WEBVTT - Power Outage 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:17.040 I welcome to we know his parenting. I'm Peter McNerney. 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:21.279 I'm Beth Newell. Did you miss us? That was very loud, 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:26.640 loud intro. I know it's episode one hundred baby, we 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:28.760 did it, and you know, you know what what we 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:33.600 decided to do to celebrate our one hundredth episode, um, 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:35.800 we have power out it and then we threw away 0:00:35.800 --> 0:00:38.080 all the meat and the dairy in our and we 0:00:38.159 --> 0:00:41.360 didn't record an episode and we said it will be delayed. 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:43.239 And then we said to ourselves, hey, you know what 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:46.400 I really want to do for episode one? Not do it? 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:51.320 Just take a week off in the middle of insanity. Yeah, 0:00:51.520 --> 0:00:53.639 it was a rough day we had. It was like 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:58.600 we had a busy week. We had Easter, which is 0:00:58.640 --> 0:01:02.800 like the biggest thing that's happened here since we've been here, 0:01:03.760 --> 0:01:06.520 since we realized we were in a panda So like, yeah, 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:09.600 for people who haven't been listening, we um our school 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:13.759 was canceled, so we went to a vacation home in Massachusetts, 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:17.360 where we now realized we apparently live forever in quarantine. 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:21.800 Which it's fine. It's just taken a lot of adjusting, 0:01:22.160 --> 0:01:27.520 so pretty good. So Easter UM came and the kids 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:31.080 were on a sugar high for days like they were 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:35.920 just they got so much chocolate and candy in one day, 0:01:36.000 --> 0:01:39.039 because honestly, what else are we going to do? Yeah, 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:41.960 really just eat at all. I mean we did, like 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:44.360 we didn't have some of it that we didn't put 0:01:44.440 --> 0:01:47.400 into their baskets. But anyway, they did that. And then 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:50.600 the next morning was when they woke up and dragged 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:54.920 a stool from the basement up to the This was real. 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:58.600 They've got a real teamwork going on. While we are asleep. 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:02.880 They are lifting very large objects, a very tall, heavy stool, 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:07.240 a bar stool up this basement stairs together. They helped 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:11.800 each other to do this. And then they got a 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:14.679 package of oreos from above the fridge and they ate 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:17.720 the whole package first thing in the morning, all but one. 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:21.600 I threw one out in front of them to prove 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:23.760 a point as bad it was to eat that many 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:26.919 cookies in the morning, and they saw me throw it away, 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:29.280 and they looked at me as if I'd just driven 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:34.080 our car off a cliff, like are you insane? I'll say, Like, 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:37.440 as much as they're constantly nuts, I do feel like 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:39.520 quarantine has been a blessing in the sense that we're 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:42.799 laying down the law a lot more and we're just like, 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:45.760 I don't have anywhere to go, you want no TV 0:02:45.960 --> 0:02:48.359 for the rest of the weekend. Like we're just like 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:51.040 really laying it down lately. Brinceman sent to his room 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:54.160 a lot, which I think is helping him. I think 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:57.320 he believes it now because it's also a lot of 0:02:57.320 --> 0:02:59.000 times when we were home and you sort of do 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:02.080 a halfhearted threat, like if you do this and you 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:05.680 don't stick with it, you know, then your threats mean nothing. 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:09.400 But I've been doing a lot of like keeping it calm. 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:12.040 But I say, if you do that again, and you're 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:13.480 going to your room, And he does it, and he 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:16.200 goes to his room, and it's he's calmed down, and 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:21.240 he's he's like picking his battles more. Yeah, he's yeah, 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:24.000 he's less likely to escalate. I also like we've gotten 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:26.280 so used to sending him to his room now that 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:30.000 like I there are certain circumstances where it like he 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:32.160 would like just punch Maven or something, and I would 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:34.280 be like, not even give him a warning, Like I 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:36.240 was just like, go to your room now, And I 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:38.120 was like, I'm amazed that we're at a point where 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:41.760 he actually does that when I say it, um, and 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:43.560 it was like I was like, I really feel like 0:03:43.560 --> 0:03:48.440 we're gaining control over