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Speaker 1: Anyway, Sorry, here's.

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Speaker 2: Do a blog like writing in our diaries exactly say,

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Speaker 2: I'm aloud.

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Speaker 3: Go ahead, deer blog. So I have a question for

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Speaker 3: the straight men. So I guess Fred and any and

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Speaker 2: So me.

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Speaker 3: And it was something that was ruminating in my mind,

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Speaker 3: and then you said something the other day that I

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Speaker 3: want to know why do straight men not want to

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Speaker 3: make new straight female friends?

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Speaker 1: Okay, what's the context?

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Speaker 4: So, and I think I'm stage.

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Speaker 1: And I can tell you why.

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Speaker 3: Okay, for sure, I'm excited to know because I've been

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Speaker 3: pondering this because my new thing, and I found like

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Speaker 3: a life hack, is taking a bottle of wine to

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Speaker 3: the dog park.

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Speaker 4: And so I sit outside. There's hell of dogs there.

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Speaker 3: Don't worry, I have one too, so I'm not like

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Speaker 3: creepy just sitting in the strange.

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Speaker 2: I guess if you just went to the dog park

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Speaker 2: without one, but you probably can.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but it's the cheapest bar in town. I bring

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Speaker 4: it in my little bag, a red Solo.

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Speaker 3: Cup, and I said, there, I play with dogs. I

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Speaker 3: have my little happy hour. My dog gets outside, what

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Speaker 3: YadA YadA. So the other night I went, and this

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Speaker 2: That sounds like an amazing night. A bunch of dogs,

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Speaker 2: a red solo, cupful of alcohol, and solitude. Yeah, no,

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Speaker 2: that's probably is. You've described the greatest Saturday night at

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Speaker 3: Listen. The weather was hitting. It was hoodie weather. I

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Speaker 3: went to Binnie's. I got some red wine. Like I

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Speaker 4: So I went to the park and.

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Speaker 3: Unfortunately on Saturday nights it's a little less crowded than

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Speaker 3: I get my spot, and usually at the dog park

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Speaker 2: Because you're kind of just standing there or sitting there,

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Speaker 4: It really is. Like we have chairs at ours.

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Speaker 3: And he was standing up playing with the dogs, but

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Speaker 3: talking and we were really like we were just kicking it.

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Speaker 4: We were both hanging out.

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Speaker 3: I asked him, you know, I'm like, shoot, I wish

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Speaker 3: And so we talked for a little while. We hung

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Speaker 3: the answer of well, how long did you have your dog?

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Speaker 3: And then I explained that she was my boyfriend's first

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Speaker 4: And got it out.

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Speaker 1: My dog and regardless of what happens is my dog.

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Speaker 4: I'm glad you're learning.

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Speaker 3: But the second that I brought up that I had

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Speaker 4: He literally put his dogs on his leashes and he

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Speaker 3: And I was just there with my you know what

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Speaker 4: Why don't you want new friends?

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Speaker 2: And I don't mean to suggest when I said that,

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Speaker 2: These people live in like places I've never been. They

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Speaker 2: I don't, but I'm like, oh, that person's attractive. And

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Speaker 2: I would have maybe cared if it was seventy eight

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Speaker 2: But man, this is what it is. I think that

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Speaker 2: I didn't look at her well, does the matter he

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Speaker 2: thought you were You're a good looking woman, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, appreciate it, But I really I've seen the best.

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Speaker 2: Of you, and i've seen the worst of you, and

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Speaker 2: it's still a very high high level.

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Speaker 1: In a very high level. That's a lie. No, No,

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Speaker 1: it's true, it's true. I do feel that way.

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Speaker 2: But I think as soon as he heard that you

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Speaker 2: typically it would be a pretty tough putt for a

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Speaker 1: The way it is.

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Speaker 2: Like I think if you went home and like if

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Speaker 2: see tomorrow and we'll be friends, you know, and we'll

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Speaker 2: see each other at the dog park, and you go

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Speaker 2: I met this guy at the dog park, gave him

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Speaker 2: my number. We're gonna be friends. If we're being very transparent,

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Speaker 2: I think there are very few men that would go, oh,

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Speaker 2: that's a great idea, Like that's amazing, Like you should

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Speaker 2: the pin and it should be that way, right. But

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Speaker 2: but I'm just saying we as manor are weak creatures

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Speaker 1: And I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I think if if roles were reversed and your boyfriends

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Speaker 2: That's not boundaried? Really, Like I don't. I don't know

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Speaker 1: Not going to be her best friend.

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Speaker 2: I don't really want to be her best friend, and

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Speaker 2: I don't want to. I'm not trying to get in

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And to be clear, like I have, I do

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Speaker 3: have boundaries, like I would not have exchanged numbers with him.

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Speaker 4: I am a social person like I.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend doesn't look I mean we were in Greece

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Speaker 3: Like I don't I don't do it because I have

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Speaker 4: I just it made me feel.

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Speaker 3: Sad like I was only I don't know, like we

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Speaker 4: Otherwise, like I.

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Speaker 2: Would take it that way. I would just say he

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Speaker 2: I don't know what you know, he could have. I

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Speaker 2: guess he could have certainly tried to be your friend.

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Speaker 2: Then he could have also been the douchebag guy that's like, well,

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Speaker 2: we don't care about him.

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Speaker 1: Do we, or like you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I mean you know what I'm talking about

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Speaker 2: as women who've been hit on my men and are

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Speaker 2: I've done it and I'm shamed, ashamed of myself. But

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I didn't think we were gonna go

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Speaker 3: get pedicures together. I just thought like there could have

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Speaker 4: It makes me not feel like I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Maybe maybe in some strange way, he was being respectful.

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Speaker 2: Maybe he felt like he didn't want you to feel

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to give this guy the benefit of the doubt.

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Speaker 2: But what I'm what it came down to is you

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Speaker 2: thought you were hot and then you were taking so

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Speaker 3: I just like to yep, I'm from the Midwest, like

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Speaker 3: I'm just trying to talk to everyone.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, that was it didn't feel great, So I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: That's okay.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it was personal.

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Speaker 4: I'll see you guys at the dog park.

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Speaker 1: I think he was envisioning a life together.

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Speaker 2: Someone texted friends saying I don't know enough about music

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Speaker 2: while being in radio Forever is funny. No, I don't

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Speaker 2: know about music theory. I know a lot about music.

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Speaker 1: I don't.

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Speaker 2: I'm not I don't, I'm not in the lab. You know,

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Speaker 2: I don't go to the studio with Armin van Buren

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Speaker 2: and Layer tracks. You know, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what it's all called.

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Speaker 4: You know, he doesn't know about glee Club.

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Speaker 1: It's like, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what it's like. I can't build a

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Speaker 2: song with my mouth, okay, like I can no, not okay.

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Speaker 4: I'm sure

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Speaker 1: I can make people saying