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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks so

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Speaker 1: much for joining us for another episode. How are you

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Speaker 1: doing today, Susan?

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Speaker 2: Happy to be here in person, Like it's so much

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Speaker 2: more fun, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Don't understand. Normally we do this on the zone on

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Speaker 1: the computer, and it's like it's just not the same thing.

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Speaker 1: But now I can look at Susan. I can actually

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Speaker 1: she can give.

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Speaker 2: Me the look if she thinks I'm saying too much,

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Speaker 2: or I can see her suit, her shoes selling. Today

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Speaker 2: we're going to be answering more of your fan questions,

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Speaker 2: and you know the drill. If you do have a question,

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Speaker 2: where are they sending it? Kathy?

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Speaker 1: You know when I can do this, I say my

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Speaker 1: sleep guys, it's really oh guys, that's women.

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Speaker 2: Now say it, Katy, go Bachelor too, Bachelor Nation Dot,

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Speaker 2: come slash Golden an Hour and send them right on in,

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Speaker 2: because we will talk and we want to hear from

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Speaker 2: you all right now that we've beaten that to a

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Speaker 2: dead horse them every time. Every time, we're gonna do

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Speaker 2: a Question of the day. Okay, cool, let's do it

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Speaker 2: all right.

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Speaker 1: What are some of the things wish you wish you knew?

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Speaker 2: Before having children, how bad it was gonna hurt.

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Speaker 1: Does the word epidural mean anything to you?

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Speaker 2: My daughter came, my water broke and she was born

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Speaker 2: four hours later. I was screaming for the epidural and

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Speaker 2: they were like, I'm sorry, Susan.

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Speaker 1: Let me just say to you. When I got pregnant

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Speaker 1: with my first child, literally when I went for the

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Speaker 1: pregnancy test and I was positive, I asked for the

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Speaker 1: epidurol that day. Oh no, you think I'm kidding. I did.

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Speaker 2: I went to all the lama's classes and all think

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Speaker 2: and I'm going to do it. And as soon as

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Speaker 2: that hurt, I was like, oh no, no, no, numb

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Speaker 1: And then let me just say, when I went in

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Speaker 1: to have my first child, they were like, I know,

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Speaker 1: the barometer had gone down to whatever the barometric pressure.

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Speaker 1: There were like ten of us in labor. And the

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Speaker 1: nurse comes into me and she says, you're you're getting

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Speaker 2: Who are you? I said, what do you mean? Who

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Speaker 2: am I? And so a patient?

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Speaker 1: She said, well, there's like ten of you and the

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Speaker 1: doctor my doctor was doctor. When doctor Irwin said, give

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Speaker 1: you the first tap the door. I said, Oh, I'm

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Speaker 1: no one. He just knows how loud I can be.

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Speaker 1: And he didn't, you know, I'm going to come back

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Speaker 1: and home. What other things do you wish you knew?

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Speaker 1: Like they didn't come with the directions.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: I mean, there's nothing better than having kids, right God, Yes,

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Speaker 1: But I will say to you it's you never they're

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Speaker 1: always your children are children. I have children in my

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Speaker 1: they're in their thirties, and I have a child in

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Speaker 1: his early forties. And you know what, you always have children.

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Speaker 1: You always worry about that.

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Speaker 2: You wish you knew that.

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Speaker 1: You always have them, that they don't grow up.

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Speaker 2: You didn't realize that.

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Speaker 1: I'm saying that you always. I should not say you.

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Speaker 1: I always still feel the need to care for them,

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Speaker 1: love them, court them.

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Speaker 2: If that's not what I wish.

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Speaker 1: I knew before having them that they were always going

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Speaker 1: to be I was always going to feel responsible for them.

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Speaker 2: That's a brainer, having kids. They're yours.

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Speaker 1: Kidding me when I got pregnant, faught, you know, eighteen

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Speaker 2: No, all right, Like what to do? Like I was

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Speaker 2: like guessing, did you have help?

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Speaker 1: With your baby.

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Speaker 2: My mom came for a couple of weeks because I

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Speaker 2: had Brittany and I was in Texas, so so.

