WEBVTT - All The Real Fathers Please Stand Up ( Loren Deep Does a Deep Deep Dive About Fatherhood) 

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a homegrowl that knows a little bit about everything

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<v Speaker 1>and everybody, you know, if.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't lie about that, right, Lauren came in. Hey, y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>it's Laura l Rosa and this is the latest with

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<v Speaker 2>Laura L. Rosa.

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<v Speaker 1>Now this is always your daily dig into all things entertainment, news,

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<v Speaker 1>pop culture, and the conversations that shake the room. I

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<v Speaker 1>love episodes where you know it's in like real time,

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<v Speaker 1>things have really happened, and we can just get on

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<v Speaker 1>here and we could talk a little bit, checking in

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<v Speaker 1>behind the scenes of the grind, which is where we

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<v Speaker 1>you know, pulled a curtain back and just check on

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<v Speaker 1>each other, see how we feeling.

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<v Speaker 2>I am feeling very well rested.

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<v Speaker 1>I've probably said that a lot in the last couple

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<v Speaker 1>of weeks because I've been prioritizing making sure I get

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<v Speaker 1>my resting because it's been a lot happening. But this weekend,

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<v Speaker 1>in particular, was Father's Day weekend. I went home and

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<v Speaker 1>literally did nothing. When I said I went home, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean I went home to my hometown with my.

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<v Speaker 2>Family in Delaware and didn't nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>Like literally got in my mom's bed and slept, spent

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<v Speaker 1>time with my grandmother, it was Father's Day.

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<v Speaker 2>My brother is a father, so you know, he was

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<v Speaker 2>in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>We really didn't do much of anything, but it felt

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<v Speaker 1>good to be doing nothing. But Father's Day was happening,

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<v Speaker 1>and the posts were everywhere. I love seeing dads be dads.

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<v Speaker 1>I love seeing black father's black father is one of

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<v Speaker 1>my favorite things to see. But I came across this

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<v Speaker 1>conversation getting into the latest. I came across this conversation

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<v Speaker 1>that Kirk Franklin hosted on his YouTube channel, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>for a series that he has called The Den of Kings,

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<v Speaker 1>And the premise of the sit down is what happens

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<v Speaker 1>when black men sit down, take off their masks, and

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<v Speaker 1>speak from the heart. And the premiere of Den of

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<v Speaker 1>King's Grammy winner, Kirk Franklin is joined by DC Young,

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<v Speaker 1>Fly daval Ellis, I Love daval Lou Young, and Country

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<v Speaker 1>Wayne for a raw, honest and powerful conversation about fatherhood, faith, masculinity,

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<v Speaker 1>and healing from growing up without a blueprint to leading

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<v Speaker 1>their families with intentional love.

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<v Speaker 2>This fron teble pulls no punches.

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<v Speaker 1>This isn't about being perfect, It's about being present, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I love conversations like this even though I'm not a

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm a woman because gon say, even though

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a man.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's like, duh, Lauren.

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<v Speaker 1>I love conversations like this though, because I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>as a woman and when I'm watching these things, it

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<v Speaker 1>makes me look at like, I don't know how many think.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how men deal with what they go through.

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<v Speaker 1>I only know what I experienced from the men in

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<v Speaker 1>my life, my brother, my dad, my stepdad, my my

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<v Speaker 1>male friends. So I'm always interested in learning and seeing,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, kind of the other side of the of

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<v Speaker 1>the pillow, and like and like what the experiences are

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<v Speaker 1>like from a man's point of view.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's exactly what this was.

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<v Speaker 1>They talked about so many different things and it got

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<v Speaker 1>really really deep.

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<v Speaker 2>The first thing they opened up with I thought was

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<v Speaker 2>very powerful.

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<v Speaker 1>Kirk Franklin asked them, you know, what is the biggest

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<v Speaker 1>myth about about black dads?

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<v Speaker 3>And here's what they said, The biggest myth that society

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<v Speaker 3>has about black fathers sick and tied that you want

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<v Speaker 3>to address.

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<v Speaker 2>That we ain't there. I'm going to say that we

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<v Speaker 2>did beat now, might I mean there? We be across

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<v Speaker 2>the street brom A house, someone like down the street

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<v Speaker 2>in the house.

