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Speaker 1: My fiance left me for the one that got away.

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Speaker 1: Now he wants me back.

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Speaker 2: So in a way, now you're the what Yeah, who

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Speaker 1: It's a vicious cycle.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, wh whoa woo whoa.

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Speaker 3: My fiance and I had been together three years. He

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Speaker 3: was my first boyfriend. We laughed, cried, worried, and were

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Speaker 3: happy together. Our families had mixed really well. Our moms

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Speaker 3: became close friends really fast. He was my best friend,

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Speaker 3: my confidante, my support, my comfort. I looked at him

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Speaker 3: and could see our future together. God, I'm even crying

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Speaker 3: remembering one time we took a blanket, went outside and

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Speaker 3: looked up at the stars like in some book. I

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Speaker 3: never thought something like this could happen to me. The

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Speaker 3: man I loved could have never done anything like that

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Speaker 3: to me. By the way, this comes.

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Speaker 3: So it all started about two months ago. His ex

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Speaker 3: high school sweetheart together seven years, move back to our

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Speaker 3: country and wanted to catch up with Mark Big name.

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Speaker 3: He told me they broke up because they were unable

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Speaker 3: to sustain a long distance relationship. When she left to

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Speaker 3: pursue postgraduate studies. They hadn't been in contact for about

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Speaker 3: five years. He sent him an email. He showed it

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Speaker 3: to me and it was completely platonic. She was just

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Speaker 3: curious about what he had become. He asked me if

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Speaker 3: he could meet her, and I said yes. I trusted him,

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Speaker 3: so he went. But when he came back he was

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 4: Wow, I mean, hey, I agree, though, you gotta let

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Speaker 4: him go if he is there's trust there.

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Speaker 2: It's like you dated seven, you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. You should never go into like forbid people to

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Speaker 2: That's well.

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Speaker 4: If a guy walks into a cafe with his ex

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Speaker 4: do you know that's not a guy you want to

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Speaker 3: Exactly like he he should be able to walk into

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Speaker 3: dating her anymore.

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Speaker 4: What a previous partner? Yeah, emphasizing previous previous.

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Speaker 3: He's usually really chatty, but he was dismissive when I

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Speaker 1: I let it go.

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Speaker 3: However, the following weeks he was off and on his phone.

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Speaker 3: He'd pick random fights with me and didn't look me

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Speaker 3: in the eyes when we had spicy sleep, didn't whisper

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Speaker 3: loving words either. I'm really touchy and clinging. And in

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Speaker 3: our three years together he had never once recoiled or

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Speaker 3: refused my embrace, but he started doing it. I usually

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Speaker 3: hug him like a huala when he comes back home

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Speaker 3: only let me do it twice. It was such a

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Speaker 3: sudden change. I asked him what was wrong, but he

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Speaker 3: just said he wasn't feeling too good nowadays. Nowadays he

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Speaker 3: wasn't feeling too good nowadays.

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Speaker 4: Ever since I met up with my ex, I just

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Speaker 1: I feel like im so Yeah.

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Speaker 3: If someone told me I I'm not feeling two good nowadays,

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Speaker 1: What do you mean nowadays?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? Now nowadays it's like it's been how long? How

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Speaker 3: I know, because if you said I'm not feeling too good,

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Speaker 1: But nowadays it's like that could go on for a while.

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Speaker 3: On a Saturday, I went to visit his grandma, as

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Speaker 1: She taught me, and I was gone the whole day.

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Speaker 3: I feel really close to her because she adopted me

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Speaker 3: I found him packing his stuff. My whole world fell apart.

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Speaker 3: He was being so cowardly. He told me he was

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Speaker 3: sorry for making me suffer like this. But sometimes life

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Speaker 3: gets you a second chance, and you have to recognize

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Speaker 2: It is, a second chance brol has.

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Speaker 3: She even said that she's interested in him like she

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Speaker 4: You wouldn't blow up your whole life for a thought.

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Speaker 3: That I that he loved me, but when he met

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Speaker 1: His ex wanted him back. She realized what she'd lost

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Speaker 1: as time passed and they talked together, his old feelings

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Speaker 3: But also, I'm sorry, she asked him, presumably like or

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Speaker 4: I'm pretty they were probably already here exactly. That's what

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Speaker 3: A little bit interested if he kept telling me. I

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Speaker 3: He said he would still pay rent and part of

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Speaker 3: this mistake, that he was being fooled by an idealized

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Speaker 3: but he was like a wall. He didn't even look

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Speaker 3: apparently came to help him move. I wasn't really close

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Speaker 3: with that particular friend, but he did seem sorry for me.

