1 00:00:03,080 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: Hey, there are folks. 2 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:07,360 Speaker 2: In this episode, we continue our Love Stories series and 3 00:00:07,440 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 2: today's couple Lauren and her situation from reality TV to rehab, 4 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:18,319 Speaker 2: from family to federal prison. Mike and Lauren Sorrentino have 5 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 2: seen a lot. Welcome every bide you this special Cuffing 6 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 2: season edition of Amy and TJ and Robes. They've seen 7 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,840 Speaker 2: a lot, but it almost comes through in talking to 8 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 2: them that it seems like they had don't have a 9 00:00:30,560 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 2: care in the world, like we've been there, done that. 10 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 2: They seemed they were so incredibly strong to me and 11 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:36,240 Speaker 2: talking to them. 12 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:38,599 Speaker 1: Can I tell you of all the couples we have interviewed, 13 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 1: they shocked me the most. You know, you have expectations 14 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 1: and then you have the reality. And they were like 15 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 1: a shining light of hope and inspiration in a way 16 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,479 Speaker 1: I could never have predicted or thought. I was taking 17 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 1: more notes with what they each had to say about 18 00:00:56,240 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 1: their relationship, their choices, how they've evolved. It was. It 19 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 1: was breathtaking. Actually, and they're not I mean they're young, 20 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:05,560 Speaker 1: they're much younger than me, and yet still they had 21 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:08,320 Speaker 1: so much wisdom because they have gone through so much. 22 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 1: As you pointed out something you left out they broke up, 23 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 1: broke up completely for years in between dating and then 24 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: actually dating again and eventually getting married. But you're talking 25 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 1: about was it up to eight years of dating on 26 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: and off before they ever actually ended up being serious 27 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:28,559 Speaker 1: enough to get engaged. 28 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:31,679 Speaker 2: And people, of course know Mike the situation Sorrentino of 29 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:35,800 Speaker 2: his Jersey Shore fame. But during that stint, that time 30 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:39,960 Speaker 2: of their uber stardom, she wasn't in the picture. 31 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: They were together. 32 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 2: She was not along for that wild ride of his. 33 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:45,520 Speaker 2: But they've known each other. I can't remember what age 34 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:46,119 Speaker 2: they said, but they. 35 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: Made seventeen eighteen. It was really young, you know, with 36 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: the Jersey Shore to teenagers. They they said they had 37 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: immediate chemistry. That's one of the questions we ask all 38 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 1: of our couples, what it was like the moment you met, 39 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: And it doesn't it's not all the same. They were 40 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:02,560 Speaker 1: the fireworks story initially, but there was a long break 41 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: and you know, to find out, she came back to 42 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 1: him at probably one of the lowest times of his 43 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 1: life and she stuck with him. And it's really cool 44 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: to hear about the foundation of their love and the 45 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: changes and commitments they made to one another. But to 46 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 1: themselves as well. That led them to where they are today. 47 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: And it was I mean, it was inspirational to see 48 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: where they are today. 49 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 2: And like we said, I mentioned at the top of 50 00:02:25,880 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 2: their federal prison was a part of the story. Yep, 51 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:30,679 Speaker 2: she made the choice to marry him knowing he was 52 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 2: about to go into prison. This wasn't a situation where right, 53 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 2: she agreed to marry him and then all of a 54 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 2: sudden these everything changed. No, No, they made a conscious decision. 55 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:42,280 Speaker 2: I'm going to be here when you get out. We 56 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:43,920 Speaker 2: might as well go ahead and get married. Now, this 57 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:45,200 Speaker 2: story is a hell of a story. 58 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: Oh I On a lighter note, so we have noticed 59 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 1: a theme we haven't talked about this yet among our interviewees, 60 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:56,799 Speaker 1: where they're all happy. That was one of the reasons 61 00:02:56,840 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 1: why we wanted to interview them. They had all gone 62 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 1: through something and they all were happy. There was one 63 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: issue in the household that seemed to throw everybody off, 64 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:13,600 Speaker 1: tripped everybody out, tripped everybody off up. Sorry, and Mike 65 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: and Lauren have the best answer yet about how they 66 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 1: handled this particular household chort. 67 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 2: So men listening and any woman who has a man 68 00:03:24,560 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 2: living in the house with you Mike, the situation has 69 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:29,079 Speaker 2: figured it out. 70 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:33,840 Speaker 1: Yes, without a doubt. It was a mic dropping moment. 71 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 3: So they are. 72 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 2: Now added to the list of our diverse group of 73 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 2: couples that we are talking to asking the exact same 74 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:46,280 Speaker 2: list of questions about the relationship, about fights, about household chores, 75 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 2: about finances, sex, Yes, all of it. We've asked them 76 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 2: the same questions and the answers are fantastic so far. Again, 77 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 2: to remind you, we dropping a new episode every day 78 00:03:57,600 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 2: of the week Monday through Friday leading up to Valentine's Day, 79 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 2: and today we had a treat for you, so enjoy 80 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 2: our conversation with Mike and Lauren. 81 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 1: Mike and Lauren, thank you for being with us today. 82 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:14,000 Speaker 3: Yes, thank you for having us. 83 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 4: Thank you for having us. 84 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:17,799 Speaker 1: How are you guys doing right now? 85 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:19,480 Speaker 3: Oh, we're doing amazing. 86 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 4: Yeah, we are thriving. We are now a family of five. 87 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 5: They have a family of chickens in our backyard as well, 88 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 5: eight chickens, so we are just like a busy little 89 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:32,239 Speaker 5: circus of a farm over here. 90 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 3: Yeah. We are going on our seventh year of marriage. 91 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 3: We've been at hometown, New Jersey for about six years. 92 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 3: I'm also going on ten years of sobriety this year 93 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 3: at the end of this year was really big for 94 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:46,159 Speaker 3: me as well. So we are really just thriving. But 95 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 3: at the end of the day, we take everything one 96 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:48,279 Speaker 3: day to time. 97 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:52,119 Speaker 1: Congratulations on all of the above. Seriously, those were all 98 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 1: individually amazing feeds, so that's awesome to hear that update. 99 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: We're going to start with the questions We've asked all 100 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:02,279 Speaker 1: of our couples to begin with. I love this first question. 101 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 1: Can each of you give me three words to describe 102 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: the current state of your relationship? Michae will start with you. 103 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 3: Solid. Also, I would like to describe our relationship as 104 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 3: very loving. And also does true love sat count as 105 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 3: two words or one word? 106 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 1: You can make it one? 107 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:37,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I feel that we're love so kind of. 108 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:41,359 Speaker 3: We have so much history to drop on, so you know, 109 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 3: definitely rock steady. We've built our foundation on on on that. 110 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 3: And also we're a very loving family. And also I 111 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:56,599 Speaker 3: consider us true love. 112 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 5: All right, lady, passionate, connected and strong. 