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Speaker 2: Hey you last show of twenty twenty.

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Speaker 1: I know we should have done like a recap or

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Speaker 2: I'll do a recap of twenty twenty for you right now.

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Speaker 2: You're ready.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's.

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Speaker 2: Okay, there you go, we're done. No, well, there were

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Speaker 2: some actually, there were a lot of highlights. Can you

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Speaker 2: had taken time off, a little bit of time off

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Speaker 2: when I had the baby. And then yeah, it feels

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Speaker 2: like one hundred million years ago that we brought BA

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Speaker 2: back in twenty twenty. And I'm sure we said all

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Speaker 1: I think that'd be amazing to end on. But yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: but you're right, I'm sure we were like and then

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Speaker 1: and that wait what pandemic quarantine? Yeah? Yes, and now

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Speaker 1: six hundred dollars in stimulus money. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Deja vu? Right, deja vu, except like a worst dajah

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Speaker 2: vu because it's not as sweet as the first deja poo. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: let's break it down, because it's just you know, I think, wait,

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Speaker 2: Because I believe the text of the bill that Congress

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Speaker 2: on this new stimulus package, and there's all kinds of

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Speaker 2: So it may just be too little, too late for

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Speaker 2: think we should do some unpacking. Do you want to

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Speaker 1: Sure, quote unquote, So just so you know, like they

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Speaker 1: so to Mandy's point, it's a it's set to pass,

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Speaker 2: Do you call it? Why can't I find the words

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Speaker 2: that you're not that you can't get kicked out of

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Speaker 2: But that's something at least.

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Speaker 1: So then what about the landlord? Yeah, you know, because

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Speaker 2: looking at that section now mortgage for barons. So this

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Speaker 2: According to the Times, and it says that these rules

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Speaker 2: which to me doesn't sound very much like a benefit.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because if I had it, then I wouldn't need

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Speaker 2: probably going to vary from bank to bank. There's one

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Speaker 2: other thing for homeowners to be aware of, foreclosure protection.

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Speaker 2: So we covered renter and eviction protection and we got

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Speaker 2: We hope that you turn up and show out Georgia

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Speaker 1: What Yes, I didn't have it to be bad. Just

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Speaker 2: So literally everything is on the line, future relief packages,

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Speaker 2: Georgia. Okay, yes, okay, I'll calm down. I'm sorry, I'll

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Speaker 2: calm down. What else is happening in the world.

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Speaker 1: What's happening in the world. I don't know. I just

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Speaker 2: I the Martin scr how do you say his last name?

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Speaker 1: So yeah, so let's let's talk about like what happened.

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Speaker 1: this is not really a good thing, why are you

435
00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,720
Speaker 1: so happy about it? But the part that was really crazy,

436
00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,480
Speaker 1: after all of this is said and done, after you've

437
00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:35,880
Speaker 1: basically trashed your life for this guy, he said, yeah,

438
00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:36,960
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk to you anymore.

439
00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:39,879
Speaker 2: Oh that ending was really heartbreaking. Yeah.

440
00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:47,960
Speaker 1: Yes, when they said that, even yeah your endeavors, I

441
00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:49,920
Speaker 1: was like, and you were told that by a reporter

442
00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:50,879
Speaker 1: who's watching.

443
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:54,040
Speaker 2: I wasn't. I'm not going to pretend like we were

444
00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:54,680
Speaker 2: great friends.

445
00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:55,280
Speaker 1: You know.

446
00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:57,480
Speaker 2: I had not thought about Christy in a long time,

447
00:21:57,840 --> 00:22:00,600
Speaker 2: but I guess as a as a fellow, he human being,

448
00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 2: my heart does ache for her. I do feel, I mean,

449
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:07,399
Speaker 2: without just based on this article and having not given

450
00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 2: him very many of my brain cells in the past

451
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 2: to think about him. I just imagined to be a

452
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:16,359
Speaker 2: very manipulative person and as a reporter, you I do,

453
00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:19,359
Speaker 2: and especially a reporter who's covering like a personality like this.

454
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 2: They can make you feel very special if they if

455
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:25,120
Speaker 2: you get special access to them. So I can really

456
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,560
Speaker 2: see how he might have lured her in with that

457
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:29,720
Speaker 2: that feeling of you're the only one I'm talking to,

458
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:33,080
Speaker 2: et cetera. But then to like she froze her eggs

459
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 2: for him, you know, And and I don't necessarily I

460
00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:39,520
Speaker 2: think I saw I was. I had enough time to

461
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:42,360
Speaker 2: read a couple of like hot takes on Twitter, and

462
00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:46,439
Speaker 2: someone had had tweeted that. You know, in life, often

463
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 2: when people are unhappy with their circumstances, they'll they'll sort

464
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 2: of like trigger their own they'll blow it up themselves.

465
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:55,680
Speaker 2: And it's sort of like, so I have to imagine

466
00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:58,679
Speaker 2: she must have been really struggling. Maybe she didn't love

467
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,439
Speaker 2: her career, maybe she didn't love you know, her relationship,

468
00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 2: and maybe she was looking for something different, and then

469
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 2: you know, this opportunity presented itself to her for whatever reason.

470
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:12,119
Speaker 2: Like I do empathize with her at the same time,

471
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 2: I think the only she only had something to gain

472
00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:17,720
Speaker 2: from this, which was notoriety and the potential for what

473
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 2: a book deal that she seems to be really wanting,

474
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,640
Speaker 2: and maybe a movie deal about their love affair, but like,

475
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:26,680
Speaker 2: who wants to see if we don't need that, Oh

476
00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 2: my god, that's all I can think. Why else would

477
00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:31,399
Speaker 2: she want to go out with this story and do

478
00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 2: it in such a public fashion.

479
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:36,920
Speaker 1: I know. I was like, what's going on here? It

480
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:40,679
Speaker 1: was just so surreal, Like could be on Clubhouse and

481
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:44,119
Speaker 1: I'm like, wait, what so with somebody interviewing her, Like

482
00:23:44,280 --> 00:23:46,879
Speaker 1: so clubhouse is so funny, like you just talk in

483
00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:47,160
Speaker 1: your room.

484
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 2: People are just talking, like how do you do? You

485
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 2: have to like be invited to talk or yes, okay, god,

486
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 2: so you have to so you can raise your hand

487
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:54,680
Speaker 2: to ask.

488
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:56,439
Speaker 1: So I just was like, okay, so I just popped in.

489
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:59,200
Speaker 1: I just basically was listening. So, you know, because usually

490
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:00,879
Speaker 1: what I do with Clubhouse the first week I'm not

491
00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 1: gonna lie. First, maybe a week or two, I didn't

492
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:03,720
Speaker 1: really like it. I was like I don't get it,

493
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:05,840
Speaker 1: and now I get it. So I look for a

494
00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,360
Speaker 1: room where I think I can find value. So I'm like, oh,

495
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 1: this is a you know, about how to market an

496
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,359
Speaker 1: eight figure business or how to promote your children's book.

497
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 1: I was in a room like that, and I was

498
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:16,920
Speaker 1: just listening for new ways. So I'll listen and then

499
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,200
Speaker 1: sometimes if I think I can add something, I would

500
00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:22,359
Speaker 1: say maybe a good twenty percent of the time I

501
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 1: might raise my hand to add something where I'm like,

502
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,399
Speaker 1: oh I can add And then eighty percent, though, I'm

503
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 1: usually in rooms where I'm just listening and learning, and

504
00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:30,719
Speaker 1: like you take away a little nugget or like a

505
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,199
Speaker 1: website or whatever and it's really good or someone to follow.

506
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,080
Speaker 1: So anyway, so you know that, then there are rooms

507
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: like that where people are just discussing things. So sometimes

508
00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 1: I for me, I like joining sometimes like the fashion

509
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:46,199
Speaker 1: and merchandising rooms because it's just a different type of

510
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:48,119
Speaker 1: business and so it helps me expand the way I

511
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 1: think about business, So I like to listen to those.

512
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 1: So anyway, Yeah, it was just pretty wild for that

513
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 1: article to come out and then to go on clubhouse

514
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 1: and be like, wait, she's here.