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Speaker 1: I yeah you, Brittany was born in Texas. All three

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Speaker 1: But my next door neighbor, who is still a dear friend, Hazel,

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Speaker 2: That's what I mean. They don't come with a set

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Speaker 1: I just love them and you know, you know, but

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Speaker 1: sometimes we're not doing them with any fair.

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Speaker 2: No, No, we're not exactly grandkids. I give in all

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Speaker 2: the time. He's like, mom, seriously, you just said yes

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Speaker 2: to her. I, well, she's my granddaughter, of course.

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Speaker 1: I I also, I also, I mean we're joking. Some

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Speaker 1: I knew, I wish i'd don't. I was never going

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Speaker 1: to sleep through the night again.

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Speaker 2: I was told that, but I couldn't imagine.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, are you sleeping through the night now?

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Speaker 2: No? Probably not? Not? Yes, I do I pass out?

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Speaker 2: You sleep through the night, Yeah, well I get up

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well that's not sleeping through the night. Let me

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Speaker 1: let me define sleeping through the night. Put you out

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Speaker 1: don't know. There's nothing better.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 1: We all love our children. You and I talk about

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Speaker 1: a lot, but I think the biggest thing you said

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Speaker 1: most important thing you said, in all honesty is sometimes no,

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Speaker 1: is that we are not their friends. We are parents,

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Speaker 1: and parenting is difficult, and you're going to make mistakes.

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Speaker 1: We made mistakes. But parenting is a serious job, and

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Speaker 2: Because it is. It is, you know, God bless everybody

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Speaker 2: just starting. Do you want more children? Susan, absolutely not.

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Speaker 2: I'll take more grandchildren.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, now it's time to get to some

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Speaker 1: of those listener questions. You're ready for those?

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Speaker 2: I sure am Tanya, who's fifty five? She says, Hi, ladies,

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Speaker 2: I think I need some guidance right now, So I

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Speaker 2: to take a leap of faith right now. How should

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Speaker 2: I navigate jumping into a brand new career. I want

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Speaker 2: so much. You know, it's funny she's telling me she's

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Speaker 2: fifty five, she's over it, she don't find joy. I

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Speaker 1: And you know what my advice would be?

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Speaker 1: Uh think you don't say, Tanya, what you're interested in doing.

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Speaker 1: I'd get out a piece of paper, pencil, or get

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Speaker 1: What kinds of things is it? So maybe it's traveling,

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Speaker 1: So maybe you start blogging about trying, or you become

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Speaker 1: you know, Susan and I never thought we would be

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Speaker 2: Life doesn't stop it.

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Speaker 1: But life doesn't stop. So you know what, go chase

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Speaker 2: Do you take a leap? Makes you happy? You take

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Speaker 2: a leap of faith and that age of possibilities, anything

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Speaker 2: I don't think she feels like she's old. I said,

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Speaker 2: she's exhausted from it all, from her career. She's shot

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Speaker 2: like she doesn't want to be miserable, right, But is

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Speaker 2: the leap of faith, especially because you do have a mistake.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, Take a leap of faith, Tanya,

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Speaker 2: Try, right, Like you said, like Kathy said, bring down

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Speaker 2: your things that you love. And what kind of work

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Speaker 1: It could be something that you've never thought of, so photography,

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Speaker 2: Absolutely succeed and you're not loving it, try something else.

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Speaker 1: And let us know, Tanya. We want to know.

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Speaker 2: You can do it. You know what, if you believe

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Speaker 2: want to be curious now, Tanya. Yeah, and and thank

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Speaker 1: By the way, should we remind again, Tanya if you

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Speaker 1: Hi ladies, I really need your help right now. My

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Speaker 1: find some other fulfillment outside of them. How do I

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Speaker 1: We love you? Sherry. You had the answer in your question.

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Speaker 1: How do I start dating again? With your first question?

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Speaker 1: You know what, Sherry, I'm going to encourage you to not.

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Speaker 1: Go out and find out what will make you happy,

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Speaker 1: What kinds of activities, what kinds of groups might you join?