113 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 2: Connected and strong. 114 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 1: That's amazing. After how many years again, seven years marriage. 115 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 5: Seven years married, about twenty one we've known each other 116 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:19,560 Speaker 5: for twenty one years, not together for twenty one years collectively. 117 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:22,600 Speaker 5: But I met him when I was nineteen and I 118 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:26,600 Speaker 5: just turned forty last month, So yes, I've known him 119 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:27,640 Speaker 5: more than half my life. 120 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 2: All right, So what you all are saying now takes 121 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:34,599 Speaker 2: us directly back into our next question, which is, was 122 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 2: there immediate chemistry when you first met? 123 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 3: One hundred percent? We met in college math class, and 124 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:49,719 Speaker 3: she was the first blonde that I had ever wanted 125 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:54,160 Speaker 3: to date. I had for burnettes, and we were in college, 126 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:57,960 Speaker 3: and I was just drawn upon her and I had 127 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:00,160 Speaker 3: to make my way to somehow sit next to her 128 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:02,640 Speaker 3: and then eventually try to get her number, which I 129 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 3: eventually did. 130 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 5: But we're always opposite, like he said, So I was 131 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 5: sitting in the front row, he was in the back row, 132 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 5: but we instantly had a connection and a chemistry. 133 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 3: Yeah. I like club music and she likes country, so 134 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 3: it's kind of, you know, we have to make it work. 135 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, we have very different music interests as well. I 136 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: love yacht rock and he loves anything else. 137 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:29,320 Speaker 4: Okay, very cool. 138 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: Love that it can still work. That is one difference 139 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:36,840 Speaker 1: that actually is surmountable. I would say, yes, Okay, who 140 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: said I love you first? 141 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 3: It was probably Mek. It was definitely me. I'm a cancer, 142 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 3: I wear my heart on my sleeve and I'm not 143 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 3: afraid to show some of my cards. And she was 144 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 3: definitely I think my college sweetheart, not that I think, 145 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 3: but I know you were my college sweetheart. And then 146 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 3: when we had broken up around my Jersey Shore discovery face, 147 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 3: I was always longing for, you know, our connection, which 148 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 3: we eventually got back together years later. 149 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:06,520 Speaker 1: That's so cool. 150 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 2: I think that's been consistent. It's mostly the guys who 151 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:12,120 Speaker 2: ended up saying I love you first, and most of 152 00:08:12,160 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 2: the conversations we've had with the couples, that's been consistent. 153 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 2: How long give us your timeline line here? How long 154 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 2: did you date before you got engaged? How long were 155 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:23,679 Speaker 2: you engaged before you got married? 156 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:27,320 Speaker 3: Oh? Wow, wow, do you want to answer a lot 157 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:29,440 Speaker 3: of people get confused with our story. Oh my god, 158 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:32,880 Speaker 3: you guys were together, you know, your whole Jersey Shore days. 159 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:33,959 Speaker 3: You know, it's like no, no, no. 160 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:37,600 Speaker 5: So we were together for about three years the first 161 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 5: time around college, and that was in college, that was 162 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 5: pre Jersey Shore. That was like two thousand and four, 163 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:50,200 Speaker 5: five to eight, and then he coincidentally went to rehab 164 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 5: his first time two thousand and eight, got out of rehab, 165 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:55,240 Speaker 5: went right into filming Jersey Shore, so we were not 166 00:08:55,400 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 5: together all of that time Jersey Shore started finished. 167 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:03,679 Speaker 3: We got back together in twy thirteen. 168 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 4: May of twenty thirteen, and. 169 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 3: Then we got engaged Valentine's eighteen year. 170 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,479 Speaker 1: Oh Valentine's Day. 171 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 4: I'd say twenty eighteen. 172 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:17,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, and then we got married the following year. 173 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 4: We know that year. We got married November. 174 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 3: First, that fall, Yeah, a couple of months later. 175 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 5: Yeah, So we were ready. We knew, I think we 176 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:28,400 Speaker 5: always knew we were each other's person. Yeah, but we 177 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 5: needed to like have our life figured out. Yep, you know, 178 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 5: we were kind of going through a lot of different things. 179 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:36,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, all for those years. All the relationship is definitely 180 00:09:36,960 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 3: very battle tested. We've been through a lot of things together, 181 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:42,840 Speaker 3: and we definitely draw upon that a lot of the 182 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 3: times because you you can also be grateful and sort 183 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:47,080 Speaker 3: of understand the big picture and step back that we 184 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:51,960 Speaker 3: have so much history together and obviously the chemistry as 185 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 3: well as the relationship is very passionate as well. 186 00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:56,920 Speaker 1: That's so cool. So you had three years initially then 187 00:09:56,960 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 1: another five years before you actually got engaged, So yeah, 188 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:03,560 Speaker 1: that's that's a remarkable timeline, and the fact that you 189 00:10:03,640 --> 00:10:07,400 Speaker 1: went and made it through all of those years is 190 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 1: a testament to where you are today. That's really cool. 191 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, we got married in two thousand and eighteen. Yeah, 192 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 3: and then a couple months later they had I had 193 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:25,080 Speaker 3: went to prison for almost a year, and so our 194 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:30,760 Speaker 3: first year of marriage, I was inside technically, And you know, 195 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:33,080 Speaker 3: a relationship really has to be strong to go through 196 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 3: something like that, where the first year of marriage I 197 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 3: was in prison, you know, paying my debt to society 198 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:41,960 Speaker 3: and trying to write my redemption story. 199 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:44,920 Speaker 5: Every Friday night we had our date night. I would 200 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:48,440 Speaker 5: drive to visit him and I was just we would 201 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 5: hang out, we would play scrabble, Yeah, we would eat, 202 00:10:51,160 --> 00:10:52,959 Speaker 5: we would just talk for hours. 203 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 4: And it was every Friday night. 204 00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:56,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, we were so excited. I was so excited to 205 00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 3: get snacks out of the vending machine. So let's tell 206 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 3: you how how simple things had gotten at one particular point. 