515
00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:01,679
Speaker 2: Wait what for any kind of coverage right now?

516
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: That's how I yeah, And that's what someone said to her.

517
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:06,280
Speaker 1: They were like, girl, yeah, honestly, it was a couple

518
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 1: of sisters that call her out. They're like, it must

519
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:10,199
Speaker 1: be nice to lean into your right privilege to be

520
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:12,879
Speaker 1: able to do this, but girl, the rest of us

521
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:14,919
Speaker 1: out here working like it's this does not work out

522
00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 1: for people like us, you know. Yeah, and someone people

523
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:19,359
Speaker 1: were like, it seems like you're delighting in all of this,

524
00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:21,719
Speaker 1: So yeah, I think she is.

525
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:24,719
Speaker 2: I almost think she's and maybe some part of her

526
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 2: things too, that that he will come back to her beak.

527
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 2: And I think she even said that in the article

528
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:33,360
Speaker 2: that or the writer did that by bringing this relationship public,

529
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:35,439
Speaker 2: it'll kind of because he doesn't talked to her in

530
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:39,200
Speaker 2: a year, like a whole year, and she can't call him.

531
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:40,679
Speaker 2: He can only call her, and he hasn't called her

532
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:41,240
Speaker 2: in a year.

533
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 1: And I'm like, it's someone's like, he's not busy, sis,

534
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 1: he's sending your signals. There's nothing to.

535
00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,040
Speaker 2: Do, and Jane let him go, let him go, but

536
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:49,360
Speaker 2: she does.

537
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:51,360
Speaker 1: I will say this, like of all the other things

538
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,120
Speaker 1: that seemed kind of like disingenuous when she spoke, one

539
00:25:54,119 --> 00:25:56,359
Speaker 1: thing that did seem genuine was that she does seem

540
00:25:56,400 --> 00:26:00,680
Speaker 1: to genuinely love him, whatever love looks like with her

541
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:01,399
Speaker 1: mental state.

542
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 2: You know, Well, there's books that have been written about

543
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 2: like people who fall in love with people in prison

544
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:08,919
Speaker 2: who they've never met before, and there's a whole like

545
00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 2: subculture that is a is a movie I would watch,

546
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:13,919
Speaker 2: like a documentary or something like that about people who

547
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:16,000
Speaker 2: fall in love with people in prison. So I mean,

548
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:19,399
Speaker 2: she's not the first person to pine for someone in prison,

549
00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 2: but I mean, they don't even like whatever. I don't know.

550
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:25,399
Speaker 2: It's interesting, it's very weird to have that, you know,

551
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 2: worked with her in the past. But I wish her

552
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 2: well and uh oh god, I'm just sad that she's

553
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 2: made this farmer bro like a topic again, because I

554
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 2: know we had just forgotten about him.

555
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:39,879
Speaker 1: I feel like, hey, and I'm not gonna lie. He

556
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:41,119
Speaker 1: looks very strange.

557
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:45,160
Speaker 2: He looks like you think he would look with his personality,

558
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:54,880
Speaker 2: like he is like very like pasty and you know, dickish. Yeah,

559
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:56,920
Speaker 2: like a face you could punch, like a punchable face.

560
00:26:57,080 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 1: Yes, a face you could punch. Was a person, you'd

561
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 1: be like, oh, that's what it looks like. A dictionary.

562
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:05,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't even know where to go from there.

563
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,959
Speaker 2: I'm like calmbing my brain. How do we go now?

564
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,320
Speaker 1: From from now, we'll just going to questions. Let's just see.

565
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's the end of the year, and it's the

566
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,360
Speaker 2: end of this segment. Let's take a quick break. We'll

567
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 2: be right back with your questions. All right, we are

568
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 2: back with your questions.

569
00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:54,400
Speaker 1: Hit us up.

570
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 2: I know that you know, why don't I hope actually

571
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 2: that none of y'all are traveling very far or anywhere

572
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 2: for that matter, for the holidays. But maybe you're sitting

573
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 2: at home taking a break, trying to get your you know, finances,

574
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 2: make your big career moves. In twenty twenty one, doing

575
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 2: your vision boards, Tiffany, didn't you say you just did

576
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:11,120
Speaker 2: a vision board party over the weekend.

577
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 1: I did one this weekend for this company. It was

578
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 1: called It's creative What are they on Instagram? They do

579
00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:19,439
Speaker 1: stuff like all the time. It's like free, and it

580
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,880
Speaker 1: was like so much fun. It was called creative culture

581
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 1: or something. I feel like a lot of us all

582
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:28,400
Speaker 1: follow that we know create, create and cultivate.

583
00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:30,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh why do I know them? Okay, yeah, I've

584
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 2: heard of them.

585
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:32,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, they were. It just was really fun. So we

586
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 1: just the They had like some weekend kind of like

587
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 1: future planning party. It was called like the future you

588
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 1: a digital festival, and so they had a bunch of

589
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 1: people teaching stuff and I'm not gonna lie, this was

590
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:46,880
Speaker 1: the most fun I had in so long. So I

591
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:51,520
Speaker 1: shared like my vision board process and there were like,

592
00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 1: you know, a few hundred women on there, and we

593
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 1: just talked about how to make their vision board, what

594
00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 1: materials they needed. But then to really how to take

595
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:00,160
Speaker 1: your vision board off your board and into real life.

596
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 1: So it was a lot of fun. That's cool.

597
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 2: I have never done a vision board. Do you think

598
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 2: I should?

599
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 1: I mean, it's up to you. I think here's what

600
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 1: I think. I always think that, however, you vision plan

601
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: should be specifically in alignment with your personality. So if

602
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 1: I was a photographer, I would vision plan by taking

603
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 1: pictures or cutting off pictures and putting them up. If

604
00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 1: I was a painter, I would paint what you see,

605
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 1: what I mean, like, that's where you would be best useful.

606
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 1: So if you're a writer, you might vision plan by journaling.

607
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 1: So I just like, I'm very visual, so I like

608
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:35,360
Speaker 1: to do I use this kind of like some corkboard thing,

609
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 1: so I could take things off and on. And I

610
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:40,120
Speaker 1: have the same vision board for the last ten years,

611
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 1: and I just as things come true, I take the

612
00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 1: thing those things off and then add new things on.

613
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 1: But I love it just because, like it's not some

614
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 1: magical thing. But what it does is like it helps

615
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 1: me remind myself the things that I'm working toward. And

616
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I usually i'll do it. I'll

617
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 1: put it on the wall and I won't even consciously

618
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 1: look at it. Like I was looking at my vision board.

619
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, snap, so much of this stuff

620
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 1: came true. I forgot I put that on there, and like.

621
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 2: What are some things on there that you look back

622
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 2: and you're like, dang, I really did manifest that.

623
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 1: So launching like a successful Happy Birthday Molly Moore in book,

624
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: and I'm like I even had like the old cover

625
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 1: a picture of it, like this is going to be

626
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 1: you know, it's going to have a successful a book launch.

627
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 1: And we made six figures this year of Molly Moore.

628
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that's on here. I always have

629
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 1: some financial goals, so on there. What I do with

630
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 1: my vision board is I split it in half. I

631
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 1: put like a masking tape down the middle, and I

632
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 1: do a professional and a personal half. Professional half. I have, Yeah,

633
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 1: I have like a dollar bill that I like, I

634
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 1: like put little stickies on to say fifteen million dollars.

635
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 1: And the business has crossed over fifteen million dollars this year,

636
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: I mean since the inception. And I was like, oh,

637
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: it happened. And then on the personal side, something that

638
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 1: did not happen. I've had serena Williams on my personal

639
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: side for the last ten years. We don't hit that yet,

640
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 1: but that's why wait what part of her married to

641
00:30:53,480 --> 00:31:02,000
Speaker 1: the co founder of redded or the Okay, but yeah, yes,

642
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,360
Speaker 1: I was like, we ain't hit that yet. I was like,

643
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 1: that's all right, you know, one day, one day we

644
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 1: gonna have that body and then So I always have

645
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 1: travel stuff on my personal side. So I have like

646
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 1: which was crazy because we didn't go nowhere, but I

647
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:17,000
Speaker 1: had of Charleston I've never been. I have China, have Egypt,

648
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: and so I always on my personal side have some

649
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 1: travel stuff. I also have like what do I have, Like,

650
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Speaker 1: you know, I have romances on because I'm like I

651
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 1: want to, you know, still be very much in love

652
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 1: with my hubby. I have a baby on here and

653
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: so yeah, so that will stay on. So yeah, I

654
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 1: just I like to I like to address because my

655
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 1: professional life plays such a major role in my life.

