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Speaker 1: All right, guys, before we get to today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: I cannot believe how amazing the studio smells today. Everybody

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Speaker 1: take a big sniff. Yes, it just smells good, right, yeah, lavender,

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Speaker 1: and but this time it's lemon fresh pine salt. Uh.

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Speaker 1: It just makes me so happy when I come in

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Speaker 1: dance all day with this, you know, every time they clean, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: with pine salt. The scent just makes a place smells

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Speaker 1: so amazing, and it smells really clean in here, whether

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Speaker 1: it's the lemon flesh fresh or the lavender clean. Like

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Speaker 1: you said, Steve, I love them all. But you know

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Speaker 1: what I was thinking, I wonder why there isn't a

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Speaker 1: strawberry sin think about it? Thank you? Yeah, okay, maybe

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Speaker 1: that should be the next pine salt said, okay, strawberry shine. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that would definitely be clean and it would be my way. Okay,

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Speaker 1: thank you pine salt. It smells so thing you can

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Speaker 1: clean because you show came cool. Thank you, Steve. Al Right,

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Speaker 1: today it is time for today's Strawberry Letter, And if

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Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, on dating, works, parenting, and more,

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Speaker 1: please it so song op, So alright to bring your

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Speaker 1: strawberry letters to Steve Harvey, F M and Strawberry, I

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Speaker 1: like the smith, love it all as pan. So alright, y'all,

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. It's time

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. Alright subject? Do you think he can stop eating?

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I can trust. I can't trust anybody

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Speaker 1: these days, so I'm coming to you for advice. Four

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Speaker 1: years ago, my husband and I were married and we

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Speaker 1: relocated to the city he grew up in so he

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Speaker 1: to visit me often. A year after I got married,

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Speaker 1: I got pregnant, and that's when my husband started cheating

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Speaker 1: everyone that he's single again. After I had my baby,

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Speaker 1: from college. It happened twice, and I felt terrible, and

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Speaker 1: not the case. Instead of consoling me, she hit me

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Speaker 1: with a whammy. She told me that she had been

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Speaker 1: is now pregnant with his baby. She said that since

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Speaker 1: I cheated on my husband, she felt it was okay

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Speaker 1: to come clean about the affair. Of course, my husband

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Speaker 1: having sex with my best friend many times. Now he's

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Speaker 1: now he is begging me to move home so we

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Speaker 1: can work things out. I have drafted divorce papers, but

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Speaker 1: I still love this man and my child needs a father.

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Speaker 1: What do you think I should do? Do you think

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Speaker 1: he can really stop cheating? Please? Help? All right, this

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Speaker 1: is a decision, of course, only you can make. But

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Speaker 1: lets look at the facts here. Uh, your husband slept

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Speaker 1: you at home. Uh. Your husband was telling everyone that

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Speaker 1: he was single again. Uh, you went to your best

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Speaker 1: Your sank called so called best friend is now pregnant

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Speaker 1: by your husband. Your husband is denying it, of course,

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Speaker 1: but a DNA test will clarify that up. And and

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Speaker 1: yes you're right. Um, you know you you still love

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Speaker 1: this has done to you before you think about taking

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Speaker 1: him back. The trust is broken in this relationship. You

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Speaker 1: I mean, counseling, Jesus, all of the above you're gonna

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Speaker 1: need if you think you want to stay in this marriage. Steve,

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Speaker 1: gonna just be honest with you, because both of these people,

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Speaker 1: Why y'all moving so this man can be closer to

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Speaker 1: his family? What's wrong with him? He got a family? Now,

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Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. No, man, I gotta move

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Speaker 1: everybody he's single again. That's cause he's back. He back

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Speaker 1: back over here. What he tricks? He that's what he said, tricks.

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Speaker 1: This ain't by my mama. You You ain't heard from

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Speaker 1: and then guess what you did? You had the fair

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Speaker 1: felt terrible about it, So did he. So did who

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Speaker 1: he don't care about that. That boy from college went

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Speaker 1: it ain't just to do. I turned to my best

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Speaker 1: I have drafted divorce papers, But I still love this man,

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Speaker 1: damn nothing. He's been bagging her back, steve back, beg

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. He said, oh wow. And he kept looking

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Speaker 1: at the condoms. He said, Dad, I come a six

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Speaker 1: one in this one? Daddy, he said, all Son, that's

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Speaker 1: busy weekend. And then he said, well, Daddy, what's this

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Speaker 1: right here? How come this from got twelve in it is?

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Speaker 1: Daddy teared up a little bit. He said, well it

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Speaker 1: is for married me and son. He said, Daddy, how

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Speaker 1: come to twelve from in here? He said, because that's

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Speaker 1: one for each month. That's sad, that's sad, but so

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Speaker 1: true a little that's for married me. That's six bucks.

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Speaker 1: What I missed? All Right, we gotta get out of here.

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