
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 3: like you finally get to a parking spot, but another

589
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:55,679
Speaker 3: car pulls in like right at the same time, and

590
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:57,280
Speaker 3: you're like, who had.

591
00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:59,440
Speaker 2: Their blinker on first? And it becomes a fight a

592
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 2: parking lot.

593
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,159
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just go ahead and driveway, I surrender, I

594
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 3: wave the rifleg and like you can have it, I'll go.

595
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 2: But it is awkward for a second.

596
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 3: It isn't like well.

597
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:11,679
Speaker 2: But yeah, and there's no communication because you're both in

598
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:12,639
Speaker 2: cars so you can't.

599
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:13,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

600
00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 2: I also feel like and maybe it's just a lot

601
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 2: of grocery store moments for me, but there was another

602
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,199
Speaker 2: one where I took the last product of something at

603
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:23,080
Speaker 2: a grocery store and another lady was walking up to

604
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 2: get it and she kind of gave me the dirty eye,

605
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:28,200
Speaker 2: like I was was a ticket. Well you were there first, right,

606
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 2: but awkward interaction.

607
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:33,199
Speaker 3: I've been trying to do my shopping, you know. I

608
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 3: was thinking, that's where online shopping comes in handy, because

609
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 3: you don't have awkward interactions. But I have been trying

610
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 3: to do my shopping at some local boutiques this year.

611
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 3: I don't know, it just popped in my head. I

612
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 3: went into one the other day and I was like,

613
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,239
Speaker 3: they have such cute stuff here, and I've never been

614
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 3: in this store. So it got me curious about the

615
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 3: different little boutiques that are one officer, not a chain,

616
00:27:56,680 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 3: not anything, and why have I never been into them?

617
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 3: And so I made it my mission to go shop

618
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 3: at them and buy gifts at those stores.

619
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,920
Speaker 2: Okay, so maybe this is I don't think it's really

620
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,400
Speaker 2: a Kansas thing. It's more so. There was one boutique

621
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 2: and it was called Alter Ego way back when in Wichita, Kansas.

622
00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:15,919
Speaker 2: And this is what turned me on to like boutiques

623
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 2: was mind you, I loved doing Wichita. We didn't have

624
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:21,879
Speaker 2: like we had two malls, but they were a little icy,

625
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 2: so you really just it was hard to find places

626
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 2: to shop at in Wichita. That was like finding cute

627
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:28,919
Speaker 2: clothes or things that were in style versus like just

628
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 2: going to Walmart or Target. And we loved this boutique.

629
00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 2: So then when I moved to Nashville, I feel like

630
00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:37,240
Speaker 2: I really started to do boutiques all the time, and

631
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:38,680
Speaker 2: that's where I did a lot of shopping, and my

632
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 2: mom would come to town and she'd love going to

633
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 2: all the boutiques. So I feel like boutique shopping has

634
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 2: been a part of my life all because of this

635
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 2: one store in Wichita, because they never gave with other options.

636
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 2: But now I love it because those are the stores

637
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 2: that I actually really like going to, Versus when I

638
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 2: try and stop in a Walmart or a Target, half

639
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 2: the time they don't ever have what I need, and

640
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 2: then I have to go to Amazon. It's weird. It's

641
00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 2: like I want a shop in person. I want to

642
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 2: support like the in store places, but like the big

643
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 2: ones don't do it for me, but the boutiques they

644
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 2: always have things that I want. Real.

645
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like I've found so many unique, special

646
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 3: cute gifts and they have everything. Answer where I got

647
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:19,520
Speaker 3: the pajamas with my boyfriend's daughter, Like I was like,

648
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 3: I've never even seen pajamas like this before. These are

649
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 3: so cute and they're so soft and they're so unique.

650
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 3: And then they have like adorable kitchen knickknack things and

651
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 3: cute little Santa cups like that. Some of my friends

652
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 3: would love little mugs, and it's like a one stop

653
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 3: shop because then they also had jewelry and you know,

654
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:44,040
Speaker 3: blankets like they had. It's like a variety, which I

655
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 3: know you have variety if you go walk around the mall,

656
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 3: but also to like something felt good about keeping it.

