Speaker 1: Second date up date.
Speaker 2: We get a lot of email submissions for second dates
Speaker 2: on this show. Something just jumped out about one from
Speaker 2: a woman named Bonnie and had nothing to do with
Speaker 2: her actual date.
Speaker 3: Though.
Speaker 2: Huh, make sure you're sitting down for this, because Bonnie
Speaker 2: says she has been on the dating apps now for
Speaker 2: almost two decades.
Speaker 4: Decades rap.
Speaker 1: Longer than longer than Alexis has been alive.
Speaker 4: Basically literally the websites have been around that long. I
Speaker 4: mean like match and stuff. Okay, yeah, like online dating
Speaker 4: has been a fan for that long.
Speaker 2: Thank you for confirming what she said.
Speaker 4: She's lying.
Speaker 2: I don't know why anybody would admit to that in
Speaker 2: an email. It's kind of a quadruple red flag.
Speaker 5: Well, she's had a lot of relationships from these things
Speaker 5: over the twenty years.
Speaker 2: Sure, hopefully she didn't say that on the date to
Speaker 2: the guy, though, I need to ask her, Bonnie, are
Speaker 2: you there?
Speaker 6: Hey, I'm here.
Speaker 2: So let me just start the guy that you went
Speaker 2: out with. We'll get his name in a second. But
Speaker 2: did you tell him that you've been actively on the
Speaker 2: dating app since the turn of the millennia?
Speaker 6: Yes?
Speaker 3: I did.
Speaker 6: I thought it's an interesting fun fact about me. Like
Speaker 6: I've actually kept count the entire time.
Speaker 1: Okay, kept count?
Speaker 5: Wait, like kept count of how many dates you've been
Speaker 5: on from these?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Whoa?
Speaker 4: How many? How I'm dying to know how many dates
Speaker 4: can you do in twenty years?
Speaker 6: He was my one seven date?
Speaker 1: Oh one thousand seven dates?
Speaker 4: That is your system?
Speaker 5: Like you count a different person gets one count or
Speaker 5: can the same person get like three counts?
Speaker 4: Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 6: You know, I guess I only count like dates, you know,
Speaker 6: because I mean some of these guys I actually dated
Speaker 6: for quite a long time, So that's right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so every day counts as a Wow, you
Speaker 2: aren't you exhausted at this point?
Speaker 1: After one and twenty seven dates?
Speaker 6: You know, it's not all that bad. Like I've ended
Speaker 6: up with four long term boyfriends. Okay, I've gotten engaged
Speaker 6: to two of them.
Speaker 5: Okay, how have you not written a book on how
Speaker 5: to do well? Say?
Speaker 4: I can't tell she'd be like the spokesperson or make
Speaker 4: you wanted to delete them? You know which it is?
Speaker 4: She got engaged twice, I mean like she got two
Speaker 4: rings on her finger.
Speaker 1: She's not happily married. How to not do it?
Speaker 4: I don't think so. I think it's a success. I mean,
Speaker 4: it depends on what you're hoping for, I guess.
Speaker 5: But like she's doing it right enough where there's real
Speaker 5: relationships coming from this.
Speaker 1: That's a good point.
Speaker 6: Yeah, Like it's just never quite worked out all the way,
Speaker 6: you know, Honestly, I.
Speaker 5: Just want to spend the rest of the time talking
Speaker 5: about your horror stories.
Speaker 4: You have so many.
Speaker 1: We could have her on Battle of Tender Dates battling herself. Yeah.
Speaker 2: But I mean, okay, so you've been through a lot
Speaker 2: of ups and downs in your life. How cool would
Speaker 2: it be if after going through all of that, you
Speaker 2: finally found real love on our show. That's what I'm
Speaker 2: hoping for for you today.
Speaker 1: It could be the case with this new guy that
Speaker 1: you went out with.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, what was his name? Did you tell me?
Speaker 1: We haven't learned it yet. What's his name?
Speaker 6: His name's Grant?
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, tell us about Grant?