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<v Speaker 4>The fact of the matter is, studies show that black

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<v Speaker 4>fathers are the most present in their kids life amongst

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<v Speaker 4>all demographics.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 4>On top of that, single fathers have a higher graduation

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<v Speaker 4>rate and lower incarceration rate than single moms and dual

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<v Speaker 4>family households.

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<v Speaker 2>Come on, that is a fact.

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<v Speaker 5>Show them with those stats really being relevant. Now, where

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<v Speaker 5>is this myth still continuing to come from?

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<v Speaker 2>You think narratives?

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<v Speaker 4>Think about it, right, We don't watch TV. Everything that

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<v Speaker 4>we consume comes to me to through a phone, TV

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<v Speaker 4>or film.

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<v Speaker 3>Right.

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<v Speaker 4>There are people who have agendas, right, and part of

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<v Speaker 4>that agenda is creating a separation between men and women

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<v Speaker 4>in our communities. It's always been that way.

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<v Speaker 1>And man, when I tell y'all, has hit me because

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<v Speaker 1>every single year, for like Father's Day, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>even on Mother's Day, seeing fathers post their kids with

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<v Speaker 1>their kids mom or like you know, their wives and

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<v Speaker 1>all these things. I'm like, I look around and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know no men that are not in their kids' lives.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know any men that are not taking care

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<v Speaker 1>of their kids. I don't like, I just don't know

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<v Speaker 1>those guys. But I know, at one point in time,

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<v Speaker 1>it felt like it was very different like when I

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<v Speaker 1>was younger, especially because I didn't grow with my father

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<v Speaker 1>in my household. I didn't meet my dad until I

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<v Speaker 1>was thirteen, fourteen years old, and then after that, me

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<v Speaker 1>and him, you know, like I knew who he was,

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<v Speaker 1>I knew where to reach him, I knew how to

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<v Speaker 1>call him and all that. But it's different having him

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<v Speaker 1>in the household and even just having a very close

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<v Speaker 1>relationship to him. Because I didn't grow up with my

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<v Speaker 1>father in the household, it wasn't normal for me to

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<v Speaker 1>just like always want to call my dad or spend

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<v Speaker 1>time with my dad or talk like those things weren't

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<v Speaker 1>just a natural thing for me because I going a

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<v Speaker 1>long time of my life without doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>Even now, me and.

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<v Speaker 1>My dad talk, you know, I'll text someone, you might

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<v Speaker 1>check in here and there. But if I don't talk

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<v Speaker 1>to my dad for weeks at a time, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>unormal for me. But my mother and my grandmother who

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<v Speaker 1>raised me, if I don't talk to them for a day,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh my god, I'm too busy.

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<v Speaker 2>The world is coming to it.

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<v Speaker 1>And even my mom, my stepdad, my brother's father who

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<v Speaker 1>you know, stepped in and really helped out with me.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't talk to him every single day, but if

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<v Speaker 1>too much time goes past, I'm like, let me call him.

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't heard from him. Even going home for Father's

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<v Speaker 1>Day this weekend, I was My intention was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to go see him. He was running around.

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<v Speaker 1>I was running around, but I was like, I have

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<v Speaker 1>to see him. I have to talk to him. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's just, you know, I think it's been such a

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<v Speaker 1>normal thing and an easy thing for people to say

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<v Speaker 1>that black fathers are not in the household, and some

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<v Speaker 1>of us have experienced that. I just share my experience

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<v Speaker 1>with that, right. But I have all of my friends

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<v Speaker 1>that have their fathers in their home. I have friends

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<v Speaker 1>that you know, have kids, and even if they are

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<v Speaker 1>not with their child's father, their father is in their

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<v Speaker 1>child's life very actively. All of my male friends are

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<v Speaker 1>super super super super dads.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know them people. I don't know them men.

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<v Speaker 1>So just by that being the opening conversation, I was like, Yo,

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<v Speaker 1>this is about this is about to get real, real good.

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<v Speaker 1>So next they talked about something that I thought was

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<v Speaker 1>also you know, very interesting as well. Kirk Franklin had

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<v Speaker 1>a public spat with his son and it was very

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<v Speaker 1>very public. Kirk Franklin and his son went back and

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<v Speaker 1>forth about a ton of different things. His son alleged

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<v Speaker 1>that there was no support that you know that there was.