207 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:04,680 Speaker 3: But we always had love. 208 00:11:05,080 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I'm gonna because of that answer, 209 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:09,160 Speaker 2: I'm going to skip ahead to another question. We have 210 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 2: a little farther down the list, but it is what 211 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:16,400 Speaker 2: has your or what was your first year of marriage 212 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:19,160 Speaker 2: like now you all have already described some of the 213 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 2: practical stuff that was going on, but also and you 214 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 2: all describe just emotionally from a family logistics standpoint, from 215 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:29,439 Speaker 2: dealing with other family members. I mean, it couldn't have 216 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 2: been all sunshine and rainbows, not all. 217 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:35,920 Speaker 3: I mean, I was super positive. My wife would take 218 00:11:35,960 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 3: the three or three and a half hour drive, and 219 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:41,560 Speaker 3: I had to be positive for my wife. I had 220 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 3: to be a leader to let her know that, listen, 221 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 3: everything's going to be okay at the end of the day. 222 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:49,440 Speaker 3: And she she was obviously upset. You know, a lot 223 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 3: of the times, you know, that particular time here was 224 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 3: definitely uncertainty, but also it was a means to an end, 225 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:01,200 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. I was sentenced for, you know, 226 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 3: eight months of prison time to pay my debt to society, 227 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 3: and once that was over, we can start to have 228 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 3: not a happy ending, but a happy beginning. And that's 229 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:13,720 Speaker 3: kind of that was our mindset at the time. So 230 00:12:13,760 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 3: we really enjoyed our time whenever it was, wherever it was, 231 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:21,040 Speaker 3: and we were grateful, we were grateful for each other 232 00:12:21,360 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 3: and that we were going to do whatever it took 233 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:27,959 Speaker 3: to get out of, you know, that hole. That we 234 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:30,960 Speaker 3: were in and eventually start a family, which we did. 235 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, I think we. 236 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 5: Were from my perspective, just like he said, we were 237 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 5: so relieved that all that legal stuff was behind us 238 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 5: because he had started on that legal journey in twenty thirteen, 239 00:12:43,800 --> 00:12:46,720 Speaker 5: the year we got back together. It was that fall 240 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:49,959 Speaker 5: that all of that started. So it took five years 241 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:51,840 Speaker 5: to get a resolution from. 242 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 3: That and a million dollars worth of legal fees. Yes, 243 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:02,480 Speaker 3: so he was definitely a legal odyssey and it was 244 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:05,240 Speaker 3: very emotionally dreaming for all of us. 245 00:13:05,320 --> 00:13:07,880 Speaker 5: But yeah, we were so happy to get married and 246 00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 5: so happy and ready to move forward in our personal 247 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 5: life and just start a family and work towards that 248 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:20,439 Speaker 5: in our future. So that first year was definitely challenging, 249 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 5: but I think that it was it helped us really 250 00:13:24,720 --> 00:13:27,640 Speaker 5: continue to solidify our foundation. 251 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, but we had gone through some tougher times than that, 252 00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:34,800 Speaker 3: which we were very we stay at faith and we're 253 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:40,440 Speaker 3: very faithful couple. You know. I feel that you know, 254 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:44,760 Speaker 3: everything that you go through God prepares you for. And 255 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:48,160 Speaker 3: I had went through addiction a few years before that. 256 00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 3: I'm now, you know, ten years, but at that particular time, 257 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 3: I was let's just say around the core case, I 258 00:13:54,400 --> 00:13:55,640 Speaker 3: was what three two or three? 259 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 5: Well, by the time you went away, you were two 260 00:13:57,679 --> 00:13:59,840 Speaker 5: years I just also started. 261 00:14:00,480 --> 00:14:03,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, so addiction was just so much harder to get 262 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:06,679 Speaker 3: through that. So once we got through that and we 263 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:11,280 Speaker 3: started to face the court stuff together, you know, I'll 264 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:14,319 Speaker 3: be honest with you, it was almost like a muscle, 265 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:16,520 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. We we had built up 266 00:14:16,679 --> 00:14:20,200 Speaker 3: a foundation to continue to fight together. 267 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's remarkable. I mean what the two of you 268 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:28,480 Speaker 1: went through from just dating and a very public situation, 269 00:14:28,680 --> 00:14:31,880 Speaker 1: addiction and then prison all just to get to your 270 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 1: first wedding anniversary. I feel like, what else could happen 271 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:37,560 Speaker 1: that you couldn't handle at that point? 272 00:14:38,840 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 3: One hundred percent. We consider ourselves a very battle tested 273 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 3: couple that has gone through the storm. And you know, 274 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:51,840 Speaker 3: and and we have turned adversity into our own power, 275 00:14:52,120 --> 00:14:55,440 Speaker 3: you know. And we had used what was meant to 276 00:14:55,560 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 3: be against us or for your harm, you know, God 277 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 3: had you know, turned it for our good. I guess, 278 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:01,880 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. 279 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:02,640 Speaker 4: Propelled us. 280 00:15:02,720 --> 00:15:07,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's remarkable. I love that. So do you 281 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:10,160 Speaker 1: all have an age difference at all? 282 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:13,680 Speaker 4: He is about four years older than me. 283 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:17,120 Speaker 1: Yep, has that played a role at all in your relationship. 284 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:21,960 Speaker 5: I think maybe when we were very young, like when 285 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 5: I met him and I was nineteen and you were 286 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:29,160 Speaker 5: twenty to twenty three. But I know, I think we're 287 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:32,840 Speaker 5: pretty close in age, like given the adulthood of our life. 288 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:38,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, my wife just turned forty the other day. It's 289 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 3: a big celebration for us. We booked a trip to 290 00:15:42,360 --> 00:15:46,960 Speaker 3: Sicily in a couple of months. Nice, it was nice. Yeah, yeah, 291 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 3: we're very excited. 292 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:52,640 Speaker 2: Tell us now here. Why did you want to get married? 293 00:15:52,680 --> 00:15:55,160 Speaker 2: Why was it important to take that step at something 294 00:15:55,200 --> 00:15:58,280 Speaker 2: some couple's debate, Hey, everything's going fine. Why do we 295 00:15:58,320 --> 00:16:00,640 Speaker 2: need some document or a piece of paper? Why was 296 00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:03,040 Speaker 2: it important to be married for you all? 297 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:06,320 Speaker 3: For me, I just I always as a young man, 298 00:16:06,720 --> 00:16:09,840 Speaker 3: I always dreamed of being married and having my own family, 299 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:14,640 Speaker 3: being raised as in the Italian tradition, family is very important. 300 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 3: So for me, I always wanted to get married and 301 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 3: have a family, have a big wedding, which we did. 302 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:25,920 Speaker 3: We leveraged my employer, MTV, and we did our wedding 303 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 3: on TV, which was a massive, beautiful wedding. Even though 304 00:16:30,280 --> 00:16:32,640 Speaker 3: I was going through all those tough times with the 305 00:16:32,680 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 3: case and spending a million dollars on lawyers, I was 306 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:41,080 Speaker 3: still able to strategically leverage my celebrity and my employer, 307 00:16:41,200 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 3: MTV to have this beautiful wedding. So yeah, no, I 308 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 3: don't know. I loved our wedding was beautiful, and I 309 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:52,240 Speaker 3: do understand the question of a piece of paper. 310 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, both of us our values were always aligned 311 00:16:57,000 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 5: no matter what age we were, whether we were nineteen 312 00:16:59,320 --> 00:17:04,160 Speaker 5: or in our four We both came from large Italian 313 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:09,359 Speaker 5: Catholic families raised in New Jersey, and he had he 314 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:12,359 Speaker 5: was one of four siblings. I'm one of four siblings. 315 00:17:12,800 --> 00:17:16,159 Speaker 5: I had three girls, one boy. He had three boys, 316 00:17:16,200 --> 00:17:19,080 Speaker 5: one girl. Like the family dynamics, So there was just 317 00:17:19,119 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 5: like a lot of similarities there. And for me, it's 318 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:25,679 Speaker 5: just that's always been my dream, you know, to find 319 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 5: my dream man and get married. And the timing was 320 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:33,199 Speaker 5: just the right timing for us in our relationship, and 321 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:36,480 Speaker 5: I couldn't wait to marry him. We had parted ways 322 00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:40,479 Speaker 5: younger when we were younger, and our relationship was something 323 00:17:40,520 --> 00:17:44,159 Speaker 5: that I always had looked back on that, you know, 324 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 5: I always felt like a piece. 325 00:17:45,560 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 4: Of me was with him. Yeah, and I think it 326 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:48,840 Speaker 4: was a mutual thing. 327 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:51,879 Speaker 5: But we had to like do our lives separately minute 328 00:17:51,920 --> 00:17:54,399 Speaker 5: and thank god we did, because if we stayed together 329 00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:55,920 Speaker 5: would not have worked. 330 00:17:56,520 --> 00:17:58,320 Speaker 3: You know, there is that phrase, you know, he let 331 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:00,199 Speaker 3: the bird out of the cage. If it's meant to be, 332 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:04,320 Speaker 3: you know, comes back. If it's not then you know. 333 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:07,679 Speaker 3: But when we were dating in college, we used to 334 00:18:07,800 --> 00:18:10,280 Speaker 3: drive by these homes in home though, and they were 335 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:12,879 Speaker 3: just beautiful homes, and we would be like, you know what, 336 00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:15,959 Speaker 3: one day, you know, it'd be great to when we 337 00:18:15,960 --> 00:18:18,439 Speaker 3: were dating in college, it would be great to settle 338 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:20,760 Speaker 3: down and have a family out here. And sure enough, 339 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:21,560 Speaker 3: twenty years. 340 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:26,679 Speaker 1: Later, just not on the timeline you probably thought it 341 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:29,520 Speaker 1: would be. That's really cool though for people who have 342 00:18:29,560 --> 00:18:32,560 Speaker 1: certain expectations, it doesn't necessarily happen when you think it's 343 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 1: going to. But that's exactly really cool. Did your relationship, 344 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,919 Speaker 1: especially given the ins and out of it, have the 345 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:50,720 Speaker 1: support of your friends and your family? 346 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:55,679 Speaker 3: You know what. I'm sure that you know, early on 347 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:00,400 Speaker 3: there were some skeptics, you know what I mean. I mean, 348 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:03,840 Speaker 3: I'm going to this huge court case United States is 349 00:19:03,920 --> 00:19:08,280 Speaker 3: versus the situation. Uh, you know, they're trying to penalize 350 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:10,919 Speaker 3: me for millions of dollars. I'm sure. And again I 351 00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:12,680 Speaker 3: don't know if this has happened, but I'm sure her 352 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:16,080 Speaker 3: family was worried about that. You know, that's possibly could 353 00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:19,800 Speaker 3: be in there. But you know, many many years later, 354 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:24,080 Speaker 3: it turned out to be a good decision. 355 00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:24,480 Speaker 1: Yeah. 356 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:28,480 Speaker 5: I think, if any, the majority of the skeptics were 357 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:31,320 Speaker 5: always kind of the fan base maybe, or like the 358 00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:35,600 Speaker 5: outside people that were disconnected or removed from what's really happening. 359 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:38,920 Speaker 5: I think that our family and our friends, the people 360 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:41,640 Speaker 5: close to us always saw what we had as a connection, 361 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:45,639 Speaker 5: including my family. Had there have ever been skeptics, no 362 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:48,520 Speaker 5: one ever voiced that within our world. 363 00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:51,960 Speaker 1: You know, that's cool and that's what counts. So it's 364 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:54,880 Speaker 1: awesome that y'all were able to separate those two things, 365 00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:58,960 Speaker 1: because sometimes people get you know, you get sucked into 366 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:02,119 Speaker 1: whatever the PubL like images or whatever, and that affects you. 367 00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:04,399 Speaker 1: But it's awesome that it didn't for you. Okay, So 368 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:07,800 Speaker 1: the next question full disclosure. We ask everyone this answer 369 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:10,800 Speaker 1: it however you'd like. How would you describe your sex life? 370 00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:22,240 Speaker 3: Oh? Wow, I would say active active? Yeah, No, I'm 371 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:25,160 Speaker 3: trying to be articulated. 372 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:28,480 Speaker 4: Nice, I would I would say healthy. 373 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:33,880 Speaker 3: Yes, good word. Yeah, that is. 374 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:37,160 Speaker 2: The safest answer possible. That's good. Yeah, that's a good one. 375 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:40,119 Speaker 3: Yes. I mean, listen, we have three babies. We have 376 00:20:40,160 --> 00:20:41,719 Speaker 3: a three year old, a two year old, and a 377 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:46,160 Speaker 3: one year old, and she does such an amazing job 378 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 3: sleep training the kids. The kids all go go to 379 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:53,159 Speaker 3: bed usually six fifteen, six thirty and seven, so around 380 00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:56,800 Speaker 3: seven o'clock is mom and dad time. And we prioritize 381 00:20:57,760 --> 00:21:00,000 Speaker 3: that time for mom and dad, you know what, I mean, 382 00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:04,480 Speaker 3: to have our relationships and to put us our relationship first, 383 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:06,960 Speaker 3: you know, and also throughout the week besides sex life, 384 00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:10,359 Speaker 3: we always try to implement like a date day or 385 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:13,560 Speaker 3: date nights where mom and dad go to a restaurant 386 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,919 Speaker 3: and we dress up, we take pictures, we posted and 387 00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:18,840 Speaker 3: and just you know, get more time together. 388 00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:24,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, next question here, besides sex, how important 389 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,840 Speaker 2: is physical touch in your relationship and specifically something as 390 00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:30,600 Speaker 2: simple as walking down the street holding hands? 391 00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:34,240 Speaker 3: Do you that's good? I think everyone has their own 392 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:39,199 Speaker 3: love language. I definitely physical touch is is mind but 393 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:43,080 Speaker 3: I think that's very very important. Also, there's other things 394 00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 3: like acts of service and what's the ones we called 395 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:52,680 Speaker 3: you like? She likes quality time I like the touch 396 00:21:52,920 --> 00:22:00,440 Speaker 3: and acts of service, so very mindful of those things. Also, 397 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:04,240 Speaker 3: I think what's really important is that both couple get 398 00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:07,359 Speaker 3: both the man or the women or you know, the 399 00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:09,760 Speaker 3: two people in the relationship. They get on the path 400 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:13,119 Speaker 3: of self improvement, self care, taking care of themselves, trying 401 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:17,760 Speaker 3: to look good for your significant other, going to the gym, tanning. 402 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:27,439 Speaker 1: Laundry, GTL amazing. I love that you just got that in. 403 00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:30,440 Speaker 1: It's still alive. 404 00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yeah. My wife goes to blodies at least 405 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 3: three times a week and I usually go try to 406 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:41,360 Speaker 3: go to the gym five times a week. And we're 407 00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:42,760 Speaker 3: trying to look good for each other, you know what 408 00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:47,639 Speaker 3: I mean. We're trying to you know, eat healthy, work out, 409 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:53,800 Speaker 3: get good sleep, just being good humans. You know, that's awesome. 410 00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:57,920 Speaker 1: So we'll ask about the flip side as well. How 411 00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:01,440 Speaker 1: often do you fight and is there something you fight 412 00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 1: about most? 413 00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 3: We don't fight a lot. I feel like we're we're rare, 414 00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 3: rare breed. We don't fight much. If I put it 415 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:16,000 Speaker 3: on like a scale of like the whole year, it's 416 00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:19,399 Speaker 3: like we don't fight ninety five percent of the time, 417 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,720 Speaker 3: so and a whole year, it's very small there's like 418 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 3: one here, one there. I'm trying to think what we 419 00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:32,119 Speaker 3: fight about the most. I don't even know some you know, 420 00:23:32,160 --> 00:23:34,920 Speaker 3: we don't have big fights, so it's more so it's 421 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,120 Speaker 3: probably if you put down to it, it's probably comes 422 00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:44,679 Speaker 3: down to, you know, miscommunication sometimes probably, and then also 423 00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:47,919 Speaker 3: just humans have emotions, and those emotions can be tricky 424 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:50,240 Speaker 3: sometimes and you don't know, you know, what type of 425 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:55,159 Speaker 3: day your sweetheart is having, and you know, sometimes you 426 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:56,040 Speaker 3: gotta get context. 427 00:23:56,840 --> 00:24:00,560 Speaker 5: I think that any argument in our relationship has happened 428 00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:05,679 Speaker 5: is almost always a miscommunication where we're truly speaking different languages. 429 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:10,760 Speaker 5: I mean, get our guard down and explain early, like 430 00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:14,679 Speaker 5: what meant by whatever you were saying. Yeah, And it 431 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:18,480 Speaker 5: also only happens if, like we're really busy and we're. 432 00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:19,600 Speaker 4: Not making time for us. 433 00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:23,240 Speaker 5: I always recognized that, So it's always a sign that 434 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:25,960 Speaker 5: we need to slow down whatever we're doing and get 435 00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:27,840 Speaker 5: back into our routine for us. 436 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 2: Oh lord, lord, I am dying inside because this happened 437 00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:35,480 Speaker 2: to us today. You describe the exact thing we did. 438 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,320 Speaker 2: We were caught up busy in the midst of doing 439 00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:41,480 Speaker 2: something else. We're trying to communicate. She finally said, TJ. 440 00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:46,480 Speaker 2: We're talking about two different things. Like literally we're talking 441 00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:48,639 Speaker 2: about like just pump the brakes for a second. That 442 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:52,520 Speaker 2: is hilarious. All right, So when was the last time 443 00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:56,320 Speaker 2: next question here, either of you remembered you had to 444 00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:57,520 Speaker 2: say I'm sorry to the other. 445 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,479 Speaker 3: You know, I think it's important to say anytime. If 446 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:03,960 Speaker 3: if you said to me, give me some advice to 447 00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,639 Speaker 3: any couple, I would say to be the first to 448 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:08,800 Speaker 3: apologize in a fight, you know what I mean, At 449 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 3: the end of the day, it's really not that, it's 450 00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:15,040 Speaker 3: not really that worth it, you know. So I think 451 00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:18,040 Speaker 3: I think we both take turns, you know, because we 452 00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:21,359 Speaker 3: practice what we preach in our family, and we both 453 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:24,399 Speaker 3: take turns, Like she's gonna say I'm sorry, and then 454 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:26,720 Speaker 3: I'm gonna say, you know, I'm sorry. You know what 455 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:30,960 Speaker 3: I'm saying. It's really not that big of a deal. 456 00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:33,399 Speaker 3: You always revert back to, you know, we have this 457 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:37,240 Speaker 3: really special love and we have such history together, and 458 00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:38,879 Speaker 3: it's really not that big of a deal. So you 459 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 3: just got to take a step back, take a take 460 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:44,159 Speaker 3: a breathe, and realize, like what's happening. A lot of times, 461 00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:47,560 Speaker 3: like she just said, you're speaking different languages and it's okay. 462 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:48,800 Speaker 3: Sometimes you know it's. 463 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:51,919 Speaker 2: Okay, Lauren, you remember a time that you had to 464 00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:53,920 Speaker 2: say I'm sorry or a recent time, well, the last 465 00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:55,000 Speaker 2: time you had to say I'm sorry. 466 00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,200 Speaker 4: I think I often say I'm sorry. 467 00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:04,720 Speaker 5: I'm a mom of three small beats, so I'm often overstimulated, overwhelmed, 468 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:08,200 Speaker 5: you know, a lot of just crying with the babies 469 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,760 Speaker 5: all the time. So oftentimes, like I'll be like, you 470 00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,399 Speaker 5: know what, I'm sorry. I was distracted with them or 471 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:15,840 Speaker 5: in the moment with them, I couldn't give attention to 472 00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:17,919 Speaker 5: what we were talking about, what you were asking me. 473 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 4: So I feel like. 474 00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:21,879 Speaker 5: I'm often doing that, and I'm I'm happy to do 475 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:25,440 Speaker 5: that because I'm also raising these children and I want 476 00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,760 Speaker 5: them to see open lines of communication where you know, 477 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,520 Speaker 5: if you don't react the way that you planned or 478 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:33,919 Speaker 5: intended to, it's like you need to go back and 479 00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:35,320 Speaker 5: repair that relationship. 480 00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:36,760 Speaker 4: You don't just blaze over it. 481 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:37,680 Speaker 3: I agree. 482 00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:41,359 Speaker 1: Not as good advice, that's amazing good advice. You know 483 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,000 Speaker 1: how when we look back, I think the way we 484 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:47,240 Speaker 1: were raised, you know, it's parents had to be strong, right, 485 00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:51,000 Speaker 1: they're authoritarian, and apology or saying you were sorry was 486 00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:55,720 Speaker 1: weak or somehow seating that authority. But it's so interesting 487 00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:58,640 Speaker 1: when you actually have a parent apologizing. It teaches you 488 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:01,199 Speaker 1: that it's okay to apologize. It isn't weak, it's actually 489 00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:03,679 Speaker 1: really strong to do that. I love that. 490 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, we're definitely big on accountability in this family. You know, 491 00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:10,560 Speaker 3: if you're mad, if you're I guess wrong in some way, 492 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:13,119 Speaker 3: it's not a big deal. You know, we're human, you know, 493 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,240 Speaker 3: we're imperfect human, So it's okay to be like, hey, 494 00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:18,040 Speaker 3: I made a mistake, I'm sorry, I was tired, I 495 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:22,359 Speaker 3: was angry. You know, my emotions got the best of me. 496 00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:24,920 Speaker 3: Let's talk this out, you. 497 00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:29,000 Speaker 2: Know, all right, all right, next question here. People feel 498 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:31,199 Speaker 2: strongly about this one way or another. But do you 499 00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:33,480 Speaker 2: all go to bed angry? 500 00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:34,560 Speaker 1: No? 501 00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:38,240 Speaker 3: No, no, no, I would say rarely. I would say, 502 00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:41,720 Speaker 3: I don't like I do ninety seven percentile. 503 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,320 Speaker 2: No, yeah, but you make it a point to not 504 00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:45,320 Speaker 2: go to bed angry. 505 00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:47,320 Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, yes I. 506 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:48,960 Speaker 1: Do. 507 00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:55,560 Speaker 3: Percentiles because as a family and a couple, is very 508 00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:57,720 Speaker 3: rare that we fight, and if we do, that's why 509 00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,359 Speaker 3: I put the percentile on there, because it's like up 510 00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:05,639 Speaker 3: in the ninety something percentiles, that's awesome, But it does happen. 511 00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:07,440 Speaker 3: You know, it does happen. 512 00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:10,919 Speaker 1: Every now and then. Rare real off period isn't a 513 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:16,200 Speaker 1: bad thing. What do you each love most about the other? 514 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:17,639 Speaker 1: Whoever wants to go first. 515 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:22,920 Speaker 3: I love how my wife is. She is strong, she's assertive, 516 00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:27,840 Speaker 3: she's beautiful, and she's the rock to this family. She 517 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:31,199 Speaker 3: straightened me out. I mean god, I mean she's the 518 00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:35,359 Speaker 3: one that straightened the situation out. She saved my life. 519 00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:39,800 Speaker 3: So I'm I'm forever grateful that I have this beautiful 520 00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 3: woman by my side. 521 00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:43,040 Speaker 4: I would say. 522 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:50,600 Speaker 5: Mike's strength, his resilience to overcome anything and everything, which 523 00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:53,600 Speaker 5: I've always seen inside of him and it just took 524 00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:56,400 Speaker 5: him a little bit longer to find it on his own. 525 00:28:56,960 --> 00:29:00,600 Speaker 5: But really just how he's our sturdy leader of our family. 