657
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 2: I like the mom and pop local shops too, because

658
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 2: also again the mall's just I'm telling you, I've tried

659
00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 2: to be in store shopping to be part of my

660
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,520
Speaker 2: community a little bit more, and they just don't. They

661
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 2: don't have stuff anymore. It's weird. It's it's weird what

662
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 2: I've feel like I've witnessed as a consumer, and it

663
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 2: makes me then go to online chopping, and I hate

664
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 2: that because I don't want to online chop. Weird, weird balance, weird,

665
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 2: awkward moments. Those are the things that I thought about. Okay, Also,

666
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 2: we were at dinner with friends, and I want your

667
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 2: perspective on this. So the guys were drinking, they were

668
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 2: all having a great time, but the girls weren't drinking,

669
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 2: and one of them had ordered a mocktail, but what

670
00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 2: arrived at our table for her was a cocktail and

671
00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 2: she took a drink of it. And he like quickly

672
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 2: comes over. It was like that wasn't that had alcohol

673
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 2: or whatever? I feel like like my boyfriend and I

674
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:38,920
Speaker 2: kind of looked at her tilther. I was like, that

675
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 2: was a really big mistake. No, that's huge. Should I

676
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 2: tell you?

677
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 3: I haven't told you this. I show prepped it, but

678
00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 3: we never talked about it on the show, so you

679
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:49,719
Speaker 3: wouldn't have known because I just sent it to Bobby.

680
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 3: My friend was at a sound bath, okay, and she's

681
00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 3: like fourteen years sober and she's at a sound bath.

682
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:02,120
Speaker 3: What kind of thing drinks do you think someone has

683
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 3: at a sound bath?

684
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 2: Oh? Like orange water water?

685
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 3: Yes, something you know, not toxic like alcohol, because you're

686
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 3: it's a sound bath. Yes, it's like a yeah, peaceful

687
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 3: zen yoga type experience with.

688
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 2: Sound bath sounds.

689
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 3: And they offered this drink at the end and she

690
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 3: took a sip of it. She was like, oh, yeah, yeah,

691
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 3: I would love that. And she took a sip of

692
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 3: it and instantly she could tell, like when it was

693
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 3: hitting her nose in her lips like something was off,

694
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 3: and then it got in her mouth and she could

695
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:39,719
Speaker 3: taste the tequila. It was like this margarita infused something

696
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 3: or another and she just spit it out immediately and

697
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 3: then looked at the girl working and she was like,

698
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 3: is there alcohol in here? And she was like, oh yeah,

699
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 3: and that festive and fun, you know. I think it

700
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 3: was like a little festive holiday drink. And she was like, yeah, sure,

701
00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 3: but I'm seven or I'm fourteen years sober so and

702
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 3: she was like and the girl just goes she was young,

703
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 3: and she's like, oh, my bad.

704
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,120
Speaker 2: And my friend was like, yeah, my bad.

705
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 3: Okay, I don't really know how to handle it. She

706
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 3: just kind of thought there needs to be more of

707
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:12,120
Speaker 3: a this is an alcoholic drink. I mean, everybody in

708
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 3: the class was an adult, So maybe that something got

709
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 3: lost and my friend did not get the memo that

710
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 3: there was alcohol in the post sound bath cocktail.

711
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 2: I feel like I would have missed that memo too.

712
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 3: I just wouldn't think, like a sound bath on a

713
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 3: Tuesday night, you're having some tequila.

714
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:35,719
Speaker 2: Or just like you you clearly state that, especially this

715
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 2: day and age, you have a lot of people that

716
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 2: don't consume alcohol for a whole bunch of reasons. That's

717
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 2: something that should be like, hey, do you want this

718
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,920
Speaker 2: festive holiday cocktail, and if as soon as you say cocktail,

719
00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:47,200
Speaker 2: it's like, okay, well does have alcohol and it not

720
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 2: just like here's it right to heal you after whenever.

721
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 3: It was interesting that that just happened to her a

722
00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 3: few weeks ago. So what like this sort of similar

723
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 3: ish situation where you have alcohols not to be.