him. Um. Yeah, Well it's also 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:50.240 I mean the thing about it is not just that 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:52.240 he goes to his room, but I think we're also 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:57.160 we're more serious about it and we're less emotional about it, 0:03:57.680 --> 0:03:59.960 and so he knows that it's time alone, as opposed 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:04.240 do we're angry at you, right right right, just like 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:07.840 this is what's happening. Don't go. You're gonna stay up 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:11.480 there longer. And then he'll go and he'll stomp. But 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:14.880 they can stop and scream and there's no neighbors. Yeah, 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:18.080 so anyway, Yeah, they can scream all they want that 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:20.840 no one will know. Go ahead, scream, I'll scream. We've 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:23.640 been screaming a lot. Yeah, there's been a lot of 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:26.280 screaming here. Um. So then anyway, after we had the 0:04:26.400 --> 0:04:30.560 like three day sugar high or whatever, Tuesday, we Monday, No, 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:33.480 it's Monday, Monday, right before we need to record a podcast, 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:36.760 right after this OREO incident, the same day our power 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:44.119 goes out and during a very impressive wind rain storm. Yeah, 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:46.360 so clearly like a branch or tree fell into a 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.160 power line or something, and so we didn't have power 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:53.760 for twenty four hours, um during which is full day. Yeah, 0:04:53.920 --> 0:04:56.520 slightly frustrating when you're in the middle of a pandemic 0:04:56.560 --> 0:04:59.200 and you're not supposed to be doing like extraneous food 0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:02.560 shopping and of um so com Peter died, phone died. 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:06.160 Can't do any work. Yeah, it can't work. Giant tree 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:10.720 splits in half, it falls in the yard. That's not 0:05:11.000 --> 0:05:14.719 a big deal. You, I didn't say it was. It 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:18.800 led to something very satisfying. Yeah, but you like you 0:05:18.880 --> 0:05:21.279 were like, oh, tree, this is my focus for the 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:24.160 next twenty four hours. Tree, And I was like, hey, 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:25.880 there's a lot going on, like we don't have power, 0:05:26.040 --> 0:05:31.279 and like you didn't. You were like, oh, this thing happens. 0:05:31.320 --> 0:05:33.720 So now everything's out the window. I can just go 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:38.159 chop wood for Okay. First of all, I cleaned a 0:05:38.240 --> 0:05:40.680 tremendous number of sticks out of our yard, put them 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:43.880 into piles. I called the tree guy. Okay, like the 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:46.000 sticks out of the art is also like not the 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:49.400 most urgent. I'm just saying, just tell me what I 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:52.000 needed to do that I didn't do. I'm just saying, 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:57.520 like whenever anything slightly out of the routine happens, you 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:01.880 use it. I reject where this this absolute statement is going. 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:05.000 It feels like you use it as an excuse to 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:08.040 just like throw all plants out the window. You're like, 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:11.279 I'm not a dad anymore. I'm a tree chopper. I 0:06:11.360 --> 0:06:15.520 don't have responsibilities. I'm just a man who chops fogs. Listen, 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:18.200 I couldn't take my son to school. There's no internet, right, 0:06:18.240 --> 0:06:21.919 but like there still is, like childcare and cleaning and 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:24.840 like things in the home that need to continue to happen. 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.039 I don't know food preparation. I did all of these things. 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:31.840 I don't know what you're talking about. I thoroughly rejected 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:34.680 the idea that I'm not pulling my weight. Uh. If 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:37.320 you want to pick a day where I did less, 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:41.280 you're probably right. I don't remember. But overall, no way, 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:44.800 I don't think you're doing as much as you think. 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:47.680 I don't think you realize if you wake up in 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:50.640 the morning that I have done all the sweeping and 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:53.320 dishes and stuff either before I went to better before 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:57.680 you will. Oh, yes, I was sweeping every day. You 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:01.120 do not sweep every day any Let's talk about literally 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:04.599 have never seen you sweep because you're asleep. I know 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:08.320 you did it once, but you do not sweep every day. 