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Speaker 1: Expand your world, go find some joy in your life.

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Speaker 1: You have plenty of time to date and find that guy,

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Speaker 1: the sounds of it, getting yourself out there. But sometimes

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Speaker 1: Wait, can I just say, can I just introject one

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Speaker 2: I'd be crying looking for food. Should be asking me question,

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Speaker 1: I've read many books more than once. I'd probably you

437
00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:03,359
Speaker 1: know what, I would say, a phone or computer. But

438
00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:04,200
Speaker 1: they wouldn't work.

439
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:09,240
Speaker 2: We'd need to charge them. So any of our electronical.

440
00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:11,359
Speaker 1: I don't know. I would I want maybe pictures of

441
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:13,880
Speaker 1: my family. It would give me incentive to.

442
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:15,880
Speaker 2: Get off that brush. Food.

443
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:18,920
Speaker 1: So dear practice, I don't need the food.

444
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:30,840
Speaker 2: Get what I say, hidden talent that you have that

445
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:34,919
Speaker 2: even I didn't know, Kathy, hidden tell that you have

446
00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:38,280
Speaker 2: that you have. I'm asking you, what is a hidden talent?

447
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 2: Moral quandary here? Ah, I do have a hidden talent

448
00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 2: that I don't know about.

449
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 1: Well, not so much. I used to be able to

450
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,400
Speaker 1: sing really well. Now I did.

451
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:55,720
Speaker 2: I can't sing at all. I could dance, but I can't.

452
00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:58,639
Speaker 2: All right, what's your nick I told you my talent

453
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 2: today that you didn't know about that I was a gymnast.

454
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I did not know that. All right?

455
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 1: What is what's your favorite fun fact about yourself?

456
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 2: I fun fact about my fun fat that I'm happy

457
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:19,400
Speaker 2: and I make people smile. I have empathy. I don't

458
00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 2: know that's fun? Is that fun?

459
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:21,719
Speaker 1: I don't know.

460
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 2: My fun fact is I like to have fun?

461
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 1: We like to have fun. A shopper, Oh Jesus, people,

462
00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:32,840
Speaker 1: you just don't know, Susan shop. No, let me just

463
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 1: say to you, Susan, I've been together, traveling doing some

464
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:39,720
Speaker 1: things lately. Susan walks into a store, it's I walk

465
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 1: into a store and I get overwhelmed.

466
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:43,760
Speaker 2: So I could tell you within three minutes of.

467
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:48,639
Speaker 1: Susan literally laser focuses on a on a on a

468
00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:52,159
Speaker 1: rack and she's picked out three things. I'm still trying

469
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 1: to find my socks.

470
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:55,720
Speaker 2: Having me walking in the store and with it, i'd

471
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 2: scope it out and this isn't well. I can do that, Yeah,

472
00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:00,119
Speaker 2: I mean I can do this. Nothing here.

473
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 1: You all just if you ever want an experience, you

474
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 1: want to go shopping with Susan.

475
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:04,399
Speaker 2: That's all I can say.

476
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:07,360
Speaker 1: All right, what's your favorite one?

477
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 2: For Gothy, your favorite local restaurant and why? And he

478
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 2: could care less.

479
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:16,640
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's not true. In Austin, I love

480
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 1: the restaurant Abba. I just plugged it. Why because they

481
00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 1: have a beautiful outdoor. I'm about environment and feeling good.

482
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:27,239
Speaker 1: They have it's trees and there's big fans and they

483
00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:33,159
Speaker 1: have great tequila drinks. I just but I can't answer that.

484
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 2: I have a lot of favorites. I'm a foodie. I

485
00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 2: visit a lot of rust see.

486
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: I don't care about the food as much I care

487
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 1: about the ambiance.

488
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 2: All right, all right, what's something you've always wanted to do? Wait? Wait?

489
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:46,200
Speaker 1: Do you think Abba will give me a free meal

490
00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:47,879
Speaker 1: next time I go in Austin, Texas?

491
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 2: How many were?