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Speaker 3: Mark hugged me goodbye and left. This man blew up

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Speaker 4: Yeah, man, I have that's rough in the moment, that's

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Speaker 4: super rough. Ye, but you're honestly you're better off. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: because what if he pulls this exist exact same stunt

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Speaker 4: he's like, oh, sorry, babe, I know it's cowardly, but

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Speaker 4: you know, like if it could have been a lot worse.

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Speaker 3: Obviously, this still really really is like sucks. It is awful.

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Speaker 4: But but if he can blow it up like this,

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Speaker 4: he can blow it up in any other Yep, he's

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Speaker 1: I hadn't cried.

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Speaker 3: That hard in years. I slept in our spare room

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Speaker 3: not to feel the emptiness of our room. When his

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Speaker 2: The deepest pathetic.

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Speaker 3: The deepest pit of patheticness, and tried to call him,

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Speaker 3: but it went to voicemail. I have no idea where

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Speaker 3: ex after three weeks of talking again. How ridiculous. Sh

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Speaker 3: that's embarrassing for him.

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Speaker 1: To be clear, You've done nothing wrong, You're in the clear,

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I mean, look, sometimes feelings about exes get real

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Speaker 2: But like, you were ready to marry this woman?

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Speaker 4: Right? They were they engaged already or were they had

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Speaker 4: just they had they just been talking about it.

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Speaker 1: I think it's I think they were engaged. Oh, I

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Speaker 2: He blew up in an engagement for your high school sweetheart. Yep.

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Speaker 4: I mean, and look, I shout out to all the

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Speaker 2: They are they listened.

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Speaker 1: To the show sweetheart who you broke up with?

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Speaker 4: Right exactly?

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Speaker 1: And then we're in a relationship with someone else for

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Speaker 4: Can you even call them the high school sweetheart anymore? Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it's like it's over it ended. Yeah, now it's like

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Speaker 2: Heart. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I'm really lucky to have supportive friends and family. My

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Speaker 3: best friend even moved in for five days. My parents

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Speaker 1: I felt really lost at first. It was like grieving.

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Speaker 3: Usually when people break up the relationship was going south,

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Speaker 1: I still loved him.

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Speaker 3: I was still planning the wedding and working on my

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Speaker 1: It was all gone in a day.

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Speaker 3: I wished I had been smarter and refused that he

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Speaker 1: But again, I'm I mean, you can't.

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Speaker 3: Say no that would have messed up another area, you know,

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Speaker 4: I think that there there can be like a conversation

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Speaker 4: and if you do come to the decision, it's like, well, no,

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Speaker 4: I don't want you to reconnect with your ex that

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Speaker 4: like she doesn't seem appropriate. If you can have that

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Speaker 4: I really do want to meet this person. Now you're

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Speaker 4: kind of at a crossroads exactly. You either have to

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Speaker 4: like be like, well that's my deal breaker.

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Speaker 3: His family was dumbfounded. I still went to see his

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Speaker 3: he would come crawling back to me.

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Speaker 1: She was the first person who managed to make me laugh.

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Speaker 1: Nice his mom, My mom.

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Speaker 3: And I started making calls to cancel all reservations. Luck

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Speaker 3: about three weeks. Then his family was furious with him,

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Speaker 3: He apologized for leaving me like this, said he made

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Speaker 3: I was running after a perfect relationship that had never existed.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't know me or love me like you. She

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, No, I don't. I do think that you should

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And but I'm not even saying like they don't

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Speaker 1: Can we meet another day.

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Speaker 3: I know I'd up real bad and hurt you deeply,

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Speaker 3: Needless to say, it just angered me more. How dare

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Speaker 3: She had hoped I would find the strength to forgive him,

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Speaker 1: Well, maybe you guys coulda hung out.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, you should have just chilled out, I.

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Speaker 3: On Sunday evening, I had a visitor. I never have

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Speaker 3: I know I can't run away forever, but I need

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Speaker 3: more time, and you will always have more your time

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Speaker 3: with us. To listen to full episodes with stories just

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Speaker 1: Podcasts, or iHeartRadio and search of Bookey story Time.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna need more time.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there's almost hours worth of content to listen to,

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm not dubious about it.

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Speaker 2: I think it's a dubious amount of.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, wow, there's no way they could possibly

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Speaker 4: What would indubiously mean? Is that the opposite of dubious dubious?

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Speaker 4: That would that be undubious? Anyway, this conversation is dubious.

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Speaker 2: Let's what.

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Speaker 4: I mean. Like, I don't think you have to wait

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Speaker 2: You are not getting back with me.

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Speaker 1: It's over gone from me.

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Speaker 3: So unfortunately, I don't think that you could call the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, or just did you put a note on the door.

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Speaker 4: I really think he should call his grandma and have

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Speaker 4: her be the one that tells him, like, hey, leave

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Speaker 2: You mess him up?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because I think Grammy is like Granny will be

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Speaker 4: able to digest It's like, dude, you messed up, and

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Speaker 4: we all told you you were being an idiot, and

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Speaker 4: then you did it and now you have to live

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Speaker 1: Literally, But there's a little bit left.