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:12.720 These floors were filthy when I said, honestly, you have 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:15.080 no idea how much sleepy I did, because I literally 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.720 do it right after you have gone to sleep or 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:21.160 before you wake up in the morning. Sounds suspicious, really 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:24.040 every day. I don't do it every day. That's a lie, 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:26.880 but I do it that many many times. Anyway, let's 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:28.880 we'll never know the truth because you start from a 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:32.440 place of lies. Fair Enough, I want to talk about 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:35.280 chopping this tree because it has brought me a tremendous 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:40.280 amount of joy despite whatever of whatever other duties I 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:43.400 have or have not been keeping up on. I get 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:47.760 that you love chopping. The would like and it makes 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:51.240 me feel very manly and productive, and I get it. 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:53.800 I'm just saying, it's like it's the equivalent of me 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:55.680 going for a run, where it's like I'm checking in 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:57.720 with the house and I would be like, hey, guys, 0:07:57.760 --> 0:07:59.160 I'm going for a run. I put the kids in 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:03.200 front of TV. You are just like, wood must be chopped. 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:05.840 It's the most important thing in our lives. And I'm 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:08.440 not going to tell anyone where I'm going or what's happening. 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:11.280 I'll just be out with the wood. Are you accusing 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:14.720 me of being the one who disappears without announcing what 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:18.480 they're doing. I have to disappear because everyone is always 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:22.720 on top of me. Okay, so so okay, that's a 0:08:22.800 --> 0:08:26.680 stated double standard. That's fine. But I didn't. I'm not like, oh, 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.560 I disappeared for a while. By the way, I stopped 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:32.960 into a store where I might have caught coronavirus. I will, 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:34.600 I'll tell you what I get back. Here's the thing. 0:08:35.360 --> 0:08:37.360 I have a cough today and I don't feel well, 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:40.560 and the only thing I've been thinking is I better 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:44.040 not have coronavirus because Beth is going to be mad 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:47.640 at me for it. I will receive no sympathy for 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.839 having this terrible illness. I don't know why you should. 0:08:50.640 --> 0:08:52.720 And so I'm like, I don't want to be sick 0:08:53.440 --> 0:09:00.240 only for that reason, just just because I just okay. Like, 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:02.600 it's like when you talked to Brandon, You're like, hey, Brin, 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:06.199 if you're trying to hide it from me, it means 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:10.200 you know you're doing something wrong. You know you're doing 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:15.040 something wrong. I have not done anything wrong. You're you 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:18.760 you You were out the other day after this after 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:21.080 we lost power and he went to get your milk 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:25.160 and half and half, which is fine, but you specifically 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.920 didn't communicate with me that you're going to the store 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:33.439 because you're like afraid. Would you like to hear why? 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:36.160 Because I got up early so I could take the 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:38.680 trash to the dump and on the way back, I 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:41.040 was like, oh, it's almost best time to go to work. 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:42.800 I gotta get back. I don't have a lot of time, 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:45.240 but we don't have any milk, and Beth really likes 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:47.560 her half and half. So I stopped at the expensive 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:50.559 grocery store to get one basket load and I got 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:53.040 a bunch of things, and I was like, I was like, 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:54.760 Beth is going to be so mad at the things 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:57.880 I didn't get. I don't have time. I might as 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:00.160 well not go. And I almost didn't go, as I 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:02.920 knew this is going to happen if you're at the 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:07.560 store potentially contracting coronavirus. Is it would it kill you 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:09.360 to call me and be like, I'm running in the 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:11.679 store so that I can be like, Okay, here's two 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:14.800 things that I've been really wanting and we only go 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:16.840 to the store once every two years because we're like 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:20.240 pioneers on the frontier. Can you please get your wife 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:26.280 the one pioneers chap one? Can I have some fiber? 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:31.040 Like we got a fridge full of apples, which you're 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:37.400 allergic to? I realized later. Anyway, I have needs, So 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:40.720 I try to say, a hundred episodes is a real accomplishment. 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:46.439 And uh, and I really love you. What wouldn't be 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:48.440 letter with the episode if we didn't argue about something. 