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Speaker 1: First date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Avery is on the phone today for our first day

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Writers.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's Ghostinger and maybe get

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Speaker 2: her another date. But first, Avery, how long has it

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Speaker 2: been since you heard from Writer?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's been about oh gosh, it's it's been

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Speaker 3: about two weeks since I've heard from him. We went

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Speaker 3: on this really lovely date where we went biking, like

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Speaker 3: actual biking, and we went to the park and on

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Speaker 3: the trail, and I was trying to play it cool.

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Speaker 3: I was having a good time, but I got to

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Speaker 3: be honest. You know, I haven't ridden a bike like

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Speaker 3: eighth grade pe, So I definitely fell a whit.

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Speaker 4: Are you okay?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it may have even been three times, but uh,

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Speaker 3: but Writer was so sweet. He was a total gentleman.

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Speaker 3: He helped me up, and he laughed with me. He

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Speaker 3: laughed with me, not at me, and so I thought

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Speaker 3: he was super charming and that it was going well.

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Speaker 3: We stopped for smoothies afterwards, we sat by the lake.

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Speaker 3: We talked for like over an hour. It was so sweet.

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Speaker 3: It was it was just one of those like unexpected

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Speaker 3: connection moments. And he was so chill, like writer is

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Speaker 3: annoyingly attractive and confident and not hockey at the same time.

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Speaker 3: And when I spoke, he just he listened. I like,

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Speaker 3: he actually listened to me talk about everything, including my

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Speaker 3: my really weird little pottery side hustle that I have.

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Speaker 1: I love how excited we get when somebody listen. You know,

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Speaker 1: we hear that a lot on these first date follow ups,

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Speaker 1: and I mean, I get it, but it's just it's

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Speaker 1: the simple things really that get us hooked.

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Speaker 3: I know, I agree, and he he just made me

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Speaker 3: feel really cool and safe and like I wasn't being

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Speaker 3: judged even when I crashed into that side.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, I haven't had.

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Speaker 3: That kind of connection in a very long time. So

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Speaker 3: it felt standing spontaneous and easy and like not forced.

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Speaker 3: And I'm not trying to plan a wedding or anything

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Speaker 3: or rust anything, but I just want to know what happened.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, do you know what could have happened?

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Speaker 1: I mean, obviously it wasn't your falling because he stick

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Speaker 1: was stuck around for a while after that, it's like,

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Speaker 1: we don't know that, but would be terrible. Did anything

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Speaker 1: else happen?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, guys, I don't know, but I the one thing

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Speaker 3: I could think of is that there was this one

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Speaker 3: moment where I panicked when a squirrel ran across the path.

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Speaker 3: And I don't I don't mean like a little panic,

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Speaker 3: I full blown, free to the f out. It was

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Speaker 3: not my best moment, but I tried to play it off,

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Speaker 3: and so I just screamed at the squirrel and was like,

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Speaker 3: not today, little lemon. Oh he laughed. He almost like

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Speaker 3: he laughed. He seemed like he wasn't weirded out, you know,

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Speaker 3: almost seemed like he was taking the joke with me.

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Speaker 3: And you know, he didn't seem like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 3: this is a full grown adult woman having a meltdown

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Speaker 5: So like it was a real meltdown, just.

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Speaker 3: Like, ah, yeah, I was not expecting that squirrel.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you think maybe that's what might be the

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Speaker 2: reason that you are getting ghosted, is just the reaction

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Speaker 3: I that's got to be it, because nothing else happened,

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Speaker 3: everything else than so beautifully I can't think it's anything

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Speaker 5: It all Well, okay, Mike, also we'll see if that

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Speaker 5: is the reason. Well, play a song, come back, and then.

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Speaker 2: Call him and see if this tell us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you, and maybe get you another day if you

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Speaker 2: still want one.

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Speaker 5: Okay, okay, person, all right, because your first day follow

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Speaker 5: up next.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first day follow up.

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Speaker 2: Avery is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by

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Speaker 2: a dude named Writer. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and maybe get her a second date if she still

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Speaker 2: wants one.

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Speaker 5: But first, Avery, remind us about your date real quick

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Speaker 5: before we call him.

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Speaker 3: Sure. So, about two weeks ago, I had the most

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Speaker 3: wonderful date with a guy named Writer. We went biking

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Speaker 3: on a bike trail and it was so much fun.

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Speaker 3: But it was my first time biking in many, many years,

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Speaker 3: so I did follow a few times, but he helps

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Speaker 3: me back up, and other than that, we got smoothied

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Speaker 3: and we had a really great time with a lot

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Speaker 3: The Only thing that I can think of that might

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Speaker 3: have scared him off. Is when we were viking, a

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Speaker 3: chilly little squirrel ran out in front of me, and

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Speaker 3: I freaked out because I don't like Rodent. But that's

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Speaker 3: all I can think of. I texted him the next

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Speaker 3: day and I thanked him for a great date, and

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Speaker 3: I sent him a picture of me smiling with a

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Speaker 3: smoothie a few days later to be like, oh ho,

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Speaker 3: look we did smoothies. But I have gotten nothing back

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Speaker 3: from him, so I'd love to see what he says.

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Speaker 5: All right, are you ready for us to call on?

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Speaker 4: Let's do it.

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Speaker 5: Okay, here we go. Hello, man, I speak to writer please?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, this is he?

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Speaker 5: Hey writer, how are you? This is the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 5: It's a radio show. Hi writer, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Oh hello, what's up?

