WEBVTT - One Tiny Misunderstanding Ended a Perfect First Date 😬

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<v Speaker 1>Alicia is on the phone today for our first date

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<v Speaker 1>follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Jason.

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<v Speaker 1>So in a little bit we're gonna call him and

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<v Speaker 1>see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and

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<v Speaker 1>maybe get her another date. But first, Alicia, how long

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<v Speaker 1>has it been since you heard from Jason?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, guys, it's been like like two weeks.

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<v Speaker 3>Have you tried to reach out to him.

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<v Speaker 2>I've tried like once or twice. Like I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to seem crazy or anything, but yeah, I've tried a

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<v Speaker 2>little and just nothing in response.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, why don't you tell us about the date and

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<v Speaker 3>how you guys met?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so we met on hiinge, you know, as most

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<v Speaker 2>people do these days. I like, Ye, we plotted which

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<v Speaker 2>hated for a good minute. Like it was back and

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<v Speaker 2>forth for like a couple of weeks. Actually, he suggested

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<v Speaker 2>we do like a traditional date to dinner, which we

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<v Speaker 2>paid for. It was very nice. We didn't get drinks afterwards,

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<v Speaker 2>we just sort of went our separate ways, So I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, I felt like it was really positive. We

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<v Speaker 2>did kiss just a little bit, very small, very nice,

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<v Speaker 2>and he texted to make sure I got home, which

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<v Speaker 2>felt like a positive sign. And yeah, that was the

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<v Speaker 2>last thing I heard from him.

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<v Speaker 3>So what was going on during like the dinner, Like,

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<v Speaker 3>what were you guys talking about? Did you feel like

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<v Speaker 3>you guys were flirtatious? Because I mean, to be honest,

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<v Speaker 3>it sounds a little bit dry from you know, just

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<v Speaker 3>that was that. I mean maybe I mean for both

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<v Speaker 3>of you, even not just him, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I thought in the conversation like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to be again, I don't want to sound crazy,

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<v Speaker 2>but I thought this guy was really perfect. He really

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<v Speaker 2>checked all of my boxes and he was so he

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<v Speaker 2>was so flirty over like the hinge messages and everything,

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<v Speaker 2>and while we were texting, he was super flirty and

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<v Speaker 2>I was really excited. So maybe that's why I'm sort

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<v Speaker 2>of downplaying it now because a little I was just

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<v Speaker 2>so sweet and I felt like the conversation was good.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, obviously now I'm replaying it and I have

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<v Speaker 2>like a million like, oh my god, what did I

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<v Speaker 2>do wrong? But yeah, I'm just kind of shocked that

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<v Speaker 2>he has Then I wonder if she felt the same way.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, well, let's see if we can figure it

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<v Speaker 1>out for you so you can get out of your head, Alicia,

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<v Speaker 1>why don't you catch us up on your situation?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? So I went out with this guy, Jason. We

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<v Speaker 2>met on Hinge. We talked for a little bit before.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't heard from him in two weeks, and I

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<v Speaker 2>am totally spiraling about it. We did kiss on the date,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was brief, and I wonder if my breath

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<v Speaker 2>was stinky or if I wasn't on the date. That's

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<v Speaker 2>your recap.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, are you ready for us to call him?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 4>Lease?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, here we go. Hi, mansweek to Jason. Please ye,

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<v Speaker 1>hey Jason, how are you? My name is Jewblel. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>calling from a radio show. It's called The jewbel Show.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, Jason, I'm Nina also on the show.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I know you guys doing. Why are you calling me?

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<v Speaker 1>Sweet? We're calling you because somebody emailed us about you.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, So, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't know if you know the segment we do, the

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<v Speaker 1>first day follow up. That's where if you go out

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<v Speaker 1>on a date with somebody and then end up ghosting them,

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<v Speaker 1>they can email us to get you on the phone

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<v Speaker 1>and ask why you're ghosting. Okay, So, is there anybody

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<v Speaker 1>that you can think of that you're ghosting Alisha. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>got it correct, That is it. That's who emailed us.

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<v Speaker 1>She doesn't know why you're ghosting her, She says, she

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<v Speaker 1>tried to reach out to you a few times.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh yeah, I mean I don't know, you know, like

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<v Speaker 4>sometimes people are like really really good and like communicating

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<v Speaker 4>in one style and then not so good then another one.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, like all right, she's kind.

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<v Speaker 1>Of a chat queen, you know what I mean, a

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<v Speaker 1>chat queen.