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:50.760 It's sort of part of our thing. It's true, and 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:53.679 we had two weeks. We've had two weeks of stuff too, 0:10:54.320 --> 0:10:57.920 not argue on the podcast about it? Does I do 0:10:58.000 --> 0:11:00.560 feel it? It's been two weeks and we haven't checked 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:04.040 in because we haven't recorded a podcast. Yeah, but we 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:06.560 also haven't been checking in as much in general lately 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:11.240 because life is such chaos. I will say, you know, 0:11:11.960 --> 0:11:14.480 despite all everything we just talked about, we are in. 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:19.480 We are in to a really generally good routine where 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:24.920 the boundaries are clear. We installed locks on the bedroom door. Yeah, 0:11:24.960 --> 0:11:26.920 I ordered new door knobs because I was like this. 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:31.040 Our bedroom, as I probably have complained, already, has two entrances, 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:34.120 so it's all extra opportunities for people to like waltz 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:36.319 into my space while I'm trying to work, which when 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:38.839 you have little kids, it's like it's like five times 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:41.400 an hour, so you never actually get like a full 0:11:41.480 --> 0:11:44.079 thought going before someone is just hanging on you and 0:11:44.120 --> 0:11:47.280 trying to get you to make the mapples and peanut butter. Anyway, 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:50.080 and it's also very hard in the morning I do. 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:54.160 Bran is getting more and more school responsibilities, like his 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:56.720 the things his teacher are standing is more of a 0:11:56.720 --> 0:12:00.280 full school day, and that's all my responsibility pretty much, 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:02.960 and I do it. But it is very hard now 0:12:03.160 --> 0:12:07.120 to get the checklist done and engage Maven, and so 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:09.120 I try really how to give Maven things to do, 0:12:09.320 --> 0:12:11.640 and then Bryn has to do all this stuff and 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:14.439 then I turned my I turned my back, and Maven's gone, 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.000 you have to give me even more of a project 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:20.520 like you have. Yeah, she needs like like you can 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:23.719 literally just say like, oh, you should draw a zoo, 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:25.600 and then she's like it just has to be something 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:29.600 she cares about. Yeah, sometimes I'm I do it's very successful, 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:32.839 and there's other times she doesn't. She knows that I'm 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:35.240 trying to do something and she rejects. She has has 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:37.560 to be multiple times this week when I'm like, you're 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:40.360 supposed to be with daddy now, and she goes daddy 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:43.360 school is just for Brin that I heard that, and 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:47.120 it really broke my heart because I was trying and 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:50.760 I want to. I wanna just pay attention to her. 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:53.200 But you can teach them both the same lesson and 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:55.600 just give her an easier version. Oh, I do. That's 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:57.960 mostly what I do, and it's very successful. It's just 0:12:58.000 --> 0:12:59.880 the only time you're aware of aware of it is 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:03.120 and she's gotten bored and slipped past me and she's like, you, 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:08.160 I don't have a father. He's Brian's father, just just 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:12.000 Brin's teacher. But now that there's locks on the door, 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:16.120 I think I'm less stressed that she's going to slip 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:19.360 away from me. Yeah, it's I mean, I was. It's 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:21.679 already been sort of a in a way, a good 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:23.880 challenge of not having the locks, because we had to 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:26.600 really emphasize to them that it's like mommy work time 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:28.320 and you don't get to go in there. But I'm 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:31.240 very glad we have the locks now. We did it 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:33.840 in the right order. Yeah, So the locks are a 0:13:33.880 --> 0:13:37.360 backup system. Yeah, it's good. Although I realized now I 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:40.600 I'm like, I need socks. I guess I have to 0:13:40.600 --> 0:13:44.120 wait till one or I can break in. You need 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:47.240 to like store up your errands to come in here. 0:13:47.360 --> 0:13:49.240 I did think about. I was like, that's probably exactly 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:51.120 what Beth wants, which is I have to really think 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:53.839 about if I actually need that thing. Yeah. Well that's 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:55.520 the other thing is I'll tell you, over the last 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:58.360 few weeks, I think that really puts me over the edge, 0:13:58.360 --> 0:14:00.640 and it really it makes it hard nut snap is 0:14:00.679 --> 0:14:03.280 like the kids will come in here five times an 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:06.080 hour for three hours. I have like a half hour left. 