Speaker 6: Okay. Well, he asked me on to a restaurant and
Speaker 6: I did not want to tell him. I've been there
Speaker 6: like twelve times before with guys on other day. I
Speaker 6: did not tell him that.
Speaker 1: Why didn't you tell him that? Why would that be
Speaker 1: a bad thing.
Speaker 4: That's her boundary. You're wondering why she told him about
Speaker 4: the thousand dates.
Speaker 2: That maybe if you told him he would have felt
Speaker 2: like pressured to make it an even better date.
Speaker 6: No, I feel like it to just be weird, like
Speaker 6: second guessing what he wanted to do, you know, like
Speaker 6: he mentioned the place, I'm not going to be like,
Speaker 6: oh no, I can't go there.
Speaker 2: I feel like that's what you want. You want him
Speaker 2: second guessing yourself. You want to have the upper hand
Speaker 2: in the day of the whole company.
Speaker 1: He's like, what about here?
Speaker 4: What about There's not like that?
Speaker 5: I mean, after twenty years of doing these this online dating,
Speaker 5: she's still positive, She's still kind Like that says something
Speaker 5: about who she is.
Speaker 2: We haven't even called the guy yet, Brooks so well true,
Speaker 2: He's like judgment, So tell us, sorry if we're just
Speaker 2: joking with you, but tell us. I mean, how did
Speaker 2: the actual date with Grant go?
Speaker 1: Run us through it?
Speaker 6: Well, he showed up with a bouquet of flowers, and
Speaker 6: I thought that was a really sweet gesture, Like not
Speaker 6: everybody does that, Hardly anybody does that.
Speaker 5: Okay, so he obviously wanted to impress you. He was
Speaker 5: impressed by you. What was your initial thought of him?
Speaker 6: Well, honestly, it was kind of like you guys, Like,
Speaker 6: once I told him I'd been on the apps for
Speaker 6: that long, he also had a lot of questions.
Speaker 1: Yeah, naturally, So.
Speaker 6: We talked about that, We talked about our job histories,
Speaker 6: and I thought it was good, Like, I don't know.
Speaker 6: The thing I've learned from all of these dates is
Speaker 6: that I've learned like most good first dates won't blow
Speaker 6: you away, Like it's just finding sort of common ground
Speaker 6: and the baseline of like friendship. And I feel like
Speaker 6: the ones that do blow you away, but they often
Speaker 6: end up having like red flags that show up later.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Alexis, how do you feel about that you're
Speaker 2: supposed to establish friendship on the first date?
Speaker 4: She didn't.
Speaker 6: You can sleep with them, that's right.
Speaker 1: I'm glad figure out where the lines are. So overall,
Speaker 1: how do you feel about the day? Like, how do
Speaker 1: you rate it?
Speaker 6: I mean overall? I think we had a nice time.
Speaker 6: It was like probably an eighth and teaches me on
Speaker 6: the cheek.
Speaker 1: Okay, so what has happened since this date with Grant?
Speaker 6: We texted a little, but I think he's husbant to
Speaker 6: ask me out why. I don't know. I don't know exactly,
Speaker 6: and I'm a little worried that if you get him
Speaker 6: on the line, he's going to say something that I
Speaker 6: should have changed about myself, like twenty years ago or something.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 5: Well, I mean if he said that too late, right, Yeah,
Speaker 5: you worry about it like you've.
Speaker 2: Had a piece of spinach stuck in your teeth for
Speaker 2: the last twenty years.
Speaker 1: Nobody said anything.
Speaker 2: Yeah, even the two guys you were engaged to never brought.
Speaker 1: It up the entire.
Speaker 6: Dump them.
Speaker 2: Yes, I mean, we can change food in the teeth,
Speaker 2: but hopefully it's as simple as that.
Speaker 1: But we need to call this guy first when we
Speaker 1: do your second date update right after this hold on.
Speaker 2: Okay, second date update Today, we're on the phone with Bonnie,
Speaker 2: who's been doing online dating since the websites ran on
Speaker 2: dial up?
Speaker 3: You've got mail?
Speaker 4: Is that true?
Speaker 1: Is that an all?
Speaker 4: I could be true?
Speaker 1: That's the sound of love again.