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<v Speaker 2>She's great, like great.

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<v Speaker 4>At chatting on that app, right, and like the conversation

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<v Speaker 4>was super flirty and like, you know, like we're both

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<v Speaker 4>like you know, never like leaving each other on Red.

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<v Speaker 4>Like there was a lot of just quick quick back

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<v Speaker 4>and forth and it was going really good. And I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know, like I mean, I feel like the maybe

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<v Speaker 4>that set things up a little like the bar a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit too high because then like when we got

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<v Speaker 4>in person, it wasn't as fun. Yeah, but I mean

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<v Speaker 4>and that was okay, but like the real deal breaker

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<v Speaker 4>was like she said she wanted a baby, and I

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<v Speaker 4>am like so not ready for that. Well first date,

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<v Speaker 4>yeah no, So we're sitting across from each other in

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<v Speaker 4>the boots in the restaurant and she points over my

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<v Speaker 4>shoulder and she goes, I want one of those so bad.

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<v Speaker 4>And I turn over my shoulder and there is this

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<v Speaker 4>like mom with like a toddler, like you know, she's like,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, okay when it's states, and I'm just like, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Mean, I feel like that's a little bit much on

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<v Speaker 1>a first date. I think it's actually like I want

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<v Speaker 1>one of those so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Put one in me right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh I'm not saying put one in me right now,

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<v Speaker 3>but I think it is important to have that conversation

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<v Speaker 3>early on a date because that way you save each

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<v Speaker 3>other time. If you're a hard no and she's a

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<v Speaker 3>hard yes, Like why even bother having a second date?

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<v Speaker 3>This this ghosting makes sense then? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean so like I was totally going to take

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<v Speaker 4>her back to my place, but like after like that happened,

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<v Speaker 4>like I don't want to risk be humming a father

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<v Speaker 4>right now, So like that was okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry, Hi Jathon, Hi, can I but I need to

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<v Speaker 2>clarify something.

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<v Speaker 1>Alicia is on the phone listening and wants to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to you. If you haven't figured that out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yet, yeah, of course you okay, Okay, Hi, Hello, I

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<v Speaker 2>hope you're doing well. Oh my gosh, I what are

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<v Speaker 2>you talking about. I definitely do not want a baby.

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<v Speaker 2>I did not mention that I wanted a baby on the.

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<v Speaker 4>State are you I'm like crazy you you pointed over

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<v Speaker 4>my shoulders, said I want one of those so bad,

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<v Speaker 4>and there was like a mom with her toddler sitting

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<v Speaker 4>right behind us.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I was pointing at the drink on somebody's table.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want a baby.

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<v Speaker 3>It wouldn't be weird if you did. But okay, are

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<v Speaker 3>you serious?

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<v Speaker 4>It wasn't. It wasn't the mom and the cooing baby

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<v Speaker 4>behind us.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it was the drink that was at the chief

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<v Speaker 2>of some europe I'm so embarrassed that you thought I

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<v Speaker 2>was talking about that on a first date.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean I turned around and all I saw was

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<v Speaker 4>mom and baby and like my like my stomach drop

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<v Speaker 4>And then you're kidding me, right, it was a cocktail.

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<v Speaker 3>Be sure you don't want a baby, because you know

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<v Speaker 3>you see what you want to see and say what

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<v Speaker 3>you want to say.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh man, I definitely maybe was a little quiet on

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<v Speaker 2>the first date. Sometimes I get nervous on first dates.

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<v Speaker 2>But I definitely would not have pointed at a child

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<v Speaker 2>and said I want a baby.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, good man, now that we got that figured out, Jason,

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<v Speaker 1>would you like another date with Alicia? Will pay for it?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? I mean like everything was pretty solid till that moment,

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<v Speaker 4>and now that I know that, I.

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<v Speaker 5>Completely dissed that one. Yeah, yeah, that sounds great. God,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm I'm so sorry I didn't ask from what you

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<v Speaker 5>were talking about. Yeah, I would do if you're down,

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<v Speaker 5>I would love to take you out again.

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<v Speaker 2>That that is completely okay, and I would love to

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<v Speaker 2>go out with you again. Thanks for thanks for the

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<v Speaker 2>second chance. And to be fair, I think you also

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<v Speaker 2>mentioned something about taking me home that night because I

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<v Speaker 2>was listening to everything you said. So maybe you can

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<v Speaker 2>make that happen

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<v Speaker 4>Now that I know where you stand on babies.