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:08.920 I'm like finally, like I've snuck away some alone time 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:12.800 or whatever, and I finally feel like peaceful for one second. 0:14:12.840 --> 0:14:14.920 And then you walk in like you've just finished something 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:17.360 up and you're like, well, here's what's going on in 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:20.080 my life. I just had this call and this person 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:22.880 who said this and that, and I'm like, it's not 0:14:22.960 --> 0:14:25.080 that I don't care, it's just that I am going 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.920 to scream if I don't get some time where no 0:14:27.960 --> 0:14:32.800 one is talking to me. Um um. So yeah, that's fair, 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:37.640 I will say. I get interrupted more than anybody. That's 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:40.320 not true. It is true. It's just that Okay. First 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:41.960 of all, we have a second floor of this house 0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:43.760 that the kids never go up to, that I can't 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:46.160 go up to because I'm very allergic. Let me finished. 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:50.400 Second of all, that's not true at all. I don't 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:52.920 have a By the afternoon, all the rules go out 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:55.120 the window, and I have to be in different places, 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:59.080 and so I don't. I do feel one when I'm 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:02.160 not complaining because I'm not like you, it doesn't bother 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.480 me as much. But I have you constantly get worked 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:07.120 one while they're right in the same room as yet. 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.280 But I know that's what I'm saying. But I have noticed, 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:14.120 like after a few weeks, I do have these moments 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:19.880 where I I don't know I'm simultaneously one. I realized 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:24.280 I feel like I haven't been alone um in a 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:26.960 way that when I'm at home, I have all this time. 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:30.320 When I'm commuting, when i'm walking, I go for a 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:31.840 walk to the train, I walk with that I'm on 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:35.160 the train alone where I have this solitude, but it's 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:38.320 very active I'm moving. I have none of that here 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:41.600 until I'm suddenly alone because I put the kids to bed, 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:44.360 and you guys are on zoom calls or something, and 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:48.800 then I feel intensely alone. And it has been a 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:53.440 weird experience because I'm not I'm I've realized I'm pretty 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:57.440 introverted in that, like I don't need people, but I've 0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:58.800 I don't know if I talked about this, but it's 0:15:58.840 --> 0:16:00.680 been two weeks, but I can't. A couple of nights 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:03.320 I came up and you and Ali were on zoom 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:07.760 calls with a bunch of people, and I got so sad. Yeah, 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:10.240 you told us that you're very affected by it. And 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:13.600 then and the night you said it, my sister and 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:16.000 I were both having zoom calls with like our friends 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:17.800 from high school. So I was like, well, why don't 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:19.680 you just set up a call with your friends from 0:16:19.760 --> 0:16:23.920 high school, which you then did, and then you got 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:28.440 so excited and happy to talk to them. Well, there's 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:31.880 we talked about this. So my my to my closest 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:34.640 friends high school. We're both named Peter. We had an 0:16:34.920 --> 0:16:38.440 zoom zoom chat, which was great to catch up, but 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:40.800 we talked a little bit about this. The three of 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:45.400 us like this Midwest mentality where we have a lot 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:49.840 of guilt about making anything about us, which might seem 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:53.720 crazy knowing me, because all I want is attention, but 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:55.920 there's so much guilt attached to it. And the idea 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:58.480 that well, I'm going to reach out to my friends 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:01.800 that I have not kept in super close contact with 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:07.159 now that there's a pandemic feels bizarrely selfish, and I 0:17:07.240 --> 0:17:09.199 was like, well, it's not. They're not going to think 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:13.359 it's genuinely think it's weird, genuine loaded selfish, and of course, 0:17:13.400 --> 0:17:15.000 like we all feel the same way right now, so 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.520 of course people want to connect and it's fine, but 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:21.320 I had a lot of anxiety about just asking my 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:26.240 friends to talk. I feel like high school friends is 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:30.560 a good like a low bar for you to work 0:17:30.600 --> 0:17:34.080 up the courage to ask people to talk like. But 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:39.160 it was also great. I have very interesting, smart, thoughtful friends. 