Speaker 1: Alicia is on the phone today for our first date
Speaker 1: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Jason.
Speaker 1: So in a little bit we're gonna call him and
Speaker 1: see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and
Speaker 1: maybe get her another date. But first, Alicia, how long
Speaker 1: has it been since you heard from Jason?
Speaker 2: Hi, guys, it's been like like two weeks.
Speaker 3: Have you tried to reach out to him.
Speaker 2: I've tried like once or twice. Like I don't want
Speaker 2: to seem crazy or anything, but yeah, I've tried a
Speaker 2: little and just nothing in response.
Speaker 3: Well, why don't you tell us about the date and
Speaker 3: how you guys met?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we met on hiinge, you know, as most
Speaker 2: people do these days. I like, Ye, we plotted which
Speaker 2: hated for a good minute. Like it was back and
Speaker 2: forth for like a couple of weeks. Actually, he suggested
Speaker 2: we do like a traditional date to dinner, which we
Speaker 2: paid for. It was very nice. We didn't get drinks afterwards,
Speaker 2: we just sort of went our separate ways, So I
Speaker 2: don't know, I felt like it was really positive. We
Speaker 2: did kiss just a little bit, very small, very nice,
Speaker 2: and he texted to make sure I got home, which
Speaker 2: felt like a positive sign. And yeah, that was the
Speaker 2: last thing I heard from him.
Speaker 3: So what was going on during like the dinner, Like,
Speaker 3: what were you guys talking about? Did you feel like
Speaker 3: you guys were flirtatious? Because I mean, to be honest,
Speaker 3: it sounds a little bit dry from you know, just
Speaker 3: that was that. I mean maybe I mean for both
Speaker 3: of you, even not just him, you know.
Speaker 2: I mean I thought in the conversation like I don't
Speaker 2: want to be again, I don't want to sound crazy,
Speaker 2: but I thought this guy was really perfect. He really
Speaker 2: checked all of my boxes and he was so he
Speaker 2: was so flirty over like the hinge messages and everything,
Speaker 2: and while we were texting, he was super flirty and
Speaker 2: I was really excited. So maybe that's why I'm sort
Speaker 2: of downplaying it now because a little I was just
Speaker 2: so sweet and I felt like the conversation was good.
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously now I'm replaying it and I have
Speaker 2: like a million like, oh my god, what did I
Speaker 2: do wrong? But yeah, I'm just kind of shocked that
Speaker 2: he has Then I wonder if she felt the same way.
Speaker 1: All right, well, let's see if we can figure it
Speaker 1: out for you so you can get out of your head, Alicia,
Speaker 1: why don't you catch us up on your situation?
Speaker 2: Yeah? So I went out with this guy, Jason. We
Speaker 2: met on Hinge. We talked for a little bit before.
Speaker 2: I haven't heard from him in two weeks, and I
Speaker 2: am totally spiraling about it. We did kiss on the date,
Speaker 2: but it was brief, and I wonder if my breath
Speaker 2: was stinky or if I wasn't on the date. That's
Speaker 2: your recap.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 4: Lease?
Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Hi, mansweek to Jason. Please ye,
Speaker 1: hey Jason, how are you? My name is Jewblel. I'm
Speaker 1: calling from a radio show. It's called The jewbel Show.
Speaker 3: Hi, Jason, I'm Nina also on the show.
Speaker 2: Hi, and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: No, I know you guys doing. Why are you calling me?
Speaker 1: Sweet? We're calling you because somebody emailed us about you.
Speaker 4: Okay, So, I.
Speaker 1: Don't know if you know the segment we do, the
Speaker 1: first day follow up. That's where if you go out
Speaker 1: on a date with somebody and then end up ghosting them,
Speaker 1: they can email us to get you on the phone
Speaker 1: and ask why you're ghosting. Okay, So, is there anybody
Speaker 1: that you can think of that you're ghosting Alisha. Yes,
Speaker 1: got it correct, That is it. That's who emailed us.
Speaker 1: She doesn't know why you're ghosting her, She says, she
Speaker 1: tried to reach out to you a few times.
Speaker 4: Uh yeah, I mean I don't know, you know, like
Speaker 4: sometimes people are like really really good and like communicating
Speaker 4: in one style and then not so good then another one.
Speaker 4: You know, like all right, she's kind.
Speaker 1: Of a chat queen, you know what I mean, a
Speaker 1: chat queen.
Speaker 2: She's great, like great.