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Speaker 5: How are you have your end? My name is Jebel.

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Speaker 5: By the way, have you ever listened to the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 4: I think I have heard the show before.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well we're calling you today because one of

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Speaker 2: our listeners actually emailed us about you.

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Speaker 4: Oh wait is this about Avery?

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Speaker 5: Oh you knew right away.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, we do a segment called the First Thing

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Speaker 2: follow Up on our show. Maybe you already knew that.

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Speaker 2: I guess where if you go somebody and they don't

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Speaker 2: know why, they can email us to get you on

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Speaker 2: the phone and ask. So, yes, it is about Avery.

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Speaker 2: Oh do you have a second to tell us why

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Speaker 2: you're a ghostinger?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? I mean I figured this might come up eventually.

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Speaker 5: Oh really what happened?

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Speaker 4: I mean she's beautiful, like drop dead gorgeous, But she

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Speaker 4: said me this photo and it was her and like

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Speaker 4: unicorn underwear holding a smoothie and doing this weak face.

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Speaker 4: I just don't I don't know it was. It was

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Speaker 4: really bizarre. I mean I opened it during lunch ship

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Speaker 4: work and I almost choked on my tortilla chips.

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Speaker 5: So you didn't like it? You really painted the picture

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Speaker 5: rider like she was trying to me.

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Speaker 4: It was like a six year old trying to be sexy,

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Speaker 4: That's what it's like. It was creepy, Yeah, a little

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Speaker 5: I don't know say that with getting a picture like

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Speaker 5: that never actually was it Was it the unicorns that

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Speaker 5: made it that way, or was it the whole thing?

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Speaker 4: It was the whole thing, But yeah, the unicorns really

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, so that's the reason your ghostinger is

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Speaker 2: she creeps you out with trying to send you a

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Speaker 2: sexy picture.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and there was some other stuff too. It's like,

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Speaker 4: so she called her bed the snugglehead orders.

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Speaker 5: You know, like that. That's kind of cute.

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Speaker 4: It's like elementary school. I mean she's also like sniffing

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Speaker 4: swipping her smoothie and being like, hmmm, you mean sippy?

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Speaker 4: I love it, you know.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, okay, writer, thank you for being honest with

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Speaker 2: us and tell us why you're ghostinger. Now, I'll let

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Speaker 2: you know that she's actually on the phone listing and

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Speaker 2: wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 5: Maybe a baby talking. I don't know, it's not a partners.

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Speaker 3: Wait, so you didn't like the unicors for real? Like

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Speaker 3: those are sexy?

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Speaker 1: Hey?

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Speaker 3: Avery, Hi, Oh my god, I'm sorry. I didn't realize

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Speaker 3: that being playful is like a deal breaker now.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it's not that you're being playful, it's just

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Speaker 4: like I don't know, I barely knew you, and all

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Speaker 4: of a sudden, I'm looking at you and like Lisa

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Speaker 4: frank Lingerie holding a smoothie. I mean you kind of

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Speaker 4: treated it like it was a mic drop moment or something.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. It was weird.

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Speaker 3: I was dropping a mic, a mic of joy and

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Speaker 3: I love and body positivity, and I mean, come on,

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Speaker 3: that could have been yours.

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Speaker 4: I mean, look, you are totally a vibe and you're

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Speaker 4: very beautiful. I just don't think I'm like your vibe.

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Speaker 4: You know, I live in the real world. You seem

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Speaker 4: to live in like a glitter dimension where like squirrels

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Speaker 4: call foam, like these meltdowns and smoothies have feelings. I

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Speaker 4: don't know, it's weird.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. Okay, well, I should have mentioned that

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Speaker 3: I have a spear of rodents and squirrels are basically rodents,

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Speaker 3: because I just I know, I was a little bit dramatic,

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Speaker 3: but they freaked me out. Okay, And I don't know

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Speaker 3: what you're talking about. Smoothie is definitely a feeling.

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Speaker 4: What does that mean?

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Speaker 3: Well, you clearly don't have feelings or have any understanding

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Speaker 5: What does that mean?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Well, he said earlier that like the squirrel calls.

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Speaker 3: Meltdowns, calls meltdowns, and smoothies don't have feelings, And I

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Speaker 4: I don't know, it's a little much for me. It

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Speaker 4: just feels like a really with like elementary school. Whoa writer?

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Speaker 3: What would you like for a woman to send to you?

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Speaker 3: You know, just a perfect portrait in business casual, like

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Speaker 3: fully covered.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, maybe like regular lingerie without like unicorns

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Speaker 4: and glitterate stuff. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Okay, well, I guess I'll just find somebody who doesn't

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Speaker 3: have emotional panic when they see sparkles.

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Speaker 5: What, well, writer, would you like another day with Avery?

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Speaker 5: Will pay for it?

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Speaker 4: No? No, I think I'm good. She's she's one of

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Speaker 4: a kind, but I think we live on different planets. Well,

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Speaker 4: that's totally fine.

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Speaker 3: You can have fun with a woman who likes to

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Speaker 3: role play like they're in business meetings or church or

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Speaker 3: court or something boring.

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Speaker 4: Like you look, you can tell the smoothie I said.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, Oh my gosh, Well you're the one who's gonna

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Speaker 3: be sorry when you're bored and you're wishing for unicorns,

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Speaker 3: or you're wishing for something fun and sparkly. Because your

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Speaker 3: next date is a little girl, that's totally Baige.

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Speaker 5: Laughing.

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Speaker 4: You will the first date follow out