0:17:39.280 --> 0:17:41.920 Uh who boy. And it was a moment where we're 0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:43.480 like we all had to put our kids to bed, 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:46.720 and I was like, oh my god, we are such adults. 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:50.080 When is a doctor and a lawyer and a that 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:53.680 works for a bank and an actor, and like there 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:57.320 are all of these things. Yes, they're they're like such professionals. 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:01.040 I thought you were talking to two for I was, 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:06.240 I was, um he said a doctor lar bang was 0:18:06.280 --> 0:18:13.520 that works for a big actor? Okay anyway, um um anyway, 0:18:13.840 --> 0:18:16.399 Peter and Peter. Great to talk to you. Yeah, you 0:18:16.480 --> 0:18:19.040 were like I could feel like through the wall that 0:18:19.160 --> 0:18:23.439 you were like radiating joy. You were like so happy 0:18:23.480 --> 0:18:27.959 to talk to them. Um it was great. Well now 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:30.600 I'm uncomfortable. No, it was just nice to see you 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:35.520 like make the effort to see a social thing and 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:40.080 it was like, see, I didn't. I didn't not believe you. 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:44.960 But my social life tends to be just the people 0:18:45.000 --> 0:18:48.600 I'm working with. I do things with people, I build things, 0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:51.359 I work with them, and those where most of my 0:18:51.400 --> 0:18:54.560 relationships are built around that. But I don't have that 0:18:55.160 --> 0:18:57.960 right now. So it is a weird thing to reach 0:18:58.000 --> 0:19:02.680 out to people just to just to be with them. Yeah. 0:19:02.840 --> 0:19:06.840 I find like there's something about quarantine where I am 0:19:06.960 --> 0:19:10.000 just so tired and have so little energy for like 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:13.800 social media and people right now. So like if I 0:19:14.080 --> 0:19:17.320 have like one or two Zoom calls a week, just 0:19:17.359 --> 0:19:20.359 like friends, and that's like that feels like all I 0:19:20.400 --> 0:19:24.560 can manage right now. It's just like too much. Yeah, 0:19:24.600 --> 0:19:26.240 I think there's been a lot, a lot of people 0:19:26.280 --> 0:19:29.000 have been doing sort of a little too much reaching 0:19:29.040 --> 0:19:32.400 out where like this is so great, we're all connecting. 0:19:32.440 --> 0:19:34.520 We have to do this every week. And then you 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:36.440 quickly are like, oh, you know what, it was good 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:39.440 to catch up with this group. But I'm good for yeah, 0:19:40.400 --> 0:19:42.879 I think it also like again, just like depends a 0:19:42.920 --> 0:19:45.480 lot on whether you have like kids or roommates or 0:19:45.520 --> 0:19:49.679 what's going on right. My entire acting class from college, 0:19:49.680 --> 0:19:53.200 almost my characting class, had a zoom reunion and it 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:56.320 was I was like, do I want to do that? 0:19:56.520 --> 0:19:58.760 I'd like all those people, but and I did it 0:19:58.800 --> 0:20:01.760 and it was wonderful, and I was like, oh my god, 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:04.000 it is so cool to have this group of people together. 0:20:04.520 --> 0:20:07.040 And there's this mediate little overreaction of like, we have 0:20:07.080 --> 0:20:10.119 to do this every week. My mind, I'm like, I 0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:13.840 don't think we're going to do that. Um. And it's okay, 0:20:15.160 --> 0:20:17.520 m um. If you're a me acic class and you're 0:20:17.560 --> 0:20:23.760 listening to this, I love you. Our kids just started 0:20:23.800 --> 0:20:38.840 screaming and now it's time for Do you knows who 0:20:39.040 --> 0:20:44.080 literally just farted on my lap? I would say because 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:47.120 I was the only persons out of his lab. Mhmm. 0:20:47.320 --> 0:20:54.639 The powerful reason deduction has uh successfully identified the farter 0:20:54.760 --> 0:20:57.200 Bryn McNerney, Welcome to the podcast. How are you doing 0:20:57.960 --> 0:21:02.160 at that's a little bad. You're doing a little bad. 0:21:02.200 --> 0:21:03.640 Can you tell us why you're doing a little bad? 0:21:03.760 --> 0:21:07.680 Because you had to call me? Did come here? Oh? 0:21:07.960 --> 0:21:09.920 I took you away from something fun you were doing. 0:21:10.240 --> 0:21:13.879 I was gonna watch TV, but you didn't have to 0:21:13.920 --> 0:21:17.600 say yes. But you did say yes, yeah, because I 0:21:17.720 --> 0:21:24.280 had to. What are you watching, Brian? Which episode? I 0:21:24.359 --> 0:21:28.440 don't know what was happening in the episode? I don't know, So, Brian, 0:21:28.560 --> 0:21:31.240 what has happened since we've been staying here at this house? 0:21:33.440 --> 0:21:38.919 What are your most fun activities? Oh? That's wait? What 0:21:39.000 --> 0:21:41.119 did you say? What are your favorite things to do 0:21:41.200 --> 0:21:44.840 here at this house? Showing on the shrink, watch TV, 0:21:45.600 --> 0:21:50.160 joined some lemonade. That's what I'm doing right now. Those 0:21:50.160 --> 0:21:53.040 are good? Those are good options. You like my homemade 0:21:53.240 --> 0:21:58.639 lemonade Hibiscus day? Yeah? What do we have for dinner tonight? 0:22:00.520 --> 0:22:05.280 You're sausage Campy sausagees Campy, a dish that we've invented 0:22:05.280 --> 0:22:09.800 since we've been living in this house. Yeah, it's pretty 0:22:09.800 --> 0:22:13.439 good brand. What do you miss from home? The couch 0:22:13.680 --> 0:22:21.480 the bedroom. Um, how about your friends? Yeah, Maven, what 0:22:21.520 --> 0:22:26.679 did you miss from home? And you know I missed 0:22:26.680 --> 0:22:32.520 the mush as my friend. Well, we're gonna let Maven 0:22:32.520 --> 0:22:37.560 says the toys. She said, the toys. Who do you 0:22:37.560 --> 0:22:42.120 miss the most of your friends? Brand Luca? Yeah, he's 0:22:42.160 --> 0:22:46.119 your best friend. He's like my best friend forever. Yeah? 0:22:46.480 --> 0:22:51.800