Speaker 4: At chatting on that app, right, and like the conversation
Speaker 4: was super flirty and like, you know, like we're both
Speaker 4: like you know, never like leaving each other on Red.
Speaker 4: Like there was a lot of just quick quick back
Speaker 4: and forth and it was going really good. And I
Speaker 4: don't know, like I mean, I feel like the maybe
Speaker 4: that set things up a little like the bar a
Speaker 4: little bit too high because then like when we got
Speaker 4: in person, it wasn't as fun. Yeah, but I mean
Speaker 4: and that was okay, but like the real deal breaker
Speaker 4: was like she said she wanted a baby, and I
Speaker 4: am like so not ready for that. Well first date,
Speaker 4: yeah no, So we're sitting across from each other in
Speaker 4: the boots in the restaurant and she points over my
Speaker 4: shoulder and she goes, I want one of those so bad.
Speaker 4: And I turn over my shoulder and there is this
Speaker 4: like mom with like a toddler, like you know, she's like,
Speaker 4: you know, okay when it's states, and I'm just like, I.
Speaker 1: Mean, I feel like that's a little bit much on
Speaker 1: a first date. I think it's actually like I want
Speaker 1: one of those so bad.
Speaker 2: Put one in me right now.
Speaker 3: Oh I'm not saying put one in me right now,
Speaker 3: but I think it is important to have that conversation
Speaker 3: early on a date because that way you save each
Speaker 3: other time. If you're a hard no and she's a
Speaker 3: hard yes, Like why even bother having a second date?
Speaker 3: This this ghosting makes sense then? Yeah?
Speaker 4: I mean so like I was totally going to take
Speaker 4: her back to my place, but like after like that happened,
Speaker 4: like I don't want to risk be humming a father
Speaker 4: right now, So like that was okay.
Speaker 2: Sorry, Hi Jathon, Hi, can I but I need to
Speaker 2: clarify something.
Speaker 1: Alicia is on the phone listening and wants to talk
Speaker 1: to you. If you haven't figured that out.
Speaker 2: Yet, yeah, of course you okay, Okay, Hi, Hello, I
Speaker 2: hope you're doing well. Oh my gosh, I what are
Speaker 2: you talking about. I definitely do not want a baby.
Speaker 2: I did not mention that I wanted a baby on the.
Speaker 4: State are you I'm like crazy you you pointed over
Speaker 4: my shoulders, said I want one of those so bad,
Speaker 4: and there was like a mom with her toddler sitting
Speaker 4: right behind us.
Speaker 2: No, I was pointing at the drink on somebody's table.
Speaker 2: I don't want a baby.
Speaker 3: It wouldn't be weird if you did. But okay, are
Speaker 3: you serious?
Speaker 4: It wasn't. It wasn't the mom and the cooing baby
Speaker 4: behind us.
Speaker 2: No, it was the drink that was at the chief
Speaker 2: of some europe I'm so embarrassed that you thought I
Speaker 2: was talking about that on a first date.
Speaker 4: I mean I turned around and all I saw was
Speaker 4: mom and baby and like my like my stomach drop
Speaker 4: And then you're kidding me, right, it was a cocktail.
Speaker 3: Be sure you don't want a baby, because you know
Speaker 3: you see what you want to see and say what
Speaker 3: you want to say.
Speaker 2: Oh man, I definitely maybe was a little quiet on
Speaker 2: the first date. Sometimes I get nervous on first dates.
Speaker 2: But I definitely would not have pointed at a child
Speaker 2: and said I want a baby.
Speaker 4: I'm okay.
Speaker 1: Well, good man, now that we got that figured out, Jason,
Speaker 1: would you like another date with Alicia? Will pay for it?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I mean like everything was pretty solid till that moment,
Speaker 4: and now that I know that, I.
Speaker 5: Completely dissed that one. Yeah, yeah, that sounds great. God,
Speaker 5: I'm I'm so sorry I didn't ask from what you
Speaker 5: were talking about. Yeah, I would do if you're down,
Speaker 5: I would love to take you out again.
Speaker 2: That that is completely okay, and I would love to
Speaker 2: go out with you again. Thanks for thanks for the
Speaker 2: second chance. And to be fair, I think you also
Speaker 2: mentioned something about taking me home that night because I
Speaker 2: was listening to everything you said. So maybe you can
Speaker 2: make that happen
Speaker 4: Now that I know where you stand on babies.