724
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 2: I don't feel like, I mean, thankfully two of the girls,

725
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 2: one of them was pregnant, the other wasn't. Thankfully it

726
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 2: went to the girl who isn't. But I'm like, that

727
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 2: could have they both ordered a mocktail, and that could

728
00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 2: have easily been the one that was pregnant, and you

729
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 2: have a lawsuit waiting on your hands. It was just

730
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:19,920
Speaker 2: like a wild I couldn't. And as someone who was

731
00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 2: a server, I get it you make mistakes. There's gonnay

732
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 2: times where you do things wrong. But if there was

733
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 2: one thing I ever made sure I did not do

734
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:28,720
Speaker 2: wrong with mix up an alcoholic drink. If I was

735
00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 2: unsure if something was a mocktail versus a cocktail, I'm like,

736
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 2: mixed hat again because I don't know what's in that, right,

737
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 2: you know, I just that's something that you can't mess with.

738
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 2: That or somebody's allergy. Theo's are two biggest thinks. Somebody's

739
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:42,200
Speaker 2: definitely allergic to something, and if they can't have alcohol,

740
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 2: I feel like you can't miss up there. Those are

741
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:48,600
Speaker 2: like those are fireballfences. But it was funny because my

742
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 2: friend was really chill about it. Thankfully she's not, like

743
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 2: she's sober by choice the last few years, but so

744
00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 2: thankfully it wasn't gonna be something super detrimental to her.

745
00:33:58,040 --> 00:33:59,920
Speaker 2: But she was really cool about it, and I just was.

746
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 2: I feel like I would have not been chill about that.

747
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, my friend was very chill about it too, but

748
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 3: it did make her a little nervous, like having that

749
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:11,279
Speaker 3: touch because she's not sober by choice. I mean she

750
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:14,839
Speaker 3: is by choice, yeah, but she had to get sober, Like.

751
00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 2: Was she doing okay, like some something.

752
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's fine, thankfully, but I could see we're in

753
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 3: that situation your brain getting like depending on how much

754
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 3: you were to have, but like it hitting your system,

755
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:29,799
Speaker 3: and some people's brain just have like a I mean

756
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 3: some alcoholics that I know they have that craving all

757
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 3: the time. They can't they can't give into it because

758
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 3: they know what's on the other side of that so

759
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:42,279
Speaker 3: they actively choose not to. But then you give your

760
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 3: brain that the taste of that, and it might be

761
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 3: like one time, Okay, Okay, there it is. That's what

762
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,360
Speaker 3: I've been waiting for. Oh, that's what I've been missing

763
00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 3: because our brains are so different. I watched a video

764
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 3: recently on what's actually happening to your brain when you

765
00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:00,799
Speaker 3: give it alcohol or drugs, and it's quite fast, and

766
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 3: how all of our chemical makeups are so different. So

767
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 3: sometimes we can't understand maybe why someone can't stop. And

768
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 3: the video talked about an analogy with like ice cream

769
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 3: for some people, or dairy, Like we don't ever question

770
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:25,839
Speaker 3: someone's ability to process or not process dairy. Like if

771
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:27,760
Speaker 3: someone's like, oh I can't have ice cream, my body

772
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 3: will react right away. We're like oh wow. And then

773
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,320
Speaker 3: but yet sometimes we have a hard time understanding like

774
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:35,359
Speaker 3: why can't they process alcohol the same as everybody else?

775
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 3: Like what's up with that? Well, we need to accept

776
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 3: it just the same of like oh wow, yeah, you

777
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:47,239
Speaker 3: can't have alcohol. It's not about willpower or like your

778
00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 3: body physically reacts totally different, and you know, sometimes people

779
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:55,160
Speaker 3: are like, oh, we'll just switch to like this type

780
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 3: of alcohol well, that's like maybe switching from chocolate ice

781
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:02,600
Speaker 3: cream to vanilla cream. It's still going to impact you. Yeah,

782
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 3: and you just the best thing to do is to

783
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 3: stay away from the dairy, right, So the best thing

784
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 3: to do is just stay away from the alcohol.

785
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 2: And I feel like culturally in the last I guess

786
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 2: I've noticed it association with social media because being in

787
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 2: college when social media was really first hitting, I feel

788
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 2: like you watched people have these fun lives and it

789
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,160
Speaker 2: was always revolved around alcohol. So you were kind of

790
00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 2: taught that partying and like having alcohol and drinking were

791
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 2: associated with a good time. And that could just be

792
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:33,959
Speaker 2: my experience in the way that it all played out,

793
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 2: but I think the correlation with social media and alcohol

794
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:39,839
Speaker 2: has definitely played a role, and that you see heck,

795
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 2: I mean half of my feed because I love food

796
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:43,640
Speaker 2: so much. I see a lot of food, but in

797
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:47,000
Speaker 2: association with food is drinks, because you're not going to

798
00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 2: go to a restaurant and get a good food and

799
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 2: not have the drink that pairs with it or whatever.