Speaker 4: I can't get up.
Speaker 2: Bonnie told us that in her email, and she even
Speaker 2: said it to her date when they met up in
Speaker 2: person at a restaurant, that she's been at this for
Speaker 2: two decades.
Speaker 5: But it didn't seem to affect him like, sounds like
Speaker 5: they just continued on with conversation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that guy seems to be really nice guy named Grant, who,
Speaker 2: even though he sat through the entire date with her,
Speaker 2: has been hesitant about going out with her again.
Speaker 1: It seems like we're going to try and nudge him
Speaker 1: back in the right direction.
Speaker 5: Kind of worried about you, Bonnie, because it's the I
Speaker 5: am because at the end, she's like, what if it
Speaker 5: was something I did that I need to change from
Speaker 5: twenty years ago.
Speaker 2: I mean that's a normal reaction, Brook, isn't it It
Speaker 2: is for somebody who's been dating for two decades.
Speaker 4: Is that usually how you feel after a date's gone wrong? Bonnie?
Speaker 6: I mean the date didn't go wrong, Like, it was
Speaker 6: a really good first date. So I I guess that's
Speaker 6: why I'm thinking her.
Speaker 4: That's why you're thinking that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but sometime to spin her magical first date into
Speaker 2: some disaster horror.
Speaker 4: Story such a sad statement.
Speaker 2: To me, I thought it was a really beautiful sentiment personally, Bonnie.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm on your side. Unlike some in this room, Bonnie.
Speaker 4: How does Bonnie not have her own app? Like, hey
Speaker 4: we met on Bonnie.
Speaker 1: Yeah, bondie Bonnie. You know, if this call doesn't work out,
Speaker 1: we'll hook you up with some people to set that
Speaker 1: app up.
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, let's work.
Speaker 1: On Grant first. Here, I'm gonna dial this number right now.
Speaker 1: Here we go.
Speaker 2: Hey, we're looking for somebody named Grant.
Speaker 1: I'm hoping that's you.
Speaker 6: That's me.
Speaker 2: All right, Hey, we win, good work the number correctly,
Speaker 2: I did it. Hey, man, you're on a radio show
Speaker 2: right now called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 1: What's up, BROI I con sense you're starting to hang
Speaker 1: up already. Please come on.
Speaker 2: We're doing a segment call the Second Date Update here
Speaker 2: and we really could use your help.
Speaker 3: Sorry, what is that?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 4: This is fun, It's actually pretty fun.
Speaker 1: It's all about you.
Speaker 2: Well, it's about one of our listeners and you. A
Speaker 2: girl that you went on a date with recently, named Bonnie.
Speaker 4: A woman.
Speaker 2: Trying to we're trying to hook you up with underage women.
Speaker 2: She's definitely I don't think anybody thinks that this is
Speaker 2: a of the age women named Bonnie.
Speaker 1: You went to dinner with her the other night.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she even told us that you showed up with
Speaker 4: a bouquet of flowers. Which was really sweet, A.
Speaker 2: Lot of good stuff. We're just trying to figure out.
Speaker 2: How did you feel about Bonnie?
Speaker 3: I I like Bonnie. She had a nice smile, she was.
Speaker 4: Really easy going, nice compliments.
Speaker 3: I thought she was a nice lady.
Speaker 4: We had by maybe.
Speaker 5: Yeah, sorry, did you feel any chemistry with her?
Speaker 3: I guess yeah, I guess.
Speaker 1: There's definitely a little hesitation every time time before you
Speaker 1: answer us.
Speaker 4: That's so confusing, and you said all these positives.
Speaker 1: Now, I will tell you this.
Speaker 2: She did mention that she brought something up to you
Speaker 2: during the date that she was worried may have been
Speaker 2: a red flag to you.
Speaker 1: She wasn't sure that she's.
Speaker 2: Been going out on these dates via the apps for
Speaker 2: almost two decades.
Speaker 4: With breaks, with breaks.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well that was shocking, definitely. I mean I've been
Speaker 3: on them for a year and I'm ready to jump
Speaker 3: off a cliff.