492
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:51,320
Speaker 1: How many more times you have to say and Austin

493
00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:52,159
Speaker 1: on south converse?

494
00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:52,439
Speaker 2: All right?

495
00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 1: Go ahead?

496
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:56,240
Speaker 2: What's something you've always wanted to do but haven't done yet?

497
00:24:56,520 --> 00:25:01,199
Speaker 2: And why not? I'll tell you to tell me what

498
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,200
Speaker 2: you want? The airplane flying air?

499
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 1: Well, you are close. You know what we've got.

500
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 2: Wait, we're going to say this, Gabby, Yeah, give me something.

501
00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 1: You know what I want to do. I want to

502
00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 1: jump out of an airplane. I did too, and now

503
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:15,680
Speaker 1: I'm afraid that things will break. When I was interviewing

504
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:18,040
Speaker 1: to be on The Golden Bachelor, I said I did too.

505
00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:18,880
Speaker 2: I checked it off.

506
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:21,920
Speaker 1: I would jump. I still would do it. Yeah, So so.

507
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,800
Speaker 2: Why haven't we done it yet? Well, because I raised

508
00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:27,439
Speaker 2: kids said that now's the time I'm going to sign up.

509
00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 1: I'm scared to do it. I don't really care about flying,

510
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 1: as much as I'd like to be in the cockpit

511
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:33,919
Speaker 1: and see the view, But I really would like to

512
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 1: jump out.

513
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 2: With and I can fly the plane that you jump.

514
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 1: Out of, only if there's someone flying it that's had

515
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: forty years of experience.

516
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:41,679
Speaker 2: All right.

517
00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 1: One was the last? Oh, I hate these questions. When

518
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 1: was the last time you did something for the first time?

519
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:48,560
Speaker 1: I don't know. I can't answer that one.

520
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 2: That's that's for the first time.

521
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 1: It was the last time you did something for the

522
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 1: first time. I don't know when I did it?

523
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:55,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

524
00:25:56,000 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 1: Next, what's an experience you had that change your perspective

525
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 1: on life? Going on Bachelor? That was easy?

526
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:11,640
Speaker 2: Okay? Looking back at when you were younger. What was

527
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,959
Speaker 2: your silliest fear? The dark?

528
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 1: No, listen true these questions? Was are you afraid of

529
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 1: the dark?

530
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:22,639
Speaker 2: You had a basement in our house and my mom

531
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 2: would send me and look.

532
00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 1: Behind the Bogeyman's going to get to my sister, my sister,

533
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 1: and I'm going to make her listen to this podcast.

534
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:34,679
Speaker 1: My sister lives in Canada. Her name is Susan, my

535
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 1: favorite sister, Jess. I love Suisan's. She had a purple witch.

536
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:45,840
Speaker 1: It was you know, those light and the dark things.

537
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 2: We'd go to.

538
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,879
Speaker 1: We shared a room. She would put when I wasn't around.

539
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 1: She would put the witch up to the light bulb,

540
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:57,240
Speaker 1: and then we'd go to bed and she would fly

541
00:26:57,359 --> 00:27:00,880
Speaker 1: that damn witch on her scared to death. What's your

542
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:04,280
Speaker 1: current wallpaper on your phone? And why did you choose that?

543
00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 2: Oh?

544
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 1: Well, you're gonna laugh when I tell you, Actually, this

545
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 1: is an answer you would give. I can't. I can't

546
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,159
Speaker 1: choose one. I have a rolling scroll of all the

547
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 1: photos on my camera.

548
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 2: I have my grand kids.

549
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 1: I've got pictures of my husband. I've got pictures of

550
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 1: my kids, my grandkids places, I've been all right, you're next,

551
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:36,399
Speaker 1: all right, way, what's your I'm one rogue, Susan. What's

552
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,879
Speaker 1: the best date you've had since you got off the show?

553
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 2: Really want to date?

554
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 1: We've had some. You got a free dinner, give me something.

555
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:50,959
Speaker 2: So we're going to go back to Christmas. And my

556
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:55,040
Speaker 2: favorite Christmas memory is when I torture my kids with clues.

557
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 1: God.

558
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 2: If you could bring back any fashion trend, oh God,

559
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 2: or old slang, what would it be? I have won

560
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:10,879
Speaker 2: my kids? Still, Mom, don't feeling groovy. Don't say that anymore.

561
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:11,959
Speaker 2: I still say banging.

562
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 1: My food is good.

563
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:14,959
Speaker 2: It's banging. They're like, Mom, stopped.

564
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:18,120
Speaker 1: That is it doesn't bang it No, that's what you do.

565
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:19,120
Speaker 1: That's what people do.

566
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 2: Is you get No, that's a phrase.

567
00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:25,159
Speaker 1: No, it's a phrase.

568
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 2: I am banging.

569
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 1: See she don't believe me.

570
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:31,360
Speaker 2: Hook No, it has nothing to get your mind out

571
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:34,879
Speaker 2: of them telling you it's banging. It was amazing.

572
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 1: Everybody right into bacheloration, these guys, because anyone ever heard

573
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 1: the expression of people banging.

574
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 2: No, you don't say people banging. It was banging like.

575
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 1: You say, it was banging. I don't care what they

576
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 1: move on. Wait a minute, I just can't even all right.

577
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 2: What is your comfort movie or TV show? Well, my

578
00:28:55,480 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 2: comfort movie is Bridesmaids. That's a comfort yes, because I met.

579
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: When she poops in the street with the wedding dress.

580
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 1: I still laugh every time I watch it. It always

581
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 1: makes me laugh.

582
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 2: But you know, okay, how about the words? What about you? What? Hallmark?

583
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 2: I love my Hallmark Christmas away.

584
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: Can I just tell you wait, I watched the other

585
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:20,959
Speaker 1: night on Hallmark. I can't even believe I'm admitting to this.

586
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 1: I started to cry. I always do, know, you know,

587
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 1: not because of the movie, because it's always the same,

588
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 1: you know, girl meets boy in small town falls in love.

589
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 1: But this was girl meets Boy in Ireland, and I

590
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: was in Ireland last year and my husband always wanted

591
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 1: to go, so I say, and the scene it was

592
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 1: filmed in Ireland. So I just sat there crying watching.

593
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 2: Then there's a favorite movie and I don't remember the

594
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,880
Speaker 2: name of it. Can you help me? It's when they

595
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 2: switch houses and she falls in love with the girl's

596
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 2: brother over in Ireland. I believe. I don't know. Oh,

597
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 2: come on, I can't think of it.

598
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:58,960
Speaker 1: But I like it. I want to watch it. I

599
00:29:59,000 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 1: want holiday.

600
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:04,479
Speaker 2: Holiday. Isn't that great? Yes? Thank you?

601
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: I love it.

602
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 2: Last one, what's the worst piece of advice you've ever

603
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 2: been given?

604
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: Go shopping with you?

605
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 2: That's not advice?

606
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 1: What's it?

607
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 2: No, what's the worst advice you've ever been given? Don't

608
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 2: buy that car? I don't know that was good advice.

609
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 2: I don't know. I can't think of it.

610
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 1: I don't know. You know what the difference is? You

611
00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 1: and I look for the positive things. We make Lemons

612
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 1: make lemonade. I don't lemon It's like, what's the best advice?

613
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:39,800
Speaker 2: You know? That's what that's good advice? But I mean advice.

614
00:30:40,320 --> 00:30:44,400
Speaker 2: I don't know. Susan bet a thousand on that one casino.

615
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 2: That's bad advice, or.

616
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: Worse yet, put another penny in that slot machine. You're

617
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 1: penny since.

618
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 2: Called penny machines. However, the lowest bet is like eighty

619
00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 2: eight cents. I mean, I don't know why I can

620
00:30:59,320 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 2: call pennies.

621
00:30:59,920 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 1: I can't. I mean, I you were telling you to

622
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: day I enjoy that. Wait a second, I thought you

623
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 1: literally put money in and like pulled the crank.

624
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 2: We used to quarters came out, and now you just

625
00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 2: put out. A minute, I'm taking her a bag.

626
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 1: I like to go into the Louis Vauton shop. You

627
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 1: can put the pennies and to.

628
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 2: Spend it there too. You know, Cat, I can't believe it,

629
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:25,720
Speaker 2: but we're having fun. First day of the new year.

630
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,959
Speaker 2: Did you want to did you set any goals or

631
00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:32,000
Speaker 2: make any promises to yourself or something that you wish?

632
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 1: Okay, So I never make New Year's resolutions because it's

633
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: sort of we've talked about this. It's sort of like

634
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day for me. If if it's the person I love,

635
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 1: I want to show them every day of the year.

636
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 1: If I make a New Year's resolution, I want to

637
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 1: make that resolution any day of the year and make

638
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: it work the whole year. I don't ever choose a

639
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:55,600
Speaker 1: day to you know, to acknowledge like, okay, starting today,

640
00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 1: I don't do that. But I do think New Year

641
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 1: represents a time of newness of change. It can be.

642
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:07,480
Speaker 1: But again, I like to look at the positive. For

643
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 1: me this past year. You know, we're just starting to

644
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: new year. The past year has been so great to

645
00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 1: both of us. The friendships, the traveling, everything, you know,

646
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 1: our grandchildren, all the things that we've had this year.

647
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 1: I think for twenty twenty five, I would just like

648
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 1: to continue building the joy and the friendships and keeping health,

649
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 1: you know, my good health, and then you know, our world.

650
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 2: I know I'm not going to say I'm going on

651
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 2: the diet and starting the gym. I did that last

652
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 2: year and I've gone four times my point. No, no, no,

653
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 2: I know, I'm just saying, but I mean I would

654
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 2: like to say that we both would be It's what

655
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to, right, Yeah, what are you looking

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Speaker 2: forward to? Our trip to Saint Martin's first, that's first?

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Speaker 1: What else?

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Speaker 2: Foremost? And I have a birthday?

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Speaker 1: You look forward to birthdays? Really?

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I usually sell a break somehow someway for

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Speaker 2: an entire month.

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Speaker 1: You know what, I think it's going to be a

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Speaker 1: good year. And all of our listeners that have listened

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Speaker 1: to us in this first year of our podcast, thank you,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Gosh we get on like a golden paradise. Or they're

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Speaker 2: hoping for a new show. I'm looking forward to it

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Speaker 2: another exciting year. I am.

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Speaker 1: I am too.

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Speaker 2: I feel bless to be alive.

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Speaker 1: So do I. But I do want to acknowledge all

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Speaker 1: the people that listen to our podcast, So thank you

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Speaker 1: to all of you, wishing you all the happiest and

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Speaker 1: health of new year. Healthy new year, and I hope

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Speaker 1: you've celebrated Familus.

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Speaker 2: Without you guys, we wouldn't have dress and you know

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Speaker 2: you guys didn't love this, then we wouldn't be here.

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Speaker 2: So we're grateful for you very and hope.

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Speaker 1: You're all recovering. If you celebrated last list night, I

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Speaker 1: hope you're recovering. Might ate too much anyway.

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Speaker 2: Thanks. That's it for today, and happy healthy new Year

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Speaker 2: from Kathy and Susan. Happy happy New Year, and we'll

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Speaker 2: see you next time and we can't wait for them.

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Speaker 2: New Questions next year, right, should we say it one

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Speaker 2: more time? Okay, you guys are ready, Where are you

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Speaker 2: going to send you a little question?

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Speaker 1: Wait? First, we want you to follow us hit that

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Speaker 1: follow button.

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Speaker 2: Oh you always Bacheloration dot com slash Golden Hour and.

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Speaker 1: You know what our New York's resolution is going to be.

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Speaker 1: But we're not going to say that anymore.

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Speaker 2: People are just going to We might have to find

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Speaker 2: it up just when they're getting it. Okay, seriously happy

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Speaker 2: to hear you're everybody and listen to Bachelor Happy Hours,

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Speaker 2: Golden Hour and the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen

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