800
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 2: And I feel like that has made us think that

801
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 2: like people have to have alcohol to be having good times,

802
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 2: or having to consume alcohol to the normal person versus

803
00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 2: the not normal person. And I don't know, maybe that's me,

804
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:07,759
Speaker 2: maybe that's my experience with the comparison of too, but

805
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:11,920
Speaker 2: I definitely feel like me growing up, I associated alcohol

806
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 2: with a good time, and if you weren't doing it,

807
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 2: you weren't having good time, or like you weren't a

808
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 2: cool kid for doing it, you know what I mean,

809
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:20,160
Speaker 2: even though we had the DARE programs and you did

810
00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 2: all the things in school that were like, don't do

811
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 2: these things, but it still was associated with that. I'm

812
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,799
Speaker 2: sure there's other things beyond just what we saw on

813
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 2: social media, but maybe in magazines and on MTV and

814
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 2: stuff too.

815
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:35,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think the pendulum is swinging a little bit

816
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:37,279
Speaker 3: because now on social you see a lot of the

817
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 3: I guess sober Curious or the mocktails are having a

818
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:46,360
Speaker 3: moment right now where you know, people are have the

819
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:49,439
Speaker 3: ability to buy a mixer or a drink where it's

820
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:51,359
Speaker 3: like you can either add nothing to this and it's

821
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:53,360
Speaker 3: going to taste like your favorite cocktail or if you

822
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:56,880
Speaker 3: want to add a shot of tequila or vodka or

823
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 3: whatever the drink calls for.

824
00:37:58,320 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 2: What's that with co?

825
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, that brand where you can drink it as is,

826
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 3: and have you know a margarita? That's what do they

827
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:09,760
Speaker 3: say besides virgin?

828
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:12,840
Speaker 2: It's what's it called? We mocktail? Is how I but

829
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 2: DoD they're just mixers? Are they that? I guess?

830
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 3: But I thought they're like when you're at the is

831
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:19,799
Speaker 3: it just mocktail? Like when you're out there, because they

832
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 3: don't say virgin margarita.

833
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 2: No, they definitely say mate or.

834
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 3: Virgin pina clauda. They say, I thought there was another

835
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:29,879
Speaker 3: word for it. That's like, because virgin's just weird now,

836
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:34,439
Speaker 3: but for the cocktail or virgin.

837
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:41,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, zero proof, spirit free, non alcoholic, okay, those are

838
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 2: all though.

839
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 3: I don't know spirit free well anyway, it gives you

840
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 3: the same vibe and then you have the choice, like

841
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 3: so if someone wants it alcohol free, they have it

842
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:51,680
Speaker 3: that way, and then if you want it, then you

843
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 3: add a little doll.

844
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:55,840
Speaker 2: Up of a little something, a some something.

845
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 3: You know.

846
00:38:56,160 --> 00:38:59,239
Speaker 2: I've been since I started my clinse and doing all

847
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,319
Speaker 2: the work I have been to with the like care

848
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 2: of my the functional nutritionist, I haven't had alcohol since

849
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 2: that was like part of this cleanse was me like

850
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 2: removing everything bad for my body, and so I had

851
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 2: gone two months without any alcohol, and I felt the

852
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:19,359
Speaker 2: best I'd ever felt, and even since then. Now we'll

853
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 2: go out and do things and I might have two

854
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 2: or three drinks and I just give it to my boyfriend.

855
00:39:23,040 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm good. I had to taste of it.

856
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 2: I'm fine. I don't you say two or three? And

857
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh wow, like that would be a lot

858
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 2: for me. No, no, no, no, not like two or

859
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 2: three full drinks.

860
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 3: You're like, and now I just go out and have

861
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:39,880
Speaker 3: like three, and I'm like, okay, we're good, and I'm.