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Speaker 3: Is this worth calling the police over? I fear it

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Speaker 1: Our moms are really close, and really he's not dangerous.

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Speaker 3: I think he hasn't contacted me enough for it to

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Speaker 3: or do I.

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Speaker 1: Wait it out? Also, why the heck is he bringing art?

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Speaker 3: I'm curious, but I want to stand by my decision

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Speaker 4: two door setup where it's like you have the inner

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00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:14,080
Speaker 4: door and the outer door.

444
00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:17,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, just to open the door and be like, I

445
00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:21,919
Speaker 2: am done, go away. You can have him or not.

446
00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:24,360
Speaker 2: I don't care. Leave me alone.

447
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,600
Speaker 4: You come back again, I'm gonna start figuring out how

448
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 4: to get you charged for harassment. Yeah all right, Yeah,

449
00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 4: And then it's like, oh, the family, the family dynamic

450
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:37,480
Speaker 4: is getting messed up because of this guy. Desperately coming

451
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,640
Speaker 4: around trying to convince you to take him back. Yeah,

452
00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:43,240
Speaker 4: that's not you, it's him. He's cause on his own trouble.

453
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:43,600
Speaker 2: Yeah.

454
00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:47,440
Speaker 1: Ah man, Yeah no, I think that you can.

455
00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:49,879
Speaker 3: I think to a certain extent, you might have to

456
00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:51,679
Speaker 3: face him a little bit just to tell him to

457
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:57,520
Speaker 3: stop coming and bothering you. But yeah, yeah, it seems

458
00:21:57,520 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 3: like you're pretty set on not taking him back, which

459
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 3: is good.

460
00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:01,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you should.

461
00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:03,639
Speaker 4: It should be just a quick thing, open the door, crack,

462
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:06,920
Speaker 4: go away. No, not talking to you today or tomorrow

463
00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:07,640
Speaker 4: or next week.

464
00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:08,639
Speaker 2: Do leave me alone.

465
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:13,120
Speaker 1: Yep, exactly. But that is the end of that story,

466
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 1: so we're gonna jump into the next one.

467
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:20,399
Speaker 4: Indeed, my boyfriend is way too close to another model.

468
00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 4: She's his phone wallpaper. Oohoo, that is maybe his girlfriend. Yeah,

469
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,760
Speaker 4: well are you at least maybe the lock screen?

470
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:30,240
Speaker 3: Yeah?

471
00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 1: Are you also a model?

472
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 2: I think so. Uh, let's find out.

473
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 4: So my boyfeet is a fashion photographer, meaning he works

474
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Speaker 4: alongside many beautiful women in his profession, stylists, hair and

475
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:49,000
Speaker 4: makeup artists, and of course models.

476
00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:50,680
Speaker 2: This is actually how we met.

477
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,600
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from user ex girl on

478
00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 4: the phone and if you want to submit your own stories.

479
00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:58,879
Speaker 4: Go to the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. So I

480
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:03,959
Speaker 4: modeled my way through college and he photographed me after

481
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 4: like one of his French girls, after which we became

482
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 4: friends and eventually started dating. We have been together now

483
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:17,160
Speaker 4: for almost three years. I've since stopped modeling, but he

484
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:20,640
Speaker 4: is still a photographer. Never once in our relationship has

485
00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 4: he given me any reason to question his fidelity. With

486
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,840
Speaker 4: the exception of me, he has never dated or even

487
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:31,159
Speaker 4: befriended any of the models he has photographed. That is,

488
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 4: until Rachel came into the picture. Who's Rachel a model?

489
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:42,160
Speaker 4: Of course, I've met Rachel. She seems like a fun chick,

490
00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 4: the type of girl who draws a lot of positive

491
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 4: attention just by entering a room. She's beautiful, but her

492
00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 4: personality really shines through. She makes you feel like you're

493
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 4: her best friend when you're talking to her. A very

494
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:56,080
Speaker 4: cool person through and through.

495
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:57,200
Speaker 1: Nice.

496
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Speaker 4: That being said, I'm not the only one who feels

497
00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:04,480
Speaker 4: this way. My boyfriend also adores Rachel. The first time

498
00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,919
Speaker 4: he photographed her, he stayed late at the studio and

499
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:11,879
Speaker 4: discussed ideas for their next shoot for nearly three hours. OOO.

500
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 1: Nothing nothing, explicitly wrong.

501
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 4: Yet it's a pretty productive professional relationship.

502
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: I would hope.

503
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, three hours. I hope it stayed pretty on topic.