656
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: So I like to have a professional side on the

657
00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 1: personal side. And some of it is just sticky notes

658
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 1: with things written on it, and some of it is

659
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: like just pictures. Some of it I cut out words.

660
00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 1: So whatever kind of moves you and makes you say, oh,

661
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 1: you know, but I encourage everyone to make on. I

662
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 1: make one with my sisters and Supergirl and I usually

663
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 1: have a vision board party every year, but obviously it's

664
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Speaker 1: not happening, so instead me, Supergirl and my sister will

665
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 1: just do one together.

666
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 2: That's really nice, And I think the for me, you

667
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 2: know you don't, And I think it's great that you

668
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 2: can say, you know, you don't have to like go

669
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 2: all out with your vision board. It can be writing

670
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 2: down or just something super simple, you know, because the

671
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 2: important thing is that you think about a different vision

672
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 2: for yourself if you're not happy with what's going on

673
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 2: in your life now. And it's sort of it's like

674
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 2: an annual check in where you can say, what do

675
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:26,800
Speaker 2: I like about where I'm at now and where do

676
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 2: I want to be? Because I think sometimes when you're

677
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 2: in a rut, you kind of get in this cycle

678
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 2: of like, oh this is this is it, Like this

679
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 2: is how good it can be and I'm just gonna

680
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 2: be okay with this and you know, deal with something

681
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 2: that I'm not entirely excited about. And maybe this is

682
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 2: maybe sitting down to do a vision board can remind you,

683
00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 2: you know, what gets you excited? What what kind of

684
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 2: gets your heart pumping. What did you want to do

685
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 2: when you were a kid that you never really got

686
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 2: around to do? Those types of things? I think I

687
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 2: do one I'm dead. I would love to see Husby's

688
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:57,280
Speaker 2: vision board.

689
00:32:57,400 --> 00:32:58,880
Speaker 1: Oh you should. I think it's a good you know,

690
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 1: because I, like I said, it's just a good activity

691
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 1: to kind of bring forth your your goals and dreams.

692
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 1: But the one rule there's usually there's really no rule

693
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,479
Speaker 1: for vision boarding except for this one rule, which is

694
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 1: you speak about your goals and the positive. So I

695
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 1: wouldn't say, don't gain any more weight, it would just

696
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,719
Speaker 1: be like to have a fit body like Serena, you know.

697
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 1: Or I wouldn't say, like stop spending instead I would

698
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 1: say save more. So that's really the only rule is

699
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 1: that you speak in the positive. You post in the

700
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 1: positive on your vision board, because that negative talk actually

701
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 1: it actually redirects your attention to what you don't have.

702
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 1: And if you speak negatively, you that's what you see

703
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 1: and that's what you feel, and that's what you help

704
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 1: to quite honestly bring more of that into your life.

705
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 1: I learned that not just some vision boarding, but even

706
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 1: like in top psychology, like when I first used to

707
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 1: teach when I first started teaching preschool. Every preschool classroom

708
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:54,440
Speaker 1: has a set of rules. So we had like three rules.

709
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:57,720
Speaker 1: It was like mine, we're no hitting, no running, and

710
00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 1: no yelling or something like that. And I remember thinking, oh,

711
00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:04,959
Speaker 1: these are so good, and a teacher they always when

712
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 1: you're a new teacher, they always match you with a

713
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:10,240
Speaker 1: what's to call a teacher, A like a like a

714
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 1: seasoned teacher. And she was like, no, that your rules

715
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 1: to me are speaking in the negative. She said, when

716
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 1: you have no hitting kids here hit, no running, they

717
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:20,239
Speaker 1: hear run, no yelling they hear yell. You have to

718
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 1: speak in the positive. So instead it was like I

719
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 1: changed it to walking feet, I changed it to use

720
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:31,479
Speaker 1: your inside voice, and I changed it to nice hands

721
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 1: or something like that, like you know, use your your

722
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 1: your you know, play nice hands, using nice hands or

723
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 1: something to that effect. Right, So but then I learned

724
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 1: because she was like, you know that if you you

725
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 1: want to reinforce the positive, not reinforcing the negatives. And

726
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 1: so I was just like wow, So that's really the

727
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:48,200
Speaker 1: only rule for your vision board, just to make sure

728
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 1: that you're not putting the anti that you're putting the

729
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 1: thing that you actually want, not the thing that you

730
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:54,840
Speaker 1: don't want on your vision board or or vision journal

731
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,000
Speaker 1: or vision painting or picture or whatever.

732
00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 2: Well, I loved it. And the reason I brought up

733
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 2: vision boarding at all because as I was thinking about

734
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:03,400
Speaker 2: y'all's questions, I was like, send us some questions, like,

735
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 2: or tell us what your vision board for twenty twenty

736
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,280
Speaker 2: one looks like other than just a big fat dose

737
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 2: of a vaccine, you know, and a nice cocktail. But

738
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:13,160
Speaker 2: what do y'all have planned for twenty twenty one? And

739
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:16,479
Speaker 2: are there any questions you have? And that also leads

740
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:18,879
Speaker 2: me to the questions that I chose for today's show

741
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 2: because I feel like they came from two listeners who

742
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 2: are each weighing some interesting career slash money decisions that

743
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:29,280
Speaker 2: folks might relate to. So let me pull those up

744
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 2: for twenty twenty one. I'm going to get a real

745
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 2: podcast set up so I don't have to jog all

746
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 2: these pillows. This is embarrassing, Okay. Our first question comes

747
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 2: from someone who like to remain anonymous, which is fine,

748
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 2: we will call her Patricia. Patricia says, I am twenty

749
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 2: five and pretty early on in my career I have

750
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 2: a secure salary job with almost five thousand dollars in

751
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:53,320
Speaker 2: my four one K and savings of about five thousand dollars.

752
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 2: I have fifty thousand dollars in student debt and a

753
00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:58,360
Speaker 2: little bit of credit card debt. I live in with

754
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:00,720
Speaker 2: my folks now, and I'm not paying rent, saving money.

755
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,319
Speaker 2: So here's my question. I want to quit my job

756
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 2: because I'm unsatisfied. It does not make me happy. Should

757
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,560
Speaker 2: I wait until, I say, until I can secure something else,

758
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 2: or put my personal health first and put a two

759
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:14,880
Speaker 2: week notice in now and hope I find something, or

760
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:17,760
Speaker 2: hope I find another job asap. I have a degree

761
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 2: and two years a professional work experience, so I'm semi

762
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 2: confident I can find something fast. Any feedback is appreciated.

763
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 1: Can I show you this meme that, like I saw,

764
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:32,320
Speaker 1: someone said, nobody quits a job like a millennial and

765
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 1: a toxic environment. It's true, we love ourselves mental health.

766
00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 1: You know what, I don't even like the way you

767
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:41,799
Speaker 1: guys got the a c up here. I don't even

768
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:43,439
Speaker 1: I don't know appreciate this. I told you all about

769
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 1: the AC I'm out. Yeah, it's true. Well, what's her name?

770
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 1: Does she say her name?

771
00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:53,200
Speaker 2: She wants to be anonymous, we're gonna call her Patricia.

772
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 1: Patty Patty Patty. So here's the thing. I actually had

773
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:58,479
Speaker 1: two of my friends who actually did get sick at work,

774
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 1: meaning like it was like really but it was a

775
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: very toxic, like dangerous kind of like environment with a

776
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 1: level of toxicity and how are they're being treated and

777
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:10,760
Speaker 1: so it was affecting them mostly but also mentally and physically.

778
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 1: I actually had a friend who got Bell's palsy, like

779
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 1: you know, one side of her face stopped moving because

780
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 1: of the level of stress. Now, we don't want that

781
00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:22,360
Speaker 1: for you, but I also want that you're not because

782
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 1: there is I don't really like this job, like you know,

783
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 1: for example, I'm gonna cashier on McDonald's. Don't really like

784
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 1: this job. And there's my boss is inappropriate and says

785
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:32,279
Speaker 1: things to me that makes me feel uncomfortable. The things

786
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: that we're doing are not ethical. So I just want

787
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 1: to make sure that you should absolutely leave. If it's

788
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:42,960
Speaker 1: a toxic, unsafe environment, you don't have to wait, thank god,

789
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 1: you know, you're home with your mom and your dad

790
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: and your parents. But if it's a I don't really

791
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 1: like it because it doesn't fulfill me. You know, it's

792
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 1: okay to stay until you have another job, because that's

793
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 1: going to happen in life. You're twenty five, and I

794
00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 1: get it, But I just want to make sure because

795
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 1: you don't want to be someone who thinks that challenges

796
00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 1: mean that you you turn around and you leave, you know,

797
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 1: unless you know what I mean. So I just want

798
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 1: to make sure that that's what it is. But I

799
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:11,720
Speaker 1: also want to honor that it might really be toxic,

800
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 1: and I don't want you to stay somewhere patty where

801
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 1: it's like a really like not safe space. But if

802
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,280
Speaker 1: it's just because you don't like it, because it's not interesting,

803
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:20,680
Speaker 1: it's not fun, it's boring. Maybe your boss is not

804
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 1: the nicest, but they're not like you know, they're not like,

805
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:25,359
Speaker 1: you know, mistreating you, they're just like you know, they're

806
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: not the nicest. Then those are things that you can

807
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 1: you can wait like sift through and wait on until

808
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 1: you find another job. I just don't want you dropping

809
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 1: from place to place.

810
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 2: Yeah. I have been that twenty five year old one

811
00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:39,560
Speaker 2: hundred percent, and I think a lot of twenty five

812
00:38:39,640 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 2: year olds you're not going to like love your first

813
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 2: job working out of college or grad school. Sounds like

814
00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:46,480
Speaker 2: you got your job out of grad school. Yeah, I

815
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 2: mean it's okay to not be satisfied. I think it's

816
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 2: don't don't. And she doesn't say anything about being in danger,

817
00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 2: like why necessarily she's unsatisfied. She doesn't even use the

818
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 2: word toxic. So it's simply that you just aren't loving

819
00:38:58,760 --> 00:38:59,360
Speaker 2: what you're doing.

820
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:00,880
Speaker 1: I might like.

821
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 2: And Tiffany was talking about flipping things to a positive

822
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 2: perspective earlier, and I've always approached my career this way.

823
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:09,440
Speaker 2: Jobs may not be right for you, but there can

824
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 2: be something that you get out of them, or at

825
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:14,320
Speaker 2: least the only thing you get out of them is

826
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:16,759
Speaker 2: you learned what you don't want in another job. Then

827
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 2: that's also a positive. So try to find the positive

828
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:23,879
Speaker 2: and try to keep My least favorite thing about someone

829
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:26,239
Speaker 2: who's unhappy with where they work is that they tend

830
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 2: to be really hard to work with because they're just

831
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:30,320
Speaker 2: so miserable and they just kind of drag them around

832
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:34,760
Speaker 2: down y'all. I'm sorry, my dog is having a conniption upstairs. Anyway,

833
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 2: I just and you also, you don't necessarily want to

834
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 2: leave as the employee who seems like super down and

835
00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:46,880
Speaker 2: like always negative and drags their feet virtually. I would say,

836
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 2: you know, look at where you're at now, what can

837
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 2: you continue to contribute? What can you possibly get out

838
00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 2: of this experience? And just make peace with the fact

839
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 2: that you know this is not going to be your

840
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 2: forever job, and like, okay, it's not going to be

841
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 2: your forever job. It's very unusual to get your forever job,

842
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,719
Speaker 2: you know, in your mid twenties. So I think if

843
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 2: you have a positive attitude, you can leave there on

844
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:11,839
Speaker 2: a good note. And I don't even you know whether

845
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:13,879
Speaker 2: you're going to switch industries or not. I just think

846
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 2: it's it's bad form to leave on a bad note,

847
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:19,400
Speaker 2: you know, with people kind of you know, feeling like

848
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:21,880
Speaker 2: you had checked out and you were super negative all

849
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:25,320
Speaker 2: the time. That being said, if you if you truly

850
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 2: are unhappy there and you and and it's toxic and

851
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 2: it's putting your mental health at risk, and you have

852
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,360
Speaker 2: a soft place to land, that is a huge blessing.

853
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 2: You've got somewhere safe, you're taken care of, you're not

854
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:40,920
Speaker 2: forced to pay these you know, extra bills, so you

855
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:42,759
Speaker 2: you know, full well you can quit your job and

856
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 2: you'll be all right, But what if you stuck it

857
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 2: out is not hurting you, maybe and you want to

858
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 2: stick it out, continue getting whatever benefits you can identify.

859
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 2: Maybe it's a four to one k match, or you

860
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 2: know a colleague that you enjoy working with or whatnot,

861
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 2: and you can look for jobs on the side. I'll

862
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 2: say one thing about times, it's a lot easier to

863
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:03,600
Speaker 2: sneak out for a virtual interview.

864
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, ain't that's the truth?

865
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 2: So easy, true, so easy, not that I know, but

866
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 2: you know, you you can do that. You can multitask,

867
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 2: so why not see what else is out there and

868
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 2: keep your salary in the meantime. So, yeah, that's that's

869
00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 2: what I would say to that.

870
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, just knowing the difference between leaving, you know, a

871
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 1: toxic place and leaving a place that you're just like, eh,

872
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 1: I'm the fact, you know, I don't love it here.

873
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 1: That's not the same thing. Yeah, yeah, probably.

874
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:31,920
Speaker 2: You're not just not going to love your first job

875
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:33,919
Speaker 2: out of college and like that's okay. I sure didn't

876
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 2: love my first job, my first two jobs actually, but

877
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 2: any who, I had one nonethelesson I was grateful. All right,

878
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 2: let's move on to all second question. This comes from

879
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:48,160
Speaker 2: listener named Dasha. She's from the atl A. Hope you're voting, okay.

880
00:41:48,520 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 2: Dasha says I recently got married in July of twenty

881
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 2: twenty and relocated to Georgia. I left behind my teaching

882
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:57,959
Speaker 2: job of ten years, and unfortunately that also meant leaving

883
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 2: behind my precious sick time I had saved up. Now

884
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 2: that me and my partner are planning to have a family,

885
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:05,920
Speaker 2: I want to stay home with the baby as long

886
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:09,760
Speaker 2: as possible. However, at my new teaching job, they literally

887
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:12,359
Speaker 2: gave me three days of six time of sick time

888
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 2: after paying off some debts. I have enough money left

889
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 2: over from selling my home to stay home with the

890
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 2: baby for about six months. Should I use that money

891
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 2: to stay home with the baby or tough it out,

892
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:24,360
Speaker 2: go back to work after six weeks and invest that

893
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:27,759
Speaker 2: money in the baby's future, or just save it. I

894
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 2: truly appreciate your help and I'm blessed to be part

895
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:33,320
Speaker 2: of the Brown Ambition community. Thanks again in happy holidays. Also, yes, Mandy,

896
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:35,720
Speaker 2: my paper ballot has been mailed off for the runoff election.

897
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I herd was Georgia. Okay, now we can focus.

898
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:45,280
Speaker 2: Oh I love it man as a mama.

899
00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:48,800
Speaker 1: I'm just like, God, I was going to say, he

900
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:50,120
Speaker 1: said stay home with the baby.

901
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 2: I'm kind of like, yeah, I mean that's what my

902
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:55,920
Speaker 2: heart says. My heart says, Well, she just got a

903
00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 2: new job. How soon are you trying to have this, kiddo,

904
00:42:57,880 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 2: Because if you got three days up front, I mean,

905
00:42:59,840 --> 00:43:02,239
Speaker 2: does that mean like it takes long time to cook

906
00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 2: a child inside, you know, in the next nine to

907
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 2: twelve months, if you get pregnant right away, you know,

908
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:11,920
Speaker 2: could you appru more sick time in that process?

909
00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 1: And did she say she's a teacher.

910
00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:15,960
Speaker 2: I had new plans she's a teacher, Yes, teaching job

911
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:16,360
Speaker 2: in Georgia.

912
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 1: I wonder. I'm just saying, could she time it for

913
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 1: summer time so she could extend?

914
00:43:22,560 --> 00:43:25,320
Speaker 2: Oh, I don't think it like a summer break.

915
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:28,919
Speaker 1: Remember you put me on the app ovia. Ov Ia

916
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 1: is just a free ovulating app. And could you And

917
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: then there's also they also that same company has a

918
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 1: pregnancy app, so you can kind of like time You're like, huh,

919
00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 1: I could be pregnant, you know, have the baby, like

920
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:43,920
Speaker 1: right before the summer, have that time off, have the

921
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:46,360
Speaker 1: summer off, and then still have like my other weeks,

922
00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 1: So maybe that's an option. Yeah, yeah, but I mean

923
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 1: there are some things everything it's not financial. This is like,

924
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 1: for example, what I tell my CEO all the time,

925
00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:58,839
Speaker 1: because she's very, very very system focused and organized, right,

926
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 1: remind her, I said, remember, systems are here to support people,

927
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 1: not to suppress them, meaning the system is not in charge.

928
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:11,759
Speaker 1: So for you, like money is here to be of

929
00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 1: service to you, you are not here to serve money

930
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 1: that if you want, because you've saved up, if you

931
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 1: that money is yours to do what you think is

932
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:23,319
Speaker 1: best for your life. It's not like, yes, it's great

933
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 1: to save and invest in those things, and of course

934
00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: you know, you know, me and Manad are all about that.

935
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:29,920
Speaker 1: But ultimately that money is a tool for you to

936
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 1: live the life that you want. So if what you

937
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 1: want is to stay home with the baby, and the

938
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 1: truth is from like you know what I hear from

939
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:39,239
Speaker 1: New Moms, you will know how you feel when the

940
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:40,840
Speaker 1: baby gets here. I don't care what you think, you

941
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 1: gonna think, You not gonna know until the baby gets right, Mandy.

942
00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I would have personally, and I've been

943
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:51,479
Speaker 2: candid about this maternityly it was not for me it's

944
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 2: I mean, it was for me because I did need

945
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:56,840
Speaker 2: to like keep the tiny human alive. But for me personally,

946
00:44:56,880 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 2: me Mandy away from mommy me, it was really really

947
00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 2: hard for me not to have something to focus my

948
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:03,799
Speaker 2: time and energy on. And it didn't have to be

949
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 2: a job, but it needed to be something creative, something

950
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:10,279
Speaker 2: that I could go away to do. So if you're

951
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 2: you know, you think that you're maybe have a similar mindset.

952
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 2: You may not even want six months alone. I'm saying,

953
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,640
Speaker 2: like three months is nice, three months and that if

954
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:20,880
Speaker 2: you have the savings for that, and maybe your timeline

955
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 2: is maybe you're already pregnant. You just didn't say it,

956
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 2: but maybe your timeline is such that you know you

957
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:28,359
Speaker 2: want to have a baby really soon and you want

958
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 2: to take that time off, and you got money in

959
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 2: the bank to do it.

960
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 1: You're already.

961
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 2: She's a teacher, So I'm kind of feeling like, isn't

962
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 2: that a pretty stable job? Like you can always get

963
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:37,080
Speaker 2: a teaching job.

964
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:39,839
Speaker 1: For the most part. I mean, well, you know, things

965
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:42,360
Speaker 1: are always a little wonky, but teachers it's not like

966
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 1: an engineer where you have to look and look and

967
00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 1: look and look. Typically. Yeah, but yeah, so yeah, I

968
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: mean I would to mandas point plan for some time,

969
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:54,600
Speaker 1: but you might not want the full six months, or

970
00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: you might want. You know, everyone is different, and just

971
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:01,360
Speaker 1: from I remember you, Mandy, just from you being like, mmm,

972
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:03,720
Speaker 1: you didn't really know what you were going to feel

973
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,719
Speaker 1: until the baby got here. So give yourself some flexibility

974
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:10,319
Speaker 1: to have some time, take more of need be since

975
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:12,360
Speaker 1: you have the funds, and take less if need be,

976
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:13,919
Speaker 1: since you you know, you have the job.

977
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 2: Oh and I didn't even mention this. The thing is

978
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 2: she's talking about sick time, because that's how my my

979
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 2: husband's job worked too. He for his parental leave, he

980
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:24,040
Speaker 2: had to save up all of us six days and

981
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:26,680
Speaker 2: even then they max it out at six weeks, and

982
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:29,680
Speaker 2: he saved them up for over ten years. But anyway, so,

983
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 2: but what you do have is you do have the FMLA,

984
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 2: the Family and Medical Leave Act, which does grant every

985
00:46:34,719 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 2: employee in the US twelve weeks of unpaid leave. But

986
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:41,440
Speaker 2: it's twelve weeks, so you can legally take twelve weeks

987
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 2: of unpaid leave from your teaching job and fully expect

988
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:47,759
Speaker 2: to come back to a job. By law, now you

989
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 2: would always have to like cover your expenses over that

990
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 2: twelve weeks. But so it kind of sounds like like,

991
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 2: what if you do the twelve weeks and you know,

992
00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 2: see how things are and you want to go back,

993
00:46:57,640 --> 00:47:00,720
Speaker 2: then okay, and you can use your savings, Thank goodness,

994
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:04,000
Speaker 2: you have some to to to spend, you know, to

995
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:06,560
Speaker 2: help with the expense is on that time off, and

996
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 2: then you can go back after that. That that is

997
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 2: also something to consider.

998
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, whenever I hear of FMLA, I always think, my life.

999
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:17,839
Speaker 2: Come on, they didn't come up with that in the

1000
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:21,440
Speaker 2: in the you know, in the beme in the meme generation.

1001
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:24,839
Speaker 1: I've always liked to say, what happen it.

1002
00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:26,759
Speaker 2: Might as well be called that because it's like unpaid leave,

1003
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:30,480
Speaker 2: and the US has the least generous federal standard for

1004
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 2: parental leave, the least in the entire world, it feels like,

1005
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:36,680
Speaker 2: at least among developed countries like ours. But what do

1006
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 2: you say to like the entire six months? Because I mean,

1007
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,759
Speaker 2: it sounds like she's got this windfall from selling her

1008
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 2: home in New York. Why did I make up that

1009
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:45,880
Speaker 2: she's from New York? I don't know. She moved from

1010
00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:48,839
Speaker 2: up north and moved to Georgia, and now she's got

1011
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:50,600
Speaker 2: this cash in the bank. She does say, you know,

1012
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:53,399
Speaker 2: should I invest it for my child's future or save

1013
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 2: it for you know, just plane save it. And if

1014
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:59,320
Speaker 2: it's the only nest egg that y'all have, that's another

1015
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:02,319
Speaker 2: reason I'd be like, like hmm, maybe not below the

1016
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 2: entire thing, yeah, but maybe you take that tiny human

1017
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 2: that you have to like, yeah, like provide for beyond.

1018
00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:11,640
Speaker 1: You might be yond those six months.

1019
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:13,319
Speaker 2: You might be skipping back to work if you're like

1020
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:17,239
Speaker 2: me in the middle of a pandemic, Like, what do

1021
00:48:17,280 --> 00:48:19,760
Speaker 2: you mean I can't come in, but I've been planning

1022
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 2: for this. Oh my heart goes out to the teachers

1023
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 2: who have kids at home, though I don't know how

1024
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:28,399
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, yo.

1025
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 1: I used to think to myself it was hard enough

1026
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 1: when the teachers had kids at home and they were

1027
00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 1: at school, because I was like, yo, you go home

1028
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 1: to more of this. They're like, girl, So I can't imagine.

1029
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 1: There's no reprieve. It's like, well, dag yeah, Like I

1030
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 1: just I just can't even imagine. Like whenever, like I

1031
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: go over to my sister's house and like Roman is

1032
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 1: taking like his homeschool, that's what he calls it. I'm

1033
00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: doing homeschool there, like one kid like that. My sister

1034
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 1: always has to leave the room not to laugh because

1035
00:48:55,000 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 1: he'd be like, tcher, my head is right the Roman room. No, no, no,

1036
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 1: Roman does it. He's just be looking like, oh, another

1037
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: kid in this yes, but he's always teacher and it's raised.

1038
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 1: My heat is raised, and it's just hilarious. But you

1039
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:12,239
Speaker 1: don't want to laugh because you know clearly their parents

1040
00:49:12,239 --> 00:49:13,600
Speaker 1: is in the background, so you don't be giggling at

1041
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:15,359
Speaker 1: somebody else's kid. So we always go in the other

1042
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 1: room and just like bust out into tears. But yeah,

1043
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 1: I just can't imagine that teacher. Teacher is teaching Roman

1044
00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:23,560
Speaker 1: and the rest of these five six year olds and

1045
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:26,280
Speaker 1: then has a five six year olds who's also like mommy, mommy, mommy,

1046
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:26,680
Speaker 1: come on.

1047
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1048
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 1: So yeah, So no, I think that's a game plan

1049
00:49:30,160 --> 00:49:32,880
Speaker 1: many Mandy. I think that yes, seeing how you feel

1050
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:35,480
Speaker 1: knowing that you have your twelve weeks either way, but

1051
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:37,399
Speaker 1: being mindful that you're likely going to need I mean,

1052
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:39,279
Speaker 1: you have a human to raise, so you're going to

1053
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 1: need that money like you're going to so But at

1054
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:45,239
Speaker 1: the same time, I'm all for using money as a

1055
00:49:45,480 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 1: tool to live the life that you want. But I

1056
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:49,839
Speaker 1: don't think you have to make that full decision now,

1057
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:51,919
Speaker 1: you know. I think that you dip your baby toe

1058
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:54,439
Speaker 1: in and do more or less depending on how you feel,

1059
00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 1: and that you know when the baby gets here.

1060
00:49:56,239 --> 00:49:58,359
Speaker 2: Yes, one hundred percent. And I hope that y'all moved

1061
00:49:58,360 --> 00:50:00,320
Speaker 2: to Georgia because you got all kinds of really tips.

1062
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 2: You can provide you some free childcare. Yeah, because it's

1063
00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 2: so nice. I don't know why I left. It takes

1064
00:50:07,120 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 2: so little sense why I decided to move away from family.

1065
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:12,840
Speaker 2: But it's not always about me. Thank you Dasha for

1066
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 2: your question, Thank you for voting and the Senate runoff

1067
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 2: in Georgia. Love it all right, guys? That is our

1068
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:22,000
Speaker 2: questions for this week, our final episode of twenty twenty.

1069
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 2: Hit us up though we will be back in twenty

1070
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 2: twenty one, and you can reach us at Bronambition Podcast

1071
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:31,240
Speaker 2: at gmail dot com dot com. You can also slide

1072
00:50:31,320 --> 00:50:35,000
Speaker 2: into our dms. We are at Brown Ambition Podcast on Instagram.

1073
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 1: Yes we are. So do you want to do a

1074
00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:40,799
Speaker 1: booster break or do you just want to do like

1075
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:41,799
Speaker 1: twenty twenty one?

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00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 2: Hope for twenty Let's do a boost for twenty twenty,

1077
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:49,040
Speaker 2: like something positive that came out of this year. I

1078
00:50:49,080 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 2: don't know, and then we can talk about twenty twenty one.

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00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:55,600
Speaker 2: Lord of Mercy, my twenty twenty boost. I feel like

1080
00:50:55,600 --> 00:50:58,480
Speaker 2: I've been talking a lot, so I think you should go.

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00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:05,279
Speaker 1: What is the twenty twenty boosts? I mean there were

1082
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:09,879
Speaker 1: there were a lot this year. Molly Moore, Yeah, there was, right,

1083
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:12,280
Speaker 1: it was Molly Moore. You know what I had to say.

1084
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:14,719
Speaker 1: If I had one real boost for twenty twenty, it

1085
00:51:14,760 --> 00:51:17,000
Speaker 1: was more so me learning to ask for help.

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00:51:17,200 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 2: Hmm.

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00:51:18,239 --> 00:51:20,160
Speaker 1: Like I got like my executive coach for her like

1088
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:22,040
Speaker 1: I was like drowning in the beginning of the year.

1089
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 1: I got my executive coaching team to execut my team,

1090
00:51:24,400 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 1: to coach my team. It's been amazing. I got my

1091
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:29,960
Speaker 1: own like, you know, personal kind of like life coach,

1092
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:32,080
Speaker 1: and she's been awesome. We meet tomorrow, hey, Doctor Green

1093
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:36,520
Speaker 1: and season I also, you know, like I it just

1094
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:38,720
Speaker 1: it was just a lot of me asking for help

1095
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 1: and not not waiting. So I have to say that

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00:51:42,160 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 1: if twenty twenty revealed anything, it was I don't have

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00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 1: to do all the things myself that I can ask

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00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:48,840
Speaker 1: for help. It's not that I thought it was a

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00:51:48,840 --> 00:51:50,640
Speaker 1: sign of weakness. I'm always someone who doesn't want to

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00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:54,080
Speaker 1: quote unquote bother somebody, and I just feel like I

1101
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 1: ought to know so I'll figure it out. So, you know,

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00:51:56,280 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 1: I just to me, that's yeah, that's my biggest win.

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00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:00,760
Speaker 1: It was just like learning that I don't well, figuring

1104
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:03,760
Speaker 1: it out sometimes is asking just for help. Yeah.

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00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:07,960
Speaker 2: So I love that, And I think you're so set

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00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:10,480
Speaker 2: up for twenty twenty one success even more because of

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00:52:10,520 --> 00:52:12,800
Speaker 2: the work you put in this year with the executive

1108
00:52:12,800 --> 00:52:15,200
Speaker 2: coach and now you got your got your life coach

1109
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:18,160
Speaker 2: on deck. I love that, especially because I've been like

1110
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:20,440
Speaker 2: low key battering you to get it there.

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00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:21,799
Speaker 1: I think, I know.

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00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:25,480
Speaker 2: So yeah for me my boosts for twenty When I

1113
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:29,239
Speaker 2: think about this year, I know, God, I know that

1114
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 2: there's so there was so much darkness, so much death.

1115
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 2: This summer especially was so hard. I mean I was

1116
00:52:36,560 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 2: kind of scrolling through my Instagram, which is like my

1117
00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:41,560
Speaker 2: time capsule. It feels like where was I at in July,

1118
00:52:41,800 --> 00:52:47,319
Speaker 2: you know, when all those protests were happening, and I

1119
00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:49,279
Speaker 2: part of me is just the blessing is to have

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00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:52,080
Speaker 2: survived it. The boost is to have survived it. And

1121
00:52:52,160 --> 00:52:56,480
Speaker 2: to be able to go forward reawakened in so many ways.

1122
00:52:56,560 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 2: And because I mean, I've always listen, I'm I'm a

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00:53:01,040 --> 00:53:03,880
Speaker 2: woman in this world. I've been aware of things for

1124
00:53:03,920 --> 00:53:05,840
Speaker 2: a long time, the way that we move through the

1125
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:09,520
Speaker 2: world and the challenges we have. But what I'll say

1126
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:13,120
Speaker 2: is I feel super empowered this year, having seen what

1127
00:53:13,160 --> 00:53:16,680
Speaker 2: our voices can do collectively when we get out there

1128
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:20,480
Speaker 2: and demand change, and I am excited to take that

1129
00:53:20,520 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 2: forward into twenty twenty one with me.

1130
00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:23,320
Speaker 1: And yeah, I just feel.

1131
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 2: Grateful to have survived it all.

1132
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 1: I feel.

1133
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:31,880
Speaker 2: Heartbroken for people who have lost loved ones, and hundreds

1134
00:53:31,880 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 2: of thousands of people have died. Thousands of people die

1135
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:38,520
Speaker 2: every day they still are. That to me is embarrassing

1136
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:43,000
Speaker 2: and shocking and just tragic. But for some reason, we

1137
00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 2: survive this year, and I got to believe that there

1138
00:53:46,400 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 2: is a plan. And I'm so grateful for the time

1139
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:53,400
Speaker 2: I've had with my son. I'm so grateful for this podcast, Tiffany.

1140
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:57,719
Speaker 2: It's such a brounding force in my life, truly, this

1141
00:53:57,800 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 2: podcast and talking to you every week. So I'm grateful

1142
00:54:01,200 --> 00:54:04,399
Speaker 2: to you for still doing this with me five years.

1143
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 2: Then we celebrated our five year anniversary this year, that's

1144
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:07,439
Speaker 2: Craig Cray.

1145
00:54:07,600 --> 00:54:09,480
Speaker 1: Yes, I know it is Craig Gray.

1146
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:13,320
Speaker 2: All right, I'm done getting all emotional now. But twenty

1147
00:54:13,360 --> 00:54:15,319
Speaker 2: twenty one So okay, so now we've kind of covered

1148
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:17,480
Speaker 2: what was good about twenty twenty, But what about the

1149
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 2: new year?

1150
00:54:19,360 --> 00:54:21,960
Speaker 1: Well, what I see for the new year for twenty

1151
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 1: twenty one, hopefully I have be preggers. I got some

1152
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:26,520
Speaker 1: good news from the doctor. Remember I think I talked

1153
00:54:26,520 --> 00:54:28,960
Speaker 1: about it like a few I'm not preggers yet, but

1154
00:54:29,960 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 1: I think I remember I told you I had to

1155
00:54:31,120 --> 00:54:33,720
Speaker 1: do like a mock kind of like yeah, trial whatever,

1156
00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:35,080
Speaker 1: and they had to see like, oh you know what

1157
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:37,920
Speaker 1: day am I most like. It's so the way it

1158
00:54:37,920 --> 00:54:39,640
Speaker 1: works is that with IVF, you go through a cycle.

1159
00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:41,759
Speaker 1: That's just when they give you all this medicine to

1160
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 1: get your insides, you're ready to receive a baby if

1161
00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:48,359
Speaker 1: you already have like an embryo, which is just you know,

1162
00:54:48,840 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 1: your your egg mixed with you know, your partner sperm,

1163
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:54,160
Speaker 1: and they started to grow like basically a baby outside

1164
00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:56,400
Speaker 1: of you. And so they just want to because I

1165
00:54:56,440 --> 00:54:58,960
Speaker 1: have just one healthy embryo left, and they're like, oo's

1166
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 1: game time. So they wanted to do like a mock

1167
00:55:01,280 --> 00:55:04,320
Speaker 1: cycle to see, Okay, Tiffany, what day, day seven or

1168
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:07,760
Speaker 1: day eight are you most like, you know, receptive? And

1169
00:55:07,920 --> 00:55:10,200
Speaker 1: it didn't even strike me, is that you because some

1170
00:55:10,239 --> 00:55:13,680
Speaker 1: people actually they'll test you and you your uterus is like, girl,

1171
00:55:14,200 --> 00:55:17,320
Speaker 1: it's not it's not healthy in here, you know. So anyway,

1172
00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 1: the doctor called me today was like, yeah, you're totally receptive.

1173
00:55:19,680 --> 00:55:22,480
Speaker 1: Both days were great. I was like, oh, yeah, so

1174
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:24,960
Speaker 1: that's good. So that just means basically it's up to me.

1175
00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:28,880
Speaker 1: Now I just have to the next time my mensis

1176
00:55:28,960 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 1: as as old African woman will say, y'all medicine, that's

1177
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:32,520
Speaker 1: just your.

1178
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:36,160
Speaker 2: Your moon good. I watched a lot of Game of Thrones. God,

1179
00:55:36,719 --> 00:55:40,000
Speaker 2: so the next time Christmas Star, I think y'all should

1180
00:55:40,000 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 2: do it at midnight.

1181
00:55:42,600 --> 00:55:44,799
Speaker 1: I could just basically, you know, we could. I could

1182
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:47,240
Speaker 1: just let them know we could start a cycle. So yeah,

1183
00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:49,279
Speaker 1: so I think hopefully for twenty twenty one, they'll be

1184
00:55:50,080 --> 00:55:53,759
Speaker 1: baby super baby cooking prayerfully for real, like if you

1185
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:55,799
Speaker 1: whatever it is that you believe, and if you just

1186
00:55:55,840 --> 00:55:59,800
Speaker 1: send either good energy, good raised prayer, accepting all good energy.

1187
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:02,680
Speaker 1: And I don't know if there's a lot of stuff.

1188
00:56:02,680 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 1: You know, my book comes out next year, we'll talk

1189
00:56:04,200 --> 00:56:09,080
Speaker 1: about it more next year. Potential TV show, we'll see.

1190
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:11,920
Speaker 1: There's been a lot of a lot of production companies

1191
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:13,440
Speaker 1: have reached out, but there's one in particular that I'm

1192
00:56:13,480 --> 00:56:15,800
Speaker 1: interested in. But we've still been we've been doing a

1193
00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 1: lot of negotiating. Yeah, and just growth, like I want

1194
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:22,560
Speaker 1: to like, you know, I want to grow in Tiffany,

1195
00:56:22,600 --> 00:56:25,239
Speaker 1: not just as the Budgetisa And that's I'm doing a

1196
00:56:25,239 --> 00:56:27,280
Speaker 1: lot of pulling away from other parts of my business

1197
00:56:27,280 --> 00:56:30,719
Speaker 1: so to have space to grow as Tiffany. So I

1198
00:56:30,760 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 1: love it.

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00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:32,640
Speaker 2: Where's the first place you're going to travel in the

1200
00:56:32,680 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 2: new year?

1201
00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:36,080
Speaker 1: I know, I don't like when we can finally travel.

1202
00:56:35,920 --> 00:56:38,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, like next summers. I don't know. It's hard to

1203
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:39,879
Speaker 2: be I.

1204
00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:42,640
Speaker 1: Would say domestically, I kind of want to go to Charleston.

1205
00:56:42,680 --> 00:56:43,840
Speaker 1: I just had it so beautiful.

1206
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, Charleston.

1207
00:56:45,480 --> 00:56:46,080
Speaker 1: I love that.

1208
00:56:46,520 --> 00:56:48,960
Speaker 2: I've been thinking I'm definitely going to just go to Atlanta,

1209
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:51,520
Speaker 2: just go see my family, all the family that I've

1210
00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:55,239
Speaker 2: connected with in these virtual times. Twenty twenty one for

1211
00:56:55,360 --> 00:56:59,520
Speaker 2: me looks like a career inflection point. Definitely asking for more,

1212
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 2: and I've already started those conversations this year, but I'm

1213
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:05,719
Speaker 2: you know, I talk to you Tiffany about it too,

1214
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:09,400
Speaker 2: and just expecting bigger and better from myself, and and

1215
00:57:09,520 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 2: just looking for a new a new challenge and a

1216
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:14,759
Speaker 2: new chapter and and new challenges, whether it's you know,

1217
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:17,160
Speaker 2: where I'm at now or I just feel open to

1218
00:57:17,520 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 2: do stuff. And as far as the baby twenty twenty one,

1219
00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:24,400
Speaker 2: I'm excited for him. I'm excited for Rio to like

1220
00:57:24,880 --> 00:57:27,520
Speaker 2: be in the in the in a normal world, you know,

1221
00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:30,400
Speaker 2: I'm excited to see I'm excited slash scared. I'm gonna

1222
00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:32,560
Speaker 2: choose to stay excited because I otherwise I think I'll

1223
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:35,960
Speaker 2: just be sad about him going to daycare. And just

1224
00:57:36,000 --> 00:57:37,760
Speaker 2: you know, I just keep picturing with like a little

1225
00:57:37,760 --> 00:57:40,360
Speaker 2: baseball cap and a base in a backpack. I don't

1226
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 2: even think babies need that.