Speaker 1: You're only a year in, a newbie.
Speaker 4: Did you get some good advice from her?
Speaker 2: I would assume you don't want advice to like be like, hey,
Speaker 2: so I'm going to go back on the apps now
Speaker 2: and meet some other people.
Speaker 1: If anything, you should feel.
Speaker 2: Like a lot of respect for her for like being
Speaker 2: able to push through all of the ups and downs
Speaker 2: of online.
Speaker 4: Dating really positive.
Speaker 1: Exactly.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean I thought it was a little weird, but
Speaker 3: I didn't make a big thing of it. I still
Speaker 3: was enjoying her company.
Speaker 6: I thought it was good.
Speaker 2: Okay, because we were assuming that the reason you might
Speaker 2: not be calling her back is because that could be
Speaker 2: a turnoff for some men. Yeah, so you weren't scared
Speaker 2: off by that information.
Speaker 3: Honestly, it wasn't the dating history. It was her job history.
Speaker 4: Her job history.
Speaker 2: Oh jobs, Wait, you have like fifteen hundred jobs.
Speaker 4: That's interesting. We didn't even ask her what she does
Speaker 4: for work. Does she do something weird?
Speaker 3: No, it's not that. We were just talking about what
Speaker 3: she's done. What's letter to hear in all the jobs
Speaker 3: she's had. And it turns out that when she was younger,
Speaker 3: she interviewed for like a stream job that she wanted
Speaker 3: and she still seemed to kind of feel bad about it.
Speaker 3: And I was going through the dates in my head
Speaker 3: and I realized, I'm pretty sure I was the hiring
Speaker 3: manager at the time rejected her and didn't take her
Speaker 3: for the job.
Speaker 2: Wait, wait, wait, she applied for a job at the
Speaker 2: company you worked for, and you turned her down.
Speaker 3: I mean I didn't know it was her obviously, but yeah,
Speaker 3: like at the time, and I mean, it's it's so vague.
Speaker 3: I clearly I don't have a good memory of the interviewer.
Speaker 3: Why I keep it stirs her doubt, But God definitely
Speaker 3: rejected her from this job.
Speaker 1: Did you tell her that during the date that you
Speaker 1: were the guy?
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 3: Once I realized, I figured, like, oh, she's gonna hate
Speaker 3: me if she figures this out.
Speaker 4: Were you able to remember anything about her? Why interview her? Why?
Speaker 4: I want to know why you didn't hire her?
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I figured. I figured she would want
Speaker 3: to know that too, and I just don't have any
Speaker 3: answers for her. So I figured it's roughly just safest
Speaker 3: to end this now because I guess I ruined her,
Speaker 3: Like dream jobs.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you're not calling her because you're afraid
Speaker 2: that in the future that information would come out and
Speaker 2: make things weird between you two. But I have good
Speaker 2: news because that information is not coming out in the future.
Speaker 2: It already came out to her. Because she's on the
Speaker 2: line right now listening to this.
Speaker 4: That is wild.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's been secretly listening on the other line Bonnie there.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm here.
Speaker 5: You can't do that work settings, but you can't do
Speaker 5: it in this setting.
Speaker 4: Hi.
Speaker 6: Hi, Well, I guess I just I want to know,
Speaker 6: like why, Like I guess I heard you say you
Speaker 6: don't remember why you rejected me for that job, like
Speaker 6: it was a long time ago.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, we're I interviewed so many people. This
Speaker 3: was seventeen years ago. I mean, I obviously I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: If I knew it was going to be you, I
Speaker 3: would have given you the job. But I don't feel
Speaker 3: like I have anything good to tell you.
Speaker 1: My job was like Blockbuster.
Speaker 4: Yes, it was her dream job. Do you remember who
Speaker 4: you did hire?
Speaker 3: I hired a bunch of people. I really have no idea.
Speaker 6: So you hired a bunch of people and I wasn't
Speaker 6: one of them.
Speaker 1: Oh that's a good point.
Speaker 3: See, this is what I was trying to avoid.
Speaker 1: Well, think about it, this one.