862
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:43,439
Speaker 2: Like, yeah, i'd be good too. No for even having

863
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 2: one full drink at this point, he's gonna send me

864
00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:47,439
Speaker 2: over the yeah, okay, okay, yeah, No two or three

865
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 2: SIPs of something and two or three SIPs.

866
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 3: I literally thought you were like yeah. After the third one,

867
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:55,319
Speaker 3: I'm like, well, I'm good. You can have my drinks now.

868
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 2: Could you imagine that I was saying? Yeah? So it

869
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 2: feels weird that, like my whole life, I was so different,

870
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 2: But I just feel so much better, and it's, you know,

871
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:06,720
Speaker 2: how awesome it is to not wake up with a hangover,

872
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 2: feel sick, or feel inflamed because I had too much

873
00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 2: alcohol that I shouldn't have been even putting in my

874
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:13,279
Speaker 2: body to begin with.

875
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, I think I drink less than I

876
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 3: ever have before, and you're right, I do feel better.

877
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 3: And not that I was ever heavy, heavy drinker. I

878
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 3: definitely had times or seasons where I would have a

879
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:30,720
Speaker 3: little glass of wine and I felt like I wanted

880
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:34,280
Speaker 3: that every night, or quote unquote needed that. Obviously I didn't,

881
00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 3: but I was just like, oh, okay, that's time for

882
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 3: a glass wine. It became like a routine. Thankfully, I

883
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:46,160
Speaker 3: don't have my chemical makeup, isn't going to instantly become addicted.

884
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 3: And then I also didn't give it enough to where

885
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:52,320
Speaker 3: then my body needed that all the time, Thank goodness.

886
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:56,359
Speaker 3: But that's where it can get you sometimes, and I'm

887
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 3: very thankful that that wasn't my experience. My sister and

888
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 3: I were talking the other day because we couldn't remember.

889
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 3: I couldn't remember. We never knew our mom's dad. He died,

890
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:09,880
Speaker 3: and then our mom has since passed and our uncle

891
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 3: has passed, so now we just have our aunt left,

892
00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:14,320
Speaker 3: and we're gonna call her and try to have a

893
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:16,920
Speaker 3: conversation of what their dad was like. Because I couldn't

894
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 3: remember if he was an alcoholic, but I think that

895
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:22,240
Speaker 3: maybe he was, and I want to know some information

896
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:24,120
Speaker 3: about that because other than that, I don't know of

897
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:29,399
Speaker 3: alcoholism in my bloodline, like my direct like my mom

898
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 3: or my dad didn't have an issue, but if my

899
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 3: grandpa did, like that's in my bloodline.

900
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 2: Well, so I feel like two with those older generations,

901
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 2: it's really the younger generations were like, oh, yeah, they

902
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 2: were an alcoholic, but maybe at the time that person

903
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 2: didn't think they were an alcoholic. Yeah, you know what

904
00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 2: I mean.

905
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:48,239
Speaker 3: I think it was very known, but nobody ever talked

906
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 3: about it. Like my sister are like, why didn't we

907
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:53,400
Speaker 3: talk about this more? But it just wasn't anything. I

908
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 3: know that they got divorced for a reason. They were

909
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 3: divorced before he died. Before he passed away, my grandma

910
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 3: had already divorced him, and I think because he treated

911
00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 3: her pretty terribly and there was some scary moments and

912
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:08,400
Speaker 3: to think that my mom had to witness that as

913
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 3: a child, and I just want to kind of hug

914
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 3: my mom with things that maybe she had to go

915
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:16,520
Speaker 3: through or witness that we just never talked about.

916
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:17,879
Speaker 2: And so that's another thing too.

917
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 3: If you're around family this holiday season, that's when you

918
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 3: tend to see more of your family, ask questions just

919
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 3: to get to know family history and what life was like.

920
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:30,879
Speaker 3: Of course that might be heavier stuff your family may

921
00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 3: not want to revisit. But if you do have one

922
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 3: on one time or go on a walk, or you

923
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:36,359
Speaker 3: are talking to your mom or dad, be like, what

924
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 3: was your childhood like?

925
00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:39,680
Speaker 2: What were your parents like?