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<v Speaker 1>There was a lot of allegations at that time. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, with Kirk Franklin being a faith leader, people

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<v Speaker 1>looked at this and was like, hold on, wait what Kirk.

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<v Speaker 1>Like Kirk Franklin and people that are in the faith

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<v Speaker 1>and in worship and leadership of any sort, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>get the same chances to like have issues in the family,

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<v Speaker 1>have issues in your marriage.

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<v Speaker 2>So they talked about it, and here's what Kirk Franklin

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<v Speaker 2>had to say.

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<v Speaker 5>There is a reality that when you live with someone

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<v Speaker 5>every day, yes, and you're in a house with with

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<v Speaker 5>with these images of you and this person that is

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<v Speaker 5>looking for you too that don't be there for them,

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<v Speaker 5>but to also keep the lights on, keep a certain

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<v Speaker 5>lifestyle going for everybody, there's a there's a tension. And

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<v Speaker 5>I can understand now why they have such an ease

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<v Speaker 5>and how they talk.

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<v Speaker 6>In the house because I'm like, okay, I eventually I

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<v Speaker 6>want to be married, right listen to married men, successful

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<v Speaker 6>married men, right, and y'all telling me y'all in the house.

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<v Speaker 6>Y'all can walk down the steps, yeah, see the family

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<v Speaker 6>and still feel like I'm not here not.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, tell you yes, I'm gonna tell you right now

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<v Speaker 4>why we live in an age where women too are

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<v Speaker 4>not just wanting to be homemakers. My wife has her

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<v Speaker 4>own career. So you know how I got my side check,

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<v Speaker 4>that's my career. My wife got a side check, that's

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<v Speaker 4>her career. My wife just just books her first series

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<v Speaker 4>regular role after after having four of my kids. So

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<v Speaker 4>now it's the time where the val got it be supportive.

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<v Speaker 4>I got to step back. So now she has to

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<v Speaker 4>go film. So when she has to go film, who

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<v Speaker 4>has to step in and do all the things at

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<v Speaker 4>whom when.

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<v Speaker 2>She's going I do Now.

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<v Speaker 1>The reason why I thought that that was dope was

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<v Speaker 1>because all the men at that table are all like,

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<v Speaker 1>they have followings, their personalities, their talent, their celebrities, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're all navigating his space, and we've seen things

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<v Speaker 1>happen with them publicly, like Daval and his wife. There

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<v Speaker 1>was recently a video that went viral from an Essence

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<v Speaker 1>interview that he did where he broke down just about

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<v Speaker 1>not being able to show up and have the time.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we have DC young Fly who we know

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<v Speaker 1>the mother his kids, Jackie O passed away not too

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<v Speaker 1>long ago following plastic surgery, and he's been publicly dealing

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<v Speaker 1>with that.

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<v Speaker 2>And you have Country Wayne, who, even in this sit down, he.

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<v Speaker 1>Talked about, you know, some of the issues he's had

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<v Speaker 1>with the mother of his kids because there are multiple

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<v Speaker 1>different women and multiple kids and making that mesh. And

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<v Speaker 1>even with lou he talked a lot about a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of the things that he's been through. I'm not as

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<v Speaker 1>familiar with his situation, but he's talked about a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of the things that he went through just figuring it out.

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<v Speaker 1>And man, when you figuring it out in front of

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<v Speaker 1>the world, like these young men are talking about, it

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<v Speaker 1>is not easy. I can't imagine doing it with kids.

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<v Speaker 1>And I can't imagine doing it with kids as the

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<v Speaker 1>male in the household who has to always have it together.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a whole different play. And they even got into that.

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<v Speaker 1>It got into it about the idea of being a

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<v Speaker 1>father and like the pressures that come with that and

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<v Speaker 1>what it's like when you have a father in the

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<v Speaker 1>household because all of them had different situations. Kirk Franklin

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<v Speaker 1>was adopted, so he didn't have his you know, his

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<v Speaker 1>mother and his father. DC Young Fly talked about, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>his dad not really being around and having to figure

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<v Speaker 1>it out on his own.

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<v Speaker 2>So the country weighing a bit.