1227
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:43,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, they love their little back that nothing in it

1228
00:57:43,880 --> 00:57:45,680
Speaker 1: but some papers.

1229
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:48,560
Speaker 2: Maybe I'll throw, like, you know, some of Molly's chew

1230
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 2: toys in there. He loves those.

1231
00:57:51,000 --> 00:57:53,200
Speaker 1: But just you know, having him make friends.

1232
00:57:53,240 --> 00:57:56,960
Speaker 2: I'm just very excited to see him. I don't know,

1233
00:57:57,040 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 2: I'm just excited to see him, you know, grow up

1234
00:57:59,480 --> 00:58:03,640
Speaker 2: and and uh, you know, just make his own little

1235
00:58:03,800 --> 00:58:08,480
Speaker 2: make his own little trajectory for himself. So twenty twenty one,

1236
00:58:08,520 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 2: here we go. Thank y'all for riding with us this year,

1237
00:58:11,720 --> 00:58:15,000
Speaker 2: really truly y'all. Haven and we have new listeners this

1238
00:58:15,120 --> 00:58:17,320
Speaker 2: year on top of everything. So thank y'all for your

1239
00:58:17,320 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 2: continued love and support. It means so so much to us.

1240
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:23,480
Speaker 2: Don't forget to use promo code ho ho ho at

1241
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1242
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Speaker 3: asking use the promo code ho ho ho.

1245
00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:37,440
Speaker 2: What is it? Twenty five percent off I think, So

1246
00:58:37,760 --> 00:58:42,000
Speaker 2: get yourself decked out and just hang in there, y'all.

1247
00:58:42,040 --> 00:58:43,680
Speaker 2: It's going to be a dark winter, but we will

1248
00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 2: get through it. We will and hit us up. Send

1249
00:58:46,560 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 2: us your questions, Tiffany, I hope you get some rest,

1250
00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:51,160
Speaker 2: we relaxation.

1251
00:58:52,720 --> 00:58:54,919
Speaker 1: Yes, and you know what, before we go, I would

1252
00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:56,800
Speaker 1: love to give for you guys to give me some

1253
00:58:56,960 --> 00:58:59,760
Speaker 1: like message, just like especially like maybe I don't know,

1254
00:58:59,840 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 1: like write on a post on Instagram or that's probably

1255
00:59:02,520 --> 00:59:04,160
Speaker 1: the best, or even tweet me I'm the budgetisted on

1256
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:07,479
Speaker 1: Instagram and Twitter. A friend of mine. I asked her

1257
00:59:07,600 --> 00:59:09,840
Speaker 1: for some advice because she had helped to launch Tony

1258
00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:13,200
Speaker 1: Robbins's book Money, and I asked her for some advice

1259
00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 1: about how, you know, like some best practices about launching mine.

1260
00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:18,040
Speaker 1: And she had asked me all these questions. I already

1261
00:59:18,040 --> 00:59:19,680
Speaker 1: have a team, we've been working there for like two months,

1262
00:59:19,680 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 1: and this and that. She's like, I'm not going to

1263
00:59:20,920 --> 00:59:23,880
Speaker 1: give you any advice. I was like, what, why, Sybil.

1264
00:59:24,200 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 1: She was like, you don't. The book is going to

1265
00:59:25,640 --> 00:59:26,960
Speaker 1: do what the book is going to do, Tiffany, you

1266
00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:30,200
Speaker 1: are already doing all of the work. Instead, I want

1267
00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:32,720
Speaker 1: you to tell me how will you celebrate when it's successful.

1268
00:59:33,440 --> 00:59:34,680
Speaker 1: I was like, what she said, because I know you

1269
00:59:34,680 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 1: have no plans for celebration. She was like you, She said,

1270
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,760
Speaker 1: I want you to do something slightly tacky. I was like, no.

1271
00:59:43,160 --> 00:59:46,680
Speaker 1: She said slightly tacky, meaning like I want you. She said,

1272
00:59:46,760 --> 00:59:48,760
Speaker 1: do something, Tiffany, I don't want to like, oh we

1273
00:59:48,800 --> 00:59:51,480
Speaker 1: went to dinner. Now. She said, I want something a

1274
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:54,280
Speaker 1: little ostentatious, a little tacky. Tiffany, you don't never do

1275
00:59:54,320 --> 00:59:57,800
Speaker 1: anything big for yourself. So I would love if if

1276
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 1: money was not, you know, was not an issue. You know,

1277
01:00:01,640 --> 01:00:04,160
Speaker 1: what would you do in celebration of a big milestone,

1278
01:00:04,160 --> 01:00:07,120
Speaker 1: like your first traditionally published book doing really well? Like,

1279
01:00:07,200 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 1: what would you do? Like I said, money is not

1280
01:00:09,440 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 1: an object, you know, like it's not an issue at all.

1281
01:00:12,680 --> 01:00:14,360
Speaker 1: But you know, because she was like, girl, I want

1282
01:00:14,360 --> 01:00:16,000
Speaker 1: you to run a private jet and go to Fiji.

1283
01:00:16,040 --> 01:00:21,520
Speaker 1: I was like what she was like, price it out.

1284
01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:23,400
Speaker 1: It might not be as much as you think. So

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Speaker 1: that's the kind of thing. So I would love for

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Speaker 1: you guys to be like girl. If it was me,

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Speaker 1: I would, you know, because I just like, because even

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Speaker 1: if I don't do it, you know, for this, because

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Speaker 1: I'm like simple girl, but I wanted to start thinking

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Speaker 1: outside the box box of ways to like celebrate and

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Speaker 1: mark a moment in time, you know, So yeah, just

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Speaker 1: please at the budgetis to tweet me, you know, message

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Speaker 1: me or post under my ig. I mean, I look

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Speaker 1: at those every day and give me an idea because

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Speaker 1: I would love, you know, I'd love to think about

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Speaker 1: it and then i'll, you know, hopefully ill I'll pick

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Speaker 1: one and celebrate big for next year.

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Speaker 2: Yes, put it on your vision board. Let's fill up

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Speaker 2: to me a vision board.

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 2: By Charleston by the little damn city.

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Speaker 1: Well, she said, I'm not gonna lie. A private jet

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Speaker 1: is something like to like actually one day, Like I

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Speaker 1: just always assume maybe one day somebody would hire me

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Speaker 1: and then send a private jet for me. But that

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Speaker 1: was like, all, like that's on like my bucket lists,

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Speaker 1: you know, like of like, oh, to fly in a

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Speaker 1: private jet.

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Speaker 2: You'll be there please. I'm like, you know, I fully

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Speaker 2: expect your book to be on like Oprah's favorite Things

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Speaker 2: list for next year. You and Oprah. There's some energy

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Speaker 2: in the like you and Oprah. She knows about you, Tiffany.

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Speaker 2: I just feel it in my bones. And she's waiting.

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Speaker 2: She's waiting to tap you on your virtual shoulder.

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Speaker 1: If anybody knows Oprah tell I said.

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Speaker 2: Hush, she knows who you are, Like she knows. She's

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Speaker 2: out there, she's watching. She is, all right, Well, we're

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Speaker 2: so excited to see y'all next year. Well, we'll hit

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Speaker 2: you up, you know, let you know we're gonna be

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Speaker 2: back maybe a couple of weeks, see how we feel.

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Speaker 2: Happy New Year to you, Kelly. Thank you for being

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Speaker 2: our badass editor.

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Speaker 1: All yes, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you really saved my booty so we're thankful for

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Speaker 2: you too, and wish you guys all uh blessed and

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Speaker 2: safe holiday and see you in a new year, see

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Speaker 2: you next year. Bye,