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Speaker 1: Welcome to Canfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and

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Speaker 1: the Black Effects. And just like that, we're back with

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Speaker 1: yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl just hilarious. Look,

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Speaker 1: I don't want y'all to start calling me no doctor

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Speaker 1: hilarious or doctor Jess or nothing, but I really be

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Speaker 1: feeling like I'm helping y'all. And I know I say

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Speaker 1: this every week, but it never gets old to me

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Speaker 1: when I open up my DMS from the Kathuly Reckless

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Speaker 1: page and you guys are telling me, oh my god, Jess,

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Speaker 1: you've helped me. Oh my god, I did sit down

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Speaker 1: and have a conversation. Oh my god, things are so

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Speaker 1: much better now. I only had a few people tell

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Speaker 1: me that their situation is still the same, but that's

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Speaker 1: because they really, really really are in love and they

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Speaker 1: just want to see it through. And some people want

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Speaker 1: to see it through it. Sometimes people have to go

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Speaker 1: through with their journey to see what wasn't good for them.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's not even what somebody else telling you what

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Speaker 1: you can do is the answer. No no, no no no.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you just have to go through things for yourself.

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Speaker 1: But I love the people that I am able to help.

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Speaker 1: I love hearing that feedback that I was able to

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Speaker 1: help you guys, And I love hearing the other feedback

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Speaker 1: too that I wasn't able to help. That just means

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Speaker 1: you need some professional help. Okay, some licensed professional help,

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Speaker 1: because I think I'm pretty professional, which I'll think let

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Speaker 1: me know, so we're gonna jump right in. This is

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Speaker 1: a long story, mind you, but it is a good one.

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Speaker 1: This woman submitted voice notes, and I mean her situation

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Speaker 1: is just, oh my god, up and down crazy. It's

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Speaker 1: like a ball of confusion that just unravels before our ears.

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Speaker 1: So listen and listen carefully because it's rather long. So

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Speaker 1: this may be the only one I get to cover today,

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Speaker 1: but trust me, this one story is worth it. All right.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Jess, I'm trying to keep this story short, but

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Speaker 2: I definitely need you to fix my mess.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So a little backstory.

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Speaker 2: I moved to Charlotte five years ago from Baltimore, and

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Speaker 2: I met a guy maybe a year after I moved here,

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Speaker 2: and we had been good up until ten months ago,

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Speaker 2: and all went left out of really out of nowhere.

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Speaker 2: You know when they say you don't have to go

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Speaker 2: looking for stuff, it just.

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Speaker 3: Falls in your lap. Sometimes so that's what happened.

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Speaker 2: So we were inconsistent, so it was off and on.

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Speaker 2: But we care for each other. We love each other.

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Speaker 2: He never went a day without telling me how much

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Speaker 2: but that definitely was an understanding. We definitely had a situationship,

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Speaker 2: We talked about having kids, all of that. It just

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Speaker 2: was never consistent. Yes, I talked to other people on

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Speaker 2: the side, but he was my main person. We're both

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Speaker 2: in our late thirties. He wanted more, but in the

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Speaker 2: back of my head, I always felt like that was

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Speaker 2: something he was not always being up front with me about.

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Speaker 2: He's been married before, so he used to say that

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Speaker 2: he's not rushing into anything, but he knew he wanted

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Speaker 3: He would like to say, because his.

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Speaker 2: Ex wife basically she took everything and he was like

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Speaker 2: he wanted to have his own before he settled down again. Okay, whatever,

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Speaker 2: I hear you, But he always made me feel like

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Speaker 2: still wasn't right. So let's get to this real story

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Speaker 2: why I need you to fix my mess. So one

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Speaker 2: night ten months ago, I went over his house, and

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Speaker 2: when I got there, I just kept saying something ain't right.

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Speaker 2: And I would just keep asking him, like, what you

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Speaker 2: For him to be a single guy living on his own,

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Speaker 2: his house definitely didn't just look like a bachelor's band,

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Speaker 2: He always left me in his house without any problem.

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Speaker 2: you left me here and I would just see myself out.

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Speaker 2: But you know, I was like, I'm not even gonna

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Speaker 2: me to stay. I got my own place. I take

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Speaker 2: my ass home. So that's what I did. But it

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Speaker 2: just staying at night, even if you got to get

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Speaker 2: up early. He like, no, babe, you know I love you.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even want you to get up and leave them.

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Speaker 2: in the middle of the night. You could have stayed.

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Speaker 2: You should have just said something, I would have rather

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Speaker 3: Rather me stayed.

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Speaker 2: You wouldn't even have calm in it that you had

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Speaker 2: to get up at three o'clock in the morning. You

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Speaker 2: could have been like, yeah, I gotta get up at

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Speaker 3: He like, wow, that's.

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Speaker 2: Why we need to communicate. I tell you all the time,

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Speaker 2: I went in a kid, you could have stayed. You

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Speaker 2: already know you could have stayed. So he does this

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Speaker 3: So he finds a way to switch.

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Speaker 3: Like he does that, He'll switch up the.

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Speaker 2: But that shit was still on my mind, so I

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Speaker 2: didn't let it go. So for some reason, something told

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Speaker 3: So what drew me to this one particular page?

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Speaker 2: Whereas the person does nails now, he's always like, really

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Speaker 2: He would say armed, like he knew stuff that most

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Speaker 2: I did pay for my wife to get her nails

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Speaker 2: So I click on this girl's page. It's her business page,

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Speaker 2: and the birthday video basically she says on their like

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Speaker 3: So then I'm scrolling.

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Speaker 2: he got his condo. It's like the key that saying

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, it's not boggling because, mind you, the condo,

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Speaker 3: But that same furniture that he moved into the.

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Speaker 2: So I screenshot at that as well. I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 3: Like a black person to support. So I went to him.

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Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, I was recommended to this girl,

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Speaker 2: and I realized, y'all know each other, so let.

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Speaker 2: You know, you think I should get my nails done

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Speaker 2: And I told you him and I talked about having kids.

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Speaker 1: His next daughter Tanya Tanya in twenty two.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's say he said he wanted to name his daughter.

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Speaker 2: And so I go on her Instagram page and I

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Speaker 2: Let's say it was like wes okay on blue iury.

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Speaker 3: I asked him, I say, is there anything you need

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Speaker 3: And I lost it, and I'm like, you must.

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Speaker 3: I was so pissed off.

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Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up. I know this shit getting good,

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Speaker 2: I never blocked him on social media or on my phone,

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Speaker 3: Knew it wasn't over.

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Speaker 2: So I've reached out to him several times. He straight

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Speaker 2: Because again, since we've been talking, I noticed he only

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Speaker 3: As soon as he gets home, I don't hear from him.

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Speaker 2: so I'm noticing all of this. I'm noticing all of

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Speaker 2: I know why you had to leave. I know you

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Speaker 3: I was just like, I'm not bringing it up right now.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to hear the lies because I knew

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Speaker 2: But he was making certain comments, saying stuff about babies

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Speaker 2: doing who's been in my house and all of that stuff,

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Speaker 2: And I was throwing them same questions back at him,

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Speaker 2: and I'm like, I'm sure there's been somebody consistent in

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Speaker 2: I know for sure, and he like, oh, how you

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: Like he was saying stuff. He started saying random stuff.

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Speaker 2: Go ahead and tell me. So when he leaves, I

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Speaker 2: like thanking him for coming. And then I said to him,

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Speaker 3: I said.

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Speaker 2: I think it will make whatever this is a little

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Speaker 3: We need to have an.

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Speaker 2: Understanding, I said, because I'm not even gonna lie. It's

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Speaker 2: stung at first when I found out, but everything happens

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Speaker 2: for a reason. I'm okay with it now, but that

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Speaker 2: still does not deny the love that I have for you.

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Speaker 3: But I would just respect you more if you just

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Speaker 2: So, That's what my text message said to him, I

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Speaker 3: Now does that mean our relationship just won't stay the same?

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Speaker 2: No, cause I can't say when I hear yes, that

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Speaker 2: how I want to feel. I know how I want

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Speaker 2: to just move on, but I don't know. I know

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Speaker 2: already I know the answer, but I need him to

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Speaker 2: text message and it's like he's on a thousand again.

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Speaker 2: So you want me to call you, or you want

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Speaker 2: me to read this message while I'm driving. I can't

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Speaker 2: read this message while I'm driving and I'm high. And

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Speaker 2: then like he come off real crazy and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: what what are you talking about? Like what you're trying

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Speaker 2: to say in this message? If man, if you wanted

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Speaker 2: to ruin my Sunday, you could have just said all

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Speaker 2: that what I need to come over your house for.

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Speaker 3: I ain't need to come over there.

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Speaker 2: If you had something to say, you should have said

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Speaker 2: it while I was there, or yo, you should have

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Speaker 2: said it on Friday when we had this conversation, when

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Speaker 2: we just talking about it. Now you're gonna ruin my sunday.

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Speaker 2: You wanna ruin my call? And I'm just like, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 2: why are you yelling? Why are you fussing? Nothing in

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Speaker 2: my message was negative. I ain't read it. You talking

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Speaker 2: what you mean if you didn't read the message, you

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Speaker 2: He's like, no, you said it when I was there too.

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Speaker 2: Now why would I have somebody at home on me?

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Speaker 2: And I'm here, I'm like, just like any other cheating nigga,

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Speaker 2: what you mean, like cut that shit out?

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Speaker 3: So he like we.

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Speaker 2: Should have been had this conversation that I said, Well,

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Speaker 2: you kept saying more conversations need to be had. I said,

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Speaker 2: you kept hitting around and stuff, but you just didn't

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Speaker 3: I said, I just wanted you to know. And I'm calm.

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Speaker 2: Still, I'm so calm talking to him. I'm like, I

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Speaker 2: just wanted you to know, Like I know that baby

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Speaker 3: I've seen the picture she posted, Like the baby.

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Speaker 2: Got the same initials as you, first and middle inlas name.

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Speaker 3: It's all you.

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Speaker 2: Same initials and it's the same exact name that you

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Speaker 2: told me, you wanted to name our child, so.

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Speaker 3: Cut it out. He like, man, that's what you want

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Speaker 3: I'm like, that's what I know. I got my answer.

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Speaker 2: I got what I needed because the way you responding

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Speaker 2: to me right now is telling me everything I need

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Speaker 2: to know, because if it wasn't your child, you'll be like,

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Speaker 2: for real, bad, Like, that's not my child for real.

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Speaker 2: But every time he goes in this defense mode and

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Speaker 3: This point, I don't know what to do. Like I

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Speaker 3: know what to do, I know what I need to do.

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Speaker 2: And he like, if you want to move on, just

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Speaker 2: move on, just say that if you need closure, just

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Speaker 2: something you need closure. You keep coming at me with

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Speaker 2: this bull craft. Just something you need closure. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: what I need is the truth. But I have the truth.

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Speaker 2: I don't need the truth. I just want him to

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Speaker 2: really come out and say it, but he's not going

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Speaker 3: I don't think God's.

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Speaker 2: Understand Sometimes if you just tell the truth, you don't

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Speaker 2: know what us women are willing to accept. Tell me

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Speaker 2: what it really is to me. I know what to

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Speaker 2: expect from you, and I know what to put out.

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Speaker 3: Because I can give out the same energy.

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Speaker 2: But if I still want you in my life for

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Speaker 2: whatever reason, I can do that as well. So give

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Speaker 2: me the option to figure out what I want to

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Speaker 2: do with you. Don't make that decision for me by lying.

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Speaker 2: The trust is already gone. It's gone. But for some reason,

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Speaker 2: I still want him in my space, even though I

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Speaker 2: know that niggas lying and had a baby on me.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 2: I don't even know how long he was knowing this girl,

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Speaker 2: but I know he talked about he wasn't to have

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Speaker 3: With me, and then this girl ends up pregnant. Just

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Speaker 1: I had to write notes. I had to write notes

438
00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:36,679
Speaker 1: while I was listening to your story. First of all,

439
00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:39,680
Speaker 1: you from Baltimore, bitch, what you doing? What the fuck

440
00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:41,920
Speaker 1: is you doing? Just from me to you? And me

441
00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:43,560
Speaker 1: and you got the same name, and I ain't talking

442
00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:47,000
Speaker 1: about my first name. Me and you got the same name, bitch,

443
00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:50,720
Speaker 1: What the fuck is you doing going down there taking

444
00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:53,280
Speaker 1: that shit? From a Charlotte nigga. You could have stayed

445
00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:55,640
Speaker 1: home and took that shit from one of these niggas.

446
00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:59,479
Speaker 1: The fuck you're pissing me off for real, because you're

447
00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:02,080
Speaker 1: too old for that shit. Now I'm gonna be professional,

448
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:06,719
Speaker 1: all right, So after listening to everything, baby girl, all right,

449
00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:10,240
Speaker 1: let's go to the beginning. Your first instinct when you

450
00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:13,680
Speaker 1: walked in that damn condo, you've seen the woman's touch.

451
00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:17,040
Speaker 1: You pointed that out specifically. You've seen it, so you

452
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 1: already know what it was. Because most of the time

453
00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,240
Speaker 1: when we feel something in our stomach, we feel something

454
00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:22,960
Speaker 1: and we know it's called woman in the wish and

455
00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,400
Speaker 1: you know that we're right most of the time. I'm

456
00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:29,159
Speaker 1: not gonna say women are always right, but very seldom

457
00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:32,280
Speaker 1: are we not. You are right in your mind. You

458
00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,640
Speaker 1: seem to have a lot of sense, but you ignore

459
00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:38,480
Speaker 1: that shit a lot never heard of. Like mine over matter,

460
00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:41,199
Speaker 1: you need to do mine over heart. Sometimes that's what

461
00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:43,840
Speaker 1: us women need to realize. We need to do mine

462
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:47,720
Speaker 1: over heart. You love with your heart. You think what

463
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 1: your mind, but you need both. But you need your

464
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:55,359
Speaker 1: mind more than your motherfucking heart, because your heart gonna

465
00:21:55,359 --> 00:22:00,920
Speaker 1: have you somewhere girl going crazy? All right? Now, bringing

466
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 1: it back to that one particular night when he told

467
00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:06,159
Speaker 1: you that three o'clock in the morning bullshit, and you

468
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:08,440
Speaker 1: got up and left and you waited till the next

469
00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:12,480
Speaker 1: day to say something. Now, he was right about one thing. Communicate. Communicate.

470
00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:15,120
Speaker 1: He ain't shit, all right, But he was not lying

471
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:18,840
Speaker 1: about that. Communicate because, honestly, if you would have said

472
00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:20,679
Speaker 1: that shit when he told you, I don't want you

473
00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:22,280
Speaker 1: to have to get up three o'clock in the morning,

474
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,199
Speaker 1: you should have said that shit right there. Well, I

475
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:25,640
Speaker 1: never had to get up three o'clock in the morning.

476
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,760
Speaker 1: You always leave me here. What's the problem now? Do

477
00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:30,240
Speaker 1: you want me to leave? Or what are you expecting

478
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:33,960
Speaker 1: somebody else? Or you know whatever. Regardless of his fucking response,

479
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:36,199
Speaker 1: as long as it's as wouldn't have swung on, you

480
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:38,639
Speaker 1: ain't shit. You can get mad in my face all day,

481
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:41,719
Speaker 1: huff and puff, blow this motherfucking house down, nigga. But

482
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,720
Speaker 1: I'm asking you a question, why would you say this

483
00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 1: to me when you let me let myself off any

484
00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:48,679
Speaker 1: other time you done left me in your house. You

485
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 1: said you've been to the condo, you've been to the townhouse,

486
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,160
Speaker 1: and all of that. You were supposed to say something

487
00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:56,240
Speaker 1: right then and there, but you leaving time for it

488
00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:59,040
Speaker 1: to summer. You saying something the next day gave him

489
00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:00,560
Speaker 1: a chance to fucking life you.

490
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:01,639
Speaker 3: He lied to you.

491
00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:03,440
Speaker 1: He was able to lie because he could have said

492
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,679
Speaker 1: anything at that point because the moment is now passed,

493
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:09,200
Speaker 1: it's over, and he did with it is exactly what

494
00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:12,000
Speaker 1: he was supposed to do. Oh no, bab, why ain't

495
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:12,400
Speaker 1: say nothing?

496
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:12,600
Speaker 2: Then?

497
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 1: You know I would never want you to leave you?

498
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:19,399
Speaker 1: You know, moving shit over for you? Communicate in real time.

499
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:21,679
Speaker 1: You know, That's what I'm learning in my relationship now.

500
00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:24,520
Speaker 1: I have to communicate things in real time. You don't

501
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 1: let a person make you mad and then you wait

502
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:29,840
Speaker 1: days and days or even hours and hours. Just say something,

503
00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:32,720
Speaker 1: Say something right then and there. Now, not about every

504
00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:36,320
Speaker 1: little thing, but you have to communicate in real time.

505
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 1: You can't just let shit go on because niggas can't

506
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:41,679
Speaker 1: read minds. Men cannot read your mind, all right, We

507
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 1: can read there's a lot more than they can read ours.

508
00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:45,880
Speaker 1: And honestly, men don't want to read our minds because

509
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,480
Speaker 1: they have the time. They already can kind of feel

510
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 1: what we're thinking and ain't they scared of that shit?

