WEBVTT - Ep 248 - Goodbye 2020!

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<v Speaker 1>Hey hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey you last show of twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 1>I know we should have done like a recap or

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<v Speaker 1>something like that. We should.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll do a recap of twenty twenty for you right now.

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<v Speaker 2>You're ready.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, there you go, we're done. No, well, there were

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<v Speaker 2>some actually, there were a lot of highlights. Can you

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<v Speaker 2>believe a year ago, a year ago, we were we

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<v Speaker 2>had taken time off, a little bit of time off

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<v Speaker 2>when I had the baby. And then yeah, it feels

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<v Speaker 2>like one hundred million years ago that we brought BA

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<v Speaker 2>back in twenty twenty. And I'm sure we said all

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<v Speaker 2>kinds of hopeful things for the new year. I, like

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<v Speaker 2>everybody else I know, always said maybe maybe we should

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<v Speaker 2>end on that, like some hopeful things for twenty twenty one,

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<v Speaker 2>that what we're hoping for.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that'd be amazing to end on. But yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're right, I'm sure we were like and then

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<v Speaker 1>and that wait what pandemic quarantine? Yeah? Yes, and now

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<v Speaker 1>six hundred dollars in stimulus money. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Deja vu? Right, deja vu, except like a worst dajah

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<v Speaker 2>vu because it's not as sweet as the first deja poo. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>let's break it down, because it's just you know, I think, wait,

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<v Speaker 2>today is Monday. I had to look at my computer

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<v Speaker 2>to be like, what day of the week is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I believe the text of the bill that Congress

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<v Speaker 2>still hasn't totally voted on as of when we're when

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<v Speaker 2>we're recording on this, but they expect to be voting

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<v Speaker 2>on this new stimulus package, and there's all kinds of

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<v Speaker 2>goodies in it, not maybe as as good as they

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<v Speaker 2>could be, because honestly, first of all, the fact that

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<v Speaker 2>it's taken them this long, ugh is is sad and pathetic.

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<v Speaker 2>So it may just be too little, too late for

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<v Speaker 2>some people. But there are there is some reliefs. I

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<v Speaker 2>think we should do some unpacking. Do you want to

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<v Speaker 2>start with that six hundred dollars stimulus.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, quote unquote, So just so you know, like they

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<v Speaker 1>so to Mandy's point, it's a it's set to pass,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's nearly one it's nearly one trillion dollar coronavirus

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<v Speaker 1>relief bills, just so you just know, like what the

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<v Speaker 1>overall bill is. And the slim down checks look like

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<v Speaker 1>six hundred dollars for individuals earning up to seventy five

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<v Speaker 1>thousand dollars and couples earning one fifty or less, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's really half the value of the first round of

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<v Speaker 1>checks issued under the Coronavirus Aid Relief and Economic Stability

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<v Speaker 1>or AKA the CARES Act. So also, two tax payers

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<v Speaker 1>will also receive an additional six hundred dollars for each

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<v Speaker 1>child under seventeen. So let's just say it's you and

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<v Speaker 1>your hubby you earn you know, I don't know, one

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<v Speaker 1>hundred thousand dollars between the two of y'all. You're going

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<v Speaker 1>to get the six hundreds, and then you have two

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<v Speaker 1>kids you're gonna get and they're both ten ten years,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll get another twelve hundred, So eighteen hundred altogether.

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<v Speaker 2>Yay. It just hit me that that's only half, because

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<v Speaker 2>you're right, it was twelve hundred the last time around.

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<v Speaker 1>God, they're so.

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<v Speaker 2>Cheap, so cheap, and Theykay, let's let's focus because I

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<v Speaker 2>just keep thinking about this post. I saw about Lindsay

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<v Speaker 2>Graham getting the vaccine, and I'm like, your entire party

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<v Speaker 2>just wanted to call this whole thing a hoax, like

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<v Speaker 2>why are you first in line to get a vaccine?

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<v Speaker 2>But anyway, Uh, for my dad, what I'm looking at

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<v Speaker 2>is unemployment benefits.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I saw that. Yeah, because his.

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<v Speaker 2>Unemployment benefits were going to expire like everyone else's at

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<v Speaker 2>the end of this month, but now they have been extended.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I'm reading the new York Times here just

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<v Speaker 2>to you know, reveal my sources and I want to

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<v Speaker 2>get this right, but yeah, they lawmakers are going to

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<v Speaker 2>extend the amount of time people can collect unemployment benefits.

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<v Speaker 2>And it would also remember that the extra six hundred

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<v Speaker 2>dollars a week that folks were getting at the beginning

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<v Speaker 2>of pandemic as part of that stimulus package. So the

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<v Speaker 2>theme for this new stimulus package is let's do the

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<v Speaker 2>same thing but make it worse. So instead of six

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<v Speaker 2>hundred dollars a week, they're going to be getting three

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<v Speaker 2>hundred dollars a week extra on top of their unemployment benefits,

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<v Speaker 2>which isn't nothing, but it's not amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>And that extra three.

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<v Speaker 2>Hundred dollars that will last through March fourteenth, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And also I understand there's an increased food aid and

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<v Speaker 1>emergency rental assistance that's been included in this package.

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<v Speaker 2>So thank god, I want to read about that. I

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<v Speaker 2>was trying to scroll down to read about the renters

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<v Speaker 2>assistance because that truly is the and foreclosure protection too,

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<v Speaker 2>because that really is the for me, that is the

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<v Speaker 2>real threat to so many on the brink is will

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<v Speaker 2>they lose their homes? And you know, I understand it's

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<v Speaker 2>not just about renters, you know, becoming homeless. There's there's

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<v Speaker 2>landlords who are not big corporations who also have mortgages

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<v Speaker 2>to pay and all that. So what are you seeing

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<v Speaker 2>on your end? Because I'm still scrolling to figure out,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So it hasn't been fully worked out yet. But so

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<v Speaker 1>there's something called SNAP. I forget what SNAP stands.

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<v Speaker 2>For Pomental Nutritional Aid. I know because I had to

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<v Speaker 2>sign my dad up for it, but yeah, it's food stamps.

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<v Speaker 1>So right now, the funding is including a fifteen percent

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<v Speaker 1>increase to the maximum SNAP benefits for six months through

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<v Speaker 1>potentially June thirty, twenty twenty one. And so this increased

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<v Speaker 1>the amount to boost to about twenty five dollars per

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<v Speaker 1>person each month, which is I gonna say, kind of crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>So like, according to this that's really crazy. That's basically

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<v Speaker 1>saying a dollar thirty nine per person per meal, which

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<v Speaker 1>is like, how can you really even I mean, what

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<v Speaker 1>can you do with that butt? So but at least

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<v Speaker 1>there'll be an increase, that's what that's looking like. And

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<v Speaker 1>rental I'm just looking at for you guys, just so

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm looking at CNBC as my current source.

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<v Speaker 1>So for emergency rental ooh, I see surant, I got it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so rental eviction. So this is something yeah, I remember

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<v Speaker 1>now because the trumpet meant imistration. They it was they

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<v Speaker 1>used the CDC, which was kind of odd. But the

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<v Speaker 1>CDC had extended previously the eviction ban through the end

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<v Speaker 1>of the year. This extends it again till the thirty

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<v Speaker 1>first of January. So that means if you're renting and

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<v Speaker 1>you can't afford to pay your rent, you can download

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<v Speaker 1>a form from the CDC's website to show that you're

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<v Speaker 1>eligible for the you know, the the what.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you call it? Why can't I find the words

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<v Speaker 2>that you're not that you can't get kicked out of

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<v Speaker 2>your house? Basically, then we can post a link to

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<v Speaker 2>this guy this resource in our show notes as well.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's something at least.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but whenever I hear that, I always senk to myself.

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<v Speaker 1>So okay, there's a ripple effect. So let's just say

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<v Speaker 1>you can't afford your rent, so you can't be evicted.

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<v Speaker 1>So then what about the landlord? Yeah, you know, because

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<v Speaker 1>that's not their primary residence for most landlords, and so

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<v Speaker 1>it's their protection for them, because if I can't pay

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<v Speaker 1>my mortgage and I'm not included in the you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the cares actors. That relates to not losing my home,

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<v Speaker 1>my primary residence, because this is it a investment property.

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<v Speaker 1>What does that mean?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, well, thank you Tiffany for asking, because I'm

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<v Speaker 2>looking at that section now mortgage for barons. So this

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<v Speaker 2>is something that a lot of homeowners took advantage of.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you're struggling to make your payments, and for

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<v Speaker 2>landlords that's you know, you have a mortgage like everybody else,

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<v Speaker 2>you may qualify for a forbearance, which basically tells the

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<v Speaker 2>bank you know, we're going to the bank tells you

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<v Speaker 2>we can let you pause or reduce your payments for

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<v Speaker 2>up to one hundred and eighty days. After that, homeowners

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<v Speaker 2>can ask for an additional one hundred and eighty days.

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<v Speaker 2>According to the Times, and it says that these rules

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<v Speaker 2>which apply to federally backed mortgages. So those are the

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<v Speaker 2>you know, the I think federal like g what's it

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<v Speaker 2>called Fanny and Freddy. I mean, they hold the vast

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<v Speaker 2>majority of mortgages in the US. So this wild apply

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<v Speaker 2>to most homeowners. Yeah, so it applies to federally back mortgages,

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<v Speaker 2>and there's still an effect as part of the Carezac

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<v Speaker 2>relief package passed in March.

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<v Speaker 1>So I mean this can.

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<v Speaker 2>We talk about for barons though for a second, because yes,

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<v Speaker 2>the thing about the thing that's important for homeowners to

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<v Speaker 2>understand is forbearance. Yes, it would allow you to temporarily

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<v Speaker 2>pause or reduce your payments. But what I'm not clear

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<v Speaker 2>on is so often it's not like you don't owe

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<v Speaker 2>that money. In fact, you have to look at your

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<v Speaker 2>forbearance agreement if your bank sends you one, and or

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<v Speaker 2>ask questions when you call them up to talk about forbearance,

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<v Speaker 2>because they may expect you to have a lump sum

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<v Speaker 2>payment to cover you know, how many months is one

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<v Speaker 2>hundred and eighty days on six months to have six

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<v Speaker 2>months of payments ready when that that relief window is over,

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<v Speaker 2>which to me doesn't sound very much like a benefit.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because if I had it, then I wouldn't need

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<v Speaker 1>the relief.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you know there is a worry about like,

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<v Speaker 1>so what happens when it's all said and done? You

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<v Speaker 1>know what happens when you know, you know, the forbearance

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<v Speaker 1>is lifted, and do you owe all in a lump

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<v Speaker 1>sum does it get kind of like an enveloped and

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<v Speaker 1>folded back in to your current mortgage. I mean, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just crazy times, honestly.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you really have to talk to your bank whoever

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<v Speaker 2>you know, whatever bank or financial services company services your

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<v Speaker 2>loan to ask what happens after that for Barons period

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<v Speaker 2>is over. They may ask they may make you eligible

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<v Speaker 2>to push it back when that period's over, But I

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<v Speaker 2>think that's really an important question to ask, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>probably going to vary from bank to bank. There's one

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<v Speaker 2>other thing for homeowners to be aware of, foreclosure protection.

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<v Speaker 2>So we covered renter and eviction protection and we got

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<v Speaker 2>mortgage for Barons. So foreclosure protection in this new package

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<v Speaker 2>says single family homeowners with loans backed by Fanny or

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<v Speaker 2>Freddy would be protected from foreclosure through at least January

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<v Speaker 2>thirty first, twenty twenty one. It was going to expire

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<v Speaker 2>at the end of December, so this is basically an

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<v Speaker 2>extra month. Geez Louise, it feels like they do. It

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<v Speaker 2>just took so much time to get, like, what a

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<v Speaker 2>few months of extra and extra protection for people, So

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<v Speaker 2>what's going to happen at the end of Jay We're

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<v Speaker 2>just gonna be back in the same you know, the

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<v Speaker 2>same place we are in now, waiting for Congress to

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<v Speaker 2>get their act together. It's truly truly twenty twenty for me.

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<v Speaker 2>I will never ever take for granted who my local

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<v Speaker 2>elected officials are ever ever House and Senate. They matter

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<v Speaker 2>so so much. I will never see that for grant now.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean Representative Maxine voters Aati Maxine basically said, it's

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<v Speaker 1>a start, it's something yeah in a nutshell.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, absolutely well. I think that's the highlights for small

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<v Speaker 2>business owners. They're the big headline there is that. And

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<v Speaker 2>in small business owners, you know that can be entrepreneurs,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, people who actually have employees, all kinds of things.

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<v Speaker 2>But they're going to be bringing back the PPP program,

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<v Speaker 2>which I realize is actually four p's the paycheck Protection

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<v Speaker 2>Program will be coming back. I think they have like

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<v Speaker 2>an extra twenty five billion dollars worth of aid. Remember

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<v Speaker 2>this is the program that was supposed to give aid

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<v Speaker 2>to struggling small business owners and then like big corporations

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<v Speaker 2>like Ruby Tuesdays, I think was one of them got

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<v Speaker 2>their hand in the pot first, and then there wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>not because of that one big, big business. But basically

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<v Speaker 2>the money ran out really really quickly, and a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of folks weren't able to take advantage of it, struggling

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<v Speaker 2>small businesses. So this time around, you definitely want to

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<v Speaker 2>have her, you know, have your ducks in a row

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<v Speaker 2>and be ready to apply for those benefits asap, asap,

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<v Speaker 2>because there's probably the same fear that the money is

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<v Speaker 2>going to run out, you know, before everybody is able

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<v Speaker 2>to get what they're eligible for.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, basically, try to make the most of

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<v Speaker 1>what's coming. And I mean, here's the thing. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>we have a new administration that's coming coming forth, so

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<v Speaker 1>there might be forthcoming assistant, so you know, we hope

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<v Speaker 1>for that, but in the meantime, try to make the

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<v Speaker 1>most of what's coming in.

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<v Speaker 2>We hope that you turn up and show out Georgia

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<v Speaker 2>in this special Senate runoff election. We actually got a

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<v Speaker 2>message from someone with a question. I'm going to read

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<v Speaker 2>her question during that during our next segment, but she

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<v Speaker 2>had the end of it. She's like, don't worry, Mandy,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to vote in the in the Senate runoff.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so so important, Georgia because this relief, like Tiffany.

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<v Speaker 2>If we expect Joe Biden and Kamala Harris to provide relief,

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<v Speaker 2>they're going to need Congress to do it. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 2>the Senate especially. We don't have the Senate right now

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<v Speaker 2>in terms of Democrats, and we need both of these

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<v Speaker 2>seats basically to break even to have a fifty to

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<v Speaker 2>fifty split Republicans to Democrats in the Senate. And then

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<v Speaker 2>we'll still need the tie breaking vote from Kamala Harris.

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<v Speaker 2>So she is key in this too. So if you

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<v Speaker 2>guys don't show up and show out in Georgia, we're

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<v Speaker 2>counting on you and Georgia. You know. I do feel

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<v Speaker 2>like Georgia came through obviously in a huge way during

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<v Speaker 2>the general election, but I've been texting my family again

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm not feeling the same excitement, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>y'all need to get out there and vote.

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<v Speaker 3>Please.

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<v Speaker 1>What Yes, I didn't have it to be bad. Just

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<v Speaker 1>say yes, Just say yes, yes, I agree, No, you're right.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, honestly, I'm doing some posts myself. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>someone actually just reached out to me. It's like, can

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<v Speaker 1>you post this? Love been like, you know, giving us

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<v Speaker 1>stuff to pose with My friends and I so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just like, no, you're right, There's there's no other way

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<v Speaker 1>to say. I think I feel like we've always gotten

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<v Speaker 1>like the nation has gotten like a semi civics lesson

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<v Speaker 1>about like, oh, how important other elections are. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>just the big one. The big ones actually is are

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<v Speaker 1>the local ones.

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<v Speaker 2>So literally everything is on the line, future relief packages,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean these I understand why people can be like

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<v Speaker 2>a little I mean not more than a little, but

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<v Speaker 2>just very cynical about elected officials and all of that.

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<v Speaker 2>But truly it has taken like people have only seen

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<v Speaker 2>twelve hundred dollars in how many months, nearly a year

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<v Speaker 2>of this pandemic. That is all that our government has done.

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<v Speaker 2>And that is because we did not have the majority

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<v Speaker 2>of Democrats in Congress. And this could really truly be

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<v Speaker 2>a game changer, and it matters like literally, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you could be getting a lot more than six hundred

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<v Speaker 2>dollars you know, direct deposited next week. Oh we didn't

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<v Speaker 2>say that those checks are coming, according to according to

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<v Speaker 2>an interview that the t Treasury Secretary that they could

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<v Speaker 2>be coming the week after Christmas, but it could be

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<v Speaker 2>a lot more than that. And and you just gotta.

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<v Speaker 1>Show up and show out.

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<v Speaker 2>Georgia. Okay, yes, okay, I'll calm down. I'm sorry, I'll

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<v Speaker 2>calm down. What else is happening in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>What's happening in the world. I don't know. I just

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<v Speaker 1>feel like every day I'm like listening. Like I never

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<v Speaker 1>was somebody who used to be following every nook and

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<v Speaker 1>cranny of like politics, but I feel like every day

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like like listening for like, you know, what's happening

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<v Speaker 1>with the current you know, like what lawsuits are currently

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<v Speaker 1>out because of our current administration, Like you know what

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<v Speaker 1>what state are they doing now? What person? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>what fake news are they putting forward. It's just like,

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<v Speaker 1>well child, just keeping up with it. It's just been

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<v Speaker 1>really fascinating to learn how things work and what I

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<v Speaker 1>really like, Like I said, I I love following that

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<v Speaker 1>Instagram account with Neil that that that attorney. What I

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<v Speaker 1>like is that what you'll hear is like Julie Rudian,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, said the president. Like it's so funny how

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<v Speaker 1>they'll say say a thing and then like I'll listen

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<v Speaker 1>to Neil and I'm like he'll break down, like yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not true, like they're not legally possible or true,

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<v Speaker 1>and then he'll break down so much so that when

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<v Speaker 1>they went to court, they did not say that you

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<v Speaker 1>can say whatever you want on TV, but when you

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<v Speaker 1>enter into court, you perjure yourself. You go to jail.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's just so fascinating, And I just didn't realize

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<v Speaker 1>just how much lies and deception we're out there. But

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<v Speaker 1>because when things are brought to court, people are very

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<v Speaker 1>careful what they say because you were hold fully accountable,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, your freedom is actually on the line. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's just been like my and then I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but Manna, did you did you see that l article

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<v Speaker 1>that everybody was talking about yesterday?

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<v Speaker 2>I the Martin scr how do you say his last name?

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<v Speaker 2>Shekel Screlly, Screlly Scarelli.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why. It was actually.

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<v Speaker 2>Debating whether or not always going to bring that up

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<v Speaker 2>because it was a big news in my little social

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<v Speaker 2>circle because I used to work with her. The women

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<v Speaker 2>in that article, she and I at a certain point

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<v Speaker 2>in the article they talk about how she used to

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<v Speaker 2>work at a legal do site prior to joining Bloomberg.

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<v Speaker 2>That was the company that I worked for too. They

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<v Speaker 2>were a startup called Law three sixty and I was

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<v Speaker 2>a reporter and she was like, yeah, she was the

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<v Speaker 2>court's reporter and she wasn't really around very much because

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<v Speaker 2>she would be posted downtown New York got the court.

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<v Speaker 2>But anyway, so yeah, I got that email sent to

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<v Speaker 2>me from a couple of couple of formal college.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, so let's let's talk about like what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you set the scene, you know, type in

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<v Speaker 1>l and it's probably easier to type in Christine smithe

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<v Speaker 1>sm s m y tt. Sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, we're going to put a link in the

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<v Speaker 2>show notes. You can just go to our show notes.

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<v Speaker 1>That's true. Through Yeah, so if remind.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody who Martin Screlly is and why everyone hates.

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<v Speaker 1>Him so they call him aka farmer Bro because I

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<v Speaker 1>remember when, like it was like years ago, there wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>there was this uproar about this pharmaceutical executive that like

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<v Speaker 1>raised the price of EpiPen by like five thousand percent

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<v Speaker 1>something crazy and some other like necessary drugs for people

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<v Speaker 1>to live, and he was taunting people on social he

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<v Speaker 1>thought it was hilarious. One of the things he did too,

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<v Speaker 1>he brought like the WU tang album for two million

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<v Speaker 1>dollars like their most recent one, and then promptly kept

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<v Speaker 1>it and said he's not sharing it with the world.

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<v Speaker 1>It was just a bunch of it was a very strange,

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<v Speaker 1>weird what is going on here? But he definitely did

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of taunting, especially of women, reporters and things,

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<v Speaker 1>and so he just, you know, just overall not a

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<v Speaker 1>great guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, an a hole if you will, and like relished it.

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<v Speaker 2>He was a Yes, he was a very classic troll.

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<v Speaker 2>And it seems like it was years and years ago,

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<v Speaker 2>but he's still in jail. Did you go to jail

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<v Speaker 2>for it?

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<v Speaker 1>Because he yes, he also had a what are those

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<v Speaker 1>things called the oh not he was a vetro capitalist. No,

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<v Speaker 1>he was a hedge fund. Hedge fund, yep. And so

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<v Speaker 1>he did some like you know, oftentimes people will do

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<v Speaker 1>these morally you know, immoral things, but that's not the

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<v Speaker 1>thing that catches them. It's almost always like taxes, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So so yeah, so he did something with the hedge

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<v Speaker 1>fund and he paid in a way that he wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to or drew in away he wasn't supposed to,

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<v Speaker 1>and they got him basically for seven years. So you know,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you know, he gets his just do. But so

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<v Speaker 1>this young woman, Christine, she was assigned to cover him

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<v Speaker 1>and she was one of the first people to kind

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<v Speaker 1>of write a story about him. And as his profile grew,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, she she became closer and closer to him,

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<v Speaker 1>and I guess eventually fell in love with this guy. Meanwhile,

0:19:23.800 --> 0:19:27.600
<v Speaker 1>she was married and she was a respective reporter at

0:19:27.600 --> 0:19:30.200
<v Speaker 1>corner to Elle at Bloomberg. She quit her job because

0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:33.359
<v Speaker 1>they were like, this is a complic of interest. Married,

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<v Speaker 1>quit her job just like it, moved to New Jersey

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<v Speaker 1>to be close to the jail. But he's in it.

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<v Speaker 1>Just it was a crazy story. I was like, what

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<v Speaker 1>is this? So you think that's crazy? So I know

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<v Speaker 1>you're not on clubhouse much, mandra I've been listening. Well

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<v Speaker 1>last night I happened to be scrolling and there was

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<v Speaker 1>a clubhouse room that said about that that Martin, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>you heard it. I would have joined. I know I

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<v Speaker 1>should have, right, So it was like about that that

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<v Speaker 1>l story basically, and I was like, okay. So like

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<v Speaker 1>I poked my head in and they were just talking

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<v Speaker 1>about it. I was like, because that's what made me look.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what about the story? So I googled

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<v Speaker 1>it and I read it. I was like, oh, Solicia's

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<v Speaker 1>no biggie. And then I happened to be on the

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<v Speaker 1>twitters and someone was like, ooh, child Christine is in

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<v Speaker 1>a clubhouse discussing the article. I'm like, no, she's not.

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<v Speaker 1>So I flew to cross clubhouse digitally blue and I

0:20:31.720 --> 0:20:34.440
<v Speaker 1>found that clubhouse room and listened for like a good

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<v Speaker 1>thirty forty minutes. Honestly, she sounds a little cuckoos for

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<v Speaker 1>Coco Pops, Like I don't know whether she something snapped

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<v Speaker 1>in her or she is a sociopath herself or she

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<v Speaker 1>it seems like she really enjoys the negativity. Like she

0:20:55.960 --> 0:20:58.040
<v Speaker 1>was relishing and like nobody was yelling at her. Everybody

0:20:58.080 --> 0:21:00.240
<v Speaker 1>was like, you know, just asking questions and things. But

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<v Speaker 1>it seemed like she actually enjoyed all of.

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<v Speaker 2>This attention, like yeah, attention.

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<v Speaker 1>And so it was such a such a strange thing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like it's almost like you got caught for stealing

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<v Speaker 1>and now you're like in front of the store and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you have handcuffs on nevers looking at you

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<v Speaker 1>like you still and you're smiling like yeah I did,

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<v Speaker 1>so let me tell you. I was like trying to

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<v Speaker 1>get gummy bear Like that's what it sounded like, like

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<v Speaker 1>this is not really a good thing, why are you

0:21:26.080 --> 0:21:28.720
<v Speaker 1>so happy about it? But the part that was really crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>after all of this is said and done, after you've

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<v Speaker 1>basically trashed your life for this guy, he said, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to talk to you anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that ending was really heartbreaking. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, when they said that, even yeah your endeavors, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, and you were told that by a reporter

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<v Speaker 1>who's watching.

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't. I'm not going to pretend like we were

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<v Speaker 2>great friends.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I had not thought about Christy in a long time,

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<v Speaker 2>but I guess as a as a fellow, he human being,

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<v Speaker 2>my heart does ache for her. I do feel, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>without just based on this article and having not given

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<v Speaker 2>him very many of my brain cells in the past

0:22:10.200 --> 0:22:12.320
<v Speaker 2>to think about him. I just imagined to be a

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<v Speaker 2>very manipulative person and as a reporter, you I do,

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<v Speaker 2>and especially a reporter who's covering like a personality like this.

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<v Speaker 2>They can make you feel very special if they if

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<v Speaker 2>you get special access to them. So I can really

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<v Speaker 2>see how he might have lured her in with that

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<v Speaker 2>that feeling of you're the only one I'm talking to,

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<v Speaker 2>et cetera. But then to like she froze her eggs

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<v Speaker 2>for him, you know, And and I don't necessarily I

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<v Speaker 2>think I saw I was. I had enough time to

0:22:39.560 --> 0:22:42.360
<v Speaker 2>read a couple of like hot takes on Twitter, and

0:22:42.520 --> 0:22:46.439
<v Speaker 2>someone had had tweeted that. You know, in life, often

0:22:46.440 --> 0:22:49.760
<v Speaker 2>when people are unhappy with their circumstances, they'll they'll sort

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<v Speaker 2>of like trigger their own they'll blow it up themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's sort of like, so I have to imagine

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<v Speaker 2>she must have been really struggling. Maybe she didn't love

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<v Speaker 2>her career, maybe she didn't love you know, her relationship,

0:23:01.480 --> 0:23:03.960
<v Speaker 2>and maybe she was looking for something different, and then

0:23:04.080 --> 0:23:08.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, this opportunity presented itself to her for whatever reason.

0:23:08.640 --> 0:23:12.119
<v Speaker 2>Like I do empathize with her at the same time,

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<v Speaker 2>I think the only she only had something to gain

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<v Speaker 2>from this, which was notoriety and the potential for what

0:23:17.960 --> 0:23:20.000
<v Speaker 2>a book deal that she seems to be really wanting,

0:23:20.560 --> 0:23:23.640
<v Speaker 2>and maybe a movie deal about their love affair, but like,

0:23:24.359 --> 0:23:26.680
<v Speaker 2>who wants to see if we don't need that, Oh

0:23:26.720 --> 0:23:29.800
<v Speaker 2>my god, that's all I can think. Why else would

0:23:29.800 --> 0:23:31.399
<v Speaker 2>she want to go out with this story and do

0:23:31.440 --> 0:23:33.480
<v Speaker 2>it in such a public fashion.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. I was like, what's going on here? It

0:23:36.960 --> 0:23:40.679
<v Speaker 1>was just so surreal, Like could be on Clubhouse and

0:23:40.720 --> 0:23:44.119
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, wait, what so with somebody interviewing her, Like

0:23:44.280 --> 0:23:46.879
<v Speaker 1>so clubhouse is so funny, like you just talk in

0:23:46.880 --> 0:23:47.160
<v Speaker 1>your room.

0:23:47.160 --> 0:23:49.119
<v Speaker 2>People are just talking, like how do you do? You

0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:52.920
<v Speaker 2>have to like be invited to talk or yes, okay, god,

0:23:53.000 --> 0:23:54.320
<v Speaker 2>so you have to so you can raise your hand

0:23:54.359 --> 0:23:54.680
<v Speaker 2>to ask.

0:23:54.920 --> 0:23:56.439
<v Speaker 1>So I just was like, okay, so I just popped in.

0:23:56.480 --> 0:23:59.200
<v Speaker 1>I just basically was listening. So, you know, because usually

0:23:59.200 --> 0:24:00.879
<v Speaker 1>what I do with Clubhouse the first week I'm not

0:24:00.920 --> 0:24:02.440
<v Speaker 1>gonna lie. First, maybe a week or two, I didn't

0:24:02.440 --> 0:24:03.720
<v Speaker 1>really like it. I was like I don't get it,

0:24:03.920 --> 0:24:05.840
<v Speaker 1>and now I get it. So I look for a

0:24:05.880 --> 0:24:08.360
<v Speaker 1>room where I think I can find value. So I'm like, oh,

0:24:08.400 --> 0:24:10.520
<v Speaker 1>this is a you know, about how to market an

0:24:10.560 --> 0:24:13.359
<v Speaker 1>eight figure business or how to promote your children's book.

0:24:13.359 --> 0:24:14.320
<v Speaker 1>I was in a room like that, and I was

0:24:14.359 --> 0:24:16.920
<v Speaker 1>just listening for new ways. So I'll listen and then

0:24:17.160 --> 0:24:19.200
<v Speaker 1>sometimes if I think I can add something, I would

0:24:19.240 --> 0:24:22.359
<v Speaker 1>say maybe a good twenty percent of the time I

0:24:22.480 --> 0:24:24.359
<v Speaker 1>might raise my hand to add something where I'm like,

0:24:24.359 --> 0:24:26.399
<v Speaker 1>oh I can add And then eighty percent, though, I'm

0:24:26.440 --> 0:24:28.520
<v Speaker 1>usually in rooms where I'm just listening and learning, and

0:24:28.560 --> 0:24:30.719
<v Speaker 1>like you take away a little nugget or like a

0:24:30.720 --> 0:24:33.199
<v Speaker 1>website or whatever and it's really good or someone to follow.

0:24:33.600 --> 0:24:36.080
<v Speaker 1>So anyway, so you know that, then there are rooms

0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:38.320
<v Speaker 1>like that where people are just discussing things. So sometimes

0:24:38.320 --> 0:24:42.200
<v Speaker 1>I for me, I like joining sometimes like the fashion

0:24:42.359 --> 0:24:46.199
<v Speaker 1>and merchandising rooms because it's just a different type of

0:24:46.200 --> 0:24:48.119
<v Speaker 1>business and so it helps me expand the way I

0:24:48.119 --> 0:24:49.840
<v Speaker 1>think about business, So I like to listen to those.

0:24:50.240 --> 0:24:54.560
<v Speaker 1>So anyway, Yeah, it was just pretty wild for that

0:24:54.760 --> 0:24:56.800
<v Speaker 1>article to come out and then to go on clubhouse

0:24:56.800 --> 0:24:57.800
<v Speaker 1>and be like, wait, she's here.

0:24:58.480 --> 0:25:01.679
<v Speaker 2>Wait what for any kind of coverage right now?

0:25:01.720 --> 0:25:03.560
<v Speaker 1>That's how I yeah, And that's what someone said to her.

0:25:03.600 --> 0:25:06.280
<v Speaker 1>They were like, girl, yeah, honestly, it was a couple

0:25:06.280 --> 0:25:07.960
<v Speaker 1>of sisters that call her out. They're like, it must

0:25:08.040 --> 0:25:10.199
<v Speaker 1>be nice to lean into your right privilege to be

0:25:10.240 --> 0:25:12.879
<v Speaker 1>able to do this, but girl, the rest of us

0:25:12.920 --> 0:25:14.919
<v Speaker 1>out here working like it's this does not work out

0:25:14.960 --> 0:25:17.680
<v Speaker 1>for people like us, you know. Yeah, and someone people

0:25:17.680 --> 0:25:19.359
<v Speaker 1>were like, it seems like you're delighting in all of this,

0:25:19.560 --> 0:25:21.719
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, I think she is.

0:25:21.760 --> 0:25:24.719
<v Speaker 2>I almost think she's and maybe some part of her

0:25:24.760 --> 0:25:27.840
<v Speaker 2>things too, that that he will come back to her beak.

0:25:27.880 --> 0:25:29.520
<v Speaker 2>And I think she even said that in the article

0:25:29.560 --> 0:25:33.360
<v Speaker 2>that or the writer did that by bringing this relationship public,

0:25:33.440 --> 0:25:35.439
<v Speaker 2>it'll kind of because he doesn't talked to her in

0:25:35.480 --> 0:25:39.200
<v Speaker 2>a year, like a whole year, and she can't call him.

0:25:39.200 --> 0:25:40.679
<v Speaker 2>He can only call her, and he hasn't called her

0:25:40.680 --> 0:25:41.240
<v Speaker 2>in a year.

0:25:41.440 --> 0:25:44.280
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, it's someone's like, he's not busy, sis,

0:25:44.440 --> 0:25:46.800
<v Speaker 1>he's sending your signals. There's nothing to.

0:25:46.760 --> 0:25:49.040
<v Speaker 2>Do, and Jane let him go, let him go, but

0:25:49.080 --> 0:25:49.360
<v Speaker 2>she does.

0:25:49.440 --> 0:25:51.360
<v Speaker 1>I will say this, like of all the other things

0:25:51.359 --> 0:25:54.120
<v Speaker 1>that seemed kind of like disingenuous when she spoke, one

0:25:54.119 --> 0:25:56.359
<v Speaker 1>thing that did seem genuine was that she does seem

0:25:56.400 --> 0:26:00.680
<v Speaker 1>to genuinely love him, whatever love looks like with her

0:26:00.760 --> 0:26:01.399
<v Speaker 1>mental state.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, Well, there's books that have been written about

0:26:03.520 --> 0:26:05.760
<v Speaker 2>like people who fall in love with people in prison

0:26:06.280 --> 0:26:08.919
<v Speaker 2>who they've never met before, and there's a whole like

0:26:09.040 --> 0:26:11.840
<v Speaker 2>subculture that is a is a movie I would watch,

0:26:12.040 --> 0:26:13.919
<v Speaker 2>like a documentary or something like that about people who

0:26:13.920 --> 0:26:16.000
<v Speaker 2>fall in love with people in prison. So I mean,

0:26:16.280 --> 0:26:19.399
<v Speaker 2>she's not the first person to pine for someone in prison,

0:26:19.400 --> 0:26:22.280
<v Speaker 2>but I mean, they don't even like whatever. I don't know.

0:26:22.400 --> 0:26:25.399
<v Speaker 2>It's interesting, it's very weird to have that, you know,

0:26:25.480 --> 0:26:28.040
<v Speaker 2>worked with her in the past. But I wish her

0:26:28.040 --> 0:26:32.840
<v Speaker 2>well and uh oh god, I'm just sad that she's

0:26:32.920 --> 0:26:36.000
<v Speaker 2>made this farmer bro like a topic again, because I

0:26:36.119 --> 0:26:37.760
<v Speaker 2>know we had just forgotten about him.

0:26:37.760 --> 0:26:39.879
<v Speaker 1>I feel like, hey, and I'm not gonna lie. He

0:26:39.920 --> 0:26:41.119
<v Speaker 1>looks very strange.

0:26:41.800 --> 0:26:45.160
<v Speaker 2>He looks like you think he would look with his personality,

0:26:45.240 --> 0:26:54.880
<v Speaker 2>like he is like very like pasty and you know, dickish. Yeah,

0:26:55.000 --> 0:26:56.920
<v Speaker 2>like a face you could punch, like a punchable face.

0:26:57.080 --> 0:27:01.040
<v Speaker 1>Yes, a face you could punch. Was a person, you'd

0:27:01.040 --> 0:27:03.359
<v Speaker 1>be like, oh, that's what it looks like. A dictionary.

0:27:03.560 --> 0:27:05.439
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't even know where to go from there.

0:27:05.480 --> 0:27:07.959
<v Speaker 2>I'm like calmbing my brain. How do we go now?

0:27:08.160 --> 0:27:11.320
<v Speaker 1>From from now, we'll just going to questions. Let's just see.

0:27:11.359 --> 0:27:13.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's the end of the year, and it's the

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<v Speaker 2>end of this segment. Let's take a quick break. We'll

0:27:15.400 --> 0:27:50.960
<v Speaker 2>be right back with your questions. All right, we are

0:27:51.000 --> 0:27:52.480
<v Speaker 2>back with your questions.

0:27:53.840 --> 0:27:54.400
<v Speaker 1>Hit us up.

0:27:54.480 --> 0:27:57.040
<v Speaker 2>I know that you know, why don't I hope actually

0:27:57.080 --> 0:27:59.600
<v Speaker 2>that none of y'all are traveling very far or anywhere

0:27:59.640 --> 0:28:01.760
<v Speaker 2>for that matter, for the holidays. But maybe you're sitting

0:28:01.800 --> 0:28:04.879
<v Speaker 2>at home taking a break, trying to get your you know, finances,

0:28:04.920 --> 0:28:07.000
<v Speaker 2>make your big career moves. In twenty twenty one, doing

0:28:07.040 --> 0:28:09.000
<v Speaker 2>your vision boards, Tiffany, didn't you say you just did

0:28:09.040 --> 0:28:11.120
<v Speaker 2>a vision board party over the weekend.

0:28:11.240 --> 0:28:14.280
<v Speaker 1>I did one this weekend for this company. It was

0:28:14.280 --> 0:28:17.600
<v Speaker 1>called It's creative What are they on Instagram? They do

0:28:17.640 --> 0:28:19.439
<v Speaker 1>stuff like all the time. It's like free, and it

0:28:19.480 --> 0:28:22.880
<v Speaker 1>was like so much fun. It was called creative culture

0:28:23.080 --> 0:28:24.480
<v Speaker 1>or something. I feel like a lot of us all

0:28:24.480 --> 0:28:28.400
<v Speaker 1>follow that we know create, create and cultivate.

0:28:28.600 --> 0:28:30.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, oh why do I know them? Okay, yeah, I've

0:28:30.560 --> 0:28:30.960
<v Speaker 2>heard of them.

0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:32.639
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they were. It just was really fun. So we

0:28:32.760 --> 0:28:36.760
<v Speaker 1>just the They had like some weekend kind of like

0:28:37.520 --> 0:28:39.920
<v Speaker 1>future planning party. It was called like the future you

0:28:40.200 --> 0:28:42.680
<v Speaker 1>a digital festival, and so they had a bunch of

0:28:42.680 --> 0:28:44.440
<v Speaker 1>people teaching stuff and I'm not gonna lie, this was

0:28:44.480 --> 0:28:46.880
<v Speaker 1>the most fun I had in so long. So I

0:28:47.000 --> 0:28:51.520
<v Speaker 1>shared like my vision board process and there were like,

0:28:51.560 --> 0:28:53.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, a few hundred women on there, and we

0:28:53.280 --> 0:28:55.120
<v Speaker 1>just talked about how to make their vision board, what

0:28:55.240 --> 0:28:58.040
<v Speaker 1>materials they needed. But then to really how to take

0:28:58.080 --> 0:29:00.160
<v Speaker 1>your vision board off your board and into real life.

0:29:00.200 --> 0:29:02.520
<v Speaker 1>So it was a lot of fun. That's cool.

0:29:02.560 --> 0:29:04.400
<v Speaker 2>I have never done a vision board. Do you think

0:29:04.400 --> 0:29:04.840
<v Speaker 2>I should?

0:29:05.480 --> 0:29:06.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's up to you. I think here's what

0:29:07.000 --> 0:29:09.800
<v Speaker 1>I think. I always think that, however, you vision plan

0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:14.440
<v Speaker 1>should be specifically in alignment with your personality. So if

0:29:14.480 --> 0:29:16.880
<v Speaker 1>I was a photographer, I would vision plan by taking

0:29:16.920 --> 0:29:19.320
<v Speaker 1>pictures or cutting off pictures and putting them up. If

0:29:19.360 --> 0:29:21.360
<v Speaker 1>I was a painter, I would paint what you see,

0:29:21.360 --> 0:29:25.600
<v Speaker 1>what I mean, like, that's where you would be best useful.

0:29:25.680 --> 0:29:28.680
<v Speaker 1>So if you're a writer, you might vision plan by journaling.

0:29:29.120 --> 0:29:31.560
<v Speaker 1>So I just like, I'm very visual, so I like

0:29:31.680 --> 0:29:35.360
<v Speaker 1>to do I use this kind of like some corkboard thing,

0:29:35.680 --> 0:29:38.480
<v Speaker 1>so I could take things off and on. And I

0:29:38.520 --> 0:29:40.120
<v Speaker 1>have the same vision board for the last ten years,

0:29:40.120 --> 0:29:42.600
<v Speaker 1>and I just as things come true, I take the

0:29:42.640 --> 0:29:44.720
<v Speaker 1>thing those things off and then add new things on.

0:29:45.080 --> 0:29:47.280
<v Speaker 1>But I love it just because, like it's not some

0:29:47.400 --> 0:29:49.800
<v Speaker 1>magical thing. But what it does is like it helps

0:29:49.840 --> 0:29:52.520
<v Speaker 1>me remind myself the things that I'm working toward. And

0:29:52.520 --> 0:29:54.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lie. I usually i'll do it. I'll

0:29:54.120 --> 0:29:56.480
<v Speaker 1>put it on the wall and I won't even consciously

0:29:56.480 --> 0:29:58.680
<v Speaker 1>look at it. Like I was looking at my vision board.

0:29:58.680 --> 0:30:01.120
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, snap, so much of this stuff

0:30:01.160 --> 0:30:03.360
<v Speaker 1>came true. I forgot I put that on there, and like.

0:30:03.280 --> 0:30:05.080
<v Speaker 2>What are some things on there that you look back

0:30:05.120 --> 0:30:07.000
<v Speaker 2>and you're like, dang, I really did manifest that.

0:30:07.440 --> 0:30:10.920
<v Speaker 1>So launching like a successful Happy Birthday Molly Moore in book,

0:30:10.960 --> 0:30:13.600
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like I even had like the old cover

0:30:13.680 --> 0:30:15.200
<v Speaker 1>a picture of it, like this is going to be

0:30:15.640 --> 0:30:17.800
<v Speaker 1>you know, it's going to have a successful a book launch.

0:30:17.800 --> 0:30:19.640
<v Speaker 1>And we made six figures this year of Molly Moore.

0:30:19.680 --> 0:30:22.160
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, that's on here. I always have

0:30:22.280 --> 0:30:24.960
<v Speaker 1>some financial goals, so on there. What I do with

0:30:25.000 --> 0:30:26.520
<v Speaker 1>my vision board is I split it in half. I

0:30:26.520 --> 0:30:28.840
<v Speaker 1>put like a masking tape down the middle, and I

0:30:28.880 --> 0:30:32.600
<v Speaker 1>do a professional and a personal half. Professional half. I have, Yeah,

0:30:32.640 --> 0:30:34.880
<v Speaker 1>I have like a dollar bill that I like, I

0:30:34.960 --> 0:30:37.520
<v Speaker 1>like put little stickies on to say fifteen million dollars.

0:30:37.840 --> 0:30:41.000
<v Speaker 1>And the business has crossed over fifteen million dollars this year,

0:30:41.040 --> 0:30:43.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean since the inception. And I was like, oh,

0:30:43.720 --> 0:30:46.280
<v Speaker 1>it happened. And then on the personal side, something that

0:30:46.320 --> 0:30:49.200
<v Speaker 1>did not happen. I've had serena Williams on my personal

0:30:49.200 --> 0:30:51.080
<v Speaker 1>side for the last ten years. We don't hit that yet,

0:30:51.080 --> 0:30:53.440
<v Speaker 1>but that's why wait what part of her married to

0:30:53.480 --> 0:31:02.000
<v Speaker 1>the co founder of redded or the Okay, but yeah, yes,

0:31:02.160 --> 0:31:04.360
<v Speaker 1>I was like, we ain't hit that yet. I was like,

0:31:04.400 --> 0:31:06.120
<v Speaker 1>that's all right, you know, one day, one day we

0:31:06.160 --> 0:31:09.200
<v Speaker 1>gonna have that body and then So I always have

0:31:09.280 --> 0:31:11.200
<v Speaker 1>travel stuff on my personal side. So I have like

0:31:11.440 --> 0:31:13.640
<v Speaker 1>which was crazy because we didn't go nowhere, but I

0:31:13.680 --> 0:31:17.000
<v Speaker 1>had of Charleston I've never been. I have China, have Egypt,

0:31:17.240 --> 0:31:19.000
<v Speaker 1>and so I always on my personal side have some

0:31:19.040 --> 0:31:22.240
<v Speaker 1>travel stuff. I also have like what do I have, Like,

0:31:22.280 --> 0:31:24.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, I have romances on because I'm like I

0:31:24.080 --> 0:31:26.160
<v Speaker 1>want to, you know, still be very much in love

0:31:26.160 --> 0:31:28.560
<v Speaker 1>with my hubby. I have a baby on here and

0:31:28.600 --> 0:31:31.240
<v Speaker 1>so yeah, so that will stay on. So yeah, I

0:31:31.320 --> 0:31:33.440
<v Speaker 1>just I like to I like to address because my

0:31:34.240 --> 0:31:36.880
<v Speaker 1>professional life plays such a major role in my life.

0:31:36.960 --> 0:31:38.880
<v Speaker 1>So I like to have a professional side on the

0:31:38.920 --> 0:31:41.280
<v Speaker 1>personal side. And some of it is just sticky notes

0:31:41.320 --> 0:31:42.880
<v Speaker 1>with things written on it, and some of it is

0:31:42.920 --> 0:31:45.400
<v Speaker 1>like just pictures. Some of it I cut out words.

0:31:45.680 --> 0:31:48.520
<v Speaker 1>So whatever kind of moves you and makes you say, oh,

0:31:48.760 --> 0:31:50.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, but I encourage everyone to make on. I

0:31:50.480 --> 0:31:53.200
<v Speaker 1>make one with my sisters and Supergirl and I usually

0:31:53.200 --> 0:31:56.760
<v Speaker 1>have a vision board party every year, but obviously it's

0:31:56.760 --> 0:31:59.760
<v Speaker 1>not happening, so instead me, Supergirl and my sister will

0:32:00.160 --> 0:32:00.880
<v Speaker 1>just do one together.

0:32:01.080 --> 0:32:04.280
<v Speaker 2>That's really nice, And I think the for me, you

0:32:04.280 --> 0:32:06.480
<v Speaker 2>know you don't, And I think it's great that you

0:32:06.520 --> 0:32:07.800
<v Speaker 2>can say, you know, you don't have to like go

0:32:07.880 --> 0:32:09.480
<v Speaker 2>all out with your vision board. It can be writing

0:32:09.480 --> 0:32:13.360
<v Speaker 2>down or just something super simple, you know, because the

0:32:13.400 --> 0:32:16.000
<v Speaker 2>important thing is that you think about a different vision

0:32:16.000 --> 0:32:17.920
<v Speaker 2>for yourself if you're not happy with what's going on

0:32:17.960 --> 0:32:20.880
<v Speaker 2>in your life now. And it's sort of it's like

0:32:20.920 --> 0:32:24.800
<v Speaker 2>an annual check in where you can say, what do

0:32:24.840 --> 0:32:26.800
<v Speaker 2>I like about where I'm at now and where do

0:32:26.880 --> 0:32:28.840
<v Speaker 2>I want to be? Because I think sometimes when you're

0:32:28.880 --> 0:32:30.880
<v Speaker 2>in a rut, you kind of get in this cycle

0:32:30.920 --> 0:32:33.560
<v Speaker 2>of like, oh this is this is it, Like this

0:32:33.600 --> 0:32:35.320
<v Speaker 2>is how good it can be and I'm just gonna

0:32:35.360 --> 0:32:38.560
<v Speaker 2>be okay with this and you know, deal with something

0:32:38.640 --> 0:32:41.640
<v Speaker 2>that I'm not entirely excited about. And maybe this is

0:32:41.880 --> 0:32:44.600
<v Speaker 2>maybe sitting down to do a vision board can remind you,

0:32:44.600 --> 0:32:47.760
<v Speaker 2>you know, what gets you excited? What what kind of

0:32:47.760 --> 0:32:49.760
<v Speaker 2>gets your heart pumping. What did you want to do

0:32:49.800 --> 0:32:51.320
<v Speaker 2>when you were a kid that you never really got

0:32:51.360 --> 0:32:53.200
<v Speaker 2>around to do? Those types of things? I think I

0:32:53.520 --> 0:32:56.240
<v Speaker 2>do one I'm dead. I would love to see Husby's

0:32:56.800 --> 0:32:57.280
<v Speaker 2>vision board.

0:32:57.400 --> 0:32:58.880
<v Speaker 1>Oh you should. I think it's a good you know,

0:32:58.920 --> 0:33:01.040
<v Speaker 1>because I, like I said, it's just a good activity

0:33:01.080 --> 0:33:03.880
<v Speaker 1>to kind of bring forth your your goals and dreams.

0:33:04.000 --> 0:33:06.480
<v Speaker 1>But the one rule there's usually there's really no rule

0:33:06.480 --> 0:33:08.479
<v Speaker 1>for vision boarding except for this one rule, which is

0:33:08.800 --> 0:33:11.680
<v Speaker 1>you speak about your goals and the positive. So I

0:33:11.720 --> 0:33:14.520
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't say, don't gain any more weight, it would just

0:33:14.560 --> 0:33:17.719
<v Speaker 1>be like to have a fit body like Serena, you know.

0:33:18.000 --> 0:33:22.640
<v Speaker 1>Or I wouldn't say, like stop spending instead I would

0:33:22.640 --> 0:33:25.360
<v Speaker 1>say save more. So that's really the only rule is

0:33:25.400 --> 0:33:27.040
<v Speaker 1>that you speak in the positive. You post in the

0:33:27.120 --> 0:33:31.280
<v Speaker 1>positive on your vision board, because that negative talk actually

0:33:31.920 --> 0:33:35.680
<v Speaker 1>it actually redirects your attention to what you don't have.

0:33:35.760 --> 0:33:38.960
<v Speaker 1>And if you speak negatively, you that's what you see

0:33:39.040 --> 0:33:40.840
<v Speaker 1>and that's what you feel, and that's what you help

0:33:40.920 --> 0:33:43.360
<v Speaker 1>to quite honestly bring more of that into your life.

0:33:43.440 --> 0:33:46.200
<v Speaker 1>I learned that not just some vision boarding, but even

0:33:46.840 --> 0:33:48.840
<v Speaker 1>like in top psychology, like when I first used to

0:33:48.920 --> 0:33:52.640
<v Speaker 1>teach when I first started teaching preschool. Every preschool classroom

0:33:52.640 --> 0:33:54.440
<v Speaker 1>has a set of rules. So we had like three rules.

0:33:54.440 --> 0:33:57.720
<v Speaker 1>It was like mine, we're no hitting, no running, and

0:33:58.960 --> 0:34:01.880
<v Speaker 1>no yelling or something like that. And I remember thinking, oh,

0:34:01.920 --> 0:34:04.959
<v Speaker 1>these are so good, and a teacher they always when

0:34:04.960 --> 0:34:07.320
<v Speaker 1>you're a new teacher, they always match you with a

0:34:07.440 --> 0:34:10.240
<v Speaker 1>what's to call a teacher, A like a like a

0:34:10.280 --> 0:34:13.000
<v Speaker 1>seasoned teacher. And she was like, no, that your rules

0:34:13.040 --> 0:34:15.160
<v Speaker 1>to me are speaking in the negative. She said, when

0:34:15.160 --> 0:34:17.960
<v Speaker 1>you have no hitting kids here hit, no running, they

0:34:17.960 --> 0:34:20.239
<v Speaker 1>hear run, no yelling they hear yell. You have to

0:34:20.239 --> 0:34:22.520
<v Speaker 1>speak in the positive. So instead it was like I

0:34:22.640 --> 0:34:27.200
<v Speaker 1>changed it to walking feet, I changed it to use

0:34:27.200 --> 0:34:31.479
<v Speaker 1>your inside voice, and I changed it to nice hands

0:34:31.560 --> 0:34:33.279
<v Speaker 1>or something like that, like you know, use your your

0:34:33.320 --> 0:34:36.560
<v Speaker 1>your you know, play nice hands, using nice hands or

0:34:36.640 --> 0:34:39.120
<v Speaker 1>something to that effect. Right, So but then I learned

0:34:39.200 --> 0:34:41.040
<v Speaker 1>because she was like, you know that if you you

0:34:41.080 --> 0:34:44.560
<v Speaker 1>want to reinforce the positive, not reinforcing the negatives. And

0:34:44.600 --> 0:34:46.400
<v Speaker 1>so I was just like wow, So that's really the

0:34:46.480 --> 0:34:48.200
<v Speaker 1>only rule for your vision board, just to make sure

0:34:48.239 --> 0:34:50.880
<v Speaker 1>that you're not putting the anti that you're putting the

0:34:50.880 --> 0:34:52.520
<v Speaker 1>thing that you actually want, not the thing that you

0:34:52.520 --> 0:34:54.840
<v Speaker 1>don't want on your vision board or or vision journal

0:34:54.960 --> 0:34:57.000
<v Speaker 1>or vision painting or picture or whatever.

0:34:57.200 --> 0:34:59.239
<v Speaker 2>Well, I loved it. And the reason I brought up

0:34:59.280 --> 0:35:01.080
<v Speaker 2>vision boarding at all because as I was thinking about

0:35:01.160 --> 0:35:03.400
<v Speaker 2>y'all's questions, I was like, send us some questions, like,

0:35:03.680 --> 0:35:05.520
<v Speaker 2>or tell us what your vision board for twenty twenty

0:35:05.560 --> 0:35:08.280
<v Speaker 2>one looks like other than just a big fat dose

0:35:08.280 --> 0:35:11.000
<v Speaker 2>of a vaccine, you know, and a nice cocktail. But

0:35:11.160 --> 0:35:13.160
<v Speaker 2>what do y'all have planned for twenty twenty one? And

0:35:13.280 --> 0:35:16.479
<v Speaker 2>are there any questions you have? And that also leads

0:35:16.480 --> 0:35:18.879
<v Speaker 2>me to the questions that I chose for today's show

0:35:18.880 --> 0:35:21.719
<v Speaker 2>because I feel like they came from two listeners who

0:35:21.760 --> 0:35:26.960
<v Speaker 2>are each weighing some interesting career slash money decisions that

0:35:27.000 --> 0:35:29.280
<v Speaker 2>folks might relate to. So let me pull those up

0:35:29.960 --> 0:35:31.480
<v Speaker 2>for twenty twenty one. I'm going to get a real

0:35:31.520 --> 0:35:32.880
<v Speaker 2>podcast set up so I don't have to jog all

0:35:32.880 --> 0:35:38.120
<v Speaker 2>these pillows. This is embarrassing, Okay. Our first question comes

0:35:38.120 --> 0:35:40.400
<v Speaker 2>from someone who like to remain anonymous, which is fine,

0:35:40.480 --> 0:35:44.040
<v Speaker 2>we will call her Patricia. Patricia says, I am twenty

0:35:44.080 --> 0:35:46.560
<v Speaker 2>five and pretty early on in my career I have

0:35:46.640 --> 0:35:50.200
<v Speaker 2>a secure salary job with almost five thousand dollars in

0:35:50.280 --> 0:35:53.320
<v Speaker 2>my four one K and savings of about five thousand dollars.

0:35:53.840 --> 0:35:56.279
<v Speaker 2>I have fifty thousand dollars in student debt and a

0:35:56.320 --> 0:35:58.360
<v Speaker 2>little bit of credit card debt. I live in with

0:35:58.400 --> 0:36:00.720
<v Speaker 2>my folks now, and I'm not paying rent, saving money.

0:36:00.760 --> 0:36:03.319
<v Speaker 2>So here's my question. I want to quit my job

0:36:03.360 --> 0:36:06.680
<v Speaker 2>because I'm unsatisfied. It does not make me happy. Should

0:36:06.719 --> 0:36:09.560
<v Speaker 2>I wait until, I say, until I can secure something else,

0:36:10.000 --> 0:36:12.120
<v Speaker 2>or put my personal health first and put a two

0:36:12.120 --> 0:36:14.880
<v Speaker 2>week notice in now and hope I find something, or

0:36:14.920 --> 0:36:17.760
<v Speaker 2>hope I find another job asap. I have a degree

0:36:17.840 --> 0:36:20.920
<v Speaker 2>and two years a professional work experience, so I'm semi

0:36:20.920 --> 0:36:25.759
<v Speaker 2>confident I can find something fast. Any feedback is appreciated.

0:36:27.040 --> 0:36:29.000
<v Speaker 1>Can I show you this meme that, like I saw,

0:36:29.280 --> 0:36:32.320
<v Speaker 1>someone said, nobody quits a job like a millennial and

0:36:32.400 --> 0:36:39.040
<v Speaker 1>a toxic environment. It's true, we love ourselves mental health.

0:36:39.080 --> 0:36:40.239
<v Speaker 1>You know what, I don't even like the way you

0:36:40.239 --> 0:36:41.799
<v Speaker 1>guys got the a c up here. I don't even

0:36:41.840 --> 0:36:43.439
<v Speaker 1>I don't know appreciate this. I told you all about

0:36:43.440 --> 0:36:48.279
<v Speaker 1>the AC I'm out. Yeah, it's true. Well, what's her name?

0:36:48.320 --> 0:36:49.000
<v Speaker 1>Does she say her name?

0:36:49.080 --> 0:36:53.200
<v Speaker 2>She wants to be anonymous, we're gonna call her Patricia.

0:36:52.160 --> 0:36:55.960
<v Speaker 1>Patty Patty Patty. So here's the thing. I actually had

0:36:56.040 --> 0:36:58.479
<v Speaker 1>two of my friends who actually did get sick at work,

0:36:58.480 --> 0:37:00.759
<v Speaker 1>meaning like it was like really but it was a

0:37:00.840 --> 0:37:03.719
<v Speaker 1>very toxic, like dangerous kind of like environment with a

0:37:03.800 --> 0:37:06.239
<v Speaker 1>level of toxicity and how are they're being treated and

0:37:06.320 --> 0:37:10.760
<v Speaker 1>so it was affecting them mostly but also mentally and physically.

0:37:11.560 --> 0:37:13.520
<v Speaker 1>I actually had a friend who got Bell's palsy, like

0:37:13.600 --> 0:37:15.279
<v Speaker 1>you know, one side of her face stopped moving because

0:37:15.320 --> 0:37:17.680
<v Speaker 1>of the level of stress. Now, we don't want that

0:37:17.760 --> 0:37:22.360
<v Speaker 1>for you, but I also want that you're not because

0:37:22.400 --> 0:37:24.680
<v Speaker 1>there is I don't really like this job, like you know,

0:37:24.760 --> 0:37:27.160
<v Speaker 1>for example, I'm gonna cashier on McDonald's. Don't really like

0:37:27.200 --> 0:37:30.040
<v Speaker 1>this job. And there's my boss is inappropriate and says

0:37:30.040 --> 0:37:32.279
<v Speaker 1>things to me that makes me feel uncomfortable. The things

0:37:32.280 --> 0:37:34.680
<v Speaker 1>that we're doing are not ethical. So I just want

0:37:34.680 --> 0:37:39.120
<v Speaker 1>to make sure that you should absolutely leave. If it's

0:37:39.120 --> 0:37:42.960
<v Speaker 1>a toxic, unsafe environment, you don't have to wait, thank god,

0:37:43.000 --> 0:37:44.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, you're home with your mom and your dad

0:37:44.960 --> 0:37:48.120
<v Speaker 1>and your parents. But if it's a I don't really

0:37:48.160 --> 0:37:51.120
<v Speaker 1>like it because it doesn't fulfill me. You know, it's

0:37:51.239 --> 0:37:55.000
<v Speaker 1>okay to stay until you have another job, because that's

0:37:55.040 --> 0:37:56.920
<v Speaker 1>going to happen in life. You're twenty five, and I

0:37:56.960 --> 0:37:59.600
<v Speaker 1>get it, But I just want to make sure because

0:37:59.680 --> 0:38:03.640
<v Speaker 1>you don't want to be someone who thinks that challenges

0:38:03.719 --> 0:38:06.759
<v Speaker 1>mean that you you turn around and you leave, you know,

0:38:07.160 --> 0:38:08.640
<v Speaker 1>unless you know what I mean. So I just want

0:38:08.680 --> 0:38:10.000
<v Speaker 1>to make sure that that's what it is. But I

0:38:10.000 --> 0:38:11.720
<v Speaker 1>also want to honor that it might really be toxic,

0:38:11.760 --> 0:38:13.680
<v Speaker 1>and I don't want you to stay somewhere patty where

0:38:13.680 --> 0:38:15.960
<v Speaker 1>it's like a really like not safe space. But if

0:38:15.960 --> 0:38:18.280
<v Speaker 1>it's just because you don't like it, because it's not interesting,

0:38:18.320 --> 0:38:20.680
<v Speaker 1>it's not fun, it's boring. Maybe your boss is not

0:38:20.719 --> 0:38:23.040
<v Speaker 1>the nicest, but they're not like you know, they're not like,

0:38:23.080 --> 0:38:25.359
<v Speaker 1>you know, mistreating you, they're just like you know, they're

0:38:25.360 --> 0:38:27.600
<v Speaker 1>not the nicest. Then those are things that you can

0:38:28.120 --> 0:38:31.239
<v Speaker 1>you can wait like sift through and wait on until

0:38:31.239 --> 0:38:33.160
<v Speaker 1>you find another job. I just don't want you dropping

0:38:33.160 --> 0:38:34.040
<v Speaker 1>from place to place.

0:38:34.920 --> 0:38:37.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I have been that twenty five year old one

0:38:37.640 --> 0:38:39.560
<v Speaker 2>hundred percent, and I think a lot of twenty five

0:38:39.640 --> 0:38:41.200
<v Speaker 2>year olds you're not going to like love your first

0:38:41.320 --> 0:38:43.960
<v Speaker 2>job working out of college or grad school. Sounds like

0:38:44.000 --> 0:38:46.480
<v Speaker 2>you got your job out of grad school. Yeah, I

0:38:46.480 --> 0:38:49.319
<v Speaker 2>mean it's okay to not be satisfied. I think it's

0:38:49.680 --> 0:38:52.520
<v Speaker 2>don't don't. And she doesn't say anything about being in danger,

0:38:52.760 --> 0:38:56.000
<v Speaker 2>like why necessarily she's unsatisfied. She doesn't even use the

0:38:56.000 --> 0:38:58.719
<v Speaker 2>word toxic. So it's simply that you just aren't loving

0:38:58.760 --> 0:38:59.360
<v Speaker 2>what you're doing.

0:39:00.080 --> 0:39:00.880
<v Speaker 1>I might like.

0:39:01.120 --> 0:39:03.520
<v Speaker 2>And Tiffany was talking about flipping things to a positive

0:39:03.560 --> 0:39:06.520
<v Speaker 2>perspective earlier, and I've always approached my career this way.

0:39:07.480 --> 0:39:09.440
<v Speaker 2>Jobs may not be right for you, but there can

0:39:09.560 --> 0:39:11.480
<v Speaker 2>be something that you get out of them, or at

0:39:11.560 --> 0:39:14.320
<v Speaker 2>least the only thing you get out of them is

0:39:14.360 --> 0:39:16.759
<v Speaker 2>you learned what you don't want in another job. Then

0:39:16.760 --> 0:39:19.360
<v Speaker 2>that's also a positive. So try to find the positive

0:39:19.480 --> 0:39:23.879
<v Speaker 2>and try to keep My least favorite thing about someone

0:39:23.920 --> 0:39:26.239
<v Speaker 2>who's unhappy with where they work is that they tend

0:39:26.280 --> 0:39:28.200
<v Speaker 2>to be really hard to work with because they're just

0:39:28.239 --> 0:39:30.320
<v Speaker 2>so miserable and they just kind of drag them around

0:39:30.360 --> 0:39:34.760
<v Speaker 2>down y'all. I'm sorry, my dog is having a conniption upstairs. Anyway,

0:39:35.239 --> 0:39:37.840
<v Speaker 2>I just and you also, you don't necessarily want to

0:39:37.920 --> 0:39:41.440
<v Speaker 2>leave as the employee who seems like super down and

0:39:41.520 --> 0:39:46.880
<v Speaker 2>like always negative and drags their feet virtually. I would say,

0:39:47.360 --> 0:39:49.120
<v Speaker 2>you know, look at where you're at now, what can

0:39:49.160 --> 0:39:52.719
<v Speaker 2>you continue to contribute? What can you possibly get out

0:39:52.719 --> 0:39:55.200
<v Speaker 2>of this experience? And just make peace with the fact

0:39:55.200 --> 0:39:56.560
<v Speaker 2>that you know this is not going to be your

0:39:56.560 --> 0:39:59.480
<v Speaker 2>forever job, and like, okay, it's not going to be

0:39:59.560 --> 0:40:03.040
<v Speaker 2>your forever job. It's very unusual to get your forever job,

0:40:03.239 --> 0:40:05.719
<v Speaker 2>you know, in your mid twenties. So I think if

0:40:05.719 --> 0:40:08.480
<v Speaker 2>you have a positive attitude, you can leave there on

0:40:08.520 --> 0:40:11.839
<v Speaker 2>a good note. And I don't even you know whether

0:40:11.880 --> 0:40:13.879
<v Speaker 2>you're going to switch industries or not. I just think

0:40:14.000 --> 0:40:16.440
<v Speaker 2>it's it's bad form to leave on a bad note,

0:40:16.480 --> 0:40:19.400
<v Speaker 2>you know, with people kind of you know, feeling like

0:40:19.440 --> 0:40:21.880
<v Speaker 2>you had checked out and you were super negative all

0:40:21.920 --> 0:40:25.320
<v Speaker 2>the time. That being said, if you if you truly

0:40:25.360 --> 0:40:29.359
<v Speaker 2>are unhappy there and you and and it's toxic and

0:40:29.400 --> 0:40:32.160
<v Speaker 2>it's putting your mental health at risk, and you have

0:40:32.200 --> 0:40:34.360
<v Speaker 2>a soft place to land, that is a huge blessing.

0:40:34.800 --> 0:40:37.600
<v Speaker 2>You've got somewhere safe, you're taken care of, you're not

0:40:37.920 --> 0:40:40.920
<v Speaker 2>forced to pay these you know, extra bills, so you

0:40:41.200 --> 0:40:42.759
<v Speaker 2>you know, full well you can quit your job and

0:40:42.800 --> 0:40:45.600
<v Speaker 2>you'll be all right, But what if you stuck it

0:40:45.640 --> 0:40:48.239
<v Speaker 2>out is not hurting you, maybe and you want to

0:40:48.239 --> 0:40:51.040
<v Speaker 2>stick it out, continue getting whatever benefits you can identify.

0:40:51.480 --> 0:40:53.759
<v Speaker 2>Maybe it's a four to one k match, or you

0:40:53.800 --> 0:40:56.640
<v Speaker 2>know a colleague that you enjoy working with or whatnot,

0:40:56.719 --> 0:40:59.080
<v Speaker 2>and you can look for jobs on the side. I'll

0:40:59.120 --> 0:41:01.759
<v Speaker 2>say one thing about times, it's a lot easier to

0:41:01.800 --> 0:41:03.600
<v Speaker 2>sneak out for a virtual interview.

0:41:03.920 --> 0:41:06.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, ain't that's the truth?

0:41:06.360 --> 0:41:10.160
<v Speaker 2>So easy, true, so easy, not that I know, but

0:41:10.520 --> 0:41:13.080
<v Speaker 2>you know, you you can do that. You can multitask,

0:41:13.239 --> 0:41:15.080
<v Speaker 2>so why not see what else is out there and

0:41:15.600 --> 0:41:19.319
<v Speaker 2>keep your salary in the meantime. So, yeah, that's that's

0:41:19.360 --> 0:41:20.040
<v Speaker 2>what I would say to that.

0:41:20.960 --> 0:41:24.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just knowing the difference between leaving, you know, a

0:41:24.080 --> 0:41:26.080
<v Speaker 1>toxic place and leaving a place that you're just like, eh,

0:41:26.080 --> 0:41:27.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm the fact, you know, I don't love it here.

0:41:27.600 --> 0:41:30.960
<v Speaker 1>That's not the same thing. Yeah, yeah, probably.

0:41:30.560 --> 0:41:31.920
<v Speaker 2>You're not just not going to love your first job

0:41:31.960 --> 0:41:33.919
<v Speaker 2>out of college and like that's okay. I sure didn't

0:41:33.920 --> 0:41:37.600
<v Speaker 2>love my first job, my first two jobs actually, but

0:41:37.719 --> 0:41:41.040
<v Speaker 2>any who, I had one nonethelesson I was grateful. All right,

0:41:41.200 --> 0:41:44.200
<v Speaker 2>let's move on to all second question. This comes from

0:41:44.280 --> 0:41:48.160
<v Speaker 2>listener named Dasha. She's from the atl A. Hope you're voting, okay.

0:41:48.520 --> 0:41:51.560
<v Speaker 2>Dasha says I recently got married in July of twenty

0:41:51.560 --> 0:41:54.960
<v Speaker 2>twenty and relocated to Georgia. I left behind my teaching

0:41:55.040 --> 0:41:57.959
<v Speaker 2>job of ten years, and unfortunately that also meant leaving

0:41:58.000 --> 0:42:01.560
<v Speaker 2>behind my precious sick time I had saved up. Now

0:42:01.560 --> 0:42:03.920
<v Speaker 2>that me and my partner are planning to have a family,

0:42:04.040 --> 0:42:05.920
<v Speaker 2>I want to stay home with the baby as long

0:42:05.960 --> 0:42:09.760
<v Speaker 2>as possible. However, at my new teaching job, they literally

0:42:09.800 --> 0:42:12.359
<v Speaker 2>gave me three days of six time of sick time

0:42:12.960 --> 0:42:15.600
<v Speaker 2>after paying off some debts. I have enough money left

0:42:15.600 --> 0:42:17.440
<v Speaker 2>over from selling my home to stay home with the

0:42:17.440 --> 0:42:20.200
<v Speaker 2>baby for about six months. Should I use that money

0:42:20.200 --> 0:42:22.160
<v Speaker 2>to stay home with the baby or tough it out,

0:42:22.239 --> 0:42:24.360
<v Speaker 2>go back to work after six weeks and invest that

0:42:24.440 --> 0:42:27.759
<v Speaker 2>money in the baby's future, or just save it. I

0:42:27.800 --> 0:42:29.680
<v Speaker 2>truly appreciate your help and I'm blessed to be part

0:42:29.719 --> 0:42:33.320
<v Speaker 2>of the Brown Ambition community. Thanks again in happy holidays. Also, yes, Mandy,

0:42:33.400 --> 0:42:35.720
<v Speaker 2>my paper ballot has been mailed off for the runoff election.

0:42:38.640 --> 0:42:41.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. I herd was Georgia. Okay, now we can focus.

0:42:41.680 --> 0:42:45.280
<v Speaker 2>Oh I love it man as a mama.

0:42:45.400 --> 0:42:48.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, God, I was going to say, he

0:42:49.120 --> 0:42:50.120
<v Speaker 1>said stay home with the baby.

0:42:50.360 --> 0:42:52.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm kind of like, yeah, I mean that's what my

0:42:52.640 --> 0:42:55.920
<v Speaker 2>heart says. My heart says, Well, she just got a

0:42:55.920 --> 0:42:57.680
<v Speaker 2>new job. How soon are you trying to have this, kiddo,

0:42:57.880 --> 0:42:59.799
<v Speaker 2>Because if you got three days up front, I mean,

0:42:59.840 --> 0:43:02.239
<v Speaker 2>does that mean like it takes long time to cook

0:43:02.239 --> 0:43:05.520
<v Speaker 2>a child inside, you know, in the next nine to

0:43:05.760 --> 0:43:08.680
<v Speaker 2>twelve months, if you get pregnant right away, you know,

0:43:08.800 --> 0:43:11.920
<v Speaker 2>could you appru more sick time in that process?

0:43:12.680 --> 0:43:13.840
<v Speaker 1>And did she say she's a teacher.

0:43:13.840 --> 0:43:15.960
<v Speaker 2>I had new plans she's a teacher, Yes, teaching job

0:43:16.000 --> 0:43:16.360
<v Speaker 2>in Georgia.

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<v Speaker 1>I wonder. I'm just saying, could she time it for

0:43:19.800 --> 0:43:21.520
<v Speaker 1>summer time so she could extend?

0:43:22.560 --> 0:43:25.320
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I don't think it like a summer break.

0:43:26.440 --> 0:43:28.919
<v Speaker 1>Remember you put me on the app ovia. Ov Ia

0:43:29.000 --> 0:43:32.000
<v Speaker 1>is just a free ovulating app. And could you And

0:43:32.040 --> 0:43:34.520
<v Speaker 1>then there's also they also that same company has a

0:43:34.520 --> 0:43:38.960
<v Speaker 1>pregnancy app, so you can kind of like time You're like, huh,

0:43:39.040 --> 0:43:41.600
<v Speaker 1>I could be pregnant, you know, have the baby, like

0:43:41.640 --> 0:43:43.920
<v Speaker 1>right before the summer, have that time off, have the

0:43:43.920 --> 0:43:46.360
<v Speaker 1>summer off, and then still have like my other weeks,

0:43:46.680 --> 0:43:50.680
<v Speaker 1>So maybe that's an option. Yeah, yeah, but I mean

0:43:50.960 --> 0:43:53.960
<v Speaker 1>there are some things everything it's not financial. This is like,

0:43:54.000 --> 0:43:55.719
<v Speaker 1>for example, what I tell my CEO all the time,

0:43:55.719 --> 0:43:58.839
<v Speaker 1>because she's very, very very system focused and organized, right,

0:44:00.120 --> 0:44:03.960
<v Speaker 1>remind her, I said, remember, systems are here to support people,

0:44:04.880 --> 0:44:08.239
<v Speaker 1>not to suppress them, meaning the system is not in charge.

0:44:08.360 --> 0:44:11.759
<v Speaker 1>So for you, like money is here to be of

0:44:11.840 --> 0:44:14.560
<v Speaker 1>service to you, you are not here to serve money

0:44:15.000 --> 0:44:18.239
<v Speaker 1>that if you want, because you've saved up, if you

0:44:18.640 --> 0:44:20.560
<v Speaker 1>that money is yours to do what you think is

0:44:20.600 --> 0:44:23.319
<v Speaker 1>best for your life. It's not like, yes, it's great

0:44:23.320 --> 0:44:25.040
<v Speaker 1>to save and invest in those things, and of course

0:44:25.040 --> 0:44:26.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, you know, me and Manad are all about that.

0:44:26.760 --> 0:44:29.920
<v Speaker 1>But ultimately that money is a tool for you to

0:44:29.960 --> 0:44:32.680
<v Speaker 1>live the life that you want. So if what you

0:44:32.760 --> 0:44:35.200
<v Speaker 1>want is to stay home with the baby, and the

0:44:35.200 --> 0:44:36.799
<v Speaker 1>truth is from like you know what I hear from

0:44:36.800 --> 0:44:39.239
<v Speaker 1>New Moms, you will know how you feel when the

0:44:39.280 --> 0:44:40.840
<v Speaker 1>baby gets here. I don't care what you think, you

0:44:40.880 --> 0:44:45.160
<v Speaker 1>gonna think, You not gonna know until the baby gets right, Mandy.

0:44:44.840 --> 0:44:48.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I would have personally, and I've been

0:44:48.640 --> 0:44:51.479
<v Speaker 2>candid about this maternityly it was not for me it's

0:44:51.960 --> 0:44:53.799
<v Speaker 2>I mean, it was for me because I did need

0:44:53.840 --> 0:44:56.840
<v Speaker 2>to like keep the tiny human alive. But for me personally,

0:44:56.880 --> 0:44:59.759
<v Speaker 2>me Mandy away from mommy me, it was really really

0:44:59.800 --> 0:45:02.160
<v Speaker 2>hard for me not to have something to focus my

0:45:02.200 --> 0:45:03.799
<v Speaker 2>time and energy on. And it didn't have to be

0:45:03.840 --> 0:45:06.960
<v Speaker 2>a job, but it needed to be something creative, something

0:45:07.120 --> 0:45:10.279
<v Speaker 2>that I could go away to do. So if you're

0:45:10.640 --> 0:45:12.680
<v Speaker 2>you know, you think that you're maybe have a similar mindset.

0:45:12.680 --> 0:45:15.319
<v Speaker 2>You may not even want six months alone. I'm saying,

0:45:15.360 --> 0:45:17.640
<v Speaker 2>like three months is nice, three months and that if

0:45:17.680 --> 0:45:20.880
<v Speaker 2>you have the savings for that, and maybe your timeline

0:45:20.960 --> 0:45:22.759
<v Speaker 2>is maybe you're already pregnant. You just didn't say it,

0:45:22.760 --> 0:45:26.120
<v Speaker 2>but maybe your timeline is such that you know you

0:45:26.160 --> 0:45:28.359
<v Speaker 2>want to have a baby really soon and you want

0:45:28.400 --> 0:45:29.920
<v Speaker 2>to take that time off, and you got money in

0:45:29.920 --> 0:45:30.719
<v Speaker 2>the bank to do it.

0:45:31.040 --> 0:45:31.520
<v Speaker 1>You're already.

0:45:31.920 --> 0:45:34.239
<v Speaker 2>She's a teacher, So I'm kind of feeling like, isn't

0:45:34.280 --> 0:45:36.200
<v Speaker 2>that a pretty stable job? Like you can always get

0:45:36.200 --> 0:45:37.080
<v Speaker 2>a teaching job.

0:45:37.880 --> 0:45:39.839
<v Speaker 1>For the most part. I mean, well, you know, things

0:45:39.840 --> 0:45:42.360
<v Speaker 1>are always a little wonky, but teachers it's not like

0:45:42.440 --> 0:45:44.480
<v Speaker 1>an engineer where you have to look and look and

0:45:44.520 --> 0:45:48.680
<v Speaker 1>look and look. Typically. Yeah, but yeah, so yeah, I

0:45:49.280 --> 0:45:51.960
<v Speaker 1>mean I would to mandas point plan for some time,

0:45:52.400 --> 0:45:54.600
<v Speaker 1>but you might not want the full six months, or

0:45:54.640 --> 0:45:58.560
<v Speaker 1>you might want. You know, everyone is different, and just

0:45:58.600 --> 0:46:01.360
<v Speaker 1>from I remember you, Mandy, just from you being like, mmm,

0:46:01.719 --> 0:46:03.720
<v Speaker 1>you didn't really know what you were going to feel

0:46:03.880 --> 0:46:06.719
<v Speaker 1>until the baby got here. So give yourself some flexibility

0:46:07.080 --> 0:46:10.319
<v Speaker 1>to have some time, take more of need be since

0:46:10.320 --> 0:46:12.360
<v Speaker 1>you have the funds, and take less if need be,

0:46:12.480 --> 0:46:13.919
<v Speaker 1>since you you know, you have the job.

0:46:14.160 --> 0:46:16.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh and I didn't even mention this. The thing is

0:46:16.120 --> 0:46:19.480
<v Speaker 2>she's talking about sick time, because that's how my my

0:46:19.560 --> 0:46:22.360
<v Speaker 2>husband's job worked too. He for his parental leave, he

0:46:22.440 --> 0:46:24.040
<v Speaker 2>had to save up all of us six days and

0:46:24.080 --> 0:46:26.680
<v Speaker 2>even then they max it out at six weeks, and

0:46:26.719 --> 0:46:29.680
<v Speaker 2>he saved them up for over ten years. But anyway, so,

0:46:29.840 --> 0:46:32.160
<v Speaker 2>but what you do have is you do have the FMLA,

0:46:32.239 --> 0:46:34.680
<v Speaker 2>the Family and Medical Leave Act, which does grant every

0:46:34.719 --> 0:46:37.520
<v Speaker 2>employee in the US twelve weeks of unpaid leave. But

0:46:37.560 --> 0:46:41.440
<v Speaker 2>it's twelve weeks, so you can legally take twelve weeks

0:46:41.480 --> 0:46:45.040
<v Speaker 2>of unpaid leave from your teaching job and fully expect

0:46:45.120 --> 0:46:47.759
<v Speaker 2>to come back to a job. By law, now you

0:46:47.800 --> 0:46:50.040
<v Speaker 2>would always have to like cover your expenses over that

0:46:50.080 --> 0:46:52.520
<v Speaker 2>twelve weeks. But so it kind of sounds like like,

0:46:52.560 --> 0:46:55.640
<v Speaker 2>what if you do the twelve weeks and you know,

0:46:55.800 --> 0:46:57.600
<v Speaker 2>see how things are and you want to go back,

0:46:57.640 --> 0:47:00.720
<v Speaker 2>then okay, and you can use your savings, Thank goodness,

0:47:00.719 --> 0:47:04.000
<v Speaker 2>you have some to to to spend, you know, to

0:47:04.280 --> 0:47:06.560
<v Speaker 2>help with the expense is on that time off, and

0:47:06.560 --> 0:47:08.759
<v Speaker 2>then you can go back after that. That that is

0:47:08.800 --> 0:47:10.640
<v Speaker 2>also something to consider.

0:47:11.560 --> 0:47:14.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, whenever I hear of FMLA, I always think, my life.

0:47:16.000 --> 0:47:17.839
<v Speaker 2>Come on, they didn't come up with that in the

0:47:17.880 --> 0:47:21.440
<v Speaker 2>in the you know, in the beme in the meme generation.

0:47:21.960 --> 0:47:24.839
<v Speaker 1>I've always liked to say, what happen it.

0:47:24.840 --> 0:47:26.759
<v Speaker 2>Might as well be called that because it's like unpaid leave,

0:47:26.800 --> 0:47:30.480
<v Speaker 2>and the US has the least generous federal standard for

0:47:30.560 --> 0:47:32.880
<v Speaker 2>parental leave, the least in the entire world, it feels like,

0:47:33.000 --> 0:47:36.680
<v Speaker 2>at least among developed countries like ours. But what do

0:47:36.719 --> 0:47:39.000
<v Speaker 2>you say to like the entire six months? Because I mean,

0:47:39.040 --> 0:47:41.759
<v Speaker 2>it sounds like she's got this windfall from selling her

0:47:41.800 --> 0:47:43.920
<v Speaker 2>home in New York. Why did I make up that

0:47:43.920 --> 0:47:45.880
<v Speaker 2>she's from New York? I don't know. She moved from

0:47:46.040 --> 0:47:48.839
<v Speaker 2>up north and moved to Georgia, and now she's got

0:47:48.840 --> 0:47:50.600
<v Speaker 2>this cash in the bank. She does say, you know,

0:47:50.640 --> 0:47:53.399
<v Speaker 2>should I invest it for my child's future or save

0:47:53.440 --> 0:47:56.520
<v Speaker 2>it for you know, just plane save it. And if

0:47:56.560 --> 0:47:59.320
<v Speaker 2>it's the only nest egg that y'all have, that's another

0:47:59.360 --> 0:48:02.319
<v Speaker 2>reason I'd be like, like hmm, maybe not below the

0:48:02.440 --> 0:48:06.600
<v Speaker 2>entire thing, yeah, but maybe you take that tiny human

0:48:06.680 --> 0:48:09.560
<v Speaker 2>that you have to like, yeah, like provide for beyond.

0:48:10.239 --> 0:48:11.640
<v Speaker 1>You might be yond those six months.

0:48:11.640 --> 0:48:13.319
<v Speaker 2>You might be skipping back to work if you're like

0:48:13.400 --> 0:48:17.239
<v Speaker 2>me in the middle of a pandemic, Like, what do

0:48:17.280 --> 0:48:19.760
<v Speaker 2>you mean I can't come in, but I've been planning

0:48:19.880 --> 0:48:25.160
<v Speaker 2>for this. Oh my heart goes out to the teachers

0:48:25.160 --> 0:48:26.680
<v Speaker 2>who have kids at home, though I don't know how

0:48:26.680 --> 0:48:28.399
<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, yo.

0:48:28.480 --> 0:48:30.680
<v Speaker 1>I used to think to myself it was hard enough

0:48:31.080 --> 0:48:33.759
<v Speaker 1>when the teachers had kids at home and they were

0:48:33.800 --> 0:48:36.000
<v Speaker 1>at school, because I was like, yo, you go home

0:48:36.040 --> 0:48:38.600
<v Speaker 1>to more of this. They're like, girl, So I can't imagine.

0:48:38.600 --> 0:48:41.640
<v Speaker 1>There's no reprieve. It's like, well, dag yeah, Like I

0:48:41.680 --> 0:48:44.640
<v Speaker 1>just I just can't even imagine. Like whenever, like I

0:48:44.680 --> 0:48:47.000
<v Speaker 1>go over to my sister's house and like Roman is

0:48:47.040 --> 0:48:49.440
<v Speaker 1>taking like his homeschool, that's what he calls it. I'm

0:48:49.440 --> 0:48:53.160
<v Speaker 1>doing homeschool there, like one kid like that. My sister

0:48:53.200 --> 0:48:55.000
<v Speaker 1>always has to leave the room not to laugh because

0:48:55.000 --> 0:49:00.600
<v Speaker 1>he'd be like, tcher, my head is right the Roman room. No, no, no,

0:49:00.680 --> 0:49:02.719
<v Speaker 1>Roman does it. He's just be looking like, oh, another

0:49:02.800 --> 0:49:07.120
<v Speaker 1>kid in this yes, but he's always teacher and it's raised.

0:49:07.280 --> 0:49:10.520
<v Speaker 1>My heat is raised, and it's just hilarious. But you

0:49:10.560 --> 0:49:12.239
<v Speaker 1>don't want to laugh because you know clearly their parents

0:49:12.239 --> 0:49:13.600
<v Speaker 1>is in the background, so you don't be giggling at

0:49:13.600 --> 0:49:15.359
<v Speaker 1>somebody else's kid. So we always go in the other

0:49:15.440 --> 0:49:18.520
<v Speaker 1>room and just like bust out into tears. But yeah,

0:49:18.560 --> 0:49:21.640
<v Speaker 1>I just can't imagine that teacher. Teacher is teaching Roman

0:49:21.680 --> 0:49:23.560
<v Speaker 1>and the rest of these five six year olds and

0:49:23.600 --> 0:49:26.280
<v Speaker 1>then has a five six year olds who's also like mommy, mommy, mommy,

0:49:26.400 --> 0:49:26.680
<v Speaker 1>come on.

0:49:26.880 --> 0:49:27.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:49:27.640 --> 0:49:30.120
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, So no, I think that's a game plan

0:49:30.160 --> 0:49:32.880
<v Speaker 1>many Mandy. I think that yes, seeing how you feel

0:49:33.200 --> 0:49:35.480
<v Speaker 1>knowing that you have your twelve weeks either way, but

0:49:35.600 --> 0:49:37.399
<v Speaker 1>being mindful that you're likely going to need I mean,

0:49:37.440 --> 0:49:39.279
<v Speaker 1>you have a human to raise, so you're going to

0:49:39.360 --> 0:49:42.680
<v Speaker 1>need that money like you're going to so But at

0:49:42.680 --> 0:49:45.239
<v Speaker 1>the same time, I'm all for using money as a

0:49:45.480 --> 0:49:48.120
<v Speaker 1>tool to live the life that you want. But I

0:49:48.120 --> 0:49:49.839
<v Speaker 1>don't think you have to make that full decision now,

0:49:50.160 --> 0:49:51.919
<v Speaker 1>you know. I think that you dip your baby toe

0:49:51.960 --> 0:49:54.439
<v Speaker 1>in and do more or less depending on how you feel,

0:49:54.480 --> 0:49:56.000
<v Speaker 1>and that you know when the baby gets here.

0:49:56.239 --> 0:49:58.359
<v Speaker 2>Yes, one hundred percent. And I hope that y'all moved

0:49:58.360 --> 0:50:00.320
<v Speaker 2>to Georgia because you got all kinds of really tips.

0:50:00.360 --> 0:50:03.440
<v Speaker 2>You can provide you some free childcare. Yeah, because it's

0:50:03.560 --> 0:50:07.040
<v Speaker 2>so nice. I don't know why I left. It takes

0:50:07.120 --> 0:50:09.880
<v Speaker 2>so little sense why I decided to move away from family.

0:50:09.960 --> 0:50:12.840
<v Speaker 2>But it's not always about me. Thank you Dasha for

0:50:12.920 --> 0:50:15.640
<v Speaker 2>your question, Thank you for voting and the Senate runoff

0:50:15.680 --> 0:50:18.160
<v Speaker 2>in Georgia. Love it all right, guys? That is our

0:50:18.280 --> 0:50:22.000
<v Speaker 2>questions for this week, our final episode of twenty twenty.

0:50:22.320 --> 0:50:23.960
<v Speaker 2>Hit us up though we will be back in twenty

0:50:24.040 --> 0:50:26.880
<v Speaker 2>twenty one, and you can reach us at Bronambition Podcast

0:50:27.000 --> 0:50:31.240
<v Speaker 2>at gmail dot com dot com. You can also slide

0:50:31.320 --> 0:50:35.000
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0:50:35.680 --> 0:50:39.080
<v Speaker 1>Yes we are. So do you want to do a

0:50:39.160 --> 0:50:40.799
<v Speaker 1>booster break or do you just want to do like

0:50:40.920 --> 0:50:41.799
<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty one?

0:50:42.600 --> 0:50:46.600
<v Speaker 2>Hope for twenty Let's do a boost for twenty twenty,

0:50:46.680 --> 0:50:49.040
<v Speaker 2>like something positive that came out of this year. I

0:50:49.080 --> 0:50:51.120
<v Speaker 2>don't know, and then we can talk about twenty twenty one.

0:50:52.000 --> 0:50:55.600
<v Speaker 2>Lord of Mercy, my twenty twenty boost. I feel like

0:50:55.600 --> 0:50:58.480
<v Speaker 2>I've been talking a lot, so I think you should go.

0:51:00.320 --> 0:51:05.279
<v Speaker 1>What is the twenty twenty boosts? I mean there were

0:51:05.360 --> 0:51:09.879
<v Speaker 1>there were a lot this year. Molly Moore, Yeah, there was, right,

0:51:09.920 --> 0:51:12.280
<v Speaker 1>it was Molly Moore. You know what I had to say.

0:51:12.400 --> 0:51:14.719
<v Speaker 1>If I had one real boost for twenty twenty, it

0:51:14.760 --> 0:51:17.000
<v Speaker 1>was more so me learning to ask for help.

0:51:17.200 --> 0:51:17.480
<v Speaker 2>Hmm.

0:51:18.239 --> 0:51:20.160
<v Speaker 1>Like I got like my executive coach for her like

0:51:20.200 --> 0:51:22.040
<v Speaker 1>I was like drowning in the beginning of the year.

0:51:22.040 --> 0:51:24.239
<v Speaker 1>I got my executive coaching team to execut my team,

0:51:24.400 --> 0:51:27.440
<v Speaker 1>to coach my team. It's been amazing. I got my

0:51:27.560 --> 0:51:29.960
<v Speaker 1>own like, you know, personal kind of like life coach,

0:51:30.000 --> 0:51:32.080
<v Speaker 1>and she's been awesome. We meet tomorrow, hey, Doctor Green

0:51:32.120 --> 0:51:36.520
<v Speaker 1>and season I also, you know, like I it just

0:51:36.920 --> 0:51:38.720
<v Speaker 1>it was just a lot of me asking for help

0:51:39.120 --> 0:51:42.080
<v Speaker 1>and not not waiting. So I have to say that

0:51:42.160 --> 0:51:45.080
<v Speaker 1>if twenty twenty revealed anything, it was I don't have

0:51:45.160 --> 0:51:47.040
<v Speaker 1>to do all the things myself that I can ask

0:51:47.080 --> 0:51:48.840
<v Speaker 1>for help. It's not that I thought it was a

0:51:48.840 --> 0:51:50.640
<v Speaker 1>sign of weakness. I'm always someone who doesn't want to

0:51:50.680 --> 0:51:54.080
<v Speaker 1>quote unquote bother somebody, and I just feel like I

0:51:54.120 --> 0:51:56.200
<v Speaker 1>ought to know so I'll figure it out. So, you know,

0:51:56.280 --> 0:51:58.640
<v Speaker 1>I just to me, that's yeah, that's my biggest win.

0:51:58.719 --> 0:52:00.760
<v Speaker 1>It was just like learning that I don't well, figuring

0:52:00.800 --> 0:52:03.760
<v Speaker 1>it out sometimes is asking just for help. Yeah.

0:52:05.200 --> 0:52:07.960
<v Speaker 2>So I love that, And I think you're so set

0:52:08.000 --> 0:52:10.480
<v Speaker 2>up for twenty twenty one success even more because of

0:52:10.520 --> 0:52:12.800
<v Speaker 2>the work you put in this year with the executive

0:52:12.800 --> 0:52:15.200
<v Speaker 2>coach and now you got your got your life coach

0:52:15.280 --> 0:52:18.160
<v Speaker 2>on deck. I love that, especially because I've been like

0:52:18.320 --> 0:52:20.440
<v Speaker 2>low key battering you to get it there.

0:52:20.920 --> 0:52:21.799
<v Speaker 1>I think, I know.

0:52:22.520 --> 0:52:25.480
<v Speaker 2>So yeah for me my boosts for twenty When I

0:52:25.480 --> 0:52:29.239
<v Speaker 2>think about this year, I know, God, I know that

0:52:29.320 --> 0:52:33.600
<v Speaker 2>there's so there was so much darkness, so much death.

0:52:33.760 --> 0:52:36.480
<v Speaker 2>This summer especially was so hard. I mean I was

0:52:36.560 --> 0:52:38.400
<v Speaker 2>kind of scrolling through my Instagram, which is like my

0:52:38.480 --> 0:52:41.560
<v Speaker 2>time capsule. It feels like where was I at in July,

0:52:41.800 --> 0:52:47.319
<v Speaker 2>you know, when all those protests were happening, and I

0:52:47.480 --> 0:52:49.279
<v Speaker 2>part of me is just the blessing is to have

0:52:49.360 --> 0:52:52.080
<v Speaker 2>survived it. The boost is to have survived it. And

0:52:52.160 --> 0:52:56.480
<v Speaker 2>to be able to go forward reawakened in so many ways.

0:52:56.560 --> 0:53:01.040
<v Speaker 2>And because I mean, I've always listen, I'm I'm a

0:53:01.040 --> 0:53:03.880
<v Speaker 2>woman in this world. I've been aware of things for

0:53:03.920 --> 0:53:05.840
<v Speaker 2>a long time, the way that we move through the

0:53:05.880 --> 0:53:09.520
<v Speaker 2>world and the challenges we have. But what I'll say

0:53:09.760 --> 0:53:13.120
<v Speaker 2>is I feel super empowered this year, having seen what

0:53:13.160 --> 0:53:16.680
<v Speaker 2>our voices can do collectively when we get out there

0:53:16.880 --> 0:53:20.480
<v Speaker 2>and demand change, and I am excited to take that

0:53:20.520 --> 0:53:21.920
<v Speaker 2>forward into twenty twenty one with me.

0:53:22.280 --> 0:53:23.320
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, I just feel.

0:53:23.080 --> 0:53:24.480
<v Speaker 2>Grateful to have survived it all.

0:53:24.640 --> 0:53:25.600
<v Speaker 1>I feel.

0:53:27.040 --> 0:53:31.880
<v Speaker 2>Heartbroken for people who have lost loved ones, and hundreds

0:53:31.880 --> 0:53:33.960
<v Speaker 2>of thousands of people have died. Thousands of people die

0:53:33.960 --> 0:53:38.520
<v Speaker 2>every day they still are. That to me is embarrassing

0:53:38.600 --> 0:53:43.000
<v Speaker 2>and shocking and just tragic. But for some reason, we

0:53:43.040 --> 0:53:46.200
<v Speaker 2>survive this year, and I got to believe that there

0:53:46.400 --> 0:53:50.040
<v Speaker 2>is a plan. And I'm so grateful for the time

0:53:50.080 --> 0:53:53.400
<v Speaker 2>I've had with my son. I'm so grateful for this podcast, Tiffany.

0:53:54.719 --> 0:53:57.719
<v Speaker 2>It's such a brounding force in my life, truly, this

0:53:57.800 --> 0:54:01.160
<v Speaker 2>podcast and talking to you every week. So I'm grateful

0:54:01.200 --> 0:54:04.399
<v Speaker 2>to you for still doing this with me five years.

0:54:04.400 --> 0:54:07.000
<v Speaker 2>Then we celebrated our five year anniversary this year, that's

0:54:07.040 --> 0:54:07.439
<v Speaker 2>Craig Cray.

0:54:07.600 --> 0:54:09.480
<v Speaker 1>Yes, I know it is Craig Gray.

0:54:10.080 --> 0:54:13.320
<v Speaker 2>All right, I'm done getting all emotional now. But twenty

0:54:13.360 --> 0:54:15.319
<v Speaker 2>twenty one So okay, so now we've kind of covered

0:54:15.360 --> 0:54:17.480
<v Speaker 2>what was good about twenty twenty, But what about the

0:54:17.560 --> 0:54:18.000
<v Speaker 2>new year?

0:54:19.360 --> 0:54:21.960
<v Speaker 1>Well, what I see for the new year for twenty

0:54:22.000 --> 0:54:24.319
<v Speaker 1>twenty one, hopefully I have be preggers. I got some

0:54:24.360 --> 0:54:26.520
<v Speaker 1>good news from the doctor. Remember I think I talked

0:54:26.520 --> 0:54:28.960
<v Speaker 1>about it like a few I'm not preggers yet, but

0:54:29.960 --> 0:54:31.120
<v Speaker 1>I think I remember I told you I had to

0:54:31.120 --> 0:54:33.720
<v Speaker 1>do like a mock kind of like yeah, trial whatever,

0:54:33.760 --> 0:54:35.080
<v Speaker 1>and they had to see like, oh you know what

0:54:35.160 --> 0:54:37.920
<v Speaker 1>day am I most like. It's so the way it

0:54:37.920 --> 0:54:39.640
<v Speaker 1>works is that with IVF, you go through a cycle.

0:54:39.680 --> 0:54:41.759
<v Speaker 1>That's just when they give you all this medicine to

0:54:41.840 --> 0:54:44.040
<v Speaker 1>get your insides, you're ready to receive a baby if

0:54:44.040 --> 0:54:48.359
<v Speaker 1>you already have like an embryo, which is just you know,

0:54:48.840 --> 0:54:51.360
<v Speaker 1>your your egg mixed with you know, your partner sperm,

0:54:51.400 --> 0:54:54.160
<v Speaker 1>and they started to grow like basically a baby outside

0:54:54.160 --> 0:54:56.400
<v Speaker 1>of you. And so they just want to because I

0:54:56.440 --> 0:54:58.960
<v Speaker 1>have just one healthy embryo left, and they're like, oo's

0:54:59.120 --> 0:55:01.200
<v Speaker 1>game time. So they wanted to do like a mock

0:55:01.280 --> 0:55:04.320
<v Speaker 1>cycle to see, Okay, Tiffany, what day, day seven or

0:55:04.400 --> 0:55:07.760
<v Speaker 1>day eight are you most like, you know, receptive? And

0:55:07.920 --> 0:55:10.200
<v Speaker 1>it didn't even strike me, is that you because some

0:55:10.239 --> 0:55:13.680
<v Speaker 1>people actually they'll test you and you your uterus is like, girl,

0:55:14.200 --> 0:55:17.320
<v Speaker 1>it's not it's not healthy in here, you know. So anyway,

0:55:17.360 --> 0:55:19.680
<v Speaker 1>the doctor called me today was like, yeah, you're totally receptive.

0:55:19.680 --> 0:55:22.480
<v Speaker 1>Both days were great. I was like, oh, yeah, so

0:55:22.560 --> 0:55:24.960
<v Speaker 1>that's good. So that just means basically it's up to me.

0:55:25.040 --> 0:55:28.880
<v Speaker 1>Now I just have to the next time my mensis

0:55:28.960 --> 0:55:32.080
<v Speaker 1>as as old African woman will say, y'all medicine, that's

0:55:32.080 --> 0:55:32.520
<v Speaker 1>just your.

0:55:32.640 --> 0:55:36.160
<v Speaker 2>Your moon good. I watched a lot of Game of Thrones. God,

0:55:36.719 --> 0:55:40.000
<v Speaker 2>so the next time Christmas Star, I think y'all should

0:55:40.000 --> 0:55:41.759
<v Speaker 2>do it at midnight.

0:55:42.600 --> 0:55:44.799
<v Speaker 1>I could just basically, you know, we could. I could

0:55:44.840 --> 0:55:47.240
<v Speaker 1>just let them know we could start a cycle. So yeah,

0:55:47.280 --> 0:55:49.279
<v Speaker 1>so I think hopefully for twenty twenty one, they'll be

0:55:50.080 --> 0:55:53.759
<v Speaker 1>baby super baby cooking prayerfully for real, like if you

0:55:53.880 --> 0:55:55.799
<v Speaker 1>whatever it is that you believe, and if you just

0:55:55.840 --> 0:55:59.800
<v Speaker 1>send either good energy, good raised prayer, accepting all good energy.

0:56:01.080 --> 0:56:02.680
<v Speaker 1>And I don't know if there's a lot of stuff.

0:56:02.680 --> 0:56:04.200
<v Speaker 1>You know, my book comes out next year, we'll talk

0:56:04.200 --> 0:56:09.080
<v Speaker 1>about it more next year. Potential TV show, we'll see.

0:56:09.480 --> 0:56:11.920
<v Speaker 1>There's been a lot of a lot of production companies

0:56:11.920 --> 0:56:13.440
<v Speaker 1>have reached out, but there's one in particular that I'm

0:56:13.480 --> 0:56:15.800
<v Speaker 1>interested in. But we've still been we've been doing a

0:56:15.840 --> 0:56:19.600
<v Speaker 1>lot of negotiating. Yeah, and just growth, like I want

0:56:19.600 --> 0:56:22.560
<v Speaker 1>to like, you know, I want to grow in Tiffany,

0:56:22.600 --> 0:56:25.239
<v Speaker 1>not just as the Budgetisa And that's I'm doing a

0:56:25.239 --> 0:56:27.280
<v Speaker 1>lot of pulling away from other parts of my business

0:56:27.280 --> 0:56:30.719
<v Speaker 1>so to have space to grow as Tiffany. So I

0:56:30.760 --> 0:56:31.040
<v Speaker 1>love it.

0:56:31.080 --> 0:56:32.640
<v Speaker 2>Where's the first place you're going to travel in the

0:56:32.680 --> 0:56:33.040
<v Speaker 2>new year?

0:56:33.840 --> 0:56:36.080
<v Speaker 1>I know, I don't like when we can finally travel.

0:56:35.920 --> 0:56:38.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like next summers. I don't know. It's hard to

0:56:38.160 --> 0:56:39.879
<v Speaker 2>be I.

0:56:39.800 --> 0:56:42.640
<v Speaker 1>Would say domestically, I kind of want to go to Charleston.

0:56:42.680 --> 0:56:43.840
<v Speaker 1>I just had it so beautiful.

0:56:44.040 --> 0:56:45.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Charleston.

0:56:45.480 --> 0:56:46.080
<v Speaker 1>I love that.

0:56:46.520 --> 0:56:48.960
<v Speaker 2>I've been thinking I'm definitely going to just go to Atlanta,

0:56:49.320 --> 0:56:51.520
<v Speaker 2>just go see my family, all the family that I've

0:56:51.520 --> 0:56:55.239
<v Speaker 2>connected with in these virtual times. Twenty twenty one for

0:56:55.360 --> 0:56:59.520
<v Speaker 2>me looks like a career inflection point. Definitely asking for more,

0:56:59.840 --> 0:57:04.200
<v Speaker 2>and I've already started those conversations this year, but I'm

0:57:04.200 --> 0:57:05.719
<v Speaker 2>you know, I talk to you Tiffany about it too,

0:57:05.719 --> 0:57:09.400
<v Speaker 2>and just expecting bigger and better from myself, and and

0:57:09.520 --> 0:57:11.560
<v Speaker 2>just looking for a new a new challenge and a

0:57:11.600 --> 0:57:14.759
<v Speaker 2>new chapter and and new challenges, whether it's you know,

0:57:14.800 --> 0:57:17.160
<v Speaker 2>where I'm at now or I just feel open to

0:57:17.520 --> 0:57:21.920
<v Speaker 2>do stuff. And as far as the baby twenty twenty one,

0:57:21.960 --> 0:57:24.400
<v Speaker 2>I'm excited for him. I'm excited for Rio to like

0:57:24.880 --> 0:57:27.520
<v Speaker 2>be in the in the in a normal world, you know,

0:57:27.680 --> 0:57:30.400
<v Speaker 2>I'm excited to see I'm excited slash scared. I'm gonna

0:57:30.480 --> 0:57:32.560
<v Speaker 2>choose to stay excited because I otherwise I think I'll

0:57:32.600 --> 0:57:35.960
<v Speaker 2>just be sad about him going to daycare. And just

0:57:36.000 --> 0:57:37.760
<v Speaker 2>you know, I just keep picturing with like a little

0:57:37.760 --> 0:57:40.360
<v Speaker 2>baseball cap and a base in a backpack. I don't

0:57:40.360 --> 0:57:41.400
<v Speaker 2>even think babies need that.

0:57:41.520 --> 0:57:43.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they love their little back that nothing in it

0:57:43.880 --> 0:57:45.680
<v Speaker 1>but some papers.

0:57:46.520 --> 0:57:48.560
<v Speaker 2>Maybe I'll throw, like, you know, some of Molly's chew

0:57:48.600 --> 0:57:50.080
<v Speaker 2>toys in there. He loves those.

0:57:51.000 --> 0:57:53.200
<v Speaker 1>But just you know, having him make friends.

0:57:53.240 --> 0:57:56.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm just very excited to see him. I don't know,

0:57:57.040 --> 0:57:59.400
<v Speaker 2>I'm just excited to see him, you know, grow up

0:57:59.480 --> 0:58:03.640
<v Speaker 2>and and uh, you know, just make his own little

0:58:03.800 --> 0:58:08.480
<v Speaker 2>make his own little trajectory for himself. So twenty twenty one,

0:58:08.520 --> 0:58:11.520
<v Speaker 2>here we go. Thank y'all for riding with us this year,

0:58:11.720 --> 0:58:15.000
<v Speaker 2>really truly y'all. Haven and we have new listeners this

0:58:15.120 --> 0:58:17.320
<v Speaker 2>year on top of everything. So thank y'all for your

0:58:17.320 --> 0:58:20.040
<v Speaker 2>continued love and support. It means so so much to us.

0:58:20.560 --> 0:58:23.480
<v Speaker 2>Don't forget to use promo code ho ho ho at

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0:58:34.800 --> 0:58:37.440
<v Speaker 2>What is it? Twenty five percent off I think, So

0:58:37.760 --> 0:58:42.000
<v Speaker 2>get yourself decked out and just hang in there, y'all.

0:58:42.040 --> 0:58:43.680
<v Speaker 2>It's going to be a dark winter, but we will

0:58:43.680 --> 0:58:46.480
<v Speaker 2>get through it. We will and hit us up. Send

0:58:46.560 --> 0:58:49.240
<v Speaker 2>us your questions, Tiffany, I hope you get some rest,

0:58:50.200 --> 0:58:51.160
<v Speaker 2>we relaxation.

0:58:52.720 --> 0:58:54.919
<v Speaker 1>Yes, and you know what, before we go, I would

0:58:55.000 --> 0:58:56.800
<v Speaker 1>love to give for you guys to give me some

0:58:56.960 --> 0:58:59.760
<v Speaker 1>like message, just like especially like maybe I don't know,

0:58:59.840 --> 0:59:02.520
<v Speaker 1>like write on a post on Instagram or that's probably

0:59:02.520 --> 0:59:04.160
<v Speaker 1>the best, or even tweet me I'm the budgetisted on

0:59:04.200 --> 0:59:07.479
<v Speaker 1>Instagram and Twitter. A friend of mine. I asked her

0:59:07.600 --> 0:59:09.840
<v Speaker 1>for some advice because she had helped to launch Tony

0:59:09.920 --> 0:59:13.200
<v Speaker 1>Robbins's book Money, and I asked her for some advice

0:59:13.200 --> 0:59:15.960
<v Speaker 1>about how, you know, like some best practices about launching mine.

0:59:16.560 --> 0:59:18.040
<v Speaker 1>And she had asked me all these questions. I already

0:59:18.040 --> 0:59:19.680
<v Speaker 1>have a team, we've been working there for like two months,

0:59:19.680 --> 0:59:20.880
<v Speaker 1>and this and that. She's like, I'm not going to

0:59:20.920 --> 0:59:23.880
<v Speaker 1>give you any advice. I was like, what, why, Sybil.

0:59:24.200 --> 0:59:25.600
<v Speaker 1>She was like, you don't. The book is going to

0:59:25.640 --> 0:59:26.960
<v Speaker 1>do what the book is going to do, Tiffany, you

0:59:27.000 --> 0:59:30.200
<v Speaker 1>are already doing all of the work. Instead, I want

0:59:30.240 --> 0:59:32.720
<v Speaker 1>you to tell me how will you celebrate when it's successful.

0:59:33.440 --> 0:59:34.680
<v Speaker 1>I was like, what she said, because I know you

0:59:34.680 --> 0:59:37.960
<v Speaker 1>have no plans for celebration. She was like you, She said,

0:59:37.960 --> 0:59:40.760
<v Speaker 1>I want you to do something slightly tacky. I was like, no.

0:59:43.160 --> 0:59:46.680
<v Speaker 1>She said slightly tacky, meaning like I want you. She said,

0:59:46.760 --> 0:59:48.760
<v Speaker 1>do something, Tiffany, I don't want to like, oh we

0:59:48.800 --> 0:59:51.480
<v Speaker 1>went to dinner. Now. She said, I want something a

0:59:51.480 --> 0:59:54.280
<v Speaker 1>little ostentatious, a little tacky. Tiffany, you don't never do

0:59:54.320 --> 0:59:57.800
<v Speaker 1>anything big for yourself. So I would love if if

0:59:57.920 --> 1:00:01.520
<v Speaker 1>money was not, you know, was not an issue. You know,

1:00:01.640 --> 1:00:04.160
<v Speaker 1>what would you do in celebration of a big milestone,

1:00:04.160 --> 1:00:07.120
<v Speaker 1>like your first traditionally published book doing really well? Like,

1:00:07.200 --> 1:00:09.400
<v Speaker 1>what would you do? Like I said, money is not

1:00:09.440 --> 1:00:11.280
<v Speaker 1>an object, you know, like it's not an issue at all.

1:00:12.680 --> 1:00:14.360
<v Speaker 1>But you know, because she was like, girl, I want

1:00:14.360 --> 1:00:16.000
<v Speaker 1>you to run a private jet and go to Fiji.

1:00:16.040 --> 1:00:21.520
<v Speaker 1>I was like what she was like, price it out.

1:00:21.600 --> 1:00:23.400
<v Speaker 1>It might not be as much as you think. So

1:00:23.440 --> 1:00:24.960
<v Speaker 1>that's the kind of thing. So I would love for

1:00:25.000 --> 1:00:26.320
<v Speaker 1>you guys to be like girl. If it was me,

1:00:26.440 --> 1:00:28.840
<v Speaker 1>I would, you know, because I just like, because even

1:00:28.880 --> 1:00:30.479
<v Speaker 1>if I don't do it, you know, for this, because

1:00:30.480 --> 1:00:33.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm like simple girl, but I wanted to start thinking

1:00:33.640 --> 1:00:36.640
<v Speaker 1>outside the box box of ways to like celebrate and

1:00:36.720 --> 1:00:39.320
<v Speaker 1>mark a moment in time, you know, So yeah, just

1:00:39.400 --> 1:00:42.880
<v Speaker 1>please at the budgetis to tweet me, you know, message

1:00:42.920 --> 1:00:44.920
<v Speaker 1>me or post under my ig. I mean, I look

1:00:44.920 --> 1:00:47.200
<v Speaker 1>at those every day and give me an idea because

1:00:47.200 --> 1:00:49.240
<v Speaker 1>I would love, you know, I'd love to think about

1:00:49.240 --> 1:00:50.880
<v Speaker 1>it and then i'll, you know, hopefully ill I'll pick

1:00:50.960 --> 1:00:53.919
<v Speaker 1>one and celebrate big for next year.

1:00:54.200 --> 1:00:56.400
<v Speaker 2>Yes, put it on your vision board. Let's fill up

1:00:56.440 --> 1:00:57.479
<v Speaker 2>to me a vision board.

1:00:58.240 --> 1:00:58.479
<v Speaker 1>Yes.

1:01:00.160 --> 1:01:03.400
<v Speaker 2>By Charleston by the little damn city.

1:01:04.080 --> 1:01:06.680
<v Speaker 1>Well, she said, I'm not gonna lie. A private jet

1:01:06.800 --> 1:01:10.040
<v Speaker 1>is something like to like actually one day, Like I

1:01:10.080 --> 1:01:11.920
<v Speaker 1>just always assume maybe one day somebody would hire me

1:01:11.960 --> 1:01:13.920
<v Speaker 1>and then send a private jet for me. But that

1:01:14.040 --> 1:01:16.200
<v Speaker 1>was like, all, like that's on like my bucket lists,

1:01:16.240 --> 1:01:17.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, like of like, oh, to fly in a

1:01:17.640 --> 1:01:18.200
<v Speaker 1>private jet.

1:01:19.840 --> 1:01:23.720
<v Speaker 2>You'll be there please. I'm like, you know, I fully

1:01:23.760 --> 1:01:25.880
<v Speaker 2>expect your book to be on like Oprah's favorite Things

1:01:25.880 --> 1:01:29.960
<v Speaker 2>list for next year. You and Oprah. There's some energy

1:01:29.960 --> 1:01:33.520
<v Speaker 2>in the like you and Oprah. She knows about you, Tiffany.

1:01:33.560 --> 1:01:36.000
<v Speaker 2>I just feel it in my bones. And she's waiting.

1:01:36.440 --> 1:01:38.680
<v Speaker 2>She's waiting to tap you on your virtual shoulder.

1:01:38.720 --> 1:01:40.480
<v Speaker 1>If anybody knows Oprah tell I said.

1:01:40.360 --> 1:01:43.120
<v Speaker 2>Hush, she knows who you are, Like she knows. She's

1:01:43.160 --> 1:01:46.800
<v Speaker 2>out there, she's watching. She is, all right, Well, we're

1:01:46.800 --> 1:01:50.360
<v Speaker 2>so excited to see y'all next year. Well, we'll hit

1:01:50.440 --> 1:01:52.080
<v Speaker 2>you up, you know, let you know we're gonna be

1:01:52.080 --> 1:01:54.120
<v Speaker 2>back maybe a couple of weeks, see how we feel.

1:01:55.840 --> 1:01:58.040
<v Speaker 2>Happy New Year to you, Kelly. Thank you for being

1:01:58.040 --> 1:01:59.040
<v Speaker 2>our badass editor.

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<v Speaker 1>All yes, thank you so much.

1:02:01.080 --> 1:02:04.480
<v Speaker 2>Yes, you really saved my booty so we're thankful for

1:02:04.560 --> 1:02:07.400
<v Speaker 2>you too, and wish you guys all uh blessed and

1:02:07.560 --> 1:02:10.000
<v Speaker 2>safe holiday and see you in a new year, see

1:02:10.040 --> 1:02:25.920
<v Speaker 2>you next year. Bye,