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<v Speaker 1>But he said, you know, he could get in contact

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<v Speaker 1>with his dad as that was there, but it was

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<v Speaker 1>still a little bit different. The vow grew up with

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<v Speaker 1>is that in the house, but he talks about having

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<v Speaker 1>that in the house but still having issues. I think

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<v Speaker 1>the biggest point from this interview though, was they started

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<v Speaker 1>talking about because I played all the audio of Davao

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<v Speaker 1>when he's talking about how you know, he's just busy

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<v Speaker 1>and things are just happened, and you know, devil It's

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<v Speaker 1>like they have their YouTube channel where they focus on

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<v Speaker 1>their family and they tell all these stories and things

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<v Speaker 1>of that nature. Right, But then at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>he's an actor and you know, he's an influencer, and

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<v Speaker 1>they move and him has wiped their career. They have

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<v Speaker 1>their book that they came to the Breakfast Club and

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<v Speaker 1>talked about their careers are moving like it's amazing to see.

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<v Speaker 1>But when I saw him break down in that essence interview.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, Wow, you never know what people are

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<v Speaker 1>going through because they package it so well. But he

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<v Speaker 1>also talked about just being a man right in the

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<v Speaker 1>house and wanting to take jobs and opportunities, but you

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<v Speaker 1>can't because you don't want to feel like you slight

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<v Speaker 1>in your family. And I've never thought about this because

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<v Speaker 1>as a woman, especially as a woman with no kids,

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<v Speaker 1>I just I get up and go, I do what

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<v Speaker 1>I want. But even my friends that have kids, like

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<v Speaker 1>the women that I know, they have kids that have

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<v Speaker 1>these opportunities, they take on. What they take on, they

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<v Speaker 1>bring the kids along with them, or they don't. And

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<v Speaker 1>when they don't, it's kind of normal for the world

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<v Speaker 1>to see a woman be like, Nope, got kids at home,

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<v Speaker 1>can do it. But for a man, you get super

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<v Speaker 1>overapplauded when you're like, Nope, can't do it, got kids

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<v Speaker 1>at home. But then when you're absent, there's a conversation

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<v Speaker 1>on you as an absentee father as well too. So

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<v Speaker 1>let's take a listen to that. I thought that this

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<v Speaker 1>point was very interesting as well.

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<v Speaker 4>There's days and this is why it's so hard for me.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't feel like I ever have enough time. Yes,

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<v Speaker 4>and even for my son bro I missed. I made

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<v Speaker 4>every football game from my oldest son, but I missed

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<v Speaker 4>his banquet. And you know what he said to my wife.

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<v Speaker 4>That's why I'll never be an actor. You know, you

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<v Speaker 4>just miss so much stuff. See, my son is the oldest,

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<v Speaker 4>and he's the one who will say to me that

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<v Speaker 4>I know you out there grinding, but it can't it

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<v Speaker 4>don't change the fact that it hurts him.

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<v Speaker 2>Fact, and I want to be.

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<v Speaker 4>This is this is a fact. I want to be

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<v Speaker 4>the biggest star in the world. I want to, right,

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<v Speaker 4>That's what I want to do, but I know what

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<v Speaker 4>that requires. It requires that I'm away a lot, right,

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<v Speaker 4>and now I'm in a situation where I can make

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of money doing something that will give me

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<v Speaker 4>the autonomy to be with my family.

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<v Speaker 6>But that's not what I want to do.

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<v Speaker 4>And that's what I'm struggling with. Like that's why sometimes

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<v Speaker 4>i'd be so heavy, because I'm like, yo, I'm doing this.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to do this now.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, because it was Father's Day and people were

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<v Speaker 1>having so many real conversations about how beautiful it was

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<v Speaker 1>to see you know, dads with their you know, just

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<v Speaker 1>the generation of fathers.

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<v Speaker 2>Like so many celebrities were posting.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw so many different people posting, and I posted

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<v Speaker 1>a question from this interview. I said, because because Kirk

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<v Speaker 1>Franklin asked this in an interview he's he asked to them.

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<v Speaker 1>He said, what's your biggest fear in raising your kids?

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<v Speaker 1>So I tweeted taking it to the streets.

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<v Speaker 2>In the tweets.

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<v Speaker 1>Outside, we outside, we outside outside, I said, black fathers,

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<v Speaker 1>what's your biggest fear in raising your kids?

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<v Speaker 2>It's just opinion, responded my son.