526 00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:04,680 Speaker 5: I never, under any circumstances that we've gone through in 527 00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,000 Speaker 5: the past or that we will go through in the future. 528 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:12,360 Speaker 5: I never worry about where we're going because he's our captain, 529 00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:14,880 Speaker 5: Like I always know that he is going to protect 530 00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:18,200 Speaker 5: us and he's going to make sure that we're solid 531 00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:19,600 Speaker 5: in any environment. 532 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:22,440 Speaker 2: I love this all right. Next question, here's a practical 533 00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,240 Speaker 2: one that every couple deals with how do you all 534 00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:29,360 Speaker 2: handle finances? Is all shared account family or are their 535 00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:30,280 Speaker 2: separate accounts? 536 00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 3: Oh? Wow, Well that's because I had some issues with 537 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,080 Speaker 3: finances early on in my career. I let my wife 538 00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:44,600 Speaker 3: handle everything. Okay, there is total there is total trust 539 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:50,040 Speaker 3: there with my wife. Everything is you know, fifty to fifty. 540 00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:54,200 Speaker 3: And another fun fact was I haven't stepped in a 541 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 3: bank in eleven years. I've not stepped in a bank 542 00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 3: because when I was going through my case, one of 543 00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:10,960 Speaker 3: the key uh, I guess what was it? The witnesses. 544 00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,320 Speaker 3: Uh was one of the only one. Yeah, one of 545 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,760 Speaker 3: the only witnesses they had against me was they said, 546 00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,240 Speaker 3: I came into the bank with a big bag of money, 547 00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:22,880 Speaker 3: and anything that's over ten thousand dollars you got to 548 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:25,360 Speaker 3: fill out a form. Now I got nervous because I 549 00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:27,800 Speaker 3: didn't know, and I think you were very high and 550 00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:29,800 Speaker 3: I probably was also very high, and I was nervous. 551 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:31,720 Speaker 3: I said, give me back my money and here's nine 552 00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:34,800 Speaker 3: nine hundred. I'll come back at another time, and they 553 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:37,320 Speaker 3: use that against me. So I don't step put in 554 00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:37,800 Speaker 3: the bank now. 555 00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:41,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, I mean that's a pretty good reason. That's yeah, 556 00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:42,520 Speaker 1: So I get it. 557 00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:46,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't. My wife handles all the finances. There's 558 00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:52,840 Speaker 3: total trust there. Everything is fifty to fifty and that's it. 559 00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:56,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's awesome. Okay, how about household chores, Like we're 560 00:30:56,240 --> 00:31:01,560 Speaker 1: talking who cooks, who cleans, who does the laundry? 561 00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:08,520 Speaker 3: Oh? Good, good question. I think that is cooking? Is 562 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:12,840 Speaker 3: my wife? Cleaning is like fifty to fifty because once 563 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,680 Speaker 3: I come home from work at five o'clock, from five 564 00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,680 Speaker 3: to seven, I clean and I help put the kids 565 00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:22,600 Speaker 3: to bed. Yeah so uh. And then seasonal duties and 566 00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:27,320 Speaker 3: things like that around the house the man does. So 567 00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:31,479 Speaker 3: I handle everything from you know, sprinklers to opening the 568 00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:37,000 Speaker 3: pool to the lawn, any additions to the home like 569 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:39,680 Speaker 3: they put they put up a fence recently, Just making 570 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 3: sure that I handle all those duties. And she pretty 571 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:48,480 Speaker 3: much handles the kids, the caretaking, the food, grocery shopping. 572 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:53,560 Speaker 3: And then I come in almost like a picture at 573 00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:58,080 Speaker 3: the end of the game, to help. I'm the closer. Yeah, 574 00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 3: and she my wife's like been with the kids all 575 00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:03,240 Speaker 3: day and she's tired. I'm in a five and I'm 576 00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:06,520 Speaker 3: the closure and I clean up and I put the 577 00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:10,760 Speaker 3: help put the kids to bed, and then clean the house. 578 00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:12,760 Speaker 3: To make sure it's ready for the next day. 579 00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 5: It's very collaborative and I'm very grateful because it took 580 00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,200 Speaker 5: you know, we have starting your family and growing. 581 00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:20,560 Speaker 4: You have to find your groove. 582 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:24,000 Speaker 5: So we're definitely in a very good routine now where 583 00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:27,320 Speaker 5: we both do our share because it's a lot maintaining 584 00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:28,320 Speaker 5: the household of five. 585 00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,720 Speaker 1: Yeap, Yes, the one thing you didn't mention. We're just 586 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:33,040 Speaker 1: curious about is laundry. 587 00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:38,360 Speaker 3: Laundry, Oh, laundry. She does the kid's laundry, the kids laundry. 588 00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:42,200 Speaker 3: She does the kid's laundry, and I get ours, uh 589 00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:49,240 Speaker 3: taking out to make it easier on my life, and 590 00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 3: I take that out so so to make it easier 591 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:56,040 Speaker 3: for mom. She handles the kids laundry, which is you 592 00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:59,520 Speaker 3: know is doable. But then I get my laundry in 593 00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,960 Speaker 3: her law and dry cleaning. I handled that and I 594 00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:05,320 Speaker 3: take it to wash and fold and I do thry clean. 595 00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:08,920 Speaker 1: We're laughing because this has been the stickler. 596 00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:14,239 Speaker 6: It's hilarious, Like this is the question were compatible of 597 00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:16,760 Speaker 6: all couples that all of them have started to like 598 00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:20,400 Speaker 6: turn on each other when it came to talking about laundry. 599 00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:22,320 Speaker 1: But Mike, I think you figured it out. 600 00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:29,640 Speaker 4: Yes, I'm telling you that is a very big it's amazing, amazing. 601 00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:32,720 Speaker 3: We started to do it because we had so many 602 00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:36,600 Speaker 3: babies so quickly. We have babies back to back to back. 603 00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:39,640 Speaker 3: So as not a present, but I wanted to take 604 00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:42,560 Speaker 3: certain a load off of my wife to make it 605 00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:46,040 Speaker 3: easier for her. And the laundry definitely piles up. So 606 00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:48,640 Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, fine, so we wash and fold and 607 00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:51,840 Speaker 3: I get ours dry cleaned, and be honest with Jude, 608 00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:53,440 Speaker 3: has been like my secret weapon. 609 00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:57,600 Speaker 2: It is it is that is really really cool. Again, 610 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,240 Speaker 2: I mentioned tease at the top, but this is the 611 00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:03,200 Speaker 2: one thing, laundry that has been the most interesting answer 612 00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,960 Speaker 2: we get from everybody. All right, next question here, how 613 00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:09,520 Speaker 2: much time do you all find you need, if any 614 00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,799 Speaker 2: apart just a little time, a little break from each 615 00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:14,040 Speaker 2: other over time. 616 00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:18,799 Speaker 3: It's over a period of time of of of a year, 617 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:22,960 Speaker 3: it's ninety eight percent. Probably we're never really apart. I mean, 618 00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:26,479 Speaker 3: I work a lot, but i'm away, but when I'm home. Yeah, 619 00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:27,840 Speaker 3: there's it's really not like that. 620 00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:31,200 Speaker 5: Yeah, we're one of those couples, which it doesn't work 621 00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:35,800 Speaker 5: for everybody, but we are each other's best friend first 622 00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:39,080 Speaker 5: and I think that's why we love spending that much 623 00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,400 Speaker 5: time together, because while we can be intimate and passionate 624 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,759 Speaker 5: and have that part of our relationship, we also are 625 00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:50,319 Speaker 5: truly interested in like our everything, like everything about each other. 