Speaker 5: You're so special, remember you're maybe he was you know,
Speaker 5: he was to attracted to you and believe that it
Speaker 5: was going to cause an issue in the workplace.
Speaker 1: Grant that's a good chance trying and say that to
Speaker 1: her right now? Uh, you were too beautiful.
Speaker 3: Go ahead, it's clearly I made a mistake. I really,
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I can't I mean, I can't
Speaker 3: go back downs ago. I am sorry you didn't get hired.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I don't think that she's upset about that?
Speaker 4: Still are you? Are you still upset about it, Bonnie?
Speaker 6: I mean, it's something I brought up in our date,
Speaker 6: so like it was one of those jobs that I
Speaker 6: just it was my only chance at it and whatever.
Speaker 6: But like, at the same time, I would not be
Speaker 6: the person to let that get in the way of
Speaker 6: this either.
Speaker 5: She swear she won't hold it over your head when
Speaker 5: you're in a relationship five years from now.
Speaker 4: I'm getting I'm giddy, Grant.
Speaker 2: How does it feel to reject someone not only professionally
Speaker 2: but personally in years and years later?
Speaker 4: Oh yeah?
Speaker 1: Does that feel good?
Speaker 3: Honestly? No, there you go.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to guilt you into the answer for my
Speaker 2: next question, which is, would you like to go out
Speaker 2: with Bonnie one more time?
Speaker 1: And we would pay for it?
Speaker 4: They say third times of charm, yes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, or in Bonnie's case, the one eighth times. I
Speaker 2: well say that, but I personally think that I feel
Speaker 2: the vibes going on here. We'd like to send you
Speaker 2: guys out on another date. My friend one hundred percent
Speaker 2: on us, if you'll see Bonnie one more time. And Bonnie,
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm assuming that is still a yes from you,
Speaker 2: right yeah, yeah, that way you can quill them and
Speaker 2: find out why I didn't hire you in person. But
Speaker 2: let's just get you on a date together.
Speaker 6: Okay, I'm over at what dub Okay, I just want
Speaker 6: to see if this is going to work out.
Speaker 5: I won't.
Speaker 6: I don't want to live in the past.
Speaker 2: All right, that's right, driver dream guy. She forgives you,
Speaker 2: give her one more chance on.
Speaker 3: Us, all right, Look, I mean if she's okay with it,
Speaker 3: then yeah, let's go out again.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, thank you, Thank you guys.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're welcome.
Speaker 4: That's really cute in like a sad I lost my
Speaker 4: dream job.
Speaker 1: Way looking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: Gosh, I sure hope he didn't feel pressured into saying
Speaker 2: yes to another date. Jeff feel guilt shamed for crushing
Speaker 2: her dreams. We would never want to make him feel
Speaker 2: anything like that on your show, people, Yeah, we don't
Speaker 2: do that over here.
Speaker 4: Oh I think that they could end up cute you know. Yeah,
Speaker 4: she wasn't still angry about it.
Speaker 1: She was the one upset about it. Yes, it wasn't
Speaker 1: at all.
Speaker 2: I'm just hoping that we get an update update out
Speaker 2: of this where date number one zero two seven stops
Speaker 2: for Rever, not that she killed him, just like that's
Speaker 2: the last yet.
Speaker 1: She would working into the vowels and they get married.
Speaker 1: You were seven then I knew, Yeah, I know, I did.
Speaker 1: She's radio sec.
Speaker 5: She's the only one that could play that song at
Speaker 5: last and it really means it like whatever I see
Speaker 5: couples dancing to at last and I'm like, you're twenty two.
Speaker 3: What do you mean?
Speaker 1: She's been thank you next, Sorry on a ground for
Speaker 1: too long.
Speaker 2: But if you ever need help with the second date,
Speaker 2: we will try and do that for you. You can
Speaker 2: email the show. We'll call that person who's not calling
Speaker 2: you back, even if we have.
Speaker 1: To manipulate that. Yeah, well, no, we don't like to
Speaker 1: do you. No, it's not our style.
Speaker 5: Weird.
Speaker 1: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning
Speaker 4: Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning,