WEBVTT - Conversion Therapy Might Be Back

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Brief Recess. I'm Michael Foote, I'm Melissa Albrand.

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<v Speaker 1>Today we're going to be talking about stolen antiquities, all

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<v Speaker 1>the weird things Melissa found out in estate sale, the

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<v Speaker 1>crazy conversations I had with a bouncer and JK. Rowling.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I hit four estate sales this weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>As actually an illness. You need to be stocked.

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<v Speaker 2>I do not need to be back. I love the

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<v Speaker 2>state sales. There is nothing better. Yeah, we'll tell you

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<v Speaker 2>something and we.

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<v Speaker 1>Could talk about Yeah, actually I want to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>this with you.

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<v Speaker 3>Dead old lady clothes, dead old lady furniture, dead old lady.

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<v Speaker 1>Julis because they really don't because of late stage capitalism,

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<v Speaker 1>they really don't make it like they used to anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>So like if you can get your hands on like

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<v Speaker 1>a sofa, sofa or a have re upholstered. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I've had a sofa for like three years and it's

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<v Speaker 1>already and I spent a lot of sofas are expensive.

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<v Speaker 1>I think this sofa might have been like four or

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<v Speaker 1>five thousand dollars and now it's a piece of shit,

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<v Speaker 1>and it really is like and that was that was

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<v Speaker 1>a lot. We've really drained the savings to buy this

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<v Speaker 1>fucking sofa and it's sagging and the fabric is weird

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<v Speaker 1>and it's not like nice enough one where you would

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<v Speaker 1>get it reupholstered. Right, Yeah, did you get anything good

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<v Speaker 1>at the estate shale? Yeah? What did you get? Melissa

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<v Speaker 1>goes to Okay, So Melissa goes to a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>estate sales.

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<v Speaker 2>And I do it's a problem.

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<v Speaker 1>But ethically she gets furs, and ethically we feel like

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<v Speaker 1>it's in this gray area where it's okay because the

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<v Speaker 1>animal is already dead and.

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<v Speaker 3>It is vintage. It is vintage. I would never buy

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<v Speaker 3>a new fur coat. I really wouldn't Swift.

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<v Speaker 1>He's already hate me on the internet, so peta people

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<v Speaker 1>are going to come for me. I'm always posting Taylor

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<v Speaker 1>Swift hate. She's a billionaire who's a crimate terrorist. So

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, you know, and there are a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of them, like, it's just not the only one. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>critical of all of them. But I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 1>like be like, oh she does a step touch in

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<v Speaker 1>her concert and has some like nice visuals. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna lay off this billionaire. No anyway, Sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's weird.

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<v Speaker 1>But the but the peed of people will probably come

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<v Speaker 1>for us for saying that. But I think vintage for

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<v Speaker 1>feels okay.

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<v Speaker 3>It does feel okay to me, and I mean, and listen,

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<v Speaker 3>I am more than willing to accept that maybe there's

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<v Speaker 3>something that I might not know about this, and if

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<v Speaker 3>somebody wants to nicely come at me.

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<v Speaker 1>We're open to suggestions.

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<v Speaker 2>We are, I really really am.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm one of the few men who actually takes notes

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<v Speaker 1>and like says I'm sorry and incorporates it into his

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<v Speaker 1>like work and life. So do you well, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>If you ask my husband, you'd say something else.

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<v Speaker 2>And let the record reflect that Michael.

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<v Speaker 3>Charles Foot has never apologized to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Ever, I apologize to you all the time when I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I just felt like I should say that.

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<v Speaker 2>Because he's lying. He's a liar.

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<v Speaker 1>The phone, he got her on the phone. No, but

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<v Speaker 1>you got good stuff at the Estates I did.

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<v Speaker 3>I actually bought a shaved Lamb's woolf jacket.

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<v Speaker 4>I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>Instantly You're like, oh, I got all this great stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you know, there was like sofas and like ot

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<v Speaker 1>stuff right for the Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Besides, and I also got a couple of like Cashmere sweater.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's great, I no, no, I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I read an interesting article about Kashmir, how like we

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<v Speaker 1>have overbred sheep in such a way that Kashmir is

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<v Speaker 1>no longer what it once was. So if you can

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<v Speaker 1>get your hands on a vintage Kashmere sweater, it will

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<v Speaker 1>feel different.

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<v Speaker 3>So now, well, I definitely think that the yes, I

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<v Speaker 3>agree on that with the Kashmir. So now Kashmir is

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<v Speaker 3>like one or two ply and it's basically see through,

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<v Speaker 3>which is why it's so it's like relatively expenses relative,

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<v Speaker 3>it's relatively less expensive than it used to be because

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<v Speaker 3>the quality is because.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you can go to blooming Del's and get a

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<v Speaker 1>fifty nine to ninety nine or there's sweater, but it'll

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<v Speaker 1>be very thin.

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<v Speaker 2>It'll be very thin. It's like linen. Also, equality is

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<v Speaker 2>not as what it used to be, which is I

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<v Speaker 2>like to.

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<v Speaker 1>Say, to life and late stage capitalism. So those are

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<v Speaker 1>states will sound really fun.

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<v Speaker 2>I went with my mother was out on this wreak.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell the people in America what happens when Magali passed

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<v Speaker 1>a car accident.

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<v Speaker 3>So when we pass a car accident, I do my

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<v Speaker 3>best not to look at all, right, because A I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to see any carnage.

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<v Speaker 2>Number one that you can't you can't unsee that.

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<v Speaker 3>But also I am aware that when you're driving past anything,

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<v Speaker 3>you kind of slow down. You can't help it, right,

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<v Speaker 3>you just kind of slow down. So I will almost

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<v Speaker 3>speed up to go past. And my mother inevitably Melissa,

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<v Speaker 3>why why I wanted to see?

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, I don't want to see it, and

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<v Speaker 2>you just like I want to see. It's really let me.

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<v Speaker 2>Did I ever tell you what? I did?

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<v Speaker 3>Tell you?

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<v Speaker 2>This story about my mother This really long time ago.

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<v Speaker 2>We were in Haiti.

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<v Speaker 1>And we were.

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<v Speaker 2>Headed home and there was a woman, two women and.

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<v Speaker 3>A child walking up the hill and then the kid

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<v Speaker 3>and the kid started to run out into the street

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<v Speaker 3>and the mom grabbed him by the scruff.

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<v Speaker 2>Of the shirt.

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<v Speaker 1>And in the meantime, I don't remember the story, remember this,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember this.

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<v Speaker 3>My mother rolls the window down as this woman is

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<v Speaker 3>walloping her kid and she's encouraging the lady to hit

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<v Speaker 3>her kids.

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<v Speaker 1>She's doing she's like.

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<v Speaker 2>Doing it, and I was like, Mom, what is wrong

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<v Speaker 2>with you? And then her mother hit him, and then.

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<v Speaker 3>My mother says to me, can you imagine what a

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<v Speaker 3>bad day I would have had if we hit this kid?

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<v Speaker 1>May we all.

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<v Speaker 3>And she said it we all have the confidence on

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<v Speaker 3>My mom says this to my fun.

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<v Speaker 1>How awful my day would have been?

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<v Speaker 3>If we we get home and we tell my dad

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<v Speaker 3>this story, and he's just like, yeah, it's like the noted.

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<v Speaker 2>It would have been a really bad day for your mother.

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<v Speaker 1>My lung just collapse. If we don't get canceled for

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<v Speaker 1>the fur, it's going to be the driving Listen, I

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<v Speaker 1>was sounds like a punchline. It's kill or be killed.

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<v Speaker 1>It's rough. Really, yeah, I mean I can I've never

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<v Speaker 1>been to Haiti, but I can imagine.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I think.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean anytime I've seen like videos of what it's

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<v Speaker 3>like to drive in like India, or what it's like

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<v Speaker 3>to drive in Sri Lanka or Pakistan, there is a

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<v Speaker 3>certain level of chaos, and I will say, if you

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<v Speaker 3>can drive in those places, you can absolutely drive anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been in a car with Melissa mel Branch a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of times. You to me, Yeah, we went to

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<v Speaker 1>the beach that one time.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that's right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she does drive like a girl who grew up

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<v Speaker 1>in Queens like. She is very much like that stop

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<v Speaker 1>signs a foot away and we're going to just start

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<v Speaker 1>pressing on.

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<v Speaker 2>The top of a break, are you okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm fine. I mean I made it out alive

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<v Speaker 1>and we got there pretty snappy. Yes we did.

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<v Speaker 2>I've got places to go. I have shiit to do.

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<v Speaker 1>In then out. Yeah, she's got four fucking estate sales

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<v Speaker 1>to go to.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen. I will not be judged by the likes.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I just want to tell you this one thing

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<v Speaker 1>that a bouncer said to me this weekend. We don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to get into the whole story about me going out.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay, we all support my lifestyle, especially Melissa, but

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<v Speaker 1>I do just have to tell you that this bouncer,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, Lady bouncer rare elusive, that creature. We

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<v Speaker 1>love to love it. And I was like, oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I'm like going in on our autpha and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, this is great. We're having a great time.

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<v Speaker 2>The bouncer had a special outfit on.

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<v Speaker 1>She was just looking great. She was beautiful, and so

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<v Speaker 1>were we were chatting. I feel like it's the line

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<v Speaker 1>behind me.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, sorry, I just I think I feel like a

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<v Speaker 2>bouncer would be wearing something a key key no no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>would be wearing something in case.

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<v Speaker 1>It was very I mean it was very like Buffy

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<v Speaker 1>the Vampire Slayer. There was a lot of like leather

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<v Speaker 1>like dark colors. It wasn't like like a Diamon person

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<v Speaker 1>berg wrap dress. Like. It was like.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't think that, but like I didn't think it'd

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<v Speaker 3>be an outfit that required comments.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but it was. It was like it look great

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<v Speaker 1>and uh she looked at me. So the night sort

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<v Speaker 1>of erodes on in a debauchroous way, and she and

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<v Speaker 1>I ended up chatting at the bar for a while

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<v Speaker 1>and she goes, can I just ask you something? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you white or white passing? It's like that is a

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<v Speaker 1>crazy question.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually speaking passing or white presenting, white past Okay, those

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<v Speaker 3>are different things.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, this is I think white presenting. You

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<v Speaker 3>can't help it, right, that's of course.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>White passing is when you were like skulking, right.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, are you in here with all the

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<v Speaker 1>white boys pretending to be and not like pretending to

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<v Speaker 1>be white when you're not. It was very It was

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<v Speaker 1>like so interesting we got into a whole identity politics

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<v Speaker 1>conversation after that, but I thought it was and it

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<v Speaker 1>reminded me of your cousin who reached out to you

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<v Speaker 1>asking to talk to a transracial couple, asking Melissa to

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<v Speaker 1>chat about their.

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<v Speaker 2>Relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>So she did reach back out to me, by the way,

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<v Speaker 3>I forgot to touch base with you about it, and

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<v Speaker 3>then she was just.

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<v Speaker 1>Like me for waiting for the viewers at home.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody was type.

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<v Speaker 1>One in the comment section if you need to be

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<v Speaker 1>constantly kept up to date on this, because I do.

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<v Speaker 3>So she got back to me and she was just like,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry, I meant cross cultural, not okay, Yeah, which

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<v Speaker 3>is which is great, which is because I was very worried.

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<v Speaker 3>I was worried that, like, not that it would be

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<v Speaker 3>an issue if I was married to a white man,

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<v Speaker 3>but that they would think that my.

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<v Speaker 2>Not white husband was white.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And what is the conversation that's been happening behind

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<v Speaker 3>my back?

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<v Speaker 1>RuPaul always says, it's none of my business what other

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<v Speaker 1>people say about me.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't believe I had my back.

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<v Speaker 1>I try to live by that because people really do

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<v Speaker 1>talk shit about me.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I want to know everybody who's to.

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<v Speaker 1>Know people on the Internet. I'm really limiting the comment

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<v Speaker 1>like what comments I read, because sometimes it's.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, no, the Internet, I think the Internet is different.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm interested in what my family think.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, that's the last people. I want to know what

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<v Speaker 1>they think about where I'm scared.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I want to know, and I will take them on.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's take a brief recess, all right. So this is

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<v Speaker 1>sidebar where I share all the weird things that happened

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<v Speaker 1>to me in court this week. This is shout out

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<v Speaker 1>to the batties, to the girlies, to the nurses of

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<v Speaker 1>New York City, because nurses are fierce divas who not

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<v Speaker 1>only kept everyone alive during the pandemic and then like

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<v Speaker 1>I was talking about this with my friend this week

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<v Speaker 1>and actually that and then we just literally stopped thanking

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<v Speaker 1>them one day. We were like, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>Done, Well we stopped banging on and then it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was like, okay, back back to treating them like shit

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<v Speaker 1>and underpaying them and like not honoring their union contracts, right,

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<v Speaker 1>so not valuing them, yeah, of course, yeah yeah, referring

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<v Speaker 1>to Yeah, So I met So I had this client

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<v Speaker 1>who she was experiencing like extreme illness. I can't really

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<v Speaker 1>say too much but she was very sick, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I had to go get her stuff from the detention

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<v Speaker 1>center because they transferred her to the hospital with the

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<v Speaker 1>treating without any of her shit. And so I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, I got to go get her stuff from

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<v Speaker 1>a detention center. Let's just say it's so far in Brooklyn,

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<v Speaker 1>so deep in Brooklyn.

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<v Speaker 2>We know what I say, what behind God's back?

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<v Speaker 3>But when something is fucking far away, where is that

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<v Speaker 3>behind Gods?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's literally yeah, behind God's huge back. We passed.

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<v Speaker 1>We have sorry shout out to God type two in

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<v Speaker 1>the common section if you love God. So we're so

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<v Speaker 1>far behind Gods back that like the Macha shops of

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<v Speaker 1>Brooklyn are like in f a speck on the horizon.

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<v Speaker 1>So I get over stuff, I book it back to

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<v Speaker 1>the hospital. She's not conscious, and I was hired by

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<v Speaker 1>the family, Like I was not working with this individual.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm chatting with one of the nurses because nurses

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<v Speaker 1>they are like, oh, you're an immigration law are a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of nurses are immigrants, so like, yeah, kind of

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<v Speaker 1>you know, come over and want a kiki and they

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<v Speaker 1>want to like she asked me a quick question, No,

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<v Speaker 1>why is that actually? So I know you have a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of nurses in your family.

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<v Speaker 3>I do so because what happens is that the United

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<v Speaker 3>States has a shortage of nurses, right, so a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of people from other countries are coming to the United

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<v Speaker 3>States to be nurses, which is then resulting in a

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<v Speaker 3>shortage of nurses in other countries.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>So, like there is a shortage, shortage of nurses in

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<v Speaker 3>the Philippines because so many Philippina nurses from here, there's

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<v Speaker 3>a shortage of nurses in And I know Africa is

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<v Speaker 3>a big place in the content.

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<v Speaker 2>I cannot remember the country, however, there.

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<v Speaker 1>Is you got a haul on this one. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>they have.

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<v Speaker 2>All gone over to Ireland.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, because there's a nursing shortage.

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<v Speaker 2>There so and a lot of Irish they make.

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<v Speaker 1>More than yes, Oh my god, where are the Irish nurses.

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<v Speaker 2>Going the UK?

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<v Speaker 1>Stop? Oh my yeah? Three card shuffle.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, and that's what's happened. This is that's what's happening. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow. Anyway, if only we could like come together and

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<v Speaker 1>just be like, hey, guys, for so many Yeah, I guess, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>let's let's like fair pay. Anyway. So I'm chatting with

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<v Speaker 1>this nurse and she's like oh, like this is and

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<v Speaker 1>we sort of get into the case a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>and the ICE wouldn't unhandcuff my unconscious client. So I

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<v Speaker 1>asked the nurse. I was like, hey, like would you

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<v Speaker 1>kind of be willing to testify? And she's like jumped

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<v Speaker 1>on it. She was like yeah, sure, and I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to like help her out with other stuff. But I

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<v Speaker 1>got to go to court the next day and the

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<v Speaker 1>judge like leaned into me and was like, where's your client,

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<v Speaker 1>like came at me hot, and I was like, my

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<v Speaker 1>client's unconscious in the hospital. Ice won't release the person

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<v Speaker 1>from custody. She's a non violent criminal record. We need

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<v Speaker 1>to get her on a handcuff because medical professionals are

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<v Speaker 1>advising that they can't treat her properly because she's still

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<v Speaker 1>unconscious and handcuffed to a journey. So I got I

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<v Speaker 1>facetimed the nurse. She gave me your number with the judge.

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<v Speaker 1>I made her testify and did it work? It worked?

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<v Speaker 1>It worked, They released her. It was great. She was awesome,

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<v Speaker 1>And nurses like, I mean, they really fucking hate ice,

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<v Speaker 1>like she was. They a lot of them are from

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<v Speaker 1>immigrant communities. So she was like this, these are the receipts,

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<v Speaker 1>These are the ways in which it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Nurses also have empathy, yes, right, there's.

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<v Speaker 1>That caregivers right, yeah, they care about it was. It

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, what a feel good moment, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>an onslaught of fucking bullshit that you have to deal

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<v Speaker 1>with as an immigration lawyer. So it's just like one

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<v Speaker 1>of these moments where I was like, we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>band together, we're going to hold hands, get this one

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<v Speaker 1>person on a handcuffed, and so I can't much else

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<v Speaker 1>about like what's coming going on with her, But.

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<v Speaker 3>Now she's being properly treated. Good, good, good, I'm glad.

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<v Speaker 2>All right.

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<v Speaker 1>So this segment is called, uh what the.

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<v Speaker 2>Fox called under Earth?

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<v Speaker 1>It's my show. Oh no, this segment's called under Oath.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to be talking about art law. I'm really

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<v Speaker 1>excited to talk about this actually because I have a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit of lare here because I actually I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm coming out. But I was an art lawyer.

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<v Speaker 1>That was like sort of part of my villain origin story.

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<v Speaker 1>I was an art lawyer. Right out of law school.

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<v Speaker 1>I got a job working for a huge gallery. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't say which one, you can probably guess it. But

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<v Speaker 1>it was here in New York and it dealt with

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<v Speaker 1>art from all areas of the world, modern art, antiquities, everything.

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<v Speaker 1>So this case from two thousand and five, this curator

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<v Speaker 1>was indicted in Los Angeles at the Getty for sort

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<v Speaker 1>of taking antiquities, accused of taking antiquities from Italy and

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<v Speaker 1>displaying them at the Getty. And it was sort of

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<v Speaker 1>this like the sort of one of the first cases

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<v Speaker 1>to really kind of deal with this issue because like,

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<v Speaker 1>antiquities do belong to someone, like right, and this is.

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<v Speaker 2>Like where they were taken from.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and this is like a huge I think a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of institutions are sort of grappling with this like

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<v Speaker 1>moment where it's like, Okay, we have this thing, we

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<v Speaker 1>know it belongs to this other person. Like people's perception

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<v Speaker 1>and how they think we should be behaving and treating

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<v Speaker 1>these objects and treating other cultures, you know. I think

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<v Speaker 1>the sort of logic and air quotes for those of

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<v Speaker 1>you listening and not watching, is the logic was, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's safer with us than it is with this, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's this very colonialist, fucked up perspective.

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<v Speaker 3>I was going to say, because the colonizer will insist

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<v Speaker 3>on colonizing, right, yes, at every turn.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And it was very much like steeped in this

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<v Speaker 1>sort of notion of like, oh well, you know, these

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<v Speaker 1>people could never possibly they don't understand what right. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>this is like gross sort of like white imperialistic, frankly

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<v Speaker 1>British perspective. I mean, the British Museum is like a

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<v Speaker 1>very very infamous example of antiquity looting. So I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about this case because I thought it was

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<v Speaker 1>just sort of like an interesting entree into art law. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>Like art law is sort of like cobbled together of

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<v Speaker 1>all these weird different laws. Like there is no like

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<v Speaker 1>art law section of a law school textbook. There's no

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<v Speaker 1>like art law book of statutes. It's actually like it's

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<v Speaker 1>contract law, it's criminal law. It is not. It's sort

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<v Speaker 1>of like pulled together and the subject matter just happens

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<v Speaker 1>to be art. So Marry and True she was the

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<v Speaker 1>curator of the Getty, and she was accused of sort

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<v Speaker 1>of like laundering these artifacts through private collections to sort

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<v Speaker 1>of disguise the fact that they were acquired by the

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<v Speaker 1>Getty in an improper way. So the outcome of this

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<v Speaker 1>case was kind of cool because basically what happened was

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<v Speaker 1>they sort of struck a deal in this like weird

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<v Speaker 1>like Italian court where they return a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>antiquities and the charges were dropped, which is like an

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<v Speaker 1>interesting thing. You don't normally see that happen. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>these were criminal charges, so you don't normally see that

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<v Speaker 1>happen in criminal court where it's like, oh, if you

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<v Speaker 1>return the TV you stole, I'm going to drop the charges,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like there's really no back seas in criminal court.

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<v Speaker 1>That was like a really new thing. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>because it was the getty, because it got so many

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<v Speaker 1>headlines and this was five years later, Like it took

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<v Speaker 1>five years of negotiating with the Italian government to sort

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<v Speaker 1>of drop these charges. What happened to the woman, So

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<v Speaker 1>Marian didn't have any finding of guilt, like she was exonerated.

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<v Speaker 1>She does claim that, I mean, and I think she's

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<v Speaker 1>probably right, like her reputation was badly damaged and this

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<v Speaker 1>situation and I think contextually, like the criminal defense lawyer

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<v Speaker 1>in me is like, yes, and everyone was doing this

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<v Speaker 1>and this was the first time not to like say

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<v Speaker 1>what she did was right and it.

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<v Speaker 2>Was clearly right that was a precedent.

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<v Speaker 1>This was the first time we've got a female curator.

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<v Speaker 1>It's two thousand and five. I don't know there is

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<v Speaker 1>something here there more. I'm like a little bit stuck

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<v Speaker 1>on it where I'm like, yes, what she was doing

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<v Speaker 1>was wrong. Everyone was doing it, and we chose this

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<v Speaker 1>person to make an example of. Like that felt a

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<v Speaker 1>little like, ooh, we've got there's something here. So since

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<v Speaker 1>this case has happened, this was sort of like this

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<v Speaker 1>beacon of how we're going to change the way we

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<v Speaker 1>handle antiquities. Right, So we now have to have established

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<v Speaker 1>provenance with every sort of artifact that says like you

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<v Speaker 1>came from this place and sort of like a certificate

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<v Speaker 1>showing that, like it's okay to do that. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you're at the met, you're at a museum and you

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<v Speaker 1>see something like that, they probably have some sort of

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<v Speaker 1>documentation that says that it's okay for them to have that.

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<v Speaker 3>Are they borrowing it from the country and not in

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<v Speaker 3>the before times?

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<v Speaker 2>More now I think.

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<v Speaker 1>We're borrowing it. That's a great question because now I

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<v Speaker 1>think there's like this sort of interesting trend that's happening

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<v Speaker 1>with these institutions where they're like Ooh, this is like

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<v Speaker 1>a bad pr moment and it's like totally not worth

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<v Speaker 1>having this, Like mummy in our literally mummy in our museum.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't look great for us, and people are kind

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<v Speaker 1>of picking up on that, Yes they are, the wolk

0:20:12.680 --> 0:20:17.360
<v Speaker 1>is coming for them, and so the woke left without

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<v Speaker 1>saying goodbye.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So but they started started doing a lot of repatriation

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<v Speaker 1>where they're returning objects to my eyes around New British Museum.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I don't know how much of this they've actually

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<v Speaker 1>done well.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think just the it's not just the

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<v Speaker 3>British Museum, it's the entire British system where they would

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<v Speaker 3>go into countries and steal the jewelry.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So there was sort of this like slate of

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<v Speaker 1>international laws that came out that sort of governed this.

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<v Speaker 1>But there have been like follow up lawsuits like Peru

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<v Speaker 1>sued Yale University because they had objects for Machu Pichu

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<v Speaker 1>that one of like the Yale professors sort of stole

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<v Speaker 1>from Peru in the early twenty century.

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<v Speaker 2>Can like I guess obviously they can.

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<v Speaker 3>Peru sued Yale for this professor that I had taken

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<v Speaker 3>these objects in the early part of the twenties, so

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<v Speaker 3>it's not necessarily something that that may have happened in

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<v Speaker 3>the past five or ten years.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, you can go exactly old. Yeah, So a

0:21:16.200 --> 0:21:20.360
<v Speaker 1>Yale professor discovered Machu Pichu. Peruvians knew where it was, right,

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<v Speaker 1>but white people did and so he discovered it in

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<v Speaker 1>his mind. And so he said, oh, I discovered this place,

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<v Speaker 1>this abandoned city filled with antiquities, and brought back some

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<v Speaker 1>of those objects and they were sort of being housed

0:21:34.560 --> 0:21:37.879
<v Speaker 1>and held at Yale. So I mean, we'd love to

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<v Speaker 1>see accountability. They did return the antiquities. Peru did kind

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<v Speaker 1>of have to like sue them to get that to happen, right, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't love that part.

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<v Speaker 3>No, So it's not like they were doing the right thing.

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<v Speaker 3>They got sued right and had to give it back.

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<v Speaker 1>And this was actually right after the Getty, So this

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<v Speaker 1>was in two thousand and six, so there was sort

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<v Speaker 1>of this like wave of oh, like this wave of

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<v Speaker 1>being like, oh shit, we might have kind of fucked

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<v Speaker 1>this up. And there's like kind of press coming out

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<v Speaker 1>around this. So there was also an interesting statute that

0:22:08.720 --> 0:22:13.119
<v Speaker 1>the US enacted an act the Native American Graves Protection

0:22:13.240 --> 0:22:18.359
<v Speaker 1>and Repatriation Act because there were literal Native American remains

0:22:18.400 --> 0:22:24.480
<v Speaker 1>being displayed in museums. So that Act has been pretty

0:22:24.520 --> 0:22:30.720
<v Speaker 1>strictly enforced where people are returning, you know, burial objects,

0:22:31.520 --> 0:22:36.240
<v Speaker 1>literal bodies sometimes. So the craziest things do happen in

0:22:36.280 --> 0:22:38.359
<v Speaker 1>the art world, Like I think it is the most

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<v Speaker 1>unregulated asset class. And so something I sort of learned

0:22:42.240 --> 0:22:47.439
<v Speaker 1>quickly was that we're basically working for a finance company.

0:22:47.680 --> 0:22:51.840
<v Speaker 1>It's an asset, and the contracts are just about art

0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:53.760
<v Speaker 1>as an art lawyer. So I was an art lawyer

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<v Speaker 1>for about two years and I worked at this gallery

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<v Speaker 1>and like, the craziest things kind of happen.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you like it?

0:23:03.000 --> 0:23:06.240
<v Speaker 1>The silence is, I don't know if I still don't

0:23:06.280 --> 0:23:08.640
<v Speaker 1>know if I liked it because it was crazy. It's

0:23:08.680 --> 0:23:11.600
<v Speaker 1>like it's like hanging out with like your manic friend,

0:23:12.000 --> 0:23:15.879
<v Speaker 1>Like it's going to be weird and crazy but also

0:23:16.000 --> 0:23:18.639
<v Speaker 1>like really fun, but also you're quickly going to get

0:23:18.720 --> 0:23:22.160
<v Speaker 1>kind of tired. Okay, you know that manic, depressive friend

0:23:22.160 --> 0:23:24.200
<v Speaker 1>of yours, So you know who you are, Becky.

0:23:24.880 --> 0:23:27.320
<v Speaker 3>Imagine there are a lot of also sort of really

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<v Speaker 3>intense personalities.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, A lot of intense personalities, a lot of Nepo babies.

0:23:32.200 --> 0:23:35.120
<v Speaker 1>There was a lot of like interesting, yeah, oh yeah,

0:23:35.200 --> 0:23:38.840
<v Speaker 1>the art world is governed by Nepo babies. It is

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<v Speaker 1>all like the wealthiest people, their kids want to work

0:23:42.720 --> 0:23:46.439
<v Speaker 1>in art, they are interested in contemporary art. Galleries are

0:23:46.520 --> 0:23:49.320
<v Speaker 1>kind of run. It's like it really is this insular world,

0:23:49.520 --> 0:23:52.880
<v Speaker 1>big personalities, a lot of entitlement. So that got old

0:23:52.920 --> 0:23:56.000
<v Speaker 1>really fast too, Okay, I can imagine. So a lot

0:23:56.000 --> 0:24:00.280
<v Speaker 1>of my job was like unfucking things up. So I

0:24:00.280 --> 0:24:02.359
<v Speaker 1>don't know how else to say it. Yeah, but we

0:24:02.359 --> 0:24:05.600
<v Speaker 1>were looking for this like bust of like Julius Caesar's head,

0:24:05.920 --> 0:24:07.119
<v Speaker 1>and no one could find it.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I remember you telling me this for the actually,

0:24:09.080 --> 0:24:09.360
<v Speaker 2>so we.

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<v Speaker 1>Couldn't find it, and it was like months and it

0:24:11.720 --> 0:24:14.080
<v Speaker 1>was my first day. Like the person well, first of all,

0:24:14.080 --> 0:24:18.080
<v Speaker 1>when I interviewed, they were like, oh yes, great, Like

0:24:18.119 --> 0:24:19.919
<v Speaker 1>I interviewed with like who my boss was going to be.

0:24:19.960 --> 0:24:22.359
<v Speaker 1>And then I got a call from HR offering me

0:24:22.480 --> 0:24:23.679
<v Speaker 1>the job, and they were like, just so you know,

0:24:23.800 --> 0:24:26.720
<v Speaker 1>that person who interviewed with quit she is no longer here.

0:24:27.280 --> 0:24:31.040
<v Speaker 1>She she quit her could she just no shoes on?

0:24:31.200 --> 0:24:33.480
<v Speaker 1>Walked out the door half a cup of coffee on

0:24:33.520 --> 0:24:34.280
<v Speaker 1>the table.

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<v Speaker 2>Know how I feel. That's my theory about it.

0:24:36.000 --> 0:24:38.320
<v Speaker 1>She was walking off into the sunset, never to be

0:24:38.359 --> 0:24:38.960
<v Speaker 1>heard from again.

0:24:39.040 --> 0:24:44.200
<v Speaker 3>Crazy something puts them over the edge. Yeah, she's find

0:24:44.359 --> 0:24:49.240
<v Speaker 3>them their shoes behind because they said fuck it, yeah.

0:24:49.160 --> 0:24:52.560
<v Speaker 1>Fuck this and just walked away. So she left this like, hey,

0:24:52.600 --> 0:24:55.520
<v Speaker 1>we can find this bust of Julius Caesar's head. And

0:24:55.800 --> 0:24:59.760
<v Speaker 1>this woman she was like, you know, well, I don't know.

0:24:59.800 --> 0:25:01.440
<v Speaker 1>She was like, she was like, what are you doing?

0:25:01.560 --> 0:25:05.080
<v Speaker 1>Four tense van uppaty. She was like this like older woman.

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<v Speaker 1>It was clear she was. She was just like very

0:25:07.720 --> 0:25:12.320
<v Speaker 1>much like a blue blood Emily Gilmour type, right, okay

0:25:13.040 --> 0:25:16.200
<v Speaker 1>to like interview her. It was like a full interrogation

0:25:17.040 --> 0:25:17.760
<v Speaker 1>in her office.

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<v Speaker 2>Had to interview Emily Gilmore.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, and I had to sort of figure out where

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<v Speaker 1>this was. We couldn't find it. It was really where

0:25:24.600 --> 0:25:27.040
<v Speaker 1>it was very valuable. She was the one she was like,

0:25:27.080 --> 0:25:31.560
<v Speaker 1>we don't know where this is, and so interview her. Anyway,

0:25:32.640 --> 0:25:37.200
<v Speaker 1>she ends up retiring. Sure, as we're cleaning out her office,

0:25:37.560 --> 0:25:40.479
<v Speaker 1>she was using it as a footrest. We found it

0:25:40.560 --> 0:25:42.400
<v Speaker 1>on the floor under her desk.

0:25:42.880 --> 0:25:46.760
<v Speaker 3>How do you not know that you're using a bust

0:25:46.800 --> 0:25:52.080
<v Speaker 3>of Julius Caesar rest like or or or or or

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<v Speaker 3>or how.

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<v Speaker 1>Many how many busts of Juliuses are you using that

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<v Speaker 1>you just mix them all up?

0:25:57.520 --> 0:26:01.200
<v Speaker 3>Or was it in a box? Because that I can

0:26:01.240 --> 0:26:03.960
<v Speaker 3>see right, was it in a box? And she was

0:26:04.040 --> 0:26:07.240
<v Speaker 3>using the box as a foot rest not recognizing.

0:26:06.720 --> 0:26:08.879
<v Speaker 1>No, it was like stuffed under her desk and she

0:26:08.920 --> 0:26:12.600
<v Speaker 1>could I mean in her defense again, the defense lawyer

0:26:12.680 --> 0:26:15.760
<v Speaker 1>and me really wants to defend more intense upity.

0:26:16.040 --> 0:26:16.960
<v Speaker 2>What is the defense?

0:26:17.160 --> 0:26:19.120
<v Speaker 1>The defense is like, you know, when was the last

0:26:19.119 --> 0:26:20.440
<v Speaker 1>time she got on the floor and was kind of

0:26:20.480 --> 0:26:22.960
<v Speaker 1>crawling around her office. I think it probably fell off

0:26:23.000 --> 0:26:27.920
<v Speaker 1>her desk like backwards and then was on the floor

0:26:28.080 --> 0:26:29.960
<v Speaker 1>and then she was like, my feet are sore, spin

0:26:30.040 --> 0:26:32.040
<v Speaker 1>class this weekend, and was resting her feet on it

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<v Speaker 1>for the next No, the past year.

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<v Speaker 3>I reject this, I really really I rejected it. It's ridiculous.

0:26:38.680 --> 0:26:41.440
<v Speaker 3>So you need to tell me. Let's just say that's true.

0:26:41.880 --> 0:26:45.760
<v Speaker 3>You knew you had a bust, a valuable bust.

0:26:45.560 --> 0:26:49.359
<v Speaker 2>On your desk. Oh sure, yeah, it fell off the desk.

0:26:49.880 --> 0:26:54.200
<v Speaker 1>I mean yeah, I think it went yeah and then

0:26:54.240 --> 0:26:57.240
<v Speaker 1>what it rolled? Yeah? It could have been. Yeah, I

0:26:57.280 --> 0:26:58.440
<v Speaker 1>think it probably rolled.

0:26:58.800 --> 0:26:59.840
<v Speaker 2>This is this idea.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I don't know, and this is not a you problem.

0:27:03.119 --> 0:27:05.960
<v Speaker 3>And this is HORTENSEI van Uppitty's problem, right.

0:27:06.359 --> 0:27:08.439
<v Speaker 1>Technically, I mean Julius Caesar's problem too.

0:27:08.560 --> 0:27:10.960
<v Speaker 2>Well, he's it's not really his head.

0:27:12.000 --> 0:27:13.560
<v Speaker 1>Well, we're going to do a rapid fire of all

0:27:13.560 --> 0:27:15.160
<v Speaker 1>the crazy things that happened to me at that job.

0:27:15.160 --> 0:27:18.360
<v Speaker 1>At one point, there was this Warhol that we couldn't identify,

0:27:18.480 --> 0:27:21.480
<v Speaker 1>Like we had like an extra Warhol, which is like never.

0:27:21.560 --> 0:27:23.639
<v Speaker 1>It's like when you're putting together Ikia furniture and you

0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:26.720
<v Speaker 1>have an extra screw. It's like something's wrong. So why

0:27:26.720 --> 0:27:28.720
<v Speaker 1>do we have an extra Warhol? And so we had

0:27:28.720 --> 0:27:31.199
<v Speaker 1>to call in like a specialist from London. We like

0:27:31.240 --> 0:27:34.760
<v Speaker 1>flew people into like we didn't know what this was,

0:27:35.720 --> 0:27:38.119
<v Speaker 1>and it turned out that it was an empty frame.

0:27:40.440 --> 0:27:43.160
<v Speaker 1>We spent like a hundred grand trying to figure out

0:27:43.160 --> 0:27:45.040
<v Speaker 1>what it was, and it was just it was an

0:27:45.040 --> 0:27:47.199
<v Speaker 1>empty frame that someone put the wrong sticker on.

0:27:47.440 --> 0:27:50.080
<v Speaker 3>That would piss me off, we were that would really

0:27:50.080 --> 0:27:53.760
<v Speaker 3>make me so angry, especially because I can see myself

0:27:53.920 --> 0:27:57.080
<v Speaker 3>looking at something that looks like bullshit to me and

0:27:57.119 --> 0:28:00.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, and now you've got me running around in

0:28:00.640 --> 0:28:01.720
<v Speaker 3>a jackass parade.

0:28:02.240 --> 0:28:03.919
<v Speaker 1>I mean, this is part of why I left. I mean,

0:28:03.960 --> 0:28:06.159
<v Speaker 1>we've got I spent a lot of time in this.

0:28:06.200 --> 0:28:07.840
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I could really be doing some good

0:28:07.840 --> 0:28:09.560
<v Speaker 1>work with this law degree.

0:28:09.240 --> 0:28:12.840
<v Speaker 3>Instead of working maybe not even good work, but better work.

0:28:12.920 --> 0:28:16.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah. At one point we had we were moving

0:28:16.200 --> 0:28:19.320
<v Speaker 1>everything around in this like shopping cart. Like there was

0:28:19.359 --> 0:28:22.520
<v Speaker 1>a literal shopping cart, like from the stop and yeah,

0:28:22.520 --> 0:28:24.280
<v Speaker 1>like from the stop and shop that we were moving

0:28:24.400 --> 0:28:28.560
<v Speaker 1>art around the gallery with. Someone came and was like,

0:28:28.640 --> 0:28:30.159
<v Speaker 1>I got to pick up my artwork and we're like,

0:28:30.160 --> 0:28:31.520
<v Speaker 1>where is it? We're like trying to find it. We're

0:28:31.520 --> 0:28:34.280
<v Speaker 1>moving stuff around in the shopping cart. The shopping cart

0:28:34.600 --> 0:28:37.400
<v Speaker 1>was a work of art, and no one told us,

0:28:37.560 --> 0:28:40.560
<v Speaker 1>and we were using it to transport. It had been

0:28:40.600 --> 0:28:43.200
<v Speaker 1>like painted and glazed in like a specific way. We

0:28:43.320 --> 0:28:44.800
<v Speaker 1>had to pay a lot of money to have it

0:28:44.840 --> 0:28:45.640
<v Speaker 1>like restored.

0:28:45.800 --> 0:28:46.680
<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, you've been.

0:28:47.280 --> 0:28:50.080
<v Speaker 1>We've been pushing and that's the problem with modern art.

0:28:50.400 --> 0:28:51.920
<v Speaker 3>I was going to say that that's the problem with

0:28:52.000 --> 0:28:54.600
<v Speaker 3>modern art, right, and I can't stand that shit.

0:28:54.800 --> 0:28:57.239
<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, I mean, because.

0:28:57.080 --> 0:29:00.360
<v Speaker 1>I really am not pro shopping cart art. It has

0:29:00.440 --> 0:29:05.040
<v Speaker 1>to stop somewhere like like, no, it's actually gotten out

0:29:05.040 --> 0:29:08.320
<v Speaker 1>of hand. This is your expression is actually I do

0:29:08.400 --> 0:29:13.400
<v Speaker 1>want to like shut down the art expressions.

0:29:13.720 --> 0:29:15.000
<v Speaker 2>I just don't.

0:29:15.200 --> 0:29:18.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of anti artist at a certain point. Well,

0:29:18.480 --> 0:29:21.800
<v Speaker 1>I mean I just become my father. I'm like, it's

0:29:21.800 --> 0:29:22.920
<v Speaker 1>not a painting of a horse?

0:29:23.240 --> 0:29:24.280
<v Speaker 2>Or is it like a bowl of fruit?

0:29:24.360 --> 0:29:24.479
<v Speaker 3>Yea?

0:29:24.640 --> 0:29:26.000
<v Speaker 1>Is it a still?

0:29:26.080 --> 0:29:26.120
<v Speaker 2>Like?

0:29:26.880 --> 0:29:27.680
<v Speaker 1>What is it?

0:29:27.920 --> 0:29:29.400
<v Speaker 2>You know? A nice water cool?

0:29:29.800 --> 0:29:31.920
<v Speaker 1>It was my dad. Actually, wait, while we're on the

0:29:31.920 --> 0:29:35.080
<v Speaker 1>subject of my dad. My dad touched a painting at

0:29:35.120 --> 0:29:38.360
<v Speaker 1>MoMA and got escorted out of the building. When I

0:29:38.440 --> 0:29:41.040
<v Speaker 1>was a kid. He walked. He was like, well, it

0:29:41.120 --> 0:29:43.760
<v Speaker 1>looked like an interesting fabric, and he went and he

0:29:43.840 --> 0:29:45.160
<v Speaker 1>touched it in an alarm went off.

0:29:45.840 --> 0:29:48.080
<v Speaker 3>I was going to say, it's it's their fault if

0:29:48.080 --> 0:29:50.440
<v Speaker 3>you don't want people to touch things, put it behind looseight.

0:29:50.960 --> 0:29:52.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean this is yeah, you don't want me

0:29:52.760 --> 0:29:55.480
<v Speaker 1>to touch it. It's when I really became interested in

0:29:55.520 --> 0:29:59.960
<v Speaker 1>the law, criminal law. My dad getting escorted out of MoMA,

0:30:00.080 --> 0:30:04.760
<v Speaker 1>walked past the gift shop. I wonder who the artist was.

0:30:04.840 --> 0:30:08.040
<v Speaker 1>I bet it's probably someone like really famous. They probably

0:30:08.200 --> 0:30:11.440
<v Speaker 1>maybe they follow me on TikTok if you made that shopping.

0:30:11.080 --> 0:30:11.880
<v Speaker 2>Cart, Michael.

0:30:12.000 --> 0:30:15.000
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, I'm sorry. We did damage it a lot, but

0:30:15.040 --> 0:30:15.760
<v Speaker 1>we fixed it.

0:30:15.880 --> 0:30:20.400
<v Speaker 3>There was this person had a reality show and they

0:30:20.480 --> 0:30:23.959
<v Speaker 3>were a i'll say they were like a rap mogul,

0:30:24.120 --> 0:30:27.160
<v Speaker 3>and they had a piece of art that was basically

0:30:28.240 --> 0:30:32.280
<v Speaker 3>like chalk on a chalkboard and the house cleaning person

0:30:32.680 --> 0:30:33.360
<v Speaker 3>cleaned it.

0:30:35.760 --> 0:30:37.560
<v Speaker 1>And that was bad. I have to be a good

0:30:37.600 --> 0:30:40.920
<v Speaker 1>lawyer at this point, just for like a second. So technically,

0:30:41.000 --> 0:30:43.680
<v Speaker 1>under like intellectual property law, if you are an artist

0:30:43.840 --> 0:30:46.720
<v Speaker 1>and you are making these like temporal works like chalk

0:30:46.880 --> 0:30:50.120
<v Speaker 1>or something like that, do some sort of like guide

0:30:50.240 --> 0:30:52.479
<v Speaker 1>or manual that goes along with it. These sort of

0:30:52.560 --> 0:30:55.640
<v Speaker 1>like artworks that can be like broken down and put

0:30:55.680 --> 0:30:58.960
<v Speaker 1>back together, like swapped out, or they're an object that

0:30:59.120 --> 0:31:02.360
<v Speaker 1>is like a cup ber thing, do like a menu

0:31:02.560 --> 0:31:05.920
<v Speaker 1>script around it. That can be the thing that your

0:31:06.000 --> 0:31:11.200
<v Speaker 1>intellectual property attaches to, rather than the drawing of the chalk,

0:31:11.280 --> 0:31:14.000
<v Speaker 1>which can easily be a race. It'll raise the value

0:31:14.080 --> 0:31:14.800
<v Speaker 1>of your property.

0:31:14.920 --> 0:31:17.440
<v Speaker 3>And I think that that's probably really valuable advice. I

0:31:17.560 --> 0:31:21.120
<v Speaker 3>just think that probably somebody who is an artist is

0:31:21.480 --> 0:31:24.400
<v Speaker 3>like Erica Badu said, you know, is an artist and

0:31:24.440 --> 0:31:26.800
<v Speaker 3>they're sensitive about their shit and they don't want to

0:31:26.800 --> 0:31:27.760
<v Speaker 3>take the time.

0:31:28.040 --> 0:31:29.920
<v Speaker 1>Yes to do so sure, yeah, of course, do you

0:31:29.960 --> 0:31:30.360
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean?

0:31:30.400 --> 0:31:32.280
<v Speaker 2>But your point is, well, hire.

0:31:32.120 --> 0:31:35.400
<v Speaker 1>Someone to do or like chat gpt that shit, Like

0:31:35.520 --> 0:31:37.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't, but you know what I mean, like if

0:31:37.520 --> 0:31:40.280
<v Speaker 1>you've got like a little something. But I get it.

0:31:40.600 --> 0:31:44.040
<v Speaker 1>And I've also been like that. My my agent was like,

0:31:44.080 --> 0:31:45.600
<v Speaker 1>we really need you to write a book, and I

0:31:45.680 --> 0:31:48.240
<v Speaker 1>was like, I don't have time or the energy to

0:31:48.480 --> 0:31:52.520
<v Speaker 1>like you do, don't tell me what to do? Wait,

0:31:52.560 --> 0:31:55.760
<v Speaker 1>I have that tattooed. What don't tell me what to do?

0:31:55.880 --> 0:31:58.880
<v Speaker 1>You do? Yeah? Oh it's a bulldog and it says,

0:31:58.920 --> 0:31:59.600
<v Speaker 1>don't tell me what to do.

0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:02.880
<v Speaker 2>That's right. I don't think i've ever read your body before.

0:32:03.080 --> 0:32:04.680
<v Speaker 1>We'll get a close up. Well, we'll throw a photo

0:32:04.760 --> 0:32:06.200
<v Speaker 1>of my tattoo upon the screen. We could do a

0:32:06.200 --> 0:32:07.440
<v Speaker 1>full tattoo tour one day.

0:32:07.520 --> 0:32:07.840
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:32:08.320 --> 0:32:11.120
<v Speaker 1>Other things that happened at the gallery. We had this

0:32:11.640 --> 0:32:15.680
<v Speaker 1>one woman. She was always I would always catch her

0:32:15.760 --> 0:32:19.120
<v Speaker 1>carrying a painting down the street like the like the

0:32:20.680 --> 0:32:23.080
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes we had to send things out to be authenticated,

0:32:23.120 --> 0:32:25.600
<v Speaker 1>and we would we would charge back a department for

0:32:25.680 --> 0:32:28.840
<v Speaker 1>the transpo, and she wanted to save money on the

0:32:28.840 --> 0:32:31.680
<v Speaker 1>transpot because we were on a shoe string budget, and

0:32:31.760 --> 0:32:35.120
<v Speaker 1>so she would take the painting off the wall and

0:32:35.200 --> 0:32:39.360
<v Speaker 1>like I would catch here like sidestepping down the street

0:32:39.400 --> 0:32:41.400
<v Speaker 1>with the painting, and I have to be like, you're

0:32:41.400 --> 0:32:43.320
<v Speaker 1>going to damage this, like and then I'm going to

0:32:43.360 --> 0:32:46.160
<v Speaker 1>have to file the insurance claim. So she was always

0:32:46.200 --> 0:32:47.560
<v Speaker 1>just rippach it off the wall.

0:32:47.720 --> 0:32:50.960
<v Speaker 3>I don't know how I feel about the idea, because

0:32:51.000 --> 0:32:53.280
<v Speaker 3>it sounds like this was like a major gallery, right,

0:32:53.320 --> 0:32:57.720
<v Speaker 3>a major art institution that they were doing anything on

0:32:57.760 --> 0:32:58.440
<v Speaker 3>a shoe string.

0:32:59.080 --> 0:33:01.960
<v Speaker 1>Like, No, it was it was all about that bottom line.

0:33:02.040 --> 0:33:03.840
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, everything, but.

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<v Speaker 2>The whole thing is the art. So if you damage

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<v Speaker 2>the art, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, well that was my poem. No Diva was going rogue.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know anything about this, and I'm telling you

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<v Speaker 3>that that sounds stupid, right, So it bothers me that

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<v Speaker 3>there are people who this was their jump.

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<v Speaker 2>And they're just like, nope, I'm was gonna like take

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<v Speaker 2>it off the wall.

0:33:24.080 --> 0:33:26.280
<v Speaker 1>She's like, I read Sarah Palin going rogue, and I

0:33:26.520 --> 0:33:30.240
<v Speaker 1>really took that to heart. I gotta just going straight wild.

0:33:30.400 --> 0:33:32.720
<v Speaker 2>I was going to put this bust under my Death.

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<v Speaker 1>Julius Caesar's head. I hate everything, say that every episode more. Okay,

0:33:40.680 --> 0:33:42.680
<v Speaker 1>well you're about to hate me because at one point

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<v Speaker 1>my I got locked out of my computer and I

0:33:45.240 --> 0:33:47.560
<v Speaker 1>was getting sworn into the bar like this was back

0:33:47.600 --> 0:33:50.440
<v Speaker 1>in twenty fourteen, and I was the only person who

0:33:50.520 --> 0:33:53.440
<v Speaker 1>had access to this specific system. So my boss called

0:33:53.440 --> 0:33:56.080
<v Speaker 1>me on myself and like at the swearing in ceremony,

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<v Speaker 1>but in the art world, they don't give a shit

0:33:58.040 --> 0:34:01.680
<v Speaker 1>what you're doing. And I had to read my password

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<v Speaker 1>to my laptop.

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<v Speaker 2>What was the ooh, my boss tell me what it was?

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<v Speaker 1>Rainbow Dolphin sixty nine. Oh, that's not that bad, but

0:34:13.800 --> 0:34:17.920
<v Speaker 1>with a capital R. Yeah, it was technically in compliance

0:34:17.960 --> 0:34:21.000
<v Speaker 1>with like what he wanted. So I didn't get fired

0:34:21.040 --> 0:34:23.400
<v Speaker 1>for that, but I was like, I had to explain

0:34:23.440 --> 0:34:26.400
<v Speaker 1>it to him. He was like, that's actually not bad. No,

0:34:26.600 --> 0:34:27.760
<v Speaker 1>it could have been really.

0:34:27.680 --> 0:34:30.520
<v Speaker 2>Because I've had some bad passwork.

0:34:30.600 --> 0:34:31.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to get hacked again.

0:34:32.120 --> 0:34:33.840
<v Speaker 2>But no, no, I wouldn't say it.

0:34:33.840 --> 0:34:37.640
<v Speaker 3>But I'm just saying, like I've had some nasty, nasty shit, yes.

0:34:37.440 --> 0:34:40.240
<v Speaker 1>Or like real or like dark or.

0:34:40.160 --> 0:34:41.920
<v Speaker 2>Like if I've hated a boss.

0:34:43.280 --> 0:34:47.000
<v Speaker 1>Stop Melissa you're gathering your boss and your password every

0:34:47.000 --> 0:34:47.799
<v Speaker 1>time you punch it in.

0:34:49.760 --> 0:34:53.719
<v Speaker 3>Fuck this motherfucker hashtag number seven. Michael used to be

0:34:53.760 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 3>my boss.

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<v Speaker 1>We're not going to talk about that on the show

0:34:57.000 --> 0:35:06.040
<v Speaker 1>or not. No, let's take a brief recess. Melissa has

0:35:06.080 --> 0:35:08.480
<v Speaker 1>some cases actually this week that we wanted to talk about,

0:35:08.520 --> 0:35:09.520
<v Speaker 1>so jump into it.

0:35:09.600 --> 0:35:13.040
<v Speaker 2>I was looking at the docket for this year's Supreme Court.

0:35:13.080 --> 0:35:15.080
<v Speaker 1>Where you just do you just like wake up in peruse.

0:35:15.320 --> 0:35:15.959
<v Speaker 2>No, I don't.

0:35:16.239 --> 0:35:18.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't but up a coffee on a Sunday morning.

0:35:18.400 --> 0:35:20.960
<v Speaker 3>You know what. I was thinking about it because of

0:35:21.000 --> 0:35:23.319
<v Speaker 3>the government shutdown, and I was just like, I wonder.

0:35:23.160 --> 0:35:24.759
<v Speaker 2>What, I wonder what there?

0:35:25.080 --> 0:35:28.600
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, their up to anything, and you know a little

0:35:28.640 --> 0:35:30.960
<v Speaker 3>rabbit hole. One thing led to another and I was like, oh,

0:35:30.960 --> 0:35:33.000
<v Speaker 3>I didn't and I don't think I had realized that.

0:35:33.040 --> 0:35:35.560
<v Speaker 2>You can look at the docket for the year.

0:35:35.680 --> 0:35:37.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah right, yeah. A lot of people like track it.

0:35:37.920 --> 0:35:39.839
<v Speaker 1>I stepped on sun New soda my horse foot once.

0:35:40.800 --> 0:35:46.319
<v Speaker 2>Did you say sorry? You should have? It was a

0:35:46.480 --> 0:35:47.040
<v Speaker 2>dick move.

0:35:47.160 --> 0:35:50.799
<v Speaker 1>We were okay. So I was twenty four.

0:35:50.760 --> 0:35:52.160
<v Speaker 2>Old enough to notice the excuse me?

0:35:52.440 --> 0:35:55.200
<v Speaker 1>And I was waiting tables huh and she came in,

0:35:55.640 --> 0:35:58.080
<v Speaker 1>huh with a big group, and she was I mean,

0:35:58.120 --> 0:36:00.520
<v Speaker 1>she was great. I knew who she was, and like

0:36:00.560 --> 0:36:02.520
<v Speaker 1>there was a whole like debate among the waiters of

0:36:02.560 --> 0:36:04.319
<v Speaker 1>like what we call her. And I wasn't a lawyer yet,

0:36:04.320 --> 0:36:06.720
<v Speaker 1>and so I don't really know. I think it's Madam

0:36:06.880 --> 0:36:08.319
<v Speaker 1>Justice is what you're supposed to call her.

0:36:08.600 --> 0:36:09.040
<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

0:36:09.400 --> 0:36:12.920
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, I stepped on her foot and she was like

0:36:13.080 --> 0:36:14.680
<v Speaker 1>really cool about it. We both just kind of like

0:36:14.719 --> 0:36:17.480
<v Speaker 1>looked at each other, like are we going to do

0:36:17.480 --> 0:36:19.560
<v Speaker 1>a whole thing here, and she just like went and

0:36:19.600 --> 0:36:22.000
<v Speaker 1>like just kind of ignored me. It's kind of great.

0:36:22.960 --> 0:36:24.160
<v Speaker 1>She was super friendly.

0:36:24.239 --> 0:36:28.040
<v Speaker 2>Though, Well that's welcoming to hear. Did I know?

0:36:28.120 --> 0:36:31.040
<v Speaker 3>I did tell you this the time that I accidentally

0:36:31.040 --> 0:36:33.000
<v Speaker 3>stepped on some guy's foot in the subway and he

0:36:33.080 --> 0:36:38.239
<v Speaker 3>kicked me. What I said, excuse me, and he kicked you.

0:36:38.520 --> 0:36:40.160
<v Speaker 3>Don't we go fuck myself and he kicked me.

0:36:40.360 --> 0:36:42.520
<v Speaker 1>But the best was he mentally ill.

0:36:42.760 --> 0:36:45.560
<v Speaker 3>He seemed fine to me. I kicked him back for

0:36:45.680 --> 0:36:48.839
<v Speaker 3>me on all kidding aside, that was the part. That

0:36:48.960 --> 0:36:52.960
<v Speaker 3>was the part when I tell you, let me tell.

0:36:52.800 --> 0:36:56.640
<v Speaker 2>You about Perry. Menopause will make you do some shit

0:36:58.000 --> 0:37:06.120
<v Speaker 2>and but let me tell you so, I unlike you.

0:37:06.239 --> 0:37:08.840
<v Speaker 3>I am not a prolific TikToker, but I took it

0:37:08.920 --> 0:37:09.600
<v Speaker 3>to TikTok.

0:37:10.000 --> 0:37:12.080
<v Speaker 1>What did what did the clock apps say? Yeah? What

0:37:12.120 --> 0:37:13.600
<v Speaker 1>were they saying? Well?

0:37:13.680 --> 0:37:15.920
<v Speaker 3>There were I mean there were definitely two camps people

0:37:15.920 --> 0:37:19.880
<v Speaker 3>who were like, you had a coming, bitch, what would it?

0:37:19.960 --> 0:37:20.600
<v Speaker 2>Kicks you two?

0:37:20.800 --> 0:37:23.640
<v Speaker 1>Because you stepped on his foot, you know, when you're walking.

0:37:23.680 --> 0:37:27.440
<v Speaker 3>And I sat on the back of his foot and sorry,

0:37:27.719 --> 0:37:32.040
<v Speaker 3>but I said, oh, excuse me, and then he turned around,

0:37:33.120 --> 0:37:34.680
<v Speaker 3>fuck you, you bitch, and he kicked me.

0:37:34.880 --> 0:37:36.160
<v Speaker 2>And I couldn't believe it.

0:37:36.480 --> 0:37:39.839
<v Speaker 3>I kicked him back, and this man behind us, this

0:37:39.960 --> 0:37:43.200
<v Speaker 3>random man sort of came up behind me and like

0:37:43.320 --> 0:37:45.239
<v Speaker 3>very sort of kindly ushered me out of the way

0:37:45.280 --> 0:37:46.719
<v Speaker 3>and was like, don't fight with him.

0:37:46.760 --> 0:37:47.440
<v Speaker 2>He's crazy.

0:37:47.480 --> 0:37:51.600
<v Speaker 3>And I was like, he kicked me, and I'm telling you,

0:37:52.320 --> 0:37:54.160
<v Speaker 3>before perimenopause, I would have let it go.

0:37:54.280 --> 0:37:56.320
<v Speaker 2>But if I, if I had a I might have

0:37:56.360 --> 0:37:56.839
<v Speaker 2>cut him.

0:37:56.880 --> 0:38:00.320
<v Speaker 1>Melissa auditioning for The Bend. It like Beckham sequels.

0:38:01.560 --> 0:38:03.920
<v Speaker 2>Out of people even tell you and the thing is

0:38:04.000 --> 0:38:07.080
<v Speaker 2>just like I think both of our kicks were like weak, like.

0:38:08.560 --> 0:38:11.960
<v Speaker 3>It wasn't like not even, it wasn't like and it

0:38:12.040 --> 0:38:15.160
<v Speaker 3>wasn't just like yeah, I kicked the world. It was

0:38:15.280 --> 0:38:21.440
<v Speaker 3>like this week, but I was absolutely on fire in

0:38:21.520 --> 0:38:23.440
<v Speaker 3>my soul, in my mind now.

0:38:23.640 --> 0:38:28.719
<v Speaker 1>In my mind, you did something accidental that did not

0:38:28.960 --> 0:38:33.400
<v Speaker 1>warrant physical intentional violence. The Men's Raya was present for

0:38:33.520 --> 0:38:33.919
<v Speaker 1>that man.

0:38:34.080 --> 0:38:37.480
<v Speaker 3>Well, I think I just I genuinely believe, and I

0:38:37.520 --> 0:38:39.440
<v Speaker 3>was saying, this is somebody the other day. I just

0:38:39.520 --> 0:38:43.319
<v Speaker 3>think that post pandemic, we are not okay, Like just

0:38:43.440 --> 0:38:45.160
<v Speaker 3>generally the world is not okay.

0:38:45.280 --> 0:38:46.000
<v Speaker 2>We're not okay.

0:38:46.120 --> 0:38:49.200
<v Speaker 1>When I mean someone post pandemic who hasn't gone to therapy,

0:38:50.000 --> 0:38:52.720
<v Speaker 1>like I went to so much therapy after the because

0:38:52.760 --> 0:38:54.919
<v Speaker 1>I just couldn't. I literally didn't know how to talk

0:38:54.960 --> 0:38:57.400
<v Speaker 1>to people. I like forgot, I forgot how to like

0:38:57.440 --> 0:38:59.520
<v Speaker 1>relate to people, which I do you look in? Do

0:38:59.520 --> 0:39:01.799
<v Speaker 1>you look both? Like? It was like how do I

0:39:01.840 --> 0:39:03.920
<v Speaker 1>do this again? Like it really took me a minute.

0:39:03.920 --> 0:39:06.640
<v Speaker 1>It was clunky, especially with like client based work, like

0:39:07.160 --> 0:39:09.600
<v Speaker 1>how do you actually relate to someone with empathy? After

0:39:09.800 --> 0:39:13.440
<v Speaker 1>like when all of your insides are screaming that you

0:39:13.480 --> 0:39:15.759
<v Speaker 1>know what we're doing is unsafe just being near each

0:39:15.800 --> 0:39:18.960
<v Speaker 1>other like that was so spooky. Yeah, so I went.

0:39:19.080 --> 0:39:21.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean I did. And a lot of people I

0:39:21.080 --> 0:39:23.880
<v Speaker 1>know went to therapy or were in therapy during the pandemic.

0:39:23.960 --> 0:39:27.279
<v Speaker 2>I actually, I actually wasn't. I stopped right before. I

0:39:27.320 --> 0:39:28.320
<v Speaker 2>stopped right before.

0:39:28.680 --> 0:39:30.400
<v Speaker 1>And you're still wondering why you kicked someone?

0:39:30.800 --> 0:39:35.040
<v Speaker 2>Could he kicked me first? It's not like I kicked him.

0:39:35.080 --> 0:39:38.040
<v Speaker 2>He kicked me. I kicked him back. Fuck him, fun, sir,

0:39:39.440 --> 0:39:40.120
<v Speaker 2>get out of here.

0:39:41.360 --> 0:39:43.520
<v Speaker 1>Okay, you have it. Melissa brought a case this week

0:39:43.680 --> 0:39:45.880
<v Speaker 1>that she wants to talk about the Supreme Court.

0:39:46.320 --> 0:39:48.719
<v Speaker 3>So I was looking at the Supreme Court docket and

0:39:48.800 --> 0:39:51.200
<v Speaker 3>they are bringing this case and the case is called

0:39:51.239 --> 0:39:55.680
<v Speaker 3>Chiles versus Salazar. Oh yeah, and it is about Colorado

0:39:55.800 --> 0:39:59.160
<v Speaker 3>law that is banning conversion therapy. So if you don't

0:39:59.200 --> 0:40:02.719
<v Speaker 3>know what conversion therapy is, it is actually illegal in

0:40:02.760 --> 0:40:05.399
<v Speaker 3>twenty five states, which means that it's not illegal in

0:40:05.520 --> 0:40:07.120
<v Speaker 3>the other twenty five states.

0:40:07.239 --> 0:40:10.120
<v Speaker 1>I had a friend who went to a conversion therapy really.

0:40:10.360 --> 0:40:11.840
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, he's still fucked.

0:40:11.600 --> 0:40:12.399
<v Speaker 2>Up, right.

0:40:12.719 --> 0:40:12.919
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:40:12.960 --> 0:40:14.239
<v Speaker 2>People who go through it it.

0:40:14.280 --> 0:40:16.480
<v Speaker 1>Really because, especially like at this time in your life

0:40:16.480 --> 0:40:18.120
<v Speaker 1>when you're trying to figure your shit out and then

0:40:18.120 --> 0:40:20.440
<v Speaker 1>someone is like forcing you to like not do that.

0:40:20.520 --> 0:40:24.480
<v Speaker 1>It really does. Oh, I can imagine mess with these psychologically.

0:40:23.680 --> 0:40:25.839
<v Speaker 2>Jumping down who you are, right, Yeah, And.

0:40:25.840 --> 0:40:28.520
<v Speaker 1>Like it's a lot of some of it's like negative enforcement.

0:40:28.640 --> 0:40:30.640
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's really scary shit.

0:40:30.760 --> 0:40:31.760
<v Speaker 2>And I also think.

0:40:31.600 --> 0:40:35.480
<v Speaker 3>The idea that usually if you are a young person

0:40:35.520 --> 0:40:38.520
<v Speaker 3>who's going into conversion therapy, your parents have sent you

0:40:38.560 --> 0:40:42.279
<v Speaker 3>to that, right, Yeah, definitely to imagine what that must

0:40:42.280 --> 0:40:44.719
<v Speaker 3>feel like as somebody who's sort of trying to come

0:40:44.760 --> 0:40:48.440
<v Speaker 3>into themselves and the people who should be the most loving,

0:40:48.480 --> 0:40:51.120
<v Speaker 3>the most supportive are telling you that there's something wrong

0:40:51.160 --> 0:40:52.080
<v Speaker 3>with you, right, and.

0:40:52.000 --> 0:40:53.080
<v Speaker 2>That you need to fix it.

0:40:53.120 --> 0:40:56.680
<v Speaker 3>And in the fixing, it's almost like a breakdown.

0:40:57.360 --> 0:41:01.200
<v Speaker 1>Yes. Also it's also like the messaging that you're getting

0:41:01.200 --> 0:41:03.680
<v Speaker 1>from a parent is that I don't love you the

0:41:03.680 --> 0:41:06.520
<v Speaker 1>way you are, right, You've got a change in order

0:41:06.600 --> 0:41:09.399
<v Speaker 1>to be acceptable to me. That is like the most

0:41:09.440 --> 0:41:12.560
<v Speaker 1>fucked up thing I think. I mean, my parents were

0:41:12.800 --> 0:41:15.640
<v Speaker 1>contextually very cool with me coming out when I came out,

0:41:15.719 --> 0:41:18.840
<v Speaker 1>and they were supportive, like in their own way, I

0:41:18.920 --> 0:41:22.399
<v Speaker 1>don't think like they definitely didn't do anything like that,

0:41:22.560 --> 0:41:25.759
<v Speaker 1>but at the time, like they were so progressive about it,

0:41:25.840 --> 0:41:28.440
<v Speaker 1>and I like, I'm always so grateful for that because

0:41:29.640 --> 0:41:32.239
<v Speaker 1>looking back, I mean, at the time, it didn't feel

0:41:32.280 --> 0:41:34.359
<v Speaker 1>like a huge, big, crazy deal to me, but like

0:41:34.440 --> 0:41:37.800
<v Speaker 1>looking back, knowing everything I know now about the world

0:41:37.840 --> 0:41:41.759
<v Speaker 1>and how most gay people sort of enter it, I

0:41:41.800 --> 0:41:43.880
<v Speaker 1>don't know, I just feel like very grateful for the

0:41:43.880 --> 0:41:46.880
<v Speaker 1>fact that they made it like a non event, non issue,

0:41:47.520 --> 0:41:50.799
<v Speaker 1>especially then going to law school in the South when

0:41:50.800 --> 0:41:54.520
<v Speaker 1>I was twenty three and I had been out for

0:41:54.719 --> 0:41:58.719
<v Speaker 1>eight years at that point, to meet all these gay

0:41:58.760 --> 0:42:02.120
<v Speaker 1>men who were still so hung up on it, deeply closet,

0:42:02.280 --> 0:42:05.239
<v Speaker 1>I really struggled with it, and I was like, it

0:42:05.280 --> 0:42:07.000
<v Speaker 1>was it was a culture shock for me because I

0:42:07.040 --> 0:42:09.680
<v Speaker 1>was very much like a Northerner going to school in

0:42:09.719 --> 0:42:12.560
<v Speaker 1>the South, and I was like, I don't relate to this,

0:42:12.840 --> 0:42:16.200
<v Speaker 1>Like I actually, this is like such a strange cultural difference.

0:42:16.320 --> 0:42:18.400
<v Speaker 1>It was really it was different. It was hard to

0:42:18.480 --> 0:42:20.279
<v Speaker 1>kind of connect with that community when I was there,

0:42:20.280 --> 0:42:22.960
<v Speaker 1>because I was like, it's hard to really date when

0:42:22.960 --> 0:42:25.480
<v Speaker 1>people are like very closeted or still hung up on it.

0:42:25.520 --> 0:42:27.160
<v Speaker 1>And it was never something I was hung up on.

0:42:27.320 --> 0:42:31.160
<v Speaker 3>You are permitted when you really needed it to be

0:42:31.320 --> 0:42:34.759
<v Speaker 3>yourself exactly right. And now you're going your gone through

0:42:34.760 --> 0:42:36.280
<v Speaker 3>college and now you're in law school.

0:42:36.600 --> 0:42:38.560
<v Speaker 2>You are really yourself.

0:42:38.480 --> 0:42:42.120
<v Speaker 3>And you are trying to connect with people hopefully who

0:42:42.160 --> 0:42:44.080
<v Speaker 3>are also their authentic self.

0:42:44.160 --> 0:42:46.480
<v Speaker 1>And you're also able to sort of like find parts

0:42:46.520 --> 0:42:51.520
<v Speaker 1>about yourself that aren't sexuality based, like if you like,

0:42:51.560 --> 0:42:54.719
<v Speaker 1>for me, it was like got through it, figured it out.

0:42:55.120 --> 0:42:57.840
<v Speaker 1>Now I can explore like the other things I'm interested in,

0:42:57.880 --> 0:43:00.600
<v Speaker 1>like what motivates me as a person, Like why hobbies

0:43:00.600 --> 0:43:02.520
<v Speaker 1>am I interested in? Like how do I sort of

0:43:03.320 --> 0:43:06.040
<v Speaker 1>want to enter this world? And I was able to

0:43:06.040 --> 0:43:07.719
<v Speaker 1>sort of do that. I think a lot of queer

0:43:07.760 --> 0:43:11.040
<v Speaker 1>people who don't have that experience then are still figuring

0:43:11.080 --> 0:43:13.240
<v Speaker 1>it out now right.

0:43:13.160 --> 0:43:17.040
<v Speaker 3>Right now, these are sort of adults in their thirties

0:43:17.160 --> 0:43:18.399
<v Speaker 3>trying to figure themselves out.

0:43:18.440 --> 0:43:18.760
<v Speaker 2>Still.

0:43:19.000 --> 0:43:22.000
<v Speaker 1>Yes, but this band, they're banning it in Colorado and

0:43:22.040 --> 0:43:23.520
<v Speaker 1>it's made its way up to the Supreme Court. In

0:43:23.560 --> 0:43:25.200
<v Speaker 1>the stream Court is going to decide if they're going

0:43:25.239 --> 0:43:25.719
<v Speaker 1>to hear it.

0:43:26.560 --> 0:43:27.600
<v Speaker 2>They are going to be there.

0:43:27.719 --> 0:43:29.160
<v Speaker 1>They have decided, yeah, they are.

0:43:29.040 --> 0:43:32.320
<v Speaker 3>Going to hear it. And so the therapist who's bringing

0:43:32.360 --> 0:43:34.680
<v Speaker 3>the case, her name is Kaylie Chilis. I think that's

0:43:34.719 --> 0:43:37.800
<v Speaker 3>how you say it. She's arguing that the Colorado Band

0:43:37.880 --> 0:43:41.719
<v Speaker 3>infringes on her First Amendment right to free speech because

0:43:41.760 --> 0:43:44.960
<v Speaker 3>it is limiting what she can say to her clients.

0:43:45.000 --> 0:43:48.960
<v Speaker 3>So this is a therapist whose therapy practice is faith

0:43:49.200 --> 0:43:50.680
<v Speaker 3>based on Jesus.

0:43:51.080 --> 0:43:52.280
<v Speaker 1>That makes me so nervous.

0:43:52.600 --> 0:43:56.440
<v Speaker 3>Well yeah, and she, according to what I read, she's

0:43:56.480 --> 0:43:59.880
<v Speaker 3>sort of really bristling at the idea that this is

0:44:00.200 --> 0:44:04.680
<v Speaker 3>conversion therapy. She's saying that, you know, she wants to

0:44:04.719 --> 0:44:07.359
<v Speaker 3>be able to speak to her clients about who they

0:44:07.400 --> 0:44:10.759
<v Speaker 3>are and what God wants them to be.

0:44:10.920 --> 0:44:13.000
<v Speaker 1>No, get fucked, God wants her kid to be gay

0:44:13.040 --> 0:44:15.400
<v Speaker 1>as hell. I'm sorry, go fuck yourself. Like that's a

0:44:15.640 --> 0:44:17.320
<v Speaker 1>that's like, that's a guy to the headline for me,

0:44:17.480 --> 0:44:20.920
<v Speaker 1>dog like I don't know, man Like, oh, like God

0:44:21.000 --> 0:44:24.520
<v Speaker 1>is telling me what to how about like the governing

0:44:26.080 --> 0:44:28.440
<v Speaker 1>ethics for psychology and psychiatry.

0:44:29.000 --> 0:44:30.000
<v Speaker 2>But again, what.

0:44:29.920 --> 0:44:33.359
<v Speaker 3>She's saying is that so and she's also saying that

0:44:33.400 --> 0:44:37.640
<v Speaker 3>these are people who were coming to her on their own, okay,

0:44:37.760 --> 0:44:42.400
<v Speaker 3>not necessarily being brought forcibly to them by their parents.

0:44:42.920 --> 0:44:46.040
<v Speaker 3>But it still makes me really anxious, you know. After

0:44:46.160 --> 0:44:49.080
<v Speaker 3>the election. Actually I recorded it but didn't post it

0:44:49.080 --> 0:44:50.960
<v Speaker 3>because I started crying in the middle of it.

0:44:51.080 --> 0:44:52.200
<v Speaker 2>But one of the things that.

0:44:52.200 --> 0:44:55.600
<v Speaker 3>I was really really worried about is I was worried

0:44:55.640 --> 0:44:58.360
<v Speaker 3>about trans people while was going to happen to them.

0:44:58.600 --> 0:45:03.200
<v Speaker 3>You know, I think being your authentic self is such

0:45:03.920 --> 0:45:06.400
<v Speaker 3>an important part of who I am. I'm just you know,

0:45:07.600 --> 0:45:10.440
<v Speaker 3>and it takes everybody some time to figure that out.

0:45:10.840 --> 0:45:14.879
<v Speaker 2>But I can't imagine what it would feel like if

0:45:14.920 --> 0:45:18.920
<v Speaker 2>you felt like the world around you resented you for

0:45:19.040 --> 0:45:22.560
<v Speaker 2>simply being who you were, right, And it made me

0:45:22.840 --> 0:45:27.359
<v Speaker 2>worried about both people sort of moving along in their

0:45:27.400 --> 0:45:30.920
<v Speaker 2>lives and being healthy and choosing to stay with us, right,

0:45:31.000 --> 0:45:33.920
<v Speaker 2>because that is something else that I'm really worried about.

0:45:34.600 --> 0:45:38.720
<v Speaker 1>So the suicide rates in the trans community are significantly higher.

0:45:38.800 --> 0:45:42.360
<v Speaker 3>They are higher, and we can sort of almost understand

0:45:42.400 --> 0:45:45.480
<v Speaker 3>why that is, right, sure, feel like the entire world

0:45:45.520 --> 0:45:48.040
<v Speaker 3>is against you, then what is there to live for?

0:45:48.160 --> 0:45:50.640
<v Speaker 3>And I feel like, you know, I hate to sort

0:45:50.680 --> 0:45:53.239
<v Speaker 3>of be this person, but like, please.

0:45:53.000 --> 0:45:53.560
<v Speaker 2>Don't do that.

0:45:53.719 --> 0:45:56.600
<v Speaker 3>You are loved, you are wanted, you are respected, you

0:45:56.640 --> 0:46:02.640
<v Speaker 3>are valued, you know, And I hope that it trans

0:46:02.680 --> 0:46:06.720
<v Speaker 3>folks are getting that message in spite of what is happening.

0:46:06.440 --> 0:46:09.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we've talked about this, just like the way in

0:46:09.280 --> 0:46:12.320
<v Speaker 1>which like the queer community is taking care of itself,

0:46:12.520 --> 0:46:15.040
<v Speaker 1>Like the way that like we're kind of like clinging

0:46:15.080 --> 0:46:18.319
<v Speaker 1>closer to each other, and like, I don't know, if

0:46:18.360 --> 0:46:23.400
<v Speaker 1>you are not trans and supportive, like and you know

0:46:23.520 --> 0:46:25.680
<v Speaker 1>someone who is, like, you don't have to be like hey,

0:46:25.840 --> 0:46:28.399
<v Speaker 1>holding space for you trans person. I know a lot's

0:46:28.440 --> 0:46:30.560
<v Speaker 1>going on. You could just like be like, hey, how's

0:46:30.600 --> 0:46:32.799
<v Speaker 1>it going, Like you get like there are ways to

0:46:32.800 --> 0:46:36.000
<v Speaker 1>support each other that isn't like you know, the after

0:46:36.000 --> 0:46:39.040
<v Speaker 1>school special, Like we can just be like we could

0:46:39.080 --> 0:46:41.319
<v Speaker 1>just like be there for each other. You see someone

0:46:41.440 --> 0:46:43.680
<v Speaker 1>at the bar, you see someone at a coffee shop

0:46:43.680 --> 0:46:46.200
<v Speaker 1>who's sitting alone. Maybe they looks like you know, I

0:46:46.320 --> 0:46:47.879
<v Speaker 1>just I think about that a lot.

0:46:48.000 --> 0:46:51.040
<v Speaker 3>Yes, so do I And I actually feel it when

0:46:51.040 --> 0:46:53.560
<v Speaker 3>I don't, you do like guilty.

0:46:54.239 --> 0:46:56.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm like I really should have talked to that person,

0:46:57.360 --> 0:46:58.400
<v Speaker 1>and then they get.

0:46:58.239 --> 0:47:02.480
<v Speaker 3>Like a little I think the other that somebody could do.

0:47:02.640 --> 0:47:04.720
<v Speaker 3>I know that I do this if there are people

0:47:04.800 --> 0:47:08.240
<v Speaker 3>around me who are making like commentary that I find

0:47:08.280 --> 0:47:12.120
<v Speaker 3>offensive and they think that it, well, I think you

0:47:12.200 --> 0:47:14.400
<v Speaker 3>can do that if you choose be careful.

0:47:15.680 --> 0:47:18.840
<v Speaker 2>I don't. Don't, don't do that actually, but listen.

0:47:20.360 --> 0:47:23.560
<v Speaker 3>But I also think what I love to do is

0:47:23.560 --> 0:47:24.839
<v Speaker 3>make people feel uncomfortable.

0:47:25.640 --> 0:47:29.799
<v Speaker 1>Oh god, Melissa is a villain. It is so satisfying

0:47:29.800 --> 0:47:32.279
<v Speaker 1>to watch you do this. It actually is like a

0:47:32.320 --> 0:47:35.120
<v Speaker 1>litigation strategy. And I don't know who taught at you,

0:47:35.160 --> 0:47:38.400
<v Speaker 1>where you found it from, discovered it yourself to you before?

0:47:38.440 --> 0:47:43.680
<v Speaker 2>Why? Okay, person, I have the blood of revolutionaries. Oh yeah,

0:47:45.080 --> 0:47:45.800
<v Speaker 2>at all times.

0:47:45.880 --> 0:47:48.000
<v Speaker 1>No, and that is actually in your bio and it's

0:47:48.000 --> 0:47:48.839
<v Speaker 1>on your business card.

0:47:49.040 --> 0:47:50.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:47:50.880 --> 0:47:54.680
<v Speaker 3>But I do think that sometimes by making people who

0:47:54.719 --> 0:47:57.880
<v Speaker 3>are offensive feel uncomfortable.

0:47:57.280 --> 0:47:59.759
<v Speaker 1>Right, that's the way. Let's do an example, So.

0:47:59.719 --> 0:48:02.840
<v Speaker 3>Say say something that you think that we know is offensive.

0:48:03.040 --> 0:48:05.480
<v Speaker 1>I think you got that. I think is funny. Oh

0:48:05.480 --> 0:48:06.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I can do that, but like

0:48:08.320 --> 0:48:09.680
<v Speaker 1>I know the one that you've talked, right.

0:48:09.880 --> 0:48:12.880
<v Speaker 3>The what I always do is if somebody says something

0:48:13.000 --> 0:48:16.719
<v Speaker 3>I can they think is funny. Yeah right, yeah, I

0:48:16.760 --> 0:48:18.400
<v Speaker 3>will inevitably say.

0:48:18.560 --> 0:48:19.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't get it.

0:48:19.200 --> 0:48:22.040
<v Speaker 3>Oh, I don't understand, and then they'll say it again

0:48:22.400 --> 0:48:25.200
<v Speaker 3>and I'm just like, wait, am I missing something?

0:48:25.239 --> 0:48:26.680
<v Speaker 2>What part of that? Oh?

0:48:26.680 --> 0:48:28.839
<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry, explain it to me. And then Eventually they're

0:48:28.880 --> 0:48:31.640
<v Speaker 3>just like, oh.

0:48:30.560 --> 0:48:34.920
<v Speaker 2>She's taking me to task without actually being.

0:48:35.280 --> 0:48:39.400
<v Speaker 1>Verify right, there's nothing worse than telling a joke and

0:48:39.440 --> 0:48:42.160
<v Speaker 1>having to explain the joke, and then any joke, even

0:48:42.200 --> 0:48:45.280
<v Speaker 1>if it's not a right, to have to have someone

0:48:45.400 --> 0:48:49.960
<v Speaker 1>a not understand. So now there's crickets right then to

0:48:50.080 --> 0:48:52.439
<v Speaker 1>have to be like, oh, let me answer a quick

0:48:52.520 --> 0:48:54.480
<v Speaker 1>Q and A about that joke I told you no

0:48:54.520 --> 0:48:58.959
<v Speaker 1>one laughed at. And now I'm realizing that I said

0:48:59.000 --> 0:49:00.880
<v Speaker 1>something offensive, offensive.

0:49:00.560 --> 0:49:02.560
<v Speaker 2>Not funny, yeah, but not clever.

0:49:02.920 --> 0:49:03.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:49:03.760 --> 0:49:06.080
<v Speaker 3>And it's not something that I do to just random people.

0:49:06.080 --> 0:49:08.960
<v Speaker 3>But when people say things in front of me that

0:49:09.120 --> 0:49:12.000
<v Speaker 3>I find offensive that I know are could be potentially

0:49:12.080 --> 0:49:13.240
<v Speaker 3>hurtful for somebody else.

0:49:13.120 --> 0:49:14.239
<v Speaker 2>I make them explain it to me.

0:49:14.640 --> 0:49:17.560
<v Speaker 3>Explain it to me slow, and then and it explain

0:49:17.640 --> 0:49:19.880
<v Speaker 3>it to me slow because and then you know, and

0:49:19.920 --> 0:49:22.319
<v Speaker 3>they usually sort of either like say, forget it or

0:49:22.360 --> 0:49:26.719
<v Speaker 3>they fact pedal, Wait, why is that funny?

0:49:27.000 --> 0:49:27.400
<v Speaker 2>See?

0:49:28.440 --> 0:49:29.280
<v Speaker 1>So it's true.

0:49:29.320 --> 0:49:31.879
<v Speaker 3>No, it's great and you and you and you have

0:49:31.960 --> 0:49:34.239
<v Speaker 3>to look at them right in the eye and be

0:49:34.280 --> 0:49:36.560
<v Speaker 3>really uncomfortable about it, like right, get in their face,

0:49:37.719 --> 0:49:41.680
<v Speaker 3>and you don't. And again, not everybody is comfortable telling

0:49:41.719 --> 0:49:43.319
<v Speaker 3>somebody to go fuck themselves, right.

0:49:44.560 --> 0:49:46.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah for sure. So on mind like those of

0:49:46.719 --> 0:49:49.960
<v Speaker 1>us who are like, let's do it, you do it.

0:49:49.840 --> 0:49:52.239
<v Speaker 3>And I think you do what you feel comfortable with.

0:49:52.560 --> 0:49:56.280
<v Speaker 3>I am comfortable and making people feel uncomfortable. I'm very comfortable.

0:49:56.680 --> 0:50:01.319
<v Speaker 1>I can live in the awkward silence where you know

0:50:01.600 --> 0:50:04.120
<v Speaker 1>someone's getting called out on something, or if someone asks

0:50:04.160 --> 0:50:06.040
<v Speaker 1>me something and I really need them to hear their

0:50:06.040 --> 0:50:10.000
<v Speaker 1>own question, like getting comfortable with that like awkward minute

0:50:10.160 --> 0:50:11.520
<v Speaker 1>of like let.

0:50:11.360 --> 0:50:15.480
<v Speaker 3>Me ask you a question, okay, in an uncomfortable situation,

0:50:15.760 --> 0:50:18.120
<v Speaker 3>like let's say you are in a group meeting with

0:50:18.200 --> 0:50:20.600
<v Speaker 3>a lot of people, okay, and then there's somebody this

0:50:20.719 --> 0:50:22.920
<v Speaker 3>is completely not what we're talking about, but I'm just

0:50:22.960 --> 0:50:27.920
<v Speaker 3>now that you mentioned that, and there is that uncomfortable moment.

0:50:28.640 --> 0:50:31.080
<v Speaker 3>Do you just live in the moment or do you, like,

0:50:31.120 --> 0:50:32.839
<v Speaker 3>do you let the moment play out or do you

0:50:32.880 --> 0:50:36.000
<v Speaker 3>sort of do something like some people will like move

0:50:36.040 --> 0:50:38.920
<v Speaker 3>things around, some people will like cough, yeah.

0:50:39.000 --> 0:50:39.920
<v Speaker 2>Do you want to know what I do?

0:50:40.160 --> 0:50:42.560
<v Speaker 1>And do you know I find stillness like I'm just

0:50:42.600 --> 0:50:45.520
<v Speaker 1>like you just wait. I think there's power and stillness.

0:50:45.600 --> 0:50:47.840
<v Speaker 1>I think we're all moving around all, oh.

0:50:47.880 --> 0:50:59.160
<v Speaker 3>I don't know why I do this, but I fake sneeze.

0:50:56.400 --> 0:50:57.120
<v Speaker 2>And I don't know.

0:50:57.239 --> 0:51:01.799
<v Speaker 3>And I think because I think because if I if

0:51:01.840 --> 0:51:06.279
<v Speaker 3>I allergic, if I sneeze someone at someone's going to

0:51:06.360 --> 0:51:08.160
<v Speaker 3>say bless you, and.

0:51:13.600 --> 0:51:16.480
<v Speaker 2>I do, and now I've given away my thing.

0:51:16.680 --> 0:51:20.960
<v Speaker 3>But that's what because sometimes if the uncomfortable thing has

0:51:21.000 --> 0:51:22.680
<v Speaker 3>nothing to do with me, but I'm here, I.

0:51:22.560 --> 0:51:23.239
<v Speaker 2>Get very no.

0:51:23.640 --> 0:51:25.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, but.

0:51:25.040 --> 0:51:42.040
<v Speaker 2>If I it's different atrophy, I do, and I don't know.

0:51:41.960 --> 0:51:44.880
<v Speaker 3>When I started doing it.

0:51:47.680 --> 0:51:53.200
<v Speaker 1>My stop, I have a high bless you can't know that.

0:51:53.560 --> 0:51:54.880
<v Speaker 2>That's a really good series.

0:51:56.920 --> 0:52:00.840
<v Speaker 1>This is method actor Jared Letto the studio.

0:52:02.040 --> 0:52:04.799
<v Speaker 2>That's what I do. I have a friend who just

0:52:04.840 --> 0:52:10.719
<v Speaker 2>sort of she kind of does. But yeah, that's what

0:52:10.840 --> 0:52:14.080
<v Speaker 2>I do. I fake me because I'm so uncomfortable and

0:52:14.120 --> 0:52:14.799
<v Speaker 2>I've got to go.

0:52:15.080 --> 0:52:17.080
<v Speaker 3>Someone's going to say God, bless you, and it's going

0:52:17.160 --> 0:52:19.960
<v Speaker 3>to like resett out of here.

0:52:22.960 --> 0:52:25.839
<v Speaker 1>My response is fighter flight. I'm like getting out out

0:52:25.880 --> 0:52:26.400
<v Speaker 1>of the studio.

0:52:26.880 --> 0:52:29.840
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, so anyway, back to this game, back to

0:52:29.920 --> 0:52:36.360
<v Speaker 3>this case, back to Trance writes on the line, anyway,

0:52:36.520 --> 0:52:37.879
<v Speaker 3>I'm super interested to see.

0:52:38.120 --> 0:52:38.960
<v Speaker 1>Yes, I'm too.

0:52:39.760 --> 0:52:42.719
<v Speaker 2>I'm super worried about trans folks, and.

0:52:42.840 --> 0:52:44.360
<v Speaker 1>As a lawyer, I have to jump in and just

0:52:44.440 --> 0:52:47.279
<v Speaker 1>sort of like compare like this to the gay Cake

0:52:47.360 --> 0:52:51.480
<v Speaker 1>Baker lawsuit at the Supreme Court. So so there there will

0:52:51.520 --> 0:52:54.200
<v Speaker 1>be like an interesting like call and response between those

0:52:54.239 --> 0:52:57.800
<v Speaker 1>two decisions, right between this decision and that decision. Right,

0:52:58.200 --> 0:53:01.000
<v Speaker 1>But speaking of like ally ship and like how you

0:53:01.080 --> 0:53:03.040
<v Speaker 1>kind of relate, like we talked about like how to

0:53:03.080 --> 0:53:08.480
<v Speaker 1>like relate and you know sort of like handle a phobe, right,

0:53:08.560 --> 0:53:10.800
<v Speaker 1>a transphobe, a racist person at home? But whatever it

0:53:10.880 --> 0:53:15.239
<v Speaker 1>Maybe JK. Rowling recently was talking to Emma or no,

0:53:15.480 --> 0:53:16.880
<v Speaker 1>Emma Watson was talking to you.

0:53:17.000 --> 0:53:19.600
<v Speaker 2>No no, no, no, no, no no, no, Emma Watson.

0:53:19.920 --> 0:53:24.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm getting I'm getting corrected. Any any Harry Potter reference there? Okay,

0:53:24.880 --> 0:53:27.520
<v Speaker 1>there are like ten people I send memes to. The

0:53:27.560 --> 0:53:30.920
<v Speaker 1>only Harry Potter memes I send to people are to Melissa.

0:53:31.000 --> 0:53:33.600
<v Speaker 1>She's the only person I said Potter race too, and

0:53:33.640 --> 0:53:35.719
<v Speaker 1>she loves I mean, and you like every one of them.

0:53:35.840 --> 0:53:38.360
<v Speaker 1>I love them too because I get it. If I'm hungover,

0:53:38.560 --> 0:53:41.600
<v Speaker 1>it's Chinese food and Harry Potter movies on the sofa

0:53:41.760 --> 0:53:43.440
<v Speaker 1>all day. That is my Sunday.

0:53:43.400 --> 0:53:46.800
<v Speaker 3>As much as I have enjoyed the movies.

0:53:47.080 --> 0:53:49.320
<v Speaker 2>My my real thing is the books.

0:53:49.440 --> 0:53:54.280
<v Speaker 3>And just really quickly about my foray into Harry Potter.

0:53:55.840 --> 0:53:56.839
<v Speaker 2>I came to it late.

0:53:56.920 --> 0:53:59.319
<v Speaker 3>I was a grown ass adult when it first came out,

0:53:59.440 --> 0:54:00.960
<v Speaker 3>and I thought it was stupid. I was like the

0:54:01.040 --> 0:54:03.400
<v Speaker 3>idea that me, as a grown woman, I'm going to

0:54:03.440 --> 0:54:05.520
<v Speaker 3>read a book about a boy wizard to get the

0:54:05.560 --> 0:54:11.200
<v Speaker 3>fuck out of here. But I bought the scholastic like

0:54:11.400 --> 0:54:14.320
<v Speaker 3>set of like the first four books from my cousins.

0:54:14.360 --> 0:54:16.200
<v Speaker 2>I have a lot of cousins for my cousins, and

0:54:16.200 --> 0:54:16.920
<v Speaker 2>the Thirst.

0:54:16.719 --> 0:54:20.160
<v Speaker 1>Books look very much like for a kid like. The

0:54:20.239 --> 0:54:21.600
<v Speaker 1>book covers are very.

0:54:21.600 --> 0:54:23.680
<v Speaker 2>Much, yes, very much, very much.

0:54:23.719 --> 0:54:26.720
<v Speaker 3>And I bought it for him and I don't remember why,

0:54:26.760 --> 0:54:28.520
<v Speaker 3>but I ended up not giving it to him for

0:54:28.560 --> 0:54:31.319
<v Speaker 3>his births and I threw it in the backseat of

0:54:31.360 --> 0:54:34.280
<v Speaker 3>my car where it rolled around for months.

0:54:34.600 --> 0:54:36.920
<v Speaker 1>Sure, she's flying down the road. I've been in the

0:54:36.920 --> 0:54:41.000
<v Speaker 1>car with her on the brain. The Brakouse books are

0:54:41.080 --> 0:54:41.839
<v Speaker 1>banged up.

0:54:42.080 --> 0:54:45.080
<v Speaker 3>And I had taken my mother someplace and I ended

0:54:45.120 --> 0:54:47.920
<v Speaker 3>up having to wait for her longer than we had thought.

0:54:48.000 --> 0:54:51.360
<v Speaker 1>And this is before she was rubbernecking out an accident.

0:54:51.080 --> 0:54:55.080
<v Speaker 3>Probably, and I pulled out the first book and instantly

0:54:56.000 --> 0:54:57.680
<v Speaker 3>was like I was like, oh my god, this is great.

0:54:57.719 --> 0:55:00.840
<v Speaker 1>You're like, oh shit, who's that g Why are the

0:55:00.920 --> 0:55:02.600
<v Speaker 1>letters exploding out of that? Yeah?

0:55:02.680 --> 0:55:03.960
<v Speaker 2>Yes, love it anyway.

0:55:04.000 --> 0:55:05.880
<v Speaker 3>So and then I even turned into the person who

0:55:05.920 --> 0:55:08.160
<v Speaker 3>would go to the midnight Oh.

0:55:08.200 --> 0:55:09.960
<v Speaker 1>I did that. My friends and I left the club.

0:55:10.520 --> 0:55:13.160
<v Speaker 1>I was nineteen. We left the club and we went

0:55:13.200 --> 0:55:15.440
<v Speaker 1>to the midnight showing Turn No.

0:55:15.440 --> 0:55:17.040
<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, no, not the midnight showing.

0:55:17.239 --> 0:55:17.799
<v Speaker 1>Oh of the book.

0:55:18.200 --> 0:55:18.359
<v Speaker 4>Oh.

0:55:18.400 --> 0:55:20.120
<v Speaker 1>We went to the movies and we were like, you know,

0:55:20.160 --> 0:55:22.480
<v Speaker 1>hooting and hollering in the back. You went to the

0:55:22.480 --> 0:55:26.160
<v Speaker 1>midnight like Barnes and Noble release party. I would did

0:55:26.239 --> 0:55:29.120
<v Speaker 1>like Fergie perform. I don't know, And I just felt

0:55:29.160 --> 0:55:29.560
<v Speaker 1>so like.

0:55:29.480 --> 0:55:31.400
<v Speaker 3>It would just be me, all these like parents and

0:55:32.280 --> 0:55:36.600
<v Speaker 3>like me just like standing there. I really do have

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<v Speaker 3>a tremendous amount of affection for these books for some

0:55:40.920 --> 0:55:44.560
<v Speaker 3>reason too, And it has been I can't even begin

0:55:44.640 --> 0:55:48.640
<v Speaker 3>to tell you how deeply and profoundly disappointing it has

0:55:48.719 --> 0:55:53.160
<v Speaker 3>been for me to realize that in spite of her talents,

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<v Speaker 3>because she is talented, right like JK. Rowling has created

0:55:56.840 --> 0:56:00.600
<v Speaker 3>this amazing world of books. She's also read other books

0:56:00.640 --> 0:56:04.719
<v Speaker 3>that are also good. Yes, yeah, but to realize.

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<v Speaker 2>That she's a really Jesus bitch, like she's this horrible person.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it is really really disappointing.

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<v Speaker 1>Kind of just say. My favorite meme is on Twitter,

0:56:17.640 --> 0:56:21.120
<v Speaker 1>she was saying something insanely transphobic. Yeah, and someone said

0:56:21.800 --> 0:56:25.920
<v Speaker 1>put her back her like thumbnail photo was it was

0:56:25.960 --> 0:56:28.840
<v Speaker 1>clearly there was like black mold growing up the wall.

0:56:29.600 --> 0:56:33.480
<v Speaker 1>And someone wrote, like the black mold is like destroying

0:56:33.480 --> 0:56:36.760
<v Speaker 1>her brain. And then the next photo was she changed

0:56:36.800 --> 0:56:40.160
<v Speaker 1>her profile photos she saw the tweet and changed her

0:56:40.200 --> 0:56:44.440
<v Speaker 1>photo to to something else without black mold in this

0:56:44.680 --> 0:56:45.600
<v Speaker 1>in the background.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I don't understand the loathing that she has or

0:56:50.880 --> 0:56:54.280
<v Speaker 3>that anybody has. Frankly, for the trans community, the transc

0:56:54.280 --> 0:56:57.160
<v Speaker 3>community is minuscule. It's tiny.

0:56:57.320 --> 0:56:58.960
<v Speaker 1>And also, like I got to say, like some of

0:56:58.960 --> 0:57:01.960
<v Speaker 1>the coolest people I know, like there are a plenty

0:57:02.040 --> 0:57:04.320
<v Speaker 1>of like jokes of like you know, punching down about

0:57:04.360 --> 0:57:06.520
<v Speaker 1>like them not having a sense of humor or like

0:57:06.600 --> 0:57:09.239
<v Speaker 1>but like literally I had the most fun. There's a

0:57:09.280 --> 0:57:11.399
<v Speaker 1>lot of this like oh woe can't take a joke

0:57:11.520 --> 0:57:14.919
<v Speaker 1>kind of like energy on the on the alt right

0:57:15.040 --> 0:57:20.360
<v Speaker 1>or whatever, right, yes, yeah, right, I will say, like

0:57:20.400 --> 0:57:22.880
<v Speaker 1>in my experience, like it's usually the people have the

0:57:22.920 --> 0:57:26.280
<v Speaker 1>most fun with or trands because like to be trans.

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<v Speaker 1>I think for the most part, a lot of people

0:57:29.320 --> 0:57:31.920
<v Speaker 1>have like a lot of self awareness if you're trans.

0:57:32.000 --> 0:57:34.640
<v Speaker 1>Like there's this interesting MPR sort of series a couple

0:57:34.720 --> 0:57:38.080
<v Speaker 1>of years ago about trans kids and how they are

0:57:38.120 --> 0:57:42.320
<v Speaker 1>oftentimes like the people who understand themselves as a person

0:57:42.960 --> 0:57:47.400
<v Speaker 1>more than non trans children. They were able to identify

0:57:47.400 --> 0:57:50.360
<v Speaker 1>that there's something different about themselves articulated to an adult

0:57:50.440 --> 0:57:53.480
<v Speaker 1>and like seek assistance. So it's like kind of interesting,

0:57:53.600 --> 0:57:55.720
<v Speaker 1>like I don't know to have that level of self

0:57:55.760 --> 0:57:58.600
<v Speaker 1>awareness like a lot of the times, at least for

0:57:58.960 --> 0:58:03.880
<v Speaker 1>in my case, of a lot of like humor about it,

0:58:03.960 --> 0:58:06.800
<v Speaker 1>right anyway, to be like very disappointed. I think what

0:58:06.800 --> 0:58:08.520
<v Speaker 1>we're kind of like coming up against her is like

0:58:09.280 --> 0:58:13.400
<v Speaker 1>the artist versus the art. Yeah, and like how do

0:58:13.440 --> 0:58:15.200
<v Speaker 1>we like separate that? And it's coming up more and

0:58:15.200 --> 0:58:18.120
<v Speaker 1>more I think in society likes people just sort of

0:58:18.160 --> 0:58:20.080
<v Speaker 1>like are getting more and more canceled.

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<v Speaker 3>So, speaking of being canceled, so Emma Watson went on

0:58:25.880 --> 0:58:29.360
<v Speaker 3>some podcasts and she was talking about, you know, her

0:58:29.440 --> 0:58:34.520
<v Speaker 3>life after Harry Potter and how she sort of stopped

0:58:34.520 --> 0:58:37.240
<v Speaker 3>acting for a while and she's thinking about coming back,

0:58:37.320 --> 0:58:40.080
<v Speaker 3>and then of course the JK Rowling thing came up,

0:58:40.160 --> 0:58:44.480
<v Speaker 3>and then she said that she's deciding that she's going

0:58:44.560 --> 0:58:49.120
<v Speaker 3>to love JK Rowling in spite of her stance on

0:58:49.200 --> 0:58:54.640
<v Speaker 3>trans folks, because she's choosing to remember the JK Rolling

0:58:54.760 --> 0:58:58.680
<v Speaker 3>that she knew herself. Right, She's choosing to value the

0:58:59.160 --> 0:59:02.360
<v Speaker 3>woman who wrote this amazing character, Hermione.

0:59:02.120 --> 0:59:05.000
<v Speaker 1>Which I probably had like amazing experiences with her when

0:59:05.040 --> 0:59:05.959
<v Speaker 1>she was a kid, right.

0:59:06.080 --> 0:59:09.320
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, And you know, saying that you know somebody, she's like,

0:59:09.400 --> 0:59:11.760
<v Speaker 3>I am choosing to believe that there is something that

0:59:11.800 --> 0:59:14.760
<v Speaker 3>she just does not understand. I don't want to believe

0:59:14.800 --> 0:59:17.440
<v Speaker 3>that she's a bad person. I don't want to believe

0:59:17.440 --> 0:59:20.400
<v Speaker 3>that this person that I loved is really sort of

0:59:20.400 --> 0:59:21.280
<v Speaker 3>inherently evil.

0:59:21.400 --> 0:59:23.280
<v Speaker 1>This feels like how people kind of like relate to

0:59:23.520 --> 0:59:25.960
<v Speaker 1>a dead relative or parent or something like that. Like

0:59:26.040 --> 0:59:28.000
<v Speaker 1>it's very much like I'm going to choose to remember

0:59:28.040 --> 0:59:30.640
<v Speaker 1>like the positive things, and it's also like kind of

0:59:30.640 --> 0:59:34.960
<v Speaker 1>like a very healthy way to sort of deal with Yeah, absolutely, yes, Yeah,

0:59:35.040 --> 0:59:37.960
<v Speaker 1>Like how do I just like take this wonderful experience

0:59:38.000 --> 0:59:40.040
<v Speaker 1>I have with this person who's now doing something that

0:59:40.080 --> 0:59:43.640
<v Speaker 1>I completely disagree with, and like honor and cherish what

0:59:43.760 --> 0:59:46.520
<v Speaker 1>I remember of that and not have it be colored

0:59:46.560 --> 0:59:48.640
<v Speaker 1>by what's happening now. Like that is like a very

0:59:48.640 --> 0:59:49.640
<v Speaker 1>evolve I thought so.

0:59:49.880 --> 0:59:52.600
<v Speaker 3>I thought so, and it came across and I know

0:59:52.640 --> 0:59:54.720
<v Speaker 3>she's an actress, but it came across to me as

0:59:54.880 --> 0:59:55.560
<v Speaker 3>very sincere.

0:59:55.920 --> 0:59:57.400
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And she was.

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<v Speaker 3>Just like, yes, I think that she's wrong. I think

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<v Speaker 3>that maybe there's something that she doesn't understand. I think

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<v Speaker 3>that she could be taught. Right basically what she was saying.

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<v Speaker 1>This person has the capacity right, And she.

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<v Speaker 3>Was just like, I am not going to cancel her.

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<v Speaker 3>I am going to hold space for her, and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to be here if she were to choose to

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<v Speaker 3>be educated.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm happy to do.

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<v Speaker 1>What happened. I actually didn't.

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<v Speaker 3>Follow this tweets ex'es or whatever it is rips Emma

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<v Speaker 3>Watson a moment asshole like when I and just full vitriol.

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<v Speaker 2>It was disgusting. Wow, And basically was like what she thinks,

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<v Speaker 2>what JK Rolling thinks is happening is that now it.

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<v Speaker 3>Is no longer sort of attractive to be the person

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<v Speaker 3>who hates JK rolling right, so that now Emma is

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<v Speaker 3>changing her stance to sort of gentle her stance on

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<v Speaker 3>what she had said about her before, because apparently Emma Watson,

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<v Speaker 3>dan Ol Radcliffe and Rupert had all come out and

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<v Speaker 3>been like sort of against what she had said about

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<v Speaker 3>trans people. And she's saying that she thinks that Emma

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<v Speaker 3>now wants to sort of start back into acting again,

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<v Speaker 3>and that she's now changing her sort of hardcore stance

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<v Speaker 3>about JK Rowling to be gentler so that she herself

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<v Speaker 3>becomes more palatable and that and just going in about

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<v Speaker 3>how this woman is ignorant and doesn't know anything.

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<v Speaker 2>It was so fucking.

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<v Speaker 3>Gross, absolutely just so reprehensible, Like would it not be

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<v Speaker 3>better to be like, you know what, Emma, I disagree

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<v Speaker 3>with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna keep my stance.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm gonna keep I'm gonna I'm gonna keep being.

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<v Speaker 2>This turf right. I'm gonna keep on doing this. But

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate the love that you have for me.

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<v Speaker 3>I love you too, even if to say let's agree

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<v Speaker 3>to do had as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, gonna go back to the right.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna go back to being basically unbreathed, the more together,

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<v Speaker 3>right I was. Again, I'm just constantly disappointed by her, really,

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<v Speaker 3>and it kind of bothers.

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<v Speaker 1>Me to have like the level of imagination where you

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<v Speaker 1>can write seven books about, you know, something that really

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<v Speaker 1>was like very fascinating and interesting and she really built

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<v Speaker 1>a world, but not be able to imagine the gender spectrum.

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<v Speaker 1>It is like crazy to me to not be able

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<v Speaker 1>to be like, oh, you know what, maybe someone is

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<v Speaker 1>not necessarily a binary like what it was just crazy?

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<v Speaker 1>That is whack.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, No, it really really is. Anyway, I just thought

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<v Speaker 2>those two things kind of went together.

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<v Speaker 3>I really I hate I hate feeling so disappointed in people.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like when I found out a client's guilty, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>you fucking lie, or if I got uprising. No, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean it's a lot of the times, like I represent

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<v Speaker 1>guilty people like and it's just like a matter of

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<v Speaker 1>we're figuring out a technicality or making sure the police

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<v Speaker 1>did their job right right. But a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>times it's like I got to figure out, like they

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<v Speaker 1>lie to me. It's not necessarily that they're guilty, but

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<v Speaker 1>they lie the criminal record and I find out, like

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<v Speaker 1>the most annoying way it's always like right when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like about to really stick it to the prosecution that

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<v Speaker 1>I find out about.

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<v Speaker 3>But the other thing is, I know you don't love

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<v Speaker 3>being lied to, but also even guilty people deserve representation.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh right, So yeah, I feel like really strongly, like

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<v Speaker 3>I know, don't want to ever give JK Rolling another dollar,

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<v Speaker 3>you know.

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<v Speaker 2>What I mean? Like I know, And the thing is

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<v Speaker 2>is that what I hate it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was fantastic Beast movies. Though if you take an

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<v Speaker 1>edible they're really good. They're not I mean, if you

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<v Speaker 1>take a couple, if you take a dumpy not ei no,

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<v Speaker 1>a little gummy and a fantastic beast, that is a

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<v Speaker 1>that is a good night?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it a good night?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's a good night, good time all right? This

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<v Speaker 1>is Tales from the DMS. I'm going to be answering

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<v Speaker 1>all your burning legal questions that you send me on

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<v Speaker 1>the internet. You DM them to me, you call in,

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<v Speaker 1>you leave us voicemails. If you go to my lank tree,

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<v Speaker 1>you can leave us a voicemail. We will play it

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<v Speaker 1>on the show and I'll answer your legal question. But

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<v Speaker 1>keep the information private if you don't want us saying

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<v Speaker 1>who you are and also like, don't record a voicemail

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't want people to hear your voice. Someone

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<v Speaker 1>wrote and was annoyed about that.

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<v Speaker 3>And also everybody, I want you to remember that one

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<v Speaker 3>Michael is a lawyer.

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<v Speaker 2>He's not your lawyer.

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<v Speaker 3>So this is just for informational purposes, entertainment purposes.

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<v Speaker 2>Just remember that.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, this question, let's let's play it.

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<v Speaker 2>What happens if you're riding in a self driving car

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<v Speaker 2>and it gets into a crash or if a police

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<v Speaker 2>officer pulls over a self driving car. What's the legality

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<v Speaker 2>of that?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So the interesting thing about self driving cars is

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<v Speaker 1>that there's actually a scale based off states about autonomy.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's like it's like a scale of zero through

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<v Speaker 1>five of how autonomous is the vehicle, which I think

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<v Speaker 1>is like so crazy that like someone had to come

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<v Speaker 1>up with this of like, okay, it's just the one

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<v Speaker 1>that kind of keeps you in the lane, and someone

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<v Speaker 1>else was like, all right, it's like a completely self

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<v Speaker 1>driving car. There's no person in the driver's seat, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I think they have these on the West coast.

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<v Speaker 2>Now right in San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, So basically what happen and there's if it's

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<v Speaker 1>fully autonomous. There's no one in the front seat that

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<v Speaker 1>you can actually sue the manufacturer if there was some

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<v Speaker 1>sort of like iper product liability. Okay, so that's usually

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<v Speaker 1>what happens if there is an accident like that. There

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<v Speaker 1>have been some cases where that's happened. But if you

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<v Speaker 1>are in the driver's seat and there is like an

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<v Speaker 1>autonomous feature that you're using and you get in an accident,

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<v Speaker 1>you can be held liable.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I mean I feel like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, I was. I was surprised that there was I

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<v Speaker 1>was when I learned about it. I was surprised that

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<v Speaker 1>there was like a literal scale of like autonomous okay features.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that was cool. I'm like such a loser.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, but I feel like if you are behind

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<v Speaker 3>the wheel of the car, if you're using the adaptive

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<v Speaker 3>cruise control or something, you're still behind the wheel of

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<v Speaker 3>a car, you are responsible.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I do love this because it's like the

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<v Speaker 1>one instance in society where we are like passing the

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<v Speaker 1>liability off on companies not the individual. Like that is

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<v Speaker 1>actually kind of fierce boots, Like, I do love to

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<v Speaker 1>see a company be held accountable rather like, yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>was actually kind of iconic.

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<v Speaker 2>Diva.

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<v Speaker 3>I have so many questions, you guys are going to

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<v Speaker 3>make him insufferable.

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<v Speaker 4>I want to know how enforcible NDAs are. I have

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<v Speaker 4>signed several in my life, especially with people who have

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<v Speaker 4>been in a position of wealth and power.

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<v Speaker 2>So you feel there's some war here because.

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<v Speaker 4>You're getting a payout or compensation for whatever activity.

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<v Speaker 2>Well work you're doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that stormy? You know what?

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<v Speaker 2>I hate? It took me a second to realize that,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'll just have it in the world that like

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<v Speaker 1>literally a porn star signing an NDA, just the president.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm really interested to what's been going on in this

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<v Speaker 3>person's life, Like, legitimately, I know something going.

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<v Speaker 1>On, having multiple dass. Okay, so this this is like

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<v Speaker 1>kind of a hard question to answer, but I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to do my best.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>It kind of depends on what the hell you signed.

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<v Speaker 1>Like some NDAs, there are contracts, So if it's a

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<v Speaker 1>royally weird, fucked up contract that has all sorts of

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<v Speaker 1>issues in it, it's not enforceable. So you really need

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<v Speaker 1>a lawyer to look at what you signed, because like

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<v Speaker 1>if you signed it under duress or there's like a

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<v Speaker 1>basic contract law has been violated in this document that

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<v Speaker 1>you signed. It's not enforceable and you can't be held

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<v Speaker 1>to the terms therein.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me ask you a question, though, what can you

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<v Speaker 3>do if you've already signed it.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've already signed it, you can bring it to

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<v Speaker 1>a lawyer and show it to them. They really need

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<v Speaker 1>to read it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So but can they get you out of it

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<v Speaker 3>if you've already signed it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, if there's if there's some sort of critical flaw

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<v Speaker 1>to a contract, you can get out of it. So

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<v Speaker 1>for example, like you were forced to sign it, there

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<v Speaker 1>was no I'm a criminal lawyer, so contract was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of foreign to me. But if you weren't given anything

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<v Speaker 1>in consideration for your silence, so there was no payment

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<v Speaker 1>or any sort of like term. That way, if the

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<v Speaker 1>terms are like really vague where it's like you can't

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<v Speaker 1>say anything, it's like okay about what It has to

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<v Speaker 1>be specific, okay to like one thing okay, or like

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<v Speaker 1>a few things, but they have to be like enumerated,

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<v Speaker 1>So it has to be there have to be like

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<v Speaker 1>contract law. We can't just like be making up laws

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<v Speaker 1>and NDAs and they're still going to be honored by

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<v Speaker 1>a judge.

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<v Speaker 2>What happens if you break an.

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<v Speaker 1>NDIA Generally the damages are enumerated in the contract, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's something that would need to be enumerated for it

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<v Speaker 1>to be enforceable or that would be a sticking point.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing about NDAs, though, that I do want to

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<v Speaker 1>call out Stormy if you're listening.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that I think she's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>She's okay. Yeah. NDAs are often it's like the threat

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<v Speaker 1>of litigation is what keeps people silent. It's not like

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<v Speaker 1>if you say something instantly, there's like a carrier pigeon

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<v Speaker 1>who like swoops in with a lawsuit. Like someone does

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<v Speaker 1>have to be like, oh, you violated that you broke

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<v Speaker 1>that law, you broke that NDA, and here you are

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<v Speaker 1>being served for damages because you violated that contract. So

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of the times, I think like people who

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<v Speaker 1>sign NDA's stay silent because they think that there is

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<v Speaker 1>something that's just going to happen if they happen to

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<v Speaker 1>violate it. But if it's been like a really long

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<v Speaker 1>time or something like that, or the person really doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>care anymore, Like you don't necessarily have to pay those

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<v Speaker 1>damages because someone would have to get a lawyer and

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<v Speaker 1>sue you to enforce it.

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<v Speaker 3>If somebody signs an MDA and the person dies the

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<v Speaker 3>one that you're signing it for. Let's say you make

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<v Speaker 3>me sign an NDA and then you die it something

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<v Speaker 3>about something and then I, I were.

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<v Speaker 1>The drafting layer, I want to make sure that there

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<v Speaker 1>was some sort of clause about what happens. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 1>I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>That's interesting question.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, transfer, Yeah, Okay, Well that's everything we have today.

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