626 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:52,839 Speaker 5: We're just kind of about each other's best friend. And 627 00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:55,879 Speaker 5: I really don't like time apart, like we miss each 628 00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:56,560 Speaker 5: other quickly. 629 00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:00,160 Speaker 3: But also it's important to note to note that, you know, 630 00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:03,759 Speaker 3: my wife, she goes to her pilates classes, she gets 631 00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:06,680 Speaker 3: her nails done, her hair done, you know, throughout the day, 632 00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,360 Speaker 3: and I'm pretty much, you know, also doing some of 633 00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:12,879 Speaker 3: those things as well. And then we come back to home, 634 00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:16,279 Speaker 3: you know, with our kids and our family, and I 635 00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:18,240 Speaker 3: don't know why we would be a part at that point, 636 00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:19,440 Speaker 3: but you know, some. 637 00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:24,000 Speaker 4: People do in space, but we are with each other 638 00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:25,480 Speaker 4: a lot, like Yeah. 639 00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:27,080 Speaker 3: I mean, listen, if I want to watch a movie 640 00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:28,960 Speaker 3: in the living room and she's in the family room, 641 00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:30,080 Speaker 3: I don't count that, you know. 642 00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:41,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, all right. 643 00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:44,240 Speaker 1: Have you guys ever gone to couples therapy? 644 00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:51,040 Speaker 5: No, actually, couples each done therapy like individually, but not couples. 645 00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:54,280 Speaker 3: Yeah. I've done various forms of therapy over the years, 646 00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:56,600 Speaker 3: but not couples. 647 00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:58,799 Speaker 2: You know, well, all right, next question here, have you 648 00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:03,520 Speaker 2: ever threatened to break up, leave, or even get divorced 649 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:05,240 Speaker 2: in the middle of a heated argument. 650 00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:10,880 Speaker 5: Oh no, that's good, that's wonderful. 651 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,520 Speaker 1: I love. That is amazing. You know. 652 00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:18,160 Speaker 3: That's like on the in the book of What You're Not. 653 00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:22,520 Speaker 3: You just can't go there. You just cannot ever go there. 654 00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:25,239 Speaker 3: And if you think you're going to go there, go 655 00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:30,279 Speaker 3: take a shower, go take a walk. If you say 656 00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:33,760 Speaker 3: something that you don't mean, sometimes some of those hurtful 657 00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:35,239 Speaker 3: words can come back to haunt you. 658 00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:38,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, successful couple seem to know the answer to that 659 00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:39,920 Speaker 2: question immediately. 660 00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:45,120 Speaker 1: Really really interesting. We'll switch it up and ask each 661 00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:48,520 Speaker 1: of you what's the sweetest thing the other has done 662 00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:48,840 Speaker 1: for you? 663 00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:54,359 Speaker 3: Well, my wife, I mean listen, she used to drive 664 00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:57,640 Speaker 3: three and a half hour to spem in prison. Okay, 665 00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:01,319 Speaker 3: so that's one way. So we're talking seven hours to 666 00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:07,759 Speaker 3: see me in prison on a weekly basis. I mean, 667 00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,319 Speaker 3: just her taking a chance on me was probably the 668 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:13,440 Speaker 3: sweetest thing that anyone can do, you know what I mean. 669 00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:16,520 Speaker 3: I was going through so much trouble, and I was 670 00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:19,880 Speaker 3: going through addiction and again this woman saved my life. 671 00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:24,360 Speaker 3: So you know, she's my true love, you know, so 672 00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:27,680 Speaker 3: she has my heart. So I think I listen, I 673 00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,920 Speaker 3: can't think of anything sweeter than that. I mean, you 674 00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:34,319 Speaker 3: used to drive three and a half hours each each way. 675 00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:39,560 Speaker 3: It's seven hours. That's crazy. Yeah, yeah, to visit your 676 00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:44,480 Speaker 3: felon of of a husband in for instance. 677 00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:49,960 Speaker 5: So I think that for me it changed. It has 678 00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:53,440 Speaker 5: changed over the years because so much has changed with us. 679 00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,759 Speaker 5: But I used to always like to reminisce on our 680 00:37:56,840 --> 00:38:00,640 Speaker 5: engagement because it was on Valentine's Day and it was 681 00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,759 Speaker 5: during a very chaotic period of our life, and he 682 00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:08,080 Speaker 5: just made sure to make all of my dreams come true. 683 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,880 Speaker 5: And he made note of all of these little things 684 00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:12,799 Speaker 5: that I had said over the time that we were 685 00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:16,240 Speaker 5: back together in those five years, and all the things 686 00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:20,279 Speaker 5: that I envisioned, and including down to our wedding, like 687 00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:24,680 Speaker 5: really making sure all of those things happened, and amidst 688 00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:27,000 Speaker 5: all the legal stuff and like the recovery stuff and 689 00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,359 Speaker 5: everything else that was already on his shoulders. For him 690 00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:32,480 Speaker 5: to make sure that these little things were made to 691 00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:36,840 Speaker 5: happen to make my dreams come true was very sweet. 692 00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:38,919 Speaker 5: And I think that he's kind of carried that over 693 00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:40,520 Speaker 5: into when we have our kids. 694 00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:42,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I do that on a daily basis. 695 00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:44,759 Speaker 4: I just, yeah, just cute little thing. 696 00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:48,400 Speaker 3: I text my wife every day at eleven eleven the 697 00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:51,839 Speaker 3: heart eleven and then eleven, and then I love you 698 00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:53,680 Speaker 3: every day at eleven eleven. 699 00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,520 Speaker 1: That's really sweet. 700 00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:58,960 Speaker 3: Way because I'm like, I don't know if that's superstitious 701 00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:02,959 Speaker 3: or what, but eleven eleven, and if it's eleven twelve, 702 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:05,719 Speaker 3: but it don't count, it's got to be eleven. 703 00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:09,120 Speaker 1: Eleven any time zone, it doesn't matter. 704 00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:14,080 Speaker 3: I yeah, I listen. I catch her usually eleven eleven. 705 00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:17,200 Speaker 3: I never thought about it if I was in Cali 706 00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:23,680 Speaker 3: and she was in But for the most part, it's 707 00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:24,200 Speaker 3: been working. 708 00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:24,560 Speaker 1: You know. 709 00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:28,840 Speaker 3: I do the eleven, then eleven, then another heart and 710 00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:30,200 Speaker 3: then I love you and I all try to make 711 00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:32,240 Speaker 3: it fit before it turns eleven twelve. 712 00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:33,759 Speaker 1: Really cute. 713 00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:36,080 Speaker 2: We had a good story going, are you. 714 00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:39,360 Speaker 1: Some times I was thinking, I went to like a 715 00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,600 Speaker 1: place like what happens when you travel and you. 716 00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:44,640 Speaker 3: Are and now I'm gonna have to I'm gonna have 717 00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:49,319 Speaker 3: to accommodate that. When I am in l A, I 718 00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:52,359 Speaker 3: have to be like, okay, eleven eleven is. 719 00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:55,920 Speaker 1: Eight eleven is what eight eight eleven? 720 00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:57,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, eight eleven. 721 00:39:57,120 --> 00:40:01,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's and above. 722 00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:04,799 Speaker 3: And beyond another time zone. You're like, all right, you're 723 00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,320 Speaker 3: doing calculations in your brain. All right, it's eight eleven. 724 00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:10,319 Speaker 3: Now I got a minute to get in. 725 00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:13,759 Speaker 2: All right, last few week got for you here. I 726 00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:17,160 Speaker 2: don't want to use the word warn, but if it applies, 727 00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:20,839 Speaker 2: let it. But what would you warn or make sure 728 00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:25,440 Speaker 2: you told another couple to consider before marriage? 729 00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:26,799 Speaker 1: Oh? 730 00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:32,440 Speaker 4: Wow, I'll start it. I would say your values on 731 00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:33,400 Speaker 4: raising children. 732 00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:34,760 Speaker 2: Wow. 733 00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:36,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you're so right. 734 00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:40,719 Speaker 5: You're so right children Because some people, I think you 735 00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:44,600 Speaker 5: might not always have that conversation and get married, and 736 00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:48,560 Speaker 5: then one person might think you know kids and no 737 00:40:48,719 --> 00:40:49,440 Speaker 5: kids or whatever. 738 00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:49,839 Speaker 4: You know. 739 00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:52,960 Speaker 5: So I think, though, I think it's always important to 740 00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,480 Speaker 5: have a conversation about family and values. 741 00:40:57,280 --> 00:41:00,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, what was the question? Sure? 742 00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:05,439 Speaker 1: What would you what would you tell a couple who 743 00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:07,759 Speaker 1: was considering marriage, What would you warn them about or 744 00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:10,440 Speaker 1: ask them to consider before actually getting married? 745 00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:13,399 Speaker 3: I think, I mean, I think I do this a lot. 746 00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:15,919 Speaker 3: I always say, like, communication is key, be the first 747 00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:22,720 Speaker 3: one to apologize. And I also say, have the couple 748 00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:27,600 Speaker 3: get on the path of self improvement, whether mentally, physically, spiritually, 749 00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:31,560 Speaker 3: personally or professionally. You just have their own goals and 750 00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:34,640 Speaker 3: then they come together together usual I say that, yep. 751 00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:38,000 Speaker 1: I love that. So everyone always focuses on, oh, you're 752 00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:42,160 Speaker 1: in the honeymoon phase. How long did your honeymoon phase last? 753 00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:47,399 Speaker 1: And what would you just describe the phase you're in now? Oh? 754 00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:54,480 Speaker 3: Wow? You know what I'm going to say that that 755 00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:57,239 Speaker 3: I don't really put us in like a box, you 756 00:41:57,280 --> 00:41:59,600 Speaker 3: know what I mean? As in, you just described like 757 00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:04,680 Speaker 3: a hunt emon phase. I mean, you know, so I 758 00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:07,760 Speaker 3: wouldn't even like put us in a in a box 759 00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:11,439 Speaker 3: right there, as as it relates to who's to say 760 00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:13,320 Speaker 3: we're not always in the honeymoon phase? You know what 761 00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:14,880 Speaker 3: I'm saying? You just don't. I don't know, you know. 762 00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:18,000 Speaker 3: I mean, I'm we're always happy, and I feel like 763 00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,880 Speaker 3: we've been through so much that we are so grateful 764 00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:25,640 Speaker 3: for each other that like again, we are just so 765 00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:29,920 Speaker 3: happy that we have each other, our beautiful kids, the 766 00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:33,920 Speaker 3: life that we worked so hard for. So every single 767 00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:37,480 Speaker 3: day we are making positive decisions to build upon that 768 00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:42,479 Speaker 3: two for for us and our children. So it's almost like. 769 00:42:44,360 --> 00:42:47,720 Speaker 5: Like a solid box, Like it's like the honeymoon phase 770 00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,520 Speaker 5: turns into the solid box and it's both together. 771 00:42:50,719 --> 00:42:53,279 Speaker 4: It's almost like it should be like the old I feel. 772 00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:55,279 Speaker 3: I feel like it's almost like we're working on our 773 00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:58,279 Speaker 3: happily every after type of box. What I mean, like 774 00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:02,880 Speaker 3: every single day we're bold, like I'm devoted to my 775 00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:06,680 Speaker 3: wife and my children, and every decision I make is 776 00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:10,759 Speaker 3: for the betterment of us and our family. And the 777 00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:14,880 Speaker 3: same applies to my wife in every area of life. 778 00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:17,040 Speaker 3: So you know, and there's so many areas of life 779 00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:20,880 Speaker 3: you know that you can and there's mentally, physically, spiritually, personally, 780 00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:25,760 Speaker 3: professionally negativity we kick aside. So I think the box 781 00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:28,840 Speaker 3: that we're working on is the happily ever after box. 782 00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:33,080 Speaker 1: You're in your happily ever after face. That's really cool. Yeah. 783 00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:33,839 Speaker 3: Yeah. 784 00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:37,080 Speaker 2: The last one here is obvious. It's to be expected. 785 00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:39,399 Speaker 2: It's a little cliche, but it has to be asked 786 00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:45,080 Speaker 2: because anytime you come across a successful couple, everybody that's 787 00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:48,840 Speaker 2: in a relationship ask the couple this question, what's the key? 788 00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:55,200 Speaker 2: What's the secret to relationship success? So if somebody came up, yes, 789 00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:58,960 Speaker 2: you all don't have twenty thirty, forty fifty years of 790 00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:00,680 Speaker 2: a marriage, but you got an if that you all 791 00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:03,600 Speaker 2: could steal, what would you tell somebody who adds, hey man, 792 00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:07,120 Speaker 2: what is the key the secret marriage success? 793 00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:10,120 Speaker 4: I would say you have to remember mindful. 794 00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:12,520 Speaker 5: You have to be mindful, yes, but I think you 795 00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:15,640 Speaker 5: have to always remember that you're on the same team, 796 00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:22,440 Speaker 5: and that there's no stronger person rooting for you in 797 00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:26,120 Speaker 5: life and in your relationship than the person next to you. 798 00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:29,400 Speaker 3: I think the most important two things I'm going to 799 00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:32,960 Speaker 3: try to simplify it is being grateful. Being grateful attracts 800 00:44:32,960 --> 00:44:37,759 Speaker 3: more abundance, and being mindful. You know, you could throw 801 00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:39,879 Speaker 3: being loving in there as well, but those three. 802 00:44:40,120 --> 00:44:46,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so good, and we are writing everyone's advice 803 00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:50,480 Speaker 1: down because it's so true and you all have lived it. 804 00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:53,160 Speaker 1: You have walked the walk. You're not just talking to talk, 805 00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:55,680 Speaker 1: so we really appreciate it. Thank you. It takes a 806 00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:59,720 Speaker 1: lot to be open and vulnerable about all the intimate 807 00:44:59,719 --> 00:45:01,640 Speaker 1: detail tells about your day to day life, the things 808 00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:05,359 Speaker 1: that people don't necessarily see on cameras. So thank you 809 00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:08,480 Speaker 1: both for sharing that with us. We really appreciate it. 810 00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:10,160 Speaker 1: We love getting to know you better. 811 00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:15,399 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I think that everything in life takes work, 812 00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:18,360 Speaker 3: you know, and and relationships do as well. Successful relationships 813 00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:21,719 Speaker 3: take work, but I think a good phrase is the 814 00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:24,839 Speaker 3: grass is only green or wherever you water it, and 815 00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:25,600 Speaker 3: that lies. 816 00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:30,960 Speaker 2: Really. Thank you all so much, Mike Lauren. We will 817 00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:33,960 Speaker 2: see you all plenty down a row and congrats on everything, 818 00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:36,080 Speaker 2: all right, yes, thank you guys. 819 00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:44,640 Speaker 3: Have a great day.