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<v Speaker 1>That my son doesn't create a broken home and that

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<v Speaker 1>he doesn't become someone's stepdad. He's currently a sophomore in college,

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<v Speaker 1>so right now I just want him to finish school

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<v Speaker 1>and settle into life he wants, not one that happened.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all crazy, because I feel like we don't think

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<v Speaker 1>about enough how people settle in relationships. And I know

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<v Speaker 1>women settle, but I always say this to my male

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<v Speaker 1>friends because I have a lot of male friends too.

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<v Speaker 1>Who they're and when I say subtle, I'm not saying

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<v Speaker 1>that like they're taking less so they with people that

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<v Speaker 1>they don't want to be with. But sometimes they're not happy,

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<v Speaker 1>and they can't really communicate it. They can't really you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they're being super dad, they're being provided, they're being this

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<v Speaker 1>or being and they can't talk about it.

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<v Speaker 2>So they're living lives that just happened.

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<v Speaker 1>They're not living lives that they actually want to be living,

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<v Speaker 1>that they love, that they enjoy that, you know, sparks

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<v Speaker 1>their interests every day and things of that nature like.

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<v Speaker 2>That, that's not where they are.

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<v Speaker 1>And then another person responded and said that my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't become someone's baby mama, nor have multiple kids by

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<v Speaker 1>multiple men after college. I want her to settle into

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<v Speaker 1>their career and be self sufficient, which she did, and

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<v Speaker 1>I think that that's another thing as well too, was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, when you're raising daughters as a father, the

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<v Speaker 1>protective nature kicks in, right, but there's a certain level

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<v Speaker 1>of she has to go and live her life.

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<v Speaker 2>If she becomes a mother who is a single mom,

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<v Speaker 2>who is.

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<v Speaker 1>A co parent, she has experienced that and it gets

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<v Speaker 1>to a certain point as a parent where you can't

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<v Speaker 1>protect your kids from that, no matter how much super

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<v Speaker 1>dad you are.

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<v Speaker 2>I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Trusie said, my greatest fear is raising a child into

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<v Speaker 1>an adult. Who lacks critical thinking, accountability and communication skills.

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<v Speaker 2>Man.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone else said a small city legacy said, not preparing

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<v Speaker 1>my kids to survive and thrive in a world when

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<v Speaker 1>I no longer exist.

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<v Speaker 2>That's my biggest fear, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>As I close out, Because all of this, I'm getting

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<v Speaker 1>to the point now where, like you know, I'm starting

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<v Speaker 1>to think about family and what family planning looks like

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<v Speaker 1>for me when I have kids, and how that will work.

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<v Speaker 1>Especially being here at Breakfast Club and seeing Envy Andes

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<v Speaker 1>and Charlottagne with their families and their wives and their husbands.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, Okay, I do want this, and I want

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<v Speaker 2>to start planning for it.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's like my biggest fear is to be slowed

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<v Speaker 1>down by that and how to manage all of that.

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<v Speaker 1>But also, like this world is so harsh. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like this about my niece as well. What happens to

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<v Speaker 1>my babies if I'm no longer here? Who protects them?

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<v Speaker 1>Who go to war for them? And I think as men,

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<v Speaker 1>you know again, the fathers that are protector, So that

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<v Speaker 1>has to be such a big thing for you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>And they talked about that even in the sit down

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<v Speaker 1>of just like you know you're shielding the family so much.

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<v Speaker 1>It's always you shielding the family, but there's nobody to

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<v Speaker 1>shield you as the dad, as the man in the house.

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<v Speaker 2>So I wanted to.

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<v Speaker 1>Take this episode to just spend some time talking about

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<v Speaker 1>the dad, showing y'all some love, showing y'all feeling some love.

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<v Speaker 2>Dad's tweet me.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me know how your father's Day was, and please

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<v Speaker 1>go and watch this, then conversation with Kirk Franklin, and

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<v Speaker 1>then sit down and let me know what you guys

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<v Speaker 1>thought about it. Low Riders, all the male low riders

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<v Speaker 1>out there. I promise sy'all, this is the conversation that

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are not gonna want to miss. Hit me.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to hear how you guys feel and what

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are thinking. I want to know it's gone

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<v Speaker 1>La Rosa. And at the end of the day, there's

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<v Speaker 1>always a lot to talk about. So I enjoy every

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<v Speaker 1>single time you guys are here with me to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about it, because y'all could be anywhere else. I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>back in my next episode. We got some things to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about. You know, we went to court. Kanye popped up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna do a side piece on that