504
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 4: Hmm hmmm. He was actually late for a night out

505
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:39,160
Speaker 4: with me because of Ito, but okay, He's always had

506
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 4: terrible time management, so I didn't think anything of it.

507
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:46,920
Speaker 4: The lateness has now become a steady recurring factor. When

508
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:49,879
Speaker 4: they have shoots together. They hang out long after the

509
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:51,879
Speaker 4: stylists and makeup artists leave the studio.

510
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 2: They also text.

511
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:57,159
Speaker 4: A lot, and he's always smiling to himself and laughing

512
00:24:57,160 --> 00:25:00,600
Speaker 4: when he reads the messages she sends him. Ro rout

513
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:05,800
Speaker 4: Row is right right Row. At first he would show

514
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 4: them to me and try to include me in on

515
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:13,000
Speaker 4: all the fun without me asking, but he abruptly stopped

516
00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 4: doing that around two weeks ago. He tilts his phone

517
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:19,159
Speaker 4: away from me now when Rachel messages him.

518
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 1: Not great, so not great.

519
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:26,359
Speaker 4: I see two reasons that that could possibly happen.

520
00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 1: Right.

521
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:28,400
Speaker 2: One is clearly because it's like.

522
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 4: He's into Rachel and they're texting flirtitiously, stitiously. The other

523
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,840
Speaker 4: reason might be because he saw how negative you would

524
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 4: react to the messages he was showing you, and now

525
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:44,159
Speaker 4: he's like, well, I just want to make it. I

526
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 4: won't bring that up around the more likely one definitely

527
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 4: option one. Yeah, right, yeah, you don't tilt the phone

528
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:54,160
Speaker 4: and hide your phone unless you got something to hide,

529
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:56,680
Speaker 4: something to be ashamed about.

530
00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:56,919
Speaker 1: Right.

531
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Speaker 3: So Also there's like a difference between show like for

532
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:05,439
Speaker 3: your second option, there's a difference between showing all of

533
00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 3: the texts and not showing them and then also like

534
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 3: tilting the fun way, you know, like he could have

535
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:14,880
Speaker 3: just been like, oh she doesn't like when I show

536
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 3: her all these texts, I'm just not going to show it.

537
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 1: But now he's like actively hiding them.

538
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:22,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, oh suspicious, Oh.

539
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, but oh and she's like, what are you? Don't

540
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:28,200
Speaker 4: worry about it, don't.

541
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:29,679
Speaker 1: He's like, I'm not touching anyone.

542
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:32,680
Speaker 3: I could see in your your sunglasses that you're texting Rachel.

543
00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:35,119
Speaker 4: It looks like that, but it's clashed the clans. Babe,

544
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:39,159
Speaker 4: back to the story. I'm not the jealous type, but

545
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:41,520
Speaker 4: if my boyfriend had a history of doing this with

546
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 4: other models, i'd let it slot. The fact that he

547
00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 4: is only like this with Rachel and I guess me

548
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:52,040
Speaker 4: makes me wary of what might have transpired between them.

549
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 3: Oh, I was just gonna say, you should also take

550
00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:59,679
Speaker 3: into consideration how he treated you in the lead up

551
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:03,200
Speaker 3: to your relationship. Are there any like similarities? Because if

552
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 3: you guys said that, you know, you started photographing you,

553
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 3: you became friends, and then you started dating. So are

554
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,680
Speaker 3: you seeing a similar timeline in how your boyfriend and

555
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 3: Rachel intercut?

556
00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 4: What is the OPE and Rachel boyfriend interaction venn diagram?

557
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: What I like right now?

558
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 2: Yep?

559
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 4: How much crossover do we have? Rachel herself has stopped

560
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:28,359
Speaker 4: talking to me. We used to communicate and have an

561
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:32,159
Speaker 4: easy casual friendship the Instagram and Snapchat, but she pretty

562
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 4: much ignores me.

563
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 2: Now is it guilty conscience? I don't know.

564
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:41,400
Speaker 4: The real cherry on top is my boyfriend now has

565
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:44,479
Speaker 4: a photo of Rachel as the wallpaper on his phone.

566
00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 4: He's apparently proud of the concept and the editing and

567
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 4: claims it has nothing to do with Rachel herself.

568
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:55,359
Speaker 2: Which is totally believable, but doesn't sit right with me now.

569
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 2: What it is believable in a way.

570
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:04,640
Speaker 4: I know for potographers who have pictures of people, pictures

571
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 4: they've taken.

572
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:08,399
Speaker 2: In this context.

573
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 1: There on their homes.

574
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 2: Well, yeah.

575
00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 4: Well, it's like you know people who take like headshot

576
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,199
Speaker 4: photos and they're like, this is like the best, Like

577
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 4: I just the best one I've taken. Are they just

578
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 4: like you know people? But no, it's well, like Riley

579
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 4: has this for Angie. It's like he has a bunch

580
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 4: of no, no, no, I'm just listening. It's a bunch

581
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 4: of different pictures of Angie.