511
00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 1: That confrontation. So communicate now, you said he likes to

512
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 1: flip the script. He likes to cut you off when

513
00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:00,280
Speaker 1: you talk. He likes to yell over you and play

514
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:02,199
Speaker 1: the victim and make you feel bad, and then you

515
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 1: end up feeling bad and all of that shit. Girl,

516
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:10,080
Speaker 1: that's manipulative. That's narcissism. You're dealing with a manipulative narcissist here,

517
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 1: grade A. Now, you're smart. You seem to have some

518
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 1: nice investigation skills talking about the evidence that you see

519
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:20,119
Speaker 1: from the girl's page, and you figured out she was

520
00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 1: a nail tech. That's good. Your snooping game is a one,

521
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:26,399
Speaker 1: all right. But I knew before you finished that shit,

522
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 1: because I didn't been fixing mess for months now that

523
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 1: that damn condo's either hers or theirs, it ain't just his.

524
00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:37,639
Speaker 1: And you were there probably when I asked, and his

525
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 1: ass wasn't getting along because just like y'all been on

526
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:42,679
Speaker 1: and off, they've probably been on and off too, but

527
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:45,520
Speaker 1: just much longer. He seems to notice Gary pride and

528
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:47,880
Speaker 1: fucking with that girl since he had his wife. Right

529
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 1: after he had his wife talking about he he was

530
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 1: living in his fucking call. Okay, Tyler Parris, the fuck

531
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 1: get up on your motherfucking on two feet. So it

532
00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:57,639
Speaker 1: seems like he still likes for women to take care

533
00:24:57,640 --> 00:24:59,120
Speaker 1: of him because he's still he living with the nail

534
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 1: tech bitch. I'm sorry his baby mother slash girlfriend probably

535
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:05,680
Speaker 1: soon to be another fucking wife because she's taking care

536
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:08,359
Speaker 1: of him. That fucking townhouse he had you sitting up

537
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:11,639
Speaker 1: and probably wasn't his either. We have to realize patterns

538
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:15,200
Speaker 1: and act accordingly, not keep going on and on with it, girl,

539
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:18,359
Speaker 1: keep playing along and shit, because if you ask me,

540
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:20,479
Speaker 1: you waited too damn long to say anything to him.

541
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,880
Speaker 1: You call yourself building a case like he was gonna

542
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 1: give a fuck. Girl, he didn't give a fuck. After

543
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:27,600
Speaker 1: you found out that he was dealing with the nail sex.

544
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:30,160
Speaker 1: You even made it your business. You put so much

545
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 1: energy and to investigating when you already knew what the

546
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 1: hell was going on. You even asked them, showed them

547
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:40,439
Speaker 1: his own girlfriend because that's what the fuck she was,

548
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: and asked, oh, should I go to her to get

549
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 1: my nails done? You're playing games with your damn self.

550
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,479
Speaker 1: You already knew what he was gonna do, and of

551
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: course he was going to say, oh, no, she has

552
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:53,480
Speaker 1: problems and nah nah, she don't do good and she

553
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: do no call, no shows, and she's not the most professional.

554
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 1: He wanted to keep y' all apart as long as

555
00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 1: he could, not even to save your feelings, but save hers,

556
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:02,879
Speaker 1: because he got way more to lose with her than

557
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:06,120
Speaker 1: with you. Because you ain't going no damn wear. That's

558
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:09,399
Speaker 1: your problem. Still after I try to fix your mess,

559
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:11,919
Speaker 1: you still ain't gonna go no damn wear. That's my

560
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 1: problem with you. And the way you talk about, oh,

561
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 1: we've been on and off, on and off. It's no

562
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 1: real foundation. It was never any real foundation or any

563
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:24,679
Speaker 1: loyalty there. It was never any of that. So how

564
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:26,919
Speaker 1: did you expect for this man to have kids with you,

565
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:29,199
Speaker 1: to marry you? You know, listen, I'm gonna tell you something money.

566
00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 1: I know you didn't heard your mom or or your

567
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: grandmother or some older woman in your life tell you.

568
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,440
Speaker 1: These men will tell you what the fuck you want

569
00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 1: to hear to get what they want. I've been hearing

570
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 1: that shit since I was eight years old. My aunt's

571
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 1: telling my cousins, my mother telling my aunts, you know,

572
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:47,679
Speaker 1: my grandmother telling my mother, my like, seriously, it's true.

573
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 1: So when you finally bring this shit up to him,

574
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:52,560
Speaker 1: you send them all the screenshots from all your investigation,

575
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 1: you gathered all your evidence, and you show them and

576
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 1: he calls you on ten made up a whole motherfucking

577
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,639
Speaker 1: lie about how it's ex wife was gonna use something

578
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 1: with alimony or something, so he had to pay this

579
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 1: nail tech girl to put up a fake registry for

580
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:09,400
Speaker 1: a real fucking baby. So now you have a man

581
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 1: lying on his unborn child. So he really don't give

582
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 1: a fuck. He really is socio for real. And if

583
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:17,239
Speaker 1: you don't know what socio is, that's the person with

584
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: no motherfucking feelings. They just lie. They just do shit

585
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,399
Speaker 1: and don't feel anything. Going around hurt people and they

586
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 1: don't feel shit. That's why when you hung up that

587
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 1: damn phone after telling him you knew that the baby

588
00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:30,840
Speaker 1: was his, and you found out he fucking with the

589
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:32,920
Speaker 1: nail tack and all of that shit, he didn't call

590
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 1: your ass back. Matter of fact, he didn't talk to

591
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,399
Speaker 1: your ass for ten months, and you came back to him,

592
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:42,520
Speaker 1: you bothering him. You're the damn problem. You in your

593
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 1: own way, you too good for this shit. What you're doing.

594
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 1: You don't know your damn worth. What is wrong with you?

595
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 1: You said he ignored you over that course of ten months.

596
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 1: He ignored you. Over those ten months, you kept reaching out,

597
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 1: reaching out for what what do you want? I would

598
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 1: feel the same way if I was him, What do

599
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: you want? Can'ts out the bed. He don't need to

600
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 1: lie to you. I don't know why the hell he

601
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 1: ever even tried to lie to you. He don't need

602
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 1: to you. Obviously you're staying You'll be fine with the

603
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: truth or damn lie, So he just lying for fun

604
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 1: because you ain't going nowhere. In fact, you're begging him

605
00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 1: for time, and you know he got a family. So

606
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:20,880
Speaker 1: now you're in the wrong because just because you will

607
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 1: accept that shit does not mean somebody else will. You're

608
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 1: putting yourself through this shit. You never gave that man

609
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:28,919
Speaker 1: no real consequences, so you gave him a lot of

610
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 1: power over you. And then to hear you say that

611
00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:34,119
Speaker 1: you told him ten months later after he came to

612
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 1: see you, you didn't want to say nothing because you

613
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:38,239
Speaker 1: just want to enjoy the time. How the hell can

614
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 1: you enjoy anything with him like this is just unrelatable?

615
00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 1: And this is just disgusting. This is crazy. Tell all

616
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:47,960
Speaker 1: you want is the truth. You know the truth. Why

617
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 1: do you need confirmation from him? Why? And listen? You

618
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:54,760
Speaker 1: think that little ten months was a break you tried

619
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 1: to move on. You think you tried to move on.

620
00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: You never did, because you said it yourself. You never

621
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 1: blocked him on social media, never deleted his number. You

622
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 1: never did. He never blocked you. He didn't need to.

623
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 1: It didn't fucking matter. He don't care, He don't give

624
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 1: a fuck because you're gonna be there no matter what,

625
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 1: and that's not good. Had this man walking all over

626
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 1: you and shit, and you're begging him to be back

627
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 1: with you. He had a fucking baby on you line,

628
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 1: having you and everybody else house but his own because

629
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 1: he don't have none. Now he got a baby, and

630
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 1: you just need for him to say it's his girl.

631
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 1: Get your fucking life together. Seriously, don't even check back

632
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:31,120
Speaker 1: in with me because you're still gonna be there. You're

633
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 1: a damn fool. I'm sorry, Bible say, don't call people fools.

634
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: You're a damn nut. And just like that, we're gonna

635
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 1: end this episode. This shit pissed me off. This girl

636
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 1: from fucking Baltimore. You're crazy as a girl. Tune in

637
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: each and every Wednesday, y'all. I'm gonna get the hell

638
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 1: up out of here. Oh my god, this shit got

639
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 1: me so pissed off. Tune in also to Reckless Discussions tonight,

640
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 1: and she'd have made me mad this morning. And y'all

641
00:29:54,960 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 1: gonna see on this episode of Reckless Discussions London gonna

642
00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: make my ass mad tonight. I'm tired of these women, y'all.

643
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: Y'all tune in every Wednesday that everything I got going on,

644
00:30:02,120 --> 00:31:16,880
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