926
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:42,919
Speaker 3: Because I want to know that now and it might

927
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:47,800
Speaker 3: explain some of how my mom was. Thankfully she wasn't

928
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,919
Speaker 3: abusive or didn't have alcohol issues, but she was very

929
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:55,160
Speaker 3: emotionally unavailable to me, and so I think there was

930
00:42:55,239 --> 00:43:00,480
Speaker 3: some neglect there that I've had to work through and

931
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 3: now it might make it These things might make more

932
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:05,800
Speaker 3: sense to me if I could know more of why

933
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,440
Speaker 3: she was shut off in that way. Mm hmm, yeah,

934
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:10,240
Speaker 3: understanding her background.

935
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 2: That family history and stuff. Man, you I feel like

936
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 2: everybody has a family lore that you find out about

937
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 2: as she keep getting older. There's like little pieces that

938
00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:20,960
Speaker 2: just start to piece together until you're finally, like in

939
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 2: your eighties nineties, and you finally have the whole puzzle.

940
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 2: But it took your whole life to put everything together. Yeah,

941
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 2: it's like the family tree that they make you do

942
00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 2: in high school, but you don't actually have all the

943
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:30,800
Speaker 2: pieces to do the family tree.

944
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:33,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, my siblings and I are trying to figure out

945
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 3: my dad's second wife. We know the first, we know

946
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:39,400
Speaker 3: the third that was my mom, and we know the

947
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:41,200
Speaker 3: fourth because it was after my mom, but we don't

948
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 3: really know anything about the second. Like nobody's seen a picture,

949
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:48,800
Speaker 3: nobody's got like we have the name, but like where

950
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 3: is she and what happened and how.

951
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:53,160
Speaker 2: Long was it? And you know, like it's just I

952
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 2: want to know facts.

953
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:55,799
Speaker 3: About my dad's second wife, Like I would love to

954
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 3: know that, but he's gone now too, and I don't

955
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:00,719
Speaker 3: really know who we could ask. I mean, we got

956
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:02,279
Speaker 3: to figure that out. But my brother has been doing

957
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:05,279
Speaker 3: something cathartic. He's been writing songs and he's not a writer,

958
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 3: and he's in his fifties, like he hasn't traditionally been

959
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:11,800
Speaker 3: a writer, like a songwriter, but he's been doing something

960
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:20,360
Speaker 3: or writing things just for his own therapeutic process, some healing.

961
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 3: And he sent us a song that he wrote about

962
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 3: our uncle the other day and he was like, I'm

963
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:25,960
Speaker 3: trying to write one about Dad, but it's been difficult,

964
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 3: and so he texted me and my sisters and he

965
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:33,279
Speaker 3: was like, send me things y'all remember about Dad. Just

966
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 3: throw them up here, like just throw everything at the wall.

967
00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 3: Do you remember about his cooking and different things? And

968
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:40,800
Speaker 3: I'm curious to see what he's going to put together.

969
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:42,840
Speaker 3: He's like, I'll send it to y'all when i'm done.

970
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:46,400
Speaker 3: And listening to the song like he or he wrote

971
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:49,920
Speaker 3: out the lyrics, So reading the lyrics to the song

972
00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:54,840
Speaker 3: that he wrote about my uncle that was really special,

973
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 3: and then listening to how he kind of wants it

974
00:44:57,280 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 3: to sound was cool. And I was thinking about getting

975
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:03,239
Speaker 3: with like Brandon ray or I don't know somebody here.

976
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:05,440
Speaker 3: I need to ask Bobby, like who if I should?

977
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:08,120
Speaker 3: I want to like hire somebody to put together what

978
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 3: my brother's done and just just as a demo and

979
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:13,279
Speaker 3: give it to him as a gift, like hey, I

980
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:14,720
Speaker 3: made this come to life.

981
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 2: Or I feel like you could definitely have somebody help

982
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:19,800
Speaker 2: you with that. Yeah, like that could be a special.

983
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 2: I don't know.

984
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 3: I was just thinking of activities even with siblings of

985
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 3: like hey, guys, let's write. Let's all get together and

986
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 3: write a song about our dad and just see what

987
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:29,879
Speaker 3: what or your mom and see what comes out.

988
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:30,799
Speaker 2: I don't know.

989
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 3: It was a cool group text and I haven't texted

990
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 3: with my other siblings. My sister and I text a lot,

991
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:38,640
Speaker 3: but then my half brother and half sister we text

992
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 3: like on the holiday, like you know, or the day

993
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:44,719
Speaker 3: my dad died, like oh, hey, happy day.

994
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 2: You know, I think it's happy.

995
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:50,480
Speaker 3: I don't know what we say, but we're like thinking

996
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:55,280
Speaker 3: of you all today, heartheart, Yeah, I'm a happy dad's

997
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:59,839
Speaker 3: dead day. I mean, I would have put it past

998
00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:01,919
Speaker 3: this to say that and sort of laugh. You find

999
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:04,759
Speaker 3: ways to grief and yeah, makes it fine. But I

1000
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 3: just thought that literally just came up this week and

1001
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 3: that's something we've been texting about. So I was just

1002
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:11,120
Speaker 3: going to share that since it's sort of related in

1003
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 3: when you're together with your family for the holidays, that

1004
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:15,359
Speaker 3: also could just be a fun activity with your family

1005
00:46:15,360 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 3: arou on the table, like hey, let's write a song.

1006
00:46:17,160 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 3: Just come up with some verses and a chorus, and well,

1007
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 3: in my favorite way, like genuinely that I've seen more

1008
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:25,040
Speaker 3: sides of my family members. When we play games together,

1009
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 3: we pull out just so many and not just one

1010
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 3: it's not like we played one board game.

1011
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 2: We played all night. We bring out like fifteen different

1012
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 2: games and we just rotate through all of them. And

1013
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 2: I feel like this when I learn a lot about

1014
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:37,120
Speaker 2: people that you just never see another side of them.

1015
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 2: So if you don't want to be super emotionally.

1016
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, maybe you don't need cathartic, you just need fun.

1017
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can try the cathartic. If it doesn't work,

1018
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:48,879
Speaker 2: maybe try games. You a funny song, Yeah, you could

1019
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:51,359
Speaker 2: write a funny song. There was a game it's called

1020
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 2: Redneck Life. It's like Life the game, but redneck version.

1021
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 2: And we grew up in Kansas. We all have that

1022
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 2: countryside of our family, and so we played Redneck Live

1023
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:04,680
Speaker 2: and we all had to you had to talk in

1024
00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 2: the game and your redneck accent, and it was the

1025
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:09,799
Speaker 2: We laughed for like six hours. Oh that sounds fun

1026
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:12,399
Speaker 2: because it was literally just like us as we were kids,

1027
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 2: coming all out and all of our like my dad's

1028
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:18,799
Speaker 2: little mannerisms from his childhood, because he he says things

1029
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:22,279
Speaker 2: like washer and dala, like, he has words that he

1030
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 2: uses very in that kind of country slang, and it

1031
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 2: all just came out and it was fun to watch.

1032
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:30,880
Speaker 2: Oh so like that. Yeah, so you could do something

1033
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 2: fun like that. I'm sure there's like.

1034
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 3: It's called redneck life. Yeah, okay, and it's hilarious.

1035
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:39,280
Speaker 2: You can only win by keeping your teeth. Oh that's funny,

1036
00:47:39,840 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 2: keeping only your teeth. And I can't be insulted because

1037
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 2: I literally grew up on a farm with redneck life,

1038
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:47,320
Speaker 2: so that that was my life for a solid portion.

1039
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:49,360
Speaker 2: But all right, we're gonna jump out of here and

1040
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 2: answer some listener questions, so go check that out on

1041
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:52,960
Speaker 2: part three, Amy, thanks for joining.

1042
00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:53,440
Speaker 3: Thank you.

1043
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Speaker 2: Tell the people where they can find you.

1044
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 3: Radio Amy on socials and podcast is Feeling Things with

1045
00:47:58,120 --> 00:47:59,000
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1046
00:47:59,400 --> 00:48:02,800
Speaker 2: Love that and an early early Merry Christmas to everybody.

1047
00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:05,480
Speaker 2: Enjoy the holidays with your family and there will be

1048
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 2: more best Bits for the holidays, so you'll have plenty

1049
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Speaker 2: each weekend until we are back.

1050
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Speaker 1: That's the Best Bits of the Week with Morgan. Thanks

1051
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Speaker 1: for listening. Be sure to check out the other two

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00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:18,879
Speaker 1: parts this weekend. Go follow the show on all social.

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