582
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: See.

583
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 4: So it's like, yes, I've seen photographers who like have

584
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:32,600
Speaker 4: a bunch of different pictures where they're like, these are

585
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 4: my best my best work. However, given the context of

586
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 4: the story, it is very unbelievable. Yeah, that it's just

587
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 4: happens to be Rachel. No, the girl you're low key

588
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 4: obsessed with, No, not even low key yeah key obsessed with.

589
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 3: He's pulling on me in college. It's like everything's just

590
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 3: a little bit in love with Rachel.

591
00:28:57,000 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 4: I told him that the Rachel photo wasn't sitting with me,

592
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 4: and he told me I was being irrational. Rachel is single,

593
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 4: by the way, She and her boyfriend broke up around

594
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 4: three weeks ago.

595
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 1: Which is when he started texting her and not showing

596
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 1: you the texts.

597
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 4: So you be the judge of that. Yeah, I think

598
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 4: we all can judge exactly what's going on here.

599
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 1: The timeline ain't at it up.

600
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 2: The logical jump is very very small.

601
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 3: It's very small. It's less of a jump in more

602
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 3: of a hop.

603
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:32,440
Speaker 4: I really don't want to fall into the jealous girlfriend trope,

604
00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 4: but what else am I to think? I don't want

605
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 4: to make crazy demands and accuse my boyfriend of cheating

606
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,719
Speaker 4: on me, even emotionally. But he really does seem to

607
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 4: be fond of this girl in a way that really

608
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 4: hurts me. He has other female friends and he doesn't

609
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 4: act that way with them.

610
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 1: So she's not in love with them exactly.

611
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 2: We all know what's I think, we know, we all know.

612
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 1: All we all know what's happening here.

613
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 4: He's capable of being friendly with a girl without flirting

614
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 4: or actings bitious, but with Rachel, it's different. He has

615
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:06,480
Speaker 4: slowly become very attached to her, and I feel like

616
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 4: I'm losing him. I have expressed this to him a

617
00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 4: couple of times, but he always tells me I have

618
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:13,280
Speaker 4: nothing to worry about and that he and Rachel are

619
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 4: just kindred. When it comes to photography, the long nights

620
00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 4: and constant texting and phone wall paper mean nothing. Oh,

621
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 4: by the way, she's practically unclothed in the photo and

622
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 4: it wasn't taken for any sort of publication, just for fun.

623
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 4: Am I being irrational? Unreasonable? How would you feel in

624
00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 4: this situation? And what would you do? And there's a

625
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 4: mini update. Oh, he and I are meeting for lunch

626
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 4: in an hour. Extra mini update, he confessed.

627
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:44,720
Speaker 1: Oh, there's the thing that none of us.

628
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 2: We surprised by. Eh, I'm actually kind of surprised you confessed.

629
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 4: It was reading to me like a guy who just

630
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 4: was desperate to get her to break up with him,

631
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:56,440
Speaker 4: Like we've read stories like that.

632
00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 2: I just don't no.

633
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 1: Surprisingly, he had the wherewithal to tell her.

634
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 4: I guess hey, it all came. He couldn't keep the

635
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 4: facade up any longer. Let's get into the update. We

636
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 4: all know exactly what's happening. Let's get into it. I'd

637
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 4: like to address a few things. My boyfriend, my ex boyfriend,

638
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 4: has never taken a noodle or even partially noodle photo

639
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 4: of me. Although I modeled in high school and university,

640
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 4: my primary focus has always been stage acting.

641
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 2: He took my head shots. That's how we met.

642
00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 4: Not that it really changes anything, but It's just a

643
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 4: bit of insight. When we were younger, and when that

644
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 4: relationship was new, I would accompany him to his shoots

645
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 4: all the time. But my own career is very time

646
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 4: consuming nowadays. I know of multiple model photographer relationships where

647
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 4: they accompany each other to every shoot, and I don't

648
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 4: have anything against doing that, but I personally would rather

649
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 4: just trust that my partner is on their best behavior. Obviously,

650
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 4: what happened here kind of squashes that, but I do

651
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 4: stand by it. If I have to be there in

652
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 4: order to make sure my partner's faithful, chances are they'll

653
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 4: find other ways to cheat big time.

654
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 1: Agree.

655
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:15,080
Speaker 2: Yes, they're just gonna get sneakier exactly.

656
00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 3: There's no I mean, it's it's not healthy or helpful

657
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 3: to try. And you know, make your relationship into like

658
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 3: a backpack kid, you know, right, like that kid. That

659
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 3: kid's gonna escape if he wants to.

660
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 2: A backpack kid. Yeah, you know, in what way.

661
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 1: Like if you keep a leash on your partner.

662
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:40,040
Speaker 4: Oh okay, yeah, I thought I was just thinking of

663
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:42,320
Speaker 4: the guys who used to run through the hallways with

664
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Speaker 4: like their arms out.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, sorry, different time of backy kid.

666
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 3: I'm talking about like a leash That was the incorrect term.

667
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: I was like leash child.

668
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 4: Anyway, I'm flattered by the offers, but no, I will

669
00:32:57,440 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 4: not be meeting anyone for drinks anywhere. Sorry for the

670
00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 4: blunt is just yeah, now here comes the good stuff,

671
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:07,920
Speaker 4: or I guess the bad stuff. I met him for

672
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 4: lunch Friday afternoon. We went to our favorite sushi joint

673
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 4: overlooking the ocean, and I ordered more than I could handle,

674
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 4: stuff in my face while trying to decide how to

675
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 4: broach the topic of Rachel, but most importantly, our relationship.

676
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 4: I went into a meeting with a righteous butt kicking

677
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 4: speech prepared, but I forgot every word of it almost

678
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 4: immediately after we sat down. I guess you could tell

679
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 4: there was something on my mind, because he asked me

680
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 4: if I was all right.

681
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 1: Dude, what do you what? I thought?

682
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 4: Oh?

683
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 1: Wait, is this maybe before the confession? Do we think?

684
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 2: Yeah?

685
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 1: I think this is potentially pre confession?

686
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 2: Is pre confessed?

687
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 4: Yeah?

688
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, okay, I'm ready now.

689
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 4: So he asked me if I was all right if

690
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 4: he had done anything to upset me. Snort, Yes, Ian,

691
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 4: you've upset me very much.

692
00:33:56,760 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 2: Actually know Ian. As soon as I gathered the confidence

693
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 2: to look him in the eyes.

694
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 4: I point blank asked him, what's going on between you

695
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 4: and Rachel. His mouth flew open, as if he were

696
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:14,040
Speaker 4: completely and utterly taken aback by the implication.

697
00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: Rachel he's like me and Rachel. And he's like, yeah, he's.

698
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:26,480
Speaker 3: Like me, me love with Rachel, Me, me, me staring

699
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:28,840
Speaker 3: into Rachel's beautiful eyes.

700
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 1: Me wanting to have three kids with Rachel. He's like,

701
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:38,840
Speaker 1: I didn't, I didn't say that, me wanting to marry Rachel.

702
00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:43,360
Speaker 4: I think you said all you need to say, Ian God,

703
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,280
Speaker 4: when I would love if.

704
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:46,879
Speaker 2: So.

705
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 4: His mouth flew open as if he were completely and

706
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 4: utterly taken aback by the implication. But I cut him

707
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:57,799
Speaker 4: off with do not bs me, you goof. I tried

708
00:34:57,840 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 4: my best not to let anger get the best of me.

709
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,360
Speaker 4: I really did. I wanted to stay cool, calm, and collected,

710
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 4: like so many women on this sub you know the

711
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:09,240
Speaker 4: ones those intense stories of cheating husbands where the wife

712
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 4: takes to our relationships, garners a ton of support and

713
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 4: then updates us later with a well constructed storybook post

714
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 4: detailing the evidence she has collected against him and the

715
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 4: meeting that she had with her uncle or sibling who

716
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 4: just so happens to be a divorce lawyer. Yeah, I'm

717
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 4: not a legend like that. I wish I were, but

718
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 4: I'm honestly just in over the emotional doormat. And I

719
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 4: knew going into this meeting that I was either going

720
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 4: to cry or gouge his eyes out with my mind

721
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:36,840
Speaker 4: because I had somewhere to be later, I took a

722
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:41,319
Speaker 4: hard left and got super super angry. He could see

723
00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:43,800
Speaker 4: it in me, the anger bubbling over. The people in

724
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 4: the restaurant were starting to stare at us too. In

725
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 4: order to save face, I threw money on the table

726
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:50,319
Speaker 4: with a tip and told him to meet me in

727
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:53,080
Speaker 4: the parking lot. If I had me blade on me,

728
00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 4: I can't say for certain I wouldn't have channeled my

729
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:56,879
Speaker 4: inner jet.

730
00:35:57,280 --> 00:35:59,760
Speaker 2: And beat his shark butt to the pavement.

731
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 1: Okay, a little West Side story.

732
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 2: Kidding, a hey, kidding, totally kidding. No one's getting yeah, yeah, yeah,

733
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 2: no one's getting.

734
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 1: Okay.

735
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 4: We met inside my car. He climbed in after me,

736
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 4: his head down as though he were ashamed or I

737
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 4: don't know, gaudy. I asked him how, and he explained

738
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:26,480
Speaker 4: everything to me. No preamble whatsoever. The moment he met Rachel,

739
00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 4: he felt some type of way towards no way. And

740
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:34,360
Speaker 4: this whole time he's been to you, the girl.

741
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:35,480
Speaker 2: You don't have to worry about it.

742
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,799
Speaker 1: He's like, no, no, you don't understand. It's totally put

743
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 1: on it. I wonder if that's why her boyfriend broke

744
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 1: up with.

745
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 4: Her, because of the thing that she's got going over

746
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:49,200
Speaker 4: the inn. Hmmm, well, birds of a feather flocked together.

747
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 4: He couldn't tell whether it was just a silly crush

748
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,439
Speaker 4: or something more, but he knew she felt it too.

749
00:36:55,640 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's so cute. Bars how cult.

750
00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 4: They kissed the first night they met.

751
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 1: Oh, he cheated on you? Wow, Okay, and then lie

752
00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:12,920
Speaker 1: to you about it. Cheat their cheat, their pumpkiny the

753
00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 1: whole time.

754
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 2: Okay, the night he nearly stood me up.

755
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 4: That that same night they had crazy, emotional, forbidden, spicy sleep.

756
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:24,719
Speaker 2: The night she and.

757
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 4: Her boyfriend called it quits, and they've been effin ever since.

758
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 1: Wow.

759
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 4: He mentioned that he always used a Wiener wrapper with her,

760
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:35,360
Speaker 4: but I don't care. I'm getting tested.

761
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 1: Yeah.

762
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:39,400
Speaker 4: Oh, and because so many people asked in the original post,

763
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 4: I figure I should mention Rachel was the one who

764
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:44,960
Speaker 4: was broken up with in her previous relationship. I don't

765
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 4: know why or how. I didn't ask, and I don't

766
00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 4: care to know. Funnily enough, Ian said he doesn't want

767
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 4: to be with Rachel. He wants to be with me.

768
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:57,759
Speaker 1: Oh, that's funny because you should have realized that, you know,

769
00:37:57,880 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 1: before you cheated on Opie.

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00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:03,279
Speaker 2: That's crazy because you've been with Rachel this whole time.

771
00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 3: It's funny because you like you were with op you know,

772
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 3: You're like, you don't understand.

773
00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:09,000
Speaker 2: I had to be with her.

774
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 3: To realize that I wanted to be with you. Yeah,

775
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 3: And I also couldn't tell either. You know, I couldn't

776
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,520
Speaker 3: tell you about that is that it I couldn't be

777
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 3: with you both at the same time.

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00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: Right.

779
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 5: It's a delicate game, you know what. It's basically the

780
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:27,120
Speaker 5: Game of Thrones. I've been playing, hmm, which is a

781
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:29,880
Speaker 5: really cool thing. You should watch it, and you should

782
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 5: then you'll understand watch Game of Thrones.

783
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 4: He said he doesn't want to be with Rachel, he

784
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:38,400
Speaker 4: wants to be with me, and he even provided text

785
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:41,359
Speaker 4: messages to show that he's the one who decided not

786
00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 4: to pursue anything with her on official grounds, except you

787
00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:50,280
Speaker 4: already did herfoon, you already did this with her.

788
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:54,040
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

789
00:38:55,280 --> 00:39:01,480
Speaker 3: To pursue anything on official brown rob instead of asking

790
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:03,879
Speaker 3: for a loan, Yeah, you.

791
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 4: Rob the bank, you go back to the bank, you go,

792
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:07,439
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna rob you guys again.

793
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:10,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, promise No, I'm gonna rob you guys. And also,

794
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:11,879
Speaker 2: can I get a loan?

795
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 4: Thanks, I've got a lot of assets now back and

796
00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:16,759
Speaker 4: leverage against it.

797
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:18,880
Speaker 1: Can I put my money like those are the assets

798
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:19,759
Speaker 1: you stole from us?

799
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:22,440
Speaker 4: And you go, well, I'm not doing that anymore, guys

800
00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 4: while we talk in circles. But I told him I

801
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 4: give zero f's about what he wants, and unless he

802
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 4: can go without his eyes, he should get the f

803
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:33,800
Speaker 4: out of my car and erase me from his mind

804
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 4: before I erase him, I literally said that.

805
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 1: Girl, yes, yes, please, okay.

806
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:45,720
Speaker 4: In any case, I went home later that day, posted

807
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:48,439
Speaker 4: an update for you guys on the original and had

808
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 4: a couple of drinky poos. My friends and family, and

809
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 4: most of Ian's friends and family have rallied around me

810
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:57,479
Speaker 4: in support. I guess he told his mother we broke

811
00:39:57,560 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 4: up and how it happened because she called me this

812
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:02,799
Speaker 4: morning and said she's disgusted with her son and that

813
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 4: if I need anything at all, she's always there for me.

814
00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 2: For real, you.

815
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 4: Guys, I'm going to miss his family. They are good people,

816
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 4: the best people. This is my first real adult breakup,

817
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 4: by the way, the type of breakup where you're required

818
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 4: not only to break up with your partner but with

819
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:20,319
Speaker 4: their family and friends as well. These people you've spent

820
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,279
Speaker 4: so much time getting to know and growing to love

821
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 4: are suddenly not in your life anymore. And it's kind

822
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 4: of daunting, really daunting and sad and infuriating all at

823
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:29,640
Speaker 4: the same time.

824
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:33,000
Speaker 2: So that's the conclusion to this story. That's what happened.

825
00:40:33,280 --> 00:40:35,280
Speaker 2: Thank you again to everyone.

826
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 4: And by the way, you'll be thanking yourself if you

827
00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 4: go listen to full episodes with stories like this on Spotify, iHeartRadio,

828
00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:48,280
Speaker 4: Apple podcasts wherever you listen to podcasts. Just search Okay,

829
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:52,040
Speaker 4: story time and you've got almost thirteen hundred hours where

830
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 4: the story's tell many hours, which is a lot of hours,

831
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 4: don't know if you're aware of that. It's plenty, plenty hours.

832
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 2: So we've got a little bit more story lift.

833
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:03,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're gonna be.

834
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:04,600
Speaker 2: Better in the long run.

835
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 4: It's hard, you know, it is hard, even a relationship

836
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:13,240
Speaker 4: where everything's become so intertwined. It's not easy.

837
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 3: No, never, But I mean, this man cheated on you

838
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:22,919
Speaker 3: and lied to you and only fest up when you

839
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 3: had to confront him about it after multiple times of

840
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:27,479
Speaker 3: being like, Hey, I don't like this is not making

841
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:28,120
Speaker 3: me comfortable.

842
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 1: I don't like how close you guys are. Yeah, so

843
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:33,879
Speaker 1: he is not the one for you at all.

844
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 3: And also I'm pissed at Rachel because it's I mean,

845
00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 3: he said that Rachel and her were kind of friends

846
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:40,720
Speaker 3: at the beginning of the story.

847
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, they were like, oh we get along. Yeah, another

848
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:45,600
Speaker 2: model friend of mine.

849
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, but from the beginning, Rachel's been you know, hook his.

850
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 4: Kissed your man immediately night one. Dang, But there's a

851
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:59,880
Speaker 4: little bit more note do the person who said violence

852
00:41:59,880 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 4: is never the answer and I should have never threatened

853
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:05,719
Speaker 4: my ex, you're right, You're absolutely right. But if you're

854
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 4: ever in a situation where you're lying, cheating ex refuses

855
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 4: to leave your car the first dozen times you ask,

856
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 4: I dare you not to lose your crap and say

857
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 4: things you don't mean just so he gets the f

858
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:17,040
Speaker 4: out and doesn't see you cry.

859
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:18,800
Speaker 2: Microscopic update.

860
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 4: So far, his mother, his teenaged step brother, and two

861
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:24,800
Speaker 4: male friends of his have reached out to me saying

862
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 4: how disgusted and shamed and embarrassed they are on his behalf,

863
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 4: on top of three mutual friends. It hasn't even been

864
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:35,760
Speaker 4: two days yet, guys, and that is the end of

865
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:39,240
Speaker 4: that story. Yeah, I think given the context of the situation,

866
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 4: a lot of those friends and family will be more

867
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:46,400
Speaker 4: apt to take your side than his.

868
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 1: Absolutely, he cheated on you.

869
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I wouldn't be too worried about like losing

870
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 4: your connections because really he's gonna probably lose them more

871
00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:56,919
Speaker 4: than you.

872
00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 1: Absolutely.

873
00:42:57,640 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 3: And also it seems like the one good thing he's

874
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 3: done is tell the truth to his friends and family.

875
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 4: At least, yeah, at least he fessed up there.

876
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 1: Yeah.

877
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:10,840
Speaker 4: I just can't imagine doing such a bold face lie.

878
00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 4: We're just right out of the gate. Really, it's like

879
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:16,439
Speaker 4: she's your phone wallpaper, and you're like, yeah, no, it's

880
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 4: just I like that shot.

881
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:22,319
Speaker 3: Just he' latly obvious that you're in love with this

882
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:25,319
Speaker 3: girl and cheating with her, and then just continue to

883
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 3: lie like not even like he didn't try to hide

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Speaker 3: it at all.

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Speaker 4: I don't even give him in love, dude, he's just

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Speaker 4: just infatuated.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I wouldn't even give him that.

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Speaker 3: But that is the end of that episode. So if

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